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Slipping Through The Net

{Inside} The IIM Next Door


IM Rohtak has a global vision, and a wish to be the moghul for the supply of management graduates to the NCR establishments. A meeting with the Director, Prof Rameshan.

Marriage Mhaari Style

...Pg 9


et a peek at the way the locals do it – wed, we mean. Something similar, something new. ...Pg 14

Join The Club


t’s easy to be social in the City. Groups and Clubs abound – in fact a new one springs up every month. And the membership is truly diverse.

Where are the future jobs?

...Pg 19


e have the Master Plan 2031 but we do not seem to have the wherewithal. IT has been globally hit, BPO finds the City too costly, Auto wants to move out, no one new is coming. Manesar, the Industrial Model Township, is more a real estate play now. Meanwhile, HSIIDC and the State are fiddling. ...Pg 21

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t’s the awkward age. Or maybe no longer. Does a teenage love affair still mean clumsiness and embarrassment? Or has the feeling of love been replaced by just feeling each other? Are we seeing normal evolution, or the start of a sexual revolution in India? There surely is an over-load of information, in all forms, out there; but it seems to be providing precious little knowledge. And a little knowledge has always been more dangerous. This seems to apply well to sex today – especially underage sex. The change today is that boys seem to be increasingly defining themselves as men the moment they become teenagers – as long as there is no responsibility. Yes, premature is the new mature – though hopefully the learning curve will lessen over time. Women, more sober and intelligent, are changing too. However, with the law still defining a man (an adult) as 18 years and above, we are set for a showdown. One fallout is this surreptitious issue of underage sex. This new millennium issue seems quite evident in Millennium City. It cannot any longer be swept under the carpet. Has the Gurgaon new millennium life and lifestyle contributed to an increase in this phenomenon? A life of exclusive world schools for the worldly children of jet setting parents; of even more exclusive (read, isolated) condos; of supposedly cosmopolitan, liberal parents being too busy, of grand-parents being only visitors, of leisure time of the children being spent alone (yes, Net/Mobile time is not face time – it will take some time for that to sink in). It is also dangerous for us and our children to believe that we can live isolated and content in our islands, in our own world. It will slowly build up to a frustration with the society and life ‘outside’. Is this also the kind of life coming up next for future-cities’ folk across India? There are also the consequences, and side impacts. Would relationships later in life mean the same, if physical intimacy and sex take centre stage early in life? Are we happy for the institution of marriage to start crumbling, as in the West? Guess it happens when you no longer talk warmly of your parents, and their love, and of family time together. The side impacts are issues like drug abuse.

For A Rainy Day T

hat our millennium goals could be upstaged by the lack of a most basic element called water is indeed disturbing. Water supply and water storage is less than adequate even today; and the water table is already at an alarmingly low level. With a new Gurgaon, Gurgaon II, taking shape, it can only get worse. Already the High Court has stopped usage of ground water for the construction of Gurgaon II. The Administration and civil society have therefore been frenziedly talking of multiple solutions. Water Harvesting, a worthwhile project, has unfortunately become more of a fad – not unlike the ‘let’s plant a tree’. Water harvesting pits have sprung up in the hundreds – and plans for a few hundred more are in the pipeline. Everyone rests happy that they have ‘done their bit’. What should it be for, where should it come up, what shape should it take, and how should it

An imponderable is whether we will see an Indian version of ‘growing up’, or would we continue aping the West. Are we really anything like the those Westerners? For example, are we really independent? The babalog, and we too, need maids and drivers, and everything laid out for us – we are spoilt brats. We are liberal when it comes to our sons – we claim to be friends, enjoying everything together; and conservative when it comes to our daughters. There is a link to sex education here. Education means knowledge, not just scattered information – not twits, but facts. There is a big role for elder siblings or relatives – more even than for the parents/elders. They need to help add face time value to the teenager, helping sort out the information explosion coming from the MMSs, SMSs, tweets and facebooks – and the Net. They can be a good safety net – like sex education. The parents, the family, the safety net of yore is disintegrating. The Net is not quite safe. In fact the Net seems to promote a surfing tendency – just moving from site to site, switching frequently. Hopefully the new generations do not develop this surfing trait in their human relationships. Should we be worried? We probably cannot stop this phenomenon of underage sex, but it needs to be taken seriously. Unfortunately it is not even discussed seriously enough. If an adult is involved with a minor, it is actually a criminal offence.

{ Shilpy Arora / FG }


mall children disturb your sleep, big ones your life. Namita (name changed), a parent of a 15-year-old girl, can very well relate to the proverb. According to Namita, her daughter became sexually active at the age of 10. “She lost her virginity when she was just 12. I came to know about it when I chanced upon a text message on her mobile. It was from a boy, and said "Last night was great." I also found some of her objectionable pictures with a boy. When I spoke to her on this issue, there was shockingly, no regret,” she says. Namita is not alone. A resident in a condominium, Contd on p 6 

be maintained, are questions that have not been well thought through. There is therefore precious little harvest of water/ rain water happening in Gurgaon. Most of the money spent to date has been ill-spent. In fact in many cases it has led to a worse situation. And now HUDA has started talking big numbers, for the setting up of Water Harvesting pits. The idea seems to be to show a lot of activity – actually just talk, most of the time – for the benefit of the Court.

{ Maninder Dabas / FG }


hen Koudan, the farmer protagonist in the famous Gandhian and environmentalist Anupam Mishra's book 'Aaj Bhi Khare Hain Talab' went to his king with a piece of stone having a Midas touch, the king advised him to make as many Talabs (ponds) as possible, by using the gold made from that stone. And soon that area in Rajasthan, with all the ponds created by Koudan, became an oasis for humanity. Habitations have forever depended on water sources and water bodies. Neither is the distance nor the topography of Contd on p 7 


Coming Up

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ing in the Christmas spirit with carols, games and goodies hosted by Delhi Bible Fellowship (DBF). A Special Programme (Hindi),will be held on December 15- 5:30 -7:00 pm; and in English on December 16-5:30 -7:00 pm.

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Stand Up Comedy Deeply Dilli @ Italiano, DLF Phase 3 Date: December 14 Time: 8:30 pm onwards

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Soulful Reality @ Epicentre, Apparel House, Sector 44 Date: December 14 to 18 Time: 11:00 am - 8:00 pm


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about civic and social happenings and issues around you? n Are you motivated to do something positive for society? n Are you interested to also write, and express what you see, hear, feel?

solo artwork show by Vibha Maurya, curated by Yanam Takam. The Show brings together a body of works made over a period of two years. On display are brightly colored figurative paintings rendered in a flat style. The artist takes cues from everyday visual mediums like advertising, cinema and magazines.


Oh My Gold! OMG @ Marriott Hotel, B Block, Sushant Lok - 1, Sector 27 Date: December 19 onwards Time: 6:00 pm


ased on the philosophy of Louise Hay, this Workshop, conducted by Superna Yamuna Chopra, offers new understanding to create a healthy body and mind – through identification and release of set beliefs, and self-appreciation. This is done through a process of visualisations and affirmations.

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{ Abhishek Behl / FG }


It lives in two urgaon is a paradox. the Naunequal halves, whereinthe Great as tional Highway-8 acts Wall. The core Divide – like the Berlin the new subbut of the City is rotting; – with malls, gated urbs shine like stars and clubs setting colonies, golf courses never before seen a standard of life


he third in our astrology series – featuring Libra, Scorpio and Saggitarius.

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Tantric Art


e feature

Shobha Broota, a 68year old ‘young’ and energetic artist.

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Master Recipe

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in India. forces that It is this flux of extreme balance – the is threatening to unraveland helpful for a balance that is natural and for civiliwith; great cities to evolve attain glory. sations to develop and urban core, the Gurgaon’s rotting within the City, concretised villages hinterland that and the vast rural is under once comprised Guru-gram, – under and 210 Panchayats threat of being submerged Nagar, Manesar); Millennium a of the new identity that cover 291 villages. a week with in ‘New GurgaFriday Gurgaon spent City, with its capital Meena, checkthe role of the State on’. It is here that Deputy Commissioner will is executed – ensure that the forces comes into play; to ing how the State’s that has known all the populace. of development touch in this historic area, since the Commissioner Gurgaon Deputy some form of governance of Being is the point man of Guru Dronacharya. power, P.C Meena, who in the Dis- time capital seat of the State Administration close to Delhi, the by Gurgaon is much has also been influenced trict, concurs that District the District and social developments The itself. City political more than the viz. Gurgaon the includes 3 sub-divisionsPataudi; 5 teh- taking place there. Contd on p 8  ,and (North and South) Pataudi, Farukh Sohna, sils (Gurgaon,

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Let’s Be Civil


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service worth its lmost every significant call-in. Whether it salt has a telephone information is food (or liquor) delivery, civic and reservations, services, bookings on cells... there is a line facilities, grievance call in. But when there which people can or a fire – there is an accident, a robbery that people dial is only one type of service Services. in a hurry. Emergency themselves count people Most haven’t had a fortunate that they for they had to ask which in situation who work in these help; but for the people people is helping distraught


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Control Location: The Mini-SecretarRoom (PCR) in Gurgaon’s lines chirping, phone iat. Wireless sets staff they’re set down, ringing as soon as papers – the very rushing about with air hums with activity. who is the Inspector Rishipal, the Operations, says senior in-charge of given day, we receive seriously, “On any a 3,000 calls.” In between 2,500 to from which he can closed glass cubicle he manages the day-tosurvey all activity, PCR. “We have stateday operations of the equipment, and I can of-the-art servers and has one of the safely say that Gurgaon the country.” in st advanced PCRs

Christmas Special

The Grand Christmas Carnival Meenakshi Public School, Sector 10 A Date: December 16 Time: 10:00 am to 6:00 pm

Celebrating Women @ Clarens Hotel, Sector 29 Date: December 15 Time: 6:00 pm


elebrate Christmas with fun and games. Participate in a talent hunt (on the spot registration), enjoy fun rides, and shop at various stalls. For more information, call: 8800537222


njoy a celebration called “Oh My Gold” – a display of fine art.

The participating artists are
Aanchal & Tuttu M Tomy, Anand Panchal, Hindol Brahmbhatt,| Johina Sodhi,
Rohit Sharma, Ramesh Kumar, Shweta Talwar, Shyamal Mukherjee and Suchit Sahni.


Electrical, Electronics And Energy Expo @ State Council of Educational Research & Training (SCERT), Opp Panchayat Bhavan, Sohna Road Date: December 14 – 16



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njoy an evening of riotous humour with this Stand Up Comedy Act. A Loony Goons presentation, this Act features – Appurv Gupta, Vikramjit Singh, Rajneesh Kapoor, and host Abhijit Ganguly.

Fund Raiser

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For The Other Half


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ne of the biggest Expos in the electrical and electronics sector, this Event will be conducted over two days. Participants will include retailers and manufacturers in the field of electrical, electronics and energy segments, displaying various products in the related field(s).


urgaon Moms and Biz Divas come together to felicitate inspiring women with this fund raiser. The Event will include an awards ceremony to felicitate 5 women achievers (from Gurgaon Moms and the Biz Divas Group of more than 2500+ members); an auction of highend fashion; fun games and raffle tickets; and a dance party. The funds raised will be donated to Ashish Foundation, an NGO working with disabled children.

Christmas Special Christmas Mela @ Community Centre, DLF Phase III Date: December 15 & 16 Time: 4:00 pm to 9:00 pm


Guitar Freakshow @ PowerPlay Sports Bar, MG Road
 date: December 22 Time: 9:00 pm Onwards


ne of India’s premier guitarists, Baiju Dharmajan, performs live with his band. Baiju has collaborated with famous playback singers in the Malayalam film industry, and has been the lead guitarist for the Kochi rock band, Motherjane.

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Celeb Watch


Katrina Bedazzles


ollywood beauty Katrina Kaif was in the City as brand ambassador for a high-end jewellery line. The Event, held at the Kingdom of Dreams, had fun-filled games, and included a lucky draw contest, for which Katz picked four winners. Katz also interacted with the eager and awed audience.

Naturally Barbara


ortis Memorial Research Institute hosted an interactive session with Barbara Harper, natural birth evangelist and Founder of Waterbirth International, USA, to encourage natural births in India. Harper interacted with the participants at the Seminar, and emphasised the need to educate women about the natural birthing options.

Desert Music


he second edition of Amarass Desert Music Festival kicked off to a great start at Zorba, with traditional music from deserts across the globe. Performers included Bombino (the Hendrix of Niger), BaBa ZuLa (the creators of Istanbul Psychedelia), Padma Shri awardee Sakar Khan, Barmer Boys, among others. The festival, spread over two days, created a magical atmosphere.

Shobha's Meera


eera, a dance drama directed by Shobha Deepak Singh, and organised in collaboration with Intach, Gurgaon Chapter, was held at the Epicentre. The play unfolded through dances and songs, transforming the image of Meera to a passionate apostle, and left the audience enthralled.

Good Food Times


he 3rd edition of the KAFF NDTV Good Times Awards was held at the Westin Hotel. The finest restaurants, restaurateurs and chefs from across the country were honoured at this Event. Spotted at the Event were Prahlad Kakkar, Zeba Kohli, Ritu Dalmia, Marut Sikka, Suhel Seth, Vir Sanghvi, Carol Gracias, Joey Mathew, Kim Jagtiani, Vinod Dua, Rashmi Uday Singh, Rohit Khattar Chetan Seth, Bikramjit Ray, Vikram Chandra, Seema Chandra – among other food enthusiasts, restaurant owners and chefs. The highlight of the evening, besides scrumptious food, was a performance by Shaa'ir and Func. Rocky and Mayur (hosts of Highway On My Plate) kept the audience in splits with their banter.


R eviews

14-20 December 2012



Premier Rooney { Alka Gurha }


ootball for me is like beer is for most people,” says Wayne Rooney, in his official biography titled, ‘My Decade in the Premier League’. Co-authored with Matt Allen. The biography chronicles the journey of Wayne Rooney – from a sixteen year old prodigy at Everton, to a prolific striker of the ball for United. In his foreword, Sir Alex Ferguson, the Manchester United boss, gives us an interesting glimpse of Rooney’s controversial tiffs with referees and his other transgressions. The book begins with an account of Rooney’s most talked about goal in the Premier League Football. Often called the ‘bicycle kick’, his goal against Manchester City gave United the much needed impetus to grab the Premier League Title. His scintillating debut (under heavy downpour) against Turkish

Wayne Rooney: My Decade in the Premier League Author: Sir Alex Ferguson Publisher: Harper Sport Price: Rs. 339 Genre: Biography

Ten-Fold Theatre

{ Anita Jaswal }


hort and Sweet, the world`s largest 10-minute theatre festival, showcased ten different, bite-sized theatrical treats at the Epicentre on Saturday, 8th December.

Fast, fresh and entertaining, the plays had something for everyone. The cast of ‘2922-The Ballad of Vedant Saafi’, ‘Dickheads’ and ‘Chairpersons’ stomped and skipped through angular choreography, and thrilled the audiences to gasps and laughter.

THE WEEK THAT WAS ♦ Waste Management – for solid and liquid waste - will now be taken up in rural areas under Nirmal Bharat Abhiyan (NBA). Sheds for this will be erected in villages. A pilot project has been started in village Mubarikpur. The District Administration will now go to villages for hearing public grievances, and give directions on the spot. ♦ Haryana will buy power (upto 2000 MW) from Bhutan. Bhutan seeks co-operation in agriculture. ♦ A district level ‘Sanjhi’-making competition was organized by the Dept of Information, PR and Cultural Affairs. 24 Sanjhis came from various parts of the District. Deepanshi of Govt Girls Secondary School,

Jacubpura, bagged the First Prize of Rs 2,500; Ajit Kadian of South City 1 the Second (Rs 2,000), and Nikki of 4/8 Marla the Third (Rs 1500). ♦ Sanjhis are a portrait statuette of goddess Sanjhi, prepared on cardboard, with traditional material mud, cow/buffalo dung, lime stone, and geru (a red stone). ♦ A gang shoots a father, son and relative in the ICU of Sunrise Hospital. The son succumbs a day later; father critical. ♦ A widow (dalit) is gang-raped and brother assaulted – culprits are held. ♦ Debt and marital problems lead a share broker to suicide – 6, including his wife, are booked. ♦ 2 staff are booked for kidnapping their owner (of a

opponents in a Champions League match, made him a super star overnight. However, Rooney admits that his most memorable moment remains – emerging out of the tunnel wearing a team jersey, in front of 67,000 people. Particularly interesting are the sections where Rooney talks about the respect Ferguson commands, and the famous ‘hairdryer’ treatment meted out for players who underperform in a game. Rooney adopts a pitch that remains candid throughout the book, as he talks about his weight issues, his hair transplant, his injuries and the times when he was dropped by Sir Alex Ferguson. The biography offers great insight into the critical moments of the game played for FA Cups, League Cups and Champions League adventures. It is a must read for sports lovers – particularly United fans, who consider Rooney a football legend. u

Their relentless energy left you breathless and exhilarated. The incisive lyrics were a perfect fit. The emotional succour came in ‘A Different Client’ and ‘Nine Types of Ice’. The understanding father and the grieving mother were played with great depth and nuance. Special mention of Avantika Tomar, for her brilliant portrayal of a mother’s heartbreak – when she hears her daughter’ has been killed in an accident. ‘Chup’, ‘Khol Do’, ‘The Evil Effects of Smoking’, ‘Solitary Creeper’, and ‘Who’s the Boss’ – from the sour to the celebratory, the wry to the wrenching – were all delicious. But it was the tender ruefulness of the show’s life lesson that lingered. A lot can happen in ten minutes. u

Audience 'Nau Do Gyaarah' { Vijay Kumar }


he credits of Khiladi 786 feature Vipin Reshammiya, with "Blessings"! Vipin is the father of Himesh Reshammiya, who is associated with this movie – as a producer, story writer, music director, lyrics writer, singer and an actor. Himesh's dad must have felt that his blessings could partially aid in redeeming this movie! The music of Khiladi 786 has proved to be popular, and the lyrics are not really nonsensical. Akshay Kumar, the hero of the Khiladi series (this is the eighth one), returns with this brand after a hiatus of twelve years. This is his fifth film in 2012; no other actor has Khiladi 786 had five movie releases this year. directed by : Ashish R Mohan Barring the disaster that was Jok- cast: Mithun Chakraborty, er, the box office has received him Akshay Kumar, Asin Thottumkal, well. It is immaterial whether one Himesh Reshammiya calls his acting classless, or for the genre: Action, Comedy masses: he generates box office moolah! Khiladi 786 is in the same genre as Rowdy Rathore, but falls far short in most departments. The garish colours and loudness, the action sequences and the one-liners, are to be seen as part of an effort to laugh at oneself – but there is a limit to which one can get exposed to such fare. Asin, in the female lead, has nothing much to do; in fact, it is the other actors—like Asin's lover—who manage to create a comical impact better than the main players. u

transport company). The owner’s body is recovered from Roorkee. ♦ A woman is injured by a bullet splinter during a fight. ♦ 3 college students are arrested for multiple robbery cases and assault – including a recent Rs 11 lakhs case; an NRI is booked for cheating and bigamy; a student loses his phone and certificates in a job scam; a trader is duped of Rs 12 lakhs – 5 bank officials are booked for the crime; Rs 4.5 lakhs worth of cash and jewellery is stolen from a bag at a wedding; bike borne men loot Rs 1.5 lakhs at gunpoint – money was withdrawn for disbursing salary at RICO Auto; in a Rs 4 lakhs property fraud on a woman, the property directors are booked; robbers flee with a truck full of metal scrap; 7 booked for

selling property after forging documents; thieves break car window, take Rs 3 lakhs; a labourer and his friend are held for theft of copper wire from Maruti plant. ♦ 3 policemen are suspended for misbehaving with a senior district official. ♦ Bus fares expected to go up soon. ♦ MCG gets aggressive in collection of House Tax. ♦ MCG Chief warns sanitation contractors about shoddy work done by them. ♦ MCG plans Non-Motorized Transport in City.

