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contents In our ongoing effort to make Forsyth Family the ultimate resource to Forsyth County families! We’ve organized our content by categories to make sure you can quickly find exactly what you need when you need it! Also, check out our Index on page 114, which organizes all our advertisers by type of business!

co ver s tory 45 Mill Creek General Store: A Family Business of Bringing Healthy Foods To You!

Local Businesses 10 Elevating Your Financial Success: Truliant Federal Credit Union Offers Better Financial Solutions 18 V’s Barbershop Honors Men of Today and Yesterday 20 Dero’s Living a Decorated Life 30 Dear Moms: We Provide Transportation to Make Your Life Simpler 34 McCalls 80 Financial Pathways Adds Award-Winning New Service for Disabled Clients 104 Triad Eco Adventures

For the Holidays 12 32 52 54 70 72 78-79 91

Holiday Happenings in Downtown Kernersville Successful Holiday Eating The 2014 Tanglewood Festival of Lights The Fifth Annual Junior League of Winston-Salem’s Boutique is Here! Nu expression: Holiday Traditions Renewed Celebrate the Holiday Season in Historic Old Salem Holiday Gift Guide Honor & Remember Others

Health & Wellness 8 Salem Smiles and the FAQs of Orthodontics 16 Southern Dental Associates Opens Pediatric Practice 32 Kenneth M. Sadler, DDS & Associates, Winston-Salem Dental Care Serving the Community with True Devotion 26 Carolina Hearing Doctors: An Audiology Practice Better Hearing Improves Quality of Life 28 Carotid Artery Blockage and Stroke: What You Should Know As a Patient and a Family Member 36 Making Hearts Smile 77 C3 Top Ten List of Practical Reasons to Work Out

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Parenting

November 2014

lease mark your calendar for the “Walk for Wishes” event on November 15th at Tanglewood Park Festival of Lights. This is a Make-A-Wish® fundraiser that is truly a magical experience as you wind your way walking through the holiday lights. I am sad to say I can’t be two places at once, because for the first time in several years, I will miss what has become a favorite annual tradition for my husband and me. However, I can’t think of a better reason to miss it than for the wedding of my niece Amanda! November 15th she will join Ryan Ochs and begin the next phase of her life as a married lady! Welcome to the family Ryan! November will forever be a special month for Forsyth Family Magazine as the very first issue was printed in November 2007. I would not be here without my dearest friend, Keela Johnson, who offered up this opportunity at a time when I needed a friend most! Certainly could not do it without the unwavering support of my husband and daughters. You guys are the absolute best for putting up with the crazy deadlines associated with a monthly publication and always helping out whenever I need you. And finally, thanks to the many talented folks behind the scene that make the magic happen again and again! The November cover story features the family behind Mill Creek General Store in Mt. Airy, NC. Part of what makes Forsyth County such a wonderful place to live are all the surrounding communities. If you’ve never been, Mt. Airy is just a hop, skip and a jump up 52 north from WS. It is a vibrant community filled with surprises like Mill Creek General Store, so if you’ve never been or it’s been awhile…head on up and tell them Forsyth Family Magazine sent ya! I thank you, the reader, and the advertisers for the opportunity to bring you this each month! Wishing you a happy Thanksgiving and a special “Happy 70th birthday shout-out to my mom! Blessings!

Robin Bralley PS: Dero’s in Clemmons has extended a special invitation to Forsyth Family readers to attend their Tree Lighting & Holiday Preview on Friday, November 7th, from 6–9 p.m. There will be demonstrations on holiday decorating for your mantel, front door and tablescapes for your home. Special discounts will be offered to Forsyth Family Magazine readers, so be sure to mention you heard about it from us! Dero’s is located at 2671 Lewisville-Clemmons Road. See page 20 for their decorating tips of the month. 6 • forsythfamilymagazine.com

The Mommy Diaries: The Supermom Syndrome The View From My Section… Small Stories for a Big World What I Would Like My Daughter to Know About Getting Older 66 Triad Moms on Main – Texting & Driving: 24 42 62 64

Education 38 40 74 68

All the World’s a Stage at Calvary Baptist Day School Moneyville – SciWorks New Traveling Exhibit Fictional Characters Leave a Lasting Impression Confessions of a Dyslexic

Ages & Stages 56 The Importance of Play Dates in Child Development 58 Teaching Children the Value of Self-Sufficiency 60 Homework Help to Build Confidence and Independence

Community 48 Children’s Museum of Winston-Salem: Celebrating 10 Years of Play 50 Winston-Salem Youth Chorus’ Winter Celebration Concert 82 Make-A-Wish Central and Western North Carolina 84 Bloom Hand-Crafted Art Fair: Crafty For a Cause 90 The Northwest Middle School Backpack Program 92 Manning the Sideline: The Start of Something New in Wake Forest Basketball 98 Out and About in Winston-Salem

Faith & Family 85 Tami’s Devotion: You Can’t Judge a Book By Its Reader 86 Musing About…The Theological Bookcase 88 The Beautiful Gift of Donating or Adopting Frozen Embryos

For the Kids 14 96 101 106

Hip Chics Frozen Princesses Teen Talk with Isabella: Surviving a Breakup Kids in the Kitchen: Pumpkin Please! Book Nook

Dining Guide 110 New Town Bistro

Other 112 Calendar of Events 114 Advertiser Index

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Salem and the FAQs

By Denise Heidel, with Dr. Sarah Shoaf

or over 20 years, Dr. Sarah Shoaf has been making Winston-Salem smiles just a little bit brighter. Her extensive experience in the field of orthodontics has established her as a trusted resource in the community. I recently had the opportunity to ask Dr. Shoaf some questions, and she generously shared her expertise on some of the most frequently asked questions about braces. DH: What is the number-one complaint about braces? SS: Most people don’t like how traditional braces look. We try to offer Invisalign treatment to most of our patients. We feel the Invisalign treatment resolves the most primary concerns about looks, metal poking into the gums and cheeks, and food limitations. Also, Invisalign patients aren’t required to make as many appointments for adjustments. For those who have traditional braces, we commonly hear complaints about the comfort, or lack thereof, of the metal rubbing inside the mouth. We recommend utilizing the wax provided during the initial appointment. The trick with placing the wax is drying the area with a tissue prior to placement, though wax should be removed before brushing. Also, for those wearing traditional braces, if a wire is poking into the back of your mouth, let your orthodontist know, so they can clip the ends for comfort. DH: How do braces impact diet? SS: Most people know if they wear braces, they must avoid sticky foods like gum, gummy bears, or caramel. Eating this type of food will pull the appliances off the teeth. Hard foods like corn chips, popcorn, ice, hard taco shells, nachos, etc. also break the appliances. Parents have to be a little creative to get good foods and snacks that will not harm braces. Fruits such as apples and pears need to be chopped up, but berries can be enjoyed. Baked apples can be as sweet as a pie without a hard crust. Soft foods like yogurt, pudding, or Jello are excellent choices. Chocolate candy, such as plain chocolate bars or kisses without added nuts, crisped rice, or caramel, is great for a sweet tooth. I tell patients who are craving a salty snack that Pringles tend to be the least destructive. 8 • forsythfamilymagazine.com

When in doubt, if a food can be chopped up finely prior to eating, it will tend to hurt the braces less. But again, if something is broken, it means extra time in braces, so the better part of valor is to just do without until you can get your braces off. Invisalign treatment has the added advantage of being taken off when eating, so there are no “forbidden foods.” DH: Many parents are concerned that braces may lead to discoloration of the teeth. How do you address this concern? SS: What most people perceive as a discoloration of teeth is really a discoloration of the elastic ligatures, or colored “O-rings,” used to hold the wire into the bonded brackets. These ligatures are replaced at each appointment, so it is not a long-term concern. After treatment, many patients want to enhance their smile with a bleaching or whitening of the teeth. I recommend that they do it AFTER completion of treatment, as during treatment the brackets can create “tan lines” if someone bleaches. DH: How does one floss with braces? SS: Floss Threaders!! This is a monofilament loop that is first passed through the space to be flossed, then the floss is inserted in the loop to allow the loop to be pulled through the space underneath the braces to floss. This type of flossing is time-consuming, but can be done while watching TV. Another alternative is SuperFloss, which has a plastic end like a threader at one end, but a fuzzy, space-cleaning area along the floss. Again, this has to be used at every junction of the teeth, but is easier to do than the threaders and separate floss, although a little more expensive. The last (and most expensive) alternative is an electric flosser, available from Water-Pik, which has filament ends that are placed on the device and then between the teeth, with a pushbutton “buzz” to clean the interproximal area. One of the great things about Invisalign treatment is that you take them out when you brush and floss, so you don’t have to have any special equipment to do your regular hygiene routine. DH: Can students play instruments (trumpet, flute, etc.) or play sports? SS: I played in the band for many years in junior high and high school, so I know about how instruments can be altered by braces. Most brass instruments may need additional wax or a plastic “bumper” to help protect the lips while playing, but can be easily adjusted to good tones. Other instruments are less affected by braces, and usually need no accommodations. Again, this is another reason to use Invisalign, as there are no restrictions or discomforts when treatment is rendered via the Invisalign system. Sports require a special type of mouth guard that goes over the teeth and braces to help protect them. These are usually available from your

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orthodontist or a sports store. Avoid the “dip in hot water and suck down” type of guard, as these tend to hurt the appliances, and do not allow dental movement, as they hold the teeth in one position. You don’t want to hold back progress just by wearing the wrong mouth guard!! We recommend mouth guards for football, baseball, basketball, volleyball, martial arts and any sport that has a ball or bodily movement that could hit you in the face. DH: If someone is under orthodontic care, do they still need to schedule appointments for regular cleanings with their primary dentist? SS: Most definitely!! It is simply more difficult to clean around braces, so we want our patients to go to their dentists even more often to get a more thorough cleaning while they have braces on. WaterPiks that pulsate water jets around your teeth can help get the “big stuff” out. One of the reasons that orthodontists try to keep braces on for the shortest time possible is to avoid any cavities that can occur around the braces from poor hygiene. If puffy, bleeding gums are seen, then the

Jordan Brannock Photography patient is not cleaning well and needs extra dental cleanings. Most insurance companies only pay for two dental cleanings a year, but if good hygiene is not practiced at home, children with braces will need three to four cleanings a year. This is another advantage to the Invisalign system, as no special equipment is needed, and regular brushing and flossing is done with the appliances removed.

Schedule an appointment with Dr. Sarah Shoaf of Salem Smiles! Her office is located at 1063 W. Northwest Blvd in Winston-Salem. Her number is 725.5757. Visit her online at SalemSmilesOrtho.com.

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Elevating Your Financial Success Truliant Federal Credit Union Offers Better Financial Solutions

Improving lives goes beyond the brand for Truliant Federal Credit Union’s Forsyth County Managers. It’s what sets them apart. Just ask Emily Perkins. “I started my career in banking with a national lender,” said Perkins, Manager of Truliant’s headquarters Member Financial Center. “Prior to Truliant, when my customers deserved a better rate than what was offered, I knew credit unions had good rates, so I suggested they find one for their lending needs.” A decade ago, Perkins took her own advice and began her career at Truliant. Now in her fifth year as a Manager, she’s among the credit union’s Forsyth County Managers offering a trusted, caring and capable financial alternative. Anyone who lives in these communities can become a member, open an account and experience the difference. “Our strength is our ability to listen and understand our member’s needs and goals, and to help each one achieve them,” stated Perkins. “We put your needs over profits, which means we have lower fees and better interest rates,” Perkins said. She added that while Truliant has all the convenient mobile, and online, deposit and transfer services as the big banks, it places a special emphasis on finding financial solutions that make the most sense for each person’s budget—not relentless product pushing. Furthermore, while a bank typically answers to stockholders, a notfor-profit credit union answers to its account holders, its memberowners, said Lauren Casner, who is the Manager at Truliant’s newest Whitaker Square Shopping Center location. “We’re interested in improving your financial life to create lasting relationships,” Casner said. Or, as Truliant’s new Clemmons Manager, Liliana McLean, puts it: “We treat our member-owners like family, not just a number, so they can focus on what really matters.”

Shown here are Truliant managers Jafonda Johnson, left, of the credit union’s Kernersville branch; Liliana McLean, of Truliant Clemmons; Kristin Dailey, of Truliant North Point; Lauren Casner, of Truliant Whitaker Square; and Emily Perkins, Truliant Way Headquarters.

Enduring relationships are experienced by Truliant’s Managers firsthand. Whitaker Square’s Casner added that whether Truliant is improving lives by reducing an auto loan from 13% to 2%, saving a family $400 a month on their mortgage, or finding a way to send a child to college, “many members will often follow us personally to our new locations based on the personal care “We treat our member-owners we’ve given them.”

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For Truliant, it’s also not just about paying lip service to high ideals, according to Truliant’s newly promoted downtown Winston-Salem Victory Branch Manager Kristin Dailey. “Truliant places a high emphasis on leadership training, mentoring and critical thinking, so its employees are prepared for the next step in their careers,” she said. “Our leaders continually challenge us to have someone we are mentoring and championing to help them grow in their careers and help more members build strong financial futures. The most rewarding moment is seeing someone achieve their financial goals, whether it is purchasing a new home with additional space for their growing family or buying their first car,” Dailey said. This investment in its employees is something Truliant’s Kernersville Manager, Jafonda Johnson, has directly experienced. Johnson joined Truliant in 2000, the same day as her military discharge. Truliant’s college reimbursement program, coupled with the G.I. Bill, helped her earn a bachelor’s degree, and, ultimately, a leadership role within the credit union.

Truliant managers report a positive response to a new branch design unveiled this year. Shown here at the June grand opening of Truliant’s Whitaker Square location, the design does away with traditional teller lines and focuses on unique teller pods designed to provide an enhanced sideby-side, more personal member service experience.

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“We’re always striving to help guide our members to make the best financial decisions, which may mean buying a less expensive car today in order to save for their child’s college education,” Johnson said. Ultimately, Casner added, what makes Truliant special is: “we create lasting relationships because members know we have their best interests at heart.”

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By Martie Emory

n the spirit of the soon-to-be-upon-us holiday season, and in keeping with its own glowing community spirit, downtown Kernersville is gearing up for events designed for the entire family, complete with a little magic and a lot of merry! It’s no secret that when lit up with the now-famous “Blinkies”—unique twinkling lights lining the streets that were designed by Kernersville resident Roger Briles and are now in high demand across the state— the streets of town create the perfect storybook setting. “Driving down Main Street in the evening is like being in a winter wonderland, even if there isn’t any snow!” says Janel Jernigan, Kernersville’s Downtown Marketing Coordinator. “The downtown area is also the perfect place to provide a safe, clean and beautiful environment for families to enjoy during the season.”

As the festive season nears, there are two upcoming events your family shouldn’t miss. First, mark your calendar for Holiday Story Time on Friday, November 28th from 5:00 p.m. until 6:30 p.m., when Santa and one of his loyal elves will be stopping by the Kernersville Museum at 127 W. Mountain Street to get a head start on wish lists from local girls and boys. Parents can enjoy a reading by members of the Kernersville Little Theatre as well, and since the town will already be sparkling with holiday lights (yes, the Blinkies), it’s the perfect day for a safe, fun family outing. A number of town merchants will be offering extended hours that day, and there’s convenient public parking right next to the museum and just across the street. While the event is free, Crisis Control Ministry of Kernersville will be present to accept food and monetary donations for those who wish to share in the giving season. Then on Saturday, December 6th, from 3:00 p.m. until 7:00 p.m., you’ll want to experience Christmas Around the World at Main & Mountain Street, right in the heart of Kernersville’s charming, decorated downtown. Grab a “passport” (while supplies last) and savor a whirlwind tour “around the globe,” as participating shops invite you to experience authentic holiday customs, décor and delicious goodies from the country that each represents. Parents, grandparents and children can snuggle in for free rides aboard The Little Blue Choo (the streets will be closed for safety), and once you turn in your fully stamped “passport” at the event’s end you’ll be entered to win a gift card for future downtown shopping. Don’t forget to stop for a chat with Santa and Mrs. Claus at the Kernersville Museum to complete your merry journey, and start making plans for your next visit to some of the best and most unusual shops in the area! For more details on holiday happenings and other upcoming events in downtown Kernersville, visit www.discoverkernersville.com, or follow them at www.facebook.com/DowntownKernersville.

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Southern Dental aSSociateS Opens Pediatric Pra ctice By Kristi Johnson Marion fter Triad natives, Dr. Jonathan Liner and Dr. Thomas Browder, founded a successful family dentistry practice in Wilkesboro, North Carolina in 1999, they grew to open another family practice in Dr. Liner’s hometown of Lewisville. Southern Dental Associates has now expanded again in the Triad to open a third location, this time focusing on pediatric dentistry, in Advance, North Carolina.

