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At this time of year my friends and I take stock. It’s a New Year’s Eve tradition for us to look back at what has changed over the past twelve months and to look ahead to what’s coming. And I’ve got a really good feeling about 2012 because it’s one of those years that I feel I’ve been waiting for for a long time.

Not that I’m wishing my life away but 2012 will be the year a good friend gets married, another friend will be having a baby and of course it’s the year of the long-awaited Olympics.

It all seemed so far away when we the announcement was made back in 2005 (yes, I had to Google that) and now it’s THE year. Back then it was hard to imagine my 3 year old son being 10 and taking him along for a once-in-a-lifetime experience. I couldn’t even envisage him starting school at that time, let alone reaching double figures. Not only is that now almost a reality, I’ve had another child since then.

And 2012 is the year she starts school!

Happy New Year!

Teaching tennis to little ones from 2 years A fun and educational tennis play and skills programme Classes across North Leeds, Ilkley, Wetherby, Harrogate, Ripon and York For information call Caroline Buncall on 07843 342 662 • www.tennistykes.co.uk

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The week is all about mums doing something yummy by hosting their own fundraising events and spending quality time with their children, family and friends. All the money raised will help CLIC Sargent continue to provide clinical, practical and emotional support for children and young people with cancer.

There are lots of ways you can support Yummy Mummy Week so why not organise your own fundraiser such as an afternoon tea accompanied by lots of baked yummy treats, a pamper night complete with yummy delights or even a sponsored buggy push in the park?

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Stagecoach provides classes in Singing, Dance and Drama for boys and girls aged 4 – 16 years regardless of experience or ability, helping to build confidence and social skills through the performing arts.

Stagecoach Wetherby is now enrolling for the new spring term, and parents and young people aged 4 – 16 years are invited to go along to their free “Discovery Session” on Saturday 21st January at 2pm at Wetherby High School.

During the session they will have the opportunity to try out an exciting mix of drama, dance and singing for three 20 minute sessions, whilst parents meet the staff and find out more about what Stagecoach has to offer.

Places are limited, so to book your child’s free place at the event or find out more about weekly classes phone 0113 210 3505, or visit www.stagecoach.co.uk/wetherby

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The fun and educational Tennis Tykes programme for children from 2 years old, runs busy classes across the country including closer to home in York, Harrogate and Wetherby. On the back of its success, additional pre school classes at independent school, Belmont Grosvenor, are now up and running and new classes in the New Year will run on a Friday at Kidzplay in Harrogate.

Ann Regan, the BGS Pre School Co-ordinator is supportive of the classes saying, “ In the early years department, we follow the Early Years Foundation Stage and the Tennis Tykes programme has proved very impressive in meeting a large number of these development goals. The children have fun and at the same time the programme increases their confidence, significantly improves their all round personal, social and emotional development, their language, literacy, problem solving and numeracy skills as well as achieving so much with their physical development.”

The classes in the Spring term (week of the 9th January to week ending the 30th March) will run right across the region.

For details visit www.tennistykes.co.uk or call 07843 342662

Super camps can save you money

If you are one of the millions of working parents in the UK, you’ll probably not only be worried about the cost of living rising but also the cost of childcare.

Getting your children looked after in the school holidays can be expensive, Super Camps is one of the leading activity camps in the UK and offers significant discounts for early booking.

Super Camps also offer an Early Booking Rate which launches on January 3rd and finishes on March 1st. You can save up to £40 per week or up to £8 per day per child (site dependent). You can book all your days for Easter and summer and use the Flexi-Change facility if you need to move these dates around later on.

Childcare Vouchers can also be used to pay for childcare at Super Camps as all their sites are Ofsted registered Big savings can be made, as one 2011 Super Camp customer explains, ‘We were planning our childcare for the year. I paid for four days at Super Camps during the summer with my Childcare Vouchers and used the Early Booking rate and saved £32 off the standard rate. The provider runs from 8am to 6pm, so the childcare works out at about £2.68 per hour’.

Corporate Discounts are available, so if you work for an organisation where there are a parents looking for childcare please contact the customer service team.

For full details visit www.supercamps.co.uk or call 01235 832222.

Happy 5th Birthday to Socatots

Socatots has been running for 5 years now and over that time the classes have developed a tremendous reputation for quality, fun coaching.

“We develop children to have good all-round sporting ability,” says Brian Macnair of Socatots, “but also children who are ready to start school with good listening skills, good number and colour awareness and an ability to persevere and complete difficult tasks.

“We believe the Socatots syllabus is reaching new heights, encouraging children to try new skills and develop coordination and balance far beyond their years and we’d welcome anyone thinking about joining to come along and try Socatots in January.

“Parents enjoy watching their children learn new skills, make new friends and develop a real talent. The football skills learned at Socatots are transferrable to any sport - we just encourage good habits and good movements.”

