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Where to Begin Giving Back This Season By Emma W. Barhydt
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received t he 2019 Guardian of Excellence Awa rd i n Pat ient Experience in the Emergency Department. Also, Greenwich Hospital received t he Pinnacle o f E x c e l l e n c e Aw a r d i n P a t i e nt E x p e r i e n c e f rom Press Ga ney for maintaining consistently high levels of excellence over mu lt iple ye a r s i n Out pat ient Ser v ices. G r e e n w i c h H o s p i t a l ’s Outpatient Department consists of 38 individual departments.
Giv ingTuesday is a g lobal generosity movement unleashing the power of people and organizations to transform their communities and the world on December 3, 2019 and every day. It was created in 2012 as a simple idea: a day that encourages people to do good. Over the past seven years, this idea has grown i nto a g loba l movement t hat inspires hundreds of millions of people to give, collaborate, and celebrate generosity. One of the best ways to get involved is in our own community. The Sentinel offers a short list of a few places you can volunteer. This is by no means a complete list of places around Greenwich, but rather a way to help you get started. Your local library. There are a number of volunteer opportunities available at Greenwich Library. Volunteers from The Friends of Gr e enw ich L i bra r y sp end cou nt le ss hou rs e ach mont h working in outreach, assisting Library staff, and fundraising. To ask about volunteer opportunities call (203) 622 7938 or visit https:// w w w. g r e e nw i c h l i b r a r y.o r g / volunteer/ Abili s. A bi l is prov ide s meaning f ul opportunities for t he pu bl ic to ex p er ience t he tremendous satisfaction of serving others throug h volunteering. They have a w ide va r iet y of opportunities available across the Greenw ich and Stamford communities. You can make the
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Police Officer Standards and Training Council (POST-C) voted and awarded t h e G r e e n w i c h Po l i c e Department a certificate of compliance with Tier I status for the Connecticut Law Enforcement Accreditation Program. This was a lengthy process which took approximately two years to accomplish.
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Hotline, a Greenwich telephone counseling agency, joined forces to create an emergency shelter pilot program known as Kids In Crisis. Kids in Crisis is there, 24 hours a day, every day of the year, to help
and your energy. Help continue care for the dogs that rely on us. Whether you want to work directly w ith the dogs in the shelter, or join us in hosting community events, they can work together to help find unwanted or abandoned dogs their forever homes. For more information, call (914) 273-1674 or visit https:// adopt-a-dog.org/volunteer/aboutvolunteering.html Kids in Crisis Forty years ago a needs assessment, done by the Greenwich United Way, uncovered the need for a local solution to address the increasing numbers of runaway and homeless adolescents. A s a resu lt, the Junior League of Greenwich, and
prevent kids from ever reaching crisis points or manage crises they are in. To volunteer call 203622-6556 or visit https://www. k idsincrisis.org /get-involved / volunteer/ Neighbor to Neighbor Be part of something special – volunteer to help in Neighbor to Neighbor’s Food Pantry or Clothing Room. The dedicated and enthusiastic team of over 250 volunteers is the driving force behind all they do. Volunteers assist clients as they shop, sort donations, stock shelves and participate in food drive pick ups. Volunteers are asked to commit to a regular shift or serve as an occasional “substitute.” For more information call 203-6229208 x12 or visit https://www. ntngreenwich.org/how-you-canhelp/volunteer/ You can also donate! Neighbor to Neighbor greatly appreciates your donations of food, clothing, diapers, sheet, towels and small household items! Everything they distribute in their Clothing Room, and half of the food they distribute, is donated by members of the community. They simply cannot meet the local need for assistance without
There’s a Place in The Sun
“There’s a Place in The Sun and Before “Your” Life is Done……” Palm Island, The
Grenadines, West Indies (With thanks to Stevie Wonder for a fabulous top ten hit in 1966) By Patricia Chadwick
School will be dedicated to the Greenwich Board of Educat ion a nd t he Town during a ceremony a t 10 a . m . , o n D e c . 7, two years after the original groundbreaking on construction. Be sure to check out g reenw ichsent i nel.com and the print edition of the Greenwich Sentinel for full coverage. recent plan to implement tolls was met with strong opposition in a closed door meeting with state senate democrats. It appears that tolls will not be moving forward any time soon.
