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appy JUNE! The month we celebrate the end of the school year, the start of summer and of course, the month we celebrate our dads! I want to wish my dad (Teej) a very Happy Father’s Day. His patience, love for his family, and special bond with my dog, Carter, are just a few of the things that make him an amazing dad. The man loves coming up with nicknames and once you have one… it’s going to stick. Probably forever. Anyone who has met my dad knows that he has always called me “Sis.” He is a man of few words but whenever he has something to say to me, it always starts with “Hey, Sis…” That phrase always makes me smile.

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rooke, 1992 “Teej” and B I’m thrilled that you’ve picked up this issue of Forsyth Woman! You are in for a treat! You’re going to want to read this one cover to cover because I don’t have enough space on this page to mention all of the fabulous articles that are in this issue… however, I am going to mention a couple!

1. Accent Prone celebrates TEN years this month! We’ve been working with Cheri and Justin since the day they opened their doors and WOW! What an honor it’s been to watch them grow. If you haven’t visited Accent Prone yet (maybe you are living under a rock? or maybe you just moved here??) …don’t walk, RUN! It’s well worth the trip to Kernersville. From home décor to clothing and jewelry… they truly have something for everyone. You can read all about Accent Prone on page 26. 2. We’re proud to announce the launch of a Fashion column! “Fashion for the Forsyth Woman” is on page 58. Y’all know we love shopping local and a fashion column seemed like the perfect addition! (P.S. If you love shopping, save the date for the 2022 Tour de Boutique on October 8th… register at tinyurl.com/2022TDB and stay tuned to @forsythmags on social media for details) Our mission at Forsyth Woman is for every single issue to be positively inspired and community focused. We love our community and genuinely hope this magazine can help you find a new business, make a new friend, learn about a new event… or better yet, ALL the above. As always, you can read all our content on our website (forsythwoman.com) and you can tune in to our podcast! A new episode is released every Thursday. Search “Forsyth Magazines”on Apple Podcast, Spotify or any major podcast streaming platform.

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I hope you’ll join us for Girls’ Night Out at Midown Café & Dessertery on Wednesday June 8th (more details on page 61).

Jr (Uncle R oy) and Bro oke

“When we lose someone we love, we must learn not to live without them, but to live with the love they left behind.” (Author Unknown) My family recently lost my Uncle Roy. He was a husband, a father, a papa (with TEN grandchildren), a brother, a friend, and a follower of Christ. He will be missed dearly, but I know our whole family will continue to live with the love that he left behind. There is a beautiful tribute to him on page 104.

Wishing you a happy, healthy, and fun start to your summer!

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OTHER CONTRIBUTING WRITERS Genevieve Condon Karen Cooper Candice Deal Martie Emory Anne Glenn Amy Hill Taryn Jerez Jean Marie Johnson Debbie Lanier Debbie Linville Kelli Messick Tabatha Renegar Susan Schabacker Lauren Sephton Leslie Speas Erika Taylor *others credited throughout accordingly

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NOT a Face of Heart Disease

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Accent Prone: Celebrating 10 Years

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Does Birth Order Shape Who You Become as an Adult?

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The Great Resignation and Why I Joined

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MEET THE ADVISORS Behind Making Dollars Making Sense BY DENISE HEIDEL

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STEVEN GALLO: PARTNER AT MARZANO CAPITAL GROUP Life often takes interesting twists and turns. Consider Steven Gallo, a partner at Marzano Capital Group. After growing up in Lewisville and graduating from West Forsyth High School, Steven went to NC State University and earned a degree in psychology. Yet, somehow, the road of life landed him in a great career working as a financial advisor with Marzano Capital Group. “While my degree and career seem somewhat incongruous on paper,” Steven concurred, “My degree is really beneficial in my work. For 15 years, I’ve been able to help individuals, couples, and families – all with unique needs and goals, and help them articulate and formulate investment plans that yield long-term benefits. I’m still using psychology to help dive deep into personal thoughts about money – often ideas that are generational in nature. I’m also able to help couples get on the same page with financial decisions, and that is a big win. “Plus, I love what I do. One of my favorite things to do is help folks who need a roadmap. They may be doing all the right things – working hard, saving money, and putting funds into an IRA. But they have no idea what they have or what the long-term plan is.” Steven explained, “Often, preparing the roadmap includes changing a mindset and considering better ways to do things. For example, if you’re going to make it to 60 and have enough money – you have to have the right mindset in your 20s and 30s to get to the place of financial freedom.

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So while my title is financial advisor, I’m often in the role of coach – teaching best practices to my clients so that, ultimately, they can go from years of savings and then transition to the freedom of spending. “It’s fascinating,” Steven continued. “To give an example – there are forty-three quintillion ways to solve a Rubik’s Cube. That makes the puzzle seem impossible to master. But a Rubik’s Cube can be solved in 20 moves. The process doesn’t have to be overwhelming. At the end of the day, the same process applies to money. I may have five different families come to my office, and they are exactly the same on paper. They are the same age, have the same assets, and make the same amount of money. However, they will have five different financial outcomes based on their values, goals, circumstances, and other factors. Because no matter what the twists and turns are along the way, getting to retirement may be the goal, but it’s what you do with your wealth that ultimately matters.” One might say that Steven’s work in finance was destined. After all, it’s in his blood. “My dad worked in finances, too, so growing up, I was familiar with the industry. I was also great friends with the founding partner, Jon

Marzano. We graduated from high school together and were always great friends. So after I entered the field, I joined Marzano Capital Group in 2010. It is a partnership that one could say was a lifetime in the making.” Steven has a 13-year-old son. He enjoys spending time with his son and girlfriend. An avid fisherman, Steven enjoys being outdoors any chance he gets! Steven’s roots run deep in this community, and he is committed to building both wealth and trust with his clients, helping them save now so they can enjoy their longterm efforts when they are ready for their retirement years.


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Hi! I’m Lauren. I’m a freelance writer, a food blogger and the official Forsyth Mags Foodie! Stay tuned each month to find everything from achievable dessert ideas to healthy, quick dinners that’ll happily feed the family.

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BEST OF WINSTON

A DAY IN OLD SALEM

Anne Glenn

Owner, Best of Winston Old Salem isn’t just for school groups anymore. This vibrant area of Winston-Salem continues to evolve and expand its offerings, making it a great spot for townies and visitors alike. You don’t have to buy a ticket or take a tour to enjoy its beauty and peace. Use this itinerary for inspiration on how to make the most of a day in Old Salem. If you plan to visit on a Saturday, then make your first stop at the Cobblestone Farmers Market. While the year round market is no longer held directly within Old Salem, it now sets up only a stone’s throw away. Park in the Old Salem Visitor Center lot (which is free), and make your way to the market on Marshall Street. Fuel up with a pastry and cup of coffee from Camino Bakery’s stall while you wander, and be sure to stop and smell the local flowers. Some of our favorite spots are Goat Lady Dairy for cheese, Chad’s Chai for tea, NOMAD farms for meat, and Harmony Ridge for produce. For those wanting to dive into the history of Old Salem, now is your chance to hit the Visitor Center. Currently Old Salem’s buildings are

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only open for inside tours Wednesday through Saturday, 10 am - 2 pm, so be aware of your timing. Even if you prefer to skip the history lesson, make sure to walk past the Visitor Center in order to access the famous Heritage Bridge (no ticket required). If you’ve been around Winston-Salem for a bit, this wooden bridge is one of the most photographed spots in town - especially at Christmas when it’s filled with Moravian stars.

cookies, or buy a Moravian sugar cake mix as a souvenir. When you’re hungry for a meal, Muddy Creek Cafe serves the perfect lunch menu. With satisfying sandwiches and a handful of other offerings, it’s a great spot to rest, especially if you snag a seat in their quaint courtyard. Muddy Creek is also slowly bringing back live music, so be sure to follow them on social media to know when their next concerts and open mics are happening.

Once you cross the bridge, you have officially entered Old Salem. Even though it’s been beautifully preserved and feels like a time capsule, Old Salem is actually a neighborhood where many people still live. Walk up Main Street or explore the side streets, and don’t rush. Old Salem is a place to take your time. If you’d like to learn more of the history, look for one of the Salem Pathways signs that are sprinkled throughout the main area. Using your phone, you can access a wealth of information and be led on a “tour” by a historic figure, all for free.

After lunch, head up Main Street towards downtown Winston-Salem to complete a loop around Old Salem. Before the end of the historic district, veer off to the right to God’s Acre, the Moravian graveyard. This serene spot offers some of the prettiest views in town for quiet meditation. Continue back to Main Street to exit the main part of Old Salem, where you will find the large Mickey Coffee Pot Marker - another photographyworthy icon.

As you walk up Main Street, turn into the Moravian Book & Gift shop to purchase your own Moravian star or other unique items. This charming store also houses a small coffee shop, E. A. Vogler Coffee & Confections, with limited indoor seating when you need a break. Farther up the road, Winkler Bakery is the sweetest destination in Old Salem, where baked goods are regularly churned out of their wood-fired oven. Don’t miss the Moravian

Taking the lovely shaded Salem Strollway, make your way back to the Visitor Center for your car. Should you wish to explore more, other nearby locations worth checking out are ByGood Coffee, Wood & Thread Boutique, and Meridian Restaurant, all wonderful and located on Brookstown Road bordering Old Salem. Whether you’re a history buff or not, consider this your sign to visit Old Salem soon.


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NOT a face of heart disease BY AINE CONCEPCION/AMERICAN HEART ASSOCIATION

“I was on death’s door and didn’t even know it,” said Kimberly Van Scoy, local career newscaster. “You don’t have to look like someone who would have heart problems… to actually have heart problems.” Kimberly first experienced shortness of breath in March 2020 and didn’t go to the hospital until that June. “I would wake up suddenly, gasping for air. I kept telling myself that I was just tired, had allergies and was anxious because the pandemic had just begun,” shared Kimberly. “Deep down, I knew something wasn’t right, but I kept thinking it would just go away.” “I should have gone to the doctor sooner, but I kept ignoring my symptoms. Your mind will play tricks on you. I remember telling myself, ‘It’s March, I’m having spring allergies, or I’ve gained a little weight, you know, I just need to exercise more,’” remembered Kimberly. Kimberly didn’t have typical risk factors, but she was experiencing symptoms. For the most part, she was fit, at normal weight, and had no underlying risk factors like diabetes or high blood pressure. She also did not have a family history of heart disease. “I was under stress. I’m a worrier, and age is a factor. I was 59, almost 60,” shared Kimberly. “To say June 7, 2020 was a wakeup call, is an understatement,” recalled Kimberly. Her stepdaughter insisted she go to the emergency room at Novant Health Forsyth Medical Center that day when she couldn’t eat and her shortness of breath was getting even worse. She was diagnosed with acute congestive heart failure and her heart was only pumping at 15%. Kimberly was in the ICU for four days. “Much of it is a blur because I was so sick,” recalled Kimberly.

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A few months later, she was strong enough to begin cardiac rehabilitation, where she worked her way up to 40 minutes of walking and cycling three days a week. “Little by little, I got better and better. We also made changes at home by eliminating salt from our meals to help reduce the fluid on my heart. I made sure I got enough sleep and lost 16 pounds. That’s how much fluid was on my heart!” shared Kimberly. “It’s by the grace of God that I’m here, and it really is amazing because I put off going to the doctor for so long. I am so thankful to my husband, family, and friends for helping me every step of the way. I couldn’t have done it without them,” said Kimberly. “Heart failure can happen to anyone. Even small signs can be the sign of something big. Listen to your body and don’t put off treatment. It could save your life. I’m living proof of that!” Kimberly recently stepped away from the anchor desk to focus on her health. Throughout the years, Kimberly has emceed the Winston-Salem Goes Red Breakfast, helping to recognize other women that had been impacted by heart disease and stroke. Now, Kimberly Van Scoy is a 2022 Forsyth County Go Red Woman, sharing her story to help other women prevent heart disease. Novant Health is proud to be the American Heart Association’s “Life is Why” and “Go Red for Women’’ sponsor in Forsyth County, celebrating, supporting and encouraging women to put their health first wherever they may be in their journey.


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C E L E B R AT I N G A L O C A L 1 0 -Y E A R B U S I N E S S M I L E S TO N E BY TABATHA RENEGAR

When Cheri and Justin Lingafelt, both from Kernersville, were only 18 years old they had one thing on their mind! Getting to Disney World! Their entrepreneurial spirit kicked in and they decided to find a creative way to earn money for the trip. It was then that they bought their first “lot” of furniture market sample lamps from Justin’s mother’s showroom and set up a yard sale on a corner in Kernersville. It was a success; they sold all the lamps and made enough money to go to Disney together! On that fateful vacation, how could they have possibly known that in June of 2022 they would be celebrating the 10-year anniversary of a vibrant and growing business-like Accent Prone?

When they finished school, Justin and Cheri both worked in market showroom and design, and Justin worked for the furniture market in sales and traveled to other markets around the world. Cheri had a corporate 9-5 job right out of college that she knew would not fit her creative nature or fulfill her passions long term. After about six months, they decided to take a leap of faith to open their unique and attractive store, Accent Prone. Cheri and Justin wanted to create a business in their hometown that would bring eclectic home fashions to Kernersville, and surrounding areas while also providing jobs for the local community and helping others find success. As you can imagine, it took a lot of hard work to get Accent Prone off the ground! When Accent Prone opened in 2012, they filled the shop to the brim with merchandise and delighted treasure hunters began to enjoy regular outings to the Kernersville shop. As Cheri and Justin saw their store grow, they knew some changes needed to be made! The delivery

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team of Dexter, Travis and Brisyn was added and they began expansion into two different warehouse spaces, one of which is open to the public on select Saturdays. In 2020, a tricky time for any business but certainly retail, Accent Prone moved forward with a move of their brick-andmortar location into a much larger, showroom-style space. This move allowed for the addition of a clothing and jewelry boutique, which is brimming with happy shoppers every time I visit! The development of the Boutique also led to “Accent Prone: The Label” under which they now offer a wide variety of apparel, accessories, and jewelry, including fine jewelry. The large, bright and airy showroom also created space for Accent Prone to offer many different interior design styles Cheri and Justin’s work this past decade has not gone unnoticed in the industry and they have even enjoyed collaborations with micro celebrities such as interior designing for Chris and Lauren Lane and a clothing line with Mary Beth (“MB”) Wilhelm. And they are just getting started – look for more collaborations in the works!


Over this past decade, like many business owners, Cheri and Justin have recognized how important it is to not just be a part of a community but to be a part of nurturing and giving back to your community! Thus, Accents of Kindness, the philanthropic branch of Accent Prone, was born. The mission behind Accent of Kindness is for a portion of every dollar made at the showroom to go into their Give Back fund. A financial goal for the fund is set and when that goal is reached, they begin accepting nominations for a local family in need and the interior design team completes a full room makeover on a room of the family’s choosing. Accents of Kindness is also a key player in the foundation of Accent Prone’s interior design program. Following their first Accents of Kindness room makeover for the Riddle family, Cheri, Justin and the Accent Prone staff began to receive recognition as interior designers, which inspired them to begin their design program and begin working with clients. Now, with a staff of 14 including mentorship support from Cheri’s father Terry and business development manager Julie Short, the current focus for Accent Prone is growth! Showing no signs of being stagnant, Cheri and Justin are looking forward to expanding their interior design business, their online shopping experience and into different markets. I asked Cheri and Justin what lesson has been most poignant as business owners and here’s what they had to say: “Resilience. The first 5 years - the first year especially - were incredibly difficult and it took a tough mental resilience to keep going. A positive mindset and the idea that you will succeed is huge when you are an entrepreneur…. you have to keep pushing and know you will make it… Be flexible, willing to adapt and have faith!” “The community and the friendships are the best parts about running a local business. Our team is like our family and we wouldn’t have it any other way. Our customers are friends and we want the best for each of them. I love the relationships we create. That is by far the best part along with the Accents of Kindness program where we makeover a room or space for a family or person in need/or deserving of one.” Visit Accent Prone in Kernersville at 1022 South Main Street and on Facebook at facebook.com/ AccentProne, and Instagram at instagram.com accentprone. The store number is 336.310.4753. June 2022 |

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Stylish Inspiration For Life BY MARTIE EMORY, PHOTOS BY MEGAN BLACK PHOTOGRAPHY

The delightful Evelyn Rose Boutique – situated in Winston-Salem’s historic West End – is a reflection of good taste and classic, feminine style, lovingly nurtured by owner Rachel Morales. Named for Rachel’s great-grandmother Evelyn, the boutique is approaching its first year as a storefront, having officially launched as a “mobile” boutique in a now well-known, and easily recognizable, Airstream. That Airstream is now the venue for Evelyn Rose’s trendy pop-up shops you’ll find happening around Charlotte, Raleigh, and the Triad. “I still love the retro-aesthetic feel of the Airstream, and that people can shop both inside there and at the store now!” says Rachel. A lifelong fashion connoisseur, her personal aspiration is for the fashion and accessory choices you make at Evelyn Rose to be part of your life’s journey – no matter where you are on your adventure! “I’m so proud we are able to serve WinstonSalem and provide our customers with clothing and accessories they’ll wear and love,” says Rachel. “We have customers shop with us when they’re looking for that special outfit, refreshing their wardrobe, or in need of a piece to make them feel especially beautiful.” For this summer, that might be a feminine blouse, flowing skirt, and definitely florals!

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Rachel also feels extremely grateful to be a local small business owner, with the chance to meet so many other creative, inspiring people. “Specifically here on Burke Street, many of the local businesses have sent some amazing customers our way and we do the same. There’s a handful of great local spots close to our store!” With summer now in full swing you’ll find lots of new styles rolling in each week at the boutique, including trending options such as dresses with cut-outs and bright colors. “Orange – or tangerine, as we refer to it! – and Kelly green are hot this season,” says Rachel. One of this savvy entrepreneur’s favorite elements of the boutique business is introducing a customer to a look or style they may not have tried before. This year it might be sampling some of those bright, bold shades of color! “Through my years of experience I’ve seen a new style that someone loves make the biggest impact on them,” she explains. “I don’t know if it’s because it’s so unexpected but when someone tries a new style and they absolutely love it you can tell it raises their confidence. Once you push yourself out of your fashion comfort zone – often with a nudge from your favorite stylist -- you see fashion as a fun way to express yourself.”

