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SEPT-OCT 2021 ISSUE 103

OBAN ESTATE

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Budding thoughts & self-awareness

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elcome to yet another issue of The Crest magazine! It feels like the other day we put the previous one to bed, but here we are again – bringing you another edition brimming with beautiful stories. And it’s spring, which is even more reason to celebrate.

Let’s appreciate and soak up everything green, fresh, new and exciting – including our own budding thoughts, which need to be nurtured in order to grow. A spring detox is not only necessary for your body, but your mind too.

At my daughter’s school, in Grade 4, they finished Term 3 with self-assessment reports. So, instead of the teachers writing their reports – they did it themselves. It was so refreshing to see the maturity, the honesty, and the confidence in my daughter’s words. She knows exactly where she is doing well, where she is making progress and

CELEBRATE with us Thank you to all our loyal advertisers who have supported The Crest magazine throughout this challenging year. Our last issue of the year, the festive holiday edition, is just around the corner – with lots of great content lined up just for you. If you’re keen to be a part of this issue, book your space now and celebrate with us.

Contact Annie Domnick on 066 254 0621 where she needs assistance.

Part of the self-assessment was also to set goals for Term 4 – and not only to set them,

but to have a plan in place on how to reach them. Lots to learn here for adults – whether parents or not – in terms of being more honest with ourselves and reaching harder and higher for those goals.

Many of us still have a heavy blanket of “pandemic fatigue” clouding our minds, and may not realise it’s up to us to lift that blanket. So let’s spring clean our mind and get rid of negative thoughts. It’s time to make space for things you want to do – not only the things you need to do. Write a priority list of wants and needs, and don’t forget to be honest with yourself, extra critical even, or you’ll have no room for improvement.

October is all about breast cancer awareness. Ladies, make sure you perform regular self-examinations, and if you’re over 40 – go for a mammogram.

Have a look at page 28 to ease your fears about this very important procedure. October also draws attention to mental health. Listen to what Paul

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Bushell says on page 42, and look out for those signs. As Paul stresses; reaching out for help is crucial – no one should feel like they have to work through their experiences and emotions alone.

Don’t forget to prioritise selfpampering too – our trending piece on page 40 has tips on how to create a home spa. It’s all about being present, mindful and indulging your senses.

Throughout the last yearand-a-half we have really felt and realised the importance of a community magazine – it’s a space for sharing, supporting and inspiring each other to carry on. So now it’s over to you. What do you think of our platform, both in print and online? What do you like, and what are you missing? Which are your favourite topics?

Please get in touch, I’d love to hear your thoughts.

Happy spring, and enjoy these beautiful flowers from my garden!

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in this issue* GROUP EDITOR Doody Adams 083 325 7341 EDITOR Katrine Anker-Nilssen 083 309 6736 PRODUCTION EDITOR Lorna King GRAPHIC DESIGN Kyle Griffin SALES CONSULTANT Anneline Domnick 066 254 0621 DISTRIBUTION Mphumzeni Thusi ACCOUNTS & DISTRIBUTION QUERIES Meghan Dewet 083 533 5898 ONLINE EDITOR Sarah Mackintosh CONTRIBUTORS Darrel Bristow-Bovey, Susan Chick, Cathy Clark, Lee Currie, Ant Ellis, Janet George, Shirley le Guern, Kate Hoare, Robin Lamplough, Sarah Mackintosh, Dee Munks, Anne Schauffer Copyright: All material in this issue is subject to copyright and belongs to Famous Publishing unless otherwise indicated.

No part of the material may be quoted, photocopied, reproduced or stored by an electronic system without prior written permission from Famous Publishing.

Disclaimer: While every effort is taken to ensure the accuracy of the contents of this publication, neither the authors nor the publisher will bear any responsibility for the consequences of any actions based on information contained herein. Neither do they endorse any products/services advertised herein.

Material which appears under ‘Advertorial’ is paid for. *To the people of Everton, Gillitts, Hillcrest, Kloof, St Helier and Winston Park, the office parks, the residential estates and, of course, all our advertisers, thank you for your continued support.

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THE INANDA DAM A nostalgic look at this local beauty

SMOKING HOT Assagay’s Old Quarry Smokehouse

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A collection of beautiful things

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From Assagay to uMhlanga – an urban farm concept

THERE'S A BULLY IN MY CLASS

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A look at relational aggression

HOME-GROWN PASSION

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Meet the couple behind Mint Condition Deli Products

MAMMOGRAM 101

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Common questions about mammograms

REACHING OUT

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Support and care for MS patients

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Home luxuries to welcome spring

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CHECK YOUR MENTAL HEALTH The pandemic, lockdown and your mental health

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KEEPING YOU IN THE LOOP The Durban BUCKET LIST The Ultimate #durbanbucketlist was created in 2018 to give locals and visitors to Durban a reliable and up-todate resource of the best experiences to have during their time in the city. “We have walked the miles, tested the menus and tried the cocktails, all so you can enjoy the best of the best in your own time and with absolute peace of mind,” says creative director Susan Marais.

Fast forward to 2021 and our beautiful industry is on its knees. “Lockdown after lockdown has severely impacted our venues, and the recent tragedy in our province has sadly been the final straw for many amazing businesses,” says Susan. “But there is always hope and a few people can find the light at the end of the tunnel like

the restauranteurs, hosts and hoteliers. These are the people who get up and show up time and time again to delight, entertain and feed others.”

How can you help?  Eat Out Our restaurant industry has been hit hard. It employs an immense number of skilled and unskilled people, so by eating out you not only help these businesses survive but also the families they support.

Restaurants have some of the strictest Covid protocols in place and are ready and excited to serve you. Support Local You don’t have to go far to create amazing memories with your loved ones. When looking for things to do, start in your immediate vicinity. Our city has fantastic museums, walking tours, hiking trails and more. Let’s bring business back to our local family-owned businesses.

GET INVOLVED! ABOVE: Susan Marais, creative director of The Durban Bucket List.

lives again. Don’t go out only to support others. Go out to see your friends, motivate each other and lift each other up.

Meet at a market, on a hike, or at a beautiful restaurant over a cup of coffee. We are not made to live in isolation. Please consider connecting with friends and family in responsible ways and supporting local venues in the process.

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KEEPING YOU IN THE LOOP DEAF AWARENESS & Fulton School September is deaf awareness month, and the 23rd is International Day of Sign Languages. Did you know that there are over 300 different sign languages around the world? In South Africa, we use South African Sign Language (SASL) – a linguistic and cultural marker for the deaf community.

SASL is not linked to any spoken language, it is a unique language with its own unique grammar and modality.

Fulton School, a public school located on a private property in Gillitts, is one of only eight schools catering for deaf children in the province – and has provided specialised education to deaf learners since 1959. “Our purpose is to equip our deaf learners with the knowledge, attitude and skills that will ensure that they become independent, contributing citizens of our nation,” says principal Odette Swift – adding that they offer classes from pre-school to matric.

Since the increased advocacy around the rights of persons with disabilities has gained momentum, more and more deaf children are being identified in rural areas. Families of deaf children all face the unfortunate dilemma of finding specialised schools for their children.

These children cannot attend local schools in their community, as

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ABOVE: The original house that Mr and Mrs Fulton donated to a trust for the education of deaf children.

it is essential that they have specialised education in order to develop. “To ensure that learners from further away are able to take advantage of the education we offer, we offer hostel accommodation,” says Odette. “The advantage of boarding is that the children learn to communicate quickly in an environment where everyone is communicating in the same language. This results in a marked difference to their academic achievements in later years.”

For orphaned and destitute children, the hostel provides stability as well as well-balanced meals. “A large number of our learners come from severely disadvantaged backgrounds. Some of our learners have lost one or both parents and they depend on us for education, boarding and medical care when necessary,” adds Odette.

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Your exact tax liability can only be determined after the 12 months of your financial year but SARS does not want to wait until then to get paid, so you make an estimate of your full year taxable income six months into your financial year and make a “down payment” (for lack of a better word) on this tax. You then submit another estimate due on the last day of your financial year and make another “down payment”. Once your final tax liability is calculated, you may have to pay in or you may get a refund if you have overpaid.  Dividends Tax The distribution of company profits to shareholders are called dividends. When a dividend is distributed to a shareholder(s), a dividends tax of 20% kicks in and must be withheld by the company and paid over to SARS.  Value Added Tax (VAT) All businesses who have made

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ash is the lifeblood of every business, and no cash = no business. If your business suffers from poor or inconsistent cash flow, it is important to understand the underlying reasons so that you can take the necessary remedial action.

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Insufficient Sales

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• Sales is a function of leads and conversion rate. Make sure you are measuring both of these and put strategies in place to improve them.

Poor Debtors Collections 2

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High Debt Levels

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6 Excessive Personal Drawings

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OBAN Estate

WHERE CONTEMPORARY ARCHITECTURE, EQUESTRIANISM AND NATURE COALESCE INTO A REALITY THAT IS INSPIRING, FUNCTIONAL AND UNIQUE WITHIN THE CONTEXT OF ITS SPECTACULAR SETTING

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ummerveld is located within the lush rolling hills of Upper Highway’s Shongweni, and this tight knit horse racing and show jumping community is home to the Oban Estate – a contemporary residence and equestrian facility named after the Scottish seaside town from where the owner’s family originates.

The point of entry to this four hectare (40 000m²) site involves driving through a raw concrete and corten gatehouse and along a curved, tree lined avenue. This provides

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This modern home with brutalist undertones expressed in the structural design, takes on a simple arrangement of monolithic linear forms

an opportunity to catch obscured rhythmic glimpses of the home through evenly spaced Plane trees. Emerging from this leafy tunnel of dappled light, and passing under a low slung cantilevered canopy that opens up into an expansive parking court, signals the arrival at the private residence.

This modern home with brutalist undertones expressed in the structural design, takes on a simple arrangement of monolithic linear forms that project out across the vast manicured lawn and gently sloping paddocks, while still managing to position itself comfortably

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amongst the existing mature trees.

Approaching the home, an organic shaped concrete wall weaves its way above a shallow reflective pond, enthusiastically inviting visitors over a small bridge and through the front door.

On entering the home, the view of the distant horizon vista through an expansive unobstructed 10m opening is simply breathtaking. Simultaneously, the prominent V-column, the “googie” styled floating staircase, and the triangulated coffer slab double volume ceiling, set the tone for what lies ahead.

