Four States Living Magazine December 2020

ON THE COVER - DECEMBER 2020

Although 2020 has been a memorable year for everyone, Kendal and Ty Thompson acknowledge that all of their challenges this year have concluded with the most happiness they have ever experienced. They are so thankful for the hope that their newborn twins have given them, and they look forward to celebrating this magical holiday season with their two greatest blessings, Sutton and Owen.

See “A Double Dose of Pure Joy” on page 12. Photo by KALI RUSHING

FEATURE STORIES

The Gift of Helping Others

INSIDE

After having heart surgery in February, 4-yearold Harper Grace Woodell looks forward to her birthday, Christmas, and the new year

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The Way I See It...

PUBLISHER’S LETTER

Robin Rogers, Ed.D.

Trying to find things to celebrate in 2020 has been like searching for a can of Lysol in a grocery store. In spite of the odds, we’ve all kept looking.

I wonder what happens when life returns to normal. Will there be a Roaring Twenties? Or a baby boom in 2021? I wonder if there will be more marriages or more divorces? Will education ever return to a pre-2020 format? And, what about our economy?

What will we learn from a year that has changed the way people work, communicate, socialize, and live?

This year has been a discovery period for me unlike any other year. I have found that touch is the feeling that I long for most. I miss embraces from friends. The strange “let me give you an air hug or an elbow bump” interactions always jolt me into disappointment.

I’m a hugger. Blowing kisses from car windows just isn’t working for me anymore.

I have stopped watching reality television this year, so that’s a good thing. Yes, I was hooked on some pretty ridiculous shows; during a year when people were working so hard to keep businesses afloat and food on their tables, the drama of people who have no talents outside of their physical appearances became exhausting. The news is another thing I’ve purged. For years, I recorded “Good Morning America” and would watch it at lunch or even after work in the evenings. The stories are the same, even after months of not watching. In journalism, students are taught that “if it bleeds, it leads.” Just as traffic slows to a crawl when people pass by an accident and rubbernecking ensues, people are curious animals. But, the fatigue that has come from hearing the same old hemorrhaging story over and over again begs the question. When can we get some good news?

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I don’t function well with too much negativity. Finding a reason to celebrate every day that we are breathing is paramount to my happiness. In the last year, I’ve found joy in the most simple things. Baths. Warm cookies. Something came over me this summer, and I decided to become a dog owner, for the very first time in my life. Dogs don’t complain, and they are always happy to hang out and see their owners come home. I needed a little excitement in life, and a Goldendoodle seemed to fit my lifestyle. I’m all about hypoallergenic and zero shed. I searched high and low for a puppy that I could raise and train and clean up after. After months of looking, this family in Simms had a litter, and after a visit, I knew I had found my pride and joy. Willie Nelson was born in August, and coming into December, he’s already nearing 50 pounds. He knows that I’m his mom, and if he sits, I’ll always give him a treat. He will chase anything I throw, but he doesn’t always bring it back. After I shut his paw in the door (on accident), he knows to go outside and be fearful of the door when I say, “Outside, Willie!” The laughter is real and plentiful if I actually sit on the floor with him; he wrestles and climbs on top of me, and licks faces and feet with wild abandon. His play reminds me of how I would tickle my kids when they were little. “Stop! Stop! Stop!” really meant “This is so much fun. I’m laughing so hard that I may just pee in my pants!”

If anyone had told me I could love a dog as much as I do, I would have told them there was no way possible. But I do, and for Willie Nelson (our new dog), I’m thankful.

I’m also thankful for family and friends who have taken on a horrific year with strength and grace and are coming out the other side better than they imagined. Yes, I know a great number of people who have lived through

PUBLISHER

Dr. Robin Rogers

EDITOR

Suzy Turner

GRAPHIC DESIGNER

Kim McMurry

SALES REPRESENTATIVE

Lori Rochelle

PHOTOGRAPHERS

Kristen Griffin

King Lawrence

Dr. Robin Rogers

Kali Rushing

FEATURED COLUMNISTS

Ali Deal

Nichole Holze

Donnie Spriggs

CONTRIBUTING WRITERS

Lindsey McMillan

Vicki Melde

Ellen Orr

Jileen Platt

Lisa Porterfield Thompson

Amber Smith Zaliski

COVID-19 and are doing okay. Some have fared better than others, but all are hopeful for better times ahead.

More than anything else, December is the close out month for a year that I would like to bury forever. You stink, 2020!

If I have learned anything this year, it’s that without family, you have nothing. When, at the end of this life, you can look around at the people you have loved who have loved you in return and see good relationships, you will know that you have succeeded. I don’t think we ever remember stuff as important. People are our hope. And I’m hopeful for our future.

Things will get better and better. They have to. For now, enjoy your people. Love them. Hold them tight. And cherish the reasons we celebrate the Christmas season. The memories we create are the result of the choices we make.

My friend Kendal got the best surprise in 2020: twins! On an average day, Kendal is gorgeous and witty and talented (she’s a teacher and a professional photographer), but as an expectant mother, her beauty was breathtaking. All belly, the twins made their debut at the end of August, and the fun has been nonstop for the Thompson family since.

This sick and twisted year will be in the rearview mirror very shortly. We have one month to show kindness and gratitude and love that oh so many people need. Choose love, and hold your loved ones extra close this month. We are in the home stretch, and it feels like the bases are loaded. Let’s go out with a bang!

Merry Christmas, friends. I’m thankful for you all! Hoping for a great next year, and as always, thanks for reading FSLM

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SCENE ABOUT TOWN

OPERATION JERUSALEM LUNCHEON HONORS LOCAL PRINCIPALS

First Baptist Church Texarkana hosted principals from the Texarkana area’s 21 elementary schools during a luncheon on October 26 at the Texarkana Convention Center. In attendance also were superintendents of the various school districts. Purpose of the luncheon was to present checks for $3,000 to each of the principals for their school to use at their discretion with no strings attached.

This is the third consecutive year FBC has shared funds with the schools. Total gifts over the three years has been $187,000. The gifts are funded through Operation Jerusalem, a mission to reach out into the local community with the love of Christ through significant gifts to help local nonprofits and groups in practical ways. In the past year, other beneficiaries have been the Boys and Girls Club, CASA, Shop with a Cop and Fireman on both sides of State Line, Harvest Texarkana, Domestic Violence Prevention, and many other avenues of ministry.

Kristi Brown, Amy Norwood, Matt Fry and Ronnie Thompson

Debbie Cooper and Brandon Dennard

Regan Summers and Natalie Reeves

Pastor Larry Sims and Emily Sarine

(front row) Lakesha Taylor; (back row) Anne Slade, Brandy Debenport and Elodia Witterstatter

Angie Griffin, Mindy Gennings and Patti O’Bannon

Bryan McDonald, Tracey Boyles, Dr. Becky Kesler and Dr. Jeff Schreve

Brian Mitchel, Samantha Coleman and Gwen Adams

ALTHOUGH 2020 HAS BEEN FULL OF CHALLENGES, KENDAL AND TY THOMPSON ARE THANKFUL FOR THE HOPE THAT THEIR NEWBORN TWINS, SUTTON AND OWEN, BRING THEM

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A DOUBLE DOSE OF PURE

by JILEEN PLATT

The year 2020 has been littered with a strange virus, too many hurricanes, economic upheaval, civil unrest, a divisive election, more masks than on Halloween, and peculiar terms like “social distancing,” “flatten the curve,” “essential employee,” and “shelter-in-place.”

Amidst all the unknown, unforeseen, and unfavorable occurrences that 2020 may have brought, Ty and Kendal Thompson had two wonderful things happen that made this year very sweet. The most important words for them were “Sutton” and “Owen,” and the best event occurred on August 28 when their twin daughter and son were born.

“We found out in January that we were pregnant,” states Kendal, “but it was in February that we discovered we were having twins … I really thought the sonographer was lying!” Ty, who was at work when Kendal shared the news, says, “I almost passed out. At first, I was nervous knowing it would be double the work … but I was more excited than anything. Knowing … they’d always have each other to play with and to grow up with.” The couple has no known twins in their family, so it was a surprise for both them and their extended families.

In March, due to COVID-19, schools across the nation closed temporarily and then permanently for the remaining school year. Theron Jones Elementary School, where Kendal worked for five years as a second grade teacher, was no exception. “When we went on Spring Break, I had no idea I would literally not see [my students] again,” explains Kendal. “Once I realized I would only be coming back to clean my room out, it was pure heartbreak.”

Being pregnant and sheltering-in-place had its benefits for Kendal. “I could rest a lot.” She also took advantage of grocery delivery, which made things safer for her and easier since Ty continued to work at ARTEX Truck Centers. “Ty was pretty strict during the quarantine … we didn’t know how COVID could affect me during pregnancy, so we were very cautious with everything,” states Kendal. “I was super nervous knowing Kendal was high risk,” explains Ty. In addition to Kendal teaching school, she has worked as a photographer for the past 12 years. “I was in journalism at Pleasant Grove … I couldn’t write, but I could take pictures,” states Kendal. “I started with $20 senior shoots for my friends and haven’t stopped since.” While being pregnant and quarantined, Kendal posted photos of herself on Instagram. “Every Friday, I took pictures to show my baby bump.” She included updates on food cravings, “cankles,” and

The first photo of the Thompsons as a family is one of their favorite shots, even though it was taken with a cell phone. The amazing nurses held the babies for them and grabbed Ty’s phone to snap some pictures.

<<< Newborn photos of Owen and Sutton were taken when the babies were three weeks old. Kendal acknowledges that photographer Kali Rushing has “the patience of a saint, because she truly took her time and made sure every shot was perfect.” (Photo by Kali Rushing)

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Since she was obsessed with ALL the junk food at 30 weeks pregnant, Kendal decided to document the obsession by rolling around in the said junk food and taking photos.

Ty requested that Kendal shoot this picture of the twins during the first game of the Stanley Cup Playoffs. As a couple, they love the Dallas Stars and have gone to games since they first started dating. Ty proposed to her in Dallas, and they took engagement pics there. This jersey is the one he bought Kendal the night they got engaged. They even went to a Stars game that night!

concerns about growing two humans at the same time on her “Friday Bump Date” posts.

Except for Kendal’s and Ty’s moms (who helped out immensely before and after the babies came), Kendal was only around other people when she cautiously continued to grow her photography business. “I was masked up and kept major distance from my sweet clients,” explains Kendal. Life marches on, even during a pandemic, and Kendal was hired to shoot bridal pictures, weddings, pregnancy photos, and various other opportunities. “It was so much fun being pregnant and working! I got to talk about the twins the entire time,” exclaims Kendal. “I had lots of very sweet, positive comments … I worked up until a few days before the babies were born.”

