Forsyth Woman - March 2015

March 2015 | Fashion | Keeping It Real | Rosey’s Review | To Your Health

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M A RY ROB I NSON Mary Robinson is president of the Mary Robinson Foundation—Climate Justice, a center for leadership, education and advocacy in the struggle to secure global justice for people vulnerable to the impacts of climate change but who are usually forgotten: the poor, the disempowered and the marginalized. She served as President of Ireland from 1990–1997 and United Nations High Commissioner for Human Rights from 1997–2002. Robinson has received numerous honors and awards, including the Presidential Medal of Freedom.

Thursday March 26, 2015 at 6 p.m. Wait Chapel voices.wfu.edu Free and open to the public

Presented in conjunction with “The Human Face of Environmental Inequality” interdisciplinary symposium, March 26–27, sponsored by the Wake Forest University Humanities Institute, its affiliate Human Rights and Global Justice research group, and the University’s Center for Energy, Environment and Sustainability. For info visit humanitiesinstitute.wfu.edu.

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CONTENTS March 2015

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49 Homewatch CareGivers: To Preserve Dignity, Protect Independence and Provide Peace of Mind

22 The Fashion Exchange

36 The Modern Woman’s Dilemma

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42 Tour of Fine Spaces:

FEATURES

Junior League of Winston Salem

56 Dress for Success: New Office, New Look, Same Amazing Commitment

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Finances and Divorces

78 RiverRun International Film Festival

84 International Women’s Day

86 Hospice Hope Run

108 TJ’s Body Shop: Fixing All Dents, Big and Small

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CONTENTS March 2015

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Dear June

46 Fashion Forward

70 To Your Health!

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IN EVERY ISSUE

Things That Make You Blush

92 A Novel Idea

98 Recipes

102 Women on the Move

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Living Gently… Every Day

112 Life Hacks

114 Local Vocals March 2015 / 13

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THE VIEW

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From this Side March 2015

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Happy March!

A couple of months ago, my family and I had our photos taken by Photo Artistry by Melinda. I had to share one of our new favorites. Yes, we’re all guilty of spending a LOT of time on our iPhones (Brooke’s looking all innocent, but she’s just as guilty!), but when you hear the big news, you’ll be racing for your own phone to help spread the word, too!

The big news is… (Drum roll please)… The Forsyth Family Expo!

Our sister-publication, Forsyth Family magazine, is pulling out all the stops to create a really fantastic event that NO FAMILY will want to miss! Mark your calendars now for the March 15th Forsyth Family Expo. (Go ahead – text it to your friends and post it on Facebook…we sure are!)

This event used to be called the Summer Camp Expo and this year, they have moved the venue to the Winston-Salem Fairgrounds Education Building and have retitled it for a variety of vendors to participate (though there are still lots of great summer camp programs who will be there!). I have overheard some of the details and I am so excited for this day! There are going to be some AMAZING vendors there to talk about their programs, services, and products.

Forsyth Family is also planning on some super cool things to keep the kids (and adults!) entertained… a bounce house, face painting, music, games, photo booth, mini-parenting workshops, make-and-take “art bomb,” a fashion show, and even Sparky the Fire Dog will be there! The Forsyth Family Expo will be from 1 – 5 pm on March 15th, which is also Incredible Kid Day! So, kids, dress up in a fun costume! Admission is going to be the donation of 5 cans of food or $5 for the Second Harvest Food Bank. Please read more about it on pages 64 and 65.

Also, some of our readers have called and asked about this year’s shopping trips. Both events are scheduled and online registration is open. The Spring Consignment Shop Hop is scheduled for May 9th (TinyUrl.com/Spring15CSH) and the Fall Tour de Boutique will be on November 7th (TinyUrl.com/Fall15TdB). Sign up now!

We love spending time with our readers and we are excited to see you at our monthly GNOs, KMOs, and of course, special events like the expos and shopping trips. It all comes down to YOU! We get to have these awesome jobs and do what we love every day because of our READERS and ADVERTISERS! THANK YOU for allowing us to be a part of your life each month! THANK YOU for picking up Forsyth Woman! Be sure to get a copy for Forsyth Family, too, and be sure to share with a friend! As always, please let our advertisers know you saw their ads and stories in our magazines!

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Getting to Know Your Eye Care Professionals Better

By Vic Khemsara, MD

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n the realm of eye care there are many similar sounding professionals, including optometrist, ophthalmologist, and optician. Do you know the differences between them? Below is a brief summary of each one.

Optometrists are the primary healthcare professionals for the eyes.

Optometrists examine, diagnose, treat, and manage diseases, injuries, and disorders of the visual system, the eye, and associated structures. They also identify related systemic conditions affecting the eye, such as diabetes, hypertension, high cholesterol, etc.

Doctors of optometry prescribe medications, low vision rehabilitation, vision therapy, eyeglasses and contact lenses, and perform certain surgical procedures, such as the removal of foreign bodies. The scope of how an optometrist practices depends on the state in which he or she resides. Optometrists counsel their patients regarding surgical and non-surgical options that meet their visual needs related to their occupations, avocations, and lifestyle.

An optometrist has completed pre-professional undergraduate education in a college or university and four years of professional education at a college of optometry, leading to the doctor of optometry (O.D.) degree. Some optometrists complete an optional residency in a specific area of practice.

An ophthalmologist is a medical doctor who is specialized in eye and vision care. In order to become an ophthalmologist, acquisition of an M.D. or a D.O. (doctor of osteopathy) degree is necessary following the completion of college. After 4 years of medical school and a year of internship in general medicine, every ophthalmologist spends a minimum of 3 years in a university and hospital-based residency specializing in ophthalmology. During residency, the eye M.D. receives special training in all aspects of eye care, including prevention, diagnosis, and medical and surgical treatment of eye conditions and diseases. Ophthalmologists are trained to provide the full spectrum of eye care, from prescribing glasses and contact lenses, to performing complex and delicate eye surgery. Some ophthalmologists will acquire additional fellowship training in a subspecialty area such as retina, cornea, glaucoma, pediatrics, oculoplastics, refractive surgery, pathology, or neuroophthalmology.

Optometrists work with ophthalmologists by providing referrals for surgical or medical care of serious illnesses. Conversely, some ophthalmologists may refer patients to optometrists for primary eye care, refractions, contact lenses, prescription eyeglass lenses, and postsurgical care.

Last but not least, opticians are trained in filling prescriptions for eyeglasses. They determine the proper eyeglass frames and adjust frames for proper fit. In some states, opticians may be licensed to fit contact lenses. Opticians often work closely within the same practice as an optometrist or ophthalmologist, or an optician may have an independent practice.At Summit eye care we have all three “O’s” available on site for your convenience. Dr. Truc Ly Tran is the optometrist, Dr. Vic Khemsara is the ophthalmologist, and Jennifer French is the optician.

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t its simplest, a nurse midwife is a practitioner who provides care for a woman and her child throughout pregnancy and delivery. However, nurse midwives today provide much more by offering comprehensive services that encompass women’s health needs from the teenage years through menopause and beyond.

Recognizing the need for a natural, women-focused approach, Novant Health Midwifery Associates opened in Winston-Salem to provide access to nurse midwife services to area women for their obstetric and gynecologic care. The certified nurse midwives of Novant Health Midwifery Associates can also write prescriptions and provide an array of services that a woman may need, including professional-level counseling, consultation, and medical exams.

Many women are now choosing to work with a nurse midwife for personalized care in order to achieve their desired birth experience. When choosing a nurse midwife from Novant Health, the woman can expect a provider who encourages her to be an active participant in her own care. Rather than relying on technology or medical procedures at every turn, nurse midwives encourage medical procedures only when deemed necessary, and will work with you to ensure you have all the information you need to make an informed decision, including all available options and alternatives. Having a baby at Novant Health Forsyth Medical Center with a Novant Health nurse midwife allows the woman to minimize the use of medical interventions as she desires. If a need or problem arises, essential equipment and staff are immediately available to optimize outcomes for mom and baby.

The midwifery model of care is one that promotes and supports personalized care, treating each woman and family as a unique entity and not just another number. As such, a certified nurse midwife will know and consider your past experiences, current situation, future goals, work, family, and faith. While taking into account a woman’s personal values, nurse midwives approach women’s health care based on research, evidence-based practice, professional standards, and clinical expertise, along with a deep understanding of the normal, natural events in a woman’s lifespan.

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John Fitzgerald, Attorney at Law

By Meghan E.W. Corbett

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ost people think they will never need a DWI or criminal defense attorney and do not put much thought into the subject until they, a member of their family, or a friend get into trouble. When that happens, people discover that finding a skilled lawyer to help them in court can be confusing and difficult, especially when time is of the essence. Don’t wait until the last minute to find the right lawyer. Attorney John Fitzgerald has been defending people charged with Driving While Impaired (DWI) and criminal offenses for more than 23 years.

through the court system, to obtain the best possible outcome in court, and to make the entire experience as pleasant and nonthreatening as possible.”

Despite all the information available online, understanding the law can be difficult. “It is important to know that DWI law is a complicated area of practice, even for lawyers,” said Fitzgerald.

“DWI laws get tougher every year. An experienced DWI lawyer is trained to spot critical issues that can often have an impact on the “My goal is to skillfully guide outcome of the case. An experienced DWI or criminal lawyer might make the “My father was a successful DWI and my clients through the court difference between a client being found criminal defense lawyer when I was growing guilty or not guilty, going to jail or walking up in Michigan, and I always wanted to system, to obtain the best of the courtroom, and possibly follow in his footsteps,” said Fitzgerald. possible outcome in court, and out receiving a lenient sentence instead of a “My father’s practice was almost identical to severe punishment. DWI convictions can the one I currently have, so I guess you could to make the entire experience say that what I do is in my blood. I began as pleasant and non-threatening have a lasting impact on a client's life.

Convictions can cause people to lose their practicing law in March of 1993 with the as possible.” driver’s license for at least a year, and they late Larry Eubanks. I worked as Mr. may need to have an interlock machine installed in their vehicle Eubanks’ associate until he retired in 2000, at which time I when their license is reinstated. A person's automobile insurance established my own practice in my present location at 114 South premiums will increase dramatically for three years if they are Spruce Street in downtown Winston-Salem. I have had my own found guilty of DWI. Worst of all, someone convicted of DWI firm for more than 15 years now. I limit my areas of practice to could go to jail or prison, sometimes even for a first offense. For DWI, traffic matters, criminal cases, and driver’s license issues, and those reasons, my staff and I treat all DWIs very seriously and with only accept cases in Forsyth, Davidson and Davie Counties. I do the care and attention they deserve. We are thorough, precise, and this on purpose so that I can give each client’s case the care and well-trained. We understand that the outcome of a client’s case attention it deserves. My goal is to skillfully guide my clients

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could affect their job, their family, and even their freedom. We also understand that clients are embarrassed and scared about their case. We are non-judgmental about what a client has been accused of doing and we hold each client’s identity and the details of their case in the strictest confidence. Even nice, law-abiding people get DWIs or criminal offenses. All it takes is one drink too many or a lapse in judgment. We are here to help if you or someone you know is accused of DWI or a criminal offense.”

Mr. Fitzgerald often works with high school and college students who have been charged with criminal or traffic offenses, and their families.

“I worked for a local substance abuse education and treatment facility before I became a lawyer,” said Fitzgerald. “I am trained to spot substance abuse problems and I am effective in communicating with and relating to high school and college students. I also understand that it becomes a family problem when a child gets in trouble and I am good at working with parents as well. I enjoy doing this type of work and it is one of the most rewarding areas of my practice.”

Fitzgerald attends continuing legal education seminars regularly that focus on DWI and criminal law in order to remain up to date with new developments in the law. “I never accept a case that I am not familiar with or experienced in handling,” said Fitzgerald. “A client should choose a lawyer for these types of life-changing events as carefully as they would a doctor if they had a serious illness. My firm caters to people who appreciate excellent client service and who are willing to pay a premium for that service. I am the only lawyer in my firm, so I will not hand a client's case off to an inexperienced associate.”

In addition to his extensive experience with DWI and criminal law, Fitzgerald prides himself on his relationships with his clients and potential clients.

“The #1 complaint against lawyers is that they do not return phone calls,” said Fitzgerald. “I always attempt to return phone calls the same day or within 24 hours, unless I am in trial or on vacation.

Clients often thank my staff and me for promptly returning their calls and for the reliable and friendly service we provide. I have many, many repeat clients or clients who refer their friends, family and co-workers to me. That is the highest compliment a client can pay a lawyer.”

For more information about John Fitzgerald, call 336.777.1090, or visit the website at www.FitzLawNC.com.

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By Martie Emory

Its spring sale promises stylish fun and a few surprises!

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onya Nealon loves fashion. Yet, as is true for all of us, sometimes the pieces she loved most – including her passion for wildly fabulous shoes – were simply out of her price range.

Always the savvy organizer, she knew there was a sensible solution for local fashionable women. Tonya had seen success with a seasonal consignment sale in her previous Alabama home where she lived before moving to North Carolina with her family a couple of years ago. Tonya saw the desire in Forsyth County for a unique shopping opportunity and launched The Fashion Exchange locally last fall. With the amazing success of its inaugural sale, she couldn’t be more enthusiastic about gearing up for the spring version to be held March 21st at the Clemmons Civic Club.

What differs with The Fashion Exchange – from a more traditional consignment experience – is that consignors set their own prices and receive their profits faster. There is no registration fee for selling with The Fashion Exchange, and sellers will also receive at least 60% of the revenue from the sales of their clothing items. Those consignors who volunteer to work at the sale for 16 hours or more can receive up to 75% of their revenue. Sellers also have the ability to discount their items if they choose, all done through software specialized for The Fashion Exchange that includes printing bar-coded price tags, tracking online which items have been sold and creating donation reports for what’s left over.

Fashions from size 0 and up are welcome; all merchandise must be in great condition – free of stains, tears, etc.

Tonya says the sale is geared towards brand name items (sundresses, shorts, beachwear, linens and silks for the springtime sale) from major department stores, specialty retailers and boutiques – including stylish handbags and shoes. The upcoming spring sale will also introduce jewelry and select men’s items as well.

“There is also something else new this sale,” said Tonya. “We’ll be holding an invitation-only Friday Night Preview with some of our local small business partners, such as Christina’s Dessertery and Vintage Chic by Elaine, just to name a few, to round out a wonderful experience for our shoppers! This is a great way to see and appreciate firsthand what The Fashion Exchange is all about.”

If you’re interested in selling your clothing or accessory items to The Fashion Exchange, the registration closes March 7th. For shoppers not attending the new preview sale Friday night, the public sale will take place Saturday, March 21st from 7am until noon and, for true bargain hunters, the half price sale runs Saturday from 11am until noon.

For more information on The Fashion Exchange, to sell items or request an invitation, contact Tonya Nealon at 336.582.0288, email info@thefashionexchangenc.com or visit the webite at www.thefashionexchangenc.com or www.facebook.com/TheFashionExchangeNC. The Spring 2015 event will take place March 20th and 21st at the Clemmons Civic Club located at 2870 Middlebrook Drive in Clemmons. Forsyth Woman readers may also request an invitation to the Friday night event.

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New Location to Better Serve Patients

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By Carolyn S. Peterson

n 1970, the late Drs. Eugene Linton and Don Whitener founded Lyndhurst OB/GYN with a dedication to providing the best obstetric and gynecologic patient care for the women of the Triad. Although the practice has grown in staff and services, it remains focused on its patients and meeting their healthcare needs. As Lyndhurst OB/GYN enters its 45th year, the practice is planning a $9 million building project in HanesTowne Village off of Stratford Road.

With the construction of a three-story, 55,700 square-foot building, Lyndhurst OB/GYN will consolidate its three offices in Winston-Salem.

In 2007, Lyndhurst OB/GYN outgrew its current location on Lyndhurst Avenue. The practice purchased two additional buildings on Maplewood Avenue and relocated employee parking, the Business Office, Fertility Center, the Call Center and the In-Office Surgery Center. Planning for a new building began in 2011 to house all services in one location. The new location will allow the practice to offer its patients additional services in one visit with convenient parking.

Patients will have the opportunity to receive many services in one visit, limiting the time they need to take off from work or schedule childcare. A patient can schedule her annual exam, a mammogram, lab work, bone density exam and have a visit to our spa for a facial or laser treatment all in one day. Patients can schedule in-office surgery without a visit to the hospital and pay only an office co-pay. There are also other benefits from having Lyndhurst OB/GYN’s practitioners and services all in one location.

A building housing all services improves efficiency and communication.

The new space will allow doctors to see a patient, go to the in-office surgery areas to perform procedures and then return to seeing routine patients. he updated facility will have adequately sized rooms that are warm, inviting and comfortable for patients, as well as provide adequate parking.

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Along with the parking, the facility is easily accessible to Stratford Road and will be equipped for patients with physical issues. A drive through covered entrance will be available for patients in pain or for handicapped patients and visitors.

An example of improved patient flow is a planned elevator to the in-office surgery center and an exit at the back of the building for patients who are post-operative.

Lyndhurst OB/GYN will occupy the first and second floors of the new building and will lease the 18,000 square foot third floor. HanesTowne Village was chosen after several sites were considered.

This location is ideal due to the proximity to Forsyth Hospital, where the physicians deliver babies. The practice is excited about the mix of retail and businesses of HanesTowne and the convenience for their patients.

Lyndhurst OB/GYN is looking forward to another 45 years, still paying homage to the foundation laid by Drs. Linton and Whitener. The practices’ mission is to continue to be the medical providers that patients have depended on for many years.

The physicians are now delivering the 4th generation of babies to the patients they cared for in 1970. With the new facility, they will continue to provide obstetric and gynecologic care to patients, continuously improving quality and value, which exceeds patients’ expectations. Lyndhurst OB/GYN has delivered care to the Triad for generations.

Lyndhurst OB/GYN is currently located at 2927 Lyndhurst Avenue in Winston-Salem.

For more information on the services provided, visit www.lyndhurstgyn.com or call 336.765.9350.

The practice hopes to be in the new building in the spring of 2016.

Craige Brawley Liipfert & Walker, LLP

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Empowering Your Story

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s bizarre as it sounds to this tech savvy generation, chicks my age only own a handful of childhood photographs. Back then (I cringe to say that) pictures required other folks to capture the shot. Processing involved slightly more than pressing an iPhone button. I know, I know.

Attempting to describe this era only reaffirms our children’s belief that we’re the last remains from the Dark Ages.

By Dr. Debbie Lanier

Compare that reality with today’s Selfie Culture. Did you know that 450 million selfies get uploaded onto social media every day? (Yep, you read that right.) Now that’s a lot of selfies!

We’ve never been so aware of ourselves. We’ve got our best angle down to a science. If there’s an inkling of regret with the outcome, we just snap again.

(BTW, I’m selfie illiterate. I take fantastic pictures of the ceiling.)

We’re increasingly attentive to our environment. We can tell you straight up (and we do) when we’re bored at work. Agony over the sluggish line at Harris Teeter provokes a tweet. Our new favorite dessert inspires the next Facebook status. (As well it should!)

And who’s not painstakingly alert to a world that’s gone mad? Terror threats overwhelm the headlines. With instant news, choosing to remain unacquainted with escalating evil is no longer an option.

I told you – we’re just so incredibly aware, like never before. So I find myself wondering, “How is it that we live so clueless of the one thing that is more real, more powerful, MORE . . . than any other reality?” How is it that we live so oblivious of the Everlasting God who hovers close?

Get this. There’s never been even one time that you’ve thought of God when He wasn’t already thinking of you. There’s never been even one moment of your living, NOT ONE, that this Faithful Father wasn’t nestled nearer than your next breath. He’s that near. He’s that now.

So how is it that we live so clueless of His abiding Presence? How is it that our sense of awe in this Magnificent God gets swapped for yawns of familiarity?

The explanation is quite simple really. God is just so doggone good at being God. For real! He’s so proficient at what He does that we don’t even recognize it as miraculous anymore.

Consider this. What if God put the stars on display for only fifteen minutes once a year? We’d rush home to watch this breathtaking phenomenon. It would be all the rage on social media. Yet, when the Lover offers this miracle at every sunset, we become too busy to notice.

What if interacting with another human being only occurred for fifteen minutes once a month? See, I told you. God’s just so good at what He does, we’ve lost the wonder of the miraculous.

