Forsyth Woman - December 2018

December 2018

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The View From This Side DECEMBER 2018 page. While I’m sure I’ll provide updates in the View each month, if you’re interested in keeping up with my treatments and progress, my Caring Bridge page is Caringbridge.org/visit/keelajohnson1.

Moving on to more positive things – did you notice our new logo? If you missed it, just hold your finger here and close the cover really quick… I’ll wait… Isn’t it fabulous?!

Our artist, Aron Daniels of Emerson Designs, created our fresh new logo, and we LOVE it. We are so excited about this clean and crisp design. We hope you love it, too!

Don’t worry – nothing else has changed.

It’s still the same great content you expect from Forsyth Magazines, but with just a little makeover in the logo department.

Dear Readers, Merry Christmas! I hope this month brings you great joy and happiness as we prepare for the Christmas holidays and prepare to welcome in a new year!

I’ve always been transparent with our readers, sharing what is going on in the lives of my husband and our children. And this issue is no different, but I admit it’s going to be some hard news to share. In late October, as we were starting on the December issues, I learned that I have breast cancer. As our monthly readers know, I am a breast cancer survivor, having gone through a double mastectomy in 2007.

However, my lymph nodes were not removed during that surgery, and after finding a lump, I contacted my doctor immediately and learned that there are cancer cells. My oncologist and surgeon are very optimistic, as am I, and while no one wants to hear the “c-word,” I know that 1) God is in charge, 2) I have a great medical team, and 3) I have a great work team who will be able to help fill in when I have my surgery.

Well, friends, once again, I ask for your prayers and thank you, as always, for reading Forsyth Woman! Please don’t worry – we have a dynamic team in place, and there will not be any interruptions to our publishing schedule. I am blessed to have so many I can trust – loyal account executives, amazing writers, and incredible advertiser supporters.

Thank you for reading, and as always, please make sure you let our advertisers know you saw them in this month’s issue!

“Talk” to you next year!

Keela

I tell you all of this because I covet your prayers in the days and weeks to come. At this time, I really don’t have additional news to share, but I have started a Caring Bridge

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MERRY CHRISTMAS FROM SUMMIT EYE CARE

BY VIC KHEMSARA, MD

Thank you to all the readers of Forsyth Woman and their families for taking the time to review our articles on a monthly basis. Summit Eye Care wishes each of you a Merry Christmas and a happy, healthy 2019.

At this season of the year we tend to take more time to reflect on the many blessings we have, and there are many to be thankful for at Summit Eye Care. This year has brought numerous wonderful experiences, many as a result of our readers and patients.

Our thoughts turn to giving a thank you to the Optometric Community for allowing Summit Eye Care to assist with the care of their patients over the past year. The referrals and the relationships which have been developed are appreciated. We are also very thankful to the primary care physicians who have continued to partner with us and have entrusted their patients’ care to us.

Most of all, we are thankful for each individual who has allowed us to assist in any way with their eye care needs this past year, from a surgical procedure, to an eye care visit, to an insurance question and so on. It is our honor to assist and provide care to each person who comes our way.

We are blessed to be able to offer up-to-date services to our patients and look forward to continuing to do so.

Merry Christmas and May God Bless you and yours in the coming year.

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Why You Should Buy Yourself a Christmas Present

BY TABI FALCONE

As women, we often find ourselves falling into the role of martyr and sacrificing things we want or want to do by putting others’ needs in front of our own. This tendency can increase three-fold around the holidays as women tend to be so passionate about creating lasting memories for our families and those around us. This goes for all women but can be an exceptionally prevalent quality found in mothers. There is nothing wrong with the desire to create amazing memories for those important to you, but it becomes an issue when the happiness of other people is put on a pedestal higher than your own happiness. This is why women should all be getting into the habit of buying themselves a Christmas present.

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Before you dismiss this idea as not in the spirit of Christmas, think really hard about the last time you did something strictly for yourself. This could look like buying yourself something you really want that isn’t necessary (hello, Apple watch!), or having an experience you really wanted just for yourself. If you can think of something off the top of your head within the last month, that is awesome! You may not need this advice. The rest of you, though, probably had a hard time thinking of a concrete example. This is a problem, especially when most women can give a list of presents they will be giving this year for Christmas, and a list of fun experiences they will be creating for their loved ones.

Giving yourself a Christmas present does not always look like wrapping something fun under the tree to pretend to be surprised about. Your personal Christmas gift could be giving yourself permission to do something that you have been wanting to do. Want to go on a solo vacation? Have you been wanting to get a pedicure for the past year and a half and have been using work schedules and personal commitments as an excuse not to make time for it? Give yourself permission to make time for the things you want to do. If you need something a little more substantial than just the promise of making time for yourself, make

yourself a coupon book. Fill this book with things that you have wanted to do over the past year that you never found the time to do. Manicures, pedicures, solo Target trips for the moms in the house, getting a massage, etc.

This is not to say we should use Christmas as an excuse to buy ourselves expensive things we don’t need and can’t afford.

If you really want a Mac laptop and do not have the money for it, you should not say, “Well, it’s Christmas!” and put it on your credit card. However, if you really want a Mac laptop and have been putting it off because you feel like you can’t spend that much money on yourself, even though you have the funds for it without depleting your emergency fund, what is stopping you? If you have children and they were to ask you for something equivalent that they were sufficiently responsible enough to own, would you react the same way as you would if you were buying it for yourself?

You are worthy of being treated, especially by yourself. This is 2018, and you don’t have to, and should not, wait around for somebody to give you something that you can give yourself! As good as it feels to receive a thoughtful gift from another person, it can feel even better to give yourself a gift for the holidays. The feeling of getting yourself something that you earned is priceless, and the knowledge that you did that without guilt is something all women should strive for. So do like Donna Meagle from the hit TV show Parks and Recreation and “Treat yo’ self” with no guilt or shame.

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BODYMIND STUDIO: FITNESS AMONG FRIENDS!

BY MARTIE EMORY

When you hear a client say their experience at your studio is the favorite part of their day, you know you’ve reached your goal of truly changing lives!

Combining a challenging fitness program with a motivating, supportive community has been BodyMind Studio’s owner Kristen Richardson’s enormously successful recipe.

As she and her staff – which includes five other expertly trained instructors – celebrate ten years in business this year, it’s clear her mission is also very personal.

“I am most proud of the strong sense of community we have built with the studio,” explains Kristen. “I’ve always called my clients the “piLadies” (not to worry, gentlemen clients are dubbed “piLaddies”!)

It’s been amazing to see the friendships that have developed and remained steady over the course of a decade, among people who might never have connected otherwise.”

BodyMind Studio provides the full spectrum of body conditioning methods, with something for everyone, ranging from therapeutic to athletic. The combination of Melt Method sessions, traditional Pilates, and the innovative Megaformer classes covers all the bases of physical fitness. They are also the only studio in the Triad to offer Lagree Method classes on the Megaformers.

In case you aren’t Megaformer savvy, here’s the scoop on why the machines are so popular with everyone from stay-at-home moms and college students, to professional athletes and the Hollywood elite: • Everything you need is accomplished in one class: full body strengthening, core work, and cardio.

• During class, each client works on their own M3S Mega – the ultimate training machine.

• Classes are supremely efficient: only 40 minutes long.

• You get the results of a high-intensity workout without high-impact joint pain.

• Are you ready to take on the Mega? The studio offers a “New Client Special” for first-timers: 5 Megaformer classes for $55!

“We’ve had the Megaformers at the studio for about a year and a half,” says Kristen. “They were a great addition to our traditional Pilates offerings since they provide a high-intensity workout for clients looking to add more cardio, while still being low impact on the joints.

The Lagree Method is the only patented workout that effectively combines strength, endurance, cardio, balance, core, and flexibility training not only in one session – but in each and every move!”

For potential clients currently suffering from back pain, joint pain, or any severe medical condition, Kristen recommends starting out with traditional Pilates sessions and working up to taking Megaformer classes. Unlike traditional Pilates, Megaformer does not require starting with private sessions, since classes are designed to be most effective in a small group setting.

“We are, however, more than happy to provide one-on-one instruction if that’s what the client prefers,” says Kristen. “For all new traditional Pilates clients, we require the completion of the Introductory Package which consists of four private sessions before they are able to attend a group class.”

Even as a young entrepreneur, Kristen had her business plan in place, obtaining her first Pilates certification while in college, and opening BodyMind at the age of 23.

“Initially, my plan was to build the business for a year or two and then go to medical school,” says Kristen. “I soon realized that running my own small business and helping people using the Pilates method was very fulfilling, and I had truly found my calling in being a studio owner and instructor.”

Her clients couldn’t agree more!

“Melt and Pilates at BodyMind are the only exercise programs I have stayed with and look forward to each week. Kristen’s excellent skills have kept my 72-year-old body pain free and flexible, which has truly enhanced my life!”

– Lynn E.

“Megaformer is a full-body workout that delivers unprecedented results in just three days a week!”

– Katy L.

“Kristen and the other instructors make Megaformer accessible to people at all fitness levels. I love being pushed to my full potential.”

– Cheryl W.

BodyMind Studio is located at 131 S. Stratford Road at the Stratford Village Shopping Center in Winston-Salem.

For more information on classes, packages, and pricing, please visit their website bodymindws.com or get in touch at info@bodymindws.com.

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Getting Naturally Glam for the Holidays

BY SUSAN SCHABACKER

Everyone is a beautiful work of art, with special features that make every woman unique.

Whether you decide to go as the most natural version of you, sans make-up, or the most dramatic, here are some tips, tricks, and tidbits to look and feel your best and get glam for all your holiday parties this season!

EMBRACE THE TRUE NATURAL YOU

For a more natural makeup look, follow your skincare routine, then apply concealer (optional) BB cream, tinted moisturizer or foundation of your choice. Mix your favorite foundation together with a moisturizer and apply with your fingertips or a sponge. Start with a less-is-more approach and get gradually heavier, depending on the look you’re trying to achieve.

Set your makeup with loose or pressed powder that matches your skin tone by applying it with a brush or sponge. Little to no powder is best for a dewy look, while oily skin looks better with powder. Touch up oilier T-zone areas throughout the evening for a matte finish.

EYEBROWS - PICTURE FRAMES FOR YOUR EYES

Use a wand or brow-grooming brush for elegant eyebrows that frame your eyes. Sweep through your brows with a clear or tinted brow gel. If you are going for a heavier, darker brow look (think Audrey Hepburn or Brook Shields), use a pencil or flat brush to fill in the brows with eye shadow. Finally, run a clean mascara wand through your brows to blend the color and make it more natural looking.

BLUSH ISN’T JUST FOR YOUR CHEEKS!

For a rosier complexion that brings out your natural beauty, use a pressed or loose powder or liquid, but keep in mind that less is more.

Apply the blush to the apples of your cheeks, sweeping diagonally upwards. But that’s not all - blush isn’t just for your cheeks! For a well-rounded, naturally blended look, apply the blush in the shape of a number “3” from the edge of your forehead to your cheekbones, and then to the outline of your lower jaws. You can also apply some blush to your eyelids, at the creases, and blend well for a subtle glow to bring out your eyes.

WANT MORE DEFINITION TO YOUR EYES?

To really accent your eyes, sweep a highlighter color (white or off-white works well) onto the lower part of your eyelids and also underneath the lower ¾ or so, hugging the bottom of your eyebrows to make your eyebrows more defined. Then, for added definition, add a neutral, light-medium shade of brown to the whole crease and blend evenly around your eyes. For a little dose

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of daring drama, add a darker shade of brown to the outer corner of your creases and blend in toward the lash line.

adding a thin line to the outer corner. Opt for the classic “cat eye” look with liquid liner for even more drama.

If you are going for glam, curl your eyelashes for an eye-opening brightereyed look, and apply a coat or two of mascara. To put the emphasis on long lashes, apply false lashes and one or two additional coats of black mascara. Don’t forget to apply mascara to your lower lashes. Use a Q-tip and some olive oil and coconut oil to wipe up any mistakes.

For an au natural look, go for lip balm or lip-gloss.

For more definition, use a lip liner and fill in with lipgloss, lips stain or lipstick. Then, apply a shimmery gloss in a lighter color to the bottom middle of your lips and rub together to create a plumper, fuller look.

Lining your top lash line as close to the lashes as possible will give a fresh look.

Use liquid eyeliner, a pencil or eye shadow mixed with a drop of water, and apply as thinly as possible with a tiny liner brush. Add more definition to your lower lash line by

LOOKING FOR LUCIOUS LIPS?

LET YOUR UNIQUE BEAUTY SHINE THROUGH

No matter what look you go for, feel your most confident just being you, and let your uniqueness shine through. Everyone has natural beauty. Make the most of yours and feel good about the way you look!

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for the future; believing in our parents, teachers and leaders, and that every struggle induces the birth of victory.

A semblance of all seven of these principles creates a happy person and a healthier world to live in; this is, perhaps, the goal of Kwanzaa as well as bringing black lives together.

The Kwanzaa celebration also comprises seven symbols that are honored during the seven days:

A Cultural Holiday

BY BRITTANY M. ORIE

It’s commonly known that Kwanzaa is a pan-African celebration that is also celebrated by many AfricanAmericans who don’t celebrate Christmas. There is a lot to take in about this spiritually-led celebration.

Let’s start with the fact that this is a relatively young holiday in comparison to many traditional ones. It was established in 1966 by Dr. Maulana Karenga, a black studies professor. His aim was to bring African-Americans together after many riots were breaking out in the United States. The name “Kwanzaa” derives from the Swahili phrase matunda ya kwanza, meaning first fruits (or harvest season).

Many are aware that Kwanzaa is celebrated seven days in a row. But why seven days? What does each day mean? First, the number seven has a powerful spiritual representation—it symbolizes completion.

Completion mainly because God created the world in only six days but rested on the seventh day. Each day celebrated during Kwanzaa magnifies on a virtue or ideal personality trait. Each evening during Kwanzaa a candle is lit on the ceremonial candleholder that holds seven candles—called the kinara. Therefore, each evening a different principle is discussed. The seven principles are:

Umoja: unity—striving to keep unity in the family, community, nation, and race.

Kujichagulia: self-determination—to define

oneself, speak for oneself, and pursue dreams for oneself.

Ujima: collective work and responsibility—being selfless, building and maintaining community with those around us and being responsible for our loved ones’ problems and solving them together.

Ujamaa: cooperative economics—supporting businesses that cater to the community.

Nia: purpose—being intentional about setting goals that benefit the community and taking action to materialize those goals.

Kuumba: creativity—finding novel ways to make the community better and more beautiful.

Imani: faith—genuinely believing in a better world

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1.Mazao: crops (fruits, vegetables, and nuts)—these foods symbolize the harvest season. They also signify work, and pose as the basis of the holiday because Kwanzaa was founded on togetherness and the harvest season. During this season, many African folks gather together and partake in harvest festivals to celebrate joy, unity, sharing, and thanksgiving. For Kwanzaa, the crops are placed on a ceremonial mat (the mkeka).

2. Mkeka: placemat—this is either made from straw or cloth and signifies the foundation upon which African lives and communities are built.

3. Vibunzi: ear of corn—the cornstalk

represents fertility and familial growth. As a cornstalk branches off and brings new ears of corn, so does a family tree sprout and create children. Thus, each ear of corn represents children. During Kwanzaa, only one ear of corn is placed on the mat (mkeka) because it signifies each child in the family. If there are no children, one ear of corn is placed on the mat as a reminder

for the parents to be responsible for the children in the village (ever heard of the Nigerian proverb “It takes a village to raise a family”?).

4. Mishumaa Saba: the seven candles—these candles vary in three colors: one black candle sitting in the middle of the kinara, three red candles, and three green candles. The black candle, representing “unity,” is the first lighted candle. Every day during Kwanzaa, a new candle is lit to celebrate one of the seven principles that are to be discussed that evening. Candles are lit every evening until all seven are illuminating.

5. Kinara: candleholder—this represents ancestry and the expansion of the family.

6. Kikombe Cha Umoja: the Unity Cup—celebrants drink from this cup during Kwanzaa to honor their ancestors. The cup is passed around to family members who drink from it as well.

7. Zawadi: gifts—gifts are given to promote growth, learning, and achievement.

Of course, Kwanzaa isn’t intended to replace Christmas, nor is it a religious holiday. Rather it is to promote the celebration of African culture and unity.

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Keeping It Real THE LIES OF LONELINESS

BY DR. DEBBIE LANIER

Finally, loneliness deceives us into believing that every area of our life is sinking, fast. When one piece begins to wobble, we feel as if every piece is crumbling. But hear me: It’s an illusion. It’s a lie.

THEY ARE ALL FLAT-OUT LIES!

They come from the “Father of Lies.” That’s satan’s name. Look it up! (I can’t bring myself to capitalize his name!) This enemy fights to control the conversation in your head because if he gains that access, he hijacks how you see your situation.

Hell intends to wind you into such a selfdefeating, vicious thought-cycle that it pushes you deeper into the pit of despair.

PROLONGED LONELINESS DEPRESSION DETACHMENT DESPAIR

One in five people surveyed admit they are lonely – really lonely.

It surprises me, yet it doesn’t.

Once you arrive at despair’s doorstep, the father of lies has won complete control of your conversations with yourself. The lies play on ‘repeat’ and trap you in a spiral.

We are more linked to each other than at any time since the beginning of time. No matter the geographical divide or passing of time, we can engage relationships from every era of our journey. Previous coworkers…folks from grade school…even distant relatives blitz our social media feeds daily.

Truthfully, seasons of difficulty test our most honest belief about the nature of God. If hell can get us to doubt God’s Presence, then doubt His Goodness, we will ultimately believe every other lie, too.

Ironically, in this excessively connected culture, people have never felt more alone. For many of us, the holidays tend to magnify that struggle.

Listen, Friend! Loneliness is not forever…but regrets are. God has not come to reprimand you for your doubt. He whispers encouragement into your soul this day: “I see you. I hear your every cry. I love YOU, not the façade of you, but YOU. I’m right here, and I’m not going anywhere.”

This sense of detachment is not limited to one demographic. Some studies reveal that college students struggle most with feelings of aloneness. Other research suggests divorcees and single parents combat the severest sense of isolation. Still other reports cite the elderly as those most harshly affected by this pervasive pain.

God said from the beginning, “It’s not good for mankind to be alone.”

He knew that chronic isolation is never healthy. We need moments of solitude to recharge us. (He said that, too!) But when we retreat for prolonged periods of time, our minds begin to play tricks on us. We start buying into the lies of loneliness.

LONELINESS DOESN’T COME FROM BEING ALONE. IT COMES FROM FEELING ALONE.

As we struggle with this consuming emotion, we first convince ourselves that no one understands what we face or how we feel.

Or, if they did get who we really are, they would run for the hills.

Friend, that’s a lie. No, not everyone will understand. But someone will.

Another lie of loneliness? “Things will never get better.” This feels crushing, but it is sheer nonsense. We only remain in the hole if we refuse the help God sends. He promises you that He has good plans for you. He won’t leave you alone. Not a chance!

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DON’T MISS YOUR NEXT BECAUSE YOU DON’T FEEL LIKE YOU CAN HANDLE YOUR NOW!

This Good God has come to speak softly into the secret places of your heart this day, “Your best is not behind you. The most meaningful season of your life is in front of you! You do not walk alone.

Let’s do this together!”

Don’t mourn the life you imagined so long that you miss the life you have and God’s best that is coming.

God is our Shelter and our Strength. When troubles seem near, GOD IS NEARER, and He’s ready to help. So why run and hide? (Psalm 46:1) You can do this! You may feel alone, but you are never alone!

For comments or prayer, contact Dr. Lanier at PastorDebbie@HopeCommunityChurch.tv.

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Midtown Cafe & Dessertery 30 Years, Still Fresh & New!

BY DENISE HEIDEL

For over 30 years, Midtown Cafe & Dessertery has been a community favorite for get-togethers with friends, dinner with the kids, business meetings, and more! After all, when you serve breakfast all day long, have a great lunch and dinner menu, a case full of scratchmade cakes and delectable sweets – it’s pretty much a given that there’s something for everyone! And Midtown Cafe isn’t afraid to mix it up a bit, and offer new seasonal items on the menu!

So, what’s new at Midtown?

Brunch is in… Let’s talk about

Carolina Shrimp ‘n Grits. This hearty meal has quickly become a guest favorite. And it’s little wonder – seasoned grilled shrimp with bacon and sharp white cheddar is served over creamy, stone-ground grits and garnished with green onions. Flavorful and with generous portions, the Carolina Shrimp ‘n Grits is a mouthwatering addition to Midtown’s great selection.

And what brunch is complete without a Mimosa or Bloody Mary? Midtown’s Sake Bacon Bloody Mary definitely heats things up!

And when coffee lover meets pumpkin spice fan – it doesn’t get any better than Midtown’s Pumpkin Spice Cappuccino! YUM!

New on the lunch menu…

Midtown’s crab cakes are so good that even The Little Mermaid’s Sebastian would agree… the crab cakes have migrated from dinner-only to the lunchtime menu and landed themselves on a sandwich! The new Crab Cake Sandwich is a seafood lover’s dream meal! Lump crabmeat makes up the crab cake, which is served with lettuce, tomato, Midtown’s famous remoulade and served on a sesame seed bun!

And you’ve never had a chicken quesadilla quite like Midtown’s! The BBQ Chicken Quesadilla adds a little more south to a southwestern favorite.

Seasoned chicken and bacon are served with cheddar cheese, grilled red onions, and apple BBQ sauce on a tomato basil tortilla.

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What’s for dinner? For the last several years, Midtown Café & Dessertery has diligently worked on expanding their dinner menu offerings, with special attention given to ensure that there’s something for every appetite. From the kid-favorite Mac ‘n Cheese to comfort foods like Pot Roast, Buttermilk Fried Chicken, and the classic Midtown Meatloaf… To more inventive fare, including Cajun Alfredo and Buttermilk Squash Lasagna! With so many options, you’ll have a hard time choosing!

Save room for dessert… Midtown began as a dessertery, and they’ve never lost touch with their affinity for sweets!

Red Velvet Cake and Bourbon Berry Bread Pudding are seasonal favorites available right now, but for those with glutensensitivities – Midtown hasn’t forgotten you! The Gluten-free Torte is so yummy, you won’t miss a thing! And of course, you can never go wrong with a classic – Five Flavor Pound Cake, Italian Cream Cake, and Chocolate Chocolate.

Midtown Café & Dessertery continues to grow and develop in order to meet the modern demands of our time. They recently launched online ordering, including a mobile app for ordering on the go.

Don’t forget catering, including breakfast and lunch delivery options! Midtown delivery for breakfast just made dull Monday morning meetings so much better!

After all, who can complain when someone brings you pancakes?

