Haslemere Link Magazine October November 2019

Haslemere LINK THE PARISH MAGAZINE OF ST BARTHOLOMEW’S AND ST CHRISTOPHER’S

‘He who goes out weeping, bearing precious seed, shall come home with shouts of joy’ Psalm 126, v 6

October / November 2019 Suggested donation for a printed copy: £2 1

Parish Contacts Rector Rev Chris Bessant 658107 rector@haslemereparish.org

Parish Office The Link, Derby Road Haslemere GU27 1BS Youth Minister Mon/Tue/Thu/Fri 9am-3pm Vacant office@haslemereparish.org www.haslemereparish.org Assistant Youth Minister and 01428 644578 Sunday School Chloe Adam 07597 565571 Parish Administrator First Steps Bryony Atkinson Mondays in St Christopher’s 0-5 Year Olds Verger Liz Hawkins 642445 St Bartholomew’s Carol Skeates 642662 LLM (Reader) Link Bookings Peter Sellars 641032 Carol Skeates 642662 skeatMalco@aol.com Church Warden Robert Fox 652055 Magazine Secretary Geoff Martin 641907 Ann Lear 651570 Deputy Wardens office@haslemereparish.org Howard Body 658762 Advertisements Manager: Nick Beare 609630 Geoff Martin 641907 PCC Secretary Cathy Moore 07593 814438 Electoral Roll Officer Lynn Lemar 651435 Treasurer Andrew Culshaw 658962 Bell-ringers Stewardship Secretary Paul Bagshaw 656129 Geoff Martin 641907 Friends of the Parish Outward Giving Bernard Coe 651146 Dorothea Nattrass 653216 Flowers St Bartholomew’s Director of Music & Organist Sarah Mulliner 643504 Clive Osgood 07747 785 940 St Christopher’s cliveosgood@hotmail.com Liz Hawkins 642445 Choir Director Church Care Group Sarah Young Roscelin Rees 651561 sarah.thomas6092@gmail.com Churchyards Philip Hunt 644120 2

Pastoral Visitors Dorothea Nattrass 653216 Peter Sellars 641032 Pastoral Assistant Ruth Pattenden 653033 Bereavement Visitors Linda Donaldson 644473 Frances Gaiter 648843 Sarah Mulliner 643504 Homegroups: Vacant

Safeguarding Officer Cathy Moore 07593 814438 Mothers' Union Treasurer Sue Davis 661115 BRF Representative Sarah Mulliner 643504 Facilities for the disabled Both churches and The Link at St Bartholomew’s have ramped access and space for wheelchairs. Toilets suitable for use by the disabled are available in The Link and at St Christopher’s.

Facilities for the hard of hearing Both churches and The Link have sound amplification and hearing loops.

Facilities for the visually impaired Both churches have good interior lighting and large print weekly notice sheets and service sheets.

Dear Friends About five weeks have now passed since I was installed here in the parish as your Rector. Both Sophie and I have been completely overwhelmed by the welcome we have received. Barely a day goes by without us be sent some invitation to an event, afternoon tea, or supper! We are so grateful to you all for embracing us so warmly.

As I hope you have come to know, I place a high premium on welcome and hospitality in the church. Whilst growth and progress are possible in the church, one thing is for sure - if people feel welcome, then we stand a better chance of helping them to settle into the life of the congregations. It’s nothing new - it’s been going on for centuries.

As I settle into the parish, I sometimes get small opportunities to look into the history of our churches. Some of this is obvious – one only has to look at the architecture, memorials and windows to read about those people who lived in the parish in years gone by. In a few unseen corners and cupboards of the church are cabinets containing mundane records of past meetings, fabric changes and parish accounts. I can’t say I’ve read them all, but in leafing through some of the pages I often find interesting details.

On one walk around the St Bartholomew’s churchyard it was easy to see that the trends of longevity have changed over the years. Infant mortality was a commonplace thing, a normal part of life even, but is now thankfully a rarity. At the other end of the scale I could see the headstone of a gentleman who had made it into his nineties and just a few more into their eighties. Statisticians will tell you that current average life expectancies in the UK are eighty-three for women and a little less for men. Nevertheless I think we all know that many people now live well beyond this age, and people living into their nineties are commonplace.

These trends in our society, plus overall population growth, economic factors, devaluation of pensions and the strain it places upon our health services are 3

difficult matters to handle. Pension ages have risen, and it’s my view that they will continue to rise in the future until they hit seventy. The voluntary sector, and particularly where local communities are concerned, is highly dependent upon what I call the ‘young retired’. I suppose what I mean by this is those retired people who are active-minded and feel able to get involved. Looking around at the church, and within many other local organisations, I can see a high dependence on these individuals. In fact, without the young retired our own churches of St Bartholomew and St Christopher would grind to a halt!

Historically (and here I’m going back a hundred years) the Church provided much public care for the elderly and others. That was done in the absence of any centrally organised public services for older people. Yet we know that in recent decades the move has been towards publicly or privately run care homes, and cost is becoming a huge factor in determining what has been available and to whom.

Care for the elderly is a big business, both in the public and private sector, but we will do well to retain a sense of ‘love your neighbour’ in what we do on a voluntary basis. My prediction is that the voluntary sector will need to increase in strength as the demands increases from an aging population. I was recently very pleased to find that we are active in two local nursing homes, and I hope to be able to extend our ministry to the elderly in the future.

Surely we as a society and as a church must stand up and be counted as those who provide good quality services to older people. This is absolutely what we mean when we talk about loving one’s neighbour. It’s been going on for years, and long may it continue and grow as we all grow together.

Every blessing to you all.

Rev Chris Bessant

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Celebration of a New Ministry The Institution of Revd Christopher Bessant The day had finally arrived. On Thursday, August 22nd at 7.30pm the sun shone and St Bartholomew’s Church was buzzing. A host of clergy, family, friends and parishioners gathered to witness and participate in the long-awaited event of the Institution of the Revd Chris Bessant as Rector of the United Benefice of Haslemere and Grayswood by the Rt Revd Andrew Watson, Bishop of Guildford, with the Ven Paul Davies, Archdeacon of Surrey, carrying out his Induction and Installation.