New Advance Location Provides Kid-Friendly Dentistry As the town of Advance has recently experienced a boom in growth, with an influx of new residents and industry, a new hospital and will soon boast a new high school, Southern Dental Associates felt it would be a great location to meet the growing need for local pediatric dentistry. They are excited to have opened a new location in Advance in July. Southern Dental Associates in Advance provides specialty dental care to infants, children and adolescents in a relaxed, kid-friendly atmosphere. The waiting room offers video games and a television to keep the young and young-at-heart entertained while filling out paperwork and preparing for their visit. The staff at Southern Dental Associates understands that a dental visit can be a nerve-wracking experience for parents and children alike. Each dental chair is also fitted with a personal television, as well, to make treatment visits as comfortable as possible. Patients can even chose a movie to watch during treatment to make their dental visit more enjoyable. Dr. Shobe Joins Southern Dental Associates Dr. Chad Shobe has joined Drs. Liner, Browder, Ward, Kinlaw and Farber at Southern Dental Associates to head up the pediatric practice at the new Advance location. After practicing in general dentistry for five years, Dr. Shobe went on to receive two additional years of training in the treatment of children, including kids with complex medical issues and special needs. He completed his pediatric residency at The University of Toledo Medical Center in Ohio. Dr. Shobe was drawn to pediatric dentistry partly because of some of his own dental treatment experiences as a child. Those experiences were not always positive. As a pediatric dentist, Dr. Shobe uses techniques he learned in his specialty training to make each child’s visit as positive as possible, even when invasive procedures are required. He is excited to serve families in the greater Winston-Salem area. Southern Dental Associates strives to ease the stress of visits by treating patients and parents with kindness and respect. “It is our mission for our patients to have an extraordinary visit and leave with a smile each and every time” said Dr. Shobe. After moving to Winston-Salem this summer with his wife, Elizabeth, and five children, Dr. Shobe and his family have enjoyed discovering all that the area has to offer. “I love the people, the beautiful landscape, and, of course, the food! What’s better than a fresh Krispy Kreme doughnut?” said Dr. Shobe. His family enjoys the outdoors, strolling to Winkler Bakery in Old Salem, and playing soccer. The Advance office of Southern Dental Associates is conveniently located at 135 Medical Drive, Advance, NC. Schedule your child an appointment today by calling: (336) 998-KIDS (5437)

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V’S BARBERSHOP

Honors Men of Today and Yesterday By David Willard

near impossible to find “the local barbershop.” So, like any good entrepreneur, he found a need and filled it. Since that time, V’s has grown to multiple locations across the country. In February of 2013, Adam Thomas was also looking. Thomas was looking for a business to start. At that time, Thomas found Valenzuela’s business concept and realized he had found a great fit, and Winston-Salem had found a local barbershop. Now located at 380 Knollwood Street, Suite C, V’s offers not only haircuts and trims, but also memories of days past.

harlie Hix once said, “Looking good isn’t self-importance; it’s selfrespect.” For many men, that selfrespect begins with a clean shave and a nice haircut. They are two simple things that can make all the difference. Fortunately, V’s Barbershop realizes this, and its mission is simple: give a man what he wants. A franchise that was began in 1999, V’s Barbershop was started by Jim Valenzuela as a result of great childhood memories with his own father, going to the barbershop. When looking to make his own memories with his son, he found it

“I was semi-retired and was looking for a change and for something I could own and grow, but did not have to be there 24/7. V’s gave me this opportunity; plus, I was drawn to the concept of how the shop was a throwback to yesteryear. Hot-lather straight-edge shaves, shoe-shine attendant, awesome products to use when not at the barbershop, etc.” says Adam Thomas. V’s markets itself as “it’s a guy’s thing,” and works hard to bolster that image. “This is a place where guys can be guys and get a great haircut, shave, shoe shine, or just stop in for a cup of coffee or soda and chat with friends. Our store walls are covered in sports memorabilia that give you the feel of a guy’s place as well,” continues Thomas. Proof of V’s dedication to its key demographic is their Father and Son Package, in which a discount is given for any father and son who come in together to get haircuts. “It is nothing more than a small discount to both the father and son when they come in together and get a haircut,” adds Thomas. “We do this as a way to encourage this bonding of father and son, and it is something that was a normal thing back in the day. Dad took his sons to the barbershop

on Saturday to get their hair cut,” he continues. One of V’s Barbershop’s most popular packages is “The Works.” “In this package, a customer receives a haircut along with a shampoo, followed by a straight-razor face- and neck-shave. It also includes lots of hot towels and great products that leave you feeling fresh and relaxed. A free shoe shine is also included with this package at no additional charge. Everyone owes it to themselves to experience this package,” concludes Thomas. Of course, the measure of a man is not in the clothes that he wears or how cleanly he is shaven. However, when a man feels good about how he looks, it can make all the difference. V’s Barbershop recognizes this and honors the men of the past by keeping tradition alive. They also honor today’s man, by showing him the best of himself with every razor shave and scissors trim. In fact, in today’s society, offering an opportunity for a father-and-son trip to the past, where they can make new memories together, sounds like perfect medicine…even if it’s in the form of a hair product.

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Kenneth M. Sadler, DDS & Associates, Winston-Salem Dental Care Serving the Community with True Devotion By Martie Emory

elebrating 36 years of the finest quality care for their patients and the community, Kenneth M. Sadler, DDS & Associates, Winston-Salem Dental Care, is comprised of a dedicated staff that knows the true meaning of sacrifice and service.

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As a one-stop, comprehensive group dental practice offering traditional preventive care, root canals, fillings for adults and children, orthodontics, periodontics and wisdom teeth removal, their professional repertoire also includes sedation dentistry, cosmetic dentistry, dental implants and restorative dental work with a focus on high-quality care at reasonable costs. The staff of 140 employees works as a close-knit team to handle a variety of both clinical and administrative duties. However, there’s something more at the heart of what they do. As focus turns towards veterans this month with the celebration of Veteran’s Day on Tuesday, November 11th, the practice also stands behind its continued commitment to veterans in the area, understanding their needs and upholding a strong presence in the community in general. With 12 veterans in the practice, it’s no surprise that this group of outstanding dentists—10 of whom joined together in 2000 to purchase the practice—is proud of what that service represents. Their hope is to pass on that appreciation to local veterans by standing beside them no matter what their dental care needs may be, and no

matter what their circumstances. Dr. Sadler himself is retired from the Army Dental Corps, as is Dr. William Broome, Dr. Rocky Gravel, Dr. Ron Hutton, Dr. Terry Reilly and Dr. Marty Slominski. In addition, Dr. Grace Aileru and Dr. Richard Dosek served in the Army and Dr. Sam Byrd and Dr. Deborah Rascoe are currently serving in the Air Force reserves. Dr. Michael Smith is retired from the Air Force and Dr. Philip Andrews served in the Navy. All of the dentists in the practice support a wide variety of charitable causes, from local civic clubs to the United Way, and several of the dentists on board volunteer with free dental services to the less fortunate at special events such as the N.C. MOMS free dental clinic project and at the Dixie Classic Fair. Proudly, the practice also holds the unique distinction of being accredited by the Accreditation Association for Ambulatory Health Care (AAAHC). It’s really as simple as carrying on tradition. Originally established in 1978 by R.J. Reynolds Tobacco Company to provide quality, easily accessible care for its employees, their families and company retirees, this team of dedicated professionals still holds close to the mission to treat each and every patient like family! To schedule an appointment or for more information on their services, call 336-331-3500, or visit wsdentalcare.com. Kenneth M. Sadler, DDS & Associates, Winston-Salem Dental Care is located at 201 Charlois Boulevard, Winston-Salem, NC.

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The Mommy Diaries:

The Supermom Syndrome fter 8 weeks of summer break, playing and having adventures with Lucas, I wasn’t quite prepared for the chaos I was being catapulted into, once I returned to work in the fall. Not only is the beginning of school a busy and eventful time for teachers, but we were also putting Lucas in daycare for the first time since he was born. I had no way to anticipate the guilt and sadness I would feel during this transition. While he quickly adjusted and enjoyed the other babies, interaction and stimulus, it took me quite a bit longer to accept this new stage.

I also wasn’t expecting the daily daycare ritual—going in and out the door, cleaning bottles, preparing food, etc.—to take such a toll, in addition to my full-time job. On top of all this, I was still trying to meet up with moms for play dates and teach a night class. Not only did I not want to be away from Lucas in the evening, I was exhausted, and I quickly learned that I could not do everything I could before I had a child. Who did I think I was, Supermom? After sleepless nights, a pesky cold, and what seemed like constant anxiety, I crashed and burned hard. I suddenly felt overwhelmed by everything, and with some help from great friends and family, I realized I had to put on the brakes. I couldn’t, nor should I have expected myself, to reset my brain and remind myself that my number-one priority is my son and family, and that I have to be careful not to take on too much. I have talked to many moms who have experienced the same thing. The pressure to be a career woman, mother, wife and friend puts an immense weight on our shoulders. Not only do we feel expected to do all this, but also put dinner on the table, clean, cook dinner, do laundry and, oh, yeah, exercise and eat right, so we look like a supermodel. This Supermom syndrome, to be and do it all, is undoable and unrealistic. Women trying to juggle careers, family, friends and more are wearing themselves ragged experiencing some serious stress, depression, weight issues and much more. As a dear and seasoned mama friend advised, “You have to cut everything in half—everything.” So, I have stepped back. I have cut out the night class, learned to say “No” to some invitations, made playtime with Lucas and dad a priority, and I am really working on carving out time for myself to exercise and not feel guilty about it. 24 • forsythfamilymagazine.com

By Emily Eileen Carter

Again, I realize, as women and moms, we have to cut ourselves some slack. We don’t have to do it all, the world will go on. After all, I don’t have to possess superpowers to be a great mom; I can nurture and love my little man just as I am.

Dear Baby Lucas, You are over 7 month s now, sitting up a lot , and grasping and touch ing everything in sig ht. The world seems to become bigge r every day for you. Your wonder and awe cont inue to grow as you ta ke in new sights, sounds, color s, people and more. You started daycare for the first time this month. You are such a big boy. Yo u adjusted so well. Yo u look forward every day to seeing your baby fri ends, and playing and learnin g from your teachers . I am still adjusting, but I know you love it. I just ha ve to stop feeling guilty about leaving you. You are eating so m any big-boy foods no w. Dad does the best job feeding yo u—buzzing, humm ing and getting you to eat lik e big boy! My love for you com pounds daily. You ar e the best adventure yet! I really love learning from yo u, as I grow as a parent. Love always, Mom

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Carolina Hearing DoCtors: An Audiology Practice Better Hearing Improves Quality of Life By Carolyn S. Peterson

f the five senses: sight, hearing, taste, smell and touch, we can usually detect changes ourselves, for the most part, in all except hearing. “Unlike vision problems, where the person recognizes their own need, hearing loss is often noticed by other people first,” said Dr. Scott Mills, audiologist at Carolina Hearing Doctors. Many people may sense a loss of clarity for understanding words, a problem of hearing the voice, but not understanding the words. Oftentimes the person doesn’t appreciate how interfering that ‘hearing but not understanding’ problem can become. They frequently blame others for not speaking clearly or think that everyone mumbles. Eventually a family member notices that the person is not as engaged, or maybe even withdrawing from activities that they used to enjoy, and prompts the person to get a hearing examination. Studies confirm that the average person will wait 7 years from first awareness of a hearing problem until they actually take steps to manage it. Dr. Mills says, “This can be problematic, because hearing decline is so slow that most people fail to appreciate how much it is changing over time. Delay in treatment can limit the amount of eventual hearing improvement.”

Improved Hearing Leads to a More Fulfilled Life Everyday life is about interaction with our surroundings. “It’s all about engagement and communication. When you gather with people at church, restaurants, even in a family setting, it’s to share common enjoyment. Hearing and vision are the two primary ways we enjoy time with other people, and when you start losing one of those senses, you diminish your enjoyment of those shared events,” Dr. Mills 26 • forsythfamilymagazine.com

commented. But other than those interactions with others, how does hearing loss affect one’s life? Studies have shown that people with better hearing are also happier. We are more satisfied and happier when we are more connected to the people that we care about. On the other hand, untreated hearing loss leads to isolation. We all know a grandparent who withdraws into themselves at mealtime or family gatherings because it is difficult to hear. Along with being happier in our personal lives, better hearing can help us in our job. One of the primary motivators to improve one’s hearing is to be more effective at work. Without clear hearing, you must ask for repeats, restatements and clarification at a time that other people seem to understand just fine. Employers and customers alike make fundamental judgments about your ability if you do not understand clearly. And yet this problem is completely solvable with hearing technology. An area that you may not have thought hearing can impact is your sex life. “Yes, sex is better with improved hearing by improving interpersonal communicating, avoiding inevitable frustrations related to hearing problems and easing the enjoyment of intimate conversations,” Dr. Mills said. So when you decide to manage a hearing loss with hearing aids, what can you expect? A Better Life Awaits Dr. C. Scott Mills and Dr. Anna Nichols of Carolina Hearing Doctors are Audiologists, university trained and licensed with Doctorates in

Audiology, focused on hearing and the ear. “As an audiologist with the highest level of training, I firmly believe that a person needing hearing care will receive a better examination, better products and better hearing improvement using our training and experience,” says Dr. Mills. In 2009 a Consumer Reports survey concluded that patients who had a series of specific tests to examine and measure their problem reported better hearing improvements then those who did not have those evaluations. One of the most important is ‘Real Ear,’ or ‘Speech Mapping Evaluation,’ to verify that the patient is receiving the precise amount of sound needed at each frequency to compensate for their hearing loss,” commented Dr. Mills.

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The improvements do not end with better examination. “Using technology we are quickly breaking down the stigmas that people have held about hearing loss and hearing aids,” observes Dr. Mills. People have long associated the loss of hearing with “old age” and a loss of mental ability, but this is changing. “We now address hearing loss earlier, when more natural hearing remains and before long term effects of hearing decline become ingrained. This earlier treatment is possible with today’s hearing aids that are smaller, more cosmetically appealing than older hearing aids, that were large, clunky, whistling appliances. Innovations allow better listening even in background noise and more natural sound quality to more faithfully reproduce the entire range of the human voice,” Dr. Mills said. “By blending expertise and technology we help people overcome hearing loss and allow them to stay engaged in everything that brings them happiness and satisfaction in life,” Dr. Mills stated.

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Carotid artery blockage and stroke: what you should know as a patient and a family member

By: Don Heck, MD, Director of Neurointerventional Radiology, co-director of the Novant Health Stroke Center, Triad Radiology Associates Stroke occurs when a part of the brain is damaged, either by blockage of an artery or by bleeding into the brain. Stroke is frightening. We all know someone whose life has been prematurely ended or seriously changed by a stroke. We live in a part of the Southeast referred to as “the stroke belt” because of the high numbers of stroke in our region. However, there are simple things you can do to dramatically lower your risk of stroke. And more good news: the steps to lower your risk of stroke will also lower your risk of heart attack. And did I mention you will feel better, too? The major risk factors for stroke are smoking, high blood pressure, high cholesterol, diabetes, sedentary lifestyle and family history. There is only one of those you can’t do a thing about. The easiest one, and the hardest one, is smoking cessation. If you smoke, it’s time to quit. It can’t be done soon enough and it’s never too late. Some people can quit “cold turkey,” and others can’t. If you are the latter, ﬁrst make a commitment, and then make an appointment with your doctor and devise a plan. (It will also lower your risk of cancer and emphysema). Controlling your blood pressure, cholesterol, and glucose (if you have diabetes) is proven to reduce the risk of stroke. See your doctor regularly and make sure these major risk factors for stroke and heart disease are controlled. Your doctor can also check you for an irregular heartbeat, which sometimes indicates a condition called atrial ﬁbrillation, which is another major, but treatable, cause of stroke. In a recent major research trial moderate exercise for 30

minutes a day three times a week had the same stroke risk reduction as smoking cessation! People also reported feeling better (no surprise there, right?) You don’t have to run a marathon or even a 5K (although you might end up wanting to). Find something you enjoy. If you haven’t exercised in a while, start with walking for 30 minutes at a moderate pace. Find a partner like a friend or a spouse and commit to it. Sometimes, despite doing everything right, people still develop blockage of the carotid artery. The carotid artery supplies the brain with oxygen and is the one you can feel just under your jaw. Your doctor usually makes the diagnosis with physical examination and carotid ultrasound. There are two “surgical” treatments for carotid artery blockage, “carotid endarterectomy” and “carotid stenting.” With the former an incision is made on the neck, the artery is opened and the blockage removed. With the latter the blockage is opened by placing a stent in the artery, which is done through the artery in the groin similar to heart catheterization procedures. Not all carotid blockages require “surgical” treatment; in fact most do not. Blockages of the carotid artery that are causing stroke symptoms usually need to be treated surgically. Blockages that are not causing any symptoms actually have a relatively low risk of causing stroke in the near future. I counsel such patients about their options of surgical and non-surgical treatment and make a decision based on age, overall health, and how the patient feels about the situation. Oh, and one last thing. Stroke is an emergency, and there are eﬀective treatments, but they need to be given as soon as possible. Stroke symptoms like sudden weakness of one side of the body, drooping of the face, and trouble talking should prompt a 911 call. Let’s remove our community from the stroke belt. We can do it together. ®

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Dear Moms: We Provide Transportation to Make Your Life Simpler NUB Transport, Inc. By Meridith Whitaker

an effort to improve the lives of families by making transportation safe and simple.