I’ve learned that when I remain attentive to the Father’s closeness, it shifts my focus. It alters my response to the world around me. No longer do I muddle through my days as if I walk alone. In fact, I become deeply aware that the God who hovers close stands guard over what belongs to Him. He fights for me.

When you believe a lie, you embolden that lie in your story. When you believe the truth, you empower that truth in the deepest parts of you.

It’s like this. When you believe the lie that you are all alone in the fight, you will feel desperate. You will fight desperate. You will lose.

When you live ever aware of His hovering, you trust that this Faithful Father fights for you. Your heart knows He cannot fail. This truth empowers you to stand victoriously!

So what captivates your attention? You’ve never lived so aware of details that possess no grand significance beyond this moment. Why not become intimately acquainted with the truest part of your reality? Get to know this God who sticks close to you and sticks up for you. Trust me. It matters, because what you believe, you empower in your story!

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f you’re a homeowner, it’s safe to say that you’ve put much of your hard earned dollars into making your castle beautiful and safe. But one area that many homeowners overlook is outside their home. Tim Burge founded Castlelights to provide the area with the highest quality outdoor lighting available.

“Sometime during the mid-eighties, I visited the West Coast and discovered professional landscape lighting for the first time,” Tim said. “I brought this idea back to North Carolina and began experimenting with focused lighting on my own home. My neighbors were fascinated with my new lighting and soon began asking if I would help them light their homes in the same way.

This is where it all began.”

In 2003, Castlelights came to be and since then Tim has been dedicating himself to designing and installing the best outdoor lighting available in the Triad. He said that what sets Castlelights apart from competitors is their focus on lighting and nothing else. “Most landscaping contractors offer lighting to enhance their landscape/hardscape designs, however their primary focus is just that – landscaping,” Tim said. “Castlelights’ specialty is outdoor lighting and only outdoor lighting so we are able to keep our focus on new trends in lighting.”

As with most new ventures, Tim said customers who are new to the world of outdoor lighting will start by doing online research, which can be confusing and deceptive due to the wide range of fixture quality and durability on the market. “The short cut to starting your lighting project is to call Castlelights,” Tim said. “We educate our customer so they can make an informed decision about outdoor lighting.”

Castlelights aims to make the outdoor lighting design process as easy and effortless as possible for its customers. “Castlelights designs outdoor lighting systems tailored to your needs and budget,” Tim said. “Everything is turnkey.

Each system we offer includes our best design, high quality professional grade components, and proven installation techniques. We even include smart timers

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that will turn lights on at dusk each day and will turn them off at a time that you indicate.”

Castlelights can even design and install in a way that allows you to stretch the process to fit your budget and schedule. “Should you have a large project or a long term goal, our lighting can be accomplished in separate phases when the time is right for you,” Tim said.

Updating and repairing existing lighting is another area of expertise for Castlelights. Tim says that many older systems can easily be refreshed and upgraded by switching over to LED lights.

“Many times an LED upgrade is the best answer. While we are accomplishing an upgrade, we will often relocate fixtures to create the optimal effect. The most common problem is overgrown shrubbery that blocks the lighting.” Tim said that old lighting and overgrown shrubbery could even pose a safety risk to your home. “The most serious problem homeowners should recognize is landscaping material covering halogen style lights,” Tim said. “Halogen lights get hot and when they are covered over, they get very hot and have been known to cause fires. With LEDs this is not a problem.”

LED lights also make your outdoor lighting more affordable, which is a breath of fresh air with energy costs rising each month. “In the past, a system of 15 halogen lights might use 525 watts with an estimated bulb life of 4,000 hours,” Tim said. “The same system using LEDs would only use 75 watts with an estimated bulb life of 20,000 hours or more.”

As a customer of Castlelights, Tim says that he can assure you will be given a personalized experience with guaranteed quality. “As the owner of the company, I am directly involved with the design and the installation process which allows Castlelights to offer a personal experience to each customer,” Tim said.

“We approach each project as artists first, then we apply our technical knowledge to execute the design.”

Castlelights is based in Clemmons, NC. You can visit them online at Castlelights.com. Tim Burge and his team can be reached by phone at 336-505-4913 or toll free at 877-824-2449 or by email at Sales@castlelights.com.

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Mac & Nelli’s

Harper Hill Commons Shopping Center 4926 Country Club Road • Winston-Salem, NC 27104 • 336.529.6230 M-Th. 3pm-12am, F-Sat. 11am-12am, Sun. 9am-2pm (brunch); 2-9pm (regular menu)

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pring is almost here! There really is nothing I love more than the holidays, changing leaves and that annual hope for a white Christmas; but after a long, cold winter there is nothing better than getting out to enjoy some of the wonderful food available in the area. Now, you can indulge your cravings at Mac & Nelli’s in its wonderful new location on Country Club Road!

I went on a Saturday night to enjoy the weekly Friday and Saturday prime rib special. Let me tell you, it did not disappoint! But first things first…appetizers: • Crabmeat cocktail – Maryland jumbo lump crabmeat served chilled with pico de gallo/Baja cream sauce. The crabmeat was fresh and delicious!

• Hummus – Garbanzo beans, garlic, cheese and tahini served with fresh pico de gallo and pita chips. Who doesn’t love hummus? This house made dip was light yet satisfying.

• Caesar salad – Served with house made Caesar dressing…makes all the difference!

The presentation of each and every dish was spectacular. We all felt like we were at a 5-star restaurant in New York City…and figured there was no way the food could taste as good as it looked, but it absolutely did!

Entrees were next: • Shrimp and grits – Tiger shrimp prepared in light, creamy gravy served over stone-ground grits…few master shrimp and grits like Mac & Nelli’s.

• Prime rib weekends – Friday and Saturday only…seasoned and slowroasted Angus prime rib of beef, hand cut to order with house made au jus and served with choice of potato and vegetable. Great any night, but perfect for a Friday or Saturday date night.

And last but not least, for dessert, we chose the crème brûlée trio – vanilla, coffee and chocolate…hard to pick a favorite!

There is not enough space on this page to accurately describe how satisfied we were with our dinner. It was delicious, period. Narrowing down the extensive menu was probably the hardest part of the meal…but also a great reason to come back again and again.

We had such a wonderful time at Mac & Nelli’s and can’t wait to return.

Maybe we will treat ourselves to 35-cent wing night on Mondays, enjoy live music on select nights, go back for prime rib weekends or grab some martinis and appetizers at the bar.

However you decide to enjoy the beautiful spring nights, make sure a few of them are spent at Mac & Nelli’s…and be sure to tell them Rosey sent you!

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A Winston-Salem Original

By Denise Heidel

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ancakes. Pound Cake. Fresh Salads. Chicken Pie. OH, MY! All comfort foods, and all deliciously available at Midtown Cafe and Dessertery. Midtown has been a community staple for 27 years. Scott and Brenda Gerding opened The Dessertery in December 1987 as a bakery in Thruway Shopping Center. The original concept was to provide high-quality, made-from-scratch American baked goods. The shop quickly became a community favorite… a pre-Starbucks hangout where the incredible desserts and hot coffee were accompanied by great conversation.

For eight years, Scott and the Midtown team constantly tweaked and streamlined to make sure they could meet the growing demands for their desserts. They were always on the lookout for improvement, and on one such occasion, happened upon a favorite purely by accident! Who could imagine that their signature, Five Flavor Pound cake with cream cheese

icing, wasn’t an inspired moment in the kitchen? But rather the creative solution by an employee who had accidentally damaged the top of a freshly baked pound cake!

In September 1995, The Dessertery relocated to Stratford Village Shopping Center and evolved into the Midtown Cafe and Dessertery. With an expanded menu to include breakfast and lunch, Midtown evolved from a local bakery hang-out, to a full service restaurant café. Within a year of opening the new restaurant, Midtown began serving dinner.

Jeff and Stephanie Cayton were invited to join the Midtown family in April, 2014. Scott and Jeff had known and worked together for fourteen years in a vendor / sales capacity. They had established trust and camaraderie – important ingredients in the recipe for a successful business venture! Jeff shares, “I really admired the business model at Midtown Cafe and Dessertery.

When we began discussion about a partnership, I knew that if I was going to make this kind of career change and investment into a business, it would have to be one like Midtown.” It’s been a great partnership with a continued focus on service, quality, and innovative new experiences for customers.

Besides offering incredible food, Midtown takes pride in taking care of their team. Scott emphasizes the importance of “balance” when it comes to working at Midtown.

“I have a family and I want to spend time with them!

I encourage our staff to do the same.” This approach to the team has paid off and those who are regulars know it to be true. Many members of the Midtown team have been on board for well over 10 years, enabling them to get to know the regular customers, as well as perfect the expected quality and service for which Midtown is known. Additionally, Scott and Jeff may be the business owners, but you will frequently find them serving guests as well, walking around and making

Midtown Cafe and Dessertery is located at 151 S. Stratford Road in Winston-Salem.

Call 724.9800 or visit online at MidtownCafeWS.com.

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Along with the warm and welcoming interior, you’re always greeted by a friendly face when you arrive at Midtown.

Katie Marsh is a regular customer. “When I walk in, I’m greeted by name, and most of the staff know that I love their hazelnut coffee. Midtown has been my favorite for years because of their personalized service and I’m never disappointed with a meal!

The food is always consistent; the only problem I have is that I have too many favorites!”

But Katie is in luck! Because with the newest addition to Midtown – the Midtown Market – she can take multiple dishes home to enjoy! The Midtown Market is something that customers have been asking for and Midtown is responding! The beautifully redecorated display case is not only full of their decadent desserts, but tasty meals and side dishes that can be enjoyed at home. “We are giving our customers an affordable and healthy alternative to fast food,” said Scott. Jeff concurred. “We’re able to offer a variety… pick up a family sized entrée, or individual dishes to suit everyone’s taste!”

While many know and love Midtown for one specific reason (i.e., Sunday brunch, Thursday morning breakfast meetings), Midtown has so much to offer! Lisa Lawson agrees. “When my best friend and I make plans to get together, we pick the date and time, but never even discuss the location. We just both know to show up at Midtown!”

If you’ve never been to Midtown Cafe and Dessertery, it’s a dining experience unlike any other in the area. Breakfast is served all day, gourmet lunch options are available, as well as yummy dinner selections after 3:00 pm. And of course, desserts all day, too! Midtown also has a fantastic delivery service for box lunches and platters for breakfast and lunch.

If you’re a Midtown regular, make sure you’re experiencing all that Midtown has to offer! Rediscover some old favorites and taste a few new ones as well! Make sure you bring a friend!

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y husband and I made a quick run to the grocery store last week - you know, just your normal Sunday afternoon errands, made so much easier with four hands instead of two. As I climbed back into the car, a thought crossed my mind: I should thank him for helping me.

But before I could get the words out, something stopped me, because on the heels of that thought came another: When did grocery shopping become my task? Should I really thank him for contributing to the grocery shopping? I mean, we both eat. Shouldn’t it go without saying that we should both contribute to this basic chore? Why was I thankful for help doing a task that we should be sharing anyway?

It wasn’t this way when we were dating. Oh sure, I helped him fold his laundry on occasion, but somehow after getting married we fell into more stereotypical gender roles, even though we hadn’t fit them before. I liked to work in the yard, but somehow after we were married that became his role. He liked to cook, but for some reason I felt a great responsibility for keeping him fed. Marriage somehow seemed to pigeonhole us into roles we weren’t used to filling and I couldn’t help but wonder if we had, by default, fallen into culturally defined roles because it was easier than closely examining what worked best for us, in our marriage, as opposed to everyone else’s.

Despite the efforts of various feminists throughout the past century, we still have pretty defined gender roles in our society. For modern women such as myself then, the dilemma is this: We have entered the workforce and yet retained the responsibilities we held when we stayed at home.

The idea of a “housewife” is one that is disappearing. In its place is the image of a “super wife” who works all day to return home to cook, clean, and take care of the kids, all while maintaining tight abs and wrinkle free skin. While I’m no Betty Friedan, and I think you can find just as much happiness in wiping noses and scrubbing pots at home as wearing power suits and

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heels in a law firm, I also think that we are being set up to fail.

We’re being set up for stress, depression, and anxiety when we can’t meet the ridiculously high expectations society sets for us - and that we set for each other and ourselves.

But I have to say, I think we’re doing better.

I can tell you without a doubt my grandfather never changed a diaper, but my husband will be changing his share. Just last week I saw a savvy young dad grocery shopping with two young kids. Granted, he had one swinging by the belt loops and the other appeared to be eating something pilfered from a nearby shelf (or possibly the floor?), but still, there were definite signs that we’re finding more freedom from the strictly observed gender roles that have kept women barefoot and pregnant in the kitchen for generations. Not that there’s anything wrong with being barefoot and pregnant in any room in your house, mind you, if that’s what you want. And if it’s not what you want, that’s okay, too. We should have room in our society for the couple who chooses to remain childless, as well as for the busy stay-at-home mom.

So even though it would be easier for me to sometimes step in and load the dishwasher the “correct way,” I let my husband do it. And even though I don’t always feel like taking out the trash, I do it anyway. While I still do the lion’s share of the laundry, it’s balanced out because my husband cooks most of our meals. I want our children to see that we are hard workers, not that our capabilities are defined by our gender. We will teach all of our children to clean, cook, sew a button and trim the lawn, so that each will have the skills to live and flourish independently, if they so choose to. I don’t want what I can accomplish to be defined by my gender and I want my children to have the freedom to choose their paths, whether it be climbing the corporate ladder or cleaning up after little ones.

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“Unique.” “Overflowing with fresh inventory.”

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These are the words that guide Kinnaman’s Furniture, that their owners live by, and that their regular customers tell their friends – come see for yourself!

Kinnaman’s Furniture offers 24,000 square feet of new and pre-owned furniture and accessories. It was started 16 years ago by Niki and Michelle Kinnaman, who have always had a very unique outlook and focus when it comes to the great variety and quality of furniture they offer. With a combined total of 50 years in the furniture industry, they feel part of their job is to enable customers to spark their own creative streaks and buy pieces to fit their lifestyles. They encourage them to buy what they like and design their homes around pieces that make them comfortable and happy.

If you are looking for that certain special item for your home, the staff at Kinnaman’s Furniture can point you in the right direction and help you along the way. Niki and Michelle put in long hours buying treasures and “one of a kind” pieces, and they purchase them at the right price, so they can always pass the savings on to their customers.

Kinnaman’s is not a consignment shop – they own their inventory and have no consigners to pay a percentage of sales. When each item arrives on the floor, it is marked with a reasonable price. Feel free to buy it the first time you see it, without the hassle of remembering dates of when items will be marked down later. Once bought, you have the option of taking your purchase home right away, making plans to pick it up later, or using Kinnaman’s delivery service.

And if you can’t find that “perfect” fit, bring your wish list to Kinnaman’s Furniture. They will do their best to help you find quality pieces, both new and pre-owned, that are priced affordably.

Be sure to check out their website www.KinnamansFurniture.com. It’s constantly updated with new inventory items!

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or the past 10 years, the Junior League of Winston-Salem (JLWS) has hosted an event for area residents and guests to get a sneak peek at some of the most beautiful homes in town.

“Tour of Fine Spaces (TOFS) is an annual fundraising event that showcases luxury homes in the Winston-Salem area,” said Christine Storch, president of the Junior League of Winston-Salem. “The select homes featured on the tour vary to include everything from contemporary to traditional designs. TOFS is an on-the-road event and between the hours of 10am-4pm you are able visit any and all of the 10 houses on display, in any order you would like, and walk through the beautiful spaces.

During the tour, local builders, interior designers, cabinet makers, flooring/tiling specialists and architects that worked on each home will be there to tell you more about before and after the remodel, how they efficiently used the space and answer any questions you may have.”

Having the ability to talk with the experts that created these beautiful spaces is a major feature of the TOFS. “During the past 10 years, the JLWS has developed a great relationship with many of the local builders, contractors and designers in the area which participate in TOFS year after year,” said Storch. “Businesses interested in showcasing their work on Tour of Fine Spaces must contact the JLWS in advance and apply and pay to be a home sponsor. The JLWS goes through a selection process to evaluate the builders and their counterparts based on the homes they would like to display, to make sure it all fits for that year’s event.

Many of the homes chosen to be on tour are sponsored by more than one business. It’s typically a combination of a builder and an interior designer or cabinetmaker that have previously worked together and would like to display their custom work.”

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Chatham Farm Road Choosing which houses will represent the tour is not simple, as the TOFS committee wants to have variation throughout the tour. “Every home on the TOFS is special in its own way,” said Storch. “Each beautiful home has something different to offer visitors – from creative designs, clever use of space, beautiful landscaping and energy saving ideas to specialty furniture and décor. We usually select recently remodeled high-end homes or new, custom-built houses within the WinstonSalem city limits to include on the tour.”

If you are interested in historical restoration, one of this year’s homes is a private residence in Old Salem that was recently restored.

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In addition to the fabulous design elements, guests of the tour will also be able to indulge in the extraordinary culinary talents of area chefs. “Each home will offer a special culinary sample from fantastic local caterers, bakeries and restaurants for visitors to enjoy,” said Storch. “There will be at least one local food vendor at each home who will provide a small bite and/or drink for visitors to enjoy during their tour. A few of the businesses participating this year include Dewey’s/Blue Ridge Ice Cream, Chef Dion Sprenkle, Nothing Bundt Cakes, RayLen Vineyards, Mozelle’s, Jeffrey Adams on Fourth/Old Fourth Street Filling Station, Augustine’s Bistro, Kilwin’s and Zoe’s Kitchen.”

The Junior League of Winston-Salem’s Tour of Fine Spaces is March 21st from 10am-4pm. Advance discounted tickets may be purchased online or at several local retailers, including June DeLugas Interiors, Kim Taylor & Company, Southern Home & Kitchen and at the JLWS headquarters located in the Children’s Museum of Winston-Salem. Tickets are also available the day of the tour for $35. “All proceeds from the TOFS support the Junior League of Winston-Salem’s work to educate and nurture families and individuals, and to build a strong, healthy community,” said Storch. “The money raised from TOFS helps the JLWS continue our mission of putting trained volunteers into the community. It also gives us the ability to find out where we are needed most in our local community. These fundraisers enable us to create signature projects such as the Child Abuse Puppet Show (which has been in the public school system for 30 years) and our new project, BookWORM. Grab a friend and check out lots of amazing, newly renovated homes!”

For more information about the Junior League of Winston-Salem’s Tour of Fine Spaces, visit the following websites: - The JLWS Website – Tour of Fine Spaces Page: www.jlws.org/touroffinespaces - Tour of Fine Spaces on Facebook: www.facebook.com/TourofFineSpaces - Tour of Fine Spaces on Twitter @TOFSWS: www.twitter.com/TOFSWS

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Tired of not having an answer when your family asks, “What’s for dinner?” Join a Brenner FIT dietitian to During this interactive class, learn effective tools to learn the ins and outs of meal planning, and walk away Brennerwith Fit fun, new ideas and a personalized meal plan for improve communication among family members. A different parenting topic is discussed each month. your family.

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BRINGING HAPPINESS HOME

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RE/MAX agent Delana brings a diverse background to her real estate business

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s a former portrait artist with an equally solid knowledge of the finer points of the construction business, RE/MAX Preferred Properties agent Delana is on a mission with every real estate client she meets. “It’s all about finding their perfect home and bringing happiness to a family,” she says.

Delana gained valuable experience working in construction before venturing out on her own. In addition, the life-long nurturing of her artistic side gives her an edge when it comes to in-home design for new construction. She has an equally magical touch for staging existing homes – a service she provides to her clients at no charge.

Delana also prides herself on guiding clients as they peruse what’s on the market in terms of value – a finely structured kitchen, for example, which adds longtime value for future sale – and the unique ways that each home differs from others of similar style. It’s all in the details, which Delana loves to identify and share with clients so they make the best-informed choice for their family.

Delana can be seen daily jetting around town in her signature VW bug ... always on the go for her clients – as shown in front of this amazing 4-bedroom home with theatre room, nestled on 2553 Innisfall Lane in Glen Haven.

A 30-year resident of Davie County, Delana keeps busy throughout the Triad with properties all around the area, as well as in Winston- Salem. Most important to her business, however, is the way she’s changing the lives of her clients and their families by bringing them “home” to just the right place.

