On Sunday, March 20th, 2022 at 5:23 PM, Eric Smith <eric.bonetti@icloud.com> wrote: Dear Bishops, As we move through Lent and towards the resurrection time of Easter, I am writing to ask for your help. My hope is that at least some among you will have the courage to come forward and insist that the church “respect the dignity of every human being.” In short, I have a Title IV case that has gone horribly wrong, and even writing to ++Curry has made no difference. Thus, this email. Background In 2015, I filed a good-faith Title IV complaint against The Rev. Bob Malm, then rector of my parish, Grace Episcopal in Alexandria. Specifically, I asked the diocese to help mediate my concerns about bullying, questionable HR and financial practices, and allegations of harassment among diocesan staff. The diocese denied my request and refused the pastoral response mandated by Title IV. This, despite the fact I specifically requested it. Since then, Malm retaliated by contacting the police, falsely claiming that a blog, written by my late mother, was somehow threatening to him. No rational actor would concur. He’s also repeatedly told others that I am mentally ill, and suggested as a result I am dangerous. This is both a fabrication and profoundly offensive, including to those among us who do suffer from mental illness. So why do people believe Malm? They do so for three reasons: 1)
Malm has repeatedly traded on his role as rector.
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Malm has deployed excess charm to convince people otherwise.
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Malm is a master at gaslighting and narcissistic games.
Malm’s Perjury Most recently, the matter has lurched into court. There, Malm has repeatedly committed perjury: 1) Stating under oath that my mother or someone purporting to be her contacted him repeatedly to set up appointments, only to cancel. 2) In a later court proceeding, he claimed he “didn’t recall speaking to her,” thus leaving open the possibility that Mom emailed him, etc.