Rachel’s love of fashion began at an early age, with the dream of being a fashion designer when she “grew up.” “I did not get the drawing skills to be good enough at that,” she smiles. “But I am happy to be where it led me!” Every aspect of Evelyn Rose aims to take customers’ shopping experiences to the next level. Shopping the collection is easy – online, mobile via the Airstream, or at the brick-and-mortar store. With endless possibilities, Rachel hopes her business will become more than simply a boutique, and literally create a community of women with like-minded taste in fashion and life who support each other while looking fabulous. The Evelyn Rose fashion squad – three employees including Rachel --is poised to continue looking for new ways to grow, and they are excited to see what the next year holds! This fun, stylish boutique is located at 916 Burke Street in Winston-Salem, with summer store hours Tuesday through Friday 11:00 a.m. - 6:00 p.m., Saturday 10:00 a.m. - 5:00 p.m., closed Sunday and Monday. Reach Rachel or her staff at info@shopevelynroseboutique.com and online at shopevelynroseboutique. com. Customers wanting to check out the Airstream can follow them on Instagram for upcoming pop-up dates and information.


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Change Your Contacts! BY DENISE HEIDEL

Contacts. We love them. We love the freedom from eyeglasses. We love the flexibility of not worrying if our glasses are messing up our outfits…. We just survived a pandemic, and who on earth wants to ever wear masks with glasses again? There are a million and one reasons why 45 million Americans love wearing contacts. But contacts can get really…. Eww.

4. Buy your contacts from a reputable source. “Better yet, buy your contacts from your eye doctor and contribute to the ‘shop small’ movement. It’s better for the local economy, you get better customer service, and you can trust your local eye care provider is storing your contacts in a much safer environment than a massive warehouse without temperature control.”

There’s a definite gross-factor when it comes to contacts because we tend to think that since we’re the only ones wearing them, they aren’t “that” dirty. But friends – let’s be real. Contact lenses are like underwear. We need to change them frequently. Dr. Juawana Hall of Hillcrest Vision had these tips to share:

5. Don’t buy your contacts from a costume shop. “Going handin-hand with the ‘buy local’ advice, don’t buy contacts from a place that cannot properly fit you and where a prescription isn’t required. They may look cool with your costume, but cool can be a major pain if a poorly fitted contact lens scratches your eye and you get an infection.”

1. Don’t overwear your contact lenses! “Your eye doctor isn’t telling you to change your contacts more frequently just to get you to buy more! It’s about sanitation! Our job is to keep your eyes healthy, so no – we don’t want you to sleep in them…. We don’t want you wearing a two-week set of disposables for two months…. Just as you need fresh underwear, you need fresh contact lenses!”

6. Carry your backup glasses. “Things happen,” said Dr. Hall. “The last thing you want to have happen is to be stuck without your prescription if your contact tears, falls out, or your eyes just desperately need a break. I know, I know…. My patients wear contacts so they don’t have to deal with glasses. But it’s a good habit to have. Trouble with contacts is never expected. So prepare for the unexpected.”

2. Don’t clean your contacts with water. “Disinfecting solution is designed to clean and care for your contacts. Water may seem like an innocuous option, especially in a pinch, but it can actually cause a soft contact lens to change shape, swell, and do that dreaded vice-grip-stuck-to-the-eye thing that is super uncomfortable (plus, it can scratch the cornea while you’re trying to peel them off!). Besides, while we need to stay properly hydrated, most water isn’t germ-free. There are some really nasty, sight-threatening bacteria that live in water so while there are a number of reasons why contacts and water don’t mix – that’s the big one.”

7. Take your contacts out before showering, swimming, or getting in the hot tub. “Eh-hem, we just talked about water.”

3. Don’t clean your contacts with your own spit! “UGH!” said Dr. Hall. “The mouth is a cesspool of bacteria, but people often don’t consider their own germs. However, according to Colgate, over 700 species of microorganisms and bacteria live in a person’s mouth. So please don’t put them in your eyes!”

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8. Replace your case every three months. “Again, no one is trying to make you spend more money, but it’s about sanitation. You’re sticking your fingers in and out of those cases daily! So it’s a good idea to clean your contact cases daily and replace them every three months.” Dr. Hall and her team are the local experts on everything contact lens-related! So book an appointment soon and let them get you fitted – and informed – on the best contacts for your unique needs. Book an appointment with Hillcrest Vision! They are located at 2431 Winterhaven Lane in Winston-Salem. Call them at 336.760.2020, visit them online at HillcrestVision.com and be sure to “like” them on Facebook and follow them on Instagram.


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Hawaii Orchid Isle BY AMY HILL

In continuation of covering the many islands that make up the Hawaiian archipelago, I’ll give you an overview of the major sights to see in Hawaii’s largest island, the “Big Island.” Here’s how to spend seven days on Hawaii’s vast Orchid Isle.

Day 1: Land in Kona

Since the Island of Hawai’i is so large in comparison to its neighboring Hawaiian Islands, there are two major airports to fly into. I highly suggest flying into Kona International Airport (KOA) on the western side of the island, since the weather in Kona is much sunnier and drier than eastern Hilo, which is less frequently chosen as a tourist pick for a home base when visiting the Big Island. In KailuaKona, you will find a small downtown area with plenty of retail and restaurants along the Pacific Ocean, which is home to the legendary annual Ironman World Championship. If you would rather stay in a slower-paced resort area of the island with more sun and less walkability, driving 45 minutes north along the coast will take you to Waikoloa Village, where bicycling is common, ritzy resorts are prevalent, and sunshine is abundant. Singles might benefit from the nightlife in Kona, while families will enjoy the laid back resort atmosphere of Waikoloa Village.

Day 2: Hapuna Beach

Near Waikoloa Village sits Hapuna Beach State Recreation Area, with Hapuna Beach being ranked number one on Dr. Beach’s 2021 list of Top 10 Beaches in the U.S. With a half-mile of white sand and beautifully blue waters, Hapuna Beach is the perfect location for your first full day on the Island of Hawai’i. Those who want to get their exercise in after sunbathing can walk along the coastline’s Ala Kahakai trail from Hapuna Beach to Mauna Kea Beach for a change of scenery.

Day 3: Hawai’i Volcanoes National Park

No trip to the Big Island is complete without a trip to Hawai’i Volcanoes National Park, nestled in the Island’s southeastern corner. Visitors have the opportunity to see volcanic craters, lava tubes, trails of lava fields, and might even be lucky enough to see an active volcano eruption. Interestingly enough, the Big Island is the only Hawaiian island to see snow atop dormant Mauna Kea, Hawaii’s tallest volcano. Although Mauna Kea observatories are a far cry from Hawai’i Volcanoes National Park, be sure to rent an all-wheel drive vehicle to access roads leading to observatories, providing ideal views for astronomers and telescope-enthusiasts. Wine-lovers will appreciate the National Park’s nearby Volcano Winery after a long day in the sun.

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Day 4: Waipi’o Valley

Accessible via a challenging and remarkably steep drive or hike down from the parking area, Waipi’o Valley is home to stunning and lush terrain, wild horses and marine life, and a peaceful black sand beach to spend a morning or afternoon. The walk and drive down is so steep that visitors are highly discouraged from taking even an all-wheel drive vehicle down the adventurous slope, as residents and experienced Waipi’o Valley travelers are likely better suited for the task. Although the hike back up to the parking area from the valley is exhausting, it’s rare that visitors regret their trek and time amidst the breathtaking scenery.

Day 5: Papakolea Beach (Green Sand Beach)

If you’re seeking another hike after your trip down to Waipi’o Valley, walking for a couple of hours on flat terrain to one of the only green sand beaches in the world is well worth the trip to Papakolea Beach. There is no shade during the hike to the beach, so be sure to bring a lot of sunscreen and protective clothing. Those with all-wheel drive vehicles are able to drive closer to access Papakolea Beach, although the poorly marked road and rough terrain discourages visitors from driving as opposed to walking. After spending time at the Green Sand Beach, drive a few minutes north to Punalu’u Beach, known for its picturesque black sand, food trucks, and countless opportunities to see sea turtles in their natural habitat.

Day 6: Kona Coffee Country

Need a boost of caffeine on your last day on the Island of Hawai’i? The Big Island is home to numerous coffee roasters in the outskirts of Kona. Visitors can choose from one of many roasters to discover how Kona coffee is made, taste various brews and chocolates, and take a break from the hot sun. For dinner, enjoy an oceanfront meal of fish tacos and tropical drinks at On the Rocks in Kailua-Kona to kiss your Hawaiian vacation goodbye on your last night on the island.

Day 7: Depart KOA

Return your rental car at KOA and nestle into your seat while you depart the Big Island and head back to the mainland USA. Sad your Hawaiian vacation is over? Next month, I’ll tell you how to make the most of a week in Hawaii’s beloved honeymoon destination of Maui.


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Keeping It Real FULLY CONVINCED! BY DR. DEBBIE LANIER

Do you have people in your life who seem to see the best in every situation? If you don’t, you need them!

Yet despite endless waiting, despite obstacles that heightened the impossibility of this absurdity…Abraham believed!

My daddy is one of the most optimistic people I know. Every time I call, I sense the smile in his voice as I ask how his day is going. Daddy answers, “Every day is a good day! Some are just a little bit better than others!” No matter what has tried his soul, whether serious sickness or even the death of his precious wife, Daddy somehow recognizes things could be worse. For real!

The Scriptures say, “AGAINST ALL ODDS, when it looked hopeless, Abraham believed the Promise and expected God to fulfill it. He took God at His Word. He never stopped believing God’s Promise, for he was made strong in his Faith. And because he was mighty in Faith and convinced that God had all the Power needed to fulfill His Promises, Abraham glorified God and became the father of many nations.” (Romans 4:18; 20-21 tPt)

This high-octane optimism drives the pessimist nuts! It even rubs the realist the wrong way at times. But when you’re fighting your way out of a difficult situation, you need someone who believes it can get better despite what you see. Some folks would deem Abraham, the father of our faith, an optimist. What else could account for his ability to believe for the best when not even a smidgen of that reality had come into view? God promised a decrepit old man he would become a father to multitudes, when he and his barren wife (INFERTILE!) had never been able to conceive even one child in their youth! Think about it. God promised them that they would soon be changing baby diapers in a season when they actually wore diapers. (Depends® sounds kinder, doesn’t it?) Abraham’s wife, Sarah, found it impossible to conceive a child long before menopause. Now age 90 with a hundred-yearold husband . . . the thought was laughable! In fact, that’s precisely what Sarah did when she caught wind of this nonsense. She laughed! (Cackled, really.)

Folks, steadfast belief in spite of every impossibility is so much more than optimism; it’s unadulterated Faith! Even optimism has an expiration date. The most positive-thinking person will hit a limit and falter. But when we feed our Faith in the God who cannot lie, we can keep believing no matter how many times we get knocked down. Are you getting this?! There was zero reason to believe God could do this through them. None! Yet Abraham was “…FULLY CONVINCED that what God had promised, He was also able to do!” (4:21 NET) This is the best definition of Faith out there! Did God say it? Can God pull off what He said? Faith remains FULLY CONVINCED! Friends and family surrounding Abraham surely reminded him of all the reasons he should move on and forget this pipe dream, probably rehearsed with meticulous detail why this absurdity could never happen. Yet, Abraham chose to rehearse the Promise of God more emphatically than all the skepticism surrounding him. Friends, we must do this, too! Some people will feel obligated to remind you of all the reasons “it” can never work. Many of them love you deeply. But they can’t see what you see. They can’t hear what you hear. Their reference point resides in the natural; but your reference point dwells in the supernatural! What impossibility faces you today? What does God’s Word say about it? In spite of what stands in your way, stand on that Word and rehearse it over and again until you are “…FULLY CONVINCED that what God has promised, He is also able to do!”

For comments or prayer, contact Dr. Lanier at PastorDebbie@HopeCommunityChurch.tv.


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The ultimate whole body workout! BY MARTIE EMORY

When Kristin Henry opened Club Pilates in Winston-Salem in January 2020, she followed one particular belief in every aspect of the new venture: If you’re in control of your body, you’re in control of your life! As studio owner and lead instructor, she found a strong passion for Pilates after teaching yoga in college, and realized, as most students of Pilates do, that this skill set incorporates the flexibility of yoga, the strength and precision of martial arts, and the alignment of acrobatics. Pilates is often the most highly recommended form of exercise for patients just starting out, or for those who may be in recovery from an illness or injury. Based on the principles of centering, concentration, control, precision, breath, and flow, Pilates incorporates a blend of slow, refined, and deliberate movements. Pilates is also a low-impact form of exercise that is gentle on your bones and joints, making it a perfect fitness option for people who can’t do high-impact activities, like running or jumping. But to many newcomers, Pilates is a bit of a mystery. “The biggest misconception about Pilates is that it’s only about stretching,” explains Kristin. “But that is just one of its aspects. Pilates is a whole body workout focused on the core. These exercises lengthen and strengthen for a balanced and effective workout, improving all aspects of physical movement.

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Streamlining the Top Five Benefits of Pilates for our readers, Kristin shares the life-changing reasons to give it a try! 1. Strengthens core and postural muscles, and promotes an overall more positive feeling 2. Reduces joint and back pain 3. Improves flexibility and range of motion 4. Prevents injury and balances the muscles of the body 5. Improves balance Taught by professional, fully trained instructors, your first 30-minute full-body session at Club Pilates is always free, and introduces you to the foundations of Pilates and the studio’s state-of-the-art equipment, and also offers a chance to get to know the incredible staff. There are group classes or private training sessions available for every age and fitness level, even those with limited mobility, including Reformer, Flow, Cardio Sculpt, Control, Suspend, Restore, Center + Balance, F.I.T., and cross-training for young adults. Participants can choose individual classes that fit their schedule, or a monthly class membership. The bottom line? It’s never too late to start!

With the knowledge that regular exercise is absolutely crucial for a healthy immune system as well, the benefits become even stronger. Thinking of your body as an entire system of interwoven needs is the first step to overall wellness. Kristin opened the Winston-Salem studio just before the pandemic, when self-care was just about to take on a whole new meaning. “People are coming to realize more and more that a healthy body is easier to keep healthy and that immuno strength goes hand in hand with exercise,” she explains. “Pilates is a form of exercise everyone, including immuno-compromised individuals, can access and benefit from.” If you’re new to the idea of a regular fitness regime or you are looking to take your fitness abilities to the next level, visit Club Pilates, located in WinstonSalem at 371 Lower Mall Drive in Thruway Shopping Center. Reach them at 336-717-1222 for more information on class options, or online at clubpilates. com/location/winstonsalem. A locally owned and operated franchise, Club Pilates is also an excellent outlet for making new friendships and supporting others to become their very best selves!


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BY DEBBIE LINVILLE, PHOTOS BY JEJ PHOTOS mother was Dr. Johnson’s patient before me, and after telling me how wonderful she was in every way, and that Dr. Johnson was going to deliver my baby one day, I wasted no time in picking up the phone and making my first appointment.” Katelin battled infertility for years, but after listening compassionately at that first visit, Dr. Johnson set Katelin on a pathway that eventually led to the beginning of her pregnancy journey. Although Dr. Johnson was not on call the night baby girl Thomas made her debut, Katelin emotionally recalled, “About a week before I gave birth, as Dr. Johnson swept the membranes, she tenderly told me that she was touching the top of my daughter’s head. I realize that Dr. Johnson had probably done that a million times, but the fact she was the first one to touch my daughter meant the world to me.” Many special memories were shared by the Maddry women, but this sentiment from Taylor brought a collective smile and nod, “From the moment you step inside, you can tell the people who work there genuinely care – it is a beautiful place with beautiful people who make you feel at home.”

(L to R) Taylor B. Maddry, Nell P. Johnson, MD, Andi M. Wensley, Liv T. Thomas, Katelin W. Thomas Lyndhurst Gynecologic Associates is a wellrespected, time-honored medical establishment in Winston-Salem. When the late Drs. Linton and Whitener first hung their shingle in 1970 on Lyndhurst Avenue, their mission was to provide exceptional obstetric and gynecological care in a comfortable and caring environment. As the stellar reputation of the founding practitioner duo spread, Lyndhurst evolved and expanded in response to the myriad health care needs of the growing number of patients by acquiring additional sites, health care providers, and support staff. Today, the main campus is situated on the former Hanes Mill plant location and boasts a gorgeous, state-of-the-art 50,000 plus square foot building with a plethora of providers and a host of services, all under the same roof. Over half a century later, Lyndhurst continues to be a practice that provides patients with the best possible individualized care and is proud of the fact that they are delivering their 4th generation of babies!

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Even though the original practice has undergone a metamorphosis of significant proportions over the decades, the unwavering commitment to give excellent care to women of all ages is what keeps patients coming back. You don’t have to look far to find a highly satisfied, loyal multigenerational family at Lyndhurst Gynecologic Associates. Take the Maddry family for example: Taylor Maddry (mother), Andi Maddry Wensley (daughter), and Katelin Wensley Thomas (granddaughter and mother of nineteen month old Liv Thomas, great granddaughter). When asked what initially drew them to the practice and why they continue to return year after year, Andi beautifully expressed a common thread among the three women, “Every situation is handled with the utmost professionalism, kindness, and care. The physicians pour love into every visit and make you feel like family!” The primary physician for each of these women is Dr. Nell Johnson, daughter of the late Dr. Harold C. Pollard III (Lyndhurst physician for almost 40 years). As Katelin shared, “My

Making patients feel comfortable, while providing them with the utmost care utilizing the latest in healthcare innovation is the mantra of the Lyndhurst Gynecologic Associates team. In a recent interview with Drs. Nicholas Schoenbachler and Kendra Kesty, two of the newest physicians, it was apparent that not only are they passionate about their work and their patients, but they wholeheartedly share in the Lyndhurst vision of providing the best woman-centered healthcare possible. With all the ObGyn options in Winston-Salem and surrounding areas, what was the single most important reason you chose Lyndhurst to be your professional home? Kesty: Simply because as a patient I would choose Lyndhurst for my women’s health and primary care needs. Since rotating with the group in medical school at Wake Forest, I have looked up to many of the providers as role models and wanted to be a part of their team. All of the doctors are well-rounded, work well together, and emphasize accountability and patient-centered care. Schoenbachler: I had the benefit of training at Wake Forest and observing the Lyndhurst physicians for four years. I saw how well they worked together and supported one another. That made the choice easy for me.


