Femininity Issue | October 2015

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Healthier Women Empowering You to Thrive!

4 Simple Ways

to Attract More Money in Your Business Finding Your Feminine Power in Chaos

8 Ways To Teach Your Children Peace How Speaking

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4 Simple Ways

to Attract More Money in Your Business

By COLEEN ARNEIL

When you’re in a high vibe state — feeling capable, confident and secure — others can feel it energetically.

It feels so deflating when you put yourself out there and bust your tushie day after day but don’t see the results you want.

It makes your services and offerings so attractive to potential clients because your inner goddess just radiates and shines around you.

When looking to increase your income, chances are you focus on marketing, endlessly searching for golden nuggets or the next best traffic strategy.

But how do you genuinely create those feelings if you’re struggling to make money?

But what if I told you that you can create massive change by focusing on your relationship with money instead?

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Here are four simple ways to attract more money in your business: 1. Track Your Income Daily.

If you’re barely making any money at all, checking your account balance can quickly spiral you into a state of panic.

How will you pay your bills? When will the money flow consistently and predictably?

No matter how daunting it may feel, take time each day to record your income. And be sure to celebrate whatever money you do have in your account instead of flipping to thoughts like “It’s not enough.”

Even if you’re entering zeros multiple days a week this practice is key as it shifts the energy around your money situation away from fear and avoidance.

Think of money like a person. You have a relationship with it and you want it to be as strong and positive as possible. So don’t ignore your money situation.

2. Practice gratitude.

The old expression “Be careful what you wish for” is so true… what we focus on expands. And if you’re looking to create more abundance in your business then one of the best places to start is by spending more time focusing on what you’re grateful for in your life.

It doesn’t need to be anything huge - it could be anything from a bar of soap, to a smile from a friend or stranger, or coffee. Think about what puts a smile on your face during the day and truly appreciate it.

It might seem irrelevant to your business goals, but I assure you it’s not. It’s another way to increase your overall vibe which makes stepping into other feelings of confidence and joy so much easier.

3. Uncover Your Money Blocks

We all have a relationship with money and it’s influenced by life experiences starting as a very young child. Many times, despite a conscious intention to make good money in your business, you undermine and sabotage yourself.

It often shows up as procrastination, struggle, overwhelm and perfectionism.

You can run your business with a LOT more ease if you understand the limiting beliefs you hold. What do you believe about money? What memories from childhood do you have?

Spend some time exploring your beliefs. Awareness is the first step in working through what’s holding you back.

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4. Set A Reasonable Income Goal

Don’t be afraid to set a goal. You might shy away from doing so out of fear you won’t hit and then you’ll feel like even more a failure. But the point isn’t to hit it right now. Just have a goal you set for the next 3-4 months.

And remember: Keep it reasonable. Huge income goals do one of two things. We either disconnect entirely from the possibility because it’s so outlandish (think winning $1,000,000 lottery).

Or we freak out because the jump is so extreme all our mind can think about is how it’s not possible. Think incrementally. Take the staircase. You’ll get to the top far faster by setting smaller goals and trading them up regularly than chasing down a lofty goal.

Follow these four tips and I promise you will start to see a shift in your relationship with money!

Colleen Arneil, PhD., supports entrepreneurs in successfully turning their smarts into profit. She works with a wide range of clients, and her research and work has been featured in Harvard Business Review, Huffington Post, Psychology Today and more.

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Steering the Tornado Finding Your Feminine Power in Chaos

By VANESSA LONG What does it mean to be powerfully feminine?

And how does that tie in to this idea of steering the tornado?

traits, they are only one side. It is vital that we also develop our strong power to create, destroy and transform.

As part of the emerging Divine Feminine movement for over a decade now, it has been thrilling to see women stepping into their power and taking control of creating their lives in a more feminine way.

To create something new, space must be created, and that requires the strength to tear down and transform what is no longer working - to say ‘No!’

The pitfall that I have seen many times is that, as we reject the masculine model of ‘might makes right’, we can also reject part of our power.

There seems to be a focus on softness, receptivity and intuition, and while these are very important

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Sometimes, when we have said ‘Yes!’ too many times, it can feel as if our life has become a tornado with too many projects and people swirling around us.

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As women who are living full lives balancing work, children and relationships, all while being a part of a community, it can be chaotic.

The image of a tornado might be extreme, but I know that life can start to feel this way - I’ve heard it time and again from my clients. The problem with a tornado is that it means helplessness and doom. We are, by the very nature of the tornado, it’s victims.

When you find yourself in an energetic tornado I encourage you to step inside and expand into your feminine power to create, destroy and transform instead of hunkering down to weather out the storm.