Understanding the struggle of parents who juggle multiple schedules, Ulanda and Nathan Brooks started NUB Transport, Inc. last year after seeing the struggle their own daughter had with transporting her daughter to pre-k while she worked. “Our daughter, like so many mothers who work outside the home, experienced difficulty arranging safe, reliable transportation daily,” said Ulanda. “We were inspired to start this business to help others like her— parents who want the best for their children but simply need a little extra help.” Nathan, a truck driver by trade, has always had a passion for running a transportation business, and Ulanda has dreamed of becoming an entrepreneur. The couple believes that, of all the things that can consume family life, finding and arranging transportation should not be a stressor. NUB Transport is their way of giving back in

So, moms whose to-do lists seem never-ending: take advantage of this opportunity to make life simpler. Without the hassle of coordinating schedules, arranging carpools, and rushing from point A to point B, you may find that having only twenty-four hours in a day is not too little, after all. When schedules flow smoothly twenty-fourhour days can feel just right. For more information on pricing, registration, and policies, please visit nubtransportinc.com or call 336-893-6861. Photo Artistry by Melinda

o the busy mom who cannot seem to catch a break: you are not alone. While things have changed drastically for working mothers over the last few decades, one thing remains the same—the number of hours in a day. You are not the only who has wondered how to fit everything into twenty-four of them. The hours not spent at the office are more than filled with household chores, cooking and grocery shopping, helping with homework, attending baseball games and piano recitals, investing in your marriage and other relationships, and somehow trying to fit in personal fitness and a decent amount of sleep at night. The fact is that our schedules are busier than ever, but the number of hours in the day has held at a steady twenty-four. Something’s got to give.

Whether your family could benefit from arranged weekly rides to school or extracurricular activities, or you just find yourself in a pinch every now and then, NUB Transport has a service that could work for you. Although still a new local business, NUB Transport is incorporated, has their business license, and has gone through extensive background and drug testing. This information is on file with the City of Winston-Salem. Their drivers are trained in CPR and first aid, and their vehicle has the appropriate insurance required by law. “We say that transportation is our business and safety is our priority,” said Ulanda. “We want parents to feel empowered to outsource some of their transportation responsibilities while knowing they are not sacrificing the first-rate care their child would be given under their own watch.”

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Successful Holiday Eating By Katie Boles, RD, LDN ith all of the fried turkey and dressing, sweet potato pie, glazed ham and baked pastries, many people worry that they will gain weight during the holiday season. And if the delicious food isn’t tempting enough…the holiday parties, the presents to buy, and the traveling that has to occur around this time of year gets in the way of carving out time to be active. What can you do to be successful around the holidays? Two words: Plan Ahead.

Here are a few ways to plan ahead: Avoid going to holiday gatherings on an empty stomach. Be sure to keep your eating routine on a normal schedule, no matter what party you are attending. The more we keep our bodies on a schedule, the more successful we will be with choosing a balanced plate and eating the right amount. Scan the “menu” before making your plate. Have you ever started your plate only to run out of room halfway through the line because you continue seeing food that looks delicious? Scan the food before you begin making your plate. Choose your favorites for your first plate to ensure that you do not overload your plate right from the beginning. You can always go back for more! Bring a higher-fiber, lower-calorie dish with you. If you are in charge of bringing a dish or two to the holiday gathering, bring something that you can be successful with. It could be a mixed-green salad, roasted vegetable dish or fresh-fruit platter. You may be surprised at the number of people that will be glad you brought this dish! Always remember the Balanced Plate method. If you start out by making the balanced plate (¼ of your plate protein, ¼ of your plate starch/grain and ½ of your plate full of fruits and veggies) you will fill up faster and be more satisfied. The endless amount of starch and grains is 32 • forsythfamilymagazine.com

definitely tempting, so make sure you enjoy them along with enjoying fruits, veggies and protein sources, as well. The holidays can be a challenging time. Planning ahead by eating on a routine schedule, scanning the food before making your plate, bringing a high-fiber dish with you and remembering the Balanced Plate method will all work together to help you eat the right amount and choose foods that are satisfying. Looking for a vegetable dish to take with you to a holiday gathering? Try this Broccoli Slaw recipe that is a family favorite at the Brenner FIT Kitchen. It may be the hit at your next party! To register for a free cooking class offered by Brenner FIT, call 336-713-2348 or e-mail brennerfit@wakehealth.edu.

Honey-Orange Broccoli Slaw 6 servings Taste of Home Magazine, November 2011 Ingredients: 1 package (12 oz.) broccoli coleslaw mix ⅓ cup sliced almonds ⅓ cup raisins 2 Tablespoons honey 2 Tablespoons olive oil 2 Tablespoons freshly squeezed orange juice 4 teaspoons grated orange peel ¼ teaspoon salt 2 packs of Splenda (optional)

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MCCALLS By Susan Woodall

or 89 years, McCalls has been a retail presence in WinstonSalem. William and Theresa McCall opened their first store, William McCall Art Linen Shop, in 1925 on West Fourth Street in downtown Winston-Salem. The shop, which sold fine imported table linens, survived the Great Depression and other economic downturns that saw many other retail establishments close their doors. McCalls moved from West Fourth Street to Spruce Street, where it remained until 1979, when it moved as one of the original tenants into the newly opened Reynolda Village. When William McCall passed away in 1971, his daughter, Betty McCall Smith, partnered with her mother to continue operating the family business. Betty eventually took over the shop when her mother retired in 1994. Over the years, McCalls added bed and bath linens, sleepwear, and baby and children’s clothing. Recently, McCalls came under new ownership. “I began talking to Betty about purchasing the shop shortly before she passed away last summer,” said owner Sara-Peyton McCormick. “I have an extensive retail background and at the time was managing another shop in Reynolda Village. I have been a customer [of McCalls] for years. My mother and grandmothers were McCalls customers. I saw an opportunity to carry on a wonderful Winston-Salem tradition while updating it for future generations.” The recent refurbishment gives the shop a fresh look and enhances the space. Located on the main street of Reynolda Village in what was once the cattle shed, McCalls now reveals beautiful window displays. “We are just finishing up a complete renovation to the shop that began in July,” said McCormick. “We moved back into the space the middle of September. The new shop will offer expanded children’s selections for infants to size 14, children’s shoes, a larger sleepwear and lingerie department and, of course, our beautiful linens. We also have developed a new logo and new packaging that we hope reflects the history of the store, while updating its image.” It is important to McCormick to continue to provide the quality items and superior service her customers have come to expect from McCalls. “It is my goal to retain the traditional feel of the shop while building a broader customer base,” said McCormick. “I hope to build our children’s wear and lingerie businesses with younger customers, and maintain our identity as the area’s premier destination for fine linens. We have been using social media like Facebook and Instagram to keep our customers informed, and will soon begin work on the store’s website.” “I have been shopping at McCalls for many, many years,” said one customer. “It is my go-to place when looking for linens or sleepwear. My children were outfitted with their beautiful clothes and now I shop here for my grandchildren. I always find something wonderful for myself, family, or for that special gift when I come here. The renovation is wonderful and I love the addition of the new items. I expect to be a customer for many more years to come.” If you have never shopped at McCalls, or have not been there lately, you need to make it a point to go. “We have a selection of products to suit a variety of styles and budgets,” said McCormick. “But it’s our commitment to our customers that makes the McCalls experience so special.” McCalls is located at 111 Reynolda Village in Winston-Salem. Store hours are Monday–Saturday, 10–5. For more information, phone 336723-9419, or find them on Facebook at www.facebook.com/mccallsreynoldavillage, or on Instagram at www.instagram.com/mccallsreynoldavillage.

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Making Hearts Smile Children Show How Small Acts of Kindness Can Have a Big Impact “Your smile is your logo, your personality is your business card, how you leave others feeling after having an experience with you becomes your trademark ... so keep smiling through it all.” - Dr. Tina Merhoff

Dr. Tina Merhoff and Sofie Z. “at work.”

A smile has a unique power. It speaks the same language in every country of the world. It doesn’t discriminate. A smile can change the mood in the room. It can inspire, calm and heal. Smiles can be given freely and often without cost – and can be more powerful than anything money can buy. In this month of Thanksgiving, the staff of Dr. Tina Merhoff & Associates Pediatric Dentistry shares our appreciation for our many blessings and young patients who encourage us all to share smiles with the community; to be thankful no matter what challenges we face; and remind us that sometimes the smallest things have the biggest impact on others.

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Sofie Z. is 9-years-old and a fourth grader at Our Lady of Mercy Catholic School. Her mother, Cindy, describes her as “a very bright, articulate, and happy child” who enjoys helping others and serves as an inspiration to young and old alike. To see Sofie fundraising with her mom at local blood drives, listening to her sharing conversations with elderly neighbors, you would never imagine the endurance of that beautiful smile of hers. “Sofie was a very healthy, active child until the age of 6, when she was diagnosed with Stage 4 Wilms tumor (kidney cancer),” Cindy explained. “She has spent 3 years on and off treatment, including one relapse. Her treatment has included a great deal of chemotherapy, radiation, multiple surgeries, countless blood and platelet transfusions, and a stem cell transplant at Duke this year. As of now, she has been in remission for 5 months. Her cancer battle seemed to only strengthen her resolve to persevere in any situation. She remained steadfastly positive through it all. With the love and support of many people, her courage, determination, and her overall awareness and understanding of people and the world have grown and blossomed. It is hard to imagine that this sweet girl who has conquered so much as a young age feels like smiling at all sometimes – but that would be out of character for her. Sofie serves as the “poster “Seeing Sofie always smiling child” for the local charity, Triad Pink Heals, Cindy said. Sofie even has a pink fire truck named after despite her life struggles with her because of her inspiration to others; her desire to educate the public about the need for blood childhood cancer donation to help the cancer community; and most importantly the way she approaches life with joy reminds us to choose and unwavering determination, strength and willpower. Though an example of towering strength, little Sofie particularly likes to comfort younger chilgratitude and love.” dren and help them overcome their reservations of a dental visit. - Dr. Tina Merhoff “Sofie particularly enjoys helping younger children, which is one reason she likes “working” at Dr. Tina’s office,” Cindy said. “She feels like part of the staff there. She greatly enjoys her interaction with both the staff and the children. She would work there everyday if time permitted. Sofie likes showing the kids what to do and getting their supplies ready. She especially loves her work with Micah. Micah allows her to “assist” with the care and treatment of the younger kids, something Sofie greatly enjoys. “People appreciate knowing what Sofie has gone through yet still she keeps a smile on her face,” Cindy said. “The ways she gives back are not always through extraordinary acts - they are through her regular day-to-day way of being. Yes, she is a fighter and a survivor! But most of all, she is just our little Sofie … a little girl with a big heart and enough courage to tackle anything.”

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When There Are Lemons, Sell Lemonade Kayla H. is a reminder to us all that small acts of kindness have a big impact on those around us. A seemingly shy second grader who enjoys dance lessons and drama classes, Kayla is quick to notice the needs of others. â&#x20AC;&#x153;Last month Dr. Tinaâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s office sent a bracelet challenge to all of her patients,â&#x20AC;? her mother, Leann explained. â&#x20AC;&#x153;Kids could earn three bracelets: one for simply coming in to get their teeth cleaned; a second for reading ten books; and the third for doing a random act of kindness or being involved within the community. I shared that challenge with Kayla, and she immediately wanted to earn all three bracelets.â&#x20AC;? Leanne said the challenge was perfect timing, too, because Kayla had asked to set up a lemonade stand. She told her mother she wanted all of the money to The Ronald McDonald House in Winston-Salem. It may seem unusual for a seven-year-old child to specifically choose a charity like that, but Kaylaâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s awareness stemmed from her own curiosity of what life was like for children and their families facing illnesses at Brenner Childrenâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s Hospital. â&#x20AC;&#x153;Kayla has the most beautiful smile and the best giggle. To see that smile and to hear that giggle is something to bottle up and share with others. - Leanne H. Passing Brenner Childrenâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s Hospital on the way to church prompted many questions from Kayla, her mother said. Sheâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s asked questions like: â&#x20AC;&#x153;Why are the kids in the hospital? Why do they need a special hospital? How long do they stay there? What does it look like inside?â&#x20AC;? Kaylaâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s interest in the hospital led her to tour The Ronald McDonald House, which is around the corner from Brenner Childrenâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s Hospital. She determined the money would best serve this â&#x20AC;&#x153;houseâ&#x20AC;? that provides a â&#x20AC;&#x153;home away from homeâ&#x20AC;? for those families with sick children being treated at the childrenâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s hospital, Leanne said. Kayla raised $59 selling lemonade. With a matching gift from her father, Kayla delivered a check totaling $118 to The Ronald McDonald House. Kayla was surprised and excited that she collected that much money on just one Saturday afternoon, her mom said. â&#x20AC;&#x153;It just goes to show that a child can make a differenceâ&#x20AC;&#x201D;even though her hands are smallâ&#x20AC;&#x201D;her heart is bigâ&#x20AC;&#x201D;and she can have a huge impact on whatever she sets her mind to,â&#x20AC;? Leanne said.

â&#x20AC;&#x153;We often joke that our daughter, Lealand O., started rolling over at two weeks of age and has never stopped moving. She enjoys athletics, swimming, cheerleading, soccer and tumbling,â&#x20AC;? said Lealandâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s mom, Shea. More importantly, she is constantly wanting to â&#x20AC;&#x2DC;give backâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;.â&#x20AC;? â&#x20AC;&#x153;Lealand is always looking for a way to earn money for charities,â&#x20AC;? Shea said. She shared that at the young age of six, Lealand she came into the house one night with a handful of cash. When questioned about how she came upon the money, Lealand confessed she had been selling food out of their pantry to neighbors to raise money for â&#x20AC;&#x153;Lice and Cancer Prevention,â&#x20AC;? Shea said with a smile. She actually ended up donating all the money to the Humane Society. Lealandâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s compassionate heart isnâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t something she turns on for a moment, either â&#x20AC;&#x201C; her random acts of kindness are part of her â&#x20AC;&#x153;every dayâ&#x20AC;?. It was no surprise to Shea when Lealand took the bracelet challenge presented by Dr. Tinaâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s office to heart, Shea explained. While spending time with family friends, Lealand noticed the yard across the street was covered with leaves. She began raking leaves â&#x20AC;&#x201C; working tirelessly, despite a blister on her handâ&#x20AC;Śand the best part? She didnâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t even know the family who lived there. Dr. Tinaâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s daughters, Abbie Merhoff (left) and Maddie Merhoff (right) and friend sell lemonade to raise money for the homeless shelter.

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— MONEYVILLE — SciWorks’ New Traveling Exhibit Is Open through January 11, 2015 isitors to SciWorks will find out about money, math and more when they explore the vibrant city of MONEYVILLE, SciWorks’ new traveling exhibit. With highly-interactive activities, games and simulations, children — and adults — can build essential problemsolving skills and learn priceless lessons in money management. MONEYVILLE features a Store, Bank, Anti-Counterfeiting Lab, Stock Market and Shipping Dock.

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instructive for our youngest children and their families," says Weston M. Andress, PNC regional president of Western Carolina. “We hope that by getting children to think about saving, spending and sharing at a very young age, these ideas and habits will stay with them as they grow." The exhibit uses the fascinating subject of money to build math skills and economic expertise in a fun and immersive setting, explains Paul Kortenaar, PhD, Executive Director of SciWorks. “Visitors will take a tour of money’s many forms and functions, and learn how different cultures used different kinds of things for money; for example, the Yap Islanders used 500-pound stones, and the ancient Aztecs used chocolate. They can also see currency samples from pounds to pesos, put their faces on dollar bills, run their own lemonade stand and play the stock market — all right here at SciWorks.”

On Sunday, November 9, from 1 to 4 pm, SciWorks is holding a special "Math Madness" event at the museum. The special activities are included with museum admission and will challenge your brain as you measure, predict, estimate, graph and more! MONEYVILLE was produced and is toured by the Oregon Museum of Science and Industry. The exhibit was made possible with funds provided by the National Science Foundation. MONEYOPOLIS is a registered trademark of Ernst & Young. The MONEYVILLE trademark is used under license. About PNC Foundation The PNC Foundation, which receives its principal funding from The PNC Financial Services Group (NYSE: PNC), actively supports organizations that provide services for the benefit of communities in which it has a significant presence. The foundation focuses its philanthropic mission on early childhood education and community and economic development, which includes the arts and culture. Through Grow Up Great, its signature cause that began in 2004, PNC has created a $350 million, multi-year initiative to help prepare children from birth to age 5 for success in school and life. About SciWorks SciWorks is a 501(c)3 organization that promotes literacy, lifelong learning and an appreciation of the sciences through innovative educational and recreational experiences. For more information, visit www.sciworks.org.

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The View from My Section...