Lyndhurst has long standing roots in Winston-Salem. Why do you think the practice has continued to grow and thrive? Kesty: I think medicine changes fast. As a private practice, we can be agile and make changes that improve care for our patients. We have providers that specialize in many facets of women’s health. For example, we added a pelvic floor physical therapist to the team due to the growing need for such expertise. Schoenbachler: We continue to build on the foundation started by the founding partners 50 years ago and provide individualized care to our patients in this community. I think I can speak for all my partners to say we strive to care for patients as we would our own families.

What is your specialty area? If you had to pick just two of your specific clinical interests, what would they be and why? Kesty: I have been trained and enjoy treating a wide range of gynecologic and obstetrics diseases and would say I practice comprehensive ObGyn. I specialize in minimally-invasive hysterectomy, which allows patients to go home after surgery instead of spending a night in the hospital. I also have extra training in vulvo-vaginal dermatological issues. Schoenbachler: I chose to be a general obstetrician and gynecologist to practice the full scope of the specialty. There is no other job that allows you to safely deliver someone’s child and then continue to care for them throughout their life. That includes caring for a complex pregnancy, helping someone with heavy menstrual bleeding, and providing surgical treatment options when necessary for various gynecologic issues.

A fun fact patients may not know about you? Kesty: I love all types of biking - road, mountain, touring, commuting. And I tried cyclo-cross for the first time this year. Schoenbachler: If I was not practicing medicine, I would certainly be pursuing my interest in woodworking. Since opening its doors in 1970, Lyndhurst Gynecologic Associates has served three generations of women (and counting!) in the area with the finest care and compassion. Visit their website at lyndhurstgyn.com, or call the Winston-Salem office at 336-765-9350, the Kernersville office at 336-993-4532, the Mount Airy office at 336-789-9076, or the King office at 336-765-9350. The Winston-Salem practice is located at 111 Hanestown Court, Suite 151.

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Transform Yourself from Busy Girl Boss to Bombshell with Jolie Boudoir BY AMY HILL Need a boost of confidence before hitting the beach this summer? There’s no better way to feel sexy and secure with your body than by seeing yourself in a whole new light. Book a boudoir photoshoot with Jolie Boudoir to learn to love your body and reconnect with your sensual side. As an experienced and nationally published photographer, Kira Wood has always taken an interest in all things creative since she was a small child. In the early 2000s, Kira took up photography on a whim and decided to enroll in a film photography class at the Sawtooth Center. Soon enough, she began working for a photography company specializing in church directory portraits, allowing her to travel up and down the east coast. She began incorporating wedding and family photography into the mix, transitioned over to digital photography, and began assisting other photographers with lighting. When Kira realized that she was no longer passionate about photographing weddings and families, her close friend suggested that she dip her toes into the water of boudoir photography. Hesitant at first, Kira was not convinced that boudoir photography would become her new niche. After a bit of convincing from her friend, along with a trial boudoir photoshoot just for fun, Kira rapidly realized that boudoir photography was the spice she was missing in her photography career. Due to the nature of boudoir photoshoots, many clients are initially nervous upon entering the studio. At Jolie Boudoir, the goal of Kira and her team is to make clients feel as relaxed and confident as possible. Pre-shoot consultations in-person or over the phone also help clients get a feel for what to expect the day of the photoshoot. Because Kira wants all clients to feel pampered and to have a spa-like experience while preparing for their photos to be taken, Kira’s hair and makeup team are professionals at simultaneously glamorizing their clients and making them feel at ease. “Everyone is a little nervous until they sit down for hair and makeup,” explains Kira. “The day of the photoshoot, it feels like you are chatting with a bunch of girlfriends.” Jolie Boudoir knows just how to capture clients in their best light. According to Kira, “Most people

are shocked and pleasantly surprised by how great they look when they finally see the photos.” One reason clients in search of boudoir photos choose Jolie Boudoir is Kira’s ability to make anyone and everyone look their best through posing, angles, and lighting. To help perfect her craft, Kira has attended numerous in-person workshops specializing in posing, which sets her apart as a seasoned boudoir photographer. While many photographers have been foregoing Photoshop or heavy retouching of models in recent years to present a more realistic body image to others, Jolie Boudoir stands by its practice of light retouching of photos and use of Photoshop. Kira aspires to make clients feel like they are seeing the best version of themselves in their photographs; a bit of skin smoothing in photographs enhances clients’ natural beauty, along with the quality of the photographs they receive following the shoot. Rarely, if ever, does Kira change clients’ body shapes in photographs; when it comes to subtle editing and Photoshop at Jolie Boudoir, a little goes a long way. Jolie Boudoir photographs clients of all ages and sizes. While many individuals believe boudoir photos are typically given to one’s significant other, Kira has found that a large number of her clients are solely having boudoir photos taken as a gift to themselves. One of the most rewarding aspects of Kira’s career as a boudoir photographer is seeing her clients’ reactions to their photos. Kira explains, “Seeing someone feeling empowered and brought to tears after a photoshoot because she had never considered herself to be sexy is the reason why I chose boudoir photography as my specialty. Women are always comparing themselves to each other, and we don’t get that boost of confidence often enough.” Interested in booking your boudoir photoshoot with Jolie Boudoir? Look to book with Kira and her team up to three months in advance to secure your spot. Check availability, view pricing, and read more about Jolie Boudoir online at www.jolieboudoir.com. To see more of Kira’s work, check out Jolie Boudoir on Facebook and follow @jolieboudoirnc on Instagram. The Jolie Boudoir studio is located at 300 S. Liberty Street, Suite 205, Winston-Salem, NC 27101.


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Coffee Shop BY AMY HILL

THE OVERLY AFFECTIONATE BARISTA It’s 7:35 a.m. and you stop at your local coffee shop for a cappuccino and muffin to-go on your way to the office for the day. A bit frazzled from being in a hurry, you walk up to the counter to order and are greeted by the perkiest and most enthusiastic morning person you’ve ever met at the cash register. You order your cappuccino and muffin (orange cranberry, preferably), to which the barista replies, “Thank you so much, Love.” Love? Did you miss the part where you and the barista became close friends? Is the barista attracted to you? Are they just trying to earn a tip? You shouldn’t be angered by being handed a term of endearment from a total stranger, but your cynical self has a habit of doubting all kind gestures from anyone – especially when under-caffeinated.

THE INDECISIVE ORDERER You stand to the side of the pick-up counter waiting for your cappuccino to be made, but you notice that the coffee shop is severely understaffed for such a busy time of day. This is prime coffee time, so where are the extra employees? A strange lady with purple hair saunters into the shop and over to the counter. She proceeds to forgo reading the menu herself, and instead decides to ask the busy barista about what she should order. You’re trying to make it to work on time, and your palms begin to sweat as minutes of conversation between the purple-haired chatty Cathy and the sole barista go by. No one is making your cappuccino, and why is everyone in this coffee shop so talkative? Does no one have anywhere to be?

THE BUSINESSMAN In the corner at a table, you overhear a man in a suit and tie carrying on an important-sounding phone conversation in front of his laptop. You find it odd that his day has already started so early. If this man is as successful as he sounds, why isn’t he working in his own office rather than using public Wi-Fi at a wobbly coffee shop table? He’s an absolute fraud, you think to yourself. He’s basically Elizabeth Holmes. You soon realize you’ve spent too many hours in the evening binge-

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watching “The Dropout” on Hulu, which is why you found yourself struggling to make it out of bed and leave the house early enough to not be stressed while waiting on your cappuccino. You hear someone frothing milk, and you hope that your order is up next.

THE COLLEGE GIRLS It’s now 7:45 a.m., and your patience is wearing thin. You see two young ladies walk enthusiastically into the coffee shop and begin gushing over the new seasonal latte flavors on the menu. You’re jealous because you were once 21 years old and could drink a sugary latte before class every day and not reap the consequences on the scale. They begin talking about their group project, where they were going with their sorority the next Saturday night, and a new pair of jeans they just purchased from Urban Outfitters (not skinny jeans, of course – those are apparently out of style). As if you weren’t already miffed, you’ve now had your ticking biological clock thrown in your face by being forced to watch two lively college-aged girls babbling and carefree with their special flavored lattes in tow.

THE ELIGIBLE BACHELOR Finally, your cappuccino has been topped off with a lid and you’re ready to grab it and go. As you are heading out of the door, you cross paths with a young professional in his late twenties to early thirties wearing a nice button-down shirt and fitted trousers. He seems relatively emotionally stable and isn’t on his cell phone, which is all that really matters. Should you go back inside and ask for a napkin? Is this meant to be? This happens in Hallmark movies, so why can’t it happen to you? He gives you a simple head nod as a greeting and continues to walk on by. You always knew you would meet your future husband this way. You vow to yourself that the coffee shop that was the bane of your existence 15 minutes ago is now going to be your daily go-to before work, even if you’re late.


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Make Every Day an Adventure BY JEAN MARIE JOHNSON

If you think that the 600 or so words that follow couldn’t possibly apply to you, consider this: For most of my life I have been a bona fide, measurable, testable, observable introvert - one of the least spontaneous people on planet Earth. It’s the truth, and yet… as the days and the years go on, I am learning to get over myself, to intentionally challenge my well-worn grooves by enjoying the day-to-day in new ways. It wasn’t the pandemic that prompted this, or the move to the Southeast over four years ago. It was simply me sitting with the realization that I was missing out on something that was readily available to all of us; followed by the inescapable understanding that the only thing holding me back was me. Making every day an adventure is about two things: • Being responsive to whatever may show up. • Choosing to do something out of the ordinary while having no expectation of it. Honestly, it’s a blast, and maybe even exactly what you need if you’re feeling bored, restless, stuck, or apathetic. I’ve rounded up a few tips and ideas that may help you to make every day in your precious life an adventure.

ATTITUDE FIRST

• Choose to be the master of your universe. Instead of simply deepening the groove you’ve been in “since forever,” trust yourself to step outside of your patterns and habits. • Let go of any resounding or residual concern about looking like a fool. Life is too short for that and it is healthier to accept that waiting around for others to really understand you is a waste of time. • Remind yourself of the missed opportunities that, in retrospect, you wish you had said “yes” to. We all have them. Use that bit of regret to fuel your curiosity and transform a habitual “No, I think I’ll pass” into a “Sure, why not?” • Choose to believe that every day you wake up is a new opportunity to see, do, or experience something in a new way.

ACTION FOLLOWS ATTITUDE

• Drive a new route. I generally drive Yadkinville Road to catch up with Reynolda. By going a different way, I discovered new places to eat and shop that I had no idea were there. • Walk a different path. You’ll see landscape ideas to emulate, new people to say “Hello” to, and new dogs to love on. • Try a new color. Whether it’s a garden scheme or a shade of fingernail polish, step outside of your comfort zone. This type of experimentation doesn’t need to be permanent, and that’s the point. • Read something in a new genre or by an unknown author. I was amazed to discover – when I finally moved beyond 19th century literature – that there are a ton of great writers I had unwittingly snubbed!

• Start a different conversation. We tend to see the same people and have “repeat conversations.” If you always ask about Fido’s health, ask instead if that neighbor has always preferred large dogs and see where the conversation goes. Or, if you compliment your neighbor’s gardening skills, ask her what ideas she may have for your forlorn strip of horticultural neglect. • Try a different supermarket or restaurant. We tend to stay with what we know because we like it and because it’s “what we know.” By changing things up once in a while, we discover new things and potentially expand what we “like and know.” • Find a new way to achieve a goal. Maybe you started to do that while under the heavy thumb of the pandemic. Keep it up! Can’t go to the gym? Turn on YouTube and find a virtual class. The key is to hold onto the goal while identifying alternative ways to achieve it. Most of all, remind yourself that every day can be filled with the magic of discovery and adventure if you stay open, curious, and engaged in the life around you.


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A HEALTHY OPTION FOR ALL OUR NEIGHBORS! BY MARTIE EMORY If you’re just learning about the Community Care Center in Winston-Salem, welcome to what is a lifechanging mission for local families, and a labor of love for the Center’s amazing volunteers. As one of the largest, most comprehensive free healthcare clinic in the Southeast, the Center provides healthcare services and medications to uninsured patients who do not qualify for federal or private insurance, and who have a family income below 200% of the federal poverty level. A 501 (c)(3) non-profit, the Community Care Center is staffed by medical professionals with a variety of backgrounds and specialties, all with a singular passion to treat their fellow humans with compassion, sensitivity, and respect, regardless of their nationality or their ability to pay. Since opening in 2000, the Center has cared for over 25,000 patients, and provided more than $150 million in services and medicines for qualifying patients in Forsyth, Davie, and Stokes counties. “We rely on many partners to provide free healthcare access and we have a common mission — to provide care for the medically underserved. This includes providing otherwise inaccessible primary care, which in turn prevents unnecessary future visits to hospital emergency departments,” said Tim Clontz, executive director/CEO of Community Care Center.

Women can also receive general gynecological services at the Center, including pap smears, breast exams, pelvic exams, and birth control management, and while children have been seen in the past, the current doctor shortage has left the clinic with no pediatrician at this time. However, physicians at the Center work with other practices to make referrals for any health needs that cannot be met onsite. “We have served as the medical home for approximately 2,600 unique patients annually,” says Pam Anglin, Marketing and Development Consultant. “Before Covid we had approximately 350 active medical, dental, and non-medical volunteers who donated over 10,000 hours of their time – most in addition to working full-time jobs.” The Center now has just over 70 physicians, PAs and nurse practitioners, 10 of whom are bi-lingual, and 28 practicing gynecology staff members. With the recent lack of volunteer labor and the loss of income from not being able to hold in-person fundraising events, the need for donations and volunteers is stronger than ever! The need in the community is stronger than ever as well. Patients must meet eligibility guidelines, with financial screenings conducted to verify income before applicants are approved.

Families are also re-screened to determine continuing eligibility. “Extended family members are also affected in many ways,” says Pam. “The loss of a parent, or the inability of a parent to work, may affect a family for generations and be the difference between poverty and having a decent living.” “Free clinics need partners such as universities, community colleges, and healthcare systems to help encourage those underserved individuals to utilize our available resources, as well as to aid in creating new public health policies that help eliminate health disparities,” adds Tim. Playing a vital role for families now – and in shaping the future health of our community – the Community Care Center is crucial for our families, our youth, our senior citizens, and our neighbors around us facing daily adversity. Low-income patients tend to postpone medical care until chronic conditions become serious because they lack financial resources or access to a personal physician they trust. Life-changing is indeed the most appropriate phrase to describe the Community Care Center, and as a community neighbor, you can donate, you can volunteer, and you can spread the word!

The Community Care Center is located at 2135 New Walkertown Road in Winston-Salem. Call them for more information at 336-723-7904, or learn more about their services at carectr.org. Clinic hours are Monday and Thursday 9 a.m. - 9 p.m., Tuesday and Wednesday 9 a.m. - 5 p.m., closed Friday, Saturday, Sunday. Patients are seen by appointment, with extended evening hours to accommodate work schedules. For more information contact Executive Director/CEO Tim Clontz at 336-760-1235, or Marketing and Development Consultant Pam Anglin at 336.682.8806.


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Does Birth Order Shape Who You Become as an Adult? BY KAREN COOPER

Does the order of your birth have any bearing on the type of person you become? Study after study seems to show there are similarities in first born children (and only children), middle born children and those who are born last…the babies of the family. What do you think?

FIRST BORNS:

Well-known first borns include Kate Middleton, Beyoncé, Emma Watson, Hillary Clinton, Richard Branson, J. K. Rowling, Oprah Winfrey, and Winston Churchill. Out of the first 44 presidents of the United States, 24 were first-born children including Thomas Jefferson, Abraham Lincoln, and Theodore Roosevelt. Some characteristics attributed to first born children and only children include: perfectionism, high achiever, loyal, organized (list maker), reliable, self-sacrificing, critical, rule followers, conservative, self-reliant, and serious. According to economists at the University of Texas in Austin and at Sweden’s Institute for Evaluation of Labor Market and Education Policy, first born children are 30 percent more likely to become leaders, such as CEOs or politicians. They found that firstborns on average are more emotionally stable, persistent, outgoing, responsible, and able to take initiative than their later-born siblings. Research published in the Journal of Human

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Resources found that firstborn children outperform their younger siblings on cognitive tests starting from infancy. Wonder why? They are often better set up for academic and intellectual success thanks to the type of parenting they experience. Parents were shown to invest more time creating rules and being strict with their first child. As a result, unique qualities develop that make them great leaders, such as intelligence and the ability to manage teams.

MIDDLE BORNS:

Well known middle borns include Kim Kardashian, Madonna, Martin Luther King, Bill Gates, Britney Spears, Jennifer Lopez, and Princess Diana. Some characteristics attributed to middle born children include: mediators, conflictavoiders, misunderstood, balanced, good listeners, outgoing, absentminded, carefree, affectionate, rebellious, temperamental, charming, independent. Middle born children have been shown to be more co-operative, flexible, and sociable. They make and sustain friendships easily. As a result of the often-lowered expectations from their parents, middle born children can be less ambitious than their older brothers and sisters, and also have a more relaxed attitude throughout their lives. Middle children often receive less attention than their other siblings, which prompts them to seek out relationships and friendships outside of their family, which leads them to be perceived as social butterflies.

