Forsyth Family - October 2014

October 2014

Dr. Anne White

FAITH & FAMILY I AGES & STAGES I DINING GUIDE

I’ve Learned The Qualities Of A Good Judge From My Family, Friends and Colleagues* :LVGRP WR ¿QG WKH WUXWK • Fairness to treat everyone equally • Knowledge to guide my decisions • Experience that one only gains over time

• Patience to get all the facts &RXUDJH WR EH ¿UP EXW IDLU • Principled to do what’s right • Respect for the law and those I serve

I’m Richard Gottlieb and it would be a privilege to serve as your Superior Court Judge. To learn more about me,

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* Rated highest among all Forsyth County candidates in a contested judicial race by the North Carolina Bar Association judicial performance evaluation.

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co ver s tory 49 Dr. Anne White - Carolina Laser & Cosmetic Center

Election 2014 13 14 16 18 20

Richard Gottlieb Ted Kazakos Stacey Rubain John Davenport Lori Clark

Local Businesses 76 Memories in the Making – Nu expression

Health & Wellness 30 32 34 52 98

Happiness N: Prevention is the Best Approach for Youth Know the Facts About Getting the Flu Vaccine A New Day Essentials: Autism, ADHD, and doTerra Essential Oils 10 Tips for Dealing with Picky Eaters

Home Related 54 HBAWS 2014 Fall Parade of Homes 56 New Pyramid Builders

Parenting 24 28 36 38 46 58 84

Smartphones + Teenagers + Sexting : A Big Reason to Worry The Mommy Diaries: Stages and Changes Encouraging our Children What I Want my Daughter to Know About her Value The View From My Section…Lesson from a Legend Small Stories for a Big World 10 Cute Ways to Display Your Kids Art

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ou know fall has arrived when...you start seeing Christmas decorations in the stores. Yes, it’s true; I’ve already seen Christmas out in the stores (keep in mind, this is written in mid- September.) Truth be known, if I had looked a little harder, I might have even seen hints in August. Please just let me enjoy one season at a time though folks! Don’t get me wrong, no one loves Christmas more than me, but let me at least get my annual Dixie Classic Fair experience behind me before I even think about decorating for the holidays! My biggest clue that fall has arrived, however, is, you guessed it, the pumpkin spice doughnut is back! Krispy Kreme, why do you tempt me so?

As if your tried and true original hot glazed were not enough for me year round, I must endure this nagging voice wooing me to Stratford Road every chance I get from now until November! If you have not tried them, maybe you shouldn’t or you too may become addicted to this little delectable fall treat! Don’t say I didn’t warn you!

Many thanks to those who attended and were involved in the “Make-A-Wish” fundraiser that my fearless partner in crime, Keela Johnson, hosted in September. As usual, I am amazed by the generosity of the folks living in our community! Such a terrific organization! Please mark your calendars for the “Walk for Wishes” event coming up on November 15th at the Tanglewood Park Festival of Lights.

The October cover story features Dr. Anne White with Carolina Laser & Cosmetic Center. She can do amazing things to make you look and feel your best! Be sure to note her FREE PicoSure Open House event on October 22nd if you’re looking to learn more about this new tattoo removal technology (see pg. 51). It is a FREE event, but you need to register!

This is another issue cram packed with terrific businesses and events in our area! Folks sure can’t say there is nothing to do this month! I am continually humbled by the support of you, the reader, and our spectacular family of advertising partners! Finally, Happy anniversary Mr. Tim! God has blessed us with another year together…26 and counting! Thanks for being the wonderful, unique man that God created you to be!

Education 74 Powerschool Parent Portal 78 Taking Measure of our Kids

Ages & Stages 60 Potty Training 62 Finding Time for Imagination 64 Taking the Future Seriously

Community 40 Fun Fall Activities 68 Ice Bucket Challenge 72 WSFC School System – A Lifetime Adventure for Robin Martin 80 Old Salem 82 Time Bomb Twins – March of Dimes Ambassadors 86 Out and About in Winston-Salem 96 US Figure Skating

Faith & Family 90 91 92 96

Sacred Trust Synapses Musing About…Clarity Operation Christmas Child

For the Kids 96 98 100 101 104 105 106 106

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The following candidates have chosen to advertise their respective campaigns in Forsyth Family: • Richard Gottlieb (Superior Court Judge)

C A N D I D AT E S

Election 2014

n November 4th, we have the opportunity to let our voices be heard in the General Election. Voting is a privilege denied to many, and for this reason, we should embrace this opportunity. Election time is also a golden opportunity to talk to your children about the roles of different government officials. It is an excellent time to teach them about how important the voting process is in our country.

• Ted Kazakos (District Court Judge) • Stacey Rubain (Superior Court Judge) • John Davenport (School Board) • Lori Clark (School Board)

Please be sure to let your voice be heard and cast your vote for the candidate(s) you feel are best qualified to lead our community!

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RichaRd Gottlieb – CANDIDATE FOR SUPERIOR COURT JUDGE

By Susan Woodall

The Superior Court hears both civil and criminal cases. They handle the most serious criminal matters and civil matters where at least $25,000 is at issue. “I believe Superior Court judges need a broad range of experience to deal with the many diverse cases that come before them,” said Gottlieb.

“The consequences of their decisions have far-reaching impact on those appearing in Superior Court, their families and the community in general. I bring at least two important qualities to this position. First, I bring four decades worth of connection and experience with this community. I was born

Serving his community in many different ways is very important to candidate Gottlieb. His leadership roles in the Forsyth County Bar Association (Past-president and Chair of the Ethics and Grievance committee), as well as the North Carolina Bar Association (Chair of the NCBA bench and Bar liaison committee), along with other roles, have afforded him the opportunity to work closely with currently sitting and past judges. With his busy professional career, Gottlieb still manages to find time to serve his community in other ways.

“I have come to understand that after my family, many of the activities in my life that I enjoy most and from which I get the most personal satisfaction, are ones that involve volunteering in our community,” said Gottlieb. “I have served on campaign cabinets for the Arts Council of WinstonSalem/Forsyth County and the United Way of Forsyth County.

I am on the Winston-Salem Chamber of Commerce Board of Directors, the Board for the Rotary Club of Winston-Salem and serve on the Board of Trustees for Summit School, where my children (Noah, age 12 and Celia, age 11) attend. I think that public service and community involvement has, ultimately, led to my desire to become a judge.”

Richard Gottlieb, candidate for Superior Court Judge, would appreciate your vote in the November election. For more information, visit the website at www.gottliebforjudge.com.

Election 2014

For Gottlieb, deciding to run for Superior Court Judge was not a spur-of-the-moment decision. “When Judge Wood, whom I greatly admire, announced his plan to retire, I was approached by friends and colleagues in the local Bar who encouraged me to run,” said Gottlieb. “Within a few days, I received the support from attorneys in the District Attorney’s office, on the one hand, and prominent criminal defense attorneys, on the other. I likewise received encouragement from attorneys with plaintiff-oriented cases and from defense attorneys. Being encouraged by all groups who appear in Superior Court was important to me, because I believe it validates my ability to be impartial and fair to all sides. I am certainly very happy in my practice at Kilpatrick, Townsend & Stockton and was not looking to leave, but the diversity of the work and the direct impact I could have on people’s lives is something that appeals to me.”

This support is evidenced by his scores in the judicial performance evaluation. “The North Carolina Bar Association conducts a Judicial Performance Evaluation to evaluate all candidates for Superior and District Court,” said Gottlieb.

“This year, more than 4,000 attorneys from across the state responded to the survey. I was honored to receive not only the highest overall score of the Forsyth Superior Court candidates, earning a 4.76, but I also am the highest-rated of any candidate in a contested judicial race.”

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Richard Gottlieb was born and raised in Winston-Salem; attended Forsyth Country Day School; graduated Phi Beta Kappa from Emory University in Atlanta; and graduated with honors from the University of North Carolina School of Law. These impressive credentials brought him back to WinstonSalem and the law firm of Petree Stockton (now Kilpatrick, Townsend & Stockton). “I practice business litigation law, helping businesses across the country resolve their disputes,” said Gottlieb. “I have appeared in courts throughout North Carolina and across the country.”

and raised in Forsyth County. This county has shaped me, and I share its values, like the importance of family, community service and justice. Now, I am raising my family here, practicing law here, and this is where I serve my community.

Second, I bring leadership and experience to the position.

I am proud of the very broad-based support I have received from virtually every segment of the Bar and across the community.

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t is obvious there is an impending election when you see signs sprouting up in yards all across the county. You see the name and office the person is hoping to get elected to, but do you take the time to really learn about the candidates?

TED K A Z A KO S A CANDIDATE WORKING FOR OUR COMMUNITY

By Carolyn S. Peterson

program at Wake Forest School of Law and have served as a judge for the BLSA trial competition practice there, as well.

I also help to teach annual Basic Law Enforcement Training.

K A Z A K O S T E D

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s a native of Winston-Salem, Assistant District Attorney Ted Kazakos serves our community in the courtroom every day by working to make our County a safe place. “Community safety, citizen education and domestic violence are the issues that have driven my career.

I want our County to be a place where everyone, young and old, feels comfortable and safe in all facets of their daily lives.

And should the need arise for them to come to court, I want people to be at ease, knowing that they will appear before a judge who genuinely cares about their circumstances and will dispense fair justice based on the law and facts that govern their cases. That is the reason that I am seeking the position for the District Court Judge seat created by our General Assembly last year,” said Kazakos. For Ted Kazakos, being a part of the community means knowing those whom he fights on behalf of in the courtroom every day.

Walk the Walk and Talk the Talk “I have logged thousands of hours in the courtroom, translating to countless trials, including trials by jury. I have represented Forsyth County in felony breaking and entering, felony larceny and habitual-assault cases. When I was initially hired as the designated domestic violence prosecutor for Forsyth County, I began visiting the battered women’s shelter and Family Services frequently, joined the Domestic Violence Community Council and began participating in the annual ‘Walk a Mile in Her Shoes’ to benefit the cause. I also became a board member of SCAN (Stop Child Abuse Now).

I am currently tasked with screening habitual domestic violence offenders for felony prosecution. I have also served as the county attorney for interstate child support matters and was recently appointed to the Elder Adult Task Force,” stated Kazakos. “The goals of the Elder Adult Task Force include closely monitoring elder abuse, financial crime and scam cases in order to help seniors maintain their independence,” Kazakos added. But at the foundation of it all, Kazakos believes in educating the community, beginning with the youngest members, on our judicial system and how it works for its citizens.

Nothing Changes Without Education “Education is one of the cornerstones of community safety.

I have taken a leadership role within our office by assuming responsibility for youth education and the hiring and supervising of interns. I have coached homeschool students for a mock trial program, taught continuing legal education to colleagues, and I have spoken to high school civics classes about the court system. I am part of the mentor/mentee

Citizens should know the basics of the law and its limits.

I have recently, with the help of great citizens, developed an informational pamphlet that we plan to make available to residents who find themselves at the magistrate’s office to file criminal charges. Providing such information with references to statutes and helpful contact numbers is just one step toward equipping people with the tools they need before they enter a courtroom,” said Kazakos.

Not only does Ted find himself in court daily helping business owners, victims of assault and children, but his service to our community doesn’t end with his job. “My wife, Maria, and I have two children, Evan, 3, and Konstantine, 20 months. We are very active in the community on a personal level. I am a long-time Sunday school teacher and Bible Bowl coach at my church. I am a parent volunteer at Salem Montessori School and a sponsor for Carolina Chargers Little League. I support a host of charities, including Cancer Services, The Ronald McDonald House, Habitat for Humanity, Family Services and The Children’s Law Center. Through this campaign, I have strengthened my ties to the community and have an increased ability to give back to organizations I value greatly. I, along with my supporters, have participated in annual benefits, such as Athena’s Run for GYN Cancer, the Hospice Hope Run, Big Brothers Big Sisters ‘Bowl for Kid’s Sake’ and the Festival of Tables to benefit SCAN,” Kazakos commented.

As the election nears, Ted Kazakos sees his possible position as District Court Judge clearly. “I am a product of this community and with the support of my parents, teachers, and our community I have been able to achieve success in both my personal and professional life. I recognize the opportunities that Forsyth County has afforded me, and I want others to have the same opportunities to develop and achieve their own goals. I want my children to grow up in a safe environment where they can flourish. I see the issues that our citizens face in court every day, and I want to bring my experience and knowledge of the law to the bench. By treating those who appear before me with respect and patience, I will render well-thought-out judgments, as the law and facts warrant in each case.

There will never be any lack of effort and consideration in discharging the solemn oath that I would take as your judge,” closed Kazakos.

For more information on Ted Kazakos, visit www.tedkazakosforjudge.com

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S TAC EY R UBAI N A BACKGROUND OF STRONG FAMILY VALUES

ARE BEHIND RUN FOR JUDGE

By Carolyn S. Peterson

R U B A I N S TA C E Y

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e all are the products of our childhoods, our families and the values that were instilled in us at a young age. For Stacey Rubain, attorney and partner at Quander & Rubain, P.A., her background from then to now has given her the foundation to build not only her private law practice on, but to seek election to the District 21-A seat on the Superior Court.

You Get Out of Life What You Put Into It As the youngest of four children in the Rubain family, Stacey grew up in Maryland and quickly learned the principle that her parents lived by: “You get out of life what you put into it.”

“First and foremost, my parents instilled in us the importance of hard work and education. They also taught us that you are nothing without your character, and that we should be guided by our morals and values. They instilled these values in us by their example. My father worked at Greyhound for over 30 years, and my mother is retired from the federal government.

But beyond the examples they set for all of us, they taught us through little lessons. For instance, I remember when I was around 7 or eight, our mother got us a summer garden plot.

We lived in the suburbs and so there were no farms around, but my mother found a community garden where you could buy plots. So, several days a week, we would go plant, fertilize and water our garden. As kids, we thought we had much better things to do with our time, and we absolutely hated going to our garden! We thought it was torture, and we would have to be dragged kicking and screaming to the garden. But after several weeks of going, we began to see the fruit of our labor—cucumbers, cabbage and tomatoes. We were so impressed that we were able to grow these vegetables that our trips to the garden plot became something we looked forward to and enjoyed as a family. The older I got, I realized how much that experience taught me—self reliance; to respect and be good to the land; that the land will give to you what you need if you take care of it; and that vegetables just don’t magically appear in the grocery store, but rather it takes hard work to produce things that nourish us,” recalled Stacey.

For Stacey and her siblings, this “tortuous” way to spend a summer taught them that if you work hard in life, you will be rewarded. “I try to live every day of my life by these values, personally and professionally, and I am so thankful that I had parents who raised me right,” Stacey said. But Stacey had some big shoes to fill as the baby of the family…

How Being the Baby of the Family and Playing Sheriff Led to a Career in Law “Being the baby of the family, I always felt I was in competition with my siblings, all who are professionals now—my sister Stephanie is a psychologist, my sister Jennifer is a Dean for the City University of New York system and my brother Steve is a teacher. I loved school from an early age and looked forward to report card day when I could ‘brag’ about how well I did, because it was typically better than my sisters and brother! Along with loving school, I have always had an interest in law and in law enforcement. I can remember being young, maybe age 7, and dressing up in a cowboy hat and putting on a badge, possibly from a Honeycomb cereal box and pretending to be the ‘sheriff’ of our house. Once I got to law school at Wake Forest University, my interest in law flourished and, in my third year, I had the privilege of interning with Don Tisdale, who previously served as Forsyth County District Attorney. Don is like a father to me and has been my most important mentor. He taught me the foundation of everything I know today,” commented Stacey. So, how does Stacey see her role as Superior Court Judge should she get the honor to serve?

A Philosophy and Love of Law and People “I have spent many years trying cases across this State and I believe that I have the legal experience necessary to be a Superior Court Judge. As a Superior Court Judge, I will always remain faithful to the law and respectful of precedent, because as a judge, it is not my responsibility to make law, but rather my job is to apply the existing law to the facts at hand. I am also mindful of the distinction that I would hold if elected Superior Court Judge. I would be the first female Superior Court Judge elected from Forsyth County, and one of a handful of female Superior Court Judges in this State. I look forward to being a role model for younger female attorneys and welcome the opportunity. But more than anything, I look forward to serving a county, a community and a State that has become my home,” Stacey stated.

For more information on Stacey Rubain, visit www.rubainforjudge.com.

The upcoming election is on November 4, 2014.

ELECT Why You Should Vote for Stacey Rubain • J.D., Wake Forest University School of Law, 1999 • 1 of only 117 Board Certified Specialists in North Carolina Criminal Law by the North Carolina State Bar • 15 years experience practicing law • Hundreds of Jury and Bench trials • Strong civil and criminal litigation background • Seasoned Veteran of All Courts

Experience that matters.

Values you can trust.

VOTE November 4th

SUPERIOR COURT JUDGE rubainforjudge.com Why I am Running for Superior Court Judge “Judges make important decisions daily affecting the lives of all citizens. My career has prepared me to serve as a Superior Court Judge. I have practiced law for over 15 years and I appear every day in courtrooms throughout North Carolina. I understand the importance of a fair, efficient and independent judicial system. Citizens deserve qualified judges who will administer justice and protect the integrity of the courts. I possess the experience, temperament, intelligence, and strong work ethic required to be a Superior Court Judge. If I am elected Superior Court Judge, I will respect the rule of law and will provide justice to every party in every case. Please consider voting for me on November 4th.”

Commitment. Experience. Integrity. Qualified.

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J O H N D AV E N P O R T

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rowing up in Forsyth County, John Davenport, Jr., learned the importance of discipline, honor, loyalty and respect for others. His parents, Alene and John Davenport, Sr., modeled and instilled in him the value of hard work and the responsibility of service.

John’s father owned a radio and television repair business on Trade Street in Winston-Salem, while his mother worked in Winston-Salem/Forsyth County schools’ cafeterias and taught preschool at Bethlehem Center. Education was always emphasized in their household, as was the expectation for John to do well in school.

After graduating from East Forsyth High School, John enrolled at North Carolina State University in Raleigh, where he earned a Bachelor of Science degree in Civil Engineering. He landed a summer internship with the NC Department of Transportation his senior year, and accepted a full-time position with them after graduation. During his 10 years at NCDOT, John also completed his Master’s Degree in Engineering at NC A&T State University, where he later served as an adjunct engineering instructor.

In 2002, following in the footsteps of his father, he opened his own business in Winston-Salem: John Davenport Engineering (now known simply as “DAVENPORT”). Over the past 12 years, the firm has expanded to open offices in Asheville, Charlotte, Greensboro, Raleigh and Wilmington, NC, as well as Richmond Virginia, employing 25 people altogether.

Despite his success in the business world, John has not forgotten the values he learned from his parents, and recognizes the importance of paying forward his success.

A big part of DAVENPORT’s mission is to provide support to organizations that help in need.

In 2011, when John was given the chance to interview with the Winston-Salem/Forsyth County School Board to fill a position vacated by the retirement of long-term member Geneva Brown, he jumped at the opportunity to serve his community. Because of such strengths as business experience and knowledge of the budgeting process, John was selected by the Board to fill the vacant seat.

John spent the first half of his term in the trenches, learning the inner-workings of the Board, visiting schools throughout the County, and listening attentively to the concerns of the staff and community. He developed a reputation as someone who always emphasizes teamwork in accomplishing goals.

In 2012, when then Board Chairman Donny Lambeth was elected as the NC House District 75 Representative, the School Board voted John in as Vice-Chairman.

John is proud to be part of a school system that offers an outstanding choice of schools for parents and students.

“The flexibility of our student assignment plan has established a stable school system that puts parents in control of their student’s education,” he points out. “It also allows for us to have some creative magnet schools, offering such programs as STEM (Science, Technology, Engineering and Math) and Arts to all residents.