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Clifton Moor Community Centre: Mon 10.15 - 11.00 & 13.45 - 14.30 for ages 2 - 3 and 11.15 - 12.00 & 12.50 - 13.35 for 3 - 4 years Haxby Memorial Hall: Tue 9.30 - 10.15 & 10.25 - 11.10 for ages 2 - 3 years and 11.20 - 12.05 for 3 - 4 years Bishopthorpe Village Hall: Thur 9.30 - 10.15 & 10.25 - 11.10 for ages 2 - 3 years and 11.20 - 12.05 for 3 - 4 years Poppleton Road memorial Hall: Fri 10.15 - 11.00 & 11.15 - 12.00 for ages 3 - 4 years and 12.50 - 13.35 & 13.45 - 14.30 for 2 - 3 years Saturday classes are available at Fishergate Primary School, Burton Stone Community Centre and Huntington School.

If you are interested in attending any of the classes please contact Brian MacNair on 01765 620374, 07811 109437, email b.macnair@socatots. com or visit www.socatots.com/york&ripon Socatots are also looking for a new member of staff to run the sessions in Selby on a Saturday. Get in touch if you’re interested.

Teepees fire Children’s Imaginations Youngsters at the Magic Tree Nursery near Harrogate not only have 20 acres of grounds to play in – they now have some exciting new play equipment to explore.

The children have been having fun in a group of willow teepees that have been created in their play area.

The new structures have been an instant hit with children at the nursery.

“We have introduced teepees into the outdoor learning environment for the children to develop their imaginations through natural materials,” said nursery manager Beth Dunwoody.

“The teepees have inspired the children to explore a natural world in a wonderful way, expanding on their natural curiosity and their eagerness to investigate their surroundings,” she added.

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Bump & Baby Fair

Candy Bows goes from Strength to Strength

Local company Candy Bows is excited to be exhibiting at Bubble London, again this January.

The York Bump and Baby Fair 2012 will take place on Saturday 17th “Bubble is one of the largest children’s clothing and accessories March at Joseph Rowntree School Trade Fairs,” says Charlotte Mackenzie, owner of Candy Bows, “so it’s very exciting for us to be offered a space again - we will be in New Earswick. the only UK Hairbow exhibitor so it’s a real honour!”

The fair will include information and Charlotte also has a new range of party bag fillers arriving in trade stands covering everything February along with some new greetings cards, Easter cards, a prospective or new parent might gifts, new tutus and pettiskirts and a new range of bows. want to know about having a baby or getting out and about with a baby “Our stockists page will be updated in the new year to show or toddler in the York area. Many our customers where they can purchase locally or even exhibitors will have special “show offers” on holiday as we now ship to clothing boutiques in and further bargains can be had by Sweden, Italy, Dubai, Australia, the Chanel Islands and Ireland!” shopping at the Nearly New Sale section of the Fair, which will sell clothing, toys and To see the full range of gifts and equipment suitable from maternity through to accessories visit 2 years old. There will also be a cafe, a raffle, www.candybows.co.uk demonstrations and a quiet feeding area with a chance to talk to breastfeeding counsellors about any concerns.

Doors open at 1pm and close at 3pm for the Nearly New Sale and 4pm for the cafe and main exhibition.

Entrance is £2 per adult, with all proceeds going to the NCT charity, which supports new and expectant Baby Ballet have two new Wednesday classes parents in the all-important transition to parenthood. starting in January with new teacher Miss Kayleigh. Classes will be at Roko Health Club on For more information, visit the York NCT website: Wednesday mornings at 9.30am for Minimovers www.nct.org.uk/york (3-5years) and 10.15am for TinyToes (18months - 3years).

Since Baby Ballet began in York back in September, classes have been steadliy filling up RSPB e th y, d a and parents have been thrilled with what’s on t the re d a e r n e o p s a a p e s be a pen and offer. Chloe Haigh, mum to Sophia who’s three Get your ! You don’t have toof binoculars, to . h u told Families: ir o tc y a a p s w d a d e ir ne wn Garden B or even o “Sofia started MiniMovers just over a month twitcher, RSPB’s annual Big young and old, on ago. To say she loves the classes would be join in the relies on spotters unt the number of B s o n a massive understatement. Her granny takes The RSP or in groups, to c ng in their garde er her so we get the class acted out at home their own erent species sitti f one hour on eith r o iff fo and get to join in too. Sofa loves Miss Louise birds of d rks over a period ww.rspb.org.uk hart a and tells everyone that Miss Louise teaches or local p 8th or 29th. Visit w an identification c d 2 a good spinning!”

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Tennis Tots is now offer exciting birthday parties for children from 3-6 years of age.

Tennis Tots Parties usually last for one hour and incorporate lots of fun team games and activities to give the birthday child a fantastic time with all their friends.

Prices are £6 per child (Minimum of 10 and maximum of 16 children) and includes special gift for the birthday boy or girl.