Midtown Cafe & Dessertery’s catering is EZ Cater-compliant and with the best variety of sandwiches, salads, treats, and more – it’s the ultimate-go-to resource for busy planners!

Midtown Café & Dessertery is centrally and conveniently located at 151 South Stratford Road in Winston-Salem. Their hours of operation are Sunday – Thursday from 7 AM – 8:30 PM; Friday – Saturday from 7 AM – 9:30 PM. Call them at 336.724.9800 or visit them online at MidtownCafeWS. com. Be sure to download their app! Stay up to date on special events and features by liking their Facebook page or following them on Instagram.

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Style, The Latest in Décor & Design This year has been an exciting year for us. We just heard that we won the WSJ Reader’s Choice Award. This is an honorable award, and we are so appreciative of our clients for voting for us. The second award was the Fall Parade of Homes Platinum Award. This award takes a lot of hard work and planning to compete with all the other builders in the area. The house plans were well thought out and planned for months before starting the building process. For us, we start with the outside selections: roofing, brick, siding, and shutters. Then we go inside and honestly conceptualize as a canvas of color and design. This year our firm started with one piece of fabric to give us inspiration. That inspiration traveled with us to Atlanta where we found many treasures to accent our idea house to showcase for the fall. We called this house an idea house because we gathered the latest fabric, the latest trends, and the latest colors, and put them all together in a house that we could share with the public, as well as our clients. Everyone said they loved the wallpaper in the dining room that also had matching fabric window treatments. Now, if that takes you back 30 years, for June, it was something she grew up with: matching fabrics with wallpaper.

Everyone thought it was a cool concept, but you know if you live long enough, you will see most everything come back around again. The matching wallpaper and fabric duo is not Waverly prints, as it once was. It is large geometrics and fun chevrons. To go with all the décor, vintage rugs were a big hit as well, which were displayed in all the rooms. They are a hot, classical way to update your home, even with modern furnishings. You see it in all the magazines, and we saw it in all the showrooms in High Point and Atlanta with their new introductions. It takes a lot of time to find rugs and select what you like.

It is definitely not easy, and you need a professional

designer to help you if this is the way you choose to go with rugs. We are making rugs out of carpet and binding them as well. The good thing is we have a variety of patterns at June DeLugas Interiors, Inc., and we can do just about anything with the many carpet samples we have.

We named our show house “Buena Vista Gables,” which means cottage. The outside shutters were one of our favorite designs. We sketched the size and style we thought would be good and the builder had a local woodworker to make them. We selected coordinating paint colors for the outside: Benjamin Moore Classic Gray for the main part of the house and Sherwin Williams Light French gray for the shutters. Sherwin Williams Light French Gray was also used on the shingle siding in the center portion of the house. I must say that this house was one of our favorite Platinum awards of the five that we have won. The keeping room originally had a screened in porch. When we laid the plans out to review, we suggested to the builder that the screened in porch become part of the keeping room and kitchen. The area was cozy but large enough for eating, gathering with friends and family, and entertaining. We designed curtains, furniture, the layout of the room, and ordered all the matching furnishings. In Atlanta, June bought four antique botanical prints that had the same colorations in the fabric and décor. We had them framed, and they are hung proudly on the larger wall in the keeping room.

The builder told us to indicate on the plans where to put the windows. We did a CAD drawing for the TV cabinet sizing and where to put the windows so the builder could go to work on framing. Next came finishes from June DeLugas Interiors that were provided to the custom cabinet shop to match. We decided to also put the custom blue finish (Benjamin Moore Jamestown Blue) on the wet bar and the pantry bottom cabinets. The builder had leftover reclaimed pine from his own home during last year’s build, and we utilized it for the shelving above the pantry cabinets, the entry flooring from the back door, and the custom barn doors that were made in a chevron style. It is a beautiful décor and design and was well received.

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BY DENISE HEIDEL

As people get older, many people no longer want “stuff.”

After all, over the years, things accumulate, and it can get pretty overwhelming. It makes things difficult during the holidays when you want to give a gift to someone, but they are adamant that they don’t need (or want) anything.

Escape room. These are fun, interactive, and challenging experiences that would be fun for the whole family to enjoy.

Enter the gift of experience.

Dance lessons. Sign them up for shag lessons or ballroom dancing! A great way to meet new people and have fun!

Giving experiences is a great gift alternative that enables people to be generous with family and friends, without adding to the stacks of stuff that so many are looking to downsize!

And the gift of experience hardly needs to be limited to those who are older! Gifts of experience are a great gift for any age - especially children! It’s a marvelous way to instill the importance of making memories with loved ones versus a toy that will be played with and eventually forgotten.

Gifts of experience can include some of the ideas listed below.

NO-COST EXPERIENCE GIFTS:

A family picnic. Gifts don’t have to cost a fortune, and

experiences are no different. A commitment to spend time at a home-cooked family picnic or reunion is a great promise that the recipient will look forward to.

Wrap up a map to a new hiking trail along with a few brochures of scenic trails and interesting sight-seeing brochure. Schedule the date and make a memory.

Sign them up for a class

they are interested in… anything from gardening, to how to paint, how to cook, or how to play the piano… the possibilities are endless!

A fun photo shoot – whether with family, or something a little more risqué like boudoir… a photo shoot is a great experience that leaves memories for them to look back on!

Other ideas include wine tasting; minor-league game tickets; rock climbing; laser tag.

EXPERIENCES OF A LIFETIME:

Tandem sky-diving (or indoor skydiving)…

$ EXPERIENCES:

give them a gift that will make them soar… literally!

and revisit a favorite pastime!

Hot air balloon ride… Another idea that

Ice-skating or roller-skating. Embrace their inner child Bowling anyone? Book a lane, and enjoy some laughs!

Other ideas include batting cages or driving ranges; arcades; a lecture; or movie tickets.

$$ EXPERIENCES:

Mani/Pedi/Massage. Depending on the spa package selected, this could go up to a more expensive experience, but who wouldn’t love to get a gift of pampering? It doesn’t always have to be expensive to indulge!

Concert or theatre tickets. If a favorite band or show is coming to town, tickets make the perfect gift!

Zookeeper for a day… Many natural conservatories

offer a behind-the-scenes experience tour that takes a trip to the zoo to the next level!

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would make the recipient float on air! A scenic hot air balloon ride would give a whole new view of the world!

A cruise or dream vacation… Whether it’s

a trip to Disney; a European tour; or a cruise around the world – the whole world is waiting to be discovered!

Other ideas include season tickets to a favorite professional team; backstage passes to a favorite musician or band; flying lessons.

For the person on your lists who already has it all, consider giving them something they won’t forget: a memorable experience.

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Accent Prone – Home & Gifts for the Holidays!

BY JULIE FRITZ

This year, they are moving things around to accommodate a wonderful selection of holiday items for your home. The farmhouse section of the shop will be transformed into a festive holiday shop. You will find wreaths, stockings, ornaments, and many other holiday home decor items to help create the perfect holiday designs. And if you’re not sure what to get, the friendly staff at Accent Prone can answer your questions and help you design your holiday displays for every room in your home.

GIFT IDEAS

Accent Prone isn’t just a great place for holiday décor – it is also a great place for holiday shopping. They have a fantastic selection of gifts to make your holiday shopping simple.

Here are a few gift ideas you can find in the shop.

The holidays are quickly approaching, which means you’re probably starting to put together your holiday gift list. When you start to think of the things you need to buy, you probably also start thinking of the places that you can get the great gifts you need for your family and friends. If you are looking for a place that you could get several gifts for lots of different people, Accent Prone should definitely be one of the local places that come to mind.

If you haven’t been to Accent Prone, you are really missing out. Owner Cheri Lingafelt opened Accent Prone in collaboration with her husband, Justin, in 2012. “My husband and I grew up in the industry,” said Cheri.

“His family is in furniture, and my father was a jeweler. We decided that we could bring both of our backgrounds together, and Accent Prone was created. I have always wanted to open a boutique, so we just decided to create a unique boutique that provides unique pieces for home and fashion.” And the name is no accident. They want their clients to become “Accent Prone” – consistently seeking inspiring accents for their homes, themselves, or for others.

Since opening this shop in their hometown of Kernersville, they have been able to create a unique shopping experience by combining their backgrounds and their eye for design. This shop has something for everyone, from furniture and home decor to clothing and jewelry, they even have a great selection of gifts.

HOLIDAY SHOPPING

This time of year, Accent Prone is all about the holidays! And this is the perfect place for all your holiday needs. The beauty of having a home decor store with a great selection of gifts is that it is the ideal place for holiday shopping. While you are looking at a large selection of pieces to decorate your home for the holidays, you can also pick up some amazing gifts for the friends and family on your list. It is basically onestop holiday shopping.

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HOLIDAY OPEN HOUSE

On December 8, 2018 Accent Prone will be hosting a Holiday Open House. Stop by and get some holiday shopping done while the entire store is 20% off. They will also have complimentary hors d’oeuvres, wine, and desserts. This is a great way to get into the holiday spirit and kick off the Christmas season. Be sure to come by for a great day of Christmas shopping and support a fantastic local business.

Accent Prone is located at 1030 S Main St in Kernersville NC. The shop is open Monday to Friday 10:00 am to 7:00 pm and Saturday from 10:00 am to 5:00 pm. For more information, you can visit their website at accentprone.com, and you can also find them on Facebook, Instagram, Pinterest, and Twitter.

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Retirement Savings Tips: From Your 20s to Your 60s Securities offered through LPL Financial. Member FINRA/SIPC. Investment advice offered through Marzano Capital Group, a registered investment advisor and separate entity from LPL Financial.

BY STEVEN GALLO, CFP®, FINANCIAL ADVISOR

IN YOUR 20S: BALANCE SAVING AND INVESTING

Your earning ability is at its lowest in your 20s, but the power of compound interest makes this decade the best time to invest. Many professionals recommend that people in their 20s invest a majority of their retirement savings in stocks rather than bonds or savings accounts. A 2016 investment analysis by NerdWallet found that a 25-year old with a $40,456 salary who invested 15% a year exclusively in the stock market would likely end up with as much as $3.3 million more than if they kept their money in savings accounts. Regardless of how you invest your retirement savings, you should strive to balance your approach with paying off outstanding debt (student loans, credit cards) and saving for an emergency fund.

IN YOUR 30S: INVEST AGGRESSIVELY IN STOCKS

Financial planning is a lifelong endeavor, but people often seek out investment advice that doesn’t fit their current stage in life. When it comes to saving for retirement, most Americans invest and manage those savings for six decades or longer. It’s important to consider how your resources and risk tolerance change as you move through different life stages.

Saving for your retirement looks very different at age 30 compared to age 60. As financial advisors, we strive to help our clients develop retirement savings plans that are appropriate to the changing circumstances they face at every age. Here are some areas that we consider when giving age-appropriate retirement advice.

IDEAL ASSET ALLOCATION BY AGE

In the past, investment experts advocated the “100 Rule,” which called for subtracting your age from 100 to determine how much of your assets should be invested in stocks. For example, this rule called for 25-year olds to hold 75% of assets in stocks or “riskier” investments and 25% in bonds, CDs, equities or other low-risk investments. Now this has been updated to the “110 or 120 Rule” because Americans are living longer, making it extremely important to generate enough money to last throughout retirement. While this rule is useful for general guidance, it’s important to look at your particular situation and develop a more nuanced investment mix that is more closely aligned with your retirement savings goals and risk comfort level.

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Take full advantage of your employer’s contribution by investing 10 to 15% of your salary in your office retirement plan in your 30s. Investing in a home or rental property is a good idea, provided you will be able to keep the real estate for at least five years. When you compare long-term investment returns on stocks and bonds, stocks vastly outperform cash and bond investments over time.

You have decades to potentially make up any temporary losses in the stock market, so invest as aggressively in equities as your risk comfort level allows.

IN YOUR 40S: MAXIMIZE YOUR RETIREMENT CONTRIBUTIONS

By the time you reach your 40s, you need to be saving as much as possible for your retirement. Now is the time to max out your retirement contributions by investing the full $18,000 allowed each year. Investing in a tax-advantaged Roth IRA in addition to your 401(k) or 403(b) will help boost your retirement savings. It’s the right time to start investing in some lower-risk bonds too, unless you have been neglecting your retirement savings plan. A financial advisor can help determine the ideal investment mix to work towards your savings goals while maintaining an acceptable risk level.

IN YOUR 50S AND 60S: START PREPARING FOR RETIREMENT

If you need to build emergency funds to meet unexpected medical expenses and other costs in retirement, mature investors are allowed to start making catch-up contributions to tax-free savings accounts in the year they turn 50. In 2018, you can save up to $24,500 in a 401(k) and up to $6,500 in an IRA each year.

When you are in your last decades of saving for retirement, it is time to start rebalancing your portfolio. Consider moving your funds into bonds and money markets. A financial advisor can help you compile a comprehensive financial profile, assessing all your funding sources to figure out your ideal investment mix to provide income throughout your retirement.

We suggest considering the above recommendations as starting points to saving for retirement throughout the different life stages. However, regardless of age, everyone can benefit from a personalized retirement plan. As financial professionals, we are available to help you figure out the ideal asset allocation for your retirement savings plan at your stage of life. Please contact us for a complimentary consultation.

There is no assurance that the techniques and strategies discussed are suitable for all investors or will yield positive outcomes. The purchase of certain securities may be required to effect some of the strategies, investing involves risks including possible loss of principal.

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Writers WhoTheRead Classics One of my favorite times to curl up with a good book is during the holidays. With the cold weather outside, there is nothing better than having a cup of hot cocoa, a warm blanket, and a great read. Every year in December, my taste in what I want to read ranges from the classics to historical fiction to autobiography. However, the holidays are a time for nostalgia, and I always find myself reaching for a classic novel. For this month’s “Writers Who Read,” here are my fellow writers and my top classic book picks.

BY MEGAN TAYLOR

THE GREAT GATSBY

BY F. SCOTT FITZGERALD

GONE WITH THE WIND

BY MARGARET MITCHELL

The story of Scarlett O’Hara, Rhett Butler, and the deep South is a tale many people know and love, including writer Denise Heidel. “I love history, and for some reason, I love an unrequited love story,” stated Heidel. First published in 1936, Gone with the Wind is set in Georgia during the Civil War and Reconstruction Era. Some historians and writers describe the novel as a coming of age story for the main character, Scarlett O’Hara. Mitchell depicts the struggles O’Hara encounters as she faces the war, poverty, and love. According to Heidel, “Scarlett is the epitome of one who purposefully throws away happiness with both hands out of sheer stubbornness and pride.” Gone with the Wind was the only book Mitchell wrote during her life and has a theme of survival. In 1937, the novel won the Pulitzer Prize for Fiction and two years later, was made into a film. “Margaret Mitchell summed up Gone with the Wind in one word: gumption,” Heidel concluded.

In 1925, author F. Scott Fitzgerald published The Great Gatsby, a book that would become a classic for many decades. The novel gives readers insight into characters living in the fictional towns of West Egg and East Egg on Long Island, New York.

Set during the Roaring Twenties, the novel’s narrator, Nick Carraway, tells the story of a mysterious, young millionaire named Jay Gatsby.

Carraway rents a house in West Egg, next door to Gatsby’s mansion. Gatsby is known for his flamboyant parties and love for Carraway’s cousin, Daisy Buchanan. Through many twists and turns, Fitzgerald creates a tale about the American Dream, resistance to change, and idealism. The Great Gatsby is a favorite classic of mine. I have read it multiple times and plan on reading it a dozen times more. And let’s not forget the timeless quotes Fitzgerald wrote, including one about the change of seasons from summer to fall: “Life starts all over again when it gets crisp in the fall.”

A CHRISTMAS CAROL

BY CHARLES DICKENS

Last year, I started a new tradition: reading A Christmas Carol every Christmas. The story’s plot is about Ebenezer Scrooge, a stingy and not-sonice businessman who is visited by the ghost of his former business partner, Jacob Marley, on Christmas Eve. Also during the night, the spirits of Christmas Past, Present and Yet to Come take Scrooge on the journey of his life, which includes his interactions with others, including Scrooge’s clerk, Bob Cratchit.

Taking the spirits’ lessons to heart, Scrooge is transformed into a kinder man.

Dickens wrote this classic novel in 1843, a time when British citizens were rethinking Christmas traditions and starting newer ones, such as putting up Christmas trees.

A Christmas Carol contains experiences from Dickens’ life and the mid-Victorian rebirth of Christmas. In addition, it has influenced modern Christmas traditions, such as family gatherings, dancing, games, and a season of giving. Fun fact: A Christmas Carol was published on December 19th, 1843 and the first edition was sold out by Christmas Eve.

Over the years, many books have become classics. Everyone has their beloved reads that no matter how many times you’ve read them, it is like beginning the story for the first time.

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It’s the most wonderful time of the year! And for those who are already in the know, they know that one of the most wonderful places for holiday shopping is right in the heart of Winston-Salem – Kim Taylor & Company.

As is the case with many great things, Kim Taylor & Company has evolved quite a bit from their early days as an interior design company. For the last 20 of their 33 years in business, they have also been a thriving gift shop, loved by customers for the pretty and unique things they bring to the Triad.

THE HISTORY OF KIM TAYLOR & COMPANY

In 1986, Kim Taylor decided to make a business out of her love for interior design. A student of both style and color, Kim opened her first store on Burke Street in Winston-Salem. Eventually, she moved the store to Oakwood Street, before settling at the store’s current location on S. Stratford Road.

“We’ve been here for 20 years,” said Kim. “It’s a great location because it’s so central to everything in Winston-Salem. And while we didn’t plan to be a gift shop, our location has opened up that door, and it’s been a great blend of both my passion for home interiors and pretty gifts that people can use and enjoy.”

INTERIOR DESIGN

The foundation of Kim Taylor & Company is the home interior side of the business. With an onsite library filled with thousands of samples, there is something for any kind of style or décor.

Kim enjoys creating interesting spaces. “I love color,” she said. “And mixing things up – putting together unexpected things to add depth and style to a space.”

She noted fondly that, “Interior decorating is and will remain, my first love. It’s such a personal thing – to be invited into someone’s home to help them coordinate the place where they will create memories with their family, host friends, and special events, and live out everyday moments.”

And Kim is there to do it all. “I can help from giving a room a makeover to starting from scratch and doing a project from the ground up,” said Kim. “There’s no project too big or too small!

“Thanks to the support of our retail store manager (and my right arm), Diane Green, all of our interior design projects are organized, with products ordered in a timely fashion. Diane has been a great blessing, handling logistics of the designside, in addition to management of the retail.

Her ability to foster great relationships and keep us organized frees me up to concentrate on our clients and the creative side of the business!”

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A GIFT FOR ANY REASON

While the gift shop began as a happy accident, Kim has fully embraced it. “When I go to market, I buy things I like,” she said. “I’m a firm believer that when you love what you sell, customers will, too! And with our store manager, Diane, at the helm of our retail space, our gift shop has flourished.

Diane manages 3600 square feet of store inventory. She does a tremendous job and our customers love her.

“We sell gifts for babies to grandparents, and every age in between,” said Kim. “We also make sure our inventory includes gifts at various price points, for any occasion, and priced to fit within any budget.”

The gift categories could go on and on, but sections of the store include gifts for babies, jewelry, food, men’s gifts, bridal, pets, hostess gifts, lotions and soaps, and fashion.

Kim Taylor & Company also includes a great selection of Lily Pulitzer and Kate Spade – favorites for anyone on a gift list!

The fashion department began four years ago and has become very popular. “Our clothing line is casual, and we choose items that are easy-wearing,” said Kim. “We carry Gretchen Scott, Mud Pie, Barbara Gerwit, Pearly Vine, and other independent lines. We’ve enjoyed bringing in fashion and accessories that our shoppers love!”

INSPIRATION

When you’re looking for inspiration, look no further than Kim Taylor & Company. “I get some of my best ideas in the middle of the night,” laughed Kim. “I’m constantly brainstorming ideas in decorating. The inverted Christmas tree is a great example.

“We’ve been putting it up for the last 16 years, and every year around August, we start getting the question about when the tree is going up. It’s a fun addition to our store

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and actually helps us showcase the Christmas ornaments a bit better than a traditional Christmas tree.

“This year, we’ve also added an ornament mantle display, too, which is a great inspiration piece for those who don’t have room for a tree or simply don’t want to put up a whole tree. Our customers have really enjoyed it.”

Kim points out that being an interior decorator has enhanced the gift store side of her business. “With a curious eye for detail,” she noted, “I’ve really made it a point to study trends in style and embrace quality items that can be both whimsical and timeless. Both sides of the business feed my creativity, and it makes inspiration easy to come by!”

CUSTOMER FEEDBACK

Customers love Kim Taylor & Company! The store is noted by customers for being the ultimate go-to for special gifts, and as one happy customer put it, the store is a “feast for the eyes… so many beautiful things!”

Kim shared, “We’ve been so fortunate throughout the years! Our customers are more like family and friends! They have made our business what it is through their loyalty and support.

Kim Taylor & Company makes shopping an experience.

Browsing through shelves of bright, colorful items and pieces that have been artfully arranged make it a worthwhile visit for any occasion!

Kim Taylor & Company is located at 153 S. Stratford Road in Winston-Salem. They are open Monday – Friday from 10 AM – 5:30 PM; Saturday from 10 AM – 3 PM; and closed on Sunday. Call the store at 336.722.8503 or visit KimTaylorAndCo.com. Be sure to like them on Facebook and follow them on Instagram, Twitter, and Pinterest.

UPCOMING EVENTS AT KIM TAYLOR & COMPANY! Annual Open House Thursday, December 6th 5 – 9 PM Food, drinks, and giveaways!

Champagne Breakfast Friday, December 14th 9 – 11:30 AM Champagne brunch, games, giveaways

5 GREAT REASONS TO SHOP AT KIM TAYLOR & COMPANY ALL YEAR LONG 1. New Inventory! Like ALL the time! Kim Taylor & Company gets shipments daily!

2. Trunk Shows! Kim Taylor & Company hosts various trunk shows throughout the year! Like their Facebook page for details of upcoming special events!

3. Fashion AND Furnishings?!

Yes, please! Every girl’s dream store!

4. Seasonal Décor! Kim Taylor & Company offers fun and creative seasonal décor for any time of the year!

5. 3600 Square Feet of Prettiness! Everywhere you look, there’s something pretty to admire… so much so, you may just want to take them home!

Kim Taylor & Company

(336) 722-8503 | 153 South Stratford Road | Winston-Salem, NC 27104 Monday - Friday 10am - 5:30pm | Saturday 10am - 3pm | @KimTaylorCo | @KimTaylorAndCo November 2018 | 45

BY TRACY HARRIS

SORRY. NOT SORRY. I am woman. Hear me apologize.

As women, we tend to say sorry for every little thing we think we do wrong. Now, sometimes an apology is necessary, but there are a lot of times when it isn’t, and we need to learn the difference.