♦ MCG to make 72 bus shelters – total 117 in City. ♦ City Bus service from Hong Kong Bazaar to Airport starts for Rs 22. ♦ Hero Chowk and Sukhrali Chowk FOBs sanctioned. ♦ House owners coming in the way of the Northern Peripheral Road will be offered alternate plots nearby. ♦ There is a fire at RICO Auto. ♦ CM promises a monorail between Gurgaon and Faridabad. ♦ There is a Vintage and Classic Car Rally across the City. ♦ Guns N’Roses rock the City.

14-20 December 2012

Jhumroo inaugurates Blood Donation Camp


aurav Gera, lead star of the musical Jhumroo, visited the City to inaugurate a leading bank's annual Blood Donation camp. The camp, one of the largest single-day blood donation campaigns in India, was held in association with the Rotary Blood Bank, Delhi.

Eka Rock


estled in the South Point Mall, RHINO hosted Eka - the award winning Swatantra Rock Band. The band rocked the dance floor – from Hindustani dholak and African djun-djuns, to Chinese gongs and Greek bouzouki. Mr. Jitender Janghu, Director, RHINO said, “We strongly believe that ‘All music is beautiful’. The music at Rhino blends in and does not overwhelm the revelers. It rather provides enough space for sharing a thought or a conversation. It’s an amalgamation of different individuals, finding their unique world – with different music experiences.” The guests were seen having a good time, munching on the hors d'oeuvres and molecular cocktails.

Celeb Watch


Bedazzled J

ewellery designer Monica Kapur caters to high-profilers and fashionistas. She shares her secrets of success in the bling industry. The USP These days people prefer design oriented jewellery, with a degree of nouveau chic, and they are willing to experiment with new designs, new cuts and varied colour stones. Monica specialises in customised jewellery. She is also the best guide for choosing the right size and shape of jewellery, according to the body and face type – so that her clients can create a powerful impact. Background A graduate from Delhi University, Monica has received professional training from The Indian Institute of Gems & Jewellery (IIGJ), and has been arduously perfecting her craft for over 15 years. With the immense popularity of diamonds in today’s jewellery, she also did a diamond grading course, followed by work experience as an assorter in the same field. She has also taught as an advanced designing instructor in JPDC for two years.           Accolades She was a finalist in India Vision 2000.

From then on, it was a blitz of awards and accolades, with Monica winning the Tahiti Pearl Trophy in 2003, and two more awards in 2005-2006. These were followed by three more in the year 2007-2008, at the of Tahiti Pearl competition in different categories. In 2011 two of her designs were selected as finalists in the IJ awards – one in the best necklace category, and the other in the best price point. She added a further feather in her cap when she showcased her exquisite collection at the prestigious IIJW-2011, and was recognised by the Jewellery industry. Aum Monica Kapur Aum Monica Kapur operates from an exclusive jewellery boutique at the prestigious Gold Souk. In a short span of eight years the jewellery label has significant achievements to its credit. Despite the serious competition from existing, renowned names in the industry, the brand has done well to make a name for itself. She can be reached at: 9810959200

This Christmas Eve Season LAMP Invites You To Sing Carols, Dance & Laugh To GIVE Generously!


s the Christmas and New Year Season approaches, LORRAINE MUSIC ACADEMY and LAMP TRUST have great plans to bring light to Gurgaon and the National Capital Region, through music and drama. There will be Carolling, Dancing and a Comedy Musical Play. The Christmas Eve plans include 2 shows of “Musical Concert Celebrating Christmas” @ 7:30 pm on Saturday, 15th December, and @ 11am on Sunday 16th December@ Epicentre Auditorium, – with performances by Lorraine Fiona Aloysius, Swapna Abraham, Joanne Fernandes, and a host of stars in the making. Father Thomas D’Sa will choreograph “Nrityapan”, a professional dance troupe of highly talented girls from economically backward society of Bareilly. The Christmas Eve plans also include a Comedy Musical Drama@ 7:30 pm on Sunday 16th December@ Epicentre Auditorium, “Let’s Freeze The Mother-In-Law”. Entry is free to the Concerts and Drama. For more information, please email OR OR SMS 9910143344 / 9910229546. LAMP urges the community in New Delhi and the Na-

tional Capital Region to donate generously to LAMP. This will help LAMP to bring cheer to poor children this season. To DONATE any GENEROUS SUM towards the above cause this season, one may make out a cheque in favour of “LAMP”. Donations will be eligible for INCOME TAX EXEMPTION under SECTION 80-G of the Income Tax Act. The musicals form a part of the Music & Art Festival in aid of LAMP Trust. LAMP endeavours to make resources available towards skill & talent development for the poor & under-served communities. LAMP is a registered under the Indian Trust Act, 1882 in Gurgaon, Haryana, India (Regn. No. 19238, 2010-11) with a mandate to promote Music and the Arts – Performing Arts, Visual Arts & Literary Arts. LAMP aims to raise resources to set up the LAMP World Cultural Centre in Gurgaon, a to promote Music and the Arts. Performers at the Musical Concert Celebrating Christmas: LORRAINE FIONA ALOYSIUS is a Licentiate of the Trinity College of London - UK (Pianoforte) and a Masters in Banking & Finance. Lorraine has been recently awarded the coveted “KARMAVEER PURASKAAR” for

her contribution and work in the field of Music, Art & Culture. Lorraine has been living in Gurgaon since 2004, and is the Creative Director of Lorraine Music Academy the Trustee of LAMP Trust.

Craft. Dr. Rodricks is being conferred with the LAMP-iCONGO Karmaveer Chakra for Music & Drama (Thespian) 2012 Award for his amazing work in the field of Education, Music & Drama.

SWAPNA ABRAHAM is a Singer-Songwriter, born in Kochi and living currently in UAE. She is the only solo artiste in India in English Music production, be it Gospel or other category, to bring out as many as 19 albums. Swapna is being awarded the LAMP–iCONGO Karmaveer Chakra for Music (Maestro) Award for her successful career.

AUBREY ALOYSIUS is an ex-International Banker, Marketing Professional, Entrepreneur, Thinker and Doer. He has been recently awarded the coveted “KARMAVEER PURASKAAR” for his visionary contribution and work in the field of Music, Art & Culture and has been living in Gurgaon since 2004 and is the Founder Chairman, Managing Director & CEO of Lorraine Music Academy and the Founder Trustee & President of LAMP Trust.

JOANNE FERNANDES is one of Goa's finest talents. Joanne participated in LAMP’s Nation-wide “SING A SONG” 2012 Contest, and is being awarded the LAMP–iCONGO Karmaveer Chakra for Folk Music (Jury Award) 2012 and the LAMP–iCONGO Karmaveer Chakra for Gospel Music (Popular Vote Award) 2012. Cast of “Let’s Freeze The Mother-In-Law”: DR. GERALD RODRICKS' life time achievements can be summed up with the 3 S’ : Studies, Sports, Stage

KAMALINI ROY HIREMATH has been performing on stage from the young age of 3 years as a vocalist and an actor. She has done numerous plays both in English as well as in vernacular languages. SANDEEP KOHLI is an accomplished Human Resource Professional with more than 20 years experience. He, with support from his wife Savita, very recently launched ‘Lets Do Our Bit’ Foundation to support children who are battling with life threatening illnesses. NINOTCHKA COLACO, a former aviation professional, is from Goa. Ninotchka has been in Gurgaon since 2011, currently assisting Lorraine Fiona Aloysius at Lorraine Music Academy.


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Slipping through the net  Contd from p 1 Sumita (name changed) is also a worried parent. "I was clearing my son's school bag and found a packet of condoms. Some of them were used," says Sumita, a mother of a 14-year-old boy, who goes to one of the top schools in the City. This is the grim reality today. Under-age sex, which was once considered a problem in the West, is today very much a growing phenomenon in the Indian society. Unfortunately, there is an increasing number of under-age pregnancies, and MMS scandals involving school students. While youngsters may consider it cool, experts believe that apart from attracting Sexually Transmitted Diseases (STDs), such youngsters carry an emotional baggage into adulthood, that makes it difficult for them to build a truly intimate and stable marriage.

A Different City

Unlike even Delhi, parents in the City are okay taking their young children to pubs and adult parties. “Since there was nobody to look after my children at home, sometimes I used to take them along to pubs and parties. But I stopped that when I noticed my 7-year-old daughter touching herself in an awkward manner. When I confronted her, she said that she saw one of the girls doing the same in the washroom of a pub,” says a parent. The growing population of NRIs and expats is also responsible for bringing in the 'western' culture. Shalini Nambiar, Director of Excelsior American School is regularly challenged to to bridge the gap between Western and Indian culture in her School. She believes, “If you want to make children understand something, you have to be logical. But it is very difficult to explain to a 10-year-old kid on why is it okay to kiss in public in California, and why is it taboo here in India.” She therefore takes up special classes on cultural differences and sex education in the School. She advises parents to be logical, and not just preachy. For instance, you can easily tell your child that each society has its festivals and cultures – and in India there is limited display of affection in public.

Is it normal?

A child psychologist, Dr. Anjali Dewan, believes that sexual curiosity among youngsters is normal. According to her, the pituitary gland, the ovaries, and the testicles begin to secrete larger quantities of the sex hormones, even at the age of 10. It results in sexual activeness among adolescents. “Sexual curiosity among teenagers is just to learn

more about the opposite sex, and does not necessarily lead to sexual relations. It should be controlled gently, and children should be directed, so that their curiosity does not result in harmful diseases,” says Dr. Dewan. She has been giving counselling to school children for the last five years. Dr. Witty Raina, Senior Consultant – Obstetrics & Gynaecology, Fortis Hospital, seconds her views and says, “Sexual curiosity is nothing new. Like it or not, it has always been there in our society. It is just that we have started talking about it more openly. I don’t think it is logical to tell a 17-year-old that indulging in sex is not good at his age – but at the age of 18 it is fine. They will never buy this argument. The best way is to guide them to be safe.” She also adds that most of the times consensual sex between youngsters is not a complete sexual relation, as the motive is just to experiment. The problem is that sometimes these experiments cause diseases like CDC, Hepatitis, Herpes, and Chlamydia, that can lead to life-talking diseases such as cervical cancer. While many feel that sexual curiosity is a part of growing up, some experts still give a lot of value to premarital abstinence. “I am not talking on moral grounds. Also, I don’t believe that sex is the foundation of a marriage. But it is a very essential part of the bond between husband and wife. Statistically, it has been proven that people who have had sex with multiple partners before marriage need to work a lot on reconnecting their sex life to their emotions. People who follow pre-marital abstinence can certainly start things off without baggage from past relationships,” says Karan Rawat, a relationship expert based in DLF Phase I. Despite what most of the doctors and relationship experts suggest, teenagers seem to have a completely different view on the issue. Take, for instance, a 13-yearold Sanchit (name changed) and his girlfriend. Till the age of 10 they were just friends. But when Sanchit watched a porn video on the Internet, he wanted to experiment. “He was caught with his girlfriend in the school washroom. They were not only watching a porn video, but also making one while having sex,” says Rahul (name changed), one of his seniors. Rahul points out such cases are common in schools. In fact, today indulging in sex at an early age is a matter of pride. “When I was in school I also wanted to experiment with sex. There was a lot of peer pressure. But I decided not to

indulge, as I was aware of the negatives it can have on my studies and my personality,” he says. Many teenagers can’t control the growing sexual urge. Also, they don’t know how to deal with the situation. A senior gynaecologist at Fortis, Dr. Sunita Narain, says that the exposure that adolescents get about sex de-sensitises them. “The issue is that sex has been highly glamourised by the media. Forget about children, I think most of the adults are not aware

A child of Indian expats (abroad) used to be defined as an ABCD (American Born Confused Desi). A child of this Global City would soon be known as a BACD (Born American Desi Confused). of the negative effects of sex at an early age. Parents just talk on moral grounds. They should, rather, give their children a logical reason for not having sex at an early age,” says Dr. Sunita. With over two decades of experience, Dr. Sunita believes that under-age sex is not normal at all. There is an example of an 11-year-old girl who conceived even before getting her first periods. “Under-age sex is leading to an increase in the number of under-age pregnancies. It is always easy for a boy, while the girl has to bear the consequences. In future, it leads to an unhealthy and disturbed adulthood,” says Dr. Sunita. Estimates of the World Health Organisation also reveal that around 30 per cent of premature deaths among adults are due to immature sexual behaviour developed during adolescence.

Who is to blame?

Asha (name changed), a pass out from an international school in the City, blames it on the casual behaviour of parents. “I often see some parents making references about girlfriends and boyfriends to their kids,” says Asha. Of course it is less in the case of a girl child. Asha says that one of her school friends used to take girls home, and his

parents were not even bothered what their son was doing in his room with a girl. “As I have been brought up in a very traditional joint-family set up, I have never succumbed to the peer pressure because I look to ‘Indian values’ as a point of guidance. Today I think I am emotionally more stable than my peers,” she says. Besides, many experts also blame low selfesteem among youngsters for this issue. Many times youngsters feel that they will fit into a friends circle only if they are doing what everyone else is doing. M o r e ove r, the easy access and increased exposure to sexually explicit material on TV, Internet, and other forms of media is a growing cause for concern. “While porn content in the print media gives them confidence, TV and Internet demonstrate it. That’s not all. Mobile-enabled video chatting applications are making it worse. These applications are available for free, and are often used to send videos and pictures to each other,” says Neera (name changed), Counsellor at a renowned school. She says that a girl in a school was caught watching a porn video on her cell phone. “Shockingly, she used to make objectionable videos of her classmates in the washroom, and send them to the boys studying in senior classes. She used to get expensive watches and handbags from these boys in return,” says Neera.

The solution

As everybody talks about imparting sex education to children, it is important to analyse its benefits and limitations (also see FG Issue 12, Nov 9-15, 2012). As doctors also feel that sexual curiosity is a part of adolescence and is normal, many sex educators promote masturbation, to help avoid the danger of sexual intercourse at a young age. “Masturbation is the safest way to stay away from sex. It can, in fact, cure diseases such as insomnia, stress, anxiety, menstrual cramp, and depression. But the challenge lies in giving the right education about masturbation, as overmasturbation can also lead to problems,” says Dr. Dewan. Parents and teachers too need consulting. They need to be more sensitive. A doctor expressed her concern over the neglect faced by youngsters in the society. She recounts a case wherein a school girl ordered a pregnancy kit from London, which was caught by her warden in the hostel. “The school made the girl live in isolation for 15 days. They called her parents from abroad, and expelled her immediately. Such cases reflect the lack of sensitivity of the school and teachers toward the youngsters. “Once the act is done, instead of shouting and screaming at the child, it is better to discuss the issue with them. Patiently tell them that what they did was wrong, and how they shouldn't let something like this happen again. Remember that many kids indulge in reckless behaviour to probably get some special attention. Spending quality time with your child continues to be the best way to help them grow up happy and healthy," suggests Dr. Witty. u

Haryanvi Made Easy

Get a taste of the local lingo 1. When are you getting married ?

Byaah kadh se karva rya hai? 2. Who is the lucky girl? Chhori kaun se wo?

3. Do not forget to invite me. Manne nota dena tey na bhool jaayega. 4. Will there be a party before the wedding ? Byaah peeche party dega ke mhaare tey? 5. I will dance a lot in your wedding. Tere byaah main khoob naachunga. 6. Let me know if I can help. Manne bata diye kithey maddad

chahiye tey.