To find out more contact your local Tennis Tots instructor through the website at: www.tennis-tots.co.uk

Make a Stand for Thomas A York-based charity is raising funds for local boy Thomas Arnett who has cerebral palsy. Thomas can’t walk and needs to use a wheelchair at the moment but an operation called Selective Dorsal Rhizotomy would help him to walk and thereby totally change his life.

Thirteen year old Thomas lives with his family in Strensall. His stepfather is currently in Afghanistan serving his country, he has a younger sister and brother and his mum, Adele Sullivan works at the local pre-school, helps with the local football team and fundraises for the pre-school.

Family friend and treasurer of the fund-raising group Clare Inkster has plenty of events coming up to help raise funds for Thomas’s operation: “We have a post-Christmas disco planned,” says Clare, “a midnight walk, a fundraising day at Aviva York, and Escape Hair Salon hope to run a fundraising day. The local Army aim to have a charity event and we have been in contact with someone who runs marathons for charity - we plan to meet him to discuss potential fundraising too.

“At the moment, the local PCT in York cannot fund Thomas’s operation and he will have to go to Bristol to have it including a huge amount of physiotherapy for years after,” adds Clare.

If you can help visit the ‘just giving’ page MAKEASTANDFORTHOMAS where your donation would be gratefully received.

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Zhara Armstrong owner of Treasures toy shop in Wetherby is very excited to be launching her new customer loyalty scheme this January.

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For every pound spent in the shop, customers will earn a loyalty point which is then added to their account.

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Tennis for countryside bigger tots Here at Families we often visit local pre-school classes so we thought we’d turn the tables and see what happens in classes for children who are already at school.

And what better place than the brand new classes being held by Tennis Tots in York.

Adam Dove is Tennis Tots newest franchisee and when I visited his Saturday morning class at Clifton Methodist Church in York, his charges had only had two lessons before.

Not that you’d have had any idea that most of them were novices because from the outset their skills and concentration were very impressive.

Adam is quick to engage the children with his enthusiasm and energy and I’m impressed how much liveliness can be summoned up on a Saturday morning!

He begins the class with an obstacle course whilst a few late-comers arrive and settle in. Soon the children are working on key skills such as sidestepping, bouncing & catching – all with their parents’ help.

The children ranged in age from 4-6 and all were already in school and clearly this has a bearing on how receptive they are to learning – they’ve already learned how to sit and listen, follow instructions and work with others.

As they work together I chat to Tennis Tots owner Matt McTurk who is the brains behind the business.

‘Saturday morning classes are great for dads who want to do something with their children,’ says Matt. ‘Often mums take children to clubs and classes so it’s great that dads can get stuck in too.’

‘There’s quite a bit of parental involvement in classes initially,’ he tells me, ‘but with this age group we begin to move more towards independent play. Whereas parents tend to feed the ball to their children now, soon they will be able to feed to each other and move to a higher level of play.’

And the parents are certainly getting stuck into the action in class as Adam puts up the nets and asks the children

in turn to demonstrate various skills – great for self-confidence.

Soon the children are putting together the three skills they’ve been practising: positioning, side-stepping and bouncecatching the ball in a large net. We then move onto hitting the ball off a stand from low to high.

They do so with enthusiasm and always lots of praise and individual attention from Adam who is eager to foster their keenness for tennis and make sure they’re having lots of success.

As the class finished I chatted to one mum, Portia, and asked her what she though of the class and why she decided to bring her six year old son: ‘Ben was really keen to come. It all came from him really - as a result of enjoying tennis on Wii Sport. He’s tennis-mad – and this is perfect for him.’

If you’d like to try out classes, you can contact Adam on 07807 949 874 or email adam.dove@tennis-tots.co.uk www.tennis-tots.co.uk He runs classes for school-aged children on Saturdays at Clifton Methodist Church, on Mondays at Francis Scaife Sports Centre Pocklington and Haxby Memorial Hall, and on Tuesdays at St Chad’s on the Knavesmire, York.

Could Tennis Tots be for You? Tennis Tots are currently looking for enthusiastic, lively and energetic individuals with experience in working with children to join their expanding network of coaches. Whether you’re a mum or dad/keen tennis player/exbusiness owner, employee or sports coach, they’d love to hear from you.

For enquiries contact: jobs@tennis-tots.co.uk or call 07711 181 998

Retraction: Further to our news item in the November / December issue of

Families Vale of York we’d like to point out that Adam Dove did not, at any time, work for little Green Rascals Nursery as a foundation key stage 1 teacher.

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We may be in the depths of winter, but we’re all looking forward to everything the spring has to offer. Families Vale of York looks at how the countryside is being brought to classrooms across the area.

Mark Thompson is making it his New Year mission to teach children across Yorkshire what happens in our countryside. He’s formed a partnership with Stockbridge Technology Centre in Cawood, the Yorkshire Wildlife Trust and farmers across the region to teach children about nature’s cycles.