A couple of weeks ago, at the grocery store, a woman bumped into me with her cart while I was looking at something. The first words out of my mouth were, “I’m sorry.” She looked up at me and said, “That’s OK,” and kept walking.

It didn’t dawn on me until later that I didn’t do anything to apologize for, but my natural inclination was to apologize. The next couple of days I paid attention to how often I would say I was sorry for things that I shouldn’t have, and decided I needed to make a change.

Research suggests that women may sometimes be over-attuned, apologizing for perceived offenses that other people do not find offensive or even notice.

If you suspect you may be an over-apologizer, here are some tips for keeping your apologies in check.

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1. SAY “THANK YOU” INSTEAD.

I love this. It was hard for me to start doing, but once I did, I felt empowered.

No longer would I say I was sorry for running late, I would say “Thank you for your patience.” By saying you are sorry, you are acknowledging that you have made a mistake or inconvenienced someone, but thanking them shows that you have thought about the situation from their perspective and that you appreciate their effort.

2. SAVE IT.

Saying sorry too much takes away the impact for when you really have messed up. It becomes a more powerful statement when it is used less.

3. TRY NOT TO MESS UP IN THE FIRST PLACE.

Easier said than done, of course. But if you know you do something annoying that you always have to apologize for, how about changing? If you always leave getting gas until the light is on, how about making an effort to go earlier, so you don’t have to apologize when your partner has to get it.

4. KNOW WHERE TO DRAW THE LINE. Apologize for what you have done wrong. Don’t take on what others have done. All that does is make you feel bad about yourself and can cause resentment to form.

5. FINALLY, EMBRACE YOUR IMPERFECTIONS.

Who cares if you spilled coffee on your shirt?

Unless you apologize to yourself, there is no need to say it to anyone else.

The next time you find yourself saying, “Sorry,” – stop. Take a second. Think about whether “sorry” is the right response. You will be surprised to find out how often it isn’t.

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The Gift of Well-Being

BY ADELE CASANOVA

Say something special this holiday season when you give Massage Envy gift cards to those you care about! They will love not only the exceptional massage services, but also the many other complementary therapies offered at Massage Envy. The sense of well-being they will experience will allow them to do more of what they love in life!

customized, targeted treatments. In addition to facials, Massage Envy offers a wide array of Murad® retail skincare products to complement the facial services. Estheticians at Massage Envy franchised locations can recommend the correct products for enhanced at home facial care.

Give the gift of body maintenance and relaxation through massage.

Massage isn’t just a luxury! Massage helps promote circulation, combat stress and chronic pain, release muscle tension, loosen scar tissue, lengthen muscles and improve flexibility thus decreasing risk of injury. Wonderful for caregivers, the elderly, athletes, busy moms, stressed students and executives, or anyone on your list! Even you!

Skincare services at Massage Envy also include MICRODERM INFUSION, which entails the delivery of precision-timed hydration technology during traditional microdermabrasion. Massage Envy also offers PCA SKIN® chemical peels that deliver dramatic results with little downtime revealing healthy, glowing skin.

Massage therapy can be personalized with Massage Envy’s new CyMe™ BOOST, a series of six highly concentrated serums loaded with antioxidants to help rejuvenate and soothe the skin. Each CyMe™ BOOST provides different added benefits like helping to remove impurities, improving the skin’s appearance of firmness, or helping to enhance the skin’s natural luminance with hydration. The serums are combined with the Massage Envy antioxidant-rich massage lotion that helps deliver skin-enhancing benefits with vitamins A, C & E. If any of the CyMe™ BOOST enhanced lotion remains after your massage, you are invited to take it home and continue to enjoy its benefits!

Massage therapy at Massage Envy can also be enhanced through Total Body Stretch, utilizing the proprietary Streto Method™, an assisted total body stretch to promote flexibility, mobility and performance. Massage therapists, or stretch service providers, use ten targeted stretches to help loosen muscle groups from head to toe to relax nerves and muscles.

The Total Body Stretch can be a stand-alone service or be combined with massage in either 30 or 60-minute sessions.

Massage Envy offers Murad® Healthy Skin Facials using a tailor-made protocol with clinically-designed formulas, guaranteeing clients receive

There is a reason that Massage Envy, collectively through its franchised locations, is the largest provider of massage and skin care services in the nation: The combination of professionalism with superior training, products and service delivered in a caring, warm friendly atmosphere.

In Winston-Salem, Jeff and Amy Holmes have been operating award winning Massage Envy franchised locations since 2008. They purposely hire the best staff available and treat them well, creating a culture of caring and inclusion that is passed to the clients. “First and foremost, we hire the best massage therapists and estheticians and make sure that every client gets a customized experience every time.

All of our massage therapists and estheticians have gone through extensive schooling and licensing exams. They are all licensed by the State of North Carolina. Also, the Massage Envy brands provides regular continuing education, including ethics courses and courses regarding client safety,” said Jeff Holmes.

Jeff and Amy are proud of their family business that allows them to offer caring, personalized service supported by the extensive research and support of a national leader in wellness care.

You can be assured that you and your gift card recipients will receive professional and customized therapy services at any Massage Envy franchised locations beginning with the call for an appointment. This exceptional level of care will continue throughout your service right up to the consultation at the end of the appointment regarding your continuing well-being routines. Same day appointments are also available, ensuring timely therapy when most needed.

Massage Envy in Winston-Salem is located at 3350 Robinhood Road and 1271 Creekshire Way. Call (336) 774-8777 for the Robinhood Road location or (336)774-9994 for the Creekshire Way location. Visit online at www.massageenvy.com. Be sure to follow them on Twitter, Facebook Instagram, and YouTube.

ABOUT MASSAGE ENVY Massage Envy, based in Scottsdale, Arizona, is a national franchisor and, collectively through its franchise locations, is the leading provider of therapeutic massage and skincare services, and proprietary assisted stretching service, Total Body Stretch. Founded 2002, Massage Envy has more than 1,170 franchised locations in 49 states that have together delivered more than 135 million massages and facials. For more information, visit www.massageenvy.com.

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When I first started ReDESIGNS

by Ava in August 2005, I wrote down a goal for my business: “To help people create a beautiful home where they can come to be loved, refreshed and encouraged.” Usually that can be accomplished by rearranging furniture and accessories my client already owns or by purchasing a few new accessories, fabrics or furniture.

The before and afters on this page tell you it was more than that for this client. It was a complete remodel! My challenge was not only to work with a contractor to achieve an updated look but also to incorporate furniture and a rug from their mountain home, lots of books, family heirlooms, and art they had collected through the years.

What a difference! My clients are pleased and my business goal accomplished!

May your heart and home be filled with all the joys the Christmas season brings...

Merry Christmas!

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10 Reasons People Choose ReDESIGNS by Ava: 1. They’ve seen the results on TV Home makeover shows or in a friends house.

2. They want a fresh, designer look but haven’t been able to create it.

6. They are blending 2 households of furnishings and want professional help with what to keep and how to make it work.

7. They desire a home that feels good and looks good yet reflects who they are.

ReDESIGNS

by Ava 8. They want rooms to

3. They want great results without great expense.

function better.

4. They don’t know where to place the “old” furniture in a new house.

9. They want to prepare their home to maximize market appeal for a quick, top dollar sale.

5. They don’t want to make an expensive purchase they’ll regret.

10. They believe that when you want professional results you hire a professional.

Salemtowne Retirment

Ava is the ReDESIGN expert in and around Forsyth County!

Contact her to find out how you can fall in love with your home — either all over again, or for the first time!

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A Pineapple Tree

BY OPAL EDWARDS

During the holidays, a Christmas tree is a focal symbol of hospitality in the home. Pope John Paul describes the Christmas tree tradition as a symbol that exalts the value of life. However, the evergreen’s historical purpose goes beyond hospitality. In its history, ancient peoples hung evergreen wreaths on their doors to protect their homes from illness, evil spirits and misfortune. The first ever “Christmas tree” was recorded in 1576 in Germany. However, this tradition did not make its way to the United States until the mid-nineteenth century with the customs and influence of German immigrants—many of whom settled and founded their Moravian churches right here in Winston Salem!

The ladies at Southern Signature Properties are donating a themed Christmas tree to the Cancer Center at Wake Forest Baptist Health. An evergreen’s symbolic protective energy against illness and its traditionally warm hospitality make the tree a perfect addition to the cancer center. The tree will be pineapple themed in reference to the company’s logo— cleverly chosen because it is a symbol of hospitality.

Alison, Jenny, and Renea are three women dedicated to bringing gracious southern hospitality—not only to their clients but also to their community. As housewives, mothers, and realtors, these women pride themselves on their ability to transform any space into a home. When the women began Southern Signature Properties, they decided that their company would be centered on the specific needs of their clients and the community around them. Renea expressed the company’s gratitude to the people in the community that have been a huge support. “This community has done so much for us. So many people have been so receptive and supportive of the growth of our company. We’ve received so much love, and we want to pay it forward.”

Alison Vannoy spoke about the importance of tradition, “Every year my mother, aunts, cousins, and grandparents would exchange new ornaments and spend time decorating our trees together,” she explained, “...it’s a tradition that my family and I cherish, and I think that keeping some kind of tradition is important... especially this time of year. Tradition brings people together.”

At the very least, a bright and festive tree may bring these patients and their families a little normalcy.

“We wanted to do something that made the holidays a little brighter for the families that will be spending their Christmas at the cancer center” said Jenny Edwards. “We can’t change their situations, but we can help change their environment by bringing a little love and warmth.”

In addition to the Cancer Center at Wake Forest Baptist Health, Southern Signature Properties has also donated to a variety of other organizations, including Ruff Love Rescue, a non-profit organization that rescues and finds homes for animals, and Second Harvest Food Bank. The women have also donated many hours of

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labor to the housing program through Habitat for Humanity—a nonprofit that provides the opportunity for qualifying working-class families to become homeowners. Jenny loves Habitat for Humanity because “there’s nothing I love more than to help people become homeowners.” Also, this fall the women brought school supplies, teaching supplies and new book bags to the teachers and counselors at Parkland High School. These full time realtors admit, the ability to give back to the community is what truly gives them Joy! The flamboyantly decorated pineapple-tree will be displayed in the Cancer Center at Wake Forest Baptist Health this holiday season.

If you’re looking for a personalized approach to buying or selling, look no further than Southern Signature Properties at Realty One. They are located at 3720 Vest Mill Road in Winston-Salem.

Call 336.749.5388 to schedule an appointment today. Follow on Facebook and instagram @livesouthernnc or visit livesouthernnc. com to learn more!

Sources: “Christmas Tree.” Encyclopedia Britannica. 2012 Erhsam, Roger (1999). Le Vieux Turckheim. Ville de Turckheim: Jerome Do Bentzinger. ISBN 290623883X. Alfred Lewis Shoemaker (1999) [1959]. Christmas in Pennsylvania: a folk-cultural study. Stackpole books. (52-53). “Christmas Tree is symbol of Christ, says Pope--and a sign of ‘Undying Life.’” Zenit News Agency. Dec. 19, 2004. Retrieved: Sep. 15, 2018.

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BY TARYN JEREZ OF ONECRAFTYMISS.COM

Why the End of the Year is Gold for Your Business Goals This column is meant to serve as a resource for readers who seek inspiration and knowledge for building their own small business brands. Through actionable advice, find the encouragement to help you keep living your life with hustle and heart.

Who’s already thinking about setting some new year’s resolutions? I see you ready to raise that hand. Let me ask you a question first.

Did you meet all of your goals for 2018?

STORY TIME.

Growing up in my house you didn’t throw away the ketchup bottle because it was “empty.” You pounded it against the table, shook it like a Shake Weight, and squeezed every last drop of that bad boy until you knew you had gotten your money’s worth. Maybe we were slightly obsessive about our ketchup, but the point is, you don’t just move on to a shiny new thing until you know you’ve gotten the most out of the one you have.

SEE WHERE I’M GOING WITH THIS?

Why wait for the new year to start setting goals when you and I both know you have some real doozies from the start of this one that could still use a little work! (Maybe there are even a few new ones that have been tugging at your attention lately.) Even in the final days of the year, there is still time to get in your groove and rock out a few more things off your list or embrace the blank canvas that’s coming and get ahead before the new year!

DECEMBER IS LIKE A FIREFLY. IF YOU BLINK, YOU MIGHT MISS IT.

You have to be organized in general when it comes to the end of the year and the holidays!

If not, it disappears in the blink of an eye!

Most of us are already well into gift shopping, celebration prepping, planning travel arrangements – there really is no better time to become little Miss Organization. Why not take advantage of this new found list maker you never knew was inside of you and crack away at some of those goals?

Take some time in the morning or on the weekend to look at your calendar. Find any special dates and times that you’ll need to prepare for, and then honestly look at the rest of the openings in your calendar for the year. Do you have Tuesday nights wide open?

Maybe Sundays after church are your day of no commitments? Look at the resolutions you set this year and think of a few little things you could fit in during these times to get you closer to that goal.

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DIAMONDS ARE JUST ROCKS THAT DIDN’T BREAK UNDER PRESSURE.

That’s right – we’re all just a couple of rocks trying to make it in this life. And lady, I’m telling you, you’re a diamond in the rough! When the pressure is on, it’s amazing what we find ourselves suddenly capable of. The same things you would have taken three months to accomplish, you could probably get done in a few weeks or less when that time crunch is sneaking up on you in the background.

I bet you can impress yourself with how much you can accomplish in such a short time frame. Don’t let yourself fall into the trap of knocking yourself down brick by brick and questioning why you didn’t focus sooner or get more accomplished earlier – that doesn’t do anything to change things!

We don’t want stress to feed our fire ever, but determination and focus instead. Let the first of January feel like a finish line and race your heart out.

YOU’RE STILL GOING TO CRUSH THOSE GOALS. YOU JUST DIDN’T KNOW IT.

Close your eyes and think of next year and all you want for your business and your life. Imagine all you can accomplish and grow through, and how you are going to get there. Now think about what a head start would do for you.

The end of the year can do just that. Get rid of that “catch up” mentality and turn it into “get ahead” instead. Tackle little things and dream big for 2019!

If you’ve been hard on yourself when gauging your success meter for this year and telling yourself the year is almost over, it’s ok to remind yourself that you are in charge here. It really is 1000% how you choose to see it! (I’m not going to write the whole “glass half empty” thing, because I’m pretty sure you’re thinking it yourself.) Sometimes we just need a small shift in focus to realize what’s in front of us.

Stay focused, let things inspire you and use your time wisely – you never know what you can accomplish. I know you can do it!

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Medi Weighloss

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RING IN THE NEW YEAR WITH

THE ONE THAT WORKS!

®

BY ERICA MARTINEZ

With 2018 coming to a close, we are once again reminded of our New Year’s resolutions. Promising ourselves to lead healthier lives, add in more exercise to our daily routines, or simply have the energy for all the important and special moments with our loved ones.

Weight loss finds itself at the forefront of many of our minds as soon as we consider the positive changes we wish to make for the upcoming year.

Whether you are carrying an extra 10 pounds or 200 pounds, you would probably love to get rid of them — permanently. If you’ve dieted in the past, only to feel exhausted and demoralized when the weight came back, there is finally a real solution. Consider 2019 your year of health and happiness!

The physician-supervised program begins with an initial consultation, where patients receive a comprehensive exam including a review of their medical history, EKG, blood work, and a body composition analysis. There is no one-size-fits-all approach. Each patient receives an individualized care plan based on their individual goals and diet and exercise preferences. If medically appropriate, patients may be prescribed an appetite suppressant.

“The wonderful counselors help you every step of the way,” Nancy adds. “Not once when I endured a challenging week or did not reach my weight loss goal for the week was I judged, scolded, or embarrassed, as I had experienced on other programs. When you fall, there is always someone there to pick you back up and get you on the right track. I really enjoy going into the office and seeing people week after week losing and looking great.”

Known as The One That Works!®, MediWeightloss® offers a clinically proven way for people to lose weight without resorting to fad diets or invasive surgery. Nationwide, patients have lost over 6 million pounds combined. And the individual weight loss is just as impressive. On average, patients compliant with their program lose 6.4 pounds the first week and 14 pounds the first month.† After that, the range is 2-3 pounds per week or more.

Time and time again our patient’s testimonials are blooming with inspiration and success. Mallory, an actual patient, explains, “Starting this process was scary, but the fear passed the moment I left my first consultation. As promised, I saw results after the first week. I continued to follow the program as directed and lost weight week after week. After five months, I went from 185pounds to 135 pounds, a total weight loss of 50 pounds. I am happier with myself today than I have ever been.”† Weekly follow-up visits help keep patients accountable and include a body composition analysis and weight loss support. Our medical staff is there to support and encourage you every step of the way. With permission, Medi-Weightloss® will also keep your primary care physicians informed of their progress so PCPs can adjust their treatment as necessary.

When Nancy, an actual patient, decided to give weight loss another try with Medi-Weightloss®, she was cautiously optimistic. Nancy’s original goal was to lose 40 pounds. In a matter of months, four to be exact, she had lost 40 pounds “easily and felt fantastic.” She decided to stay on the program to lose an additional 10 pounds.

Today, Nancy is 54 pounds lighter “I have more energy now than I did in my 20s, 30s, and 40s.”† The success is obvious when you consider the science behind our program. Medi-Weightloss® was developed by physicians, registered dietitians, and health professionals in the area of weight loss to help you control your calorie and carbohydrate intake while eating the optimum amount of protein to preserve muscle mass. The Medi-Weightloss® Program is evidence-based to result in a successful lifestyle change. When administering the treatment, Medi-Weightloss® healthcare providers take each patient’s unique health profile into account.

Are you ready to join Nancy and Mallory in achieving the results you have always wanted? Contact the Winston-Salem location at 336265-6099 today and schedule a FREE assessment. Don’t let your resolutions pass you by! Improve your health, increase your energy, and join our thousands of patients in feeling beautiful and confident for all of 2019 and onward.

On average, patients compliant with the Medi-Weightloss® Program lose 6.4 pounds the first week and 14 pounds the first month. Rapid weight loss may be associated with certain medical conditions and should only be considered by those who are medically appropriate. © 2018 Medi IP, LLC. All Rights Reserved.

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Blood Donation

The Gift of Life

BY JAMIE LOBER

do not have bleeding issues. Plasma is helpful for burn victims and treating immune system deficiencies. You can find out your blood type after you donate if you do not already know it.

If you are brainstorming a way to give back this holiday season, the answer may be simpler than you think. Donating blood is quick, easy and relatively painless. “I want to encourage people to roll up a sleeve if they are eligible because we see a drop in donation at the holidays, largely due to the fact that people are busy with holiday schedules, going on vacations and the schools and colleges that host blood drives are not in session at that time,” said Maya Franklin of the American Red Cross – Piedmont Triad Chapter. If you are already a regular donor, give yourself a pat on the back, but do not forget to keep your appointments this winter.

When you understand why you are giving, you may feel more inclined to take action. “Most people who donate are intentional, so they have a personal connection who asked them to donate,” said Franklin.

The fact of the matter is that blood donation saves lives. “There are patients who require blood on a regular basis, whether for sickle cell or a rare blood disorder; heart, liver or other transplants; surgeries, and there is also the platelet component of whole blood that can be used for chemotherapy patients as part of their treatment for different cancers,” said Franklin. There is also a big demand for patients with traumatic injuries. “Sometimes one individual can use up to 100 pints of blood after a car accident,” said Franklin. If these reasons are not enough to sway you, sometimes there are incentives like t-shirts or gift cards.

You are helping members of the community right away. “After the blood donation the blood is processed, tested and distributed within about three days,” said Franklin. Blood types are matched with the exception that O negative is a universal donor and can be transferred to anybody. Clinicians check to ensure the blood is free of infectious diseases and carefully matched so there is little to no risk for the recipient. If you download the Red Cross Blood Donor app on your phone, you can keep track of where your blood is going, literally from arm to arm.

The Carolina Blood Center explained that your donation is divided into red cells, platelets, and plasma. Red cells replace blood volume that may be lost due to illness or accident.

Platelets assist with clotting, so you

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If you are wondering if blood donation is for you, just make sure you meet the eligibility requirements. “People must be 16 with parental consent in North Carolina, weigh 110 pounds and be in generally good health,” said Franklin. That means if you have a sore throat, fever, cough or even a runny nose the day you plan to donate, it is wise to reschedule your appointment. There are also some travel restrictions, such as if you have been abroad recently, and certain medications that disqualify you, so it is important to be open and honest about your health history. Your blood pressure, hemoglobin level, and temperature will be checked for safety.

If you feel good after donating and want to make it a habit, whole blood donors can give every 56 days. Be sure to talk to the phlebotomist and make sure it will be safe for you. Staying hydrated by drinking enough water before and after, getting a good night’s sleep the night before, eating balanced meals and food rich in iron and limiting caffeine intake can make the donation process go smoother.

Forsyth women recognize the importance of blood donation and can be role models for family and friends. “I would like to encourage more women to give, as some of the recipients who receive blood experience complications during childbirth that may require them to have a transfusion, or the newborn may require a transfusion,” said Franklin. It is normal to be anxious, but looking at the big picture should calm your nerves. “There are a lot of folks who may be discouraged because of fear of needles, but the actual donation process takes 5 to 10 minutes, and you can impact up to 3 lives and provide lifesaving treatment to patients who critically rely on blood, so it is a huge impact for a small sacrifice,” said Franklin. There is no greater gift than to give others life. “Someone in the United States may need blood as often as every 2 seconds, so the need is constant and does not go away even when we get busy with holiday activities,” said Franklin.

Brookstown Inn

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Check What’s Happening at Express Oil Change & Tire Engineers

BY VONDA HENDERSON, PHOTO ARTISTRY BY MELINDA their ability to provide quality service from bumper to fender at a location convenient to you has increased substantially. With cold weather just around the corner, it’s a good time to have a checkup to be sure your vehicle is ready for those lower temperatures. You can even schedule your appointment online via their website (expressoil.com), then select “Schedule an Appointment” on the main page. However, no appointments are needed for NC inspections or routine oil changes.

The Express Oil Change & Tire Engineers team takes pride in their 15-second response time to customers arriving on their lot; you’re greeted before you even exit your car. Every time, at every location. And, if you’re lucky, George, Gary and Rebecca’s fur-baby, who has his own space in the office, may also greet you. Their visitor areas are well maintained if you plan to wait for your vehicle.

Gary and Rebecca Howorka, operator/owners of two Express Oil Change locations, have added to the family! Yes, they recently opened a third location. Have you driven by the corner of Polo and Robinhood Roads and wondered what was going to be there? Well, now you know. That’s the new home for the third Express Oil Change & Tire Engineer shop – 3499 Robinhood Road to be exact.

