Footprints Winter 2011 by Janet Camilleri

Footprints

Issue 54 Winter 2011

Readers share: how Jesus has changed my life!

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Winter 2011

Footprints

Issue 54

The Road Less Travelled

Dear Reader, Have you ever seen the 1998 movie “Sliding Doors”, which stars Gwyneth Paltrow? Her character’s love life and career both hinge on one seemingly insignificant moment. The plot splits into two parallel universes, following the paths her life could take - all based on whether or not she misses a train.

Without Jesus, I suspect I would not be celebrating 21 years of wedded bliss with my darling husband. More likely, I would have had a string of partners (and lots of heartache!) as I searched for love in all the wrong places. And heaven only knows what effect this could have had on my children, as our decisions affect the next generation ...

Have you ever wondered what path your life may have taken, if you had not accepted Jesus as your Saviour?

I probably wouldn’t have discovered that not only do I love to write, but that I can help others with that gift—which means my life

would have lacked purpose. And (perish the thought!) there would be no Footprints magazine for you to read right now! But enough about me. In Vive La Difference on page 4, some of our readers reflect on the impact that following Jesus has had on their own lives. It’s thoughtprovoking reading—and I’m sure their stories will fill your heart with praise! love

Janet

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Entertainment Matters.......................................9 Men in Church: an endangered species?........16 Vive La Difference!.............................................4

Articles A Bird’s Eye View .............................................30 A Total Monet ...................................................20 Being Enough ....................................................6 He’s Still in Control.............................................8 Man vs God: the Bear Grylls story...................27 Measuring Faith ...............................................13 Our Powerful & Gentle King..............................14 Safe and Supervised........................................11 Three Little Words............................................26

Regulars Book Review.....................................................22 Dear Reader.......................................................1 God Answered My Prayer ................................21 My Favourite Scripture.....................................18 Mailbox ............................................................29 Next Issue ........................................................11 Noticeboard .....................................................17 Subscription Form............................................29

Poetry Alpha and Omega ............................................12

This’n’That Material Girl Quiz..............................................23

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I can't imagine where I'd be If Jesus had not come to me. I knew Him once, so long ago But life pressed in and so, you know, I quite forgot His loving ways And trundled on in those dark days I can't imagine where I'd be If Jesus had not come to me. Divorce hit hard and more than that I found myself alone and sat In gloomy, hopeless misery, Feigning that contentment I might see. I can't imagine where I'd be If Jesus had not come to me. The New Age failed to win my trust And Buddha couldn't help me. Thus I looked and looked for something good Invited Him to share my food. I can't imagine where I'd be If Jesus had not come to me. He sat at table's feastless head, My female self in witchcraft mode, My male adorned in handsome garb, My child at play. No sound was heard And then he left - out through my door, So I went too. It would be poor To lose so sweet and true a friend. I followed him right out. The end Of lonely effort, point bereft. I'd follow Him with footsteps deft. I'd never let Him leave my sight, For He had loved me. Sweet delight! I can't imagine where I'd be If Jesus had not come to me. I can't imagine life without A friend to talk to, walk with. Doubt Is not an issue. Jesus is The one who loves me - I am His! I can't imagine where I'd be If Jesus had not come to me. Helen Murray Clovelly Park SA.

Without Jesus, my life would have been very different. I was a sensitive child. Just a cross look from my mother would have me in tears. She was such a capable, confident person, who could do just about anything. Since I was not good at practical tasks, I decided I was pretty useless and retreated into the world of books. I was easily intimidated and felt that I was slow at doing things and lazy, even though I knew I had a good brain and a lot of common sense. I had a lot of fears about life and really just wanted to go home to heaven as soon as possible! Instead, Jesus became my best friend and set me free from my fears

What difference has Jesus made in my life ... I wonder ... would I have peace about my life without Him? I think I would be more ambitious, more judgmental, more driven than I am now. I am not sure I would be a great wife and mother, although I know Him well enough to know He would have watched over me regardless! It seems so long since I accepted Him, then strayed, then returned ... yet His word and message to me is constantly fresh. I would struggle more with mental health, grief and loss, and I'd probably be more laid back and selfish. He rounds me out and smoothes my rough edges - and He'll be busy for a few years yet with me I think! Georgie Somerset, Kingaroy Qld.

and lack of confidence. I went on to discover my gifts were in creative thinking, writing, and teaching both adults and children. He has led me into a life of peace, joy and fulfilment, and has allowed me to help others who are struggling along the way. Every day I delight in the Lord who has given me the desires of my heart and has recently given me the opportunity to start a Bible College to equip young men and women for ministry. Kerrie Price, Capalaba QLD.

Looking back over 27 years of being a Christian, I believe the BIGGEST difference is having my sins forgiven. Not just my past; also my present and future sins. This leaves my conscience free from guilt and condemnation. THANK YOU Lord, for the perfect gift of this awesome plan of salvation! Tracey Hilton, Silkstone QLD.

Footprints readers reflect on the path their life has taken, and wonder just where they would be if they werenâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t following Jesus ...

VIVE LA DIFFERENCE!

