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contents In our ongoing effort to make Forsyth Family the ultimate resource to Forsyth County families! We’ve organized our content by categories to make sure you can quickly find exactly what you need when you need it! Also, check out our Index on page 98, which organizes all our advertisers by type of business!

co ver s tory 41 Winston-Salem Dental: Dental Care That Makes You Smile

Local Businesses 10 Making a Difference: Truliant Federal Credit Union Community Mini Grants Provide Broad Benefits 24 Legacy Saddlebreds: Sharing a Love and Knowledge of Horses 30 Debt May Spoil Cupid’s Plans This Valentine’s Day: Financial Pathways of the Piedmont Sheds Light on How Debt Can Sour Relationships 32 Gotta Get Thin: How Your Weight Loss Journey Can Be a Family Affair

Relationships 8 Finding Couple Time: Rejuvenating the Marriage 64 The Benefits of Exercise: Improving Your Body and Your Relationship

Health & Wellness 56 The Number One Killer of American Women 64 The Benefits of Exercise: Improving Your Body and Your Relationship

At Home 14 Dero’s: Living a Decorated Life 16 Interview with Budget Blinds Owner Bill Foeri 52 The Original Triad Home and Garden Show

Parenting 20 Whistle While You Work! Taking the Chore Out of Chores!

22 Speaking Your Child’s Love Language 34 The View From My Section…Tie the Knot ‘Loosely’: Millennials Consider a Different Approach to Marriage 44 Three Hours 74 Small Stories for a Big World 76 The Mommy Diaries: A Whole New World

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Pets 48 The Love of a Puppy, the Love of a Child

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ou can’t think of February and not think of those we love and hold dear.

Relationships with those we love are so important and are what make life worth living. My Sunday School class has been watching the Andy Stanley video series, “Ask it”—thank you, Mark Brandon! The premise for the series and the question that Andy says you should ask yourself in order to make good decisions is simply this: “In light of my past experience, current circumstances, future hopes and dreams, what’s the wise thing for me to do?”

They’ve all been wonderful but the third installment, Time over Time, really speaks to relationships. So I wanted to share with you some of his wisdom. Andy mentions, “it’s those small deposits of time over time that make all the difference.” And that’s so true in lots of areas, but especially in regard to our relationships with those we love. Several months ago my husband and I started exercising together. I feel it’s made and continues to make a big difference in our relationship.

Becoming healthier and physically fit are the obvious benefits, but it’s really been so much more. Our oldest daughter Briana has joined us, and Morgan does when she’s home from college, and that has become a wonderful way to spend time together as a family, as well. Huge thanks to Kelly Lewis and C3 Fitness! You and your staff are amazing, and we thank you for pushing us each week to do more than we think we ever can!

Winston-Salem Dental is our February cover story and they have quite the team of folks to take care of all your dental needs. As mentioned above, relationships cannot flourish if you aren’t willing to give time to them. That’s true in love and marriages, with our parents, children or with friends. I hope you will find information within this issue that will spark ideas on ways you can enhance your relationships with those you love! Be sure to check out JustAskIt.org!

Happy 91st birthday to my mother-in-law, Delphia Bralley. Know you are loved by so many!

Education 58 It’s True, The Doodler Prevails 80 “Water’s Extreme Journey” Now Open at SciWorks: Engage With and Explore the Water Cycle in a New Traveling Exhibit

Ages & Stages 46 Keeping Up with the Curious Child Without Losing Your Patience 48 Why Middle School Might Be the Worst Years of Your Life 50 Young Love: Helping Your Teen Through Happiness and Heartache

Community 12 A Red Boot Coalition Chapter Is Empowering a Generation of Courageous Young Women 68 Out and About in Winston-Salem: With the Holiday Performance – “The Wiz” 18 Local Artists and Young Authors Bring Stories to Life

Faith & Family 61 Tami’s Devotion: Well-Known 62 Musing About…The Incredibly Loving Heart 60 New Story Outreach Ministries

For the Kids 26 28 38 66 72 78 84 88 90

Helping Kids Understand the Meaning of Valentine’s Day Dinner Conversations: “Were You Born in a Barn?!”

Inclement Weather Activities February 26th is Tell a Fairy Tale Day Kids Morning Out! Kids in the Kitchen: Healthy Valentine Treats Teen Talk with Isabella The Artist’s Corner Book Nook

Dining Guide 92 Christina’s Dessertery

Other 86 Celebrations 96 Calendar of Events 98 Advertiser Index

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Finding Couple Time:

Rejuvenating the Marriage

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n the month of celebrating love and expressing one’s feelings, couples may want an opportunity to spend time together in the months ahead. In a year of busy schedules, life changes and financial promises, 2015 may be the excuse to start anew and focus on enhancing your romantic life. Research suggests that “couples who manage to devote time specifically to one another at least once a week are markedly more likely to enjoy high-quality relationships.” From the tender moments at home to the adventurous nights out, rejuvenating your marriage may be easier than you think.

Indoor Ideas • In lieu of the hustle and bustle of getting ready for work, schedule your own two-hour delay and enjoy a breakfast date together.

• Baby, it’s cold outside! Perhaps when it’s warmer, you can lie underneath the stars. Until then, create a living room canopy piled with blankets and pillows for added comfort.

•To relieve a week’s worth of stress, there is nothing more relaxing than the feel of a spouse’s touch. Massage oil, scented candles and instrumental romantic music can create a feeling of warmth and a state of tranquility.

A Night Out Too often couples feel a quality date night is not affordable. Patrick Patterson writes, “After 15 years of marriage, I have learned that my wife would much rather have my time and attention than some fancy gift. We don’t spend lots of money every time we go out. Although the date night is in our budget, it often pays for a babysitter. Continuing to date each other helps us to catch up with one another, and to keep our relationship fun and adventurous. We have learned that when we skip date nights, it impacts our relationship and our family.”

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By Lisa S.T. Doss

Dates can be as simple as a walk in the park accompanied by the family dog, or window-shopping in downtown Winston-Salem. Dinners can comprise two or three shared appetizers or just dessert and coffee.

It is a time to spontaneously find a new favorite bakery or bookstore, furniture or antique shop close to home or a few counties away. Time together rejuvenates the soul and brings couples closer together in love and friendship.

Jennifer Shore writes, “I felt like we were having the same date over and over again. I decided to write my ideas on cards. To make it more mysterious, I wrote only one word on each card, such as ‘museum’ or ‘dessert.’ I had my husband secretly choose a card and create a date night for us. This idea was better than I ever dreamed. We take turns.

Sometimes, we stay in and other times, we go out. We experienced so many new places, and we had a blast together. With three young children at home and our parents as eager sitters, we were able to budget our dates without worrying about sitter costs.”

A great date night can also include the company of other couples or great friends. Have you ever thought about taking dance lessons or joining an astronomy group? Anything is possible with a reliable baby sitter and penciling the “dates” into your schedule. With great friends, you can spice up the evening and have the men or women interchange plans for everyone. Who knows what new and exciting ideas will be created when date ideas are brainstormed with another couple or small group? Check with online coupon sites, or art or dance studios, for instance, to see if any discounts are available. With new possible ideas to kindle creative inspiration, dating will never be declared “mundane” again!

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Making a Difference

Truliant Federal Credit Union Community Mini Grants Provide Broad Benefits WINSTON-SALEM, N.C. – When the time came to award more than $20,000 in Community Mini Grant funds last year, Truliant Federal Credit Union turned to its Facebook fans.

During the last six years, Truliant’s annual Community Mini Grant program has awarded more than $170,000 in funding. The program encourages nonprofit organizations in communities where credit union members are served to apply for a $1,000 “mini” grant to fund a project proposal.

This year, the 180,000-member credit union posted applicants’ projects to Facebook and encouraged nonprofits to rally support for their project. “We wanted our local communities to get involved and share their feedback as to what types of programs they’d like us to support, and crowdsourcing was a great way to put the power back into our members’ hands,” said Renee Shipko, Community Engagement Liaison for Truliant. “We kept voting open for about a month and the results of this crowdsourcing effort were a major success,” she added.

More than 100 organizations in cities and counties where its branch network operates submitted applications during a highly competitive grant process. The voting spurred more than 3,600 votes cast through Facebook, Shipko said. The 20 community programs that received the most votes ranged from those supporting basic needs, such as food and housing, to self-sufficiency and youth programs focusing on leadership and financial literacy.“Our overall mission is to improve the quality of life for our members and the communities we serve,” Shipko remarked.

“The results of this crowdsourcing effort were a major success.”

Among the organizations receiving the top votes was the Clemmons Food Pantry, which provides supplemental food three times a week for about 600 families in Forsyth County, representing about 1,300 individuals, including seniors and children. Food is distributed Tuesday and Thursday evenings and Saturday mornings from its location on Glory Road.

Long-range plans of the Clemmons Food Pantry include the improvement of the nutritional value of the food it provides, according to Steve Eller, Vice President of the Board of Directors.

Thanks to the crowd-sourced votes collected via social media, its $1,000 Truliant Mini Grant will be spent doing just that.

For families with sufficient resources and transportation, regular runs to a neighborhood grocery store ensure plenty of fresh produce and lean meat, but for those without such resources, much of the food available, whether donated or purchased at a corner store or convenience market, is often highly processed and less than nutritious. “Much of what our clients buy themselves, as well as what they get from other agencies, is food that has high sodium, because those foods have a long shelf-life,” Eller said. “This grant will help us improve the nutritional value of our food.”

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Truliant Federal Credit Union Clemmons Manager Liliana McLean, left, with Kathy Kovac of the nonprofit organization Clemmons Food Pantry, which plans to use a $1,000 Truliant Community Mini Grant in projects aimed at improving the nutritional value of supplemental food assistance.

grants, among other duties, said the credit union plans to continue gathering votes for the mini grant program by social media crowdsourcing. The credit union’s 2015 Mini Grant application period will open in April.

“Providing opportunities to advance our mission with programs like the Community Mini Grants truly improves lives,” Shipko said.

“We’re honored that so many nonprofits urged their communities to get involved and play a role in making them successful.”

Triad Recipients of $1,000 Mini Grants from Truliant Federal Credit Union: Alamance County Alamance Community College Foundation The Salvation Army Boys & Girls Club of Alamance County Asheboro/Randolph County Randolph County Family Crisis Center Randolph County Partnership for Children Forsyth County Bethesda Center for the Homeless Clemmons Food Pantry Experiment in Self-Reliance Veterans Helping Veterans Heal Guilford County Family Services of the Piedmont Kopper Top Life Learning Center Reading Connections The Sparrow’s Nest, Inc. Triad Health Project

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alem Academy prepares confident students, in and out of the classroom. From exceptional academic achievement to athletic performance, advancing women in robotics to encouraging student leaders for Key Club International and the National Honor Society, these young women are driven, fueled by the diversity of the Academy’s 172 students.

In the fall of 2014, Salem Academy became the first educational institution in the nation to establish a chapter of the Red Boot Coalition—an organization that seeks to create an open, judgment-free space in which to encourage dialogue about impactful issues, such as politics, religion, economics and ethnicity. A presentation by Red Boot founder Molly Barker was required attendance for the student body, and many girls stayed after to ask questions and discuss how Salem might fit within the Red Boot’s mission. In a matter of weeks, these entrepreneurial girls had arranged their first meeting, following other chapters in North Carolina, Arizona, and Missouri.

“When I enrolled at the Academy, I felt that there needed to be a positive environment in which we all could discuss and begin to understand the elements that make us the wonderfully diverse community that we are,” says senior Lailah Chism. “Almost immediately, I could tell that Ms. Barker’s visit had motivated all of us and inspired us to 12 • forsythfamilymagazine.com

change ourselves and the world around us. In our Red Boot meetings, we’ve discussed goals that we want to achieve, both individually and collectively; hopes; fears; and what we need to do in order to overcome obstacles.”

After only a few meetings, Academy students who are participating in the Red Boot Coalition are tackling issues that affect many young women today. “It is incredibly empowering for anyone, including young women, to be able to speak up and feel respected and heard. In our meetings thus far, we have been able to think about the importance of listening, and how it feels to be heard,” says junior Julia Dorn, adding, “When you enter a Red Boot meeting, it is understood that there is no judgment.”

The founding of Salem’s chapter of the Red Boot Coalition is only one tick, among a long list of activities that Academy students enjoy, which is preparing them to serve as leaders in their communities and around the world. Each March, a group of students and faculty and staff chaperones dedicate spring break to serving other communities, with past mission trips to D.C. and Philadelphia, and an upcoming trip to New York City. During the school’s January Term—a three-week period of special courses, international travel, and internship opportunities—students on-campus volunteer with local organizations and learn from the richly diversified Winston-Salem community while assisting those in need.

The Red Boot Coalition employs eleven steps: “We matter, we are empowered, we are

transparent, we are intentional, we are open, we are loved, we are present, we are joyful, we are grateful, we are whole, and we are engaged.” Navigating the steps together allows Academy students to take real-world volunteer and service experiences and break them down into discussions about women’s roles in society and how they might step into leadership opportunities at school and in their home towns.

Salem Academy’s chapter of the Red Boot Coalition is young, but growing steadily, as new members attend meetings and plan for the group’s impact on future Academy students. “I hope to share the gift of

the Red Boot Coalition with girls who attend Salem after me,” says Lailah. “I know that the things I’m learning within this group are going to provide me with a positive and determined mindset that I will carry with me long after graduation.”

Salem Academy is for girls in grades 9–12 and has been educating young women for nearly 250 years. Learn more at salemacademy.com. For more on the Red Boot Coalition, visit theredbootcoalition.org.

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By Willy Minnix oday, I had the chance to pop over to Budget Blinds and visit with the owner, Bill Foeri. We had a good talk, and Bill was able to explain to me a great deal about window furnishings that I never knew before. What I noticed when I first walked into Budget Blinds was the wide variety of shades, shutters and blinds.

Not only did they have the typical things you would imagine, but they had a variety of window décor, such as some beautiful iron work pieces. They caught my eye and piqued my curiosity right off the bat, and I wanted to know what they were. Bill explained to me that they are a product called tableau faux iron, and that they are not iron at all, but some sort of poly resin designed to look like old-fashioned iron work you might find in a palace in Europe. While they might not be the bottom of the budget line, they are still far more affordable than buying the real thing!

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Which brings me to another thing I learned from Bill. Budget Blinds is a company that really cares about the customer’s budget. Bill told me, “We cover all budgets,” and, “We have something for everybody!” I could tell that was true. Most of the furnishings in the shop were arranged in various price ranges and qualities. They had everything from modest entry-level blinds and shutters to more elaborate furnishings.

I asked Bill about some of the things that have been on my mind of late, like draftiness! He told me that they do sell draperies as well, and that good-quality draperies truly do help control the drafts in older homes. But something he explained to me that I had never considered is that drafts are not the only thing to enter a home that can cause problems. The sun itself can cause damage to furniture and flooring. Bill explained to me that the sun can actually bleach out furniture, flooring and anything that has long-term exposure. Budget Blinds offers several solutions, among them window treatments to cut the harsh rays, and good old-fashioned blinds and shutters. Bill showed me how shutters can be set to block out direct sun, but still let in light.

One other thing I found interesting was that Budget Blinds carries far more than just regular Venetian blinds, but also has roller shades, cellular shades and even the classic wooden blinds. My oldest son Liam came with me to meet Bill, and he likes all things retro. He fell in love with the wooden blinds that were on display.