And, with this new addition comes another change – a new name. Did you notice it in the title? No longer known as Express Oil Change & Service Center, their new name represents the scope of full-service automotive repairs offered at each of their locations. Need tires – visit one of their locations. Need engine work, rebalancing, tune-up and, of course, oil change – this is your one-stop place for all automotive repairs.

Gary and Rebecca will soon be celebrating 10 years in business.

With their two current locations, they estimate they’ve serviced approximately 30,000 vehicles on an annual basis. North Carolina inspections are also part of their standard services offered; on average, each shop completes approximately 4,300 annually. Now, with their Clemmons location, one on Hanes Mill Road (near Highway 52), and the third opened on Robinhood,

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The technicians at Express Oil Change & Tire Engineers are all ASE-certified and adhere to the company standards of quality, timely service with no-pressure and no add-ons. You receive the service your vehicle needs and no additional pressure. The motto of Trust / Honesty / Respect is the hallmark of who they are and what they deliver. They are also environmentally conscious; all used oil is recycled. Recognizing that some customers prefer to do their own oil change, you can drop off used oil in properly sealed containers to be added to the recycled oil on-site.

Interested in keeping track of your service history? It’s a good idea and helps prolong the life of your vehicle. Join the EOC VIP program using the Express Oil Change & Tire Engineer application and earn discounts, coupons, get reminders of needed services, make your appointments and search for the tires you need for your vehicle.

Call or go online to schedule your appointment or get additional info on their services at their newest store. Their phone numbers are 336.283.9552 for the Clemmons shop located at 2750 Lewisville-Clemmons Road or 336.377.2690 for the Winston-Salem location, 123 Hanes Mill Road. Be sure to add the phone number for their new Robinhood location (336.727.3681). Visit their website (expressoil.com) for additional information. Strategically positioned at three convenient locations, Gary, Rebecca and the rest of the team at Express Oil Change & Tire Engineers look forward to meeting you and keeping your vehicles in prime working order from fender to bumper. Happy motoring!

Treasures Decor

& Treasure’s Decor Too At this special time of year, we give thanks for our customers!

Treasures Decor Happy Holidays from Treasure’s Decor!

Furniture, Home Decor & More

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Express Oil Michelin & BF Goodrich Tire Dealer.

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WINSTON-SALEM 336.727-3681 3499 Robinhood Rd. Winston-Salem, NC 27105 (across the street from YMCA)

WINSTON-SALEM 336.377.2690 125 W. Hanes Mill Rd.Winston-Salem, NC 27105 (across the street from McDonald’s)

CLEMMONS 336.283.9552 2750 Lewisville-Clemmons Rd. Clemmons, NC 27012 (next to CVS)

Stay in your car for your oil change | We repair imports and domestic models | National Fleets Welcome | Official NC Inspection Station

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Dalton’s Crossing 336.893.7908

New Balance Winston-Salem

Dalton’s Crossing is the place to go for quality women’s clothing along with great selections of jewelry and accessories! CK Designs jewelry & much more! The perfect place to shop for that special someone in your life. Located at 102/104 East Dalton Road in Downtown King, NC. 336.985.5464 See ad on page 39. @daltons_crossing

Men’s 1200. All-new style and functionality, featuring design details like a leather upper and 3-eyelet lacing system that lend to a heritage-driven style. Meanwhile, mesh insterts allow for water drainage, a ROLLBAR insert adds stability and a multi-directional rubber outsole provides traction.

Honda of Winston-Salem Pioneer 1000-5. Adventure Ready! When it comes to adventure, you always want more. More excitement. More thrills. More riders to share in the fun. That’s why the biggest adventures happen inside the 2019 Honda Pioneer 1000-5. The Pioneer 1000-5 is the ultimate in comfort, handling, hauling, and user-friendly features.

It sports a best-in-class 1999 cc engine, pushing the limits of fun and exhilaration. And it’s equipped with Honda’s exclusive QuickFlip seating system. That means you can switch from a three-seater, to a four-seater, to a five-seater all in a matter of seconds.

Honda of Winston Salem / CanAm-SeaDoo 591 S. Stratford Road 336.765.0330

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Mainstream Boutique Give the gift of style with a gift certificate to Mainstream Boutique!

It’s the perfect gift you know they will love!

Located at 110 Oakwood Drive in Winston-Salem (Across from Thruway Shopping Center) 336.448.1485 See ad on page 93. @winstonsalemmainstream

The Garden Boutique at Reynolda Village For over 60 years the Garden Boutique has provided an incredible selection of fine gifts, garden accessories and home decor. Shop the Boutique this holiday season for all your gift-giving needs.

Located at 100 Reynolda Village in Winston-Salem 336.722.5640. @thegardenboutiquews

Penny Lane Boutique The perfect fur vest! Available in small, medium or large and so many color options! Black, wine, green, oatmeal and mustard.

Penny Lane Boutique is located at 6311 Stadium Drive, Suite B in Clemmons (between Lowes Foods and K-Mart) 336.661.8336 @penny_lane_boutique

Windsor Jewelers Ippolita shares her icons crafted in sterling silver. Each piece is designed to mix, match and layer for your own look. Featured here are bangles in sterling silver from her Silver Rock Candy® Collection. A collection dedicated to uniquely cut gemstones and spirited color, presented in vibrant palettes and unexpected shapes. Find your Ippolita creation at Windsor Jewelers. Located at 526 S. Stratford Road in Winston-Salem. 336.721.1768 See ad on page 7. @windsorjewelersnc

Mellie & Emilia The place to shop local this holiday season!

Let Mellie & Emilia find the perfect holiday style for you.

Located at 365 Peters Creek Parkway in Winston-Salem.

336.930.5303. See ad on page 83. @mellieemilia

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Hip Chics Boutique May her Christmas be merry and bright with unique gifts, beautiful jewelry, charming accessories, chic clothing and gorgeous formal wear from Hip Chics Boutique! Located at 2668 Lewisville-Clemmons Road in Clemmons. 336.766.8122.

See ad on page 25. @hipchicsboutique

Aeracura Salon Treat your yourself or someone you love with the enriching aromas of AVEDA. All of Aveda’s aroma blends are derived from pure plant and flower essences and certified organic essential oils.

Discover why Cherry Almond Softening Shampoo and Conditioner have become everyone’s favorite. Available at Aeracura Salon, 101 Reynolda Village in Winston-Salem. 336.448.0792.

See ad on page 15. @aeracurasalon

Urbn Grl Sunglasses can’t dim the brightness a gift from Urbn Girl would have on someone’s day! Check out their great selection, or get a gift card and let them pick for themselves! Located at 908 Burke Street in Winston-Salem. 336.955.2303.

See ad on page 45. @urbngrlwsnc

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Kim Taylor & Co. A great way to share a little hometown holiday cheer with friends and family! Check out our Christmas collection of neighborhood candles. Handmade in Charlotte, NC. Enjoy fragrances like Cinnamon & Nutmeg, Birchwood & Evergreen or Cranberry, Mandarin and Clove. The mini votive size is perfect for stockings, neighbors, coworkers and friends! Share a little of NC with all your loved ones across the country. Located at 153 South Stratford Road in Winston-Salem, next to Midtown Café and Dessertery.

336.722.8503. See ad on page 45. Check us out on Instagram @kimtaylorco and Facebook @KimTaylorandCo

Accent Prone Kendra Scott jewelry was created in 2002 in Austin, Texas, and since its launch has taken the fashion industry by storm! Each piece is carefully crafted and looks great simply worn by themselves or layered up. Kendra has created collections of timeless pieces that have won over loyal fans, media and celebrities alike. Retail price starting at $50. Located at 1030-F South Main Street in Kernersville.

336.310.4735. See ad on page 37. @accentprone

Wood & Thread Boutique

Farrago

Wood & Thread takes the influences of chic & trendy fashion, paired with rustic & reclaimed wooden home decor in a harmonious style that is the best of boho & contemporary. We marry the soft with the gritty allowing us to style everything from your closet, home, and life. Located at: 301 Brookstown Ave in Winston-Salem.

336.842.5761. @woodandthreadboutique

Gift certificates are one-size-fits-all! And everyone loves gifts from Farrago! Choose from gift certificates, BE MO KIND, Love Your Melon, Aveda, hair services, massages, or something fun from a local artisan, including pottery and jewelry! Check out Farrago for gifts for everyone on your shopping list! Located at 6301 Shallowford Road in Lewisville. 336.946.9128. See ad on page 123.

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Still Life Interiors Silver ceramic camper lamp. The perfect gift for the adventurous person on your gift list! Also available in a painted finish.

Still Life Interiors is located at 6477 Shallowford Road in Lewisville.

336.946.1135. @stilllife_interiors

Today & Tomorrow Interiors Offering distinctive items for your home and special holiday gifts for your friends and family. Fine furniture, fabric, wallcoverings and rugs are just some of what we have to offer. Ask about our interior design services. Located at 435 West End Blvd. in Winston-Salem.

336.723.4430.

Wine Merchants Do you enjoy good wine? Tired of the same old thing at the usual stores? Guess who has the best wines in town for the best prices?

Unique, boutique, small production, sustainable, bio dynamic, organic wines are all available. Structured wine dinners every month to showcase wines, wineries, or themes.

Monthly wine classes, wine tastings and other fun wine related events!

Our gift certificates are the perfect gift and can be used in the wine store or bistro for brunch, dinner or even an incredible wine dinner! Located at 205 South Stratford Road in Winston-Salem.

336.765.8175. See ad on page 127. @wine_merchants.wsnc

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Bird & Co. Boutique Come by our new location and check out our Bogg bags! We have them available in Large and Small. They are PERFECT for the beach, grocery shopping, tailgating, work, picnics and more! Bird & Co Boutique is located at 135 N Main St in Downtown Mocksville. shopbirdandco.com 335.753.8990. @shopbirdandco

Aeracura Salon The gift of Renewal is a great stocking stuffer for anyone during cold winter months.

336.893.7908

New Balance Winston-Salem

Our number one seller, Aveda Hand Relief™ Moisturizing Creme soothes and intensely moisturizes dry, tired hands. This must have holiday gift includes both standard size and travel sizes of Hand Relief Moisturizing Creme and Foot Relief Moisturizing Creme.

20% off for a limited only. Available at Aeracura Salon, 101 Reynolda Village in Winston-Salem. 336.448.0792.

See ad on page 15. @aeracurasalon

Windsor Jewelers From John Hardy’s Classic Chain collection, these statement crossover rings feature vibrant and colorful textured lava pavé stones atop carved silver bands and are available in blue topaz and pink and green tourmaline.

See these and all of John Hardy’s Artisan Hand-Crafted Jewelry at Windsor Jewelers.

Located at 526 S. Stratford Road in Winston-Salem. See ad on page 7. 336.721.1768 @windsorjewelersnc

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How To Manage In-Law Relationships and Conflicts

BY CAROLYN S. PETERSON

You are often warned as you approach that walk down the aisle, ‘Remember, you don’t just marry a person, you marry the family, too.’ In the whirlwind of giddy love, when you don’t often engage your brain, you may think you’ve found the Osmond family to join, but come to find out, you’ve chosen to join the Manson family, with crazies and issues you had no idea existed.

The idea of in-laws is the fodder of many jokes, great TV shows, and movies. From the meddling mom on ‘Everybody Loves Raymond’ to the lie-detector dad in ‘Meet the Parents,’ in-laws often get a bad wrap, but sadly, many times in real life they deserve that bad image. If you think that putting too much emphasis on the in-law relationships is overstating their importance, you would be wrong.

The worry isn’t an irrational one; research has shown that in-law relations are a key determinant of marital happiness. So how should you approach your relationship with your in-laws? I’m glad you asked!

THE BEST RULES FOR DEALING WITH IN-LAWS

After reading many studies and research papers on this topic, ranging from having a loving and respectful relationship with one’s in-laws to ‘in-laws from hell’, as well as personal experience of myself and my friends, it boils down to just a few rules to follow to keep your marriage strong when faced with in-law troubles.

RULE #1: YOUR SPOUSE COMES FIRST; THAT’S WHERE YOUR LOYALTY LIES

From the day you make your first choice or decision in life, you have to weigh the consequences. Life is chock-full of difficult decisions in which no solution leaves everyone happy. Unfortunately, that’s exactly what a difficult in-law situation creates…a perfect example of ambivalence that, in a worst-case scenario, may persist over the years or even a lifetime. Here’s the advice of many marriage therapists and psychologists: In a conflict between your spouse and your family, support your spouse. Always.

It is your duty, when you take your vows, to support your husband or wife and to manage your own family in a way that consistently conveys this fact. To take it a step further, you both must present a united front to both families, making it clear from the beginning that you have

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your spouse’s back…they come first; an attack on your spouse should be seen and perceived as an attack on you. The two of you are one. Remember that part of the vows? This is especially true when a situation arises that you know without a doubt your spouse is being unfairly treated, lies are told and perpetuated about your spouse, or perhaps your spouse is being bullied due to jealousy or when it comes to family members asking for money. Always discuss the ‘giving’ of funds, because where family is concerned, it is never a loan; you will never ever see that money again! There’s no doubt that some of the bitterest disputes in marriages occur over a spouse’s failure to support his or her partner.

That Bible verse where it says, ‘a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife…’ yeah, that means supporting her above all else.

No mediation is needed in a situation like this; you and your spouse are together. There’s never a reason to feel caught in the middle, that’s not where you are to be…your place is on the side of your spouse.

RULE #2: REMIND YOURSELF WHY YOU ARE MAKING THE EFFORT WITH YOUR IN-LAWS

When you make every effort to accommodate your spouse’s family, you are giving your husband or wife a gift. Throughout life, we get used to putting up with our own relatives, adjusting to their oddities. But now you have to do it all over again for people you share no blood with. With every slight or bad intention from your in-laws, keep telling yourself that turning the other cheek

over and over is because you love your spouse.

However, we all have our breaking point. You shouldn’t allow yourself to be abused to just keep the peace…tell your spouse how hurt you are and then allow and expect Rule #1 to kick in!

RULE #3: KEEP TOUCHY SUBJECTS TO A MINIMUM WITH DISCUSSIONS

If you know that you and your in-laws are on opposite spectrums in the political arena, don’t bring certain topics up! Never, ever! Politics can be the biggest bomb in the minefield of in-law relationships, and there’s really no reason to engage in these discussions because you aren’t going to get them to agree or convert them. It just ain’t gonna’ happen! No matter how much you have that urge to really make your in-laws understand or wise up to how wrong-minded they are, it isn’t worth it. A casual chat over the President, taxes, or religion can take a terrible turn, quickly. Over the course of a marriage, you may not be able to avoid the discussions about how the family disapproves of your marriage, your parenting style or lack thereof, or how you live, but you can take make it a rule to take unnecessary debates off the ‘table’ and replace them with a bowl of pleasantries or a good potato salad.

At the end of the day, remember the vows you made and to whom you made them… your spouse and their happiness come first because that affects your happiness, too.

Ask me how I know….because I know!

Sometimes knocking on wood isn’t a good thing.

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ROSEY’S REVIEW

BY ROSEY

Tanglewood Crossing Shopping Center 5279 U.S. Hwy. 158 | Advance, NC 27006 | 336-940-2010 | DavieTavern.com

Whenever I see Davie Tavern show up on my list for a restaurant review, I always get excited. It means I get a first-hand look at the new menu Chef Mack Parker and the supporting crew of amazing chefs at Davie Tavern has cooked up! And his culinary creativity NEVER disappoints! Plus, Davie Tavern is a restaurant noted for a casual dining atmosphere with exceptional food and service!

With very few exceptions (i.e., ketchup), everything is scratch made in Davie Tavern’s kitchen. I couldn’t wait to taste what Mack had on the menu!

First up – drinks! With a fully-stocked bar, featuring a number of locally crafted beers and wines, bartender Sam Warlow takes bartending to artistic proportions. We sampled his latest concoction, the DAVIE PROHIBITION, which was a blend of bourbon, prickly pear juice, rum, brandy, honey, and lemon juice. It was a drink that might have made the Temperance Union of the 1920s change their mind on that whole dry movement.

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I’m a firm believer in soup. I love it all year long! Davie Tavern makes their soup from scratch daily, and the soup options change every two days! In fact, Davie Tavern’s signature She Crab soup is regionally famous and available at least once a month!

So, needless to say, when Chef Mack brought out a hearty bowl of BROCCOLI CHEESE SOUP, I said, “Yes, please!” This is the kind of soup that makes you forget your childhood disdain for broccoli. In fact, I think most kids would readily open wide for a bite of this cheesy goodness! White and yellow cheddar with the perfect balance of garlic… Delicious!

Any appetizer that comes with a little side of sweet and spicy is a good start to a meal, so I wasn’t disappointed with the BANG PAO SHRIMP! Chef Mack has created a special sweet sauce for fresh shrimp that he garnished with chili flakes… perfect combination!

DEEP FRIED MUSHROOMS rounded out our appetizer course and, in a word: YUM! Served with a creamy horseradish sauce, the deep fried mushrooms are rich and

crunchy… Absolutely bursting with flavor, this new appetizer is going to be a big hit!

As we tucked in and moved into the entrée level, I was again amazed by the creativity that takes place at Davie Tavern. I was eager to try more, so when we were served BLACKENED MAHI MAHI TACOS, I wasn’t disappointed. Of course, in fairness, I rarely meet a taco I don’t like, but Chef Mack has kicked up the traditional taco with a fish that is both mild and sweet. With a dollop of corn relish and chipotle aioli, this is a taco bursting with flavors of the southwest!

Served with a side of BEER BATTERED ONION RINGS, this is a hearty meal that doesn’t disappoint!

Ah… burgers. Davie Tavern is THE place to go for burgers in the Triad. And now, there’s a new sheriff (I mean… burger) in town. The TAVERN BURGER has taken everything great about the traditional Davie Bull Burger, and upped the game… which I really didn’t think was possible to do, but then they said, “Bacon Jam,” and I drooled a little. Okay, a lot. Seriously, friends – brace yourselves for this one. Chef Mack’s

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signature blend burger… smoked Gouda… bacon jam… roasted garlic and black pepper mayonnaise on a fresh brioche. I really think that says it all. Oh, and the burger was served with hand cut FRENCH FRIES. As delicious as the fries were, I almost forgot they were there.

They had to pry the Tavern Burger from my hands for the next one, but it was a sacrifice I was willing to make once they told me that I’d be trying TENDER SAUTÉED SCALLOPS. Served over a bed of chorizo risotto, these scallops are perfectly cooked and topped with corn salsa. A beautiful presentation that is only undone by the perfect flavors!

Up next, we tried the DOUBLE BONED PORK CHOP and I’m not sure what the point of the second bone is, except maybe it doubled the deliciousness quotient? Either way you look at it – or took a bite out of it – this savory cut of meat was topped with an unexpected surprise… Blueberry chipotle glaze. I know, right? There’s nothing Chef Mack doesn’t think of! And it was awesome! And besides a perfectly cooked pork chop, we had Davie Tavern’s GARLIC MASHED POTATOES. Decadent!

If you read regularly, you know this girl loves a good steak. And when we wrapped up our tour of entrees with a PORTERHOUSE STEAK with roasted garlic and blue cheese butter, I was in steak-loversheaven. Beautifully charred, the porterhouse steak was tender and flavorful and the side of garlic mashed potatoes… well, I had a hard time putting my fork down so I could take notes.

Finally, we got to desserts. Yeah, I know. Three appetizers and five entrees later, we had dessert.

Don’t judge. This is my job. My awesome, amazing, delicious, everyone-wants-to-be-friendswith-Rosey-on-review-nights job. With that said, we started off with CHOCOLATE CHOCOLATE CHIP BREAD PUDDING. That wasn’t a typo. The chocolate in this dessert is so nice, they named it twice. And speaking of two – hello, caramel sauce and chocolate sauce. Both are drizzled on this rich bread pudding, along with fresh whipped cream.

Ah. Maz. Ing. We also sampled PEANUT BUTTER PIE and if you like peanut butter, you must go and sample a piece for yourself. But don’t expect it to be heavy! I’m not sure how he does it, but Chef Mack has made the peanut butter light and airy. It has a mousse-like texture that is silky and smooth.

So after bidding everyone goodnight and congratulating Chef Mack on another stellar job with the new menu, I rolled myself home. Dining at Davie Tavern is always a treat, and I love visiting them for lunch, dinner, or even Sunday brunch!

With the upcoming holidays, it’s also nice to know that Davie Tavern caters, though to be honest, it might be better to just invite your family and friends to meet you at the restaurant. There’s too much good to choose from to only cater a few options! Besides – that way, you and your friends can serve things up Rosey-style and get a taste of everything! You can always check Facebook for updates on daily specials and updates for seasonal parties and wine tastings!

Go soon, and be sure to tell them that Rosey sent ya! In fact, you might see me there. Just be sure to let me know if I have bacon jam on my chin!

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A TALE OF TWO CITIES?

BY FAMILY SERVICES

Winston-Salem and Forsyth County are thriving. The Wake Forest Innovation Quarter is bustling with start-ups, tech firms, the Wake Forest University Medical School, and events in Baily Park. Downtown is brimming with restaurants and attracting new residents.

Business 40 will soon become a safe and swift expressway, adorned with creative corridors.

• 93 percent of teachers participating in our Forsyth County School Readiness Project report significant improvement in the behavior and self-regulation of their 3- and 4-year-old students;

And, Winston-Salem and Forsyth County are at or near the bottom of many national rankings:

• 96 percent of abused children served through our Child Advocacy Center do not experience a recurrence of abuse.

• Fourth from the bottom of all the counties in the country in economic mobility.

However, Family Services and other CBOs face challenges and threats to our capacity to do all that is needed—“all that is asked of us”—to build strong families and communities and contribute to the economic vitality of Forsyth County.

• 269th out of 274 cities in terms of racial and economic inclusion.

• The 16th highest rate of housing evictions among 100 mid-size cities.

• The highest rate of child food-insecurity in the country.

CAN THIS TALE OF TWO CITIES BE WOVEN INTO A SINGLE STORY OF SHARED PROSPERITY?

While economic development is the essential driver, community-building organizations have a unique role to play in forging a sustainable community that provides opportunities for all its residents.

Family Services is one of the many community-building organizations (CBOs) that are working to create healthy, equitable communities. Our annual contribution to the well-being of the 10,000 families and children we serve is significant: • 619 children, ages 0 to 5, are learning the social and emotional skills that are necessary for school readiness and life; • 400 four-year-olds in our Head Start program, all of whom come from low-income homes, graduate ready for kindergarten;

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• 80 percent of counseling clients make good to excellent progress on their goals;

ARE WE OVERLOOKING THE ECONOMIC VALUE OF COMMUNITY-BUILDING ORGANIZATIONS LIKE FAMILY SERVICES?