Always fiscally sensitive, he notes, “WSFC Schools are receiving a lot of attention across the state for their moneysaving efforts in construction. We have completed our bond program under budget. Construction savings have been reinvested into other facility needs, such as technology and security. We have been able to begin the upgrade of our facilities to the latest wireless technology, as well as install much-needed security cameras and entry systems throughout the District.”

One of the key tasks John has been involved in while on the Board was the selection of a new school Superintendent to replace retiring Donald Martin. “I am proud of our selection of Dr. Beverly Emory. I, along with the rest of the Board members, have full confidence that she is uniquely qualified to guide WSFC Schools into the next season,” John says.

Despite these accomplishments, John feels that his work has just begun. “I know we still have unresolved challenges, such as improving reading proficiency and closing the achievement gap. We have continued struggles in the area of funding, classroom discipline, and teacher morale and retention.

These issues are complicated, and will take continued focus.

As I tell people when I am out in the community, there are no easy answers. Difficult tasks require strong and focused leadership. That is what I bring to the Board. As a business leader and parent, I have the necessary background and optimism to face these issues.”

As a deeply entrenched member of the Winston-Salem community, John has had many opportunities to serve in various leadership and oversight roles over the years.

Some of these include the Emergency Management Advisory Committee, the Board of Health, Forsyth Technical Community College Board of Trustees and the Executive Committee of the Winston-Salem Chamber of Commerce.

John and his wife, Nia Davenport, have five children, aged 6–21 years. Their eldest is in college, and the younger four children attend public schools. The Davenports are active members of Winston-Salem First Assembly of God.

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Politics & Kids

Inspiring Future Leaders Right Here at Home

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Election 2014

By Martie Emory

Left to right, Pete Villasmil, Lori Clark, and Andrew Markwalter

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s she gears up for the November 4, 2014, election, Winston-Salem/Forsyth County School Board candidate Lori Clark has added something else to her community wish-list: Inspiring kids to become interested—and active—in politics.

“The sooner we get kids thinking about issues on a bigger scale, the better,” says Lori. “Just like everything else, it starts with one person doing one thing—it teaches the value of service and the importance of volunteers.”

Volunteering has always been a vital part of Lori’s own life, from grade school through college. She currently stays involved as a hands-on parent volunteer at her son’s school, in her church and in the community. She is more convinced than ever that learning and staying engaged makes all the difference in shaping the future.

Happily, she’s seeing the same drive and enthusiasm in some local teenagers who already have a taste for political life.

As Lori worked tirelessly towards last May’s primary with her eye on a school board seat this fall, Lori was delighted to find help from two unlikely sources: Andrew Markwalter, a Paisley Middle School eighth-grader who is now Chairman of the Forsyth County Teenage Republicans (a group open to kids ages 13–18). Andrew enthusiastically assisted Lori as a poll greeter (he handed out her cards to voters), as did Pete Villasmil, an eighth-grader at Meadowlark Middle School who canvassed his own neighborhood and worked the polls on Lori’s behalf on primary day. Having won his own student council presidential election in his elementary school, Lori says she had already seen Pete’s drive towards a political future.

“Kids can do more than they realize,” says Lori. “These two driven young men are definitely ready to take a more active role.”

Lori offers kudos to parents, too, who are encouraging their children’s natural drive and early interest in leadership.

She’s a firm believer that joining special-interest groups early on shows children the importance of working together for a greater good, the value of sharing ideas and the benefits of working towards goals you hope to see realized down the road.

Given her varied and committed volunteer background and interest in her own child’s school, running for a seat on the school board seemed like a natural progression. She’s seen the issues that schools face financially, having interacted with several school systems during her technology sales career, and perceived other constraints that limit outreach programs and learning opportunities. However, Lori says she also sees exciting promise in these future leaders who devoted time and effort to her cause and who have shown an interest in politics! It inspires her to work even harder to make sure that school systems promote an environment that encourages teenagers to volunteer at the local political level and continue learning how they can lend their own unique talents to improving their communities. “After all, we are raising the next elected officials right now!” she says.

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By Denise Heidel hen cameras became commonplace on cell phones, everyone wanted that feature. When texting became available, a whole new method of communication was invented. But when cameras and text messaging collided, a whole new host of worries for parents became a reality.

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of sexting, especially with apps such as the aforementioned Snapchat.

Defense attorney Teresa Stewart shares, “There is no law specific to sexting. However, sexting can, in many cases, fall under both North Carolina and Federal child pornography laws. And these laws make no exception for minors.”

The inception of the smartphone meant that it wasn’t a matter of simple parent controls. We can block texting features and restrict usage, but thanks to smartphone applications, there are all kinds of ways around that little matter. For one thing, a smartphone requires a data package.

So, it’s not as simple as getting your child the phone he or she wants and then just eliminating the primary feature.

Headlines of children being accused of sharing child pornography are appearing more and more frequently, thanks to sexting. Any parent of a teenager needs to warn him or her of this risk. Ms. Stewart offered this scenario as a warning to parents and teenagers, “If two minors send each other erotic pictures, those minors are then guilty of possessing child pornography and, arguably, of disseminating child pornography.

Although under state law this possession could lead to anything from jail to probation, in federal court it’s a likely jail sentence.”

Secondly, you can block text messaging or picture texting through parental controls, but guess what? That doesn’t stop apps like Kik, WhatsApp, or Google Voice from working, including picture sharing.

The one parents should really be worried about is Snapchat.

The Snapchat app allows for photo sharing under the guise that the photos disappear within 10 seconds. However, Snapchat has recently been in a legal pickle when questions about their privacy and security have been raised. And the whole notion that pictures disappear—well, that’s not quite accurate, as 10 seconds is more than enough time to take a screenshot and keep that photo going forever.

Per SnapChat, they will notify the user if a screenshot is taken of their picture, but what good does that do? With the click of a button, a picture can be shared with thousands, if not millions, all in a matter of seconds!

Parents need to be knowledgeable about the content on their children’s phones, and, moreover, they need to be sure they are warning their teenagers of the hidden dangers of smartphones. As a parent, one of the biggest concerns I have with the smartphone technology is the ease 24 • forsythfamilymagazine.com

If that isn’t scary enough, Ms. Stewart elaborates, “In addition, these crimes require mandatory registration as a sex offender. So a fifteenyear-old and a fourteen-year-old who send each other “simple” naked pictures could end up in jail and having to register as a sex offender.

When they show up on the registry, it doesn’t specify that they were merely sexting. They will carry the stigma of “sex offender” for the rest of their lives. And they will be subjected to the requirements and limitations placed on sex offenders, all for a quick thrill of sexting.”

Since most teenagers think they are invincible as to any negative consequence, it’s important that we emphasize and stress this matter as much as possible. When it comes to smartphones, parents need to be in the know. Be familiar with the content, including the apps, on your child’s phone. They may resent you for it and they may accuse you of invading their privacy. But as wonderful as smartphone technology is on the whole, there is an element that is very dangerous, particularly for our teenagers.

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Serving the Underserved Craige Brawley Attorney Brent Stephens Finds Fulfillment in his Work Brent Stephens, Kathy Thompson, Charlie Dave, and attorney Aimee Smith make up part of the special needs trust team at Craige Brawley.

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raige Brawley Liipfert & Walker LLP is the oldest law firm in North Carolina, serving the local communities for over 180 years. Their success has depended primarily on the excellent team of lawyers and staff members that are dedicated to serving the public.

Brent Stephens is one such attorney. Having joined the law firm in 1998, Stephens has enjoyed meeting the needs of families who may be going through a difficult time, by specializing in elder law and administering special needs trusts.

By working in elder law, Stephens often finds himself helping families who are planning for long-term care needs, such as moving a parent into a nursing facility, helping guide clients through questions about Medicare and Medicaid, planning for how a client’s affairs will be handled if they are incapacitated, and planning for how their property will be handled after they pass away.

Stephens also helps families by serving as a trustee for individuals with special needs.

He serves by helping manage and delegate money that has been set aside in trust for children with special needs.

When asked why Stephens chose this field to practice in as a lawyer, his answer was simple: “The elderly and special-needs individuals are a vulnerable and underserved population,” said Stephens. “I enjoy helping individuals, talking to families and clients and helping them reach their goals.”

“I enjoy the work that I do,” said Stephens. “I want to continue working with the seniors and disabled children and their parents. I find fulfillment in my work.

I guess I’m pretty lucky to say that.”

Practicing law isn’t the only thing that brings enjoyment to Stephens’ life. His two sons, Luke and Matthew, play baseball with the Winston-Salem National Little League. Stephens doesn’t just sit in the stands while his sons play, he also serves as a coach. His wife, Susan, also active in the League, participates on the Board of Directors.

When Stephens isn’t working or playing baseball with his sons, he is an advocate for giving back to the community. He serves on the Board of Directors for both the Shepherd’s Center of Greater Winston-Salem and the Associates in Christian Counseling.

“I love Winston-Salem,” said Stephens. “When my wife and I first moved here in ‘98, we didn’t know anyone. It was a leap of faith. But it’s a great city. The first 16 years have been great and hopefully there are many more to come.”

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The Mommy Diaries: Stages and Changes By Emily Eileen Carter

ife is ever-changing, and while there are periods in our lives that seem to go in slow motion, other times seem to zip by at the speed of light. This certainly applies to parenting. The common phrase in parenting, “It goes so fast,” is so very true. In a blink of an eye our little Lucas is wearing 12-month clothes, rolling over, scooting across the floor, sitting up and eating so many fruits and vegetables.

He even wants to hold his own spoon! I have quickly learned as a parent that my little man changes and adjusts much quicker than me, and I am just trying to keep up.

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As a parent, you are constantly adapting, trying to keep up with these changes. I will never forget our pediatrician saying, “It’s a moving target.” Just as soon as you get used to one thing and think you have it down pat, they have already changed, moved on.

While every stage comes with new discovery, ability, fascination and challenges, it also comes with its losses. As Lucas discovers the world scooting and rolling around, it’s less time he wants to spend in my arms, being rocked and cuddled. When he was a little baby and all he wanted to do was to be fed, rocked and comforted twenty-four-seven, I sometimes longed for the days when I could set him down independently. I remember reminding myself to savor those times, even when there was little sleep. I now cherish them and take advantage of any cuddle time I can get.

Lucas’s big milestone during late July was rolling over. Though he had done this sporadically, during earlier months, it was his first big physical milestone. After lots of “Tummy Time” and practice, he had developed enough strength to flip from his back onto his belly, hold his head high and arch his back. He couldn’t get enough of doing this, rocking and squealing in delight.

It blew my mind how it really just seemed to happen overnight, and he was so excited, eager to practice his new skill all the time, especially at night. I was so proud, but I was also anxious. He had been sleeping on his back for six months now, as is pediatrician-recommended to prevent SIDS (Sudden Infant Death Syndrome). Little Man now wanted to sleep on his belly. I was petrified. What if he didn’t turn his head enough to the side? What if he got stuck on his belly and with his face planted into the mattress? I shared these fears with my pediatrician, other mammas, nurses and more. Everyone assured me that if he could roll over, he was fine to sleep on his belly.

Nonetheless, I couldn’t help being worried. To calm my fears, I would go back into his nursery and put him on his back after he fell asleep.

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After some time, I began allowing him to sleep on his stomach, but I continued to check on him every 2–3 hours to make sure he was breathing, adjusting his head and body position. However, this was taking a toll on my nerves and sleep. I really had to coach myself to “Let Go. It will be all right!” Eventually I began to grow more comfortable with his new development, but it bothered me how much this new milestone had rocked my world. He was fine; I was the one with the hang-up here.

I have grown to see that this first big milestone is the first of many transitions, changes and stages to come. As a mom, I might always be a few steps behind, holding on to older ways, adjusting to newer ones.

But I refuse to let my own fears and hang-ups hinder him. I want to strive to support, encourage and build confidence in my little man as he goes through each new stage, development and adventure, even if I am always a few steps behind, trying to catch up.

07-24-14 Dear Baby Lucas, We celebrated your ½ - year birthday—6 m onths— yesterday at the beac h. It’s been fun to pla y with you on our first family vacation—to splash in the pool and in the waves on the be ach. You really love the water!

I can’t believe you we re in my belly less th an six months ago, kickin g and moving, less than 8 pounds. You’ve grow n so big, 18 pounds now and continue to do so man y new things every day. Your big new trick is rollin g over. You are flipp ing from your back to your be lly in the crib, on th e floor, everywhere, and hold ing your head up. Yo u are also grasping objects and chuckling deeply wh en we “get your sugar” behind your ears.

I’m already growing anxious about returni ng to work in 3 weeks. I’ve really enjoyed spending tim e with you this summer. You br ing me such immen se joy! Every time I nurse you each night, I pray for God to protect you and keep you sa fe from harm, and I thank him for the blessing you are in our lives!

Love always, Mom

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Happiness I

By Denise Heidel

n June this year, Reader’s Digest conducted a poll on happiness. What makes us happy? The poll asked people to rank a variety of factors in importance to overall happiness. The conclusion? 71% ranked family as what makes them the happiest. 16% identified faith. 7% chose work. And 6% ranked community.

I conducted an informal poll on my Facebook page. While Reader’s Digest had over 6000 participants for their poll, I don’t have quite that many Facebook friends. I did, however, get a pretty consistent response. 89% of those I polled stated that the number one indicator of happiness was faith. 78% of those I polled ranked family as their 2nd indicator of happiness.

So, it seems that whether you look at my results or Reader’s Digest’s results, the top two indicators of happiness boil down to faith and family.

Every issue of Forsyth Family includes a section on Faith and Family. We know this is an important part of the community and, as such, we talk about them in every magazine. It’s a goal we all strive for…. I know no one who has a goal to be merely “satisfied.” Everyone I know wants one thing: To be happy.

We seek happiness in many forms. Success. Money. Security. Material possessions. Popularity. But at the end of the day, based on two unscientific polls, most people point to one of two things that ultimately make them the happiest. Let’s define them.

Faith: Faith is the strong belief in God or the doctrines of a religion.

Family: A group consisting of parents and children or descendants of a common ancestor.

What is it about these two things that make us happy?

When it comes to faith, my friend Heather said, “Without faith, nothing else matters.” Faith is the foundation for so many moral principals, including the solidarity of family. So, it stands to reason that faith is the priority for many.

Faith serves as the foundation for so much of our lives.

Family serves as a connection. Family gives us roots. It gives us the definition of where we come from, as well as where we may go. I love the commercial for Ancestry.com that shows a little girl tumbling on the lawn with her mother saying, “I don’t know where she gets it,” followed by vintage video footage of circus performers. Our family connects us and common threads tie us to them.

What strikes me as ironic about the two most popular indicators of happiness, though, is my general observation of how little value we, as a society, put on them.

Don’t get me wrong. I’m not judging, because I know I’m guilty, too. I’ve taken my loved ones for granted, and I’ve failed in my faith more times than I care to acknowledge. But if faith and family are the two greatest indicators of happiness, then why are our divorce rates skyrocketing? Why is a common concern among Christians a fear of being mocked and ridiculed?

If the two things that make us happiest the two things we demonstrate the least amount of value in, can you imagine the enormity of our happiness if we took pride in our faith? Or if we never took our families for granted?

It’s something to think about….

Faith. Family. What makes you happy? And what can you do to ensure that your happiness is of paramount importance? Could it be as simple as living out your faith and loving your family?

Could the two most identified indicators of happiness possibly change the world?

What do you think?

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Prevention is the best approach in youth

By: Mark L. Schweppe, MD Sports are great for adolescents and teenagers, especially in today’s environment of video games and cell phones. Most parents are supportive and encourage their children to play sports.

When a young athlete excels at a sport, many parents and coaches become more supportive, and often live by the idea that practice makes perfect—not to mention college scholarships that await the “elite” class of athletes.

This is all good, right? Teens should practice hard to play their best, shouldn’t they?

Yes, they should—but not at the expense of their still-young, developing bodies.

Athletic competition among adolescents and teens has contributed to the recent phenomenon known as “year-round sports.” Sports such as baseball, basketball, soccer and even football, which were once “seasonal,” can now be played almost all year with only limited opportunities for rest.

Participation in intense training programs and year-round sports requiring the repetitive use of bones, joints and muscles can cause injury to the involved extremity. These injuries can manifest as stress fractures or growth-plate injuries. These can be very painful, sidelining a player for extended periods of rest and recovery, and possibly compromising the player’s ability to return to his or her previous form.

As the name implies, growth plates are sections of cartilage near the ends of long bones that are the foundations of bone growth. As a person grows, the cartilage changes into bone. By adulthood, when the bones have reached their full length, the growth plate has fully converted to solid bone.

Although the bones of adolescents and teenagers have not fully formed, they are still attached to strong muscles, tendons and ligaments. Growth plates can be vulnerable to injury when subjected to repetitive stress from these tendons and ligaments. Common examples include “little leaguer’s elbow” and “little leaguer’s shoulder.”

To prevent these injuries, the Little League® has instituted rules, which were updated just this year, on how many pitches players can throw in

one outing and how many days they must rest before pitching again.

(See LittleLeague.org for specifics.) Studies have shown that this approach has significantly reduced pitching injuries.

With rest, a player can recover from an overuse injury, but it is best to avoid one in the first place. The most effective method of prevention is to stay active and in shape by playing different sports, or to take an off-season. Kids are not likely to slow down on their own, so parents must be vigilant about making sure their young athletes adhere to these recommendations.

Recently, youth baseball has received the most attention for overuse injuries, but they can happen in every sport. Dr. William Ward, my practice partner, gives the example of Osgood-Schlatter disease, which is one of the most common causes of knee pain in adolescents. It is a painful inflammation of the patellar (knee cap) tendon where it connects to the tibia (shinbone). It occurs most often in girls and boys ages 11 to 14 and is related to sports that require jumping and sprinting. Examples include basketball, volleyball, soccer, figure skating and gymnastics.

Dr. Ward also mentions a condition called pars stress fracture. This is a lower back injury sometimes seen in young football linemen who spend long hours learning to block. Repeatedly rising up from a low stance to block another player or hit a blocking dummy can overwork the parts of the lumbar vertebrae that “articulate” with other vertebrae. Again, it’s best to prevent the problem by limiting the underlying cause.

I like the analogy that Dr. Ward uses to illustrate the advantage of playing different sports: “It’s like eating a well-balanced diet. If you don’t, you’re more likely to get into some kind of nutritional deficiency. The same is true of young people and sports. Their growing bones need a well-balanced exercise plan.”

Dr. Mark L. Schweppe is board eligible in orthopedics and recently completed a sports medicine fellowship at the Steadman Hawkins Clinic of the Carolinas. Dr. William G. Ward is board certified in orthopedics and is the newly appointed physician leader of the musculoskeletal service line for Novant Health’s greater WinstonSalem market. They practice at Novant Health Orthopedics and Sports Medicine, 200 Robinhood Medical Plaza, Winston-Salem. ®

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Know the Facts About Getting the Flu Vaccine

By Todd P. Kistemaker, PA-C, Brookview Hills Internal Medicine all brings a fanfare of fantastic foliage changes when leaves transform from greens to rich reds, yellows and oranges. Along with this scintillating time of year comes concern for the dreaded flu season. The flu is a respiratory disease caused by an influenza virus, typically affecting 1 in 6 people annually. Thousands of people in the U.S. die each year of the flu or its complications. With this in mind, we can help protect ourselves by getting a flu vaccine.

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The flu vaccine is available in two forms, a flu shot and a nasal spray.

The flu shot is approved for people age 6 months or older. It contains killed—inactive—viruses; therefore, you cannot get the flu from this type of vaccine. Some people do get a low-grade fever for a day or two after the shot.

The nasal spray flu vaccine uses live, weakened flu viruses instead of dead ones. It is approved for healthy people aged 2 to 49 years.

It should not be used in pregnant women, those who have asthma, or children under age 5 who have repeated wheezing episodes. Your healthcare provider can recommend which of the two forms you should receive.

Most people are protected from the flu about 2 weeks after receiving the vaccine.