After a welcome by the Archdeacon and a processional hymn, Bishop Andrew greeted the people (left) and The Revd Canon Nigel Nicholson presented the incumbent-designate to the Bishop on behalf of the Patron.

Thus began a series of symbolic acts which reflected the different aspects of Church life the presentation of a set of keys, the tolling of the church bell by Chris as a sign of acceptance of office (both as part of the Induction), the Installation in the Priest’s stall, the presentation of a Bible as a call to mission and bread and wine as a call to worship.

Once installed, Chris lead everyone in prayer as the first act of a newly installed priest.

The Priest responds to the welcome and gives out the notices 5

Signatures were applied (above), various representatives of the church and the community welcomed the new priest, then Chris’ wife, Sophie, joined him at the chancel steps. Chris responded to the welcome and gave out notices, including details of the following Sunday’s services. (see previous page) There followed, as is our custom, an extremely well-attended reception in the Link, when there was an opportunity to meet the new Rector.

The buzz was even more in evidence.

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Bring & Share Lunch at The Rectory Sunday August 25th Sunday August 25th – our new Rector’s first Sunday - started with a well-attended United Benefice Service at St Bartholomew’s, followed by an equally well-attended ‘Bring and Share’ lunch at the Rectory.

Chris and Sophie Chris with Clive Hawkins and Rev Justin Manley-Cooper (left)

It was a stunning day (note the hats!) - and the garden was laid out with chairs, parasols , a marquee for the food and tables with attractive flower arrangements, making it all extremely welcoming.

And, as always, everyone contributed a wonderful selection of food.

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There are many more photos which could have been included, had there been space…

But all who went will have very happy memories of their first ‘social’ with Chris and Sophie.

So ‘thank you’, Chris and Sophie - and all who helped - for making us so welcome. We wish you many happy years in Haslemere!

Photos: Liz Cook and Ann Lear 8

Sunday 6th October, 10 am at St Bartholomew’s Our parish Harvest Festival Service is running this year on Sunday 6th October at 10:00am in St Bartholomew’s. There will be a collection at both our 8:00am and 10:00am services that day.

For 2019 we are hosting a traditional ‘bring your food along’ approach, the proceeds of which we shall donate to Haslemere Food Bank, who will share it with individuals and families in need.

In past years the people of Haslemere have been a very generous support to many people. Our churches, together with our schools, have worked together to share what we have with those who have less, as Jesus Christ has taught us.

Anything non-perishable you would consider normal needs are ok to bring as your gift, but as a rough guide to what sort of things to give, please bear in the mind the following ideas:

Haslemere Foodbank urgently need: Tinned meat, vegetables and fruit, dried rice, couscous and noodles. They also need sauces, dried pasta, tea, coffee, jam, breakfast cereals and toiletries.

Haslemere Foodbank don’t want: Perishable items, alcoholic beverages, items beyond their sell-by dates.

Following the service there will be a harvest lunch in the Link from 12:00 noon. This will be a Bring and Share lunch so please put your name on the form at the back of both churches with a note of what you would like to contribute.

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Choral Eucharist for the Eve of All Saints Day 8pm Thursday 31st October at St Christopher’s Church The mass will be sung by Sine Nomine

All Souls Service Sunday 3 November, 4pm St Bartholomew’s Church This will be followed by tea in the Link, hosted by the parish bereavement team.

This quiet service of words and music is a very personal opportunity to remember family and friends who have died, whether recently or many years ago. During the service the names of the departed are read and we are invited to light candles in their memory.

The families of people whose funerals have been taken by our clergy in the last five years are specifically invited to the service, and their names included on the list, but all are welcome. Nearer the time, sheets will be available in both churches if you would like a name included.

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First Steps Summer Leaving Party In mid-July First Steps closed for the summer holidays until its re-opening on Monday September 9th.

In these photo you can see our annual leaving ceremony when our 4 year-olds who are going on to ‘big school’ or fulltime Nursery schools receive the books marking their time with us.

This was followed by our summer picnic in the church garden when 27 children and their carers ate an early lunch and generally had a good time.

First Steps which meets each Monday morning in school terms would welcome any adults who would like to help in any way. Just come along and see whether it’s for you. We’d love to see you

Frances Gaiter (for the First Steps Team).

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Soul Survivor 2019 On the 17th August, we set off bright and early to Peterborough Showground to go to Soul Survivor. We had 50 people in our group, all from the local area and churches and it was truly wonderful to watch all the young people engage with the worship, prayer and teaching and having fun whilst doing so! Each day there were seminars on various topics around faith, as well as two daily meetings in ‘the big top’, where all 12,000 people at the event came together to worship and listen to a talk.

The friendships formed over the week were amazing to see; my favourite part of the week was on the final evening, when one boy was talking about the friends he had made and said, ‘That’s what God does - he makes everyone family’. The week was one I’m sure neither me or the young people will forget and I feel truly blessed to have been apart of it.

Chloe Adam, Youth Minister And a note from one of the members of the Youth Group: I’ve been to Soul Survivor three times now, and every time I’ve gone, it’s been the highlight of my year. The whole atmosphere that is created is just magical, making me want to go back again.

There’s no specific moment I can pinpoint that was my overall favourite moment, but I absolutely loved seeing over 10,000 young Christians worship in The Big Top. Seeing that many young people singing praises to Jesus is so encouraging, 12

knowing that there will be a next generation in the Church.

Another thing I love about Soul Survivor is how God is always meeting with us through the Holy Spirit. Every meeting He never fails to show up to heal and set people free.

Everything about Soul Survivor is amazing, from the teachings and seminars to the worship, from the many venues you can visit to buy merchandise to hanging around in camp with your youth group. I’ll never forget the memories I’ve made.

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Church Family Walk Sunday 15th September 2019 Everything conspired to make our walk a really enjoyable occasion. First, the weather couldn’t have been better. Second, many more people than those that had signed up actually turned up and boosted our numbers to some thirty five + two dogs! Third, even more turned up at the end of the walk simply to enjoy the BBQ and the company.