Nationwide, human services CBOs benefit one in five Americans collectively, employ more than 3 million Americans, and generate more than $200 billion in economic activity annually.

While human services CBOs are providing clear value today, our potential is much greater. Yet, against the backdrop of an increasing need for agencies like Family Services—driven by income inequality, lagging student achievement, an aging population, and the challenge of the opioid epidemic— the financial stability of the human services sector is deeply threatened.

Recent studies show that too many CBOs operate under persistent deficits, have few or no financial reserves, and lack access to capital to invest in technology and modern data-sharing tools. Addressing these complex and interrelated challenges requires a comprehensive response.

That’s why we continue to work with community partners to strengthen Family Services’ capacity for innovation and adapt to meet evolving needs through our core program areas: counseling, family safety, and child development. We are pursuing community-wide initiatives to expand Pre-K programs and prevent family violence.

COMMUNITY CHANGE IS DEPENDENT UPON COMMUNITY ENGAGEMENT.

We are also committed to ensuring that the human services sector in Forsyth County has the resources needed to make our rankings on economic mobility, social inclusion, housing stability, and childhood well-being the rival of any city in the country.

That’s why we’re also committed to building stronger relationships with public and private funders who recognize the importance of the capacity for innovation and are eager to invest in it.

Our “Raising Every Child” capital campaign, for example, addresses Forsyth County’s pressing needs of the most vulnerable population, children from birth to age 5. Led by community volunteers, the $3.75 million campaign will improve the physical, social and emotional health of 1,500 young children annually. Benefiting children, families and preschool teachers, “Raising Every Child” contributes to building a better future for our community.

More than $3.2 million, or 88%, of the goal has been raised from community foundations, businesses and private donors. This response to “Raising Every Child” gives us hope as we turn to the community to reach our goal and help close the opportunity gap a little more—writing a tale of a singular city in which every child and family can thrive.

We are grateful to the community and many sustaining partners who work with us each year to create a better future for all of us.

Thank you for keeping the VISION IN MOTION!

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Habitat for Humanity’s Lewisville ReStore® Shop – Donate - Volunteer

BY VONDA HENDERSON

Have you visited the Habitat for Humanity® Lewisville ReStore®? You may think that the store carries industrial tools and products to help with building projects. Many Habitat ReStores do sell those products; however, the Lewisville ReStore’s focus is on home furnishings, accessories, home décor, books, kitchen items, and those things that make a room or home standout; items that make a house a home. The overhead banners make it easy to locate which section may be of interest to you, such as Lighting, Furniture, Hardware, Unique (think vintage or out of the ordinary items), or Home Décor. The displays are designed to showcase products to their best advantage and the store is staffed with a dedicated team waiting to help you. This small, local store even offers a service larger stores cannot—if you have a specific need in mind, they’re happy to make a note of it and give you a call should that item be donated.

The Lewisville ReStore® opened in July 2017. Gina Player, Lewisville ReStore Manager, has been part of the Lewisville community for 22 years; and for ten years of that time she was a shop owner in the area. Edwin Cubero is the Assistant Store Manager and offers assistance with Spanish-speaking customers and donors.

Kim Marshall is another valuable team member. “This store is a great fit for the community,” shared Gina. “Lewisville has new families moving into the area, as well as long-term residents. We offer quality items at reasonable prices. For the DIY crowd, this is a great place to shop. You’re likely to find items that have ‘good bones’ and just need some imagination to restore or repurpose them.”

In addition to shopping, the Lewisville ReStore® is a great place to donate, too. With new donated items coming in the Lewisville ReStore nearly every day, the merchandise of the shop changes frequently. It’s worth dropping by on a frequent basis to see what’s new and what the weekly specials are.

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Mark your calendars for the first weekend of each month. The bag sale at the Lewisville ReStore® is not to be missed.

Buy a reusable tote bag for $2.50, then fill it with items priced at $5 or less and pay a flat fee of $20 at checkout– no matter how many items you may have ‘in the bag.’

For book lovers, how does $5.00 for a bag of books sound? A bargain – it sounds like a bargain!

If you are looking to downsize or remodel your home, or need to clear out items from an estate of a loved one, the ReStore offers helpful services. Large items that are gently used and resalable can be picked up by the ReStore at your home—for free! Existing cabinetry that is in good condition can be removed by the ReStore’s volunteer deconstruction crew.

Not only will you save yourself money, but your items will get a new home!

If you’re looking for volunteer opportunities, this might be just the ticket. Habitat for Humanity® offers a 45 minutes orientation on volunteering opportunities. Volunteers basically set their own time commitments, and there are a variety of ways to serve.

Perhaps your background is suited for merchandising, cleaning donated items, processing donations, or researching to determine appropriate pricing. For more information on volunteer opportunities, visit habitatforsyth.volunteerhub.com.

Donations are accepted anytime; smaller items can be brought in via the front door, or there is an intake area in the back with a drive-up bell notification for the staff. Free pick-up is available based upon Habitat for Humanity’s® general guidelines. Check Habitat’s website (habitatforsyth.org) and select Donation Services for the contact information, to review the pick-up guidelines, or to schedule a donation pick-up. For donation questions, call 336.893.8494. Remember that Habitat ReStores® help fund Habitat for Humanity’s® work of helping hard working and deserving families reach their goal of homeownership and safely aging in place.

Visit the Lewisville Habitat for Humanity ReStore® location at 6491 Shallowford Road, Lewisville, NC (near the town square); their store number is 336.916.2028. Their hours are Tuesday through Saturday from 10:00 am to 6:00 pm. Follow them on their Facebook page (@LewisvilleReStore) to keep up-todate on weekly specials.

Gina and the staff look forward to your visit. Remember, the store inventory changes on a daily basis so drop by often to see what might be just the thing to finish up the look of your home.

Happy shopping!

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Celebrating the Holidays in the Twin City

Holiday music swirls around. The scent of appealing food wafts through the air. Bright lights twinkle and flash from windows, as the days become shorter and the nights colder. Yes, the holidays have fully arrived in Winston-Salem.

With this enjoyable season, comes many different types of events and celebrations.

From local fairs boasting regional crafts and cuisine, to a variety of shopping happenings, the Twin City is a perfect area to enjoy the holidays. This year, join many Winston-Salem and surrounding area residents and engage in one of the countless family-friendly activities hosted in this lovely city. Read on for a list of engaging activities to enjoy and participate in.

A HANDCRAFTED HOLIDAY

With only a small entrance fee of $5, one can enjoy strolling around the Benton Convention center in search of the perfect holiday gift. This event, hosted on December 8th and 9th in downtown Winston-Salem, is a juried craft show featuring over 100 of the best artists and craftsmen in the region. The event is perfectly timed to offer quality, handmade jewelry, gifts, home decor and more for holiday gift shopping!

BREAKFAST WITH SANTA & HOLIDAY BAZAAR

Also on December 8th, from 9 AM to 12 PM, families can enjoy a pancake breakfast, plus a photograph with Santa for a small entrance fee of $5 per family.

Hosted at the Re3 Church in Kernersville, this event also features crafts from local vendors.

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2018 TOYS FOR TOTS SANTA PICTURE EVENT Another great opportunity for families to have their picture with Santa also boasts an opportunity to give back.

Sunday, December 2nd, 2018, from 9:30 am - 3:00 pm, join all at the Granary at WinMock at Kinderton in Bermuda Run, NC. The event costs $52 (up to 2 kids, $10 for each additional child), plus at least ONE unwrapped gift for “Toys for Tots’” valued at $10 or more. This price includes a photo session with Santa, plus an opportunity to give back to area children.

Each year this event collects around 300 toys that are distributed to Davie County children just in time for Christmas.

HOLIDAYS IN THE VILLAGE CRAFT & VENDOR FAIR If one is still searching for perfect gifts for their loved ones, consider attending this local fair. Located at the Village Inn Event Center in Clemmons, NC, this event includes a raffle, local vendors, crafts for the children, plus much more. Hosted on Sunday, December 16th, many are sure to find that last minute gift.

CHRISTMAS PUPPET SHOW This event is sure to delight both the young and the young at heart. Join all at the “Christmas Puppet Show,” hosted at Korner’s Folly in Kernersville, NC, December 1st (9:00 AM to 9:30 PM) and December 7th (6:00 PM to 6:30 PM). For a small entrance fee of $5, come hear the Körner’s spin on the classic 1820s poem

by Clement Clarke Moore, “A Visit from St. Nicholas.”

TRIAD STAGE’S “A CHRISTMAS CAROL”

Another classic Christmas story will take place on a variety of dates throughout the month of December. The Hanesbrands Theater will feature this time-honored classic on Fridays, Saturdays and Sundays before Christmas. Join Scrooge and the Spirits, as they head back for a holiday ghost story of hope and redemption. One night changes everything as the shadows of his past give Ebenezer one last chance for a future, in “A Christmas Carol.”

TOY TIME EXHIBIT

Go back in time to an era when there were no cell phones, video games, or electronic toys. Hosted at the Kaleideum Downtown throughout the month of December, the exhibit invites visitors to engage and delight in tumbling, sliding, rocking, spinning, dancing, and flying folk toys that demonstrate the effects of gravity, inertia, rhythm, harmonic motion, and mechanics.

LIFE AFTER DEATH: THE DAY OF THE DEAD IN MEXICO

Also taking place throughout the month of December, is this insightful exhibit.

Hosted annually at the Museum of Anthropology at Wake Forest University, this exhibit celebrates the unique Mexican observance of the Day of the Dead.

The exhibit’s centerpiece is a traditional “ofrenda,” an altar with food and beverage offerings, flowers, sugar skulls, and photos of deceased family members.

This exhibit also includes information on the celebration’s history and its unique skeleton-themed folk art. Exhibit text is in English and Spanish. Admission is free.

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Tropical Movies: A Cure for the Winter Blues

BY TABATHA RENEGAR

If you are a person who loves cold weather and the winter season, then you can turn the page right now. Have a nice day and enjoy the dreary, gray, maybe-snowy-maybe-notsnowy days that lie ahead!

Still reading? Then, like me, you are NOT looking forward to the upcoming months of layering clothing, warming up cars, and staying indoors. Now, don’t get me wrong, over the last few years I have tried to embrace the slower pace that typically comes with the first months of a new year. I’ve tried to think of it as an opportunity to recharge for the warmer and more fun spring and summer months!

Yet, just when I think I’m going to maintain a cheery disposition, I look out the window to a chilly landscape of grays and browns.

Ideally, when this happens, we would all head south…. waaaaayyy south… to spend a few weeks beneath the palm trees, listening to the gentle lap of the ocean on the sand. But who can afford that every winter?

Solution: Cozy up by the fire with a good movie set in a picturesque tropical location!

In no particular order, here is a Top Ten List of sunny movies to help you survive the winter doldrums!

Something About Mary – Convertibles, cruise ships, and hilarity! Not one for the whole family, but this movie really does offer some great laughs all with that gorgeous Miami skyline in the background!

Point Break – Who can resist watching Keanu Reeves

investigate a string of bank robberies possibly being committed by surfers! Especially when the gang of surfers is led by young Patrick Swayze! Parts of the film were shot at Lake Powell in Utah as well as Manhattan Beach, Santa Monica, and Venice, California. (extra tidbit: Although the final scene of the film is set in Australia, it wasn’t filmed there – it was filmed in Florida.)

Key Largo – So, you will need to

use your imagination a bit for this 1948 film noir crime drama since it’s in black and white! However, Lauran Bacall and Humphrey Bogart heat up the screen so much you almost need sunscreen! Watch it and then sing along on YouTube with the Key Largo song by Bertie Higgins: “We had

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it all, just like Bogey and Bacall.” That 1982 song video is an added beachy bonus!

50 First Dates – Ah, Hawaii! There have been so many movies filmed throughout the stunning Hawaiian Islands, they could practically have their own Top Ten list! But what makes 50 First Dates special is the playful charisma shared between the ever-sunshiny Drew Barrymore and Adam Sandler! Not to mention adorable animals in the many scenes shot at Sea Life Park!

The Beach - Suspenseful plot, gorgeous Thailand scenery with vintage Leonardo. You’re welcome.

Jurassic Anything – The Jurassic series might be the best

commercials the Hawaiian Islands of Kauai and Oahu ever had!

Botanical gardens, cattle ranches, waterfalls, and cliffs are all backdrops in the fun, exciting and visually thrilling Jurassic movies.

Blue Lagoon – Remember back in the 1980s when this “romantic

survival drama” caused such controversy? Shot in Fiji and Jamaica, it’s hard not to feel the allure of this story with all its scenic beauty and the beauty of the very young Brooke Shields and Christopher Atkins.

(Whatever happened to THAT guy?)

Cast Away – Tom Hanks, nominated for Best Actor in a Leading Role for this film, and his crew got to spend their hard days at work in Monuriki, Fiji. Perhaps Wilson is still there…

Pirates of the Caribbean - what islands haven’t they used? The cast and crew have shot on St. Vincent and the Grenadines, Tortuga, Dominica, the Bahamas, Singapore, Molokai, Puerto Rico, and even England! If seeing those gorgeous locales doesn’t cheer you up in the middle of January, surely Johnny Depp’s silly antics as Captain Jack Sparrow will!

Paradise, Hawaiian Style - Elvis fans will remember this 1966

classic made on Oahu. By today’s standards, it’s about as politically incorrect as they come so brace yourself and have a couple of hours of nostalgia with The King!

Casino Royale – If the Bahamas and Venice don’t warm you up, the action in this Bond thriller sure does the trick! Released in November of 2006, many critics claim that it is one of the best Bond films ever made. You be the judge!

Bonus #11: Finding Nemo. P. Sherman, 42 Wallaby Way, Sydney. Need I say more?

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A Calling to Join the Military

BY LISA S.T. DOSS

The front porch was an ideal gathering place to sit and quietly listen to the telling of memories – amazing, almost unbelievable stories of the days when Grandpa or Daddy was in uniform. To a boy or a girl, the idea of living in a tent, having great adventures in faraway countries with good buddies appeared grand.

The pledge of honor is a calling, a sincere desire to help those in need and protect the idea of our country’s freedom. For many of today’s active military and veterans, the path to enlistment led to opportunities.

REASONS

For each person, the decision is personal.

Joining stemmed from perhaps a passion for military history, airplanes or flying, a family influence, the desire to learn a skill or pursue an educational degree. “I knew from a pretty young age I was going to join the military,” writes MSgt. Christy Brown, USNG RET. “Both of my grandfathers were military and one of my uncles. All were Army or North Carolina National Guard, NCNG. I enlisted in the guard because I still had a service requirement after active duty. At the time I was working in network surveillance, and going to school to become a paralegal. After 9/11, my reenlistment came up, and I had a real wakeup call.

My reenlistment had a stronger meaning.

It was about patriotism and service to my country.”

ARMED SERVICE VOCATIONAL APTITUDE BATTERY

While colleges require entrance from the scores of an SAT or ACT examination, the military has a multi-aptitude test called the ASVAB, comprising arithmetic reasoning and mathematics knowledge, world knowledge, and paragraph comprehension. The score determines the degree of qualification for particular

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military occupational specialties, and potentially, for an exceptionally high score, an enlistment incentive.

“Basic training is the first introduction of military life, expectation, thinking, and routine,” says MSgt. Kevin Doss, USNG RET. “Based on the ASVAB score, recruits may be able to choose their path and skill. Keep in mind, the needs of a base determine what field, job, and rank it will accept. A ‘dream sheet’ may list your wishes, but orders may take you someplace unexpected.”

UP, UP AND AWAY!

The term “deployment” often is connected to a combat zone. Beyond times of war, our troops are essential for routine and humanitarian missions, training, and establishing and visiting bases in what a unit considers its home. The “call” also may be directed to a state or community suffering from flooding, fire, or power outages.

Serving can lead to the opening of unimaginable doors, perhaps, to international living and experiencing a unique culture, a state’s National Guard Unit, a career, and friends located around the world. These are the reasons

active members reenlist, and veterans remember and retell the stories of events and the many people who influenced their lives. With rank comes privileges.

PURSUING SERVICE

If someone you know, or you yourself, are seeking to enlist, potential service members must fulfill entrance requirements. Each branch has a list of expectations including health, weight, and an excellent physical condition to pass a standard screening.

Before scheduling an appointment to talk to a recruiter, seek out an active member of the military or a veteran as a vital source of information. Great advice comes from personal experience; therefore, allow hours for the exchange. Expect to hear stories and a matter of fact sentiment paraphrased as, “Enlist. Go and do something greater than yourself. Live beyond your backyard.

See the world and meet people. It may end up to be the best decision of your life!”

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BY JULIE FRITZ There is nothing like a great hairstyle to make you feel your personal best. But that isn’t always easy to find. Sometimes you really don’t know what There are lots of ways you want to do with your hair, let alone what would to personalize your care and color look best on you. Your hair is 90% of your profile, at Paparazzi Hair Salon. so you want it to look great. That is why it is so important to find the right salon that you can trust.

WELLA HAIR CARE PROFESSIONALS If you haven’t found a salon like that, or if you are Paparazzi Hair Salon is proud to be a Wella Elite looking to make a change, you must make an appointment at Professionals Salon. Wella is the largest hair Paparazzi Hair Salon in Clemmons. color line used in the world. The salon staff is trained by some of the top Wella worldwide For the last five years, Paparazzi Hair Salon has been helping educators. They are fortunate to be provided customers feel beautiful by providing a variety of services. with in-salon training, by the Wella Brand Working as a team, the stylists are able to collaborate educators, to use the latest techniques so together to give you exactly what will work best for you. Hair they can provide the perfect color for you. texture, color, and style are important factors in determining To maintain their status, they will continue to your perfect look. For the second year in a row, they were receive training in the most current trends and voted Best Hair Salon by the Winston-Salem Journal techniques. As their client, you will always Readers’ Choice Awards. They know how to make their have access to the newest most exciting clients happy, which is why you will have no trouble finding options available. lots of excellent reviews of their business.

FREE CONSULTATION

When you come into the salon, you can always expect personalized service. Co-owner Bobbie Skinner said, “We provide every client with a free consultation. This is so important because we want to be able to talk to them and find out what they are thinking about style wise, but also be able to take into consideration lots of other factors. Your lifestyle, the time and care necessary to maintain the style, skin tone, fashion style, and budget all help us determine what the best style will be.” You will feel confident that every aspect possible has been explored with you before you decide on your look. That is only one of the things that set Paparazzi apart.

SERVICES

This is a full-service hair salon. You can get everything from a basic haircut to specialized color, keratin treatments, perms, deep conditioning, and some waxing services.

They also provide a variety of specialty hair services. Their hair botox treatment can strengthen and revitalize damaged hair.

It is a favorite of clients as it instantly strengthens, adds shine, de-frizzes, plumps hair, helps it dry faster and only takes ten minutes. Olaplex can be used to turn damaged, lifeless curly hair into bouncy, beautiful, shiny curls. With the holidays approaching, it is a great time to treat yourself by adding one of their glossing treatments to your service to give your hair extra shine and sleek, smooth look.

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A CARING MEMBER OF OUR COMMUNITY

This isn’t just a great salon; they are also a great member of the community. They are always reaching out to help. Most recently, they participated in a fundraiser for St. Baldrick’s, which raises money and awareness to help conquer childhood cancer. But they are always getting involved locally. They are known for sponsoring programs and organizations including West Forsyth High School, Humane Society of Davie County, Forsyth Country Day School, Clemmons Food Pantry, Clemmons Rotary Club, Clemmons Middle School and local people in need. They also give back by offering all school, police, firefighters and medical employees a special discount with proof of employment.

Paparazzi Hair Salon is located at 6000 Meadowbrook Mall Ct. in Clemmons. They are open Monday 8:30-7, Tuesday and Thursday 9-7, Wednesday 9-6, Friday 9-5, and Saturday 9-4. To set up your appointment, you can book online at paparazzihairsalon.com, or you can call them at 336-893-7169. Be sure to also follow them on Facebook and Instagram so you can get up to date information on the latest techniques and specials they have available.

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Winter Squash Soup with Pie Spices RECIPE:

BY SARA WILES

DIRECTIONS

INGREDIENTS

• 3 ½ pounds kabocha squash (or pureed sweet potato) • 2 pounds butternut squash, halved and seeded • 1 ½ pounds acorn squash, halved and seeded • Salt and pepper • 2 cups water • 4 tablespoons unsalted butter • 1 white onion, diced • ¼ teaspoon cardamom • ¼ teaspoon nutmeg • 1∕8 teaspoon cinnamon • 4 ½ cups chicken stock • 1 cup heavy cream

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1. Preheat oven to 350 degrees.

2. Season kabocha (or sweet potato), butternut and acorn squashes with salt and pepper. Lay them cut side down on rimmed baking sheets. Pour 1 cup of water onto each baking sheet and cover the squash with foil. Bake for 1 hour, or until tender. Let cool slightly and carefully scoop flesh into a bowl.

3. In a large saucepan or casserole dish, melt 4 tablespoons of butter. Add onion and cook over medium-low heat, stirring occasionally, until softened.

Add cardamom, nutmeg, ginger and cloves and cook until fragrant. Add the chicken stock and bring to a boil over moderately high heat. Add squash flesh and heavy cream and simmer over moderate heat for five minutes. Working in batches, puree the soup in a food processor or blender and return to pan. Season with salt and pepper and keep warm over low heat.

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BY MEGAN TAYLOR

Sweets are in abundance during the holidays. From the cookies, cakes, and more, there always seems to be something tasty in my kitchen. However, too many sweet treats can be a problem.

Many baking recipes include sugar, butter, and other fatty ingredients that are unhealthy for a person’s body. The good news, though, is that there are still ways for you to have your favorite confections that include healthier ingredients. Put the tips below to use this holiday season.

Trust me, your recipes will taste the same, and your loved ones will never know that you swapped oil for applesauce.

REPLACING OIL:

As mentioned above, a great way to replace some of the fat is using unsweetened applesauce instead of oil.

A common rule of thumb is for every one cup of oil in a recipe, switch out for ¾ a cup of applesauce. Don’t have any on hand? Combine one mushed apple and a splash of lemon juice.

Greek yogurt is another favorite of many and works fantastic in place of oil or fat. It keeps the moisture and flavor of the dish.

Plus, the yogurt is full of calcium, protein, and probiotics.

REPLACING SUGAR:

You can’t have a dessert without sugar!

Or so they say. Instead of artificial sugar,

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mash up a banana into your ingredients.

Make sure the banana is ripe. This substitution keeps the sweetness of the dessert but has healthier advantages, such as being rich in glucose, easy to digest, and improves your energy, preventing a sugar crash.

Alternatives to white table sugar are honey, maple syrup, or dates. These natural forms reduce the amount of added sugar but still should be consumed in reasonable amounts.