By A. Keith Tilley

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We All Want What We Ain’t Got...A Thanksgiving Message

ovember is the month we traditionally give thanks for all that we have. That thought was reinforced even further recently while I was listening to a local radio station. Two songs were played back-to-back; the first was a new song by Kristian Bush entitled “Trailer Hitch.” There were several lines in particular in the song that really resonated with me in reference to this time of year. The song says, "I don’t know why everybody wanna die rich... You can't take it with you when you go... Never seen a hearse with a trailer hitch.” The message here is quite obvious. We live in a material world (as Madonna would say) and yet at the end of our lives none of our material possessions really matter much, and taking them with us not only is not possible, it’s no longer relevant to what lies ahead. “Trailer Hitch” was followed up by a song that’s been out a while by Jake Owen, called “We all want what we ain’t got.” This song details many of our typical mainstream desires, including greener grass, a bigger house and a faster car. Owen goes on to say all he wants is what he had, which, of course, is a love lost. However, notwithstanding his individual situation, the words have a distinctive ring of truth to them and could apply to the rest of us, as well. After all, the desire for the next big thing on our wish list can be quite strong and distracting from the normal day-to-day events in our lives. After the last song was over, the announcers began playing the “Would you rather?” game. If you haven’t heard of it yet, it basically presents the listener with two options to choose from, usually with neither choice necessarily being a good one. Next, you’re asked to decide between the two choices for yourself. There are many variations on the theme of this particular game, but here are just a few examples I found recently online. (Note my comments in parentheses.)

popular these days. The responses to those questions can sometimes tell us a lot about ourselves and provide insight into what we feel is most important. It also offers us another opportunity to appreciate what we have. So with that in mind, here are a few more questions to ponder. Would you rather be rich but suffer depression, or be poor but happy? (What drives you more, money or happiness and contentment with your life?) Would you rather have 20 kids over the course of your life, or never be able to have or adopt children? (This is an example of the classic feast or famine scenario.) And finally, would you rather be incredibly happy but alone forever, or unhappy, but with the love of your life? (This one’s a little tricky.) Reflecting upon all this…as you sit down in the dining room this Thanksgiving enjoying your delicious meal, basking in the warmth and inviting atmosphere of family and friends, watching NFL Football on television and having just one more bite of dessert, take a moment to look around the room and recognize all the blessings that have come your way. And when you do, remember to give thanks for those blessings and say a little extra prayer for those who aren’t as fortunate. I know that’s what I’ll be doing. Happy Thanksgiving, everyone.

Would you rather have everything you’ve ever wanted, but you die in one year, or live your life as it is now? (If you're like me on this one, what you have looks pretty good, especially in light of these choices.) Would you rather be an average, not famous professional athlete on your current salary or a wealthy, world-renowned professional in a field you don’t care about [mathematician, classical musician, etc.]? (This question gives a vision into what’s most meaningful to you, money or job satisfaction.) Would you rather live in the house of your dreams, but it doesn’t have internet access, or your current home for the rest of your life? (It would be hard to live these days without the internet… or would it?)

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A FAMILY BUSINESS OF BRINGING HEALTHY FOODS TO YOU!

By Carolyn S. Peterson

ith a family of 10, including 8 children ranging in age from 8–23, Ben and Helen Holmes, owners of Mill Creek General Store in Mt. Airy, NC, found that buying food in bulk was a necessity, but they never thought their knowledge of buying in bulk and eating healthy would one day be their business. But once again, as they say, “Necessity is the mother of invention.”

“If the Lord Leads You to It, He’ll Lead You Through It” When you ask Ben and Helen how they came to start their family business, they tell a story of a family faced with decisions and a reliance on their faith. “The Lord pretty much led us to our business. When Ben lost his job in ultrasound, we were faced with the option of moving for his work, with no guarantee of him not being downsized again, or doing something drastically different. When we looked at the options, we first had to determine what we were qualified to do. We had shopped bulk food for years, due to the size of our family, so we were familiar with that. And we had been trying to eat and cook more healthily over the past 10 years. After researching bulk food distributors, we were impressed with the uniqueness and the healthier food options of their products, plus Mt. Airy, NC, did not have a bulk food

store…and there you have it,” recalled Helen. But there is more to this family’s decision… one that changed their entire life. “The past five years have been difficult for us as a family. My father and brother came to live with us and, at that time, six children were still at home. After moving my father in with us, we

determined he had Alzheimer’s disease. I was laid off from my full time job and could only find part-time employment, and I was having back problems, eventually leading to surgery. With no health insurance I felt like the bottom had dropped out, and we were in a hole that just kept sinking deeper and deeper. I went through periods of fear and depression, but

Holmes children Left to Right: Carter, Tucker, Harrison, Stovall. Background Left to Right: Priscilla, Victoria, Ford & Jackson.

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God did provide a way and continues to provide for our family through our business,” Ben said. The family pulled together to establish Mill Creek General Store, with sons Tucker and Carter, who are in school in Virginia and North Carolina, respectively, and son Harrison, in school and who lives in New York with his wife, returning home to help their parents in the store’s initial set-up. Everyone, Priscilla, Victoria, Stovall, Jackson, and even down to the now eight-year-old Ford, helped with late nights, cleaning and packing, to get the store ready. Now the family can see each day the fruits of their labor in what they offer their customers.

quality, with more variety, and usually at a lower price, which means more value to our customers. In addition to our bulk food options, our deli offers healthy food choices, with fresh ingredients in all sandwiches,” commented Ben. Many of the products offered at Mill Creek General Store are from local businesses in North Carolina and Virginia. Two of the store’s largest vendors are Amish familyowned companies, and the Holmes also buy from the local NC Amish community when products are available. Mill Creek also carries a number of different lines of Amish furniture, shipped from the Amish community in Holmes County, Ohio.

“It means a lot to Helen and me, as well as our children, who also work at the store, that we are helping other people. We are able to offer families and individuals bulk food at a higher

Finding Balance is Hard, But Well Worth the Effort After a little over one year in business, Helen and Ben have discovered that Mill Creek

General Store is literally a family business, more than they realized, that requires a lot of their time. “Our children, whom we home school, come in and work in the store. We had no idea how much time the store would demand; it’s like having one more huge and demanding ninth child. Ben and I take turns working at the store and our children are very patient and understanding. They pick up the slack a lot and although dinners when we are all together don’t happen as much as they once did, we appreciate more the times that we are all able to be together as a family. Our children have become much more confident and selfassured about working with people. Ben and I enjoy working with each other, although maintaining the store is the hardest thing we have ever done,” Helen stated. Even though working and living with your business partner can be a challenge, Ben has high praise for his wife. “Helen is very intelligent and most of the health-food products and personal-care items we offer are due to her research. She adds new items weekly and is expanding our selection of products, but more than what she does at the store, we, as a family, rely on her strong and consistent faith,” said Ben. There’s a Lot in Store, in This Store Mill Creek General Store is a bulk food store, offering healthy options and alternatives to the traditional bulk food stores. “Our atmosphere is kind of like a step back in time. We have a full deli of delicious meats and cheeses and offer some great sandwiches. At least once a week we hear, ‘That was the best Reuben that we’ve ever had!’ We have a great staff and they do make shopping here special. We carry lots of organic, gluten-free, and non-GMO foods, with a selection that has expanded as customers have made requests. People are looking for good, healthy food and for a place

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to shop where the staff will take time to help them understand choices available in the foods they eat,” Helen stated. But Mill Creek General Store offers more than bulk food….

Carolina; they tell us that our variety of items is outstanding and that the customer service is refreshing in this day and time,” commented Helen.

“Our lines of Amish furniture have become very popular, as have gift items like our Mill Creek soaps and lotions. Unique items like locally roasted coffees and Mt. Airy-produced Merino wool socks are a nice addition. Many of our customers are tourists, but we have regulars who come from Virginia and all over North

As Ben and Helen look back over the past year of being in business, they believe their company has not only filled a need in their community and the surrounding areas, but within their own lives and those of their customers and staff. “Our customers are our best advertisement, and we want them to have

the best experience possible when they shop with us,” Helen said. “Most importantly, Mill Creek General Store was born from a great deal of prayer, bringing our family even closer to God, to each other, and to our customers,” Ben added. Mill Creek General Store is located at 541 West Pine Street, Mt. Airy, NC. Hours of operation are: Mon–Sat, 9:30–6:00 p.m. For more information, call 336-755-2340, or visit www.millcreekgeneralstore.com.

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Celebrating 10 Years of Play

o celebrate its 10th Birthday, and commemorate “A Decade of Play,” the Children’s Museum of Winston-Salem will hold a Birthday Party on Thursday, November 20th. The Museum will be open for 10 hours (9 a.m.–7 p.m.) FREE of charge to the public. Each hour will feature special programming that will include the band Big Bang Boom, the magician Captain Jim, favorite programs Monkey Hooper, Angel Bear Yoga and MORE. Krispy Kreme will be providing free donuts and coffee all day to guests of the museum. Since opening in 2004, as the Junior League’s 75th anniversary gift to the community, the Museum has welcomed more than 800,000 through its doors, staying true to its mission of creating a compelling destination for the community to play and learn by experiencing literature, storytelling and the arts. This year, the museum will have over 100,000 visitors, who not only include museum members, children on school field trips and people attending special events, but underprivileged families and schoolchildren from outreach programs at discounted, or free of, cost. The Children’s Museum believes in providing quality learning through play experiences to all children in our region. Layered early learning experiences make the museum a favorite for parents and educators. In a community where almost 50% of children entering Kindergarten are deemed “unprepared for 48 • forsythfamilymagazine.com

school,” the Children’s Museum is proud to offer critical earlylearning opportunities. Whether guests are climbing the 30-ft. beanstalk, reliving fairy tales in the Enchanted Forest, or shopping and making healthy meals in Food Lion, the museum lives up to its vision of “nurturing children’s imaginations, creativity and love of reading.” The most recent exhibit added to the museum is Kaleidoscape, located in the outside garden area, which has quickly become a favorite among children and adults of all ages, because it encourages children to climb, swing and experience the brilliant colors and unique textures. Toshika Horiuchi MacAdam, a Japanese artist, hand-dyed and wove the materials, then visited WinstonSalem to install the piece. To make it even more special, The Children’s Museum is the only location in North America with one of Horiuchi’s creations. The museum program calendar is essential for visitors and is known to be full of daily programming, as well as yearly traditions like Truck & Treat, the Wizard of Oz Party, Breakfast with Santa, the Noon Year’s Eve Celebration, and the Daddy/Daughter event. Annual fundraising events, the Storybook Soiree and the American Girl Fashion Show, are widely supported by the community and surrounding area. “It is our pleasure to invite everyone to come out and celebrate our birthday with us on November 20th, because it is our thank-you gift to our community. We want to have a day to celebrate our decade of play and show gratitude to all of our visitors, members, corporate supporters, donors, schools and community partners who have made us successful,” says Executive Director, Elizabeth Dampier. The museum was rated by Trip Advisor as one of the top five attractions in the city and Triad Moms on Main has rated the museum as the “best party venue” three years in a row. There will be a special announcement at the birthday party about the Museum’s newest exhibit, arriving in time for the holidays, as well as other future plans for the museum. If you are interested in becoming a 10thAnniversary partner or learning more about the 10th Birthday party on November 20th, please contact Pam Anglin, panglin@childrensmuseumofws.org. Learn more about the museum, programming and events at www.childrensmuseumofws.org.

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here is so much talent in WinstonSalem. We are very spoiled to have some incredible talent performing year-round, and most of us think of the holidays as the only time to enjoy live performances and concerts. While the Winston-Salem Youth Chorus performs throughout the year, chorus members and organizers are just as excited about the upcoming holiday performances as those of us who are lucky enough to attend them. “Founded in 1993 by Artistic Director Barbara C. Beattie, the Winston-Salem Youth Chorus (WSYC) has positively impacted the lives of hundreds of children and youth through music education and performance experiences for more than 20 years,” said Executive Director Lori Prescott. “The WSYC began as the Stevens Center Children’s Chorus, with children age eight to 13 making up the membership. The group continued to evolve, growing in size and stature, and it became the Winston-Salem Children’s Chorus in 1997. Thanks to strong community support and interest, along with the passion and efforts of Barbara Beattie, the chorus added high school youth in the Young Women’s and Young Men’s Ensembles. In 2009, the chorus renamed itself

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By Meghan E.W. Corbett the Winston-Salem Youth Chorus, to reflect the diversity in membership and age ranges, as well as the mature sound and professional quality of the group. The WSYC has more than 100 members in four ensembles, ranging in age from eight to 18 and representing more than 40 schools in Forsyth and surrounding counties. Open to any child who passes a standard audition, WSYC singers learn proper vocal technique, music theory, performance and sight-singing skills, music culture and songs in other languages. The WSYC brings together children from a variety of backgrounds to learn teamwork and tolerance while building lasting friendships based on the universal language of music.” The annual winter concert is just around the corner! “It is our festive winter concert showcasing all four ensembles of the WSYC to the community,” said Prescott. “Many genres of music are performed and some even sung in different languages. Audiences can expect to be surprised and delighted by the beautiful voices of our youth and the professional caliber of music that is performed. The Winter Celebration will be held on Saturday, December 6th at 7 p.m. at Crawford Hall on the campus of The University of North Carolina School of the Arts. Tickets may be purchased in advance or at the door. Tickets are $10/adult and $8/senior or child.” Additionally, there will also be the Fox 8/Old Dominion Holiday Concert showcasing the talents of the Touring Chorus alongside the Winston-Salem Symphony. “Audiences can expect to be swept away by the heavenly voices of our Touring Chorus performing holiday songs with the Winston-Salem Symphony,”

said Prescott. “The concert will be held at the LJVM Coliseum on Saturday, December 13th at 7:30 p.m. Parking and admission is free with a donation of non-perishable food items to benefit our local Salvation Army.” Donations are important to the WSYC, because they allow the WSYC to function in a way that benefits everyone. “The WSYC can only exist by strong support from our community,” said Prescott. “We rely on financial donations from businesses and individuals to continue the success of our organization. Of course, we also want to encourage anyone that has a child between eight and 18 years old that loves to sing to come and audition to be a part of one of the ensembles. Also, they can attend our wonderful concerts to experience the magic of the WSYC. Being a professional musician myself and having experienced the amazing talents that Ms. Beattie is able to draw out of our youth, including the growth I have seen in my own child who is a member of the chorus, I feel a passion to strive hard to continue the vision of this organization. Music has a way of drawing people of all backgrounds together and also builds confidence, teamwork, discipline and unity. My hope for the future is that the chorus will continue to uphold the excellence in choral music for which it has been known over the past 20 years and will continue to serve as the ambassadors for our city.” For more information on the Winston-Salem Youth Chorus, e-mail mail@wsyouthchorus.org, or visit the website at www.wsyouthchorus.org. To purchase tickets for the upcoming concerts, call 336.703.0001.

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The 2014

Tanglewood Festival of Lights By Meghan E.W. Corbett

he most wonderful time of the year is finally here! The time when days are cool and nights are filled with the beautiful lights that surround you at Tanglewood Park’s annual Festival of Lights. Nothing better puts Triad residents and visitors into the Christmas spirit than this traditional event. Each year, organizers and decorators of the festival outdo themselves with light displays that keep us all coming back year after year.

“This year’s Festival of Lights’ displays will include favorites from the past, as well as a few that are brand new,” said Jessica Sanders, Marketing and Events Manager for Forsyth County Parks and Recreation. “We are especially excited about our new LED panel that will be used primarily as a ‘Merry Christmas’ display. While we are proud to showcase holiday greetings from various faiths, we received many requests from members of the community to revamp our ‘Merry Christmas’ display, and we are looking forward to showing it off!” Whether you attend the festival every year or have never attended before, it is an annual tradition everyone can enjoy! “The Festival of Lights is a holiday tradition unlike any other,” said Sanders. “Tanglewood Park’s rolling countryside transforms into a winter wonderland of giant, twinkling snowflakes and whimsical scenes.

Entering our 23rd season, Tanglewood’s Festival of Lights continues to be one of the largest and most spectacular light shows in the entire Southeast. From storybook scenes to holiday themes, nearly one million lights fill Tanglewood Park with the splendor and joy of one of our favorite seasons. Tanglewood’s Festival of Lights has been selected as a top-20 event in the Southeast and a top-100 event in North America.” Many people enjoyed Throwback Nights last year, so Tanglewood has decided to offer those discounted nights again this year! “We encourage you to have extra fun these nights by participating in our themes: November 24th and 25th, Sports Team Paraphernalia and December 1st and 2nd, Santa Claus Hats. As always, participation is encouraged, but not required, to receive the discount,” said Sanders. Also, this year, guests staying at the Manor House and the RV campground will receive free admission to the Festival of Lights. Make your reservations now by calling 336.703.6494.” There are also shopping opportunities for those looking for that something special. “This year, our Gift Village will get a little merrier with school bands, choirs and orchestras performing on select nights, so come out and support your local schools,” said Sanders. “Our barn will once again showcase crafts made from local vendors to assist you with your holiday shopping! We will also have photos with Santa and Mrs. Claus, as well as concessions for purchasing items again this year. Mr. and Mrs. Claus will be spreading

Christmas cheer on Mondays, Tuesdays, Wednesdays, Thursdays and Sundays from 6–9:30 p.m., and on Fridays and Saturdays from 6 p.m.–close. They will be at the Gift Village every day of the week until December 22nd. Memories of your visit will be available on a photo CD with rights to have the pictures printed at a shop of your choice.” In addition to the Festival of Lights, there are many fun activities going on at Tanglewood this time of year. “Tanglewood is a busy place year-round, especially during the fall and winter months,” said Sanders. “Throughout the month of October, Tanglewood Stables is offering Pumpkin-Pick hayrides. On November 16th, we will host the third-annual Festival of Lights Golf Tournament. November through December, groups like Manna Meals, Paws in the Park, Make-A-Wish and Arts for Life will hold events to benefit their organizations. You can even ring in the New Year running through the lights at midnight with a 5K at Running of the Lights! Tanglewood is also the site of many weddings, holiday parties and private events during this time. The backdrop of our beautiful displays really adds a unique and memorable touch to these events!”