Properties represented today can be found in Advance’s Oak Valley development, Kinderton Village and Glen Haven.

Oak Valley, located at 531 Oak Valley Blvd, offers rural living at its best. Kinderton Village rests on the western edge of the Yadkin River and offers single-family homes, carriage and town homes, quadra-plex homes and condos. Kinderton Place houses the retail center and Kinderton Commercial Core features space for retail, as well as business and professional offices. The Glen Haven community is moments from I40 and Hwy 158, has a local pool just a short walk away, and is only 4 minutes from the entrance of Tanglewood!

This perfect marriage between Delana’s experience in construction and real estate means that she is a reliable expert. With that said, Delana is also excited to announce that pre-selling has begun in Willoughby, nestled in the heart of Clemmons (offered by Shugart Enterprises). Within this 12 home Shugart community, two are already spoken for and the others will not last long! Just off of Hampton Road, interested homebuyers may pick up floor plans and features at the REMAX office located on Clemmons Road, or visit BuyShugart.com. Plans are priced both in the MLS and the website. This property will also feature a community swimming pool and other desirable amenities, including a biosphere which is in development.

Shugart is currently offering incentives for interested buyers!

Delana provides her clients an enhanced eye for detail as well as the years of experience and knowledge that make her a leader in the local real estate market! Check out her listings and schedule an appointment with her today! Reach Delana at 336-577-6580 or visit her website at delanarealtor.com.

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Proper presentation assists the home to sell in both a minimal timeline and at a higher dollar. Delana stages this lovely home at 223. N. Forke Road, Bermuda Run.

Stop by Delana’s office at 3560B Clemmons Road to pick up floor plans and features!

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You probably find yourself wondering things like:

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• What's the best pair of shoes to wear with my outfit?

• Is this a good piece to invest in or will it be out of style soon?

Take comfort that you are not alone, and each month this column will discuss fashion topics that will help you put many of these nagging questions to rest.

Each person has her own unique sense of style, and it's important to stay true to that style. Once you understand your personal style, you can start looking your best and feeling confident by intersecting your style with current trends, investing in key pieces that will give you longevity, and learning when to splurge and when to skimp a little. You can look like a million dollars even if you’re not donning the latest look from the runway, and this column will help you get there.

When you’re ready to do some shopping, how do you know you’re making wise decisions? One way is to think about your cost per wear. Sure, it's hard to spend $180 on jeans, or $250 on boots or even $175 on a blouse, but if you know it's something you will

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Certainly you don’t need to make a big investment in every piece of clothing. There are times when you want to buy a trendier piece, and this is the perfect time to skimp a little and not spend as much money. But having key foundation pieces that last for years is what you need as a backdrop for these less expensive, trendier pieces.

Many women get frustrated and feel like they don't have anything to wear because they lack the basic pieces that serve as a backbone to a wardrobe and give it versatility. They try to add in trendier, fun pieces but aren’t able to incorporate them into their wardrobe, or can only wear them with one other item in their closet. But if you have the right foundation pieces, you can avoid the frustration, add in fun items and maximize your wardrobe.

So before you go out shopping, my advice is to have a good understanding of your closet and make sure you have your basics covered. After this, you can layer in your more creative fashion pieces. Join us next month for some more fresh ideas on how to maximize your wardrobe!

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To Preserve Dignity, Protect Independence & Provide Peace of Mind

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ith what is known as the ‘aging of America,’ most people will become caregivers – or need one – at some point in their lives. In many cases, family members will step into the role to address the needs and concerns of loved ones, rarely thinking of themselves as ‘caregivers’-- they are just doing what comes naturally to them…taking care of someone they love. Should that care be required for months or years, an emotional and physical toll can be experienced by that family member filling the role of caregiver. Marti Dizon, franchise owner of Homewatch Caregivers of the Triad, knew all too well the responsibilities and concerns that came with caring for a loved one when she began her own search for homecare for her mother.

“My mother lived with us for seven years until two years ago when her Alzheimer’s disease progressed to where she needed care in a facility,” said Marti. “Finding expert in-home care for her was part of what inspired me to open Homewatch CareGivers, serving Forsyth, Guilford and Randolph counties. Our caregivers are certified nursing assistants (CNA) which means we give ‘hands-on care,’ rather than just companionship. Along with the state certification that our CNAs have, they also take courses on our accredited, online university for dementia and chronic illnesses that are recognized across the country as continuing education for CNAs. Our clients range in age from infants to 90 plus year olds, and they and their families know that they will get the care, compassion and skill to meet their needs.”

For Marti Dizon, her business is more than something she does, it’s what she is at her heart.

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Giving Back and Giving Of One’s Self Makes a Difference For the past 20 years, Marti Dizon has lived in the Triad, moving here as a single mom of four kids. “I always thought growing up I would be a nurse because I had a spirit of wanting to help others and caring for them,” said Marti. “Instead, I worked in staffing and human resources for High Point University and local companies including BB&T. I was looking for a way to help others and give back to my community in a meaningful way at the same time that I needed care for my parents. I worked full-time, was a mom and wife and cared for my parents. I saw there was a real need for in-home care with skilled, professional and caring people, so in 2010, I opened Homewatch CareGivers. With the great staff I have, including our RNs, Sandra Howell and Tandy Pierre Louis, we are able to care for clients with ALS, cerebral palsy, multiple sclerosis, Alzheimer’s, Parkinson’s disease and those who may just need daily assistance or help after coming home from the hospital. Whatever clients’ needs are, we are able to assist them and give their families peace of mind that is priceless.”

Help and Care is Just a Call Away For some people, caregiving occurs gradually through time. Still, for others, it can happen overnight. Caregivers may be full or parttime, live with their loved one or provide care from a distance. But how do you know if professional care is needed? That’s when you call Marti and Homewatch CareGivers. “When a families call, they have some concerns that their loved ones may need additional care, but many times, they aren’t sure how much care, for how long or the type,” said Marti. “At Homewatch CareGivers, our RNs, Sandra Howell and Tandy Pierre Louis, visit with the client and family to make a home and health assessment, also doing a safety evaluation within the home, taking a look at areas that could be of

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concern. Sandra and Tandy also take a social history, getting to know the clients’ lives, when they like to do their daily activities, what their hobbies are and basically everything that makes up their lives. Through that time spent with the client and the family, Sandra and Tandy can help in the decision if Homewatch CareGivers would be a good fit with their specific needs. We don’t believe in sending a salesperson into the home to sell our services; Sandra and Tandy are able to see what is needed and make sure that we are able to help. We see ourselves in a home as an extension of the family; we talk to the client as a friend, incorporating what the client likes into conversations. It is all about a personal touch, which involves interacting in care and concern, not just helping someone bathe or get dressed. Our elderly clients are very special to me; my own father is one of our clients. This day in time, the reverence that our older generation once had is no longer a part of our society. Our elders deserve our respect and to have their dignity maintained…they have earned it.” Meeting those needs of their clients includes not only knowing the personal background of the client, but knowing the medical conditions the client is dealing with.

Skilled, Knowledgeable and Trusted Care Chronic illnesses like ALS, multiple sclerosis, Parkinson’s, Alzheimer’s and cerebral palsy each have their own issues that clients deal with, so knowing your client also includes knowing the specific needs of his or her illness. “Homewatch CareGivers’ CNAs take courses to help them understand a specific illness which helps them relate to their clients and know what they are going through,” said Marti. “As a franchise owner, I took our ‘Pathways to Memory’ course to understand Alzheimer’s disease, its progression, as well as how to relate to a memory-loss client. This course helped

me to understand my own mother better; through her disease, our relationship has changed, the dynamics are completely different.

At times, my mother doesn’t recognize me; she is still a nice lady now, but the memories we shared are remembered only by me.

The training I took has helped me to relate to my mother and also to deal with the ‘loss’ of her. Classes like the ‘Pathways to Memory’ help our staff better understand the care our clients need. The better you understand what a client is battling, the better the care that can be offered. Beyond the courses offered, we do a triple background check, drug test and DMV check to make sure we hire the best qualified staff. When we are entrusted with the care of our clients to take them to appointments, we can drive them, either in their own vehicles or in our wheelchair accessible van, take them into their appointments and wait on them. We make sure they are safe from the moment they are in our care, which enables our clients to enjoy their independence again. Our van and drivers are available to our community, offering free transportation to those in the counties we serve. We are on call 24/7 and have an answering service, so when you call, you never get a recording.”

Homewatch CareGivers are also available as back-up care for moms. “We have companies who want their employees to be able to come to work without the worry of having a sick child at home,” said Marti. “So, our caregivers can stay with children while the parents are at work. Our services are also covered by long-term care insurance, and we are happy to help with the paperwork needed in such a case.”

If you asked most people, they would say that giving back to others, actually touching lives and seeing the results is something they wish they could find the time to do more often. For Marti Dizon, her role in the lives of others is one of giving back daily. “I get so much out of helping not only our clients, but also giving family members peace of mind, knowing that when a Homewatch Caregiver is in the home of their loved ones, they don’t have to worry,” said Marti.

“We treat our clients as we would our own family, with love and respect.”

Homewatch CareGivers is located at 508 Arbor Hill Road in Kernersville. For more information, call 336.455.9967, or visit www.homewatchcaregivers.com.

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YES,You Can Fix Your Household Appliance!

By Lisa S.T. Doss

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rowing up, Dad often asked if I would help him with a home improvement project. Eagerly, I was there in a moment, listening to instructions and following through.

While he guided me through the process of installing tile and electrical outlets, I learned more than just step-by-step instructions. He taught me to appreciate and care for every tool or machine I used, and that included our home appliances, too. While the understanding has taken years, each of us has learned troubleshooting strategies for our personal computers. Imagine if we knew more about our home appliances and the reason behind a problem.

Then, perhaps, we could save valuable time and the costly expense of calling a repairman. The following basic troubleshooting tips may help you solve a home problem with relative ease.

Garbage Disposal: Did you know all disposals have an overload feature which automatically shuts off the power? This occurs when the motor becomes too hot or overloaded. Usually, the reset button is located either on the side or under the unit. The next time you have a problem, wait until the motor cools and try turning off the power before resetting.

Refrigerator: If your refrigerator is either constantly running or having difficulty maintaining a “cool” temperature, the solution is relatively simple. Underneath the refrigerator, usually on the front, are compressor coils. It looks like a “black tube and wire grid.” A coil cleaning brush can be used to clean the buildup of cat and dog hair and excess debris. One warning: the coils are delicate; therefore, go carefully and slowly. The result will help your refrigerator run more efficiently and provide savings to future utility bills.

Dryer: There are many solutions to a dryer that will spin, but not heat.

First, try resetting the two circuit breakers on the main box. Sometimes, a power surge may affect one breaker, and a “reset” can be an easy solution. Secondly, as an annual preventative maintenance task, it is important to maintain open air flow from the dryer unit to the outside.

While pulling the unit away from the wall and cleaning out the excess debris may be uncomfortable and difficult, it will prevent future problems and save you from elevated electric bills.

Dishwasher: After opening the doors of a completed cycle, you may be repulsed by a deep stench or discover bits of food remaining on the dishes.

Yes, you may have a clogged filter. Of all the household problems, this one should consume two minutes of your time. On the floor of your dishwasher is a screen and a cylindrical filter. Both can be easily removed and rinsed.

Low Water Pressure in the Shower: To determine the actual cause of low water pressure in you shower, there are a few “home” tests that you can do.

1. The “bucket test” requires a standard five-gallon bucket and a stop watch.

The goal is to determine how much output is released from your shower head. While the average is 2.5 gallons per minute (gpm,) your shower head should indicate its normal output.

2. Well water has the propensity to block shower heads with mineral deposits.

Sometimes, a white powder is noticeable; however, you will have to unscrew the shower head to check for blockage. One cleaning method is to soak the shower head in vinegar overnight.

3. If low water pressure is only noticeable in the shower, one solution may be to buy a low pressure shower head. It is designed to increase the velocity of water without the need for a high volume of water. By conserving water, your water bill will reflect the savings, too!

The education does not stop here. You can learn more about your circuit breaker, how to replace fuses, and most importantly, how to rely on yourself to fix common household appliance problems.

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Dress Your Home for Success…Learn to Lean “Leaning is a less formal way of displaying objects in your home. Leaning allows you to layer art and/or mirrors into groupings that add dimension yet take up less space than if you had to hang them on the wall. Plus, leaning adds a great deal of interest in a vignette! Leaning your wall décor provides a great deal of flexibility in your design since you can easily change or move it. Leaning also minimizes damage to your walls and you never have to worry about whether something is level! Additionally, sometimes overhead lights or light from windows causes a glare on artwork that can be avoided if the piece is leaning instead.” ~ Melissa Michaels from the Inspired Room

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I didn’t realize all the benefits of leaning artwork in your home décor. I do lean art on mantels and in bookcases, but after doing the research for this article, I have definitely learned how leaning can enhance my decorating. I leaned the art on our fireplace mantel because I liked the height of the art, but mostly I leaned it because if I hung it, I would have to figure out how to hang it on the rock chimney.

I read several decorating blogs each month and one I especially enjoy is the Inspired Room by Melissa Michaels (if you would like to subscribe, go to www.theinspiredroom.net).

Melissa has so many good ideas on the benefits of leaning, and also great tips for leaning.

Benefits: • You can easily move art around at will.

• You can place art without measuring, hammering or two sets of eyes and hands.

• No walls are damaged or need to be fixed if you make a mistake.

• Leaning often looks less formal than having everything hanging.

• Layered art adds dimension and interest.

• You can hide unsightly things like wall outlets or those big black holes builders create for TVs. • Leaning items sometimes puts items at a better visual height or angle than hanging could.

Tips for Leaning: • Try leaning architectural pieces, shutters, art, or mirrors.

• Smaller artwork often looks best when layered with two or three items, putting the tallest items in back.

• When leaning more than one item, slightly overlap each additional item in front of the piece behind it.

• You can place shorter accessories or stacked books in front of the leaning art.

• When leaning mirrors, always check to see what you are reflecting in the mirror.

• Try setting leaning art and mirrors on tables, bookshelves, mantels, window sills or even on the floor.

• If you need to keep art from slipping, use sticky tack to stick things together, against a wall or to keep it from moving forward (sticky tack or Scotch Adhesive Putty is often used to hang posters).

• If you are worried about tipping or have small children, you can do a combination of leaning and hanging. Set the item on a surface but still have it secured by a hook. This is actually safer than hanging alone!

• Don’t worry about the rules for leaning, just lean and if you like what you see, it is all good.

From Melissa’s benefits and tips, I hope you have “learned to lean” and the next time you think about hanging a piece of art, consider leaning to add interest to your décor.

I am honored that you read my column each month. It is my pleasure to share decorating ideas to help you create a beautiful home. Give ReDESIGNS by Ava a call for an Interior Redesign or help with your next decorating project. Get to know more about ReDESIGNS by Ava at www.TinyUrl/meetAva

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DRESS FOR SUCCESS: New Office, New Look, Same Amazing Commitment

By Denise Heidel

The mission of Dress for Success is to promote the economic independence of disadvantaged women by providing professional attire, a network of support and the career development tools to help women thrive in work and in life.

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n February 4th, Keela Johnson, Robin Bralley, Brooke Eagle, and I were invited to tour the new offices for Dress for Success Winston-Salem, as well as meet the founder of this international non-profit, Nancy Lublin.

Nancy was in town to participate as a guest speaker at Wake Forest University’s Leadership Project and her contagious energy and enthusiasm was a big hit all around! Forsyth Magazines has long respected and supported Dress for Success, so the opportunity to meet Ms. Lublin and tour this beautiful new facility was a true blessing.

Dress for Success began in New York 1996 with a passion and a $5,000 inheritance check. Founder Nancy Lublin shared with us that she wanted to do something to uplift women in need. She recalled the story of her father who once told her that when he was interviewing a new secretary for his law firm, he would watch from his office. He knew from watching these candidates walk across the parking lot whether or not he would hire them. Nancy did not like her father’s approach to hiring. With a determined mind, an entrepreneurial spirit, and a philanthropic heart, Nancy turned her great-grandfather’s final gift into a gift for millions.

In addition to her distaste for her father’s hiring methods, Nancy was also inspired by the movie, “Pretty Woman.” “I wanted to empower the women who came to Dress for Success. I didn’t want them to experience that scene where the ladies refused to provide service to Julia Roberts’ character. I wanted our guests to have her other shopping experience… being pampered in a pretty, comfortable space, with people focused on making them look and feel good about themselves.”

Today, Nancy is the CEO of DoSomething.org and continues to pursue innovative philanthropy. Nancy left Dress for Success 12 years ago, but the organization has become exactly what she envisioned it to be. “I’m so proud of Dress for Success Winston-Salem! Look at the gorgeous details that went into these dressing rooms! That attention to detail is so important! It speaks volumes! It tells the women who come for the Dress for Success services that they are in a place that values them and that they are going to be taken care of.”

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Dress for Success is a non-profit group that provides professional clothing to women who are going on job interviews and offers them support as they work to be self sufficient and successful. Dress for Success Winston-Salem is located at 375 Buxton Street.

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You may call the office at 970.0374. Be sure to follow Dress for Success Winston-Salem on Facebook! Please contact them if you are in need of their support, or if you are interested in donating or volunteering.

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‘Go Red and Get Moving’ Everyone Looks Good in Red! By Carolyn S. Peterson

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t the top of the list of our country’s most serious health problems is heart disease. The statistics are staggering and show that cardiovascular disease is America’s leading health problem and the leading cause of death. On average, someone in the U.S. suffers a stroke every 40 seconds. Every 25 seconds, an American will have a coronary event and every 33 seconds someone in the U.S. dies from heart disease. In an effort to raise awareness of heart disease and in celebration of ‘Go Red Day,’ Red H.E.A.R.R.T. (Help, Educate, And, Reduce Risk Today) sponsored an event, kicking off the month of February, which is Heart Disease Awareness month.

Cheryl Lindsay, founder of Red H.E.A.R.R.T. Initiative, said, “This ‘Go Red and Get Moving’ initiative is entering its fifth year. The event was held to help individuals of all ages understand the causes and impact of heart disease and the importance of keeping themselves healthy so that they can lead long and happy lives. I believe that knowledge is power and with education and awareness of the issues, individuals are empowered to make informed decisions and get moving towards a heart healthy lifestyle. Over the past five years, the heart health initiatives have included education and programs on heart health, fitness, childhood obesity and nutrition.” Cheryl is so passionate about raising the awareness of heart disease and how to prevent it due to losing her own mother from the disease.

During the event, Zumba flash mobs showed how easy it is to ‘get moving’ and have fun while doing it! The flash mobs, coordinated by Helen Naples, owner/operator of Women’s Wellness and Fitness, had more than 12 instructors on hand. Participants also had the opportunity to get heart health information, and learn their body mass index and blood pressure. In addition, they could learn CPR, meet with a nutritionist, sample healthy alternative selections from chefs and get tasty, heart healthy recipes. Many also received hand massages.

But the fun didn’t stop there! Mayor Allen Joines, Red H.E.A.R.R.T. and the community joined to break the Guinness Book of World Record for the largest group to perform the most sit-ups simultaneously. The current record of 318 people was set by Tampa Bay Buccaneer fans. In the end, some 414 participants broke the record, led by Chris Robinson, a local trainer, who won, through a contest sponsored by Forsyth Woman magazine, the opportunity to keep the masses motivated after having the most people show up to support him and the event. “My program is ‘Fit-4-Life’ and I train people every day to not only get them in shape, but to help them start living a healthier lifestyle. I love what I do, seeing my clients not only lose weight, but most importantly, feel better physically and about themselves.

It was an honor to lead the group in breaking the sit-ups record and to have so many of those I train - from the WSSU cheerleading team to individuals show up and help promote the cause of heart health,” said Chris. Tracie Poerazaff, founder and co-owner of Studio ZT, was the 2nd runner up in the contest that Chris Robinson won; Tracie also assisted Helen Naples of Women’s Wellness with coordinating the Zumba instructors for the event.