Vaccines made without eggs are available for people who are allergic to eggs. These vaccines are called recombinant vaccines.

The Centers for Disease Control (CDC) recommends that everyone, 6 months and older, should receive the flu vaccine. Some people are more likely to get the flu, or to have a severe infection if they catch it.

According to the CDC, the following individuals are at highest risk for complications from the flu and should receive the vaccine early in the season, usually in September or October: • Pregnant women or women who will be pregnant during the flu season.

• Children 6 months to 5 years of age, especially those under 2 years of age.

Some people believe getting the flu vaccine will cause an individual to develop the flu. This is one of many misconceptions. The following list contains 5 common myths about the flu: 1. You can catch the flu from the vaccine. The vaccine is made from an inactivated virus that cannot transmit infection.

2. Getting the flu vaccination is all you need to do to protect yourself from the flu. There are a number of steps you can take to protect yourself during flu season besides flu vaccination. Avoid contact with people who have the flu and wash your hands frequently.

3. You can’t spread the flu if you are feeling well.

20% to 30% of people carrying the flu virus have no symptoms.

4. Feed a cold, starve a fever. If you have the flu or a cold and a fever, you need more fluids. There is little reason to increase or decrease how much you eat.

5. If you have a high fever with the flu that lasts more than a day or two, antibiotics may be necessary. Antibiotics work well against bacteria, but they aren’t effective for a viral infection like the flu.

• Household contacts and caregivers of children under the age of 6 months, including breastfeeding women.

• Health care workers and those who live with health care workers.

• People who have chronic lung or heart disease, sickle cell anemia or other hemoglobinopathies.

• People living in a nursing home, extended care facilities, or with someone who has chronic health problems.

• People who have kidney disease, anemia, severe asthma, diabetes, chronic liver disease or have a weakened immune system (including those with cancer or HIV/AIDS).

• People who take long-term treatment with steroids for any condition.

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Encouraging

Our Children

By Christine Jordan, Ed.S., LMFT

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ake a moment and imagine yourself as a child. It can be at any time in your childhood. Image a few things your mom or dad may say to you:

• “I am so proud of you.”

• “I like what you did.”

• “You did it just like I told you.”

As you imagine your parent saying this to you, how do you feel? What decisions do you make about yourself?

Now imagine three other statements your parent may say: • “You must be proud of yourself.”

• “You worked hard.” “You figured it out for yourself.”

• How do you feel? What decisions do you make about yourself when you imagine these statements?

The first statements involve praise and may have made you feel as if you are loved conditionally or pressured to live up to an adult’s expectation. The second set of statements, which are more encouraging, may have made you feel empowered and loved unconditionally. As parents, we want to encourage our children in a way that makes them feel empowered and confident in their own capabilities.

Research conducted by Carol Dweck, Ph.D., a professor of psychology at Stanford University, showed that praising children discourages them from taking risks. Her research found that when children were praised for being smart, they were more likely to choose less challenging tasks in order to avoid making mistakes. Children in this research who were encouraged for their effort were more likely to choose more challenging tasks and outperformed those children praised for their intelligence.

If we can focus more on encouraging and less on praising, we will empower our children. However, changing what we say to our children can feel awkward and difficult in the beginning. Understanding the differences between praise and encouragement can help. Here are 36 • forsythfamilymagazine.com

some ways to change a statement of praise into encouragement: • Take the “I” out of it. Change the focus from what you think to what your children think. Changing “I am so proud of you” to “What do you think about your ‘A’ in science?” allows your children to take ownership of their own accomplishments.

Using encouragement in this way helps children to develop self-confidence and self-reliance.

• Put the focus on the effort. When we encourage, the focus shifts from our children to what our children are doing. Rather than saying, “Good boy and girl, your rooms are clean,” focus on your children’s deeds by saying “Your hard work really shows in your clean rooms.” This helps your children to evaluate their own efforts without relying on other people’s approval. When things don’t go so well, encouraged children are more likely to focus on their own thoughts and feelings about their efforts, rather than worrying about disappointing you.

• Think about what you would say to another adult. Thinking about how you encourage other adults can help when encouraging your children. We probably do not tell a co-worker, “I’m glad you did as I told you.” We are more likely to say, “What do you think about how it went?”

Using encouragement more than praise is a useful way to help our children develop the characteristics and values that we want to instill in them.

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After much thought it occurs to me that in all we say and do to show our children we love them, I may have left some things unsaid, assuming she knew. Thank you, editors and Forsyth Family Magazine, for giving me the opportunity to speak to my daughter, your daughters and all of us who are daughters.

I have told you life isn’t fair, that neat and tidy are inexpensive and about the importance of a good first impression. I know you were listening, because you are respectful and courteous, you sit straight, know how to hold your fork, you study hard and understand the value of money. You have good friends, because you are a good friend, and I know you will always wear clean underwear in the event you are ever in an accident. I could go on, but you know all this and more.

These are important as they help you to be comfortable in our world. What I left out is how to be comfortable within yourself.

When you were small you wanted to be like me, later you wanted to be like your friends and even later you became expert at making others feel good about themselves, even at your expense.

All the while I watched you, comforted you and prayed that you would stay just as you are. I knew you were a marvel, the you only you could be. Still, darling daughter, there are things that need saying.

• YOU determine your worth and you shine all on your own.

Your value is not dependent on others and can neither grow, nor diminish, because of another’s actions or opinions.

What I Would Like My Daughter To Know About Her Value

• Deserve more, because you do. We do not have to accept the love or life we ‘think’ we deserve. Think of those you cherish, now strive for the love and life you think they deserve.

• Set boundaries and be okay with protecting them. Allow yourself to expect and require those closest to you to treat you with the same respect and kindness you give to them.

We teach others how to treat us.

• Be generous, but be selective. As long as you are willing to do things for others (that they should do for themselves), others are willing to let you. Say no and mean it if you want to.

By Stacy Leighton y daughter and I were curled up on the sofa together watching something Disney. When she turned to me and asked if we were disappointed in her. My jaw dropped, my brows furrowed. You could have knocked me over with a feather! So I guess it was a good thing I was sitting down.

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You see, she is getting ready to graduate from college. She is grown, yet we still snuggle and, yes, we still watch Disney (whenever she comes home).

How could she think that? It seems she thought we would be disappointed because she did not go into pre-med as she thought she would. That was not OUR dream. Then in her sophomore year she fell in love with anthropology, indigenous peoples and their natural medicines. She is the embodiment of empathy, compassion, generativity and insatiable curiosity.

She is tenacious about improving the well-being of all populations while respecting their cultures and traditions. How could we be disappointed?!!

We are in awe of her.

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•Waste not another second of your precious life comparing yourself to others. Everyone has strengths and weaknesses, seen and unseen. This kind of worry serves no one.

Compete only with yourself; this is a race you can win.

• Be courageous! Never allow anyone to define or limit you.

Smile and nod and go try it anyway! What we think we cannot do, we must do! Be bold, be adventurous. Trust your judgment, your judgment is good.

• Be happy, be loved, be yourself.

Are you wondering if your parents are proud of you? Yes, every day, every minute, with every breath. Parents often tell anyone who’ll listen that ‘our kids are amazing,’ but tell you? We thought you knew. So here you are, dear daughters, you are a treasure and valued beyond measure, not because of what you “do,” you are precious because you are “you.”

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Fun Fall Activities t is finally here—that perfect time of year when the air is cool, football is in full swing, leaves begin to change, boots and coats are pulled out of storage and people begin to think about the holiday season and all the excitement to come! It is, without a doubt, my favorite time of year, and with all there is to do in and around the Triad this fall, it will quickly become your favorite time of year, too!

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We certainly do not live in a big city, but when it comes to fun seasonal activities, our small-town feel is a huge advantage!

We have the beauty of fall in Historic Bethabara and Old Salem with gorgeous hayrides through Tanglewood Park, and fun days and creepy nights at Kersey Valley’s Corn Maize and Spookywoods. There is something for everyone, no matter what your age, activity level, or budget.

Below is your guide for some of our favorites: See page 19 for information about Tanglewood Park’s Pumpkin Pick Hayrides through the month of October. Make sure to reserve your spot on the hayride—ride fee includes one selfpicked pumpkin to take home, so make your reservation today!

See page 31 for all your need to know about Kersey Valley’s Spookywoods Haunted Attraction, including a $3 coupon.

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Ridge Parkway this fall with a stop at Mount Airy’s best-kept secret, where you can shop for hand-crafted Amish furniture and specialty foods, as well as enjoy the best Reuben in town, with ice cream for dessert!

See page 41 to learn more about Historic Bethabara’s “Dark in the Park” event on Thursday, October 9th. Activities include a hayride through lit jack-o-lanterns and a special appearance by a celebrity “ghost,” plus much more. Don’t forget your Halloween costume!

See page 41 for your buy-one, get-one-free general admission ticket to the Kersey Valley Corn Maize. Visit www.kerseyvalley.com for more information on this fun adventure!

See page 81 for a list of all the goings-on at Old Salem this fall.

Events include Harvest Day, Legends and Lanterns tours, pumpkin carving and trick or treating! Let Old Salem show you how autumn truly is a season for the senses!

So, what will it be—a day trip through the corn maize, a relaxing hayride or a night of spooky excitement? No matter which activities you choose this fall, you will be surrounded by the gorgeous landscape of changing leaves and cool breezes!

Enjoy the season and happy fall!

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Fantastically Simple Do-It-Yourself

Halloween Costumes!

H a l l o w e e n

By Elisa D. Wallace alloween. One of your child’s most beloved holidays. An evening spent walking with fellow ghouls and goblins, munching on scrumptious sweets and impressing friends with marvelous, life-like costumes. To your child, this is their time to shine in front of their friends. Knowing this, the pressure is on to help your child find the perfect costume. Yet often, these perfect costumes come with a hefty price. Forsyth Family hopes to relieve some of this pressure with the following home-made costumes, sure to please your little monster!

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The Spelling Bee: This costume is sure to please your child’s teacher!

What You Need: • Black leotard • Black tights • Black pipe cleaners • 2 Hangers • Clear recycling bags • Velcro • Yellow tape • Adhesive letters Directions: 1. Using yellow tape, make three large stripes on the black leotard, both front and back.

2. Stick adhesive letters onto the leotard.

This is the fun part!

How to make wings:

Hawaiian Hula Girl: Aloha! Help your child make a splash with his/her friends!

What You Need: • Hawaiian shirt and flip flops • Brown paper bag • Cupcake liners • Double-sided tape • Glue • Ribbon • Stapler Directions: 1. Cut open the paper bag and lay it flat.

2. Make a cut down the center of the bag to open it up.

3. Using scissors, make 1-inch wide strips from one end of the bag to the other, stopping 2 to 3 inches from the top.

Repeat all around until skirt is completely frayed.

2. Cover the wings with the plastic bags.

4. Glue a longer piece of ribbon to the top of the bag (along the uncut portion) and leave it long enough to tie behind child like an apron.

3. Secure around the edges with glue.

How to make a lei:

1. Take two hangers and mold into the shape of wings.

How to make Antennae: 1. Glue two pipe cleaners to the headband.

2. Place adhesive letters on the pipe cleaners.

1. Open up five cupcake liners and staple them together in their centers. Crease them together so that they resemble a flower, and glue to a long piece of ribbon.

2. Repeat this until you completely cover the ribbon with these clusters.

Knight in Shining Armor: What you’ll need: • 2 packs foil candy cups • 1 box brass paper fasteners • 1 foil roasting pan • 3 foil pie pans • 1 roll aluminum foil • 12 kitchen sponges Directions: 1. You'll need 100 silver-foil candy cups; flatten and halve each. Lay a 2-foot piece of ½-inch-wide double-fold bias tape in a U shape.

2. Using craft glue, attach a row of half circles inside fold, leaving room for ties.

Using transparent tape, add on rows of foil cups until desired size is reached. Wear over gray sweatshirt if desired.

3. Glue together overlapping foil half circles; stud with brass paper fasteners.

Cover fastener prongs on inside with cloth tape for comfort.

4. Make a duct-tape belt (sticky side facing in) to cinch sweatshirt.

5. Shape pieces from foil pans. Turn edges in; staple ribbon to corners to tie. Use mini-pie pans for knees.

Optional dragon costume for younger sibling 1. Using craft glue, line the middle of the back of a sleeper and a matching hat with gold-colored candy cups cut in quarters.

2. Cut tail shape from cardboard; insert into a leg cut from a pair of red tights. Stuff with batting; stitch closed.

3. Sew wide end to sleeper. Hot-glue more gold cups to tail. Cut sponges into wave shapes; hot-glue along spine.

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The Halloween Candy Conundrum

H a l l o w e e n

By Stacy Leighton

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h, here comes Halloween. It is a delightful time of year, where fairy princesses and pirates parade throughout the town. They spread light-hearted laughter and joy. On the surface all is ethereal, right? But behind every cherub is a cunning strategist. It may be an older sibling or a parent. The plotting begins as early as August, heralded in by the stocking of Halloween candy. Make no mistake, my friends, this is war.

Our “Halloween Huns” have more to consider than whether to be ghoulish or glamorous. Demographics, for example, are a critical component. Their research can best any City Planner.

First and foremost, they will review crime statistics to determine which areas are the safest. Once this is established, it is time to consult Google Earth to identify target neighborhoods. The criteria include family streets with houses that are close together. This will result in a higher return with minimal effort. Did you really think ALL those children lived in YOUR neighborhood?

Timing is key—not too early and not too late. Little ones usually go out before dark. Costumes: masks are for older kids who are not ready to give up the hunt. No question. The real quandary is—bucket or bag? The answer is neither; pillow cases hold more. This night is THE night they have been waiting for all year. And the only time they will have their clothes laid out the night before. There will be no room for error and no time to waste. The universal signal to begin seems to be at sunset. As the sun slowly sets in the west, if you listen carefully you may hear their growing cheer, “Divide and Conquer!”

Of course, there are many others who also enjoy this holiday, the confectioners’ industry, for example. Here are some fun facts you may not know. The National Confectioners’ Association estimates that Americans spend over $2 billion each year on Halloween candy. The NCA states that 72% of it is chocolate—90 million pounds, to be exact. That is more than on Easter and Valentine’s at 65 million pounds and 48

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million pounds, respectively. Even in this economy, the average family spends $44 per household on this sweet stuff.

Halloween’s origins are steeped in myth, lore and obscurity.

Is it pagan? Somewhat. In the middle ages, the Celts celebrated “Samhain,” meaning “end of summer” with a touch of the supernatural, but much more food, fun and merrymaking. Some draw a line to All Saints’ Day, a more Christian celebration. It’s all very murky, and matters very little to our small Halloween Candy Harvesters.

What is interesting, is how “new” this confection hunter/gatherer tradition is. This is a very American festivity.

In the early 1900s, people would celebrate with food, festivities and play acting (which required costumes). The door-to-door reaping didn’t begin until much later, in the 1940s. Coins, small trinkets, fruit, nuts and home-baked goods were the treat of choice. Candy began to trickle in during the 1950s. But it wasn’t until the 1970s that candy became the only acceptable treat, marketed as being less likely to be tampered with.

And let us not forget who really benefits from this confection connection, it is we, the parents. Yes, I said it. We are the gatekeepers, after all, aren’t we? Your secret is out, but you are in good company. In a national survey done by the NCA, 41% of the parents polled claimed to regulate their children’s candy consumption until it was gone. But 81% of us admitted to pilfering our child’s spoils of war when they were not looking. So what are the most popular candies? Top of the list—Hershey’s Reeses brought in $510 million last year, then M&Ms at $500 million and third place goes to Snickers (how can that be?!?) at $456 million (Information Resources Inc.).

Gummies, lollipops, gum and hard candy swim at the bottom of the list. So want to thwart those Halloween Huns? You know what to get…or you can do as 70% of the Americans polled do, and simply buy what YOU like! Hope you have a safe, “sweet” Halloween!

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The View from My Section...

By A. Keith Tilley

Editorial Lesson from a Legend Just like the individual feathers of a bird, each life has significance.

Hunter Hayes wrote and sang the song “Invisible” on the 2014 Grammy Awards show. It’s a song that relates to the lives of teenagers, and provides encouragement to those who feel invisible, bullied, or otherwise insignificant in their life. During his performance, quotes were flashed across a giant screen from such notables as John Lennon, Lady Gaga and Steve Jobs, among others. One quote by Johnny Depp stated, “As a teenager I was so insecure. I was the type of guy that never fit in because he never dared to choose. I was convinced I had no talent at all.”

Also this year Taylor Swift decided to write a pop song to answer all her so-called “haters” out there. The song, entitled “Shake it off,” describes the comments said about her, and then goes on to declare her feelings about the comments and how she chooses to just “shake it off.”

I mention these two examples of music depicting real-life experiences and providing advice on how to handle them because of the tragic loss this summer of what I think is the greatest comedic talent of all time, Robin Williams. Here was a man who had achieved incredible heights in his career and lifetime. His talent was unbelievable and his technique and style impossible to duplicate, which is what made him truly one of a kind. Of all the tremendous comedians in history, none had a style that could come close to the spontaneity and wit of Williams. That’s not to say others are not good in their own right, just that nothing compares, before or since, to what Williams could do. He was the epitome of what a remarkable talent truly is.

their own way to their fellow players, and a kind owner to their pets. A symbol in so many ways of how one life affects another, whether it be a hereditary connection, social connection, or even just connecting with someone in a brief moment, never to cross paths again. We’re all joined together by life’s thread; no one walks their path alone. Robin wasn’t alone, not in his life and not in his newfound challenge with Parkinson’s disease. Perhaps he just didn’t realize it as such. If a 63-year-old man doesn’t realize it, it’s not hard to see how a young teenager would not be aware. And yet it’s true—each life has significance, meaning and purpose. Teenagers today, in whatever way we can reach them, need to know this. That’s not to say that the majority would ever consider taking the path that Williams took. Regardless, they could still be feeling the same feelings of despair, loneliness and being out-of-touch in certain situations. Knowing they have importance to so many lives beyond just their own may help them understand that despite what they are feeling, or going through, it will pass. And the lives they affect will benefit from their having lived in this world.

If only Robin Williams had felt that. If only every teenager realized this simple fact of our existence. No doubt, it might help them gain a better perspective on life, and on how to persevere and move forward, not letting the trials and tribulations of life knock them down, without getting back up again. As parents, we can surely impart this one piece of wisdom to our children. It just may change their lives permanently.

And yet…with all the fame, glory, and good fortune that came with his success and ability, somehow it wasn’t enough. He openly admitted he turned to alcohol and drugs at times to fill the void missing in his life.

Then, not long before his death, he was pronounced with Parkinson’s disease and was dealing with that new challenge. In the end, it was all too much for him to handle, and so he chose to take his own life. Upon hearing the news, there was a tremendous worldwide display of mourning for his loss. Flags were even flown at half mast. It just goes to show the countless lives he touched, including those of many who never knew him personally.

Hearing the songs of Hunter Hayes and Taylor Swift and seeing the outpouring of support for Robin Williams is a good example of how everyone, in their own way, touches the lives of so many others. A teen is the child of a parent, grandchild of a grandparent, brother or sister of their sibling, friend of their friends, mentor (whether knowingly or not) to others, a treasured student to their teachers, a valuable teammate in 46 • forsythfamilymagazine.com

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Dr. Anne White

By Carolyn S. Peterson

Photographs by Katie Dickson

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s a child, Dr. Anne White saw first-hand the difference medicine and a dedicated physician could make in the lives of others. “My father, Dr. Arthur White, was an infectious disease physician and he founded the infectious disease divisions at three medical schools, the University of Louisville, the Medical College of Georgia in Augusta and Indiana. Several of my uncles were also physicians, so from an early age I was exposed to the medical field, but I didn’t decide to pursue a career in medicine until my sophomore year at Vassar College, when I reconsidered my studies and degrees of French and Psychology and turned my attention to medicine,” recalled Dr. White. Her original thought was to become a Psychiatrist, but it was the artistic, visual and creative field of dermatology that Dr. White decided would be her specialty. “I began my residency in dermatology at the Medical University of South Carolina, Charleston, SC, and completed my residency in Family Practice at Wake Forest Baptist Medical Center in WinstonSalem, NC. I am board-certified in Family Medicine and have been in private practice here in Winston-Salem, NC, since 1988, with an emphasis in cosmetic and laser procedures since 2002. I have been very fortunate to have trained under physicians such as Dr. Jean Carruthers, who pioneered the use of Botox in the field of cosmetic dermatology, Dr. Kevin Smith, a luminary in the field of dermatology, and Dr. Jeffrey Klein, who is known for his specialty of tumescent liposuction.