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 Contd from p 1 Rajasthan far from Gurgaon, and the days too are not far off when this Millennium City could turn into a desert. What are the steps that need to be taken? Rain Water Harvesting is the instant solution. But is digging pits all around the City a real answer to the depleting water table? Do we, as citizens, have an adequate knowledge of what this harvesting is all about, and how it can be used rightly to get the desired results? Gurgaon already has well over a hundred Rain Water Harvesting structures in public places. “Numbers are meaningless when it comes to Rain Water Harvesting structures. It's the accuracy with which a structure gets constructed. Gurgaon has an average rainfall of 700 MM each year, which is not great. I believe that more than half of the constructed structures are fairly useless, and are just providing refuge to the garbage,” said Nitya Jacob, the Programme Director, Water, at the Centre for Science and Environment (CSE). Darshan Singh, the CEO of Pan India, and an avid member of Society for Urban Regeneration of Gurgaon (SURGE), an organisation that has built around a hundred structures in and around Gurgaon, says: “Rain Water Harvesting (RWH) is the best possible way to enhance the water table of Gurgaon. But I know that most of the structures become ineffective after a certain period of time, due to lack of maintenance.SURGE has made 97 structures, and I believe most of them are functioning well. Many other structures just collect leaves and other pollutants, that in fact further corrupt the ground water. Actually, RWH and these structures are our desperate attempt to keep this City alive, because it seriously lacks planning. In developed countries there is no concept of RWH structures. They do their water harvesting through a web of storm water drainages, that get the water collected in a single pond somewhere in the middle of the city, and the same water is used at times of distress. But here we hardly have any storm water drainage; and even where we have them, they get mixed with sewage water – which not only pollutes this clean water, but also chokes the existing and functional RWH structures. So basically today RWH structures are nothing but bandages to hide the scars of an unplanned city.”

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For A Rainy Day MCG in their respective areas; and since Gurgaon doesn't have a natural lake or river of its own, it ought to harvest rain not only to maintain the water table, but also to meet the ever increasing demand of the rapid urbanisation that is taking place.

Type and Parameters

RWH is not an alien concept for Gurgaon – it has been happening here for centuries. Unfortunately, all the natural water bodies, that were once used as containers for water storage, have been destroyed in our urbanisation drive. Only a handful of bodies, dry now, are left – and they too will succumb to the greedy nexus of builders and politicians. An excellent water body at Gawal Pahari, which used to be a catchment area near the Aravallis, has been destroyed, and now given to a builder. “There are three types of RWH structures that function in different catchment areas, and the production or harvesting of water varies a great deal in all three. First is the structure that is being planted in parks and play grounds etc. In this structure the amount of water run-off is quite low, and only 20 to 30 per cent of total water gets harvested. Second is the structures that get implanted in concrete catchment areas such as parking lots, main roads, sector roads etc. In this type of structure the run-off is better, and 60 to 70 per cent of the total water gets harvested, and goes into the ground. The last, and perhaps the most effective system, is the RWH structures catering to the roof-top water. Almost 80 to 90 per cent of the water gets into the pit. The major impediments in the process of Harvesting are: evaporation, absorption by nature, and leakage in the system,” said Salahuddin Saiphy, Program Leader-Water Management, Institute of Rural Research And Development (IRRAD).

Some of the parameters that matter are: Topography: This is the main reason why RWH hasn't seen much success in Gurgaon. “Actually this myth that just putting water into the ground would enhance the water table is the main reason why most of these current structures have become useless – and in fact have become a breeding ground for mosquitoes. Unfortunately, till now neither the State government nor any private body has studied the topography, so that an approWhat and why? Rain Water Harvesting is the collec- priate mechanism can be implemented, tion and storage of rain water, that runs to achieve an enhancement in the water off from roof tops, parks, roads, open table. Eastern and Southern Gurgaon grounds, etc. This water run-off can be consist of the Aravallis, and hence the either stored, or used to recharge the core inside the ground is rocky. Here it ground water. Apart from the ground is not easy to enhance the water table water table crisis, Gurgaon has a serious by RWH structures, as the water doesn't water issue, that results in short and in- reach to the core or water table. Northadequate water supply from HUDA and ern and Western Gurgaon has sandy soil, and that's why there is a strong possibility for RWH success there. Process to construct RWH In fact the whole of 'old' Gurgaon, structures as well as the catchment areas, has 1 Information collection great possibility, that needs to be a. Types, location and area of catchment exploited well in order to replenish b. Rainfall the water table, ” added Jacob. Location: Location is another grey c. Geological and Hydro-geological data area responsible for the failure of these d. Legislation and incentives structures. “In the monsoon we move around the City to identify the 2. Study site plan main areas where the rain water is a. Slope collecting; but even after identifying b. Location of catchment the right areas we are not able to ex c. Space available ploit our findings, because sometimes we don't get permission to con3. Calculate water harvesting potential, struct the structure, and sometimes and match it with demand we lack funds. One structure costs 4. Decide the number, type and capacity us around Rs. 30 thousand, and we fund almost 80 per cent of the total reof the structures quirement. Initially our purpose was 5. Allocate funds to build a handful of these structures,

to give the government some guidance, but now it seems to have become our responsibility. Neither the State nor any corporates are interested in giving us a helping hand – only a handful of private firms have come forward. For example, we have to make 45 structures for the DLF Foundation, and they are paying us the full money. Some of them have already been constructed,” added Darshan Singh of SURGE. Slope and catchment area: “The identification of the right slope and the catchment area is the bedrock behind the concept of water harvesting. The structure for the collection of the water should be made according to the slope of land,” added Saiphy. Most of the structures in Gurgaon have failed drastically in this regard. Present infrastructure problems: “Infrastructure in Gurgaon is in a shambles, and one can see non-existent roads with overflowing sewage every now and then; and


To ensure the quality of harvested rain water: n  Keep all catchments neat and clean n  Don’t allow contaminated water to flow into the system n  Put iron/nylon mesh/fine cloth on the inlet and outlet pipes and chambers, to prevent solid debris from getting into the system n  Clean open drains regularly, by removing deposits of sand and gravel n  Make available a layer of soil beneath the recharge structure, to ensure natural filtration n  Drain and clean storage tanks thoroughly before every monsoon n  Change the filter media every year n  Remove algae from the roof tiles and asbestos sheets before the monsoon n  Do not let water stagnate in the collection chamber, since this will slow down the recharge of water n  Repair cracks in ferro-cement tanks this is the one of the reasons why these RWH structures don't even achieve half of their projected water storage. The nonsustainability or the premature damage of other infrastructure adds to the problem. “The construction of new roads, or any other development that takes place in the City, not only disturbs the catchment mechanism, but sometimes it completely smothers the pits – we have lost some of our pits in this manner. For example we had two pits near Signature Tower, but when HUDA made slip roads on all the important chowks that were having traffic problems, both our pits were lost under that slip road. Sewage is another problem that has harmed the RWH structures. Most of the storm water drainages in Gurgaon are parallel to sewage lines, and the leakage (no surprise there) not only pollutes the water, but chokes the entire pit,” added Darshan Singh.

Citizen Challenge

“Forget the Administration, even the citizens are not interested in taking care of the civic infrastructure. For example, even today the masses in Gurgaon get water at the cheapest rate of Rs. 2 or 3 per kilolitre, and in my estimate the government is giving a subsidy of at least Rs. 8 to 9 (including the cost of water treatment); but still nobody wants to pay


for water, and hence the Administration too doesn't show interest in maintaining the existing lines. They are talking about canals from Sonepat and other places, and according to them all the water worries of Gurgaon would vanish; but when there will be paucity of water in Sonepat or any other area, from where the canal is connected, I don't think they will leave the water in the canal for Gurgaon. Citizens are not too bothered with the problems of the City (and anyway live in isolated islands). “I would call it citizen apathy, because people living in Gurgaon don't care for the maintenance of the infrastructure surrounding them. We have made many structures in public parks of different private as well as HUDA sectors, and at the time of construction the RWAs always promise to maintain it. But most of these structures are choked, because they do not even clear the leaves and other sources of hindrance that block the path of the pit,” rued Darshan Singh. “Most of the work done by the corporate firms under CSR is like an obligation. There is no real development. It is just a one-day programme, and after that they don't even visit that place again. NGOs too are taking a lot of money for constructing these pits, but in reality it doesn't take more than Rs. 15 to 20 thousand to construct one structure,” pointed out Sanjay Kaushik, a resident who runs an NGO, Uthaan.

Residential Misuse

The depleting ground water table in Gurgaon forced the District Administration to make it mandatory for all houses with more than 100 square metres covered area to have an RWH system in place. “But I myself have seen this in one of the private sector plots; they just dig a pit, and leave one plastic pipe there. It is done just to get the Administration people off their back, and I don't think such a structure can help in any water harvesting,” added Jacob. Many plot owners who claim to be doing water harvesting are actually extracting the water illegally. “Water harvesting is a twoedged sword; if one can send water inside the ground, the same person can extract it by using the pit as a tubewell. And this has been happening in most parts of Gurgaon. “This is one of reasons why I have always advocated that water harvesting pipes should not be allowed to touch the actual water table, and one should end the pit's pipe at least 40 feet above the water table. But here in Gurgaon, in most of the plots where water harvesting structures have been planted, the pipes have been implanted till the water table – and now the same people are using these pits as tubewells,” added Darshan Singh.

Check dams: a better way

“Check dams are now perhaps the ideal way for water harvesting, especially in the Aravallis, since all the natural water bodies in Gurgaon have been lost. Check dams not only store water for a long time, but the water table enhancement sustains for a longer period of time. We have made Check dams in Mewat, and there we have recorded a substantial improvement in the water table. In Mewat alone we have 78 RWH projects. Usually in this season the water table goes down in rural areas, because the farmers extract water from the ground for irrigation purpose; but in Mewat the water table remains stagnant even after rampant irrigation. I believe Check dams are a better solution, if Gurgaon wants to increase the level of water at its core,” said Saiphy. u

08 A Dancing Soul


here are two kinds of dancers – one, for whom, dancing is made up of impersonal and graceful arabesques; and the true dancer, who converts the body into a luminous fluidity, surrendering it to the inspiration of the soul. Jayashree Acharya was born to be a dancer. At the age of six she was initiated into Kathak, under the prestigious tutelage of late Pandit Sant

{ Anita Jaswal }


usic is life, oneness; it has no boundaries; it is the expansion of unlimited reality. Music is an art form consisting of sound and silence. It helps the spiritual seeker go deep within – to get the utmost satisfaction from life, truth, and reality. Music takes on a life of its own. It becomes the friend, the comforter, the ally, the healer, the spokesman, the messenger, and the constant companion. Music can provide a connection to fond memories, and may speak to a deep part of our being.  No wonder so many people have made music their life. His parents wanted him to join the army, but Madhav Shorey had other ideas. He followed his heart into music; and at 14 he started playing in clubs – mixing his signature beats to a crowd.  Madhav is a self-professed electronic music freak. His music takes him all over the world, where he deals with a variety of clients, producers, club owners and festival organisers. He also makes music for brands, ads, films - pretty much anything you can put a beat to!  For Madhav, a.k.a Kohra, music is all about reaching hearts, making friends and turning every moment into an endless trance. He describes it as an expression of his mind space – which is why it was inevitable that he would work in the music industry, and only a matter of time before Qilla Records was born.

Gopal Mishra, and late Guru Reba Vidyarthi. She learnt the depth and subtlety of the art from the exponent of the Kalka-Bindadin Gharana of Lucknow, Pandit Birju Maharaj. “A day I don’t dance is a day I don’t live. I see dance as a communication between the body and soul. Art has to be a state of being. It is there for all to appreciate and enjoy. Being on stage does not mean you are on a pedestal. We need to reach

out, spread warmth and cheer through art, ”says Jayashree. Jayashree’s husband Shiv Shankar Ray is a noted Tabla player, and their ten-year-old daughter Anandi, (following her mother’s footsteps) is a kathak dancer of repute. Jayashree, accompanied by her husband,  has given many performances: at Maharaj Kalka Bindadin Jayanti, the Sangeet Natak Academy, Sharad Chandrika Festival (Delhi), Oxford University (UK), and

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the Bhartiya Vidya Bhavan at London, Germany and Spain. She was also an integral show stealer at the Kathak Mahotsav –dedicated to the late Pandit Durga Lal, in New Delhi. Jayashree holds Kathak classes at her home in Nirvana Country, for children. “Parents compel their children to practise, and expect them to perform. I think there should be no agenda. We put too much pressure on our children, with performance as the goal. Let them blossom on their own. Fine arts—music, theatre, dance or puppetry—should be made compulsory in schools. No other country can boast of such a rich cultural heritage. All may not become performers, but at least they will learn to appreciate the arts. Dance is constant communication. Every experience and communication has to be through the body – the intellect is only one part of the body.” After years of hectic solo performances across the globe, Jayshree now wishes to encourage many talented children. “I think youngsters should be given an orientation on how to introduce novelty in every aspect of the dance - make-up, costume, music without deviating from aesthetics. They also need to be taught to respect heritage. It is essential to maintain the identity and sanctity of our art... every dance is a kind of fever

New Sounds of Music Qilla Records has fast become one of the country’s key underground music powerhouses, a name now associated internationally with minimal and techno music. Spearheaded by Madhav and Gaurav Malaker, the label is now on the cusp of its 8th release. “The idea behind our very first full-length compilation, ‘Open Dialect’, came after we received a large number of demos that were fantastic tracks, but didn’t quite fit the “label profile”, so to speak. We decided to section out certain styles of tracks into compilations, that support parallel ideas of the label presented differently, ” says Kohra, Qilla Records.

Released in May, the compilation featured tracks from a number of young and upcoming producers – from France, Australia, New Zealand, Israel and India. It also welcomed the Qilla debut of Bangalore-based artists Vinayaka and Audio Units, as well as Delhi-based Habilis. Kohra is the deep, hypnotic, and often grungy mirror image of Madhav Shorey. Raw analog signals and lush soundscapes, mixed with percussion sounds and sharp glitches, is what can be heard through his mysterious productions. A style that is intelligent enough to mesmerise, yet simple enough to move you!

Qilla Records chooses to support the new breed of producers, who aren’t afraid to go back to their roots, to understand the future of dance music. It isn’t about genres anymore. Genres have crosspollinated, to create sound that is evocative of emotive nuances, which break free from any form of categorisation. Madhav packs a whole heap into his days – whether he’s shooting out on the road, or playing around town, his days always end with him making music well into the night – be it at the Vapour in Sahara Mall, or Lemp in Star Mall or Kitty Su in The Lalit, Delhi. Constantly paving the way for a JIT KUMAR

{ Anita Jaswal }


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chart, a graph of the heart,” explains Jayashree. The attitude nowadays is to learn ‘items’ – at a hefty fee, pay to get performance opportunities, get written about, and generally “market ones' danceability”. Packaging dance, and presenting it, have become more important. The serious dancer today is in a dilemma, as the sheen has now become more important than the substance. “I can teach an average man to move his arms and legs, and to turn his head. I can give him steadiness and speed, but I cannot endow him with that fire and intelligence – those graces and that expression of feeling, which is the soul of true pantomime.” Over 25 years, and more than 100 dances later, she is still hoping to get it just right at least once before she finishes. “I wish to bring to the dance, a vital energy that speaks in the present tense; this I owe as a practitioner of a great tradition, that can rejuvenate itself by adapting to the flux. Else, it will lose its vitality,” sighs Jayashree wistfully. “Dance, when you’re broken open, Dance, if you’ve torn the bandage off, Dance, in the middle of the fighting,  Dance, in your blood, Dance, when you’re perfectly free.”  - Rumi  u new sub-culture of underground dance music is no task for the timid, which is why Madhav has already become the first Indian to have hit the top 10 charts on global industry standards such as Beatport. As a producer, his music has been signed to many well-respected international record labels – including Sounds Of Earth, Trident Music, Wide Angle Recordings and Echoes Records. Kohra has performed at some of the best festivals in India, Dubai, Italy and Australia, and is also the official label DJ for Zenon Records. The fact that he has been officially endorsed by leading brands such as Blackberry and Puma is only further authentication of his work. By next year Madhav plans to set up his Design Company, which would not only be a collaboration between the client and designer, but would also be a trend setter. Explains Madhav, “I cannot fathom any experience more cathartic than lifting an intangible burden off my shoulders by meshing words with music — creating a piece of art that equals more than just the sum of its parts. The only experience that could even come close, is the sharing of this creation with others. It is an incredible phenomenon when one person can make an entire room of strangers privy to the esoteric feelings he once felt, when he was stringing those phrases together. Music to me means a lifetime of joy! Music is my sanctuary. Music defines me…"u

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he Indian Institute of Management (IIM) Rohtak dreams to become a global institute, like Harvard and Oxford. The Director, Professor P. Rameshan, voiced his objective and goal, “We are into our fourth year, and it's just the beginning of a relentless pursuit to become a world-class and global management institute. Harvard didn't become a great institute overnight – it took almost a century to come to this level. Similarly there are other institutes which became global and world class after decades of hard work and persistence. We too have taken our first step towards that objective, and till now this journey has been quite sublime. The second batch is scheduled to pass out in the middle of next year. If you ask me the USP of this Institute, I would like to tell you that IIM, Rohtak is unique, as it's the only IIM in the National Capital Region (NCR), and hence a whole new world of opportunities is at our disposal. Cities like Gurgaon, Delhi and Noida are within hours of driving distance. This would provide us with ample opportunity to become a workforce supply moghul in the times to come.” IIM Rohtak is one of the seven IIMs established all over India after 2005. The others are: Shillong (2007), Ranchi, (2010), Udaipur, (2011), Raipur (2010), Tiruchirapalli (2011) and Kashipur (2011).

The Difference

“IIM Rohtak is different from the new as well as the old IIMs in two aspects. One is academic, and an internal aspect, and the other is an external aspect – which includes our location and geography. Till now the conventional IIMs have kept their resources and attention concentrated on the workforce demands of India and Asia; but IIM Rohtak is focused in producing a breed of global working professionals, who can serve all over the world. We have designed our curriculum such that a student would get an exposure to the demands and needs of world industry, and how they can become a part of it. In order to become a global institute we have already established external partnerships with Kelley School of Business and Indiana University. We are the only IIM that has an International Advisory Council, which has members from world class business schools like Oxford, Cornell University, New York University and IMD, Switzerland. We take inspiration from Nalanda University. If two thousand years ago, we could create such a world-class university, I can’t fathom any reason why we can’t do it now; and IIM, Rohtak dreams to be the next Nalanda,” added Rameshan.


IIM Rohtak follows a similar curriculum to other IIMs. “There are things which are common in all IIMs, and Rohtak is not an exception. In the Post Graduate Degree in Management (PGDM) programme here at Rohtak, the first year is common for all students, in which we give them knowledge of the basics of management. After one year we offer specialisations in different programmes. The specialisation depends on the aptitude of the student, and the result of the first year also plays a part. We offer specialisations in the field of Marketing, Finance, HR Management, Operations, Strategic Management, and IT systems,” explained Professor Rameshan.