I was able to meet some of the good people who work with Bill, Mary Krawiec the office manager, and Joe Daniel the installer, and they seemed like such nice people. I felt like the people at Budget Blinds weren’t the type of people to try to pressure you into a hard sale, just so they can make a buck. It seemed to me they genuinely are just trying to help their customers find solutions to their problems.

Being new to the area, Bill was kind enough to explain to me how he got into the business, how he decided to call Forsyth County his home, and about how he’s been enjoying this business for several years now. He told us about some of the nice things he and his family enjoy in the area, and welcomed me and Liam to Winston-Salem. I think if you find yourself in need of blinds, you can’t go wrong by giving the Budget Blinds of Winston-Salem a call. They offer Free In-Home Consultations, Professional Measure, and Installation. In his truck, Bill will bring samples with him of pretty much anything you would like to look at right to your home, so you can see for yourself how it will look in your house.

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Bring Stories to Life

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iedmont Opera’s spring production of Mozart’s The Magic Flute is full of dragons and magical creatures, princes and priests, bears and buffoons. In celebration, and to raise awareness of the show, Piedmont Opera, in conjunction with Associated Artists and the Hispanic Arts Initiative, created the What’s Your Story Contest. Youth from across the Triad submitted their original fairytales, and artists are now in the process of bringing them to life!

On February 26th, artists and the young authors will meet at an official Opening Night at the Children’s Museum of Winston-Salem, where the art will be on display. The public is welcome to attend.

One artist who is participating is Jeanette Yarbrough, who herself had a love of art as a youth. “Creativity was discovered in me at an early age.

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hung one of my works in 1st grade. I remember it was of a big whale.

That was 40 or more years ago,” she stated.

Today Jeanette still loves to draw, paint and sculpt. Oil is her favorite medium, because of its richness and lush color. Her unique style, called by some “impressionistic,” is easy to spot among others in an exhibit.

The young author who inspired Jeanette’s painting is Ella Marion, the daughter of proud parents Neil and Kristi Marion. Ella is an 11-year-old 5th-grader at Arts- Based School in Winston-Salem, NC. She dances in the UNCSA Preparatory Dance Program and loves writing, acting, drawing, science, playing the clarinet and playing with her little brother, Slate.

The art will also be displayed during the run of The Magic Flute in the lobby of the Stevens Center of the UNCSA. The show opens on March 13th (8:00 p.m.), continues on March 15th (2:00 p.m.) and closes on March 17th (7:30 p.m.). Visit PiedmontOpera.org for more information.Piedmont Opera will present the family-friendly The Magic Flute on March 13th, 15 & 17th at the Stevens Center of the UNCSA. A free dragon slayer and princess party will follow the matinee performance on March 15th.

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Tweens; while they may be in their own world, they are capable of helping out around the house. Taking the dog for a walk, and wiping down countertops are two choices. Along with helping you find groceries in the supermarket and getting themselves their own snack.

Teens; your teenager is pretty much capable of doing any of the chores you do.

The best way to motivate a child of this age to do chores is to let them be in control. Give your child choices as to which chore they would like to do and what day they would like to complete the chore. Teach your teen to do their laundry, and how to cook a few simple meals. This will lighten your load and teach them independence as well, which they will definitely need when they head off to college!

Preschoolers love to show off their skills, so have your little ones help sort the recycling, make up their bed by pulling up their sheet and blanket, or help water the plants. They can also help collect the mail and help you open and recycle it!

Don’t Give Up! Teaching your kids to do chores is like paying off a loan. At first you are not even making a dent. The same is true for small kids, they may make more of a mess or never finish the task, but if you keep investing time and encouraging your child, one day your investment will pay off. If you give up too soon, you will never reap the rewards. You have to stay consistent and make sure they do their chores, just as you have to make sure to make your payments on your loan. By staying on top of your children’s tasks, it will be easier for everyone to manage. The more effort you put into the process, the more efficient your children will become.

Grade-schoolers are great at loading the dishwasher and helping you unload the groceries. They can also feed the family pet, put away their clean clothes and help set the table.

Now that you have an idea about what chores to choose for your child, you have to decide how to implement and keep track of those great deeds. Check back next month for the second part of this article, “Simple ways to track and mange your child’s chores!”

So, if you have tried countless chore charts, or are just now feeling ready to test the waters, here are a few things to consider.

Right Chore, Right Age Make sure you are giving your children the right chore for their age.

There is always a learning curve, so to make less work for you, be sure that the chores are age-appropriate.

Toddlers can tidy up toys and wipe up spills with paper towels.

They can also drop their dirty clothes in a hamper and go on a scavenger hunt for dust bunnies with an old sock on their hand as a duster!

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Speaking d’s l i h C r u Yo e g a u g n a L Love Olsen becca e R y B

e all receive love differently. While anyone can appreciate gestures of affection, there are those that convey love more deeply and resonate with us personally. Gary Chapman termed the way we communicate love as our “love language.” The way children demonstrate affection is often a clue to their love language. Learning to recognize your child’s love language can help you better meet his or her emotional needs.

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Does your child draw you pictures or bring you handpicked flowers? Her love language is probably gifts! Here’s how to love her back: • Leave a treat in her lunch box.

• Create a scavenger hunt for her to complete, with small treats at every turn.

• Bring home boxes from work to create a fort.

• Allow her to earn a trip to the “treasure box,” filled with small trinkets for good behavior.

• Let her pick an afternoon treat.

• Mail or bring home a small treat when away from your child on trips.

• Give or make a special box for your child to keep their “treasures” in.

Does your child try to “help” you in the kitchen, volunteer to fold the laundry, or try to assist you in completing chores on a regular basis? His love language is probably acts of service!

• Sit down to help your child with homework.

• Spend time working on a skill, like scrapbooking or woodworking, that you can do together.

• Take the time to sew on a lost button or glue together a broken toy.

• Help your child make his bed and clean his room.

• Find a charity or volunteer organization where you can serve together.

• Help your child organize his school belongings every day.

Does your child crawl in your lap, cover you in kisses, or demand hugs before bed? Her love language is probably physical touch. Here’s how to love her back: • Give high fives.

• Brush her hair.

• Let her sit in your lap or cuddle close on the couch.

• Play wrestle.

• Snuggle up for nightly story time.

• Give your child a piggyback ride.

• Hold her hand.

• Have tickle fights.

• Be generous with hugs and kisses.

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Does your child want you to watch him or her play, or come into the room just to be with you? His love language is probably quality time. Here’s how to love him back: • Institute a family game night.

• Bake together.

• Play ball, tag, or hide-and-go-seek together.

• Give him a specific role to help you complete chores.

• Plan a date night just for you and your child.

• Make meal time a regular family event.

• Enjoy a family movie night, complete with popcorn and dimmed lights.

• Take a hike, a picnic, or go feed the ducks together.

• Plant a garden or choose a potted plant to care for together.

• Cultivate a hobby, like coin collecting or drawing, that you can do together.

Does your child compliment you or ask for compliments from you? Do teacher’s and friend’s comments, both positive and negative, seem to stay with her a long time? Her love language is probably words of affirmation. Here’s how to love her back: • Praise her efforts, not her results.

• Cheer your child on from the sidelines.

• Build her up at the dinner table to your spouse.

• Write notes on the napkin in her lunch box.

• Mail her a letter telling her how much you love her.

• Send your child a text message during the day.

• “Give” your child specific verbal descriptors such as “steady” or “faithful.” These will become a part of how she views herself.

• Say “I love you” a lot!

For additional ideas, check out local pastor Gary Chapman’s book The Five Love Languages of Children.

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Sharing a Love & KnowLedge of horSeS

By Carolyn S. Peterson

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aving a passion in your life and using that passion to guide what you do with your life makes a difference in how you live.

Jamie Jankowicz, a native of Elizabethtown, KY, has a love for, passion about, and knowledge of horses that she shares at her horse riding facility, Legacy Saddlebreds, in WinstonSalem, NC. In the fall of 2010, Jamie moved with her husband and three children to Winston-Salem, NC, to work as a Riding Instructor, but after a couple of years of not training American Saddlebreds, she began to miss that part of the industry and opened Legacy Saddlebreds as a Show Horse Training Facility.

“Riding horses has been part of my life since I was old enough to walk. My dad had a love for horses, which transferred to me. He got me started riding when I was a toddler, and I began riding American Saddlebreds when I was 7.

The American Saddlebred is a very intelligent, willing-toplease breed with big personalities and a love for interacting with people,” said Jamie. Jamie and her staff at Legacy Saddlebreds, along with their love of horses, share a passion for riding and teaching others to ride.

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A Family and a Team “At Legacy Saddlebreds, we are a family and a team. Our staff works so well together and we have a happy and positive outlook on our business. We want all of our students, regardless of whether they own their own horse or not, to show in our Academy program or come and take a weekly lesson, to be a part of this family and support each other.

Teaching our students, especially the children, to be supportive of their fellow riders and friends is very important to us, as well,” Jamie commented.

Legacy Saddlebreds teaches an English style of riding called Saddle Seat, which provides riders with a strong foundation of riding skills.

Students range in age from 3 years old to adults. While some students choose to compete, not all who ride do so. “We compete like other facilities in the area, with a majority of our shows within the Carolinas and Virginia. We offer an Academy Program that allows students to learn how to show without having to own their own horse. Some of our students just like to take their weekly riding lesson, and then some choose to show on the local, national and world levels. It is very rewarding working with my students, no matter what their age, watching their progress as they set goals for themselves, and helping them reach those goals,” stated Jamie.

Camps, Clinics and Clubs Because there’s so much more to riding than just getting in the saddle, Legacy Saddlebreds offers camps, adult clinics and youth clubs. “We offer Horsemanship Day Camps throughout the year. In 2015, we have Spring Break, Summer and Winter Break Camps available to our student riders. At each of our camps, campers ride at least once a day, learn how to work around the horses with hands-on supervised training, make fun ‘horsey’ crafts and meet new friends that have the same passion for horses! Our camps are for all ages and skill levels.

Whether you are a seasoned rider or someone who has never seen a horse in person, we have a camp for you!” Jamie said. Legacy Saddlebreds Youth Club is a way for riders to come together and take their love and passion for horses beyond their riding lessons.

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“We have monthly meetings that educate our members on different aspects of the American Saddlebred and the Saddle Seat industry.

Team building, horse care and tack care are just a few of the subjects we have planned for our upcoming Youth Club meetings. We also incorporate community service events into our programs to show our members the importance of giving back to the community,” commented Jamie. Adult clinics of various aspects of riding are offered throughout the year, too. In the Spring of 2015, Legacy Saddlebreds is hosting a free community festival, featuring pony rides, food, music and games to give those with an interest in horses and riding a look into the facility and its services.

Jamie Jankowicz has found what she loves and has made it her work.

“I like the preparation part of showing horses, because the preparation never really ends. That’s the beauty of this sport. Constantly setting goals and meeting new challenges. Legacy Saddlebreds is a place where anyone with a love of horses and riding can come and enjoy,” Jamie said.

Legacy Saddlebreds is located at 4175 Thomasville Road, WinstonSalem, NC. The facility offers training, riding lessons, horsemanship camps, adult clinics, youth clubs and horse shows. For more information, call 336-618-6197 or visit www.legacysaddlebreds.com.

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Helping Kids Understand the Meaning of

Valentine's Day

By Lisa S. T. Doss

here is great expectation to the holiday that promises many red hearts, copious amounts of chocolate, flowers, stuffed animals and hand-written words. Children are watching and listening with wide eyes and hopeful hearts. The prelude occurs at least six weeks prior to Valentine’s Day. Love and magic appear in advertisements and wistful movies, and are confirmed in reality as parents reveal their plans to have a special Saturday night out. While parents may not think their elementary-aged child will have expectations for the day, in truth, many children will rate their own popularity based on the number of Valentine cards they receive. Discussions on the meaning and purpose of Valentine’s Day can help children overcome awkward feelings or heartfelt disappointments. Prior to class parties, there are valuable messages to be imparted, ensuring that your child can love the day of fun, food and friendship.

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Feelings Children can sum up Valentine’s Day in a few words. It includes mention of their favorite candy, the ritual of exchanging cards, and home traditions. Parents may not expect new emotions or weird feelings to occur this early in a child’s life. Of all the days of the year, Valentine’s Day is a great lesson in friendship.

It can be the holiday that unites friends, resolves disagreements, or changes an opinion.

Many children have misconceptions about Valentine’s Day, and fear they are offering love in lieu of the reality, which is promoting friendship through an act of kindness.

Sometimes, we can begin the conversation by asking, “How do you feel when a classmate does something unexpectedly nice for you?”

Ah, puppy love! It is a true act of confidence for a child to say, “I like you,” and to have the confirmation returned. While a child may be hopeful of receiving a teddy bear for Valentine’s Day, the response may be a change of the heart on the part of the other child.

Disappointment is a difficult feeling on a day with such grand expectations. By telling personal stories and revealing feelings, a child can see that not all Valentine’s Days are perfect; however, there will many opportunities in life to give and receive real love and friendship.

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The Popularity Contest The ritual of a classroom party seems like a joyous event for young children to build a feeling of community. Even adults will recall their own childhood school parties, comprising cupcakes, pretzels, a drink box and a perusal of the hand-made bag of received valentines. Except that, today, children exchange much more than cards.

There are now small gift bags full of chocolates, candies and even a cool party favor.

While many children want to over-indulge in every holiday festivity, it is important to add only one additional item to the gift bag. Not all children can give such great amounts to every child in the class.

Instead, ask the teacher if your family can provide a snack or party favor to enhance the classroom party.

One of the best ways to “illustrate” friendship is to encourage your child to make his or her own valentines. While hearts may be symbolic, homemade cards can also be in the shape of a butterfly, a rocket, or perhaps something entirely different. If your child chooses to make creative cards, make sure he or she starts early. How about today?

Home Celebration Children’s viewpoints on the holiday are largely related to the perceptions among family members. Through parents’ efforts, children can begin to see there are better gifts than the expensive ones generally associated with Valentine’s Day. By making homemade cards for distant relatives, or cupcakes for the school class, children can associate the day with acts of kindness. In addition, love is modeled through compassionate acts, polite exchanges and offering time to help others in need. Beyond the commercialism of the holiday, Valentine’s Day represents a wonderful day of words, cards, food and promoting friendship and family love.

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ally declined every invite for family dinners. The idea of her family eating at a table in front of others was too embarrassing to comprehend.

So she made up excuses. Like many of today’s families, they were too busy for family sit-down meals at their house. Meals were on the run, in the car, and arrived in disposable wrappers.

Consequently her children never learned table manners.

Truth be told, they ate like they were born in a barn. But one day these children, like many others, will need to eat in public; with or without the feedbag. Here are a few rules they should know to feel successful:

1. We wash our hands before dinner.

2. We eat only after everyone is served.

3. Our napkin goes in our lap; we sit up straight.

4. We ask to pass food and avoid reaching.

5. We chew with our mouth closed.

6. We never talk with food in our mouths.

7. We take turns talking with inside voices.

8. We know how to use our utensils correctly.

9. All will stay at the table until everyone is finished.

10. We always remember to say, “Please” and “Thank you.”

Dinner Conversations is a short series for families interested in reviving the family sit-down dinner tradition.

Each month we will share games, etiquette, conversation starters, meal ideas and more, designed to enhance your families dining experience.

Please contact me with suggestions or questions. As always, I look forward to hearing from you!