I would probably be living comfortably in a house on two modest but satisfactory Incomes, and enjoying the challenges of balancing family and career. I expect I would be doing a good job. The main challenge would be battling the deep longing in my heart for someone to know and accept me completely. I found that acceptance in Jesus. As I (and my husband and seven children) have plunged into the adventure of living for Jesus, life has taken a few interesting turns! For the last twenty years our call has been to seek to assist the most disadvantaged group of people in the world – abandoned unborn children. Not a popular call! Presently my husband is on remand in jail (for the fifth time), as he waits for his court hearing for trespassing at an abortion ‘clinic’. He sat peacefully in the doorway, seeking to be a voice for the voiceless children. I also am also involved with pregnancy and post abortion support. If Jesus had not shown me that to really live I need to give my life away (to Him) I could be looking forward to a comfortable retirement - but with a nagging feeling I had missed the main game. Liz Preston, Alderley QLD. Find out more about Liz’s work at www.pricelesslifecentre.org.

Where would I even start?! To quote Vizzini, it’s “inconceivable”! My entire worldview is predicated on a God-centric, gospel-centric universe. I could never cope with the horrors committed by humanity and the catastrophes that come our way without the comforting knowledge of the sovereignty of God. To know that He is in control has helped me come through post-natal depression and the grief of losing my mother. I wouldn’t have met my husband. If I had met him, I may not have married him. Outside of my relationship with Christ, this has been the most important. He has been there for me through it all. Steadfast and loyal. The knowledge that Jesus saved me and by His grace has chosen me keeps me humble. I have a tendency towards arrogance and I know that it is through His grace that I am kept from making a bigger donkey of myself than I already am! Lilian Read, Eight Mile Plains QLD Lilian blogs about her life as a mum negotiating life in the suburbs at www.theurbanlily.com.

Being

ENOUGH She was brokenhearted. The young man she had been dating had moved on – to someone funnier, prettier, more willing … She had wanted so much from that relationship – had hoped that he would be her soulmate – the One. That he would make her whole … How often do we hear this scenario? We are taught from youth that couples are “two halves of a whole”. The implication here is that without our “other half”, we are only half the person we are meant to be.

Unfortunately, this kind of thinking prevails despite the advent of feminism, and too many girls fall victim to the belief that their value is tied to the worth placed on them by “their man”. Of course, this is not true. Each and every woman is precious and special in God’s sight. Each one is unique and beautiful. Cont’d overleaf

Finding a life partner is a journey, not an event. The best relationships are those in which the participants have taken adequate time (months or years, not days or weeks) to really get to know each other. There really is merit in marrying your best friend!

Being

ENOUGH Cont’d

Each one has the potential to contribute something valuable to the world (Isaiah 43:6-7, Song of Solomon 1:15, Psalm 139:15-16).

Counsellors find that dependency issues are often the basis of dysfunctional relationships. To avoid depending on someone else for your personal fulfillment: ♦ Discover who you are in God (Eph 1:11) ♦ Discover who you are – what makes you special (Jer 29:11) ♦ Discover your gifts/strengths – what makes you tick (1 Pet 4:10)

I love the scene in the movie “Cool Runnings” where the team leader, Derys, confronts the coach about his [the coach’s] history of cheating. In a profound piece of wisdom, the coach asserts: “A gold medal is a wonderful thing. But if you aren’t enough without it, you will never be enough with it.” You may be wondering how a sporting adage relates to dating? Girls have been taught that “a man” is the prize, the gold medal, if you will. From the time the teenage hormones kick in, girls think and dream about when they will meet their match. They primp, preen and diet in an effort to become more “desirable”. They learn to flirt, and to behave in the way society tells them will make guys take notice. Like Olympic athletes, these girls are in training to take the prize.

However, “getting a man” is a prize made from fools gold. The kind of men who are attracted to superficially attractive girls aren’t worth having, and will not lead to happiness. The real prize for young women is to become the best person they can be – the special, wonderful woman God has designed them to become. God wants us to love ourselves, invest in ourselves (by pursuing a career, ministry or other personal goals) and nurture ourselves (by developing excellent friendships and a passionate relationship with God) – in other words, to be “enough”. Because when it comes to having a relationship with that special man, “if we aren’t enough without [him], we will never be enough with [him]”. Nicola Saad, Bracken Ridge QLD.

e had been in our new apartment on the Sunshine Coast for about three weeks. One afternoon we went out to our courtyard for a much-needed cup of tea. There were still boxes to be unpacked and we discussed where we might put various things. My husband got up to hang the new blinds we had bought, while I finished my drink at a more leisurely pace. This done I rose from the table. Suddenly, with no warning and no pain, as if a floodgate had been opened up, I found myself standing in an ever-widening pool of my own blood. “Quick, John!” I yelled. “Get the ambulance!“ “Sit your wife on a pile of towels and try to keep her as calm as possible,” instructed the emergency worker. 'Remain calm. The ambulance is on its way.”

Suddenly, with no warning and no pain … I found myself standing in an ever-widening pool of my own blood ... After fourteen days I finally returned home. A friend accidently let slip that in fact I’d had three cardiac arrests, and three times been revived. (Something John had kept from me, in order to shield me, I suppose). “How does it make you feel?” she asked. “Are you shocked about what happened? Does it make you fearful about what might happen in the future?”