Following the event, the challenge and pledge continued with additional programs, including local high school athletic departments playing games on February 10th, which was Red H.E.A.R.R.T.’s Go Red day. “During the basketball games played on February 10th, the W-S/FC high school basketball players wore red socks during the varsity men’s/women’s basketball games to symbolize the partnership of Red H.E.A.R.R.T.’s Go Red and Get Moving initiative and the importance of Heart Health Awareness Month,” commented Cheryl.

For more information on Red H.E.A.R.R.T., visit www.redhearrt.com.

For information on heart health and ways to live a healthy lifestyle, visit www.goredforwomen.org and the American Heart Association’s website at www.heart.org.

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Chris Robinson, local trainer.

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Finances and Divorce

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By Alison Peeler

ivorce is not just a legal proceeding. It is also a financial separation, and without sufficient information and preparation, unfortunate or even harmful decisions can be made during this extremely stressful time. You are in an agitated state of mind, important decisions are often required of you quickly and, like many others, you may not have a complete understanding of your marital finances or what you will need to live on your own.

If you are contemplating divorce, knowledge is your friend. There are steps you can take even before contacting an attorney that will help to ensure that your agreement is as fair to you as possible. Having this pre-divorce work done will also help your attorney work with you more efficiently, thus saving time and legal fees.

• Picture your life post-divorce. Where will you be living? If you are not working now, will you be getting a job, and if so, what kind? Are there costly health issues or other needs that must be paid for? These things may require some thought and even research, but it is important to think them through to help you begin to sketch out the financial realities of your new life.

• Recognize that the legal process of divorce is usually hurtful. Legal language from attorneys hired to protect their clients’ interests can sound harsh and selfish. Demands will go back and forth, and there will be “how could he do that to me?” moments.

It is a negotiation, and your attorneys are negotiators working for their respective clients. They aren’t trying to make friends.

• Expect to be less rational than you usually are. Decisions about money and other practical matters can be invested with emotional content that they don’t deserve. I once had a client almost go to court, which could easily have cost her some $30,000, over a watch.

• If you don’t have credit in your name, get a credit card, charge some things and pay the full amount due. Do that for at least a couple of months. Store credit cards are the easiest to get – how many times have you been asked at the register if you want to save 10% today?

Next time, just say “yes.”

• Gather copies of all the financial documents you can such as tax returns, at least one year’s worth of bank and investment account statements, pension/retirement plan statements, credit card statements, life insurance policies, a mortgage statement, earnings statements (check stubs or W-2 forms) for you and/or your spouse. These documents will help formulate projections of monthly income and expenses for yourself and your children, if they are still dependent on you and your husband. Values for your home(s), your vehicle(s) and any other important property will also be needed. Your attorney will want all of this information to properly take care of your needs and rights and may request more as the case develops.

• Open a bank account in your name only, and funnel some money there if at all possible. This will not create an account that is automatically yours in the divorce – it must be disclosed to your attorney – but it does give you access to money in case your spouse has the desire and the power to cut you off. It’s been known to happen.

• Is your financial situation complex? Or do you suspect some financial shenanigans? Get help. Ask your attorney if they are able to dig into the questions you have, or if not to recommend someone who can.

If you didn’t plan on divorce but were blindsided by a spouse who did, then these steps still apply to the extent they can be accomplished. Try not to be rushed – your spouse has already grieved the loss of the marriage while you have not. But, in this case, it is in your best interest to consult an attorney right away.

In every respect, divorce is one of the most traumatic ordeals most women will ever face. Taking steps to get your financial house in order will help ensure that your legal rights are protected and bring you a measure of confidence and empowerment in the process.

If you are considering a divorce or recently separated, contact Alison Peeler for financial advice. Visit FinancialDivorces.com or email Alison@FinancialDivorces.com. Alison can also be reached at 336.407.3072.

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It Starts on the Inside

By Molly Flinchum

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any volunteer opportunities focus on the outside. There are organizations that build houses for those without homes, or provide coats to the cold. But Forsyth Jail and Prison Ministries does something unique: it focuses on the inside. It uses relationships and internal change to help inmates find a greater hope. Chaplain Stilwell spends his time and energy with the inmates and families through the Forsyth Jail and Prison Ministries.

The ministry is an interdenominational group of chaplains who provide direct services to the jail, prison, and youth center in Forsyth County. These chaplains are on call at all hours of the day, every day, to talk with and encourage those in prison and jail – to transform their hearts in hope of living better lives when they return to our community. Forsyth Jail and Prison Ministries sponsors and coordinates volunteers who tutor inmates seeking their GED, teach Bible studies, lead worship services and life-skill classes so that inmates re-enter society better equipped to live crime-free. The ministry also reaches out to the families of those in prison, offering programs so they can come together and grow.

Rodney Stilwell has been involved with this ministry for nearly thirty years and says his first goal is to help the inmate. From there, his next goal is to use the gifts of community to help change families in order for crime to be minimized. “If you change the heart, you change the hands,” he said. The chaplain referenced the first two verses of Romans 12 as his reference to loving those behind bars.

“Therefore I urge you, brethren, by the mercies of God, to present your bodies as a living and holy sacrifice, acceptable to God, which is your spiritual service of worship. And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, so that you may prove what the will of God is, that which is good and acceptable and perfect.”

All change starts on the inside. Rodney Stilwell goes on to say that God promises to change them, not to look down on them. And through that change, through that love being exposed, their actions will change. He says that putting people in jail is hoping that environment will change them.

But ultimately, when they are released back into old environments, they can be easily enticed back into old ways.

Environment and other outside things do not change people; long-term change starts on the inside and works its way out.

“Our public victories,” Rodney Stilwell says, “are always the result of our private victories.”

To get involved with the Forsyth Jail and Prison Ministries, visit their website at www.forsythjpm.org. You can volunteer through three ways: your head, your heart, and your wallet. Use your head and change the mentality that tells you the jail system is enough. Realize the people inside are hurting and need a transformation. Invest with your heart and seek to reach out to inmates and their families. And use your pocketbook to fund this ministry so it can reach out to people and better our community.

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Petty “Hot Pass to Fashion” Challenge and Red Carpet Event

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n Saturday, January 17, 2015, The Petty Family Foundation partnered with the University of North Carolina at Greensboro (UNC-G) to host the Petty ‘Hot Pass to Fashion’ Challenge and Red Carpet Event.

The first-of-its-kind fashion show was held at Petty Enterprises in Level Cross, NC. Everyone is familiar with the history of the Petty family on the racetrack, and now “The King” and the name Petty have helped inspire designs with talented student designers at UNC-G’s Department of Consumer, Apparel and Retail Studies (CARS). This event connected graduating seniors with representatives from the fashion industry, helping launch their careers.

A Legacy of Giving Back The Petty Family Foundation was founded in 2008 with a mission "to seek a positive change for those in need by inspiring communities to enrich lives and providing the means necessary to empower those who help make dreams come true." So, partnering with the CARS program at UNC-G was a perfect fit! “UNC-G’s nationally ranked CARS program is one of the most respected fashion studies in the South," said Rebecca P. Moffitt, executive director for the Petty Family Foundation. "We were very fortunate to have celebrity judges Country Music Artists Chris Lane and Julie Roberts, Editor-in-chief of Carolina STYLE Magazine Brie Wright, Anthony Simmons with Haute Exclusive Fashion Mall’s Charlotte International Fashion Week and Marilyn Green of Marilyn’s Model and Talent Management." Industry professionals agree to showcase the winners’ work throughout the region, helping them take their first step towards successful careers.

The winning designer, Mackenzie Weber, is a current senior at UNC-G (CARS). Mackenzie will have her designs featured in a photo spread in Carolina STYLE Magazine, receive an internship with Haute Exclusive Fashion Mall in Pineville, NC and have the opportunity to show her designs at Charlotte International Fashion Week later this year.

Not only were fashion students at UNC-G helped in their future careers, but proceeds from the event will provide scholarships for rising seniors in UNC-G’s CARS program. A portion of the proceeds will also go to support the Victory Junction Camp which provides a unique recreational experience for severely terminally and chronically ill children.

For more information about the Petty Family Foundation, visit www.pettyfamilyfoundation.org. For information on Victory Junction Camp, visit www.victoryjunction.org. ‘Petty’ clothing is available at the Petty Museum at 311 Branson Mill Road in Randleman, NC or online at www.rpmuseum.com.

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t is hard for most of us to imagine living through the many historical events and inventions that have shaped our country and our lives, unless you are Gladys Doub. Recently, I had the honor of meeting Mrs. Doub and being regaled with stories of this amazing woman's life. Her ability to recall so much of her past in detail, her laugh and the twinkle in her eyes, all belied the fact that she is turning 107 this month.

Gladys Doub, née Conrad, was born the eldest of three girls on March 24, 1908, in the Brookstown community of Forsyth County.

It was a stormy day when the doctor came by horseback from Bethania to the family's farm to help bring Doub into the world.

She was born in a house built by her great-grandfather in 1839 and lived there until she was eight years old. The home is still standing, though no longer in the family.

Her childhood was like most – helping out on the farm, attending school and church, and playing with friends and cousins. Her parents clearly valued education and, although her sisters graduated from college, Mrs. Doub decided it wasn't for her. “I never wanted to go because I was dating [her future husband] Oscar, and I was very much in love with him,” said Doub. “I knew if I went off to college, he would never look at me again. I had lots of dates and learned to dance with other people, but I always had him in my heart, and I never loved anybody else.” To stay close and learn an employable skill, Mrs. Doub attended Draughon’s Business College, which was then located on the corner of 5th and Spruce Streets in Winston-Salem. As it was a considerable distance from her family’s home, she moved into a downtown boarding house. After a six-month course that cost her father $95, she secured a job with Hinkle’s as a secretary to one of the partners. She worked for them for 26 years, taking a few years off starting in 1944 after the birth of her son.

During her time at business school and with Hinkle’s, the Doubs continued their courtship of 10 years before marrying in 1938 – she was

then 30 years old and Oscar was 39 years old. They might have married sooner if it hadn’t been for the Great Depression.

“The depression was terrible,” said Mrs. Doub. “We had never had anything like that before in my generation. Oscar and I had talked about getting married, but we couldn’t get married then – nobody had any money.” Although she wasn’t paid much, Mrs. Doub was grateful that Hinkle’s was able to keep their doors open.

After marrying, she and Oscar moved in with her parents on her family’s home place. A few years later, Oscar built a new home for them on part of the family’s farmland (and Mrs. Doub lived there until this past November when she moved to Vienna Village).

As an employee at Hinkle’s, Mrs. Doub’s workday was long, and it continued at home where she helped on the couple’s chicken farm.

Having 5,000 laying hens, she worked collecting, scraping and packing the eggs for sale. They sold the business in 1955 when the family took a 45 day trip out west. They left with the $1,000 Mrs. Doub had inherited from a relative she had cared for and, after all was said and done, the couple still had money left over when they returned. She and Oscar always paid cash for everything.

Mrs. Doub’s beloved Oscar died in 1972. That same year, Mrs. Doub gained a daughter when their son, Richard, married and built a home with his wife across the yard from his mother. Although Richard chose not to be a farmer, the family's land is leased out and has been continuously farmed.

It is listed in the North Carolina Book of Century Farms and is in the farm program.

Mrs. Doub is a lifelong Moravian.

Her grandfather donated the land, and the male church members built the small chapel. She attended her first service at nine months of age.

She still attends Olivet Moravian Church every Sunday, where she is the only living charter member.

She has only missed one Lovefeast in her entire life when a snowstorm made it impossible for her to get there.

Although her recent move to Vienna Village has been a bit of an adjustment, she is still happy and content. If there is a secret to her longevity, it is probably a life filled with the love of her family, friends and faith; finding joy in things big and small; accepting God’s will; and being grateful for the life she was given.

Happy 107th Birthday, Mrs. Gladys Doub! May your day be filled with all that makes you happiest!

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To Your Health!

SHOULD YOU BE A MORNING EXERCISER?

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ost people have an idea by the time they reach adulthood whether they are considered a morning person or a night owl. Sometimes occupations or lifestyles dictate the time of day when we function at top form. At age 12, I started delivering the early morning newspaper.

I woke up at 4 o’clock every morning until the day I graduated from high school. Needless to say, I have been a habitual morning person my entire life. This habit of early morning productivity also applies to my workout regimen. And while early morning workouts are not for everyone, there are benefits that come from getting your day started with exercise.

According to the American College of Sports Medicine (ACSM), researchers have found that in all age groups, adherence to regular exercise and fitness programs is highest among those who work out in the morning. In fact, over 90% of people who exercise consistently are morning exercisers. They do not find themselves scrambling later in the day to find time to exercise after work and after the kids go to sleep. That is where most of the research stops, though. Some online sources may claim that morning workouts make a significant difference in physiologic response to exercise, but research has yet to support those claims. Although most physiological variables demonstrate circadian variation (natural cycle throughout the day or “chronological fluctuation”), many do not significantly fluctuate during the day and remain constant during normal daylight hours.

An exception to this may be exercise of very high intensity and short duration, which improves as the day progresses and as body temperature increases normally during waking hours. Interestingly, there is some evidence that responses to resistance training (weight lifting) are strongest in the morning. Resting circulating levels of testosterone, the primary muscle building hormone, are highest in the morning. In addition, following a bout of resistance training, testosterone elevations are more marked in the morning compared to the afternoon or early evening. This suggests that muscle building potential of weight lifting may be at its peak before noon. Conversely, strength performance and flexibility may be better enhanced after the noon hour due to a higher body temperature.

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This is also the reason that some researchers believe that resistance to muscle injury may also be greater later in the day.

Many morning exercisers claim several psychological benefits from starting their day with a workout. They start by getting to bed an hour earlier the night before, which helps to achieve a normal amount of sleep (7-8 hours). This mental commitment can carry over to appetite control for the day. It tends to put them in a “healthy mindset” and they are much less likely to spend an hour doing a vigorous workout and then stopping at Dunkin’ Doughnuts, than if they were just leaving home with a cup of coffee.

Calories burned from an early morning workout are no different than calories burned later in the day, but according to the online health page, Life Script, morning exercise helps jump start the metabolism and keeps it elevated for 30-60 minutes post workout via excess post-exercise oxygen consumption (up to about 60 calories). This site also claims that workouts increase mental sharpness for 4 to 10 hours, which would come in handy if done in the morning.

And exercising in the morning on an empty stomach may help the body burn more fat due to less stored sugars than if you exercise later in the day after a meal.

If you really want to maximize your metabolism throughout the day, start your day with a high intensity workout and squeeze in several 10 minutes of less intense workouts later in the day. Just make sure to stretch well in the morning in order to avoid any increased risk of muscle strains or sprains.

In conclusion, if you exercise regularly, no matter what time of day, continue what you are doing. But if your lifestyle has been primarily sedentary and you are ready to start exercising, the benefits of a morning workout should convince you to start your day with exercise. Not only will you enjoy multiple benefits, but the chance that you will still be working out a year later is much greater, and that is the most important thing.

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“I have always wanted to witness this event. With a thousand others, my wife and I experienced a herd of wild ponies come ashore to a confined, fenced area, later to be auctioned. Standing feet away from those beautiful horses, it became an exhilarating moment,” shared Jerry.

“My daughter and son-in-law’s fall bonfire and stew cookout became an important third item,” noted Jerry. “Each year [previously], we declined the offer. I had a wonderful time and made new friends.”

“My bucket list has been upgraded quickly for 2015. We are celebrating my birthday in Florida. I have never been to Disney World or the Florida Keys. This is fun! On my list, I have a road trip to either Las Vegas or New Orleans. I want to catch a record-breaking fresh water fish. I also want to lose ten pounds,” said Jerry.

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orty-nine years ago, Jerome and Marcella Thomas vowed to love each other through sickness and health.

In the beginning, life was filled with the joy of raising two daughters and the value of working hard. Like most, the dream of fulfilling personal life goals was anticipated during the years of retirement. For Jerry and Marcy, they experienced exciting travel destinations near and far, spent time with family and good friends, and listened carefully when Jerry was diagnosed with a recurring cancer.

Sometimes, when life imposes a change of direction, all you can believe is that life's roller coaster will provide an exciting turn.

It began with a mindset. Jerry decided that if he was invited to an event or dinner, he would say yes. He no longer wanted to postpone opportunities; instead, his new ambition was to go and try new things.

Jerry wrote, “Time has a way of quickly passing. Each successive year hindered my ability to walk due to arthritis and knee surgery. I stopped thinking about the ‘someday’ and began a bucket list for those long term goals.”

With doctor approval, Jerry and Marcy chose a destination to celebrate their 48th wedding anniversary. While in Mexico, they fulfilled item number one on the list: deep sea fishing. For Jerry, it was a wonderful alternative to staying at home awaiting blood work results.

Less than a year later, item number two was crossed off the list. It was the chance to see the wild ponies swim across the Assateague Channel in Maryland to Chincoteague

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It you are considering creating your own bucket list, Jerry has a few suggestions. “Start small. You don't need a bucket full of money to reach most of your goals. Like Jack Nicholson and Morgan Freeman’s movie, The Bucket List, you don’t have to be diagnosed with a terminal illness to make a list. I will never forget my college professor’s statement. He believed retirement should happen in the middle of life, when a person is extremely healthy. My mother-in-law also gave good advice – she said to ‘Go, while you can!’”

How often is life compared to a roller coaster ride? The path is unexpected, and yet, life provides great hills and perilous plummets, exciting turns, and blinding tunnels. The ups and downs in life are even sweeter when the love of your life is seated beside you. There is, indeed, adventure in the days and years ahead. It doesn’t take retirement to think of your long term goals. It may be easy to start your new life credo, even today, by agreeing to “go,” becoming inspired by a bucket list, and checking off those achieved items.

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Ladies…What’s the Most Important Muscle in Your Body?

By Brooke Eagle

In February, we celebrated heart health month. While consistently eating “heart healthy” foods is so important, so is the exercise aspect! I recently heard a trainer ask, “Ladies, what’s the most important muscle in your body?” After the ladies made several (wrong) guesses, he told them the correct answer: Your heart! I couldn’t agree more! I’ve always been a huge advocate of working out—I’m one of those weird people that truly loves waking up at 5am to get my workout in.

For the past few months, I’ve been seeing so many ads / articles / etc. on wearable fitness trackers, so being the workout fanatic that I am, I decided to make the investment in a ‘Fit Bit.’ And I LOVE it! Less than a week later, my mom decided she wanted one, and a week or so after that, our project manager, Denise, got one, too! (Fit Bit, where’s my commission?!) The coolest part about us all having Fit Bits is that we are able to do challenges with each other. For example, we can do a ‘Weekend Warrior challenge’ and see who gets the most steps in over the weekend… or the ‘Work Week Hustle challenge’ and see who is the most active during a 5 day work week. I’m not the most competitive person in the world, but you better believe I have gotten my butt off the couch more than once during the past couple of weekends after checking my Fit Bit app and seeing that my mom was THOUSANDS of steps ahead of me!!

In addition to the challenges, my Fit Bit tracks my sleep every night! It creates a graph with spikes every time I’m restless or wake up during the night…and I’m just a nerd that loves that kind of stuff. And in my husband’s opinion, the VERY best part of my Fit Bit is that it has a silent alarm (it vibrates on my wrist) so that I’m not waking up my poor husband at 4:45am with my loud cell phone alarm.

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Anna Jolly & alling all cinephiles and cultural connoisseurs: RiverRun International mom Tarra Jolly Film Festival is coming, April 16th – 26th, and we need you! This year’s Festival has expanded to a whopping 11 days of independent cinema at its finest. RiverRun not only shows critically acclaimed independent films from around the world, but brings exciting film industry guests to town, hosts fabulous parties and enlightening panel discussions, and presents prestigious awards. In 2014, RiverRun issued more than 16,000 tickets to 141 films from 33 countries. It takes a small army to put on a festival of this size, and more than 350 volunteers are needed every year to make it happen.

Give Back and Get Involved!

Two long-time Festival volunteers are mother and daughter duo Tarra and Anna Jolly. Tarra Jolly, a volunteer since 2006, decided in 2009 to bring her daughter, Anna – a then 8th grader – along with her to volunteer in order to “teach her the importance of giving back to the community.” They’ve volunteered at RiverRun together ever since, and Anna, who is now a freshman at North Carolina Central, plans on returning to volunteer with her mother again at this year’s Festival.