The open plan kitchen, lounge and dining room area leads on to a fully equipped, covered outdoor living and entertainment area, swimming pool, and 24m long koi pond. A guest suite and combination study/lounge/gym area make up the remaining ground floor spaces.

While functioning as the means to transition floor levels, the feature staircase offers a sculptural backdrop to the double volume space that leads up to the mezzanine landing.

Arriving at the upper section gallery area of the double volume, there is a notable change of atmosphere. The filtered light moving through the wall of vertical screens, as well as a series of nine symmetrically formationed triangular skylights, collectively create an ethereal and uplifting experience, which always tempts a moment of contemplation.

This floor level is made up of two twin suites and a master suite that includes a private lounge/reading area. All the suites are linked by a 28m floor to ceiling glazed passage that can be completely opened up »

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to allow for natural cross ventilating breezes during the humid summer months.

The equestrian component adjacent to the home consists of stables, an oval shaped office, complete with private lounge and bathroom, a 2 400m² open showjumping arena surface, arena storage, workshops, and public parking for visitors cars and horse trailers.

While this lightweight building departs from the modernist architectural language of the private residence, the shape of the building reinforces the linear form originating from the home.

This steel and sheeted structure houses all the

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In some areas the wrap down is dissolved into horizontal louvre elements that facilitate the sensible balance of natural light and solar control

equestrian functions under a single mono-pitch roof, with angular sheeted walls either wrapping downwards, or opening upwards depending on the relative function that occurs within. In some areas the wrap down is dissolved into horizontal louvre elements that facilitate the sensible balance of natural light and solar control, particularly in the area of the stables. In addition, the early morning and late afternoon shadow patterns generated by the louvres bring a warmth and texture to the robust surface areas.

The design framework for both components of the project was established in the resolution of two fundamental challenges: The first being from a site planning aspect. The residential and equestrian components had to be functionally defined according to their respective private and public usage, while at the same time achieving the aesthetic of a single integrated development.

The second being from an architectural aspect. The introduction of a bold modernist structure within a rustic country environment demanded a rigorous design approach. The process pursued an outcome that would present buildings confident in their demeanor, yet respectful of the prominent site that had received them.

Ultimately the aim of this project was driven by a vision to see contemporary architecture, equestrianism, and nature, coalesce into a reality that was inspiring, functional and unique within the context of its spectacular setting.

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brought the warm reds into her hair, which unfortunately just enhanced the yellow her skin was already throwing out. After her assessment, we discovered that she was a Winter – and she looks so much younger and healthier in her correct colours and hair colour.

adly about 90% of our clients have the incorrect hair colour, which as you can see from the ‘Before’ photo above is detrimental to one’s skin tone,” says Fay. Michele Aubourg, 62, visited Fay and Megan Coleman at Image Insured as she was feeling and looking tired and needed a revamp.

Michele was convinced she was an Autumn and therefore wore the warm undertone colours and

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roviding the town of Durban with sufficient water for its growing population was a challenge from the late 19th century. A dam was built on the Umbilo river in Paradise Valley, but it washed away in a flood in 1905. As more and more people settled along the highway west of the town, the problem became greater. From the mid-1960s the town’s water came from Midmar, but that soon proved inadequate.

In the early 1980s it was decided by the central Department of Water Affairs to dam the Mngeni River at Inanda. The labourers for the project were housed near the site of the proposed wall, but professional and technical staff lived in a cluster of mobile homes at Cumec Park in Waterfall – where a variety of amenities was provided for them. The building of the dam would dislodge 4 500 people in the valley, especially from the communities of Maphepheteni, KwaNgcolosi and Maqadini. Unfortunately the preparation for this disruption was inadequate and created considerable resentment among locals, some of whom were moved out of the valley altogether.

Meanwhile, however, local archaeologists moved into the area to search for evidence of early human settlement in the valley, soon to be made entirely inaccessible. Their reports have contributed a great deal to our understanding of the past of the region. In addition, Gavin Whitelaw of the Natal Museum has developed a detailed picture of the early African settlement in the area, going back a thousand years. The Department of Water Affairs funded and supported the archaeological rescue project

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The Inanda

DAM ROBIN LAMPLOUGH DELVES INTO THE HISTORY OF THIS LOCAL BEAUTY

between 1986 and 1989, including the use of earth-moving equipment. Gavin christened the spot they excavated “KwaGandaganda” – the tractor place.

The dam was officially opened in 1989. The site is overlooked by

Crestholme to the south, and Inanda Mountain to the east. Responsibility for organising and running the resort that would be developed around the dam was given to the Msinsi group, a group which was already managing similar projects in other parts of the province.

The Inanda resort offers camping, picnicking, boating and fishing facilities to visitors. Several guest houses are available. Zebra graze peacefully in various spots along the shore.

The North American bass, a game fish well known for its fighting capacity, was introduced to the dam, as was carp, another non-indigenous species. Since 1998 there have been regular fishing competitions at Inanda,

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ABOVE: An aerial view of Inanda Dam. FAR LEFT & LEFT: 1988 – view of

KwaGandaganda in the river bend; 1986 – the Inanda Dam wall being built. Pictures: Gavin Whitelaw

with some spectacular results.

In addition, the annual Dusi Canoe Marathon from Pietermaritzburg to Durban has its final stop-over at the dam.

Many canoeists camp at Inanda before undertaking the final leg of the journey, which ends at eThekwini’s Blue Lagoon.

The Inanda Jazz Festival has become a feature of the local music scene. And in June 2021 a group of vintage car

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enthusiasts, the VWBeetleManiacs, drove in convoy from the coast to the dam, delighting many inhabitants in the rural areas through which they travelled.

Hardly surprisingly, there have also been some tragic accidents at the dam.

Not long ago, the local press reported the drowning of an 11-year-old child.

Also, some teenagers driving a jet-ski lost control and collided with boaters. On another occasion, a group of swimmers was caught in the undertow near the dam wall and several drowned.

Nevertheless, the dam and especially the Msinsi resort, have made a remarkable difference to the local economy. At different levels, they have created regular employment and BBE business opportunities for many in a region which was previously povertystricken and where joblessness had for generations been the norm.

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our senses are soothed by the tranquil, verdant grounds, and your taste buds tantalised by the delicious aroma of food cooked in a wood fire oven – whether it be pizza or smoked ribs. This is Old Quarry Smokehouse in Assagay, the culmination of a long-held dream of Katey and Warren Vermaak.

In February 2019 their plans to open a Trattoria in Botha’s Hill went awry, draining much of their savings. Back to the drawing board, they continued to cook for the retail food industry as well as running their events company On Scene. Then Covid-19 rattled the world. “The pandemic effectively buried our company since most of our income was generated by functions and markets,” remembers Warren. This left them, as with so many other Covid casualties, seriously cash strapped. Fortunately the couple and their two small children were able to relocate to Katey’s parents’ home where they moved into a unique stone cottage on their property in Assagay.

RIGHT: Warren – fire maestro at work.

FAR RIGHT: The unique stone cottage was built by Katey’s step-dad.

BELOW: Talented pizza chef Zamsile Pretty.

SMOKING hot down at the quarry LEE CURRIE MEETS THE COUPLE BEHIND ASSAGAY’S OLD QUARRY SMOKEHOUSE

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While this may not have been part of their original plan, the beautiful grounds – over two hectares of it – landscaped by Katey’s mother Penny, who owns a garden design business, turned out to be the perfect place to establish their much-awaited restaurant.

They opened in November last year, despite last-minute lockdown restrictions, which limited them to takeaways until they were able to offer a seated option – with a difference. “We decided to operate as a private food club where booking is essential.

We have limited parking and are weather dependant, so we need to know how to plan for and effectively serve our patrons.

We don’t turn tables like a conventional

restaurant, so that those that book tend to stay for the whole afternoon. The spacious grounds also make it very Covid-friendly and there’s a play area for children – with a jungle gym. Our catchphrase ‘grazing adults and free range children’ is becoming a topic of conversation with our patrons,” smiles Katey.

“I had the idea for pizza ovens that I could merge with an American smokehouse with an Argentinian live fire cooking area. We certainly didn’t have enough cash for a pizza oven, so I decided to convert steel drums into ovens,” explains Warren. “We used the top row of fire bricks from an Argentinian Parilla grill that I had »

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bought earlier for the pizzeria, and the ovens were erected, burned in and worked better than expected at a fraction of the cost. Our newly redesigned drum ovens are now being made to order.”

The food has the depth of flavour that only expertise and top quality products can provide. The pizzas are memorable, hard won through constant practice getting the crust perfectly crispy. The toppings? Think pulled smoked pork or beef, bacon jam, caramelised onion ... meat options include ribs, tomahawk steak, Mozambican chicken – enhanced with mouth-watering, homemade sauces.

Some stunning salads and desserts are also on the menu. Warren says he likes to set his creativity free by offering different specials. Private cheffing and bespoke catering for small functions is also part of their dining options. “We attribute our

success firstly to God, and secondly to the quality of our food and service.”

“Last year December our pizza chef Zamsile joined us, with a 10-year background of experience in pizzerias, teaching me a great deal too. I am a firm believer in mentorship, driven to enable the next generation to surpass us,” says Warren.

Warren organises regular “Smokehouse Sessions” featuring live music.

Collaborations are also a feature. “We recently had the privilege of working with the phenomenal chef Andrew Draper, when he graced us with his presence that left us all dizzy in the whirlwind of fun – and inspired to do greater things!”

The smokehouse has an enthusiastic following on social media where fans are kept up-to-date and tempted with mouthwatering images of the dishes on offer.

“Of late we have had a steady increase in guests from the north and south of KZN, where we’re perceived as a ‘Mini Midlands’ – close enough to get that country feel, but not too far to drive,” says Warren. “We are in discussion with other local businesses to establish our own Meander.”

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The Loubsers aren’t new to the industry, and have long been supplying retailers. For them, Moki is a personal project, focused entirely on their style, and – clearly – the style of many others too.

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manufacture paramount. “The idea at Moki is to be able to find something different for someone or yourself. We are a kind of a ‘no rules anything goes as long we like it’ store.”

Moki also offers a platform for local designers to showcase their products.

They’re currently working on creating a space in Moki uMhlanga where they can showcase

The store design, layout and decor creates a contemplative space you don’t want to leave: “We love the minimal aesthetic of Japanese and Scandinavian design,” says Monica.