in need, volunteering at AdoptA-Dog may be the right place for you. Volunteers bring a diversity of interests, knowledge, expertise and support to the organization. Volunteer your skills, your time,
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difference in the life of a person w it h a d i s a b i l it y. Vo lu nte e r opportunities range from regular we e k l y g r o u p o r i n d i v i d u a l activities to one-time special events. Experiences may be direct with individuals of all ages or through committee or office work. For more information, call 203531-1880 x162 or visit https://www. abilis.us/get-involved/volunteer. html Greenwich Hospital. If you ca n com m it t h ree hou rs or more each week, Greenwich Ho spit a l we lc ome s you a s a volunteer. Volunteer orientations a nd t ra i n i ng sem i na rs ma ke sure you become familiar with hospital policies and procedures. Opportunities are also available for junior volunteers, age 15 and older. These younger volunteers perform many of the same services as the adults. Junior volunteers gain valuable community service experience along with the satisfaction of mak ing an important contribution to the hospital. If you have any questions, call 203-863-3222 or visit https:// w w w.g reenw ich hospital.org / about/community/volunteering/ become-a-volunteer.aspx G r e e n w i c h L a n d Tr u s t Greenwich Land Trust conserves open space, connects our com mu n it y w it h t he nat u ra l world, a nd i nspi res the nex t generation of conservationists. For more information, call (203) 6292151. Adopt-A-Dog If you have a love for dogs and want to help enrich the lives of homeless dogs
My first visit to Palm Island was forty years ago – in November of 1979. The trip was memorable for all the right reasons, not the least of which was nearly primitive nature of the place – a 135-acre island resort, devoid of a hotel, but bespeckled with “villas”. Without an airfield or even a makeshift runway, Palm Island was accessible only by water. The sole restaurant on the island was the open-air dining room which played second fiddle to the glorious old bar where rum punch was available for breakfast, lunch and dinner. There was a distinctly European flavor to the island back then – John and Mary Caldwell, the American couple who owned and managed the resort seem to re vel i n t hei r ow n “nonAmerican-ness”. The atmosphere was sybaritic – exuding a hideaway quality that felt like an invitation to visit with a spouse or a lover, undisturbed by the commotion wrought by families with children. For “ac t iv it y”, one cou ld snorkel, or arrange to have a massage, or even play tennis – but (with credit to Noel Coward) only “mad dogs and Englishmen” would run around a tennis court on this island that is less than 1000 miles from the equator. For
added adventure, one could take a decidedly un-fancy boat to visit the nearby islands of Mayreau or Pet it Sa i nt Vi ncent. A nd that was it. The ambiance beckoned one to lie in a hammock and read a book, to observe the chameleons and the iguanas, the turtles and the sandpipers. And that’s just what we did. Back then was long before the birth of Kindle and Nook, WiFi and the internet. There was no ability to text friends or telegraph to the world on Facebook or Instagram the beauty of the place – it was unadvertised and almost unknown. A f t e r a b l i s s f u l t e n- d ay vacation, I left Palm Island, not sure if I would ever see it again. The memories would last forever as would the friendship that was kindled with a Swiss couple who’d been coming for a number of years. Fast forward to the late 1990’s when t he couple , whom I’ d visited on several occasions at their home in Bern (Switzerland), bought property atop the most scenic of Palm Island ’s three miniature “mountains”. Villa Alma Viva they called the home they made for themselves, which had breathtaking views of the sea from every room. “Come and visit us,” they begged, and I did, year after year, sometimes for a week at a time and often for just a few days. Life centered around their mountain top abode, and I paid little heed to what was happening at the resort. But on my latest trip, less than a month ago, I set out on a mission – to re-explore the island in detail, to see if that magical primitive aura of forty years ago still permeated the place. Armed with my cell phone’s “ health app”, I was able to measure the periphery of the island – it is exactly two miles. A few more pr i v at e home s now dot t he hillsides and several new trails up into the “mountains” offer the
opportunity for a strenuous walk. As for the resort itself, little has changed – the tennis court has few scuff marks across its green surface, a sign that the “mad dogs and Englishman” have come to their senses. The spa, now refurbished but still simple, offers an array of sublime treatments – including a languorous soak in a gardenia-filled tub in the gentle shade on the beach. The “villas” have a more elegant look, but they remain bungalow style. A casual outdoor restaurant has been added and the wonderful old bar has undergone a facelift – not as homey as its predecessor, but it still offers rum punch any time of the day or night. A boat from “unfashionable” Union Island is still the only way to discover this hideaway. The iguanas continue to stroll about like small (and occasionally large) sentinels, as though the island is theirs and we’re merely temporary intruders – and they have it just right. One concession to the demands of 21st century visitors is the availability of Wi-Fi on the island, but for the most part, time has stood still on the resort. Palm Island is not for everyone – there is no glitz, no concierge service, no reason to bring a single piece of fancy jewelry or a pair of high heeled shoes. It remains a place where simple pleasures abou nd – read i ng, nappi ng, getting a massage to recuperate from a frantic world “back home” (wherever home is). Romance is in the air on Palm Island – it once was, still is and hopefully will remain a paradise for lovers. And a great place to recuperate after the energy expended over the Thanksgiving festivities. Happy Thanksgiving! Patricia Chadw ick is a businesswoman and an author. She recently published Little Sister, a memoir about her unusual childhood growing up in a cult.