The quality of the faculty is the bedrock of any institution’s success, and IIM Rohtak believes in having the best people.

The IIM Next Door


{ Maninder Dabas/ FG }

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“ At present we have sixteen members in our faculty, which is highest among all the seven new IIMs. Our faculty is highly qualified, and almost all of them have studied at the IIMs, IITs or other reputed foreign institutes. We believe that an institute is as good as its faculty, and as of now our general publications on different management issues are the highest among the new IIMs. Till now we have produced around 35 papers,” added Rameshan.


Since the IIMs are believed to be the best business schools in the country, they anyway ought to have a better breed of students. “We take only those students who score more than 95 per cent in the CAT examination. Of the 2 lakh applications we interview around 8 thousand applicants, and only 125 get selected. This is a tough process, and we want to take the best for our institution. All seven new IIMs conduct their interviews together, and once the student is selected, he/she is free to choose from

any one of them. Most of the students prefer IIM Rohtak because it provides an exposure to the corporate world sooner than any other IIM. Even hallowed institutions like IIMA don’t provide that much exposure to their students. We are the second IIM, after IIM Calcutta, to provide a hundred per cent summer placement to our students,” added the Director. IIM Rohtak is situated inside the campus of Maharishi Dayanand University (MDU). “Most of the IIMs are simple in appearance, because we believe that an institution shouldn’t show-off with big glossy buildings and other facilities. It’s the high standard of education that should become your identification, and most of the IIMs work on this principle. We have hostels for the students. We also have a big library, with a big digital date base,” added Rameshan. IIM, Rohtak has students from all over the country and they are enjoying their stay here in the heart of Haryana. Maitree Mishra, a student who hails from Indore, Madhya Pradesh, said, “Prior to my arrival here in Rohtak I had a very bad image about the State, and I used to believe that Haryana is highly rigid and patriarchal. In some aspects it is, but after spending almost two years here, I have become familiar with the people and their culture. As far as the Institute is concerned, the faculty is superb, and I have enjoyed every moment of my stay here. I have got a job in Cognizent, Hyderabad.”


The biggest benefit of being in an IIM is that one surely has a job in hand when one walks out


of the campus. “Our first batch got excellent placement with different big corporate houses. The major companies that came last year were: HSBC, Cognizent, TCS, Yes Bank, Dabur. In the summer placement last year we had companies like Berger Paints, Titan, 3M, ACC, Bank of Baroda, Bombay Dyeing, Dabur, Motorola, M&M, MTS, Tata Power and Jindal. This year we might get less companies, because the market is quite gloomy the world over, and there have been no substantial hirings anywhere. More than 150 top and senior industry leaders have visited our campus for placements and discussion with students,” said the Director. Students too believe that being in IIM Rohtak is highly beneficial in terms of getting exposed to the corporate world while studying, and later in getting a job. Pranit Upadhyay, a student of final year, said, “Apart from IIM-A and IIM-B, all other IIMs don’t have big corporate and industrial hubs nearby. We are near Gurgaon, in the same state, which is again beneficial for us. This is one of the reasons why I had opted for IIM Rohtak.”

Association with other IIMs

The new IIMs are peeved that their older counterparts are not treating them as equals in resource and faculty sharing, and in the CAT process and revenues. New IIMs are demanding that all institutes operating under the IIM brand should pool their resources, share faculty, have joint research programmes, share revenues and be involved in common initiatives such as the CAT preparation process. Actually IIM is an umbrella term, and all institutes under this umbrella ought to stand by each other, but institutes such as IIM-Ahmedabad have refrained from sharing the best faculty. “IIM-Lucknow has helped us a lot in terms of faculty and other aspects. Although we are on good terms with all IIMs and we share knowledge with each other on different occasions, IIM Lucknow’s contribution to our improvement is quite noteworthy,” added the Director.

Harbringer of social change

An IIM is indeed one of the brightest feathers in the cap of glittering Haryana. Along with the upcoming Rajiv Gandhi Education City, it would not only bring economic change, but the whole society—that is considerably one of the most rigid in the country—would get transformed in times to come. “We want to bring social change here. Initially, we want to bring people together, so that they can identify the ‘wrong’ things wrapped in the form of customs etc. Female foeticide is one the biggest worries of Haryana, and the depleting sex ratio is indeed a worrisome sign for a state that has the highest per capita income in the country. We have started a campaign ‘India for girl child’, to educate people that a girl child is not a burden, and female foeticide is not only a crime, but a heinous act that drags society towards barbarism. In collaboration with a few NGOs and corporates we have started a campaign, in which the autorickshaws plying in the city of Rohtak have posters talking about the importance of a girl child for the society. We have deliberately chosen those autorickshaw owners and drivers who are poor, and have daughters at home. With the help of NGOs we are paying for the education of their daughters, and as a result the daughters of most of these poor have started going to schools. I know this is too small a step and a lot more needs to be done, but even an odyssey starts with just a small step. Our prime objective is to bring social change here, by changing the psyche of the people on many burning issues. I hope, in the times to come, we would make a bigger impact,” signed off the Professor.   u


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K id C orner

CCA Top Quality


Panoramic Chiranjiv


hiranjiv Bharti School celebrated its Silver Jubilee with the Annual Function, ‘Panorama 2012 - A Silver Lining’, that unveiled the glorious journey of 25 years – with a confluence of music, dance, visual and fine arts. The cultural extravaganza was inaugurated by the Chief Guest, Sushil Ansal. The Event began with a song presented by the School Choir. This was followed by a dance rendition of the Saraswati Vandana. The high point of the evening was the ballet, ‘Panchtatwa’, inspired by Dr. Kusum Ansal & choreographed by Rajni Sharma. An Exhibition― Chitra Parikrama― displayed a collection of paintings and sculptures by the students. Achievers in the field of academics and cocurricular activities were felicitated by the Chief Guest. The Principal, Sangeeta Saxena also presented the School report.

CA School, Sector 4, won the second Runners-up prize in the Poster & Slogan Writing Competition at the 2nd National Convention on Students’ Quality Control Circles (SQCC). The theme of the Convention was “Holistic Education for Empowerment”. The Convention, organised by Kalarav School, Gujarat, generated tremendous response, with delegates from 44 teams across the country participating in Case Study Presentations, Quizzes, and Paper Presentations by Teachers. Other competitions held in various streams were Debates, Cultural events and Skits. The CCA team participated in the Case Study Presentation, Quiz, Debate Competition, Collage Competition and the Poster & Slogan Competition.

Taekwondo Gems


tudents of Gems International School, Palam Vihar participated in the 24th Delhi State Taekwondo Championship 2012, held at Thyagraj Indoor Stadium. Six of the 11 participating students (within different categories) won medals – Anant Singh, Nitin Yadav, Kanishka Shokeen-Gold; Surya Kataria, Satvik-Silver; and Love Ahlawat-Bronze. The Gems truly shone at the Event!

Kala Sanyojan - Art Fest at MRIS


anav Rachna International School, Sector 46 held ‘Kala Sanyojan – A Unique Art Fest’ at the School premises between December 4th-9th. Over 100 schools across the NCR participated to celebrate Art. Kala Sanyojan (for students in the age group 10-16 years) was organised to give an opportunity to the children to explore their meaning of Art – through various mediums. This unique Camp had no defined boundaries; it was a platform where children discovered the different aspects of Art. The weeklong Camp had structured Workshops on different mediums – Painting, Linocut, Installation, Mural, Pottery, Photography, Sculpture, Applied Art, Sketching, Craft/Paper Work and Calligraphy. Renowned artists―Subhash, Ashoka Sarkar, Anjani Prasad, Geetika Goyal, Jaspreet Kaur Jain, Umesh Prasad, Vanadana Bagadia and Ishani Dey―conducted Workshops during the Camp. Some special Workshops were also organised for the students by Mr. Yadav, Col. S.D Chopra, Sonali Chakravorty, Gundeep Kaur and Deepali Goyal. The Camp concluded with an Exhibitioncum-sale of the products made in Kala Sanyojan, that was attended by participants and their parents. The proceeds from the sale went to Blind School, Gurgaon. Dignitaries who graced the occasion included Mrs. &

Compiled by Shilpy Arora, email:

Mr. Sheel Madhur, IPS (Director-HPA), Mrs. & Mr. Anil Rao, IPS (Joint Commissioner of Police, Gurgaon), Dr. O. P. Bhalla (Chief Patron, MRIS), Dr. Amit Bhalla (VP, MREI), Mr. Sunny Bansal (Executive Director, MRIS). Dhriti Malhotra, Principal, MRIS-46 said, “At the end of this Camp we expect the children to carry back with them a higher and deeper understanding of Art, which will help them to express their thoughts, moods, and ideas”.

Kid Corner

14-20 December 2012

United School


lass IV students of Shiv Nadar School conducted an Assembly based on the theme, ‘Unity is Strength’. The theme was depicted through a beautiful dance drama – ‘United we stand, divided we fall’. This was followed by singing of Christmas carols, which set the rhythm for the Special Assembly


Principal of Chiranjeev Bharti School, Mrs. Sangeeta Saxena, talks to FG. What is your vision for the School? We want our children to be global citizens. Our Chairman, Mr. Sushil Ansal, and trustee, Archana Luthra, along with 3,000 teachers, 150 mentors and School staff, are working hard to make Chiranjeev Bharti an e-friendly school. By 2013 we will convert the whole School into a virtual space, and all the classrooms will be equipped with the latest information technology. We will provide ipads to all the children. What is the USP your School? I think our USP lies in the state-of-the-art sports infrastructure we provide to our students. Our swimming team and cricket team are one of the best, not only at the district-level, but at the state-level. The School has also given players to the national teams. Soon we will have a proper gymnasium. We are also working with the children to help protect the environment. We are planning to install solar panels in the School.

Medhaam Daddies


he little ones at Medhaam School enjoyed a fun ‘Dad’s Day’ with their fathers. The students and the Dads gathered at the Leisure Valley Grounds, where a host of fun games and activities awaited them. The sporting fathers played various games organised by the teachers. The Dads were delighted at having spent quality time with their little ones.

What are your views on the IB curriculum? What, according to you, is the ideal curriculum? We are not looking at introducing IB curriculum. Rather, we are working towards giving a global angle to the CBSE curriculum. I think CBSE provides the ideal curriculum. So we are focussing on exchange programmes with various countries. This way we can provide a globalised approach to the existing curriculum. We have been working with the British Council and Cambridge University for this. In fact a few foreign students have also studied in our Schools, as a part of these exchange programmes. What is the role of tuition classes? I am totally against this trend. However, every Saturday, the attendance of students is very low, as they go for tuition classes. To discourage the students we invite guest faculty from Ansal Institute. They impart training to the students aspiring for IIT, Medical and other competitive courses. How about staff training? And how well are teachers paid? They are paid as per the rules of the Sixth Pay Commission. We also sanction leaves to teachers, as and when they ask. We have a dedicated team of teachers and support staff, and without their support it would not have been possible to build such a reputation in the education sector. How important is the role of the Principal in a school? The Principal is very instrumental in making the required changes, and keeping the staff motivated. Every Friday we have teachers-Principal meetings, wherein we all meet and discuss about various methodologies that can help both the children and the teachers.

Artistic Strokes

DPS Harmony


Himanshi, Grade VIII, Royal Oak Inter. School

Bharti, Grade VII B, GuruGram Public School

elhi Public School, Sushant Lok, celebrated ‘Harmony’ - a Sports-cum-Cultural extravaganza, at Tau Devi Lal Stadium. 1,200 students participated in the colourful function, that was attended by more than 3,000 parents. The Chief Guest, Pramod Grover, Member, DPS Society, lauded the School for its focus on the all-round development of the students. The Event included excellent displays of yoga and drills by students of the Middle and Senior School. The students also participated in various athletic events energetically. The grand finale was a splendid theme dance—‘The Harmony Dance’—that took the audience on a scintillating journey across the globe. Nina Sehgal, Member, Managing Committee DPSSL, Maninder Singh, former test cricketer, and the School Principal, Dr. Ruchi Seth, also presided over the function.


14-20 December 2012

K id Corner

Kids Brainticklers

Ozzimals: Color this picture

Animal Crackers


Fill in the grid so that every row, column and coloured box contains ALL the numbers from 1 to 6. Bonus clue: which number should go in the circle: 1 or 4?

Two Wise Men

Dogs of C-Kennel

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eal estate projects are fast coming up along the Southern Peripheral Road (SPR), particularly on the belt connecting Badshahpur Chowk to the National Highway, and on the road connecting the Badshahpur and Darbaripur villages – which sometime back were considered to be poor cousins of the Millennium City. With the coming up of Sohna Road as one of the most important commercial and residential destinations in Gurgaon, owing to better connectivity with Delhi, Faridabad and National Highway 8, this area is fast becoming a real estate hotspot. However, despite being close to ‘New’ Gurgaon, the development of infrastructure, particularly the sector roads, drainage and sewerage facilities, has yet to take shape. The presence of Badshahpur Nullah, which flows through the area, could prove to be a major deterrent to growth, as not much has been done to ensure that either it is capped in its natural course, or concretised and put underground. The first residents are expected to move into this area by March 2013, as a number of residential towers being built by Tulip (in Sector 68 and Sector 69) will be completed by this time. Joginder Raghav, an official of Tulip, informed FG that around 4 towers have already been completed by the Company, which is constructing around 4,000 apartments in this area. Raghav says that both affordable and luxury housing is available in their projects, which are now selling in the range of Rs. 7,000 to 8,000 per square foot. “This area is close to ‘New’ Gurgaon, as well as Rajiv Chowk, so a lot of people, particularly

So Near...Yet So Far

executives, have flats here. We are also constructing villas here,” he says. Raghav however admits that despite the fast pace of real estate growth there are impediments like the lack of internal sector roads, drainage, and sewerage facilities. The power infrastructure in the area has still to come up, though compared to other areas the presence of a 220 KV power station in Badshahpur will help in the setting up of power lines, he reveals. The other major players in the area are DLF Corporate Greens, Eden Heights by GPL Builders near Darbaripur, and Unitech Vista. Spazedge has a commercial complex in the area, and there are other group schemes as well. Tata Primanti is also one of the prestigious projects that is taking shape in the area and realtors say that it is one of the best projects in the City. However, the presence of Badshahpur Nullah takes much charm away from the area, as residents will realise that the brackish water, the smell from the sewage, and the mosquitoes, can be quite a challenge.

Private Failure { Maninder Dabas / FG } ‘The promise given was a necessity of the past; the word broken is a necessity of the present.’ (Niccolo Machiavelli)


he builder-bureaucratpolitician nexus in Gurgaon seems to be a staunch follower of Machiavelli’s statecraft, and may be that’s why the promises made by the big stakeholders are rarely kept. The price is paid by the innocent residents whose life become miserable due to lack of basic civic infrastructure. Be it inner sector roads, parks, or the power infrastructure, most builders have violated the terms of their licences. The crumbling power infrastrcuture in the private builder colonies has become a big bone of contention as, except DLF, none of the builders have lived up to their commitments for the upgradation of power infrastrcutre. That is why the residents living in their colonies are forced to spend extra money for the power supplied in the




{ Abhishek Behl / FG }

form of ‘backup’. Almost all builder colonies in Gurgaon have a shortage of power infrastructure, and their demand has long passed the actual power holding capacity. “We have asked them to come to our office for talks on the upgradation of the infrastructure, and each time they refrain from the topic. When we put pressure on them, they tell us that we can remove the power connection from the concerned colony. None of these builders are ready to upgrade their infrastruture. Changing of cables and transformers are small issues, but the core problem is the construction of sub-stations of various capacities, that the builders promised at the time of taking the licence. No one is ready to construct their own sub-station, and that’s why the state feeders have come under tremendous pressure, because the demand for power is increasing significantly,” said Sanjiv Chopra, the Superintending Engineer, DHBVN. DHBVN had conducted a survey in various private colonies of the City. The agency quantified the deficiency

Subash Yadav, MCG Councillor from the area, says that he is exasperated by the failure of the authorities to take a decision about the concretisation and covering up of this nullah. “The sewage water overflows in the village, and remains standing in the market of the village. During the monsoon the water comes back into the homes, and now the nullah—which flows from Badshahpur to Khandsa—has become a drain carrying sewage,” says Subash. Incidentally, this nullah is actually a storm water drain meant to carry the rainwater to low-lying areas, including the Najafgarh drain. Recently, the Joint Commissioner of MCG and

other senior officials had visited the village, and assured residents that some action would be taken to ensure that problems caused by this drain are alleviated. But Subash says that despite raising the issue in the MCG House Meeting, the matter has remained in limbo. The development in the area will not only be hit by the nullah. Insiders says that a number of court cases filed by farmers, and different companies, have also stalled the completion of the SPR this side. They say it is unlikely that this road will see completion soon. A number of projects on the Badshahpur – Darbaripur road are nearing completion, and once the residents move in, the narrow road connecting the two villages will hardly be able to cope with the ever-increasing traffic. Approaching this road from the Badshahpur side is already a major problem, as this village has been transformed into a peri-urban (immediately adjoining an urban area) hub, where rich villagers, industrial workers, and executives live together. Rajesh Yadav, who lives

and arrived at a figure for each locality, and asked the developers to invest for the sub-stations. The policy for upgrading electrical infrastructure in areas developed by private realtors was given shape in December

2010. According to the policy, the developer and DHBVN would share the cost of meeting the deficiency in distribution infrastructure in a 75:25 ratio respectively. DLF is the only developer who has paid its share,

Who Hasn’t Made What Builder


Power Demand


Present status


66 KV substation

60 MVA


Construction held up due to litigation


66 KV substation

53 MVA


Land offered by builder is not enough


66 KV substation

15 MVA

Sector-70, Land has not been 71 handed over to HVPNL

Canton Buildwell

66 KV

50 MVA


Land has not been handed over

Sheetal (Mayfield 66 KV Garden)

49 MVA


Construction has not started

Ardee City

66 KV

46 MW


No land given


66 KV

10 MVA

Sushant Lok-I

Despite instructions from DTCP, no response


66 KV

54 MVA

Sushant Lok-I, II



66 KV

16.005 MVA (running load)


No construction


33 KV

5.4 MVA (-do-)


Constructed and running.