My practice grew out of the expert training I received and continued education on the latest advancements in cosmetic dermatology. The field of cosmetic dermatology is ever-changing, and I believe it is very important for my patients to be able to get the latest in non-invasive cosmetic, laser, surgical and dermatological treatments,” Dr. White said.

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•••••••••Patient Comfort and Care Are Priority•••••••• Dr. White is known in the Winston-Salem, NC, area as one of the most experienced physicians for dermal fillers and injectables, including Botox, Restylane, Perlane, Juvederm, Belotero, Radiesse, Xeomin, Dysport and Sculptra. As a Fellow of the American Society for Laser Medicine and Surgery, Dr. White has specialized in cosmetic laser treatments for the face and body for more than 10 years, including -Laser Liposuction for fat removal and body contouring, Laser Cellulite Removal, Laser Facelift and Neck Contouring, Laser Hair Removal, Laser Tattoo Removal, BBL Phototherapy, Laser ProFractional Therapy for skin resurfacing and laser treatments for skin rejuvenation, sun damage and pigmentation problems, along with spider veins and varicose veins. Dr. White also offers the New Thermage CPT and Ultherapy Ultrasound Facelift to her patients. Over the years, Dr. White has seen an increase in two areas of her practice. “Patients are seeking non-invasive treatments for fine wrinkles in the face, which are treated with injectables and fillers, but I have had an increase of patients with tattoos they want removed. I use the latest in tattoo removal, the PicoSure laser,” Dr. White stated.

••••••••••••••••PicoSure•••••••••••••••••••• Getting a tattoo can represent a milestone in a person’s life, but according to recent consumer research studies, nearly 20 percent of the 45 million Americans with tattoos will eventually regret their decision. “The statistics for tattoos are interesting. 59% of women have tattoos, compared to 41% of men; 69% of patients who want their tattoo removed are female, single, college-educated and between the ages of 24–39. With the regret factor, tattoo removal procedures saw a 32% increase in 2011. While everyone has a different reason for getting a tattoo, the reasons for having one removed are somewhat consistent,” commented Dr. White.

Those reasons include simply growing tired of the tattoo, limited clothing options, particularly at work, and then not wanting their children to see the tattoo. “For many of my patients, their tattoo may have seemed like a good idea in their 20s, but in their 30s, it just doesn’t fit them as a person now. Some feel embarrassed or believe that it may affect their job opportunities.” Whatever their reason for wanting a tattoo removed, through the use of picosecond technology, the removal takes half the time as it did in the past. Carolina Laser & Cosmetic Center is one of the first facilities in North Carolina to offer the use of the PicoSure laser. Ultra-short pulse bursts of energy are delivered to the skin in just trillionths of a second. The picosecond pulse width is 100 times shorter than the nanosecond technology used with traditional tattoo removal systems. Clinical studies show that PicoSure is able to treat darker, multi-colored and complex tattoos more efficiently, with unprecedented clearing of blues and greens, in much less time,” Dr. White stated. In layman’s terms, the inks used in a tattoo are injected at the dermal level of the skin, leaving behind pigment. When the tattoo needle penetrates the skin, the ink represents a foreign body to the immune system, alerting it to clear the ink from the dermis. Specialized cells called macrophages virtually engulf the invading material in an effort to remove the tattoo ink. Because the ink particles of a tattoo are larger than the macrophages, they are not able to engulf the ink, so the ink of the tattoo remains and is visible through the skin. Lasers are used in tattoo removal because they shatter the ink into tiny particles, so that the macrophages can engulf the ink and eliminate it from the body.

“The PicoSure laser expedites the degradation of the ink used in a tattoo. Over time, a tattoo fades due to the ink degrading, but a laser speeds up the process and allows the macrophages to do their job.

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Because the PicoSure laser is so fast, the removal of a tattoo requires about half as many sessions as in the past, depending on the factors of each patient, including skin pigmentation, ink colors used in the tattoo, scarring, layering of tattoos, etc. PicoSure treatments are scheduled 6– 8 weeks apart to allow for the fading that occurs following a session and to get the full benefit of PicoSure,” commented Dr. White. With the speed of the laser you might think there would be discomfort at the tattoo site, but Dr. White and her staff make patient comfort a priority.

“At Carolina Laser & Cosmetic Center, we go to extremes to make patients comfortable during their treatments. For laser tattoo removal, we use a topical and injectable numbing agent, so the discomfort is minimal. Our staff members are either RNs, LPNs or CMAs, and are trained in both laser physics and laser safety by the American Society for Laser Medicine & Surgery to insure the best care possible.” Laser technology is a great advancement in dermatology, but the industry is such that many places can offer lasers without being physiciansupervised and without maintaining the calibration of the laser. The maintenance of lasers is very important to make sure burning and scarring of the skin does not occur. Our lasers at Carolina Laser & Cosmetic Center are kept under warranty and serviced regularly by the manufacturer, and are calibrated to keep the machines operating in the proper manner,” Dr. White said. For members of the military and firstresponders, like police and fire personnel, Carolina Laser & Cosmetic Center offers a 30-percent discount. “Recently our military branches have instituted policies about tattoos and their placement, so many of our service men and women need to have tattoos removed. I believe we should honor those who protect and serve us and the discount we offer for tattoo removal is a way that I believe we can give back to those who give so much to us,” stated Dr. White. But Dr. White also knows

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that “giving back” is something she also needs to do for herself….

With her growing practice, Dr. White believes that having a balanced life not only makes her a better physician, but more able to connect with her patients. “My time away from the office is spent doing the things I love most…gardening and cooking. Right now my garden is full of a few varieties of pumpkins and I love growing herbs to use in my cooking. There’s nothing like fresh ingredients. I also spend time with my two beagles, Ollie and Scout, as well as my two cats, Tate and Bob. As the mom of two adult children, Kate Davis, who lives in Asheville, and Ben Davis, who lives in the DC Area, I am busy with all that makes up my life, but I love what I do and the way I am able to help my patients. I wouldn’t change a thing,” Dr. White said.

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achel Linch didn’t set out to be an advocate for children with special needs. But in her search to find solutions for her family, she found herself in that very role. Trying to meet the needs of her own children, struggling with Autism and Attention Hyperactivity Deficit Disorder, Rachel was looking for unique solutions beyond traditional medicine. She found those solutions in doTERRA essential oils.

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Rachel’s son suffers from Autism. Since the age of two, he has struggled with inflexibility, mood swings, behavior problems and sensory issues that frequently prompted severe meltdowns. Grocery shopping was often a disaster, and cutting his hair was a nightmare.

Everyday tasks were made exceptionally difficult while she was trying to cope with a child with special needs. Rachel felt publically embarrassed and privately exhausted.

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When Rachel’s two other children were diagnosed with ADHD, they were put on prescription medicine. However, they struggled with the side effects.

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Rachel knew there had to be something better out there to address the challenges her family faced day in and day out. When she discovered doTERRA essential oils, it was a moment that dramatically changed her life and the lives of her children.

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“My four-year old-might cry and say he hates going to therapy,” shared Rachel. “But, by the time I have applied his oils, his mood has changed. He says, ‘I like therapy! We are going to have fun today!’”

After being on prescription medication for years, all three of Rachel’s children have been able to forgo their prescription medication. Instead, their family uses oils to manage their symptoms.

Rachel says, “We have used essential oils over the past few years to treat asthma, chronic ear infections, low immune system, hypotonia, Autism, ADHD, thyroid dysfunction, and Type 1 Diabetes. The list could go on and on!

“One thing that I love about doTERRA essential oils is that they are all medicinal-level. Within 30 seconds of applying them to the bottom of my children’s feet, the oils are literally in the bloodstream, meeting their needs!” Rachel is thrilled with the results. “We have found a natural, safe, and very affordable way to take care of our family’s health. We use essential oils EVERY DAY and cannot imagine what we would do without them!” she says.

Having had such success using essential oils with her own children, Rachel now teaches classes all over the country and trains others in the use of essential oils. On October 25th, Rachel will be the keynote speaker at the Essential Oil Expo, hosted by A New Day Essentials.

The event is from 11:00–4:00. Participants can hear her story first-hand, as well as sample products. They may even taste test foods made with essential oils.

A New Day Essentials also offers classes, as well as private sessions, on the use of oils for women’s health, pregnancy, pain management, keeping kids healthy and cold/flu protection at their local Winston-Salem office.

If you are interested in attending an informational session or class, want to purchase essential oils, or would like more information about becoming a wellness advocate, contact Vivian Brauer at 336-409-5269 or viv@anewdayessentials.com. Learn more online at www.anewdayessentials.com. *The statements in this article have not been evaluated by the Food and Drug Administration. They are solely those of the interviewed parties. Forsyth Family in no way endorses any claim associated with health and/or well-being with respect to any particular person or product, whether stated or implied.

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HBAWS 2014 Fall Parade of Homes

By Meghan E.W. Corbett ach year, the Home Builders Association of Winston-Salem (HBAWS) organizes the Fall Parade of Homes to showcase the very best in home building available throughout the Triad area. As always, the parade promises to be an “...exclusive opportunity for prospective home buyers to meet with professional builders, their expert building teams, and tour the latest new home construction in the Triad,” said Beverly Hayes, director of communications and member services for the HBAWS. “The Fall Parade tour extends to five counties: Guilford, Forsyth, Stokes, Northern Davie and Davidson.”

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The home building process can be very confusing, so it is important to surround any new home construction project with knowledgeable professionals who will complete projects correctly the first time to avoid costly fixes down the road. “Building with members of HBAWS and the Greensboro Builders Association gives home buyers the assurance of knowing they are working with licensed professionals, the very best builders, remodelers, realtors, mortgage lenders, suppliers and contractors in the Triad,” said Hayes. “Prospective home buyers will have the opportunity to experience the latest in home interior design, beautiful outdoor living areas, home electronics technology, and see first-hand the benefits of energy-efficient housing.”

For the third year in a row, BB&T is sponsoring the Fall Parade of Homes. According to the BB&T website, “…if you’re building your dream house, you need BB&T Home Mortgage. We’re experts at construction lending. With our construction-to-permanent loan, you avoid the cost and hassle of closing twice. It couldn’t be more convenient—allowing you to stay focused on your new home.”

In this day and age of social media and online resources, a new online tool known as Houzz can also be of great help when planning a new home build. “Many of the builder members of the HBAWS can be found on Houzz 54 • forsythfamilymagazine.com

(www.houzz.com) which gives consumers another way of seeing their latest projects—both new home construction, as well as remodeling projects,” said Hayes.

As always, each entry to the Fall Parade will have the opportunity to be judged by a panel of experts from across North Carolina. “The winning entries receive silver, gold or the best of the best—platinum—awards, including a trophy and banners to display at their homes,” said Hayes.

“Winning one of these prestigious awards gives builders an edge on the competition in working with possible clients on home building projects.”

This year’s Fall Parade Association Home was built by Dwayne Stafford of Stafford Construction Company.

“Dwayne Stafford, a native of Clemmons, developed Stafford Construction Company through his vision of building superior construction throughout the Piedmont Triad,” said Megan Parks, executive vice president of the HBAWS. The Association House is located at 575 Ryder Cup Lane in the Salem Glen Development in Clemmons and is listed for sale by Erin Hege of Berkshire Hathaway Home Services.” For more information about Stafford Construction Company, visit the website at www.staffordconstructionco.com/about-us/ or call 336.778.0467.

While on this year’s tour, make sure to pick up your free copy of the Fall Parade Magazine, which is available in each Parade home on the fall tour. “The magazine provides a wonderful resource for visitors with information about each home, the Parade builders, vendors and realtors,” said Hayes.

The 2014 HBAWS Fall Parade of Homes takes place October 11–12th and 18–19th from 1–5 p.m. and is free to the public. For a printable map of this year’s parade, visit the website at www.paradeofhomesws.com. The map includes photos of homes, contact information for builders and detailed information about each home with links to the builder’s website. For more information, call 336.768.5943 or visit the HBAWS website at www.hbaws.net.

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NEW PYRAMID BUILDERS

By Meghan E.W. Corbett he only way to find the perfect home is to build it or fully remodel an existing home.

Both options can be expensive if not done correctly the first time, so it is immensely important to find the right professionals to handle the project. New Pyramid Builders has been in business for more than 35 years and is responsible for designing and building more than 500 new homes.

In addition to complete home builds, New Pyramid Builders has completed numerous remodeling jobs and home additions for those looking for change of an existing home.

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Owner Peter Davis is very creative and has designed almost every project he has completed. “I pay close attention to planning, detail and execution of plans to complete a quality project the homeowner can be proud of,” said Davis. “The name of our company, New Pyramid Builders –“Built to Last” is intended to have a humorous twist and to indicate to our clients that we do it right the first time.” Doing it right the first time may take more time, but it will avoid costly mistakes and sub-standard work.

Peter Davis is a licensed North Carolina General Contractor and New Pyramid Builders is fully insured, as North Carolina requires. Not only is it important to find professionals whose work speaks for itself, it is equally important to find companies that comply with local laws and procedures. There are often permits and licenses required for new construction, so taking care of those automatically will save valuable time and costly fines. New Pyramid employees understand what customers want, and do their best to deliver the ideal result, no matter how small the project. “Our employees are experienced in many fields of construction and are always clean and pleasant,” said Davis.

As is the case with all successful businesses, when the economy changes, so, too, must the way business is done.

New Pyramid Builders has adapted successfully to the changing economy and has found many ways to keep homeowners happy with the places they call home. “Due to the economy, home building has drastically decreased, and New Pyramid Builders has recently focused more on remodeling and outdoor living areas,” said Davis. “This is greatly due to the fact that additional living space can be built without breaking the bank.”

No matter what changes take place, one thing will always remain constant—New Pyramid Builders will always pay close attention to the planning, detail and execution of plans, to make sure every project is done right the first time. Whether you are looking to do a complete home build, a bathroom remodel, or a beautiful deck, New Pyramid Builders will be your partner from start to finish.

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October Issue 2014 • 57

Small Stories for a Big World

By Kim Underwood

grew up in a household in which the toilet paper rolled from the top. That made sense to me, and, when I had my own house, I always put in a fresh roll so that it rolled from the top.

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After I met Garnet, I soon discovered that, in her house, toilet paper rolled from the bottom. Surely, there must be some mistake, I said.

No, she said. It rolls so much better from the top, I said. That may be true, she said, but it looks far neater rolling from the bottom.

Since we married, I live in a house in which toilet paper rolls from the bottom.

Doobins likes to drink his milk from one of the glasses in his Garfield collection. He doesn’t want anyone else to drink out of those glasses.

That one is easy. No one drinks out of his Garfield glasses.

After Sparkle Girl gets up in the morning, she likes to sit quietly for a while, talking to no one. Garnet and I do our best to build that time in when we are figuring out what time we should wake her up.

We don’t have a dishwasher, so we wash everything by hand. To my way of thinking, when I’m not going to wash dishes right away, it makes sense to fill the bowls that had corn flakes in them with water so those little bits of leftover corn flakes don’t dry out and stick to the side as if they were attached by Super Glue. I put water on the cookie sheets, too, so that burnt bits have a chance to soak.

Of course that approach means that dishes may end up spread out all over the counters, and you have to be very careful when you pick up the cookie sheet, or water can spill all over the floor. I wholeheartedly agree that water all over the floor is a bad thing.

Garnet believes that the kitchen should look as neat as circumstances allow. So she stacks dishes in the sink, even if that means that corn flakes sometimes get glued to the side of the bowl, and the burnt bits on the cookie sheets don’t soak. We have talked about this. But have come to no consensus. So we each do what we do.

Each of us has innumerable things in life that we like a certain way.

Living together as a family means taking note of such things, freely giving each other what is easy to give and, when it’s less easy to give, doing our best to figure out a way to make it work for the long term. Sometimes, you don’t find an official solution and you just muddle along.

When I become irritated because the way that Garnet, Sparkle Girl or Doobins like something to be is not the way I want something to be, Garnet will say, “And, to think, you used to be all alone.”

Without fail, that makes me smile. I used to be alone and now I’m not.

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Ages & Stages Toddler

Potty Training: A Personal Experience

By Lisa S.T. Doss. ave you ever wanted to go back in time and say to yourself, “Bless your heart!?” Personally, that very sentiment applied to my early efforts in potty training our first child. It sounds ridiculous to think that my independent daughter at 15 months was ready, because she formed a habit of sitting in the golden retriever’s dinner dish and grunting. Figuring she needed another place to poop, I scanned the listing of potty chair options and bought a “duck.” This one was cute and celebrated the “moment” with a catchy tune. Needless to say, she loved to take it apart and put it back together, or use it as a step stool.

Yes, clearly, she wasn’t ready!

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By two-and-a-half, she started sitting and peeing on the potty; however, my being hospitalized on bed rest delayed our efforts. At that point, it was more important to emphasize our family connection with her baby brother than to resume potty training. Our pediatrician waved her hand in a “don't worry about it” fashion, which made me feel relieved.

During the summer she turned three, I was determined to spend those months celebrating her efforts to become a child in underwear. After a dinner with friends, we spent an excruciating five days cleaning up mess after mess. I then tried to put her on the potty chair every thirty minutes; yet, she would hide behind the couch and poop in her underwear, or chose to potty minutes after a fifteen-minute sit. Resigned to frustration, I realized I wanted it more than she did. Our pediatrician told me to stop trying. She said children who were willful and determined often feel content to wear diapers, and will shut down with parent demands. By not even mentioning the word “potty,” she would initiate the desire to “go” on her own.

On her first day of school there was, indeed, a feeling of excitement.

Instantly, our daughter loved attending a half-day, five days a week. She was comfortable in returning to a familiar environment, knew the other children, and was thriving with two stern, but loving teachers. With her being surrounded by a large number of “potty-abled” peers, I felt assured that she would want to be part of the crowd. As a mom, I worried that our “living beyond the country” was prohibiting her from developing a peer influence. Unfortunately, the months passed and I continued to buy Pull-Ups. When met with a challenge, I read articles, blogs, and reached out to great friends. Admittedly, I found commonality and humor in reading other moms’ Facebook posts. Great suggestions ~ • When outdoors, go diaper free, and have a potty chair nearby.

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• One drop of food coloring in the toilet will encourage a child to sit and “go!”

• Always keep the potty chair in the bathroom!

• Use a reward system.

At my daughter's four-year-old wellness visit, our pediatrician gave advice that I was reluctant to implement. I was told to spend the day using one pair of underwear. If it was wet or soiled, my daughter was expected to wait in her room until the pair was washed and dried.

Knowing this wouldn’t work, I gave her, instead, a thirty-minute time out, which allowed us to talk without distraction. By the third day, she had to wash herself in the bathtub and carry wet clothes to the laundry basket.

On day four, she got it; and, by day five, she was peeing and pooping on the toilet without accident. It was her decision to wear underwear to bed on the sixth day. Amen!

The journey of potty training takes time. Looking back, I am thankful for our consistent evening and morning routines. Now, without assistance, she can wash her hands after flushing, brush her teeth, choose a new pair of underwear and an outfit, and put away her pajamas.

What worked?