LAST-BORNS

Well known last borns include Cameron Diaz, Harry Styles, Ryan Gosling, Angelina Jolie, George Clooney, and Johnny Depp. Some characteristics attributed to last born children include: fun-loving, uncomplicated, manipulative, outgoing, attention-seeking, self-centered, highly social, confident, creative, good at problem solving, adept at getting others to do things for them. Youngest children are oftentimes likable and charismatic. They are generally more creative than older siblings and have a stronger sense of well-being and confidence. Parents tend to be a lot less strict and more lenient with their youngest children. By the same token, parents’ expectations are often lower for their youngest children. Because of this, the youngest children will generally be less responsible and mature than their older siblings, as they are used to others taking the lead. Every child has his or her role to play within the family and will develop his or her own strategy to master life. Regardless of the studies and statistics, birth order doesn’t dictate who a person will become or how successful they can be. Each person has their own set of personal circumstances and a great deal of free will which will allow them to be whoever they decide to be…whether they came first, second, third or beyond.


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BY TARYN JEREZ OF ONECRAFTYMISS.COM

3 Ways to Utilize Brand Photography in Your Business This column is meant to serve as a resource for readers who seek inspiration and knowledge for building their own small business brands. Through actionable advice, find the encouragement to help you keep living your life with hustle and heart.

Your brand probably utilizes photography multiple times per week, but what’s the strategy behind each photo you share? Over the last five years there has been a massive increase in brand photography as a career, and it’s no coincidence that entrepreneurs have been demanding to have beautiful photos of their business. Why? Because businesses have realized the power that quality photos of their brand have in creating connections and capturing customers. Now, we all know that beauty is only skin deep but brand photography can serve your business in a multitude of ways that go way beyond just having “pretty pictures.” Here are a few ways to intentionally utilize your brand photos the next time you have a photoshoot.

BUILD BRAND RECOGNITION ACROSS PLATFORMS & RESOURCES

You want a brand that stands out from the crowd and that happens by creating brand recognition. Think about a Facebook ad that pops up on your feed from Target. Before you even see the brand’s name you can probably tell who it belongs to because their aesthetic is burned into your brain by now. One of the easiest ways to build that recognition is through consistency and repetition! Choose a brand photo to utilize as your profile photos across your social media platforms, include it in your email signature, add it to the back of your business card and place it on the first or last page of your slide decks. Find multiple places to incorporate one to three of the same images you have from your brand shoot so your audience immediately recognizes your business when they see those images.

CREATE CONTENT THAT INVITES YOUR AUDIENCE IN

Don’t forget to think beyond headshots! Brand photos should capture you and your team but also the magic of your business, even the mundane day-to-day parts you may not realize people want and need to see! Using brand photos across your social media posts and stories, inside blog posts and email marketing, and for press releases or promotional advertisements are all great ways to let people

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in. You want to share photos that give your audience a look at what it’s really like to work with you, and immerse themselves in your services or purchase your products. Give them a taste of who you are, who you serve and how you do it! Brand photos will allow you to demonstrate these very things so utilize them here.

ENCOURAGE ACTION THROUGH FAMILIARITY AND TRUST IN YOUR CUSTOMER JOURNEY

The purpose of your photos will always reign over how aesthetically pleasing they are! You want your brand photos to capture the right people for your business and help them take whatever action you’re looking for. Think about how your photos can create a sense of familiarity with the viewer because that is how you build trust! Whether you are a virtual or in-person business, people need to have trust before they pay you for something. Choose brand photos that show your face and your team, so they can see your brand’s personality shine through. Utilize your brand photos throughout the entire buying process to instill this and help encourage them to make a move with you. Incorporate your brand photos across every step of the customer journey in things like your advertising, website, services/pricing brochure, onboarding guide, welcome email, follow up survey, and more.

Hustle & Heart Challenge

This month’s challenge is to take a look at whatever brand photos you have - whether taken professionally or personally - and brainstorm different ways to utilize them to see your business grow. Get intentional about how you are sharing your photos and what your goals are behind each image. Be creative and purposeful with your brand photos all month to see a difference!


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FOR FANS OF FOOD! ARTICLE & PHOTOS BY LAUREN SEPHTON


Ryan’s Restaurant A Hidden Gem within the City

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Ryan’s Restaurant has been a Winston-Salem staple since the first day it opened its doors in 1977. It’s minutes from downtown yet offers a hidden escape from the daily hustle, with large window seating and a starlight deck that gives you a vibrantly green panoramic view of their large oaks. If you are seated inside, or outside enjoying the peaceful serenity, you may even spot a few North Carolina birds passing by earlier in the evenings. Whether you’re celebrating a special night or simply dining, Ryan’s is a superb place to turn any night into an experience with their incredible service and intimate atmosphere. The evening began with an undeniably fresh and bursting-with-flavor salad called “The Seasonal.” It’s filled with juicy strawberries and crisp mixed greens, then topped with sunflower seeds for a mildly nutty flavor addition. You’ll also find grated Parmigiano Reggiano for a sharp savory flavor that helps to balance out the fruity and nutty notes. It’s served with their prosecco vinaigrette that’s made in-house and adds a delicate floral taste to the salad. The Seasonal was then followed by Ryan’s Heirloom Cherry Tomato Caprese that was served with local cherry tomatoes. The tomatoes were more naturally sweet than your typical tomato, firm, almost crunchy, yet still incredibly flavorful and juicy inside. They were plated with fresh

mozzarella, microgreens for added texture and flavor, a balsamic reduction, and a vibrant green spinach pesto to take this traditional Italian appetizer to the next level. Moving on to the entrees, we had the opportunity to taste four of their iconic and well-loved dishes in miniature versions. First up was their heavenly Pan Seared Scallops that were delicately sweet with a browned crust on the outside from searing. And don’t get me started on the texture inside soft as butter! The perfectly cooked scallops were beautifully plated with an apricot beurre blanc sauce, a citrus Parmesan gremolata for a little added crunch, and fresh microgreens. The second entree was their Chilean Sea Bass,seared to perfection, crispy on the outside and tender on the inside. It was served with a bright pineapple salsa and on top of their basil basmati rice for a little kick of fresh herbs. But let’s not forget about those fresh greens, because is a dish really finished without microgreens? The third entree enjoyed was their Beef Tenderloin Tips, seared to stay juicy and tender on the inside - an unbeatable texture that’ll just melt in your mouth! It was served on top of their buttermilk whipped potatoes and smothered in a creamy mushroom gravy that had great depth in flavor and complemented the tender meat deliciously.

Lastly, we had a bite of their Duck Breast that was seared, but still stayed tender, moist, and full of flavor with a crisp texture on the skin. The succulent meat was incredibly complemented with the bright cherry and orange sauce - like a burst of sunshine! The citrus notes were balanced out with their sweet potato mash, which was astonishingly soft. To end the night on a sweet note, we tried two impeccable desserts. The first was a rich velvety Chocolate Mousse that was a featured dessert by Chef Luke and the perfect way to get your chocolate fix! It was served with pirouline wafer cookies for added crunch, softly whipped cream, a chocolate drizzle, and a cherry on top. And to finish off the night, we had a sneaky bite of their Chocolate Peanut Butter Pie. It had a light and creamy peanut butter filling with a crunchy cookie crust, chocolate ganache topping, and Heath bar crumbles for the ultimate finishing touch. Thank you, Mr. Carter, Chef Luke, and the amazing staff at Ryan’s Restaurant for such delicious dishes and an incredible night. Now, if your stomach is grumbling, here is your sign to head on over to Ryan’s Restaurant tonight and tell them that the Forsyth Mags Foodie said hi!

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BY ERIKA TAYLOR, FOUNDER OF TAYLOR YOUR CLOSET & TAYLORINGSTYLE BLOG | @TAYLORINGSTYLE

Get in y’all - this month we’re kicking off summer with some shopping at Blue Jean Boutique. If you haven’t heard, Blue Jean Boutique is an on-the-go, mobile boutique here in the Triad area. The ‘Jean’ in the boutique name comes from their love of jeans (rightly so) and it’s also a family name that the women in the family share, making it even more special! The idea of the boutique was brought to life during the COVID-19 pandemic to spread more joy, love, and kindness and it has done just that. Each item is unique and hand selected with you in mind.

Without further ado, let’s get into the looks you can shop at Blue Jean Boutique. This first look is perfect for any upcoming concerts, festivals, or a casual night out with the girls.

This Rolling Stones inspired graphic tee is soft and it pairs perfectly with these high-waisted flares (which are incredibly soft and comfortable). I also added this layered gold paperclip necklace to accessorize. Speaking of accessories, can we take a moment for these fun daisy sunglasses? We love these for concerts, a day at the pool, or even a bachelorette weekend! As far as this top goes, you can also style it with a pair of denim shorts and/or white jeans as well. The jeans are also versatile and can be worn with a plain t-shirt, a floral tank, or another graphic tee.

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I paired this tee with a pair of oversized vintage denim shorts. All of the denim shorts and jackets at Blue Jean Boutique are vintage with a touch of creative flare. Owner Amanda adds splashes of colorful designs to make her pieces one-of-a-kind. Last, but certainly not least, we have this beautiful floral dress. As far as shoes go, we would want to pair this look with tan sandals/wedges, booties, or white sneakers. This dress is more versatile than you probably think as it can be worn for a girls night out, date night, or Sunday church and brunch. You can also wear it without the hat, but I love the extra touch it really elevates the look as a whole.

As for this denim jacket, it deserves a quick moment of admiration. It’s oversized and the unique design on the back just makes it all the better. Talk about a must-have piece. You can style with dresses, skirts, jeans, and/or leggings all year long! Not only does Blue Jean Boutique have cute tees, denim, and dresses, they also have accessories and even gifts you can grab for your loved ones (or yourself). Want to shop at Blue Jean Boutique? Follow them on Instagram (@bluejeanboutique) and shop their website, bluejeanboutiquenc.com. When you go shopping there, be sure to tag us (@bluejeanboutique, @forsythmags, and @tayloringstyle) so we can see your looks! Until next time, happy shopping!

Onto our nextlook Now, I want to address the elephant in the room, my shoes. These are not the shoes that I would advise you to pair with this look. Instead, I would go with tan sandals or a pair of wedges. I love the color and design of this Marilyn Monroe tee. It is so unique and makes a statement. You can of course pair it with regular jeans or shorts and sneakers, too. Another graphic tee with an American icon? Yes, please. This “What Would Dolly Do?” tee is a classic. Honestly, it’s a great reminder on those days when we may be feeling a little down or overwhelmed, or when we need a little extra encouragement.

Erika Taylor is the creator of Tayloringstyle Blog & founder of Taylor Your Closet, her personal styling business. Her love for style, writing, & helping others came together to produce a business that makes day-to-day styling attainable for women from all walks of life. She tailors each of her clients' wardrobes so that they can save time putting outfits together, feel confident in what they wear and conquer whatever the day brings.

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The Great RESIGNATION and Why I Joined BY GENEVIEVE CONDON

I remember getting my first job in higher education, working part-time teaching a night psychology course to about four students. I stood up in front of them with virtually no idea of what I was doing. Their eyes were eager, and I swear the sweat was pouring down my face. And then I started teaching. The topics flowed easily and after that night I knew I had found my calling. I have worked in higher education for a decade since then, providing myself with countless unpaid hours of lesson planning, engaging with students and going to events, and building who I was as a professor. I was able to grow into a role that allowed me to work from home before it was popular, becoming a faculty member in a psychology program at an all women’s college. Working here was a great blessing at that point in my life, allowing me flexibility and opportunities to continue to grow into my craft. Then it happened - the pandemic hit. My institution was no stranger to the struggles, but having already been remote, we experienced little heavy lifting on our end to provide courses to students. The issue became that I started to really look at where my career was going. I had been stagnant for over six years, spinning my wheels and begging for a title change, more responsibility, higher pay, and it just never was in the budget or an option. Being offered more responsibility with no pay changes seemed fine at the time but then I began to realize my worth, experience, and education deserved more.

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The Great Resignation brought about articles and sharing stories of many individuals struggling just as I had within my role. Many of them worked in education or had jobs where work/life balance wasn’t a focus, pay was limited and promotional opportunities just were not in the cards. People began to realize our worth, that we could negotiate, ask for better, for more, and if it didn’t work, we could leave. Here I sit with a new position, not in education, that allows me to use my skill set. I still work remotely from home, have endless promotional opportunities and make over double what I did previously. Don’t get me wrong, it isn’t all about the money but this company saw my experience, listened to my thoughts, and immediately compensated me for what I had to offer and how I will help their company grow. While I am still an adjunct (teaching will forever be a love), I am no longer jaded by asking for more and being declined, as it was beginning to impact my students. I am able to share experiences, help them advocate for themselves, and work in a field where I am still educating and building a team where the sky is the limit! So, I left where I was comfortable for a new venture that was scary and unknown. While it has been an adjustment, I am grateful for being able to leverage my expertise, make decisions, and change processes to help others. If you’re feeling like you need a change, feeling stagnant or unheard, now might be your time to join the masses and advocate for who you are and who you want to become. Don’t let a job hold you back from meeting your full potential.


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BY AMY HILL Bringing the North Carolina coast to Clemmons for 20 years, Full Moon Oyster Bar is notorious for its dynamic dining experience, fresh oysters and seafood entrees, and one-of-a-kind team of dedicated employees. In fact, the ambiance and unique menu items at Full Moon Oyster Bar have grown so popular that the restaurant has now infiltrated North Carolina in six different cities and counting. Customers gather at Full Moon Oyster Bar for its exciting atmosphere and communal dining. While chowing down on North Carolina oysters, diners never know who they’re going to sit next to each visit. With a fresh seafood dinner combined with socialization, diners come to Full Moon as strangers and leave as friends. First-time Full Moon Oyster Bar patrons will be intrigued by menu items with a Cajun and Creole flair such as alligator cheesecake, inspired by a dish at the ever-popular New Orleans eatery JacquesImo’s. Oyster novices can slowly dip their toes into oyster-filled waters by introducing their palettes to chargrilled oysters served with New Orleans French bread, if trying raw oysters is too daunting of a task. Full Moon Oyster Bar also serves up its homemade, secret recipe banana pudding cake to customers who aren’t too full for dessert. With the exception of Chilean sea bass, all fish served at Full Moon is fresh and never frozen. Can’t get your fill of Cajun and Creole food? Stop by Full Moon Oyster Bar for a quick trip to New Orleans to dine on Shrimp Etouffee, Voodoo Shrimp, and delectable dinner specials without leaving Clemmons.

Full Moon president Randy Russell puts just as much effort into the food at Full Moon as he puts into creating a close-knit workplace for his staff. Much of the Clemmons’ location’s positive employee morale and strikingly low turnover rates for two decades can be attributed to management’s mission in taking care of its team. At Full Moon, employees know that they can count on their employers and colleagues for anything from financial assistance and a living wage to emotional support during troublesome times. In April, the Full Moon family was grief-stricken following the sudden passing of John “Shug” Carethers, Full Moon’s head chef of 16 years. All staff members stepped up to help Shug’s family and daughter, including Shug’s older brother and executive chef Ty Carethers, along with General Manager Rob Russell, the proud son of Randy. By pulling together, team members were able to raise money for a funeral and participated in Shug’s celebration of life in order to pay their condolences to Shug and his family, complete with food and an open bar at the Full Moon Oyster Bar. The untimely and tragic passing of John “Shug” Carethers was an unexpected blow to Full Moon Oyster Bar’s morale, especially after weathering the COVID-19 storm throughout 2020 and 2021. The pandemic and its restrictions posed an exceptional threat to Full Moon’s iconic communal dining experience, but with gracious landlords and loyal staff members, Full Moon was able

to temporarily shut down and come back stronger than before. Instead of compromising the integrity of their seafood products by serving only takeout, the team determined that customers deserved a complete Full Moon dining experience and would wait to shuck oysters until it was safe to welcome diners once again. Customers can count on Full Moon to fill their stomachs on weeknights, weekends, and in times of need. When Hurricane Florence struck the North Carolina coast in August 2018, Full Moon’s Atlantic Beach location had only been open for two months before it was decimated by strong winds and rain. Although insurance was the location’s saving grace, other members of the Atlantic Beach community were not so lucky. To combat the devastation, the Full Moon team served over 4,500 hamburgers and 5,000 hotdogs to locals and first responders suffering the loss of their homes and trying to survive without electricity. Full Moon Oyster Bar’s reputation speaks for itself throughout the community as a stand-up seafood joint that feels like home. To learn more, visit www.fullmoonoysterbar.com, check out @fullmoonoysterbarandseafoodrestaurant on Facebook, and follow @ fullmoonoysterbarclemmons on Instagram to see what the Clemmons staff is up to. Visit the Clemmons location for dinner at 1473 River Ridge Dr., and call the store at (336) 712-8200 to speak to a team member.

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Seeking Out Life: When You Have the Urge to Roam, But Still Long to Find A Home BY KAREN COOPER

“For my part, I travel not to go anywhere, but to go. I travel for travel’s sake. The great affair is to move.” ~Robert Louis Stevenson At one time or another, most of us have had a longing to travel. To be somewhere, anywhere unfamiliar and new is an invigorating feeling and gives us something to look forward to. In my case, at the times in my life when wanderlust struck me, it wasn’t as much about going TO a specific place as it was leaving where I was. People who are born with a longing for travel may be thought of as flighty or fearful of commitment. In fact, this is quite untrue! Those who love to roam are also as capable as anyone else of investing in other people and places on a long-term basis. In fact, traveling offers the most tangible life lessons in selfdiscovery, learning about different types of people, and self-sufficiency, that will ultimately allow one to confidently put down roots when the time comes…. and with no regrets of not having experienced the things they wanted to. Traveling can have its downsides. And the downsides of traveling can make you long for the comforts of home and even prepare you for settling down. Maybe you’ve experienced them…

YOU’VE SEEN SOME THINGS

They say it’s good to “sow your oats” and do lots of things while you’re free and not tied down. Once you’ve accomplished those things, it stands to reason that you will feel more satisfied and ready to settle down. The hope is that you won’t be plagued by wondering what might have been if you had just taken that trip, and that you won’t spend your life feeling restless or wrestling with regret.