He’s Still in Control

The strange thing is that I was calm, even as I heard the whine of the siren getting nearer and nearer. “Well, I'm in your hands, Lord,” I whispered. I remember arriving at the hospital, then nothing for the next three or four days. When I did come round I learned that I’d had major emergency surgery, a total colectomy, to give it its medical name. (I am now adjusting to being the wearer of a bag to take all the waste matter from my body.)

“It doesn't make a scrap of difference to anything,” I replied. “None of us is ever more than a breath away from death. I shan't depart this world until it is my Father's time for me. Not a minute before and not a minute late.” God makes no mistakes. And He's still in control even when seeming calamities overtake us. He can be trusted at ALL times. Won't you put your trust in Him no matter what you are facing in your life? Pat Dillon, Cotton Tree QLD.

daughter was impatient to see a My new television show that featured

quickly respond to it. Unlike the culture around you, always dragging you down to its level of immaturity, God brings the young adults. When we finally got the chance to watch it, I saw couples implied best out of you, develops well-formed maturity in you (Rom 12:2, The Message). to be in a sexual relationship, someone using drugs, plus a guy who had casual relationships, while the only Christian Your Comfort Zone family on the show was depicted in a While it’s great to be able to negative light, being controlling and communicate with our non-Christian dysfunctional. Afterwards I asked my friends and try to understand their daughter what she thought of the show. interests, it really makes me feel “It’s not as bad as Home and Away…” uncomfortable when a bunch of churchshe said. goers sit around and rave about the latest M-rated TV show or movie. Have Setting a Standard we fitted into our culture unthinkingly? After we discussed the characters, my And when we laugh about the need for daughter changed her mind; but her ‘retail therapy’, spending unnecessary method of assessing the show really dollars on ourselves while neglecting disturbed me. If we judge something donations to charity, surely we have lost using worldly standards, we will always sight of Jesus’ priorities of social justice. find another worse situation to justify our preferences. The way I read this passage in Romans, Paul says we should be transformed into Instead of doing this, we need to heed godly people, no longer finding the world the ultimate standard of God’s Word. appealing. While we continue to live The Apostle Paul reminds us: Don’t be amongst, and minister to, our friends so well-adjusted to your culture that you and community, we become fit into it without even thinking. Instead, uncomfortable with what the world has to fix your attention on God. You’ll be offer. The entertainment, the values and changed from the inside out. Readily attitudes of the world are at odds with recognise what he wants from you, and our new Christ-like perspective.

What’s so funny? When we have empathy for people in crisis, we won’t find it entertaining to laugh at injustice in a sitcom. When we place value on morality and women, we won’t laugh at sexual innuendo or immoral situations. We won’t allow ourselves to get drawn into the sordid storylines of a drama, and

justify the character’s actions in our minds. I often try to imagine a movie or TV show plot as if it were a real-life situation, and ask myself if I would still find it entertaining if it were real and happening to someone I knew. In most cases, the answer is negative.

We can still have FUN! That is not to say we should be pious martyrs sitting around being gloomy, unable to crack a smile for fear of being frivolous. Jesus demonstrated through His example that enjoying meals together, working alongside others, and discussing current events, are all wholesome ways to fellowship. We can delight in the beauty of creation and the wonders of young children’s laughter. We can run and hike, immerse ourselves in craft or cookery, and create works of art. These are simple pleasures given to us by God. I am often encouraging my teenage daughter to talk, live and act as a Christian, so that others are aware that her faith makes a difference in her life. The advice I give to her, is advice for myself also. We have a light that should be set upon a hilltop to shine to our community. This is our love, hope and compassion for people, as well as a life

characterised by forgiveness and grace. This is the Christ-culture that I want to embody. Susan Johnstone, Stanthorpe Qld.

Does it matter what we do for entertainment? For many, this seems like a grey area that has little impact on our Christianity. But in Australian culture today, entertainment— television, movies, Facebook, magazines, music, computer games – is a big part of what we find ourselves immersed in, and most of it comes from non-Christian sources ...

turn-taking going. Before I knew it, I was on the launching platform of the flying-fox, facilitating an incredibly co-operative group of kids having a wonderful time in a safe, supervised environment.

Safe and SUPERVISED

was such a beautiful afternoon on the school holidays. The shady, beach-side playground resembled a busy ant colony as children of all ages explored, climbed, ran and jumped. At the centre was a flying-fox which seemed to attract all but the tiniest tots. My somewhat reserved first-born had been quietly hovering at the top of the stairs waiting for a turn, but was continually beaten by more confident kids. After observing for a few minutes, I unobtrusively spoke to a couple of those waiting and helped my daughter secure a turn. Very soon I was chatting to a number of children and learnt their names and ages, as we got a system of

Eventually, it came time for us to leave and I was somewhat shocked to have many of the children plead with me to stay for “just one more turn!”

Afterwards, I found myself wondering why a group of children would respond so positively to authority and structure, from a completely unknown adult— this was the school holidays after all! My conclusions caused me to ponder humanity and our dealings with God.