“We adore plants – they transform any space into a place of peace, tranquillity and give a Zen-like feel. The Japanese have a practice called forest bathing which is simply using all your senses to absorb the forest atmosphere. It can be done anywhere where you have plants or trees, not necessarily in a forest. If you can’t be outside, bring the outside in.”

In Moki, you’ll find homeware, plants, furniture, books, stationery, clothing, cosmetics and jewellery, with quality of design and

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a single designer for a limited time.

Many of Moki’s products are unique: “We try to source local, well designed and made products, but also stock a selection of overseas finds … from Europe, Morocco, India, Malawi, and the East,” says Monica.

The Loubsers are massive book fans: “There’s still something magical about a book, and we source and stock a very different selection – and it’ll continue to grow.”

And you’ll find IXXI at Moki, a concept the Loubsers discovered in Amsterdam: “We bought an Ernst Haeckel print for the Kloof

store entrance, and just loved it – we’re now their local agents. The beauty of the system is that it is so easy to install, and customisable, so you can get one to fit any space. There are so many designs and images to choose from.

“We believe our offering is unique. Some of our product is a bit edgier than most homeware stores, it’s not intentional, just our style. And yes, black is our favourite colour …”

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MYLES AND MICHELE BUXTON’S DREAM OF EXTENDING IMIFINO’S VISION TO THE UMHLANGA COMMUNITY TO NOURISH, EMPOWER, UPLIFT AND FEED IS STARTING TO TAKE ROOT, WRITES KATE HOARE

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Since lockdown 2020, Imifino – with their Operation Community Nutrition programme – started cooking for those in need with a big focus on children. Together with the help of Skhindi Shandu, they prep and cook 500 meals a week and deliver highly nutritious, plant-based meals to impoverished communities in the rural Shongweni, Assagay areas.

Vegetables and rice packed with natural superfoods and high in protein are cooked slowly over wood fires in giant, cast iron potjies, then decanted into five-litre containers for delivery. Onions, potatoes, butternut, lentils, sweet potatoes and imifino (wild, leafy greens, somewhat like

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spinach) make a delicious and nutritious smoky veg risotto packed with goodness.

Imifino grows wild across South Africa and is a highly nutritious superfood. Once a traditional food, it’s now seen by impoverished communities as a “poor person’s food”.

Central to NPO Imifino’s vision is re-educating on imifino’s high nutritional superfood value, making it an acceptable “cool” leafy green again amongst communities, one that is packed with nutrients, vitamins, minerals and anti-oxidants.

Being hungry is unimaginable,

ABOVE: Skhindi Shandu, Kaz and Matt Wilson of Imifino Assagay, Ty, Michele and Myles Buxton of Imifino uMhlanga.

ABOVE RIGHT: Skhindi takes care of the cooking. and with the Covid-19 lockdown, impoverished people have suffered so much more in terms of job losses and rising food prices. As horticulturists and nutritionists, Matt and Kaz understand the importance of good nutrition, but as they expressed, “delivering hundreds of weekly meals to nearby impoverished rural areas is not sustainable”. Their plan is to

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plant sustainable food gardens and fruit forests within rural community centres, where community “champions” are trained in gardening, rain-water harvesting, seed saving, growing, harvesting and nutritional recycling, empowering communities to become nutritionally knowledgeable and self-sufficient.

Prestondale and uMhlanga have Blackburn Village – an informal settlement – on their doorstep, so the opportunity to extend NPO Imifino’s vision to our North Coast makes enormous sense. Prestondale’s

existing Parkside community vegetable and flower garden into an “urban farm” in the heart of uMhlanga. An additional area close to Blackburn Village has been identified where the range of vegetables grown can be cooked together with rice in giant potjies into nutritional food for Blackburn Village children.

Chatting with Myles and Michele, they feel passionately about “the growing need for community and company involvement in feeding and empowering the hungry and see the Imifino and Parkside vegetable and flower garden project as a fulfilment of both these ideals”. The need is for companies and individuals to get involved in assisting them to secure funds needed to purchase vegetable seedlings and potjie pots to get the project up and running. Reddam House uMhlanga have kindly offered to assist Myles and Michele with

Myles and Michele Buxton are passionate about community upliftment, and rather than creating an entirely new initiative, they’ve partnered with Kaz and Matt to extend the Imifino nutritional community project to uMhlanga.

Coincidently, for the past two years, Ridge Association Management in agreement with eThekwini “Adopt a Spot” and DSW have been managing a vacant piece of land in Parkside on the uMhlanga Ridge as an ongoing community vegetable garden. They currently have a dedicated team, horticulturist

and 24-hour surveillance overseeing the land and employ and upskill ladies from Blackburn Village on a rotational basis in the growing of vegetables and flowers. The upskilling of Blackburn ladies provides skilled labour for the uMhlanga Ridge resident landscape providers, and more importantly, a permanent source of employment.

Myles and Michele are working in collaboration with Siya Gumede from Ridge Association Management and Ms Neliswa Nogoni from Blackburn Village to turn the

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It is critical that the Imifino uMhlanga and Parkside garden project is not merely a handout feeding scheme, but rather a sustainable self-sufficient community upliftment initiative that extends into outlying communities where the concept of food gardens, irrigation and nutritional recycling can be taught and set up locally to feed those in need.

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ABOVE: Myles Buxton with gardeners Zinhle and Fikile, Siya Gumede, a junior landscape manager at the uMhlanga gardens, and Neliswa Nogoni from the Early Learning Centre in Blackburn Village.

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s parents, we hope our children engage in lasting, healthy friendships built on trust, loyalty, honesty and mutual respect. However, while friendships should be a source of support and happiness, they can shift and become fraught with conflict and power struggles.

While it is normal for friendships to experience the occasional spat, with most issues easily resolved, some friendships can become toxic. In these cases, it is important to recognise the signs and intervene early in an effort to limit the emotional impact. Unfortunately, it is not uncommon for your child’s friend to morph into their bully, with the “friendship” becoming unhealthy and ultimately destructive.

Despite efforts to root it out of the classrooms and playgrounds, bullying remains a pervasive element within schools. But what we sometimes don’t realise, is that bullying can manifest in different ways. Bullying is often associated with the archetypal push or shove, but can exhibit in other ways like gestures, hurtful words and statements. These insidious acts are not confined to the school environment or amongst schoolchildren, and can often permeate our work and social spaces as well.

The bottom line is, schools find it challenging to address

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bullying, while parents find it difficult to adequately censor their child if they are the bully, or support their child if they are the victim. In the real world most children experience acts of bullying by friends during their school years, which could impact on their self-image and beliefs about friendship.

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in my class PLAYGROUND OR BATTLEGROUND? EDUCATIONAL PSYCHOLOGIST JANET GEORGE UNCOVERS THE HIDDEN NATURE OF RELATIONAL AGGRESSION worked within co-ed and single-sex schools, covert bullying – or relational aggression as it is often termed – is more prevalent amongst girls. Bestselling author and girl advocate Rachel Simmons suggests that girls often do not display their anger through physical aggression, but rather resort to non-verbal and indirect aggression. While on the surface we witness friends engage with appropriate civility, beneath the surface often lies strategic ploys of exclusion, gossip, cyber-

sent rumours and hostility, often turning friendships conflictual, which can be emotionally and mentally damaging to the victim.

As these behaviours are mostly subtle, teachers and parents are often unaware that these tensions exist, making intervention difficult.

Unfortunately, these acts often trigger a child to lose confidence and diminishes their desire to attend school. You may also witness a gradual or sudden drop in grades, loss of interest in activities, anxiety, depression, or even suicidal ideation amongst

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those children badly affected by this type of bullying.

As parents and teachers we need to find a balance between shrugging off this behaviour as “girl drama” or downplaying it as “girls being mean”, and waging war against the offender. Ultimately, we cannot be an ever-present shield, but we can provide the tools and support required to build a resilient and independent child.

We should be sensitising children both to their own behaviour, and that of others, thereby ensuring the desired behaviour is affirmed. The recognition that words and actions hold meaning, that they can be used as a positive force, or a tool which can cause hurt and pain, is important in ensuring we effect positive behaviour changes amongst our children. How do we do this?

The ability to identify relational aggression is imperative: Gossip and rumour-spreading are common forms of relational aggression that children (and even adults) engage in without thinking about how this impacts the victim.

Bullies often thrive on drama

and unrest and will use gossip and negativity to elicit a desired response. This can be difficult to contain with often numerous and alternative accounts of stories.

Distancing oneself both physically and emotionally can be an effective strategy, while raising particularly hurtful and damaging rumours with school staff and parents is often required.

Schools need to ensure that staff are well-informed about the nature of relational bullying and provide platforms for children to engage with them about friendships and incidents of relational aggression.

Adults can be supportive by teaching girls (and boys for that matter) practical strategies for expressing anger in constructive ways and to recognise incidents of relational aggression disguised as friendship. Most importantly, we must refuse to accept that “mean girl” behaviour is unavoidable.

Encourage healthy friendships: Encourage children to choose friends

who are affirming, who listen to them and treat them well. Talk to them about what constitutes a healthy friendship – to espouse values that are important in a friendship. Encourage honesty, trust (unless safety is an issue) and kindness. Your child’s ability to temper their reactions and reflect should be developed over time.

Address issues early and intervene: There should be consequences for bullying, with the ultimate goal of modifying behaviour.

Interventions within schools should focus on promoting

ABOVE: Educational psychologist at Durban Girls’ College, Janet George. pro-social behaviour, thereby creating warm and inclusive school environments as well as empowering bystanders to act against bullying incidents. Both teachers and parents can, individually, affirm kind and compassionate behaviour, which is the bedrock of a

healthy friendship.

Of course, a parent’s ability to effectively deal with relational aggression can be complicated when we have our own friendships with the parents of the bully or when our children fail to disclose the issues they face at school. Teachers themselves have to adopt a pragmatic approach and can often only respond to what they observe in class, which is usually confined to classroom or playground flare-ups.

The opportunity and ability of children to communicate is key, with space provided for your child or student to raise issues and express their feelings. This allows for self-reflection and an opportunity to offer support and guidance. No child is immune to bullying, so it is important that we engage our children on this issue in an effort to sensitise, build resilience and encourage the adoption of appropriate behaviour. Schooling and the friendships made during this period can and should be a positive experience, with the role of teachers and parents important in ensuring that convivial playgrounds don’t turn into battlefields.