Be a RiverRun Insider and Get Connected This outstanding volunteer team has served in many volunteer positions through the years, and Tarra says they have loved them all. “Every year we think we have found our favorite position,” she says, “until the next year comes along.” When pressed, budding actress Anna Jolly, who has had several theatrical roles, as well as having been an extra in The 5th Quarter, says that she really enjoys hosting parties, where she can talk to visiting directors to get the inside scoop on their films, and “learn what inspired them.”

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Tarra, a City of Winston-Salem employee who has also had some screen time (a small speaking role in Junebug) enjoyed meeting Tyler James Williams (“Everybody Loves Chris”) at a RiverRun Party last year, and RiverRun’s 2014 Master of Cinema Award winner, Bill Pullman (The Equalizer, Independence Day), whom she said were both “very nice and answered all of our questions.”

Get Connected, Gain Perspective Tarra and Anna are both “film buffs” and attend as many film screenings as possible during the Festival, especially since they earn a free film voucher for every four-hour volunteer shift. Queen of Versailles and No Crossover: The Trial of Allen Iverson are some of their favorites. “We enjoy seeing movies together because afterwards we can discuss them, and we are each able to gain insight into the film from the other’s perspective,” said Tarra/Anna.

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“We really love volunteering,” Tarra/Anna commented.

“We’d recommend it to anybody.”

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THINGS THAT MAKE YOU

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Why Am I Not In His Will?

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re you in your lover’s will? You may not think about this every day or even every year, but this is an important question for women and men alike. A 2011 online survey of 1,001 adults by RocketLawyer.com, an online legal service, revealed that 57% of American adults do not have a will.

This statistic includes a shocking 92% of adults under age 35 and 44% of baby boomers (ages 45-64). Who is more likely to have a will – a man or a woman? While women are more likely to have a will than men (53 % versus 39 %), women cite cost as a barrier to having a will and many men don’t think they need a will, period.

In fact, according to this survey, one-third said they'd rather do their taxes, get a root canal, or give up sex for a month than lay out their dying wishes in black and white. Despite this fact, making a legal will is very important and should be discussed with your spouse, boyfriend, or lover.

A story that hit close to home is a perfect example of why preparing a will at the appropriate time in a relationship should not be ignored. Friends of ours had been dating for several years and had recently married. The blissful couple had enjoyed about 6 months of marriage when the husband died unexpectedly.

Modifying his will was probably on his to-do list, but he never got that opportunity and his new wife was left out of all asset sharing. Life has no guarantees on mortality other than death is certain, so discussing this issue prior to marriage would have saved the widow lots of anxiety and stress. Some couples may discuss updating wills when considering a pre-nuptial agreement, which may be just as important to a stable marriage, but that is another article.

It’s never too early to discuss a will, but it can be too late.

While it makes perfect sense for married couples to create a will, what about couples who are in a committed relationship but not married? No magic timeframe exists that should be followed for considering a will for these unmarried couples. Several factors can influence the right time to talk about wills. Are children involved or other dependents, like parents or ex-spouses?

Do you live together and have purchases together, like a lake house, boat, or car? Are you financially dependent on each other? Does one person rely on the other for caregiving because of health problems? One or any of these reasons could warrant the need for a serious talk about wills, even though the relationship is not sealed with a marriage contract.

For those committed couples that do not live together there may be unique reasons to be in each other’s will. Some couples are separated by jobs or the need to care for parents or children in their home. Some couples just see each other on the weekends for a variety of reasons that make sense to them. And they are happy that way, even though others might view this as a weird situation. Distance makes the heart grow fonder, in the opinion of some, and a weekend rendezvous is all they need! Whatever the living arrangement, frequency of visits, or degree of togetherness, couples in love should tackle the issue of writing a will that can protect their beneficiaries and each other, married or not married.

Tax season may be a perfect time to talk to your lover about a will. You would hate to discover an existing will that leaves his beautiful, four-bedroom cabin in Boone to his former fling.

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Spring Has Sprung, There is Work to be Done!

By Lisa S.T. Doss

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pring, the symbol of rebirth, offers every indication that it is time to wake up and become active. Even from the first day of the vernal equinox, March 20th, the tilt from the earth’s axis offers 12 hours of light from sunrise to sunset. We will feel the sun’s warmth growing stronger as the days become longer, witness the budding of flowers and trees, and know that new life is returning to the world. Through our own window panes, we will discover with excitement that spring has sprung!

It is a time of rejuvenated spirit, and a time of work. Phrases like “spring cleaning” will inspire new energy to clean out closets and perform routine home maintenance tasks. Before the ground thaws and your enthusiasm for cleaning wanes, it is time to consider beginning the following tasks.

Cleaning the Gutters: First, inspect your gutters for rust, holes, and any loose attachments, which includes the downspouts.

While a ladder will provide an up close and personal inspection, standing on the ground and using a pair of binoculars will offer you the same information. Unclogging gutters will prevent mosquito infestations, decomposed leaves developing into mold and mildew, and potentially other problems. To begin, clean the downspout by moving any twigs, leaves, and dirt. While a “gutter cleaning attachment” is a useful tool, this may be the time to consider installing gutter leaf guards. By next spring, this is one task you won’t have to worry too much about.

Sealing Exterior Holes: If you are having enough difficulty with stink bugs and lady bugs, now is a great time to prevent insects and varmints from entering your home. Walk around the foundation and look for openings, especially near wires and pipes.

A can of foam spray will do the trick. Keeping moisture away from the house may be a bigger task; therefore, to ward against termites and other destructive insects, tighten leaky faucets, repair fascia board (connected to the gutters,) trim tree branches away from the house, and replace weather stripping or caulking around the windows.

Preparing the Air Conditioning System: Just like a car, your air conditioning system requires an annual tune-up. It involves changing or washing the filters, cleaning the coils, washing the condenser, and rinsing the drain line. While the list may seem intimidating, there are a number of tasks you can learn how to do annually and save in time and money.

Cleaning Appliances: The three things you can do to promote energy efficiency and prevent future problems from occurring are: 1. Pull the refrigerator away from the wall to clean the dirtiest “square” in your home. By using a coil brush and carefully running it along the compressor, usually located on the underbelly of the refrigerator, you are prolonging the refrigerator’s life.

2. While the self-clean button on your stove is an attractive feature, finish the job by applying a soapy cloth around the door hinges and frame, too.

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3. To promote proper air circulation, it is important to inspect your dryer vent and hose for blockages. Since vinyl tubing is a fire hazard, it is important to replace with foil tubing. Cleaning can be completed with a coil brush and vacuum cleaner.

Fertilizing the Lawn: Open your calendar to the month of May, and schedule a day toward the end of the month to fertilize.

Experts agree the right time is “just before the heat of summer begins.” Using a fertilizer that includes a slow release of nitrogen is recommended, and will feed the grass for up to 12 weeks.

It will strengthen the grass and ward off summer stresses, such as drought, excessive heat, traffic, disease and those pesky insects, too.

Uncluttering Untouched Areas: Too often, items stored in walkin closets, garages, or basements are piled high awaiting a future moment to be used. Why wait? Capitalize on your continued energy and make quick decisions to clean, sell, or toss. Even the five-second rule (making a decision in five seconds, and if delay occurs, it is tossed) will help you move forward with the goal of reducing clutter. Yes, spring has arrived, and with it, opportunity!

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The WOMEN’S FUND of Winston-Salem Invites You to Join in Celebration of International Women’s Day: March 8, 2015

By Meridith Whitaker

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any of the rights we take for granted today – nondiscriminatory hiring laws, paid maternity leave, the right to vote on those who will lead our country – were once nonexistent for women. We have come a long way as a country. Yet even as laws change, there remain barriers that hold women and girls back from reaching their full potential. Issues like poverty, abuse, and discrimination continue to affect women around the world and in our own community. The Women’s Fund of Winston-Salem is working diligently to change this.

The Women’s Fund of Winston-Salem is a group of passionate women who seek to improve the lives of women and girls in Forsyth County. They do this by building a community of female philanthropists who provide grants to organizations working to address the root causes of social issues impacting women and girls.

Through the collective gifts of its 800 members, the Fund has awarded over $1.1 million in grants throughout its ten year history. The week of March 2nd-8th will mark a special celebration, as The Women’s Fund joins with the greater community of women philanthropists and activists around the globe for International Women’s Day. Observed each year since the early 1900s, International Women’s Day brings diverse women together to

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celebrate their collective achievements, while calling for greater equality.

This year’s International Women’s Day theme, “Make it Happen,” encourages women to get involved in the global movement. Throughout the weeklong celebration, Women’s Fund members will get involved by volunteering with several of the organizations they have supported with grants, including Family Services, the Shepherd’s Center, and the Shalom Project.

International Women’s Day participants are also encouraged to “Paint it Purple,” and The Women’s Fund has taken this call seriously by lighting up downtown.

The Winston Tower, Nissen building, and RJ Reynolds building will all be proudly purple in honor of the occasion on March 8th!

Even if you are not yet a member of The Women’s Fund, we invite you to join in the celebration of International Women’s Day by posting on social media during the week of March 2nd-8th with the hashtags #makeithappen, #paintitpurple (global), and #paintitpurplews (local).

To stay connected, be sure to “Like” The Women’s Fund on Facebook and follow @womensfundws on Instagram. To be part of the movement year-round, we

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are encouraged, in a camp setting with other children, to share their pain over their loss. Grief is a long road and we plan to return to Hospice for more sessions of counseling and possibly for another Camp Carousel,” recalled Jonathan.

It is because of the difference that Hospice & Palliative CareCenter made in the CliffordMilner family’s life that they have participated in the Hospice Hope Run for the past three years with ‘Team Errol.’ The funds raised during the Hope Run go toward helping families like Errol’s receive the care and free counseling they need when dealing with the death of a loved one.

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A Family Remembers a Little Boy by Helping Others By Carolyn S. Peterson

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hen Errol Milner Clifford was born, his parents, Cary Clifford and Jonathan Milner, knew the time with their little boy would be short so they cherished every minute Errol had on this earth. As Jonathan Milner said when I first interviewed him in May 2009, “From Errol’s first breath, he began to die. He had his first open heart surgery at 5 days old with lots of other surgeries, minor and major ones.” Errol was diagnosed with a chromosomal defect and a major heart defect called pulmonary atresia, which caused low muscle tone, mental retardation, difficulties eating and other health concerns. In the 3 ½ years of Errol’s life, the Clifford-Milner family shared their son and his struggles with their Washington Park community, neighbors and friends through the website ‘Seeds of Love for Errol,’ joining to plant a community garden in Errol’s honor and hold fundraisers to help the family with the massive medical bills during Errol’s illness. Cary is the owner/operator of Camino Bakery and Jonathan is a WS/FC public school teacher so the many surgeries and hospitalizations took a toll on the family’s finances, but family and friends stepped up along the way with fundraisers.

Because of his compromised immune system, Errol died from an infection. Hospice & Palliative CareCenter was where Cary, Jonathan and Errol’s older brother, Owen, who at the time was 6 years old, received grief counseling.

“Cary and I went to grief counseling together and individually; we also went to Camp Carousel for adults twice, coming together with others who had lost someone.

It was a huge solace to know that other people were going through what we were and that others had survived their grief. I don’t know how we would’ve survived Errol’s death without Hospice and our loving family, friends and community. Our older son Owen went to grief therapy where he and his wonderful therapist did a lot of art and play therapy. Owen also attended Camp Carousel twice, where children

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The first time Jonathan Milner ran in the Hospice Hope Run, he was deep in grief and planned to run alone. “I didn’t tell anyone outside of Cary, Owen and a few family members that I was running. It was my first 5K, but there was a huge storm and the race was cancelled. The next year, I ran with a friend.

Again, since the previous race was cancelled, this was my first race and Hilary helped talk me through it. In 2014, we had 10 people on Team Errol; Cary made t-shirts with a picture of Errol with angel wings. We ran for Errol and raised $3,550! The Hope Run helps us remember Errol and he is there with us when we invite folks to join our team, to donate, train for the run and most of all, as we run. On the day of the race, it’s especially moving to know how many of the participants are running to remember. I run with tears in my eyes and Errol in my mind,” Jonathan said.

Like many of the participants in the Hope Run, people are honoring the memory of a loved one.

In addition to celebrating their loved one, they are helping to make possible charitable care for patients that are not covered by Medicare, Medicaid or Private Insurance, grief counseling services and complimentary therapies, such as art and music, which Hospice & Palliative CareCenter provides to anyone in the community, regardless of their ability to pay.

As Jonathan Milner and Team Errol prepare for the 19th Annual Hospice Hope Run, he thinks back on Errol’s time on this earth. “With Errol’s birth and diagnosis, we mourned the loss of the healthy child we had expected. Yet despite his significant and cognitive limitations, Errol’s bountiful laughter and radiant full-body smile brought joy to all he met. Grief swamped our family and it took all we could muster to survive each grueling day. We searched for Errol in the ruins of our lives, as we traveled back and between the present and the past,” commented Jonathan. Today, the Clifford-Milner family continues to remember Errol and the joy he had for life, while focusing on helping others through this year’s Hope Run. For more information on forming or joining a team in the 19th Annual Hospice Hope Run, visit www.support4hospice.org.

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Tax Organization is Essential to Tax Season Sanity

By David Willard

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rganizing ahead of time makes the work more enjoyable. Chefs cut up the onions and have the ingredients lined up ahead of time and have them ready to go. When everything is organized, you can clean as you go and it makes everything so much easier and fun.” This quote by Anne Burrell is obviously meant for chefs and the food preparation industry. However, it most certainly applies to other areas, as well.

In fact, it is fundamentally important when it comes to tax preparation.

According to Forbes, Americans spend some 6.1 billion hours simply complying with the thousands of pages that make up the U.S. tax code. The simple fact is that all this compliance can be less time consuming with some preparation in the beginning. The better the organization, the easier tax time becomes. Luckily, such a system is far from difficult to create and maintain. In fact, with just a little effort and thought, it can become quite routine.

The first step in such a system is a checklist. One of the risks of doing taxes is that you will inadvertently file your return before you have all of your income information. To avoid that, create a checklist of all of the income accounts you own and all the income you received during the year. If you have a checking or savings account that earns interest, keep copies of your bank statements and add the name of the bank to your checklist. Do the same with any investment accounts that pay dividends, and any brokerage accounts that paid capital gains. Check off the name of each company when you receive your 1099-INT, 1099-DIV or 1099-B. The next step is to purchase a simple file box for your records. These file boxes are an important part of your system and are available at office supply stores.

They come complete with folders you can use to store your documents as they arrive. Set aside a pocket for each type of document, e.g., 1099 forms, W-2 forms and bank records, then place each document in the appropriate pocket.

Next is the sorting process. Sort your documents by the type of income they represent. If you have more than one interest-bearing bank account, you will receive a 1099-INT form for each. If you have multiple brokerage and stock accounts, you will get several 1099-DIV forms. Make a pile for each type of income. Also, create files for mortgage information (interest, property taxes, etc.), charitable donations, and other tax deductible items.

Once you have all of your income and tax documents in hand, you can start to do some tax organizing. Just simply file paperwork in the appropriate file. It becomes that simple. This simple, yet effective strategy can greatly reduce the anxiety that can occur with tax season. Filing taxes is an inevitability that occurs every year, just like clockwork. Why not make it, and life, as simple as possible?

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Promises to the Earth

By Lisa S.T. Doss

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hange is coming in the form of color, growth, sounds, light, and warmth. Even for the span of a few heartbeats, stand outside and look around. This is the time of contemplation, preparation and the moment when we must consider what changes we are willing to make for the benefit of our earth. Yes, April 22 is more than a month away, but we have time to think about Earth Day arrival. This year, each of us can make a difference and prepare to implement positive changes. Here are a few suggestions.

Plant a Tree: Planting a tree is one of the most important contributions you can give back to the earth. Trees clean the air, provide oxygen, save water, and conserve energy.

Depending on your available space, a tree can provide a purpose, too, like shade, a wind break, or fruit. Research the tree to determine its expected height and span.

Plant Wildflowers: Butterflies and hummingbirds add color, active movement, and beauty to any home garden. While it will not take much space, consider buying a mix of seeds that are designated for our region.

• To eliminate half-full water glasses in your home, and the increased number of disposable plastic water bottles, encourage family members to start using BPA free washable containers.

Some are even collapsible.

• One bucket can conserve water in a multitude of ways, such as washing a car or creating a slow drip irrigation system.

Creative ideas truly make a difference.

• Milk jugs can be reused to start seedlings or to grow herbs. Before recycling, consider the creative ways you can use your cardboard, plastic, paper, and glass items.

• Look at the contents in your garage. What percentage is recyclable, and can be sorted and “disposed” properly? What percentage is comprised of coffee grounds, egg shells, potato, carrot, or banana peels, and paper napkins or towels? Even your shredded paper can be put into a self-made composter. With sunshine, time, periodic aeration and water, this conscious effort will transform into a mineral enriched soil. The process is simpler than you think.

Make a Birdhouse or Two: Invitations will not be necessary; once your birdhouse is Community wide “green campaigns” are being initiated in many placed, expect a renter to occupy it within a international cities around the world to celebrate Earth Day in a united short period of time. Besides the enjoyment front. It’s refreshing to know that people in every community are of watching a bird preparing his or her nest, leaving their homes to participate in some educational or vital way to there is pleasure in a bird’s song. improve the systems of land, sea, and air that affect each of us. There Reduce, Reuse, and Recycle Efforts: Tired of running your dish washer daily? Would you like to reduce your garbage by a third? Here are a few practical ways to solve your problems.

• Start taking cloth bags with you to the grocery store.

They are easy to wash and store.

will be trees planted in Kenya, a recycling effort in Egypt, discussions of urban cycling in Germany, a marathon to raise awareness of physical activity in Kosovo, and a mangrove planting and beach cleanup in Granada. One day is never enough to celebrate all the wonderful resources our planet provides. Beyond that one day of awareness, each of us has the ability to also influence our family members, neighbors, work colleagues, and friends. What will be this year’s promise to the earth?

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A Novel Idea The Lady of the River: Book 1 – Cousins’ War Series

By Philippa Gregory Reviewed by Lisa S.T. Doss Genre: Historical fiction The beautiful Jacquetta of Luxembourg has a family gift derived from the river goddess Melusina. Through the ability to foresee future events at a time when witchcraft is dangerous, she captures the eye of the Duke of Bedford and becomes his wife. Through “fortune’s wheel,” Jacquetta’s life abruptly changes and she chooses love over a title, money, and property. Ironically, she would have gladly welcomed a simple life compared to her life at court with schemers and plotters, false loyalties, and the country's rebellion.

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Beatleness: How the Beatles and Their Fans Remade the World

By Candy Leonard Reviewed by Justin Cord Hayes When I was born, the Beatles were technically still together, though I know now they had already gone their separate ways.

Nonetheless, the group had a tremendous influence on me and on my world view (experimentation is good – you can be both popular AND weird). Candy Leonard’s recent book, Beatleness, explores the impact the Fab Four had on first generation American fans – those who grew up when the Beatles arrived on our shores and sparked the British Invasion. For example, the Beatles gave young men an alternative to super-macho role models. They offered songs that (usually) treated women with respect and made them more than objects. And as the group progressed and experimented and dabbled in politics, they made liberal views, experimentation, and taking a stand acceptable and cool for even their youngest listeners.

Leonard’s book documenting their progression is both enlightening and entertaining.

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By J.D. Salinger Reviewed by Ellen Wakefield The Catcher in the Rye is narrated by Holden Caulfield, an adolescent floundering and frustrated with the world and the people in it. He starts the book expelled from his boarding school and moves through a series of encounters with various people (old friends, old girlfriends, former teachers, his little sister) in New York City on his way home to explain his expulsion to his parents. It’s easy to relate to Holden’s lack of connection to people and his frustration with life, and that relatability is what makes this story work.

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WILL PAINT FOR FOOD: Art Show and Sale Benefiting Meals-On-Wheels By Susan Woodall

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o not be confused – WILL PAINT FOR FOOD is not a starving artist sale. It does, however, help to provide healthy meals for more than 1,200 of our community’s senior adults.

Many of our area’s finest artisans have come together once again with a variety of beautiful items to sell while raising funds for Meals-on-Wheels.