The Bible tells us that we are like sheep without a shepherd1 – harassed and helpless much like the children using their “survival of the fittest” tactics at the park. Whether or not they knew it, they needed a shepherd. God looks down at the people of the world much the same way. “I am the Good Shepherd,” says Jesus2, “I know my sheep and my sheep know me.” In the playground I didn’t apply authority with force, but rather learnt the children’s names and

… free to enjoy life as it was meant to be!

guided gradually and gently. God doesn’t usually come declaring his authority with force either. He knows our names and by His Word provides us with the guidelines and structure we so often unknowingly crave. When Jesus, the Saviour, first came to earth the same principles applied. He came quietly, humbly, as a tiny baby born in an insignificant town. He grew up in obscurity and began His public ministry without any fanfare. He came alongside people who were lost. Without the help of prime-time marketing or PR officers, people flocked to hear His message and their lives were changed as they came under His teaching. This same Jesus offers His quiet, personal authority to each of us today. When we live according to His guidelines, written in the Bible, submitting to His authority as our Creator, our lives become a safe and supervised environment in which we’re free to enjoy life—as it was meant to be. Rachel Shannon, Raceview QLD. 1 Matt 9:36 2 John 10:11)

Alpha to Omega (A—Z) Another day Busyness threatens to Cave in on me Demanding my time Expecting my attention Fighting for my sanity Grasping at my being How will I make it? Just come to Me Kneel in my presence Let My Spirit wash over you Make Me your resting place Now and forever Oh My child Practice My presence Quieten your spirit Rest in My peace Sit at My feet Take hold of all I offer Understand the depth of My love Victory is in Me Wait on Me Xpectantly and You will find all you need Zealously I will watch over you Janelle Moore, Torrington QLD.

glorify and praise Him for his intervention in human affairs. My dear friend who recently made this statement to me tried If I had a hundred dollars for every time I to convince me that I needed to get into a more spiritual place in order to ensure have heard that, I would never have to God's moving on my behalf. I argued trust God for finances again! that if it was as easy as believing, wouldn't everybody do it? To me, the Actually I find the statement offensive. What takes more faith than believing that miracle of salvation, or changing of a a guy who was born in a stable to young, heart, is equally as amazing as seeing a blind person see or a dead person live! newlywed parents; who grew up to be a carpenter and then was homeless for a Yes, we must believe God; but I suspect number of years before being killed He is quite big enough to reach down because of treasonous statements; has risen from the dead and made a way for from heaven and give us all we need to serve Him, whether it be healing, me to get to a magical place called deliverance, or a change of attitude. heaven? If I believe that, don't I already have the faith of a mustard seed? Is that When people tell me I need to have faith why Jesus used this metaphor? That in God, it makes me feel like I don't have only a morsel of faith was enough for any faith in God and that I’m a failure. If Him? He didn't use the example of a it is all about what *I* can do and mango seed did He? believe, then I must have missed it when things are going wrong.

“You just need to have more faith in God.”

Measuring

FAITH? So why do so many tell their suffering co-walkers in this pilgrimage, that they need more faith to see the end of their sickness or suffering? It is not something that is about us or our abilities, but about the provision God has made for us in Christ's death and resurrection. One of the gifts of the spirit is ‘the gift of faith’. This is something given by God, which we receive because of His mercy and grace. It is not something we have because we are special, or have achieved a higher plane of existence! I have seen the gift of faith operating on many occasions. When God decides to move by His sovereign will and heal or change someone's circumstances, we

Perhaps you are walking through life with challenges, feeling the same when repeatedly told to “just have faith”. Or maybe you have said these words to someone! I would like to offer a more productive and positive response. It starts with recognising that the person you are talking to already has a strong faith in God, because they are hanging onto Him when the evidence around them does not support the truth that He has not left them. Rather than take away what that person is hanging onto, it would be better to say something along the lines of, “I will believe in faith and pray with you”. Then go away and diligently support them in prayer. That is more likely to add to their faith - and may even add to yours as well! Annie Barnes, Manly West QLD.

n ancient times a conquering King would ride into a town on horseback as a sign of his conquest. Tragically, after a battle, women and children were taken captive and sometimes even violated. But when Jesus arrived in Jerusalem as the Messiah - the King the Jews had been expecting - He came riding on a donkey. Regarding women, Jesus made it clear that He was not arriving as a typical King. The women then knew that Jesus would not violate them. This must have been a comfort to all the people. And so it can be for the women of today who have found that some men, even some authority figures, are not to be trusted. Jesus’ example also indicates to all men that it is not right to attack women. He is an example to men to be strong but gentle. In Christ is the full nature of the Father and He gave His Holy Spirit to us. No Person of the Holy Trinity would ever violate anyone. And He does not change His nature*. He is King of Kings and Lord of Lords. God’s desire is to protect His Bride. If our passion is under control we are ready and trusted for battle and we are

ur Powerful & Gentle King saved from defeat. If we are more open to passion, then God strongly encloses us with His protection. The Bride is like an enclosed garden and a spring that is kept in private by God. When trials come it may feel like God isn’t protecting us. But God’s plan is not for our harm but for our benefit. Suffering can cause us to think about our level of trust in God and challenges our belief in His love for us. Once we have passed this test of our belief in God, we will be complete and lack nothing, knowing deep down that He truly loves us. The Lover of our soul requires an intimate wholesome relationship with us and loves us very deeply, cherishing us, with an undying love. We are His Beloved and He is ours our powerful and gentle King. Rae Timmins, Darling Heights QLD. *Hebrews 13:8

our modern era, many claim that the Church is the last bastion of male chauvinism, and that it is heavily biased towards males.

business (worshipping God probably fitted in there somewhere too!). However over the years, weekly church attendance has become less of a priority in the Australian culture.