“Stockbridge have been using their Cawood farm to work with primary school children for many years to let them experience the thrills of growing their own food,” explains Mark. “However the children visit perhaps once a year and see a snap shot of the seasons. We felt we needed to show the children more” So Mark and his team have decided to take the countryside into the classroom. Throughout the course of 2012, Mark will make a series of 18 films showing everything from maize harvesting, to ram breeding and beetroot harvesting. The idea is to show primary school children what’s happening in the countryside at different times of the year.

“Our Discovering our Countryside programme allows us to follow the farming year through the seasonal life of crops, animals and wildlife in our countryside,” Mark explaians. “Our videos are ten minutes long and divided into discrete sections, so that teachers can use short items for specific lessons. Last year we watched lambing season, and potato planting. There’s more to come in 2012.”

The programme supports several areas of the National Curriculum including Healthy Eating, Sustainable Skills and Thinking Skills. It also links with the Eco School work and links into government initiatives such as Every Child Matters and Learning Outside of the Classroom. All the videos come with supporting teaching notes and are FREE to access.

“The 18 videos we aim to make this year, depending on grant funding, will fit around school terms. We hope Discovering our Countryside brings farming, food and wildlife to your children so they can experience what nature does and how it affects the landscape and country life seasonally. We hope it will encourage them to make choices about the food they eat, the diversity of nature and maybe think about a future career.”

To find out more about how YOUR school can spend a day in the countryside, without leaving the classroom visit www.discovering-our-countryside.co.uk

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The book for teenagers and adults about a family of vampires is an international bestseller and has now been published in 25 countries worldwide and a film adaptation is in the pipeline. It has won the prestigious ALA (American Library Association) Alex Award, as well as being the winner of the public vote in the UK’s TV Book Club this summer, where celebrities Jo Brand and Meera Syal also said it was their book of the series.

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So, you’ve had a baby. You’re a new mum and of course you’re tired, but you’re also elated and amazed at this tiny new being that has entered your life. You spend every waking hour staring in adoration at their tiny little toes and gorgeous little mouth. Your exhaustion doesn’t matter as you drift from day to day in a haze of milky delight.

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Or maybe you don’t. If you are like me then those first few weeks, even months of being a new mum are the hardest days of your life.

Not only are you exhausted after weeks of unbroken sleep but you’re also struggling with breast feeding and getting your baby to take a bottle, your baby is unsettled and suffers from reflux and why oh why won’t it just go to sleep? Even if it’s your second or third baby, it’s still just as hard. You’ve got baby blues, or perhaps even post-natal depression. Now the most important thing you can do, even if you don’t feel like it, is to get out there, meet some other new mums and get some support.

Meet a mum and join a class Whether it’s a picnic in the park, a coffee at Starbucks or a motherand-baby group it’s important to get out there and meet other new mums. The NCT arrange regular coffee mornings and local playgroups often arrange get-togethers outside of the playgroup.

You don’t have to ‘join’ these groups or come every time, but you’ll be sure to get a warm welcome and you will find these meet-ups invaluable, I promise you. Alternatively, join a class. This will give you an opportunity not only to meet other mums but also to bond with your baby.

Support groups If you’re tired, struggling to bond with or feed your baby or have a touch of the baby blues, there are plenty of support networks out there.

• Health visitors – health visitors are there for the welfare of babies and their parents, and your health visitor should support you in whatever way they can. They should get in touch with you in the first few days of you returning home from hospital, but if you don’t know how to reach your Health Visitor your doctor’s surgery will be able to tell you • Home-Start is a charity that helps parents by providing volunteer support. Whether you’re struggling to look after your baby or suffering from postnatal illness or even just feeling lonely and isolated, Home-Start can help. Volunteers offer regular support, friendship and practical help to young families under stress in their own homes. The visits are flexible and you decide together what to do during that time. Call 08000 68 63 68 for details of your local Home-Start or visitwww.home-start. org.uk • Children’s Centres (also called the SureStart programme) have been developed throughout England to help parents, with many offering support groups for new mums as well as stay and play sessions, baby clubs, postnatal and breastfeeding classes.

Find your nearest centre at www.direct.gov.uk/en/Parents • NCT runs Bumps, Babies and Beyond groups across the country, where you can make friends and share experiences with other new mums, and support is provided. www.nct.org.uk • Drop-in centres, playgroups and baby groups offer vital postnatal support and advice. Most importantly, they don’t cost more than a pound or two. Look out for local groups across North Yorkshire - baby groups often meet in village or church halls - pop along, you’re certain to find welcoming faces and you might just make life-long friends.

new mums help out there - By Joanna Parry • Start with a baby massage class, where simple massage techniques help stimulate your baby’s senses. Many local health services run free massage classes and there are plenty of private classes around too, often including postnatal support alongside baby massage. Baby massage has also been proven to help enormously with mums suffering from postnatal depression.