The Meals-on-Wheels program began in 1962 and has since delivered more than five million meals to homebound Forsyth County residents who are unable to obtain and prepare food for themselves. “Each day, Meals-on-Wheels provides nutrition for 1,208 senior adults in need at a cost of $5.00 per meal,” said Mary Lee Roche, marketing and development coordinator at Senior Services, Inc. “This provision is critical; the majority of program participants were at risk of malnutrition when they entered the program for health and/or financial reasons.”

In 2011, Senior Services held the first art sale to benefit Meals-on-Wheels. The idea of the fundraiser was presented to the organization by artist Bonnie Dempster and Senior Services board member (and artist) Dell James. “Originally we planned to hold

it every other year, but owing to the success of the first show, as well as the vital need we have to raise money for Meals-on-Wheels, we decided to repeat it a second year…and the crowds came and purchased art,” said Roche. “And now, here we are getting ready for ‘the fifth annual.’ It is the only fundraising event that we host each year specifically to generate funding for Mealson-Wheels. The artists generously donate more than 50% of the proceeds from the sale of their work in support of Mealson-Wheels. One hundred percent of the contributions and sponsorship dollars are designated to this program. Last year, from the proceeds of this event alone, we were able to provide 12,251 meals for the homebound elderly in Forsyth County.”

With so many items to choose from, there will surely be something to catch your eye and fit your budget. “All of the art is original and locally created,” said Roche.

“In addition to the paintings and photography, there will be jewelry, pottery, beautiful baskets, silk hand-painted scarves, art cards and much more. Prices vary – one can spend $10 or $500. In the past, most of the paintings were less than $400. This event is the only annual fundraiser for Meals-on-Wheels actually hosted by Senior

Services. (There are other community event fundraisers for Meals-on-Wheels that outside individuals and groups generously organize and host.) The need for funding for this program is great, with food insecurity among the elderly being a matter of great concern for our community. The idea for the event came from the artists themselves, and it is their generous donations from the sale of their work that, along with sponsorships and other contributions, make up the total that goes to purchase meals for the elderly. It was the original core group that came together in 2011 that encouraged and brought in other artists to participate.

Many of the artists who participated in 2011 have continued to support Meals-onWheels by participating each year since.

Last year, there were 48 artists who participated and more than 500 separate items available for purchase.”

This show also provides an opportunity for people in the community to learn more about Senior Services. “Photos of some of our program participants will be placed throughout the venue to give shoppers an idea of whom we serve and some data about them and the Meals-on-Wheels program,” said Roche. “We hope that once those who are newcomers to our facility learn where we are, along with a bit about what we do, they will be interested in finding out more, and we will happily oblige, providing tours and printed materials for anyone interested.”

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Take charge – don’t wait for me to parent for you: “Your child is your responsibility.

Don’t confuse my being polite with my not minding. I MIND. If you wait for other adults to scold your children, it never ends well.”

Be a parent: “Your child HAS friends – what he NEEDS is a parent. First, you must be a parent and then, later (much later), you can be their friend.

Have the guts to be the adult.”

Be prepared to leave: “The only thing worse than a child throwing a public tantrum is the parent who ignores it or, worse, yells even louder.

If you can, be prepared to leave or excuse yourselves and go elsewhere to talk. Teaching or tolerating this behavior makes us not want to be around these people.”

“Call Me When You Have a Sitter” (What Your Friends Wish They Could Say)

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gathered my materials as the participants exited my parenting seminar. From the back of the room I watched as a tall shadow with two smaller moving shadows approached. “Hi, what can I do for you?”

“Hello, um, I have children. A lot of my friends don’t. I mean, I think they want children, it just hasn’t happened yet.” We sat.

I smiled and waited. “We used to do everything together,” she continued. “Now they don’t call anymore. And when I do see them, they stop talking as soon as they see me.”

Just then her toddler dumped out my purse. She began to draw on the carpet with my lipstick, while her 4 year old sibling ran around screaming “I’m so bored!” The mother didn’t seem to notice.

“It’s like they don’t like children or something.”

I scooped up the contents of my bag and handed her a wipe to clean lipstick off her child’s eyebrow. “Isn’t she just adorable?” she exclaimed. “Um…” was all I said.

The 4 year old jumped up on my lap covered my mouth and yelled “Go away talking time is over!” “Aren’t they the sweetest?” she asked me. “So it’s my friend’s problem right?”

I suggested that she might enjoy herself better if next time she called a sitter. She probably won’t. Many friendships that could have been saved are lost this way. Here are a few things friends wish they could say: Get a sitter: “If your child is unruly in public please get a sitter.”

Be considerate: “Dining out is a treat for us, don’t allow your children to throw fits, yell at the server or trash the area around them.”

Teach manners: “Smart alecky children are NOT charming. Remember that 4 year old (it was her time to talk)? Her mother thought it was cute. It wasn’t.”

Have some manners: “Don’t have conversations with your children while you are on the phone with me. I’d rather you wait to call me or just send a text.”

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So what do we do? Kids are going to be kids. Of course they are. They test boundaries, that’s their job. They will even act out until they learn a better way. That’s the parent’s job. Talk to them about appropriate behaviors. Praise them when they get it right. Oh, and model the behaviors you want to see.

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2 tablespoons fresh lemon juice teaspoon dried, crushed red pepper ½ teaspoon fine sea salt ¼ teaspoon ground pepper 1 Tablespoon chopped, fresh dill 1 Tablespoon, chopped, fresh parsley Directions 1. Prepare pasta according to package directions.

2. Meanwhile, melt butter with oil in a large skillet over medium-high heat; add green onions and garlic, and sauté 4 to 5 minutes or until onions are tender.

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3. Next add shrimp, wine, and next 6 ingredients. Cook over medium heat, stirring occasionally, 3 to 5 minutes or just until shrimp turn pink.

4. Stir in dill and parsley, then remove shrimp with a slotted spoon, reserving sauce in skillet.

5. Add hot cooked pasta to sauce in skillet, tossing to coat. Transfer pasta to a serving bowl, and top with shrimp.

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2. Add Parmesan and oil and process until smooth.

4 ounces uncooked ziti 1 tablespoon olive oil 2 cups chopped yellow squash 1 cup chopped zucchini 1/2 cup chopped onion 2 cups chopped tomato 2 garlic cloves, minced 1 cup (4 oz) shredded part-skim mozzarella cheese, divided 2 tablespoons chopped fresh basil 2 teaspoons chopped fresh oregano 3/4 teaspoon salt, divided 1/8 teaspoon crushed red pepper 1/4 cup (2 oz) part-skim ricotta cheese 1 large egg, lightly beaten Cooking spray Directions 1. Cook pasta according to package directions, omitting salt and fat; drain.

3. Toss with your favorite pasta and serve.

2. Preheat oven to 400°.

SPINACH-WALNUT-HERB PESTO Ingredients ½ (5 oz.) package of baby spinach 2 Tablespoons chopped fresh mint 1 Tablespoon chopped cilantro 1 Tablespoon chopped fresh basil 1 teaspoon lemon zest 1 garlic clove, minced ¼ teaspoon fine sea salt ½ cup freshly shredded Parmesan cheese cup walnuts ¼ cup olive oil Directions 1. Pulse first 7 ingredients in a food processor until finely chopped.

SHRIMP DESTIN Ingredients ½ package linguine or fettuccine (8 oz) ¼ cup butter ¼ cup olive oil 1 ½ pounds, large shrimp peeled and de-veined 1 Tablespoon dry, white wine ¼ cup chopped green onions 2 garlic cloves, minced

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3. Heat a large skillet over medium-high heat. Add oil to pan. Add squash, zucchini, and onion; sauté 5 minutes. Add tomato and garlic; sauté 3 minutes. Remove from heat; stir in pasta, 1/2 cup mozzarella, herbs, 1/2 teaspoon salt, and pepper.

4. Combine ricotta, remaining salt, and egg.

Stir into pasta mixture. Spoon into an 8-inch square glass or ceramic baking dish coated with cooking spray; sprinkle with remaining mozzarella. Bake at 400° for 15 minutes or until bubbly and browned.

WILD MUSHROOM FARFALLE Ingredients 1 pound uncooked farfalle (bow-tie pasta) 1 tablespoon butter 12 ounces pre-sliced exotic mushroom blend 1/2 cup chopped onion 1/3 cup finely chopped shallots 1 tablespoon minced garlic 1 1/2 teaspoons salt, divided 1/4 teaspoon freshly ground black pepper 1/4 cup dry white wine 2/3 cup whipping cream 1/2 cup (2 oz) grated fresh Parmigiano-Reggiano cheese 2 tablespoons chopped fresh parsley Minced fresh parsley (optional) Directions 1. Cook pasta according to package directions, omitting salt and fat; drain.

2. Melt the butter in a large nonstick skillet over medium-high heat. Add the mushrooms, onion, shallots, garlic, 1 teaspoon salt, and pepper; cook 12 minutes or until liquid evaporates and mushrooms are tender, stirring occasionally.

Add wine; cook 2 minutes or until liquid evaporates, stirring occasionally. Remove from heat.

3. Add the cooked pasta, whipping cream, cheese, and 2 tablespoons parsley, tossing gently to coat. Stir in remaining 1/2 teaspoon salt. Garnish with minced fresh parsley, if desired. Serve immediately.

PESTO RAVIOLI WITH SNAP PEAS Ingredients 1 small garlic clove 4 ounces Parmesan cheese, cut into chunks 1 1/2 qts lightly packed tender pea shoots*, separated into 4- to 5-inch pieces, divided 1/2 cup mint leaves 1/2 cup extra-virgin olive oil 1 pound fresh cheese ravioli 2 cups sugar snap peas Directions 1. Whirl garlic in a food processor to mince.

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They may be fragments of a life that you know changed your world, or they may be pieces that just simply uplift your mood anytime you think about them. No matter what the experience or moment, nothing can keep those memories alive like the perfect picture or video recording. Luckily, 201 Media knows this all too well, and they take pride in making them perfect.

Matthew Hall, owner of 201 Media, has built his business on years of experience and passion for his trade. Hall is a 2000 graduate of Lee University with a Video Production degree. After graduation, Hall gained his video production skills through years of working for three news stations, which include NBC and Fox, as well as producing church television programs.

The experience gained through these years prepared Hall for his true goal, owning his own video production company.

Ironically, the seed for 201 Media was planted at Lee University, but Hall just didn’t realize it. “I had finished my senior video project about cars in college.

I finished at 2:01 am. It was a cool number, and when putting in credits I didn’t want it to be ‘my name’ productions like others.” That night, unknowingly, 201 Media was born, and, like any good small business, has flourished due to hard work and dedication.

“In video, we can produce many types of media: broadcast, web videos, business, corporate, sports, and weddings,” he says. 201 Media services include video production, photography, a photo booth, as well as media transfers. ”What I am most proud of about the business is my great team,” continues Hall. The business consists of Hall, two videographers, two photographers, a few media assistants, and even DJ services to round out its comprehensive abilities to make every job special.

Although 201 Media claims Winston-Salem as its home, it has had the opportunity to branch out and provide its services outside of North Carolina as well. “We strive to build a great foundation in our back yard but we also like to work out of town, and have done so in several states,” adds Hall. In fact, one of those ‘out-of-town’ jobs created one of his most memorable moments. “I got the last minute call to film 50 soccer games in New Jersey, and we then drove all night to get there in time to film,” he explains.

It’s not a difficult task to discover what drives Matthew Hall and 201 Media.

“It’s that entrepreneur spirit and love for filming. Passion and determination drives the pursuit of success ... doing what you love!” Hall concludes.

It is in this spirit and passion that 201 Media finds its home. A home where memories are captured and moments are treasured. It is also in that same place it continues to grow from the seed that was planted that early morning in college at 2:01 am.

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Kim Crawford

Kim came to yoga hoping to improve her range of motion after breast cancer treatments, but she found that yoga brought her so much more than physical flexibility and strength. The awareness and peacefulness that came along with the physical benefits encouraged Kim to deepen her practice. Kim completed a 330-hour teacher training program at Triad Yoga Institute and began teaching in 2008. Kim has recently graduated from the Sunrise Yoga Teacher Training program as a 500-hour Certified Yoga Teacher, and is now a 500-hour Registered Yoga Teacher (RYT) with Yoga Alliance.

At Sunrise Yoga Studio, Kim teaches Gentle, Level 1, Back Care and Chair Yoga classes.

Her classes are a great fit for people who are new to yoga, haven’t practiced in a while, or who may have physical challenges and would benefit from a slower-paced class. She has an enthusiastic, caring spirit that is obvious with her students, and she encourages them to deepen their practice and discover what they are capable of with each pose. Kim is attentive to her students’ needs and works with them to adapt poses for their bodies, making sure to avoid injury or pain. Kim believes that anybody can benefit from yoga and she enjoys sharing the yoga experience.

Nona Smith MSN, CNM

Nona was born and raised in Greensboro NC and received a Bachelor of Science in Nursing from UNC-Greensboro in 1983. She worked in adult critical care for seven years before starting at Forsyth Memorial Hospital Labor & Delivery and Prenatal Assessment Center in 1989.

Nona went on to receive her Masters of Science in Nursing/Nurse Midwifery Concentration from East Carolina University in 1999, then worked at Winston-Salem WomanCare from 1999-2006 and also from 2007-2010.

She has also worked at Central Carolina OB/Gyn in Greensboro from 2006-2007 and for staff relief from 2008-2015.

In 2010, Nona moved to Chattanooga, Tennessee to develop a maternal fetal medicine telemedicine network that provided high risk obstetrical consults to patients in rural communities of Tennessee, Georgia and southwest North Carolina.

In November of 2014, Nona moved back to Winston-Salem to develop Novant Health Midwifery Associates.

She finds helping a mom in labor achieve the birth experience that ends with everyone happy and healthy as the most gratifying part of her work.

Nona has three sons, two daughters-in-law and two grandsons and enjoys spending time with her children and grandchildren in her spare time.

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After helping hundreds of buyers and sellers move to their new homes, it is Pam’s turn to move – she is now hanging her hat and her business at Keller Williams Realty (KW).

“When I was introduced to the exceptional training, education and information that KW provides, I was immediately ‘sold,” said Pam. “And I’m delighted to have all of the additional tools to provide to my clients.”

“The real reason for the move was to become a part of a company created by agents, for agents. It is a culture of agents teaching, supporting and caring for each other,” she continued.

Even after 25 years, Pam still lights up when she talks about what excites her about the real estate business. First there’s her car, a rolling advertisement for her business. Even without her billboard on wheels, Pam’s smile and bubbly, never-met-a-stranger personality sets her apart.

“The best part is seeing the client’s face when you hand them the keys,” she says. “To help someone move to a new phase in their life – to their first home, to a retirement home, to a second home, whatever it is – that’s what keeps me excited

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Forsyth Magazines is happy to announce the newest member of our team, Alexis Snow, who is joining us as an Account Executive! Alexis Morgan Snow grew up in New Canaan, Connecticut, and graduated from Brigham Young University with a degree in Marketing Communications. She continued into marketing and advertising roles at Priceline.com, IBM and Genzyme Corporation. In 2003, she and her husband relocated to the South and started a family. The shrimp and grits and lovely climate have kept them here. While juggling four children, she has enjoyed putting her marketing and advertising skills to use whenever possible to benefit the community, school organizations, and as a marketing consultant. She enjoys shopping, traveling, serving in her church community and spending time with her husband and children.

Alexis and her husband Scott, who works for BB&T Capital Partners, have four children and have lived in Winston-Salem for 9 years. Alexis is thrilled to be returning to her marketing and advertising roots, and representing a publication that she turned to as a new resident, and continues to turn to as a ‘local’ for news and reviews of the best that Forsyth County has to offer.

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Living Gently...

Every Day

By Denise Heidel

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behaviors. Our daily news can be both overwhelming and depressing. But, how different could things be if we

would all embrace a few positive changes? What are the endless possibilities that could come about if we find ways to support, encourage and empower one another? Each month, we’ll explore a new way to embrace a way to live more gently, and hopefully, create a ripple effect in the lives around us.

March: International Listening Awareness Month Wise Words: “We have two ears and one mouth so that we can listen twice as much as we speak.” – Epictetus Facts: • When we listen, we hear approximately 125-250 words per minute as opposed to when we think at 1,000-3,000 words per minute.

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The #1 skill most employers look for is communication,

yet less than 2% of Americans are trained on how to listen.

How Listening Impacts Others: Listening and ensuring that messages are accurately heard and interpreted may help significantly decrease communication conflicts in both personal and professional relationships.

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• Helps eliminate communication conflicts.

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• Creates more opportunities for learning.

• Improves leadership skills.

• Increases respect of peers.

How To Be a Good Listener: • Put away or step away from distractions, i.e. cell phone, computer.

• Make eye contact.

• Lean forward and demonstrate to the speaker that you are engaged in what he or she has to say.

• Make it a practice to listen without thinking about what your response should be, but simply absorb what is being said.

Articulate your response when the speaker is finished.

• Remain open-minded, and hear what is being said in its entirety before becoming reactionary.

• When the speaker is finished, repeat back to the speaker what you heard in order to clarify the message and ensure you interpreted things correctly.

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The Elephant Chronicles: Fifty Shades Edition

By Helen Naples, Owner/Operator of Women’s Wellness & Fitness

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he story is told of a baby elephant that was tied to a pole.

There she learned her limitations.

She was not strong enough to break the rope and run free.

When the elephant grew up, she remained imprisoned within the radius of the rope to the pole. She did not realize that she now had the strength to break free.

The rope did not keep her trapped. Her belief in the rope did.

There are so many lies (or “elephant ropes”) relating to pornography that it is difficult to narrow them down to five for this article. There are, for instance, the lies about pornography (such as, “it will improve your marriage”). Additionally, there are the lies that pornography promotes (such as, “women enjoy being degraded”). For the sake of brevity, I decided to stick with the top 5 lies about porn that our society seems to be currently accepting as truth…

Lie #1: Pornography is harmless.

The Problem: The prevailing view in our culture - especially among high school and college students where porn is widely accepted - is that porn is absolutely not a problem. At worst, it’s a coping mechanism (used to momentarily escape the stress of being human).

At best, it’s a lifestyle (to be embraced and celebrated openly).

The Truth: Porn harms lots of people. First, because of its addictive nature (see Lie #2) it harms the person looking at it, resulting in depression, isolation, anxiety, and low self-esteem. The irony is that this “quick fix” for loneliness causes deeper loneliness.

Second, porn use harms relationships. It breeds secrecy, mistrust, anger, and insecurity. Over half of all divorces involve one or more individuals who compulsively use online porn. Sometimes porn use leads to other “acting out” behaviors which result in other serious consequences - everything from disease, to job loss, to prison.

Third, porn harms the people who appear in it. What the multibillion dollar industry likes to tout as “entertainment” is, in reality, driven by a world of drugs, coercion, violence, and human trafficking.

Lie #2: Pornography is not addictive.

The Problem: Ask someone who has tried to stop.

The Truth: Porn rewires the brain. Just like alcohol, tobacco, or drugs, porn floods the brain with powerful chemicals (dopamine, serotonin, epinephrine, oxytocin) and actually creates new “pleasure pathways” in the brain, connecting the experience of pleasure with viewing these images. New scientific evidence (including MRI imaging) shows that these pathways are strengthened with each usage, making it harder and harder NOT to go back. Furthermore, over time the brain develops a tolerance for these chemicals, making it necessary to find more porn, find it more often, or find a more extreme version in order to feel the same effect or even just to feel normal.

Lie #3: Pornography is helpful.

realistic anatomy and physiology to what women truly find desirable/enjoyable). Nine out of ten porn scripts depict violence/abuse and/or demeaning/humiliating behavior toward women (and depict the women as either neutral or approving).

Porn not only normalizes a warped view of sexuality, it glorifies it.

Furthermore, as opposed to improving intimacy in relationships, porn often leads to alienation. As the brain connection between images and arousal is strengthened, the connection between a live human being and arousal is diminished. For a growing number of porn users (of all ages), this is translating into a struggle to perform sexually with a real person in a real relationship.

Lie #4: Pornography is only a man’s issue.

The Problem: We have been taught that men are only visual, only sexual. And that women are only emotional, only relational. This is simply not true.