66 KV

7.805 MVA (-do-)


Not constructing


66 KV

2.85 MVA (-do-)


Not constructing


66 KV



Not constructing

nearby, says that there is an urgent need to build the sector roads, along with lanes and drains that would bypass the village. If this does not happen soon, there would be chaos in the area, he warns. But for this to happen, industry watchers say, the builders operating in the area should push and take the contracts for building the internal infrastructure. HUDA will only provide the external infrastructure, whereas the internal structure in the area would have to be created by the builders. With Unitech, Tata and DLF having a major presence in the area, it is expected that the internal infrastructure would be good, and timely – though it should have started by now. Real estate watchers however opine that instead of big companies, the smaller players are likely to be the game changers. Once the SPR is completed it will allow people to move directly from Faridabad Road to National Highway 8, bypassing IFFCO Chowk. People coming from Sohna would also reach Manesar easily, as they can bypass Gurgaon, thus easing the traffic woes of the Millennium City as well. The supply of potable water is another issue that needs to be addressed, says Vikas Singh, a would be buyer who had come to check a couple of properties in this area. Gupta says that the government must allow builders to offer possession of buildings only after they have built the internal infrastructure, power systems, and secured the requisite certificates. A HUDA official meanwhile says that efforts are on to create the master infrastructure, that includes the SPR, master sewerage and water facilities. u and has got its infrastructure upgraded – including one 66 KV power sub station. Many residents feel that DHBVN is going soft on the errant developers, and want stricter action to be taken against them. The= builders in the line of fire include Sheetal International (Mayfield Garden), Ardee City, Ansal Buildwell (Sector 55 and 56), Ansal Properties and Industries Ltd (Sushant Lok C1, C2, D and F block), Saraswati Co-op Group Housing Society (Saraswati Kunj), Unitech Ltd (South City-2 and GH Pocket, A, B and C block of Ivory Towers), Malibu Estate Ltd (Sohna Road), HLF Ambience, Canton Buildwell, Bestech, Raheja, Omaxe, Vatika, Puri, Sun City, and Vipul Ltd (Sector 45). The DHBVN Chief Engineer had written to the Gurgaon superintending engineer in January last year, asking him to issue a notice to the defaulting developers, and call a meeting to discuss the delay. But no stern action has been taken as of now. “There have been meetings with the builders, and they have been told to upgrade the infrastructure time and again. But they do nothing except nodding their heads, and making false promises,” added a DHBVN official. u


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C ivic/S ocial JIT KUMAR

Marriage Mhaari Style { Shilpy Arora / FG }


raditional Haryanvi weddings are more than just family, food, and fineries. Even if the bride and groom belong to the same community and caste, the rituals performed by the two families are quite different. It depends a lot on their villages, and ancestors. Also, Haryana shares a unique bond with other communities. Friday Gurgaon brings to you a traditional wedding, where two local families came together and shared their wedding customs. As we reached the wedding venue, the groom’s parents welcomed us. The gate of the groom’s house was adorned with green leaves and flowers, signifying prosperity for the family and future generations. After our introduction to the relatives and neighbours, we sat down to attend a ceremony called,‘Ban Bethna’. The groom, Umesh, offered prayers to Ganapathi – the remover of obstacles. The priest explained that this prayer is extremely important, as it keeps away all impediments from such an auspicious occasion. The ceremony ended with the distribution of the traditional sweet, ‘Laddu’ to the guests – while Umesh was offered a ‘Paan’. The tradition of eating ‘Paan’ was introduced by the Mughals in the State. ‘Ghunghat Pratha’ (custom of covering head and face) is still followed in rural Haryana. As the priest recited the mantras, and Umesh’s family prayed for the well-being of the bride and groom, the women of the family danced to folk songs. Interestingly, the men and women perform different rituals. Since women have traditionally been discouraged to participate in poojas performed by male priests, they celebrate in their own way. Not only do they dance to the traditional folk songs, they also perform ‘nataks’ (plays) at home. Umesh’s grandmother, Murti Maa, explained that these customs are not made to isolate the women. Rather, such rituals entertain the guests who have come from the bride’s side. Murti Maa said that Umesh’s sisters were going to present a popular Haryanvi play the next day. She feels strongly about the growing craze of

Punjabi and Bollywood songs among children. Umesh’s 15-year-old cousin, Anjali, for instance, when asked about the meaning of folk songs, said, “My parents hardly converse with me in Haryanvi, as they want me to be wellversed with Hindi and English. These songs sound alien to me.” While we were talking to the young girls and enjoying the folk music, the family of the bride arrived, to perform the ritual of ‘Batna’ (haldi). The bride’s family gave ‘haldi ubtan’, along with some gifts, to the groom. Umesh’s mother and seven married female members of the families, applied ‘ubtan’ to the face, hands and feet of the groom, with grass brushes. The ‘ubtan’ is supposed to beautify and purify the bodies of the bride and groom. Now it was the turn of the groom’s family to send the ‘ubtan’ for the bride. It was interesting to see how the groom’s mother, and other married ladies, grind the turmeric in a traditional vessel. They have a song for every occasion. In her melodious voice Murti Maa sang “Kahan se aya nariyal, kahan se ayi batna,” and everyone clapped to the beat. The ritual of ‘haldi’ seemed like an ancient Indian spa treatment, with a dose of music and dance. 

Meet the bride

After spending a long time with the groom’s family, we moved to the bride’s village. Clad in a colourful salwarkameez, the bride, Meenakshi, welcomed us with open arms. Just like the family of Umesh, the family members of the bride applied ‘ubtan’ to her feet, knees, hands, shoulders and head seven times, from bottom to top. This was also

were so touching that there was a flow of sentiments from the bride’s relatives.

The W-day

accompanied by some singing of folk songs. Once the ‘ubtan’ was washed off, Meenakshi looked radiant and stood out in the crowd. She, however, believes that a makeover is incomplete without a visit to a beauty salon. “There are few options in the rural areas. So brides-to-be often visit beauty salons in Delhi or Gurgaon,” said Meenakshi. Expressing her excitement about the Mehndi Ceremony, Meenakshi revealed that her parents had invited the best mehndi artist of her village. At night, the hands and feet of the bride were adorned with intricate heena designs. The guests created a festive atmosphere, by dressing up in bright colours, singing traditional songs, and dancing to the beat of the ‘dholaki’. Maitri Devi, an elderly woman in Meenakshi’s family, presented some beautiful prose – which said that ‘Meenakshi is a princess, and Umesh as a prince will come to wed her. Decked in all his finery, the groom will travel to the bride’s home on a white horse, accompanied by a procession of relatives and musicians, and will take the bride away forever’. The words

The wedding rituals began at the bride’s place early in the morning, with the tradition of ‘Jhol Ghalna’ – pouring buttermilk mixed with honey on the head of the bride. At Umesh’s house, the day started with ‘matka bharai’. The groom’s sister-in law, accompanied by other female relatives, visited a nearby temple to fill an earthen pitcher. This water was later used for bathing the groom. The first pooja on the wedding day was performed after the groom donned his wedding attire. His ‘mod’, or turban, was blessed by his relatives. One of Umesh’s friends, Pranav, explained that ‘mod’ is a big turban made of bamboo sticks. Traditional Haryanvi grooms tied a 4 to 5 feet high ‘mod’! The height of the ‘mod’ symbolises the power of groom’s family in his village. This tradition is, however, fading , as the ‘mod’ is not easily available in the cities. That is why Umesh used a traditional ‘sehra’ (crown), tied at the top of the turban. The ‘mod’ ceremony started with the chanting of ‘shlokas’ by the priest. At the end of the ceremony Umesh’s family blessed the groom and gave him some cash as a token of love. Umesh was then escorted to the richly adorned mare, along with the musicians and relatives. While Umesh was looking handsome in a simple grey suit, his relatives donned colourful Kurtas, with high turbans. Although the Haryanvi ‘baraat’ is usually comprised of male members, some young girls decided to accompany

us. Dressed up in a purple ‘churidar’, Anjali was looking very pretty. Expressing her concern over the participation of women in a ‘baraat’, she said “My mum always stays at home because, as per traditions, married women can’t be a part of the ‘baraat’. Now it is time to bring about change, so that women can also participate in all the wedding ceremonies,” she said. As the ‘baraat’ arrived at the wedding venue, Umesh’s family was greeted by the relatives of the bride’s family. Just as the ritual of ‘shoe-hiding’ causes a lot of teasing at a Punjabi wedding, there is merriment and teasing through songs at a Haryanvi wedding. Women from the bride’s family sing a song to make fun of the groom and his relatives. One of the cousins of Meenakshi sang, “Humne bulawe gore gore, kale kahan se aye.” It was good watching ‘ghunghat’ clad ladies making fun of men. This was followed by a dinner party. Although food is the most important item at any wedding, it is generally kept simple in Haryanvi weddings. Due to age-old Vedic and Buddhist influences, most of the Haryanvis are vegetarian. However, the dishes are prepared in delicious gravy, and served with loads of ghee. While others were eating, the bride and groom were busy performing the garlanding ceremony. This ceremony marks the beginning of the wedding. The ‘pheras’ ceremony was set for after dinner. The priest first performed a pooja, and chanted a few mantras for Umesh. After a series of poojas, the bride was called. Dressed up in a traditional red ‘lehnga-choli’, and adorned with gold jewellery and heena tattoos, Meenakshi looked absolutely stunning. In the ceremony of ‘kanyadaan’, the bride was given away by her father. This was followed by the pheras. Meenakshi and Umesh went around the sacred fire, and tied the knot – for a lifetime together. At the end of the ceremony, the newly-wed couple touched the feet of their parents and the elderly. The dawn of the new day marked the end of the wedding rituals, and the successful union of the couple in matrimony. u

14-20 December 2012

Health & Vitality... Naturally!

An Ode To Oats

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adults should get at least 25-30 grams of fibre a day. Oats contain more soluble fibre than any other grain. One cup of oatmeal give us four grams of fibre. Regular consumption of oats impacts all four key CHD (Coronary Heart Disease) risk factors - blood cholesterol, diabetes. hypertension and obesity. By signalling early ‘satiation’ (fullness), the soluble fibres help us limit the overall intake of food. For individuals with high cholesterol (above 220 mg/dl), consuming just 3-4 grams of soluble oat fibre per day can lower total cholesterol, which in turn can lower cardiovascular risk.

Tip of the week

Steel-cut oats, which are ‘less processed’—as compared to ‘instant’ or ‘rolled’ oatmeal—are superior when it comes to stabilising blood sugar. Steel cut oats take longer to digest, and hence create less of an insulin response. The difference in cooking time ( 1 minute for ‘instant’, 2-3 minutes for rolled oats and 4-6 minutes for steel-cut) is far outweighed by the benefits. Adding a sprinkling of ground flax seed to steelcut oats, is a great way of topping up the fibre content.

Nature’s Wonder Food of the week : Avena Sativa

{ Jaspal Bajwa }


s good for the outside as for the inside! Very few plants deserve this epithet. One such is the humble Oat. Around 3,000 years ago the wild red oat made its appearance in Asia Minor, and for a long time was considered ‘just a weed’. Perhaps a mutation yielded the present day Oats – making it the last of the domesticated cereals. Today oats can be consumed in a variety of healthy dishes - baked goods (bread and cookies), breakfast cereals (muesli /granola), and as oat milk. Oats came to be honoured for medicinal purposes well before food. In Ayurveda and homeopathy, oats have been used to cure addictions of various kinds. Avena Sativa (oats) is considered a tonic for a healthy nervous system, and is prescribed as a mild sedative – helping to calm nerves for those suffering from performance anxiety. Oat straw has been prescribed by herbalists to treat general

debility. Oats have anti-inflammatory properties and have a soothing effect on the skin. Several skin preparations contain oat extracts and are used for eczema, dry itchy skin, psoriasis, measles, chickenpox and sunburn. Oats can also be used to exfoliate and remove the surface layer of dead skin cells. Today Oats are recognised as a wonder food. There is increasing evidence to support their therapeutic benefit – prevent heart disease and cancers, stabilise blood sugars, treat rheumatism, chronic neurological pain and weakness of the bladder, and enhance the immune response. For the ever-increasing number of people with a high cardio and diabetic risk profile, a steaming bowl of fresh cooked oatmeal is the perfect way to start the day. The chief benefit comes from the high fibre content. Dietary fibres are found naturally in the plants that we eat. Both types of fibre—soluble as well as insoluble—are equally important. Most

No breakfast food is more wholesome than oats. Oats are a nutritional powerhouse. In addition to being a good source of proteins, Oats also contain more lipids (5-9%) than other cereal crops, and are rich in unsaturated fats – including the essential fatty acid linoleic acid. Oats are an excellent source of manganese and selenium. In addition, oats are a good source of dietary fibre, Vitamins B1, B2, B5 and B9, tryptophan, magnesium, zinc and phosphorus. Purines are commonly found in plants, animals, and humans, and can be broken down to form uric acid. Although in relative terms plant purines contribute less, people with kidney problems or gout may want to limit or avoid intake of purine-containing foods such as oats. u Registered Holistic Nutritionist (Canadian School of Natural Nutrition) For education purposes only; always consult a healthcare practitioner for medical conditions

Don’t Pass The Salt { Alka Gurha }


ost of us keep a watch on our sugar intake, but ignore the amount of salt in our diets. While some amount of sodium is necessary for fluid balance and proper functioning of our body, excess sodium can be harmful for our heart and kidneys. The kidneys naturally balance the amount of sodium stored in our bodies. When sodium levels are low, kidneys essentially hold on to the sodium, and when sodium levels are high, they excrete excess sodium via the urine. If our kidneys are unable to eliminate enough sodium, itstarts to accumulate in the blood. Because sodium attracts and holds water, the blood volume increases. Consequently, the heart needs to work harder to move more blood through the blood vessels which increases the pressure in our arteries. Dietary guidelines recommend

a daily maximum intake of 2,300 mg of sodium, while the American Heart Association (AHA) prescribes only 1,500 mg per day. One table spoon of salt has nearly 2,500 mg of sodium. Here is a list of foods which contain high amounts of sodium:


While some potato and tortilla chip brands come in low-sodium varieties, the majority of chip options contain large amounts of sodium. A serving of regular potato chips contains nearly 200 mg, and a serving of sour cream and onion flavored potato chips has roughly 250 mg of sodium.


One slice of your favorite pizza can have up to 700 mg of sodium. This is because the pizza dough, cheese, ketchup and toppings also contain high levels of sodium.

Bread and Buns

One slice of bread can have as much as 200 mg of salt. If you spread butter, cheese or margarine on top of it, the sodium content increases. Cereal products—

Add a few drops of clove oil to a glass of water, and drink it every morning. This will help improve digestion and release excessive gases in the body.



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7838003874, 9999444818, 7827233023 including breakfast cereals, cakes and biscuits—provide about a third of the salt in our diet. Mustard and ketchup are salt-heavy condiments.


Frozen meat, nuggets and packaged raw chicken contain high levels of sodium. Meat and frozen meat products provide over a quarter of the salt in our diet.


A bowl of soup contains around 700 mg of sodium. What makes it worse is monosodium glutamate – added for enhancing flavour.


One cup of buttered popcorn can contain up to 200 mg of sodium. You can cut down on salt by – using low sodium seasonings, using fresh meats, avoiding excess ketchup and soy sauce, rinsing some of the processed food before consuming, and by reading the labels carefully. Remember, a dash here and a sprinkle there makes a lot of difference to the amount of sodium content in your diet. u


14-20 December 2012


Lage Raho Arvind Bhai M ost TV debates can be given a long miss. However, this one, ‘Lok banam Tantra’ (People versus the System), on channel-surf, held the attention. Something incredulous was happening (on Agenda ‘Aaj Tak’). Instead of accepting and focusing on, say corruption, where the ‘tantra’ (system) has failed the ‘jan’ and ‘lok’, the attack was on Kejriwal !




have read with interest your write-up on our activities  in the recent issue of Friday Gurgaon published under the Heading ‘ The Old Boy Network. Thank you for the nice comprehensive coverage. Prof. M.L. Gulrajani General. Secretary.  DLF City Senior Citizen Council


ust wanted to congratulate you on the strong proGurgaon, pro-development, and activist stance taken in the latest issue of Friday Gurgaon (Dec 07, 2012). In addition to the Frontpage story demanding answers, and front page call to action about stopping Gurgaon II habitation before concrete steps are taken, to the RWA meet and sympathetic coverage of their issues, I think you have highlighted what is necessary for Gurgaon’s future. I have seen the evolution of FG wherein these topics have moved from the inside pages of your editorials to other pages of the weekly. You have created a space in the print media which is unique and desirable, and hope best wishes to you to maintain the pace and effect changes for the better in Gurgaon.  Sanjay Sharma MD, Qubrex

As per Kejriwal, the janta/lok is quite fed up with the tantra (esp. the Executive). The nation today seems to be a Janta pitted against the Tantra – which is a mockery for a ‘Jantantra’. Therefore the tantra needs to change – starting with the ‘leaders’. He talked of democracy needing to be alive, and being checked, every day – down to the lowest ‘gram’ level. The big party boys asked him to have patience, to wait for 5 years every time; to be happy with 1 or 2 seats initially, and hope for more in 30 to 40 years. Their learning from history is that it can only be repeated – they will never learn. When Anna and Kejriwal tried to fight the system from the outside, the clamour from politicians and ‘prime’ faces of civil society was that they needed to get into the system - to be legitimate, and to make a real difference. And when Kejriwal has done just that, he is now told that it is not his cup of tea – and he must play only by the rules set by the incumbents. Why? How does drastic change happen? Do we allow crores to languish in poverty even 50 years from now, just because we today live a fine life?

he said, was confused, worried, was seeing a parallel Kejriwal government – and actually had no problem with the Ambanis Swiss Bank Account Numbers (clearly that is business as usual, even for a doctor)! The good doctor further believed that he was now the customer, to Kejriwal as new service provider; though the doctor seemed well served and serviced today, as he is fine with the system and the politicians. Where has he been lately?