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FOR MORE INFO Contact Janet on: jgeorge@dgc.co.za Useful resources: Odd Girl Out: The Hidden Culture Of Aggression In Girls, by Rachel Simmons; No More Mean Girls – The Secret To Raising Strong, Confident And Compassionate Girls by Katie Hurley.

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hen the Covid-19 pandemic catapulted them out of the corporate world, Julia and Mike Harding looked no further than their own Waterfall garden for ingredients to make delicious and healthy snacks and condiments that could be sold from local markets.

The couple’s homely Waterfall cottage is populated with a huge collection of cookery books and two contented rescue cats, and surrounded by a wonderful wild garden filled with herbs and fruit trees such as litchis, bananas, tamarillos, Chinese guavas, ruby and white grapefruit, lemons and peaches.

It is here that Mint Condition Deli Products was born, and from where the home-grown

Without a healthy gut lining, it is difficult for the body to absorb the important vitamins, minerals and antioxidants it needs gut health which, they point out, is at the root of a number of modern day ailments.

“Without a healthy gut lining, it is difficult for the body to absorb the important vitamins, minerals and antioxidants it needs,” Mike explains.

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recipes for a range of products that include biltong and dry wors, marmalade, a basil and a rocket pesto, roasted courgette and chickpea hummus, red and green harissa paste and dehydrated mushrooms and pineapple originate.

These contain no preservatives, artificial flavourants or colouring. Lemon juice and olive oil ensure that they stay fresh for three weeks in the fridge. All are packaged in reusable and recyclable glass.

The couple drew on their passion for food and their experience in the business and hospitality sectors to start their own business; they are buying freshly harvested vegetables from a nearby farmer and working closely with experts to grow their range to include food-based health remedies.

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ABOVE: Mike and Julia in the garden that inspired their business, Mint Condition. that has raised a great deal of interest is kombucha, an effervescent tea that is rich in probiotics and has been used by the Chinese, Japanese and Russians for centuries. They both enjoy a 200ml glass of kombucha every day and believe that it

SHIRLEY LE GUERN MEETS THE COUPLE BEHIND MINT CONDITION DELI PRODUCTS has not only restored their own gut health but boosted their energy and even relieved the chronic eczema from which Julia has suffered for most of her life.

Another is kimchi, a fermented cabbage based relish that harnesses the same good bacteria (lactobacilli) found in yogurt and other fermented dairy products. In addition to Chinese cabbage, this Korean recipe includes white radish, carrot, fresh ginger, fresh garlic and onion (which are antibacterial) and fresh chilli which is packed with vitamin C, a powerful antioxidant and immune system booster.

“We eat kimchi with anything and everything, it’s so delicious. There is no way I would sell something that I’m not 100% sure of,” Mike stresses.

Julia explains that one of their greatest challenges right now is that they have

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LEFT: Dehydrated pineapple, one of Mint Condition’s most popular products.

FAR LEFT: Kombucha and a selection of other Mint Condition products. to sell their preservative-free products close to home, as courier companies are not prepared to guarantee that they will remain refrigerated throughout transportation and they are not prepared to compromise on safety. As a result, they are selling via a number of markets and directly supplying a growing number of loyal customers who order ahead for collection via their WhatsApp group or Facebook page.

They are also developing new products.

“We do tasters at all markets. Julia makes a cheese and mustard biscuit for this. Now,

in response to requests from people at our markets, we are making and selling these too,” Mike says.

They are also growing their range of dehydrated fruits and vegetables which, “based on my own sensitivity to preservatives, will include nothing potentially harmful,” says Mike.

“Covid brought people together. People are now supporting local. Things have been tough but it was also a blessing as it pushed us to do something about which we are both passionate. So, it is a case of onward and upward. We are looking for new markets and outlets all the time,” Julia notes.

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Q: What is a mammogram, and why are mammograms so important?

A: A mammogram is an X-ray image of one’s breasts. Two images are taken of each breast under different compression directions. Mammograms are vitally important and remain the gold standard for screening for breast cancer worldwide, as they are the only form of imaging which can easily detect microcalcifications.

These can indicate early breast cancer or preinvasive breast cancer (Carcinoma in situ). They can also detect asymmetry, architectural distortions, and mass lesions before they become palpable. This early detection results in a decreased mortality and morbidity in breast cancer.

Q: Tell us briefly about the mammogram procedure, to put women who are afraid at ease.

A: Mammograms use very low dose radiation (similar to what you would get on an overseas flight) and the compression is for mere seconds. The machines used today have automatic release, so war stories of being stuck in the machine … this can’t possibly happen in our current machines.

Most of our patients can’t believe how “easy, quick and painless” the procedure is.

Q: What are the benefits of the 3D mammogram procedure? Is it safe?

A: 3D mammography uses tomosynthesis (multiple low dose images are taken and stacked together to make a 3D image).

Our computers can then reconstruct a 2D image from the data. Our 3D imaging hence has an even lower radiation dose than the traditional 2D images from the past. The benefit of 3D imaging is enormous. I wouldn’t want to work without it! You can scroll through the breast tissue and see the difference between overlapping breast structures and something that shouldn’t be there.

Q: Why may an ultrasound also be needed after your mammogram?

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ultiple Sclerosis South Africa (KZN) is determined to honour its commitment to all members in an effort to make the lives of patients bright and cheery, and have embraced the virtual era with gusto – with all support groups and meetings on Zoom. This makes it easier to

BELOW: Gilly Pearce, who has had no movement from her neck down for some 10 years, taught herself to paint with her mouth. Her motto is “I work from the neck up”.

ABOVE: Ruben Thomas (left), newly diagnosed with MS, and friend Ross Meintjies.

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We are hoping this programme will put a spring in their step and let them know that they are valued and thought of

be in touch, as many find it difficult to get to a designated venue.

MSSA KZN recently hooked up with four wonderful UKZN Psychology Masters students who ran a four-session zoom care group, discussing anxiety and depression and how to cope with it. “As MS can be a debilitating autoimmune disease robbing patients of movement, cognitive faculties, dignity and setting of a plethora of unbearable symptoms, we are starting a programme which will, once a week, via zoom, connect with patients and offer courses,” explains chairperson Dee Munks – sharing the following ideas: • Laughter therapy.

• Private therapy session with UKZN Psychology Masters students.

• Talks by Dr Comrie who focuses on the immune system.

• Art and music therapy.

• Journalling and poetry writing.

• Public speaking – get out of your comfort zone.

• Art of communication.

• Mad Hatter quizzes.

• Vision boards.

• TRE sessions.

• Food/recipes for the MS body.

“We are hoping this programme will put a spring in their step and let them know that they are valued and thought of,” adds Dee – encouraging readers with a special interest they can share with MSSA KZN to make contact.

FOR MORE INFO 083 411 4282; www.multiplesclerosis.co.za

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LEFT: MS patient Thokozani Chili (left) and MS patient and Patient Support Person, Nikki Robinson. Picture: Gareth Brown

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Sannah Tsatsawane Zimbaye Kelly Leahy I feel grateful and privileged to have been a part of the MS Support Group. It was empowering to engage with a diverse group of people who continue to remain positive and honest with themselves, despite their challenging experiences. The session I hosted focused on a Dialectical Behaviour Therapy (DBT) skill of applying radical acceptance to living with MS. While this is an abstract concept and skill that can often be difficult to grasp, and some individuals may not be ready to begin to radically accept their unique condition, the MS support group were able to understand this skill, share their experiences, and apply it to their own lives in various ways.

Julia Michaelides Being a part of the MS Support Group was a heart-warming and enlightening experience. From the outset the entire group was welcoming and open, and incredibly supportive of each other despite the different stages of MS. The session I hosted touched on a topic that many may consider “taboo” – namely reaching out for help. Even though the topic was difficult, the group was open-minded and willing to share and contribute. I really enjoyed engaging with the group – such an important part of the MS community and a vital part of any person’s journey with MS.

My overall experience of the MS Support Group was nothing short of astounding.

Attendance was progressively higher with each session, which led to increased information and experience sharing from members – who were resilient, open, trusting and transparent. I learnt a lot just from facilitating and sitting in a few sessions, they were welcoming and receptive of the information and concept I shared – such as understanding anxiety and coping with uncertainty as MS patients. Members provide social support to each other which decreases the risk of social withdrawal – in instances where they may be experiencing overwhelming thoughts and feelings – thus contributing towards their mental wellness.

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I enjoyed working with the MS Support Group, they have so much energy. Even though this diagnosis comes with a lot of emotional and physical problems, I observed them having a desire to be in control. The few sessions spent with them were beneficial, particularly because most of the time people presenting with MS are taught to focus on their physical challenges.

Nevertheless, emotional challenges are just as essential, and lack of adequate support structure may lead to them having mental illnesses, such as depression and anxiety. I also feel support groups are necessary for individuals presenting with MS as some go through so much loss, such as losing their loved ones and inability to do things they used to enjoy.

Knowing that there are people you can reach out to, who are going through the same journey, is so beneficial.

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hile its temperate climate, natural beauty and rich heritage make South Africa a prime destination for property investors, strong security measures have always been an important part of this incredible lifestyle. For this reason, those considering investing in a mature lifestyle estate often prioritise safety, but it’s the quality of safety that is the truly deciding factor.

“The recent civil unrest put into sharp focus the importance of a sophisticated level of security when it comes to estate living,” explains Phil Barker of Renishaw Property Developments on the KZN South Coast. “Homeowners, particularly those enjoying their golden years, need to be assured they can enjoy the quality lifestyle so celebrated in South Africa without the constant concern for safety.”

When it comes to secure estate living, the following six security features will ensure that residents are able to benefit from an outdoor lifestyle with complete peace of mind.

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Secure perimeter

High-tech cameras

24-hour patrols

The security company assigned to a mature lifestyle estate must be able to provide a 24-hour, onsite security service.

This will include manning all entry points to

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check who is coming and going, as well as constant patrols, day and night.

Quick reaction time

The reaction time of a security company is what truly sets them apart, because in an emergency, time is of the essence. It’s also worth checking whether the security company offers the option of panic buttons which can either be installed in individual units or provided as a mobile device.