When we arrived at Gibbet Hill we found a shady spot and rested our feet in readiness for the return - which was logically all downhill. Before setting off, Chris, our Rector, suggested that to give thanks to our Creator Lord would be most appropriate, being in one of Surrey’s most beautiful high spots. We were lead in a brief and very meaningful prayer in an environment that is so easy to take for granted.

The BBQ! What a setting, what generosity and what a welcome was awaiting the walkers around 4.30pm! Stephen and Victoria Vaughan had offered their home and garden as the venue for a fabulous post-walk BBQ. We arrived back from the walk tired, hungry and thirsty and everything was ready to hand.

How thoughtful of our hosts.

It was a Sunday to remember.

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Michael Bawtree And a omment from a punter: On Sunday approx. 35 of us (plus dogs) enjoyed a glorious walk in the sunshine and were rewarded with both a fabulous view from the top of Gibbet Hill and a well earned BBQ at the Vaughan’s home. Many thanks to all who organised, hosted and participated.

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Parish Quiz Night 2019 This year’s quiz organised by Hamish and Linda Donaldson with Andrew Culshaw as quizmaster was held at St. Christopher’s on Saturday 14th September. The event was in aid of The Churches Preservation Fund, which has funded several projects in the parish in the past. Thirteen tables took part, including, for the first time, a team from All Saints’ Grayswood. During the interval a fish and chips supper was served and drinks were available throughout the evening. A lively evening ensued and it was good to see old friends who are not regular church-goers enjoying the atmosphere.

And the winners were:… Frankie Gaiter, Liz Cook, Don Cremer (not shown in the picture), John Gaiter, Clive Hawkins, Ann and Mike Haynes The winning team was presented with a tin of Cadbury’s Roses by Hamish who then thanked everyone for their hard work. Rector Chris finished the evening with prayers and all said The Grace.

Frankie Gaiter And… (from a note in the weekly newsletter): ‘Our thanks to Hamish and Linda Donaldson for organising it, Andrew Culshaw for setting the questions and Jane and Dom Slevin for running the bar. It was also a financial success with £593 being raised for the Surrey Churches Preservation Trust. You may remember that SCPT has helped fund many projects in the Parish; most recently the Flagpole and Reordering at St Christopher’s, the Organ Restoration and Church Redecoration at St Bartholomew’s.

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Gerard Manley Hopkins (Part 2) In Part 1 of this exploration of Gerard Manley Hopkins and his family in Haslemere we had followed Manley and Kate Hopkins and their family to a new house in High Lane called The Garth. They had spent at least five years at Courts Hill Lodge in Station Road where Gerard made his last visit to the family. He died in Dublin in 1889. His memorial window which Mr and Mrs Hopkins had placed in the church in 1890 is now worth a closer look.

It was the work of Clayton and Bell, probably the finest creators of stained glass of their time. It is a brilliantly coloured lancet window depicting Christ in Glory, surrounded by angels, looking down upon a kneeling figure which is a portrait of Gerard Manley Hopkins himself in his priest’s robes gazing upwards in devotion. He is surrounded by three figures - perhaps the apostles Peter, James and John - who stand slightly above him. The face is finely drawn and a remarkable likeness, and even the stance of the figure is reminiscent of a characteristic pose in its slightly backward lean. This ambitious concept is brought off with such grace and lightness that it is easy to miss the wording below: ‘Gerard Manley Hopkins: Born July 28th 1843. Died June 8th 1889. “Blessed are the pure in heart for they shall see GOD.”’ The portrait photograph given here of 1879 is that most likely to have been used for this likeness by Clayton and Bell. The mistake of Hopkins’s birth date, which should be 1844, could have been a fault of the artist or, as has been suggested, the birth of nine children in sixteen years may have made the Hopkins a little vague as to birthdays. It is interesting too that this present-day interpretation of the window by Dr Jill Robson, of The Hopkins Society, is slightly at variance with that given by Rev. Etheridge who omitted any mention of the figure of Hopkins himself.

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this memorial to a Jesuit priest was allowed to be placed in the church and, indeed, it may be the only Church of England window dedicated to a Jesuit in the country. As we have seen in the previous article, Hopkins spent much time when in Haslemere seeking out catholic churches for his daily observance. It is unlikely that he ever entered St Bartholomew’s, but this possibility cannot be ruled out as easily as it can be for Tennyson. When Gladstone stayed with the poet in 1871 Tennyson’s sons Hallam and Lionel escorted the prime minister to church.

The Hopkins family had thrown themselves into the life of Haslemere Parish, being mentioned frequently in the Parish Magazine. Gerard’s sisters, Grace and Kate, lived at home, entertaining Temperance meetings and hosting the Band of Hope with their violin and harmonium playing; the whole Hopkins family, including Gerard, were very musical indeed. Their father joined the building committee for the construction of the new 1888 south aisle of St Bartholomew’s for which he gave the church a bible. This seems to have been lost as it does not appear in the new NADFAS (now the Arts Society) survey of 2018. However, he also gave an embossed silver chalice to the church. Manley’s daughter, Kate, became a close friend of Penfold’s sister, Katherine, and, together, they produced a charming pamphlet of reminiscences Of Bygones in Haslemere: told by the two K’s. While living in Haslemere, Manley Hopkins continued himself to write and published The Cardinal Numbers (1887) and Speciligium Poeticum: A Gathering of Verses (1892). Manley Hopkins died in 1897 and, shortly after his death, the family was joined by Manley’s granddaughter, 25 year-old Beatrice Hopkins, who also features in the Parish Magazine. Beatrice, daughter of Manley’s son Arthur, later married Henry Foster Handley-Derry. It was her son, Lionel (or Leo) Handley-Derry, who eventually inherited the contents of The Garth in 1952. Manley Hopkins’s grave still exists, together with that of his wife and daughters, Kate and Grace, in the Derby Road Cemetery. (Only recently the cross surmounting Manley and Kate’s joint grave has been laid down as it was deemed unsafe by Waverly Borough Council.)