YOU SIMPLY GET TIRED

Travel takes a lot of energy. In fact, it can be downright exhausting! Figuring out a place you know nothing about (and maybe where you don’t speak the language) can be very stressful and frustrating. You’re always on. You’re always learning, seeing, feeling, eating, drinking, running, experiencing, etc. All these things make travel so

amazing…but at the same time, also just make you tired. Packing your bags every few days to move on to the next place can really start to take its toll and living out of a backpack can get old after a while. Having a home can start to sound nice.

YOU APPRECIATE THE RELATIONSHIPS YOU’VE BUILT

When you stay in one place, you have the ability to form relationships that can last a very long time. As a traveler, the people you meet tend to only stay in your life for the length of time you’re together in that place and then when you move on, so does the friendship. You make beautiful memories while traveling and meet some of the most incredible people you will ever come across in your whole life, but in most cases, permanence is not a part of it. It teaches you to appreciate those who have been in your life a long time and stuck by you through thick and thin. There is a lot to be said for a long shared history.

TRAVELING COSTS A LOT

Unless you’re already moneybags, which most of us aren’t, traveling can drain your bank account! Even if it might be totally worth it to quit your job and spend all your savings on the experiences of seeing the places you want to see…. being broke in the long term is not easy. There may come a time when the consistency and comfort of a job, a roof over your head, and guaranteed money in your pocket have a greater appeal than the pull of the wild unknown.

HOME IS WHERE THE HEART IS

When all is said and done, home is where the heart is. There’s a reason for the word “homesick” and there are reasons why you feel out of sorts when you’re away from the comforts of home for too long. As a traveler, even when you’re having some of the best experiences of your life, you will find yourself longing for the familiarities of home. Missing those you love, missing the comfort you left behind. And the best thing about putting down roots and settling into a life at home is that travel is always out there for you to enjoy, and you will still have a home to come back to.


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Live Long, Live Well PHOTOS BY JEJ PHOTOS

A large portion of the 55 and over population are selling their homes at an incredible pace and transitioning to active adult or independent living retirement communities. A desire to live their best retirement, spurred by 2020 and 2021 circumstances, had many re-evaluating their futures, in addition to feverish real estate conditions, which created the urgency many needed as motivation. For seniors living by themselves and even many with partners, the lockdown reinforced the need to connect with others. Time with family and friends, simpler home maintenance schedules, healthy eating, and an active physical lifestyle became important parts of retirement. Today’s senior living options offer a better way to live and thrive in retirement. While traditional senior living neighborhoods with the occasional happy hour event exist, contemporary retirement communities go above and beyond to provide all the bells and whistles that a traditional neighborhood cannot. This includes maintenance-free homes serviced by an in-house facilities team, upscale meal services, dining events, resortstyle amenities, full-time social and wellness teams, and on-site care services for future needs. One such

community is Homestead Hills, a retirement community in Winston-Salem, with a warm and inviting spirit derived from friendly neighbors and team members. Through a focused ensemble of life-enriching components, Homestead Hills is elevating the way seniors are experiencing retirement in the Triad.

BE ACTIVE Being active doesn’t just mean physically working out in a gym or performing a series of strenuous exercises under the supervision of a personal trainer. Being active can include taking part in social clubs and organizations, as well as other non-traditional physical activities focused on individual needs. Participating in physical and social activities can prevent or delay many health problems, especially those that coincide with aging. The main benefits of staying active include the decreased risk of heart disease, improved mental health, decreased risk of falls, increased social engagement opportunities, and improved cognitive health. Most importantly, it ensures that seniors can continue to engage in day-to-day activities and remain independent for as long as possible. June 2022 |

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BE SOCIAL The U.S. Census Bureau estimated that 11 million or 28% of people aged 65 and older live alone. For seniors, the feeling of loneliness, fear, and isolation rise exponentially. The need for connection and socialization is vital for the aging population. With the benefit of being surrounded by familiar faces, and trusted team members, healthy connections can easily be made in a retirement community. At Homestead Hills, the community’s full-time Social Director works in conjunction with Wellness and Culinary Directors to plan daily, weekly, and monthly social events, clubs, and trips. Bringing residents together to participate in activities helps to shape the vibrant network of neighbors and friends within the community. The social team plans daily events with the residents’ interest in mind. Residents participate in clubs and organizations, creating connections with one another as they delve into their favorite hobbies and interests. Clubs and organizations include the Resident Advisory Council (RAC), Helping Hands Volunteers, Mission Group, Bridge, Bible Study, Writers Workshop, Travel Club, Billiards, Read Between the Wines Book Club, and more!

BE WELL According to the Centers for Disease Control, approximately 85% of older adults have at least one chronic health condition and 60% have at least two chronic conditions. The impact of these conditions can result in loss of physical function, independence, or general wellbeing. Through the Homestead Hills national award-winning program, Purpose Based Wellness, their on-site wellness team is focused on educating residents and ensuring that they are active to help them combat chronic diseases/ailments. These include Parkinson’s disease, cardiovascular disease, sarcopenia (age related muscle loss), Alzheimer’s disease, mitigating fall risks, and more. The U.S. Department of Health and Human Services’ Physical Activity Guidelines for Americans, recommend that seniors participate in at least 150 minutes (2.5 hours) per week of moderate-intensity aerobic exercise like brisk walking or fast dancing. Physical activity is key to prevention and management of chronic disease. Benefits include a decreased risk of heart disease, lower risk of Alzheimer’s and dementia, reduced symptoms of anxiety, stress, and depression, as well as a better-perceived quality of life. At Homestead Hills, the community’s wellness center is the heart of the community. Just a short walk from the resident’s homes, the opportunity to participate in physical activity is easy and convenient. The wellness center houses a fitness studio, heated indoor pool, and full gym managed by the community’s Wellness Director. Each day presents a variety of classes and events that assist residents with their physical fitness including Full Body Gentle Yoga Stretch, Advanced Sole Strength Line Dancing, Early Morning Strength (targeting sarcopenia), and P.O.W.E.R (a Parkinson’s focused class).

LIVING THE WELLER LIFE Coined by Homestead Hills’ parent company, Senior Living Communities, “The Weller Life” is a philosophical belief that participating in a well-rounded retirement lifestyle with excellent wellness programs, social activities, dining experiences, and compassionate care services will help seniors live longer, healthier, happier lives. The active lifestyle, care services, friendships, and amenities make it easy to see why seniors are moving to retirement communities in 2022 and beyond. Retirement living at Homestead Hills touches every part of its members’ lives, enhancing their overall experience through focused programming that is intended to keep them living long and living well. To live your best retirement, learn more about life at Homestead Hills by calling (336) 770-2024 or visiting Homestead-Hills.com


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Enjoy Your Own Company BY JEAN MARIE JOHNSON

I have always enjoyed my own company. Don’t get me wrong, I have spent plenty of rollicking good times with friends, neighbors, and co-workers, and enjoyed many casual chats with strangers on flights and in checkout lines. But I need my alone time and never tire of it. Alone time isn’t something that everyone craves because it can create feelings of anxiety, loneliness, self-doubt, or simply restless boredom that makes spending time alone undesirable. As social creatures we need to foster relationships with others, but the first and forever relationship is the one we have with ourselves. That’s why learning to enjoy that relationship – as much as possible – matters. Here are a few ways to start enjoying your own company: Revisit the things you like about yourself No, this isn’t egotistical. It’s the prompt that reminds you that you are an interesting person, someone worthy of your time. If you struggle with this, think about the positive mirror that others hold up to you. You may see qualities such as a great sense of humor, kindness, independence, curiosity, compassion, and talent. Own this good stuff! Rethink how you think about alone time Alone doesn’t equate with lonely unless you make it so. It may help to think in terms of “me time.” If your significant other will be away for a few days, or the kids go off to camp, shift your focus to you and consider it an opportunity to recharge, to rekindle your relationship with yourself, or to explore your creativity. Grant yourself permission to do what you want to do Decide what you want from your alone time. Is it simply peace and quiet that you might nurture by sitting outside, or cuddling up with a book indoors? Maybe you want to pull out that old sketchbook and try your hand at something creative that you don’t make the time for anymore. Or this could be the perfect opportunity to tackle that decluttering – not because you need to, but because you want to. Disconnect Alone time that allows you to enjoy your own company is best spent disconnected. So put your laptop to sleep and silence your phone. Not only will you survive without the noise, but you’ll also learn to hear and appreciate the beauty of the uninterrupted silence. Notice how you talk to yourself This may be a bit uncomfortable, especially if you avoid alone time because you don’t like what you hear coming back at you from the inside. Take it slowly. Acknowledge what you hear and try turning that into something kindlier. Remember, it is the relationship with yourself that you are nurturing. Be an observer With the dog and the kids in tow, it can be challenging to pay attention to what’s happening in the world around you. When you are alone, you will notice things that slip by when you are telling Johnnie to stop teasing his sister or picking up the dog poop. Just bein’ real here… Do something “social” alone Seriously, go to a movie or to dinner by yourself. Take in that new exhibit at Reynolda House, or head out for some seasonal window-shopping. Notice the delight you feel when you are not engaging with anything but your own perceptions and experiences. Try something entirely new I had one day in London, prior to starting a week-long work project. I slipped into my tomato red leather coat and hopped on that tomato red double-decker bus bound for an adventure. It did not disappoint! Of course, trying something new is often more ordinary: a new recipe, a new garden shop, a new genre of literature, a new YouTube exercise class. It is never too late to learn how to enjoy your own company.

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Wondrous women of worth where beauty blossoms and buds bloom Displayed in diverse shades and colorful hues And visited by many winged butterfly and bee Gracing gardens, meadows, and vases so elegantly and effortlessly Models and muses of classic paintings Monet’s Waterlilies to Vincent Van Gogh’s Sunflowers to Hiroshige’s Hibiscus All works of art naturally created and inspired Tiny seeds are planted, fertilized, and watered with sun Fresh roots and new lives always growing have begun All flowers are equal and beautifully unique From country charm to urbanite to florist chic Whether solo in the spotlight or in a beautiful bouquet Flowers bring smiles to faces, joy to hearts, and brighten our days!

Empower with Flower Power: Celebrate Beautiful Buds, Blooms, & Blossoms Reflecting You BY SUSAN B B SCHABACKER

There’s nothing quite as beautiful as a flower. Growing from tiny buds into full bloom and metaphorically representing a woman’s blossoming life and natural beauty, there are blooms of all kinds and colors to celebrate and enjoy. ROSE - Regarded as the “queen of flowers” and one of the most romantic, the rose is classic, symbolically and scent-wise. Belles of the ball, shining in the spotlight and romantics at heart alike are like the rose eternalized in Beauty and The Beast. The rose is the state flower of five U.S. states. Red = true love White = purity and innocence Yellow = friendship Orange = passion MAGNOLIA - The epitome of elegance, with a lush light lemony aroma that lingers and sweet southern charm. Representing dignity, spirituality, and peace, the majestic magnolia is also symbolic of strength. The magnolia is the state tree of Mississippi and the state flower of Mississippi and Louisiana. Often associated with the American South, the magnolia is also found in the East. In Chinese culture, the magnolia stands for purity and nobility. And in the Japanese language of flowers, known as hanakotoba, the magnolia represents nature and perseverance. White = purity and perfection Pink = innocence, youth, and joy Purple = good luck and health Green = prosperity DAISY - One of the sweetest flowers in the meadow, gracing daisy chains and garlands. Country gal, warm as sunshine, and sweet as sweet tea. The dainty daisy conveys loyal love, innocence, and purity. DAFFODIL - A host of golden daffodils is included William Wordsworth’s springtime poem, “I Wandered Lonely as a Cloud.” The color of sunshine, with a beaming floral face, the delicate daffodil is a symbol of honesty, truth, and forgiveness that blooms faithfully every spring, however long the winter. PANSY - The word “pansy” stems from the French word “pensee,” which means to think or to ponder. Pansies reflect love, compassion, and thoughtfulness. Yellow = happiness Purple = royalty and dignity Orange = hope and optimism White = purity and virtue HIBISCUS - Vibrantly bold and colorful, with tropical origins, hibiscus is notable for vitamin-C-rich sunset colored tea and symbolizes the perfect woman or wife. White = beauty, purity, and femininity Yellow = good fortune, sunshine, and happiness Pink = friendship and love

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CHRYSANTHEMUM - Chrysanthemums, known as “mums,” are the “queen of fall flowers.” Chrysanthemum tea and supplements offer a multitude of health benefits and anti-inflammatory properties, including managing diabetes, alleviating chest pain, lowering high blood pressure, reducing fever, and relieving headaches. Red = love and deep passion White = loyalty and honesty Violet = get well wishes and condolences PEONY - Originating from China, peonies are known as the “king of flowers” and are symbolic of good luck, friendship, and feminine beauty. The Japanese associate peonies with honor, good fortune, bravery, and masculinity. And Europeans utilized the peonies’ alluring aroma in fragrances. Peonies encourage a loyal marriage, honor for compassion, and stand for happiness, fortune, and prosperity. Pink peonies represent love at first sight and are often in wedding bouquets. LAVENDER - Lavender’s calming, soothing, and restorative healing properties are not only used for medicinal purposes, but also in fine fragrances, spa products, culinary creations and beaucoups of beverages. Lavender’s soothing scent and soft purple hue evoke a sense of serenity, purity, grace, and devotion, also characteristic of its effect on the brain and body biochemistry. Boasting bountiful benefits through aromatherapy and in teas, tonics, and tinctures, lavender is known to relieve stress, tension, and anxiety; alleviate headaches; treat acne and insect bites; and improve insomnia.


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GOLDIE SMITH BYRD, PHD:

“INVESTING IN HERSELF SO SHE CAN INVEST IN HER COMMUNITY”

Goldie Smith Byrd, PhD, is the director of the Maya Angelou Center for Health Equity (MACHE) and a Professor of Social Sciences and Health Policy at the Wake Forest School of Medicine. That is a big title for a smalltown girl from Magnolia, North Carolina. But Dr. Byrd’s goal is not to wear a big title, but to make a difference in her community. To position herself to make that difference, Dr. Byrd has invested in herself at every opportunity. She and her sister, only one year apart in age, attended North Carolina Agriculture and Technical State University in Greensboro, North Carolina (NC A&T). While there Dr. Byrd gained two bachelor’s degrees, one in biology secondary education and one in professional biology. She continued to invest in herself by pursuing her PhD at Meharry Medical College in Microbial Genetics. She completed postdoctoral work at Meharry Medical College, the University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill, and Duke University. At each institution where she was employed, Dr. Byrd put this investment to work in higher education, by increasing diversity in the STEM and biomedical sciences work force. In addition, she has spent the past 20 years increasing diversity in AD research and clinical trials. “Closing these disparity gaps are helping to close gaps in health disparities.”

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Dr. Byrd credits her parents as her best leadership examples and raising a family as a close second! Living in Eastern North Carolina during the Jim Crow period, her parents experienced the impact of structural racism. Despite these obstacles they owned their own home and their own land. They modeled respect, hard work, decency and building a legacy. Dr. Byrd applied those values to her adult life and made investments in her legacy by taking advantage of workshops, seminars, conferences, leadership training – any and every opportunity to become a stronger leader and to share new knowledge with her students, colleagues, and communities she served. Her confidence and love for her work shine through as she describes the MACHE mission of making everyone healthier – every race, every ethnicity, all genders, every person – so the world can be a better place.

outside of work. Her job is far from over and she urges everyone in our community to educate themselves on why and how health disparities are so prevalent in our area. Viewing our surroundings, our neighbors, and our past with clarity and work toward equity can help us see opportunities for investment in our community and our society. “If you do not know about disparities, educate yourself. Read about them. Discuss them with others. There is no excuse for ignorance.” A large portion of our community suffers from poorer health outcomes and shorter lifespans because of social drivers, such as where they live and sleep, what they eat and do, and everyday discrimination and stress. We all need to take a deeper dive into making our communities healthier for everyone by educating ourselves, volunteering, creating new policies and doing better.

Before her appointment to MACHE in September 2018, Dr. Byrd spent fifteen years at NC A&T. Her time there set a foundation for her leadership at MACHE. She was the first female chair of the Department of Biology and the first permanent female dean of the College of Arts and Sciences.

If you are looking for ways to invest in our community or for volunteer opportunities, email the Maya Angelou Center at mache@ wakehealth.edu. “You do not have to be an expert. Anyone can help!”

She served as the interim executive director of N.C. A&T’s Center for Outreach in Alzheimer’s Aging and Community Health. In addition to her leadership at NC A&T, Dr. Byrd was a faculty member in the Departments of Biology at Tennessee State University and North Carolina Central University, and adjunct Assistant Professor at Duke University. Her research in the genetics of Alzheimer’s disease in African Americans has been recognized both nationally and internationally by the Alzheimer’s Association and the National Black College Alumni Hall of Fame. While Dr. Byrd was investing in herself, she was investing in her family. She and her husband raised three children and have one grandchild in Greensboro, where her husband is from. She imitates her mom’s style of leadership at work and at home and strives for a balance between a purpose-driven career and happy life

Thank you, Dr. Byrd, for investing in yourself and in our community. Time for us to make that investment, too!