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Debt May Spoil Cupid’s Plans This Valentine’s Day Financial Pathways of the Piedmont Sheds Light on How Debt can Sour Relationships

inston-Salem, NC – Cupid is up against a mighty opponent this Valentine’s Day: debt. The majority of people participating in a National Foundation for Credit Counseling (NFCC) monthly poll indicated they would have serious reservations about taking on the debt of the person they love, even to the point of ending the relationship.

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Fifty-four percent of respondents would either not marry until the debt was repaid (37%), marry but not help pay the debt (10%), or end the relationship (7%). The remaining 46 percent of those who weighed in were willing to marry and jointly pay off the debt.

“When considering the negative ramifications of debt, people may not realize that the associated problems can go beyond credit scores and interest rates. Debt can also have serious, long-lasting personal implications,” said Peter Laroche, President and CEO of Financial Pathways of the Piedmont. “It appears that debt overrides love, at least temporarily, when deciding to move forward in a relationship. It’s money over marriage.”

Young adults who emerge from college with tens of thousands of dollars in credit card and student loan debt could begin their happily-everafter with a six-figure debt load. Close to half of all marriages in America end in divorce, with financial strain often cited as the culprit. Due to the potential negative impact debt can have on a credit report and score, it may also be difficult to buy a home or car, rent an apartment, obtain insurance or land a job, all common steps people take when building a life together.

Lovebirds need to be aware that credit reports and scores are for individuals, not couples. A marriage license may join two people together for matrimony, but their credit remains separate. The game changes, however, if accounts are opened jointly with each person a co-applicant. People often apply for credit jointly when making a major purchase that requires two sources of income to support the loan. In this case, one person’s low credit score may hinder the approval, or if the lender extends credit, it may be at a higher interest rate.

On the other hand, if two people marry, one with good credit and one with “iffy” credit, there is a way to improve the credit of the not-so-fortunate party. Adding a person onto an account as an authorized user allows the credit history to be reported in both the authorized user’s name and the primary account holder’s name. Over time, with the credit handled responsibly, this will positively impact both credit reports.

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Love and money are difficult to separate. For that reason, engaged couples will be well-served to communicate openly about their finances, willingly sharing all sources of income, existing debt obligations, credit reports and scores, along with personal preferences about decisions involving loaning money to family and friends, or attitudes toward spending and saving. Financial baggage can be heavy, but settling differences before walking down the aisle will go a long way toward making happily ever after a reality.

For help combining two incomes and finding the best way to manage two sets of debt, contact Financial Pathways of the Piedmont (an NFCC member agency) and inquire about the three-step Sharpen Your Financial Focus program: 336-896-1191 or TOLL FREE at 1-888-474-8015 or visit www.financialpaths.org.

About Financial Pathways of the Piedmont (financialpaths.org) Founded in 1972 and originally called Consumer Credit Counseling Service of Forsyth County, Financial Pathways of the Piedmont is a non-profit agency that provides professional consumer education and comprehensive financial and housing guidance throughout the entire Piedmont Triad area of North Carolina. Based in WinstonSalem, Financial Pathways of the Piedmont is a Member Agency of the National Foundation for Credit Counseling.

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Gotta Get Thin How your Weight Loss Journey can be a Family Affair

By Martie Emory

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s Clemmonsbased chiropractor Dr. Paul Williams and his wife, Diane, promote their new weight loss program— appropriately named “Gotta Get Thin”— they are proud of how the health benefits spill over into everyday family life— including their own.

The two are parents of three young boys, ages eight to 11, and they know firsthand how health and fitness affect parenting. “I want them to learn how to eat healthy, so they will not have to have the weight struggle I had,” says Diane. “When I lost 45 pounds, my boys told me that I was a happier mom and that now I could play sports with them.”

Dr. Williams notes that they have many clients who tell them they want desperately to be around to see their children grow up and be, and play, with their grandchildren. “Obesity can shorten your life span and it can also affect your quality of life,” he says.

Paul and Diane launched Gotta Get Thin using a technology that’s been around for close to seven years. He’s combined his medical expertise (he holds a Doctorate of Chiropractic degree as well as a biology degree from UNC Chapel Hill) with the everyday knowledge he discovered treating patients whose weight affected other ailments. He and Diane explored the strategy behind Gotta Get Thin in a quest to educate his patients and, in the process, the two combined for a personal loss of almost 90 pounds! Even better, they’ve managed to maintain their weight loss through holidays and vacations.

“Our program has such amazing results that we knew we had to make it available to the general public,” says Dr. Williams. “I like to tell people that this is the easiest thing when it comes to weight loss. We focus on getting your body into a fat-burning zone naturally.” In fact, says Diane, your physiology changes to the point that you don’t crave the greasy, calorie-laden foods you once counted on for comfort.

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Dr. Williams is able to contractually guarantee results for his Gotta Get Thin clients and is comfortable assuring them they will shed at least 20 pounds by sticking to the 40-day plan.

The process begins with a body composition analysis and thorough consultation with Dr. Williams, who then creates a “biosignature” which allows him to craft a plan that’s individualized to the needs of each patient. This “ultimate fat-loss scan” utilizes NRF technology—a comprehensive electro-impedance resonant frequency scan—that finds each person’s ultimate fat-burning zone. Next, the patient is given allnatural, non-medicinal drops (by mouth) that stabilize their body chemistry and correct hormonal imbalances. Once that occurs, weight loss of a half a pound to two pounds per day can be achieved if the patient embraces the program’s five basic components, which include hydrating, cleansing and balancing the pH of the body and nutritional detoxification, all conducted under close doctor supervision. Safe for both men and women, the technology can be successful for anyone past puberty and their clients have ranged from age 16 to 74.

Gotta Get Thin can be life-changing for patients with diabetes, high blood pressure, high cholesterol, or any other chronic medical condition. Read the amazing testimonial from patient and author Anne Sourbeer Morris, Ed.D.: “At age 66 I made the decision to regain health and energy and I wanted quick results! I started the program in late September, 2014, and 40 days later I was down 27 pounds. I even made it through Thanksgiving and Christmas without re-gaining weight! While the program does not promise to ‘cure’ disease, I no longer take blood pressure medicine.

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The View from My Section...

By A. Keith Tilley

Tie the Knot ‘Loosely’: Millennials Consider a Different Approach to Marriage Editorial

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aving a teenager at home, I’ve grown to see how male/female relationships have changed over the years.

Although many of the same moral principles still apply, our culture has certainly changed in what is considered “normal” or “acceptable” when it comes to relationships today.

A Time Magazine story by Jessica Bennett (“The Beta Marriage: How Millennials Approach ‘I Do,’ July 25, 2014”) identified how Millennials (defined as those born between 1977 and 2000) would consider a new approach to the institution of marriage. They call it “Beta Marriage.” The term “beta” is used in technology to define a test. So, in essence, it’s a test marriage described as “a union that can be formalized or dissolved after a two-year trial period.” The idea, it appears, stems from a survey the magazine conducted in conjunction with the USA Network’s series entitled “Satisfaction.” They surveyed responses from 1000 participants, which included Millennials, and asked them from among five potential marriage contract options to select all the ones they find most interesting and desirable. The first was Multiple Partner, a marriage with more than one person at the same time, each of whom fulfills a need in your life. Only 10% chose this option, the lowest in the survey. The second was the “Presidential,” stipulating that marriage vows last for four years, and after eight years each party can elect to choose a new partner. 21% found this option to be worth considering. Third was the traditional “Till Death Do Us Part” contract that we know today. 31% selected this option as a desirable choice. Fourth was the “Real Estate” option, whereby marriage licenses can be granted for 5-, 7-, 10- and 30-year terms, upon which the marriage must then be renegotiated in order to be extended. Interestingly, 36% liked this option as well. Finally, there was the “Beta” marriage as previously mentioned, the two-year trialperiod option. This was by far the most popular choice at 43%.

Although the results may appear surprising, they are indicative of the Millennials’ style of living by including more choices and fewer restrictions. With over 80 million Millennials, they represent the largest generation in our history, and one that could potentially make some dramatic changes in how we live our lives in the future.

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easier may or may not increase those odds. For instance, sometimes knowing that you’re in it for the long haul makes you look for ways to compromise and grow with your partner in a manner that you might not have considered otherwise. And yet, given all the complex variables involved in relationships, it would appear a case could likely be made for both sides.

As a member of the “Baby Boom” generation and coming from a family where my mother and father were married for over 60 years, I have to admit these alternatives seem a bit radical. I can’t help but be a little skeptical—considering, for example, that the first year of marriage alone isn’t called the “Honeymoon Phase” for nothing.

Couples are still learning about each other, and the body’s chemical reactions, producing dopamine and oxytocin (cuddle hormone), among others formed by the relationship, are still strong. Longstanding couples know that those initial intense, powerful feelings don’t last forever. Still, they’re often replaced by a different kind of love, one that is more understanding, patient, forgiving, trusting and comfortable. A love where they understand each other without words having to be spoken, know each other’s likes and dislikes, passions and fears inside and out, share and help each other through the highs and lows, tough times and sad times, and all the times in between. I can’t help but think two years doesn’t come close to developing an understanding of what mature love is really about. And yet, I don’t begin to imply that everyone or every relationship is the same and can develop in the way my parents’ did.

It’ll be interesting to see what path our largest generation chooses.

However, just as my generation changed the way the world operates, I’m sure the Millennial Generation will forge their own path as well; hopefully, by making choices that strengthen the bond of matrimony in the way it was intended to be.

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The Love of a Puppy, the Love of a Child By Lisa S.T. Doss

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hile lying on the floor of a kennel awaiting adoption, does the curious dog wonder whether his or her home will have children to adore, a great yard to run and play in, a comfortable and quiet place to sleep, and the promise of unconditional love?

Adopting a dog also stirs feelings of great excitement, hopefulness and, sometimes, worry in us, as well. Prospective owners will wonder if the dog will be a perfect fit for the needs of the family. And, most importantly, what great lessons will he or she teach the children about life and love? The connections often happen instantaneously and with great surprise.

While the dog will form relationships with each member of the family, the best gifts of learning occur during the formative years of the children.

Our family loves animals. My husband still reminisces about those beloved pets he had in childhood. I know all of the stories, from the 12 beagles to the last dog named Bear, a German shepherd. At the age of 25, I adopted my first dog, a golden retriever, who lived to the grand age of 15. Animal lovers will understand what it means to have a kind of quietness in the house without a dog. Even with an 18-month-old boy and a four-year-old girl, our family was still missing an important member.

The question became, when is the right time and how long should we wait? In our case, it felt like the stories of a stork flying above and landing with a bundle of joy on a doorstep that just happened to be ours. One day in early October, a Facebook post offered a free eight36 • forsythfamilymagazine.com

month-old golden retriever to a good home. In that second, I was ready! Three days later, we drove to a rescue center in Ashe County and picked up our “chosen” two-month-old golden retriever and great Pyrenees mix.

Within five days, I knew Callahan was the right dog for our family. She followed our boy like a shadow and sat beside him while he played or turned pages of a book. Love continued to bloom. Our boy and his dog have formed a sweet and gentle connection. My daughter also got exactly what she wanted; a dog that retrieves Frisbees and balls, and enjoys the game of chase.

The Allred family’s prayers were answered when they, too, adopted a golden retriever puppy. Amy writes, “This sweet ball of fluff has been wonderful for our son. Hunter has ADHD, Sensory Processing Disorder (SPD) and hyperacusis. When a child has a high intellect, yet has some disabilities as well, his behavior may not always match what is seen on the outside. And we’ve discovered [that] some people are not always understanding. Because the world can be so over-stimulating to a child with sensory issues, Carolina Blue has meant unconditional love, calmness, and acceptance to Hunter. They are best buddies, and we know that will continue for years to come.”

It begins with the decision to adopt. Sometimes fate intervenes, and the “perfect” dog arrives, as if by magic. Across the seasons, the child will recall nights of sickness or moments of heartbreak, grand adventures of fun and danger, secrets told, and feelings of trust, love and friendship—all because the dog was by his or her side.

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By Casey Foster, BS, ACSM-CPT and Play Facilitator Certified through US Play Coalition

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he cold of the winter and added precipitation like rain or snow can make being active a challenge. But sometimes inclement weather can create the perfect opportunity to have fun as a family. Take the time to go outside and build a snowman, sled, or have a snowball fight.

Once your fingers and toes become too numb to be outside, come inside and warm up with more family fun. Some indoor activities can be just as much fun.

Have fun together by dancing to Just Dance on the Wii™, playing a card game, or putting together a puzzle.

Or try one of these indoor game ideas.

The Floor Is Lava!

1. Someone yells, “The floor is lava!” If you touch the floor, you are out.

2. You can use chairs and furniture to get around inside without touching the floor.

3. Whenever the person who called “The floor is lava!” says the floor has solidified, the floor is safe to walk on. When someone yells “The floor is lava!” the floor is back to being unsafe.

4. The goal of the game is to get from point A to point B without getting burned by the lava.

Indoor Snowball Fight 1. Ball up old newspaper or socks to use as snowballs.

2. Split up and hide behind walls and chairs.

Then, the snowball fight is on!

Ask your children for some other games to play inside. Write down everyone’s ideas on little pieces of paper and put them in a bowl. This will give everyone input on time together. When it is time for some fun, pick an activity idea out of the bowl. Having ideas ready to pick from makes coming up with what to do easier and adds variety to family time.

Inclement weather might dampen travel plans, but don’t let it get in the way of having fun together!

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By Carolyn S. Peterson

A History of Patient Care For 36 years, Winston-Salem Dental Care has provided the Triad with quality preventively oriented dental services, serving patients from infants to senior adults, with many patients being children. With this specific group of patients, the staff at WSDC is committed to educating children and their families in good dental hygiene throughout a child’s life and offering treatments, including general dentistry, cosmetic dentistry, surgery, orthodontics and periodontics.

“An early dental exam in a child’s life can identify developing oral health problems before they become bigger problems. Although I have examined young infants with special concerns, such as cleft palate, the ADA recommends that a child’s first dental examination be done no later than one year of age. A one-year-old will generally have at least one or two baby lower

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he foundation for healthy permanent teeth in children and teenagers is laid during the first years of life. Parents are a child’s first teachers in life and play a significant role in maintaining his or her overall health, including dental health. Poor diet, bad eating habits and inadequate tooth brushing habits during the first 2 years of life have been shown in several studies to be related to tooth decay in children.

To raise awareness of the importance of children’s dental health, The American Dental Association (ADA) recognizes the month of February as “National Children’s Dental Health Month.” Though the focus for this month is on children, the initial support for a healthy mouth stems from parents. “By developing good oral habits early in life and the use of regular dental visits, children can get a good start on a lifetime of healthy gums and teeth. Parents can encourage their children to develop healthy habits at a young age, which can last them a lifetime. During the month of February, the ADA also provides resources to assist teachers in the classroom with oral heath presentations.

This year’s campaign slogan is ‘Defeat Monster Mouth’ and promotes effective ways to defeat monster mouth by brushing, flossing, rinsing and eating healthy snacks,” said Dr. Martin Slominski, an orthodontist at Winston-Salem Dental Care (WSDC).

“A beautiful smile and well-aligned straight teeth are part of having a good self-image...” ~Dr. Slominski

incisors erupted by then. In young children, topical fluoride treatments can be applied to the teeth to strengthen the enamel of the teeth, to make them more resistant to cavities. Sealants can be applied, usually to erupted permanent teeth, to lessen the likelihood that cavities will start in the pits and grooves of back teeth.

