OTHER TIPS

• Remember that Title IV only applies to clergy. So if the intake officer “directs” you to do something, you’re under no obligation.

• Despite what Title IV says about confidentiality, you are free to share your experiences; it’s inherently abusive to tell you otherwise, and Title IV only applies to clergy. But make an informed decision — sharing the fact you filed a complaint likely will make you persona non grata in your parish, and possibly other parishes. Not very Christian, but as the late bishop Barbara Harris put it, “No one hates like Christians.” Yup.

• Think twice before signing a non-disclosure agreement. A Christians, we’re called to bring light to the darkness. But this little light of mine ain’t shining nowhere once you’ve signed an NDA. And NDA’s are hugely one-sided—unless you have asked for one, chances are the goal is to sweep things under the rug and protect the church’s reputation. Hmmm.