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Show Me a Photograph BY JEAN MARIE JOHNSON

For the past four autumns, I included “Organize old photos” on my Winter To-Do List. Well, I will be writing the same thing on this fall’s hopeful list. When we moved from Connecticut in the fall of 2017, closing a long chapter operating a large country inn, we stashed hundreds (thousands?) of photos into one of those made-for-a-sevenday vacation size suitcases. During our innkeeping years – while I also juggled a full-time traveling job – getting to a task as daunting as this one was out of the question. But even now, as life has taken on an easier stride, those photos remain as stashed away as they did back in 2017. For better and for worse, I am not a procrastinator, I despise disorder, and, as a Capricorn, I lean heavily on the “conscientiousness” trait. But seeing that suitcase every time I drive in and out of the garage has not been enough to move me to action. I was uncharacteristically stuck. So, this winter, I decided to take a different tack. There was a small plastic container, as big as a standard issue shoebox that also contained photos. These I knew were mostly snapshots of my life, which my siblings had gathered in honor of one of my milestone birthdays. Great! I’ll start there. Nice and manageable, it will be a small win that will me catapult me into tackling The Suitcase. And there I began. Sitting on the large rug in my office, I opened the box. Its contents, alas, were in no particular order as I glimpsed a Polaroid of myself receiving my college degree, another of me on my Christening Day, and others that stopped me in my tracks and filled me with both memory and emotion. I grabbed my phone. Steve and Mar (my two siblings) have to see this one. OMG! Miss Thing (my BFF since the fifth grade) will pee her pants when she sees this. And on and on it went: me snapping shots and texting them hither and yon as fast as I could. Whatever my peeps were doing, each paused to respond, share a memory, ask a question, send an LOL. I felt the love… Of course, what I found in that shoebox wasn’t all LOL-worthy. Far from it. Each caused my heart to pause and my mind to amble down the corridors of time past. But I couldn’t sit there forever. There was work email to get to, dinner to get started, and a medical appointment to book. And so I organized the photos into categories that made sense to me. From there, I devoted a large, medium, or small size “baggie” to each category. I grabbed a sharpie and

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made a note on the outside of each bag. Then I stored these images from my life in a tangible place, instead of in the “Cloud,” a place others can feel and touch when they sort through my things on some unknowable future date. I pulled myself back from the past to the numerous daily concerns and tasks that fill our time, but not so much our hearts or our memories. I don’t know when I will get to that suitcase, but I do know this: Show me a photograph and I’ll tell you about a life. I am grateful for the visual prompts, even the painful ones, the ones I’d rather forget. They tell me that I have been alive in this world, truly alive. And loved….


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BY AMY HILL Liv for Sweets owner Olivia (“Liv”) Jessup has been gracing Pilot Mountain locals with intricately designed cupcakes, custom cakes, and fruity sweets since the ripe age of 20. For Liv, baking and decorating cakes transformed from her adolescent, after-school hobby to the thriving career of her dreams it is today. Tasty cupcakes are a dime a dozen, but Liv for Sweets specializes in unique flavors that change with the seasons. In fact, every sweet sold in-store is handcrafted completely from scratch. Each month brings a new menu to the bakery, including the much-loved alcoholinfused cupcakes every Saturday. If you’re 21 or older, line up at Liv for Sweets Bakery on the weekends this summer for cocktails such as pina coladas and blue Hawaiians in cupcake form. Ever since Liv opened the doors of Liv for Sweets, she has been the sole cake decorator for the shop. As her business quickly grew, she adopted the concept of creating standardized party cakes for large events such as birthday parties, anniversaries, and more. Party cakes can serve anywhere from 8 to 24 people, and only require a week’s notice when ordering. While party cakes are not as unique as custom orders, each party cake is beautifully designed and sure to impress party guests. Liv for Sweets lovers know that when they bite into one of Olivia’s cakes or cupcakes, they won’t have to tear past layers of tough, flavorless fondant. In fact, Liv bakes with a strict no-fondant policy. Although she dabbled with fondant as a child, she did not enjoy the process of decorating with fondant and noticed that many people often choose to eat around it. Liv takes decorating cakes and cupcakes seriously, but wants her creations to be delicious and simple to eat before anything else. When Liv was in high school, she experimented with baking cakes in her free time with the help of Betty Crocker cake mix and YouTube tutorials. When family and friends began requesting that she bake them cookies and cupcakes for birthday parties and family events, she soon discovered that she had a passion for doing so. While she attended college to study business in order to open up her own bakery one day, her college career came to a halt after she attended for a year-and-a-half. Liv realized that she could no longer contain her passion for baking and opened Liv for Sweets with only $800 in her bank account. As a self-taught young business owner, Liv has seen tremendous growth not only in her customer base and expertise as a baker and cake decorator, but as a businesswoman as well. Over the years, she has learned the importance of fiscal responsibility, especially during tough COVID times when business owners have been plagued with uncertainty and inflation is on the rise. Additionally, as a true introvert at heart, Liv is impressed with how her ownership and management of Liv for Sweets has instilled in her a new confidence around others, and strengthened her ability to lead. Prior to opening Liv for Sweets, Liv never saw herself managing a team of employees, but she can no longer picture herself doing anything else. If you want to try your own hand at Liv’s style of cake decorating, sign up for Liv’s monthly cake decorating classes. Children’s classes fill up quickly, so don’t hesitate to register. On June 11th and July 2nd, Liv will be hosting buttercream painted cake-decorating courses for those ages 14 and older. Visit www.livforsweetsbakery.com to sign up for Liv’s Christmas in July cake decorating class on July 23rd. No experience is required and spaces are limited, so visit the Liv for Sweets website to secure your spot. Pilot Mountain locals also look forward to participating in the Liv for Sweets Bakery’s Gingerbread House Contest, with voting taking place on the first Saturday in December. Gingerbread house submissions will be accepted the Thursday and Friday prior to voting. Check the Liv for Sweets website to stay updated on the team’s event calendar and info, and follow Liv for Sweets on Facebook and Instagram at @livforsweetsbakery. Call the bakery at (336) 444-8400 or visit Liv and her team in-person at 134 West Main St., Pilot Mountain, NC 27041. For questions and custom orders, visit the website or email Liv at LivForSweets@gmail.com.

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Downsize… Upsize… Rightsize Downsizing seems to be a buzz word I have heard many times in the last several years. I have helped several clients do just that by helping them decide what pieces of furniture would fit in their new place, helping purchase new pieces, choosing updates for the new house, or placing furniture and hanging pictures once they moved. Many empty-nesters or newly retired folks are beginning to think about the possibility of downsizing. I can’t imagine my grandparents or even my own parents ever having this thought. They built a house and lived in it their entire lives. My mother still lives in the house she and my dad built over 75 years ago. Like my family and possibly yours, the property they live or lived on is known as the family ‘home place.’ Our society today is more mobile and it is highly unlikely you will stay in one house, or one place, for life. While you may want to downsize because you no longer need as much space, you want less home maintenance, need to free up your cash flow or have more time to travel and enjoy life, many are choosing to upsize or rightsize. Yes, there are many good reasons to downsize but please consider the cost of selling and the cost of moving…..it may be more costly to downsize. Many are choosing to upsize, whether it’s for selfish reasons such as they feel they have worked hard all their lives, their children are grown and they want a larger home with all the bells and whistles and they can now afford it or they are having to accommodate aging parents or adult children. They may also be considering upsizing because they need more space when their kids and grandchildren come to visit. Many retirees or empty-nesters are very active and want to live near activities. Some of them choose to live in a community geared to the activities they love and it may cost more to live there than their present house. Rightsizing may be the best option. People often love their homes and neighborhoods and don’t want to move because of the memories made there with their families and want to find ways to stay put. With a few updates, improvements and modifications, rightsizing may cost less than moving, and allow people to age in place. These choices should be made wisely when the time comes to consider upsizing, downsizing, or rightsizing. There are pros and cons to any of these options I have mentioned. ReDESIGNS by Ava would love to assist you in making decorating choices if you plan to downsize, upsize or rightsize.

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BY TARYN JEREZ

A monthly column that keeps its finger on the pulse of Forsyth’s artists and their inspiring stories!

This month’s featured artist, Michelle Harris, turns her love of nature and photography into a time machine, transporting you back to your favorite places and moments throughout the state of North Carolina. Her work submerges its viewer in the peacefulness that only nature’s beauty can bring.

Michelle Dalton-Harris | Landscape Photographer How would you describe your work? The best word to describe my work is realistic. I want those viewing my artwork feeling as though they are there beside me. Each photograph should be able to whisk the viewer away to another time and place.

What experiences and interests have influenced your work most? I have always been an outdoors type of person from childhood on. Being in nature is pure and rejuvenating. The time I spent with my family and the memories made is really the driving force for my work.

How have you evolved, personally, as a photographer? Over the years I have worked in sports, family, branding and even event photography. While working in these genres I have always taken nature and landscape images to remember where I have been and the memories created. As I have grown older I have grown to appreciate the little things in life and never take a moment for granted. Now, I get great joy capturing a moment in time for others to enjoy and lasting memories.

What are you working on that excites you right now? What I am most excited about right now is my Pilot Mountain project. Pilot Mountain is such an iconic location to our area. The devastation that occurred during last year’s wildfire is deeply saddening to so many, with a little over 1050 acres burned away. While we know nature will heal herself, we

can also help her along the healing path. I am tracking the progress of the regrowth each month for the next year. I am excited about following the regrowth and to see what type of changes will occur.

What would you like our community to know about the Pilot Mountain Project? This project is dedicated to raising funds to help restore Pilot Mountain after the fire. 20% of the profit from the sale of each Pilot Mountain print will be donated to the Friends of Sauratown Mountain to help with the cleanup and restoration to the park. I created canvas, metal and framed prints in varying sizes capturing Pilot Mountain and included giftable items like notecards and even a mousepad for this cause. I am really hoping this project will help bring more attention to our state parks and bring awareness to the importance of using safe fire practices when hiking and camping.

What is one piece of advice you’d like to share with fellow artists and creatives? The best advice I can give is to never give up. Believe in yourself and follow your dreams. There will always be the naysayers, don’t let them deter you. Following the artist and creative path is never easy. The rewards you receive from those who purchase your work help you realize you are good at what you do and you are helping to create a path of joy for others. Just remember to do the work not just for yourself, but for those whose lives you are trying to change.

If you are interested in learning more about Michelle Dalton-Harris you can follow her on Instagram @daltonharrisphotography1. You can also check out her work this month locally at www.daltonharrisphotography.com.

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Consideration for Strangers BY JEAN MARIE JOHNSON

Mom, why are you doing that? Doing what? Wiping down the counter. We’re not at home. I know that, Sweetie. I’m wiping it down for that lady who’s waiting to use it. Oh. Thanks so much. Now I can put my bag down without it getting wet.

TREAT SERVICE EMPLOYEES WITH RESPECT AND GRATITUDE

This little conversation happened in the “Ladies Room” of a local restaurant. And I really did appreciate the fact that I could put my bag down on a dry countertop. But what I appreciated so much more was how this wise mom modeled the right thing to do – and turning her child’s bewildered query into a teaching moment.

KEEP PRIVATE CONVERSATIONS PRIVATE

BACK UP YOUR WORDS WITH ACTION In a perfect world with perfect humans, we’d “do the right thing” every time. Our kids would grow up observing us living by the things we say we value – like kindness, courtesy, and consideration for others. We’d be perfect role models! But we’re not. As adults, we are sometimes inconsiderate because, well, it’s more convenient to take the easy way out. We justify our actions to ourselves and move on. At other times, we just don’t think about what we’re doing, the example we are setting, and the impact our actions may have on others. Here are ten nitty-gritty, everyday ways we can demonstrate consideration for strangers:

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When the wait-person sets down the home fries instead of the French fries, or the propane delivery guy tramples the tulips, resist the urge to cop an attitude. No one gets it right every time, not even you. So be reasonable. And when they do something a little extra, be generous with your gratitude.

When you are anywhere in public, do not put your conversation on speakerphone. It’s rude and obnoxious. There is enough “noise” in each of our lives, and we don’t need to be subjected to yours.

PUT THINGS BACK WHERE THEY BELONG You’re in a rush and you had to park a long distance from the shopping cart drop off. I feel you. But it’s just not right to leave that cart willy-nilly in the parking lot. Put it back in its rightful place. And when you decide at the last minute that you really don’t need yet another pair of black leggings, instead of hanging them in the housewares aisle, go back and hang them where you found them.

CLEAN UP AFTER YOURSELF Yes, this applies to public bathrooms, in restaurants, as well as any other public place.

CLEAN UP AFTER YOUR DOG It is not okay to leave your animal’s waste on the sidewalk, the road, or a neighbor’s grass.

Carry those plastic bags and do your part to keep your neighborhood, as well as our parks, free of animal waste.

USE THE TRASH CAN If you must, put your trash in your pocket or in your car until you can find a trash can. It may be inconvenient, but littering our community isn’t the answer.

MIND THE TOILET PAPER At home and even in public places, it’s gross to leave the roll dangling on the floor. You wouldn’t want to be the next one to use it, would you?

MIND YOUR PLACE IN TRAFFIC AND IN LINE Wait your turn. It really is as simple as that. No jumping ahead or “pretending” you didn’t see the other person who was clearly ahead of you.

TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR YOUR MISTAKES We all mess up. The easiest way to respect ourselves and others is to own up. A simple “I’m sorry,” “My mistake,” or a hard to miss look of contrition that says “oops” will usually suffice.

MIND YOUR MANNERS A “please” at the end of a question, a “thank you” at the beginning of a sentence speaks volumes about you. Full disclosure: I need to work on three of these…


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The Case in Favor of a Busy-Free Retirement BY JEAN MARIE JOHNSON

There are many good reasons for getting and staying busy in retirement, from: health to emotional well-being, to enjoying life on our own terms, or to increasing longevity. A “busy” retirement is a choice that many of us make. In fact, besides the evidencebased arguments for staying busy, or “active,” the peer pressure that eggs us on to “maximize” the time that’s left is hard to miss. That message can be both exhilarating and exhausting, which is why we may want to pause because there is a bigger question here:

IF “HAPPINESS” IS WHAT WE SEEK IN RETIREMENT, THEN HOW DO WE ACHIEVE IT? You already know there is no “one size fits all” formula, at any stage in life. Each of us has to find our own way to pursue happiness. During our working years, many of us fell for the idea that touting our busyness somehow made us special – until we realized it simply made us burned out. That hard won truth may explain why there is a growing chorus of folks – including me – who refuse to automatically buy into the “busy is better” approach. We’ve been there, done that, and guess what? It didn’t translate into happiness or a balanced life. We’re not falling into that trap again in our retirement years. In fact, I’m so busy becoming unbusy that I was unaware of a Facebook page called “Becoming Unbusy” to support those who may be considering the slower, more renegade path.

For someone like me, it’s an approach that puts “being” before “doing,” and I will eagerly embrace it. But since that’s not the case for everyone, here are a few tips – mostly gathered from or inspired by Coach Smalley, about taking that deep pause before forging ahead, full throttle, into “busy”:

THE PAUSE THAT REFRESHES AND CLARIFIES

When I answer these questions for myself, I am back in the early 1990s, when the magazine Martha Stewart Living first hit the stands. I was newly remarried, had a big old house, and a road warrior career. I squeezed a few precious weekend hours focused on the blissful elevation of domesticity, but there was so little time to learn and experiment. When I retire, I want to spend more time in that space.

Life Coach Marcia Smalley doesn’t buy into the knee-jerk, “busy is better” retirement prescription. She writes that, “As tempting as it is to fill up our days, a truly happy retirement requires more than a full calendar of activities and appointments. It requires introspection, contemplation, and reflective thinking…and time to devote to those things.”

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ASK YOURSELF A FEW QUESTIONS We are not talking therapy here, just a few key inquiries such as: • What do I want to know more about? • When have I felt most alive? How can I feel that way now? • What would I love to learn? • What do I still have to offer?

SIT WITH THE QUESTIONS Your insights and answers may not arrive immediately, but once the questions are planted in your consciousness, they will take root. Maybe you are driving down Silas Creek Parkway when, unprompted, you have a key insight that leads you forward. Or something may literally appear in your path that provides a clue. As in: one day while working on a client project, I caught the flutter of a bird’s wings outside my office window. Looking up, I realized it was a stunning European Starling. I sat and stared for a long while. And when it took off, I spent the next hour researching this beautiful creature. Learn more about birds was my insight.

RESIST PEER PRESSURE TO RACE AHEAD You are in charge of this stage of your life. If not now, when? Smalley’s advice is perfect: “We don’t have to run toward a happy retirement. We’ve been racing for years…We can take one step forward at a time. Gather information. Make inquiries. Take a class, take our time. Let the information or the experience sink in…do what the spirit moves you to do, act on what’s truly calling you.” When you take this “mindful” approach, you may just find that you are relatively “busy,” but on your terms, not anyone else’s!


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The Real Deal with Candice Deal Your Best Face, Naturally! BY CANDICE DEAL

Stone rollers are also great for massage, moving fluid, and pressing product into the skin. You will see these even at the pharmacy in the beauty tool section. I enjoy keeping mine in the fridge since I battle a rosy complexion and the cool stone calms inflammation or irritation.

Let’s face it, we all want to put our best face forward whether we are face to face with ourselves in the mirror, on a Zoom call, or sitting with our peers in person! This isn’t vanity, it’s completely natural to want to care for your face. So how can we put our best face out there for the world to see and be happy when we look in the mirror without surgery or questionable injectables?

Microneedle rollers sound scary, but they aren’t very large or deep needles. They are very fine but will create micro punctures into the dermis opening the skin and allowing your facial products to be absorbed by the skin 70% better than applying without using the tool! That will increase the effectiveness of the products going into the skin and allow them to reach deeper into the dermal layer. These can be purchased on Amazon for $13 and they offer different needle depth. Start with the shorter depth and if your skin tolerates it well after use, you can purchase the longer depth.

FACE YOGA

In our face we have over 40 muscles. Just like the muscles in the rest of the body, if we don’t exercise them, we can lose muscle tone. And we all know that as we age, we lose muscle tone, and this applies to the muscles in our face, too. The facial muscles are a little different than those throughout our body because they are the only muscles that are directly attached to your skin. The muscles through the body are attached to bone via tendons but not to the skin over them. That is why keeping your face muscles toned will help keep your face toned and keep it from sagging or drooping. This muscle attachment to the skin is why expressions create lines. By doing face yoga, you can retrain your face to use specific muscles when making expressions and you can lift and tone the muscles in the cheeks and jawline. For example, stop using your eyebrows when you’re concerned or looking up. Instead of raising your brows to look up, use your eyes and tilt your head. Instead of furrowing your brow when concerned, just use your eye muscles! You can find a lot of sources to learn face yoga on YouTube.com at no cost. The experts say just 1-2 minutes of face yoga a day will help tone the face. Longer periods of daily exercise over a long period of time can truly change appearances by slimming, tightening, and lifting.