The Tanglewood Festival of Lights is open from November 22nd, 2014, through January 1st, 2015, from 6–11 p.m. For more information, visit www.forsyth.cc/parks/tanglewood/fol, call 336.703.6410, or email sanderjp@forsyth.cc.

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By Meghan E.W. Corbett

hether you embrace the holiday season or wish you still had more time before being inundated with holiday decorations and music, there is no denying the spirit of the holidays is rapidly approaching! Instead of denying the inevitable, embrace it and enjoy yourself this holiday season with a trip to the Junior League of Winston-Salem’s (JLWS) Boutique Shopping Event! “Boutique was created as another fundraiser for the JLWS,” said Boutique Co-Chair Susan Colon. “We wanted an event that would eventually replace the Rummage Sale, but would still serve the community. Boutique is in its fifth year, and each year we have grown more successful, which leads to more money back into the community.”

To understand the importance of supporting events such as the Boutique, you must know what the JLWS is all about. “We are a group of women committed to promoting volunteerism, developing the potential of women and improving the community through the effective action and leadership of trained volunteers,” said Boutique Co-Chair Katy Ringeman. “Our purpose is exclusively educational and charitable. Our vision is to help build healthier families and a stronger community. We focus on educating and mentoring youth from birth to age 18, as well as women’s health issues.” The success of Boutique directly benefits the community by allowing the Junior League to expand current programs aimed at helping those in need and creating new programs where needs arise. Boutique is one of the largest fundraisers, but those who have attended before know it certainly does not feel like a fundraiser, but simply a fun and festive 54 • forsythfamilymagazine.com

holiday shopping experience! “The fifth-annual Boutique holiday market extravaganza will take place Friday, November 21st and Saturday, November 22nd in the grand ballroom at the Embassy Suites/Benton Convention Center in downtown WinstonSalem,” said Colon. “The lineup of vendors for shopping at this year’s Boutique holiday market offers unique gift-giving options for everyone on Santa’s list. In addition to fabulous shopping, Boutique will offer attendees demonstrations from the Home Depot, plus entertainment, kids’ activities, a special visit from Santa and more! We will have light appetizers and a cash bar for Happy Hour on Friday, a holiday dessert showcase with a cash bar for Girls’ Night Out, and on Saturday we will have Kids in the Kitchen to provide healthy, holiday snacks for children. We also have vendors who will be selling delicious food!” Of course, the JLWS is always open to suggestions for improvement, because that helps further the success of events like Boutique. “The JLWS hopes that Boutique will continue to grow over the years, encouraging more people in the community to attend and further developing relationships with return vendors and new vendors,” said Ringeman. “We are always thinking of ideas on how to grow Boutique and meet a wider range of shoppers’ interests. We want the Triad and beyond to look forward to the holiday market each year, and to enjoy the festive holiday shopping. We hope to raise as much money as possible in order to support our community! Shopping for a good cause—who doesn’t feel good about that?” For more information, email Katy Ringeman at boutique@jlws.org, call 336.749.3992 or visit the website at JLWS.org/Boutique where you can also purchase tickets in advance.

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Ages & Stages Children of All Ages

The Importance of Play Dates in Child Development By Stacy Leighton

rom the hallway I heard the boys launch the spinning top, it careened across the floor and promptly shattered against the wall. My son’s friend screamed, “You broke it!” Then it was silent. I peeked around the corner to see my boy’s small, still dimpled hands carefully gather the pieces and attempt to restore the toy. The friend continued to gripe and grumble. “It’s broken. You can’t fix it.” “I might,” my son whispered, his face contorted in concentration. “It’s never gonna work.” At long last my boy held it up in one hand and smiled. “It could.” And it did.

Hope, perseverance and ingenuity were just a few of the values at play here. I wanted to intervene. I could have, but important lessons were happening here. I bit my tongue. Many years later, my tongue may be calloused, but my children are wiser. One must never underestimate the value of life skills acquired only in the company of peers. At recess I observed one of my kindergarten students approach a new friend. He asked if he wanted to play. The other child responded that he couldn’t play with him because he was white. My student seemed to ponder this for a moment then replied, “Oh. Do you want to play anyway?” To which the new friend exclaimed, “Yes!” And they did. Today they are young men in college and remain the best of friends. What did they learned that day? More than the best teacher could ever explain. The pedagogy behind peer learning is rooted in cognitive psychology. John Dewey wrote (Democracy and Education, 1916), “Education is not an affair of 'telling' and being told, but an active and constructive process.” This gave rise to the constructivist theory expanded by Lev Vygotsky (“Zone of Proximal Learning” from Thought and Language), who believed children learn best through collaborative, meaningful, problem-solving scenarios, rather than instruction. Put simply, it is active and participative. In real-life terms, collaborative children gain more knowledge that they can own, than they will ever learn on their own. Play dates provide for these unfettered educational experiences. Children learn to brainstorm new ideas, problem solve, take turns, and expand on one another’s ideas. In their play, they make connections between their imagination and their world. Want to test this theory? On the next rainy day, tell your children, “We are camping in today.” 56 • forsythfamilymagazine.com

Provide a flashlight, sleeping bag, coffee table and a sheet. Sit back and watch those creative minds at work. Who doesn’t remember making tents or forts? Invariably they will want to gather more “supplies,” like snacks, books and stuffed animals. To a child, play is his/her work. Constructivists believe that the new ideas, values, communication skills and strategies children learn in one day of play would be too many to comprehend. The science is sound and the theories are substantiated. However, I would suggest that the most important byproduct of your child’s play dates (or collaborative learning) is the “connection” they form with others. When we share enjoyable experiences with others, we feel a sense of belonging. This connectedness is as important in times of play as it is critical in times of stress. When we are connected to others, whether at work or play, we thrive.

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Ages & Stages Toddler Thru Elementary

Teaching Children the Value of Self-Sufficiency By Lisa S.T. Doss

oddlers as young as two willingly want to help their parents with a variety of tasks. They are saying, “I want to spend time with you” and “help me become independent.” I can still hear my daughter say, “Me, too! I help!” While my two-yearold’s assistance came in disastrous forms when she tried to remove plates from the dishwasher, and threw clean towels and clothes from the laundry basket, she had an instinctual desire to be viewed as useful. The toddler years are a great time to start teaching what essentially develops into a work ethic. These tiny efforts in youth will later amount to children and teens exchanging complaints for creative problem solving, responsibility and the reward of a job well-done. Successful kids are a product of learning the value of good frustration, perseverance and self-discipline.

Establishing Routines It begins with baby steps. From cleaning up toys to taking “safe” containers from the kitchen table to the counter, children as young as two can learn the value of putting items away. Morning and night-time schedules are an important part of teaching selfresponsibility. By the time, a child is four, he or she will begin to name the tasks achieved in order. Through guidance and repetition, children will know what to do and how to do it. Why wait? Teach your three and four-year-old the value of: • making a bed and having a clean room; • turning off lights, and closing doors; • picking out clothes and putting dirty clothes, especially underwear and socks, into a hamper; • placing plates, cups, and utensils on the kitchen counter after meals. Children feel good about becoming an active 58 • forsythfamilymagazine.com

participant in the household, especially when the reward is positive attention and verbal praise. The Value of Earning Money and Spending The “I want” child often appears too early in life. It may seem harmless at first, but the wants become more expensive and, at times, unappreciated. Teaching children the value of earning, saving and spending wisely can start with collecting coins. Even an allowance of “coins” will teach children to learn about each coin, its value, and appreciate what it will buy, if saved and spent purposefully. Children who loved playing the imaginary “grocery store” will enjoy meal planning, cutting coupons and comparative shopping. It’s important that parents talk openly about budgets, grocery lists and buying with purpose. In addition, children who understand the basic economics of food will be eager to assist in making side dishes, especially if the meal requires following a recipe, or accepting the responsibility of making breakfast for the family on Saturday mornings, for instance. Productive Citizens Twenty-five percent of parents feel they constantly nag their children about cleaning their rooms. Other issues center on household chores such as picking up dirty clothes, putting dirty dishes in the sink and hanging up wet towels. Parents often view their efforts, from assisting their children with homework to folding clothes and putting items in a drawer, as acts of unappreciated kindness. From a child’s perspective, they want to feel capable within their family, and out in the world. But often, parents and children want similar goals. Chores, financial budgets, schedules and individual responsibilities can thus be openly discussed, allowing children to contribute to family and household decisions. While

parents are, in fact, still the decision makers, children can learn firsthand through trial and error what it means to be self-sufficient and productive citizens. Making Decisions and Mistakes As protectors, parents often seek to shield their daughters and sons from failure or disappointments; however, parents need to believe that natural consequences often provide life’s best lessons. Children who choose not to complete their homework assignments or talk against a good friend will gain insight through the consequences. The reward is seeing a child learn from his or her mistakes and choose to become more responsible. Parents can still be important figures in their daughters’ and sons’ lives, especially when they come to talk about the day’s life lesson and promise to make better decisions tomorrow!

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Homework Help to Build Confidence and Independence By Lisa S.T. Doss

fter a long day, parents look forward to arriving home. Reunited with the family and learning about every member’s day offers moments of laughter, stories and togetherness. All of those great feelings come to a screeching halt at the thought of getting the kids to begin their homework. Imagine an evening where you don’t have to argue, explain, teach and feel frustrated over your children’s homework assignments. To improve matters, parents can offer practical homework tips while instilling through praise the values that matter most, such as confidence, and independently finding solutions to problems. While the steps are building blocks, and will take time, parents will see their children being able to work independently for longer stretches of time, until homework can be completed without assistance.

Create a Plan First Experts believe children need to hear information more than twelve times for learning to occur; therefore, parents need to view their role as a mentor. Through questions, parents can help their children finally feel good about studying and homework. It begins with a homework plan. • Your child needs to create “Homework Rules.” What time to start homework, where to study, and how to resolve distractions are main questions. Suggesting ten-minute breaks, as a perk, will be greatly beneficial in rejuvenating your child for the next task. Children who create their own schedules become stronger students, and can focus for longer periods. • Encourage your child to talk about his or her homework before starting. For instance, while children know the number of assignments they have, young children, especially, need help 60 • forsythfamilymagazine.com

determining where to start. A good practice is to begin with a more challenging assignment and end with a favorite subject. Commend your child for coming up with a great plan. Problems Need Solutions How many times have you left the table when your child has asked yet another question? After discussing the plan of homework, allow your child the time to consider questions he or she may have. Here are a few helpful suggestions to try: • To build confidence, ask your child to read and explain the directions. Use a highlighter to identify key words. • Talk about what to do when a problem cannot be solved, such as going onto the next question or problem, rereading the directions, or referring to the example, if one is provided. He or she may have examples to contribute, too. Constantly discussing how to overcome obstacles will help your child in the weeks and years to come. • After guiding your child through one or two problems, leave for five minutes, and then return, offering praise. • Implement the three-question rule. It will help a child chose his or her questions thoughtfully. • Talk about studying aids, such as studying using index cards, highlighting key words, reading out loud, or rereading notes or correcting tests to build understanding of the material. If your child is too exhausted or overly emotional, it is wise to shorten the assignment and write a note to the teacher explaining the situation. Always follow up with an e-mail if you have not received a note after two days.

Conclude with Conversation Reflection is a good habit for all students. Completing homework, studying for tests, writing a report, or preparing for a presentation allows room to consider the reasons for success or improvement. Children will realize procrastination, for instance, isn’t the best way to prepare for a test. Thinking about improvements will also help children take responsibility for their own work, instead of comparing their grades or work to the class average. Looking back on the written pros and cons will demonstrate how far he or she has come as a student. Openly Communicate with Teachers Teachers will be quite pleased to see parents helping their children by promoting study strategies. They will quickly notice a different, and more empowered, confident student in the classroom. As a result, parents need to openly communicate what is working or not working during homework sessions. Education is a triangle of parents, teachers, and students working together. In the long run, a happier student will undoubtedly become a smarter student.

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Small Stories for a Big World By Kim Underwood uring the week, my day usually begins an hour or so before the day starts for Garnet, Sparkle Girl and Doobins. First on my todo list is giving the morning treat—a smackerel of canned tuna—to the cats, Blitz and Sherbert, and the dog, Joy. Watching Joy, who is up to a robust 6 pounds, spin around in circles in anticipation of her tuna treat is one of the highlights of my day.

After that, I take Joy out for her morning walk. When we return, I may occasionally have to take care of some spot emergency, such as Sherbert getting into Garnet’s succulents. Mostly, though, it’s quiet time on my own, taking care of ironing my clothes for work and such. Then it’s time for my most challenging task of the day—rousing Sparkle Girl. When she was younger, waking her up was the work of a moment. Somewhere along the way, it became serious work. When I asked her what she thought the difference was, she said, “I’m in high school. Need I say more?” That’s pretty much what I figured. It’s a given that the first attempt to wake Sparkle Girl won’t produce lasting results. My goal with the first round is simply to reintroduce her to the concept of being awake. I shake her gently and speak softly until she mutters or turns over. If I’m feeling ambitious, I might ask her to say something. Then I leave her be for a few minutes. The serious work begins with the second attempt. I definitely ask her to say something. I ask her to open her eyes and tell me she is awake. I have learned, though, that opening her eyes and saying, “I’m awake! I’m awake!” means nothing. Usually, it’s the third or fourth attempt before it takes. There are times when I feel as if she is at the bottom of the ocean and I am calling to her from a boat on the surface. On those mornings, I have been tempted to flip on the light and be done with it. Whenever I say that

flipping on the light crossed my mind, she has been horrified. Never, ever do that, she says. RealIy, I wouldn’t. I know how harsh that would be. When I was a kid, my father would sometimes wake us up by flipping on the lights. Even worse were the days when, moments after returning to this world, I would find myself sitting at the kitchen table facing a bowl of hot oatmeal. One of the satisfactions of being an adult is being able to say to myself, “At least, I will never again have to start my day with oatmeal.” In fairness to my father, I should add that, once we told him how much we hated starting the day with oatmeal, he began making hamburgers on English muffins for breakfast. They were great. I have offered to fix hamburgers for breakfast for our household. I’m sure Joy would be all for it, but, so far, Garnet, Sparkle Girl and Doobins have all declined. Anyway, whenever I have said something to Sparkle Girl about how much work it was to get her up, she has said that she’s sorry. It’s just the way it is, she says. “I can hear you and I know I have to get up. I just can’t actually do anything to get up.” After one particularly grueling morning, I said, “So what do you suggest that I do?” She thought about it and said, “The second time you try to get me up, make sure I sit up.” “Not the first time?” “Heavens, no!” she said. I tried that the next morning. It worked. “For now,” said Sparkle Girl. She’s making no promises.

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In her teens and 20s, she will gain understanding about her strengths and weaknesses, define future ambitions, continue to learn the rules of friendships and relationships, and anticipate turning one year older. I want my daughter to know that being young often creates a feeling of invincibility. It’s so easy to want to take incredible risks, push the limits of gravity, and be part of a daring crowd. Live, dear daughter, but, please, be careful! Dear daughter, in knowing a grandfather, grandmother, or aunt personally, you are seeing a slight window into your own future. Great supple skin, beautiful teeth and hair, and soft feet will require daily attention and maintaining annual doctor and bi-annual dentist visits. Caring for your body in youth and throughout your life will be a blessing in later years. Our family lifestyle has shown you the value of gardening and eating healthily, but there’s more to it than a balanced diet, exercise, wearing a hat in the summer, and even comfortable shoes. Living well includes healthy relationships and friendships, minimal stress, sleeping well, smiling, singing and laughing, too. We will spend the next five decades talking about our health and making comparisons and decisions, exchanging nutritious recipes and discussing natural skin care products.

What I Would Like My Daughter To Know About Getting Older

By Lisa S.T. Doss ooking into the mirror, we see a reflection beyond our own features. With each passing year, I perceive a stronger presence of my mother and, undeniably, she had aspects of my grandmother. Once my daughter was born, I found comfort in studying the shape of her eyes, lips, cheeks, nose and chin, all the way down to her toes. How uncanny it is to pass a genetic history on to your child. In time, she responded by studying my face and body, too. She hugged, bit, pinched, pulled, and slapped in wonderment, and too often, in giggles. Even now, at four, our daughter cannot see the appearance of age on our faces. We are “my daddy” and “my mommy,” strong figures in her life, and the ones whose super hugs and kisses give her peace of mind. We have already projected the time difference between her age and ours into the decades to come. Knowing the possible difficulties of raising a child as older parents, as well as the rewards, we hope she will be able to gain enough wisdom to live a prosperous, happy, and long life.