Children with persistent thumb- or finger-sucking habits can be identified, and early treatment may help to prevent the development of open bites and flared upper incisors,” Dr. Slominski commented. But with all the preventative dental care that is available to children today, do most children see a dentist in a timely manner?

Probably not.

Better Sooner Than Later “Most children will have all of their baby teeth erupted between two and three years of age. And while most two-year-olds may not sit patiently in a dental chair for an examination, that’s certainly not too early an age for a child to have an oral exam. If a child is not having tooth pain, a parent may not even be thinking about an oral exam for their child, but early detection of oral problems helps to lessen the chance for cavities and other developing oral conditions. For an orthodontic exam, I like to see a child around age 5 or 6 if possible. Developing orthodontic problems can often be evaluated between the ages of 5 to 7, and occasionally early orthodontic intervention might be recommended at that age,” stated Dr. Slominski.

You Only Get One Set of Teeth, So Take Care of Them As Dr. Slominski said, “There’s no reason that your teeth cannot last a lifetime. But that usually requires a team effort to achieve. Parents certainly play a critical role in achieving good oral health during their child’s early years. The dental team plays an essential role in identifying early oral problems, fixing them and helping to maintain healthy mouths. When we consider the lifetime importance of our teeth—chewing food for perhaps 100,000 meals during a lifetime, and that’s not counting all of the times we snack between meals, flashing a beautiful smile, speaking, singing…the list goes on and on—we realize how important our teeth and a healthy mouth are in our lives.” WSDC has a staff of 14 general dentists, two orthodontists and a periodontist within the practice, allowing ease of communication and coordination of patients’ care, such as dental cleanings, fillings, or surgical treatments. The practice also works with other specialists in the area through referrals, when needed. So you can see the importance regular dental visits provide to good oral hygiene; but what role does orthodontia play in the lives of children?

The “Side Effects” of a Beautiful Smile It’s just a fact that well-aligned, healthy teeth give us a sense of well-being, improved self-confidence, help in chewing food properly and may help to prevent future problems, such as TMJ conditions or jaw bone and gum loss. A healthy mouth is an important part of one’s overall general health, and an orthodontist can help achieve all the “side effects” to a beautiful smile.

“A beautiful smile and well-aligned straight teeth are part of having a good selfimage, especially for children in middle school, high school, college and throughout life. Most of us want to look our best as we interact with the people around us. Dr. Richard Dosek and I have helped thousands of patients in our careers as orthodontists, and it is rewarding to follow them as they have gone on in life to become professional athletes, physicians, attorneys, accountants, dentists, teachers, musicians—well, you name it, they are involved in all sorts of professions and

occupations. I don’t think that you can overstate how important your teeth are to your well-being throughout life,” Dr. Slominski commented.

Although most children have their orthodontic treatment between the ages of 9 and 18, depending on the individual child’s growth, dental and skeletal development and loss of baby teeth, it’s never too early for a child to have an orthodontic evaluation.

“I like to see a child around the age of 5 or 6, if possible, for the initial orthodontic evaluation. Even if orthodontic treatment is not needed that early, developing oral problems can be discussed with a parent and an appropriate recall visit scheduled for the child. And if the child’s early orthodontic exam results look good, parents appreciate the reassurance that their child’s teeth and bite are developing normally. At WinstonSalem Dental Care, our staff works closely to ensure your child’s dental needs are met from their first visit—from the examination to any needed dental procedures, to orthodontics. We stand by a commitment to the service values of C.H.A.P.P. C- Comprehensive, H-High Quality, AAccessible, P-Personalized and P-Preventively Oriented Care. Our dedication to patient care and achieving good dental health over a lifetime is a team effort, involving not only patients and their parents, but a staff that is patient-focused, providing ‘service that makes you smile,’” stated Dr. Slominski.

Winston-Salem Dental Care is located at 201 Charlois Blvd, WinstonSalem, NC. For more information, call 336-331-3524. or visit www.wsdentalcare.com for a list of practitioners and services. Dr. Slominski wishes to acknowledge that the information in this article about National Children’s Dental Health Month was provided by the generosity of the American Dental Association, at their www.ada.org, website, accessed on January 2nd, 2015.

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Three Hours

By Rachel Hoeing with Triad Moms on Main

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ast fall, I received an e-mail from a local non-profit, asking for volunteers. They listed specific jobs that needed manpower, as well as days/times when additional volunteers were needed. It had been a busy morning and I had my finger on the mouse to click “delete,” because I first thought, “How in the world would I ever find time to add one more thing to my plate?” But then I stopped and thought, “I can do this.”

As many mothers do, I have a job, I have commitments, and I have a “To Do” list each week that is never completed. But there was something in my heart telling me to reply to this e-mail and give some time to others.

Not “others” as in my children, husband or friends. Not “others” as in the children or teachers at school. Most of us already do that. I wanted to give to those I didn’t know. I didn’t want acknowledgment; I just wanted someone else to feel good because of something I had done.

I looked at my calendar and decided to give three hours each week.

Did I have that time just sitting there, waiting to be used? No. I decide to make that time. I would block off three hours on the same day each week, show up at this non-profit, and do whatever they needed me to do.

I would commit, and therefore would not allow myself to fill that time with other commitments.

So, I did it. I replied to the e-mail and told them the day I was available, the time I was available and asked if they could use my help. Of course, I received an immediate, “Yes!” I do not want to share the name of the non-profit because that is not the point I am making. Everyone has a different point-of-view on who may need help and/or assistance, so I think it is better for you to picture a scenario that touches your heart personally. Who or what is something that you are passionate about? Who or what could use your help?

I have been volunteering each week since the beginning of the school year, and I have learned so many things from my three hours each week.

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under-rated. I have learned to give fully, without expecting anything in return. I have learned that I often get caught up in my own bubble of problems, not seeing the problems of others right under my nose.

My heart is full after my three hours each week, because I may have been able to warm the heart of someone else, even just for a moment. Love is what makes the world go round and so many people out there just don’t get enough of it. I have enough love inside me that I want to share it with others. More than anything, I want my children to see how rewarding it is for everyone, when you give selflessly.

If you are over-worked, over-stressed and just plain over it, this isn’t an article to make you feel guilty or compelled to take on something you cannot handle right now. But I wanted to share that if there comes a time in your life when you feel you can make time for others, you will not regret doing so. The time you make can be an hour each month or an hour each day. This availability of time probably won’t just fall into your lap, but will need to be a decision that you make on your own.

I often hear women saying that they would love to do or give more, but just don’t know where to start or how they will find the time. We have a non-profit directory on Triad Moms on Main that can help you get started (click the “Directories” tab at the top of our site). Or you can e-mail friends about your passion to see if they know how you can help.

Whatever you feel called to do, do it. One rarely regrets helping another.

And if now is not the time, keep this article in your back pocket as a reminder for one day in the future when you are ready.

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Ages & Stages Toddler Thru Elementary

Keeping Up with the Curious Child without Losing your Patience

By Stacy Leighton

f we could harness the energy of the curious child, we could power the world for centuries.

And the only thing more abundant than their energy is their endless supply of questions. “Why does a puppy lick your face?”

“Why do the stars disappear when the sun is out?” “Why does popcorn pop?” “Where do babies come from?” “Why do people die?”

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Some questions arise from situations. Teachers call these “teachable moments.” Other questions are musings, as they try to make sense of their world, while other questions are stall tactics or are asked for other reasons altogether (“Can I please have a cookie before dinner?”). They never end—and can really wear a parent out. So how do we keep their curiosity alive, even when we are at our wits’ end?

Listen to their questions. If the answer is easy enough, and the time appropriate, do try. If you need time to research or process how best to answer it, by all means buy yourself some time. It’s perfectly appropriate to say, “I’m not sure,” or, “I want to find out more about that. Let’s talk about that at home later.” When you take an active interest in looking for these answers together, you are reinforcing their love of knowledge. Curious parents have smart children.

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foods.” Or, “But why do I have to take a nap?” These are just smoke and mirrors. Don’t waiver, stay your course and don’t lose your cool. A perfectly acceptable answer to these previously answered questions is: “I have already told you why we need to eat all vegetables, even green ones. What was my answer?”

Timing is everything. Some questions are posed at inappropriate times or times when you may be preoccupied. Beware—if you are not paying attention, you might agree to something without meaning to. My 3year-old waited until I was on the phone to ask, “Can I have a cookie, Mommy?” What I heard was, “Mommy?” Naturally, I said, “Yes.” He had stuffed 6 Nilla Wafers into his mouth in the 5 seconds it took for me to hang up the phone.

The sensitive questions. “Where do babies come from?” or “If Grandma has gone to a better place, where is that? Why can’t I go, too?” You are going to need to be your best self for these. You may need to take a minute (or more) to prepare the perfect answer. Be sure to tell them this is a very good question and that you will answer it. Then, when you are ready, keep it simple (age-appropriate) and remember, “less is more.”

Making conversation. Some questions don’t require an answer; your children are just making conversation. My favorite answer has always been “What do you think?” This is a great way to buy some time while reinforcing your child’s curiosity. As a bonus, their answers can be enlightening, as well as entertaining! Enjoy this time—you are fostering their love of learning, and one day they may just teach us something.

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Ages & Stages School Age Children

Why Middle School Might Be the Worst Years of Your Life

By Becky Olsen

o you’re in middle school, those awkward years between childhood and adulthood, when neither shoe really fits.

It’s going to be tough. It’s going to be smelly.

It’s going to take all your survival skills. So be prepared, because middle school just might be the worst years of your life, for the following reasons:

most of these influential classmates in high school, or shortly thereafter. Those few you do keep in touch with will eventually find themselves busy with demanding careers and families of their own. But in the meantime, you’re going to let them help you make important life decisions, so choose your friends carefully.

1. You’re going to look and feel awkward. It’s not your fault. All your body parts are developing at different speeds. Huge feet, small arms, big ears might make you feel like the T-rex in Meet the Robinsons: “I have a big head, but little bitty arms.” But don't worry, they’ll catch up to each other and even out, before it’s all over with.

5. You’ll suddenly know everything, and your parents will know nothing. It’s tough to say why parents go through an intellectual decline at the same time as you’re reaching maturity. Perhaps your hormonal changes trigger some primordial instinct in them that requires they grow increasingly lame as you attain new intellectual heights. Again, don’t worry. You’ll, I mean they’ll, get through this stage. Have a little mercy and let them think they’re right a few times, for the sake of peace.

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2. You’ll want the responsibility of a child but the respect of an adult. It’s hard to look cool in a bounce house, but you’re going to try. The carefree days of childhood will call to you at the same time the sophistication of adulthood is beckoning. You’re going to walk a fine line, handling some things with the thoughtful maturity of an adult, and others with kind of childhood passion that leaves you cryin’ for your Mama.

3. You’re going to want to wear really uncomfortable clothes—the tighter the better. You’ll be taking those first tentative steps into finding an identity, trying out different styles and personas. This may include such poor choices as hammer pants or 80s zigzag sweaters. You may be trying make up for the first time and assume more is better. Or you may be the proud new owner of recently sprouted breasts and desire to show them off. Despite this, you will eventually find a sense of style that suits you and manages to keep the important parts covered.

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7. Your friends are going to get to do everything before you do, and I do mean everything. Don't worry, though, it’s likely they might regret that unicorn tattoo at some point. Feel free to learn from the mistakes of those in front of you.

8. You’ll smell awful. Blame the hormones again. There’s no amount of Axe body spray that can totally help this one, no matter that you’re walking around in your own greenerywilting storm cloud of scent. This, too, shall pass.

9. You’re going to feel opposed to everything. It doesn’t matter how much fun it is, who asked you or how nicely they asked, everyone and everything is going to get on your nerves. This includes, but is not limited to, teachers, siblings, grandparents, friends, the checkout clerk at the grocery store, your rabbi, your Boy Scout leader, newscasters, cartoon characters, strangers on the street and, most certainly, your parents.

Somewhere rooted in science is a perfectly rational explanation involving hormones and growth cycles, but for now just accept that for the next three years the people in your life will be really, really annoying.

Don’t worry, these awkward transition years are a part of growing up. The good thing is, they are part of the journey and not the destination.

Bad hair styles and poor fashion choices are as much a rite of passage as graduation. One day the photo album will be fodder for family laughs around the dinner table. And while your parents might never be cool, you will one day appreciate their wisdom. Until then, hang on and persevere through it all, and you’re certain come out the other side of these uncertain times a reasonable, well-mannered adult, albeit a little smarter and a little humbler.

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Ages & Stages High School

Young Love Helping Your Teen through Happiness and Heartache

By Stacy Leighton

t is the eve of the annual endof-summer beach bonfire.

Your young teen storms through the front door. She stomps to her room, as only she could. She slams her door, as only she would. She screams, “I don’t want to talk about it!” even though she should. Head in your hands, what do you do? Your baby’s first heartbreak is hardest on you.

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As parents who were once teens, we have been there, we have done that. We remember our first crush and feeling giddy when they talked to us. We remember writing our name next to theirs over and over again. We remember when we discovered the feeling was mutual, and when it was not. And the very real pain, as our heart broke in two when we were let down.

But…that is the LAST thing they want to hear. The idea that their parents were young people (you know, back in the stone ages?) is not even possible. The thought of you having a crush is, just, “Ew!” That you experienced anything like their break up at the bonfire (we INVENTED fire, you’re welcome!) is absurd. So to them there is no way you could understand this kind of pain.

In other words, imagine you said all that, and then don’t. What to do?

Short of putting them in a bubble and denying the existence of any other life form on this planet, you cannot protect them from life’s growing pains. Seriously, I tried—it’s not possible. The best thing you can do is to be there for them.

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child to child. Typically little girls are more emotional and willing to share. You know your little girl best. Knock first, then go in. You might bring a cup of cocoa. Sit beside her and hold her while she cries. When she is ready, just listen. Try hard not to offer advice or over-relate too soon. Tell her you are available when she is ready. As a last ditch effort, distraction and redirection are always a good idea (ex: movies and popcorn).

Eventually her heart will mend.

Gently guide her by reminding her that she is wonderful just the way she is. In your compliments be specific.

Boys are a little different.

Typically boys are more internal.

They will not easily share and may require a more subtle approach. I call it “gardening.”

You plant the seed, add a little water, come back to it later, then add a little more water. When they are ready to talk this will bear fruit. Don’t give up; even boys need our help sorting through heartache. They may also need to understand the complexities of girls, a very different sort of animal, indeed. Note: with most boys, less is more. Additionally, if there is a good male role model in his life call on him; a boy may be more inclined to share with him.

Another suggestion, good for most teen landmines…when they are not in crisis ask them how they would like you to approach them when it occurs. They might surprise you. Finally, keep your feelings out of it.

This is not about us, or our feelings about other people’s children. They will get through this; we all do. The best thing you can do for your child is to be available.

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By Meghan E.W. Corbett here is so much going on at this year’s Triad Home and Garden Show. From fantastic prize giveaways to more than 110 vendors on site and even a tiny house on display, it may take attendees all weekend to see everything!

“The Triad Home and Garden Show (THGS) is one of the best ways to showcase the latest and greatest products and services in our industry under one roof over a three-day weekend,” said Beverly Hayes, Director of Communications and Member Services for HBAWS. “The show was originally designed for the Home Builders’ Association of WinstonSalem (HBAWS) members, but it later opened to include nonmembers. The THGS allows us to meet the public face-to-face in an environment where people can interact with a wide variety of vendorprovided services and products for building and remodeling projects of all shapes and sizes.”