Yet if that is true – why are there so many more women than men in our churches? Once upon a time, church was a real family affair, with mum, dad and the kids, plus grandparents, aunts, uncles, neighbours, shopkeepers, teachers, in fact the whole community, attending Sunday services religiously (excuse the pun!). It was the “done” thing. It was a chance to compare bonnets, show off one’s offspring and carriage, catch up on gossip, and make valuable contacts for

It is a statistical fact that women are much more likely to be church-goers than men. Why is that? Are we failing our men? Perhaps it is because men have (largely) ceased to see any role for themselves in much of what passes for Christianity today. This comes back to the way we see Jesus. The image of the sweetly soulful Jesus (like the painting of Jesus of the

MEN IN CHURCH: An Endangered Species?

Sacred Heart) is the most common perception of Him. This gentle Jesus may appeal to women, but not as much to men, especially men who work hard, get dirty, like a cold beer and an arvo in front of the footy. This passive, kind, caring, Jesus who was always polite and, heaven forbid, ‘nice’, makes Christianity seem very bland for men. There is none of the impassioned activity which was part of Christianity in the past; the striving for perfection, the goal of fighting for one’s beliefs, the quest element. According to well-known author John Eldredge, “Every boy and man are basically looking for the answer to one question: ‘Do I have what it takes?’ This fuels a man’s search for success, victory and validation” (Wild at Heart). Eldredge believes that one of the secrets to understanding men is this: A man wants to feel powerful. Men need a challenge! Perhaps it is no coincidence that today there is a religion which is growing rapidly through conversions by western men seeking a purpose, a challenge, a demanding way of life. You guessed it: Islam! Along the same lines, it would be interesting to find out the ratio of male to female believers in countries where Christians are persecuted, and if these figures would reveal a similar scenario? Chances are you’ve seen things in your own church which sometimes make you cringe on your man’s (in fact every man’s) behalf.

Hey, it’s easy to understand why blokeyblokes don’t want to hold hands across the congregation and sing songs of love to another man! Yet we don’t want simply to ‘de-feminise’ church, but to recreate the ideal of Christian manhood so that men regain the sense of purpose and desire to “fight the good fight of faith” that Paul talks about. There are many possibilities for making our churches more “man-friendly”: ♦

First, we could offer activities for men that they actual want to attend. Not sure? Ask them! We asked the Footprints hubbies and they much prefer the thought of something practical or leisure based, rather than a breakfast and a Bible study. A lot of men would prefer to fellowship with a hammer in their hands.

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Most wives know from experience that men don’t do so well in face-toface discussions, but sit side-byside with one (in the car or fishing) and they talk plenty! Maybe that is the way for men to explore the way they see their place in the world and the church.

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Men need to be needed. It is great that women are able to do everything, but sometimes we need to step back and let men take the lead. Okay, so maybe we can do it Cont’d overleaf

HARD QUESTIONS

WHY?

HELPFUL ANSWERS

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MEN IN CHURCH: cont’d

better and faster … but just like the young father who refuses to cook or change nappies after being constantly critiqued by his ‘expert’ wife, if we take that attitude, why would they even bother? Let’s appreciate the men who serve God, honour them, give them a boost! ♦

Finally, we as the body of Christ need to set a high goal. Yes, men should be engaged in becoming more Christ like, as should we all. The Promise Keepers movement saw a growth in men (in numbers,

and in character) because they demanded certain values - and men rose to the challenge. The real Jesus was a rugged carpenter who walked the miles between towns and probably slept rough. He had an unimpeachable moral character yet he made religious folk so mad they wanted to kill him. He was incredibly compassionate but he told some pretty harsh truths. He had unflinching courage. He was not ‘nice’, but he was the perfect male role-model. What man wouldn’t want to be like him? Melanie Page Morayfield Qld, & Janet Camilleri, Cleveland Qld.

My Favourite Scripture problem was occurring, he responded, “The car has an onboard computer and it is always learning. The problem in the petrol system has taught the car to behave badly and we need to fix the fault before we can reset the computer.”

Of Cars & Kids …

recently converted our car to gas. However, an undiagnosed problem in the petrol system made the car stall and run sluggishly while operating on both petrol and gas. When I asked the mechanic why this

Our parenting can be like this car problem.