Kendal saw Dr. Kenneth West for regular obstetrics visits but due to concerns for a multiple pregnancy, she also had appointments remotely with the UAMS obstetrics department at the local AHEC facility. She received Level II ultrasounds while video conferencing with medical staff in Little Rock. “There is always a concern for discordance in the sizes of twins. [The medical staff] measured and monitored the babies weights, sizes of organs, and continued growth,” explains Kendal. “Our baby girl kept measuring smaller … it was a cause for concern.”

Ty was not allowed in most visits with Kendal due to COVID restrictions. “Not being able to go to the appointments … was probably the worst part,” states Ty. “I had to miss a lot of great moments that most dads get to experience.”

The couple hoped to reach 36 weeks, which is considered full-term for twins, before Kendal delivered. At 34 weeks, at the beginning of August, UAMS requested that Kendal be seen in person. The size of their baby daughter continued to be a concern for medical staff there. “She was measuring in the 3rd percentile for growth,” Kendal remembers.

The night before Kendal was scheduled to deliver, Dr. West called and felt strongly that a C-section would be safest, considering that their daughter was measuring smaller and would be born first. “He didn’t want undue stress on

On a hot but perfect day while Kendal was 34 weeks pregnant, she photographed the wedding of Brooke and Justin Fitts. The day before the wedding, Kendal had her first UAMS appointment in Little Rock, so she was a little worried that they might keep her, and she wouldn’t be able to shoot the wedding. However, it all worked out, and they didn’t have to resort to their backup plan. (Photo by Kali Rushing)

her … I trusted Dr. West, and I knew he knew what was best for my babies,” states Kendal.

At 8:22 a.m. on August 28, a 5-pound, 4-ounce baby girl (Charlie Sutton) was born to Kendal and Ty. One minute later, her brother (Kenneth Owen), who weighed 4-pounds, 11-ounces, was born. Kendal was so surprised that Sutton was the bigger baby that she was sure the doctor and nurses were joking. “Then my worry immediately went to Owen when they said how much smaller he was,” says Kendal. An emotional experience for all, Ty states, “I remember Kendal and I tearing up the first time we saw them … knowing we had finally reached the finish line after going through a pandemic with two babies on the way.”

The new parents could only hold their babies for a few minutes and get a few pictures in before they were moved to the NICU at CHRISTUS St. Michael Health System. “Sutton had trouble breathing, and Owen had blood sugar issues,” states Kendal. “They both had IV’s … and Sutton was put on a CPAP machine.” The couple tried to visit their babies every three hours to feed them, love on them, change their diapers, and have “touch times.” “We had to scrub in for three minutes and put on clean hospital gowns before we could be with them,” says Kendal.

“The entire staff at St. Michael was fantastic from start to finish … and Dr. West was informative and helpful during the whole pregnancy,” states Ty. “The NICU nurses were so patient and taught us so much [about how to care for the twins],” remembers Kendal. She was released from the hospital two days later on Sunday. “Having to leave the twins up there … was hard on both of us,” explains Ty. Owen was able to come home the following Wednesday, but it took Sutton 14 days before coming home due to breathing issues. “We feel extremely blessed now that everyone is home and well,” states Ty.

In the history books of the future, it will be interesting how 2020 is recorded. This year has been nothing short of memorable to those who have lived through it. For the Thompson family, the year 2020 has had challenges but also a knowledge that some challenges come with much happiness. “The twins have been our main source of pure joy, and we are so thankful for that hope that they give us,” states Kendal. “2020 has thrown us some curveballs, and the twins being one of them, but we wouldn’t change it for anything in the world!”.

Kendal and photographer Kali Rushing planned these fine art portraits for weeks. Wanting to do something “out of the box,” Kendal donned a beautiful gown which really showed off her baby bump. (Photo by Kali Rushing)

Documenting her pregnancy was so important to Kendal (shown here at 32 weeks pregnant), but since she was sheltering-in-place and couldn’t really go anywhere, her mother took this photo of her and Ty in front of their house. She acknowledges that “Ty was such a good sport about my weekly pictures.”

Tucker, Kendal and Ty’s first baby, has really adapted to having the twins in the house. Now, they call him “Nanny Tucker.”

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TEXARKANA INDEPENDENT SCHOOL DISTRICT NAMES

DR. DOUG BRUBAKER AS SUPERINTENDENT OF SCHOOLS

On November 10, the TISD Board of Trustees approved the naming of Dr. Doug Brubaker as Lone Finalist for the position of Superintendent of Schools. Dr. Brubaker holds a Ph.D. in Educational Computing with a Concentration in Educational Administration from University of North Texas, a master’s in Elementary Education from Texas Christian University and a Bachelor of Arts in Political Science from the University of Kansas.

To date, Dr. Brubaker has served as a teacher, assistant principal, principal, department director, assistant superintendent, associate superintendent, and superintendent in several school districts in Texas, including Birdville ISD, Mansfield ISD, Carroll ISD, CarrolltonFarmers Branch ISD, and Garland ISD, and Fort Smith Public Schools in Arkansas. His first day to report to TISD will be January 4, 2021.

Amanda Manca and Autumn Thomas

TISD Board of Trustees: Gerald Brooks, Amy Bowers, Fred Norton, Jr., Paul Miller, Bill Kimbro, Wanda Boyette, Bryan DePriest and Dr. Doug Brubaker

Amy Bowers, Gerry Stanford, Fred Norton, Jr. and Jo Ann Rice

David DeFoy, Parker Brookes, Brad Bailey, Richard Stahl and Carl Brewer

Anne Slade and Jennifer Cross

Gayle Hale and Wanda Boyette

Christy Tidwell, Amy Nix and Laurie Pace

Gerald Brooks, John Mercy and Bill Kimbro

photo by DR. ROBIN ROGERS

The GIFT of Helping Others

DESPITE HAVING A CHALLENGING UPBRINGING, REVEREND GREG MORGAN RELIED ON

HIS FAITH TO DEFINE HIS PATH

by LINDSEY MCMILLAN

Reverend Greg Morgan is the Associate Pastor at Williams Memorial United Methodist Church. He came to Texarkana to serve in his first appointment since receiving his Master of Divinity and Master of Theology in Biblical Studies degrees from Asbury Theological Seminary in 2019. Full of energy, Greg is eager to share his knowledge with others and in service to the Lord. He is currently enrolled at Baylor University and anticipates graduating in 2023 with his Doctor of Ministry in Preaching and Biblical Exegesis. He is also an alumnus of Lamar University where he received his B.A. in History in 2015. The first in his family to attain any higher education, Greg contributes his educational success to determination and faith after a tumultuous upbringing. This journey has specifically helped form who he is and defines his path in helping others.

Born in 1994 to young parents, Greg grew up outside of Beaumont, Texas. His parents divorced when he was only 10 months old, and he was in his father’s sole custody. He only saw his mother very sporadically, and with the exception of some aunts and grandparents, there was little to no familial support. Greg’s childhood was a struggle, living often in deplorable conditions in a variety of trailer parks with his father. He recalls utilities being

sporadically disconnected, being on his own for meals, and having to live in a filthy home. His father was an alcoholic and drug addict, relying on welfare for needed funds when he hopped from job to job and most of the income was spent on cigarettes and alcohol.

Around the age of 7, Greg recalls the start of physical abuse from his father. He remembers coming home from school and going straight to his room, absorbing himself in books until he felt it was safe to come out to see his father passed out and wondering if there was any dinner to be found. Greg’s paternal grandmother and her husband, Exie and Johnny McHugh (whom he affectionately called “Granny and Pop”), intervened along with Child Protective Services after some serious altercations with his father. Although his dad kept custody of Greg, he was in his grandparent’s care every other weekend. It was during these weekends with his Granny that Greg experienced church and Christian worship. She took him with her to the Jehovah’s Witness church, where he was able to learn about the Bible and teachings of Jesus Christ. However, he had to worship in secret, as his dad made it very clear that he was forbidden to have a Bible or go to church when he was at home with him.

In the meantime, more physical and

Greg with his grandfather, Johnny McHugh, right after Greg’s high school graduation in 2012.

emotional abuse continued, and Greg’s only salvation was his Granny and Pop, who got him a cell phone to use, and they were his transportation besides the bus to any school or extracurricular activities. Even though he remained in his dad’s custody, Granny and Pop were the only true mother and father figures he had. In middle school, Greg was involved in the band, baseball, and was a straight A student. In high school, he also joined theatre and stayed busy with performances and schoolwork. “School was a refuge,” Greg recalls adding that during this time he had a negative perception of people. He had few friends and was considered to be a loner, still escaping to his bedroom when he was home trying to stay away from his volatile father. Greg’s Granny passed away from breast cancer in 2008 during his freshman year. Devastated, Greg sought solace from Pop but still lived at home, and at this point, he wasn’t able to attend any church worship since although a Christian, Pop didn’t attend church regularly.

Near the end of Greg’s junior year in high school, he was making plans texting a date for the prom. His father attacked him in a drunken rage, and Greg fought back, calling his Pop in despair. The sheriff was called, and when they tried to apprehend Greg’s father, it was clear that he was in no position to retain custody so Greg moved in with Pop who lived in Vidor, approximately 30 minutes from where he lived and went to school. April 7, 2011, was the last time he saw his father. A restraining order was filed, and Greg began to see a welcome, safe change in his life. Pop was happy to be Greg’s father figure and guardian, taking him to and from his school in Bridge City and to his concerts, events, and other activities. Greg says, “He always cared for me and looked out for me, even though I wasn’t his biological grandson. He was and is the biggest positive influence in my life and the one who I aspired to model my own life after.”

Greg was anxious to find a church home and began looking online at various faith denominations. Greg came upon the First Methodist Church of Vidor and went to visit. At the youth group gathering where he didn’t know

In 2017 while he was studying abroad in Israel, Greg visited the Herodium, the remains of one of the palaces King Herod built and where he is believed to be buried.

anyone, he instantly felt at ease. The first Sunday service he attended was Easter Sunday on April 24, 2011. Noting that he only knew of the secular holiday being that of hunting eggs with candy, Greg was amazed to learn of the true meaning of Easter and Christ’s resurrection. He was particularly moved by the scripture of John 3:16 and had a true eye-opening moment. “This was the father I dreamed of having. I had a true sense of belonging and connection,” he acknowledges, adding that after the hardship of his childhood, he knew that he had always been protected in instances of despair. Finding a church home was just what he needed. Immediately drawn in, Greg was eager to join, and studied under the tutelage of Senior Pastor Greg Rogers for six weeks of study before being baptized on October 1, 2011. Greg knew that there was not just a God “out there,” but one who sent his son to be a savior, literally. “Now that I was introduced to who God really was I wanted to know more and more, and I never left, I was all in,” he remembers. Especially amidst what had transpired in his life, this realization brought comfort for the fear and anxiety Greg had experienced for so long.