• Yes, stickers have been wonderful, but enthusiastic praise had a greater impact!

• If she had to go, I trusted her intuition to sit even when she decided to dress and leave the bathroom.

• Using a baby gate across the doorway kept her baby brother out of the bathroom. This effort has instilled in her a continuous effort to turn off the light and close the door every time.

My pediatrician and good friends were correct in saying, “Children are potty trained when they are ready.” While my four-year-old needed a gentle push, this household still becomes excited by those three wonderful words, “I went potty!”

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Ages & Stages Toddler Thru Elementary

Finding Time for Imagination

By Lisa S.T. Doss. ny time of the year, a mask, costume, or props assembled together allow a child to “try on” a character, animal, or object, and imagine the possibilities. When they discover “I can become anything, just by using my imagination!” children can further explore ideas and nurture their endless thoughts through art and science, architecture and creative original stories, to name just a few ways. In our world of big-screen televisions, computerized games, the limited use of creativity in schools, and on-the-go lifestyles, children are unintentionally straying away from those vital concepts essential to cognitive development. Phrases like “critical thinking skills” and “creative problem-solving” translate into how a child uses his or her imagination.

While we may not realize how different the world is for our children today, it becomes important to consider how we can relive those important values from our own childhood, and find ways to nurture our children’s imaginations.

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Turning on Imagination It may offer light and background noise, but most families begin the morning by turning on the television. In lieu of news too graphic for young children, a kid-friendly channel is chosen. Why not eliminate the distraction of bright colors or familiar animated friends on the big-screen television? Children will become lost in their own world of make-believe through building with blocks, trains, or playing with dolls, as well as through artistic endeavors or reading. Some young children are capable of following “home rules” and playing with messy mediums, such as finger paints, play dough, or magic markers, at a designated table. Sometimes those activities which make the biggest mess allow children to experiment and grow most of all.

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undoubted rewards of team sports, whether indoors or outdoors, do they have enough time to explore the outdoors freely? Witnessing nature in the backyard, at a park, or in the woods, offers the opportunity to understand concepts first-hand and explore the world of “make believe.” Children will pretend to be “king of the mountain” or a bird circling in the sky. Gathering sticks and rocks may offer materials for a building for friendly ants or imaginary villagers. Because school nights can be over-scheduled with extracurricular activities and homework, there should be a place for your child to play that is secluded and secure. We need to find ways to allow our children the privacy of exploration and independent play without schedule limitations.

Nurturing the Imagination The child who takes a kitchen dishcloth and a bag clip to become a “Superhero” may enjoy a prop box. The contents do not require any investment, other than time, to find these wonderful items in your home. Asking a grandparent to assist will add many interesting and unique items, especially apparel.

Depending on your child’s age, some items you may consider including are: • hats, scarves, old purses and wigs.

• stuffed animals or dolls.

• old sheets or blankets.

• sandbox toys such as buckets, sifters and shovels.

• plastic food containers and cardboard boxes of all sizes.

• a box of crayons or markers and paper.

Beyond the Book “Pretend play” is an activity that helps children create their own unwritten stories.

While young children may need guidance initially, introducing a variety of activities will

encourage children to reenact their favorite games.

For example, • not every story time requires a book. Twice a week, make time to tell original stories.

• make puppets using household items.

Every person who participates can help tell the story.

• create imaginary stories from items collected in the house or found in nature.

• drawing pictures can be an important way for children to tell a story of inanimate objects, animals, or people.

The times have changed. We were the kids whose parents would call us home after grand adventures of playing in the outdoors. We rode our big wheels and bikes, took walks, played for hours on the swing set or in the sandbox with, or without, neighborhood friends. Every moment of “play” was a chance to use our imaginations. Yes, changes have occurred for at least four reasons. 1. We protect our children more strictly because of an unknown environment. 2. Technology has largely replaced independent play. 3. School curriculums have changed the role of creativity in the classrooms. 4. Many families have onthe-go lifestyles. It is difficult to accept that our lives with our children have become very complicated. While our evening obligations are important, is there room for the exploration of imagination and pretend play?

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High School Age 14-18

Taking the Future Seriously

By Lisa S.T. Doss. igh school is a place of possibilities.

Students will discover new talents, ways to improve educational success, multiply friendships, assert leadership and learn from numerous mistakes. It may appear that decisions regarding the future can wait; it is, in fact, a few years away. However, opportunities to earn college credit begin as early as the sophomore year. Since those four years pass quickly, students need to take responsibility for their education by finding out not only what is needed to graduate, but the expectations of universities, colleges or technical schools, the military, or the work force. Perhaps this list can encourage students to consider their educational goals today, and in the upcoming future.

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classes and extracurricular activities with ample time for family, friends, and yourself is vital. Keeping stress levels down will increase confidence and overall happiness.

• Create a studying schedule and stick to the plan. Relax and socialize with family and friends on Friday evenings and Saturdays.

• Keep asking questions!

• Studying isn’t about memorization.

Nu Expression Ad Rereading notes and chapters, correcting CRand tests are great practices for quizzes retaining and learning the information.

• Assess your list of responsibilities.

One more group, organization, or club may consume too much of your “free” time. Before saying “Yes!” find out exactly what is required of you.

Class Scheduling Basics While a guidance counselor will guide Broaden Your Resume students to make good decisions, itHalloween is a good A Candy well-rounded education includes community practice for students to become familiar with service, church involvement and Article their own graduation expectations. In addition, extracurricular activities. Beyond the teens can choose interesting electives and classroom, teens can expand personal values, earn college credit through Advanced understand teamwork and learn how to Placement (AP) courses. communicate with adults, mentors and peers.

Outside experiences will reveal students as Assignments and Tasks Have a Purpose more than just one-dimensional on resumes There are moments when teens may ask, “Why or to college admission boards. am I doing this?” Just remember every novel or history chapter, math problem or lab, team Teens who have difficulty knowing where to project or long-term assignment has a “go” only need to look within their hearts and purpose, especially beyond high school. In ask the question, “What do I care about most?” school, you are learning how to read for Being a volunteer can assist children, adults or comprehension, record various ideas in a elders, rescued or sick animals, the written format, figure out complex problems environment, or cities and communities. and solutions, work with partners and groups, Explore Career Options give presentations and communicate with Great resources are available online and within peers. The skills learned today will assist the community. Researching future options can students at the next level of their lives and help students focus on their goals and ensure beyond. they are on the right path.

Balancing Life as a Student Interested in attending a university, college, Academic pressure and expectations for vocational or training school? success can overwhelm students. While it may • Become familiar with the expectations of be difficult initially, creating a plan to manage an ACT or SAT test.

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• Make a list of the schools that interest you and attend college fairs.

• Find out what the requirements for entrance are.

Joining the Armed Forces? Talk with relatives, neighbors and family friends who have served in the various branches of the military.

A bachelor’s degree prior to enlisting will assure rank, the opportunity to lead soldiers, and increase your earnings.

Seeking direct employment after high school?

• Become knowledgeable about the vocational or technical programs available.

• Seek counsel from relatives, family friends and your guidance counselor to direct you towards employment opportunities.

• Consider enrolling in an undergraduate program part-time. Job satisfaction and a higher earning potential are just two of many benefits.

The doors of high school can be described as a gateway to unlimited possibilities. The extensive and diverse listing of classes has something for every interest and talent. Students may feel their education is directed only toward college; that is in part because post-high school education will offer greater opportunities and earning potential. There are rewards in asking questions and learning about the future.

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The School Called,

it’s About Your Son.

By Stacy Leighton

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t seems like only yesterday that our son started kindergarten. He was so excited! It was a wonder he made it to the school entrance all by himself, his backpack was twice his size. He turned, grinned and waved to me. I watched him getting smaller and smaller in the distance. I remember thinking, “there goes my heart.”

That day I was counting the minutes. At exactly 2:15, I grabbed my keys and dashed for the door like I had been shot out of a cannon! How was your day? I asked. “Great!” He told me about their routine, new friends, the class fish and Flat Stanley. Every day this went on, but each day there was a little less excitement. I knew something was up. Then the school called. “We need to talk about your son.” It was excruciating, MY son? Didn’t his teacher see the boy that I saw?

“He is not taking school seriously, he asks too many questions. “ She said. “He won’t sit still for more than 20 minutes. His handwriting is atrocious.

He’s too busy and is distracting others.” “Well,” I thought, “It’s time to do a little research.” I found out our son was exactly where he should be developmentally, only better, because he was still excited about learning, happy and kind. The challenge was how to preserve “him” while helping him to be successful in school.

So here are some facts: most teachers are women, who were once girls. Boys do not learn, play or process like little girls. So therein lies the disconnect. Historically, girls score higher in school, fewer are recommended for ADHD testing and behavior modification. Traditional classroom instruction is 4/5 language-based, a female strength. Girls are more conceptual and social. Boys are more practical and tactile, and they learn best when movement and hands-on activities are incorporated.

These are facts. Instead of lamenting over this immutable reality, I chose to give our son the tools he needed to navigate these waters such as they are and to succeed in and out of its confines. Here are a few ways you can help your son to be successful in school.

Rules are everywhere he should know them and why they’re important.

Boys are tactile support his learning by incorporating varied techniques (mnemonics, movement, hands-on).

Language skills develop later spend time every day talking, reading and writing together about topics that interest him.

Boys can be competitive talk about “good sportsmanship” and “leadership”—praise his successes and when he’s courageous in his failures They like all things gross and it’s funny! Provide appropriate opportunities for this humor and discuss when it’s not appropriate He should choose friends wisely teachers will make assumptions based on his choices; anyway, it’s cool to be smart.

They prefer practical explanations;they are more emotionally internal than girls Ask open-ended questions, be patient, provide opportunities to listen (while cooking, camping, just hanging out together).

They learn by example identify good role models and why they’re important.

Foster the love of learning get caught enjoying reading and learning; create learning experiences together; let them teach you.

Boys should resolve their own conflicts ask them what they think they should do, help guide them towards positive outcomes, and then let them reach them. It’s a respect thing and a life skill.

They need to feel “respected” never underestimate the power of words: “You never gave up!

I respect your tenacity”

There may be times when you disagree with your son’s teacher or coach. Avoid criticizing them publically. It’s important that your son value and respect authority. Find out what he thinks and trust his judgment. Our son is getting ready for college now. He graduated with respect and admiration from his peers and instructors, and with honors. Knowing and supporting your son may never be boring, but it will always be rewarding.

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ICE BUCKET CHALLENGE Giving ALS the Cold Shoulder Raises Awareness and Funds By Carolyn S. Peterson e’ve all seen someone, either on television or in social media, famous and not so famous, dumping a bucket of ice water on their head and then issuing a challenge to others to do the same. The idea is to participate and pledge $10, or forego the drenching and donate $100, but how much do you really know about ALS? The reason behind all this is a devastating disease, ALS, Amyotrophic Lateral Sclerosis, a disease in which certain nerve cells in the brain and spinal cord slowly die. These nerve cells are called “motor neurons,” and they control the muscles that allow you to move the parts of your body.

People who have ALS gradually become more disabled, and the disease progresses differently in each individual. Over time, one’s ability to walk, speak, eat, swallow and breathe is impaired, in all cases leading to death. But for all of the awareness and money raised through the Ice Bucket Challenge, a disease only becomes real when it hits home in some way. For Larry Hughes, his ALS diagnosis in November 2013 has brought this terrible, debilitating disease to his family’s and friends’ attention, and now they are doing all they can to bring it to the attention of others.

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God Has a Plan Even Though We May Not See It Larry Hughes’ life was filled with activities, from his work as an accountant for more than 40 years, to spending time with his wife of 21 years, Kim, and his family son, Jonathan, and wife Tammy, daughter Sarah, and stepchildren Brett Hoge, wife Wendy, and Joshua Hoge, wife Ashley, 6 grandchildren and his two pugs, Sadie and Gus, which fill up his life.

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the while working part-time for Samaritan’s Purse, pursuing a Masters of Art in Practical Theology at Pfeiffer University and being an active member at Hillsdale United Methodist Church in Advance, NC. But after his diagnosis, his life now being uncertain, Larry and his family have turned their energy and attention to raising awareness of ALS, so that others are helped in the future, and Larry has been working on checking things off of his “bucket list.” “My son, Brett, was able to make connections to make some of [Larry’s] golfing dreams come true, from premier courses, such as Seminole and Colusa Pines, to Pebble Beach courses and Cypress Point.

Larry [and I] island-hopped to Hawaii last February, and then, in June, [went on] a dream trip of golfing and sightseeing with Brett, Josh, their wives and Sarah, to Ireland,” said Kim Hughes, Larry’s wife. Since last November, Larry’s health has declined and his communication is limited, as is his ability to eat, but he continues to do what he is able with some help from medications and the implantation of a diaphragm pacemaker to help him keep his diaphragm strong. Now the family has set their sights on honoring Larry by working to raise awareness and funds for ALS research; that’s where the Ice Bucket Challenge added an extra bonus to their mission.

Brett Hoge, Larry’s step-son, had the idea, after seeing the impact the Ice Bucket Challenge was having across the country, to organize one locally, involving family, friends and the community in the Advance, NC, area.

So on Sunday, August 17th, 2014, with Larry on hand watching, $40k was raised as 100 people were doused by The Advance Fire Department at Shady Grove Elementary School. “100% of all funds that were raised

will be directed to fund research and care for ALS patients through the LVH (Larry Vance Hughes) ALS Foundation. There is ongoing research, although we know the research we are funding may not realistically help Larry, but if we put enough money and enough educated people behind the cause, we will be able to find a cure, someday. No one should have to live with this disease,” Brett Hoge commented. Through the foundation, well over $335,000 has been raised from the 2-day fundraiser/golf tournament held in Larry’s honor last April to seed the FIRST research project with Duke ALS Clinic and Dr. Richard Bedlack, Larry’s Neurologist. Larry will be a participant in this project.

I guess you never know how you would react to hearing the words, “You have ALS,” but most of us would probably want to deal with our struggles in private. Yet that’s not what Larry wanted. “Larry wanted to deal with this wide-open. It is what it is and we are only two people, so how can you fight a war without an army? We may not be able to help or reverse Larry’s symptoms, but maybe one day we can help or save someone else,” stated Kim. Selfishly, I asked Kim, “Did you ever think, ‘Why us?’ or get angry with God?” Larry and Kim never once had those thoughts; instead, Kim said, “We both feel like, ‘Why not us?’

We aren’t any more special than anyone else.”

Well, I would beg to differ. Larry, his family and friends are very different, in that they have hope that one day the Ice Bucket Challenge won’t be needed and no one will have to face the journey that Larry is facing.

For more information or to make a donation, visit the LVH ALS Foundation at www.hope4als.com. For information on the research project, visit www.alsreversals.com.

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Winston-Salem/ Forsyth County SCHOOL SYSTEM A Lifetime Adventure for Robin Martin

By Kim Underwood

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he first day for students in the newly consolidated Winston-Salem/Forsyth County school system was September 3rd, 1963. That also happens to be the day that Robin Martin started school.

The consolidated school system proved to be a big part of Martin’s life. She went on to graduate from North Forsyth High School and to spend her entire work career with the school system.

“Winston-Salem/Forsyth County Schools has helped raised me,” Martin said. “It has been a big part of my world. I feel very blessed.”

Even after retiring, she couldn’t stay away.

Seven months after leaving the school system’s Financial Services Department in 2010, she returned as an Administrative Assistant in Accounts Payable, and she has been with the school system ever since.

On that first day of first grade back in 1963, Martin rode the bus to Rural Hall Elementary School. In those days, her last name was Tuttle. Her first-grade teacher was Mrs. Garland. Martin has no idea what Mrs. Garland’s first name was, even though she has a picture of her first-grade class. The caption simply says, “Mrs. Garland.”

After the second grade, the family moved to Motor Road. That put them near Mineral Springs Elementary School, and Martin was able to walk to school. Martin was an avid athlete. She played basketball, speedball and softball. She was a cheerleader for boys’ sports. She was in the Girls Athletic Association (GAA), and, one weekend, they went to Camp Hanes—a big adventure.

In the ninth grade, Martin rode the bus to Carver High School, which had grades 9 and 10 in those days. Her family moved back out into the country, and the following year she

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went to Atkins High School. There, she got to know the young man who would become her husband—Ronnie Martin—but they weren’t dating yet. That happened after they went on to North Forsyth High School. At North Forsyth, Martin decided she wanted to drive a school bus.

“We got to take our buses home with us,” Martin said.

She drove for about three hours a day and was paid $1.98 an hour. She got to keep it all, because they didn’t take out Social Security or other taxes. “Every two weeks, we got paid, and I would go to the bank,” she said. “I was just a saver.”

After a while, the school system’s Transportation Department made her a radio driver. She was the first female student driver to become one, she said. If another bus broke down, they would call her on the radio and, after she finished her regular route, she would finish that route. Ronnie Martin also drove a bus.

She also worked as a waitress at Dunn’s Chinese Restaurant on N.C. 66. There, she might make as much on a Saturday night as she did for a week of bus driving.

In high school, Martin was strong in math.

Beyond that, she didn’t know what career she wanted to pursue. She just knew she needed to work. “Work just evolved,” she said.

After Martin graduated from North Forsyth in 1976, she continued working for the school system that summer, helping with bus routes.

One thing that meant was taking fresh maps and drawing the routes in different colors. She had to make a number of copies, so that the drivers, school principals and others could all have a copy. When school started again, she drove as an adult driver. She drove students to

the Career Center the first year it was located on Miller Street.

Martin continued working for the school system’s Transportation Department. She made maps. She worked with student drivers.

Her husband worked for Western Electric and, later, AT&T. Their son, Dale, grew up to teach math at Ledford Middle School in Davidson County.

“They never let me down.”

— Robin Martin When Martin started working for the school system, it had five levels of schools, an organizational system created to fully integrate the schools. For the 1984-85 school year, the simpler organizational system now in place was adopted. Martin participated in creating the bus routes for that.

“It took a lot of planning,” she said. “Every bit of it flowed. We had the least amount of buses running.”

A few years later, Martin found herself thinking it was time for new challenges. “In life, you grow,” she said. Martin knew the people in the school system’s Finance Department, and, when they invited her to come to Central Office to work on payroll in 1989, she accepted. In 2010, she retired. But she stayed retired only seven months—just enough time to feel refreshed—and came back as an Administrative Assistant in Accounts Payable.

One way or another, the school system has been her life, Martin said. “It has always been here for me. They never let me down.”

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Taking Full Advantage of Powerschool Parent Portal Part 2

By Kelly Melang

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ctober is the month of ghouls, goblins and witches, but it is also the month Parent Portal goes online for the Winston Salem Forsyth County schools. As a second installment in Forsyth Family, this gives a few tips and tricks on managing your children’s education through the tools of Parent Portal, and making the most of it.

Each parent receives a login for Parent Portal specific to their school district, so logging in is done through your child’s school website. If you have several children in the school system, one login through a local school website gives you access to all Parent Portal Accounts. All children are listed on this home page in alphabetical order. Click on the child’s name, drilling down to that child’s grades, attendance and balance information.

Parent portal has SSL Encryption security, basically creating a uniquely encrypted channel through the public internet when transferring information. When parents sign in with their unique ID and password, this connection is created, keeping data secure. If parents are divorced or separated, they should contact the child’s school for an additional user ID and password.

Always review your demographic information in Parent Portal at the beginning of the school year. This information is of utmost importance to the school district, as they use it for contact in case of emergency. It is a good idea to periodically review this information and keep it accurate. Always include a name for the emergency contact information, helping the school by letting them know whom they are speaking to in case of emergency.

The Balance button on the home screen indicates any fees owed to the school. This could be cafeteria money, field trip money, or the occasional lost media center book.