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By the time you reach your 30s, there may any number of health problems to discuss. In knowing your family history, it is important to respond when your body provides clues that something may be wrong. In my mid-twenties, I made the mistake of ignoring symptoms. At age 30, with great relief, I did not receive the diagnosis of cancer. With medical advancements, I hope you will not struggle with infertility or pregnancy, cancers, or menopause, to name a few. The cycle of life continues, and witnessing hardship in those late years helps you to understand and appreciate what it means to be healthy and strong. It is true that life can resemble infancy in some aspects. It will be difficult to watch Daddy and me become challenged by our age, and the transition may happen overnight. Instead of becoming stressed, I ask that you recall your own childhood and respond in kind. With patience, we answered repeated questions, waited while you pondered over decisions about what to wear or eat, and celebrated every milestone that was connected to your becoming selfsufficient. We promise to have documentation in place and openly talk about our wishes in old age, so, you, dear daughter, will not have to worry. Throughout your life, you will find contentment in having a wonderful spouse who can stand beside you in days of great happiness and sorrow. He will be a blessing in those retired years. Similar to the gift of motherhood, the outpouring of love from your grandchildren will add years, months, days and seconds to your life. While social interaction will be vitally important to your health, you may find great contentment in prayer, books, wandering in your gardens and enjoying the peace of your surroundings. With happiness, laughter, good company, and health, you, dear daughter, will live to see a great number of birthdays.

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Texting & Driving: They a re Watching You! By Rachel Hoeing with Triad Moms on Main

e all know texting while driving is dangerous. We’ve all read the stories of the last extremely unimportant text that someone felt the need to send, seconds before they were killed in a crash. We’ve seen the families of the innocent bystanders who were minding their own business when a car came out of nowhere and hit them, because the driver was busy doing something on his phone. I, for one, know how dangerous it is, yet I have still found myself with that urge to pick up the phone while in traffic, while at a stoplight, while driving ... but I recently have realized there is more to it than just the immediate danger. Guess who is watching every move I make? My kids. How in the world do we ever expect our teenagers to adhere to the “no texting while driving” rule when they have watched us do it the entire time they rode with us as children? My children are 9 and 11, which means they do not really remember the world when we used cell phones only for emergencies and when the smart phone was just a dream. My children only know the world as the place where people are slaves to their phones and keep them within arm’s reach, 24 hours a day. Not only do I want to show them that this is not necessary, I want to show them how dangerous this way of thinking can be. A few ideas that my friends and I have shared on this topic: • Make it a point to put your phone/purse in the back of the car when driving. Tell your children you are doing this in order to keep everyone safe, so that you are not tempted to pick it up.

• If you are running late or need to know something immediately, ask your child to send the text, or look up the info for you. Explain to them how dangerous it is for you to do it while you are in control of the vehicle. • Pull over!! You are looking for an address and your map isn’t working correctly on your phone. Pull over and search for what you need. • If you have babies, even better ... you get to start fresh. Never let them see you hold the phone while driving. You will be the best role model yet! • Remember that other kids are watching you, too. My children have said to me, “Did you know that Mrs. xxx is always using her phone when we are in the car?” Yikes! Explain the dangers to all the kids you may shuttle around in your vehicle. • Explain to your children that there are very, very few circumstances in life where a message cannot wait. And if you find yourself in one of those very few circumstances, use one of the tips above! Please, please, share this message with others. Let’s band together as moms and set good examples for our children. Whether they are 2 or 15, they will be driving before we know it. Set your ground rules and be a good role model now, so that you will feel a little better when they are on the road themselves.

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here were times when I was learning to drive that I would forget on which side of the road to drive. Maybe you’ve had those moments—you lost your car in the mall parking lot; forgot your own phone number; or looked at the face of a life-long friend and had no idea what her name was. For myself and other dyslexics like me, it’s a pretty common occurrence. Growing up with a learning disability of any kind presents its challenges, and life for me was no different. Numbers flew in and out of my head, changing places and directions with a speed that made me dizzy. I never once made it to the second round of a classroom spelling bee. I lost track of time, memories, toys, homework and books. Looking back at my childhood, I can see those things that allowed me to be successful later in life. The things my parents poured into me to equip me to survive with a brain that doesn’t function quite like everyone else’s. Here are ten of the things they did that made a difference in my life, and may help you if you are struggling to support a child with a disability.

1. Set High Expectations. My mom often joked that we might have to share a dorm room, but the expectation in our family was that I would attend college. Despite attempting to quit school in the second grade to become a ballerina (who I mistakenly believed did not need to learn to read), there was never a time when I didn’t believe I would complete my education, and that the people around me would help. 2. Teach Resiliency. One of the most important things I learned as a child was to deal with the frustration I felt. When a child is constantly faced with seemingly insurmountable challenges, it is imperative that she learn to deal with the emotions that accompany such struggles. Hit pillows, take a walk, talk to a counselor—do something to relieve that stress. The emotions are impossible to totally avoid, but children can learn ways to manage them. 3. Don’t Compare. Life’s not fair. As a frustrated, rebellious child, I only had to look at my gifted older sister to see the truth of this statement. I was never meant to be her, but I was meant to have gifts and talents of my own to develop and use. I was lucky my parents realized this and never once asked me to be someone I’m not. 4. Teach and Use Organizational Skills. I still depend heavily on the organizational skills I learned when I was young. I write down anything important, set up electronic reminders for birthdays, use spellcheck religiously, and hang my keys on the same key hook by the door, every single day. The consistent implementation of these daily routines allows me to function successfully as an adult. 5. Learn Purposefully. Address specific skill deficits. Life is too short to learn it all, so find out what your child needs to know to survive and focus on those things—one at a time.

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6. Find Success. Every child needs to excel at something. Whether it’s art, sports, or music, make sure your child has a chance to shine in some arena of his or her life. 7. Set Achievable Short-Term Goals. My parents set goals for me. Many of them revolved around motivating me to read. If I read thirty books, I earned a prize. I now read 60-70 books a year of my own volition, but I would never have persevered to develop a love of reading, without the external motivation my parents provided. 8. Make it Fun. I jumped rope while spelling words; wrote them in paint, chalk and shaving crème. The internet is full of ideas for making learning fun, so find some that work for your child. 9. Be Patient. I would love to give you short-cuts. To tell you that raising a dyslexic is easy, but it’s not. It’s a bumpy road, fraught with frustration and heartache, starts and stops. Just ask my long-suffering father, who taught me to drive. I’m sure it was harrowing when he said turn right and I obediently crossed over two busy lanes of traffic to turn left. But it does get easier. It takes time to overcome the inherent challenges, but you can live and thrive with this disorder. 10. Believe. My parents never gave up on me. They always believed I could achieve, and while it didn’t come easy, eventually, I did. If there’s someone in your life struggling with a learning disability, the best thing you can do is to believe he or she has the potential to do something great with his or her life. You won’t be disappointed!

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Holiday Traditions Renewed By Jan Allison

I I seem to get reflective each time the seasons change, thinking about the season that just passed, and what lies ahead. When fall arrives, I’m all-consumed with everything pumpkin. Yet in the back of my mind, I know that the Christmas holidays are just around the corner, and the mental to-do list kicks into full gear. Unfortunately, one of the items on that list has gotten neglected in my Holiday traditions. With no good excuse, in the past couple of years I have not sent Christmas cards. I would tell myself I didn’t have enough time or that postage was too expensive. However, I recently ran across this fact from Hallmark research: “Nearly 3/4th feels when they receive a holiday “Nearly 3/4ths of greeting.”

consumers who send holiday cards do so because they know how good it feels when they receive a holiday greeting.”

That one line just rocked my world – it is so true! I love getting Christmas cards in my mailbox each year, and seeing how friends and family that I may not be in constant contact with are doing. I enjoy the pictures of families and take to heart the well wishes received. With my love language being gift giving, how could I have forgotten how important this simple gesture can be to so many? Therefore, I am recommitting myself to send my Holiday greetings for 2014 and wishing all a joyous New Year! Won’t you join me?

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he holiday season is a special time at Old Salem Museums & Gardens. It’s easy to find the holiday spirit at Old Salem, with the beautifully decorated historic district and all the opportunities to experience authentic history, enjoy fresh-baked treats, find unique holiday gifts, and hear seasonal music. There’s something for everyone during the months of November and December, beginning with the Shops at Old Salem Holiday Open House on November 8th, from 10 a.m. until 4 p.m. Get in the holiday spirit at the Open House and enjoy the sounds of the season, delicious tastings of local food products, unique holiday shopping, music, craftsmen, authors, storytelling, vendors and more! Best of all, it’s a free event for the whole family! Old Salem will be closed on Christmas Eve and Christmas Day. However, Old Salem is back open on Dec 26 and will have regular hours through New Year's Day (closed on Monday, Dec 29). Christmas by Candlelight Tours November 14, 15, 21, 22, 28, & 29 and December 5, 6, 12, 18, 19, & 20: 6:30, 7, 7:30, & 8 p.m. Take a guided tour by candlelight through the historic district, where the customs and traditions of 18th- and 19th-century Moravian Christmases will be brought to life. The evening will include music, food drink, and interaction with Old Salem interpreters. $25 for adults/$20 for children ($23/$18 for Friends of Old Salem). Pre-registration required, call 1-800-441-5305. Historic Workshop: Slip-decorated Pottery Plate November 20 6–9 p.m. Decorate two slip-trailed plates. Slip-trailing was used to decorate many types of Moravian Pottery. Pottery will require firing and will be available for pick up at a later date. $35 ($30 for Friends of Old Salem). Pre-registration required, call 1-800-441-5305. Saturdays with St. Nicholas November 29 and December 6, 13, & 20 10 a.m. to 3 p.m. Bring your family to the Old Salem Historic District and start a new holiday tradition! Enjoy the beautiful historic neighborhood, accented by holiday decorations and special programming for children and the young at heart, including a photo opportunity with St. Nicholas, a new holiday puppet show, storytelling, a delicious treat from Winkler Bakery and more! $7 (ages 2 and up) includes all activities, a souvenir photo and a snack.

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Historic Workshop: Holiday Hearth Cooking Class December 2 6–8 p.m. Cook a winter’s eve supper in front of the fire, $40 ($36 for Friends of Old Salem). Pre-registration required by November 25, call 1-800-441-5305. Swingle Bells Concert December 2 3 & 7:30 p.m. Put a little swing in your Christmas at “Swingle Bells—A Jazzy Christmas,” featuring Martha Bassett, vocalist, and friends. $18 adults, $5 student/child. Purchase tickets at carolinachambersymphony.org. Wednesday Tannenberg Organ Recitals December 3, 10, 17, & 31 Noon Free organ recitals. December 3rd: Scott Carpenter; December 10th: Susan Foster; December 17th: Jonathan Schakel; December 31st: Leon Couch. Christmas Lovefeast at St. Philips December 11 Noon A Christmas Lovefeast will be held to commemorate the first service held in the African Moravian brick church on December 15th, 1861. The Lovefeast will include special Christmas music and the serving of the Lovefeast buns and tea. Free.

Salem Christmas December 13 10 a.m. to 5 p.m. Join us for our annual celebration of Moravian traditions throughout the Historic Town of Salem! The day will feature various activities, including music, hearth-cooking demonstrations, a puppet show, wagon rides and more! At the end of the day, gather in the Gray Auditorium for carol singing & the lighting of the Christmas pyramid. Included with All-In-One ticket, $23 adults/$11 ages 6-16. Friends of Old Salem, free. Soulful Christmas Concert at St. Philips December 13 Noon Celebrate the Christmas season with jazzy, spiritual and Motown-style Christmas songs. With All-In-One ticket, $23 adults/$11, ages 6–16 or a Two-Stop ticket, $15 adults/$7, ages 6–16. Friends of Old Salem, free. Christmas Week at Old Salem December 26-28 and 30-31 (Old Salem is closed on Mondays) Bring holiday guests, friends, and family and enjoy the sights, sounds, and smells of the holiday season. Post Christmas Holiday Sales will be going on in stores. Peter and the Wolf December 27 11 a.m., 1 p.m., 3 p.m. Featuring the Carolina Symphony Players performing this beloved children’s classic. $10 adults and $5 students and children. Purchase tickets at carolinachambersymphony.org.

Holidays at old salem Experience authentic history, fresh-baked treats, unique holiday gifts, seasonal concerts, and the holiday spirit.

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November 8 shops at old salem holiday open house – music, food, shopping, and more Beginning November 14 candlelight tours – with music, games, food, and drink November 29 – December 20 saturdays with st. nicholas – family activities and a visit with St. Nicholas December 13 salem christmas – A full day of hands-on activities and holiday fun! visit old salem or shop online for unique holiday gifts

For a full list of events, classes, concerts, and hotel packages, visit oldsalem.org or call 336-721-735o

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Fictional Characters Leave a Lasting Impression By Lisa S.T. Doss t is true that a lover of books is never alone. He or she only has to open the cover and take a running jump through that first chapter to feel a sense of connection. It's the reason most readers view books as companions. Readers love that feeling of intimacy in holding a book and turning each and every page. Devouring words is a journey of someone's lifeâ&#x20AC;Ś until that fated final word. Reading provides a need to learn about life and oneself, to become inspired, and to meet a unique character who may feel like an old friend. If lucky, those beloved fictional people are revived to live again through a newly written chapter, perhaps, in film, years later. Undoubtedly, a reader's life is filled with enriching people too numerous to count or name.

The first impression begins in infancy when a child attaches emotions as strong as a living person to a stuffed animal or doll; however, an iconic character who comes magically to life in film or television passes important life lessons through actions, words, and feelings. Sweet and cuddly Pooh Bear, for example, full of stuff and fluff and love captivates babies and toddlers with his interest in grand adventures with a diversified number of friends. The Hundred Acre Woods is a nurturing world in which children are charmed by its numerous influences of make believe, and find comfort in stepping forward to explore new, interesting characters.

Once readers emerge into the world of literature, magic and imagination continue to be important themes. Young readers will willingly accompany Wendy and Peter Pan on their flight to Neverland or fall in love with either Peter, Susan, Edmond, or Lucy as kings and queens of Narnia. Comic book buffs find intrigue and valor in those masked crusaders who fight justice and save another day. Each of us has a fictional name in mind, who first inspired that love of adventure, mystery, or humor. Imagine how different the world would be without Stan Lee or Walt Disney's cast of influential animated and human characters. Through film, many of our childhood friends were given a living body and a voice. Add in a catchy tune and there may be a desire to sing a theme song or a tune from Mary Poppins, or the Muppets, for instance. Today, the lines in literature are no longer emphasized. Thanks to the intriguing world of Harry Potter, a broader age group is reading young adult literature with great enthusiasm. It's always interesting when colleagues, spouses, older members of family, and teens bond together by reading the day's most popular young adult series. Fictional names like Percy Jackson, Katniss Everdeen, and Beatrice "Tris" Prior are bringing families together through literary discussions and movie nights. How many stories are relatively the same? Boy meets girl, the story of one's life, the need to save the world, a protagonist in trouble, or a citizen stands to make a difference. It becomes a premise of popularity, but the names of particular characters stand out and live in our hearts. We find compassion, understanding, or curiosity in those characters who live beyond the pages. For different reasons, readers remembers the noble Atticus Finch; the passionate Elizabeth Bennett and the mysterious Mr. Darcy; the loyal Samwise Gamgee, the complexity of Sherlock Holmes' mind, and the list continues... While many of us proudly own several literary Tshirts, visit film sets, or join fan based websites, avid readers or movie buffs find ways to celebrate beloved fictional characters. By turning to the first page, fans can be caught by the emotion of the setting, amazed by serious and difficult events, and stand in the shoes of the protagonist time and again. If lucky, adults can experience the joy of introducing his or her old favorites to this new generation. With so many titles and wonderful names to consider, why not chose a story within a story? "... a tale of true love and high adventure, pirates, a princess, giants, miracles, fencing, and rodents of unusual size." Yes, you know the story!

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Celebrations! Sandra Henderson Photography

Welcome Charleigh Elizabeth to the Stewart family!

Happy 13th Birthday Addison Webster! Love, Mom, Dad, and Stella

Let the good times roll! Happy 70th Birthday Mary Wood! Love, your Family

Congratulations to Judge Ron Spivey! Serving nearly 30 years in the Forsyth County Hall of Justice, he is stepping down from the bench. We love you and are all so proud of you - we look forward to the next phase as you prepare to Mediate & Arbitrate.

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Top Ten List of Practical Reasons to Work Out Please welcome guest author, and my friend and client, Jennifer Redd-Lovette, to Forsyth Family Magazine this month. Jennifer was courageous enough to share her personal story of reclaimed health and wellness with readers a few months ago and she’s back with a fun and relatable “Top Ten List.” Take a moment to enjoy and be encouraged. ~ Kelly Lewis, CPT By Jennifer Redd-Lovette veryone knows the obvious benefits of working out: weight loss, improved heart health, longer lifespan, greater mental clarity, just to name a few. We’re reminded daily through those pesky television commercials intermingled with our favorite television shows, via online advertisements that pepper our Facebook Feeds, during annual (ahem!) visits to our physician and on vacation treks to the beach, where fantastic looking bodies are on full display. All of these reminders are

great, but not necessarily chock-full of motivation to actually get us off the couch to exercise. That’s about to change! C3 Fitness would like to present their first annual Top Ten List of Practical Reasons to Work Out, an idea shamelessly stolen from David Letterman. Our list includes benefits that showcase how weight loss, improved agility and balance, increased cardiovascular fitness and added strength can lead to an improved quality of life.