Javed Akhtar dished out some homilies, a stern lecture and some warnings. To him, Kejriwal saying politicians are corrupt is not new, or news. Everyone knows that. Being an inside member he obviously got away with that. Any outsider saying that would have been threatened with contempt of parliament. He then proceeded to do one better. He said that at least the Congress, Sangh Parivar, Communists have a vision – however right or wrong. Kejriwal has none – period. The AAP website has it, but so what – a celebrity has authoritatively said No. Never mind also if the visions of the political parties have been lost somewhere, or have been jettisoned, and/or changed at will – by the coalition partners, that is. And never mind if the implementation of that vision actually sucks. The climax by Akhtar was a full-on Bollywood line – ‘just visit Pakistan for a week, and you will come back and kiss this ‘dharti’ of Hindustan!’ So we now know our new benchmark; and, by the way, does that apply to Bollywood also? A retort by Kejriwal, on Akhtar being rich enough to afford a Supreme Court lawyer, had Amar Singh up in arms, bringing the house down, and reminding one and all of Akhtar’s lineage. The hotel was thankfully not adjourned.

No one seemed to have read up anything on Kejriwal’s AapmAadmi Party (AAP), but they were quite sure that, whatever, it was probably against the Constitution (the AAP website says no). Of course this reaction should not surprise us; how many politicians would When Aamir Khan know their own party vision – assuming there can change to a new is such insight today? topic week after week

Chetan Bhagat felt the need to tutor Kejriwal on market economics – and by the way offered to help out in this direction.

The panelists and ‘prime’ audience seemed in Satyamev Jayate, Mani Shankar Aiyar was at times arrogant, to be envious of the attention Kejriwal has without spending time even condescending. He pontificated on his grabbed in so short a time – that too without on any ‘closure’ – and centuries’ old Grand Old Party, that clearly Anna by his side. Why does the media spend so that is termed ‘pathhas seen better days. It today just moves from much time on him? How did the govt allow him breaking’ – why is the one crisis to another; not by handling it, but by to sit on an official Lokpal panel? How does weekly unearthing of being bailed out by different folks at different he have such distinguished and rich lawyers new scams by Kejriwal times. Aiyar closed with a distasteful reference alongside him? and team seen as to people like Kejriwal being ‘kutte’. However, Doesn’t he need us – we are all so qualified ‘shoot and scoot’? Aiyar did offer Kejriwal advice – asking him (and so full of ourselves)? to get stuck on one case, and pursue it to the very end (like Feroze Gandhi, on the Mundhra scandal Kejriwal has obviously struck a chord, with the public - and even taking on PM Nehru, his pa-in-law). Those were the therefore the media too. Yes, that is the only way – sequence wonderful single-scam days. Guess in these times it would be – that he has sustained ‘being in the news’. He has obviously difficult to choose – but probably a son-in-law will do. done something right, to be taken so seriously by all. He has This single-scam focus is surprisingly what many want boldly gone where others have feared to tread. Kejriwal to do. It means that while he gets stuck on one case Even the panelists grudgingly accepted that. for a decade(s), the plunder in the others can conveniently continue. The corrupt would not be happier. And why must he have ready-made solutions for Does that make all of us complicit? everything? Some will evolve. The big boys’ solutions are still evolving. It seems that what we now want from Kejriwal is It was heart-warming to see the big party boys find virtue that he stop looking for and showing what is wrong; he should in our system, our institutions, and on what is being delivered just state what should be right. today. There was even, surprise, humble acceptance of ‘some Kejriwal says that each case brought up by him is meant flaws, due to human frailties’ – yes, greed seems to top that list to expose a systemic deficiency. It is time for him to put it all for many. The Congress and BJP (Ravi Shankar Prasad) talked together, and explain it simply. in unison – identifying and scorning Kejriwal as a common foe. The BJP was smug when it was only the Congress that Somewhere, deep down, there is a wish in many that was attacked – now it too hates Kejriwal’s guts. It has quite Kejriwal comes good, and wins. It is just that the head does forgotten the role of an opposition. Surprising, since it's been not accept this. And the head believes that it knows the there long enough. The big boys don’t want Kejriwal to upset answers better than Kejriwal – after all, it is a matter of their mutually convenient apple cart. There is coziness in their professional competence. And, while we ourselves don’t have system. They seem to have agreed to look after their own – or the conviction and the courage, we of course must pick faults at least their (opposite) leaders’ own. They don’t want anyone with those who try. to talk of any change to the system, let alone a ‘kranti’ – or, horrors, an Indian Spring, that too as close as 2014. Arvind bhai, you do not just talk, you do. You are already in the field of battle. You will not have all the answers – never At question time a doctor got the opportunity to talk a little always get it right - and no one does. But clearly you are on of himself (why should Kejriwal only get the spotlight?), and the right path - and that is what matters. finally asked a question. The good doctor, a fellow professional Lage Raho Arvind Bhai. u

14-20 December 2012

Santa 24x7 { Archana Kapoor Nagpal }

“Santa Claus is anyone who loves another and seeks to make them happy; who gives himself by thought or word or deed in every gift that he bestows.”Edwin Osgood Grover It was last June ,and like always, Hyderabad was very hot. I entered a grocery store to pick up some vegetables, when someone asked me, “Can you guide me to the milk counter”? I responded, “Well, it is in the lower right corner”. Picking up my stuff I finally came to the milk counter, where I met the same man struggling with milk packets. He had no basket or trolley, and was holding almost 10 packets of milk. I asked, “Do you need a trolley or a basket”? He sighed in relief, and responded, “Sure”. I was surprised he was still picking more packets; and after a few minutes his trolley had 25 packets of milk. I laughed and asked, “Why so many packets? Leave some for others as well.” He smiled and said “These are for my street dogs. Today I want to be a Santa for them.” I responded, “Well, it is still June – it’s too early to be Santa.” We met again at the bread counter. I commented, “So

these big bread loaves are also for the street dogs, Mr. Santa?” He smiled and said, “Yes. These are also for the dogs, and I love to be Santa in the month of June. As we all know, Santa is a representation of surprises and unconditional love. Santa comes in December as we expect him around Christmas. But in real life there is a Santa in each one of us – that reflects through our personality at some point of time, irrespective of the month. Maybe when you offered help to me by arranging a trolley, that was the hidden Santa in you. When others offer to help you, just think that Santa has come all the way for you”. He left, and I was happy to have met him. Indeed, there is a hidden Santa in each one of us. We just need to recognise him, by spreading happiness and unconditional love. u (The writer is the author of ‘14 Pearls Of Inspiration’, and an avid blogger)

{ Dr. Rajesh Bhola }


ur lives and lifestyles have, to a large extent, become fast paced. Ironically, the ‘I am busy’, ‘Call me later’ phenomenon seems to give us little or no time to share with those closest and dearest to us. Until, sadly, it is too late. It is then that we regret, and wish that we can turn the clock back. One can understand that, at the outset, one has financial obligations to meet, which invariably means that both parents have to work together in bringing up the children. The grandparents, if they are healthy and able, become the primary baby sitters for their grandchildren, and a vital bond is created. When there are generations living in one household, it helps in the bridging of the gap between generations. However, in many instances the elderly parents are not that healthy or mobile – and worse, many children just forsake their parents today. Being associated with the medical care of the senior citizens, I experience great pain when I receive phone calls from many young persons who want to place their father or mother in old age homes, even when they can very well support them. I see the deep need of people to be reconciled with their parents. Blaming parents keeps us hooked, and gets in the way of constructive living. Our parents are, for good or for ill, within us. We have to reach reconciliation. If we do not, we will go on tearing ourselves apart. Children have a threefold obligation—of love, reverence, and obedience—towards their parents. Love

{ Alka Gurha }


he movie, ‘The Life of Pi’, has received rave reviews and accolades for cinematic brilliance. The movie was a visual treat - replete with amazing animation and breathtaking visuals. The teenage protagonist, Pi, encounters a strange twist of fate when he finds himself alone on a boat with a tiger, in the middle of the Pacific Ocean. His travails and his conquest reinforce our faith in the Supreme, and instill a sense of optimism. For me, three instances in the movie left a deep impact. The first is the scene where the family is seen discussing the conflict between faith and rationality. The strange thing about faith is that it stems from no rationale. Often faith speaks through inner voices, instincts and hunches. Faith, they say, is the knowledge in the heart – beyond the reach of proof. Let me share the story of a boy and his friend who studied consistently to clear the medical entrance exams. A day before the test the boy was heard praying, “O God, please bless me with success.” His friend laughed and said, “Do you believe God will respond to your prayers?” The boy replied, “Of course, He will.” The boy failed to clear the entrance test. His friend asked, “Did someone respond to your prayers?” “Yes, He did,” said the boy. “He tells me that it time to look for other career options.” This sort of unflinching faith is beyond rationale. Not all prayers are answered. Perhaps when a prayer goes unanswered, it is the answer.

S piritual Faith Healing The second powerful scene in the movie is when Pi faces a lifethreatening storm, in the middle of the ocean. Famished and exhausted, he surrenders himself to the will of fate. From personal experience I can say that when all the means of survival at your disposal get exhausted, there is an incredible sense of relief in surrender. But how does one trust an unseen entity, and entrust one’s troubles and worries to that entity? One need not believe in any particular idea of God, to have faith in the Supreme. Though most of us inherit the concept of God from our families and social surroundings,

the real test of faith is during our toughest moments. Finally, there is a contemplative moment when Pi says, “After I lost my love, my family, and my friend Richard Parker, I realised that life is all about letting go.” Letting go does not mean that you forget or stop caring for the person. It means that the only person you can control is yourself. The truth is that, unless you let go, unless you forgive, unless you realise that the situation is over, you cannot move forward. This is where faith provides immense strength to fight the tumults of life. u

Let Me Live

I want to live and leave. Don’t let me die, For I have died a million times And survived. I want to live and leave. Don’t let me die Lead me by the hand To my Promised Land. Unfold the purpose of my life To help people in strife. Make me a channel of your peace Let me live Please... don’t let me die For I have died a million times and survived. Let me Live In thy will My heart tranquil My role fulfilled.

Shobha Lidder Writer Journalist, Teacher Trainer, Social Activist, Reiki Master, Pranic Healer ( poem is a part of the Library of Congress, Washington DC)

Reverence For Parents and reverence are in force during the parents’ lifetimes; obedience ceases when the children pass from under the parental authority. The Fourth Commandment (Bible), “Honor thy father and thy mother” is universally interpreted to mean not only respect and submission, but also the manifestation of affection that parents deserve at the hands of their children. Those children who habitually exhibit a heartless demeanour, or who fail to provide succour to the parents—either bodily or emotionally—are guilty of grievous sin. The inward sentiment of affection must be deep-seated. The home plays a central role in the transmission of values. Children take part in the daily worship, and learn social graces – such as the procedure for properly receiving guests. As the children grow, not all retain the same religious sentiment as their parents; many actively research their roots, and try to understand their religious heritage. Unfortunately, in modern societies more attention is given to the development of the body than the mind. The children in modern societies are constantly subjected to negative samskaras of violence – perpetuated by television and family conflicts. The best time to implant good samskaras is when the person is still young, and the negative samskaras have not yet born any bitter fruit. I am personally indebted to my parents for the samskaras they instilled in me, for holding elders in high regard – touching their feet, representing truly the Hindu ethos.


As a result of such samskaras, I never had difficulty understanding the mind of my father – but for a brief altercation on the sharing of books, (as he too was a very avid reader and writer)! I have tried to be a dutiful son to him. In the Muslim religion too great thrust is attached to the duty of children towards their parents. In this context, The Prophet said: “For the young man who will honor an old man because of his age, Allah will appoint men who will honor him in his old age.” A very beautiful prayer to Allah runs like this: “Let us pray to God that He guide us to be respectful, kind, and obedient to our parents, and that we continue to show them humility – regardless of the power, position, wealth and influence we may possess. Let us also pray that we be patient, kind, thoughtful and friendly with our children, as we guide them through their lives, and that we discharge our responsibilities towards them as required by our religion, so that God may be pleased with us, and may He Bless and reward us, both in this world and in the Hereafter; Ameen.” It is not enough that we only pray for our parents; we should act with limitless compassion, remembering that when we were children they preferred us to themselves. “And We have enjoined on man (to be good) to his parents. In travail upon travail helpless did his mother bear him, and in two years was his weaning. Show gratitude to Me and to thy parents...”

(Quran: Chapter 31:verse14) The gratitude to God and to parents goes hand in hand. It can therefore be said that being grateful to ones’ parents also earns heavenly rewards. Mothers are particularly honoured. Someone went to the Prophet and asked him, “Who has the first priority to be well treated?” Prophet Mohammed answered “your mother”; the person asked, “then who?” – the Prophet answered,”your mother”. Asked again, “then who?”, He Answered “your mother”. Asked “then who?” the Prophet (finally) answered “your father”. When parents reach old age they are to be treated mercifully, with kindness and selflessness. Serving one’s parents is a duty second to prayer, and it is their right to expect it. It is considered unforgiving to express any irritation on them, when, through no fault of their own, they get old. There is a short verse from the Holy Quran which I think sums up very appropriately the position of the elderly within a family structure: “Your Lord has commanded that you worship none but Him, and be kind to your parents. If either or both of them reach old age with you, do not say ‘uff’ to them or chide them, but speak to them in terms of honor and kindness. Treat them with humility, and say, ‘My Lord! Have mercy on them, for they did care for me when I was little.” (Quran 17:23-4) u Dr. Rajesh Bhola is President of Spastic Society of Gurgaon and is working for the cause of children with autism, cerebral palsy, mental retardation and multiple disabilities for more than 20 years.


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a safe meeting-hub for the country’s varied potters to share designs and ideas. Another interesting aspect of the Bazar was the diversity of the potters’ backgrounds. From well-clad, erudite Scientists and Chemists to rural farmers in rustic pagdis, urbane Professors of German and Literature, students of Design and Architecture, theatre- and culture-activists, confectioners, senior citizens and housewives, a wide cross-section of Indians find peace, creativity and harmony in Pottery-crafting --- both as a hobby and as a profession. Shehla Hashmi, sister of the martyred theatreactivist Safdar Hashmi, is a senior pottery-teacher in Gurgaon. She told me, “I made pottery from my youngest days. Later on I taught Literature at college, but I gave it up to set up my own home pottery-studio, and teach pottery. I like to maintain classical, simple potteryforms. Previously my work was unembellished, as I didn’t paint; but of late, I have begun painting simple oriental designs on my pottery.”  As a contrast, the fine glazed plates, masks and urns crafted by Anju Kalsi are like painterly

“Thou foster-child of Silence and slow Time... Thou shalt remain, in midst of other woe Than ours, a friend to man, to whom thou say’st, ‘Beauty is truth, truth beauty’ --- that is all Ye know on Earth, and all ye need to know.” John Keats ~ Ode On A Grecian Urn, 1820


Prof. Rajendra Dengle

Srirupa Sen

As a form that elegantly blends handmade shapes, colours and textures, fine pottery provides great scope for evolved aesthetic expression. Regular Indian pottery-bazaars have been held over the years in Bhopal and the south of India. It is only for the past 2 years, however, that North India has seen an organised Pottery Haat. Set in the tranquil, shaded precincts of O P Jain’s Anandgram on MG Road, (also known as Sanskriti Kendra) --- a terracotta village, designed in an Ashram mode --- the Pottery Bazar has been held here from winter 2011. Held over 3 days during the past weekend, the Anandgram Potter’s Bazar  (earlier known as ‘Potter’s Haat’) brought together 75 Indian potters, showcasing quite a wide array of ceramic styles. The maximum price was set at Rs. 4,000, in order to maintain affordability. The three essential ‘clay-bodies’ of Terracotta, Stoneware and Porcelain were available here in wide ranges. The objects were all utilitarian, microwaveable and dairy-safe, suitable for storage as well as for serving. The purpose was to encourage the pursuit of artistry in this fine craft, as well as to provide

Anju Kalsi

Tinni Arora


he Poetry of Pottery is evidenced by these timeless lines, that remain etched in humanity’s immortal memory-bank. The reason why pottery evokes the High Muse is because it is one of the world’s earliest (prehistoric) art-forms. Its resilient shards remain intact in fine museums as components of Culture, having survived over millennia at all the world’s archaeological sites. As beauteous objects of daily use that are lovingly sculpted by hand, pottery has lyrically expressed the world’s cultural stylistics --- from the earliest pre-literate terracotta pots of Mohenjodaro, to the flamboyant, graphically-glazed illustrative plates of Pompeii. Our planet’s very first pots were made in China --- during the Tang Dynasty, circa 618. China is the only country that continues to mass-produce pottery as essential items of daily use – both for eating as well as storage. Metal became the preferred mode for India’s daily tableware, while Europe evolved mass-produced porcelain and bone-china over the centuries. However, the artistry and stylistics of India’s fine pottery have always evoked much praise, with several significant Indian pottery-hubs—such as  Delhi Blue Studio Pottery pioneered by Sardar Gurcharan Singh, the Andretta Pottery and Crafts Society in the Kangra Valley, and Pondicherry—attracting ardent studiopotters globally.

to my time as a Chemistry professor, as I have always been fascinated by the formation of extraordinary shapes, and blending a multitude of colours. The traditions of Delhi Blue gave me that opportunity. I like to juxtapose modernity and tradition, by using new glaze techniques in functional ceramics. I am further inspired by Mediterranean and Greek antiquities. The designs in my pottery aim to depict what I see as a ‘natural state of chaos, conflict, and transcribed contradictions’.” The senior Prof. Rajendra Dengle, who teaches German at Jawaharlal Nehry University, is an accomplished creator of Delhi-Blue pottery forms. His rich and sombre pieces stand the test of time with their strong, evolved lines. A younger potter, Tinni Arora, has also achieved a similar depth of formation in her versatile, sturdy and functional bowls and plates, confidently-crafted in classical tones of lapis, slate and black.  Usha Chaddha, who at 70 is one of the eldest potters, displays harmony and subtlety in her creations. She was taught by the late