Point your kids in the right direction—when they’re old they won’t be lost. Proverbs 22:6 (The Message)

Unrecognised problems with our parenting (such as inconsistency, negativity and “giving in”) can inadvertently teach our children the exact opposite of what we want them to learn. We need to look honestly at our parenting styles and habits to ensure they are teaching our children correctly! Nicola Saad, Bracken Ridge QLD.

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y parents gave me a beautiful umbrella for my 7th birthday. It was stripey and colourful, with a gorgeous wooden handle carved into the face of a hippopotamus. It lasted me many years and brought me great joy playing in the rain. Ever since, I have owned compact umbrellas of varying dull colours, usually with a few prongs sprung loose from the fabric!

THE GANG’S ALL HERE! Will you recognise any of the characters from YOUR church?!

RACISM: Alive and well in Australia?!

BOUNDARIES: Making the most of your relationships

coming August 2011

Recently I began searching for another beautiful umbrella. It must be sturdy. It must be gorgeous. It must make this 34 year old feel like playing in the rain again! The search was over when I found a Monet “Waterlilies” umbrella. It makes my heart sing just to look at it. It makes a dull day glorious. And it has brought me unexpected laughter. My sister took one look at it and quoted a line from the movie Clueless, a 1990’s adaptation of Jane Austen’s Emma. “Oh, she’s a total Monet. She’s okay from a distance but up close she’s a big old mess.” The snide insult cracks me up, but it also has me thinking. Maybe my life is a total Monet. Maybe the mess, the crazy inconsistencies and the seeming lack of

MONET an overall plan in my life, is actually a Masterpiece in the making from the perspective of the Creator! Perhaps I am so zoomed in on my life that I only see a small portion of stubbed brushstrokes, of colours that don’t quite blend. I’m hoping that He, who is outside of time, sees the whole picture, and is delighted by its beauty. Monet founded a style of art called Impressionism. It confounded the precision of the Academic art of its day, and deliberately chose to use daubs of pure colour (instead of carefully blending colour on the palette) to give a sense of movement, and to capture the play of light. The name “Impressionism” came from a journalist’s snide remark (much like the insult in Clueless!) about Monet’s painting, Impression: Sunrise. The journalist was limited in his view of Monet’s work and couldn’t in that moment appreciate the distant beauty of a whole movement in art. How often do I perceive snide remarks about my value in this world, as a “Oh, she’s a mother and as distance but someone who is

trying to give an impression of Jesus? How often do I get discouraged because I can’t see the impression forming; all I see are crude brush-strokes? Like an impressionistic painting, my life (and yours!) is about catching and reflecting the light and glory of Jesus. It’s purpose is to show the beauty of movement or change in our lives as He transforms us into the image of Himself. The Apostle Paul encourages us* to live in such a way that this beauty is seen by others. Be encouraged! Be delighted! What you see as a big old mess, is in fact, a “total Monet”, a masterpiece in the making. You bring an impression of God’s great glory to a rainy, dull world that is desperately in need of His transforming Light. Emma Leitch, Mt Gravatt QLD. *We, who with unveiled faces all reflect the Lord's glory, are being transformed into his likeness with ever-increasing glory, which comes from the Lord, who is the Spirit. 2 Corinthians 3:18

total Monet. She’s okay from a up close she’s a big old mess”.

God Answered My Prayer

daughter, who was expecting a longedfor baby, had been taken into hospital as she was in danger of losing the baby.

Timely Words...

he was a good neighbour and a great help to me and my three children under four years of age. (Yes, this was a long, long time ago). She would pop in and collect my ironing to take home and do it, quite regularly, and help with other chores. I enjoyed her visits for their friendliness and good humour. However, one day when she came she was not a happy lady. In fact she was in great distress. She told me that her

“I’ve started knitting a jacket for the little one but I don’t think I’ll go on with it,” my neighbour said sadly. “Oh don’t give up hope,” I urged. “Let’s pray now for your daughter and the baby.” So we did. That night I was leafing through an old devotional book when my gaze was arrested by a quote that seemed especially relevant to the situation about which we had prayed. The quote was from Isaiah 46:4 in the Authorised Version of the Bible:

“I have made and I will bear, even I will carry, and will deliver you.” I felt that this was God’s answer to our prayer, for the words of the text were words commonly used in pregnancy. I could hardly wait to tell my neighbour the next day and I also wrote to her daughter in hospital. It was indeed God’s answer for despite a long stay in hospital, my neighbour’s daughter was eventually delivered of a beautiful baby boy. Dorothy O’Neill, Glynde SA.

Book Review

A Moving

“Everything and everyone you left behind is worth every tear“ (p13). She helps you get through the process of letting go: “Cherish, don’t cling to what was left” (p19). She encourages you to start over again: “It doesn’t matter what kind of nest you have, the important thing is that you make that nest home” (p63). Then she teaches you to move ahead: “A move is like replanting, God initiates a move to take you out of your comfort zone and allow you to grow in your relationship with Him” (p74).

Experience

week before I was to move away, a good friend gave me After The Boxes Are Unpacked by Susan Miller. “I’ll need to read that as soon as we’re settled in,” I thought. Well, guess what happened after the boxes were unpacked? I couldn’t find the book anywhere! Finally a few weeks later I relocated it and sat down to read. “Wow, this lady knows exactly how I’m feeling!”