This all happened his senior year in high school, and so much had begun to turn around in his life. He recalls checking “all of the boxes” when signing up for events and committees at church, eager to get involved. He felt different already, and even a teacher had noted his change in personality

and demeanor to be one of more joy. In January of 2012, Greg recalls preaching his first service. This particular Sunday was the youth service, and his Pop came to see it. Afterward, his Pop began attending regularly with him. Much happier in school and at home, Greg began making plans for after graduation. He intended to become a school administrator, having a strong passion to help kids. Others in his congregation, particularly Rev. Rogers, seemed to have other plans for him, suggesting the ministry. After graduating from Bridge City High School, Greg entered Lamar University and lived at home while commuting to campus where he was first a music then history major. He still pursued a career in teaching and school administration but entertained the idea of perhaps becoming a deacon where he could have a career and still serve parttime. He became more and more involved at First Methodist and witnessing the ministry, by attending retreats and conferences.

On Christmas Eve 2013, Greg was asked to serve in the Communion portion of the service. Overseeing this position as a leader versus a server, 19-year-old Greg felt the call and knew then what he was meant to do. He recalls seeing the faces coming toward him in the Communion line, all of varying emotions and witnessing them all connected together by Christ. “I looked over at my senior pastor and thought to myself, ‘I can’t believe you get to do this every single day, to have this feeling and to serve these people.’”

Bishop Scott Jones commissioned Greg as a Provisional Elder in the United Methodist Church at The Woodlands United Methodist Church in The Woodlands, Texas, on August 8, 2020.

The next day, he began investigating seminaries to attend.

Greg chose Asbury Theological Seminary in Wilmore, Kentucky, and began after completing his bachelor’s degree in only three years. He got involved immediately and felt at home during his four years of study. He became a youth director at a church where the number had dwindled down to just two 8th graders. Three years later, the ministry had grown to 15 youth attending regularly. His beloved Pop passed away suddenly of a heart attack in January of 2015 and was unable to see him graduate from college.

Greg stayed in touch with friends back home in Vidor, particularly Sally and Tim Andrews, whom he affectionately calls his godparents. He first met them when he joined the church as Sally was the pianist. He went to live with them both before and after he finished seminary. They treat him as their own, taking the helm of serving as parental figures in his life. Greg compares his journey to the book of Exodus. Like God delivered the faithful out of the desert, he felt delivered into a whole new identity thanks to the church and those along the way who believed in him. Much like those written about in Exodus, Greg wants others to see the flawed, often dirty walk those make to acceptance and reconciliation. When asked what important message he can share with others, Greg responds, “Never lose sight of what God can do. Every blessing in my life, and everything I’ve been able to do is nothing short of the grace of God who has guided me as the Good Father and Good Shepherd.”

Greg loves living in Texarkana, saying it’s the largest city he’s ever lived in. He relishes meeting new people and learning more about the community. In his spare time, Greg enjoys playing golf, traveling, and watching movies. He is content with where God has him right now and eager to serve wherever he is needed. “My prayer every day is that God leads me to a place where my gifts can have the greatest possible impact,” he concludes. What a wonderful gift that is for both Greg and for the community and people he serves.

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This photo of Greg was taken around 2005 when he was in the sixth grade and is the oldest photo he has from his childhood.

Greg with his godparents, Sally and Tim Andrews, during his seminary graduation ceremony at Asbury Theological Seminary on May 17, 2019.

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HOSPICE OF TEXARKANA HOSTS VETERAN’S DAY “CAREA-VAN”

In lieu of Hospice of Texarkana’s annual Veterans Day pinning ceremony, a more social distancing method was chosen to honor veterans on November 11. Hospice of Texarkana staff, volunteers, veterans, and members of area Armed Forces joined together to form a “Care-A-Van” to honor local veterans. The parade kicked off at the Hospice of Texarkana Care Center led by a motorcycle police escort and traveled to several retirement communities, including Cowhorn Creek Estates, Waterton Plaza at Cowhorn Creek, Brookdale Senior Living, and ending at the Cornerstone Retirement Community. All along the route, American flags furled in the wind, as outdoor speakers echoed military anthems. Other special veterans participating were Hospice of Texarkana volunteers, Glen Willyard (Navy retiree), and Sue Barchenger (Air Force retiree), along with several East Texas Patriot Guard Riders, Greg Beck (President of Texarkana Vietnam Veterans of America), and Hospice of Texarkana’s own veteran comfort pet, Maggie Grace.

1stSgt Jhomara Estrada, SSgt Randall Dobbs, SSgt Kadirra Wallace, Sgt Jolly Corey and Capt Stephen Lanpher

Maggie Grace

photo by DR. ROBIN ROGERS

Holiday Season A Brighter

DESPITE HAVING HEART SURGERY IN FEBRUARY, 4-YEAR-OLD

HARPER GRACE WOODELL LOOKS FORWARD TO HER BIRTHDAY, CHRISTMAS, AND THE NEW YEAR

by AMBER SMITH ZALISKI

December is a big month for Harper Grace Woodell. With a birthday at the beginning of the month and Christmas not too far behind, there are lots of wishes to wish and lists to be made. Luckily, Harper is a very smart girl with a great memory, and she truly loves any and every gift. It’s probably her love language. Imagine her delight last year when she tiptoed, sleepy-eyed, out of bed in Santa-suit jammies and found “a shiny new Barbie bicycle, pink with hearts and stars, and a purple basket on the front!” to carry her puppy stuffy, of course – Lola.

The only wish with more power (and people) behind it, a prayer really, at the top of many lists last year: Dear God, please carry us through Harper’s heart surgery as easily as possible.

One year ago, Heidi Smith and John Woodell received a diagnosis for their little girl that no parent could be prepared for. Even with decades of professional medical experience between them and front row seats for the kinds of miracles that are performed in operating rooms every day, Heidi and John were shocked. Diagnosed with an Atrial Septal Defect (ASD), a congenital heart condition that leaves a hole in the septum of the heart, Harper would need heart surgery. While 2020 brought unexpected challenges for the Woodell and Smith family, it also brought gifts of grace.

When Harper was 2, she started seeing a new pediatrician, Dr. Christina Payne. “At our first well-visit, she noticed a heart murmur, which isn’t always a big deal. A lot of kids grow out of it,” Heidi explained. At a visit with Dr. Payne a couple years later for the newpreschooler-respiratory-infection, her concerns about the murmur were

still there. “I remember she said that it just sounded a little more harsh, and she wanted to do some testing just to be on the safe side,” Heidi said. “We’ll forever be grateful that Dr. Payne is very thorough and always took the time to really listen.”

On December 18, after a second echo test at Arkansas Children’s Hospital in Little Rock, pediatric cardiologist Dr. Paul Seib confirmed an ASD diagnosis. “I remember him telling us, ‘Harper has an ASD, and it is large. It is one inch, and her right heart is enlarged,’” Heidi said. “My stomach dropped, and it felt like I couldn’t breath. I think we were in shock. Harper didn’t exhibit any of the usual markers for ASD. She has always been healthy and active, so it was

very surreal to hear that she actually had a big hole in her heart.”

Dr. Seib continued talking about different procedures, but because of the size … Heidi and John already knew what he was going to tell them. “So, you’re saying our baby needs open heart surgery?” He nodded yes. “It felt like the whole world stopped, and I just remember looking at John trying to choke back tears. We were devastated. Harper was still coloring at her little table, but she looked over and said, ‘It’s okay, Mommy. I’m okay.’”

Harper was scheduled for open heart surgery as soon as possible – February 4, 2020. As the waiting game began, Heidi and John quickly realized this was not something they could face on their own. “We are so grateful that we have amazing family and friends and coworkers that helped us get through this, especially the waiting,” Heidi said. “As a parent, all you want to do is protect your baby from pain, and I couldn’t.” John agreed. “It is very humbling to go through something like this, and to know that you are not in control. There were a lot of prayers, and wishing I could take her place, but ultimately, we had to rely on faith and believe that everything would be okay.”

Still, there were a lot of sleepless nights. “I researched everything I could, read about every pediatric cardiovascular surgeon in our area, and tried to put on a happy face through the holidays,” Heidi said. “I’m an introvert and cringe at the thought of talking about my feelings, but this was too heavy.” Almost as if on cue, a little light would show up always when it was most needed. “One day, I got home early, was alone trying to put up Christmas decorations, so sad, and there was a knock on the door.” Heidi said. “Normally I wouldn’t have been home or would have ignored it, but instead I got to meet the most thoughtful mother and daughter. They were out witnessing, and I just broke down and told them everything, and they were so comforting and caring. They even brought Harper a gift before surgery and have checked on her after. I really needed their reminder that God is close to the brokenhearted.”

While Harper knew that she had “a boo-boo on her heart, and the doctors

were going to fix it,” she always had a smile to show how brave she could be. Eventually, February did arrive. “In the congenital heart defect world, and on paper, this was a pretty straightforward surgery,” Heidi said. “But still …” On the morning of surgery, the Woodell and Smith families were joined by a dear family friend, Pastor Mike Powell. “He drove all the way up to pray over Harper and her team and us, and truly brought some peace to my heart,” Heidi said. “And brought Harp a stuffed mallard that she still loves.”

After a couple of hours, their surgeon, Dr. Lawrence Greiten, said the exact

After Harper’s heart surgery at Arkansas Children’s, Heidi stayed with her while physicians kept her sedated so her body could rest.

words Heidi and John had been praying for: “It was a textbook surgery, and Harper did perfectly.” A special patch was sewn in that will grow into her tissue to create the septum. “Everyone at Children’s was amazing,” Heidi said. “It was a very somber experience, especially to see other families facing longer or harder circumstances, but we couldn’t have asked for a better team.”

A week after surgery, Harper was ready to play outside, and begging to ride her bike again. “You always hear kids are resilient and recover quickly, but I’m still amazed.” A follow-up echo test in May showed that Harper’s heart looked perfect, and they’ll check again next May to make sure it stays perfect. In the meantime, she’ll be running around chasing kitties, fishing, singing, dancing, and taking Lola for spins on her bike. “I still remember that I didn’t like that tube by my belly button, and I didn’t like seeing Mommy sad,” Harper said. “But I do like all my presents that I got [friends stocked her up on plenty of gifts to unwrap while in the hospital], and I liked when I saw the angels.” Heidi smiled, “She told us about angels a week after surgery and a few times

John, Harper’s father, tries to entertain his little one before they roll her back to the OR for surgery on February 4, 2020.

An echo of Harper’s heart performed during May 2020 showed surgery was successful, and her heart looked perfect!

since. I have to believe she was protected.”