Lastly, spices work well in adding flavor and taste to treats with excessive amounts of sugar. Cinnamon and nutmeg are common replacements and boost metabolism, an extra benefit.

REPLACING FLOUR:

Almost all baking recipes include flour.

Yet flour can affect your health in many ways, both good and bad. One simple way to add more health benefits is using whole wheat flour in lieu of white flours.

The latter is made from heavily refined and processed wheat grain that isn’t good for you. As for whole wheat flour, it is processed differently and has more health advantages.

Try making your own flour from oats, flax, and nuts. All you need to do is blend up the items in a food processor or

101 blender, and you are good to go. There is no need to change the needed amount the recipes call for; just blend until you have the same amount of fine dust.

OTHER TIPS AND TRICKS:

Even though it is a baking recipe, all desserts don’t have to actually be baked.

Research and find a no-bake treat for your favorite sweet. No-bake desserts can include healthier ingredients and possibly use less fatty ingredients than are needed for a baked dessert.

Dark chocolate is known for its advantages, including aiding in weight loss, reducing stress, and controlling a person’s appetite. Moderation is key, but don’t hesitate to switch any type of chocolate with dark chocolate.

Avocados are a healthy fat and a unique way to replace butter. This fruit is packed with protein and nutrients. In addition, it gives a smooth texture to the item.

I love to bake, but sometimes the recipes aren’t the healthiest. The solution to that problem is incorporating these tips. Using substitutions in baking is easy and simple.

Plus, you won’t feel guilty eating a few more pieces of a sweet treat, because you know it is healthier.

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Busy as a Bee Concierge The Busy Person’s Best Friend!

BY ADELE CASANOVA

CREATING SATISFIED CLIENTS

“Oh, you are the best!” is the response Busy as a Bee owner Minnie Aikens recently received from her client, Lilicia Bailey. On her recent move to Winston-Salem, Ms. Bailey hired Minnie and her highly trained staff to assist her with the move. Minnie and her team unpacked, set up and organized Ms. Bailey’s home just as if she had never moved at all. This type of personal assistance service is one of the many concierge services that Busy as a Bee offers.

Minnie is especially excited about expanding the personal assistant service within her business.

PROVIDING ASSISTANCE WHEN MOST NEEDED

“I was hesitant at first to engage assistance with my move,” says Ms. Bailey.

“I thought I could handle it on my own, but after a consultation with Minnie, I realized that I would benefit from her high level of professionalism. I was blown away by the phenomenal job Minnie and her quality team did for me! I walked into a completely ready, organized home. I was impressed with the organizational details such as not only were my clothes color coordinated in my closet, but also my sheets color coordinated in my linen closet. Minnie arranged for a decorator to hang my art and mirrors, for staff to unpack and organize my belongings, as well as for a move in ready cleaning service. She is very resourceful.”

OFFERING MANY VALUABLE SERVICES

Busy as a Bee has been offering concierge services to clients in the area since 2008. Minnie started the business because she has a passion for helping others and is detailed oriented with a penchant for organization. Busy as a Bee personal assistant services include tasks relating to home and family, home management, errands, shopping, service provider recommendations, appointment scheduling, moving and relocation services, holiday and event coordination and waiting services for furniture deliveries, repairmen or cable technicians.

ANTICIPATING CLIENT NEEDS

Minnie loves getting to know her clients and learning what is important to them so she can expedite what needs to be done to make their lives run smoothly. “I love not just doing the errand or task at hand, but looking beyond that to see what else needs doing so that I can offer the client that extra personalized service,” says Minnie. Examples might be when checking on the home, bringing in fresh cut flowers from the yard to decorate the kitchen counter, or checking on and changing batteries in any household items. Or, knowing that a client has had a particularly challenging day, shopping for her favorite candy and creating a gift bag of goodies to surprise her. Minnie and her staff enjoy providing details within their personal assistant services that the client doesn’t even realize she needs! “Minnie has learned my needs and anticipates them, helping me to do my day to day work without having to do the extra job of keeping things running smoothly in my home life,” says Ms. Bailey.

SERVING BOTH MEN AND WOMEN

Most of Busy as a Bee’s personal assistant clients are currently women, but the services are equally valuable to busy men. The team at Busy as a Bee is dedicated to providing individualized,

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valuable services to ease the stress in their busy clients’ lives. The team includes small business owners as well as retired professionals who enjoy a second career of helping others succeed. Minnie describes her team as, “the best and the brightest, family oriented and specifically selected for their education and experience.”

FOCUSING ON QUALITY OF LIFE

So, for anyone feeling stressed, overwhelmed and in need of assistance in juggling personal life with professional demands, personal assistant services from Busy as a Bee is a wonderful solution. Minnie and her team treat their clients like family and always keep the client’s needs foremost in mind. Ms. Bailey recommends Busy as a Bee to anyone wanting to focus on quality of life. She has given several friends and work associates gift certificates for Busy as a Bee services. “I can’t say enough good things about the work Minnie, and her team do!” says Ms. Bailey.

To contact Busy as a Bee Concierge, call 336-377-2411 or email Minnie at maikens@ busyasabeeconcierge.com. Find out for yourself how Busy as a Bee lives up to their promise of “Giving you more time to focus on the important things in life.” You can follow Busy as a Bee Concierge on Facebook and Twitter and find them on the web at BusyasaBeeConcierge.com.

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CHECKING YOUR CHRISTMAS STOCKING FOR BLOOD CLOTS Christmas stockings make people smile. From the bright-eyed child on Christmas morning digging through an overflowing sock, to the thoughtful adult who has hidden something special in their family member’s stocking, this symbol of the holiday season is typically associated with joyful surprises and happiness. But sometimes “stockings” during the holiday season, and throughout the year, can hold unwanted surprises, like a blood clot – especially in women who are expecting or have recently had a baby. According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC), one person dies every 6 minutes due to a blood clot, which totals to about 100,000 people each year. Several risk factors place people of any age, gender, or race at higher risk for blood clots than the general population, including being hospitalized due to trauma (car accidents for example) or surgery (especially involving the pelvis, abdomen, hip or knee, such as total knee or hip replacements). About half of all blood clots each year (500,000 or so) are linked to being hospitalized or happen within three months of being in the hospital. Immobility (in bed or a wheelchair) due to serious illness or injury is also a major risk factor for blood clots. Something as simple as sitting with your legs crossed too long can be a risk factor.

Risk factors particular to women include pregnancy (up to three months after the baby is born), use of birth control that contains estrogen, or hormone therapy with estrogen.

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IMPORTANT FACTS ABOUT BLOOD CLOTS AND PREGNANCY

• Blood clots in the lungs are one of the most common causes of pregnancy-related deaths • Women are five times more likely to have a blood clot during pregnancy and three months after • Surgical delivery by C-section doubles the risk for blood clots • Half of blood clots occur during pregnancy and half after delivery • Highest risk period is the first week after childbirth Some readers may be thinking that they are not at risk for blood clots because they are not pregnant and because they are generally healthy and exercise regularly. Heard of Serena Williams, who has 24 Grand Slam tennis titles? She is one of the fittest athletes on the planet, yet she has suffered from multiple episodes of blood clots, both before and after giving birth to a healthy baby girl. I didn’t think I was at risk either, until one evening about 25 years ago when I started experiencing searing pain in my right chest after a particularly stressful day at work, and ended up in the emergency room on a Heparin drip (a medication that thins the blood). It had been three years since my last delivery, but I had been on birth control for several years before and after delivering my last child. You better believe I changed my birth control after that experience.

WOMEN ALSO NEED TO BE AWARE OF ADDITIONAL RISK FACTORS NOT ASSOCIATED WITH CHILDBIRTH. THEY INCLUDE:

• Smoking • Overweight • Age 55 or older • Long-term diseases such as heart and lung conditions, or diabetes • Cancer and its treatment • Personal or family history of blood clots

BLOOD CLOTS COMMONLY OCCUR IN THE ARM OR LEG ACCOMPANIED BY THE FOLLOWING SYMPTOMS:

• Swelling • Pain or tenderness not caused by injury • Skin that is warm to the touch • Redness or discoloration of the skin • If you have these signs or symptoms, alert your doctor as soon as possible.

SYMPTOMS OF A BLOOD CLOT IN THE LUNG MAY INCLUDE:

• Difficulty breathing • Chest pain that worsens with a deep breath • Coughing, or coughing up blood • Faster than normal or irregular heartbeat • Seek immediate attention if you experience these signs or symptoms.

The first step in the prevention of blood clots (in your Christmas stocking or at any time) is to recognize the warning signs and risk factors. Most blood clots are preventable with the proper awareness of risks and symptoms, communication with your primary healthcare provider and/or surgeon, and with swift medical attention if a blood clot is occurring. Save room in your stocking for holiday goodies, instead of blood clots! Happy holidays! For more information refer to the CDC links provided below: “Stop the Clot. Spread the Word.” stoptheclot.org/spreadtheword/ and cdc.gov/ncbddd/dvt.

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LEFT vs RIGHT BRAIN BRAIN

BY BRITTANY M. ORIE

At many moments in life, we may have heard that one side of the brain is stronger than the other. We may have also thought that right-handed people use their left side of their brain more and that left-handed people use their right side of their brain more. Let’s scope out the whole “left brain versus right brain” theory to see whether it’s real or a myth.

WHAT IS THE THEORY?

1960s Nobel-prize winning psychobiologist Roger W. Sperry birthed the theory that people are either right-brained or left-brained. This means that, supposedly, one side of our brain is more dominant than the other side, and the more dominant side determines our strengths, weaknesses, and perhaps even personality traits. But just how effective is this belief? What does each side of the brain look like?

LEFT BRAIN CHARACTERISTICS.

The left side of the brain, according to Dr. Sperry, is associated with: • Logic • Linear thinking • Thinking with words • Math and sciences • Concrete thinking • Facts The left side of the brain is believed to be in charge of analyzing, writing, reading, and comprehension. It is objective, technical, and more literal than the right side of the brain. People who are thought to be dominantly left-brained are more in touch with the tangible world, their bodies, and are very practical, seeking realistic solutions to any problem.

They are detail-oriented, grounded, and would rather employ realistic approaches to life rather than using imagination or intuition.

RIGHT BRAIN CHARACTERISTICS.

According to Dr. Sperry, the right side of the brain is associated with: • Creativity • Intuition • The arts • Nonverbal cues • Holistic thinking • Abstract thinking Right-brained dominance supposedly means that these folks are more on the creative, expressive side. They read between the lines and understand implied meanings very well. They are the artists, the poets, and the free thinkers. They enjoy contemplating different art media and

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adopt an intuitive approach to life, and perhaps use a similar approach to solve problems. They enjoy practices and ideas that are unorthodox and tend to be attracted to things that are unusual.

COLLABORATION, DEBUNKING THE THEORY.

While many people may believe that our personalities, learning styles, strengths and weaknesses, and hobbies, and interests depend on whether they are more “right-brained” or “left-brained,” this theory has been discounted multiple times over the years. There have been studies that performed over a thousand brain imaging scans. Interestingly, the collected brain scans revealed no trace of whether a person is leftbrained or right-brained.

Although it is true that both sides of the brain have distinctively different functions, the nerve fibers connecting the two sides serve as a collaborative feature allowing both sides to work together to perform tasks such as interpreting an art piece or performing a math equation while doing rough estimates and comparisons. The bottom line is that we do not use only one side of our brain at a time; both sides work together to complement each other and perform a given task effectively!

STAYING MENTALLY SHARP.

According to the Alzheimer’s Association, keeping our brains active will keep it healthy and help create new brain cells! So here are a few tips to help maintain the greatness of our minds: • Read and/or write daily for an allotted time.

• Learn, learn, learn! Learn a new hobby, study a topic or subject you don’t know much about, take a class or attend a lecture.

• Play games such as chess, memory games, board games, or video games.

• Aerobic exercises, or any physical exercise in general—blood flow increases brain power.

• Take up a hobby or creative activity that requires you to focus, such as painting, coloring (adult coloring books), or any games with words or numbers.

• Talk! Be intentional about engaging in intellectual conversations with others or even yourself (don’t be ashamed, we always follow our own social script!). Talking about stimulating ideas such as politics, sociological topics, and forward-thinking conversations will keep our brains beefed up.

So, there is no such thing as being left- or right-brained. Just know that both sides equally collaborate to make us who we are.

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A Unique Boutique

BY SUSAN SCHABACKER, PHOTOS BY KATHERINE REEVES Unique boutique URBN Grl is like no other, distinctive and totally adventurist.

Their goal: to bring cool and unique things from small and local businesses. With gifts galore of many lines and brands, they appeal to sassy girls and powered boss babes (though cool dudes are welcome, too).

PASSION MEETS POWER

Putting her passion and power into her savvy, sassy and stylish store, owner Katie Shaver carries products from mostly women-owned businesses, and lots of the businesses are local.

“Empowered women empower women,” says Shaver, one of her favorite quotes.

BRANDS TO BOAST & SHOPPING LOCAL

“I absolutely love every brand I carry,” says Shaver. For super cool, badass shades, try Johnny Fly from Charlotte, NC. And URBN Grl is also home to lots of local lines and brands. Shaver goes out of her way to support the local economy by shopping local whenever possible. One of her favorite local brands, Mray, is lady-owned and has some really fun goods and gifts. Find 100% cruelty-free, vegan fragrances that are paraben and phthalate free. Not only are the products natural and sustainable, but the phrase on each candle is hilarious and sassy as well.

GREATEST GIFTS

When asked what gifts she would feature for the holidays, Shaver was quick to say, “Glacce crystal elixir water bottles, which is a water bottle with a crystal in it.

Such a cool and unique gift. Also, record players and records!”

Sphynx portable razors make great stocking stuffers. They are best for on-the-go when you need a quick touch up.

Shaver suggests her hotel-style keychains, which are sassy and fun. She also likes Ginger June non-toxic roller perfumes.

So, what’s cool (pun intended) for winter, for December and beyond? Jade Rollers – these new beauty tools are flying out of the shop, as are Band vintage tees. Everyone loves vintage and good music!

FRAGRANCE FINDS

You may also wonder what new scents are in? Shaver’s favorite fragrance pick is The Unsettled Co. exclusive URBN Fragrance.

It’s toxic-free and smells amazing.

The Unsettled Co. is a new fragrance line that just launched and the URBN fragrance is exclusive to the shop. She also loves Lou Moon candles, a “holiday fir candle that smells so good and puts you in a Christmas spirit,” says Shaver.

IN THE MOOD FOR MUSIC

Want to find music you resonate with most? Look no further.

URBN Grl carries a little bit of everything, from AC/DC to Beyonce. There’s a diverse variety of new and used vinyl.

And, enjoy the music on the store’s record player as you browse.

BEST OF BRANDS

So, you want to check out the best brands to shop for at URBN Grl…Here they are: • Johnny Fly Co. Sunglasses Charlotte, NC • Lotus Moon Candles - Rock Hill, SC

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• Policy Handbags Charlotte, NC • Sass & Ink - WSNC • Annabelle Beet Art - WSNC • Vicki Glaze Earrings - WSNC • Glacce Water Bottles • Crosley Record Players • Sphynx Portable Razors

BUYERS’ BUZZ

• “URBN Grl has, by far, some of the cutest and unique things I’ve ever seen! Everything from jewelry, totes and even gifts for guys. Definitely a must shop.”

– R.C. • “I loved this store! It has so many unique items and local brands. Customer service was great, as well! I recommend this store for everyone’s gift and personal needs. There are items you won’t find anywhere else!” – A.M. • “Awesome shop! So happy to have it in Winston-Salem.

Unique gifts and even records!

The owner is sweet and passionate about what she sells in her store!” – B.O. • “The owner told me she’s always wanted to open a little shop, and she’s done an awesome job. Unique gifts, local artists, products with a cause, a ton of whimsy and attitude. Not like anything else in Winston.” – K.R.

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December holiday hours are Monday – Saturday 11 am - 7 pm and Sunday 12 pm - 5 pm.

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Valerie Kiser is the co-owner of ECYT (East Coast Yoga Therapy), a program designed to educate and empower yoga teachers in the art and science of Yoga Therapy as a means to promoting the health and well-being of yoga students. ECYT uses a comprehensive and collaborative curriculum focus and emphasizes personal instruction in a professional environment. In June 2018, ECYT was awarded a Certificate of Accreditation through IAYT (The International Association of Yoga Therapists) and is one of 32 accredited schools in the world! Valerie is also the owner and director of Sunrise Yoga Studio in Clemmons and the Sunrise Yoga Teacher Training Program. She has been teaching yoga since 1999 and is a YACEP (Yoga Alliance Continuing Education Provider) through The Yoga Alliance. Valerie is a C-IAYT (Certified Yoga Therapist through IAYT) and an E-RYT 500 (Experienced-Registered Yoga Teacher).

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Dr. Kathy Teasdall joined PENTA in July of 2018, after practicing in another Otolaryngology office for 24 years. She is a graduate of Mississippi State University and the University of Mississippi School of Medicine. She also completed her residency in Otolaryngology at the University of Mississippi School of Medicine.

She is Board Certified by the American Board of Otolaryngology-Head and Neck Surgery. She enjoys seeing patients of all ages. Dr. Teasdall has lived in Winston-Salem since 1993. She and her husband Bob, an orthopedic surgeon, have three sons. In her spare time, she enjoys cooking, college sports, traveling, gardening and reading.

DR. ANN BOGARD

Dr. Ann Bogard joined PENTA in July of 2018 after being in private practice for 38 years. She is a graduate of the State University of New York at Buffalo and the Medical College of Wisconsin. She also completed her residency in Otolaryngology at the University of Pennsylvania.

Dr. Bogard is Board Certified by the American Board of Otolaryngology, Head and Neck Surgery and is a member of the American College of Surgeons. Dr. Bogard’s husband, Terry, is a retired OB anesthesiologist. They have two sons and three grandchildren. In her spare time, she enjoys gardening, reading, traveling, cooking and playing with her grandchildren.

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Saga of an Aging Payphone Possibly the last one in Advance…

BY MARK MATHOSIAN

The payphone in the photograph accompanying this article was on the side of a convenience store near my home in Advance, North Carolina.

One day I decided to stop in and ask if the payphone worked. From behind the counter, a female cashier thought for a moment and responded, “I don’t know.”

History of the American Payphone The first public coin telephone was installed by inventor William Gray at a bank in Hartford, Connecticut. It was called a postpay telephone, meaning coins were deposited after the call was placed. In 1898, the Western Electric No. 5 Coin Collector, prepay station, was introduced in Chicago, Illinois. Depositing coins before placing a call became the norm in pay phones until the introduction of “dial tone first” service in 1966. By 1902, there were 81,000 pay telephones in the United States.

In 1905, the first outdoor Bell System coin telephone was installed in Cincinnati, Ohio. It wasn’t an instant hit; people apparently were reluctant to make private calls on a public phone on a busy street.

In the 1950s, glass outdoor telephone booths began replacing wooden ones. In 1957, calling from your car was tested in Mobile, Alabama, and Chicago. Drive-up pay telephones soon became popular.

In 1960, the Bell System installed its one millionth payphone.

In 1966, “dial tone first” service was introduced in Hartford, Connecticut.

This essentially turned coin phones into emergency call stations because calls could be made without first depositing coins.

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Three construction workers waiting in line to buy drinks looked at me, and I could tell they were also interested. I explained that today payphones are operated by private companies and are serviced and cleaned by their owners.

For a payphone to be profitable, it must generate at least $100 or more a month.

The store attendant chimed in and said, “Well, then I am pretty sure it doesn’t work because I’ve never seen anyone service it.”

One of the men commented. “Does it have a dial tone? If it does, then it works.”

“Give me a minute,” I responded. I’ll be right back.”

I walked outside, lifted the beat-up handset to my ear and listened. When I was satisfied I had my answer, I put the handset on its cradle and went back inside. “Dead as a door nail,” I reported. One of the guys repeated my words, “Dead as a door nail.” We all laughed, and I left.

I looked for the mop and payphone every time I drove by our country store.

For many months the mop was there, leaning on the enclosure that protected the payphone from the weather. However, by September 2013, the mop was gone, and only the phone remained. A few years later the outside of the store was completely renovated, and the payphone was removed. I wondered if they would re-install the payphone when the fix-up was done.

Unfortunately, they did not. It didn’t surprise me, that’s just the way it is.

In 1998 there were about 2.6 million payphones. Today, there are only about 100,000, and that number continues to diminish. All large phone companies exited the payphone business. In 2001, Bellsouth was the first to announce its exit, followed by Sprint in 2006, AT&T in 2007, and Verizon in 2011. While I do like my cell phone, it makes me sad knowing our Advance country store payphone is now just a memory, like all the others disappearing across America.

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How to Care for Your Poinsettia All Year Long

BY LISA S.T. DOSS

Eyes widen with the appearance of white or red foliage set among broad green leaves. The name poinsettia quickly comes to mind with an image of what is to come in December. While we think the poinsettia has uniquely pointed flowers, they are actually modified leaves called bracts, which are designed to attract insects to the yellow flowers within the center. Beautiful is one description, especially since the bracts go through a special process of complete darkness to change its colors in time for the Christmas holiday. While the plant is beloved for one month, it does not require too much attention to continue its care throughout the winter, spring, and summer months.

While not all poinsettias survive through spring, the following instructions are necessary.

CHOOSING A PLANT

The plant comes in a variety of sizes and variations of colors. Try and select a plant with small, tightly clustered buds in the center, as well as crisp, undamaged bracts. If you desire a large plant, please know it will grow in height and width in your care.

While most plants come packaged in plastic to protect the fragile leaves, the poinsettia requires a shield from harsh environmental elements, especially wind. If a paper bag is available, place it over the plant for protection.

IMMEDIATE CARE TIPS

During the holiday season, homeowners may have a specific location to place the symbols of Christmas.

The poinsettia will thrive in a room with ample bright, natural light. It will not survive past a month in drafty locations or heat from appliances such as a range, refrigerator, and television.

The decorative foil wrapping adds to the elegance yet, it can be a barrier. The poinsettia only requires water when it is dry, and should never be overwatered or sit saturated. One suggestion is to place a support between the plant and the saucer. Caregivers should not be afraid to tip the plant forcing the excess water out.

Poinsettias will thrive if near a humidifier or misted.

In early winter, remove all the wilted leaves that have gathered in the foil or around the base and feed the plant with an all-purpose fertilizer.

As it continues to need adequate light and water, caregivers will notice prolonged blooms. It is acceptable to cut five-inches from branches by midFebruary and add soil.

In spring, the great event has arrived to transplant your poinsettia to a larger pot. Place a few handfuls of pebbles on the bottom before adding a layer of dirt for drainage purposes. While it continues to need bright light, wait until warmer nighttime temperatures arrive before moving it outdoors.