We show our feminine power when . . . :

One time I was working through this with a client when I got a clear vision of her stepping into the center of the tornado. Aha!

What if she were steering the tornado ?

It feels so different!

Instantly, she calmed down and felt her power begin to return. Instead of watching the tornado wreak havoc on her life, she was now inside the tornado, using her power and intention to steer and carry her responsibilities in the direction that would produce the best results. It changed everything. Now, she was in control and she had choice.

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We know who we are . . .

What we stand for, and . . .

We are able to negotiate the dramas that others try to rope us into.

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We know our purpose and our priorities, and we can say ‘No!’ to everything else.

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We surrender to the divine will for our lives and trust that the universe is for us and supporting us; and

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We have strong relationships with others and an even stronger relationship with our Self and can happily sink into stillness to hear the voice of inspiration.

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True Power

is being able to set your intention on something, take action, and have it manifest in the ‘real’ world!

Here are 3 ways you can more fully step into your feminine power now:

1. Discover your purpose and priorities.

See clearly what is calling your soul and what fills you up. Say a joyful ‘No!’ to everything else.

2. Clean up your messes.

Physical. Emotional. Relational.

Everywhere that you have something unfinished hanging over you, it is draining your energy. Commit to cleaning up at least one mess per week and watch the miracles happen in your life.

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3. Surrender to stillness.

At least a few times each week, and ideally every day, get quiet and listen to the voice inside of you that whispers of love, possibility, and greatness, and how to create that in your own life. Even inside the tornado you can create a place of peace.

Finding the balance in your own feminine power is a life-long process and one that you can start on right now by getting clear about what you want and what you don’t want and then making the decision to no longer tolerate what is bringing chaos into your world.

May you always enjoy the blessings of your feminine power.

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8 Ways

To Teach Your Children Peace

By HUNTER CLARKE-FIELDS As we move into the fall, the pace of life picks up.

We’re focused on school, on getting stuff done.

So I invite you to remember your ultimate desire for your children: to live a peaceful, contented life.

My 4-year old sits in a basket (ahem, boat). Her sister pulls herself over to the stairway on a pillow. The floor is the ocean. They climb up the stairs (rocks) to continue their game.

For children, free, imaginative play is the corollary of mindfulness for adults. It is essential for their wellbeing. It’s their path to wholeness.

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I don’t push yoga for kids. I don’t try to get them to meditate. They are already in the moment.

Then how do we teach children to be peaceful?

Children learn how to live from us.

If we want our children not to yell, we must stop yelling.

If we want to teach children to be respectful, we must be respectful to them and everyone else.

If we want to teach our children healthy habits, we must practice them ourselves.

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If we want our children to be peaceful, we must practice peace ourselves.

That said, there are 8 things we can do to raise peaceful children.

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Practice peace yourself.

Be the change you want to see. If you want your kids to be more peaceful, you must become peaceful yourself.

Meditate daily (even 5 minutes). Practice yoga. Take deep breaths. Your example is more powerful than you realize.

3. Loving speech &

acknowledgement.

When we listen to our children, we should acknowledge what they said. Just reflect back to them what they said so that they know they are heard. It’s amazing how many problems this helps to dissipate!

Loving speech means just what it says.

Speak to your children the way you want them to talk to you. How often do I hear parents (and myself) barking commands at children? We have an unfair double standard.

2 Deep listening.

Many of our children’s frustrations come from not feeling heard.

And let’s be honest, how often are we not really listening? We can give them respect as human beings. We can listen for the feelings behind what they are saying. Listening helps us stay attuned to what is going on for them.

4. Keep your baby close.

Infants need lots of time next to mama or daddy. Your heartbeat and warmth are soothing. Close attachment sets up baby for feelings of security later.

Carry, wear, hold your baby as much as possible without being a martyr. Your self-care is an essential part of being a grounding presence for your kids.

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5. Early bedtime.

6. Time for free play.

Children need a LOT of sleep! Putting them to bed early respects their bodies as well as their emotional needs. If you have to wake them up, they haven’t had enough sleep. Many of the families I know with “wild” kids allow them to stay up late. Peaceful kids go to bed early. The bonus is that you get some time for yourself or with your partner in the evening!

7. Time in nature.

Children absolutely need unstructured play time. It helps them physically, emotionally, educationally, etc. They learn trust, empathy and problem solving through free play. Having plenty of time for free play requires a simplified schedule.

8. Create a culture of peace.

Children who are disconnected from nature have problems with attention deficit disorder, obesity, and depression. Being in nature brings about a natural peacefulness for children.. and adults! We all need it.