• Baby yoga is also a great way to encourage baby-parent interaction. A natural transition from baby massage, it incorporates stretching, relaxation and yoga techniques, enabling you and your baby to create a joyful interaction.

• Activity classes. These don’t have to be expensive, so shop around. Choose from music classes to drama to sensory stimulation classes – even for newborns!

It’s a great way to get out of the house, meet other new mums and compare notes.

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Postnatal depression Postnatal Depression (PND) is often not fully understood by mums who experience it, yet one in three mothers will suffer from it. Becoming a parent can be a shock and it is perfectly normal to feel emotional, vulnerable and sensitive after your baby is born. Some mothers may feel confused about their feelings - they feel they should be overjoyed and instantly fall in love with their baby but this is not always the case, especially if you’ve had a difficult labour or a traumatic delivery.

Baby blues typically occur between 3-5 days after the birth, and one theory is that they coincide with the hormonal changes that occur as the breast milk starts to come in. Another theory is that they are due to the ‘come down’ after the effects of endorphins, or a sort of physical shock reaction after the upheaval of birth. You may feel weepy, irritable, have a low mood and feel that you lack confidence in being able to look after your baby but these

feelings usually subside after a week or so. However, postnatal depression is more serious and must be treated immediately.

Symptoms of PND can include: • sleeping problems • crying a lot • not eating or over-eating • physical pains such as headaches or stomach pains or blurred vision • a lack of motivation to get up and do anything • a constant sense of anxiety, sometimes escalating into panic attacks • a feeling of being lonely or isolated • having difficulty concentrating • feeling overwhelmed and unable to cope • having no interest in sex • feeling guilty about everything and wondering if you are a bad mother • being overly protective of your baby • feeling emotionally disconnected from your baby • having frightening thoughts about harming yourself or your baby or about bad things happening If you feel any of the above, it is important to seek professional help. Your GP may suggest antidepressant medication and/or counselling and your health visitor will know about local postnatal depression support groups. You can also go to www.apni.org or www.birthtraumaassociation.org.uk for information, support and advice. Also, tell your family and close friends, as talking about your feelings is part of the cure.

Treat yourself If you feel up to it, get a babysitter for an hour or two and treat yourself to some quality ‘me’ time. Try a day spa for a pampering and revitalising treatment, or many of the ‘Yummy Mummy’ clubs that are springing up across the country offer spa treatments as well as a range of classes and support groups for new mums, usually with crèches onsite.

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Thinking about Nursery?

If you decide to return to work soon after you have had your baby, what sort of questions should you be asking a prospective nursery?

Amanda Nutbrown manager of First Steps Nursery at Clifton Moor has answered some of the most pressing questions parents have when they entrust others with the care of their little ones.

What’s the youngest age a child can be placed in nursery?

In York we are registered to take babies from 8 weeks old and we do have a few babies of that age here the moment. This is always something that people ask - usually to reassure themselves their baby isn’t going to be the youngest.

a full day is from 7.30am-6pm and costs £41. A half day runs from 8.30-12.30, or 1.30-5.30 and costs £22.75. If parents are already a member of the gym they are offered a 5% discount and we also offer a 10% sibling discount.

What happens if I’m still breast feeding?

Will I be able to bring expressed milk to be fed to my baby?

Will nursery fit in with the routines my Nurseries should be able to cater for parents baby has – or will the nursery change his who want to bring in bottles of expressed milk routines to fit theirs? for their babies to have during the day. We have Nurseries usually do their very best to respect a fridge which we can store it in and suitable parental wishes and adhere to routines. We often facilities to heat it up to the correct temperature. find that when they are in a different environment I use ‘real’ nappies. Will things do change, especially sleep patterns nursery be able to cater for as it is noisier! But as the baby that? becomes more settled and used to the We are more than happy environment, we find that their routine for parents to bring their settles down again and matches the children in ‘real’ nappies one from home. and we have a few What sorts of things will I need children we care for to provide and what does at the moment who nursery provide? do use them. This When a child attends for a full day shouldn’t be a problem you will usually find breakfast, midfor most nurseries. morning and mid-afternoon snacks, a high tea and all formula milk is provided.

This is what we do - but of course each nursery differ slightly. We ask for parents to provide a packed lunch and also nappies and wipes - but other nurseries will include these. It’s a good idea to ask if the nursery is able to cater for any allergies and dietary requirements - good nurseries will be able to.

What sort of costs can I expect?

Costs vary depending on the nursery but at First Steps York

How will I know my baby is happy – is there regular communication with parents?

Nursery can be in contact with parents as much as they need. Here every child has a daily diary sheet which we fill in with all important information, including feeds, sleeps and their nappy changes. The staff member who has been caring for that particular child that day will explain all this information to the parents at the end of the session as well as some information about what they have been doing during their time with us.