The past 27 years of the show have been a huge success! “The original THGS is the largest and longestrunning consumer show in this area, with more than 110 vendors, and it takes place annually in February,” said Hayes. “Consumers will have the opportunity to talk with professionals in all areas of the home building industry, including

remodeling, decks, hardscapes, roofing, flooring, garage doors, heating and air conditioning, mortgage lenders, cabinets and countertop specialists and suppliers, kitchen and bath, brick and concrete and much more. There will be five beautiful garden areas to inspire home landscape projects, as well as energy-saving solutions for both building and remodeling, the latest home products and services in the home building industry and the best of the best in the custom home building and remodeling industry. This is a home and garden show consumers will not want to miss.”

In addition to bringing more than 100 home building professionals together, the THGS has always given back to the community that supports it. “Since the beginning of the THGS, a portion of proceeds have been given to Habitat for Humanity of Forsyth County—helping them to provide safe, comfortable, affordable homes,” said Hayes.

“We are continuing the tradition—27 years of giving back via Habitat, and counting! The Habitat ReStore will have their mini-store set up again this year at the show with the actual store just a few blocks away for those who want to see more.”

For the third year in a row, Bloomday Granite & Marble is serving as the sponsor. “This is Bloomday’s 3rd year of sponsoring the Triad Home & Garden Show,” said Gary Hennessey, Director of Sales for Bloomday Granite & Marble. “The Bloomday staff is comprised of skilled artisans, many of whom have in excess of 10 years of experience in granite fabrication and installation.”

As always, there will be a grand prize giveaway for those in attendance. “The grand prize for this year’s event is a Husqvarna Z246i zero-turn lawn mower,” said Hayes. “The retail price of this prize Christian Parsons and Alexis Stephens, Tiny House Expedition is $2,799.99, and it comes complete with a Smart Start 23HP 46" cut with collection system and is supplied by Thomasville Lawn and Garden, the area’s premier Husqvarna full-line sales and service dealer. We will also be giving away a Husqvarna 455 20" Rancher chainsaw and a Husqvarna 128L trimmer.”

That’s not all! Heard of the tiny house craze? “We are working with Tiny House Expedition to have their completed project at the THGS all weekend—allowing locals interested in building a tiny home to see one up close and personal and to talk with both Christian Parsons and Alexis Stephens of Tiny House Expedition,” said Hayes. For more information about Tiny House Expedition, e-mail, or visit the website at www.tinyhouseexpedition.com.

The 27th Annual HBAWS’ Triad Home and Garden Show takes place February 20th–22nd at the Winston-Salem Fairgrounds Education Building. The show runs from 2–8 p.m. on Friday, 10 a.m.–6 p.m. on Saturday and 12–4 p.m. on Sunday. Tickets are $8/adult, with children 12 and under getting in free with a paying adult.

Discount coupons can be found at the event’s website, located at www.triadhomeandgardenshow.com. Concession stands will be open daily, and free parking is available.

The Home Builders Association of Winston-Salem is located at 220 Charlois Boulevard in Winston-Salem. For more information, call 336.768.5942, or visit www.hbaws.net.

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Making Family Memories that Last a Lifetime

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amily memories are different from traditions. In fact, our family is anything but “traditional.” We are a mixed bag of tricks, including one Dad, one Mom, one Step-Mom, a few half-siblings, a few fullsiblings and one adopted sibling (who belongs to all of us), in-laws, outlaws, grandkids and greatgrands and various unrelated aunts and uncles. We are story tellers, and when this crowd gets together the memories shared are endless. And that, my friends, is the stuff of life.

4. Give your life a soundtrack: Play their favorite songs, introduce them to your “old” music. Wake them up with a special song (“their song”), or rock out, lip-syncing with wooden spoons while you cook.

Our routines, rituals and memories bring a richness to our lives. They provide a sense of belonging and form our foundation. Making time for these memories isn’t hard to do. Even in the busiest household the fondest memories are not measured in minutes, but moments. Here are a few suggestions:

6. Bedtime Routines: These precious minutes with you will ease them into a sweet sleep. Talk about where you two might meet up in their dreams. Be fantastical, ex: “I’ll meet you in the Himalayan Mountains on a white flying unicorn.” This works well over the phone, too, for parents who have to be away from home at bedtime.

1. Cook Together: Everyone has to eat; allow your children to help in the kitchen.

2. Sit under the Stars: Weather permitting, spread a blanket in the yard, stretch out under the stars together. Tell them stories about when they were little, when you were little, or campfire stories.

If you have a fire pit or grill, roast marshmallows.

3. Go for walks together: After dinner, go for a walk; it doesn’t have to be a long walk, but this is a great time to visit.

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5. Get caught being “silly” with them: You won’t lose your street cred if you lighten up every so often. Every child loves to groan at their parent’s bad jokes or poor puns.

7. Game Night: Find games the whole family can play. Cards (Go Fish, Crazy 8’s, Old Maid), Chinese checkers, Apples to Apples, Hangman, Tick Tack Toe, Chess. It doesn’t have to be complicated, it’s about being together.

8. Read Together: Whether you read your own books side-by-side or pass the same book around, taking turns reading, you will remember these times fondly AND you will foster a love for reading.

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9. Dinner Table Games: “I Spy with My Little Eye…” or “I See Something on the Table” (“…that starts with the letter P and you can’t eat it”). Then everyone takes turns guessing. The answer is “Plate.” The person who is correct is then “it” and gets to make up the next riddle.

10. Tell Me Something Good: Sometimes it is hard to get our children to tell us about their day. Sometimes there was too much going on and they don’t know where to start and other times they might need help remembering. Playing the game, “Tell me Something Good about your Day,” will help. Incidentally, “Tell me Something Good about Yourself,” or “your Brother,” or “your Dinner,” are great prompts for other sensitive subjects, too.

But that’s not all you get! When you share these quiet unstructured times you are bonding with your child on a completely different level. Because of this, your children will feel more comfortable being open with you about other things. Life gets busy and childhood is brief. “Family times” become “memories” much too soon. These ideas can be folded into your everyday routine, making memories that last a lifetime.

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lmost all women are aware of the risks of breast, uterine and ovarian cancer, and take annual preventive action against these potentially life-threatening diseases by scheduling annual check-ups, mammograms and pap smears. However, when it comes to fighting coronary artery disease, America’s number-one killer of women, they are not as proactive; this is often because they are unaware of the serious risk it presents. Cardiovascular disease is defined as coronary heart disease, stroke and poor circulation, and the statistics relating to these are frightening.

Again, cardiovascular disease is the number one-killer in the United States and, in fact, cardiovascular disease death rates are four times higher in white women and six times higher in black women than the death rates from breast cancer. One in ten American women ages 45 to 64 has some form of heart disease, and by age 65, that increases to one in five. And death rates from heart attacks are about 50% higher in women than men. But there is some good news in all these numbers—preventive measures and treatment appear to be equally effective in men and women. However, the treatment rate for risk factors in women tends to be lower than in men.

It is essential for women to understand that there are multiple factors that increase their risks of developing cardiovascular disease, and that their treatment is just as important as that provided to men. Many major risk factors for cardiovascular diseases are controllable; these include high blood pressure, high blood cholesterol, smoking, obesity, physical inactivity, diabetes and stress. Others are uncontrollable, such as gender and family history. Having several risk factors is particularly troublesome, as they don’t simply add their effects; they actually multiply the potential risks.

Fortunately, the fact that so many of these risk factors are controllable means that women can empower themselves to lessen the chances that they will be stricken by this deadly disease, and there are fairly straightforward steps women can take. Quitting smoking is crucial. So is lowering blood pressure. High blood pressure is called the “silent killer,” because most people who have it do not feel sick. It can be controlled with regular physical activity, cutting down on alcohol, table salt, and losing excess

weight. Diabetes is often called a “women’s disease,” because after age 45, about twice as many women as men develop this serious disease, which raises the risk of coronary heart disease about three times higher in diabetic women. Good diabetic control can be achieved in some individuals by losing excess weight, following a healthy diet and participating in regular exercise. Last but not least, adequate cholesterol management has been shown to reduce cardiovascular events.

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While a detailed medical history and complete physical examination are very important, diagnostic tests are usually needed to confirm the presence and/or assess the severity of coronary heart disease. The most commonly prescribed tests include electrocardiogram (EKG), echocardiogram, treadmill exercise test, exercise echo, nuclear stress test, and coronary angiography. If you think that you are at risk for heart disease, take action by reducing controllable risk factors and visiting your doctor. Your doctor will advise you if any further testing is needed, help you plan lifestyle changes, prescribe medications that may be appropriate for your care, or refer you for formal consultation, where you will see a specialist devoted to treating patients with cardiovascular disease.

As with many conditions, cardiovascular disease is not unavoidable.

Know your risk factors, get regular exams (to determine if you have high blood pressure, high cholesterol, diabetes, etc.), control your weight and quit smoking. Taking charge of your heart health is something you can do—with your doctor’s help—to reduce the chance that cardiovascular disease will be part of your future.

Pictured above are a few of the cardiologists with Forsyth Cardiology Associates, Dr. David Fitzgerald, Dr. Zan Tyson and Dr. Ali Akbary. All of our cardiologists are Board Certified by the American Board of Internal Medicine in Internal Medicine and Cardiovascular Disease with several specializing in other areas including Interventional Cardiology and Electrophysiology.

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It's True,

By Lisa S.T. Doss t begins with a writing utensil in your hand and a period of sitting and waiting to be productive. You may be in a state of boredom or feeling anxious or stressed. The mind does not dictate the decision to create pictures or words; instead, research finds the doodler halfconscious and unaware of what is drawn onto a papered corner, or consuming a full page. Doodling seems to help individuals deal with problems in a calm matter, and sometimes “illustrate” what cannot be said out loud. Did you know your drawings reveal volumes about your personality and mood, based on the size, position and object drawn?

While we know our dreams and handwriting have significant value, did you ever think your doodles would provide a means for interpretation, too? Through research, the findings reveal the doodler prevails in many ways.

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Whether sitting idly in a classroom, workshop, or meeting, many of us have a hard time sitting still and need to do something productive with our inactivity; therefore, we whisper, fidget, tap our foot or pencil if our environment allows the noise, or we quietly doodle. If you have ever wondered whether you retained the information presented, the answer is, “Yes!” A study determined doodlers are more focused and can recall detailed information better than non-doodlers, who tend to daydream.

Interpreting Your Doodles Similar to handwriting, doodles are analyzed based on their size or style, lines and shapes. If you prefer large doodles, you may be characterized as bold, confident, and outgoing, while smaller doodles may suggest you may be feeling shy or choosing to observe rather than participate.

Additional categories were created to “label” the different types of people.

1. Emotional people use rounded shapes and curved lines. For instance, you may enjoy drawing: •The expression of the doodled face can tell you much about your frame of mind. Happy faces signify a feeling of happiness, pretty faces show the good you see in others, and an awkward face indicates a sense of mistrust.

•Flying insects, like butterflies, suggest the desire for freedom.

•Only you can interpret the meaning behind your circles. Either you are a person who struggles to make sense of a problem or your plan is coming together.

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2. Down-to-earth or practical individuals lean on straight lines or squared pictures.

•A house is one of the most common drawings. A carefully doodled house with windows reveals a person with a happy home life.

If the house is on top of a hill, the doodler may be feeling isolated.

•Stars indicate an ambitious person. A large star may be interpreted as “a definite goal in your sight.” On the other hand, many little stars reveal an optimistic viewpoint.

•Drawing a square simply means you are thinking through a difficult problem; however, if it becomes a cube, then the complexity of the drawing says you can handle any situation with ease.

•Doodling someone’s name or initials has a mixed interpretation.

Either the person is in your thoughts or there is a problem that you need to resolve.

•Highly successful people often doodle the stick figure. It means feeling in control of emotions and goals in life.

3. Determined people emphasize corners, zigzags and triangles. For instance, you may enjoy drawing: •Doodling arrows is a positive sign that you are determined and driven by goals. Your arrow may be pointing horizontally, perhaps suggesting a direction you desire to go. If it points upwards, it means you desire to proceed forward to obtain a goal.

•Repetitive shapes, such as waves and borders, indicate that you are methodical and patient, while wobbly lines suggest feelings of uncertainty.

Congratulations doodlers! You represent 29 percent of the population.

The next time you feel self-conscious about your doodling, remember, you doodle with purpose; perhaps to focus your attention, memorize, or for inspiration. You are grouped alongside great names like magnate Bill Gates, numerous Prime Ministers and American Presidents, poets, inventors and renowned artists like Michelangelo and Leonardo Da Vinci. It is a proud day for doodlers everywhere!

NEW StORY

“Everyone is Welcome.Everyone.” By Carolyn S. Peterson a free dental clinic for anyone in need. And every Sunday we pack and distribute bagged lunches for those in the area who need one,” Steve commented.

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t the heart of the Scriptures of the Bible is the “Golden Rule”: “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.” But too often that is not the case. We all have times in our lives when we need a hand, a little help to take the next step in our lives. Those in our community who are struggling in their lives are at times battling circumstances we know nothing about, yet we can help by providing a place where people can feel welcomed, safe and accepted. Such a place is New Story Outreach Ministries, started by New Story Church, founded about three years ago, in Winston-Salem, NC. “We were doing outreach before we even held our first service.”

Pastor Scott Osterberg met with a small group who had the intentions of finding out what God wanted them to do. The core values of New Story are based on the simple statement, “Everyone is Welcome.

Everyone.” “Every Sunday at New Story Church there is a very diverse population, from the employed and the unemployed; to addicts, some in recovery, some not; gay, straight; doctors; painters; those who love God and those who aren’t sure that they even believe in God. We don’t believe in wearing the ‘masks’ that many of us do every day and show to the world, everyone is encouraged to be themselves. We are all human beings who are loved by a God who knows just who we each are,” said Pastor Osterberg.

A Heart for Missions and Helping Others It is one thing to “talk the talk,” but to “walk the walk” in ministering to one’s community requires a heart for missions and helping others.

Steve Smith is the Outreach Pastor at New Story Church and he truly has a heart for mission and helping others in need. “On the second Saturday of every month from the spring through the fall, we have an event called ‘Second Saturday.’ We have a large clothing closet that is opened on that day. Everyone is welcome to come and get what they need. We have a big cookout and provide a meal for anyone who needs one. Our clothing closet is stocked for men, women and children and there is never a charge for anything. We also recognize other needs of our community, like dental care. Twice a year we host 60 • forsythfamilymagazine.com

Winter Brings Additional Needs to Community “During the winter months, we operate a Hospitality Center for those who need a place to come in from the cold. They receive a hot meal every night of the week as well as access to clothing and needed toiletries. Everyone is given a bag meal to take with them, full of breakfast and lunch foods. We have on-site interns who are currently doing their internships with us. They provide counseling and assistance with housing and needed services and programs. Our interns are available several evenings a week,” stated Pastor Steve.

One of New Story Church’s interns is Tamee Rice, and her experience working with the volunteers at the church has been very rewarding.

“I am amazed at how everyone at New Story is willing to give of their gifts and talents so freely. They all share the same passion to reach out and help those in need. There is a genuine warm and loving atmosphere surrounding everything New Story Church does and I have been truly blessed by being here,” said Tamee.

Involvement in the Lives of Others Makes Your Life Better There really is something in the saying, “It’s better to give than to receive,” because the volunteers at New Story Ministries receive much more than they give to those in need. “Volunteers are needed to make it all work and we have some wonderful ones at New Story!