Following Manley Hopkins’s death, The Garth became the home for all the Hopkins family. Gerard’s brother, Lionel Hopkins (1854-1952), a distinguished sinologist, had served in China as Consul General in Tientsin, later returning to 18

Haslemere due to ill health. Like his sisters, Lionel helped local causes, and was elected a member (and later acting Treasurer) of the Hindhead Commons Committee in 1916. On his death in 1952 (the Hopkins were a remarkably longlived family) the house was found to be crammed, not only with Lionel’s books and Chinese studies, but much valuable material relating to his brother, Gerard.

The biographer, Humphry House, was invited down to Haslemere to search the home for Hopkins’ material. There he found over seventy letters to his mother, six to his father, one to his brother, Lionel, and, most poignantly, the draft of Manley Hopkins’s reply to the news of Gerard’s conversion. Gerard’s sisters, Grace and Kate, may well have burnt their brother’s spiritual diaries, but two sets of retreat notes survived. (Both sisters were Anglicans and another sister, Millicent, had become an Anglican nun.) This material was handed over to the Oxford University Press by Gerard’s great nephew Leo Handley-Derry.

Yet perhaps the most remarkable scene of all (in a house that must have witnessed many remarkable scenes) was played out at The Garth in December 1918. The Poet Laureate, Gerard’s old friend Robert Bridges, visited the house and put into the hands of Kate Hopkins, Gerard’s 98 year old mother, the published poetry of his friend. This first edition which he had edited was dedicated to her thus: ‘This book is dedicated to Catherine, in her ninety-eighth year, as a pledge of long-standing friendship, to be a memorial, though late, to her beloved son, a poet awaiting the praise due to his genius. RB.’ Perhaps Hopkins is still awaiting the recognition he deserves from St Bartholomew’s Church which his family served so well and is so privileged to contain this unique memorial window.

Katherine Jessel ACKNOWLEDGEMENTS I am particularly grateful to Dr Jill Robson of The Hopkins Society for her illuminating comments on the Hopkins Window which she visited for the first time last May and for supplying much useful content for these articles. Also for the help of the Haslemere Museum Library in my search for the Hopkins’s former home, Courts Hill Lodge, and for research into the Hopkins family in Haslemere. As always, the Haslemere Parish Magazine (1886-1897) has been an invaluable source of information.

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Sources The Collected Works of Gerard Manley Hopkins. Vol 2 Oxford 2013 Correspondence 1882-1889 Ed R. K. R. Thornton and Catherine Phillips.

Hopkins: A Literary Biography. Norman White Oxford 1992 www.thehopkinssociety.co.uk If anyone has any further information on Courts Hill Lodge, The Garth, or the Hopkins family in Haslemere, I would be pleased to hear from them. katherinejessel@btinternet.com PIED BEAUTY Glory be to God for dappled things – For skies of couple-colour as a brinded cow; For rose-moles all in stipple upon trout that swim; Fresh-firecoal chestnut-falls; finches’ wings; Landscape plotted and pieced – fold, fallow, and plough; And all trades, their gear and tackle and trim.

All things counter, original, spare, strange; Whatever is fickle, freckled (who knows how?)

With swift, slow; sweet, sour; adazzle, dim; He fathers-forth whose beauty is past change: Praise him.

A poem for autumn:

The Uninvited Guest Thelma Laycock lives in Leeds but has lived for short spells in the Channel Islands, Italy and the United States. She also spent six years teaching in London but on retirement returned to her native city.

She has written poetry since a child, but in the 1980s she joined with a group of other women to start the Leeds-based poetry journal, ‘Aireings’. She organises readings there and around the country. A tutor and retreat reader, she enjoys the spiritual response which poetry can inspire.

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What struck me about the poem was the intrusion of faith and its images into our everyday lives. When performing routine chores, we can often be interrupted by images of faith. For instance, while hammering a nail into a fence post, I was powerfully reminded of Christ’s crucifixion. Worse still, during a night when sleeping can be difficult, I sometimes find myself in conversation with someone who ‘comes softly and sadly’. I’m sure that you know the feeling!

Peter Sellars He seems to come in like the leaves Blown in at the open window, And always on a light and airy day.

Never in stormy weather.

And always, I’ve noticed, At an inconvenient time Right in the middle of the washing.

He looks at me and shows me these holes in his hands.

And, well, I can see them in his feet.

‘Not again,’ I say.

‘Please don’t stand there bleeding All over the kitchen floor.’

Sometimes he comes softly, sadly, At night - close, by the side of my bed Sometimes I latch the door But he never goes away.

Thelma Laycock (The Lion Book of Christian Poetry, Lion Hudson, 2005)

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A Personal Tribute to Evelyn Pender I first came to know Evelyn when I was asked to help out in the parish office at St Bart’s when she was administrator. So began a great friendship which became stronger over the last few years. Evelyn was a very efficient administrator and there was a place and method for everything. She even produced ‘The Office Bible’, the go to file for everything you needed to know about the working of that office. From weddings and baptism protocol, using the photocopier, candle suppliers to what day the bins were collected, it had it all.

Always immaculately turned out, smart and professional, Evelyn did the job proud, always a stickler for time keeping. I remember being quite severely reprimanded for being 10 minutes late for a coffee date, I didn’t do it again! We talked about many things and I admired her professional, yet friendly nature with all those who telephoned and visited the office. She loved the gifts of personally-grown sweet peas and roses that people brought to brighten up the office and adored visits from canine visitors each week.

As time went by it was apparent that something was not right and the continuous ill health and sickness was obviously something more serious. Evelyn never wanted to talk about her condition, only referring to ‘that thing’. Knowing that Evelyn was not particularly religious I hesitated but sent her a card with the verse from Joshua : Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged, for the Lord your God will be with you wherever you go. At the time it wasn’t well received and I felt rebuked. It wasn’t until a few months ago that she told me that it had meant so much and that she had taken the card with her to all her hospital appointments. I continued to send her postcards with encouraging bible verses and she agreed to be a recipient of a prayer quilt from St Stephen’s in which members of the congregation pray over the quilt as they tie knots in threads woven into it. Prayers were also written on a notepad. She was overwhelmed with the fact that so many ‘strangers’ had said 22

said prayers and words of comfort and hope. I was pleased that the quilt that had given her so much comfort was placed in her wicker coffin and cremated with her. All the prayers went with her for the Lord your God will be with you wherever you go.. .