FACIAL TOOLS

Gua-Sha is centuries old and is the art of scraping using a stone. Traditionally this was done to alleviate pain in sore, tight muscles by scraping the surface of the skin and bringing new fresh blood to the muscles. Often traditional GuaSha would mark the skin and is a much different practice than what is known as the Gua-Sha facial. The practice of this for the face is a light massage and lift to the facial muscles. It’s also great for moving fluid out of the face, which can be heavy and create loose skin over time. You can find a ton of great stones at Amazon and a lot of “how to” tutorials on YouTube.com. You can even use the rounded side of a spoon to see if Gua-Sha is something you enjoy.

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CLEAN MAKE-UP

We wear make-up typically more than half the day! Keep your make-up clean by switching over from big beauty brands that use cheap chemicals to smaller lines that use organic and clean ingredients. Lipstick is a fabulous way to add some color and pizazz to your best face, but any chemical in your lipstick is going to be in your mouth when you eat, drink, or even touch your tongue to your lip. Not to mention your face is still part of your largest organ and you want to make sure you aren’t slathering chemicals all over it. Toups and Co. is a fantastic line of clean make up and they have a ton of other great body balms and oils.

BAKUCHIOL

A natural swap from retinol, Bakuchiol is a plant extract from the psoralea corylifolia plant. It’s highly touted for its gentleness for sensitive skin, but studies show it to be as effective as retinol in treating fine lines, hyperpigmentation, collagen production, and cell turnover. For those of us who have sensitive skin, Bakuchiol is a great alternative to retinol, which can sometimes cause redness and irritation. Just like retinol, Bakuchiol will make your skin more photosensitive to sunlight because of the cell turnover so make sure to use this in your nighttime regimen and wear a mineral sunscreen during the day. Burt’s Bees offers a great Bakuchiol serum that won’t break the bank and is easily accessible at most Walgreens pharmacies just around the corner.


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Using Pinterest to Plan Home Projects BY TARYN JEREZ

STEP #1 - CREATE AND TITLE YOUR BOARDS INTENTIONALLY

There is something beautiful and innately human about cultivating one’s home and the spaces we dwell. New York interior decorator Billy Baldwin, also known as “the dean of interior decorators,’’ once said, “Be faithful to your own taste, because nothing you really like is ever out of style.” Frankly, I couldn’t agree more. In a world where we’re now face to face with so many images of perfectly curated spaces fit for an interior decorator’s portfolio, I am on a never ending quest to create a home around my own tastes and not give in to “keeping up with the Joneses.” If you’re anything like me, however, it can be difficult to take all of the things you like and pair them with the functionality your family needs in a home to create a space you love.

PINTEREST IS THE PERFECT PROJECT PLANNING TOOL YOU DIDN’T KNOW YOU NEEDED! If you’re unfamiliar with Pinterest, it is a visual discovery engine for finding ideas like recipes, home and style inspiration, and more. It’s a great place to get home inspiration and to help you create a plan to bring all those ideas to life! Here are five steps to use Pinterest as a planning tool for your next home project!

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Once you have your Pinterest account you can create a “board” for each project with whatever that particular board’s purpose will be. When planning out your home projects, you can either create an entirely separate board for every single room in your house or, I prefer the option of creating a main board that’s specific to its overall purpose, creating sections inside it. For example, a board called “Outdoor Projects” could have sections titled “backyard,” “patio, “curb appeal ideas” and more. This is how you will organize all of the ideas and products you will be saving, referred to as “pinning” on Pinterest.

STEP #2 - FIND INSPIRATION AND START PINNING IDEAS

Sometimes inspiration finds you and other times you go on a mission to find it! If you’re on Pinterest you can use the search bar to search for different ideas by being specific. For example, you can search “boho half bathroom” and pin ideas you like to your “bathroom ideas” board or “playroom organization” to pin to your “bonus room idea” board. Make sure to download the free Pinterest Chrome extension “pin button” so you can easily pin any ideas you see on the internet. If you’re browsing a local houseware boutique online and see a beautiful bed set for yourself you can pin it to your “master bedroom” board for instance.

STEP #3 DIYS (DO IT YOURSELF), DIFMS (DO IT FOR ME), AND PURCHASES

Review your Pinterest boards when you are ready to start planning out the execution of your next home project! You can drag and drop things to reorganize the order of your pins if you wish to group certain ones together, or delete whatever you longer need.

Next, you will look things over and decide which pins to adopt to your space as a DIY project vs. DIFM and create a timeline for yourself. This is the perfect time to look at any pinned items that you’ll be wanting to purchase. If you pinned something for inspiration to purchase, open the mobile app when you’re out shopping so you’re clear on what you’re looking for.

STEP #4 SHARE YOUR VISION WITH FAMILY MEMBERS AND CONTRACTORS

Pinterest is perfect for sharing your ideas with others! Collaborating with someone or want opinions on specific projects? You can share pins with them! Just make sure they have a Pinterst account of their own. You can also add them directly as a “collaborator” on a board so they can add pins to the board as well. Working with a contracted designer, painter or builder? You can share your board with them as well so they can see what you’re wanting and also get their opinions. You can even change a board to “secret” if you don’t want specific boards to be seen by other users or collaborators.

STEP #5 PRINT OUT YOUR PINTERST BOARD FOR QUICK REFERENCE

While the world may be more virtual now than ever before, there’s something special about a good old fashioned physical mood or inspiration board! You can print your Pinterest boards as a PDF or simply screenshot them and print them out so you have a handy reference tool while you’re painting a room, organizing a bookshelf, art shopping for a gallery wall, and more! If you don’t already have a Pinterest account, sign up for a free one and begin planning your home one space at a time. Remember to be patient as your vision comes together and have fun in the process!


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safe, screen-free access to streaming audio content. The award-winning Jooki player connects through Wi-Fi for music and audiobook streaming, helping parents empower their children to develop imagination, independence and emotional awareness. With Jooki, sharing favorite playlists and bonding the family with special stories, songs and music has never been easier. In just a few clicks, parents can associate a Spotify playlist with a Jooki figurine; and then the child can just place the figurine on the speaker to access that playlist.” Jooki has already won multiple awards including the 2022 EdTech Cool Tool Award. “We are honored to be recognized by the premier leader in educational technology with this award for our Montessoriinspired, award-winning Jooki player that creates a safe environment for children to explore and learn on their own,” remarked Christine Brendle, CEO of Jooki. “To the innovators, leaders and trendsetters in K-12, higher education and workforce learning who continue connecting, producing and persisting despite all challenges, a hearty hat-tip and a grand salute!” said Victor Rivero, Editor-in-Chief of EdTech Digest, who oversees the awards program. Jooki was mentioned in the “Arts, Music or Creative Solution category for its screen-free speaker that gives kids safe access to streaming educational and entertainment-based audio content without the need for adult supervision. The EdTech Awards is the world’s largest recognition program for educational technology, recognizing the biggest names in EdTech – and those who soon will be.” Other awards include the CES® 2022 Innovation Award for Best Headphones & Personal Audio and the Mom’s Choice Award – Gold Award Excellence Seal of Approval. “We developed Jooki to encourage children’s independence with the help of parents, which is why we are proud that the Mom’s Choice Awards has recognized Jooki as one of the best products for families,” said Christine Brendle, CEO of Jooki. To learn more about Jooki, visit the website at jooki.com. Pricing starts at $112.99 and includes the Jooki speaker, two re-programmable Jooki tokens and a charging cable. Additional packs of six colorful tokens or five playful figurines are also available.

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ne of the biggest challenges of modern-day parenting is keeping our kids engaged and off screens. It is so easy to put them in front of a TV, tablet or phone when we need to get things done around the house, but we know that prolonged use of screens can lead to vision problems, trouble focusing and a shortened attention span. We all know that kids love music, and allowing them to engage with music and play around with a safe device that gives them control to change from song to song is a great way to keep them entertained. According to a press release, “Guided by Montessori education principles, Jooki is the only high-quality speaker that gives kids

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Patiently Rooted Beginner Plants BY KELLI MESSICK,

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has somewhere to go. Pour the water gently and evenly around the soil until you see it coming out of the drainage holes. You can leave it until all the water has drained out before you put it back to its home in your space. If you decide to bottom water your plant, simply get a bowl of water or a plate with water on it depending on the size of your plant. Place your plant in the water for around 10 minutes so it can soak up the water through its drainage holes. This is a great option if your plants have been prone to fungus gnats in the past. Hi, plant friends! My name is Kelli and my goal is to help more people become plant people (maybe even you!). As the founder and owner of Patiently Rooted, a company dedicated to spreading the word about the benefits of plants, I have always had a love of nature and plants, and now I want to share that with other people.

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Plants might seem overwhelming at first, but they can actually give you peace and promote calmness in your life once you have a routine down. I recommend people check on their plants every two weeks just to make sure everything is ok. This doesn’t mean you have to water every two weeks, since some plants only need watering about once a month, like snake plants or succulents. Checking on them every two weeks allows you to make sure there are no pests and if they need watering at all. If you ever see brown or crispy leaves, make sure you look into why that might be happening to your plant. This might be because of a pest or overwatering. If neither of those things are happening, it is completely normal for your plant to discard leaves as it grows. Just like you shed hair, your plant also sheds leaves to promote new growth. When picking out a pot for your plant, make sure it has drainage holes. It is vital to have drainage holes in order for your plant to live. This allows for water to drain out when you water it and gives the soil and roots the ability to breathe. When watering your plant I recommend two different ways to water it. You can either water it on the top of the soil or you can bottom water it. When you water it from the top of the soil, place it in either a tub or sink so the water

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Either option is a great way to water your plants and make sure they are getting the nutrients they need.

EASY BEGINNER PLANTS Maybe you are looking to expand your plant selection, but want something low-maintenance. Here are some options that can still spruce up your plant collection. The cactus is a great beginner plant because of its care and fun varieties. They come short or tall and have different colors, too. They love either full or part sun and only need to be watered once a month. The philodendron mican is more on the rare plant side but is still an easy one for people to care for. They have beautiful velvety leaves that trail as they grow. They love part-sun or shade and only need to be watered every two to three weeks. The leaves will curl and droop when they need some attention. The peperomia watermelon gets its name because of its cute leaves resembling a watermelon. These are great beginner plants that love part-sun or shade and only need watering every two weeks or until the soil dries up. Their leaves will droop when they need watering, so they will definitely let you know! Adding a new plant to your collection can be scary, but if you follow the tips above, you’ll be an expert in no time. Plants will help brighten up any spot and help you learn some patience along the way.


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Caring for Your Soul BY LESLIE SPEAS

“What good is it for a man to gain the whole world, yet forfeit his soul?” Matthew 8:36 In my women’s Bible study group, we were having a discussion about the soul. I asked if anyone could define soul, and no one seemed to have a good definition. One of my friends said that it’s like a little person inside you. This cracked me up. It reminded me of the little devil and little angel on each shoulder trying to influence someone’s actions that I have seen on various shows/movies. This conversation led me to do some research on the soul. Here are a few definitions I liked: • the part of a person that is not physical and lasts eternally as a person experiences death • the fabric that represents us, our entire element of existence First Thessalonians 5:23 says that we are all created with a spirit, soul, and body: “May God himself, the God of peace, sanctify you through and through. May your whole spirit, soul and body be kept blameless at the coming of our Lord Jesus Christ.” The body is obviously our outermost and visible part, and by it, we exist and experience things in the physical world. Our soul, though unseen, is just as real. It is made up of our mind, emotions, and will, and is who we are within. The spirit is the deepest and hidden part of our being. Through our spirit, we can contact the spiritual realm and be in continuous contact with God. In our world, we exert most of our energy satisfying the body’s appetites and almost none of the soul’s, which requires just as much, if not more, attention. When we feel empty, overwhelmed, or alienated, we tend to drown our thirst for God with distractions like television, social media, the internet, shopping, and work instead of being silent and listening to our soul’s needs. However, nothing but God ever completely satisfies us because the soul was made for Him and, without him, is restless. Personally, I’m at a place in my life where I have more time to spend caring for my soul. I remember how challenging it was to make space to focus on myself with small children and a full-time job. However, it’s important to make time when you can, even if it’s just ten or fifteen minutes a day. If you don’t provide your soul with the rest and recharge that it needs, your well will run dry, and you won’t have any energy left to pour out to others.

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What can you do to feed your soul? Here are some suggestions: • Practice quiet time with God whenever you can fit it in • Read • Spend time in nature • Practice yoga • Exercise • Laugh • Help or serve others • Cuddle your pets Sometimes you have to let things go to take care of your soul. In the past, I have let go of several jobs and relationships that were draining my energy. In addition, there are a number of other issues that you may need to address in your life to best care for your soul – comparison, negative thought patterns, fear, pride, and people-pleasing – to name a few. Take some time to care for your soul! What could be more important? REFLECT What gets in the way of caring for your soul? What actions could you take to feed your soul? What could you eliminate in order to focus more on caring for your soul?


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The Darkest Hour Dearest Phoenix, If you’re reading this, it’s already too late for me – I’ve been found. I tried my best to protect us, to protect you from a world that I am ashamed to have ever been a part of; but that’s the thing with love, it clouds all judgment, makes things that you don’t want to see nearly invisible and puts a veil over your eyes even when the truth is glaringly obvious. But time, it isn’t always kind, and I fear that our time together has come to an end, my sweet girl. Just know that everything isn’t always as it seems. How we have lived for the past 13 years has been a lie. The world as you know it is unraveling, and I fear that you, my dear, are the only one that can save them. I’m sorry to put this burden on you, but you’re strong; after all, you’re your father’s daughter. But remember, you have some of me in you, too. Use what I have taught you and fight. Don’t let them break you like they’ve broken me. Protect the cure at all costs. I love you always, Mom I’ve read this letter a thousand times. The tear stained paper was beginning to crumble under my touch, but I didn’t care, it was all I had left of her. Outside the world seemed to be falling apart, the entire city that I once called my home reduced to ash and rubble. In the distance, the faint cries of

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people screaming for help or in fear shook me to my core. I was afraid. Empty cans littered my bedroom floor, the door barricaded with my dresser that I managed to push in the way, just in case the monsters made their way into the house. Monsters. They looked like my worst nightmare, their skin melting off under the sun, like ice cream on a hot summer day. The tears pressed against my eyes as I remembered all the times my mother and I walked down the road to the ice cream parlor for a cone. “Mom, what do I do?” I clung to the letter and let my eyes drift close. A faint scratching sound startled me followed by a soft whimper. “A dog?” I jumped up and gently pulled back my bedroom curtain and saw something that I thought I’d never see again – a dog. He was black, like the night that clung all around me. But something about him made me know that he was safe. He looked normal. No rotting flesh or missing eyes, he whimpered a bit louder and I scrambled to move the dresser from my door. Scraping against the floor, I cringed at the noise. Noise of any kind brought attention.

And with attention came the rotting, walking corpses. But this dog, he needed me. Hell, I needed him. Managing to remove the dresser from my door, I opened the front door. The dog jumped on me, sending me falling to the floor. “Hey there buddy, I’m happy to see you too.” Licking my face ferociously, I giggled. “Alright, alright, let me close the door. We don’t want those things getting in here do we?” As if he could understand, he stopped licking me and put his ears back. I latched the door shut and breathed a sigh of relief. It had been seven days since my mother disappeared. Seven days since my city turned to what it is now. “What should I call you?” I knelt down and pet the dog. His panting bringing me an odd sense of comfort. Other than the screams that broke up the silence, quiet has been all I’ve known for the past week. I looked at his collar and felt sad for his owners that he lost. His tag said Ranger. “Ranger.” His ears perked up. “That’s a good name.” I scratched under his chin. “Looks like it’s just me and you, Ranger.” Resting my head against the wall, Ranger curled up next to me, putting his snout in my lap. For the first time in a week, I slept.


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Lessons from Dad Remembering a Life Well-Lived

BY CAROLYN S. PETERSON WITH KELLEY CARNALL We’ve all heard at one time or another that, ‘Anyone can be a father, but it takes a special man to be a dad.’ Being a dad encompasses so many things in life, and we may not realize that until the day we say good-bye. A dad is there for all of life’s moments like taking those first steps, learning to ride a bicycle, completing the science project the night before it is due, grilling out on the patio, walking a daughter down the aisle or as the best man standing by a son awaiting his bride, and all those times in between as an ear to listen or a shoulder to cry on. Roy Jennings was a dad we all would have been blessed to have known.

A SOLID FOUNDATION

Roy and Teresa Jennings were married for 43 and a half years and built a beautiful life together. They recognized the importance of building their family on a solid foundation so shortly after their first child was born, they joined a local church. This was the beginning of their faith journey and one they would pass on to their daughter, Kelley and two sons, Dustin and Miles. Over the years, their three children would learn many valuable lessons that would stay with them for a lifetime. Kelley, Dustin and Miles recently shared these lessons with family and friends who gathered for Roy’s celebration of life.

SETTING A GODLY EXAMPLE

As Kelley looked back over life with her dad, she remembered many things she inherited from him, including her love for sweets and all kinds of music, but one memory was especially cherished. “Dad would walk up behind mom as she was in the kitchen cooking or doing the dishes and just start to dance with her. As a child, I thought of my parents as the King and Queen of our castle dancing at a royal ball. I knew that one day I wanted a husband just like my dad, who would show love without hesitation and dance with me in our kitchen. I’m blessed to say I found that and so much more in my husband, Clayton,” said Kelley. Through that simple show of affection towards her mom, Roy gave Kelley just a glimpse of what it meant to love and be loved by your spouse. He also taught her to love the life God has given us and show that love to others through our actions.