There are many opportunities at New Story for people to get involved and give of their time and gifts. Our main goal is that we are all active in caring for those in our community. We encourage anyone who is interested to get involved and we would love for anyone to join us in what we are doing. New Story Church and Ministries is ultimately here to serve others. As we serve others, God changes us,” Steve commented. One volunteer who has been touched by the work of New Story is Kristin Marion.

“I started volunteering last season when I heard about New Story at my own church and their need for volunteers. I quickly became involved and fell in love with the ministry. My intentions were to feed others, but I was the one who was fed and blessed. There’s no hidden agenda or judgments made. Everyone is full of love for Christ and love for others. As Christians, that is what we are called to do and that is exactly what New Story is all about,” Kristin commented.

In addition to the New Story Church campus at 1401 Trademart Blvd, Winston-Salem, NC, the group recently opened a second campus.

“After much prayer and meeting with the Winston-Salem Presbytery, New Story took over the buildings which were formerly Prodigals Community. Most of the men living there in the recovery house already attend New Story. We have a free community meal every Monday evening, followed by a 7 p.m. worship service. We will also be packing bagged lunches and passing them out in that area as well.

God has blessed us, and we in turn will continue to feed, clothe, love and share Jesus with those in need,” said Pastor Scott.

For more information on New Story Ministries, visit www.newstorychurch.org and “like” on Facebook.

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Well-Known

By Tami Rumfelt One evening, as my hubby and I were leaving a restaurant, a beautifully restored 1965 Mustang pulled into the parking lot. It had a shiny red body and black convertible top. I have always quietly wished I could own a classic Mustang, just like the one in front of my eyes that night. As soon as Alton saw it, he said, “Oh, look, honey…there’s your car!”

Now, I’m not really a “car person.” For most of my adult life, I’ve driven a minivan. Having a cool car just isn’t on my radar right now. But, sometime in the past, I must have shared some Mustang musings with my husband… and he remembered that about me. I’m not sure why, but at that moment, I felt incredibly, deeply loved and abundantly blessed to be married to someone who knows me well enough to know even the little, trivial things about me.

I think we all have a desire to be intimately, deeply known. When another person takes the time and makes the effort to learn the intricacies of our personality, in many ways they give us value. They are validating who we are by showing us that we are worth being known.

Our Creator knows that we have this yearning to be known, and He repeatedly expresses to us in the Bible that he does, in fact, know us thoroughly…right down to the number of hairs on our head.

Are you feeling the need to be known by someone who loves you today? Open your Bible to Psalm 139. In it, David celebrates the intimate love God has for us. He says, “You have searched me, LORD, and you know me.

You know when I sit and when I rise; you perceive my thoughts from afar. You discern my going out and my lying down; you are familiar with all my ways.” A few verses later, David says that God’s thoughts about us outnumber the grains of sand!

It’s hard to understand how or why our Lord, the Creator of heaven and earth, of all that is seen and unseen, would also focus his attention so specifically on each one of us. But, I am so glad that He does. I am so thankful that he loves me enough to know me!

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Musing About…

The Incredibly Loving Heart

By Tim Roberts - Pastor of Sunrise United Methodist Church in Lewisville

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have fallen in love, is it your head that starts thumping like a wild bull? No it’s the heart!

Now, being one who has previously worked in the medical field, I know that the racing of the heart is from the release of adrenaline by the autonomic nervous system. With all that said, it is unquestionable that the sensation is solely “heart-felt.”

ave you ever thought about your heart? Maybe from time-to-time you give it a passing thought, but most people rarely think about it until something goes awry. Then, all of a sudden, it becomes the most important thing in your life—it becomes your life in a real and tangible way. You realize that this normally quiet part of your body gives you life and without it...well, you’re dead! Fortunately, for most of us, we don’t have to keep a constant vigil as to the health of this vital organ. It does its business, silently in the background, rarely seeking any attention. Year after year, day after day, minute after minute, it just keeps pumping that precious fluid through the intricate maze of our circulatory system.

February is iconized by the heart. This, of course, is because the major holiday that is celebrated during this month is St. Valentine’s Day—the day set aside for lovers and romance. The funny thing is that the holiday did not start out that way. It wasn’t until the 14th century, when Geoffrey Chaucer wrote in his poem, The Parliament of Birds, these words, “For this was on St. Valentine’s Day, when every bird cometh there to choose his mate,” that people began to see this day of celebration as one for love and affection.

Traditions began to develop from this newfound notion, with the exchanging of letters, confections and other symbols of love and adoration. “But what’s that got to do with the heart?” you ask. Well, one of the trinkets often given by one lover to another was a key,

It seems to be no wonder why for eons, the heart was considered to be the center of the human consciousness. An innumerable amount of poems, ballads and songs have incorporated the heart into their prose to evoke emotions of happiness, sadness, elation and, yes, love. How could anyone not think that love resides in the heart? Consider this: when you think of that one person with whom you

a key to their heart, the seat of what was considered the essence of that person. (Just a prompt here—right about now, you should be contentedly sighing, “Ahhh, how sweet!”)

Okay, I know; it’s a stretch. But that is the origin of the connection between the heart and love. But, you know, maybe the heart is a good icon for love. Not just any love, mind you, but real, true, unadulterated love. Here’s how I see that—the heart is relentless with its power to prevail and persevere, through the best of times and the worst of times, to supply all it can with the gift of life...and so is love.

As a man named Paul once said to the fledgling church in a town named Corinth, “Love is patient; love is kind; love is not envious or boastful or arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice in wrongdoing, but rejoices in the truth. It bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never ends.” (1 Corinthians 13.4-8a) Godspeed,

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THE BENEFITS OF EXERCISE:

By Kelly Lewis, Certified Personal Trainer

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here’s something about Valentine’s Day that casts a candle-lit glow over an entire month. It seems that the world goes pink and red for twenty-eight straight days. Romance is blooming and Cupid is working overtime. The national flower becomes a sweet rose and chocolate is devoured one heart-shaped box at a time.

What on earth does Valentine’s Day have to do with fitness? Plenty. I’ll explain. Allow me to introduce a thought that might never have crossed your mind. (You knew I’d bring up the topic of exercise, right?) Okay, here goes…regular exercise and a healthy life-style contribute to improving your body AND your relationship! Now that’s something to get HOT about! Here are my Top Five Benefits of exercise on your relationship: 1. Stress Reduction: We all know that it’s true. Stress is a killer. It kills people quite literally and it can kill relationships, too.

Stress never did anyone a favor in the emotional or physical relationship department. Working out individually or together as a couple is a fantastic way to beat the stress that nips at our heels every day. Nothing releases pent-up stress, anxiety and frustration quite like an oldfashioned sweaty work-out session.

3.Improves Mood: It is a widely known fact that exercise produces endorphins in our body. Endorphins are a wonderful gift to our mood and our spouse! When we participate in regular physical activity, we are allowing our body to release “happy endorphins.” The end result is essentially more joy, more energy and more vitality for life! Not only is that good news for our emotional health, but its fabulous news for our relationship, too!

2. Quality Time Together: Who said that an amazing workout can only take place in a gym environment? Not me! Get up, get out, and get walking! Hold your partner’s hand and pound the pavement. Before you know it you’ll have conquered a few miles of walking and caught up on one another’s day. It’s a win-win! If you share a passion for the gym with your significant other, then try hitting the workout room together some time. Take an interest in their passion.

Chances are that you’ll learn a new workout, a new sport, or at the very least make new (and very funny!) memories!

4.Renewed Self-Confidence: One thing is for sure…it’s difficult to love others well until we truly love ourselves. Exercise is an ideal way to improve individual selfconfidence. When we rise to meet challenges and successfully conquer goals, something powerful happens inside of us.

Of course, the physical transformation that results from working out is an added bonus.

But make no mistake, true self-confidence happens from the inside out.

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5.Rekindles Passion! It’s the benefit that you’ve all been waiting for! It’s true!

Exercise does indeed improve the romantic

aspect of your relationship. Added energy and improved self-image are two reasons why exercise positively influences your intimate relationship. There are many more examples of how exercise improves bedroom activities…but this is a family magazine, so I’ll leave the rest of that scientific research up to you!

As you celebrate this month of love… remember how beneficial exercise and a healthy lifestyle can be to your body and your relationship. Because the truth of the matter is this…you can only love another as much as you love yourself. Happy Valentine’s Day!

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3. The Neverending Story by Michael Ende A reader's dream comes true in The Neverending Story.

As Bastian reads, he discovers he is one of the characters in his book that must help save the magical world of Fantastica. This story reveals the power of imagination and the purpose of books.

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ebruary is a month of unexpected surprises, especially when it includes an “unofficial” national holiday on the 26th. It’s intended to be a day celebrating “Once upon a time” beginnings, magical happenings and enchantments, where, deep within the pages, fairies, elves, giants, mermaids, or perhaps even dragons, open a wonderful window to another world of make-believe and imagination, concluding with the dream of “Happily ever after!” In the heart of winter on a Thursday, it seems refreshing to discover that “Tell a Fairy Tale Day” celebrates hopeful dreams and magic for all of us.

The founder of this “unofficial” holiday is unknown; however, the purpose is to encourage families to spend time together reading fairy tales. Albert Einstein is quoted as saying, “If you want your children to be intelligent, read them fairy tales. If you want them to be very intelligent, read them more fairy tales.”

Beyond the usual titles of Rapunzel and the ever-popular Cinderella, fairy tales are taking on great variations for girls and teens, too. While young children are still learning about the classics, older children are finding strength and girl power in a newly portrayed heroine who is decisively taking risks and determining her own future. For those who would appreciate a recommendation, here are seven titles for the girl or teen in your life.

1. Ella Enchanted by Gail Carson Levine A refreshing twist of the classic story Cinderella, including a pumpkin coach, a glass slipper and a prince. The writer, Levine, has written many novels similar in genre, such as The Two Princesses of Bamarre, Ever, and Fairest.

2. Dealing with Dragons, Book 1 (The Enchanted Forest Chronicles) by Patricia C. Wrede In this fairy tale, readers meet a strong, determined princess who doesn’t need saving, humorous dragons and wizards, and a prince who has to be rescued.

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4. Cinder, Book 1 (The Lunar Chronicles) by Marissa Meyer In book one of this series for teens, readers will meet Cinder, a Cyborg mechanist in a futuristic China. There are a few similarities to Cinderella; however, the fairy tale “twist” is also found in subsequent books two through four. Readers will meet the red-headed Scarlet (Red Riding Hood); Cress, a girl spending years living and working on a satellite (Rapunzel); and finally, Winter, who has a connection with animals (Snow White.)

5. Just Ella, Book 1 (The Palace Chronicles) by Margaret Peterson Haddix Perhaps Cinderella doesn’t want the fairy-tale ending. Just Ella is a book that proves that with great determination, a girl can take control of her own destination and find happiness.

6. Stardust by Neil Gaiman Everyone in the family will love the kind-hearted, adventurous Tristan Thorn and his magical adventures in Faerie. It begins when he promises his beloved to go and bring back a fallen star. Except, stars can be surprisingly bright, attract unwanted danger and find solutions to difficult problems.

7. Book of a Thousand Days by Shannon Hale A mistress and a maid are stuck in a tower for seven years. Does this fairy tale sound familiar? For readers, though, it will be a new experience.

The story is told through journal entries written by Dashti, a maid.

Adapted from a story from the Brothers Grimm, Book of a Thousand Days balances a few dark moments with beauty, spirit and great determination.

“Tell a Fairy Tale Day” is about more than just reading with your children. This unexpected holiday can open a new door of tradition; perhaps by reading the same book individually or together, or listening to audio books in the car. Today, literature for children and young adults is not limited to one particular age; instead, readers can choose the adventure themselves and get lost within the pages. From the classics to the adapted versions, Thursday, February 26th, can be a magical day to participate in “Tell a Fairy Tale” day.

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Showing Love With a Smile February is National Children’s Dental Health Month, but at our office, every month is children’s dental health month. Give Kids a Smile Day, which falls on February 6 this year, is something we honor all year long.

I have the blessing of working with an amazing team of women who donate their time to help children with special dental needs when their families may have financial challenges.

Repairing, restoring and renewing a child’s smile can be empowering to a child who may have been embarrassed or afraid to smile. It sometimes relieves some physical and emotional pain. It encourages a child show on the outside, what they feel on the inside - even if they haven’t learned to speak yet.

We know that one day is not enough...one month is not enough - and even a lifetime isn’t enough - to show how much we love what we do. And so we hope, one child at a time, that we will uncover new smiles today, tomorrow and years to come.

Children’s Dental Health Month and February’s traditional theme of love and Valentine’s Day seems a natural convergence. A healthy smile is a gift of love...one that may even be shared in silence, but can speak louder than any words.

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With a Holiday Performance -“The Wiz”

By Heather Spivey

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n Thursday, December 11th, over 400 guests gathered for the Holiday Performance, “The Wiz.” The show was held at the Dillard Auditorium on the campus of Winston-Salem State University. This is an annual event presented by The Enrichment Center, with no charge for admission, to give back to our community that supports their efforts and programs throughout the year.

“The Wiz” is a captivating musical about hope, courage and love. This year’s performance was a collaborative effort of the Salem College Dance Department and the Enrichment Center staff and students. The performance included musical interludes, directed by Laurette Henry,

Dance and Drama Instructor at The Enrichment Center.

The Enrichment Center’s Percussion Ensemble added energy and excitement to the evening.

In addition to the musical, the Percussion Ensemble also performed Holiday songs, accompanied by the new Enrichment Center Choir. Vocal Director Amy Wiard guided her vocalists through an array of songs that ranged from funk to soul to holiday cheer. Henry says, “The cast featured stellar vocalists, energetic dance performances and praiseworthy acting.”

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Teaching Accountability

By Lisa S.T. Doss and Stacy Leighton

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arenting is hard. Kids don’t come with how-to manuals. And when it comes to parenting our kids, one size does not fit all. All cliché. And all too true. This new column, “Parenting Perspectives” will explore various parenting topics from the perspective of two parents (maybe not always Mom, sometimes Dad will chime in!) who are at different stages in their parenting career.

This month, Lisa and Stacy both explore the topic of accountability. Lisa is a mom to a 4-year old daughter and 2-year old son. Stacy is a mom to a 24-year old daughter and 19-year old son.

(By Lisa S.T. Doss) Until my daughter turned three, she did not understand why rules existed. In her mind, she was torn between wanting freedom and holding my hand. Those practical life lessons about love, friendship, forgiveness, and the rewards of helping others began with conversation. As we jumped from one topic to the next, day after day, I hoped she was listening. I knew those “teachable moments” were just the beginning.

When does a young daughter realize her own contributions have purpose? She observed us, her parents, engaging in household tasks and heard the words, “Yes, I will help you.” She, too, was asked to take her plate to the sink, hang up a coat, and clean up bedroom toys. On some occasions, defiant expressions such as “No!” or “You do it!” arrived like a storm. Our daughter needed to become empowered with praise; therefore, the negative became a positive, and she was reminded to say, “Yes, Mommy!” Through inspiration, she discovered she really could put on her own socks.

Even stories about her own bravery reduced feelings of fright. And when she came home early for refusing to participate at a dance class, she faced her embarrassment and apologized to her instructor.

As a parent of a willful daughter, I cannot shield her from those great life lessons that are inevitable. I cannot wait until later to teach her the consequences of her own words and actions. Over time, she will learn the rewards of putting 100% effort into a task and the significance of not following through. While her Daddy and I will always be there, whether she rises or falls, there will always be an opportunity to talk and learn from the lessons of selfaccountability.