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A well-run estate will include thermalvision cameras positioned on the perimeter fencing. These will ensure any unsanctioned activity is quickly identified and halted, and can be reviewed to pick up on any previous activity.

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The first feature is secure, electrified perimeter fencing, constructed from advanced equipment which is constantly monitored and maintained. Clear-view fencing is currently the preferred perimeter option, as it provides optimum security without impacting views.

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Security collaboration

Security cannot work in isolation. An estate dedicated to the security of its residents will ensure that onsite security works with a network of outside security operatives, including law enforcement, community policing forums, security consultants as well as other security organisations. This ensures they are fully prepared against any potential threat.

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Unrestricted living

At the end of it all, residents want to enjoy

the benefits of security without feeling restricted by it. An estate needs to prioritise unobtrusive yet effective security wherever possible. This includes a dedicated and friendly security staff, clear-view perimeter fencing, and other techniques that effectively blend security measures into the natural surroundings.

Renishaw Hills, the Scottburgh-based mature lifestyle village, ticks all these boxes when it comes to state-of-the-art security features. “It’s a delicate balance ensuring our residents always feel safe without it being too conspicuous,” explains Phil. “At Renishaw Hills, we feel we’ve achieved this balance. With the incredible ocean and forest views, nature trails, estate facilities and wonderful community living, residents are truly able to live that holiday life without ever having to worry about their safety.”

FOR MORE INFO Start a new adventure at Renishaw Hills. Book a tour with all relevant health-and-safety measures adhered to at info@renishawhills.co.za or visit www.renishawhills.co.za

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LIVE THE HOLIDAY

When you’ve worked towards this moment all your life, why shouldn’t retirement feel like a holiday?

At Renishaw Hills, a mature lifestyle village on the mid-South Coast, we deliver more than just value, security, and community. With lush indigenous gardens and more days of sunshine, it’s the perfect place to enjoy freedom, fitness and friendship alongside stellar sea views and coastal forest expanses. Thanks to the convenience of a single monthly levy, you can live with peace of mind, knowing that everything you need is always taken care of. For more on our homes that epitomise indoor/outdoor living, join us for a private tour of Renishaw Hills, Scottburgh when you email sales@renishawhills.co.za or take our virtual tours on www.renishawhills.co.za

Sharyn 079 853 8946 | Kelly 087 135 5555 | sales@renishawhills.co.za | www.renishawhills.co.za

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GOODBYE WINTER … HELLO SPRING. A CHANGE OF SEASONS IS LIKE FOOD FOR THE SOUL, WRITES ANT ELLIS

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ow can it be spring of 2021 already? I don’t know about you, but a significant part of my mind feels stuck knee-deep in the unholy mess of 2020 – which is why I’ve made a very conscious decision that this change of season is going to matter. No, really! Of course, this means getting into a lighter diet after mountains of comfort food all winter, and a second, third and fourth helping of tasty positivity. As cheesy as that is, good

with top-notch ingredients.

This spring, get your head around fresh vegetables (especially leafy greens), fish and shellfish, robust salads with beautifully bright vinaigrettes, and fruity desserts. And hey, it’s about time to set the outside table again, and put the chenin blanc in the fridge.

Check out these quick and easy springtime recipes that’ll get you going for the season.

 Spring Green Pasta YOUR GREEN VEGGIES INTAKE DOESN’T HAVE TO BE SERVED ON THE SIDE OF A PROTEIN. MAXIMUM FRESHNESS, MAXIMUM FLAVOUR, MINIMUM DRAMA – AND PERFECT FOR VEGETARIANS TOO. Serves 4.

• 400g of your preferred pasta • 500ml vegetable stock • 1 cup frozen peas • 200g baby spinach leaves, washed • juice of a lemon • 2 cloves of garlic • big bunch of mixed fresh basil and parsley leaves • 6 Tbsps olive oil • salt and pepper to taste • 2 Tbsps crème fraiche (optional) To serve: • Parmesan, pecorino or hard feta cheese • 4 Tbsps crushed walnuts (optional) Cook pasta in a large pot of salted boiling water. In a pan, heat stock to boiling. Add spinach and peas. Cook for 4-5 minutes until spinach has wilted and peas are cooked through. Drain most of

This spring, get your head around fresh vegetables (especially leafy greens), fish and shellfish, robust salads with beautifully bright vinaigrettes, and fruity desserts food does actually equal a good mood.

Spring eating generally means a shift to healthier, less-rich food, which is good for all of us. The question, I hear you ask, is whether we can maintain the fullbodied flavours of our winter indulgences while eating more consciously – to suit our refreshed headspace. Yes, of course we can. It’s not about smothering good ingredients with mass-produced sauces or dressings from bottles or sachets. You can create super-delicious, rock ’n roll dishes for the family table, quickly and

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the liquid (keep aside to add to your sauce depending on your preferred consistency), also reserving 2 tablespoons of cooked peas for serving. Add spinach, remaining peas, lemon juice, garlic, herbs, crème fraiche (optional) and olive oil to a blender and purée, adding stock as necessary to achieve your desired consistency, ideally like a loose pesto. Season to taste.

Drain cooked pasta and return to pot. Stir the sauce through, adding reserved peas, then toss through thoroughly. Serve hot with grated Parmesan or pecorino, or crumbled feta, fresh herb leaves, a squeeze of lemon juice, freshly ground black pepper and walnuts (optional).

 Easy Spiced

Kinda-kedgeree

INSPIRED BY THE TRADITIONAL DISH MADE WITH SMOKED HADDOCK, THIS LIGHT FISH AND RICE DISH WITH BOILED EGGS IS A DELICIOUS, LIGHTLY-SPICED SEASONSTARTER. Serves 4.

• 1 Tbsp butter • 2 Tbsps olive oil • 1 medium onion, peeled and finely chopped • 2 cloves garlic, minced • small piece of ginger, peeled and finely chopped • 1 Tbsp medium curry

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powder or masala mix of your choice • 500ml stock of your choice • 250g basmati rice (regular long-grain rice is also good) • 300g cleaned, skinned and deboned fresh white fish – hake, kingklip, dorado, or the traditional smoked haddock (not the horrible dyed junk from a box) • ½ cup frozen peas To serve: • 3 eggs, medium to hard boiled • handful of chopped coriander • fresh sliced red chilli (optional) Heat oil and butter in a pan on medium heat, add garlic, ginger and onion.

Sauté until soft and fragrant. Add curry powder and cook for two minutes, mixing constantly so as to not burn. Add stock and rice, bring to the boil, then cook until rice is almost done. Add more water if rice is drying out. Cut fish into chunks, season, and add to rice with peas. Cook for 5-6 minutes. Cover and leave to stand. Serve with quartered boiled eggs placed over rice, with fresh coriander leaves and cracked black pepper, and chilli if desired.

Until next time, let’s agree that while salads may save the world, spring chickens are delicious too.

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EXCLUSIVE NEW DEVELOPMENT SERA BELLA OFFERS TOP SECURITY, PRIME LOCATION AND STATE-OF-THE-ART FINISHES

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he name Sera Bella translated from Italian means “a beautiful evening”. This name has become synonymous with a beautiful exclusive new development in the heart of Izinga in uMhlanga. Sera Bella consists of stunning architecturally designed modern contemporary inspired villas, embracing a sense of space and elegance.

It is one of the most sought after addresses in the area, and there are numerous reasons for this. No expense has been spared to give Sera Bella its authentic Balinese aesthetics.

Being situated within a double gated security precinct, in addition to having patrolled security and tactical presence, makes Sera Bella a totally unique gated development concept in KwaZulu-Natal. An electrified perimeter fence with surveillance cameras, and a 24-hour security guard manning the access control from the

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guardhouse, provides residents with absolute peace of mind.

In a country like South Africa, where crime is a major concern, living in a gated estate like Sera Bella gives residents the security of knowing that they are safe.

Sera Bella is ideally located near the Gateway Theatre of Shopping complex, uMhlanga and Gateway Hospitals, prestigious private schools, King Shaka International Airport and the uMhlanga coastline beaches – making it very convenient for shopping, travel and even a beach vacation for those looking

to purchase a holiday home in the sunshine city of Durban. The scenic beauty of the uMhlanga surroundings, with Sera Bella at its centre, is unprecedented.

For investors the estate’s ideal location makes it a prized investment opportunity in an area that has seen a rapid escalation in value.

Ranging from two-storey and three-storey villas to three-bedroom apartments, Sera Bella boasts private gardens and the complex has a communal pool and braai area.

Each villa is totally private and fenced off, giving the luxury of total seclusion within a gated estate. Modern and spacious living areas with state-of-theart finishes is a fabulous asset that completes Sera Bella.

These high quality finishes throughout include: • Nano porcelain tiles

• High gloss kitchens with Caesarstone counter tops and soft closing mechanisms • Smeg and Miele oven and hob • Grohe sanitaryware • Frameless shower screens • Geberit WC systems with wall hung pans • Powder coated steel balustrading with timber handrails • Solid wood skirtings and architraves • Solid wood garage doors, laundry station in garages and tiled garage floors (villas only) • Daikin air-conditioning units • Efficient energy lighting • Back up inverter systems in each villa • TV conduit points in bedrooms and lounge areas • Paved driveways with landscaped gardens • Wi-Fi/Fibre ready Luxury Lifestyle Living is therefore the core element used in marketing the Sera Bella development. This luxurious estate provides one with a coveted lifestyle that makes life meaningful and worth living. Location, security and privacy translates to peace, happiness and a beautiful lifestyle that only Sera Bella can provide for its lucky residents. Now that’s priceless!

FOR MORE INFO 083 786 8999; www.serabella.co.za; sales@serabella.co.za

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lackwood’s originated in Richmond as a seedling growing nursery for vegetables and flowers, and embarked on a retail journey by opening Blackwood’s Home of Gardening in Pietermaritzburg 11 years ago.

Currently there are four retail outlets; in Pietermaritzburg, Howick, Richards Bay and the latest addition, Assagay – which took over Dieters Nursery in 2019, expanding plant selling areas and adding extra parking.

Gerald Schofield looks after sales and marketing for Blackwood’s, and is currently managing the Assagay branch – which prides itself in having Upper Highway’s largest selection of indigenous plants. “We have a completely separate indigenous plant section – a nursery within a nursery,” he

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explains. There are many housing estates being built locally where indigenous gardens are emphasised or required. For landscapers or private customers, Blackwood’s Assagay offers advice, source plants, give free quotes and can assist with delivery.