The grades screen has two options— present grades and historical grades. The Grades portion of the screen shows grades for the current school year, historical grades shows grades for earlier school years for as long as the child was in the WSFCS school system. This is a great tool for the tracking process and potentially spotting a problem subject before grades start suffering. This information is also available on 74 • forsythfamilymagazine.com

the Grades History and Grades Attendance screen.

The Attendance History tab on the Start menu allows parents to view attendance for the current term, making sure students are attending all classes. This is important, because the school district has a policy on the number of unexcused absences and tardies. If a parent sent a sick note in with their child, the system will show a “sick” absence, rather than an unexcused absence. The codes listed on the bottom of the screen show the different types of absences and tardies. This screen also shows dropped classes, along with the option to e-mail the teacher and request more information.

The School Bulletin pages are a message board between the school and parents. It is set up on a calendar system, so parents can click on a day on the calendar and view the bulletin for that day. Information still comes in the form of take-home packets, e-mails and phone calls, but is also centrally kept in the bulletin system.

My Calendars is an option of Parent Portal allowing parents and students to manage their time and assignments locally on their home computer. Parents need to download a local calendar application that works with My Calendars, such as iCal for the Macintosh, or Windows Calendar and Microsoft Outlook for Windows. In Parent Portal, under the My Calendars option, click on Subscribe to download assignments and other class information directly into the desktop calendar. When clicking on the Subscribe bottom, you can choose Class Assignments or Class Assignments with Scores and Final Grades. My Calendars also has the option of allowing people to subscribe to School Events.

Finally, if English is not your primary language, parents can change the language in Parent Portal under Account Preferences.

Preferences include First Name, Last Name, e-mail (this is important, as Parent Portal uses this e-mail when sending notifications), Username and Password.

All the tools for a successful school year are available in Parent Portal. It is coming online October 1st for the current term, so use this valuable resource for an organized, successful school year!

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Memories in the Making

By Jan Allison ecently I was sitting at my mother’s apartment chatting with her when I took notice of the beverage coaster she had on the table next to her favorite chair. The coaster was from a company that created unique gifts out of children’s artwork. The image on the coaster was from a picture my son drew when he was four. Since he is now a teenager, the sweet memories of long ago came flooding back to me.

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I gave these beverage coasters to my parents as a Christmas gift 11 years ago. We all know grandparents love to receive handmade gifts from their grandchildren, but this was one that didn’t just hang on a refrigerator until it faded and had to be thrown away. It has been providing my Mom joy for so many years.

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Taking Measure of Our Kids

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or years, children in classrooms around the nation have taken standardized tests. These tests have told them how smart they are, how well they can be expected to do, and how much they can achieve. We take measure of our nation’s children and often find them lacking. But what if that measuring stick isn’t measuring what we think it is? Researchers are providing evidence that Intelligence Quota, what we commonly refer to as IQ, isn’t a fixed number, but, in fact, is malleable. This means it can be changed! Why is this so revolutionary? If intelligence is malleable, then IQ is simply a starting point, a beginning rather than a fixed anchor in kids’ lives with which to measure themselves. In an educational climate where the emphasis on testing far outweighs what common sense would tell us is healthy for kids, and test results can be devastating to a child’s confidence, this perspective changes the way we interpret kids’ scores and the way we as educators and parents look at a child’s potential.

What can increase IQ? You'll never guess: education.

You might be thinking, It took research to come to that conclusion? But this is a totally different way of thinking from the past about intelligence itself and what makes someone “smart.” This revelation is especially important for children, because what students believe about their own intelligence, how they perceive their own potential, often influences how they behave.

Students who believe intelligence is malleable are more willing to put forth effort and have more positive attitudes about learning. Just believing they CAN be “smarter” has a motivating impact, which leads students to put forth more effort, which in turn leads to greater success, which is motivating! You can see how this becomes a cycle, repeated over and over again throughout a child’s education. If intelligence is built, not born, then learning can be thought of as a process.

If building brain cells, much like building muscle, takes repeated, strenuous effort, then struggling is an integral part of learning, not a sign of stupidity. This means it’s okay for kids to think a task is “hard.” It’s okay for them

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not to “get it” the first time—if they believe they are capable of mastery. If children can view the struggle as a muscle-building process and difficulty as a part of that process, then they are less like to give up when they face challenges, and are thus more likely to overcome those challenges.

This also means we should be praising our children’s efforts, not their intelligence. If we tell children they’re smart, we’re inadvertently telling them that intelligence is something they inherently are, rather than something that they can develop. Instead we should be praising effort, encouraging perseverance and teaching our children to look at struggles as opportunities for growth, not reflections of their own failure. Dr. Carol Dweck, author of the book Mindset, says, “If parents want to give their children a gift, the best thing they can do is to teach their children to love challenges, be intrigued by mistakes, enjoy effort, and keep on learning. That way, their children don’t have to be slaves of praise. They will have a lifelong way to build and repair their own confidence.” This also means children should be facing and working through challenges. Even those children for whom academic tasks may come easy need to face and overcome adversity. Perseverance is integral to learning, but it’s also ironically a learned behavior. We can help our children work through difficulties by teaching them about their own abilities to learn, and changing the way we view the learning process.

Ultimately, no one’s potential can truly be measured by a pen and paper. We cannot be reduced to a mere number. We are all capable of growth if we can believe in ourselves and persevere through difficulty; if we can see adversity, not as a road block, but as a rung in the ladder to success. We can all be smarter, better people, no matter what the test may say—with a little faith and a lot of hard work!

If you are interested in learning more, you can find several informative videos of Carol Dweck sharing her ideas on YouTube.com.

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The Perfect Autumn at Old Salem Museums & Gardens

ld Salem Museums & Gardens is offering family activities to help you enjoy fall to its fullest! Purchase fresh produce from the Cobblestone Farmers’ Market. Experience traditional Moravian cooking demonstrations on Harvest Day. Celebrate Halloween with a ghost tour, pumpkin carving and trick-or-treating.

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If you can’t make one of these special events, spend some time at Old Salem any day this fall to enjoy all the season has to offer. Snap some photographs when the maple tree next to the Miksch House is in peak color. Drop by the gardens and see what the horticulture department is cultivating. Purchase a few heirloom flower bulbs at the garden shop at T. Bagge Merchant to enjoy next spring. Or simply take home a delicious apple spice pound cake from Winkler Bakery to fill out your Thanksgiving feast.

Cobblestone Farmer’s Market Saturday, October 4, 11, 18, 25 and November 1, 8, 15, 22 The popular Saturday morning Cobblestone Market at Old Salem will wrap up its 2014 season in October and November. Local vendors will have their fresh, locally grown and made products on sale adjacent to the Single Brothers’ Garden from 9 a.m. to Noon every Saturday until November 22nd.

Harvest Day Saturday, October 18 Visit Old Salem from 9:30 a.m. to 4:30 p.m. on Saturday, October 18th, for Harvest Day, a fun-filled day celebrating two of the favorite foods of fall: Pigs & Pippins (apples)! There will be harvest-themed activities all day, including demonstrations of an apple cider mill, candy apple tastings, hearth cooking, puppet shows and much more!

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October 30th, between 6–9 p.m., by joining a Legends and Lanterns walking tour at Old Salem. During this 45–60 minute tour, a costumed guide will light the way by lantern through Salem’s nighttime streets.

You will visit several haunting stops in the historic district and hear tales of a local ghostly legend, or interact with a person from the past. You might even catch a glimpse of a ghost or two while visiting our historic buildings!

Halloween Pumpkin Carving Saturday, October 25, FREE Show off your pumpkin-carving creativity and imagination at this outdoor contest on Saturday, October 25th, from 10 a.m.–4 p.m., on the grass of Salem Square. Free pumpkins will be provided; please bring your own carving tools. All children must be supervised by a parent, guardian, or other adult. No pets, please.

Participants will have a chance to win prizes in various categories. The carved pumpkins will be lighted and displayed on the Salem Square fence on Sunday, October 26th, during a district-wide trickor-treating event for the public from 6 to

7:30 p.m. Participants can take their jacko-lanterns home, if they wish, after 7:30 p.m. on October 26th.

Trick or Treat in Old Salem Sunday, October 26, FREE Once again, Old Salem Museums & Gardens will host its popular trick-ortreating event on South Main Street, from Salem Square to the Frank L. Horton Museum Center. The hours are 6–7:30 p.m. Volunteers will be stationed at the doors of the historic buildings, giving out candy while the supply lasts. Some residents of Old Salem who live on South Main Street also will be participating.

Young ghosts and goblins should be accompanied by a parent, guardian or other adult and wear light-colored costumes and clothing for safety. South Main Street will be closed to traffic during the event. Offduty police officers will be stationed at some street intersections to direct traffic.

From Harvest Day to pumpkin carving, there’s plenty in store this fall for the whole family! Visit oldsalem.org for full details and ticket prices, where applicable, for all Autumn in Old Salem activities.

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October 1 old salem presents robert edsel: the monuments men October 18 pigs & pippins! harvest day at old salem, fall foods, hands-on activities for all ages October 25 – 30 legends and lanterns tours, pumpkin carving, trick or treating!

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Time Bomb Twins Our Journey Through the NICU

By Kate Reece

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People often ask my husband and me if we were shocked when we found out we were having twins. We answer, “Yes,” of course, because that’s really the simplest answer. The fact of the matter is that while we were surprised, that news was overshadowed when we learned that our twins were sharing a placenta and an amniotic sac. This occurs when the egg splits 7–12 days after it is fertilized, and is medically termed monoamniotic-monochorionic identical twins. It’s extremely rare, but it’s even more risky. “MoMo twins” have a high risk of umbilical cord entanglement and often don’t make it to viability. Pregnancies that make it past the 24-week mark, around which time perinatologists and neonatologists consider life outside of the womb to have a chance of viability, are admitted to a hospital for around-the-clock fetal monitoring, in the hopes of catching any type of umbilical cord entanglement or blockage, made evident when fetal monitors pick up consistent drops in a baby’s heart rate. All MoMo twins are delivered via C-section around 32–34 weeks, because of riskiness.

crying any time I had a moment alone. When we learned they were girls, instead of being overjoyed, I cried for days afterwards, feeling like my only chance to have daughters would end disastrously. From weeks 16–25, my husband and I would go every Wednesday to our Maternal-Fetal Medicine doctors for an ultrasound to confirm that our girls were still alive. There aren’t really any words to explain those weeks, so I won’t try. We would go each Wednesday together, breathe a collective sigh of relief when we got the news that they were still doing okay, and, for a day or two, we’d go back to normal. Sometime around Saturday or Sunday the fear would sneak back in, and by Tuesday, we could barely talk. We did not buy baby clothing, supplies, or have a shower. We did not set up a nursery.

On the off-chance we did pick up some small trinket, or if we were given anything, I would put it carefully in a wooden chest and close the doors. Neither of us could bring ourselves to prepare for babies that we weren’t sure we’d ever bring home.

At 25 weeks and 6 days, on June 18, 2013, we checked into Forsyth Medical Center, where we lived until the girls were delivered via scheduled C-section on August 15th. I received two rounds of steroid shots during my stay to help the girls’ lungs develop. Luckily, our stay, though long, was blessedly uneventful. However, both girls had serious difficulty breathing about 5 minutes after delivery. They were taken down to the NICU while I was taken to the post-op recovery area. Within 24 hours, ventilators were breathing for them both, and things were not looking as good as doctors had originally anticipated. I have never felt so helpless. The NICU is a scary place—with monitors, wires, beeps and alarms. Six days after they were born, the girls finally took a turn for the better, surfactant therapy started working, and they both came off ventilators within hours of each other. It was then that we were finally able to hold them, and for the first time since our twin journey had begun, I felt like we were going to be parents and things were going to be okay.

We witnessed a lot of premature babies on our journey, ours included. Our story is only one of so many that the nurses and doctors could share. We lived in Forsyth Medical Center from June 18 to September 18, and each mother and baby we met or heard about had a different story with different risks.

It made our family so very grateful to The March of Dimes for all they do in our community, not only for our family, but for all of the families we Of course, we didn’t know all this at first. I encountered over those didn’t “Google” this diagnosis until we got three months. Prematurity home. “Time bomb twins” and stories of has so many risks, and so extreme prematurity, cerebral palsy, many of them have been stillborn babies, and long NICU stays lessened or eliminated by filled my screen. Success stories The March of Dimes. I existed, but tales of monthshope you'll join my family long antepartum and NICU and the Honorary Chair, Dr. stays were part of even the Tomlinson of the Wake Forest best cases. I spent a Innovation Quarter, as we lot of those early celebrate work done by The March days between Photo by Tolly Carr of Dimes on Friday, November 14th at 12 and 14 the Signature Chef Auction. For more weeks information, call 336-231-3765 or visit www.marchofdimes.org/winstonsalemchefs

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10 Cute Ways to Display Your Kids’ Art

By Katie Moosbrugger of Triad Moms on Main

oes this happen in your house? Your child comes home with piles of art for you to adore, compliment, and select which pieces you’ll hang on the fridge. Later that evening, you sift through the entire mound of paper and decide which pieces truly make the cut for a future keepsake and which ones get tossed. You think you have it all figured out, and then the next morning your child discovers

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Hang the art on a clothesline, curtain, or fishing wire. This is an inexpensive option which looks cute if you use the big art clips or clothespins to secure the hanging art. It makes it easy to switch out the artwork, too!

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Put the art in frames. Not only will it really make the art look fabulous, but your budding Picasso will also feel really proud. Find several matching frames in different shapes and sizes. Try plain black or white frames with opposite mats. Michaels and AC Moore carry inexpensive frames like these. Hang them together on one wall and let the colors of your children’s art pop!

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Create an art gallery on your wall. It’s easy to do with transparent poly pocket files that allow you to slip your child’s art in and out. You can find these pockets at Staples in the Martha Stewart Home Office collection. These pockets have a strip of adhesive on the back, so you can add and remove them easily.

his masterpiece in the trash. Oops. You apologize profusely, dust off the coffee crumbs, smooth out the wrinkles, and add it to the last remaining spot on the fridge.

If this sounds familiar, then consider these 10 ideas I discovered for displaying your child’s art without cluttering your home!

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Consider a drying rack! Wooden clothes drying racks are not only easy to find and very inexpensive, but they also work great for displaying art! Simply use wooden clothespins to attach the work. Makes a cute decoration for a child’s room or playroom, too!

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Create a digital scrapbook. Along the same lines of a digital calendar, scan the art (or photograph it), upload the images to a site like Shutterfly or Snapfish, and create memory books of the art. By going digital, you know the art will be preserved for ages, unlike paper scrapbooks.

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Try magnetic paint. This is one thing I have been dying to do in our playroom. You can create a whole art wall or just a special area, and be sure to use strong magnets to ensure everything stays put.

Create a hanging mobile. Make a fun and whimsical mobile from simple wire hanger and thread, and then have your child choose art that she can cut up and add to the mobile.

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Tape it in. If you child happens to draw directly on the wall—embrace it! Surround your child’s art with stylish Do-Frame adhesive tape! You can find this really cool tape for about $15.

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Create a calendar. Local Interior Designer Marybeth Barrett of Addressing Spaces suggests taking photos of your child’s art, scanning it, and using it to create a calendar. Calendars also make great gifts!

Make trading cards. This idea comes from Allyson Bright Meyer, a scrapbooking expert and author of The Complete Idiot’s Guide to Scrapbook Projects. Resize your child’s art on a printer or computer (after scanning) to 3.5 inches by 2.5 inches, the same size as trading cards. Print on heavy stock and cut. For extra durability, laminate them. Encourage your friends to do the same with their children’s art, and let them trade cards. They’ll have a blast!

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“Out & About” in Winston Salem

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By Heather Spivey

n Friday, September 5th, nearly 300 guests gathered at WinMock at Kinderton to attend the Children’s Museum’s annual Storybook Soiree.

The theme this year was the children’s classic tale, Charlotte’s Web, and the historical WinMock provided the perfect setting.

The Charlotte’s Web theme continued throughout the evening as guests enjoyed classic carnival games with donated prizes, “blue ribbon” cocktails and fair-inspired food, catered by The Porch. As guests perused the silent and live auctions, Live Americana music from Blue Eyed Betties filled the air.

Over $119,500 was raised to support the Children’s Museum of Winston-Salem. “Each year, the soiree is a lively evening with great entertainment and delicious food,” said Executive Director of the Museum, Elizabeth Dampier. “Storybook Soiree is the museum’s largest fundraising event and it gives the W-S community an opportunity to come together to support the children of our community. We created this event so adults can support the Museum’s mission to create a compelling destination where our children can play and learn by experiencing literature, storytelling and the arts.”

Also, the Fund-the-Read Campaign was kicked off at the Soiree, which is the Museum’s campaign for individual donations and was part of the live auction. Guests made donations and raised $26,390—exceeding the $25,000 goal!

This year’s Chairpersons were Heather & Mike Wilson and Matt & Katy Fisher. The Honorary Chairs were Susan & John Elster and Guy & Marie Arcuri. The Children’s Museum would like to thank all of the volunteers and sponsors for their support that makes the Storybook Soiree possible.

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Arts Organizations Partner to Promote Local Artists and Opera

What’s Your Story?

Why Opera?

“Learning opera helps increase language skills, teaches higher level thinking and creative problem-solving skills in real world situations, involves cooperative learning, teaches tolerance and understanding of other cultures, develops an appreciation for the arts, involves all learning styles, and stimulates the imagination.”

On March 13, 15 and 17, 2015, Piedmont Opera will produce Mozart’s The Magic Flute, a fun and family-friendly production that is a great introduction to opera.

“We hope to see a lot of young faces in the audience this spring,” stated Mariedith Appanaitis, Marketing Director for Piedmont Opera. To help raise awareness, the opera has partnered with The Delta Arts Center, Associated Artists of Winston-Salem and the Hispanic Arts Initiative to create the What’s Your Story contest.

Piedmont Opera is dedicated to developing and educating new audiences for greater appreciation of opera and musical theater. This goal led the company to partner with other arts organizations who are also interested in student arts education.

All students, kindergarten through 12th grade, are invited to submit an original fairytale concept. Local artists will select a fairytale to bring to life through different mediums. “This is a great way to introduce different art forms to students. We also hope that students and their families will become more familiar with many of our local artists and with opera,” said Appanaitis.

Selected fairytale muses will be invited to an art show and will have their work displayed. Winners will receive tickets to Piedmont Opera’s production of The Magic Flute and will be invited to meet the cast. Visit piedmontopera.org for an application. (Contest begins on October 1, 2014)

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By Rebecca Olsen

he first boy I ever loved broke my heart into a million pieces. Not an auspicious start, but it’s how many peoples’ stories start: young love—blind, passionate, and frankly oblivious. Love shattered by a lie, an omission, and the discovery of misplaced trust. It’s a story as old as time. From Greek mythology to modern tabloid stories, it’s played and replayed, written and rewritten in a million different ways. The heart of the matter is still the same, though—broken trust.

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Heart-wrenching, life-changing; and yet, it happens to us all, doesn’t it?

There isn’t one of us who hasn’t been betrayed or lied to or lied about at one point or another. It is the frailty of human nature that ensures that at some point in our lives we will experience the heartbreak of broken trust. Yet it is also the resiliency of human nature that ensures at some point, we will trust again. Though we may be careful, though we may be cautious, though we may be skeptical, eventually we will take that leap again. Something in us is designed for that level of intimacy with others. Something that started long ago when God realized it wasn’t good for man to be alone. Man needed woman, and she him, to satisfy that craving to know and be known. We seek to be known not just on a surface level; that would never satisfy. But rather, we desire something deep and personal—a relationship that belongs just to us. Intimately personal yet visibly public; we long for marriage.

And so we stand before our friends and before God and we promise faithfulness. And with that promise is a commitment of not just our own faithfulness, but a commitment to believe in our spouse’s. We promise to trust. We promise to believe he will be there every day, and the day after, when the wrinkles come, but also for the joblessness, the bareness, the cancer, or the depression. We promise enough trust for everything that life throws us—unexpected, undeserved, unplanned and undesired. Enough trust to let our spouses see us at our ugliest, 90 • forsythfamilymagazine.com

our weakest, in our darkest moments, and believe he will love us regardless. Enough trust to let our spouse drive away each day, knowing we can’t monitor his every move and knowing even more so, that we wouldn’t want to.