A year later, Harper Grace is excited to turn 5 – her golden birthday! “Well, I’d like a couple toys, a couple clothes, a Razorback shirt, some unicorn hand sanitizer, a fox stuffy …” She could go on. The rest of the family feels fulfilled on the wishes for some time. More than anything, the Woodell and Smith family say they are grateful for the here and now. “I’m definitely more intentional about appreciating every day,” Heidi said. “Seeing your baby in an ICU bed is not easy to forget, and I clearly remember wishing for a boring, normal day. We are just so grateful that this holiday season is feeling a little lighter and brighter and to have time with the people we love.”

Heidi and Harper enjoyed visiting the pumpkin patch this past October.

Last year, Harper and her family enjoyed a vacation trip to Gulf Shores, Alabama.

This past summer, Heidi, John and Harper enjoyed the beautiful scenery during a trip to the Buffalo River.

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“CHASING FEATHERS: STANDING STILL” ARTIST RECEPTION HONORS JULIE TIDWELL

Through January 9, Julie Tidwell’s “Chasing Feathers: Standing Still” photography exhibit will be on display in the Regional Arts Center. An artist’s reception was held on November 19 in honor of Julie, nature lover and self-professed bird nerd.

Anna Guan and Ellie Coker

Kelly Burkhalter

Jennifer Unger and Sonja Hubbard

Dyan Burton, Taylor Daniels and Kaye Baxter

Jennifer Unger, Marjorie Slimer and Susan Slimer

Julie Tidwell and Brian Goesl

John and Doni Phillips

FaEllen Yates and Rhonda Allen

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TEXARKANA

TWILIGHT TOURS HOSTS “THE TALKING DEAD”:

ROSE HILL CEMETERY

On November 14, Texarkana Museums System hosted “The Talking Dead” Cemetery Tour at Rose Hill Cemetery. Living history performances were also part of the guided evening walking tour.

Photos by Nickie Siegel

Jane Portis

Drs. Emily and Tom Cutrer

Rev. Jaimie Alexander

Brannon Smith

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EVERY DAY IS A

CHAD MOORE FOUND

NEW LIFE THROUGH RARE KIDNEY DISEASE AND THE COVID-19 PANDEMIC

by ELLEN ORR

“I like to call it ‘Post-Traumatic Success Disorder,’” said Chad, a kidney transplant recipient and higher education professional at Texarkana College. “Real PTSD is when something bad happens, and your mind is altered [by the trauma]. But ever since [my kidney disease] happened, I just—well, once you cheat death once, there’s really nothing else to be scared of. There’s really no other excuse why you can’t be brave. I don’t have any excuse to go through life not knowing who I am or not knowing what my purpose is. A lot of times, I feel like my positivity can come off as a little delusional, but I can’t help it. This is my outlook in life. Like, I was almost out of here, and I’m still here, and every day is a blessing.”

Chaddrick “Chad” Moore was raised in Texarkana by his parents, George and Carolyn Moore. “Education legends here in town,” Chad said of his parents (George was a principal and assistant superintendent at TISD for almost 50 years, and Carolyn served as a school counselor for 38). Many people assumed that Chad would follow in their footsteps and work in K-12 education, but Chad never could see himself working with children or teens. “My dad’s like The Family Channel,” he said. “I’m more like HBO—I’m more for adults.”

After graduating from Texas High School in 2005, Chad attended Texarkana College for a year before transferring to Stephen F. Austin, where he earned a degree in psychology, with a minor in business. He had no clue what career he wanted to pursue.

“I was an extremely late bloomer,” Chad said. “My confidence level wasn’t high enough back then to really just go for the things that I wanted, so I just got my degree and just worked at Harte Hanks Call Center. It really was everything that happened with my kidney that

Right before his transplant surgery on October 31, 2012, Chad talks to his cousin, Derrick Green, who donated his kidney to Chad at the University of Cincinnati Health Center.

woke me up.”

In February 2012, Chad fell ill. After multiple examinations, tests, and finally a biopsy, he was diagnosed with Goodpasture Syndrome, a rare kidney disease that affects approximately 1 in every 2 million people. Chad spent the spring at CHRISTUS St. Michael Health System, where his medical team worked to control his antibody levels and blood pressure. In April, he was released to go home, but he had to spend up to six hours per day at the dialysis center (“I turned 25 in the dialysis chair,” he recalled). He was put on a strict renal diet—no more than 16 ounces of liquid per day, no more than 2500 milligrams of sodium (or one piece of pizza’s worth) per day. In September, it was confirmed that an out-of-town cousin would be able to donate his kidney, and on October 31, 2012, Chad received the transplant at the University of Cincinnati Health Center. He was home in time for Thanksgiving. “[After the transplant] my mom and my aunt were like, ‘Wow, Chad, you finally have color in your face again. Your hair is finally moisturized. Life has come back into you.’

“It was definitely a long process,” Chad reflected, “but I just felt so positive about it all. I just knew that it was only temporary. Since it all lasted nine months, I call it my rebirth.”

In January 2013, with the help of family friend and past president of the college Dr. James Henry Russell, Chad applied to work in the financial aid office at Texarkana College. After two weeks, he was transitioned to the Admissions and Recruitment team—a much better fit for someone with an outgoing personality. “I’ve been grateful because I love connecting with the students and being in the mix of people. And,” he laughed, “when I was sitting in Financial Aid, I was behind a cubicle, so I was wasting a lot of really fly, good outfits.”

Chad, currently the Educational Opportunity Center Coordinator of Virtual Services, has been at TC ever since. In the last year, however, his professional life has begun to shift in new and exciting ways. In 2019,

Chad visits with the congregation of a local church about how Texarkana College’s Educational Opportunity Center can assist people who attend college.

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Chad’s parents Carolyn and George Moore, longtime Texarkana educators, enjoy some downtime with him during the holiday season.

Last December, Chad graduated with his Master in Business Administration degree.

he earned his MBA, and in Spring 2020, he took on additional roles and responsibilities at the college.

“I have always loved my job because I love serving people and the community,” Chad said, “but my passion has always been creativity. I wanted to be a singer and music producer in my twenties, and that wasn’t going to happen, but I knew I wanted to express myself somehow, someway.” Though he was happy in his role at the EOC, Chad felt something was missing.

“About a year ago, I thought to myself, ‘I need to really start taking my career to the next level,’ but in what way? I couldn’t figure it out,” Chad recalled. “So I’d say, ‘After my master’s degree, I’m going to really try to figure out what it is that I need to do.’ And then the pandemic hit, and then we’re all in quarantine, and then we’re all sheltered in place.” He felt stuck.

In March, a hidden opportunity presented itself. As a Chamber of Commerce ambassador, Chad received an email from the Chamber, requesting that the ambassadors submit videos of themselves in their workfrom-home setups. Not one to do the bare minimum, Chad crafted a clip that was “a whole little production,” he laughed. He showed it to his Director, Lee Williams III, who then began commissioning videos for the office. “Little videos here and there turned into producing the virtual graduation, which turned into shooting videos for other departments and working with the Public Relations Office,” Chad said. Since August, alongside his work in the EOC, Chad has produced one or two videos each week.

“It’s been the greatest thing ever,” he said. “This is a very new thing for me, and I had zero portfolio, zero skills, and zero practice. The fact that place of employment has given me the opportunity to not only produce videos and create content for them, but to hone my skills right there in real time—that’s the best gift ever. It has officially reawakened my creative spirit.”

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TEXARKANA MUSEUMS SYSTEM PRESENTS “THE TALKING DEAD” LIVING HISTORY CEMETERY TOUR

The Texarkana Museums System presented “The Talking Dead” Living History Cemetery Tour on October 24 at State Line Cemetery as part of its Texarkana Twilight Tours. Guests were visited along the tour route by actors/actresses who were dressed as those buried at the cemetery sharing each person’s unique story.

Michelle Burks

Velvet Cool

Warren Smith Burgundy Farris

photos by KRISTEN GRIFFIN

The tunnel that was added this year is comprised of 38,900 lights.

Randall and Kim Baggett with their children, Abby and Eli

SEASON OF LIGHTS CHRISTMAS

LIGHT PARK & ENTERTAINMENT

CENTER PROVIDES A FUN

FAMILY HOLIDAY ADVENTURE

by SUZY TURNER

During this wondrous holiday season, expand (or add to) your holiday traditions by grabbing the family, loading up the car, and heading out to Season of Lights, a drivethru Christmas light park, located at I-30 and Exit 198 just west of Texarkana. The kids can visit with Santa and Mrs. Claus while the adults enjoy a cup of hot chocolate (that some boast to be the best around), all while making unforgettable memories during this most wonderful time of the year.

After years of dragging their two children out of town to enjoy holiday lights, waiting in line for 2-3 hours, and everyone being exhausted before they even saw the first display, Kim and Randall Baggett would joke that Texarkana needed its own drive-thru light park. However, they would forget about having that conversation until the next year when the same scenario would play out. Fast forward a few years, when Randall located some property on I-30 that he loved where he would have room to spread out and enjoy his hobby of restoring and selling Toyota Land Cruisers. Once Kim looked at the property, she actually envisioned it being the perfect locale for a drive-thru Christmas light park, and the rest is history!

The Baggetts closed on their new property in July 2018 with plans to

open the light park that November. “We did not have a clue what we were doing!” Kim jokes. “We have been saved many, many times by Randall’s ability to problem solve and fix just about anything.” Although they were met with the rainiest fall ever that first season, the Baggetts were greatly overwhelmed by the community support for their project. “It is still not what I originally envisioned, but year by year, we are getting there. This is way out of the comfort zones of our full-time careers but, most days, we truly love this business and the Christmas season.”

In September each year, the Baggetts begin working on the park daily to get ready for the season. By October, they are calling in reinforcements (family members) to help. “It is a huge sacrifice for our kids, as our holidays look much different from everyone else’s,” Kim says. “We just hope that it doesn’t make everyone in the family hate Christmas. But, we know that

Eli and Abby wish everyone a Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year.

every year, there will be less and less to do, and at some point, we will just be able to keep the park maintained. By the time we open each season, we are relieved that we can cut back to 75-hour work weeks for one month. We cannot say enough good things about our staff. They have been a huge part of our ability to push through the 35+ days we stay open. They often sacrifice their holiday as well and come to work for us in the evenings!” Randall and Kim are fortunate to have a fantastic staff that returns annually to help, but since it is their business, they feel it is their responsibility to be there every night, too. Oftentimes, they can be found prying cameras and/or phones from their visitors’ hands to snap photos for them and their families.

Giving back to the community they love is very important to Kim and Randall. Every year, they collect donations for some of their favorite local charities. This year, they will match donations up to $500 with proceeds benefitting CASA and the ArkLaTex 100 Club.