Anubha Jaswal

Usha Chadha

Shehla Hashmi

works of art, depicting delicate birds and flora in timeless palettes of pale azures and reds. From an art-critical standpoint, I found in Anju’s potteryworks a fine blend of modernity and classicism, with an evolved sense of pattern-making. Anju, who is a cake-designer by profession, pointed out to me that she uses a design-technique known as ‘Feathering’, to create rippling, repeated motifs on her pottery. Charming designs thus swirl ethereally around her pieces, like modern mandalas, making each work a unique objet d’art -- worthy of displaying on an easel. “Only the delicate tip of a feather is carefully applied to a fine wet top layer of clay, to create shimmering design-effects. This is a painstaking process to master, but visually very effective,” she elaborated. Lucknow-born Srirupa Sen’s pottery is marked by a joyful flair for multiple colours, and a gentle, fluid mastery of form. Her works caught my eye with their luminosity and grace. She explained her journey in clay to me thus: “The North Indian pottery tradition of Chinhat inspires me. My love for pottery goes back

Delhi thespian potter Deviprosad ever since the 1960s, as was Shehla Hashmi; and has remained devoted to the wheel. Usha-ji taught English Literature in Africa and also at IIT Delhi, but says that “it was pottery that greatly heightened my sense of discipline, patience, satisfaction and responsibility.” By contrast, Anubha Jaswal, a fledgling potter in her 30s, whose work is still at a nascent stage, told me that “for me, pottery has been an alternative to the urban grind: a form of finding true expression. I found an escape from the buzz of city life’s constant distractions in Andretta, Pondicherry, Bhopal, and at my Bangalore pottery classes.” Anubha’s whimsical miniature sculptures and totemic masks bear the promise of future aesthetic evolution.  The Pottery Bazar has been a soothing and pleasing experience, transcendentally free from Gurgaon’s nervous stress and pollution. The Ashram-alternative is now no longer a luxury but a necessity, for humans to retain calm and equipoise; and creating pottery in pastoral environs is a fine means to that end. Schoolchildren who were brought in to Anandgram to observe the works were enthralled to experience pottery’s charms amid the pastoral peace. Visitors from China and Europe, too, were delighted with the Indian Bazar’s zen-like atmosphere. Two senior Indian potters, Leena Batra and Usha Garodia, had recently visited China, in order to imbibe the best traditions of the world’s largest pottery-hub.  It is essential that this nature-friendly, peaceful and therapeutic art be taught to vast urban audiences, and further imbibed by Indian artlovers. In future bazars at Anandgram one would look for even greater experimentation in pottery-forms and techniques, and avant-garde  artistry involving more contemporary trends and unexpected ceramic and stoneware forms. u Artist, Writer, & Curator

14-20 December 2012

Join The Club

Gurgaon Theatre Group

It’s easy to be social in the City. Groups and Clubs abound – in fact a new one springs up every month. And the membership is truly diverse.

Everything and a Book Club too

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hen Sheetal first moved to the City, she had felt lonely, even in such a populated city. “Other than pubs and nightclubs, there were no places where I could meet new people. But now I can connect easily with likeminded people, thanks to various ‘social clubs’ that have sprung up in the City,” smiles Sheetal. She is a member of three such clubs. “Most of the people in the City have relocated from different cities and countries. Joining a social club/group helps them connect with people, make friends, and live a healthy social life,” says Sehba Imam, Founder, Lets Walk Gurgaon (LWG). The social clubs bring people from different walks of life together. Most of the groups have members from a diverse background. There is also a healthy mix of foreigners. A member of two social groups, Nirmal Bajaj says, “The best thing about these groups is that you can be a part of them for free.” It is not just the housewives; even working professionals, who often find themselves stressedout after a hectic week, are eagerly lapping up options – such as dancing, cycling, music, books, and theatre.

Let’s Walk Gurgaon (LWG)

A walk is all about exploration, believes Sehba, the Founder. The members discover some spectacular sites of the City while on walks. “Just a five kilometres walk takes you to the beautiful Aravali Hills. Covering a long distance of 10 kms becomes easy when you walk together, share stories, and make friends,” says Sehba. He talks of a 10-year-old girl, who gets up at 4 am on Saturdays, to join for a morning walk. Many adults give up Friday night parties to get up early the next day. The group guides people about the fitness levels required for walking long distances. “For those who have back or joint pain, we tie them up with those taking a short walk. We want to make walking enjoyable, not just a workout activity,” says Sehba. Apart from exploring the City, the members often go for movies and trips together.

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Gurgaon Drum Circle

“Initially we were apprehensive of meeting strangers, but LWG has now become a big family,” says a member.

Gurgaon Drum Circle (GDC)

Every fortnight the Biodiversity Park comes alive with the sound of drums, djembes, tambourines, congos, angclungs, and guitars. As the rhythm grows, a corner of the Park turns into an open-air opera house, reverberating with the most exotic sounds drawn from different parts of the world. “You can hear the perfect tuning of the West African hand-drum with the India dhol,” says Kapil Syal, Founder of Gurgaon Drum Circle (GDC). GDC is a group of music lovers who come together to play a wide assortment of musical instruments every second Sunday, for two hours. “The best thing about GDC is that it encourages people not only to participate and play with musical instruments, but also create sounds with everyday articles, like a water bottle. The idea is to play together. Many just clap, dance and enjoy themselves. “It’s something for which the entire family can come together, and bond with other people too,” says a 58-year-old member, who not only plays, but also teaches musical instruments to children in the Group. The youngest performer is an eight yearold girl, Ridhi, who plays the tabla. As Sukhad leads with the daf, Ridhi responds to every beat on her tabla. Besides the artists, music producers also attend the sessions. Many times they have selected some participants for

recording sessions. Talking about the concept, Kapil Syal says that “Drum Circles is an international phenomenon – so I thought of having one in Gurgaon.”

Get Alive

This Group is popular among travel buffs. It organises various leisure activities, such as heritage walks, art walks, wine tasting, rock climbing, photography courses, ballroom bootcamps, golf introductory lessons, and charity initiatives. The Founder of the group, Namita Anand, who is also a writer, says, “Five years ago,

Get Alive

Let’s Walk Gurgaon

there was little interest in a travel group. The City needed a forum where the adventure buffs could meet and chalk out plans. I took the initiative and formed this Group,” she says. Get Alive also provides a platform for charity. Speaking about the recent Shoebox project, along with some NGOs, Namita says, “It was a huge success. We collected over 1,300 shoeboxes. This shows people in the City are keen to contribute for social causes, but they don’t know where to go. We provide them an avenue to have fun and also help society, by participating in various charity events.”

Gurgaon Theatre Group

One day a City-based theatre enthusiast, Ashutosh Shelat, along with a few likeminded people, invited theatre lovers to his Facebook group. “As we run an NGO for the promotion of theatre, we have infrastructure in place for training amateur artists. We have an amphitheatre with a seating capacity of 300 people, at Palam Vihar. It is ideal for training, rehearsals, and performances. So we decided to offer the platform to

people who are busy with their jobs, but also want to try their hand at acting,” says Ashutosh. Started in 2011, “Gurgaon Theatre Group”, has over 117 members today. The Group believes that amateur artists should be given training and exposure in all the genres of acting. That is why, after every three or four months, an acclaimed director is invited to not only provide training to the members, but also to help them put up a show together. Famous artists such as Mrinal Dhar and Arjun Raina have been taking sessions. While the Group offers free membership, there is a fee for attending the workshops, which are held every Saturday and Sunday, for two hours. The Group is going to stage its first play— “Darling Sharling Hai Toba”— on December 21, at the amphitheatre. The same show will also be staged at Alliance Francaise, New Delhi. “It is a matter of pride that within just one year we have trained members to put up a ticketed show at a reputed platform like Alliance Francaise,” says Nancy, who is playing one of the lead roles in the play.

Bonding over books

Many times we come across books that we want to recommend to people; and books that we want to talk about. If you feel the same, “Everything and a Book Club too” is the place to be. Puja Sethi, a member of the Gurgaon Book Club, started this initiative after she realised that the Gurgaon Book Club had been inactive for a long period of time. “At ‘Everything and a Book Club too’ we don’t just read and discuss, but we also socialise and catch up with people over a cup of coffee. It helps in relieving the daily stress, and also in building the personality of a person,” says Pooja. For Kirti Prasad, a resident of Sector 57, meeting at the Book Club is better than visiting a library. “The timings are flexible, and the venue can be anything from a garden to a coffee shop in your neighbourhood. We meet, discuss, and have a great time. It is something I look forward to, after working hard over the week.” Keshav, founder of another book club, “The Gurgaon Friends Meetup”, seconds the view. “A book club is one place where people can be themselves.” Both the clubs have an incredibly diverse members’ profile – comprising doctors, artists, teachers, graduates, psychologists, retired professionals, writers, social workers, media professionals, lawyers, homemakers, bankers, and bureaucrats. “At a glance the members seem to have very little in common; but if you bring them into a room with cups of coffee and a book, you would hardly see the difference,” smiles Keshav.u


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The Power Of Yoga { Bhavana Sharma } “Yoga, an ancient but perfect science, deals with the evolution of humanity. This evolution includes all aspects of one’s being, from bodily health to self realization. Yoga means union - the union of body with consciousness, and consciousness with the soul. Yoga cultivates the ways of maintaining a balanced attitude in day to day life, and endows skill in the performance of one’s actions.” (B.K. S. Iyengar) Power yoga is the modern day yoga – more intense, challenging and rewarding. It includes a series of yoga postures which are performed alternatively, without much rest. Power yoga is based on the eight-

limbed yoga path called Ashtanga, (ashta means 8, and anga means limb). While Ashtanga yoga is practiced under a strict format, power yoga has been modified, to fit in with other schools of thought.

Understanding the Power

Some aerobic exercises have been introduced to Power yoga, to make it more appealing to the youth today. The basic asanas are the same as Ashtanga yoga – it is the timing that differs. Power yoga is a sweaty physical workout that is inclined to move every muscle in your body, so that you can acquire a balanced mind and body. Sometimes the asanas are accompanied by music, and therefore are a little more intense than the usual traditional asanas. There is strength

in the postures, the breathing techniques and the resultant heat generated within the body – all combining to make this form unique. For an average practitioner, Power yoga burns about 300 calories an hour – almost the same as a brisk walk, but with more muscular flexibility. Since it is more vigorous, and at times difficult, it should not be done by little children and older people.

Power Up

As with other yoga asanas, warm-ups are usually done before the session, to relax and stretch every muscle in the body. However, the moves can be painful for the beginner. Therefore, it is imperative to condition the mind and body before taking up this rigorous exercise. One

should not be suffering from any kind of physical or chronic ailments. This form of yoga should not be done in an air-conditioned environment, and all the rules of this exercise must be strictly followed or practised under the supervision of an instructor.


Power yoga bolsters flexibility, stamina, strength, and helps you release the distracting anxiety and overall tension. It also helps develop and maintain a good posture. Besides toning, it also removes toxins from the body – through perspiration during the session. Power yoga also serves as a great training activity for all athletes. u Tarot Card Reader, Author

Zodiac Powers Aries



For Arians, the Ashtanga style, specially the Vinyasa series of movements, is a great workout. The forward bends and headstands reverse the flow of blood all through the body, relieving the Arian tendency toward aches and pains.

For Virgos, the precise movements of the Legsup-theWall and supported headstand poses of yoga asanas are beneficial.

Steady yoga is for the Geminis. Being restless in nature, they need to work out on their entire body. Some asanas to loosen shoulders are helpful, and these help them sleep better too.


For Taureans, the classic poses – like the Snake pose (or Bhujangasana), work well as they lengthen and stretch the spine. This pose enhances the blood flow, and benefits the chest and throat areas.


For Pisceans, the classic Ashtanga power yoga gives them peace of mind and bodily strength. Along with this, the Sun Salutation, that incorporates graceful moves—like the Half Moon and Dancer’s pose—appeals to their emotional nature, and keeps them balanced.


For Cancerians, the balancing poses—such as Dancer’s Pose or the Tree—benefit in bringing emotional stability in their lives. The Boat pose helps in strengthening their bodies.


Being an adventurous sign, Power yoga is ideal for Sagittarians. Their thighs and legs need more strength – so performing the seated Pigeon or Lotus pose regularly, helps a great deal.


The best exercise for Aquarians is the Bending pose—like the Seated Forward Bend—which calms their brain, and rejuvenates their legs and ankles (their weaker areas).


Scorpions need to take extra care of the sacral chakra, by performing the Baby (holding feet while lying on the back) pose. This relaxes the sacral and root chakras – bringing tranquility to their inner being.


The Leo body is best suited for the Sun Salutation pose and the Fish pose. These poses open the heart chakra – which is the potential problem area for Leos.


Standing poses for Librans, like the classic Tree or the Eagle—an odd-looking pretzel twist of arms and legs, that brings both strength and flexibility—are good.


For all Capricornians, the best asanas are the Cat or Cow, and the Backward-Bending Camel. Being workaholics, pure relaxation poses—like Legs-up-theWall and the Corpse Pose— helps them get rid of their tensions.

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he Gurgaon Manesar Urban Complex 2031 envisages a mega expansion of Gurgaon based on the premise that the population and economy of the City will continue to grow at a scorching pace. However, what if the economy does not grow as planned? The Master Plan has no answer. Questions are already being raised on the City’s growth prospects, as the IT and IT-Enabled Services, that contribute a lot to Gurgaon’s economy are slowing down across the globe. New job creation has almost come to a standstill, expansions are unheard of, and not many new companies have set up shop in Gurgaon recently, aver industry watchers. The BPO and the outsourcing sector have also been severely hit by the rising real estate prices, and are thus moving out to Tier II and III cities. To top it all is the labour unrest in Maruti, and the decisions by many auto majors and their ancillaries to expand outside Gurgaon. The one big hope for the Millennium City, in this fairly dismal scenario, point out industry watchers, is the manufacturing sector – particularly in the industrial belt coming up in and around Manesar, and along the Kundli Manesar Palwal (KMP) Expressway. IMT, Manesar is spread over 3,500 acres, and comprises nearly 2,200 industrial plots. It is jobs that will fuel the growth, and they can best come through industrialisation. The government needs to support the industry, says Amina Sherwani, Founder and life member of the Manesar Industrial Welfare Association (MIWA). But unfortunately the support and help from government, represented by HSIIDC, is not coming, she alleges. On November 30, the Association held a bandh, to protest the poor infrastructure and facilities in the industrial township, as also financial enhancements, demanded from the industrialists. The issue of enhancement pertains to the plots located in Phase 1, comprising 1746 acres. Sources however say that, alarmed by this demand of the HSIIDC, even majors like Maruti have approached the Supreme Court, and requested that they may be impleaded as a party in the case. Unit owners say that labour, power, transport and water are the backbone of an industrial area, and all these are in poor supply in the Industrial township of Manesar – that is being showcased as the leading destination for business in the State. Power supply is 8 to 10 hours daily; water has to be bought from external sources; and internal public transport is nonexistent. The villages around which this township have come up have been marginalised into concrete slums where living conditions are very bad, admits Sherwani. “The children are sexually abused, education is non-existent, and women are always scared of the miscreants.

Where Are The Future Jobs? We have the Master Plan 2031 but we do not seem to have the wherewithal. IT has been globally hit, BPO finds the City too costly, Auto wants to move out, no one new is coming. Manesar, the Industrial Model Township, is more a real estate play now. Meanwhile, HSIIDC and the State are fiddling.