Marriage takes a level of trust so overwhelmingly magnanimous that it seems beyond our natural human abilities. Maybe there is something or someone who makes it stronger than mere mortals can take credit for. When we say the holy vows of matrimony, maybe it becomes just that—a sacred union buoyed by the Divine (A sacredness that doubtlessly sometimes gets lost in the day-to-day minutia of living, dirty dishes, diapers and in-laws). It joins two people together by threads that are unseen, yet as tangible as life itself. It’s a connection that can span lifetimes and continents, yet resides in so small a word as “trust.”

What a precious thing it is when that trust does remain unbroken. Like my great grandparents who weathered the Great Depression for 68 years of marriage, and my own parents, recently celebrating their 39th year of marriage.

They serve as examples of faithfulness that baffle the mind in a society of instant gratification and drive-through disposable relationships. Yet, even when that trust has been broken, we begin again.

Despite a few broken hearts and crash-landed romances, we continue to search for someone worthy of that level of trust. Because when it comes down to it, that’s what marriage is— an act of trust. A daily act played out in living rooms and offices and Starbucks and carpools and church pews. When we stand to make those promises and commit to believe the promises of our spouse, we lay the foundation of something sacred in a marriage—a trust that can be developed, built and grown, full of possibility. Possibility we can believe in, because we’ve seen it exemplified in generations before us, and we know what an increasingly rare and valuable thing it is when we find a sacred trust.

Calendar October 2014 Dr. David Jeremiah OCT 2, 7:00PM Location: Greensboro Coliseum (Greensboro) Dr. David Jeremiah and Turning Point Ministries reaches people all over the world through its radio and television broadcasts!Special Musical Guest: Michael W. Smith All seats are FREE, however registration is required 800.947.1993 WBFJ @ the Dixie Classic Fair!!

OCT 3-12 Location: Dixie Classic Fairgrounds (Winston-Salem) WBFJ will once again be broadcasting at the fair! Stop by the gazebo and play Plinko with a purpose, check out the Swifty Swine Swimming & Racing Pigs and grab some food from the Munchie Wagon!!

336.777-1893 Angela Thomas OCT 4, 9:00AM Location: Green Street Baptist Church (High Point) Angela is a best-selling author, sought-after speaker and gifted story-teller, Her real-life experiences helps women of all ages and from all walks of life develop a deeper passion for knowing God! 336.819.4354 LifeChain 2014 OCT 5, 2:00PM Location: Hanes Mall Blvd. (near Kohl's - Winston-Salem) LifeChain is an annual nationwide peaceful pro-life demonstration for the unborn.

336.655.9479 Colton Dixon / Jamie Grace OCT 8, 7:30PM Location: Dixie Classic Fair (WinstonSalem)Bring 5 cans or 5 boxes of nonperishable Lowes Food brands and receive free admission into the fairgrounds and the concert!!

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Georgia and simulcast at Hope Community Church 336.793.8399 National Christian Apologetics Conference OCT 11-12, 9-5 Location: Calvary Church (Charlotte) Presented by the Southern Evangelical Seminary 800.778.7884 "Hope Grows" 5k & Family Fun Walk OCT 18, 8:00AM Location: Triad Park (Kernersville) Proceeds: Caroline's Promise - a ministry helping reclaim hope for orphans through adoptive family assistance 336.993.9046 Fall Jamboree OCT 18, 1-7PM Location: Alpha Acres (Yadkinville) Activities include: Live Music, Activities for the Kids, Hayrides & more! Alpha Acres is a ministry of the Winston-Salem Rescue Mission 336.463.5155 "Unmasked The Violence" Fundraiser OCT 18, 5:30PM Location: First Christian Church (Kernersville)Barbecue Dinner', Silent Auction, Live Music & more!

Proceeds: Next Step Ministries is a safe house for women, providing services to domestic violence victims and survivors. 336.413.7054 CROP Hunger Walk OCT 19, 2:30PM Location: Corpening Plaza (WinstonSalem) Proceeds to benefit Crisis Control Ministry, Sunnyside Ministries & Church World Service.

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Synapses

By Tami Rumfelt n the last decade or so, scientists have uncovered lots of new information about how a baby’s brain develops. We now know that when a baby is born, her brain is wired for only the basic functions of life, like breathing and circulation. However, by the time a baby is a year old, her brain will much more closely resemble the brain of an adult than that of a newborn.

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The formation of synapses, little pathways that connect groups of brain cells to each other, is crucial in brain development. Synapse formation is driven by sensory stimulation. Every time a baby has a new experience, new connections are formed. This growth is so rapid that in the first few months of life, babies develop hundreds of TRILLIONS of these synapses. Sadly, babies who are victims of neglect, who are not nurtured and stimulated, develop fewer synapses, leading to potential learning disabilities or delays later in life.

Just as a baby’s brain development benefits from new experiences, I am convinced that our faith develops in much the same way. In Psalm 34:8, David invites us to seek God in tangible, sensory ways…to “taste and see that the Lord is good.” When we experience God in a new or different way, our faith grows and our spirit strengthens.

If you’re feeling a spiritually flat, ask the Lord to open some doors that lead to fresh, new ways to experience His presence and love.

Musing About…

Clarity

By Tim Roberts - Pastor of Sunrise United Methodist Church in Lewisville

aybe I was just in a rather jocular mood that day. After all, I was surrounded by some of my buddies, and we were in the midst of a round of common horseplay, which was typical for us. If that wasn’t enough, we had just left the scene of a structure fire, which would boost the spirits of any firefighter—that’s what we lived for. But then again, my cheerfulness may have been brought about because I had successfully persuaded my captain to stop by the local Dairy Queen on our way back to the firehouse. How could that not bring a smile to a dirty and sweaty face? Yes, I as I gazed up at the sign portraying a little Eskimo holding up a soft-serve ice cream cone, I couldn’t help but allow a bit of a grin to spread across my face, because I knew that I was only minutes away from having a similar culinary delight before me, ready for me to delve into its succulent sweetness. Note: If you haven’t guessed by now, I like ice cream.

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It was out of this tranquil fantasy that I was jerked back to reality by the realization that someone was speaking to me. “What about you, baby?” she inquired. As I snapped my mind back to the here-and-now, I glanced over to notice my buddies laughing. My sight then turned to the person speaking to me. Once again, she repeated, “Yo, baby!”

Still not quite understanding what was transpiring, I responded to the woman, “Excuse me?” With a sense of exasperation she once again offered up her proposal, “I said, I’ll do anything you want for twenty dollars.” That’s when it hit me, and I realized that the section of Charlotte we were in was well known area for, uhmm...working women.

At first I was shocked to have been approached like this, in broad daylight, and in front of an ice cream parlor. My buddies were all laughing, after having turned down her offer. Finally, as I began to

fall right in line with all of her other rejections, I uttered the first words that came to mind, “Why, sure, darling! I have been looking for somebody like you. I have got this old out-building behind my house, and it is in need of someone to paint it. Twenty dollars sounds like a good deal to me!” My compadres all burst out with laughter, but the lady evidently was not so amused. She began a torrent of words and phrases that make me blush still. As she stormed off, we still could hear her yelling at us and threatening to call the police on us (yes, really). Finally, as I stepped up to order my ice cream cone, I looked back and muttered, “She said she’d do anything.”

It’s only after some twenty years of reflection that I can glean some biblical truth from this encounter. Just a couple of days ago, I instantly remembered this encounter as I was reading Matthew’s gospel. The section I was reading was from Jesus’ Sermon on the Mount, and he uttered these words, “And don’t say anything you don't mean.” (Matthew 5:33a). Why did that happenstance come to mind? I am not sure, but it may have had something to do with me reading it as translated in The Message this time. But anyway, I remembered it and thought to myself, “I wonder how many times I say something rather vague.” Probably many people would say that about me. Too many times I am not clear enough with what I say, and all I do is cause myself and others to become confused and frustrated. So, I will try to do better and be a bit clearer in what I say. Just as important, I will need to remember, many others have the same affliction and I need to ask for clarity. But, she really did say she would do anything.

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n just a few short months, many of us will be celebrating Christmas or Hanukkah, opening gifts and spending time with family and friends. But for some children in the world, Christmas does not come every year and gifts are rare. However, the charitable organization Operation Christmas Child (OCC) makes sure that children all over the world have a shoebox filled with toys and needed everyday items.

This past May 17th–24th, a group of 80 year-around volunteers for Operation Christmas Child, a ministry of Samaritan’s Purse, traveled to Cebu Island, Philippines, to distribute shoeboxes to the local children.

“The distribution of shoeboxes is really just the beginning for the children, churches and ministries we visit around the world. OCC wants to take children and communities into a deeper walk and understanding of what it looks like to be a committed Christian.

Along with the small toys and items that many of us take for granted every day, like a toothbrush, soap and other toiletries, each shoebox contains a 16-page booklet, The Greatest Gift of All, explaining how God loves them so much that He was willing to send His son, Jesus Christ, to earth to die for all our

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sins, so we can someday live in heaven forever. The reactions from the kids were times I will never forget,” recalled Danny Spainhour, OCC Area Coordinator for the NW Piedmont. But when the volunteers give out the shoeboxes, so much more happens than just a kid getting a few toys and things they need.

“Each day that we distributed shoeboxes we would start with music and songs led by children, have a skit or puppet show, then a Bible lesson. At the end of the program, we would give each child, age 2 to upper teens, a shoebox and ask them to hold it on their lap until everyone had their own. We did a countdown from 10 and yelled ‘Open your box!’ Each church had between 75–150 kids waiting on shoeboxes and our visit. It’s hard to explain the next few minutes when a child, for most of them, would open the first present they have ever received in their lives.

Some kids were so excited they wanted to share the contents of their box with their friends and siblings and then sometimes we had to explain a few of the items.

Imagine never have seen a yo-yo, crayons, or a flashlight? But universally, girls knew what to do with bracelets, necklaces and headbands, while boys needed no help with baseball caps, soccer

balls and toy cars. For all of the kids, they knew exactly what to do with sunglasses and how to hug a stuffed animal,” Danny said.

Beyond the giving of gifts, the visit to the Philippines was about the ongoing work between the volunteers here in the States and the local leaders in the areas visited. “Through the ongoing partnership of OCC and the local leaders on the National Leadership Team in the Philippines a whole generation of kids has been brought up in the church and knowledge of Jesus Christ. Several of the events while we were in the Philippines were led by mature Christians that 10 years ago received their own shoebox. It is through the partnership that we are able to do so much more than just hand out shoeboxes to kids. OCC has never wanted to just play ‘Santa’ and blow into a country to give presents,” commented Danny.

One area in particular, Bohol Island, had been hit hard by an earthquake in 2013, and the effects were easily visible by the volunteers.

“The church where we held our distribution was made of bamboo poles and had walls made of palm leaves woven together like a basket. The preacher there said our visit was the first good thing

to happen to their congregation since the earthquake. We heard stories of the locals being without power, fresh water and transportation for weeks following the earthquake. Much had been cleaned up, but trees were still piled up and buildings were in ruins,” Danny said. Another project of OCC is called ‘The Greatest Journey,’ which is a 12week extended Bible study for kids that is brought into an area after shoeboxes have been distributed. “OCC helps train the adult leaders, and they take the kids into a deeper understanding about what it means to follow Jesus Christ and how they should share Jesus with their friends.

This trip may have started with a focus of ‘shoebox distribution,’ but it became seeing how the shoeboxes can bring a community full circle in an effort to continue the spread of the Gospel Message. This trip in particular showed me how OCC has come ‘full circle’ in the Philippines, and how a simple shoebox gift is more of a ‘tool’ than just a ‘toy,’” Danny stated.

For local kick-off events for OCC and information on shoeboxes, what to include and where to drop them off, visit www.samaritanspurse.org.

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The “Road to Greensboro” starts with approximately 3,500 skaters nationwide. Through regional and sectional competitions approximately 375 skaters are selected to compete in the U.S. Championships in Greensboro. The city also served as host for the highly successful 2011 AT&T U.S. Figure Skating Championships and set the all-time Greensboro Coliseum Complex event attendance record with more than 161,500 total onsite attendance.

“In 2011, Greensboro became the first Host City ever to stage the three major U.S. Championships components—Competition, Practice, and FanFest—all under one roof. We’re going to use this widely-praised and highly convenient setup again in 2015,” said Hill Carrow, Chairman of the 2015 U.S. Prudential Figure Skating Championships. “This is going to be an incredible event, featuring many of the leading figure skaters in the world.”

“We’re offering a wide variety of ticket price options—with tickets starting as low as $10—so that everyone may have the chance to enjoy the Championships,” Carrow added. “I urge fans to get tickets as soon as possible, to make sure they get the best choice of seats. The Triad will be the place to be in January for family fun.”

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10 Tips for Dealing with Picky Eaters

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any know this all too common battle: trying to get a young child to eat. While it may seem like a trivial subject, it is incredibly vital for kids to get the nutrients given in proper meals. According to the Centers for Disease Control, “proper nutrition promotes the optimal growth and development of children.” Through eating healthy, children can prevent high cholesterol and high blood pressure, and ultimately help reduce the risk of developing chronic diseases such as cardiovascular disease, cancer, and diabetes. Learning such facts, one can see why it is so important for children to have a healthy diet. Dealing with a picky eater of your own? Read on for ten tips in dealing with this type of eater and providing them with a delicious, nutrient-filled meal!

importance of food’s benefits. Talk with children 1. Discuss about why specific nutrients and vitamins are necessary to help the body grow and function.

Puree fruits and vegetables. Through pureeing fruits and 2. vegetables, one can sneak in these vital foods into smoothies.

portions equal bigger success! Big portions can 3. beSmaller intimidating and leave kids thinking, “How can I possibly eat all that?” Small portions, on the other finger, are easier to get through.

Cut down on in-between-meals snacks. By cutting out 4. snacks, kids come to the table hungry and are more likely to try new foods.

Let them share with you! Kids often enjoy eating what 5. their parents eat. If they see that you are eating healthy, they are more likely to as well.

Don’t take “No” for an answer. Have kids take at least 6. three bites before they give up on a certain food. You would be surprised at how often kids simply need to try a food to see they actually like it.

Shapes make food more interesting! Try cutting 7. sandwiches into hearts or circles to make the foods seem more exciting.

your picky eater to help you cook. Give your kids a 8. fewInvitesimple tasks during preparation and they will feel a sense of pride in the food on their plate.

Stick to a routine. Serve meals and snacks (juice and 9. milk) at about the same times every day.

Minimize outside distractions. Turn off the television and 10. other electronic gadgets during meals. This will help your child focus on eating.

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HANDY POPCORN BAGS 1 box clear plastic food-serving gloves candy corn popcorn plastic spider rings ribbon Directions: 1. Insert a candy corn, point-side down, into each fingertip of the glove for the fingernails.

2. Fill with popcorn.

3. Tie off the open end of the glove with ribbon.

4. Add spider ring to a finger. (optional)

MONSTER DOUGHNUTS 12 glazed doughnuts 12 sets of plastic vampire teeth 24 chocolate chips Directions: 1. Squeeze a set of the plastic teeth closed and insert them into the hole of the doughnut.

2. Push chocolate chips into the doughnuts, point-down, for eyes.

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ZOMBIE WATERMELON BRAIN 1 small seedless watermelon vegetable peeler paring knife large knife Directions: 1. Slice some of the rind off the bottom (but not enough that the juice seeps out), so that the watermelon sits flat.

2. Using the vegetable peeler, peel the dark green skin off the melon.

3. Using the paring knife, score two center lines close together for the length of the melon. Remove the rind between them, revealing some of the red center of the watermelon, creating the two hemispheres of the brain.

3. Google search an image of the brain for modeling purposes.

Using the knife, score squiggly brain folds and channels into the rind, representing the brain folds.

4. If serving at home, present with the large knife inserted for added creepy effect.

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or most teens, Facebook is still their friend. I check my Facebook on almost a daily basis to keep up with my family who live out-of-state, to keep track of friends who I no longer attend school with and to keep up with current events. A recent survey out of Harvard showed that my Facebook use is similar to that of a high school teenager. This survey, called the Pew Internet & American Life Project, out of the Berkman Center at Harvard, stated that 94% of all online teens use Facebook, while another 24% use Twitter. And, in addition, in the short 2 years since the launch of Instagram, 13% of teenagers use that medium. While these numbers seem impressive, the fact is that teenage interest in Facebook is declining. It was recently reported online that teenage use of Facebook has declined by as much as 25%, including teens in high school and college. When teenagers were asked why they were losing interest in Facebook, they stated that there were too many adults using it, their friends posted too many senseless rants, and there was too much online Facebook drama.

They also said that maintaining their “Facebook reputation” caused them stress.

I personally don’t get involved in the Facebook drama that many teenagers experience online, but this was one of the top three reasons why teenagers are losing interest in Facebook. Unfortunately, some teenagers use Facebook as a medium to work out their relationship issues. Instead of privately discussing the issue with the person directly involved, they post a cryptic message about how hurt they are that a “certain someone” did a “certain something” that made them feel a “certain emotion.” I doubt that adults work out their issues in this way, and I think teenagers may want to think about using Facebook for other purposes besides misunderstandings between friends.

After I reviewed this survey, I tended to agree. Adults on Facebook don’t typically understand how to properly use it, in my opinion.

Novice adult Facebook users comment on every post, especially their children’s posts. Better yet, every day is “Throwback Thursday,” and they feel the need to post the most horrifying picture of you from second grade (you know, the one before you survived puberty, got contacts and wore braces for three years). Then there’s your crazy Aunt Mona whose comments are always the most awkward statements, having nothing to do with your post, leaving you with the eerie feeling your every Facebook action is being stalked. And while 7 out of 10

While millions of teenagers are starting to use Instagram and Twitter, they don’t replace Facebook with these social apps. They just add them to what they already use. I started using Instagram and Snapchat, but I maintained my Facebook page solely to keep up with people who I do not see on a regular basis. These two apps are easier for sending private messages and for sharing funny pictures with friends that last only a few seconds, and then are deleted automatically from the device.

So, while most teens, including myself, are still friends with Facebook, they have made some new friends named “Instagram,” “Twitter” and “SnapChat.”

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teens are Facebook friends with their parents, they probably don’t want Mom and Dad commenting on every posted picture.

My least favorite type of teenage posts are the ones that brag about whatever new item was recently purchased by the family. While they are proud of the watch, the boat, or the new car, this usually comes across as bragging instead of the appreciation they may be showing their parents.

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The Sleepeasy Solution: The Exhausted Parent's Guide to Getting Your Child to Sleep–from Birth to 5

By Jennifer Waldburger and Jill Spivack Genre: Non-fiction Age Range: Infant–5 Reviewed by Emily Eileen Carter It’s one of the great deficits of parenthood: sleep. So, if you don’t think it’s possible you can function on 7 hours or less, whether you become a zombie or not, this “sleepeasy” solution teaches parents how to help their children learn to fall sleep, self-soothe and train, so everyone is getting more z’s. This practical guide to getting your baby or toddler to sleep through the night helps you create a custom sleep plan (night routine) for your child and walks you step-by-step through a very doable plan to get your child to sleep through the night without feeding, rocking, or standing on your head at all hours. A more gentle approach than the very popular “Ferber” (a.k.a. “cry it out”) method, this guide does instruct parents to let their child cry, but allows for timed check-ins and a pre-feeding system to wean nighttime feedings. Complete with a “Crying 911” section and troubleshooting chapter for all special considerations, such as teething, developmental milestones and more, I really felt like this guide did a great job of anticipating all my questions, concerns, and other possible road bumps. I also like how honest and real the authors were in comforting and coaching me as I went through the challenging process of not picking up my child every time he cried. In addition, this guide also offers modifications for parents and families with special circumstances.