Located on 25 acres with only a portion of it currently used for the light park and entertainment center, the Baggetts’ future plans are to add other attractions to their park, and they may even add scenes representing other holidays, like Halloween and Easter. Right now, about halfway through the mile-long trail, is an Entertainment Center where Santa and Mrs. Claus will greet visitors on Friday and Saturday nights, families can snap photos on a new backdrop (or have photos taken by the staff photographer), and buy a gift for that special someone in the Stocking Stuffer Gift Shop area. Refreshments, like hot cocoa and Fat Bottom Farms Kettle Corn, will also be served. Special events include a kid’s activity area where mini Christmas trees can be decorated by children, and games can be played by families. One of the most popular activities is for families to purchase a s’mores kit at

Santa and Mrs. Claus will greet visitors on Friday and Saturday nights in the Entertainment Center.

the concession stand, and then make them by the firepit.

New displays this year are creatively laid out, including a brand new tunnel along with a real Cessna on a Santa display. One tunnel is a magnificent sight, comprised of 38,900 lights. A Light-O-Rama show will include new Christmas music this year while visitors have their radios tuned to a specific radio station (signs will be posted advising guests where to tune in), and certain areas will have displays that flash to the music. Other fun displays include a transportation area, western scene, sports zone, deer crossing section, and military and First Responder area. A Christmas Tree Maze with 129 lighted Christmas trees will be located in front of the Entertainment Center, sponsored by HealthCARE Express.

Season of Lights will be open every night through December 27 from 6-9 p.m. on weeknights and 6-10 p.m. on the weekends. Cost for the light park is $25 per vehicle for up to 8 people, and $40 for 8 or more.

Monday and Tuesday nights, the cost for singles and couples is $10 per person with activities in the Entertainment Center included in the price. Some special events will include food trucks available on-site, character visits, live music, and Storytime with Santa. Be sure to watch the Season of Lights Facebook page and webpage as special events are added frequently.

Although 2020 has been a tough year for many, the Baggetts look forward to celebrating Christmas with their friends and family. “For those who may not quite be ready for inside events, we completely understand and hope they will still enjoy the lighted trail from the comfort of their vehicles,” Kim adds. “On weeknights, our staff will even deliver concession purchases to our visitors’ cars. If visitors are ready to enjoy the inside, they should come ready to be in photos and help live out the Season of Lights’ motto to ‘Make Memories and Create Family Traditions.’”

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JUST LOVE AND KINDNESS GOLF TOURNAMENT

On September 19, Just Love and Kindness held a golf tournament and auction at Texarkana Golf Ranch. Just Love and Kindness was started by Laura and Robb Klein, in memory of their son, Jarrod, who died tragically. The Kleins presented a check for $32,241 to the Texarkana Arkansas Police Department’s P.R.I.D.E. (Personal Responsibility in Daily Efforts) Academy, a program that aims “to reduce at-risk behaviors by promoting healthy lifestyles, educational achievement, and financial stability in youth.”

Jack Robinson, Dave Jones, Richard Savins and Matt Dinkle

Skip Youngblood, Matt Riddle, Shawn Jenkins and Brady Buffington

Chuck Bishop, Jamie Carter, Debbie Sheppard and Robbie Klein

Brad Storms, Kenny Brown, Bravin McCollum and Randy Haltom

Ken Reese, Cole Allison, Cody Steele and Scott Willige

Doug Hayes, Cory Brown, Brian Stout and Chris Krause

Brad White, Michael Poret, Manny Western and Jordan Cox

Roy Agee, Corey Lehr, Dr. Michael Butler and Drew Gainor

Matt Fomby, Robert Fomby, David McDonald and Cole Fomby

Jay Simmons, Brandon Frederick, Terri Hefner and Richard Loomis

Riley Baird, Skyler Petit , Jorge Moya and Ishmael Moreno

LOCAL NONPROFIT BREWSTERS ON THE BOULEVARD HELPS SERVE OTHERS LOCALLY, NATIONALLY, AND WORLDWIDE

photo by DR. ROBIN ROGERS

Brewsters on the Boulevard general manager, Chuck Taramona, and assistant manager, Stacei Greek.

A Haven of HOPE

Brewsters on the Boulevard is exactly what you’d want from a locallyowned coffee shop, and at the same time, it’s completely different and better than what you’d expect. It is exactly what Texarkana has needed for a long, long time.

Brewsters has a cozy, yet eclectic vibe. The staff greets customers with a friendly smile and a warm word; the décor is interesting without trying too hard, and seating is varied and plentiful. The clientele is young, and old, and in between, unassuming and boisterous. Really, this coffee shop is everything, all at once.

On a random Thursday afternoon, there are several groups scattered

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around the spacious shop. A couple of college-aged kids, with laptops and cell phones in hand sipping hot tea and munching on scones, are in the corner, and a business meeting is happening in the center of the room with participants enjoying a cold bottle of water and shuffling papers back and forth. The baristas are steadily serving a stream of customers who are in and out in quick fashion, both through the front doors and through the drive-thru. There’s an overwhelming cheerful attitude hanging in the air.

Brewsters on the Boulevard is owned and operated by City Church, located right next door. Lead Pastor, Dr. Robert H. McCarver, explains the specific goals of the coffee shop. “We pray that the DNA of Brewsters

is such that no one is shocked when they find out it is affiliated with City Church,” he said. “There are around 30 Bibles buried under the concrete floor, so when people enter, they know it is different. All the walls have prayers and Bible verses under the sheetrock, written by members of City Church.”

The coffee shop manager is Chuck Taramona, a lifelong Texas resident who has worked at many coffee shops before landing at Brewsters. “I started working in coffee shops when I was 18,” she said. “I fell in love with this industry immediately. I’ve been with Brewsters for over a year now, and I love it! Being around and getting to meet the most interesting people every day has been a big part of why I love this job.”

Chuck worked in Mt. Pleasant at a downtown coffee shop before that. “Not only do I get to do what I love, but I get to do it in one of the best environments I can think of,” she said. “Coming to Texarkana and working for Brewsters on the Boulevard and City Church has been such a blessing in my life.”

Dr. McCarver speaks of the intentions of City Church as it relates to Brewsters on the Boulevard. “We hope and pray to be a haven of hope in a culture that is losing hope,” he said. “We hope and pray to be a place of conversation in a society that has lost that gift, and a point of direction for those who have lost their way. We are unapologetically who we are—a well to gather around when no one else will meet you there.”

Brewsters on the Boulevard does not sell coffee to make money, and it isn’t the goal of City Church to profit off the coffee shop. “We give all profits away,” Dr. McCarver said. “We are nonprofit. Monies made from every cup of coffee

are used locally, nationally, and worldwide to help and serve others.”

City Church has sent more than 10 mission teams to Central America while partnering with Living Water. “While you drink our coffee, others are drinking clean water because of you,” Dr. McCarver said. “We have funded 12 water wells, and one as recently as this year. Future goals are to source coffee suppliers that bypass the corrupt systems and actually benefit local growers and communities.”

There are big plans to keep adding to what Brewsters offers patrons, but as with most everything, the pandemic has put a damper on plans for the establishment. “Part of our dreams is a night of music each week,” Dr. McCarver said. “Events of this year have kind of put that on hold, but will allow us in the future to create a safe place for people to gather, no matter who they are.”

Chuck said one of the most heartwarming parts of managing the coffee shop was watching the community’s response to the pandemic. “We couldn’t believe

Brewsters on the Boulevard offers a comfortable setting for those who enjoy artisan coffee and drinks.

photo by DR. ROBIN ROGERS

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how much love that was poured out from our community when we had our free drinks for First Responders during the first COVID outbreak,” she said. “We started a special where each First Responder was given one free drink, but when the community heard about it, multiple people donated their money to help support the cause. It was truly amazing!”

There’s no doubt Brewsters will keep growing in popularity and variety, and with their pure motives and mission, Texarkana will only reap more and more benefits from a centrally-located, locally-owned and -operated coffee house bringing artisan coffee to the Four States Area.

Chuck Taramona and Stacei Greek enjoy serving artisan coffee and tea to the Four States Area.

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Executive officers of Friends for a Cause are: Katie Stone, Samantha Rogers, Donnie Spriggs, Brittney Frost and Suki O’Neal.

Painting with a Purpose was held at Painting with a Twist in October 2018, and all proceeds benefitted cancer patients. The artwork features the Friends for a Cause logo but the colored backgrounds are different, representing various types of cancer.

Rickey Riebesell, Cody Adams and Tracey Morris deliver care packages to the elderly during the COVID-19 pandemic as part of the Community Unity Project.

A Hand Up, Not a Handout

FRIENDS FOR A CAUSE HELPS LOCAL CANCER PATIENTS AND FILLS GAPS FOR TEXARKANA’S NONPROFIT ORGANIZATIONS

by ELLEN ORR

Nonprofit organization Friends for a Cause began in 2014 as a group of loved ones raising money to offset the costs local cancer patients incur that aren’t covered by insurance, like gas and accommodations for out-of-town treatment. Since then, the small 501(c)(3) has expanded its focus: while they have retained their commitment to helping local cancer patients, FFAC has evolved from a stand-alone group to a vital community partner, now working with numerous organizations including Harvest Regional Food Bank, Texarkana Resources, and Community Healthcore.

“Our goal is to bring value to a system already in place,” explained Suki O’Neal, FFAC president and co-founder. “We are not here to take away or compete with other organizations. We are here to be the tie that binds us all together. I laugh and joke when I tell people to think of us as a mini version of if United Way and HandsOn Texarkana had a foundation baby. We want every organization to know about us and vice versa. So many [local nonprofits] are resource-poor or overlapping in areas, but when we all work together, we create a whole piece.”

A community rich in charitable organizations, Texarkana is blanketed by service and philanthropy, but even still, gaps are inevitable. Since the onset of the COVID-19 pandemic, FFAC has been busy working to make sure that nobody falls through the cracks. In March, they partnered with AMI Radio Group and Retreat Health Care Services to provide care packages to homebound seniors. As of publication, they have delivered over 600 packages, which include nonperishable food items, paper products, hygiene products, and water.

FFAC supports not only large initiatives but also more targeted

Leslie Williams, Haily Williams, Lauren Booker, Suki O’Neal, Stacy Wade, Candi Robinett and Chrissy Gonzalez help out during the Meagon Shaw benefit held during June 2020 at Redbone Magic Brewing.

Warren and Suki O’Neal are the founders of the Friends for a Cause Foundation.

fundraising efforts. “In June, we had a friend reach out to one of our board members, recruiting help for a fundraiser they were doing for [late cancer patient] Meagon Shaw,” Suki said. “This was a perfect opportunity for our foundation to do what we do best. We provided resources to the [existing] volunteers, as well as numerous volunteers [from FFAC] for the day of their event, to help them make a bigger impact. What we gave them was far more meaningful and resourceful than just a monetary donation. We helped them raise more money than what we could have given them.” This exemplifies a common FFAC refrain: “A hand up, not a handout.”