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(By Stacy Leighton) My husband once called me a “Marsupial Mom.” He suggested I might prefer to “Put them back into my pouch.” He was teasing me; it was meant to be sweet, but was close enough to the truth to give me pause. I constantly worried about when we could not be with them. Would the world be good to them? Will they make good friends? In school, would they be able to keep up with what was expected of them?

Parents, you know this is a white-knuckle ride. From an early age, we talked about good choices and responsibilities. We made sure they understood what was expected of them, guided missteps and praised accomplishments. We talked (probably too much) about everything.

Because I was a teacher, they heard about appropriate behavior outside the home, in the classroom, peer choices and academic expectations. I did not make excuses or appeals on their behalf, because that negated what would be their personal successes.

They helped around the house and in the community.

Here’s what I missed. Our daughter (then 15) trusted me so much that she asked me what I would do—about everything. I was indeed the Marsupial Mom. She needed to trust herself, to be accountable for her decisions. So I held my breath and said, “I know you’ll make the right choice. I trust your judgment.” She said, “I don’t want to choose, I want you to tell me what to do.”

Yikes! Eventually, she made her own decisions without relying on my advice. Really good ones.

My son reminded me that I also had what they called Mom’s TwoWeek Rule. “If we had a problem at school, with a friend, teacher, or class, we had two weeks to resolve it ourselves.” I was making them accountable. If not, I’d have to get involved. “We fixed it. We didn’t want to find out what that meant.” He said they learned that even if they didn’t “like” a teacher, they still had to do well, and that friends might make bad decisions, but they were accountable for their choice. We will always worry about our children, but in this matter we sleep a little easier.

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Small Stories for a Big World

By Kim Underwood

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here are people in my life—Garnet and Sparkle Girl for starters—who are of the opinion that I tend to over-think things.

Certainly, I am well-acquainted with the experiences of regretting something that I said, wishing that I had put something in a kinder or more thoughtful way and wondering how someone took what I just said.

Until the other day, though, I had not really given any thought to how even things that I think are completely innocent may upset someone.

Here’s the story:

Garnet and I were sitting at the kitchen table talking about household business. As I was giving Garnet an update on the status of our mortgage, Sparkle Girl came in. Hearing the word “mortgage” reminded her of the last time she heard me talking about the subject.

“Remember that time when you said we own the living room, the kitchen, the dining room and the bathroom, but we don’t own any of the bedrooms?” she said.

“I do,” I said.

Although it was years back, I remembered it well because, at the time, I thought I was being clever and had congratulated myself on coming up with an amusing and helpful way to picture where we

were in the process of paying off the mortgage.

That’s not how Sparkle Girl remembered it.

“It scared me,” she said. “When you said we didn’t own any of the bedrooms, I thought it meant that somebody could come and take away my bedroom and everything in it.”

“I am so sorry,” I said. “I had no idea.”

I felt bad that the possibility of scaring her never crossed my mind.

In retrospect, it was easy to see how unsettling it would have been when she was much younger to imagine someone coming and taking away the place where you sleep and all of your dolls and toys.

This month, Sparkle Girl turns 16. If I said something like that today, she might say that they were certainly welcome to take away my bedroom, but that she was definitely keeping hers.

We laughed about her fretting about that, and I assured her that, these days, we do indeed own her bedroom.

Since then, as someone who wonders what lessons I am supposed to learn from this experience or that, I have been wondering what lessons I should take away from this experience or what I should do differently in the future.

I have no idea.

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The Mommy Diaries: A Whole New World By Emily Eileen Carter

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y grandma, Betty Carter, lived with my family from the time I was four, until she died when I was 14. I was very fortunate to have her grow up with me in my home, and she has had a tremendous impact on my life. At night, I would sneak into her room, crawl into her lap, and she would tell me stories and let me take sips of her Coca-Cola.

My other grandmother, Mary Rosser, lived less than an hour away. She was just as nurturing. I will always remember her delicious desserts, like blueberry pecan crumble and black walnut cake at Christmas. I will never forget the way she rubbed my back until I fell asleep during Grandma Sleepovers, and fishing with a cane pole in the pond on her farm.

Though I didn’t get the opportunity to know my grandfathers, I know their spirit was shared with me through my grandmothers. I treasure the relationships I had with my grandparents dearly—I still do. I will always carry the wisdom, love and joy they imparted to me.

When I see my own son, Lucas, with his grandparents, the immense love and laughter they exchange, it makes my heart glow. I am reminded of my own grandparents and how special that relationship is.

Lucas’s grandparents completely adore him. They are always thrilled to see him, love him, spoil him rotten and give him their undivided attention. In addition to singing him songs, acting goofy and snuggling him tight, they exchange much conversation and wisdom with our baby son.

For parents, the grandparent relationship should not be taken for granted. Not only can grandparents help support and care for your child, giving you a much-needed break at times, but the bond they share is very special. There is just a unique connection between grandparent and child that can’t be replicated. Because grandparents usually have more unclaimed time and energy to devote to grandchildren’s lives, this relationship continues to be nourished over time.

Maybe it’s that one-step removal from parents, and the fact that grandparents may not adhere to the same disciplinary structure as Mom and Dad (like my Dad who has already slipped Lucas ice cream at times), but many grandparents enjoy spoiling their grandchildren. Not only do they spoil them with attention, toys and love, but with the wisdom that comes with time and age

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This past Thanksgiving, I really took time to step back and watch Lucas and his grandparents interact. As they clapped and “Ahhed” at his new tricks and skills, hugged him close and giggled in delight, I felt grateful—so grateful for the love and joy Lucas has brought us and them. I feel so thankful that Lucas has these exceptional people, his grandparents, in his life. They will be there to guide him, love him, impart wisdom and spoil him a bit, and, of course, remind his parents (us) of the mischief we used to get into.

11-30-14 Dear Baby Lucas, You are nearly 10 m onths old now. I can’ t believe it.

You are really crawl ing and scooting ev erywhere these days. It seems like yo u find some new disc overy each hour to get into. Dad and I are working ha rd to keep up with you.

I also notice you mem ory has grown much longer. I can’t distract you so easily. If you want to ge t into something your ten acious spirit is relen tle ss .

You keep trying and trying.

During this season of Thanksgiving, m y heart swells again with the deep gratitude I feel to ha ve been blessed with your life. You are the light of my wo rld, and each day I can’t wait to pic k you up from dayc are, your small arms flapping in glee for me to pick you up.

I am also thankful for your incredible gran dparents and the role they have in your life. You ar e a very fortunate little man .

I pray that you cont inue to grow in love, wisdom, health and peace, an d that God will cont inue to give me the patience and stamina to keep up wi th you as you continue to be on the move.

Love, Mom

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Heart-Shaped Pancakes 1½ cups all-purpose flour (for a healthier pancake, substitute ¼ cup wheat flour for ¼ cup of the all-purpose flour) 3½ tsp baking powder 1 tsp salt 1 Tbsp white sugar 1¼ cups skim milk 1 egg (or 2 egg whites) 3 Tbsp butter, melted ½ tsp vanilla extract (optional) mini-chocolate chips (optional) ketchup and mustard squeeze bottles

here’s more to Valentine’s Day eats than chocolate. You can be super-sweet without serving super-sweet treats. Speak love to your loved ones with these healthy and fun pancakes, sides and salads.

Directions: 1. Have the kids wash the condiment bottles and snip the tip of one of the bottle tips with kid scissors to make the spout hole larger.

This will be the “fill-in” bottle, while the bottle with the regular tip will be the “outline” bottle.

Directions: 1. Arrange basil leaves on a plate in a basic heart-shape.

2. In a large bowl, let the kids sift the flour, baking powder, salt and sugar together.

3. Make a well in the center of the flour mixture and place into it the milk, egg, melted butter and vanilla. Stir until smooth.

4. Let batter rest for 5 minutes, then place ¼ of the batter in the “fill-in” bottle and the rest in the “outline” bottle.

5. Heat a lightly oiled frying pan or griddle on medium-low to medium heat.

6. Using the “outline” bottle, an adult should draw a basic heart shape onto the griddle. (Your outline batter will cook slightly faster than your fill-in batter, holding the heart in shape!) Fill in the heart shape with the “fill-in” bottle. Add minichocolate chips (optional) and flip. Another option is to draw out a couple each of letters “X” and “O” for hugs-and-kisses pancakes. (Note: Small to medium shapes are easier to flip!)

7. Serve with strawberries, strawberry syrup, and top with whipped cream for a very Valentine color scheme!

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Red Beet & White Bean Hummus Dip This vegan and gluten-free dip is high in protein and a fun color for Valentine’s Day. 1 medium beet 1 large garlic clove ½ Tbsp. fresh lemon juice 1 15-oz. can white beans (navy beans) ¼ cup olive oil 1 tsp salt Directions: 1. Preheat oven to 400 degrees.

2. Wash the beet and wrap it, along with the garlic clove, in foil, leaving room in the foil packet for air to circulate.

3. On a cookie sheet, bake the foil packet 45 minutes, or until the beet is tender.

4. Once cooled, remove the skin from the beet and the garlic. (Note: Place the beet in a plastic sandwich bag and let the kids rub the skin off, so it doesn’t turn little hands red.)

5. Place all the ingredients in a food processor and blend until smooth.

6. Serve with carrot sticks, pita chips, pretzels and other dipping favorites.

Heart-Shaped Mozzarella and Tomato Salad 1 box cherry tomatoes 1 tub fresh mini-mozzarella balls handful fresh basil leaves balsamic vinegar celery leaf for garnish (optional)

2. Form the outline of a heart using the cherry tomatoes.

3. Fill center of the heart with mozzarella balls.

4. Serve with a side of balsamic vinegar and fancy toothpicks.

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“Water’s Extreme Journey” Now Open at SciWorks Engage with and Explore the Water Cycle in a New Traveling Exhibit

By Leigh Ann Woodruff

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chool groups and other visitors can experience life as a droplet of water and explore the science behind the water cycle in a new traveling exhibit at SciWorks. Water’s Extreme Journey, open now through May 25th, engages and delights participants as they navigate local waterways, dart past pollutants and head to the ocean in a hands-on, interactive exhibit.

“Water’s Extreme Journey transforms the visitor into a drop of water entering a watershed, and they voyage through rivers, lakes, wetlands and even their homes while facing challenges such as farms with pesticides or families who pour paint down the drain,” says Paul Kortenaar, Ph.D., SciWorks Executive Director.

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choices move them toward a clean ocean —all the while realizing that even their daily decisions can immediately improve the watershed in their own backyard.”

Water’s Extreme Journey, developed with world-renowned marine-life artist Wyland, was created by Minotaur Mazes, a Seattlebased, worldwide traveling exhibitions company specializing in complete, interactive exhibition experiences within a maze setting.

“Mazes engage both mentally and physically, and the tactile experience helps visitors retain ideas long after they have left the exhibit,” Dr. Kortenaar says. Interactive elements within the exhibit include a Zip Slide, a Water Cycle Puzzle, Recycle vs. Trash and Urban River/Storm Drain displays, as well as The Dirty Dozen and Wildlife Wheel.

Teachers may use a fully developed water curriculum that was developed for the exhibit and adheres to National Art and Science Education Standards. Each lesson includes an activity and is designed to be flexible and adapted for grades K–8. “Students have the ability to experiment with and study the different properties of water, conduct scientific experiments, explore ecosystems and learn to become stewards of the environment,” Dr. Kortenaar says.

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his year Piedmont Opera received an incredibly generous gift from a very dedicated volunteer: an Opera House.

Jane Hanes Poindexter, a long time Piedmont Opera supporter, decided to buy the nonprofit arts organization a place to call home. The company, which had been given notice last summer to vacate its offices on Cherry St., struggled to find new accommodations. The Cherry Street landlord had been very generous to the company. The rent was very low and the accessibility to the Stevens Center was unmatched, and a move was not in the company's budget.

When Jane heard that the company was searching for a place, she decided to act. “When they were evicted, I wanted to do something,” Poindexter said. “And I talked to Jamie (James Allbritten, General Director of Piedmont Opera) and Bill Semans (Chair of the opera’s Board of Directors), and they were agreeable— and so I gave them a home. I feel like the home suits them, and they suit the home.”

Mrs. Poindexter’s donation is the largest the company has received since its founder, Norman Johnson, endowed it with nearly $1 million in 2008.

The Queen Anne house at 636 Holly Avenue was restored in 2010 by the West End Investments Company. The house was originally built for James and Susie Sloan in 1906; James was an accountant at RJR Tobacco.

Visit PiedmontOpera.org for more information or to purchase tickets to Mozart's The Magic Flute.

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Teen Talk With

Isabella

By Isabella Migliarese

“H

ey Mom! How do you like my new tattoo?” This is my mom’s biggest fear about my upcoming 18th birthday in February.

Adults reading this column might want to think about how they celebrated their 18th birthday. Maybe you joined the Army or the Navy (that’s what my dad did for his big birthday), or maybe you went out and got a tattoo. However you celebrated your 18th birthday, I plan on making it a special day.

This February, I’ll legally be considered an adult and be able to take advantage of all the rights that I will be able to enjoy after my birthday.

Some of these rights include, but are not limited to: • Checking into a hotel.

• Voting in state and federal elections.

• Joining a branch of the military.

• Skydiving or bungee jumping.

• Serving as a juror.

• Going to bars.

• Owning a gun.

• Opening a line of credit.

• Getting a tattoo or piercing without parental consent.

• Buying a lottery ticket.

• Leasing an apartment or house.

• Changing your name.

• Getting married.

• Buying a car.

Every 18-year-old is excited about turning this age for different reasons.

For me, the rights that come with this age that are most important are being allowed to check myself into a hotel, open a line of credit and, finally, to skydive.

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Checking into a hotel tops my list of 18-year-old rights for several reasons. I love to travel, and in the past I was restricted by my age from traveling independently, because of not being able to check into a hotel. In the past, I experienced this on college visit trips with classmates, during summer vacation trips with my cousins, and when visiting family out of town. In order to travel independently before turning 18, my mom was required to call ahead and reserve a room for me and trust me with her credit card so that I could stay in a hotel. After I turn 18, we won’t have that headache of hassling with the hotel, worrying about issues with the credit card, or having to have a chaperone.

Opening a line of credit allows me to start building a good credit score.

It also adds to my sense of independence, though I would be more independent if I worked and actually paid my own credit card bills.

(Thank you, Mom.) Despite that fact, seeing my name on a credit card gives me a thrill.

Both checking into a hotel and having a credit card allows me to be more independent in my travel, so that I can feel more like an adult and visit cities and explore the world.

The last exciting right about turning 18 is skydiving. My mom and I made a promise to each other many years ago that she would wait to skydive until I was 18, and we would skydive together. She already has everything planned, including the location for our first skydive, which will be over Brunswick County, North Carolina. We like going on adventures together, and hopefully this one will be better than our scuba diving experience where she was glued to an anchor rope and wouldn’t actually scuba dive. No one is going to have to push me into being 18, and I hope no one will have to push me out of the plane on my first skydive.

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By Mike Lupica Genre: Young Adult Fiction Age Range: 9–12 years old Reviewed by Rebecca Olsen Twelve-year-old Cuban refugee Michael Arroyo lives close enough to Yankee Stadium in the South Bronx to hear the roar of the crowd on game days. He’s spent his entire young life dreaming of baseball glory, ever since his father discovered he had “the arm.” But just when it looks like he’s going to lead his Bronx All-Star team, The Clippers, to victory in the Little League World Series in Williamsport, Pennsylvania, questions about his age and a good deed bring scrutiny down on his family which threatens to reveal a secret that just might destroy everything he’s worked for. It’s tough to find books that boys will enjoy, but Lupica has managed to create a strong lead male character with a complex home life and a good dose of girl trouble around a baseball theme boys will find engrossing.