Evelyn retired from the office in 2015 and in the last few years we have enjoyed many days out together and we really enjoyed each others company. We loved to meet for coffee and cake and Evelyn always made sure that she was told each cake’s description before making a decision, but nothing could beat a Victoria sponge or lemon drizzle!

Evelyn was a great shopping companion and we made numerous visits to John Lewis in Kingston on special shopping evenings and she liked to make a beeline for the free prosecco! Evelyn loved beautiful things, be it clothes, jewellery, or furniture which was very apparent in how she looked and made her home beautiful. Evelyn was a joy to shop with. I will miss that.

We went to see films at Haslemere Hall many times. Evelyn liked a really good plot and storyline and she always liked to sit on an aisle seat in case she had to sneak out. In fact, I remember she left at the interval at one film showing we saw together, saying the film was so dull she couldn’t bear to sit through the second half! One of the many things I loved about Evelyn was her honesty and truthfulness. She would always tell it as it was!

Having covered for Evelyn in the parish office when she became ill, I understand why she loved the job. No two days are the same and you meet so many people in times of great joy and sorrow, but it feels such a privilege. I would not be so fond of my job as parish administrator at St Stephen’s for the past three years, if not for Evelyn. Her wisdom, knowledge and guidance have helped me along when I needed advice.

Having recently been in touch with Rev Norman Jones, a previous Rector, who employed Evelyn, he told me: She was very efficient and initially struggled with parishioners popping in for a chat when she wanted to get on with her work.

Over time she realised that the popping in and chatting was an essential part of the role and she provided a very good listening ear to people’s various needs. I was Rural Dean at that time and this meant extra work. She always got things done on time but I was made aware by her if I was talking too much!! I will remember her with great fondness as she was full of fun and great to work alongside.

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Seeing Evelyn when she was at Oak Hall was difficult and it wasn’t long before I knew that her time was short. She was very well cared-for there and also over the past year Macmillan were such a tremendous support. I shall remember her with great affection as someone who taught me a lot about life and living.

In February I told her that Robert and I were planning a trip to South Africa in October and showed her places we would like to stay. ‘Just go for it’, she said, ‘life is too short’. She told me about a tv programme filmed at a hotel called The Silo in Cape Town. She was so excited: ‘Oh my goodness, you must go there for cocktails!’ So we will, and as we look out over Cape Town I will have that cocktail and propose a toast to Evelyn, one of the best friends I have ever had the privilege to know.

Julie Fox

Haslemere Hospital Minor Injuries Unit There is now an NHS proposal to close all Minor Injuries Units and to replace only some of them with new Urgent Care Centres, each under the leadership of a GP, which would be open on seven days a week for at least twelve hours a day.

Those of us who have used the existing MIU at Haslemere have appreciated this facility and the professionalism of its emergency nurse practitioners and other staff. The Unit has also helped to take pressure off the very busy Royal Surrey A & E Department, in particular. It’s used by patients in parts of Hampshire and West Sussex, as well as South West Surrey. The only real complaint has been that it is not open in the evenings and at weekends.

The nearest major hospitals to Haslemere are at Guildford, Portsmouth and Chichester. There is an obvious case for the Haslemere facility to be upgraded.

It’s well located between Guildford and Portsmouth, near the A3. A good GP’s practice and an ambulance station are next door. It has excellent staff, an X-ray dept and physiotherapists. These are firm foundations on which to build a Haslemere Urgent Care Centre.

The Guildford and Waverley Clinical Commissioning Group are starting the engagement and consultation process. Please make your views known by emailing gwccg.info@nhs.net and watch out for news of further local meetings, following the initial one on 16th September, which was well attended, though unfortunately not well advertised.

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Cheese Muffins (recipe requested by many at St Christopher’s after sampling them at refreshments after the Praying on Sunday service)

Ingredients: 300g self raising flour ½ teaspoon of powdered chicken or vegetable stock ½ teaspoon chilli flakes (use more or less depending on what you like!)

80g cold butter 185g strong cheddar, coarsely grated 1 egg, lightly beaten 250ml milk Salt and pepper to taste You will need a 24 hole mini muffin tray to make the canape size and this recipe makes approx. 30 small muffins.

Preheat oven to 170C fan

Method: Grease the muffin tin Sift dry ingredients into large bowl and rub in the butter Stir in the cheese Lightly beat the egg and add to the milk Stir the egg and milk mixture into the dry ingredients - do not worry if it appears lumpy.

Spoon the mixture into the muffin pan and bake for approximately 15 mins.

These are best eaten the day you make them. Alternatively freeze and reheat from frozen in a warm oven for about 10 minutes.

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Just a Thought…

Evelyn Hughes My aunt once lost her hearing aid. ‘I’ve looked everywhere’, she said. A few days later she phoned again: ‘I’ve found it. I was so relieved, I invited my neighbour in to celebrate.’ I’m not sure that she knew Jesus’ parable of the Lost Coin, but it certainly came to my mind!

I’m grateful for the sense of hearing, but there’s something very special about the silent language of the deaf. I once saw a group of deaf people on a railway platform. They were talking in signs and falling about in silent laughter. I should have loved to share the joke!

So often it’s in silence that we hear at a deeper level. In one parish, I used to say Morning Prayer with my Rector. It was our custom to keep silence for a while at the end. On one particular day the silence was broken by a bird singing outside. For such a tiny creature it was making a very loud noise. If we’d been making our own noise we wouldn’t have heard him. As I listened, I fell to wondering about the little bird’s life - its busyness, nest-building, feeding its young, watching out for cats! And it seemed that here was a lesson for me: to make more time to listen to people - share more in their hopes and fears and joys.