If parents want to have a more in-depth chat with their child’s key worker about their interests and enjoyments during their time at nursery, it will be welcomed. As the children get older you usually have regular parents evenings where the staff are available to discuss any of the children’s development if the parents wish too.

Is it all right to ring and find out if my baby is okay?

For the children who are with us all day, parents will choose to ring us midday to check on how their child is doing. We understand that it is sometimes quite difficult to leave your baby all day - especially to begin with. It’s is absolutely fine to call and see how things are going.

How long will it take my baby to settle into nursery?

All children are different so the length of time it will take a child to settle into their nursery will vary. Most nurseries will offer ‘settling in’ sessions as we do just before a child starts nursery - 2-3 sessions is usually enough.

Will they be looked after by the same person / people every day?

This is a really good question to ask of a prospective nursery. Find out about staff turnover - ours is very low. Staff members will vary from day-to-day, but on a weekly basis the children are cared for by the same staff team. Sometimes nurseries allocate a ‘key worker’ to your child who is the first point of contact.

To find out more about First Steps Nursery call Amanda on 01904 693 007 www.childrens daynursery.co.uk

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Career Coaching Workshop for Women Two professional coaches from York have teamed together to offer a series of career coaching workshops, specifically designed for women who are looking to return to work.

The workshops will incorporate a blend of coaching and career management principles and techniques drawing on the expertise of Michaela Oldfield and Rachel Martin.

“Finding work, especially after a career break, often proves difficult,” says Michaela “and you can feel isolated and not sure which way to turn.”

“It’s a competitive marketplace out there and now more than ever it’s really important to be focused and proactive about what it is that you want from your career and your future,” adds Rachel.

Michaela and Rachel have designed the workshops based on their experience of coaching women in relation to career development. They also have personal experience of combining motherhood and careers and so have an awareness of some of the challenges involved.

Prior to her career change, Michaela worked as Professional Development Manager. She now runs a successful coaching consultancy, working with a range of clients. Rachel who worked in various managerial roles within the retail sector is now a qualified tutor and works for the University of Hull whilst also running her own coaching business. Career changes for both Michaela and Rachel were driven by the desire to achieve a greater life-work balance.

“Through our work it’s become really clear that many women need inspiration, a sense of direction and the necessary support and skills development to get back to work.”

The workshops running over four weeks offer the perfect opportunity for women to come together, be listened to objectively and share their experiences whilst drawing on the expertise of the two coaches.

“When finding a new career, developing belief in yourself is essential to success,” says Michaela, “and these workshops will enable women to develop a greater self-confidence. Over the course of the sessions, they will experience an immediate warm welcome and an environment that is safe, open and honest.

“The workshops are an ideal opportunity for women, in particular mothers, who have been out of the workplace looking after young children, and are now looking to re-energise their career. An environment away from distractions provides the perfect opportunity to concentrate solely on yourself whilst also meeting other women in similar situations. The workshops will also appeal to women who are perhaps in an unfulfilling job and want to do something different and find a new direction.

“The sessions will have a practical emphasis packed with lots of useful hints and tips as well as self-discovery exercises that will enable women to design a structured career plan for the future.

They will be encouraged to focus on what it is they want from their career and look at life-balance as a whole.”

The sessions will also develop the necessary skills that are important when finding work, such as writing CV’s, interview skills and job searching and there will be guest appearances from inspirational women - an exciting addition to the workshops!

The workshops begin after February half-term but if you book by the 31st January you’ll receive a unique bonus of a free one to one coaching session with Michaela or Rachel, worth £60 (included in the price of the workshop) Contact Michaela who runs Green Shoots Coaching (07847300914) or Rachel who runs Inspired By Coaching (07717436674) for further information about specific dates and costs.

Work that Bump!

So you’re pregnant. Time to get Duffy has been coming since she was 12 your feet up and refrain from weeks pregnant. lifting anything heavier than a ‘I’m a runner but stopped for the first 12 packet of Hob Nobs? weeks of my pregnancy. Once I’d read up on Think again. Research shows that both how beneficial it was not only for me but for mum and baby benefit from ante natal the baby too, I decided to start the class. I’m exercise and that the benefits extend beyond 35 weeks now and really feel as though I’ve the birth. benefited from coming along. It’s also great So what sort of exercise should you be doing, to meet other women in the same boat as will it be safe and what rewards can you expect me and find out if what I’m experiencing is to reap from working out with your bump? “normal”!’

Belinda Maunsell went along to Bumpercise Jo is a second time mum who is trying to find out. pregnancy exercise for the first time.’