During a typical July, the organization holds the Girls Giftaway, an overnight shopping expo. The 2020 event was canceled due to COVID, but registration for the 2021 sleepover spree has begun—and early birds are already receiving perks. “Between now and next July, we are holding shopping pop-ups, where guests already registered for the 2021 Girls Giftaway get special perks. Our biggest supporter and event sponsor, Dillards of Texarkana, has already hosted two events. It’s a win for all parties involved.”

Most recently, in November, FFAC threw their second Rock Out Cancer benefit, a five-band concert at downtown event venue, Crossties. Local music groups Parson B and The Part Time Sinners, Panic Rev, Split Decision, TJ McAlexander, and The Dusty Rose Band all volunteered their time. The event raised almost $20,000, all of which will help cancer patients.

In 2014, FFAC was comprised of 10 friends with a

Friends for a Cause’s signature event, Girls Giftaway, is an overnight shopping expo held at the Texarkana Convention Center and Hilton Garden Inn.

common intention. Today, the organization boasts over 70 members, all of whom are volunteers. Members pay annual dues of $25 and serve at one event or more per year. To join FFAC, make a one-time donation, or place a request for support, visit: www.ffacfoundation.org.

During January 2020, the first annual member meeting of Friends for a Cause was held at Silver Star Smokehouse.

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GREATER TEXARKANA YOUNG PROFESSIONALS HOST DESTINATION DOWNTOWN

Greater Texarkana Young Professionals hosted Destination Downtown on October 23.

Verona Restaurant, Joseph Raymond Fine Art, Graham Slam Bakery, Hopkins Icehouse, Crossties, Pecan Point Gastropub & Brewery, and B&J’s Dining all came together to provide food, drinks, and music for a great night in Downtown Texarkana. Live performances featured Hindu Hounds and Dub and the Luv Machine.

Mandy and Benton Cater

McCall and Garrett Aslin

Holly Swecker and Teri Brown

John Marshall, Kaitlin Marshall and Libby Hernandez

Rachel Roberts and Derek Latimer

Chint Murdock, Heather Buster, Rebekah Drennon and Brittany Haynes

Russell Sparks, Jennifer Lacefield, Caleb Mudford and Mary Wormington

Charlene Okoye, Ted Aguilar and Odalys Arellano

Mary and Jeff Ellwood

Elizabeth Williams, Jayme Culberson and Haylee Mudford

Patrick and Sarah Dodd

Christina Black and Rick Huntze

Carol and Travis Taillon

Tiffany Baugus and Jennifer Jones

Megan Payne and Kaylyn Rushing

Cylas and Braxton Langdon

Bre Ainsworth and DJ Meisinger

John and Lawanda Rich with Lesa and Tony Asbille

Nakina Stietler, Diane Patterson, Lance Owen and Dakota Patterson

Jennifer Hubbe and Charlene Taylor

Counting Her Blessings

NATIVE TEXARKANIAN CARLY LOVING VALUES MEMORIES OF HER PARENTS, OWNING A SUCCESSFUL BUSINESS, AND MOST IMPORTANTLY, BEING A MOTHER TO HER THREE BOYS

Blessings

photo by KING LAWRENCE

by VICKI MELDE

Blessings

Life doesn’t always turn out the way it is planned – but it turns out the way it is supposed to and most of the time, that’s even better. Such is the case with a beautiful, talented, and remarkable young woman from Texarkana who had plans to be a dancer in New York. It seems the culinary roots in Carly Loving’s family tree were more powerful than the draw of the Broadway lights. And the bond of her close-knit family remains the most powerful influence on her life of all.

Carly, who was born and raised in Texarkana, is the granddaughter of Bryce Lawrence, Sr. “My family owned Bryce’s Cafeteria for almost 80 years,” Carly explained with a deep sense of homage to her family history. “It was established in 1931 during The Depression. My grandfather said he wanted to name it after his first name in case it ever went out of business – he never wanted to put the family name down.” For anyone who lives in Texarkana, has lived in Texarkana, or has even passed thru Texarkana, it is obvious that was never a concern. Bryce’s will always be one of the Texarkana community’s most iconic and respected family businesses.

Childhood was filled with the activities of a “typical Southern family” – forts, camping, water skiing, canoeing, and even alligator spotlighting! What isn’t so typical is that one of the Lawrence children’s favorite playgrounds was the cafeteria which, at the time, was located downtown on Pine Street. Carly fondly recalled playing along with her brother, King, at their family’s establishment that also was the workplace of her father, Richard, and Uncle Bryce, Jr. “As a kid, I remember my brother and I spending hours (or it seemed like it) at the old location in Downtown Texarkana where there was this winding staircase in the BOH (back of

After their mother passed away, Carly and King (with their youngest children, Levi, London, and Jet) spent the weekend together in Northern Michigan in a cottage owned by their mother’s family.

Carly’s pride and joy are her sons: Whit, Levi, and Luke.

Lindy and Richard, Carly and King’s parents, the year before they both became ill.

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house). It was a mini fort! The dining room, through my eyes as a child, was huge – and had an upstairs,” she smiled as she recalled. “I remember Mr. Leo helped carry all the plates to the upstairs dining area, and I was always so terrified the whole tray would drop! Still to this day, I do not think he dropped one.” For those fortunate enough to dine at Bryce’s, the experience wasn’t complete without a visit with Mr. Leo who greeted and served guests for more than 50 years.

Carly’s parents, Richard and Lindy, loved to entertain – so gettogethers, friends, and food were a huge part of their family life. And family, as Carly insisted, wasn’t just their immediate family of two children, but a family of seven. Her mother’s sister, Carol, had five children of her own. “My mother and my aunt would ‘take turns’ every weekend,” she shared. “Most of the time, they would rather have the five boys over rather than the two of ‘us’ girls!” She reminisced about her childhood as a wonderful time with no phone, no television, and both her mom and aunt constantly telling the boisterous clan of cousins to “GO OUTSIDE”!

A self-professed type-A personality, Carly grew up as a ballerina. “Dancing for 18 years was my passion, and I swore one day I would move to New York City and be on Broadway,” she confessed. “I loved the stage! Mom and I loved the costumes and the anticipation of being backstage.” A highlight for her was being cast as a snowflake in the community’s annual presentation of “The Nutcracker.” She was in seventh grade at the time but remembered it as if it was yesterday. “Mom let me pick out the Christmas tree that year, and I asked the lady for it to be flocked so it looked like it had snow on it,” she remembered. “Mom approved with grace and enthusiasm. It was one of my favorite Christmases to this day. And I still decorate with Winter Wonderland décor!”

For that little ballerina who had visions of snowflakes and Broadway,

At four weeks post-surgery, Carly filled her body with healthy foods, green juice, stretching, and lower body exercises to get back stronger, both physically and mentally.

Five hours after Carly’s last and final surgery, she took this photo to capture what she had been through and to document the closing of that chapter of her life.

Right after

mother’s funeral, King and Carly celebrated her life with family and friends at their parents’ home in Texarkana.

life had another path in store for Carly. After marrying and having her first child at the age of 20, Carly traded her dreams of a career in dance for being a mom and eventually allowing those culinary genes to lead her to Le Cordon Bleu College of Culinary Arts in Austin to become a pastry chef. Her former husband, Tim, was also a chef so this was a natural fit for them and allowed them to create amazing cuisine together. Though she and Tim are no longer married, they co-parent their three sons Whit, Luke, and Levi very well.

Sadly, Carly lost both of her beloved parents at a young age – her mother just last year to breast cancer. Her love and admiration for them was apparent, and their impact on her life profound. It seems Carly is a marvelous combination of her outgoing dad she described as the “outdoors guy” and her beautiful mother who was the epitome of grace and style.

“My parents’ deaths were extremely hard for both my brother and me.  They were high school sweethearts and died 18 months apart from each other, both at the age of 65.  My dad was diagnosed with cirrhosis, and my mother was diagnosed with breast cancer. It all happened at once and was a very turbulent time,” Carly shared.

As her dad’s health was declining, her mom was fighting for her life.  She went through chemotherapy, radiation, multiple surgeries, and a double mastectomy.  “I will never forget the night we both drank a bottle of wine (or two!) and I had the privilege of shaving the hair off her head,” Carly recalled.  “As much as she went through, I never saw her cry.  She never let anyone feel sorry for her.  Heck, she would barely let anyone even help fix her a sandwich.  She was so strong, positive, and fearless when it came to her recovery.  I was in awe watching her through the process.  She was my absolute hero and best friend.”

Around the time Carly’s mom was diagnosed, she had genetic testing

Carly’s “favorite five” (her sons and two of their girlfriends) took her out to eat sushi for her 40th birthday dinner.

done as did Carly. They both tested positive for the BRAC2 gene. “I remember at the time not thinking much about it, but then watching Mom go through the entire process, I began to realize that she had given me an enormous gift.  Out of all the things that she had gone through, it seemed as though the double mastectomy was the easiest of all of them.  So I made a promise to her.  I told her that my 40th birthday gift to her would be a preventive double mastectomy.”

Unfortunately, Lindy passed away before Carly had the surgery. But as Carly said emphatically, “A promise is a promise!” Three months after turning 40, in October of last year, Carly underwent a preventive double mastectomy – just as promised – and started her own journey.  This October of 2020, she had her final surgery. “It took me five years of making appointments with doctors, and then always canceling them,” she admitted.  “When I finally showed up, my doctor said to me, ‘You are late, and I do not wait for people who are late - but you have been on my books for years, and I wanted to meet you.’ I immediately started crying and knew that this was just the girl I needed to get the job done.”

Carly confided that the process was much more difficult than she imagined. The tissue expanders were extremely painful, and she had minor nerve damage in her right arm that caused problems for about eight months. “The strangest part about it that I think no one talks about is the loss of feeling you have,” she shared. “I remember my doctor telling me if you ever spill a cup of boiling water on your chest area, you will not be able to feel it – and she was right!”

When asked how she remained strong through the entire process, Carly rather matter-of-factly stated, “I had to do it, and then just did it.” She acknowledged she had an amazing support group in her Aunt Carol and her brother and sister-in-law. “They were my biggest cheerleaders – and my boys stepped up, too, and became very helpful around the house,” Carly said proudly. Perhaps her greatest source of strength was her mom. “I just knew if my Mom could do it, so could I. She was there with me every step of the way. And, in the end, I know my mother is smiling down at me and my brother.  He has become the protector of our family now, and I could not be more thankful to have him by my side through these past two years. It’s funny how life works out, because I remember him saying to me after our dad passed away, ‘If we ever lose Mom, you will have to be the strong one.’  Turned out to be the exact opposite.”

Though the path of Carly’s life has included immense challenges, these experiences have shaped the person she is today. “I wrote this on my Facebook page recently – I honestly believe so much in it.  I used to always say that knowledge is power, but it is not.  It is just potential. It is applying the knowledge that’s power, and THAT is what brings you wisdom. I am grateful and counting my blessing that Mom was able to give me this gift for my children.  We owe this all to her.”