Harriet the Spy

By Louise Fitzhugh Genre: Fiction Age Range: 8–12 Book Reviewed by Denise Heidel The first time I read Harriet the Spy was the first time I really connected with a literary character. I was in the 4th grade, wore glasses and liked to read. I dreamed of being a writer. Where we differed—I never possessed Harriet’s adventurous spirit (nor her enthusiasm for tomato sandwiches, though I do appreciate them now as an adult). Harriet was a character I always admired. Perhaps that’s why, even as an adult, I still like to read this book. It is easy to relate to Harriet, a child so full of curiosity that—in some cases—it proves to be a bit TOO much. She is in that limbo-land of still wanting to be cared for, but also wishing to stretch her wings and test out her independence. She is in that awkward age of quandary; not sure where she fits in, trying to perceive the limits of who she is, and greatly testing the stability of lifelong friendships. It’s a book every child should read!

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t's a golden yellow building in Old Salem that has stood since 1816. It has had too many coats of paint to possibly be counted. The front porch is uneven, and the front door creaks. But don't think that any of this means that the experience at The Tavern in Old Salem will seem in any way old or stale.

In April of 2012, Rick Keiper and his wife, Lori, became the new owners -- or tavern keepers, as they are known -- of The Tavern in Old Salem.

After a few months of renovations, they re-opened the doors in July of that year and haven’t looked back. It is more than just a husband-andwife operation, though. The Keipers work there with two of their three sons every day as well. Their son Jared is the executive chef and son Jordan is the bar and front of house manager.

The classics remain -- pot roast, fresh local chicken livers and especially the Moravian chicken pie that has long been a staple in Old Salem and Winston-Salem as a whole. “Yes, it is still definitely what we sell the most of,” said Rick Keiper. But there are newly invented twists on dishes that keep diners intrigued with each visit. “We really try to take historic recipes and upgrade them to a more contemporary style.” This goes hand-in-hand with the preserved feel of the building– dining rooms are old bedrooms from the boarding house that the building was used as originally -- to the costumed servers that work during lunch.

The extensive menu at The Tavern in Old Salem is impressive. Lunch, dinner and Sunday brunch are all offered. Nothing is left out, and guests can choose from creations such as a fried pork schnitzel and collard greens coleslaw sandwich, tavern triple club sandwich, crawfish and grits or “Duck 3 Ways” (roasted, confit and bacon) just to name a

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few. Things are fresh and often local with Jared strolling down Main Street in Old Salem to the Cobblestone Farmers Market each Saturday for local goods and weekly visits from local farmers who bring produce, cheeses and meats among other things.

There are menu changes every three months to keep up with seasonal offerings that are worth highlighting. A salad featuring summer peaches, for example, will be swapped out in the fall for one that instead showcases apples. Desserts are plentiful with picture perfect southern offerings like bourbon chocolate pecan pie, and the wine, beer and cocktail lists include options from local wineries and breweries to favorites from around the globe.

The Tavern in Old Salem is an important stop during any trip to Old Salem for local visitors or those visiting from out of town.

“We could not be more thrilled to have the Keiper family at the helm of The Tavern in Old Salem,” said Ragan Folan, President of Old Salem Museums & Gardens. “The Tavern is an essential part of the community here, and the quality of the food and the service that their visitors experience is unlike anything else in town. It is a unique, wonderful spot.”

Stop on by. A smiling, southern face will hold the creaky front door open for you and welcome you right on in.

The Tavern in Old Salem is located at 736 South Main Street in Winston-Salem. Hours of operation are Tuesdays-Saturdays 11am3:30pm and 4:30-9pm; Sundays 11am-3pm. For more information, visit the website at www.thetaverninoldsalem.ws.

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7:30am-4pm, 1088 West Dalton Road in King. Mitchell's is growing more than 100,000 pansies and violas. It is also growing fall vegetable plants, mums, perennials, trees and shrubs. Fall is the best time to plant. There will be free refreshments and door prizes. Celebrating 35 years! www.mitchellsnursery.com

8:45am-12:30pm, 1735 Lewisville-Clemmons Road in Clemmons. Join the Piedmont Down Syndrome Support Network (PDSSN) for activities including inflatables, games, face painting, train rides, fire truck, food, talent show, raffle and more! New this year is the addition of the 5K timed race. Registration required. Cost: $8-$30/person. www.pdssn.org/buddy-walk-5k-run

BRENNER CHILDREN’S HOSPITAL HEARSAY RELAY AND 2K WALK 9am-12pm, BB&T Ball Park, 951 Ball Park Way in W-S. Ultimately, about one in 10 members of the community will experience hearing loss. Join us as we celebrate our

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10am-5pm, Tanglewood Stables, Forsyth County's Tanglewood Park. This October, meet us in the stables parking lot for scheduled weekend hay rides to the pumpkin patch and back to pick your own pumpkin!

Cost: $9/person. Private rides of 25 to 30 people can be scheduled any day for $200. Reservations required. www.tanglewoodstables.com

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families with hearing loss and raise funds for community projects in their honor. Appearance by Bolt! Free for those with hearing aids and registered participants; $10/adult; free for children under 5. www.hearsayrelay.org

OCTOBER 4 HEARTS FOR HORSES 3-7pm, Cellar 4201 Winery in East Bend. Fun including music by Nic Croucher, food from Oscar’s Grille – chicken or pork BBQ with plenty of sides, wine from Cellar 4201 and a silent auction. Cost: $25/person for regular ticket; $30/person for VIP ticket which includes one glass of wine; one free kids’ meal (hot dog & chips) with paying adult ticket, plus kids play area. Purchase tickets at www.hiddenkhorserescue.org.

OCTOBER 5 LIFE CHAIN 2-3:30pm, Hanes Mall Boulevard (on the sidewalk, west of Stratford Road). The Life Chain is a nationwide annual prayer event, held in thousands of cities across the United States, on the same day. It is a peaceful, public witness of pro-life individuals quietly praying for 90 minutes for an end to abortion. www.lorighiatabowser.blogspot.com

OCTOBER 8 GIRLS' NIGHT OUT 5 pm…until! Red, Hot & Blue, 613 Deacon Boulevard in W-S. Grab a friend, neighbor, co-worker, mother, sister, SOMEBODY and have a much need Girls’ Night Out. Enjoy $5.99 wings (10), $4 wine by the glass and $3 Corona Light drafts. Also, register for TONS of prizes and giveaways! Sponsored by Red, Hot & Blue, Forsyth Woman and Forsyth Woman Engaged!

OCTOBER 9 DARK IN THE PARK @ HISTORIC BETHABARA PARK 5:30-8pm, 2147 Bethabara Road in W-S. A Bethabara Band concert and family evening with a Halloween twist.

A haunting good time. Come dressed in your Halloween best! Free event. www.bethabarapark.org

OCTOBER 10 L2: "LEARN & LEAD" (SIMULCAST) (SEE AD PG10) 8:45AM - 1:00PM Location: Hope Community Church (WS). Guest Speakers: Dr. John Maxwell, Linda Kaplan Thaler & Tim Sanders. The conference will be held live at 12 Stone Church in Duluth, Georgia and simulcast at Hope Community Church 336.793.8399 OCTOBER 11, 12 & 18, 19 Fall Parade of Homes (see ad pg55) Saturdays and Sundays, 1-5pm

OCTOBER 13 KIDS’ MORNING OUT 10am-11:30am, Salem Gymnastics Sports Center, 4870 Country Club Road in W-S. FREE event for kids of all ages! Grab a friend and bring the kids for a morning of fun! Come see all Salem Gymnastics has to offer with a variety of individual activity stations. Each adult attendee will receive four tickets for our fabulous prize board!

Check out our website for a complete Calendar Listing! www.forsythfamilymagazine.com

11am-12pm, 4201 Manor House Circle in Clemmons. Jim Nottke, extension master gardener volunteer, will discuss selection, planting and care of trees in the fall landscape.

Free event, but registration is required. www.forsyth.cc/ces

OCTOBER 16 HOME FREE ANNUAL LUNCH TO END DOMESTIC VIOLENCE IN FORSYTH COUNTY (SEE AD PG7) Noon to 1:30; Benton Convention Center. Tickets available at www.homefreenc.com

OCTOBER 17 ZUMBATHON TO BENEFIT SUSAN G. KOMEN NORTHWEST NC 7-10pm, 6205 Ramada Drive in Clemmons. Join us for the 4th annual three-hour Zumbathon. Presented by Women's Wellness & Fitness and Village Inn Event Center. Cost: $15/advance; $20/door. www.Zumba2endBreastCancer.com

OCTOBER 18 WILEY MAGNET MIDDLE SCHOOL YARD SALE 8am-12pm, 1400 Northwest Boulevard in W-S. The yard sale proceeds will benefit the costs associated with the 8th grade spring field trip to our nation's capital.\Error!

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A NIGHT OF TALENT 7-9pm, 119 North Bunker Hill Road in Colfax. A Night of Talent will be an evening of fun, showcasing the talent of seniors 55+ in our community as they participate in a talent show. Cost: $7-$12/person. Purchase tickets in advance for a discounted price. www.shepctrkville.com

OCTOBER 25 RUN THE HOUSE 5K AND FUN WALK 8:30am-12pm, 4061 Clemmons Road in Clemmons.

Participants receive a t-shirt upon arrival and may bring leashed pets. Fun activities and free food for the whole family! Cost: $25/person. www.familyhousews.org/news/run-the-house-5k

ESSENTIAL OIL EXPO 11am-4pm, 1001 South Marshall Street in W-S. Topics include using essential oils to manage symptoms of ADHD, autism, Asperger's, balancing blood sugar and supporting the immune system as we head into the cold and flu season. Sample foods made with essential oils and more. Free event. www.anewdayessentials.com

CASH LOVELL STABLES CHARITY FALL FUN HORSE SHOW 3:30-6:30pm, 2010 Darwick Road in W-S. Bring the entire family and join us on the grounds of Cash Lovell Stables & Riding Academy for a fun-filled afternoon. Free and open to the public. Horse riding, kids activities, food and fun. www.cashlovellstables.com

HARVEST DAY AT OLD SALEM

OCTOBER 25 & 30 LEGENDS AND LANTERNS HALLOWEEN TOURS

9:30am-4:30pm, 900 Old Salem Road in W-S. Join us for a fun-filled day of activities involving favorite fall foods: Pigs & Pippins (apples)! Celebrate the fall harvest with hands-on activities, puppet shows, historic demonstrations and more! www.oldsalem.org/harvestday.html

6-9pm, 924 South Main Street in W-S. Guided tour through the nighttime streets of Old Salem. Visit several haunting stops in the historic district where you will hear tales of a local ghostly legend or interact with a person from the past. Cost: $25/adult;$20/child. www.oldsalem.org/halloween-tours

OCTOBER 19 CROP HUNGER WALK

OCTOBER 26 TRICK OR TREAT IN OLD SALEM

1:30-4pm, Corpening Plaza, 231 1st Street West in W-S. Walk with us! Ending hunger one step at a time. Since 1979, the Winston-Salem/Forsyth County CROP Hunger Walk has been raising funds to fight hunger both locally and internationally. www.cropwalkforsyth.org

6-7:30pm, South Main Street in W-S. Children can trickor-treat at the doors of the historic buildings along Main Street between Salem Square and the Frank L. Horton Museum Center in Old Salem. Free event. www.oldsalem.org/trick-or-treat-in-old-salem

CAPTURING HALLOWEEN 1-5pm, 4403 Country Club Road in W-S. The Brad Ratledge Band, Trick or Treating, games, bounce house, photo booth, costume contest. First 200 Trick or Treaters get a treat bag full of lots of free stuff.

Website: www.capturinghopesphotography.org Colin & Brad from Whose Line is it Anyway? (see ad pg103)5pm; A hilarious night of Improv Comedy!

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OCTOBER 22 FREE PICOSURE OPEN HOUSE @ CAROLINA LASER & COSMETIC CENTER (SEE AD PG51) 5-7pm; Tattoo Regret? Removing tattoos just got faster!

Call to register – 336-659-2663!

OCTOBER 24 2014 FALL CARNIVAL @ ST. JOHN’S LUTHERAN CHURCH AND SCHOOL 5-7:30pm, Carnival games, giant slide, food, & outdoor activities 2415 Silas Creek Parkway

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OCTOBER 15 FALL FOLIAGE SEMINAR

NOVEMBER 15 WALK FOR WISHES @ TANGLEWOOD PARK (SEE AD PG115) FIRST SUNDAYS FAMILY FIRST 2-5pm, 2250 Reynolda Road. In this workshop, participants will take inspiration from George L. K. Morris’s Wall-Painting (1936) to create an abstract masterpiece using wallpaper and acrylic paint. For children in grades 1-6 accompanied by an adult. Cost: $8/members; $10/non-members. Registration required. reynoldahouse.org

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FUTURE FORSYTH MAGAZINES’ FALL CONSIGNMENT SHOP HOP 7:30am-6pm. The Fall Consignment Shop Hop is just around the corner! Seats are limited. Reserve yours now!

Cost: $25 includes lunch, transportation and the opportunity to win some awesome door prizes! www.TinyUrl.com/Fall14CSH. Email Denise@ForsythMags.com for more information.

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Advertiser Index Activities Kersey Valley Maize Adventure ..................41 Kersey Valley Spookywoods ......................31 ProDance Academy ...................................79 Salem Gymnastics ..................................106 SciWorks ..................................................71 Triad Eco Adventure...................................25 Triple Threat Dancenter..............................83 Attorneys Craige Brawley Liipfert & Walker LLP.........27 J. Carl Hearn, Attorney ..............................69 Automotive Roger Marion Automotive..........................75 TJ’s Body Shop.........................................75 Beauty / Styling Christina’s Dessertery .....................109, 113 Cupcakes by Three ..................................109 Nothing Bundt Cakes.................................29 Beauty / Styling A New Day Essentials................................53 Rodan & Fields .........................................53 V’s Barbershop............................................8 Childcare Imprints ...................................................69 YMCA ......................................................29 Churches Sunrise United Methodist Church .............92 Dentists / Orthodontists Chermak & Hanson ...................................67 Drs. Handy and Handy...............................47 Kingery & Kingery .....................................39 Rudnicke Orthodontics ..............................25 Salem Smiles ...........................................31 Southern Dental Associates.......................11 Tina S. Merhoff and Associates Pediatric Dentistry .....................................................9 Winston-Salem Dental Care.......................53 Education Calvary Baptist Day School........................65 Salem Academy ........................................45 St. John’s Lutheran School........................83 Financial Financial Pathways ....................................59 Truliant......................................................53 Florist Minglewood Florist .................................102 Health & Fitness A New Day Essentials................................53 C3 Fitness.................................................95 YMCA .......................................................29 114 • forsythfamilymagazine.com

Home Brookberry Farm-Berkshire Hathaway...........3 Chamberlain Place ....................................65 Chris Lawncare..........................................57 Dero’s.......................................................23 HBAWS 2014 Fall Parade of Homes ..........55 Financial Pathways ....................................59 Moore Self Storage ...................................79 New Pyramid Builders ...............................57 Salem Windows & Doors ..........................35 Stitches ....................................................63 Susan Maier-Colon - Berkshire Hathaway ..63 Weed Man ................................................75 Winston-Salem Cleaning Service ..............79 Home Medical Care Home Instead Senior Care ...........................5 Insurance State Farm – Will Wilkins ..........................35 Landscaping Chris Lawn Care ........................................57 Weed Man ................................................75 Medical Carolina Hearing Doctors.............................8 Carolina Laser & Cosmetic Center .............51 Choice Physical Therapy ...........................35 Cornerstone Health Care..............................7 Home Instead Senior Care ...........................5 Lewisville Laser & Aesthetics.....................39 Lyndhurst Gynecological Associates..........85 Novant Health ..............................Back Cover Novant Health Urology Partners .................42 Wake Forest Baptist Health Brenner Children’s Hospital ....................................................37 WomanCare ..............................................29 Mental Health Old Vineyard Behavioral Health Services....87 Organizations Old Salem Museums & Gardens................81 WBFJ........................................................93 Party, Event, & Entertainment Christina’s Dessertery .....................109, 113 Leather & Lace Acoustic Duo...................112 Ten Little Monkeys ....................................69 Pet Care Ruff Housing .............................................73 Photography Katie Dickson Photography........................48 One Shot Photography.............................111 Political John Davenport for School Board ..............19 Lori Clark for School Board........................21 Richard Gottlieb for Superior Court Judge....2 Stacey Rubain for Superior Court Judge ....17 Ted Kazakos for District Court Judge..........43

Real Estate & Housing Brookberry Farm - Berkshire Hathaway Home Services......................................................3 Chamberlain Place ....................................65 Susan Maier-Colon - Berkshire Hathaway ..63 Recruiting RockTenn ..................................................21 Restaurants 13 Bones ................................................109 Chang Thai..............................................109 Christina’s Dessertery .....................109, 112 Cupcakes by Three ..................................109 Honky Tonk Smokehouse.........................109 New Town Bistro......................................109 Omega House .........................................109 Phoenix Grille .........................................109 River Ridge Tap House ............................109 Which Wich ............................................109 Retail A New Day Essentials................................53 Clemmons Bicycle....................................55 Dero’s.......................................................23 Hip Chics Boutique ...................................13 Macrae Rare Coin & Currency ...................19 McCalls ....................................................21 Mill Creek General Store............................33 Minglewood Florist .................................102 Rolly’s Baby Boutique ...............................85 Sister Act Custom Pallet Signs ..................87 Service Busy as a Bee Concierge ..........................63 Fresh Air Carpet Care..............................110 Goin Postal.............................................110 iFix Cell Repair .......................................102 Moonlight Designs .................................106 Nu expression...........................................77 NUB Transport ..........................................19 Ruff Housing ............................................73 Winston-Salem Cleaning Service..............79 Storage Moore Self Storage ...................................71 Technology iFix Cell Repair........................................102 Nu expression ...........................................77 Upcoming Events Colin & Brad ...........................................102 Dark in the Park – Historic Bethabara Park..41 HBAWS 2014 Fall Parade of Homes ..........55 Home Free Annual Luncheon.......................7 Kersey Valley Maize Adventure ..................41 Kersey Valley Spookywoods ......................31 L2: Learn Lead Event .................................10 Make-A-Wish Walk for Wishes ................115 Piedmont Opera – Magic Flute .................89 Pumpkin Pick Hayride – Tanglewood Park ..19 US Figure Skating Championships.............97 WS Symphony Discovery Concerts............61

Make a wish

Turn Your Steps Into Wishes

TANGLEWOOD WALK Tanglewood Park 4201 Manor House Circle Clemmons, NC 27012 Saturday, Nov. 15th

Right now, children in Central & Western North Carolina are facing life-threatening medical conditions. Make-A-Wish® offers a chance for them to look forward to something great in their future ... an opportunity to feel normal and to experience their idea of life at its best. You can help by joining a Walk For Wishes® event in your community.

5 Easy Steps to Get Started 1. Register your team at

3. Make a donation to get started.

WalkForWishesNC.org.

4. Invite others to join your team.

2. Set a fundraising goal.

5. Tell people why you’re walking.

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Same-day mammograms?

We’re making mammograms convenient and easier to schedule When schedules get jam-packed, sometimes it’s easy to forget about your annual breast health screening. That’s why we offer same-day screening mammograms, no physician referral needed. With extended evening and weekend hours there’s nothing standing in your way. We also now offer 3-D mammography at Novant Health Breast Center in Winston-Salem. It’s just one more way we’re making healthcare work for you.

Locations in Winston-Salem and Kernersville. 3-D mammography at Novant Health Breast Center in Winston-Salem only.

Call 336-794-XRAY (9729) to schedule or just walk in.

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