your generous and dedicated support. Please drop of f your new or gently used items at their donation center in the basement of the Christ Church Greenwich Annex building, 248 East Putnam Ave , G r e e nw i c h , C T 0 6 8 3 0. Donations may be dropped off Monday through Saturday, 8:30 am – 12:30 pm AND Wednesdays and Thursdays, 3:30 – 5:30 pm. For more information please visit https://www.ntngreenwich.org/ how-you-can-help/donate-items/ Community Gifts Program is funded by private donations and the Salvation Army to support v a r iou s for m s of a s si s t a nc e throughout the year. Donations are overseen by an independent 501(c) (3) Fund and are tax deductible. The Community Gifts Program spans the following offerings: Boots and Shoes: Provides vo u c h e r s a n d g i f t c a r d s fo r children ages 5 to 15 entering school to purchase footwear. Campership: Provides camp scholarship, reg istration and transportation to several local camps and sleep away camps for children 4 to 14 years old. Holiday Aid: Provides food vouche r s , fo o d b a sket s , Toy distribution day and Angel Tree gifts during the holiday season. For more information call 203622-7700 or visit https://www. greenwichct.gov/545/CommunityPrograms Diane's Book s Give a Deserving Child the Gift of Reading as a Diane's Books angel by donating books to deserving chidren whose families cannot af ford books are selected and sent to Diane's. For each selection Diane's Books will offer appropriate age books, giftwrap them and send them off as gifts to inspire hope and imagination and learning! The letters they get back from children would warm your heart. Diane's Books displays them in the store. Gifts may be donated through her web site at ht t ps: //w w w. dianesbooks.com/AngelTree
Excerpts from The Waterwheel
Banning B.A.N.S. ILLUSTRATED BY WAJIH CHAUDHRY
The Briefing Room
By Jill S. Woolworth, LMFT The words but, always, never, and should (which form the acronym B.A.N.S.) too often close off options for ourselves and for others. In contrast, rarely, sometimes, often, and frequently are usually closer to the truth and leave the door open for change. Banning B.A.N.S is a way to be kinder and more honest with ourselves and others. For example, the word but negates anything we say right before it. “I love you, but we don’t do fun things together” triggers the listener’s fear and defensiveness. Substituting and for but—“I love you, and I want to do fun things together”—is much more likely to lead to fun. When we say I want to or I’d like to instead of I should, I must, or I ought to, there’s a better chance we’ll actually do something. “I want to exercise more” works in the part of our brain that senses pleasure and fun. The self-critical statement, “I should exercise more” triggers fear. Carlos never got it right, and Joy always nagged. After a period of counseling, they were surprised to hear each other say that sometimes he got it right, and sometimes she didn’t nag. They made a practice of noticing and telling each other when he got it right and she wasn’t nagging. They gained confidence. Over time Carlos got it right more and more often, and Joy rarely nagged. This is an excerpt from The Waterwheel by local author, Jill Woolworth, available through Amazon. Alternatively, we encourage you to shop locally where it is also available at Diane's Books or Dogwood Books and Gifts).
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