Blackwood’s Assagay also offers indoor plants, veggies, herbs and fruit trees, as well as ornamental trees and shrubs. There’s also a lovely selection of pots and containers – large and small, along with organics, fertilisers and pesticides, and a convenient delivery service.

“The ambiance and atmosphere is without doubt what makes us unique,” says Gerald.

“It’s rustic and homely, people who visit us feel like they have come out into the country.”

The friendly staff and free product information is also a bonus, and Gerald is a fountain of wisdom and happy to help.

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What Makes Blackwood’s Assagay Unique • We are very different to the other Blackwood’s branches; large and expansive.

• Plants are our main focus; volume, variety and value.

• We have many different plant sections or departments – such as cacti and succulents, shade plants, indoor pot plants, azaleas, camellias, hydrangeas. This makes for ease of shopping.

• We focus on introducing new plants and products into the local gardening market.

• We have the benefit of being supplied from the growing nursery in Richmond, as well as having a propagation facility close by at Assagay.

• Our edible gardening features are prominent, with a range of fruit trees, sub-tropical fruits, citrus, berries, herbs and vegetable seedlings – complemented by a full range of Kirchhoff’s seeds.

FOR MORE INFO 4 Bona Terra Road, Assagay; www.blackwoods.co.za

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veryone loves a relaxing day at the spa, being pampered and taking time out to de-stress from our busy lives. And according to the 2021 Pinterest Predicts report on trending topics, bath rituals are the new spa days – but not your typical tub. The Pinterest report claims that bath time will get an upgrade with influences from ancient rituals … with more people carving out time for an extra-special soaking experience.

Before setting up your home spa, be sure to clear your schedule, and no checking emails or answering calls – just like you would if you were visiting an actual spa.

Next, create the right atmosphere, making sure you incorporate elements that are pleasing to all your five senses – smell, sound, sight, touch and taste.

Lastly, dim the bathroom lights, light a beautifully fragranced candle, play some soothing music – preferably instrumental rather than words – and slip into a plush comfy bath robe before pouring yourself a glass of refreshing cucumber and mint water. Now relax and enjoy our spa menu.

Spiritual Cleansing & Relaxation recipe: 1 cup Himalayan salt; 1 cup Epsom salts; 1 cup fresh or dried lavender; 2-3 drops DoTerra Lavender Oil To order: Lauren Uys from Flowoils: 083 300 9824

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A spiritual cleansing bath is similar to a normal bath, but instead of bathing in bubbles you use ingredients that “charge” the water with healing vibrations. Spiritual cleansing baths are used to reject the negative, open the paths, eliminate negative situations, attract positivity, and, above all … relax! It is the perfect self-care ritual to help you detox and rebalance.

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WITH SPRING HERE AND SUMMER AROUND THE CORNER, NOW’S THE TIME TO PAMPER YOURSELF WITH SOME MUCH NEEDED SELF-CARE IN THE COMFORT OF YOUR HOME

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Oola Marula Oil

An easily absorbed, fragrance-free oil made from 100% organic cold-pressed Marula oil, suitable for all skin types. Super rich in antioxidants and Omega 6 and 9, it can help heal and reduce acne, boost cellular activity and hydrate your skin.

Perfect for daily use.

Absolute Heaven, uMhlanga Centre; 031 561 2182.

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Massage into your wet hair and leave to soak for 20 minutes before rinsing off.

R585 for 100ml. www.hairnetwork.co.za

Post Bath Luxurious Body Massage 5

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Cécile & Boyd candles, available in four scents – Frangipani & Tuberose, Hyacinth & Wild Fig, Orange & Ginger, Oudh & Myrrh.

Large candle R480, medium candle R340. www.cecileandboyds.com/shop/

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Double Luxury

Double up the luxury with a nourishing hair treatment while giving your face and neck a gym workout. Olaplex No 3 Hair Protector restores the healthy appearance and texture of your hair by repairing damage and protecting the hair structure.

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Following your relaxing bath ritual, towel dry and lather yourself in the most luxurious body butter ever. Umu Ora Wonder Rub Body Balm – made from the seeds of the sausage tree – is unscented and naturally loaded with African oils and butter. This super moisturising balm might require a little rubbing to absorb and penetrate deep into your skin, but it leaves your skin soft from sunrise to sunset.

Absolute Heaven, uMhlanga Centre; 031 561 2182.

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Face Gym

Indulge in a relaxing facial massage designed to drain toxins, improve facial blood circulation, clear sinuses, improve lymphatic drainage and smooth out fine lines. Using a Jade or Quartz Facial roller and Gua Sha tool, sculpt and contour your complexion while giving your skin a beautiful glow. Apply a facial oil like Oola before starting your massage, to boost absorption and increase radiance, R132. www.takealot.com

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orld Mental Health Day on October 10 draws attention to mental health needs and issues across the globe. The past 18 months have been stressful to say the least, and Paul says it is clear that the pandemic has affected people in many ways – including emotionally.

“There is more and more research suggesting that it has and continues to be a collective trauma, which will affect people in different ways in years to come. People who have been especially vulnerable are Covid-19 patients, those who have lost loved ones and employment, healthcare workers, and children and teenagers worrying about the vulnerable adults in their lives.”

Trauma is generally the emotional response to a terrible and often life-threatening event, whether real or imagined. “The exposure to a traumatic event or trigger sets into motion a series of physical, cognitive, emotional and behavioural responses,” explains Paul.

“Although many of these responses are normal, adaptive and part of a clever system to keep us alive, persisting responses or symptoms can become unhealthy. Most people, with time and good self-care, are able to get better.

However, some people may develop longer-term difficulties – including depression, anxiety, post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD).”

Paul explains that PTSD is a psychiatric condition which

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SARAH MACKINTOSH CHATS TO PAUL BUSHELL ABOUT THE EFFECTS THE PANDEMIC AND SUBSEQUENT LOCKDOWNS HAVE HAD ON OUR MENTAL HEALTH

needs to be diagnosed by a registered health professional.

This diagnosis is made when trauma symptoms persist for more than a month, are significantly intense and interrupt a person’s daily functioning. Symptoms may include high levels of anxiety, panic attacks, intrusive scary thoughts, flashbacks and nightmares, trouble concentrating, irritability and outbursts of anger, hopelessness, a lack of interest and avoiding certain people, places or activities, changes in eating and sleeping patterns, and self-destructive behaviour.

“There is value for anyone who has experienced a traumatic event to talk about their experience with trusted people in their lives. This helps the brain, body and self make sense of what has happened, and map out ways of coping and readjusting to life. Seeking out professional help for trauma response becomes more and more important the more intense and/or longer these symptoms persist,” says Paul.

ABOVE: Psychologist, parenting and career specialist and author, Paul Bushell.

Children have also been emotionally stretched and affected by this pandemic. Their daily lives and routines have been disturbed, and many of their normal rites of passage and developmental experiences interrupted. They have experienced the loss of loved ones, and been surrounded by the fear of contracting and infecting others with Covid-19.

This has resulted in a variety of hard emotions – including fear, frustration, anger, sadness, grief, and anxiety. Although children have all the same feelings as

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adults, it is sometimes hard for them to make sense of these feelings and find healthy ways to deal with them.

Although children have shown to be largely adaptive, Paul says it is important to remember that they will need ongoing support. “The supportive adults in their lives need to make space for these feelings, by talking about them and finding healthy ways to express and work through them. Avoiding our feelings can result in pent-up emotions and maladaptive behaviours. Regularly checking in with children and starting conversations about where they are at, is very important.

This can be supported by talking about and rolemodelling – in front of children – different ways of emotionally coping. Seeking the support of a psychologist or counsellor can be very useful for families and children as they work through these emotions,” says Paul.

“Help-seeking is important for all of us, and no one should feel like they have to work through their experiences and emotions alone. Research about the differences between online and in-room counselling and their effectiveness continue to emerge. When choosing a counsellor or seeking help online it is important to research their qualifications and accreditation, and get a sense of whether they would be a good fit for you,” concludes Paul.

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anctuary and the search for calm was once an every-nowand-then spoil, but now that we’re more than 500 stress-filled days into the pandemic, the hunt for soulsoothing solutions has become an everyday activity. Creating a calm space around us requires a careful and considered curation of tones and textures.

We love neutrals for their plush elegance, and their pleasingly elastic personality – perfectly suited to urban, classic, modern or natural mood boards. From traditional, to cottagecore, to contemporary and minimalist.

So. What are neutrals?

Traditionally speaking, neutral interior design means putting together a look “without colour”. Neutrals can be defined as all those hues that are not on the colour.

The traditional neutrals are black, whites, greys. Browns and beiges can also sit here.

Blue occasionally plays here, too. And metals. The new neutrals can be the murmur of tea rose or palest peach, or a sigh of lavender, a breath of blue, or a kiss of sage, or a hint of yellow. Then there are the taupes, the glowing ivories, the terracottas, the chocolates, the honeyed woods and greiges.

There are gentle earth tone poems that reflect dry grasses, an antelope’s tawny flanks, meltwater after winter snow, sea sand, rocks after rain, clouds with the sun shining

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NEUTRALS ITALTILE INTRODUCES 2021’S MOST COMFORTING CANVAS

through. Bleached driftwood.

Eggshells … Calming, natureinspired palettes.

How to put your neutral palette together: There’s no one way to create your cocooning aesthetic. Let’s look at some ideas.

Dark and light neutrals: Dark neutrals play best with light neutrals in the same “temperatures”. Warm with warm, or cool with cool. A delicious warm espresso

brown loves a lighter tan, or honeyed wood, but also plays beautifully with a cool, light, neutral pop, like aqua or blue.

Create some monochromatic mood enhancement: If you want to seek everyday solace in a sophisticated sanctuary, the monochromatic mood board is on point. Begin with the shade you truly love and could easily live with. Let’s say it’s brown. Balance out your layering with every

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tone ... espresso, to chocolate, to praline, tan, right through to ivories and warm creams.

Neutrals with pops of colour: If you love the idea of neutral walls and furniture but still want to express your creativity, a neutral colour scheme with pops of colour can be a wonderful choice.

With a neutral canvas as a starter, you have the freedom to add brighter or heavily saturated colours. But. Choose only two or three accent colours or you could turn your sanctuary into a screech fest.