Drum Roll Please... 1.Ability to effortlessly jump up onto your break room counter sans chair or stepping stool to grab the last box of Coffee Mate Hazelnut Creamer from the far corner of the highest shelf, thus preventing mass chaos before lunch. 2.Development of biceps strong enough to carry a case of your favorite bottled beverage in each hand in from the car, ensuring a punctual start to your world-famous Super Bowl Party. 3.Having the “back” to buy more than one item in bulk at Costco. 4.Being able to rely on a fallback job option: substituting as a P.E. teacher for elementary grades, giving you the opportunity to showcase your flawless jumping-jacks, push-ups, and sit-ups to rambunctious cheers and applause. 5.An increased appetite that gives you a fighting chance to win the pie-eating contest at the Dixie Classic Fair PLUS the ability to run the calories off with a quick 5K race the following day.

7.Not being recognized at your 30th high school reunion for all the right reasons. 8.Having the quad and hamstring strength to successfully stop your rescued Lab-Shepherd mix from singlehandedly digging up the entire 7th green of the Reynolds Course at Tanglewood while trying to retrieve an errant tee shot. 9.Being able to order your favorite lunch salad (Walnut Gorgonzola Chicken Cranberry) from a neighborhood eating establishment and literally being able to “run and pick it up.” 10. Being able to exclaim “You think this is heavy??” at the breakfast table after effortlessly picking up your middle-school student’s book bag and slinging it over your shoulder.

6.Having the option to share your teenager’s wardrobe, giving you the distinction of looking stylish and embarrassing them in one fell swoop.

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Honda of Winston-Salem Give a gift of performance and freedom with a bike from Honda! A beginner's bike should still be fun to ride, and the CRF50F is a blast. Powered by a smooth, easy-to-control 49cc fourstroke engine, it’s built Honda tough, too. Visit Honda of Winston-Salem to learn more! See Our Ad on page 29.

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his September, Financial Pathways of the Piedmont (FPP) (formerly Consumer Credit Counseling Service of Forsyth) won the state’s highest nonprofit honor from the N.C. Center for Nonprofits for adding a new service and a new clientele. Financial Pathways is now offering Representative Payee Program (RPP) services for recipients of Social Security (SSA) disability benefits. The award is for nonprofits which show outstanding stewardship of a community’s trust and resources.

“Financial Pathways helps people keep their personal finances sound, but it also makes sure the community’s resources are used very carefully,” said Jane Kendall, President of the N.C. Center for Nonprofits. Social Security administrators and other funders have praised FPP’s actions and called it a nearly ideal solution to a potential gap in service. The award was made in part because of the rapid, responsive way FPP created the program when Winston-Salem’s Enrichment Center decided to end its Payee services. FPP’s mission of building financial stability, combined with a staff of trained certified financial professionals, made it a great fit as a RPP agency. Since January, the program has enrolled nearly 300 clients from five nearby counties and continues to accept new applicants. Under the program, Financial Pathways accepts SSA payments and manages money for disabled individuals who cannot manage their own finances. These clients have precarious living situations, behavioral health issues, substance abuse, and/or developmental disabilities. They are vulnerable not only to their own inability to manage money, but to exploitation by family members, neighbors, and others. The program can also ease the burden of loving family members struggling to manage the money of relatives in their care. Social service agencies nationally cite Rep Payee services as essential in preventing homelessness among those who suffer with behavioral health issues. “With this program, we can be part of Forsyth County’s commitment to end chronic homelessness in ten years,” said FPP President Peter Laroche. 80 • forsythfamilymagazine.com

FPP staff have embraced serving the new clients. They help clients make budgets, pay monthly bills, use remaining funds wisely and also assist clients with benefits, such as food stamps, Medicaid and housing. “I’ve seen clients just glow when I explain the details in a way they can understand,” one FPP counselor said. “After all, as an organization, we’re experienced at treating people respectfully when they have financial struggles.” FPP has served residents in Forsyth and surrounding counties for 43 years with free or low-cost guidance to •Alleviate debt; •Improve access to affordable credit; •Use banks wisely; •Budget and save; •Buy first homes and succeed at home ownership; •Avoid foreclosure and other financial crises; •Provide special money management services for seniors to help them stay independent. FPP is a United Way Agency, a member of the Better Business Bureau, and Forsyth County’s only HUD-approved housing counseling agency. People of all ages and incomes can enroll in FPP programs by calling (336) 896-1191, or visiting the web page at financialpaths.org.

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By Meghan E.W. Corbett

he Make-A-Wish Foundation has touched the lives of millions of people—those suffering from life-threatening diseases and their families and friends, as well as those who have simply heard their stories of hope and inspiration. This selfless organization has made dreams come true for countless individuals through hard work, determination and the support of people worldwide, both intellectually and financially. One of the most fun, local fundraising events is almost here, so get ready to walk through the gorgeous holiday lights at Tanglewood during the annual Walk For Wishes.

“Walk For Wishes is a nationwide event most chapters of Make-A-Wish participate in,” said Amy Brindley, CEO and President Make-A-Wish Central and Western North Carolina. “It is a non-competitive 5K that encourages wish families, volunteers and donors to come out, meet each other and have a fun day, all while raising funds to help grant more wishes. I got involved with Make-A-Wish after more than nine years working with various children’s non-

profits and fundraising efforts. I saw MakeA-Wish as a way to serve all of the families I worked with, while giving them a tangible and life-changing experience at a time when they needed it most.” The walk is a shortened version of the Tanglewood Festival of Lights route, so it is perfect for people of all ages. It also allows participants to get an up-close look at the lights, while enjoying the crisp November air! But, most importantly, it raises awareness about the needs of all the children Make-A-Wish hopes to serve. “This event brings us great exposure in the community and raises vital funds needed to

help grant wishes,” said Brindley. “This year we are hoping to have the community celebrate our mission and help raise funds to keep granting more wishes. The average cost of a wish is $6,000, and we are looking to grant 260 wishes this year. Roughly 40% of those wishes are based in the Triad community alone.” While the walk is not strenuous, there are still those who wish they could participate and can’t, due to physical reasons or scheduling conflicts, but there is still a way to get involved! Those unable to participate in the walk “…can sign up as a virtual walker, or make a donation to a

Erica’s Story

as told by her mother, Kathy Fore n May of 2010, at the age of eight, Erica was diagnosed with a brain tumor. She was having vision problems, which finally led to an MRI and the diagnosis. Erica’s tumor is located in the mid-brain and cannot be removed. She began a year and a half of chemotherapy, but Erica never complained; she was proud of her bald head.

I team, or a general donation to Make-A-Wish,” said Brindley. “Also, we are always looking for volunteers. People interested in becoming a volunteer can start the process at http://nc.wish.org/ways-tohelp/volunteering/become-a-volunteer. Volunteers can help in a variety of ways. They can become wish granters, which are the people that actually go out and meet with the wish families and work with the wish kids to determine their one true wish. We also look for people that will help around the office and help translate.” Before getting involved, it is a great idea to familiarize yourself with the Make-A-Wish Foundation, what it stands for, and whom it aims to help. “There is a huge misconception that we only help terminal kids and that we are a national non-profit,” said Brindley. “Both are incorrect. We grant the wishes of children with life-threatening medical conditions, not just terminal ones. About half of our wish kids successfully go through treatment and go on to lead happy, healthy lives. We are also a local nonprofit and serve the families in the 51 counties of Western and Central North Carolina. All of the money we raise in those counties stays in those counties. We do have a national office that helps set brand standards and with chapter support. We are our own 501-C(3) non-profit organization and operate independently.” This November, please help support this remarkable organization, while enjoying one of the most beautiful holiday traditions in the Triad at the Walk For Wishes! The 2014 Walk For Wishes is November 16th at Tanglewood Park in Clemmons. Registration begins at 4:30 p.m., and the walk begins at 6 p.m. For more information, visit the Walk For Wishes website at walkforwishesnc.org, the chapter’s website at nc.wish.org, or call 336.778.2522.

Erica is very much a girly-girl. She loves to be pampered. I contacted Make-A-Wish a few months after she began treatment. Erica’s wish—going to a spa. Make-AWish provided our family with a trip to Orlando, so Erica could spend a day at the Bippity Boppity Boutique at Disney World and a fun-filled week at the theme parks. Erica was a princess for a day, Snow White to be exact. Her dream had come true. My two sons were made to feel just as special, too. Having a child with a life-threatening illness is very hard on siblings. As a parent, I felt that to see my children truly happy was priceless. Make-A-Wish gave us this priceless gift. What Make-A-Wish did was provide my family with memories we will cherish for a lifetime. For one week, there were no worries—no worries of treatment, no worries of “How are we going to pay for this?” We were treated with such love and compassion from the moment the limousine picked us up until the moment we arrived home.

I want my children to understand the true meaning of giving. This year, I formed a team for the Walk for Wishes in Erica’s honor, so, in some way, we could help another child, another family, experience what we were able to. Erica is now twelve. Her brain tumor is still there, and treatment will be a part of her life. She endured more chemotherapy and brain surgery earlier this year. We are blessed that we, including Erica, are able to walk this year. We will forever be grateful to MakeA-Wish. November Issue 2014 • 83

hand-crafted art fair: Crafty for a Cause, Nov. 8th By Kristi Johnson Marion

n the morning of Saturday, November 8th, the rooms and halls of Redeemer Presbyterian Church will be bustling with artists, crafters and shoppers eager to find locally made gifts and works of art at the 4th Annual Bloom Hand-crafted Art Fair.

Local Artists & Crafters Exhibiting More and more people are supporting real artists in their communities by sponsoring the arts and buying quality handmade goods. More than 40 artists and craftsmen will be on site at Bloom, offering demonstrations and displays of their work. Shoppers eager to get a jump on holiday shopping will enjoy finding local artisans displaying candles, soaps, brilliant watercolors, acrylic paintings, handmade jewelry, custom-blended teas, landscape and portrait photographs, hand-lettered stationary, fabric arts, dolls, knitting, quilting, yummy baked goods and other unique handmade items, such as handprinted mirrors. There will also be a raffle of items donated by each artist that directly benefits an annually selected charity. Crafting for a Cause Now in its fourth year, Bloom was founded by members of Redeemer Church to showcase the many talented artists and craftspeople within its congregation, as well as other artists in the Winston-Salem community. Initially, Bloom funds provided building and medical aid to the displaced Ixil people of Guatemala. Since then, the event has highlighted and benefited different local charities. Last year, the featured charity was Arts for Life; this year, it is Youth in Transition. 84 • forsythfamilymagazine.com

Youth in Transition Youth in Transition is a non-profit organization that ensures that young adults gain the support and life skills necessary for a successful transition from foster care to adulthood. Representatives from Youth in Transition will be on site to answer questions, take donations and register guests interested in mentoring young adults in, and fresh out of, foster care. “Many of the young adults coming through foster care have never been exposed to the arts,” said Youth in Transition Executive Director, Alex Hudson. “Bloom is a wonderful way to broaden their horizons. Learning a healthy outlet to process the ‘stuff of life,’ making relationships with people outside their normal circle, or even learning a different way to generate income, are all potential impacts. Youth aging out of foster care find many closed doors. Being a community partner—by simply providing advice, becoming a mentor, offering a service, or giving a financial gift—can change someone’s life by opening a door. “My hope is to open as many doors as possible, giving the young adults choices on which ones they want to walk through,” explained Hudson. Bloom participants will also have an opportunity to learn about, and help, Redeemer’s work with the Ixil people of Guatemala. Be sure to note in your calendar the Bloom Hand-Crafted Art Fair, Saturday, November 8th, 2014, 9 a.m.–3 p.m., at Redeemer Presbyterian Church, 1046 Miller St., Winston-Salem, NC. Further information at https://www.facebook.com/BloomHandcraftedArt. Regarding Youth in Transition, visit www.youthintransition.org.

Calendar November 2014 Operation Christmas Child NOW thru NOVEMBER 24 Everyone is encouraged to fill an empty shoe box with school supplies, toys, hygiene items, candy and even a personal note or photograph of you and your family to help brighten the life of an underprivileged child this Christmas season! Several drop-off locations are available throughout the triad. Collection week is November 17-24. Operation Christmas Child is a project of Samaritan's Purse 800.353.5949 / samaritanspurse.org Gingerbread Craft Fair NOVEMBER 6-8 Location: South Fork Recreation Center (Winston-Salem) Arts, Crafts, Baked Goods & more! Proceeds: American Heart Association Everyone is encouraged to bring a non-perishable food item for Crisis Control Ministries 336.655.6774 Kerri Roberts NOVEMBER 7, 7:00pm Location: Wesley Memorial United Methodist Church (High Point) Presented by Laurel University 336.887.3000 Free Dental Clinic NOVEMBER 13-15 Location: Winston-Salem Fairgrounds (Winston-Salem) Services include: Teeth Cleaning, Fillings, Extractions, Partial Denture Construction Sponsored by the NC Dental Society Missions of Mercy 919.234.4037 Women Of Faith Conference NOVEMBER 14-15 Location: Bojangles Coliseum (Charlotte) Guest Speakers: Patsy Clairmont, Anita Renfroe, Lisa Harper & others! Musical Guests: Matthew West & Gateway Worship 888.493.2484 / womenoffaith.com Greek Bake Sale NOVEMBER 15, 8:30am - 7:30pm Location: Greek Orthodox Church (Winston-Salem) Proceeds: Local & National Charities 336.765.3663

Casting Crowns NOVEMBER 18, 6:00pm Location: Greensboro Coliseum (Greensboro) Special Guests: Mandisa & Sidewalk Prophets Tickets: $25.00 & $40.00 800.745.3000 / premierproductions.com LeCrae NOVEMBER 20, 7:00pm Location: Greensboro Coliseum (Greensboro) Special Guest: Andy Mineo Tickets: $26.00 & $40.00 800.745.3000 / premierproductions.com Thomasville Christmas Parade NOVEMBER 22, 3:00pm Location: Downtown Thomasville 336.472.4422 Mocksville Christmas Parade NOVEMBER 22, 2:00pm Location: Downtown Mocksville 336.751.3304 Tanglewood Festival of Lights NOVEMBER 22 - JANUARY 1, 6-11pm Location: Tanglewood Park (Clemmons) Tanglewood’s Festival of Lights continues to be one of the largest and most spectacular light shows in the southeast. From storybook scenes to Holiday themes, over one hundred displays and over a million lights fill Tanglewood Park with the splendor and joy of the holiday season! 336.703.6400 High Point Holiday Festival Parade NOVEMBER 23, 3:00pm Location: Downtown High Point 336.378.6350 WBFJ Local Flavors "Acoustic Christmas" Concert Series NOVEMBER 25, 7-9pm Location: Food Court @ Hanes Mall (Winston-Salem) Musical Guests: TBD The WBFJ Local Flavors "Acoustic Christmas" Concert Series every Tuesday, Nov 25-Dec 16 It's Free / 336.777-1893

You Can’t Judge a Book by Its Reader By Tami Rumfelt Good to Great is a strategic management book that came out several years ago. Its principles have been put into practice by thousands of business leaders around the world. To this day, it’s hard to make it through any business presentation, book or podcast without hearing the book quoted at least a few dozen times. And, I hate that book. Or, at least, I used to. I haven’t read Good to Great. As far as I know, there’s nothing in the book with which I disagree or that I find offensive. However, I have harbored a deep resentment toward that book and its author for many years because of a bad experience I had with a boss who, in my opinion, misapplied the book’s principles. In an effort to take his company from Good to Great by strictly adhering to the book’s philosophy, he kicked many long-time and loyal staff members “off the bus,” so to speak. I blamed the book. But, in hindsight, I can see that perhaps the book wasn’t the problem. Maybe, it was the reader. Based on its notoriety, it is quite likely that Good to Great is filled with useful, practical ways to lead a company into greatness. It’s also quite likely that there are plenty of managers who have misunderstood or misapplied the author’s principles.There’s another book that is often poorly represented by the people who’ve read it. I’m sure I’m not the only one who has been insulted or mistreated by someone who backed up their self-righteousness with Scripture from the Bible. If you’ve been hurt in this way, I’m so sorry. Let me assure you that the author’s intent was not for His words to be used in that way. As a matter of fact, the Bible’s ultimate message is one of hope, redemption and pure love. I’m praying that you’ll find a way to look past the bad experiences you’ve had with its readers and give the Bible another chance. After all, you can’t judge a book by its reader. If you need help choosing a Bible to read or some guidance as you get started reading it, let me know! You can reach me by email at tami@wbfj.org.