The Truth: Men and women become hooked on pornography in much the same way: exposure, escalation, desensitization, further escalation, feeling out of control. For women, however, the shame is greater due to the fact that we have been told “women don’t have this problem.” The truth is that porn use by women and girls is pervasive and growing. Experts estimate anywhere from 17-37% of porn addicts are female.

Lie #5: Pornography will not affect us if we ignore it.

The Problem: The largest demographic of online porn users is now 12-17 years old. This is critical because their brains are developing - laying down those pathways that set up long term patterns of behavior. The average age of first exposure is 11 (90% stumble across it while doing homework on the internet).

A full 71% of teens hide online behavior from their parents, and at least one out of five mobile device searches is for porn. These statistics cut across all religious, ethnic, and socioeconomic lines.

The Truth: While pornography has been around forever, the massive proliferation of porn that we are experiencing today is unprecedented in human history. A word to baby boomers: this is not your daddy’s Playboy magazine. Not that daddy’s Playboy was harmless, but it was extremely tame compared to what children are seeing today on their phones. Hardcore pornography has never been so available, so affordable, so anonymous, and so popular.

High-speed internet porn has been around for just over 2 decades.

What we are seeing now is the tip of the iceberg - the first ripples of a tidal wave of damage that is to come if we continue to pretend it doesn’t exist.

My goal in addressing this topic is not to judge, blame, criticize, or change anyone. My goal is to raise awareness and start a conversation - to educate and encourage anyone who has been affected by pornography. You see, there is another set of lies - those that invade the mind and heart of someone affected by porn whether it is someone else’s behavior or our own (“I am deeply flawed.” “I am not enough.” “I can’t talk to anyone about this.”

“I can never be free, healed, whole.”).

The Problem: This theory claims that pornography educates us about sexuality, makes us better lovers, and increases our enjoyment of real sex.

This series (The Elephant Chronicles) has always been about freedom. The good news is that there is freedom (and hope!) for anyone who has been affected by this issue. There is healing in Our Healer.

The Truth: Porn is doing the exact opposite. First of all, it is misinforming an entire generation about sex (everything from

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Fixing All Dents, Big and Small

By Denise Heidel

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ast July, I was driving in Thruway Shopping Center when someone unexpectedly backed their car in front of me. My immediate thought (besides a stream of expletives), was “I cannot afford a repair job!” As is usually the case when these situations happen, it’s never a good time. The latest Forsyth Woman Engaged! issues had arrived that very afternoon and I was trying to make as many deliveries as possible before I left two days later for a trip to Virginia. A friend tried to optimistically convince me that perhaps it was a good thing! “You need to slow down, Denise!” Those of you who know me know that when I’m in the middle of crunch time and juggling a lot of projects, “slow down” is not in my vernacular.

TJ’s Body Shop has been a Forsyth Woman advertiser for years, so I was familiar with the name and knew several people who had gone to them for various touch-ups and repairs. After calling my insurance company and verifying that I could take my car to whichever repair shop I wanted, I called on Tim Johnson, the owner of TJ’s Body Shop.

Tim has a very calm demeanor about him, and with almost 30 years of experience in car repair under his belt, he’s someone you know you can trust. I took my car over to his shop and sat in his office as he talked about the various parts that were going to be needed to repair the car. While none of it made sense to me, I was confident in his abilities. Moreover, I felt that with all that had to be replaced and repaired, I was being presented with a very fair quote. My insurance company had required a 2nd quote and Tim offered a better price. Even a local representative for the insurance company told me that they would prefer to work with TJ’s Body Shop!

I made arrangements to leave the car with him while I was gone to Virginia and when I returned the following Monday, my cute little car sat waiting for me, pristinely repaired, and looking as if the whole experience had just been a bad dream.

Tim has been my hero since that day. Besides the stress of a very long to-do list and the added frustration of dealing with insurance drama and a car accident, Tim’s expertise and guidance kept me from being totally overwhelmed.

Because dealing with this sort of incident is definitely NOT my thing (these kinds of situations can bring out my inner 10 year old who wants her mommy).

I was, and remain, so grateful to him for all that he did to make a bad experience as painless as possible.

Forsyth Family publisher, Robin Bralley, has also been in need of Tim’s service.

“When Tim repaired my car, I was very impressed with the quality of service.

He didn’t use sub-standard parts, but made sure my vehicle was restored to what it was before the accident. I’ve recommended TJ’s Body Shop to many of my family and friends!”

Tim is proud of his team’s quality work. Combined, Tim and his team (Brad and Steve) have over 100 years experience and knowledge, which helps put customers at ease. After all, they know they are bringing their cars to the experts! It’s for these very reasons that TJ’s Body Shop has been in business as long as it has. Tim shares, “It’s been a wonderful experience because I’ve been in business long enough that I’m working on some of my client’s grandchildren’s cars now.”

When in an accident, you have a right to choose who repairs your car (don’t let your insurance company tell you differently!). From framework to dent repair to collision work, to matching paint colors, TJ’s Body Shop is THE place to go when you want work done right the first time.

And by the way, 60% of Tim’s clientele are women. They return to him because they know they can trust him to take care of their cars at a fair rate with excellent work and service. I know one thing for certain – if I’m in need of body work again – no questions asked, I’m going to TJ’s Body Shop.

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Giving Back for the Good of Others

A Home for the Homeless in North Carolina

By Rachel Glasser

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ne of the great stories of our time goes that there was once a father who believes he has lost his son. The Prodigal Son, we often call him, he runs away from home, spending all the money his father has on trappings that do not last. When he realizes his mistake, he returns to his father’s home, bruised and broken. Expecting to be rejected, his father instead welcomes him home saying, “My son was lost, and now he is found.” As with any truly great story, this one teaches us many lessons about ourselves and how we should relate to others. In this story, we not only learn the danger of greed, we also learn the importance of second chances and of love that holds no conditions.

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The good news is that this kind of human love exists in the world outside of stories. I found it when I spoke to staff at The Shepherd’s House, a community-supported home for the homeless in Mount Airy. An organization maintained entirely through donated labor, amenities and time, The Shepherd’s House is a labor of love by the community of Mount Airy. When asked the motivation behind this important work, Board Chairman Bob Meinecke offered a simple question in response. He asked, “What else are we supposed to do as Christians but reach out to those in need?”

One of the only long-term homeless relief programs in Surry County, The Shepherd’s House offers a 90-day program of rehabilitation that works to accomplish this commitment. Their program is based on a mentorship model, staff in the house building relationships with tenants and, together, working towards mutually established goals. “We don’t care where they’ve come from, or what they’ve done,” said Susan Cockerham, client relations specialist at the house. “When they come, they have a clean slate.”

As the staff at The Shepherd’s House tells it, faith is an essential part of what keeps the organization running; church donations furnish everything from house amenities to clothes and other basic necessities tenants take with them when they leave. “Everything is donated by somebody,” said Cockerham. “Without community involvement, we wouldn’t be here.”

However, despite the important work being done at the house, the staff adamantly asserts the need for increased aid for the homeless in the Triad area, the available resources unable to meet the growing demand. The Shepherd’s House is unable to accommodate single men due to space constraints, and Meinacke says they are not alone. “Right now, there is not a shelter or a regular resource for the men in the community who are having the same issues that everybody else does,” said Meinacke.

The staff at the house also underscores the need for a local domestic violence shelter, a decrease in funding forcing The Shepherd’s House to close down their own organization. “We regretted that we had to give it up,” said Meinacke.

“There are people who are trying to raise awareness, but there’s a strong need for a domestic violence shelter right now.”

Though at times these needs seem almost insurmountable, for Susan Cockerham, it is the few tenants that reach success that make it all worthwhile. She tells the story of a recently graduated family that was brought from an unlivable home to The Shepherd’s House. She says that now the kids are excelling in school, the father has a steady job and the mother is managing her disability. “Stories like that just make you smile,” said Cockerham.

According to The North Carolina Coalition to End Homelessness, in 2014, 11,448 people found themselves homeless. 1,333 of those people were chronically homeless, and 2,475 were children. So often these people are virtually invisible in the eyes of the community, for it is easy to ask what one person can do in the face of such overwhelming odds. The answer The Shepherd’s House would offer is that it takes a village, a community of likeminded and generous individuals, to change the lives of those in need.

To find out more about ways to get involved or where to send donations, connect with The Shepherd’s House Mount Airy on Facebook, or call 336.786.1420.

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There are countless problems you encounter on a daily basis that can put a little speed bump in your day. Life hacks are those “a-ha!” moments where you find the simplest solution to your daily problems, oftentimes using items immediately at your disposal.

Each month this column will take you through some creative hacks to use in all different areas of your life to make your day-to-day as simple as possible. This month we’ll check out some hacks that are going to make your tech life so much easier!

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When you travel somewhere unfamiliar, it’s easy to get overwhelmed with all the newness and forget where you parked the car. Luckily, there’s a simple fix for this! Simply grab your phone and open your maps app. Just drop a pin when you’re parked and come back to it when it’s time to leave.

2. Upgrade your battery Batteries are expensive and, for 2 some reason, easily forgotten when you make a run to the store. So you’re home and it’s too late for a run to the store or you’re in an emergency situation. If you only 4 have AAA batteries but need AA, grab some tin foil and roll two pieces into a ball shape. Place the tinfoil pieces where the negative end of your battery connects. This should make your remote or device work and will serve as a short term solution.

3. A readable screen anywhere So, it’s a nice day outside and you want to take your laptop out and do your work in the fresh air. With the sun beating down on your screen, it can be difficult to read your important documents. There’s a trick for this though! For Mac users, you can just press “Control” + “Option” + “Command” + “8” and the colors on your screen will invert. For PC users, you’ll need to click or hover on your start menu and type “magnifier” in the search bar and select the magnifier program. Once the program opens it will automatically zoom, so reduce your zoom, select the gray gear icon and select color inversion. Voila!

4. A fun distraction While this might not be a hack to make life simpler, it’s an awesome trick that helps you in those moments of boredom. Simply open Google’s search bar and type in Atari Image Breakout and then click search. It will take you straight to an awesome old-school Atari game that you can play at no cost!

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5. Find your silent phone Losing your phone can be nerve-wracking but losing your phone after you’ve left it on silent is just downright impossible. Luckily there are tricks to help you find your elusive essential gadget.

For Android users, simply get on your PC or Mac and go to Play.google.com, click on the little gear at the right hand corner 3 of the screen and select Android device manager from the drop down menu. You’ll need to log into your Google account and then you can choose the correct device and make it ring. The phone will ring for five minutes unless interrupted.

For iPhone users, go to icloud.com and sign in. You’ll need to have set up iCloud features to include your mobile device in advance in order for this to work. Once you have logged 5 in, you should see your Apple devices and you can choose to play a sound. The sound will play immediately for two minutes if it’s online.

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LOCAL VOCALS

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The Deluge

he Deluge describes themselves as ‘An amalgam from start to finish, Roots meets Soul in the House of the Rising Sun.’ Their self-description continues with ‘a whirling dervish of a band that possesses a kinetic energy in their live show that will leave audiences swooning long afterwards….Blending roots, rock and soul, The Deluge’s unique sound captures the essence of many musical styles.’

Well, if that doesn’t get you interested in seeing these guys in concert, then maybe knowing a little about their personal backgrounds will!

Brandon Knox-Singer/Songwriter & Harmonica A Winston-Salem, NC native, Brandon Knox credits his musical influences to Darrel Scott and hearing his album Theater of the Unheard for the first time.

“I knew when I heard Theater of the Unheard that I wanted to write music that was both reflective and personal. It was through Scott’s music that I began to pay attention to the story spinning and poignant themes that happen in American and Folk music.

It was also an added bonus that the dude could croon like no other. Chris (Lord) and I originally started the band for playing gypsy jazz versions of Steely Dan songs. That all changed when we began writing songs of our own. We have since written material that covers many genres, but if we had to put a bow on it, I would say it’s a mixture of roots, rock and soul,” said Brandon.

Brandon Kno x Christopher Lord-Guitar/Keys/Vocals

in Raleigh.

“Our favorite place to play is High Rock Outfitters in Lexington, NC – folks go there for the sole purpose of seeing a live show. Having the opportunity to perform songs we’ve written in front of people is the reason we do what we do. Being able to relate to someone in an intimate listening setting is an amazing feeling. We love to play a fun energetic show, but we also like dialing it back and playing a dirge every now and then.

We have in the works expansion of our series of live videos, The Levee Sessions, to include local friends and favorite musicians and songwriters, because there are tons of great players and songwriters in this area. We are also planning on writing and recording a new album soon, so stay tuned!” said Brandon.

This almost Kernersville-native moved to the area at a young age after being born in Detroit, MI, and has been here for 28 years. He started playing the piano in church. “I’ve been in love with music for what seems to be my entire life.

My music has its roots in the church where I played the piano and then I started playing the guitar when I was 13. Around age 18, I began playing in local bands.

Brandon (Knox) and I have been writing and playing music together since we were teenagers and then in 2009 we formed The Deluge,” Chris commented.

George Westberry-Bass/Vocals Having lived all over the country, but being originally from Florida, George Westberry has been in the Triad area since 1994, with family ties here. George began his performing live at 17, traveling all over the country in a variety of bands, playing different styles of music, from heavy metal to country. “I had been in bands with Brandon and Chris in the past and in 2012 Brandon called and asked me to join The Deluge while we were recording ‘Elephant Graveyard,’ our second CD; our first CD, ‘Cryin’ on the Vine,’ was released in 2010. Our sound is a mixture of Americana and Southern Soul and there’s nothing like sharing the moment and the energy with the audience,” George stated.

The Deluge plays regionally throughout North Carolina, including at Ziggy’s in Winston-Salem and Wilmington, The Blind Tiger in Greensboro, and The Pour House Music Hall

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Both albums are available on the band’s website and through iTunes; a live CD and DVD are also available on the website, too.

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Pavlov and Facebook

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don’t remember what life was like before Facebook. Prior to 2004, did I write letters? Make phone calls? Text? I can’t exactly recall how I kept up with friends. Surely though, it was never in such Technicolor, through such a finely focused lens, as when Facebook arrived on the scene. All of a sudden, the most private and often mundane parts of people’s lives were laid out for our viewing pleasure (or judgment, as the case may be). The voyeuristic nature of Facebook, the socially acceptable equivalent to the nosey neighbor peeking over the hedge, didn’t seem to turn off many of us who fully embraced our online personas.

But what began as simply a great way to keep up with the happenings in friends’ lives, has slowly morphed into a social construct imbedded into the fabric of our society.

We post more than 350 million pictures to Facebook every day. And it’s no longer just Facebook. Now we tweet, Instagram, and Snapchat our daily lives with compulsive regularity. Oh, not everyone (we all love those e-surance commercials making fun of Grandma’s attempts at posting vacation pictures on her “wall” and “unfriending” her companion), but a lot of us.

We spend a copious amount of time posting the highlights of our lives. And only the highlights – so much so that some pages resemble the carefully crafted images found in a big company’s brochure, full of smiling faces and false promises. They are perhaps garnered to create sympathy, gain attention, or generate jealousy. After all, we now don't have to just keep up with the Jones, but also the Smiths, the Andersons, and those thousand other Facebook friends. And if we’re not posting, we’re scrolling through others’ lives, only to emerge three hours later to realize that, while amusing, watching a dog teaching a baby how to use a jumper seat may not be the best use of our time (go ahead and Google it if you missed it – this article will be here when you’re done). It’s all too easy to get sucked into the online world, while this one passes us by. It’s so addictive!

This addiction, says Carr, in his book The Shallows: What the Internet is Doing to Our Brains, is “turning us into lab rats constantly pressing levers to get tiny pellets of social or intellectual

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nourishment.” Like Pavlov’s dogs, drooling in a conditioned response, we keep coming back for more of those little nuggets of positive affirmation with every “like,” with every repost, with every comment. Attention, accolades, powerful stimuli in any circumstance, all at the touch of a button. And the result? Teenagers with carpal tunnel. Strangers catfishing the unsuspecting. It has become a social phenomenon altering the way we live our lives. But why? By projecting our social lives from the privacy of our homes to the public, we hold up our actions to the world’s lens for all to see and judge. And if we live in that spotlight, then we must continually craft an image worthy of it.

I have had several friends go on fasts from Facebook, and even a few leave the social media site altogether, but something draws and keeps most of us plugged in, particularly teenagers, who seem most susceptible to not only displaying addictive behaviors, but also crossing the lines of common sense in the pursuit of attention. What keeps them posting selfies, so many that now telescoping selfie sticks are for sale, including the Belfie that helps you capture the best of your posterior? Is it because in abstaining, as Carr says, “we risk becoming invisible?” Have we all been conditioned to fear the obscurity more than the scrutiny? Maybe, maybe not. Having piloted social media, maybe the next generation can learn from our mistakes. Maybe they’ll understand the merits of discretion. Maybe they’ll neither fear the lens, nor craft their lives for others’ viewing pleasure. Maybe they’ll be more wary of becoming so engrossed online that they miss out on the life playing out in front of them. Maybe they’ll understand that while the highlights of their lives make for good viewing, it’s in the daily and sometimes mundane details that life really happens.

And if the scrutiny is inevitable, maybe they’ll live lives worthy of it. Maybe we’ll all learn to keep our online lives in line with reality, even if not everyone “likes” it.

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Raise a Glass to Irish Literature

By Justin Cord Hayes

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ill in the blank: The Irish are best known for ______.

Many folks might finish the sentence with something like “green beer.” Isn’t that why St. Patrick’s Day is a popular holiday?

It certainly isn’t because of St. Patrick himself. Most of what we know about him is conjecture, and he’s best known for the urban legend that he “banished” all snakes from Ireland. To this day, the island nation doesn’t have serpents.

Yet, when one raises a glass of Guinness on March 17, one might also consider what the Irish have added to the annals of world literature.

Prior to the 20th century, Ireland could boast such writers as Jonathan Swift and Lawrence Sterne. Swift is most famous for his satirical work, Gulliver’s Travels (the actual title of which has Brobdingnagian proportions), which most people—if they think of it at all—think of as a children’s book. It isn’t. In the work, Swift lampoons the minor religious differences that sometimes cause major wars, small-minded people, colonialism, and the nature of human depravity.

Sterne’s most famous novel is the proto-Modernist, Tristram Shandy.

One hundred and fifty years before Ireland’s James Joyce (see below) created a ginormous book, the action of which takes place in one day, Sterne wrote a ginormous book in which its title character recounts his life, beginning with the moment of his conception.

Tristram Shandy isn’t actually born until the third volume of the novel! At one point, Sterne leaves a page mostly blank, imploring the

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reader to fill it in because he, the author, isn’t up to the task.

Ireland’s literary legacy established itself in thunder in the 20th century.

For a relatively small island, it has produced four Nobel Prize-winning authors. One writer who did NOT win that prize, but who most definitely should have, is the aforementioned James Joyce.

His 1922 novel, Ulysses, is still one of the towering landmarks of literature written by anyone in any language. The plot is thin, but the experimental narrative offers more surprises than Ireland offers shamrocks and blarney. The story of Leopold Bloom and his wife, Molly, who ends the book, is often tough-going but worth your effort.

The first Irishman to win the Nobel Prize was the poet William Butler Yeats. Pronounced “yates,” Yeats wrote about Irish themes as well as universal ones, and you will find lines from his works “Sailing to Byzantium” and “The Second Coming” quoted or alluded to in films all over the silver screen.

My other favorite Nobel Prize-winning Irish author is the novelist/playwright Samuel Beckett. He’s best known for the play Waiting for Godot. This absurdist comedy focuses on two characters who wait for a guy named Godot (pronounced Guh-dough), who may or may not be symbolic of God. In Beckett’s work, very little happens at all, yet you’ll find yourself spellbound by his ability to tell a story about nothing. Is he the missing link between high art and Jerry Seinfeld’s popular ‘90s television show?

Poet Seamus Heaney and playwright George Bernard Shaw round out the list of Ireland’s Nobel laureates. I’m not as familiar with their works, but most folks know that Shaw’s Pygmalion is the basis of the popular musical My Fair Lady.

St. Patrick’s Day is undoubtedly for drinking, but in all fairness, it should also be a day on which you introduce yourself to some of the great authors Ireland has produced. After you’ve raised a glass to your friends, offer one up for James Joyce, Lawrence Sterne, or Jonathan Swift.