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This is not an ideal situation for industry to work, and for labour to survive,” she says. Manoj Tyagi, President of IMT Manesar Industries Association (MIA), says that big announcements, like setting up of a proposed Convention Centre, industrial parks along the KMP Expressway, and the freight corridor, will take a long time to come – if they ever do.“Right now commuting between Delhi, Gurgaon and Manesar is in itself a major project that torments the travellers daily – with traffic jams, waterlogging, and toll plazas being a major headache,” says Tyagi. Even finding workforce for the existing units is difficult, he says. Both MIWA and MIA allege that HSIIDC has amassed a large amount of money by auctioning more land than is allowed as per norms. They say the agency has violated the 55 per cent norm of the Haryana Development and Regulation of Urban Areas Act, 1975. As per the rules, developers can use only 55 per cent land of the land for developing utilities like roads, drainage, parks, green belts, among others; and is further extendable, up to 10 per cent, if permission comes from the TCP. Colonel A.K Chawla says that the main reason behind the failing township is that it has become too big and complicated, and the expertise and resources needed to run it are not available. Another important reason, he says, is that India has mainly been a trading country, with no real emphasis on manufacturing. “We do not have a manufacturing culture. It is almost a mission to be an industrialist here,” he says. A number of unit owners also support his contention. They allege that 70 per cent of the industrial plots in Manesar, particularly those between 450 metres to 1000 metres, are actually owned by property dealers, bureaucrats, politicians and their henchmen! S.K Jain, an industrialist since 1967, rues the day when he decided to set shop in Manesar. “Only 500 to 600 units are operational in this industrial area that has 2,200 plots. The majority of the plots are empty because they are held by speculators,” says

Jain. HSIIDC, instead of helping the industry, is busy forming and implementing policies that are suicidal for business. The announcements made regularly by the government are just facades to boost the price of real estate, and nothing else, say observers. “This is a government of property dealers, and for property dealers,” Sherwani asserts. “Industrial plots have become a trading commodity, with virtually no output. It is due to such situations that manufacturing in India is losing its edge against the Chinese,” says Jain,

Amina Sherwani Jagdish Kukreja

Sanjay Bansal

Rajesh Gupta

Vikash Gupta

A.K. Chawla

adding that foreign investments will not cure the rot. The latest pollution norms approved by the Haryana government have further acted as a red herring. An industrialist says that no thought has been given to what is required by the industry, as this is a bureaucracy-driven exercise. “In Manesar, units even with a green tag are forced to pay fees, and follow norms from which they are exempt,” says an owner. Pointing to the lack of support from the government agency, Jain says that HSIIDC had promised that if their units came into production within the appointed time, they would be given 25 per cent concession in the cost of the plot. But this did not happen in the majority of cases, as red tape ensured that

benefits were not given to them, he alleges. Bureaucratic legalese and inspector raj is what further pains the industry. Amina Sherwani says that small and medium enterprises care for the labour and their welfare, as they are the backbone of industry. “We want to do good, but the labour department, pollution, EPF, ESI and others smother the good intention with red tape. Their only goal is to make more money by hard pressing the unit owners,” she alleges. In such a scenario it is worthless to hope that the industry in Manesar and the adjoining areas will be able to become the engine of growth for Gurgaon, opines Rajesh Gupta, an industrialist. “HSIIDC has done nothing for the accommodation of labourers; the plots meant for them were sold out to the builders. There are no conveniences for thousands of men and women working in the belt. Canteen facilities are non-existent,” says Gupta. All hope is however not lost, as Sherwani says that if the government joins hands with them, then Manesar could still come good. “Almost 2.5 lakh jobs are possible if HSIIDC gets its policies and execution right,” she adds. However, currently finding themselves in a mess due to the lack of facilities and infrastructure, a number of unit owners are planning to shift from Manesar. A unit owner, preferring anonymity, says that he is building a factory in adjoining Rajasthan, despite the fact that plots are available in Manesar at low rentals. “I do not want to stay here because the growth prospects are dismal,” he says. Gupta is also setting up his next factory in Himachal. The conditions in Manesar are such that finding labour is becoming tougher by the day. The rentals for labour housing are rising, the traffic on the Gurgaon Delhi Expressway makes it difficult for the executives to commute, and during the rainy season it is almost a nightmare, he says. Jagdish Kukreja, General Secretary of MIWA, says that most of the industrialists have taken loans, and they have been hit hard by the HSIIDC imposed enhancements. Both

MIWA and IMT Association, led by Tyagi, have decided to approach the court to get justice – although separately. Vikash Gupta, an industrialist based in Manesar, says that there is no hope for small players if the enhancements are not revised. The government should realise that the economy is in recession, business is tough to get, and competition is overwhelming. In such a scenario they need to support us. Kamal Sehgal, a leather exporter, says that apart from poor infrastructure, the security and safety of both labour and executives is a major headache for the industry. “The day salary is distributed there are incidents of snatching and hold ups. We had come here thinking that there would be peace of mind, but that hope has been shattered,” he says, while participating in the rally organised to protest against the government. Sanjay Bansal, an exporter, says that owing to labour issues, rising cost, and now enhancement, the viability of Manesar as an industrial destination is under threat. “Survival is becoming difficult,” he says. The immediate demand of the industry is to set up a township for the labour, with good facilities for education and entertainment; ensure regular power; set up an industrial hardware market; arrange training and development programmes for the executives; and provide easier finance to run their business. Jain alleges that the Chief Minister seems to be against the small and medium industry. “The government wants only large multinationals to rule in Haryana, and all the Plans are made accordingly,” he adds. It is obvious that rising costs, shortage of labour, and poor business environment is throttling business in Manesar. Industry alleges that appointments in Manesar are considered to be a cream posting, as there are huge ‘incentives’. “Nothing moves here without the permission of HSIIDC. No files can be pushed, no permissions obtained. To get a power connection the going rate is Rs. 2,000 per KW, and this is after one has fulfilled all norms,” alleges a unit owner. Looking at the present scenario and the past record of the government, it is unlikely that infrastructure projects in Gurgaon will be delivered soon. As such it would be unrealistic to expect that the KMP Expressway, the freight corridor and the rail projects are going to help the industry or the economy of the City in the near future. To overcome the deficiencies, a facilitating environment is needed, says Chawla, who wants the government to stop interference and let industrialists run the township. HSIIDC is only a developer, and should give up maintenance to the unit owners. “We have the will and ability to not only run our industries but take on the Chinese juggernaut, create jobs and grow the economy. Support us and see the results,” he tells the government. But is the Chief Minister listening? u


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Baby Concerts { Simon Leissler / Berlin / DPA }


lassical music has mounted an offensive to attract a new demographic: babies. More orchestras are offering concerts for newborns. One example is the Wuerttemberg Chamber Orchestra in Heilbronn, Germany. It recently performed Johann Melchior Molter’s Symphony Number 24 in D-major, at a special concert for little ones. Andrea Vallon was there with her 6-month-old daughter Eva. “She likes music very much,” said Vallon. “When I sing to her at home she always laughs and listens intently.” Although Vallon’s family has no special tie to classical music, she and Eva attended the concert—the third one the chamber orchestra has done for infants—because “to experience an orchestra live is special for a baby.” Inside the concert hall the babies crawl or lie on red and blue mats. When the 19 musi-

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ocialism and capitalism were the most-searched words in the MerriamWebster’s online dictionary, as the 2012 US presidential elections influenced people’s interests. Users searched for the definitions of both words, especially around the Democratic and Republican conventions, presidential debates and times of heavy media coverage about healthcare, the US’s leading dictionary publisher revealed. “It’s fascinating to see which language from a campaign or debate speech resonates with our users,” said John M Morse,


cians strike the first note, the little heads turn all at once toward the violins, cellos, violas and double basses. Their eyes widen, and they listen devoutly. “The whole thing arose out of two ideas,” said Director Christoph Becher. “On the one hand we know that babies listen well to music, and can take it in. On the other hand, it is an offer to the young par-

Words of The Year President and Publisher at Merriam-Webster. “With socialism and capitalism, it’s clear that many people turned to the dictionary to help make sense of the commentary that often surrounds these words.” The Republicans frequently attacked Obama for what they claimed were socialist policies – such as his healthcare law and calls for the expiration of tax cuts for the wealthy. Obama criticized

ents too, who often can’t go to events because their babies are too young to attend. The young listeners only occasionally need to be kept from crawling under the chairs of the musicians, and touching the instruments. Little Eva falls asleep after the first half; her mother thinks she enjoyed it anyway. “I thought it was super, and we definitely will come to the next concert,” she said. u Romney for his ‘capitalist’ business practices, and for remarks he made about Americans’ dependence on the government. Peter Sokolowski, Editor-atlarge, said that while both expressions were often searched throughout the year, there was a huge spike for socialism on Election Day. “Lookups of one word often led to lookups of the other,” he said. Other words that made the Top 10 list in 2012 include: touche, democracy, schadenfreude and malarkey – an expression US Vice President Joe Biden used during a debate with then-vice presidential candidate Paul Ryan. u

light beer generally goes well with light meat, and dark beer goes with dark meat,” says Glaab. Holding a glass of wheat beer up to the light, he remarks on its “strong, goldyellow colour, with a fine yeasty opaqueness,” saying it goes well with the main course he’s ordered - fillet of trout over a wheat beer-cardamom foam. Glaab reaches for his beer and takes a sip. Using a vocabulary similar to a wine sommelier’s, he describes the beer’s “fruity aromas of banana and ripe apricot, intermingled with light tones of clove – very fizzy and refreshing”. He then talks about its “soft and round body, discreet bitter notes at the finish, soft and harmonically balanced, full of character.” Glaab studied to become a beer sommelier at the Doemens Academy in Munich, which has offered the course since 2004. People from all over the world—about 90 per cent of them men—sign up for the twoweek course, which costs 3,000 euros (3,885 dollars). The subjects covered include

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obert Glaab recommends drinking a pilsner—a beer that goes surprisingly well with fruittopped shortcake and a dollop of cream—before a meal. From Glaab’s perspective beer— known for its content of barley, hops, water and yeast—is more than something to be served at a bar. The bitter taste of a pilsner, for example, “stimulates the stomach juices” before a meal, says Glaab, a beer sommelier and the Chief Executive of his family’s private brewery. Four years ago the 47-year-old took a course to become a beer sommelier (a word that is actually better known in the wine world, but it’s also used to describe people who know a lot about beer). At special restaurant events he seeks out the beer that matches best with various foods, and talks about the beer varieties and the nuances of their taste. The chefs in the restaurant attached to the Glaab brewery, cook with beer. “A

Social Media’s Moment Of Truth? { Andy Goldberg / San Francisco / DPA }

A Beer Sommelier { Sabine Maurer / Berlin / DPA }

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Robert Glaab, beer sommelier, with one of the brewing vats at his family’s brewery.

finding the right beer to go with various foods, beer and health, beer and cheese, and even beer and chocolate. Glaab has little inhibition when it comes to pairing beer unconventionally. Strawberry shortcake with cream, eaten with a pilsner, is a combination Glaab identified with as a student. u

t the end of last year the biggest question that social media mavens were debating was – when would Facebook go public, and for how much? It didn’t take long for them to get their answer. In February the social networking giant filed papers to go public—at a valuation of 106 billion dollars. The hoopla was reminiscent of the time, in 2000, when media giant Time Warner agreed to a merger with the darling of the internet, AOL, in a “deal of the century” – worth a jaw-dropping 182 billion dollars. The ink on that was hardly dry when the dotcom bubble burst, turning the deal into one of the worst corporate fiascos on record. “Fiasco” was also the word used by Wall Street Journal to describe the fate of Facebook’s record share launch on May 18, when only the failure of the trading system and the intervention of underwriters stopped the share price falling below its launch level. By the end of May the stock had lost a quarter of its value, sinking to a low of 17.55 dollars in September. The King of Social Media—with over 1 billion active members—seemed to have faced its moment of truth, and been found severely wanting. Facebook was a waning fad that couldn’t possibly justify its valuation, naysayers said. But, hopefully, long-term investors didn’t dump their stock at that juncture. Facebook has come roaring back, with a stronger advertising platform and new money-spinning ventures – such as a Gifts service, which allows members to buy presents for each other. Fears that users were rebelling against the ubiquity and incessant stream of social media also seem unfounded. While Facebook may not be piling on the users at the same rates it did when it was just a snappy start-up, other sites—such as Twitter, Google+ and Pinterest—are still piling on the users. Facebook itself is still enormously popular with the average US internet user, who spent 8 hours a month on the site in September, according to Nielsen. The influence of such sites is unparalleled, say experts.   “Collectively, we’re creating the most valuable source of information in human history,” said Pat Kinsel, Chief Executive of Spindle, which mines social media for information that’s relevant to specific users. “Every day, as 300 million photos are uploaded to Facebook, and 400 million tweets are shared – every person, place, event, topic, and organization is being documented and discussed.” If social media proved its importance as a communications tool in the Arab Spring, the huge attention it garnered during the recent conflict in Gaza reinforced how dramatically the flow of information has changed, says social media expert Dale Peskin.       The Gaza conflict “could be seen as the first Twitter war, as the combatants used the microblogging platform to disseminate their propaganda directly and in real time, to millions of people around the world,” Peskin noted. “Concurrently, civilians on both sides used Twitter to tell the world what was happening - often doing so much faster than any journalist could.” This use of social media is no flash in the pan. The world first learned of the military operation that killed Osama Bin Laden when a local Pakistani tweeted about the strange helicopters landing in his neighbourhood.     “More is coming,” Peskin said in a blog posting on his site, “Technologies applied throughout the world will accelerate the democratization of media, empowering the rest of the planet. Expect more chaos as we embrace new ways to communicate.” u

Car Damage Upsets Women More { Saarbruecken / Berlin / DPA }


en are notorious for bursts of road rage. And yet, when it comes to dented wings and paintwork scratches, women are more likely to get worked up, a survey carried out in Germany reveals. Around one in five men (19 per cent) canvassed by the Forsa Institute, said they shrugged off minor bodywork damage. Only one in 10 (8 per cent) confessed to being vexed by scratches and dents. Most women (85 per cent),

however, said cosmetic car damage annoyed them in some way, with 11 confessing to feelings of serious anger when damage occurs. Forsa conducted the survey among 1,011 drivers. Fortunately age mellows the attitude of both sexes. Those aged over 50 stay calmer when their car suffers a door ding or scratch. Only one in four (26 per cent) were unduly perturbed. Younger motorists (1829 years) turned out to be the most sensitive – with 50 per cent admitting that even minor car damage prompted anger. u

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{ Patrizia Schlosser / Tiberias, Israel/ DPA }


fter 90 minutes on a creaking, squeaking mountain bike, the first doubts start to surface. Would it have been better to have taken the bus for a tour of the holy sites, on the shores of Lake Galilee? Now it’s a case of sweat pouring off the body. This bike tour has more of the physical flavour of a pilgrimage. The Sea of Galilee is a must for any tourist on a pilgrimage to the Holy Land. In the New Testament, Jesus is said to have held his Sermon on the Mount close to its shores, and the apostle Peter was a fisherman here. However, only a tiny minority of visitors choose to navigate around the lakeshore on a bicycle.

The pilgrimage trail starts right behind Tiberias (its modern Israeli name is Kinneret), the largest town on the lake. Magdala, only a few kilometres further on, is said to be the place where Mary Magdalene was born. At Ginosar kibbutz lie the remains of a fishing boat, which is said to date back to pre-Christian times. Marketed as a “Jesus boat,” it naturally attracts pilgrims in droves. “The whole spectacle is just part of the game,” said Eduardo. This Israeli, with Argentinian roots, is showing a group of pilgrims from Portugal around the Church of the Primacy of St. Peter in Tabgha, on the north-western shore. He too has travelled around the lake by bike. “The eastern bank is not quite so hilly,” he says. Located on a small hill overlooking

Cyclists will enjoy a refreshing swim among the palms at Tiberias, after biking around Lake Galilee. This swimming spot is popular with Israelis.

Ban On “Old Bangers” { Paris / DPA }


he days of loveable Citroen 2CVs and boxy Renault 4TLs—with their idiosyncratic dashboard gear change—could be numbered, if Paris Mayor Bertrand Delanoe has his way. An action plan to improve the air quality in the French capital would banish all “old banger” cars, aged over 17 years, from the city centre and adjacent suburbs. The new legislation

Lake Galilee Tour By Bike

An excavated archaeological site, on the outskirts of Tiberias, overlooking Lake Galilee.

Lake Galilee, and two lakeside churches near Tabgha, is the Mount of Beatitudes. This is where Jesus is said to have spoken the most famous sermon in history. Those who can tackle the switchback turns up to the summit are rewarded with a panorama of the lake. The Sea of Galilee tour continues in a clockwise direction. The apostles Peter and Andrew were said to have lived in the former fishing settlement of Capernaum. At Beitseida, on the eastern shore of the lake, is the place where, according to the New Testament, Jesus performed his famous loaves-and-fish miracle (feeding 5,000 people with five loaves of bread and two fish). The area used to be hard for pilgrims to reach, and so in the 3rd century AD the miracle location was summarily switched to the more user-friendly location of Tabgha,

could come into effect from September 2014 at the latest. The package of measures also includes reducing the prescribed speed limit on Paris’ cross-city motorways – from 80 to 70 kilometres an hour. Critics have attacked this aspect, saying that frequent traffic snarl-ups already prevent vehicles from travelling briskly on such highways. Delanoe also suggested a batch of social measures to help poorer motorists update their vehicles. These include a car scrapping bonus. The measures require approval at the ministerial level before they can be implemented. Observers note that older cars currently account for only a small proportion of road traffic in Paris. u

Culinary Misfits

{ Caroline Bock / Berlin / DPA }


he two Berlin designers have a love for crooked things. But Lea Brumsack, 30, and Tanja Krakowski, 37, have a clean conscience – they work with fruits and vegetables. The cooked food, which is not good enough for stores, is usually sorted out and fed to animals, or ploughed under. However, carrots with three legs should taste just the same as “normal” carrots. The same goes for ‘snake-like’ cucumbers or an extra-large beetroot. The message of

on the western shore. Once back in the saddle the view extends to the foothills of the Golan Heights. Behind these mountains lies Syria. Lizards dart into the undergrowth along the way, in order to avoid being run over by bicycle tyres, while now and again a truck or car rumbles down the road to one of the beaches. Cyclists have the hard shoulder more or less to themselves. After a journey lasting five hours it’s time for the home stretch towards Tiberias. On the southern shore, at Deganyia, close to Israel’s very first kibbutz, is Yardenit. This is where the Jordan River flows into the lake, and is the spot where Jesus almost certainly was not baptized, research shows. Many pilgrims do not seem to care - around a million visitors come to the site every year. u

the two designers from Culinary Misfits is simple: “Eat the whole harvest.” It makes no sense to them why lopsided vegetables rarely make it to store shelves.  Tons of fruits and vegetables do not find their way to grocery stores. Krakowski says 30 to 40 per cent goes waste. The issue is on the plate of society, as awareness about food wastage increases at a time of economic crisis. There are even smartphone apps to help diminish the heaps of food waste – much of which is still edible. ‘Taste the Waste’ is a book focusing on food activism, and includes a chapter about the Culinary Misfits. Unlike the ecological movement of the 1980s, the aesthetic component is part of the Culinary Misfits’ approach. And there are human parallels. “Nobody is perfect on the outside, or the inside,” say the duo. “And we play to that.” Brumsack would have no problem if crooked and lopsided vegetables become normal in shops within 10 years. “Then we would have reached our goal.” u

Mars Rover For 2020 { Anne Walters /Washington / DPA }


ASA plans to send a new Rover to Mars in 2020, building on the success of the Curiosity Rover – that has been exploring the Red Planet since August, the US space agency. The announcement is part of a broader programme of Mars exploration outlined by NASA, that includes the existing rovers—Curiosity and Opportunity— and participation in planned European Space Agency missions. It plans to send an orbiter next year, to study the planet’s atmosphere, and another orbiter in 2016, to examine Mars’ interior. The new, yet-to-be named Rover, would be built re-using the design of Curiosity, to control costs, NASA Associate Administrator John Grunsfeld said, at the annual meeting of the American Geophysical Union in San Francisco. Grunsfeld estimated that the cost of the mission could be held to about 1.5 billion dollars, about 1 billion dollars less than the slated two-year Curiosity mission, which suffered delays and cost overruns. Decisions about the scientific instruments for the new Rover were yet to be made, said Grunsfeld, a former NASA astronaut. The priorities of the mission were yet to be finalised, but would advance plans of eventually sending humans to the planet –to as soon as the 2030s. u


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