Someone has said: ‘To listen attentively to what we hear is much more than giving it passing attention. The fruit of listening is obedience - we must be prepared to act on what we hear’. Jesus himself made the link between listening, hearing and doing. ‘Listen!’, he said, as he began the Parable of the Sower, ending it with: ‘If you have ears to hear, then hear.’ Later, St James would write: ‘Be doers of the word, not hearers only’.

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In My Garden Philip Duly

As with most aspects of life, gardeners can allow themselves to succumb to the latest trends, fashions and whims. Plants that were popular twenty years ago can quickly be considered outdated, which can quickly lead to their demise.

This is a great pity and I urge my fellow gardeners to resist the temptation to follow the latest gardening fads - they rarely last long and can cause us to lose some of the oldest, easiest to grow and most reliable plants from our gardens.

One such plant that fell out of favour about thirty years ago which lately appears to be making something of a comeback is the aster. Commonly known as Michaelmas daisies, there are more than 180 varieties of these wonderful late-summer perennials which come in many different sizes and colours and will often flower continuously from mid-August through to the first frosts in late October. The flower petals vary in size depending on the variety, from half an inch to several inches wide, on stems six inches to several feet tall.

These hardy plants prolong colour in any border and whilst best in full sun, will tolerate shade and sandy or clay soil. In groups or grown individually, they are always a sight to behold, especially when planted alongside dahlias and rudbeckias. They can, sadly, still be the subject of much garden snobbery having been given the tired old clichĂŠ - ‘traditional cottage garden flowers’. My advice, whether your garden was designed last week or last century, is try to find space for asters.

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Sweet Armistice Last year, a friend from Yorkshire came to stay with us in Haslemere when the Poppy Cascade from St Christopher’s Tower was on display. She was very moved by such a memorial and was inspired to do something back in Yorkshire on her return home.

Our friend just happens to be the chairman of the British Sugarcraft Guild and she challenged the members of the Guild to replicate in some way what she had seen at St Christopher’s.

The photos you see show the result of her challenge which was displayed at the 25th Cake International Show in Birmingham’s NEC. It was a “live build” Close up of poppies installation over the course of the show’s three days and marked the Great War Centenary. ‘Sweet Armistice’ as it was named, was a whole cascade of sugar poppies which were made by individual members and added to the display each day, and in so doing, supported The Royal British Legion Poppy Appeal. In all, there were over 400 sugar poppies and it stood 10 feet tall! (The blue poppies represented the horses which were also killed whilst on duty.) What an amazing achievement!

My thanks go to Judy Banks, Karen Bell and to Andrew Hill, editor of Sugarcraft News, for permission to reproduce the photographs for the Link Magazine.

‘Sweet Armistice’ live build installation

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Scallops with Mango Salad Linda Donaldson

Serves 6 and takes 10 mins.

Ingredients:400g scallops (around 18) 1 tbsp olive oil 3 tbsp extra virgin olive oil Zest and juice of 1 lime 1 tsp of freshly grated root ginger 2-3 tbsp chopped coriander 100g bag of watercress 2 large ripe mangoes, peeled, stoned and sliced 6 spring onions, finely sliced 2 tbsp toasted sesame seeds Heat a heavy frying pan. Put the scallops into a bowl with the olive oil. Season and toss to coat. Then cook the scallops for 1 minute on each side. Meanwhile make the lime and ginger dressing.

Put the extra virgin olive oil in a small bowl and whisk in the lime zest, juice and ginger. Season. Add the coriander and mix well to combine.

Divide the watercress, sliced mango, spring onions and scallops among six plates. Drizzle over the dressing and scatter over the sesame seeds before serving.

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HASLEMERE PLAYERS present: EVITA 22 to 26 October at 7.30 with a Saturday Matinee at 2.30 The Haslemere Players are thrilled to be bringing the iconic Evita to The Haslemere Hall.

With one of Andrew Lloyd Webber’s greatest scores, combining Latin, Jazz and Pop influences to evoke the spirit of Argentina, Evita is one of the most popular musicals of all time, with songs including ‘Don’t Cry for Me Argentina’, ‘Oh What a Circus’, ‘Buenos Aires’, ‘You Must Love Me’ and ‘Another Suitcase in Another Hall.’

This show is one not to be missed!

Tickets (£9 to £18 with concessions) are available from Haslemere Hall 01428 642161 or online at https://tickets.haslemerehall.co.uk/sales

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A: One has claws at the end of its paws, and one is a pause at the end of the clause. : What do you call a fake noodle?

A: An impasta. : What do you call a three-footed aardvark?

A: A yardvark.

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Coming up… at St Christopher’s and St Bartholomew’s

OCTOBER/NOVEMBER 2019 October Sat 5th

11.00am

7.30pm

Friends Recital at St. Bartholomew’s - Clive Osgood: organ music by Bach, Mendelssohn and Whitlock

Waverley Ensemble Concert at St. Christopher’s

Sun 6th 10.00am

Harvest Festival Service at St Bartholomew’s followed by a Bring and Share lunch in the Link

Sat 12th

7.30pm

HMS Orchestral Concert at St. Christopher’s

Sat 19th

7.30pm

HHH Concert at St. Christopher’s

Thurs 31st 8.00pm

Eucharist for All Saints. Music by Sin Nomine at St. Christopher’s

November Sat 2nd 11.00am

Friends Organ Recital at St. Bartholomew’s: Justin Luke & Clive Osgood ‘Keyboard Extravaganza’

Sat 9th

7.30pm

HHH Concert at St. Christopher’s

7.30pm

Excelsis Choir Concert at St. Christopher’s

Sat 16th 7.30pm

Waverley Ensemble Concert at St. Christopher’s

Thurs 21st 2.30pm

Bell-Ringing ¼ Peal Day at St. Bartholomew’s

Sat 30th 7.30pm

HHH Concert at St. Christopher’s

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Party for Phyllis this Christmas It may still be summer, but you can’t plan too far ahead when it comes to sell-out Christmas parties! Local Hospice Care charity Phyllis Tuckwell has opened ticket sales for its Dream Circus Christmas party, which will be held on Saturday 7th December at the Farnborough International Exhibition and Conference Centre - so buy your tickets now and look forward an amazing night out!