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Special Events & Live Music: Every Monday & Thurdsay Mike Bustin - 6:30pm-9:30pm March 6 - Double Down - 9pm-12am March 7 - TBA - 8pm-11pm March 13 - Jim Mayberry - 7:30pm-10:30pm March 14 - Mike Bustin - 8pm-11pm March 17 - St. Paddy’s Day - Corn Beef & Cabbage - Green Beer!

March 18 - The Invaders - Beer Specials March 20 - Leather & Lace - 9pm-12am March 21 - Eddie Clayton & Will Jones 9pm-12am March 27 - Jim Mayberry - 7:30pm-10:30pm March 28 - Nishah DiMeo - 7:00pm-10:00pm

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NOW THROUGH MAY 29 (TUESDAYS-SATURDAYS) EXHIBIT: UNDERST&ING OUR PAST, SHAPING OUR FUTURE

10am-4:30pm, Museum of Anthropology, WFU, 1834 Wake Forest Rd. This exhibition focuses on Cherokee language & culture, using audio recordings as the basis for presenting a story in words & text. www.moa.wfu.edu

NOW THROUGH AUGUST 29 (TUESDAYS-SATURDAYS) EXHIBIT: AT HOME ON THE PLAINS

10am-4:30pm, Museum of Anthropology, WFU, 1834 Wake Forest Rd. This exhibit showcases Plains Indians objects from MOA’s permanent collection. www.moa.wfu.edu

NOW THROUGH NOVEMBER 28 (SATURDAYS) TOUR DE FOOD

1:30-4pm, downtown W/S. Explore the culinary delights & taste the best of downtown W/S You will enjoy everything from local desserts to down home BBQ while you meet the chefs, owners & artisans who create it all.

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5:45pm-9:30am, 400 W Hanes Mill Rd in WS. Overnight camp-in includes activities related to Scout requirements.

This year’s theme is “Native Americans.” $40/camper.

Scout leaders are free; additional adults $15. Visit www.sciworks.org for more info & to register.

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BRAIN POWER DAY

10am-1pm, 390 S Liberty St in WS. A day of engaging, hands-on activities geared toward teaching your child (& you) all about our amazing brains! Brought to you by the WFU Brain Awareness Council as a part of Brain Awareness Season. www.childrensmuseumofws.org

WILL PAINT FOR FOOD – ART SHOW & SALE BENEFITTING MEALS-ON-WHEELS

10am-5pm, 2895 Shorefair Drive in WS. Top-flight area artists will show & sell their work to help Meals-onWheels. Proceeds will benefit the homebound elderly. A variety of media at all price levels will be available for purchase. www.seniorservicesinc.org

MARCH 7-8 VINEYARDS OF SWAN CREEK ASSOCIATION WINE & CHEESE CELEBRATION 11am-5pm, 450 Groce Rd in Ronda. Join the Vineyards of Swan Creek as each vineyard pairs one of its wines with a unique, local cheese. www.raffaldini.com

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1-3pm, 450 Groce Rd in Ronda. The beautiful & complex flavors found in wine are amplified when paired with complimentary foods. 526.1078. $30/person.

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10am-4pm (T-F); 10am-5pm (Sat.); 12-5pm (Sun.), 400 W Hanes Mill Rd in WS. This interactive maze experience engages visitors through scientific inquiry as they "become" raindrops traveling to the sea & learn how to contribute to healthy, safe water in their community & beyond.With museum admission. www.sciworks.org

11am-12pm, 390 S Liberty St in WS. Enjoy structured activities like dancing, games, parachute play, obstacle courses & more. www.childrensmuseumofws.org

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11:30am-1:15pm, Anderson Center, WS State University.

Lunch & panel discussion. $25/person. www.leadershipws.org

10am-2pm, Jerry Long Family YMCA, Peacehaven Rd in Clemmons. Vendor booths & activities for kids. Free event. www.lewisville-clemmons.com

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MARCH 5-7 MOUNT TABOR UMC CLOTHING EXCHANGE

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MARCH 12 A COMMUNITY CONVERSATION WITH FORSYTH COUNTY’S NEWEST EDUCATION LEADERS

SCIWORKS AFTER DARK: “BREWING & DISTILLING”

5:30-8:30pm, 400 W Hanes Mill Rd in WS. Sample brews from Foothills, Hoots Roller Bar, Natty Greene’s, Appalachian Mountain Brewery & Olde Mecklenberg.

Demos by Forsyth Home Brewer’s Association & Mayberry Spirits Distillery. Refreshments by The Porch. $18-$23/person. www.sciworks.org

GIRLS' NIGHT OUT

5:30pm…until! Five Points, 109 S Stratford Rd in WS. Grab a friend, neighbor, co-worker, mother, sister, SOMEBODY & have a much need Girls’ Night Out. Enjoy drink & dinner features as well as a Girls’ Night Out signature cocktail. Also, register for TONS of prizes & giveaways! Receive an extra ticket for canned food donations you bring to donate to the Second Harvest Food Bank. Sponsored by Forsyth Woman, Forsyth Woman Engaged! & Five Points.

“LET’S TALK!” PARENTING COMMUNITY FORUM

6:30-8pm, Meadowlark Elementary School, 401 Meadowlark Drive in WS. Numerous professionals in our community will be available to share info, answer questions & encourage parents in all seasons of life.

Childcare available. www.gathergrowgo.org/lets-talk

MARCH 12-14 GLENN VIEW BAPTIST PRESCHOOL CHILDREN’S CONSIGNMENT SALE

Hours vary. 4275 Glenn Hi Rd in WS. Large selection of children's clothing, shoes, toys, games, books & furniture for sale. Many items are half price on 3/14. Benefits Glenn View Baptist Preschool. www.glennview.org

MARCH 13-14 FRIEDBERG MORAVIAN CHURCH’S SPRING CHILDREN’S CONSIGNMENT SALE

Times vary, 2178 Friedberg Church Rd in WS. Children's clothing, toys, books, shoes, baby equipment, maternity & more! consignmentsale@friedbergmoravian.org.

MARCH 14 CAROLINA CROSS CONNECTION MORNING WATCH 5K & FAMILY FUN RUN

9-11:30am, 3376 Middlebrook Dr. in Clemmons. Run to benefit Carolina Cross Connection (CCC). Held in the Clemmons West subdivision in Clemmons. Runners & walkers will meet at the Clemmons West pool shelter prior to the event. www.ccc5k.org

MARCH 19 12TH ANNUAL PARTNERS IN HOPE FUNDRAISER

5:30-9:30pm, Benton Convention Center, 301 W 5th St. Annual fundraiser hosted by Catholic Charities of Charlotte that raises money to support local programs in the Piedmont Triad that provide life-transforming services that fight poverty & support local families. ccdoc.org

MARCH 19-21 “THE SOUND OF MUSIC”

7pm (19th-20th); 2pm (21st), West Forsyth High School in Clemmons. The West Forsyth Performing Arts Department will be presenting the Rodger's & Hammerstein classic, “The Sound of Music.” Tickets are $7 at the door.

MARCH 21 THE JUNIOR LEAGUE OF WINSTON-SALEM’S 10TH ANNUAL TOUR OF FINE SPACES

10am-4pm, locations vary. Interior designers, cabinetmakers, flooring specialists, architects & builders come together to present a showcase of select homes in the area. Food from area restaurants will also be available at each stop. $30/person. www.jlws.org/touroffinespaces

MARCH 21-22 JULIE GUDMESTAD WORKSHOP AT SUNRISE YOGA STUDIO

SPRING SHOPPING EXTRAVAGANZA

10am-5pm, 6000 Meadowbrook Mall Court, Suite 1 in Clemmons. Julie offers an asana workshop with anatomy sprinkled in. The focus will be on the hips & pelvis on Saturday & the upper back & shoulders on Sunday. For students with at least one year yoga experience & no active injuries. $180-$200/person. www.sunriseyoga.net

HISPANIC LEAGUE INTERNATIONAL WINE TASTING

MARCH 28 FRIEDBERG MORAVIAN CHURCH’S CHICKEN PIE, BAKE SALE & BAZAAR

10am-3pm, 6490 Shallowford Rd in Lewisville. Children's book author Michele Marlene Manderine will be at the Lewisville Friends Of The Library's Spring Shopping Extravaganza. Michele will have products for sale.

6:30-8pm, 601 North Trade St in WS. $15-$20/person. www.hispanicleague.org/international-wine-tasting-2015

MARCH 15 FORSYTH FAMILY EXPO

1-5pm, Winston-Salem Fairgrounds, Education Building.

VENDORS: Register for the Forsyth Family Expo, formerly the Forsyth Family Summer Camp Expo. We have a new name & venue & tons of new opportunities to meet your target audience! FAMILIES: Stay tuned! You're going to love this event! www.tinyurl.com/2015FFExpoVendors

TRAILER STASH FABRICS GRAND OPENING EVENT 1-5pm, 168 East Kinderton Way in Bermuda Run. Grand opening of a mobile fabric retailer based out of a restored Vintage 1963 Shasta Travel Trailer. Catering to modern sewist with a special selection of fabric, patterns & notions. www.trailerstashfabrics.com

MARCH 16 KIDS’ MORNING OUT

10-11:30am, Salem Gymnastics, 4870 Country Club Rd in WS. FREE event for kids of all ages! Grab a friend & bring the kids for a morning of fun at the indoor soccer facility! Come see all Salem Gymnastics has to offer with a variety of individual activity stations. Each adult attendee will receive four tickets for our fabulous prize board! 765.4668

WRITING FOR YOUNG ADULTS WITH BESTSELLING AUTHORS

7-9pm, Drama Workshop, Elberson Fine Arts Center, Salem College. This event will feature four bestselling & award-winning young adult authors. A collaboration between Salem Academy & College & Bookmarks, guests will hear these authors speak & answer questions about their novels & writing. www.facebook.com/events/510831309057768

MARCH 17 SIP INTO SPRING WITH WINE & PAINTING AT THE BRIAR PATCH

6pm, The Lil’ Briar Patch, 2055 Van Buren St in WS. Make plans now to attend! 768.6990

10TH ANNIVERSARY

8am-2pm, 2178 Friedberg Church Road in W-S. Preorder frozen, unbaked chicken pies for $12 each at ChickenPieSale@friedbergmoravian.org. Bazaar featuring naked goods, handmade crafts and many other local vendor items. Breakfast and lunch items will be available.

SATURDAY MARCH 21, 2015 10:00am – 4:00pm

Junior League Tour of Fine Spaces

HIPPITY HOPPI-TEA PARTY

10:30am-12:30pm, 390 S Liberty St in WS. Celebrate spring with fun crafts, fluffy bunnies & delicious sweet treats! Real bunnies will be on h&, dressed up in costume for your child to hold. Mrs. Cottontail will assist children in petting & holding bunnies. $14.95/member; $19.22/nonmember. www.conta.cc/1CvEOah

MARCH 31 UNCG MEMORY DEVELOPMENT LAB RECRUITMENT EVENT

10am-12pm, 390 S Liberty St in WS. In collaboration with the D.U.C.K. (Development & Understanding of Children’s Learning) Lab, the MDL conducts studies of social & cognitive development with young children. www.childrensmuseumofws.org

ADVANCE $30

DAY OF TICKETS $35

SEUSSIBRATION

10am-1pm, 390 S Liberty St in WS. Make fun crafts, get your face painted & listen to silly Seuss stories!

Free with museum admission or membership. www.childrensmuseumofws.org

For more information visit: www.jlws.org/touroffinespaces

FUTURE APRIL 18 SHREDDING EVENT SPONSORED BY THE BERMUDA RUN GARDEN CLUB

10am-1pm, 120 Kinderton Blvd (off Highway 158), Bermuda Run Town Hall Parking Lot. $5 per brown grocery bag, equivalent size box or hard drive. Cash only.

Proceeds go to various Davie County community programs that the Garden Club supports. 650.5518

TO INCLUDE EVENT/PROMOTION, VISIT FORSYTHWOMAN.COM & SUBMIT AN EVENT THROUGH THE CALENDAR LINK.

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All Things Carolina

By Rebecca Olsen

How well do you know your home state of North Carolina?

Take the quiz below to find out!

1. Name the state bird.

2. What is North Carolina’s capital city?

3. Who is the current Governor of NC? 4. Name the state amphibian.

5. What famous pirate resided in Beaufort County?

6. What is the tallest mountain in NC? 7. Name the three presidents born in NC. 8. What crop is NC famous for?

9. What is the largest city in NC? 10. What is the state flower?

11. Name the state sea shell.

12. Andy Griffith’s fictional Mayberry was based on this real town.

13. Name the state dog.

14. What image is depicted on the state quarter?

15. What is the state tree?

16. Who was the state capital named for?

17. What are the two most common nicknames for NC? 18. What is the state vegetable?

19. What phrase can be found on the NC license plate?

20. What is the state wildflower?

21. Who was North Carolina named for?

Score Bona fide Native (15-21 correct): You are a proud North Carolinian with knowledge of your home state that suggests you were born and raised here or at least did an NC project in the fourth grade!

Backwoods Tarheel (10-15 correct) : You’ve lived here your whole life, but you know a lot more about the best way to catch a possum and where all the best fishing holes are than the state flower. Your knowledge of NC is more practical than academic.

Yankee Transplant (5-10 correct): You came for the weather and stayed for the sweet tea – now it’s time to get to know your new home state and make it your own!

Dadburnit! (0-5 correct): If you have been living in this wonderful state and don’t know just how fabulous it is, it’s time to strap on those hiking boots and get to exploring all the wonderful things NC has to offer!

1. The cardinal; 2. Raleigh; 3. Pat McCrory; 4. Eastern Box Turtle; 5. Edward Teach, known as Blackbeard; 6. Mount Mitchell at 6,648 feet above sea level; 7. Andrew Jackson, Andrew Johnson, and James K. Polk; 8. Tobacco; 9. Charlotte; 10. The dogwood tree blossom; 11. Scotch bonnet; 12. Mount Airy; 13. The plott hound; 14. The Wright brothers’ first flight at Kitty Hawk; 15. The pine tree; 16. Explorer Sir Walter Raleigh; 17. The Old North State and the Tarheel State; 18. The sweet potato; 19. First in Flight; 20. The Carolina Lily; 21. King Charles I

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Salem Academy....................................109

Ivy Arch ..................................................89

Salem Funeral Home...............................83

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Salem Smiles Orthodontics.....................87 Salemtowne Retirement Center ...............53 Sewingly Yours .......................................97 Sharon L. Reid, DDS, PA.........................17 Shelton Vineyard .....................................77 Simply Sterling & Company ....................77 Singing Bird Salon.................................125 Smokin’ Harley Davidson ........................75

Kelley Carnall - Rodan+Fields ..............119

Southern Ties Boutique .............................3

Kingery & Kingery...................................31

Sparrow’s Nest .....................................113

Kinnamon’s.............................................41

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Leather & Lace Acoustic Duo .................93

Style Encore............................................75 Summit Eye Care ....................................16

201 Media...............................................79

Diet Center ............................................119

Lewisville Laser & Aesthetics..................10

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Lil’ Briar Patch.........................................57

Dream Dinners........................................93

Lyndhurst Gynecologic Associates ...........4

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Accent Prone ............................................5 Accessorize This!....................................27 Aesthetic Images ....................................48

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Sunrise Yoga...........................................87

Thruway Center.......................................61 Tina S. Merhoff & Associates .................27

Alexander’s Automotive ..........................47

Earheart Healthy Weightloss ...................23

Mainstream Boutique ..............................99

Andrea Robinson, DDS ...........................12

Electrolysis, Etc.....................................124

Mary’s Professional Cleaning................109

TJ’s Body Shop ..............................85, 125

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Midtown Cafe & Dessertery....................33

Today & Tomorrow Interiors....................99

etc. Consignment Shoppe / etc. Home....31

Monkee’s ................................................55

Todd’s Easy Moves.................................85

Event Trio ..............................................119

Moonlight Designs ................................105

Twin City Style.........................................97

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Bob Holtzclaw - Certified Appraiser.......125

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Brenner Fit...............................................43

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Fashion Exchange ...................................79

New Town Bistro...................................113

Burklee Printing .......................................69

Financial Divorces, LLC / Forefront

Next Step Career Coaching .....................87

Busy as a Bee Concierge......................111

Investment Counselors............................79

Novant Health Midwifery Associates.......19

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Novartis ..................................................71

Five Points...............................................39

NuExpression..........................................73

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Castle Lights ...........................................29 Chermak & Hanson Orthodontics ...........83 Chris’ Lawncare....................................111 Christina’s Dessertery...........................105

Forsyth Plastic Surgery ...........................37 Fourth & Trade ......................................119

Mountain Valley Hospice.........................91

Oasis on 5th............................................97

U “U” Bounce Party Rentals.....................124

V VCA Animal Hospital West ......................69 Vienna Village..........................................63 Village Inn Event Center...........................67 Vow to Be Different ...............................101

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Fresh Air Carpet Care ............................124

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Winston-Salem Journal.........................125

Craige Brawley Liipfert & Walker, LLP.....25

Goin’ Postal ..................................107, 125

Parr Investments .....................................63

WomanCare ............................................57

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Clemmons Bicycle Shop.......................111

Winston Wellness ...................................67

Penny Lane Boutique ..............................81

Women’s Wellness & Fitness................113

Piedmont Advantage Credit Union...........45

WS Dash...................................................7

Piedmont CLub .....................................119

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Hakka Chow............................................95

Prints Charming Photo Booth................113

Dawson Tree Service....................111, 124

Handpicked Consignments ...................109

Professional Women of Winston-Salem115

Yadkin Arts Council...............................101

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1. How did you pick up the fiddle? Did you know you'd become a musician as a child? How did you choose Celtic style music? “I started playing the violin in the 4th grade. I always wanted to play the piano but lessons were not in the picture. As the youngest of 5 children, in a working class family, my mother was very resourceful. I was lucky enough that our public school system had a wonderful orchestra teacher offering group lessons. That’s when I really started learning the violin. Through him I developed a love of music that has passed down to my children. My education in the violin continued as they picked up instruments – I learned music with them. I like to joke that I am a 26 year veteran of the Suzuki Method.

I am proud to say everyone in my family has gone on to some type of career in the music business, I still credit public education with my Kelly Melang always gets the last word with the women of Winston-Salem!

start. The Celtic part? Both sides of my family are Scottish/Irish, dating back to arriving by boat.”

2. What advice would you give women thinking about getting into the music business? “Today’s climate is good. If your passion is there, you will find the opportunity suited to you. It takes persistence, setting goals, and of course, talent. Successful musicians know that working hard and being diverse are key elements to a successful career.”

3. What do you think is the greatest obstacle for women today in the music business? “Lack of funding in the arts community, not just music, but all arts. Children develop a love of art and music at an early age – having programs in place to develop that talent would be wonderful. Winston-Salem has a wonderful arts-based community, and I would love to see that grow.”

4. What sets you apart from other musicians? “What sets me apart is that I love to help others nurture their gifts while learning on my own. In teaching and learning with students and my children, not only has it made me a better musician, but it also supports them as well. I’ll never stop learning. I’m back at that piano, and playing on the dulcimer.”

5. What would you like your legacy to say? “My greatest legacy is my family – I’m basically a homespun girl. I’ve been married for 42 years, with three beautiful children. It is such a joy playing with them. Almost all of my family plays multiple instruments. My 2 ½ year old granddaughter is already picking up instruments. My legacy

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Debbie Morris

s our thoughts turn to the “wearing of the green” on St. Patrick’s Day, The Last Word was able to catch up with Debbie Morris, of The Morris Family Music, a five-piece family band of Irish musicians. The Morris family members not only play many different instruments, Debbie Morris’ husband also restores and makes stringed instruments, showing a love of music at all levels. Debbie was back from a trip to Asheville, and was gracious enough to give us a few minutes.

is my love of music.”

6. Where would you like to see women in the music business in 5 years? “I’d love to see higher paying opportunities, more support for local musicians, more venues to showcase their talent.

Of course I’d also love to see more financial support of the School of the Arts and local arts communities.”

8. What is your guilty pleasure? “I can’t think of a guilty pleasure.

My pleasure is my music and I am blessed to be able to indulge in that daily. It makes me happy.”

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