In summer, your poinsettia has beautiful new growth and healthy green bracts. It appears tall. You can pinch back the stems to encourage branching. Continue watering only when the surface of the soil is dry. Enjoy the moment your poinsettia has attracted the butterflies!

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Branches will easily break. In September, branches can be used to create new plants. Place near a window, and transplant to a small pot once the roots appear strong.

In fall, it is time to coax your poinsettia into a stage of bloom by late September to early October. In recreating a Mexican winter and desert conditions, the location and its factors must be ideal. Think of a dry, dark space that maintains a temperature of 50 degrees. The plant can be placed inside a box or cupboard and allowed 14 hours of continual and uninterrupted darkness. For 40 days, the plant for the remaining hours in the cycle will need sunlight. During this time, do not water!

Once the flower buds arrive on your poinsettia, the moment is indeed an honor. It is time to stop the process. Not all flowers make the change; however, families can receive pleasure from the beautiful green, red, or white poinsettia all year long and beyond!

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NEW YEAR, NEW YOU

BY TABI FALCONE

One thing the holidays are great for is reminding us how much stuff we have.

Do we need it all? Do we even use it all?

Start off the New Year right by following some or all of the following tips on ways to declutter your life. For the best results, don’t try to do all of these in one day. Ideally, take a day for each task.

They should not each take a full day, but it’s best for your mental state not to try to do too much at one time.

CLOSET CLEAN OUT

When you open your closet, can you remember the last time you wore every single garment hung up? Chances are, you have clothes in there you haven’t worn in years. Worse, you probably have clothes in there you haven‘t fit into for years. Keeping clothes that are too small can be a constant reminder of an internal battle every time you open up your closet. If you are truly confident that you will fit back into them, that’s great! Box them up and store them. Otherwise go ahead and throw them into a bag for Goodwill, or a clothing exchange with friends.

Pull out every piece of clothing you own, one at a time. Try it on, and if it doesn’t fit, throw it in the “get rid of” pile. If it does fit, how does it make you feel? Do you feel sexy? Powerful? Like you can conquer the world? Keep it. Does it make you feel frumpy? Have you not worn it this entire last year?

Toss it.

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DE-STASH YOUR CRAFT SUPPLIES

Three years ago you saw the coolest cross stitch on Pinterest and decided to give it a go. Now you have a box of mixed up embroidery thread, unused hoops of varying sizes and a few spare yards of muslin that are all collecting dust, and all you have to show for it is a half finished sampler. Don’t even think about feeling bad about this; almost all women have a graveyard of failed projects.

But stay one step ahead of the game and get rid of anything you haven’t worked on in years or know you aren’t going to work on. This will clear up space for projects you do work on and make it easier to work on them!

SIMPLIFYING THE KITCHEN CUPBOARD

If the fondue pot you registered for at your wedding is currently collecting dust in your pantry, this section is for you!

There are some amazing new products that can be used in the kitchen that get people really excited: quesadilla makers, panini presses, cake ball makers,

cappuccino machines, bread machines, and so many more. And these are great... if you actually use them. More than likely you have a few of these space wasters in your kitchen that are used maybe once a year. Unless it’s used at least 2-3 times a month, kitchen appliances are often more work than they’re worth. Yes, that cake pop maker is fun once a year at your kid’s birthday party, but is it the end of the world if you buy the cake pops or just make cupcakes? The same with the Bundt pan; is it really worth the space it takes to make a fruitcake once a year? Really think about the return on space investment on each item in your kitchen before you put it back where you found it.

TACKLE YOUR JUNK DRAWER

This is where we end: the junk drawer.

While it is the smallest physical section of the house, it often takes the longest to declutter. How is it that so much junk can find its way in there? I challenge you to completely clean out the junk drawer and assign it a new purpose! If you really need a “catch-all” section for your house, find a nice bowl and put it out on the counter.

This way you will be forced to keep up with it and won’t be able to just hide it away, which will cause it to get out of control again.

There are plenty more spaces that can likely be de-cluttered, but let these four be your stepping stones into a New Year, and a New You.

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Viewing the World from the Eyes of an Artist

BY VONDA HENDERSON

Meet Betty Kjelson, a 91-year-old artist living in our area. Originally from Nebraska, she earned a scholarship to the Albright School of Art in Buffalo, New York. She now lives with her son and daughter-in-law, Jay and Margee, as well as her majestic cat, Theo.

She regularly works at her drawing board, and with her papermaking equipment in her fully functional artist studio that Jay and Margee designed for her. Age is of little consequence to Betty; she views the world from an artist’s point of view and carries her sketchbook with her everywhere to capture the scenes that grab her attention.

Betty has perfected the art of papermaking and has made her own papers upon which she creates her etchings and sculptures since the 1970s. The process is quite physical, and in 1990, she suffered severe burns while handling a vat of boiling water. True to her art, Betty depicted her pain in a book mural that graphically

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illustrates the pain from inception to healing. The art panels begin with a kaleidoscope of reds and yellows in a chaotic pattern that diminishes gradually until the colors transition to the blues and greens that reflect the peace of healing.

Her book, Betty’s Book – A Journey from Pain to Recovery, is available at Art Connections Gallery, just off Trade Street in Winston-Salem.

“Art fulfills me,” Betty shared. “I try different art mediums and work on different subjects for a period of time.

I’m still trying new techniques.” Some of her period focused pieces include plant life from her time in Hawaii, plays she’s attended, or musicians (‘painting to the music’ in her words). Betty is skilled at expressing the energy and movement of her subjects in her art, from the musician gliding his bow along the strings, the actors performing on stage, the ruggedness of an old shed she saw on the way home, or the quietness of the forest.

Some of her work has a three-dimensional quality, such as the pulp painting of a forest. Her paper sculpture of Jay’s great-aunt Astrid wearing her unique hat has fascinated her six great-grandchildren for years.

You can view Betty’s artwork displayed and sold at Art Connections (629 Trade Street) as well as Muddy Creek Café, located at 5455 Bethania Road (off Reynolda Road). Enjoy the worldview from Betty’s eyes!

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SECURITY AND HOME MONITORING SYSTEMS Whether you plan to build or buy a home, remodel a room or seek ideas to expand your “green” footprint, we are all in the beginning stages of constructing our dreams. Each month, this column will invite you to look beyond the usual ideas and consider alternative cost-effective and eco-friendly options. With so many topics to explore from top to bottom, room to room, inside and out, the goal of a vision is to take a firm step forward and begin living the dream.

Validating home security begins by assessing a homeowner’s needs, the level of coverage, and the potential monthly expense.

Whether you are a single parent or living alone with health problems, continuously out of town on business, or have children who are home for hours without supervision, these reasons alone may offer insight as to what you need.

WHERE DO I BEGIN?

Home surveillance can be a costly endeavor; however, there are levels of protection based on out of pocket costs.

What is the lowest level of home surveillance? One tangible option to eliminate the commitment of a contract and a monthly fee is to purchase a home system. Be selective in the quality of the camera, and ensure your system will include a network video recorder (NVR) which stores seven days of video footage.

Additionally, if it is Internet capable, it may provide real-time images, as well as the option to review footage through an app on your phone. While not all cameras are of equal quality, it is critical to determine if the camera provides bright and clear night vision, 228-bit encryption, and the ability to set a password. By having an NVR, your sensitive data is secured rather than kept on an iCloud. In looking towards the future, determine if your preferred system can include additional cameras and whether it can be linked to the NVR or viewed only through the phone app.

With a home system, cameras can be installed within the home, perhaps located in a basement or providing an aerial view of the living room and front door.

WHAT TYPE OF CAMERA HAS THE MOST ADVANCED SURVEILLANCE TECHNOLOGY?

IP cameras, also termed network cameras, are a type of digital video camera that can encode and process recorded footage directly on the camera. Signals are then directly sent to the primary server or screen through a fast Ethernet connection.

There are numerous advantages, from the ease of installation to digital zoom features and quality images, especially for moving targets.

INVESTING IN A COMPANY

It must be more than a sales pitch of protection and coverage.

Agreeing to a company is investing in its product and prompt service. While specific names may come to mind, you’ll discover every company offers something different. It is important to consider your needs first. An alarm system may come with additional benefits such as video surveillance, remote access to

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lights, locks, and thermostat, or a medical alert system. By calling several companies without scheduling an appointment, consider the additional fees and the best package. Some companies may begin with a two or three-year contract. It is essential to read the contract terms, which will include equipment warranties, cancellation clauses, and service call fees. If equipment and activation fees are waived, the price will reflect higher monthly costs. Homeowners can expect a monthly cost ranging between $20 and $60. While home monitoring systems can decrease your home insurance rates, fees are often associated with emergency calls. Some cities may charge a yearly permit fee, while others will issue the homeowner a bill with every false visit.

Locks are not impenetrable. Burglars find ingenious ways to steal valuable possessions without entering the home. These frightful situations occur more frequently during the day when fewer eyes are watching. As a deterrent, more substantial than two German shepherds guarding the house, homeowners are investing in home security. While the endeavor is expensive, the peace of mind to know loved ones are safe is worth the time to begin researching your options!

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W h o W a n ts E g g n o g ?

Eggnog usually starts showing up on grocery shelves around Thanksgiving and then disappears right after the New Year. For many, it’s a special treat to enjoy at Christmas; for others, it’s nothing they want to even try. It’s a love/hate kind of situation.

So, what’s the deal with eggnog? It’s roots go way back in history . . .

EGGNOG HISTORY

Historians believe that eggnog was most likely introduced by the British; they were known to serve a ‘posset’ that consisted of hot milk curdled with some type of alcohol and added spices. While the British may have hit one out of the park with their allegiance to tea, that posset definition is not particularly appetizing. By the 13th century, monks had modified the recipe to include eggs and figs. In those days, the drink was used as a toast in celebrations and good times.

The association of eggnog to holidays was likely thanks to the colonists in the New World. They had plenty of cows for milk, chickens for eggs, and rum, which was fairly cheap and readily available.

How did this drink come to be called eggnog? The word first began to be used around 1775 according to historians. Grog was the term used for rum; noggin’ was a wooden cup – egg-n-grog which evolved to eggnog. There you have it! Mystery solved!

BY VONDA HENDERSON

ORIGINAL RECIPE

The version of eggnog most consumers drink is a far cry from the original recipes – it’s certainly a lot tamer than the recipe credited to George Washington.

George’s Eggnog INGREDIENTS • 1 quart of cream • 1 quart of milk • 12 tablespoons of sugar • 1 dozen eggs (this

is an estimate, evidently the number of eggs was not clearly stated)

• 1 pint brandy • ½ pint rye whiskey • ½ pint Jamaican rum • ¼ pint sherry

DIRECTIONS 1. Mix liquors first.

2. Separate the yolks and whites of the eggs.

3. Add the sugar to the beaten yolks.

Mix well.

4. Add milk and cream and beat slowly

5. Beat the egg whites until stiff and fold into the mixture 6. Let set in a cool place for several days.

7. Taste frequently.

(That last instruction makes

one wonder how much was actually available to serve after such dedicated taste testing.)

EGGNOG IN HOLLYWOOD

Eggnog figures as a minor mention in several holiday movies.

Remember the scene in Christmas Vacation when Clark serves Cousin Eddie eggnog in those reindeer-shaped mugs? Or, in While You Were Sleeping, when Lucy is discouraged from trying the eggnog, but does anyway and wishes she hadn’t?

WHAT ELSE CAN YOU MAKE WITH EGGNOG?

According to thekitchn.com, any recipe that calls for milk can be modified with eggnog in lieu of milk for a holiday twist on the norm. For example, use eggnog when making French toast or pancakes, sprinkle on nutmeg or cinnamon and have a special breakfast.

Do you put cream in your coffee? Try eggnog instead for a different taste treat if you dare. (A coffee purist would never, ever put eggnog in a cup of coffee!)

WHAT’S NEXT?

Let’s not forget the pumpkin spice season that we just endured -- or celebrated -- as the case may be. Is eggnog the next craze? Are we destined to see eggnog flavored foods of all sorts? Will we be giving eggnog treats to our pets? Who knows???

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Why the

BY LISA DOSS

Brown eggs. White eggs.

Even pink, blue, green, and speckled eggs. The coloring of an eggshell does not indicate the quality or nutritional value; however, it does determine the breed of the hen, as well as her diet. A happy hen who feasts on grass and bugs, grain and vegetables, and has access to fresh water will produce an egg healthy in color, perhaps white as the moon or a rich brown. Beyond the shell, it contains the essential protein, minerals, vitamins, and nine essential amino acids. A healthy hen produces a rich, almost orange yoke. While still healthy, a dark yellow yoke suggests the hen digested corn and alfalfa.

Why waste a natural “Miracle Grow”? The egg has a use beyond expiration.

Rather than throwing eggs away, bury it whole next to flowers, or use a tool to crush the shells in soil and sprinkle the contents in your garden.

The nutrients can revitalize your soil and promote health to your plants.

Whether scrambled, sunny-side up, an omelet, or boiled, versatility and imagination for adding bread, spinach and a tomato for a sandwich or cooked with cheese, a green pepper, and onion.

Why the egg? The oval-shaped sphere is inexpensive and essential to our diet.

Thicken gravy? Temper the yolk with three or four spoonfuls of the hot juice; then, pour into pot and stir over medium-low heat.

A fresh egg will sink in water while a stale one will float.

Approximately 280 million hens in the United States produce more than 65 billion eggs per year.

What does the label mean? “Cage-free” and “freerange” offer essentially the same definition. The hens can roam outdoors without the confines of a cage despite a duration of time as a requirement. “Certified organic” implies the hens have a specific vegetarian diet excluding pesticides, animal by-products, or genetically modified foods.

In the laying process, eggs may be contaminated with Salmonella. It is always important to wash your hands after handling eggs and most importantly, even in just touching the eggs.

Eggs are essential for the body! They contain choline, which helps develop healthy cell membranes and activity, stimulates brain development and function, promotes liver function, and preserves memory.

Lutein, an antioxidant, prevents cataracts and muscular degeneration. All vitamins, except Vitamin C, are found within the yoke, and it contains six grams of high dose protein to help you build muscle, feel full and satisfied, and sustain mental and physical energy throughout the day.

Zero carbs, no sugar, gluten-free, and only 70 calories in an uncooked egg.

An egg yolk measures one tablespoon, while the whole content measures three tablespoons worth of liquid.

Eggs that have a sell-by date are still edible up to four weeks after that date. If you question the egg, crack one open and smell.

An unpleasant odor will indicate you need to dispose of it.

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Why do some recipes require eggs to be at room temperature? During the necessity of separating whites from yokes, this task is easier when the egg has a chance to warm, roughly 20 to 30 minutes. It makes it easier for recipes that involve eggs to be beaten or whipped, with or without sugar, into a foam.

Additionally, batters that contain high-fat may curdle or appear lumpy when a cold egg is added.

The Ease of Peeling a Hard-Boiled Egg: One of the most important facts is age. With time, the egg gradually loses moisture through the pores within the shell, and the Ph level will change, only affecting the outer membrane between the casing and the egg. Older eggs will not have the issue of peeling. It begins by adding eggs immediately to boiling water, and afterward, remove the eggs to a bowl full of ice water and allow time to cool.

The incredible egg serves our nutritional needs and is a tremendous asset to recipes such as crème brûlée, deviled and Scotch eggs, eggdrop noodle soup, soufflés, quiches, and much more!

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The Right Time to Tip

BY MEGAN TAYLOR

Do you ever find yourself in situations where you aren’t sure how much you should tip or whether you should tip at all (for example, a barista)? For me, this is a common dilemma, especially when trying to stick to a budget. Tipping is a key element in setting up your budget. For example, if you know you are getting your hair done this month, add in the tip to your total cost. Don’t know about how much you should tip someone and include in your finances? Continue reading my cheat sheet on the right time to tip.

HOW TO CALCULATE A TIP (WITHOUT A CALCULATOR):

First, let’s look at exactly how to determine a tip amount. The common rule of thumb is 20% of your bill. For most of us, we always have the availability of a calculator or app to help us, but you can actually figure out the tip without any help. Look at the pretax bill total. Then, move the decimal point one place to the left and round the cents number up. Next, double that amount, and you have found your tip total! For example, your bill is $32.79. Move the decimal point, and now you have $3.27. Round 27 up to the next whole number and it is $3.30.

Doubling the amount gives you a tip total of $6.60, which is about 20% of your original bill.

Seems easy, right?

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WHO TO TIP AND HOW MUCH: Restaurants: It is common Drivers: There are a few things to consider courtesy to leave a minimum 15%, preferably 20% tip, for your waiter. Remember that part of a waiter’s salary are tips. Thank them for their service. If you are at a buffetstyle restaurant, try to tip at least $1 per person at your table, or 5% - 10% of your total bill. While the servers aren’t technically bringing your food, they are still cleaning up after you. At fast-food restaurants or coffee shops, it never hurts to throw some change or cash into their tip jar. As for carry out, you should still tip around 10%. Lastly, a good tip for pizza deliveries is $2 - $4.

Salons and Spas: Tipping your hair stylist or barber is always a must, and it is helpful for the tip to be 15% - 20% of your total bill. Think about the type of service they gave to decide on the exact amount in that range. Was it complicated? Did it take a long time? The same tip range goes for manicurists.

when thinking about a tip for your cab driver. For example, was it a safe ride or was the driver reckless? How long was your trip?

Usually, if you determine that everything was well, a general amount is 10% - 15%. If they go the “extra mile” and help you with your luggage, drive out of their way, etc. add in a few more dollars. When it comes to using Uber and Lyft, the companies don’t have a tipping rule, but it is always nice to thank the driver for their service. Place a 10% - 15% tip on your total through the companies’ apps.

Hotels: You might be asking yourself “What do I need to tip for in a hotel?”

Well, there are a few things. First, tip housekeeping by placing a few dollars in your room for them to take while cleaning.

After all, they are cleaning up your mess and making your bed. A $2 - $5 tip is appreciated for valets. Finally, depending on how much they do for you, it is generous to tip concierges. If they are performing a small task, such as finding directions, don’t feel as if you have to pay them.

Deciding on whether to tip can sometimes be tricky. When in doubt, be thoughtful and tip someone according to their service. Just always remember to include it in your budget.

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RUGGEDLY HANDSOME! STRONG!

It may sound odd for an individual to describe an item of cookware in such loving terms; however, I am not alone. Generations of families have considered the castiron pan, kettle, or skillet a staple of their households.

Versatility allows it to go beyond the range top and oven into a campfire or fireplace; therefore, owners do not worry about using it in high temperatures. It only needs care, frequent seasoning, and abiding by the requirements of proper storage.

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ELIMINATING THE NEGATIVES

In addition to the weight of the pan, a second concern is a fear cast-iron will transfer deposits of iron directly onto the food. Uncertain of the truth, many believed it was better to be safe than sorry.

Constructed from natural materials, cast-iron it is not made in a laboratory or from chemicals.

In removing contaminants, the remaining liquid is poured into a mold. Damage will not occur if it is dropped or scratched. The only means to end its purpose is through the threat of soap, and discontinued care, which will result in rust. Yes, cast-iron can be dangerous if not adequately

is essential. With a thin layer of vegetable oil coated over the entire surface of the pan, place it upside down in the oven at a temperature of 350-degrees for an hour. (It is wise to put a large cookie sheet underneath to catch the drips.) Once the pan has cooled, coat the inside with a small amount of oil, and store.

Rust: Do not fear the presence of rust. Scrub the pan under the flow of water and then begin the seasoning process. Do not give up. You may need to season again!

Storing: With the effort of proper drying and seasoning, the next rule to follow is storing. Paper towels are an excellent tool to prevent scratching and moisture from turning into rust. Pans should always be open to the air and never covered by a lid.

A HISTORY, NOW A COLLECTION

cleaned and seasoned, or if the owner abandons its rules. One solution to ensure you do not miss out on one of the most durable and everlasting types of cookware is to invest in a cast-iron pan with enamel coating.

A PAN WITH RULES

Unlike stainless steel, porcelain, Calphalon, Teflon, and glass, cast-iron will endure time. Initially, it can be a high maintenance relationship.

Washing: It is a mindset to believe soap and water is the only combination to wash away grease and dirt. For a pan transformed through the process of seasoning, soap will strip away and alter its surface. Cast-iron has simple, yet specific requirements. After the pan has reached a temperature of warmth, take it to the sink and scrub with chainmail or a stiff brush while water is running. Immediately dry thoroughly by placing the pan on a burner for two minutes.

In considering its long history, the cast-iron skillet was a valuable item among pioneers, cowboys, and families.

Imagine cooking from an open fire, whether outdoors or from fireplace, eggs and bacon, a broth-based stew, peach cobbler, or coffee. Today, this versatility can come in handy during power outages, camping opportunities, or day-to-day cooking. Not only are the recipes diverse to handle a delicate souffle, but cast-iron also is able to appease any request from cinnamon rolls and pancakes, baked ham and Swiss sliders to a chicken pot pie.

While previously the skillet, kettle, and pan were the only options available, today, cast-iron enthusiasts can find the reversible grill and griddle, a waffle maker, multiple sized Dutch ovens, griddles, and pans. Yes, ruggedly handsome, durable, and timeless!

A Light Seasoning: Before storing, drop a half teaspoon of oil inside the warm pan. With a paper towel, run a thin coat around the base and sides. Use another paper towel to remove the excess.

Seasoning: Whether the pan is new, old, or frequently used, a cast-iron pan should never be considered hopeless. To rejuvenate or merely to maintain its longevity, the process of seasoning

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8 Reasons to Love Red Potatoes

BY BRITTANY M. ORIE

Just in time for the holidays! Do you love eating potatoes in general but sometimes feel guilty because they are high in carbohydrates? Try red potatoes as a healthier alternative with twice the health benefits as regular potatoes.

1. LOWER BLOOD PRESSURE

Red potatoes are naturally low in sodium, and it’s a known fact that too much sodium leads to hypertension (high blood pressure). In order to maintain healthy blood pressure levels, our bodies need a substantial amount of potassium. Red potatoes have the highest level of potassium than any other fruit or vegetable…including bananas which are known for potassium! This mineral supports healthy nerve function, cell function, and healthy body fluids.

2. HELPS WEIGHT LOSS

4. INCREASES ENERGY LEVEL

Red potatoes are a complex carbohydrate that naturally provides substantial energy. They are likely the most effective energy source of all carbohydrates because they are unprocessed and rich in other vitamins and minerals. Bake them, mash them, or boil them to reap these benefits!

5. FAT AND GLUTEN FREE

While many people think that potatoes are fattening, they are not. Sometimes they are just prepared in such a way that adds fat to them, such as deep-frying potatoes in oil. But with red potatoes being naturally fat-free with a moist texture, there is no horror that comes with boiling, roasting, or baking them. They are also gluten free because they are, of course, naturally devoid of sugar and flour. So, consuming them should feel guilt free.