Texture. Shape. Pattern: The curves with the geometrics.

Circles, spheres with squares.

Ripples with zigzags. Botanical and organic. Curvy, sensual art nouveau shapes. Art Deco geometry. Dots and spots. Stripes. Symmetrical.

Asymmetrical. Create the story, then, add textures.

Creating your cocoon should be a trouble-free process from start to finish. Don’t stress for even a second ... we are standing by to help you in so many ways. Cocoon your way through September, into summer, and beyond.

FOR MORE INFO ITALTILE uMhlanga; 7 Tetford Crescent, uMhlanga Ridge; 031 566 5069; Open 7 days a week.

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wning an offshore property to realise a Plan B is a dream many South Africans would love to achieve. Europe remains the preferred geographic location for the majority of investors – as it’s not only the world’s largest trading block, but the real estate opportunities here are enticing.

However the choice of where to invest can be intimidating, and the financial, legal and tax implications, coupled with language and cultural difficulties, sometimes creates a barrier to entry.

Cyprus, an English-speaking, ex-British colony and full EU member, is an extremely popular destination in Europe.

With an erratic health system, huge social problems and the spiralling cost of living in South Africa, more and more families are looking for an alternative – and Cyprus has come out tops.

Here are 7 reasons why South Africans are buying property in Cyprus:  Owning a property in Cyprus – the third largest island in The Med – means you really are living the Mediterranean dream.  You can acquire permanent residency by buying property, without having to live in the country.  Properties in Cyprus offer excellent value for money when compared to other European countries – especially homes right on or near to The Med.  Cyprus’ positive property growth, and for long and short-term tenants, offers a very attractive investment for the short, medium and long term.  Cyprus is a very popular tourist destination, so owning an investment property will reap an attractive offshore income.  Cyprus has been voted one of the safest countries in the world, so your personal safety and property investment is assured.

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JEWEL of the Mediterranean 7 REASONS CYPRUS IS TOPS  The discovery and imminent exploration of natural gas is already having a positive impact on foreign investment and infrastructural development. Billions of Euros are already pouring into the economy.

It’s easy to fall in love with Cyprus, especially with the first world lifestyle aspects available. But it’s the excellent quality of life that is driving investors in their droves to seriously consider Cyprus as their new home.

Making the investment or moving across to Cyprus is simpler than you think. Cypriot Realty has an impressive 13-year track record of assisting many South Africans in exploring what Cyprus has to offer. Contact us for a confidential meeting to discuss how we can help you realise your and you family’s Plan B in Europe.

FOR MORE INFO

Jenny Ellinas, Founder & CEO: 083 448 8734; jenny@cypriotrealty.com; www.cypriotrealty.com

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allito based eyebrow artist Debbie Jean – who consults in Durban North and Hillcrest – specialises in eyebrow reconstruction using cosmetic tattoo techniques to enhance, define and reshape eyebrows to suit your individual facial features. Debbie, a top make-up artist who studied the art in London in 1994, now specialises solely in eyebrow makeovers.

Debbie gave us the lowdown on cosmetic tattoo eyebrows.

“This technique offers ladies realistic looking eyebrows. The process involves taking pigment (similar to tattoo ink) and implanting it just underneath the surface of the skin, which defines the eyebrow area and forms a perfect frame for your eyes,” says Debbie.

DEBBIE EXPLAINS THE DIFFERENT TECHNIQUES Feather stroke brows: This is a very delicate procedure implanting realistic looking little lines into the surface of the skin to imitate hair. Requires more frequent touch-ups as the feather strokes soften over time, fade and disappear.

Softly shaded brows: As opposed to feather stroke brows, they look neat and realistic, plus the pigment lasts longer.

Ombre brows: These are shaded but the front of the brows start to fade out and appear misty. The brows then gradually get darker as they progress to the ends.

Powder brows: These are slightly more defined than

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the more progressive term cosmetic tattoo.

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Permanent make-up: Even though it’s called “permanent” make-up, it does fade and require touch-ups. Although the pigment might be in your skin permanently, it’s not always visible or dark enough as it fades over time. I prefer

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One lucky reader stands a chance to win an eyebrow makeover with Debbie Jean valued at R2 800. This includes both the initial and touch-up procedures. Before and after pictures of the winner will be featured in an upcoming issue of The Crest.

Enter today by going to www.famouspublishing.co.za.

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DEBBIE'S ADVICE • Touch-ups are necessary – usually between two to six months – when a second layer of pigment is added to ensure a longer-lasting finish. This also ensures longevity and refinement of the brow design.

• Cosmetic tattooing is not an exact science, it is an art. Some clients need a touch-up once a year, others every few years.

• Pain is almost non-existent. I work shallow in the skin and use two topical numbing agents to ensure the clients’ comfort.

• During a consultation we discuss your ideas, likes and dislikes regarding the shape of your brows, and choose a colour based on skin tone, hair colour and eyebrow hair – the client has a say, but obviously I advise.

FOR MORE INFO Contact Debbie: 082 804 2748; email: makeupartistdebbiejean@gmail.com; www.eyebrowmakeovers.com; W Eyebrows With Debbie Jean; eyebrowswithdebbiejean

S E R A B E L L A – M E A N I N G A B E AU T I F U L E V E N I N G I N I TA L I A N – I S A N E W D E V E LO P M E N T I N T H E H E A RT O F I Z I N GA I N U M H L A N GA C O N S I ST I N G O F M O D E R N C O N T E M P O R A RYI N S P I R E D V I L L AS T H AT E M B R AC E A S E N S E O F S PAC E A N D E L EGA N C E A N D F E AT U R E STAT E - O F -T H E -A RT F I N I S H ES W I T H I N I TS AU T H E N T I C BA L I N ES E A EST H E T I C S .

No transfer duty payable Stunning architecturally designed modern contemporary / balinese inspired homes embracing a sense of space and elegance situated in a prime position in the prestigious Izinga open suburb, Umhlanga making it one of the most sought after addresses in the area.

Gated with an electrified perimeter fence and surveillance cameras with a 24 hour security guard manning the access control from the guardhouse providing residents with absolute peace of mind.

The guardhouse area will also incorporate domestic help washrooms, change rooms and toilets.

Only a few kilometres away from the famous Gateway Theatre of Shopping complex, as well as in close proximity to some of KwaZulu Natal’s most prestigious schools and hospitals. A short drive to the Umhlanga coastline beaches.

Location, security and privacy translates to peace, happiness and a coveted lifestyle that only Sera Bella can provide.

Peace of mind: Situated within a double gated security precinct, in addition to patrolled security and tactical presence, Sera Bella also has an electrified perimeter fence with surveillance cameras and a 24-hour security guard manning the access control from the guardhouse.

Location is key: Sera Bella is ideally located to Gateway Theatre of Shopping, hospitals, prestigious private schools, King Shaka International Airport, restaurants and beaches.

Privacy is paramount: Ranging from two- and three-storey villas to three-bedroom apartments, each villa’s garden is totally private and fenced off, offering total seclusion. Within the complex there is also a communal pool and braai area.

TO FIND OUT MORE Website: www.serabella.co.za / Email: sales@serabella.co.za Mobile number: +27 83 786 8999 / Address: P.O. Box 22115, Glenashley, Durban 4022

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iny Teriors is the new kid on the block. Or the wall, if you prefer. It’s the brainchild of Warwick Wright, director of his sister wallpaper company 23Interiors, which he began four years ago. He’d seen an opportunity, and took the gap.

He grins, “Was I interested in interiors?

Not really, but the deeper I delved into it, the more I developed an eye for it – and soon I fell in love with what I was doing.

I researched trends and forecasts, and every day I learnt something new. I still do.”

From the outset, one of the most satisfying aspects of producing bespoke wall coverings was the response from clients: “Between my own circle of friends and social media, word spread, and the business took off – interior decorators and designers began approaching me. There’s nothing more satisfying that seeing a client over the moon with their bespoke wall.”

Bespoke is the name of the game.

Warwick holds no stock at all. Every wallpaper is a customised design, sized to a client’s wall specification: “Clients

Tiny

TERIORS approach us with an idea or look they’ve seen on Pinterest, Instagram or elsewhere, and we forge our own interpretation of that, add a twist or two, all from scratch.

Our in-house graphic designer sources and creates, and there’s a fair amount of to-ing and fro-ing with the client so they can tweak it to their satisfaction – reduce

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WONDERFULLY WILD, GENTLY FANTASTICAL ... IF YOU CAN DREAM IT, TINY TERIORS CAN DESIGN IT JUST FOR YOU, PRINT IT AND TRANSFORM YOUR CHILDREN’S ROOMS INTO MAGICAL LANDSCAPES, WRITES ANNE SCHAUFFER

the size of the flower, move elements around, alter the colours and so on.

“We send the client an image of the wallpaper in the specific room. When it’s perfect, we print it to the precise wall size, and create the panels.” Warwick works throughout South Africa, so hand-picked installers are outsourced.

And then came Tiny Teriors. Warwick and wife Alicia welcomed a baby girl into their world a year ago: “We saw what energy we put into creating a world in her room, and knew we wanted to do this for others,” says Warwick. “We opened a separate business, and Alicia came up with the name Tiny Teriors.”

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FAR LEFT: Luna – gender-neutral design of moon phases.

TOP LEFT:

Toucan Landscape on pink background.

TOP RIGHT:

Terrazo – marble quartz texture.

LEFT: Animal Pocahontas Set – A3 and A4 available.

RIGHT: It’s A Jungle Out There.

BELOW: Amazonia – jungle-themed wallpaper with birds.

We send the client an image of the wallpaper in the specific room. When it’s perfect, we print it to the precise wall size, and create the panels” Together, the couple has created some glorious scenarios for children’s rooms. The ultimate goal for the business is to choose 20 or 30 of the Wright’s most favourite looks, then bring in new designs monthly: “It would be an online business, but with a bespoke element. No one’s walls are the same size or even flat, so I’m working on accommodating that. Our service is always a personal, interactive one, and it’s that that I love. The clients do too.” »

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Blank canvas, obsessed with Barbie, no idea which colours work best with your black lacquered furniture? Warwick laughs, “I’m very used to that, and with experience I’ve learnt what styles and patterns work best in different spaces, colours which really complement, and designs people tire of more quickly. With children, the sky’s the limit – but it’s also best to think twice about TV characters or fads, unless you’re comfortable changing the walls quite frequently!