Susan Miller does know how you feel after you’ve moved. In 17 years of marriage, she moved 13 times! During those years she learned to move with God beside her. Her many experiences with relocating developed her desire to help women facing similar challenges. She founded the ministry Just Moved! and wrote this book, to meet the needs of women in their adjustment and transition.

All advice in the book is based on biblical principles that will not only help you get by, but will take you ahead spiritually. The book is filled with encouraging Scriptures like Deut 31:8 “The Lord himself goes before you and will be with you; He will never leave you nor forsake you. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged.” And Jeremiah 29:11 - “For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord.” And her favourite verse, Isaiah 43:18 &19 “Forget the former things; do not dwell on the past. See I am doing a new thing!” So if you’re about to move or have just moved, or even if you are grieving a loss, go with God, your Bible and this book and I’m sure “you can make it”(p1)! Cathalina Anderson, Annanvale QLD.

Have you retired your perfectly working TV, to get a flat screen instead? A. Of course! B. My old TV died, then I got a flat screen. C. I’ve thought about it. D. No. Congratulations! You’re expecting your first baby. You: A. Can’t wait to hit the shops and buy all those cute baby items! B. Only purchase what you need, as you need it. C. Shop for specials as much as you can. D. Borrow what you can, or buy second hand. You have been invited to give a presentation at a church women’s meeting. Your first thoughts are: A. What will I wear?! B. What will I talk about? C. I need to pray about this. D. Who can I invite along, that doesn’t normally come to church? Yay! You’ve won $100 000. What would you prefer to do with it? A. Take a round the world holiday! B. Buy a new car, new furniture, clothes … C. Spoil your loved ones. D. Use most of it for your mortgage or a house deposit.

Do you own your or do

You love to read—how do you feed your habit?! A. You spend a small fortune on books & magazines. B. Book exchanges, op shops, fetes. C. You borrow or swap with others. D. The library of course—it’s free!

QUIZ

Do you have a collection of any of these: A. Rare collectables - eg antiques, artworks. B. CDs and/or DVDs and/or books. C. Holiday souvenirs eg magnets, teaspoons D. You don’t really collect anything. Let’s talk shoes! Do you have: A. A collection Imelda Marcos would envy?! B. More than twenty pairs. C. Slippers, thongs, boots, sandals, sports shoes, high heels, maybe a couple more. D. Comfortable shoes only. Looking around your home, is it: A. Sleek and modern with all the latest trends and gadgets? B. Cluttered with knick-knacks? C. Comfortable? D. Minimalist, almost sterile looking?

possessions— they own you?!

What labels are hanging in your wardrobe? A. Designer labels all the way darling! B. Billabong, Quiksilver, Roxy—even on your underwear! C. Kmart, Target, Crossroads and other chain stores. D. An eclectic mix (mostly thanks to your local op shop!). For scoring, please see next page

cannot be destroyed by fire, flood, rust or moths (Matthew 6:19 & 20)!

Quiz Results

Mostly Cs: You are a practical gal. You need possessions—who doesn’t—but Mostly As: You are driven by your labels don’t turn your head. You look for need to have the biggest and the best, value for money wherever possible. You as you constantly strive to impress. are generous, and love to share what Your possessions have become a mask you have with others. And you are that you hide behind, as you try to prove thankful to God, because you know that your self-worth to yourself and others all blessings come from Him! You know through your possessions—even if it is from experience that God will supply all at the expense of your credit card, and your needs, from His glorious riches, family life, as you work to pay for the which have been given to us in Christ things you “need” to have. Perhaps you Jesus (Philippians 4:19). went without as a child, or have always battled self-esteem issues. Today, God Mostly Ds: You thought I was going to would whisper to you … Do not worry say you have done the best on our quiz, about the external things. Look at the didn’t you! And you may have, because wildflowers, how beautiful they are, how you certainly don’t waste money. But is God dresses them. Are you not worth that because you don’t HAVE the money, so much more to Him? (Matthew 6:25or because you CHOOSE not to spend it 30). on surrounding yourself with stuff? How do you think you would score in our quiz Mostly Bs: You have a weakness for if money was no object? It’s worth certain items. Perhaps it is shoes. Or it thinking about. Otherwise, “Mostly Cs” could be kitchen gadgets. Or you just applies to you as well! can’t resist adding to your CD collection on a regular basis! But otherwise, you Mixed Score: Go to “Mostly Cs”. have a fairly healthy attitude towards money and possessions. When you find Janet Camilleri, Cleveland QLD. yourself tempted by what money can buy, stop to ask yourself: Will this matter in one week? One month? One year? Twenty years? Eternally? Remember. it’s more important to store up treasures in heaven, where they

Every good and perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of the heavenly lights…James 1:17

Worship. It’s not just about singing and music in the church service (sorry, musicians)! Worship is an all day, every day, expression of our love for God.

today. I'm ready to speak for you. Ready to shine for you. Give me the opportunities today. Help me to work to the best of my ability for You today."