Today, Carly resides in Arizona and owns two successful restaurant franchises – Nékter Juice Bar – which she purchased a year and a half ago with her business partner “I have worked for Nékter Juice Bar for seven years and opened 12 of their corporate locations in Arizona – their most profitable and successful region,” she added. “I started with the company when they had 25 locations, and now they are at 180 and still growing.”

Regardless of Carly’s success in the food world, her favorite and most rewarding job will always be being the mother of her three boys.

Carly and King with their mother, Lindy, the summer after Lindy finished cancer treatments. Originally, Lindy’s hair was brown, but after chemo, it turned gray. Carly remembers telling her mother that she “wasn’t allowed to go back to brown” because she thought her gray was so beautiful.

Carly and King with their mother, Lindy, when they were youngsters.

Experts Ask the

JOEY MARTIN Owner, Express Employment Professionals

What is the Difference between Job Description and Job Specification?

Job Description is the summary of duties and responsibilities that helps a candidate to understand the requirements of the job which are to be fulfilled, and it also helps the candidate in making a self-appraisal by comparing his or her actual performance with a job description.

Job Specification assists the management in selecting a match for the job and tells what attributes are needed in the person handling the job. It is also a statement of the qualities and qualifications required in the job holder to perform the job properly.

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EVENTS | CALENDAR

DECEMBER 2020

DECEMBER 4-5

The twelfth annual Holiday Arts Market and Open House will be hosted by the Texarkana Regional Arts & Humanities Council and Women for the Arts. This festive shopping experience will be held in the Regional Arts Center. Call Jeanne Harrel at 903-277-3404 or contact the Regional Arts Center at 903-792-8681 for information.

DECEMBER 5

Fan Fare Boutique & Gifts will host its annual Christmas Extravaganza from 10 a.m. to 6 p.m. Refreshments will be served, and prizes will be given away. Santa and Mrs. Claus will be on-site for “Selfies with Santa” from 1:30-4:30 p.m. Call 903-832-5196 for more information.

DECEMBER 7

Main Street Texarkana will host its annual Christmas Parade, a drive-thru experience, at 7 p.m. in Downtown Texarkana. For information, visit www.mainstreettexarkana.com

DECEMBER 19

Perot Holiday Traditions will be held at the Perot Theatre in Downtown Texarkana with holiday movies, Santa Claus, vendors, food and “snow.” All tickets are reserved and available by calling the Perot Theatre Box Office at 903-792-4992.

THROUGH DECEMBER 27

Season of Lights Drive-Thru Christmas Light Park and Entertainment Center will be open through December 27. A concession stand will be open, and a stocking stuffer store will be available, as well as a variety of family photo opportunities. Santa Claus will be there every Friday and Saturday night. Cost is $25 per car. The park is located at I-30 and Exit 198 in New Boston, Texas.

THROUGH JANUARY 9

“Chasing Feathers: Standing Still,” photographs by a nature lover and self-professed bird nerd, will be displayed in the Regional Arts Center on the first floor. Artist Julie Tidwell admits that she finds peace and calm behind the lens of a camera, and she approaches photography as a journalist, with intent, but open to where the story takes her. Hours for the exhibit are Thursday-Saturday, 12 noon to 4 p.m. Masks and social distancing are required for entry.

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Director of Marketing, Cornerstone Healthy Living Community

Why should I choose retirement living?

For many, making the choice means to continue having independence with the perks of having things such as home and yard maintenance taken care of, as well as the ability to socialize and be around people that are in the same season of life. A retirement living community also gives the family the peace of mind knowing that their loved ones will have their wellness needs met going forward. Making a choice to maintain your freedom and independence is something that can be done before a need requires a change and increases overall well-being with added safety and security.

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THE ROAD Tra veled less

BY NICHOLE HOLZE

One Magic Train Ride

When I was growing up, my Mom read “The Polar Express” to us every Christmas Eve. Once my husband and I had children, she gave us the exact book she used to read to my sister and me so I could carry on the tradition, and we have, every Christmas Eve, with popcorn and holiday lights.

A few years ago, we decided to take a little detour on our way home from Arizona. That detour took us to Durango, Colorado, and one of the best surprises I’ve ever pulled off. Our children had no idea where we were going; they were just excited to see mountains and snow. I booked us a stay at the historic Strater Hotel, just down the street from the Historic Durango and Silverton Narrow Gauge Railroad. Unbeknownst to my children, we were taking a ride on THE POLAR EXPRESS™.

The hotel manager worked with me to pick up our tickets, and the golden tickets were displayed in our room, along with four mugs, a teapot, and hot chocolate. I’ll never forget my children’s faces when they realized where we were going.

That night, we bundled them up in their pajamas, and we made the brisk walk down to the rail station. It felt like we had stepped into the storybook itself, with all the employees in character, and the décor was just as in the movie. As we awaited the arrival of the train, I’m not sure who was more excited – my children or me. Soon enough, the powerful steam engine blasted in to the station, filling the air with the most magical steam. It cleared, and our attention was drawn to a small stage, where an actor portraying the little boy played out a scene with the conductor.

Moments later, we were boarding he “real” POLAR EXPRESS™, and it looked exactly like the movie. The mustached conductor punched our tickets, raining the gold pieces down over my daughter’s head. There was the “Hot Chocolate” song complete with our own hot chocolate and keepsake mugs.

We saw the North Pole through the train windows, and soon after, Santa made an appearance, handing out a beautiful silver bell to each person. Back at the station we disembarked, our faces nearly hurting from all the smiling and laughing. We saw Santa once more and slowly made our way back to the hotel. Our kids ran ahead, ringing their little silver bells as they went.

That night, I tucked them in back at the hotel, still clutching their little bells. It was one of those once-in-a-lifetime memories I’ll never forget. And you know what? I can still hear that bell ring every year when we unpack it.

The Durango Silverton Historic Railroad is running THE POLAR EXPRESS™ this year with social distancing measures in place. There is also a POLAR EXPRESS™ ride at the Texas State Railroad in Palestine, Texas. For a little local holiday magic, be sure to check out Perot Holiday Traditions and spend the day on December 19 in Downtown

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holiday movies, visits

Santa, vendors,

Never afraid of a long drive, Nichole is a homeschooling mom to two and wife to Ryan. Coffee, always, and black please. You can probably find her scheming up their next road trip while hiking in the woods. Experience-based learning and good books abound in their homeschool, as they chase the spark of curiosity where it wanders on the road less traveled.

The kids admiring the State Line Christmas Tree

Hot chocolate at the Strater Hotel

Aboard THE POLAR EXPRESS™

Showing off our golden tickets

The kids dreaming of silver bells

Enjoying the “snow” during last year’s Perot Holiday Traditions

EXQUISITE

FESTIVE. MAGICAL. WONDROUS.

by SUZY TURNER photos by KIM MCMURRY

INTERIORS

The merriment and excitement of Christmas comes alive in this beautiful historic home. Owner and decorator Jeff Brown has decked the halls while staying true to the home’s character and charm. Cherished treasures and yuletide traditions blend harmoniously, bringing seasonal cheer to all who visit.

The holiday spirit fills the air when first entering the home. The fragrant aroma of fresh amaryllis and the bold colors of the season greet each visitor. Natural greenery, intertwined with sparkling lights and scarlet and gold satin ribbon adorns the walnut bannister leading upstairs. A Russian crystal chandelier illuminates the entryway while red, gold, and green ornaments add color and texture to the Christmas décor. An antique cylinder desk brings a bit of nostalgia to the area as guests head into the sitting area.

The reflection of gorgeous red roses is caught in the mantel-toceiling gilded mirror. Burgundy ribbon, multi-colored ornaments, and fresh magnolia and fir garland cascade along the mantel, draping down to the floor. Guests gather around the baby grand

piano to continue the centuries-old tradition of singing Christmas carols. A fanciful tablescape features a peacock porcelain sculpture surrounded by jewel-toned glass ornaments. Red beaded garland and twinkling red lights spiral around the potted Norfolk Island pine.

Three unforgettable gold metallic trees are decked with beautiful crystal ornaments collected over the last 30 years and serve as the focal point for the dining table. Fragrant orange roses and a Christmas cactus complement the simple yet elegant look. An inherited silver tea set reigns atop an antique English buffet, providing a timeless touch to the holiday décor. An early 19th century corner china cabinet showcases a set of Rothschild bird china inherited from Jeff’s dear friend, Emily Lesher.

During this most wonderful time of the year, Jeff can easily entertain guests or host a family gathering as the Christmas spirit is alive in this well-loved home which mixes personal collections with holiday splendor.

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OPPORTUNITIES, INC. AUTUMN LUNCHEON

On November 5, the Opportunities, Inc. Foundation Board hosted its 36th annual Autumn Luncheon. Chef Marjorie Slimer prepared the meals which were given out during the drive-thru event on the Opportunities’ campus. The gift of this year’s luncheon was underwritten by Foundation board member, Dolly Dunklin Marting, in honor of Eileen Stearman and Mary Jane Orr, and in loving memory of Pat Abernathy. This event celebrates the ongoing progress of Opportunities, Inc., while also raising vital funds to support children and adults with disabilities in the community.

Bertha Shipp and Joy Stover

Treva West

Melinda Vammen, Lyndsey Craig and Jordan James

Marjorie Slimer

Judy Morgan and Bess Gamble-Williams

Sherry Young, Gayle Wright, Mary Jane Orr and Melissa Harris

LeAnne Wright

Mindy Williams and Rebekah Drennon

Betty Jo Hays and Lucille Cook

Patty Smith

Jamye DeHaan, Judy Morgan, Stephanie James and Lyndsey Craig

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PETE MANKINS NISSAN FALL 2020 CAR SHOW BENEFITS HARVEST REGIONAL FOOD BANK

On Saturday, November 21, Pete Mankins Nissan hosted its first inaugural Fall Car Show benefiting Harvest Regional Food Bank. Cars were divided into two categories: Pre-1980 and Post-1980. In addition to donations received during the event, the Mankins family matched all canned goods donated and money raised for Harvest.

Heather and Colton Stevenson

Patrick Reynolds

Jkeaton Wyatt and Ethelean B. Donald

Scott Watkins

Billy Johnson

Johnny and Caden Rounsavall

Amy Mays and Gayla Dellinger

Leroy Lemmerhirt

Dawn Parker and Dee Dee Woods

Johnathan Webb, Kyle Peavey and Joey Garcia

Charden Dorsey with Rowland and Joanne Smith

Shabrea Gulley

Johnny Fay Rounsavall

Korbin Tollefsen and Brett Lovelis

RAISING MY TRIBE

by A li D e A l

It’s the most wonderful time of the year, 2020 style. And this year is ending as crazy as it began.