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Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child Marc Weissbluth, M.D. Genre: Non-fiction Age Range: Adult Reviewed by Emily Eileen Carter Sleep will always be a hot topic among parents, since for many it’s very elusive, particularly in the early months with a baby.

Marc Weissbluth, M.D., offers parents a step-by-step guide for helping children get a good night’s sleep in his book: Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child.

In the first part of his book, Weissbluth does a thorough job of explaining why sleep is so important and the different stages of sleep for children.

Subsequent chapters delve into normal sleep stats and expectations for each stage of development, from infant to adolescence. In addition, Weissbluth offers case studies of different parents and children with sleep challenges throughout the book.

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February Calendar of Family Events JANUARY 28-MAY 25 “WATER’S EXTREME JOURNEY” EXHIBIT AT SCIWORKS 10am-4pm (T-F); 10am-5pm (Sat.); 12-5pm (Sun.), 400 West Hanes Mill Road in W-S. This fully interactive maze experience engages visitors through play, scientific inquiry, art and action...illuminating human impacts great and small while teaching how to contribute to healthy, safe water in their community and beyond. www.sciworks.org

FEBRUARY 9-MARCH 2 SIMPLY CIRCLE WITH SIMPLY THERAPY 11-11:30am, 390 South Liberty Street in W-S. A community-based, circle-time program led by a speech-language pathologist that offers ageappropriate and language-based songs and activities for children ages 2-5 of all ability levels. Registration required for the 4-week series (February 9th, 16th, 23rd and March 2nd). Cost: $32/member-child; $40/nonmember-child. http://conta.cc/11Oth5I

FEBRUARY 1 3RD ANNUAL HOOPER BOWL 1-2pm, 2569 Reynolda Road in W-S. Join us for hula hooping, a mini Hoopdio class, music and fun with Monkey Hooper! There will also be hula hooping contests and prizes! Admission is free -- canned food donations for the Maple Springs Food Pantry will be collected. www.maplesprings.org

FEBRUARY 11 NO TWO HEARTS ALIKE TEEN CRAFTS 3:15-4:45pm, 2969 Main Street in Walkertown. Teens, grades 6-12, will create paper heart Valentine crafts using up to four designs. Materials provided. Free.

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FEBRUARY 3 HOMESCHOOL DAY AT SCIWORKS 10-11am, 400 West Hanes Mill Road in W-S. Special programs for home-educated children and other small groups. “Pop, Bubble, Fizz” (grades K-4) at 10am and “Magical Mixtures” (grades 5-9) at 11am. Cost: $8.50-$11/person. Group admission rates apply, and pre-registration is required. Call 714.7105 to register. www.sciworks.org

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FEBRUARY 3-APRIL 25 DELTA ARTS CENTER’S BIENNIAL EXHIBITION OF QUILTS 2611 New Walkertown Road in W-S. This is one of the most popular exhibits Delta Arts Center hosts that draws quilters from around the area. Delta Arts Center will present the fifth in its biennial exhibition of quilts with the opening on February 3rd of "Samplers and Symmetry V: Pieces by Area African American Quilters." Opening reception on Sunday, February 8th at 3pm. Call 722.2625 to schedule a tour, or visit deltaartscenter.org for more information.

FEBRUARY 12 KIDS’ MORNING OUT 10am-12pm, Winston-Salem Soccerplex, 7620 Phoenix Drive in W-S. FREE event for kids of all ages! Grab a friend and bring the kids for a morning of fun at the indoor soccer facility! Enjoy many fun soccer games and relays including skills you can teach your preschooler! Ask the professionals about the many benefits of getting your child involved in soccer. Each adult attendee will receive four tickets for our fabulous prize board! In case of inclement weather, visit the Forsyth Magazines’ Facebook page for updates. Call 896.0383 for more information.

GIRLS' NIGHT OUT 5:30pm…until! Windsor Jewelers Club at the LJVM Coliseum. Grab a friend, neighbor, co-worker, mother, sister, SOMEBODY and have a much need Girls’ Night Out. Wake Forest Women’s Basketball and the American Heart Association are teaming up for the February Girls’ Night Out! Includes buffet, bar, great prizes, parking and a ticket to the game. Also, register for TONS of prizes and giveaways! For more information and to pre-register, visit WakeForestSports.com/WBasketball, or call 758.5011.

FEBRUARY 7 PROM PREVIEW FASHION SHOW BY HIP CHICS BOUTIQUE 10am – noon, Join Hip Chics Boutique at First Baptist Church (Family Life Center) as they unveil the latest trends and gorgeous gowns for the 2015 prom season.

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FEBRUARY 13-16 SHELTON VINEYARDS 286 Cabernet Lane in Dobson. Celebrate Valentine’s Day with your loved one at Shelton Vineyards. Special wine tastings will be offered all day along with chocolate samples. Visit www.sheltonvineyards.com/news-andevents/cat/winery-events/post/cupid-celebration1 for more information.

HARVEST GRILL AT SHELTON VINEYARDS CULINARY EXPERIENCE 2:30-4:30pm, 286 Cabernet Lane in Dobson. Join us for our Second Annual Culinary Experience. This is a participation style class where our executive chef will create a custom menu paired with our award-winning wines. Limited seating – reservations required. Call 366.3590 or email harvestgrill@sheltonvineyards.com for reservations.

FEBRUARY 14 “GAL”ENTINE’S DAY CELEBRATION 10am-6pm, 110 Oakwood Drive, Suite D in W-S. Join Mainstream Boutique as we celebrate "Gal"entine's Day! Celebrate all the wonderful women in your life...including yourself! Come out for mimosas and munchies and a free gift with $25 purchase! www.facebook.com/MainstreamBoutiqueWinstonSale mNC

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STAR-GAZING AT PILOT MOUNTAIN 6:30-9:30pm, 792 Pilot Knob Park Road in Pinnacle.

Spend Valentine’s night star-gazing at Pilot Mountain with SciWorks and the Forsyth Astronomical Society.

Admission is free, and telescopes will be provided. In case of bad weather, call 767.6730 after 5:30pm. Rain date is February 21st. www.sciworks.org FEBRUARY 17 “WIGGLING WORMS” PRESCHOOL PROGRAM AT SCIWORKS 10am-12pm, 400 West Hanes Mill Road in W-S. Hands-on preschool program for children ages 3-5 and their parent/adult caregivers. Pre-registration required. Cost: $7/members; $15/non-members (includes museum admission). Call 714.7105 to register. www.sciworks.org FEBRUARY 20 19TH ANNUAL CAUSE FOR PAWS 6:30-10pm, 168 East Kinderton Way in Advance.

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Let the good times roll New Orleans style with our Mardi Gras theme! Cost: $35-$40/person. www.davienchumane.org FEBRUARY 21 ST. JOHN’S LUTHERAN 10TH ANNUAL DADDY-DAUGHTER DANCE 6-9pm, 2415 Silas Creek Parkway in W-S. Join us for an evening of dancing, photographs, door prizes, food and fun. We will celebrate our anniversary event with some "thru the years" fun -- alumnus welcome! Cost: $25/couple in advance; $30/couple at the door. stjohnsws.org ROCK LASER SHOWS IN THE SCIWORKS PLANETARIUM 6:30-8:30pm, 400 West Hanes Mill Road in W-S. Shows are $6/person each or see both shows for $10/person. Doors open at 6pm, and seating is first come, first served. Exhibit galleries and outdoor parks will be closed. www.sciworks.org FEBRUARY 24 WINSTON WOMEN WHO WINE 6pm, The Lil’ Briar Patch, 2055 Van Buren Street in WS. Grab your girlfriends, and join us for a free wine tasting and education event featuring wine specials, light complimentary appetizers, door prizes and more!

FEBRUARY 27 DISCOUNT FRIDAY AT THE CHILDREN’S MUSEUM 9am-7pm, 390 South Liberty Street in W-S. Admission will be $3 for everyone all day. www.childrensmuseumofws.org RESTORATIVE YOGA WITH VALERIE KISER AND PERCUSSIONIST BILL SMITH 6-7:30pm, 6000 Meadowbrook Mall, Suite 1 in Clemmons. Let a time of restorative yoga combined with the soothing and healing vibrations of gongs, bells and singing bowls balance and relax you. This class features gong meditations to create a soothing, tranquil atmosphere. Cost: $20$25/person. www.sunriseyoga.net

FEBRUARY 28 REPAIR FAIR AT SCIWORKS 1-5pm, 400 West Hanes Mill Road in W-S. Don’t toss that broken toaster; bring it to the Repair Fair and watch-and-learn while it’s repaired! We hope to have “fixers” to help with everything from bikes, electronics and small appliances to shoes, lamps and landline phones. Cost: $9-$11/person. www.sciworks.org FIRST SUNDAYS FAMILY FIRST 2-5pm, 2250 Reynolda Road. In this workshop, participants will take inspiration from George L. K. Morris’s Wall-Painting (1936) to create an abstract masterpiece using wallpaper and acrylic paint. For children in grades 1-6 accompanied by an adult. Cost: $8/members; $10/non-members. Registration required. reynoldahouse.org FOURTH TUESDAYS NEWCOMERS & NEIGHBORS OF GREATER WINSTON-SALEM 9:45-11:30am, Trinity Presbyterian Church, 1416 Bolton Street in W-S. Monthly interest groups include book, lunch bunch, bridge, day and evening card, dinner and wine. FREE initial meeting. $35 annual dues. If interested, contact Barbara at wsnandn@aol.com.

FIRST AND THIRD WEDNESDAYS CLEMMONS KIWANIS CLUB MEETING 7:30-8:30am, Holiday Inn Express, 6320 Amp Drive in Clemmons. We provide the opportunity for individuals to learn about our community and be a contributor to improving the lives of our children. 245.8406 THURSDAYS REYNOLDA THURSDAYS 4:30-8pm, 2250 Reynolda Road. Sharon Andrews and Michael Huie bring their words to life in a staged reading of the letter correspondence between Alfred Stieglitz and Georgia O’Keeffe. Members/students free; nonmembers/$5. Reynoldahouse.org

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Advertiser Index Activities Legacy Saddlebreds..................................25 Salem College Community Music School .71 Salem Gymnastics....................................55 SciWorks..................................................77 Studio Create............................................71 WS Fairgrounds Ice Rink...........................79 Attorneys J. Carl Hearn, Attorney..............................75 Automotive Flow Auto ...................................................7 Roger Marion Automotive .........................83 TJ’s Body Shop ........................................83 Bakery Christina’s Dessertery.........................93, 96 Nothing Bundt Cakes ................................19 Beauty / Styling A New Day Essentials ...............................29 Rodan & Fields.........................................29 V’s Barbershop ...........................................9 Confections Christina’s ..........................................93, 96 Kilwin’s ....................................................25 Nothing Bundt Cakes ................................19 Childcare Imprints....................................................67 YMCA.......................................................45 Churches Sunrise United Methodist Church..............62 Dentists / Orthodontists Chermak & Hanson...................................11 Cuthrell & Mochnick.................................47 Drs. Handy and Handy ..............................55 Kingery & Kingery.....................................33 Nicholas Kephart, DDS .............................49 Rudnicke Orthodontics..............................29 Salem Smiles ...........................................45 Southern Dental Associates ......................27 Tina S. Merhoff and Associates Pediatric Dentistry...................................................23 Winston-Salem Dental Care ......................43 Education Calvary Baptist Day School .......................37 Our Lady of Mercy ....................................29 Salem Academy .......................................13 Salem College Community Music School .71 St. John’s Lutheran School .......................55 98 • forsythfamilymagazine.com

Financial Financial Pathways ...................................31 Truliant Federal Credit Union........Back Cover Florist Minglewood Florist...................................91 Health & Fitness A New Day Essentials ...............................29 C3 Fitness ................................................65 Gotta Get Thin.............................................5 YMCA.......................................................45 Home Brookberry Farm-Berkshire Hathaway ........99 Budget Blinds...........................................17 Chamberlain Place ...................................51 Chris Lawncare .........................................75 Dero’s ......................................................15 Financial Pathway .....................................31 Moore Self Storage...................................77 Salem Windows & Doors ..........................21 Stitches....................................................69 Susan Maier-Colon - Berkshire Hathaway ..69 Triad Home & Garden Show ......................53 Home Medical Care Home Instead Senior Care ..........................3 Landscaping Chris Lawn Care........................................75 Weedman .................................................83

Photography Katie Dickson Photography .......................95 One Shot Photography ..............................40 Real Estate & Housing Brookberry Farm - Berkshire Hathaway Home Services ...................................................99 Chamberlain Place ...................................51 Susan Maier-Colon - Berkshire Hathaway ..69 Restaurants Chang Thai ...............................................93 Christina’s Dessertery.........................93, 96 Honky Tonk Smokehouse ..........................93 Mac & Nelli’s ...........................................96 Mikhael’s Café..........................................93 New Town Bistro .......................................93 Omega House...........................................93 River Ridge Tap House..............................93 Which Wich..............................................93 Retail A New Day Essentials ...............................29 Clemmons Bicycle ...................................75 Dero’s ......................................................15 Hip Chics Boutique...................................37 Minglewood Florist...................................91 Rolly’s Baby Boutique...............................35 Shea’s Consign & Design .........................21

Medical Carolina Laser & Cosmetic Center...............9 Cornerstone Health Care ...........................57 Forsyth Family Eye Care ...........................47 Home Instead Senior Care ..........................3 Lewisville Laser & Aesthetics ....................51 Lyndhurst Gynecological Associates .........35 Wake Forest Baptist Health Brenner Children’s Hospital....................................................39 WomanCare..............................................69

Service 201 Media................................................89 Busy as a Bee Concierge ..........................91 Brookstone Technology .............................91 Fresh Air Carpet Care................................94 Goin Postal ...............................................71 iFix Cell Repair .........................................85 Lin Taylor Marketing Group .......................19 Moonlight Designs ...................................89 Nu expression...........................................59 Ruff Housing ............................................33

Mental Health Old Vineyard Behavioral Health Services ...49

Storage Moore Self Storage...................................77

Organizations Piedmont Opera........................................19 WBFJ .......................................................63 Party, Event, & Entertainment Christina’s Dessertery.........................93, 96 Leather & Lace Acoustic Duo ....................85 Uncle Herbie & Joey Mac .........................85 Pet Care Ruff Housing ............................................33

Technology Brookstone Technology Services ...............91 iFix Cell Repair .........................................85 Nu expression...........................................59 Upcoming Events Chuggington.............................................81 Forsyth Family Expo ...................................2 Piedmont Opera’s Magic Flute ..................19 Unspoken’s Start a Fire Concert ................77

The Village at Brookberry Farm: where our porches welcome you home.

The Village at Brookberry Farm combines the natural beauty of the land with traditional architectural style to create a unique low country look for a special addition to the Triad’s most successful residential community. The pedestrian-friendly community and outdoor living theme expand in The Village to feature 3 large parks, pavilion, outdoor fireplaces, community garden, sporting greens, bocce courts, and amphitheater. Homes are priced from the $300s—$500s.

Now available for lot reservations. Come see this unique opportunity in the Triad. image courtesy of

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