Raising peaceful children is an art, not a science. It’s a constant practice in which we will fail often. I’ve been working with these eight principles for years now and I still get frustrated at my girls and have bad days.

Don’t strive for perfection. Allow yourself to approach sharing peace in a way that is friendly to your children and yourself. Let go of those harsh judgments when you fail. Your children will benefit from seeing you practice self-love and growth.

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Turn off the evening news with it’s focus on violence. Look for educational models, like Montessori, that promote peace. Seek out books and music that encourage peace.

Hunter Clarke-Fields

, MSAE, RYT, helps mamas let go of stress and overwhelm and bring more peace and joy to life using the traditions of yoga & mindfulness.

She has over 18 years of experience in yoga & mindfulness practices.

She has the dharma name, “Calm breath of the heart.” Hunter hosts a podcast, Yoga Stories Project, in addition to blogging about the intersection of yoga, mindfulness and parenting at HunterYoga.com.

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How Speaking

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By SUMI JONES

If the essence of the feminine energy is receptivity and nurturing, then choosing to embody these qualities helps us see our greatest power lies within this state of being.

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When we become aware of how we communicate with another person, even in challenging situations, our kindness can benefit them as well as us.

The other person becomes more receptive and it generally helps us to achieve the results we’d like.

Recently, I’ve witnessed several people dealing with challenging situations. In each of these situations, they were reacting in an aggressive or angry way. What they wanted was for someone to act differently, but their aggression being aimed at the other person didn‘t yield the results they wanted.

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I noticed how someone can easily resort to anger rather than taking the time to calmly make a request.

I can identify with this behavior because in the past I’ve caught myself approaching a situation from a place of annoyance when I felt someone had treated me poorly. What I’ve found though, is when you take the time to speak to another person with kindness and respect, even when you’re requesting something difficult, the outcome is generally a more favorable one.

If someone acts out of anger, it’s a sign their boundaries have been crossed and they feel threatened.

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If a person feels they have no power in a situation, as if they’re a victim to circumstances, their reaction will stem from anger - a need to protect themselves.

If however, they feel in control or empowered, they can examine the situation calmly, and choose to react with respect.

Take the example of a woman working in a pizza parlor who was angry with a man leaning on her truck.

She stormed out to confront him, yet was surprised by “how he’d spoken to her.” Interestingly, I was surprised she hadn’t expected that exact response from him.

When you speak to someone in anger, most likely they’re going to respond with anger.

If she’d taken a few moments to compose herself before going out to ask him not to lean on her truck since she was worried he might scratch it, he probably would’ve honored her request without the angry retort.

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In this case, she was coming from the position of a victim and didn’t feel comfortable asking him politely.

If we treat people with kindness at all times, especially the difficult times, we stand a chance of influencing others to behave in this manner.

If someone feels safe and not threatened by another person’s actions, they feel the space to calmly make a request of that person. This feeling of safety is something which comes from within and can be cultivated.

We can set the example, coming from the feminine energy within us. If we emanate kindness, others seem to pick up on it and automatically treat us the same way.

If we take the time to connect with another person, treating them with respect, they usually respond in the same manner. As Gandhi said, “Be the change you want to see in the world”.

Our true power lies within our feminine nature and the ability to influence others through kindness.

Sumi Jones

since 2004 has been assisting clients step into their full potential by teaching them how to remove any blocks which keep them from fully embodying who they are. Her work includes EFT and intuitively guided body work. Learn more about her at www.sumijones.com

If we’re able to truly care about another person’s feelings, understanding what we’re about to say might not be what they’d like to hear, maybe then we can communicate in a way which shows kindness and respect.

It’s up to us to change our behavior, giving another person the opportunity to react with respect towards us.

I try to understand the other person’s point of view when I talk about something which could be confrontational. I want to speak to them in a manner where they feel comfortable giving me their perspective.

This isn’t to say that on occasion, you might come up against someone who isn’t able to hear requests of any sort without responding in a defensive manner. In this instance, just do the best you can. It doesn’t mean you aren’t making a difference.

At least in your own life you are because you’re honoring yourself. By speaking in the most compassionate way, you’re stating to yourself you deserve to be calm and kind in all of your interactions. Your body and emotional wellbeing will thank you.

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What is a Goddess?

A woman who is in the process of learning to know, accept and love herself on all levels, Mind Body and Spirit.

A woman who, because she focuses on personal growth and self awareness, experiences a life, increasingly filled with peace, love, joy, passion and fun.

A woman that understands that she has unlimited capacity to make her life anything she wants.

A woman who is inspired to give to those around her because of her sense of gratitude and abundance. ~ Unknown

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