Musing About… The Theological Bookcase By Tim Roberts - Pastor of Sunrise United Methodist Church in Lewisville t was supposed to be a simple project; I mean, how hard can it be to put together a four-shelf bookcase? A bookcase...a top, a bottom, two sides, a back and three shelves. It shouldn’t take more than thirty minutes, right? Well, that’s what I thought until I opened the box and poured out the contents, and they kept coming out. I thought maybe I picked up the wrong box, because surely this heap of sections of pasteboard and bags of hardware was for some monstrosity that I was illprepared to construct. But I decided that maybe the task just looked larger than life, so I began searching for that special piece of paper—the assembly guide. I about panicked as I scrounged the boards, looking for that mystical and elusive set of instructions. That precious piece of paper was missing, which left me with a mound of what seemed to be useless pieces of wood. I was about to finally accept this as a defeat for this weekend home warrior and put the contents back in the box and return it to the store, when I decided to try one more thing—lay the pieces out in some sort of an arrangement. This endeavor would take the full breadth and span of the room, but I organized each piece according to its size. That’s when I experienced one of those “AhHah” moments—I could see that there were two long pieces, which had to mean that those were the two sides. Then, as I gazed over the remaining pieces, I discovered that five pieces looked very similar, with three of them being identical. It now occurred to me that these were the top, bottom and shelves. With great patience and inspection, I began to envision

how each of the pieces could fit together and form my now not-so-elusive piece of furniture. Biting my tongue a bit, I dove into constructing and assembling the bookcase, piece-by-piece, reasoning out how each section would fit together with the next. There were some strange-looking pieces of hardware, but I had used similar ones before, so I was sure they would function much the same. As the scattered pieces were fitted and fastened together, there were moments where I had to do a bit of deconstructing, so that I could rearrange a certain piece or add in another component that I had overlooked. Finally, there was one section left and a whole slew of small finishing nails and it was just the back, a mere cosmetic component at best. I became quite proud of my accomplishment as a fine example of my sheer determination not to give up. I set the bookcase up and stood back to marvel at my achievement. It was quite a sight to behold. I though I might sell tickets, so that others could gaze upon its beauty. Then it happened—it began to lean a bit. Not too much a first, just enough for me to notice. I cocked my head to one side in a moment of puzzlement. Then the bookcase began to list a bit more and started uttering a frightful creaking noise. My moment of euphoria quickly turned to terror as I began envisioning pieces of pasteboard splintering and morphing into a conglomeration of truly useless pieces of wood. Dashing forward, I grabbed the leaning tower of bookcase just before it completely fell and broke into unusable fragments. Then it occurred to me. I still

needed to affix the back to the case. That one piece of laminated cardboard would give the much-need strength and stability to all the other pieces. After applying the final section, the bookcase was complete and had the structural integrity to support the many books and knick-knacks for which it was purchased. This experience provided me a moment of serendipity on a spiritual level, too. I began to see that constructing this bookcase was like trying to figure out a theological problem sometimes. There are moments when we are presented with a challenge to which we would prefer to look to someone else for the advice on how to respond, but there is no one to ask. So, we have to start thinking through all the possibilities and reasoning out what would work. Sometimes we draw from our experiences to help us construct our response. Then, when we think we have the problem solved, we need to ensure that it is backed up well; in other words, does the answer have a biblical backing to give it strength and integrity? Without that crucial element, the solution is doomed to failure. Maybe you are wondering about my bookcase. After all, it was several years ago when I submersed myself into solving that daunting construction project. Well, I can say that after many years of continual use, the bookcase is still just as strong as the day I assembled it. So are all those theological conundrums with which I have wrestled over the years. Godspeed,

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of Donating or Adopting Frozen Embryos By Lisa S.T. Doss

ome stories begin with a couple’s desire to know why they cannot conceive naturally. After months and years of disappointment or loss, the miracle of human life, the dream of a beautiful child, is possible through great advancements in technology and fertility medication. When women undergo In Vitro Fertilization, it is the great hope that fertilized eggs will develop into healthy blastocysts. And a high percentage of women these days are successfully becoming pregnant and delivering a single baby, twins, or, on rare occasions, triplets. There is also one new aspect to wanting a biological child. Although the percentage is low, some women are able to freeze their blastocysts for future use, while others, feeling the need to give their viable embryos a chance at life, are able to allow another couple to adopt.

needed the miracle of fertility technology; therefore, it felt logical to give the gift of life. In September 2013, Kevin and I filled out legal paperwork, and wrote clear specific directions for our fertility clinic. Like an adoption agency, a fertility clinic will follow requests to ensure that the family adopting the embryos is a match. The news came in less than one year, our embryos had been adopted! Unfortunately, a woman who felt blessed to be pregnant would ultimately miscarry. I wished I had known at the time of implantation. Kevin and I would have prayed for this woman and the survival of those embryos. I felt connected to her. I stood in her shoes as a woman who deeply wanted a child and mourned the loss.

A week after implantation, I knew we were successful, and I guessed twins. My pregnancy was challenged by the loss of a twin, a five week hospitalization on bed rest, and my son's admittance into the NICU. At 40, my doctor recommended that I not chance another pregnancy.

Although adopting frozen embryos is a unique option for parents, there are wonderful stories of success occurring in every state, every day. Women whose own eggs may not be viable can still become pregnant with the choice to adopt embryos. The name of one of them was Susan. At 39 years old, she married a man who didn’t have children. While In Vitro Fertilization was not a viable option due to her egg quality, her clinic recommended she consider adopting frozen embryos. Susan writes, “Looking back, I feel my success was because of my health and having gone through pregnancy in my 20s. We were on a donation list with two other couples. Eleven embryos were divided, and we were granted four. The implantation happened when I was 46 years old. Our daughter, now seven, is a perfectly healthy child. She favors our family with her blond hair and fair complexion. I know she has siblings out there who are triplets. I don’t know what the future holds, but we are open to the adventure.”

I spent months believing I had to be the carrier of those other two frozen embryos. There is light and clarity in the belief that God does answer prayers. Revelation prompted a need to give our unborn children a chance at life. There are so many couples out there, like us, who

While unique, embryo donation and adoption is a new adoption choice. It allows a family to begin the adoption journey nine months earlier with pregnancy and childbirth. There are thousands of embryos awaiting adoption and “life-giving love.”

It may be easy to think, “Why would anyone not use their own embryos?” Personally, I can answer that question...now. In 2012, three months after a sorrowful miscarriage, my husband and I chanced IVF for the last time. Days after egg retrieval, I can recall sitting in a conference room, anxious to discuss the status of our fertilized embryos. The words “four healthy blastocysts” arrived as overwhelming news. This turn of events made us feel an obligation, a need, to bring those frozen embryos to life. I felt responsible, knowing they were our unborn children.

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The Northwest Middle School

Backpack Program By Rebecca Olsen

or some students, the start of school offers a welcome relief from the boredom of summer; for others, it offers relief from something more serious— hunger. While most of us don’t stop to think where our next meal will come from, the Food Research and Action Center reports that 35% of families in Winston-Salem and surrounding areas are struggling to get meals onto the table. That translates to one in four children facing food insecurity and at risk for hunger. Schools like Northwest Middle School, where 69% of students receive free and reduced lunch, experience the effects of childhood hunger on a personal level. While Monday through Friday eligible children receive two solid meals a day at school, over the weekend this steady source of nutrition isn’t available. Proper nutrition is critical for children to be able to meet the physical and academic challenges of school. Lack of a consistent access to healthy food can be detrimental to anyone, but is particularly devastating to children whose bodies are still in development. The consequences of not receiving the proper nutrients to support physical, mental, and emotional development can be long-term, and even permanent. Mrs. Grossheim, a sixth-grade math teacher, notes that, “If students are hungry they are unable to focus in the classroom. They also become frustrated and irritable very easily. If students are hungry they are unable to focus in the classroom. They also become frustrated and irritable very easily. If students are hungry, they are unable to focus in the classroom. They also become frustrated and irritable very easily.” Other effects of hunger can include excessive tiredness, stunted growth, poor oral health, anxiety, aggression, stomach problems and low academic performance.

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orders the food at a reduced cost (around $5 a book bag) and volunteers at Beck’s Baptist Church pick up the food quarterly, distribute it into individual backpacks, and deliver it to Northwest each Friday. Students don’t have to be eligible to receive free and reduced lunch to receive a backpack. Teachers who see signs of hunger can refer any child to the program. As one student said, “The backpack program has helped me a lot. Sometimes I don’t have something to eat or something to drink, maybe sometimes on the way home. I eat some of the food on the bus or eat the food when I am hungry, so the program helps me out at home and school.” Although each backpack sent home is designed to feed only one student, families are impacted as well. Another student commented, “I am thankful for the backpack program because it helps my family, especially my baby sister. That she likes the milk.” Mrs. Morrison, a Computer and Technology teacher at the school, recounts an experience last year, “I was called to the guidance office, where I was introduced to a mother who was enrolling her children. She was crying, because her husband had just lost his job. Her family had to move in with her sister, which meant her children had to change schools. When she finished her story, I explained the backpack program to her. After giving her a permission form for her son, she began to cry again, but this time while smiling. I asked if I could give her a hug. She grabbed me and hung on, all the while thanking me.” While around half of the elementary schools in Forsyth County have Backpack Programs, Northwest is one of only four middle schools to participate.

Generally these programs have corporate or church sponsors; however, at Northwest, teachers have worked diligently to generate funds, through concession sales and other faculty-sponsored fundraisers, to raise the $10,000 needed to feed fifty kids throughout the school year. It’s been a struggle, but these teachers are dedicated to ensuring that those most vulnerable to hunger have a chance to be successful in the classroom and beyond. You can find out more about Backpack Programs in the Forsyth area by logging on to http://forsythbackpackprogram.org/ or, to support the Northwest Backpack Program, contact Northwest teacher Tammy Morrison at tjmorrison@wsfcs.k12.nc.us.

Honor & Remember Others

This Holiday Season with Gifts that Give Back

ouldn’t knowing that your holiday gifts are bringing hope and meals to children, seniors and families in need add special meaning to the holiday season? Honor friends, family and associates with a gift that gives back. Give a Gift Outside the Box. Second Harvest Food Bank of Northwest NC’s Gift Outside the Box holiday honor cards come in a cheerful array of designs, created by children making a difference in the fight against hunger. For a requested donation of just $10 per card, Second Harvest Food Bank will hand-address and personalize a card to everyone on your list.

Friends, family, teachers, employees...everyone on your list will receive an enchanting Gift Outside the Box card informing them that a gift has been made by you in their honor. Prefer to send your own cards? Order a pack of 10 assorted cards for $25. Either way, you’ll have the good feeling that comes from knowing that for each $1 you donate, Second Harvest Food Bank can provide the equivalent of seven nutritious meals for people in need in our community.

Here’s how it works: Make your list of names and addresses. When it’s ready, send it, along with a check payable to Second Harvest Food Bank, to 3655 Reed Street, Winston-Salem, NC 27107.

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Manning the Sideline: The Start of Something New in Wake Forest Basketball

To say Demon Deacon Fans are excited would be an understatement. After all, when you’re looking for a coach to build a championship team, who wouldn’t be impressed by these numbers? An NCAA National Championship and Final Four Most Outstanding player (Kansas, 1988), NCAA National Championship Assistant Coach (Kansas, 2008); Olympian (1988); NBA number-one draft pick; twice selected for the NBA All Star team, and induction into the Naismith Memorial College Basketball Hall of Fame (2008) are all indicative of someone who knows how to be successful. 92 • forsythfamilymagazine.com

home on November 24 to take on Nicholls State in the first of four home games in a row, including Mount St Mary's (Nov. 26), Delaware State (Nov. 28) and finally, for the ACC/Big Ten Challenge, they entertain Minnesota (Dec. 2) at LJVM. The Golden Gophers are coached by Richard Pitino, son of Louisville head coach Rick Pitino. The ACC season begins with an early road game at N.C. State on December 6, and then they’re back home with several more nonconference games, including Samford (Dec. 14), Bucknell (Dec. 22) and Princeton (Dec. 31). Then, on January 4th, the 2012–13 NCAA National Champion Louisville comes to “The Joel” for the first time as official Atlantic Coast Conference members. Next, the Deacons continue the remainder of their home schedule, consisting solely of ACC

competition, including Duke (Jan. 7), Georgia Tech (Jan. 10), North Carolina (Jan. 21), Virginia Tech (Jan. 31), NC State (Feb. 3), Miami (Feb. 11), Virginia (Feb. 25), and finishing out their home slate with Pittsburgh on March 1st. Regarding the upcoming season, Coach Manning had this to say, “I’m excited to get the season started. Our schedule features a challenging slate of home games, both inconference and out-of-conference. We have a great group of young men who have worked hard during the preseason. I’m looking forward to seeing their efforts pay off on the court this year, and I hope to see all the Demon Deacon fans come out to the Coliseum to support our team.” This year, Wake Forest Basketball is offering a special Season Ticket Package, starting at just $99 while supplies last. For additional information on ticket options, visit the Wake Forest athletics website at wakeforestsports.com/tickets or call 1-888758-DEAC (3322). Tickets can also be purchased in person at the Wake Forest Ticket Office in Bridger Field House, located beyond the north end zone of BB&T Field. Don’t miss out on your chance to be a part of Tie Die Nation! Get excited... ACC basketball is back! Photo by Brian Westerholt.

ho says you can’t go home again? Wake Forest Demon Deacon fans are sure glad it isn’t true for new Wake Forest head basketball coach Danny Manning. Manning played part of his high school ball at Page High School in Greensboro. His late father, Ed, was a former NBA and ABA player, as well as a college and professional coach, so he comes from a strong basketball pedigree. Success came early on for Manning when his Page High School basketball team went undefeated and won the Class 4A North Carolina State Championship in 1983. His family then moved to Lawrence, Kansas, where he became a legend, first at the University of Kansas and then in the NBA.

Demon Deacon Fans can witness the start of the Manning era at Wake Forest when UNCAsheville comes into Lawrence Joel Coliseum on November 14. Then, after a three-game road trip, the Deacs come back

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By A. Keith Tilley Add to this a Conference-USA Coach of the Year award while leading the University of Tulsa to both a regular season and conference championship in only his second year at the helm in his first headcoaching opportunity, and you can see why high roundball hopes abound for the Old Gold and Black. Both Wake Forest and the ACC are fortunate to have Coach Manning join the league, and his teams are sure to provide plenty of excitement in the years ahead.

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THE TIME IS NOW.

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he passionate giving of members of The Women’s Fund of Winston-Salem has translated a vision to improve the lives of women and girls in our community into positive change. In nine short years, we’ve harnessed the collective giving of over 1,000 women and awarded over $1,000,000 in grants to programs impacting over 3,200 women and girls in our community. Join us on November 19th we celebrate the power of women’s philanthropy, reach our milestone of a million dollars in grantmaking, and award our 2014 grants.

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The Ninth Annual Luncheon of THE WOMEN’S FUND OF WINSTON-SALEM Presented by Wake Forest Baptist Health Wednesday, November 19, 12:00–1:30pm Benton Convention Center, Downtown Winston-Salem Emcee: Wanda Starke, WXII anchor Ticket Price $25 To register for the luncheon or for information about sponsorship opportunities, visit us online at womensfundws.org or contact Sabrina Slade at sabrina.slade@wsfoundation.org or 336-714-3468.

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Isabella By Isabella Migliarese

he Notebook. A box of tissues. Two empty pints of Ben & Jerry’s. This can only mean one thing. Surviving a breakup any time in your life is hard. When you’re young, it’s the end of the world; when you’re older, it scares you, because the thought of spending your life alone is a recurring worry. However, we all know that both aren’t true. Breakups are lessons learned. These are lessons we should let craft their way into our lives, and guide us to find our true self. Breakups make us reevaluate ourselves. Did we do something wrong? Did we smother them? Did we text too much or not enough? Were we cute enough or popular enough? Was someone else a better kisser? No one answers these questions for us, so we are left to doubt our worth and mourn our lost relationship. So we cry sometimes. It’s good to cry it out and address your feelings, rather than keep them bottled up. It helps to rant to a good friend who will give you honest, but not too honest, answers. The faster you can accept what happened, the faster you can move on. There are 7 billion people on this planet, and there is someone else out there for you. And holding a grudge only hurts yourself and keeps your mind from thinking about happier, healthier things, like your next new relationship, or family events, or friends.

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It also helps the recovery process to surround yourself with people who care about you and who will constantly remind you of why you don’t need the past relationship in your life. Staying busy with school, family and friends or maybe even taking up a new hobby or interest can keep your mind occupied and help your heart to heal. Journaling may also help those move forward who like to write about their emotions and experiences, much like ranting to a friend, though journaling has the advantage of our being able to take the journaling pages, crumple them up and burn them, to let it all burn away. And encountering the past boyfriend may be worse than the actual breakdown period. How do you handle that first awkward glance in the school hallway or in the same classroom? Avoiding him forever will be impossible and it is likely that he might be feeling just as awkward as you are. The best course of action could be to try and maintain a friendship, probably not a best-friendship, and acknowledge him in your day to day encounters. This takes lots of self-confidence and maybe forgiveness, depending on the circumstances of the breakup. When it’s time to try dating again, try not to carry unhappy baggage from your recent breakup into a new relationship. Judging a new boyfriend based on the behavior of your former, not so desirable, boyfriend is not fair to your new beau who may be the greatest thing walking—if you only give him a chance. And he might be a better kisser, too.

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