Themed around a magical, surreal and beautiful world, the party will include a stylish and courageous show by a troupe of world class artistes, including a performance from their gravity-defying aerial acrobats!

After a fabulous three-course dinner, you can have a go on the bumper cars, try your luck at the charity casino and dance the night away at the disco! A professional photographer will be there to take your photo, and the evening also includes free car parking and cloakroom, a raffle and auctions with fantastic prizes, Christmas crackers and a survivors’ breakfast.

Fundraising events like this are incredibly important to Phyllis Tuckwell, which provides supportive and end of life care for adult patients and families who are living with an advanced or terminal illness, such as cancer, in West Surrey and North East Hampshire. Every day Phyllis Tuckwell supports over 250 patients, relatives and carers - through medical and nursing care, therapies, counselling, social work advice and practical support, but as the NHS/Government only covers 20% of its costs, it has to raise over £20,000 a day to do this. Last year’s Christmas parties raised enough money to cover the cost of the charity’s Living Well services for over a month. Supporting nearly 600 patients a year, the Living Well team cares for those who need help with every day activities, and offers therapies, advice and nursing care to help them cope with the symptoms of their illness and improve their quality of life.

The Dream Circus Christmas party is kindly supported by Best Parties Ever and sponsored by Michael Usher mortgage services. It will start at 7pm and end at 1am, and tickets are on sale now, priced £45 each (tables of 10, over 18s only).

Book yours at shop.pth.org.uk/dream-circus or by calling 01252 729446 or emailing fundraising@pth.org.uk.

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What’s On at the Museum In October and November 2019 Keep up to date with everything that is going at the Museum visit www.haslemeremuseum.co.uk

OCTOBER ~ Exhibitions Pilgrim and Russell Recent Abstract paintings October 9th – October 21st Peter Pilgrim and Bruce Russell have remarkably parallel professional stories both creative and academic over fifty years. Their vibrant abstract paintings reflect their lifetimes’ journeys - Pilgrim’s long career in textile design, lately transitioning to canvas, and Russell’s much earlier migration from typography to paint. They share the influence of contemporary jazz with its free-flowing fusion of structure and improvisation. Both have exhibited around the world and have works in international collections.

Surrey Contemporaries October 26th – November 9th Surrey Contemporaries are a group of locally-based artists, who enjoy painting and exhibiting their work together. Working mainly in acrylics and oil, but with the odd watercolour and linoprint thrown in, their work is varied and covers a wide range of subjects including landscapes, seascapes, animal art, portraiture and abstract art- most with a slightly contemporary twist.

~ Creative Workshops Art and Wellbeing Workshops Facilitated by local professional artist Diana Burch, each session focuses on wellbeing and is a fun way to take some time out of your busy day-to-day life.

Mark Making Thursday October 3rd 2.30pm – 4.30pm and 7pm – 9pm Come and make a mark and make some time for you. These arctic well-being workshops are a fabulous way to explore talents that you never knew you had, whilst nurturing your soul. One in the afternoon and one in the evening.

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~ Family Events and Workshops Early Years (under 5’s with parents/carers) Splatter and Sponge Friday October 4th| 10:30am – 11:30am As part of the Family Arts Festival Month come along and make colourful pictures using sponge and splatter techniques.

Adults £1 | Children £2 | No need to book Fancy Footwork Friday October 18th 1.30 pm – 2.30 pm How does your footprint differ from other animals? Find out and make your own footprints to take home. Please bring wellies/old shoes or be prepared to get paint covered feet! Part of our Family Art festival events.

Adults £1 | Children £2 | No need to book Museum Explorers (5-11 years) – Parents may stay or leave their children in our care for the session.

Take A Line for a Walk!

Saturday October 5th| 10.30 am – 12.00 noon As part of this year’s Family Arts Festival month, come along and make some wonderful pictures based on using continuous lines Members £5 | Non-members £7 | Booking advisable Optical Illusions Tuesday October 29th| 10.30 am - 12.00 noon Inspired by Bridget Riley discover Op art, also known as optical art, a style of visual art that uses optical illusions. Part of our Family Arts Festival events Members £5 | Non-members £7 | Booking advisable ~ Family Drop-In Events

Drawn to Life Saturday October 5th| 12.15 pm – 3.30 pm A chance for the whole family to explore their artistic talent and take part in a collaborative artwork based on a continuous line. Part of our Family Arts Festival Events.

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Horrific Halloween Thursday October 31st | 1.30 pm – 4.00 pm Part of Haunted Haslemere. Come along and make Halloween related crafts.

Bring a pumpkin or squash to carve and take part in our Halloween procession through Haslemere, which gathers at the Museum at 4.00 pm and finishes in the town’s central car park with a treat.

Members £2 | Non Members £4 | No need to book No charge for procession Café open Night in the Museum Thursday October 31st| Doors open 6pm | Film starts 7pm Enjoy a special Halloween opening of the Museum. Doors open at 6pm so you can explore the dark galleries (bring a torch) & buy a drink & popcorn before watching a classic film. Part of Museums at Night Members £5 | Non members £6 | Book in advance Café/Bar open Early Birds

Monday October 28th| 9.00 am – 10.00 am Special opening for families with children who have an Autism Spectrum Condition to come along and enjoy the Museum free from the hustle and bustle of the general public. The galleries will be open and there will be an opportunity to handle special objects.

By donation | Booking Essential

~ Exhibitions Surrey Contemporaries October 26th – November 9th Surrey Contemporaries are a group of locally-based artists, who enjoy painting and exhibiting their work together. Working mainly in acrylics and oil, but with the odd watercolour and linoprint thrown in, their work is varied and covers a wide range of subjects including landscapes, seascapes, animal art, portraiture and abstract art - most with a slightly contemporary twist. ~ Creative Workshops Art and Wellbeing Workshops Facilitated by local professional artist Diana Burch, each session focuses on wellbeing and is a fun way to take some time out of your busy day-to-day life.