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LIFE COMES FULL CIRCLE

Dustin recalled when he had his first loose tooth, and he went to his dad for help. “I was a scared little boy, and my dad took me outside to his truck, opened the toolbox he carried and pulled out a pair of needle nose pliers to pull my tooth. Dad assured me there was nothing to fear and one day I would be able to do this all by myself. Flash forward some 30 years when my son was about to lose his first tooth and dad was right, I did do it all by myself with my son. My dad taught himself to do a lot of things; if something was broken, he’d figure out how to fix it. He would say, ‘No matter how difficult the task, how little you know about a subject, or how many people cut you down, you can adapt, overcome, and trust the brain and two hands that God gave you and just try. You might be surprised at how much you can do all by yourself.’ Roy fully supported all of his children’s interests and he would often learn alongside them. Dustin eventually found an interest in computers, just like his dad. He didn’t always want to see it when people said he was just like his dad, but now as an adult, Dustin proudly admits it. “I am just like my dad,” he says.

LEAVE THINGS BETTER THAN YOU FOUND THEM

Miles shared his lessons from his dad through a math book and a chainsaw. “It all started with long division. I just could not understand why I needed it, or how to do it. Dad sat down to help me one night and the first thing he asked was, ‘Where’s your math book?’ He told me to find the book and he would help me understand long division. He taught me to always look for ‘the book’ or the manual because someone has probably done what you’re trying to do, and the answer is already out there.” Miles also recalled that, “One day my dad borrowed a chainsaw from a friend so we could cut down some trees. We soon found the chainsaw needed oil and chain lube. Dad and I went to the store and got what the chainsaw needed and worked on the chainsaw several hours before we even started using it. He believed if there was a job to be done, it needed to be done right and no matter what, things should always be left better than when you found them. Of all the things dad did in his life, there’s no doubt he left this world better than he found it.”


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Roy continually set the example of a hardworking, sacrificially loving husband and dad for his family. Kelley shared one more story to beautifully illustrate how Roy took care of his family.

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“One day after a chemo treatment, mom was driving dad and he was especially tired and ready to be home. In mom’s haste to get him home, she took what dad would later call ‘the $500 shortcut,’ down a narrow street with trash bins sitting close to the road. Mom hit one and it knocked off her side mirror. Dad, who never minded a good project and could always find a ‘how-to’ video if needed, bought a new mirror, painted it, and installed it on the car all with his chemo pack on his shoulder and a feeding tube in his side. He worked hard to the very end.” Roy made a point to take an interest in everyone he met. He wanted to know their names and make them feel valued and loved not only by him, but even more so by their Creator God. There were a few times over the last few days of his life that he said he didn’t want to leave all these beautiful people - not only his family and friends, but also his doctors and nurses, who he often referred to as “remarkable.” He felt so blessed and yet so undeserving of the love shown to him. His family assured him of what he already knew - that as much as they wanted him to stay, the eternity waiting for him was more beautiful than any of us could ever imagine.

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The legacy Roy Jennings left behind is one his children pray they will be able to pass down for generations to come: a strong faith in Jesus Christ as their Lord and Savior, life lessons to carry them through anything that comes their way, and a world much better for him being in it.

JENNINGS FAMILY FUN FACT

Several years ago, Kelley realized that every 10 years, a girl had been born into the family. Teresa and both of her brothers had one daughter each. So, when Kelley announced she was expecting a baby in the spring of 2010, Roy predicted the baby would be a girl and, sure enough, that April, Roy got his first granddaughter. Kelley had a second daughter a couple of years later but as they inched closer to 2020 and Dustin’s wife found out she was expecting, Roy made another prediction, and he got a third granddaughter in May of 2020! Affectionately known as the Fab 5, they now have Kelley (1980), Brooke (1990), Alexandra (2000), Emma (2010), and Camden (2020).

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WOMEN ON THE MOVE TWANA WELLMAN-ROEBUCK

Twana Wellman-Roebuck is the executive director of Experiment in Self-Reliance (ESR). Under her leadership, ESR was selected as the Joel Weston Award Winner for Outstanding Non-Profit Management in 2003; and in 2012, ESR was selected by the Better Business Bureau as the Winner for the Ethics Awards for Business Management. In 2012, Twana launched ESR’s first Capital Campaign in the history of the organization, successfully raising nearly $2.8 million dollars during a two-year period. Since, she has received several awards for her remarkable work with ESR. Currently, she serves on the Liberty Street Restoration Board, Women’s Fund Special Events Committee, ACEY Women’s Fund Group, Truist Advisory Board, the Winston-Salem Police Review Board, Truist Economic Development Committee, Homeless Operating Cabinet, the Minister’s Conference and the NCCAA Council for Executive Directors. She earned her bachelor’s degree in elementary education with a minor in art from Winston-Salem State University. Twana is married to Bobby Roebuck, an employee of the City of Winston-Salem and local artist, and is the proud mother and grandmother of two sons and two granddaughters. She is a member of Alpha Kappa Alpha Sorority and Carver Road Church of Christ.

BRITTNEY NELSON

Brittney Nelson fell into her career of property management in 2001. She immediately became committed to the opportunity to connect with others during their home search; she realized her natural ability to build dynamic teams and, most recently, recognized the platform for serving her community and supporting local. Brittney found her niche in property management with new construction and, while assisting in the brick and mortar tangibles of a new building, decided she would focus on the intangibles in order to bring more connectivity to the communities she was charged with. Her most recent lease up, located in Downtown Winston-Salem, Link Apartments Innovation Quarter, has partnered with many local businesses; partnering for resident events and Win-It-Wednesday, and she has remained dedicated to supporting their local small businesses in whatever way possible while also serving their residents. Brittney’s big heart and generous attitude combined with her love of learning has earned her a recent promotion within Grubb Properties as Regional Property Manager. Brittney is looking forward to continuing to find ways of empowering her team members, supporting local and just paying it forward. In her own words, “B is for…Be Kind.”

KRISTI JOHNSON MARION

Kristi Marion has recently been named as vice president of marketing for Northern Regional Hospital in Surry County. Kristi brings more than 20 years of professional marketing and leadership experience to Northern. Over this period, she has worked for the March of Dimes, Forsyth Woman & Forsyth Family Magazines, RiverRun International Film Festival and, most recently, the North Carolina Zoo and NC Zoo Society as a communications consultant. “Kristi is known for her team building skills, passion for mentoring and coaching, friendly demeanor and history of giving back to her community and profession,” said Chris A. Lumsden, president and CEO. “Kristi will fit well with the culture and operating philosophy of NRH, and we look forward to her leading our marketing team and joining the NRH family.” Kristi was born and raised in Mount Airy and graduated with honors from Appalachian State University with a degree in English literature. She lives in Forsyth County with her two teenagers. In her free time, she enjoys spending time with her kids, being walked by her Great Dane, hiking and other outdoor adventures.


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Michigan native, Lindsey Allen, is an alumna of UNC School of the Arts and Indiana University with degrees in Opera Performance. She has performed with numerous opera companies including Piedmont Opera (PO) where she currently serves as the director of operations, Kansas City Lyric and Tel Aviv Opera. Prior to joining PO, she worked in hospitality as a Southeastern Regional Director for a concierge firm, as well as historic hotels in Kansas City (The Raphael Hotel) and Winston-Salem (The Historic Brookstown Inn). She has a passion for opera and looks forward to sharing her love of music and hospitality within the WinstonSalem community. Lindsey enjoys singing, traveling and learning how to make new cocktails. She also adores her cats, Penelope and Harrington.

TRACY L. BIESECKER

Tracy L. Biesecker has recently been named chief financial officer of Salemtowne retirement community. Biesecker is an accomplished senior living professional with more than 20 years of experience working in various capacities with core competencies including team building and leadership, project management, core lean principles, strategic thinking, systems analysis and budgeting and planning. In her previous job, Biesecker was responsible for overall financial management, including fiscal services, corporate compliance, and external reporting relationships. “Tracy has in-depth experience working at other senior living communities in Pennsylvania, and we welcome her to Winston-Salem and to Salemtowne’s leadership team,” Salemtowne President and Chief Executive Officer Mark Steele said. “We believe her strengths will be a huge benefit to Salemtowne, and I know our residents look forward to getting to know her.”

KATE MCFALLS

Kate McFalls is a certified personal trainer at F45 Training WinstonSalem. She has a degree in fine arts from The NC School of the Arts. “I moved back home to Winston in 2020 after living in New York City for three years,” said Kate. “I knew I wanted to continue coaching, and after I took my first class at F45, I knew I wanted to be a part of the team. The overwhelming sense of community was a very important quality for me, since I was new to town again. The workouts are great, and the attention to detail that is given to the full member experience is like no other. I am inspired by our members on a daily basis. Seeing everyone’s smiling faces bright and early with their dedication to show up stays with me all day. In her spare time, Kate enjoys photography and videography. She also teaches dance full time at In Motion Dance Center.

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JUNE 4 ANNUAL KIDDO FISHING DERBY 9am-12pm. Please join us at Lake Coffey on Beech Mountain for the Annual Kiddo Fishing Derby for ages 12 and under (participants must bring their own bait and tackle). Free gift bag for all participants and prizes to be awarded. For more information, please call 828.387.3003, or visit beechrecreation.recdesk.com.

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BEHIND THE SCENES OF A COUNTRY ESTATE 2-4pm, Reynolda House Museum of American Art, 2250 Reynolda Road in W-S. Have you ever wondered what day-to-day life was like in the world’s largest bungalow? Bari Helms, director of library and archives, and Amber C. Albert, manager of community and academic learning, will provide a glimpse of the Reynolds family’s lifestyle and the estate workers who made it possible. Following the presentation, guests will tour spaces in the historic house that aren’t typically accessible to the public. Space is limited; advance registration is required. Cost: $20/person. reynolda.org/visit/calendar/ behind-the-scenes-of-a-country-estate

TODDLER TREK Minglewood Farm and Nature Preserve, 238 Minglewood Road in Westfield. Are you ready to take your toddler on an outdoor adventure? Join us for Toddler Treks where we will read a story, smell fresh herbs from the garden, investigate specimens up close from the natural world and explore the great outdoors. This program is donation based. Thank you for your support! Please register at eventbrite.com/o/minglewood-farm-and-naturepreserve-17188338999.

JUNE 6 KIDS’ MORNING OUT 10am-11:30am, Jerry Long YMCA Picnic Shelter & Playground, 1150 South Peace Haven Road in Clemmons. Join us for a morning of outdoor fun at their amazing facility. We’ll have fun activities for the kids under the picnic shelter. And, as always, each adult also receives four tickets for the fabulous prize board drawings.

GIRLS’ NIGHT OUT 5pm-until…Midtown Cafe and Dessertery, 151 South Stratford Road in W-S. Grab a friend, a neighbor, your sister, your mother, a co-worker and have a much-needed Girls’ Night Out! Enjoy drink, appetizer, dinner and dessert specials. As always, each attendee receives four tickets for the fabulous prize board drawings!

JUNE 10-27 THE SOUND OF MUSIC Hanesbrands Theatre, 209 North Spruce Street in W-S. One of the most beloved musicals of all time! Set in Austria in 1938, an exuberant young governess brings music and joy back to a broken family, only to face danger and intrigue as the Nazis gain power. Cost: $14-26/person. ltofws.org/sound-of-music

JUNE 11 & 18 YOUNG NATURALIST ALL-DAY CAMP (AGES 6-12) 10am-4pm, Minglewood Farm and Nature Preserve, 238 Minglewood Road. Our Young Naturalists camp is budgetfriendly and fun! Only $55 for a full day of fun exploring the farm, forest, creek and more! Ages 6-12. Register for one camp, or more than one. It’s only $275 for all five camps. The farm and forest are always changing and so are our programs; each camp will be uniquely different. minglewoodpreserve.org/camps


JUNE 12-JULY 30 WAKE FOREST UNIVERSITY SUMMER EXPLORATION PROGRAM Wake Forest University, 1834 Wake Forest Road in W-S. The Wake Forest University Summer Exploration Program is a handson STEM learning experience that allows middle school students the opportunity to choose their own week-long, STEMthemed adventure. Day camp and overnight programs are available for students. Cost: $995-$1,500. exploration.summer.wfu.edu

WAKE FOREST UNIVERSITY SUMMER IMMERSION PROGRAM Wake Forest University, 1834 Wake Forest Road in W-S. The Wake Forest University Summer Immersion Program is a series of week-long institutes that allow high school students to explore different career pathways and fields of study at Wake Forest University. Institutes are led by Wake Forest professors and professionals in various fields and students are mentored by Wake Forest undergraduate students. Cost: $1,500$2,700. immersion.summer.wfu.edu

JUNE 17-18 REYNOLDA READ-ALOUD 10-10:30am, Reynolda House Museum of American Art, 2250 Reynolda Road in W-S. For pre-readers (ages 2-5) accompanied by an adult, this themed storytime series includes stories, songs or fingerplay, and suggested activities to do at home. Younger siblings are welcome!reynolda.org/visit/ calendar/reynolda-read-aloud

JUNE 18 BEECH MOUNTAIN RESORT 2022 SUMMER MUSIC SERIES: SHAKEY GRAVES WITH BENDIGO FLETCHER 5pm, Beech Mountain Resort. Beech Mountain Resort offers a great line-up of live music in the village and at their signature bar at the top of the mountain, ‘5506. Also, visitors can enjoy the Beech Alpen Inn’s Sunday Summer Concerts. From Memorial Day through Labor Day the Alpen Inn hosts free live music, featuring local bands, on their magnificent backyard lawn. beechmountainresort.com/ 2022-summer-concert-series

JUNE 20-AUGUST 12 TRIAD SPORTS MANAGEMENT (MULTI SPORTS SUMMER CAMP) Rise Indoor Sports Facility, 419 Twins Way. Weekly camps for soccer, field hockey, lacrosse, basketball, dodgeball, flag football, speed and agility as well as baseball. Ages 5-12 years old. Please register: triadsportsmanagement.com.

JUNE 22 THE SOUND OF MUSIC – SING ALONG PERFORMANCE

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7:30pm, Hanesbrands Theatre, 209 North Spruce Street in W-S. Here’s your chance to sing along to a live performance of The Sound of Music! Watch the show and feel free to chime in as the cast sings “Edelweiss,” “Do-Re-Me,” and “My Favorite Things”! Cost: $14-26/person. ltofws.org/sound-of-music

JUNE 25 OUTDOOR DISCOVERY LESSON 10-11:30am, Reynolda House Museum of American Art, 2250 Reynolda Road in W-S. To promote reading readiness and visual literacy, preschoolers (ages 3-5) and their caregivers will explore the 1917 estate through activities that encourage dramatic play, music, movement and art-making, taking a work of art or item from Reynolda’s collection as a starting point. Advance registration is required. Cost: $20/person. reynolda.org/visit/ calendar/outdoor-discovery-lesson

Jack’s New Grass

FLOWER ARRANGING WORKSHOP Minglewood Farm and Nature Preserve, 238 Minglewood Road Westfield. Learn the basics of flower arranging; Margie will guide you through what it takes to create a beautiful, seasonal flower arrangement. Join us for a fun morning on the farm! Learn what it takes to create a beautiful, seasonal flower arrangement; from growing, cutting and processing your flowers to designing your arrangement. Everyone will enjoy a tour of Minglewood’s pollinator garden and create their own arrangement to take home. All materials are provided. eventbrite.com/o/minglewood-farmand-nature-preserve-17188338999

jacksnewgrass.com 336.712.9977 4798 Kinnamon Road | Clemmons, NC

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Conversations with Your BFF As we all know, families, even when intact, are complicated and even more so after divorce and there’s no one-size-fits-all manual on what to do in delicate and emotional situations. No time is more tricky than a funeral for an ex-in-law, especially if you were part of the family for many years. So when someone you were related to by marriage dies, do you or don’t you attend the funeral? I am so glad you asked!

Should any of these apply to you, it might be best if you stay at home. There are other ways to show your support to your ex in-laws at this time of grief. Cards, flowers, or donations in memory of the deceased loved one are good ways to let others know you care without being present at a funeral.

IT’S NOT ABOUT YOU

NOW WHAT DO I DO?

One of the first questions you have to ask is whether or not you should attend the funeral or celebration of life. I know, that’s rather simple, but there are things you need to weigh in making this decision. First, will your presence be accepted or welcome? Second, will you be more of a distraction than an addition to the service? The most important thing to remember is that this day isn’t about you. It’s about a family and their grief. A funeral is an opportunity to find closure and offer a kind word and join in grieving someone. Your relationship might be complicated, but you’ll need to choose the right things for the entire family. If you and your ex parted ways amicably, then the feelings may not be so raw, so paying your respects may be the right thing to do.

THINGS DIDN’T END WELL, SO WHAT SHOULD I DO? In general, like I stated above, if you’re on good terms with your ex and the family, you should probably attend the funeral. You were a big part of your spouse’s life and of the family’s and even though you’ve gone your separate ways, the feelings, memories, and respect are still present. However, there are situations when your presence might not be appropriate. Here are a few circumstances that you may want to consider: • If your presence will upset the family • If your presence will increase the grief • If the funeral is open to only close family members • If you are no longer in touch on any level with the family

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Should I Attend My Ex-In-Law’s Funeral? BY REBECCA COOPER

So you’ve weighed your options and taken everything into consideration and you have decided to attend the service of your ex in-law. What do you do on the day of the funeral? Unless you are asked to or are still close with the family, do not sit with the family. Remember, you were a member of the family, past tense. The drama you left behind isn’t part of you and your life anymore. So keep your distance at the service.

Needless to say, remain respectful; this is a time to put aside any past differences. Be kind with your words, and keep interactions with the family short and polite. To avoid any uncomfortable moments, avoid any reference to family rifts or why you left the family. It’s good to keep your involvement in the funeral to a minimum, too. Don’t make a long speech about the deceased, which may bring up difficult memories; pay your respects, give your condolences, and move along.


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