I was challenged about this anew at a women’s conference recently. Our wonderful speaker, Denise Glenn, used three little words that have really resonated with and remained with me:

"HERE I AM God, in the car, stuck in traffic. Thanks for the few minutes to stop and think on You. Please help me be patient in the chaos and a good witness to my children watching me in this stressful situation."

HERE I AM.

"HERE I AM God, having coffee with my friends. Help me to speak appropriately, shine your light to them, uplift, encourage and inspire them for You." I think you get the idea. Worship is a simple response out of our love for God, our thanks for who He is and what He has done for us. Even the menial tasks we often deem as boring can be an expression of worship. That's it! Here I am. Three little words that express to God our readiness to listen, obey and worship.

Do we worship all day, everyday? Are we ready to respond with those three little words? Narelle Nettelbeck, Ellenbrook WA.

I've thought lots about these words and here are some of the ways I make sure I am ready to worship and respond to God, no matter what I am doing through the day… "HERE I AM God, making breakfast for my family. Help me be the mum/wife you want me to be. I'm willing to serve, and raise these children for you." "HERE I AM God, facing a day of work. I pray I can be a light in my workplace

Little Words

Man vs God: The Bear Grylls story “Christianity is not about religion. It's about faith, about being held, about being forgiven, at the heart of it, it's about finding home.” So speaks Bear Grylls, a man who is away from his own home for seven months each year making the highly successful TV show “Man Vs Wild”. Yet despite his lengthy absences, Bear is intensely family orientated. According to his website, his favourite holiday destination is “home”. He spoke of feeling closest to God when his son stretches his hand towards him and prays, “God bless my Dad”. Although his work involves danger and risk, Bear acknowledges that this has fostered his faith in God: “I don’t know many atheists who have climbed Everest!”. Seeing how God created everything we need in the wild, as he learned and practised survival skills, only increased his belief in the Creator. But it was through an Alpha Course several years ago that Bear and wife

The Bear Facts: ♦

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Born 7 June, 1974, and christened “Eddie” which became “Teddy” and later “Bear”! Joined the SAS, during which time he broke his back in three places in a free-fall parachuting accident in Africa. In 1998, aged 23, entered The Guinness Book of Records as the youngest British climber to have climbed Everest. Married Shara in 2000, 3 sons – Jesse (2003), Marmaduke (2006) and Huckleberry (2009). The family primarily lives on a Dutch barge on the River Thames in London, but enjoys spending summers on their own small private Welsh island. Man Vs Wild (or “Born Survivor” as it is called in some regions) is seen in more than 150 countries by over 1.2 billion people.

Shara came to know God personally. Today, Bear is a financial supporter of Alpha and also the charity organisation, Compassion. Bear chose to share his story at Hillsong during his recent Australian visit, because he likes how the church reaches out to young people, a passion he shares. In 2009 Bear became the Chief Scout in the UK—the youngest Chief Scout in history. He delights in receiving frequent feedback from parents, who tell him that his show has helped them bond with their sons and even their daughters. Fame and fortune came as a surprise to Bear, as he didn’t expect his show to meet with such popularity. But at the end of the day, he prefers to do his job and go back home to be a husband and a dad rather than get too involved in the media hype.

Overall, my impression was of a man of substance, that “what you see is what you get”. He is an ordinary bloke doing extraordinary stunts, equipped with a matter-of-fact type of faith. Because of his place in the spotlight, that faith is able to inspire many others. Dominique Rivero, Redland Bay QLD.

On 5 March 2011, Man vs Wild presenter Bear Grylls spoke at Hillsong Church Sydney, and the presentation was broadcast live to other congregations across the country. A Footprints reader shares her impressions of the man—behind the Bear!

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ome weeks ago we had strong winds overnight. The next morning I found a partially constructed bird’s nest lying on our patio tiles. Each morning during the previous week when I looked out my kitchen window I had seen one of the birds come down and pick up a piece of shredded palm leaf in its beak. Now I could see for myself what they had been constructing. I wonder what conversation might have been going on that morning between the birds, as their creation was lying in ruins on my garden patio? Do you think it might have gone like this? “OOooo ... Do you think it’s a sign from God? Maybe God doesn’t want us to build a nest this year! Do you think we should adopt and give up on eggs? COOoooo!”

Well of course, in reality the birds would just get on with building another nest, because it’s that time of year when they are motivated instinctively to nest and breed. Life can often throw curve balls at us and frustrate our plans. It’s even more frustrating when we believe we have been walking in God’s blessing and according to His will for our lives. When disaster strikes we begin to inwardly doubt and question our purposes and plans. Consider this: If the winds did not come until the birds’ nest had been

completed and was occupied by nestlings, wouldn’t that truly have been a disaster? To find out only then that there had been a construction fault in the nest? Sometimes our plans need frustrating. It can be a positive, and not a negative. It does not mean that our intentions or directions are wrong, maybe just the way we were going about it. Consider it all joy, my brethren, when you encounter various trials, knowing that the testing of your faith produces endurance. And let endurance have its perfect result, that you may be perfect and complete, lacking in nothing. (James 1:2-4 NASB) Kate Case, Victoria Point QLD.

A Bird’s Eye View