Sarah Owen runs Bumpercise classes on I didn’t exercise with my first child,’ she says, Tuesday evenings in Acomb. As a personal ‘but I’ve decided to give it a go this time. trainer with children of her own, Sarah knows Not only is it better for me and the baby I’m exactly what paces pregnant women should hoping I won’t gain as much weight as last be put through and is clear about the benefits. time - and I’ll definitely be coming after the ‘Women can be under the misapprehension birth to tone up again afterwards.’ that exercise can harm the baby in some Both Sarah and Ellie are doing just that. ‘I’m way,’ says Sarah,’ but with the right guidance, 3 weeks into post natal exercise now,’ says exercise both before and after the baby arrives Sarah, ‘and am really enjoying it. This is “me can make an enormous difference. time” now and I feel so comfortable here with ‘Not only do women who exercise feel more women who are in the same situation. I’d be energised and sleep better, they experience far too body-conscious to go to the gym at fewer interventions during labour and get back the moment - it’s “safe” and friendly here.’ to their pre-pregnancy shape much faster.’

Ellie joined the class after her baby was What’s involved? born; ‘ I wish I’d found Sarah whilst I was pregnant - the class is really good. In my first The class began with a walking and jogging week I ached until Friday - but I love that and warm up before the women began work on really enjoy pushing myself to the limit. The circuit training guided by Sarah. atmosphere is quiet though - just right for me.’

‘It’s okay to jog until 35 weeks pregnant if Stephanie echoed their sentiments ‘this is a there are no complications,’ says Sarah, ‘and really useful class and it’s getting easier each it’s fine to begin exercising 6 weeks after a week. I really like the way we target specific normal birth and 8 weeks after a Caesarian.’ areas - and I’ll certainly be coming back after Sarah took me around each of the exercises I’ve had the baby.’ and explained the benefits of each. ‘Superman is great for the lower back and tummy - a great Benefits of Pre & Post alternative to sit-ups which are not allowed E Natal xercise after the second trimester and ball squats help • H elps promote strengthen legs and thighs,’ she tells me. a healthy lifes tyle • Alleviates All the exercises the women work on seem to symptoms su ch as back pa varicose vein need very little equipment. ‘I want to teach in & s • Enhances women exercises they can do at home’ says self esteem and positive Sarah, ‘things that are easy to incorporate • Allows m feelings ore ox into everyday life and a busy schedule. baby via the ygen rich blood to reac h pl ac en ta Everything we do here is stand alone or can • Increases endurance le be done at home with just a couple of basic vels for labo • May help ur pieces of equipment such as a resistance decrease tim e in active labo • You may be band or an exercise ball.’ ur le interventions ss likely to need obstetric So - how do the women feel about the such as forc eps • Inceases class and are they reaping the rewards the ability to co pe an with labour, xi et already? y and pain • Fa st er recovery from Duffy and Marie are both first time mums labour • Better po who are benefiting from attending Sarah’s sture and less back pain class.

• Improved sleep pattern s ‘I’ve only been coming for 3 weeks,’ says • Less likel y to suffer st ress incontin Marie who is 29 weeks pregnant ,‘but prolapse ence and can already feel it is easing my lower • Enhances bo dy im age and conf back and hip pain.’ idence

If you’d like to learn more, you can contact Sarah on 01904 780 355 or 07828 727539.

The class takes place at Acomb Methodist Church on Tuesday evenings from 6.15-7.15.

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Living with REFLUX

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by Sarah Butters

Before you have a baby, you’re told to see feeding time as a time of bonding.

But for some mums, it’s anything but. Families looks at how living with a baby with reflux can drive you to the very brink of despair.

Vicki Gilbert is a third time mum. To see pictures of her, her husband Sean and her happy smiling children in the early stages of baby Joe’s life, it’s hard to believe what was going on every time she closed the front door.

arch their back and cry inconsolably. It’s thought about half of all babies have reflux in the first 3 months of their lives to some degree, with most developing it at about 2 months. That figure reduces to 5% by the time babies are 10 months old.

“From being a couple of weeks old, Joe would scream and scream,” Vicki remembers. “At one point, the screaming went on for 18 hours a day. He was hysterical when you laid him down for a nappy change.

He screamed through every car journey. The only respite we got was a 5 hour stretch at night when he literally passed out from exhaustion. It pushed us to the end of our tethers.”

Babies get reflux because the stomach valve hasn’t developed properly. That valve keeps the food and the acid, in the stomach.

When it’s not working properly and baby is full, that food and acid comes back up. Symptoms vary dependent on the child and the severity of the case, but the inconsolable crying described by Vicki is common.

Reflux is the contents of the stomach coming back up into the gullet.

The acid causes a burning sensation which can make baby vomit,

“Nothing worked. It was utterly heartbreaking. I remember being in my bedroom and shouting to my husband to call an ambulance. We never

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actually did it, but we were so near on so many occasions.”

Vicki’s story is repeated on forums and in chat rooms across the internet. There are stories of families who have been driven to the brink by their babies’ suffering. Many turn to Alison Scott-Wright, an expert in reflux also known as The Magic Sleep Fairy.

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baby growing. The two milestones are starting on solids – which stay down better than milk – and children becoming more upright. It will get better.”