“Our Tiny Teriors range is in its early stages, and it has so many possibilities – we’re constantly creating new artworks, and equally, our clients are pushing us in new, uncharted directions! It’s an exciting space to be in!”

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FOR MORE INFO www.23interiors.co.za; tinyteriors.com

ABOVE: Warwick Wright with one of his bespoke wallpapers behind him at Danté in uMhlanga.

TOP LEFT: Rainbow Pink Wallpaper.

LEFT: Tropical Paradise – botanical and animal themed seamless wallpaper.

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LITTLE LUXURIES TO ADD STYLE TO YOUR HOME

Home

PLEASURES SLEEP IN LUXURY Limited distressed velvet duvet cover from R559,99, Sheet Street.

SOFT LUXURY Highly absorbent and super luxurious, 100% cotton towels with double stitched hem for durability. Available as a face cloth, hand towel, guest towel, bath towel and bath sheet, from R99, Volpes.

BURNING LIGHT Spring air table candles, R89 each, Home Etc.

DECORATIVE PLATE Wooden leaf plate, R99, Home Etc. CLASSIC CARPET An elegant and classic design in soft tones of blue, this 100% cotton carpet will feel light and airy in any room. Size, 200 x 290cm, R4 499, @Home.

COMFY CUSHIONS Add a touch of colour, pattern and texture to your home with scatter cushions. Available in various sizes, with a microfibre or feather filling, from R229, Volpes.

All items available from Gateway Theatre of Shopping

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that pays you A QUALITY SOLAR SYSTEM, WELL DESIGNED AND INSTALLED, WILL PAY FOR ITSELF – AND THEN SOME

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n South Africa, there’s a common perception that going solar is a high price to pay for convenience.

The reality is that if you make the right choices, it is a very sound investment guaranteed to deliver a return. As Warwick Chapman of Sensible Solar explains: “You need your solar installation to pay for itself during the warranty period, and put money in your pocket for the rest of its service life.”

How does that work? Warwick outlines the three elements to ensure success: right equipment, long warrantees, and critically, a high-quality installation.

“The perfect solar installation is a low-risk investment which gives you convenience in the

short term, but long term, puts money in your back pocket,” says Warwick.

Sensible Solar achieves that goal for all their clients. “It begins with the quality systems we use, and the accompanying warrantees. Our power equipment – inverter and solar chargers – comes with a ten-year warranty; the battery a ten-year warranty; the solar panels a twelve-year warranty.

On top of that, we guarantee our installation workmanship for ten years.”

For Sensible Solar, your solar installation journey is about their relationship with you, beginning with their first visit to your home: “One of the first things we do is create

a WhatsApp group between you, the client, and ourselves.

That remains in place for the duration of our commitment – ten years and more – and forms a record of your service experience with us.”

“A relationship with Sensible Solar usually starts with indicative system pricing being exchanged to establish whether we’re in the right ballpark as far as expectations are concerned.

Thereafter, we perform an on-site assessment of the roof, the installation location, and the cable routing. We may also install power metering if required, to give us an idea of the size of the system on which to quote,” says Warwick.

Once the proposal is approved, much of the work takes place off-site.

“Once ready, the system is transported to the premises, installed, connected to the household electricity, and the solar commissioned. Tests are conducted to make sure all is working and complies with safety standards.”

Throughout, the WhatsApp group is used to keep clients informed of the progress, and once the system is handed over, the WhatsApp group becomes the channel for ongoing support. Sensible Solar often alerts clients if they notice any issue with the system: “We monitor systems as a courtesy to our clients – no monthly

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charge associated with that – it’s just part of the service.”

Sensible Solar is a team of professionals comprising qualified electricians and solar installers who train with the industry body, PQRS. They are accredited Victron and Freedom Won installers: “Our core recipe is Victron for the power equipment, Freedom Won for the lithium battery and Canadian Solar for the panels.

We only work with companies that have bricks and mortar, so turnaround time is excellent.”

Warwick adds, “This combination of brands is not the cheapest, but it’s absolutely the right investment decision.

Essentially, the right system, designed well and installed correctly, will pay for itself within its warranty period. For the rest of its life, it will make you money. That’s the premise upon which we operate.”

Sensible Solar is a specialist team focused on creating a successful, long-term relationship with their clients.

They do this with world-class products with solid warrantees and SA based operations, and they provide a personal commitment to superb service.

FOR MORE INFO Warwick: 083 779 7094; WhatsApp 072 952 9212; info@sensible.co.za; www.sensible.co.za

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Where dreams

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LOOKING FOR A WEDDING VENUE WITH BREATHTAKING VIEWS, THAT IS AFFORDABLE, AND AT THE SAME TIME FAR FROM THE HUSTLE AND BUSTLE OF CITY LIFE? THE BRAND NEW CLEARWATER FARM VENUE TICKS ALL THE BOXES

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learwater Farm has a history going back many years. In fact, it has been in the Abbott and Janse van Rensburg families for three generations farming granadillas, guavas, bananas, but now solely macadamia nuts.

Today Murray Janse van Rensburg manages the Clearwater Farm – 60 hectares of established macadamia nut trees – and his vision for the future is to ensure his farming methods are environmentally sustainable and organic.

Murray’s partner, Grace King, has worked in and comes from a family who have been in the hospitality and events industry for many years.

Then one day, not so long ago, as Murray and Grace were looking out over the mighty Umtamvuna River from their View Deck, they wondered how they could share this magnificent setting with everyone. Slowly but surely their dream started to unfold, and before long they had launched Clearwater Farm Venue.

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The perfect backdrop for a wedding with a difference – Clearwater Farm Venue offers amazing views to make your special day memorable.

Tucked away on a macadamia nut farm at Port Edward on the KwaZulu-Natal South Coast, Clearwater Farm Venue boasts a pleasant climate and spectacular scenery – and is the perfect setting for taking your wedding vows.

Clearwater Farm Venue provides you with a blank canvas venue hire, allowing you to design the wedding of your dreams – just the way you would like it. We offer a list of local, preferred suppliers who will provide you with outstanding services to make your special day truly special.

According to Grace, there are two different price options to hire out the venue. A smallish wedding – less than 60 guests – will cost

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Clearwater Farm Venue provides you with a blank canvas venue hire, allowing you to design the wedding of your dreams R18 400 including VAT, whereas up to 150 people will cost R23 000 including VAT. These prices include: • Venue available for set-up two days before the wedding, 8am to 5pm • Complete access to the View Deck and around the macadamia farm for stunning photographs to be taken • An open-air ceremony with seating • Reception and ceremony can seat up to 150 people • Kitchen for caterers to make use of • Water, electricity and back-up generator • Fully licensed bar, barmen and glassware • 15 10-seater rectangular tables • Guest parking • 24-hour security services • Paraplegic friendly • Staff to wash dishes during the event.

Not included in these prices are: • Catering • Photographer • Videographer • Hiring of chairs, cutlery, glassware and crockery • Flowers • Decorations • Cake • Waiters • DJ and music equipment • Accommodation.

FOR MORE INFO Contact Grace King: 083 231 7494; Email: grace@clearwaterfarmvenue.co.za

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ou couldn’t take it,” said my partner.

“No, YOU couldn’t take it,” I replied.

“Don’t be childish.”

“I’m not being childish, you’re being childish.”

We were having an adult conversation about children. We have no intention of having children, but occasionally the subject comes up. One of us says, “It wouldn’t be so bad,” then the other says, “Will you take it for walks and clean up after it?” Then the first one says, “A baby’s not a puppy,” and the other replies, “You couldn’t handle a puppy,” and then it becomes competitive.

Once we argued for three days about who should give up their jobs to be a full-time parent. We both wanted to be the one. “You make more money”; “Please, you make MUCH more money.”

It’s a kind of reverse competition – we’re both convinced we’d be the ones to crack first.

“When he doesn’t bother to come home for Christmas, I’ll be so furious,” I’ll say.

“No, you won’t. You hate family Christmases. You’ll be grateful he doesn’t come home. I’m the one who’ll be upset and wish we’d never had him,” she’ll reply.

But recently we became more traditionally competitive. She mentioned that our friends with a new baby are suffering from sleep deprivation, and I said, “That wouldn’t bother me. I don’t need much sleep.”

At this she made a mocking, hooting sound. For some reason she deludes herself that she gets three hours a night less sleep than I do. This is a spurious claim, supported by fanciful assertions that one of us snores and wakes up the other person, who then spends the small hours staring at the ceiling and thinking about the regrettable choices she has made in her life, especially those involving romantic partners.

I pointed out that at dinner parties she’s always the one who gets tired and wants

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FAIL! AFTER MUCH BANTER AND LATE NIGHT RIVALRY, MY PARTNER AND I AGREED WE’RE NOT CUT OUT FOR HAVING CHILDREN, WRITES DARREL BRISTOW-BOVEY

to go home, but that devolved into an unseemly wrangle about the fraudulent allegation that at dinner parties one of us drinks too much and the other has to drag me away before I offend the other guests.

Clearly there was only one way to settle this.

“Tonight,” I said, “we’ll see who can stay awake longest.”

The competition would take place under “baby conditions” – no drinking, no loud music or loud television, no making out. We would remain awake, under circumstances as pointless and boring as humanly

endurable, just like real parents.

I started strong. I was making little jokes. At midnight I did some Mohammad Ali shadow boxing to intimidate her with my energy. But by 2am I started to flag. She was showing unexpected resilience. She was making to-do lists and catching up on correspondence. I was becoming too aware of the skin on my face. My eyes felt like unpeeled lychees. My tongue was a hairbrush.

“Wait,” I said, “these aren’t proper baby conditions. We should be able to take short naps and be unexpectedly awoken at unpredictable intervals.”

“Hmmm,” she pondered. “But who will wake us?”

“You wake me,” I said. “It’s much worse to be woken than to do the waking.”

“OK, then you wake me,” she said.

“You can’t handle being woken.”

“You can’t handle being woken.”

It’s a good thing there wasn’t a baby in the house, because when we woke up 10 hours later we realised we’d both fallen sleep on the sofa mid-argument, and nothing would have stirred us, not a baby screaming, not the onset of the zombie apocalypse.

It was a beautiful thing, two people coming together, bonded by something bigger than themselves – the knowledge that they would both be utterly useless at having a baby.

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