Both sides of the election think they have won this thing. Of course its’s complicated, it’s 2020! Lord, bring us a break in 2021.

The pandemic was supposed to end when the sun came out this summer. It’s December, and we are all giving masks as gifts. At this point, we are going for the more expensive ones because there is no end in sight, and we are investing in the best masks. By the way, most masks are still coming from China. Here is your friendly reminder that China is the birth place of the Coronavirus. Work smarter not harder, people.

Our church caught on fire in March. That was fun. NOT. You just cannot make this up. Construction workers are still all in the parking lot. At least we know we will have a beautiful new sanctuary in 2021. That is a positive note.

Kids are about to come home for holiday breaks. Dear God, please let that go smoothly. And thank goodness we won’t be doing virtual lessons with them this goaround like we did in March. I diagnosed everyone in my household during that time.

Hey! Let’s just throw an extra dance recital in December just for fun. After all, we bought those costumes in the spring … let’s use them and expose our lungs to copious amounts of hairspray, glitter, and helicopter moms. And let’s do it during the holidays! Everyone loves some good dance recital stress, especially in the middle of Christmas!

I recently bought my husband an inversion table for some back problems he has been having. The back problems are probably another result of “the year of COVID.” It’s totally normal, at this point in 2020, for me to walk in the room and see him hanging upside down like a bat. It’s just how it is.

The highlight of 2020 is a sad one. It was me buying a new vacuum cleaner with an awesome coupon at Bed Bath & Beyond. The whole family was amazed; we have all taken turns using it. This is 2020. Expectations are low. Lower than low.

I’m currently trying to help my son with a school project for the holidays. Oh, the many paths parenting will take you. I ... I mean “we,” are constructing a French immigrant out of a clothespin. Listen, I have a 4-year art degree. I consider myself as crafty as they come. I am struggling with this. Best of luck to the other parents. Try drawing a tiny little French man’s face on the tip of a clothespin. My husband seriously asked us if we needed a magnifying glass. Jesus take the wheel!

To end 2020, we have done something incredibly stupid. A home remodel … while we are living in it. The kids are going to school covered in dust. They are coughing up a storm. I have told them time and time again, “You do not have COVID-19. You are just breathing in dust.” Teachers are aware. We are aware. Please don’t judge us silently in the community as we are hacking our lungs up. The coughing is from dust and cold nights with no heat and air. Have pity on us. Buy us a Hot and Ready Pizza. The good news is that with all of the walls down and studs exposed, my youngest is practicing writing his spelling words with Sharpies all over the house on the exposed wood. And I don’t even care … because it’s 2020, and the end is near.

Always witty and fun, Ali Deal is a part-time hairdresser/counselor and full-time mom to three children. She enjoys writing and sharing stories about her crazy everyday life in the “House of Deal.” Among her many talents, she serves as a partner-in-crime to her husband Cody, pancreas to John Morris, nurse to Rosemary, and baby whisperer to James.

2021 CATEGORY OF THE YEAR

Business/Organization that provided excellent customer service during the 2020 pandemic.

LOCALLY OWNED FOOD & DRINK

Best Curbside to Go Service

Best Place for Lunch

Best Margarita

Best Barbecue

Best Burger

Best Seafood

Best Mexican

Best Place to Take an Out of Town Guest

Best Steak

Best Cookies, Cakes, Pies, or Sweets

Best Patio Dining

Best Chips and Salsa

PEOPLE & PRODUCTS

Best Artist

Best Law Firm/Attorney

Best Photographer

Best Caterer or Chef

Best Furniture Store

Best Florist

Best Gift Shop

Best Hair Salon

Best Jeweler

Best Optical Shop

Best Pet Groomer

Best Dental Clinic

Best Place for Botox or Fillers

Best Landscaping Company

COMMUNITY

Best Charity Event

Best Nonprofit Group

Best New Business

Best Bank/Credit Union

Best Place to Get Fit

Best Wedding Event Venue

Best Insurance Agency

Best Place to Work

Best Preschool

Best Place for Kids to Play

Best Place for Live Entertainment

Best Place to Picnic

Best Downtown Destination

Best Place for a Massage or a

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FRIENDS FOR A CAUSE HOSTS ROCK OUT CANCER

A Rock Out Cancer Concert was held November 14 at Crossties Performance and Event Venue. Bands participating in the concert included: Parson B and The Part Time Sinners, Panic Rev, Split Decision, TJ McAlexander, and The Dusty Rose Band. Guests enjoyed a ribeye steak dinner from Silver Star Smokehouse. The event raised approximately $20,000 for local cancer patients.

Allie Watson, Elizabeth McClure and Jaylee McClure

Miranda and Kenneth Hurt

Warren O’Neal, Thom Wakefield and Robbie Rogers

Katie Gentry, Robin Hawthorne, Samantha Rogers, Joyce Coulter and Suki O’Neal

Haylee Mudford and Caleb Mudford

Leanne Hardage, Samantha Frederick and Connie Loomis

Scot and Holly Eitel

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TOYS FOR TOTS TOY DRIVE

A Toys for Tots Toy Drive was held October 31 at Buddy’s Home Furnishing. The mission of the Marine Toys for Tots program is to collect new toys and distribute them to children who are less fortunate at Christmas.

Tarrell Parks, Lavon Brown, Heaven Williams, Mike Ross, Choctaw Williams, Chris Martin and Marshall Williams

A Pinch of Salt

by Donnie Spriggs

COCKTAILS AND COOKIES FOR MOM

Every holiday season brings cooking, cleaning, and fun … and maybe a little stress. A few things I have made over the years for different events or just to have at home are Fudge Crinkle Cookies. These cookies are 100% Santa approved, or at least that’s what my mom told me, and she has connections with him. These cookies can be made very quickly and do not take a lot of time to throw together. What pairs even better with these cookies is an AMAZINGLY simple cocktail that is only three ingredients, that is right, just three simple ingredients. Rum Chata, Kahlúa and heavy cream are all you will need to make a Cinnamon Roll Cocktail, also known as “Mommy’s drink,” to have with your cookie!

INGREDIENTS

½ cup (2.2 ozs./60 g) unsweetened cocoa powder

1 cup (7 ozs./205 g) white granulated sugar

¼ cup (60 ml) vegetable oil

2 large eggs

2 teaspoons pure vanilla extract

1 cup (3.5 ozs./130 g) all purpose or plain flour

1 teaspoon baking powder

½ teaspoon salt

¼ cup confectioners’ sugar (for coating)

Donnie Spriggs is a longtime resident of Texarkana, Texas.

He has been in the restaurant industry since he was 16 and has been with Silver Star Smokehouse since 2014. He is a student at Texas A&M-Texarkana where he is part of the BAAS program.

He loves people but likes food even more, mainly because food makes people happy!

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INSTRUCTIONS

In a medium-sized bowl, mix the cocoa powder, white sugar, and vegetable oil. Beat in eggs one at a time, until fully incorporated. Mix in the vanilla.

In another bowl, combine the flour, baking powder, and salt. Stir the dry ingredients into the wet mixture just until a dough forms (do not over beat). Cover bowl with wrap and refrigerate for at least 4 hours or overnight. Or place in the freezer for 30 mins.

When ready to bake, preheat oven to 350°F | 175°C. Line 2 cookie sheets or baking trays with parchment paper (baking paper). Roll 1 tablespoonful of dough into balls for smaller cookies, or 2 tablespoonfuls for larger cookies.

Add the confectioners’ sugar to a smaller bowl. Generously coat each ball of dough in confectioners’ sugar, and place onto prepared cookie sheets.

Bake in preheated oven for 10 minutes (for small cookies) or 12 minutes (for larger cookies). The cookies will come out soft from the oven but will harden up as they cool.

CINNAMON ROLL COCKTAIL

1½ ozs. Rum Chata

½ ozs. Kahlúa

1½ ozs. heavy cream

the FRIENDS list

Each month, Four States Living will choose two people who have “liked” our Facebook page to be featured in The Friend List. Chosen randomly, these two “friends” will answer questions we provide so our readers can get to know them better. The bonus question (the last question) will be related to the theme of each month’s issue.

DAPHNE COX

age: 55 (Shhh! Don’t tell anyone!)

occupation: Accountant

If you won the lottery, what is the first thing you would do? I would make contributions to the wonderful organizations we have here in Texarkana.

When you have 30 minutes of free time, how do you pass the time?

My best buddy and I sit outside or in one of our kitchens and catch up on our week. There may or may not be a little wine involved. (LOL)

If you were allowed to have one wish granted, what would it be?

I would wish that my incredible 91-year-old mother was still strong enough to live at our house instead of assisted living.

MICHAEL PIZZALATO

age: 50

occupation: Owner of Live Oak Construction

If you won the lottery, what is the first thing you would do? I would purchase a ranch in the Texas Hill Country.

When you have 30 minutes of free time, how do you pass the time? Reading.

If you were allowed to have one wish granted, what would it be? I would love to visit my family members that have passed.

At what business could you max out a credit card?

Call me boring but I would never max out a credit card, although I could certainly do some damage at Four States Furniture.

Choose a movie title for the story of your life. It would most likely be a sappy Hallmark movie about how wonderful life is. I am a happy girl!

What are you currently watching on Netflix?

I am currently watching “The Queen’s Gambit” and rewatching “Reign.”

If you could visit anywhere in the world, where would you go? Italy – and hopefully during the Spring of 2021.

If you could only have three apps on your smartphone, which would you pick?

My photo library (you never want to lose those memories), FaceTime to see my kids/grandkids, and Walmart Neighborhood Grocery Pickup is the greatest thing ever!

What’s your favorite sport to watch, and which team do you root for?

Arkansas Razorbacks, of course! Go Hogs!

At what business could you max out a credit card?

Mack’s Prairie Wings.

Choose a movie title for the story of your life. “The Pursuit of Happiness.”

What are you currently watching on Netflix? I am not currently watching anything in particular.

If you could visit anywhere in the world, where would you go? The Yukon Territory.

If you could only have three apps on your smartphone, which would you pick? iTunes. HuntStand. The Weather Channel. “ THE MOST WONDERFUL TIME OF THE YEAR”

What’s your favorite sport to watch, and which team do you root for? I enjoy watching college football (LSU).

TELL ABOUT THE ONE SPECIAL THING THAT YOU ENJOY MOST ABOUT THE CHRISTMAS SEASON.

We are so blessed to have the most amazing blended family. We spend most of our holidays together, not just Christmas. I thank God every day for the joy they bring me. Christmas just makes it even more special.

The happiness of people. Everyone seems to have a sparkle in their eye ... Jesus’ birthday, shopping, hunting, food, football, Christmas lights, get-togethers, and the giving of others.