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NOVEMBER A Crafty Christmas Thursday November 28th 2.30pm – 4.30pm and 7pm – 9pm A wonderful afternoon or evening of Christmassy arts and crafts. These artistic well-being workshops are a fabulous way to explore talents that you never knew you had, whilst nurturing your soul.

Members £6 | Non-members £9 | Book in advance ~ Talks and Lectures Haslemere Natural History Society Lecture Saturday November 9th| 2:15pm The beauty and seasonal changes of the New Forest, seen through the lens of a professional wildlife and landscape photographer Mike Read.

Members Free | Non-Members £4 | No need to book Tea and Talk Tuesday November 26th| 2.30pm Hear all about the BioBlitz held at the Museum in June from the President of the Haslemere Natural History Society, Dr Andy Swan.

Members free | Non-Members £3 | No need to book ~ Family Events and Workshops Early Years (under 5’s with parents/carers) Elmer and Wilbur Friday November 8th| 10:30am – 11:30am Listen to this timeless story, make your own patchwork elephant to take home and see if you can find our elephants hiding in the galleries.

Adults £1 | Children £2 | No need to book Snail Trail Friday November 22nd| 1.30 pm – 2.30 pm Follow the story of one snail’s trail as he journeys around the garden and then get creative to make a trail of your own!

Adults £1 | Children £2 | No need to book Museum Explorers (5-11 years) – Parents may stay or leave their children in our care for the session.

Fireworks! Members £5 | Non-members £7 | Booking in advance Saturday November 2nd| 10.30 am – 12.00 noon We look at the origins of fireworks and then get busy making some fabulous “firework” art of our own for Explorers to take away with them.

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~ Special Events Firework and Bonfire Evening Saturday November 2nd| Doors open 6.30pm | Fireworks 7.30pm followed by the lighting of the Bonfire Make sure you join us to celebrate Bonfire night in style with a dazzling firework show with entertainment from Haslemere Rock Choir and a BBQ run by Haslemere Fire Service. As the night draws in, the event will be sure to warm up when the bonfire is lit. Wrap up and enjoy a show of spectacular colours in the beautiful Museum garden. Priority booking to Museum members throughout September and general admission will go on sale from 2nd October.

Members £6 | Non-Members £8 | Book in advance

Christmas Shopping Event Thursday November 21st| 5pm – 7pm A special opening of the Museum shop with festive entertainment, refreshments and Christmas children’s crafts. Museum members will receive 15% discount on all shop purchases.

Members £5 | Non-members £7 | Booking in advance

Cards for Good Causes Thursday 17th October through to Saturday 14th December & Sunday 1st December Haslemere Cards for Good Causes is a multi-charity Christmas card shop selling cards (many with a religious theme) on behalf of 30 national and local charities. Charities include GUTS, Phyllis Tuckwell and the Fountain Centre.

Helped by the support of local volunteers we are able to give a very high return to these charities.

Venue: Haslemere Educational Museum Time: Monday - Saturday, 10am - 4.30pm Sunday 1 December, 11am - 4pm Contact: 01428 642112

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Opening times: Monday: 17:30—23:00 Tuesday—Saturday: 11:30— 23:00 Sunday: 12:00—20:00

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Bluebells Cancer Support Centre at Harry Edwards Healing Sanctuary Burrows Lea, Hook Lane, Shere, GU5 9AL Bluebells is a friendly, sharing group for anyone affected by cancer.

We laugh a lot, cry a little, share experiences and support each other.

Do come along one Thursday to see for yourself!

We meet on the first and third Thursdays of each month from 11am— 1pm ending with a relaxation session.

We like to keep in touch and know how you are at other times too, so please feel free to contact Carolyn Low on 01483 203540 or email Carolyn.graeme@hotmail.co.uk

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From the Registers Weddings: 2 August – Diana David & Jack Pattison 17 August – Satoko Orihashi & (William) Benjamin Da Rocha Goulter 21 September – Emma Bagshaw & David Bateman 28 September – Katie Lee & Ian Robertson

Baptisms: 22 September – Florence Dawson 4 August – Arlo Tomlins

Funerals: 5 August – Vic Thomas 14 August – Robin Boxall 16 September – Ruth Rees

16 September – Evelyn Pender

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Sunday Sunday Services Services 6 October Trinity 16 / HARVEST FESTIVAL 08:00 Holy Communion | St Christopher’s 10.00 Harvest Festival Service | St Bartholomew’s Collection of donated goods at both services for Haslemere Food Bank

3 November All Saints Sunday 08:00 Holy Communion | St Christopher’s 10.00 Parish Eucharist | St Bartholomew’s 16.00 All Souls service | St Bartholomew’s

10 November Remembrance Sunday

08:00 Holy Communion | St Bartholomew’s 09.30 Remembrance Eucharist | Holy Communion | St Bartholomew’s St Christopher’s Parish Eucharist | St Christopher’s 10.00 Remembrance Service & procession Matins | St Bartholomew’s to Town War Memorial | St Bartholomew’s Families@4 | St Bartholomew’s 16.00 Families@4 | St Bartholomew’s

13 October Trinity 17 08:00 10.00 11.30 16.00

20 October Trinity 18 08.00 Holy Communion, St Christopher’s 10:00 All Age with Baptism | St Bartholomew’s 11.30 Praying on Sunday | St Christopher’s

27 October Last after Trinity

17 November Third Sunday before Advent 08.00 Holy Communion, St Christopher’s 10:00 All Age with Baptism | St Bartholomew’s 11.30 Praying on Sunday | St Christopher’s

24 November

08.00 Holy Communion | St Bartholomew’s Christ the King 10.00 Parish Eucharist | St Christopher’s 08.00 Holy Communion | St Bartholomew’s 18:00 Evensong | St Bartholomew’s 10.00 Parish Eucharist | St Christopher’s 18:00 Evensong | St Bartholomew’s

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