Red potatoes are high in fiber (one medium red potato containing 3 grams of dietary fiber and a large potato containing 6 grams). Foods rich in fiber make us feel full longer so we don’t feel the need to consume much afterward, thus keeping us at a healthy weight. All the fiber is found in the skin of the potato so it’s a beneficial option to leave the skin on when cooking and eating the red potato…also, the rich red skin will add visual appeal to your meal!

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3. SUPPORTS IMMUNE SYSTEM

7. EXQUISITE MINERALS

What is one of the most important vitamins needed for a strong immune system? Vitamin C, and red potatoes are loaded with it! Vitamin C helps to repair body tissues and give us antioxidants to help fight and prevent viruses and other illnesses. Red potatoes provide about 45% of the recommended intake of vitamin C.

Vitamin B6 is vital for a healthy nervous system and balanced mood, and red potatoes contain 10% of the recommended daily value. Baking or roasting red potatoes are ideal if you want the maximum amount of B6. Because red potatoes are so rich in other vitamins and minerals, vitamin B6 tags along and works with the other nutrients to lower cholesterol and prevent heart disease.

Zinc is paramount to immune health, reproductive health, and proper wound healing. A large red potato contains over 1 milligram of zinc, contributing 11% of the recommended intake for men and 15% for women. Copper is also good for maintaining a healthy immune system and nervous system, but it helps our bodies absorb iron. Red potatoes contain 55% of recommended daily copper intake. Iron is essential for red blood cell function so that these cells can carry oxygen all throughout our bodies and tissues. A large red potato contains 2.7 milligrams of iron which is up to 34% of the recommended daily intake of iron.

8. VERSATILE!

Lastly, red potatoes are just plain fun! There are many ways to cook and prepare red potatoes: • Oven-baked fries • Mashed—perhaps with a blend of other vegetables • Scalloped • Salads and soups • Baked—as you would a regular potato • Hash browns • Bruschetta—use a slice of red potatoes in place of the bread and oven bake them • Baked red potato chips To get the best of the health benefits out of red potatoes, bake, boil, or steam them. Try adding this superfood to your diet!

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VALUING THE GRANDPARENT AND GRANDCHILD RELATIONSHIP

BY ELISA COPPEDE

There are a variety of reasons why grandparents are crucial components in a child’s development. According to Dr. Karl Pillemer of Cornell University, the relationship between grandparents and their grandchildren is second in emotional importance. This may be because this relationship is second to the primary relationship between parent and child.

While children benefit when grandparents are involved in their lives, grandparents also enjoy benefits from the relationship with their grandchildren.

According to a study given by Boston College, “An emotionally close relationship between grandparent and grandchildren is associated with fewer symptoms of depression for both generations.”

The study, published online in 2015 in the journal, “The Gerontologist,” included 374 grandparents and 356 adult grandchildren. Researchers looked at data accumulated over a 19-year period. The study stated that grandparent-grandchild relationships often are a result of strong family ties. However, “These intergenerational bonds also come with their own distinctive benefits,” said lead author Sara Moorman, an associate professor of sociology at Boston College.

While a great deal is written about the importance of the relationship between parent and child, very little is written about the relationships between grandparent and grandchild.

Yet research shows that roughly three-quarters of parents will become grandparents. And the role of being a grandparent will encompass a third of the lifespan of these adults. For families where one parent or both are absent, or families where parents work and need assistance, grandparents are the first contact. With all this said, the grandparent role is a vital one within a family’s structure. Read on for the top five reasons why all should value and respect the role of the grandparent.

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REASON #1: GRANDPARENTS OFFER AN EXTRA LEVEL OF SECURITY FOR PARENTS.

All families will need help from time to time.

Especially during a time of great stress, like the birth of a new child or when a parent is sick. These are the times when a grandparent can quickly sweep in for the rescue. Some grandparents even take on the larger role of raising children.

From raising children due to a parent(s) being incarcerated, to providing childcare for working parents, to helping cover responsibilities if one or both parents are deployed, grandparents are the first call to make when parental coverage is needed.

REASON #2: GRANDPARENTS HAVE STRONGER FINANCIAL POWER.

Considering that grandparents hold roughly 75% of the wealth of the United States, this demographic truly are an economic powerhouse. And one can highly suspect that much of this wealth can and will be spent on their grandchildren. From establishing college funds to helping pay for children to take extracurricular classes—like dance, baseball, or piano—grandparents can step in and help cover many costs.

REASON #3: GRANDPARENTS CONNECT CHILDREN TO THEIR BACKGROUND.

Grandparents are the best storytellers when it comes to helping children understand their

heritage. They can help fill in the gaps when it comes to the questions about a child’s ethnic background. Through weaving stories of their own life experiences, these storytellers explain a great deal to their listeners about why their family is the way it is. Research shows that when a child hears about their grandparent’s hardships, their own do not seem as troubling.

REASON #4: GRANDPARENTS ARE THE ULTIMATE TEACHERS.

From teaching a child how to sew to helping a child with playing a musical instrument, these individuals greatly aid in a child learning new skills.

Some of these skills draw from that grandparent’s own childhood, like the time-honored classics: cooking, gardening, cleaning, or small repairs— such as knowing how to change a tire. Some skills are also extremely helpful with helping run the household, like the chores of setting the table, washing dishes, folding laundry, etc. All of these skills are great ones for a child to have.

REASON #5: GRANDPARENTS PROVIDE UNCONDITIONAL LOVE.

While a parent’s role has to be more disciplinarian, a grandparent’s role does not. This is because they are not the parents of the child and get to play the fun duty of doting and spoiling their grandchild.

This may seem frivolous, but this is a key aspect to why these figures are so important to a family.

Children thrive under positive reinforcement, and having a person constantly give them warm and positive feedback is essential.

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NOW THROUGH DECEMBER 8 EXHIBIT: AFRO POP!

Museum of Anthropology, Wake Forest University, 1834 Wake Forest Road in W-S. American pop culture has had a recent fascination with African cultural objects. This exhibit showcases some of the actual African objects that have inspired these pieces of American pop culture. Admission is FREE. moa.wfu.edu

Merry Christmas & Happy New Year!

Bring your holiday party to Mac & Nelli’s to enjoy some of our fun events this holiday season!

Trivia Tuesdays - 7:30pm Cash Prizes Wednesday - Karaoke - 7:30pm Live Music Every Thursday Friday & Saturday Nights (no cover charge)

Mac & Nelli’s Saturday 2-4pm Music Bingo - Free

Sunday Funday Brunch - NFL Sunday Ticket - 10 TV’s Join us for the Best New Years Eve 2019 Bash In Town!

Dinner Specials FREE Party & Party Favors Music with Southern Eyes Come Ring in the New Year Here! eat, drink, enjoy, repeat

EXHIBIT: LIFE AFTER DEATH: THE DAY OF THE DEAD IN MEXICO

Museum of Anthropology, Wake Forest University, 1834 Wake Forest Road in W-S. The exhibit’s centerpiece is a traditional ofrenda, an altar with food and beverage offerings, flowers, sugar skulls and photos of deceased family members.

Admission is FREE. moa.wfu.edu

NOW THROUGH DECEMBER 9 CANDLE TEA

Single Brothers House in Old Salem, 600 South Main Street in W-S. Singing, candle making, sugarcake and Moravian coffee as well as experiencing the Nativity story. Profits go to outreach.Cost: $5/adult; $1/child. homemoravian.org/candletea

NOW THROUGH DECEMBER 29 TWEETSIE CHRISTMAS

Tweetsie Railroad, 300 Tweetsie Railroad Lane in Blowing Rock. Advance tickets required. Enjoy the wonder of the park dazzlingly lit for the holidays, with a nighttime train and more. Cost: $38/person. tweetsie.com/special-events/

NOW THROUGH JANUARY 1 “TOY TIME” EXHIBIT

Kaleideum Downtown, 390 South Liberty Street in W-S. Travel back in time to when there were no cell phones or video games and batteries were never included!

Engage and delight in tumbling, sliding, rocking, spinning, dancing and flying folk toys that demonstrate the effects of gravity, inertia, rhythm, harmonic motion and mechanics. Included with museum admission and free for Kaleideum members. kaleideum.org

NOW THROUGH JANUARY 26 RED DOG GALLERY PRESENTS “ART THE WALLS & DECK THE HALLS”

7-10pm, Red Dog Gallery, 630 North Liberty Street in W-S. This is a curated exhibition showcasing AFAS artists with a variety of artworks in a range of prices.

This is the gift-giving season when many are looking for just the right gift. We hope to see you there!

NOVEMBER 29-DECEMBER 5

SOUTHSIDE BRANCH LIBRARY BOOK SALE

Southside Branch Library, 3185 Buchanan Street in W-S. What a great Christmas shopping opportunity!

Pick up some excellent deals on like-new and gently used books at the Southside Branch Library’s big biannual book sale.

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CHRISTMAS TREASURES SALE

8am-12pm, Clemmons Moravian Church, 3535 Spangenberg Avenue in Clemmons. All gently used holiday-related items including ornaments, lights and many other decorations. Proceeds will be shared with Clemmons Food Pantry and Clemmons Moravian Church. For information or to donate items. call 766.9739. clemmonsmoravian.org

GINGERBREAD HOUSE DECORATING PARTY

2-3:30pm, New Hope United Methodist Church, 5125 Shattalon Drive in W-S. Decorate your own Gingerbread House. There is a charge for the house itself. FREE refreshments. Bake sale. Fundraiser for local missions by Methodist Women Circle #1.

Limited space; register early. Cost: $28/person.

CAROLINA LIVE! – OUR MUSICAL HISTORY

2-4pm, The Ramkat, 170 West 9th Street in W-S. Perfect for children of all ages and all adults!

Carolina Music Ways brings history to life in a performance featuring North Carolina’s multicultural music heritage.

This show features sing-a-longs, jazz, bluegrass, blues, gospel, old-time stringband, rhythm and blues, and Moravian brass performed by some of the top area musicians. Tickets can be purchased at theramkat.com or at the door.

DECEMBER 1 & 7

KÖRNER’S FOLLY’S THE NIGHT BEFORE CHRISTMAS PUPPET SHOW + VISIT WITH SANTA

10:30am, Körner’s Folly, 413 South Main Street in Kernersville. Come hear the Körner’s spin on the classic 1820s poem by Clement Clarke Moore; fun for children of all ages and the young at heart!

The Puppet Show is followed by a visit from Santa.

Parents, bring your camera for this great photo opportunity! This event frequently sells out, purchase tickets early. Cost: $5/person. kornersfolly. org/event/christmaspuppet-show3

DECEMBER 2

COMMUNITY CHRISTMAS FESTIVAL

5:30-7:30pm, WinMock Barn, 168 East Kinderton Way in Bermuda Run. Come join the whole community at the beautiful, historic WinMock barn to start off the advent season with a fun night of fellowship! There will be plenty of Christmas crafts and games, seasonal desserts and beverages, and a special reading of the Christmas story followed by the classic carols we all know and love. All ages are welcome, and there is no cost for admission.

Donations will be accepted for victims of Hurricane Florence. goodshepherdbermudarun.org

DECEMBER 6

BABY AND ME VOLUNTEER DAY

10am-12pm, SECU Family House, 1970 Baldwin Lane in W-S. Join us for a volunteer day just for parents and their young children! Bake fresh desserts, and make trail mix snack bags for families to take as a snack to the hospital. There will also be supplies available to make a special craft. All supplies will be provided. familyhousews.org/kid-friendly-volunteerday-sign-up

DECEMBER 7

FESTIVE FAMILY FRIDAY

4:30-8:30pm, Kaleideum North, 400 West Hanes Mill Road in W-S. Explore the museum while enjoying live holiday music. Visit “Animal Zone,” make crafts, watch a laser show in the planetarium, join the festive sing-along and meet special guests…including Santa! Cost: $3/person for both members and nonmembers. (Snow date is Dec. 14th.) kaleideum.org

DECEMBER 7-9

THE GOSPEL ACCORDING TO SCROOGE

Redland Church, 137 Baltimore Road in Advance.

Join us for a Christmas Musical Drama based on “A Christmas Carol” by Charles Dickens. Performances are December 7th at 7pm, December 8th at 7pm and December 9th at 2pm and 7pm. To get free tickets, please call Redland at 998.4226. rpch.net

DECEMBER 7-23 (THURSDAYS-SATURDAYS) AN OLD SALEM CHRISTMAS CAROL

Southeastern Center for Contemporary Art (SECCA), 750 Marguerite Drive in W-S. This heartwarming world premiere adaptation was written exclusively for the Little Theatre of W-S. Cost: $22-$24/person. thelittletheatreofws.org/ an-old-salem-christmas-carol

DECEMBER 8

ROSY CHEEKS 5K AND KID’S JINGLE BELL ½ MILE JOG

9am, Riverside Park, 350 Riverside Drive in Mount Airy. 10th Annual Mount Airy Police Department Toy Drive sponsored by Mount Airy Parks and Recreation. The race entry fee is an unwrapped gift or gift card for the toy drive. After the race, enjoy baked goods, coffee, hot chocolate and a contest for the best holiday running outfit or costume. Santa Claus will be our special guest! rosycheeks5k.itsyourrace.com

A KERNERSVILLE YULETIDE

Körner’s Folly, 413 South Main Street in Kernersville. Are you looking for a new, festive holiday tradition? Make the trip to South Main Street in Kernersville this December! As you stroll down South Main Street, stop at the Kernersville Moravian Church to listen to music of the season, shop for some last minute Christmas gifts and visit the traditional Moravian tavern. Cost: $10/person. kornersfolly.org/event/kernersville-yuletide

DECEMBER 8-9

A HANDCRAFTED HOLIDAY

Times vary, Benton Convention Center, 301 West 5th Street in W-S. Join us for the Piedmont’s most fun Christmas show timed to offer quality, handmade jewelry, gifts, home decor and more for holiday gift shopping. Cost: $4-$5/person. artshowgirls.com

DECEMBER 11

GIRLS’ (AND GUYS’) HOLIDAY NIGHT OUT 5pm-until…, Footnote, 634 West Fourth Street in W-S. Grab a friend, neighbor, co-worker, mother, sister, SOMEBODY and have a much need Girls’ Night Out. Enjoy a holiday appetizer buffet featuring brie, wings and other yummies! Cost is $10 at the door. There will also be half price wine and holiday-themed signature drinks for $7.

Receive extra prize board tickets for monetary donations made to Bookmarks. Also, register for TONS of prizes and giveaways!

DECEMBER 12

GINGERBREAD HOUSE WORKSHOP

1-4pm, Kaleideum Downtown, 390 South Liberty Street in W-S. Drop in to make-and-take a mini gingerbread house for $6.50 while supplies last! Build your creation with a mini milk carton, graham crackers, icing and a variety of sweet treats. Museum admission not included but required. kaleideum.org

DECEMBER 14

CHRISTMAS BY CANDLELIGHT TOUR

5-9pm, Körner’s Folly, 413 South Main Street in Kernersville. Enjoy self-guided tours of the house beautifully decorated in the evening hours. Hear live Christmas caroling, storytelling and talk with costumed guides stationed throughout the house.

Meander through all 22 whimsically decorated rooms at your own pace. Last tour leaves at 8:30pm. Cost: $6-$15/person. kornersfolly.org/ event/christmas-by-candlelight-tours

DECEMBER 17

KIDS’ MORNING OUT!

11am-until, Wake Forest Basketball at the Coliseum, 2825 University Parkway in W-S. School Day at WFU Basketball!

Parents and kids can enjoy a morning of FUN at the home of Wake Forest Basketball! Free admission to the ladies’ basketball game at 11am. Gates open at 9:30am.

Feel free to bring a bagged lunch to enjoy during the game. Free workbook for each child. Each adult attendee will receive four tickets for our fabulous prize board!

DECEMBER 18

SALEM BAND HOLIDAY CONCERT

7:30pm, New Philadelphia Moravian Church, 4440 Country Club Road in W-S. Salem Band and guest narrator/vocal soloist James Allbritten (Piedmont Opera) present “’Twas the Night Before Christmas.” Participate in your community with holiday sing-alongs and donations to your Salem Band. Plenty of free parking. salemband.org

DECEMBER 20

HOLIDAYS WITH CAMEL CITY JAZZ ORCHESTRA AT THE RAMKAT

5:30pm & 8pm show, The Ramkat, 170 West 9th Street in W-S. Our 7th annual holiday concert will feature seasonal big band favorites by Winston-Salem’s own jazz orchestra, with vocalist Diana Tuffin. A cash bar will be available for those who enjoy a different kind of holiday spirit. Check out our website at camelcityjazz.org.

Cost: $25-30/person.

SALEM BAND HOLIDAY CONCERT

7:30pm, Trinity Moravian Church, 500 South Church Street in Monroe. Salem Band and guest narrator/vocal soloist James Allbritten (Piedmont Opera) presents “’Twas the Night Before Christmas.” Participate in your community with holiday sing-alongs and donations to your Salem Band. Plenty of free parking.

DECEMBER 26-29 & JANUARY 2 GREENBRIAR DRIVING ACADEMY/TEEN DRIVER EDUCATION CLASS

8am-2pm, 1605 Westbrook Plaza Drive in W-S. Greenbriar Driving Academy provides quality driving instruction, small class sizes and quick scheduling of your student’s behind-the-wheel training. Enroll at greenbriardrivingacademy.com today. Cost: $450/person.

DECEMBER 27

PETER AND THE WOLF BY MUSIC CAROLINA

11am-12:30pm, Centenary United Methodist Church Auditorium, 646 West 5th Street in W-S. The music by Sergei Prokofiev is performed by the Music Carolina Wind Quintet, with percussion. This year’s performances will be narrated by singer Jason McKinney, who is well known for his performances with opera companies in North Carolina and worldwide. Cost: $5-$7/person. musiccarolina.org/

DECEMBER 27-28 WINTER DAY CAMPS

9am-4pm, Kaleideum North, 400 West Hanes Mill Road in W-S. Banish the post-holiday blues with science fun! Sign up for one camp or both. December 27: “Cool Chemistry.”

December 28: “Cool Discoveries.” Cost Per Day: $40 for Kaleideum members; $45 for non-members.

Visit kaleideum.org for descriptions and to register.

DECEMBER 31-JANUARY 1

NEW YEAR’S EVE 2019 CELEBRATION

8pm-1am, Village Inn Hotel & Event Center, 6205 Ramada Drive in Clemmons. 15,000 square feet of party space, two great bands, three awesome DJs, hors d’oeuvres, party favors, noise makers, champagne countdown at midnight, full cash bars, etc. Cost: $40-$169.99. nyeve2019.eventbrite.com

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George K. Walker Florist . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 4 Gifts & Paper on Plaza . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 95 Goin’ Postal . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 111 Goldman Center . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 8

Laster’s Fine Art & Antiques . . . . . . . . . . . . 113 Leonard Ryden Burr . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 23 Lewisville Country Market . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 77 Lewisville Laser & Aesthetics . . . . . . . . . . . . 13 Lewisville Vintage . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 77 Little Theatre . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 83 Lyndhurst . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 19

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SELLING THE GOODS

Successful sales tips from Thomas Alva Edison — the world’s most famous inventor

BY MARK MATHOSIAN

Since many readers and advertisers of Forsyth Woman are in business, I thought I would share some time-tested sales tactics used by the greatest inventor and salesman of all time, Thomas Alva Edison. I gleaned the sales tactics from The Edison Phonograph Monthly, a sales and marketing tip sheet Edison provided to phonograph jobbers from 1903-1916 during the peak period of phonograph and records sales. You may be surprised at how many of these tips apply to your business today.

ADVERTISING BRINGS CUSTOMERS (FEBRUARY 1908)

“We have done two things. We have made a Phonograph so perfect that a hearing means a sale. We have advertised this phonograph until it is known to everybody who can read. You must do the rest. You must carry it in stock, believe in it, show it, talk it, and exhibit its powers. Do not let a Phonograph customer get to your store before the Edison does. If you do, our advertising, so far as your store is concerned, is wasted.”

COURTESY PAYS (JANUARY 1908)

“Some time ago we referred a retail inquirer to a Philadelphia Dealer, and he bought a Phonograph and a good supply of records. The inquirer later wrote as follows: ‘I must say a few words, also for the young man you recommended to me, for his willingness in every way to instruct me in the management of it – for he displayed much patience in order to get me to understand all that was necessary to give satisfaction.’ Because of his courtesy and kindness, this Dealer has made a friend of his customer that no competition can effect. It probably took a little more time than usual to be courteous, but that it will pay handsomely in future sales we have no doubt.”

KEEPING CUSTOMERS (APRIL 1912)

“Every Dealer undoubtedly keeps a list of all persons to whom he sells Phonographs, but does every Dealer go over this list carefully every month and note the names of any Edison owners who have failed to buy Records that month? The maintenance of every customer’s interest is a vital point in the business, for an idle Phonograph in any home is a poor advertisement for any Dealer, and would seriously affect his phonograph sales.”...

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GET ALL THE PUBLICITY POSSIBLE (JULY 1912)

“When people begin to talk about your progressiveness, your future success depends upon your doing everything possible to keep them talking. Whatever form of advertising you may be using can be backed up and made more efficient by linking it with your displays. ...” Brighten up the ‘face of your store.’”

MAKE COMPLAINTS AN ASSET (APRIL 1916)

“Did you ever stop to consider that the complaints you receive from your consumers may be made valuable assets in your business? ‘Service’ is the keynote of successful business today, and the dealer who provides service wins patronage. A complaint invites service by providing the dealer an opportunity to show his willingness to serve. And by giving him a chance to take a friendly interest in the welfare of his customer, an interest that will win him the friendship and the loyalty of the one who came to complain.

Try to avoid causes for complaints but, when they are made, be grateful for them. Welcome them because they give you an opportunity to emphasize your willingness to provide service for your patrons.”

THE DANGERS OF KNOCKING (APRIL 1916)

“It is a generally accepted business principle at the present time that it never pays to knock your competitor or line of goods he is selling. A dealer who asserts that the line handled by his competitor is cheap and inferior is usually suspected of underhanded dealing and the customer reasons that a merchant who will attempt to strike a competitor in the back will not hesitate in taking unfair advantage of one who trades with him. It is now recognized that it is not necessary to run down a competitor’s line in order to boost the goods that you are selling. Indeed, it is considered that this is the poorest and costliest kind of business policy. It is only necessary to show a customer that your line of goods is superior to the line of your competitor in order to make a sale.”

Bloomday Granite & Marble

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Marzano Capital Group

336.766.0464 | www.marzanocapitalgroup.com Securities offered through LPL Financial, Member FINRA/SIPC, Investment advice offered through Independent Advisor Alliance, a registered investment advisor, Independent Advisor Alliance and Marzano Capital Group are separate entities from LPL Financial.

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