And it is getting better for Vicki Gilbert and 7 month old Joe. He’s

on a cocktail of medication that has brought his symptoms under Go arch, research. control. For the past month, life has been a little more normal. Like • Research, rese s and chat to others many children with reflux, he’s developed poor sleep habits but on online forum w.livingwithreflux. ww that’s a battle for later. The sleep he does take is in a cot propped mums. Look at fluxers.co.uk Also, re up at an angle. Vicki says it’s been incredibly tough, but she hopes org or www.little page and get ok other parents of babies with reflux will take strength from her join my Facebo parents. r experience. advice from othe s of l. Include video • Keep a journa des by your baby “New mothers assume that feeding “If your instinct tells you something is wrong, don’t listen to those any reflux episo ese when visiting their newborn will be a positive who say your baby is ‘unsettled’ or ‘colicky’. Seek help from your e th and photos. Us sionals. experience,” explains Alison.

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“Babies cry to communicate. If they are crying for long periods of time, then there’s something wrong and, in my experience, it’s usually a digestive issue.”

Vicki Gilbert found support from her local GP and says without that, she’s not sure how she would have coped. He listened, explained and prescribed medication that has, after 7 months, eased Joe’s pain. Leeds based Consultant Paediatric Surgeon Emma Sidebottom says it is important to consult with your health care professionals about treatments – like products to thicken milk which helps baby keep it down, as well as acid blockers.

“Some parents experiment with the hungry baby milks. These are designed to stay in the stomach for longer. But if you have a baby with reflux, milks like that will make it worse.”

If you’re not getting the support you need from your GP, Emma says you can ask to be referred to your local hospital’s Paediatric Clinic. The specialists there will be able to see children at much shorter notice than waiting for a GP refererral.

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g n i m y m b i a b w r u S o y with

Local swim school Swim Tots tells us all about

What age can my baby start swimming?

That’s up to you! Babies spend 9 months in the womb and so are used to being surrounded by water, therefore they are more than at home in a nice warm pool: it’s usually the parents who are more nervous! Good baby swim schools like us only use pools that are warm, with water over 30 degrees, to stop little ones getting cold. Our youngest starter to date at Swim-Tots was 10 days old, but really whenever you are ready is the answer.

Do I need to wait until after vaccinations?

No. Here’s what the NHS have to say on the matter: “You can take your baby swimming at any age, both before and after they have been vaccinated. It doesn’t matter if they haven’t completed their course of vaccinations yet.” It’s a fairly common misconception, however, that you have to wait – it’s just not the case.

Can I do anything to prepare my baby for swimming?

To be honest, nothing is really necessary: they come ready for action naturally! A bit of a bath time splash, some songs in the tub and a healthy dose of quality time together in the bath works wonders, but if you can’t manage that don’t panic: the class will provide you both with all the skills and knowledge you need for a lifetime of swimming together.

What should my baby wear for swimming?

Most baby swim schools ask that your baby wears a double-nappy system. That’s a disposable swim nappy underneath and then a re-useable Happy Nappy over the top. That way we can all be sure that nothing will leak into the water that shouldn’t be there!

When should I feed my baby?

Ideally it would be an hour or more before the lesson, but like most things it depends upon your baby. If they will be unhappy and hungry because their routine feed has been missed then feed closer if needs be. There are no hard and fast rules!

Do I need to be able to swim?

No. All lessons are held in water that is waist high at most, and instructors can help you get to feel comfortable in the water. In fact the lessons themselves can help those adults who are less confident in water become more so!

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How are the classes taught?

Most schools’ classes last half an hour – that’s plenty of time for young ones (a good sleep is usually just the ticket afterwards). They should include a mixture of songs, games and fun as well as more technical aspects such as safety and technique. Good schools will have a structured yet flexible curriculum of lessons that gradually build on skills and competences learned earlier, revisiting pre-existing techniques to reinforce and improve what they already know. It’s a fine art, but one that we at SwimTots know we have got right!

Will my baby be ‘dunked’ underwater?

At Swim-Tots we can honestly put our hands on our hearts and say no – at least not if they don’t want to be. Submersion (a much nicer term for it!) can be a fun and exciting experience for both parent and baby but by no means do we consider it an integral or essential part of every lesson. We teach your baby to respond to submersion commands, in effect asking their permission to submerge them. If baby says no, we don’t dunk – it’s that simple! Some customers from other swim schools, having switched to us, have given us the feedback that they feel our sessions are less ‘dunk or fail’ than others’: it’s all down to the philosophy of the school, and their attitude to submersion.

Submersion should complement the lessons’ core water skills, not become the be all and end all.

What qualifications should the instructor have?

All baby swimming instructors should have the ASA Baby and Pre-School Teaching Qualification, which covers holds, techniques and safety, and all swim-schools will give in-house training on their own lessons and techniques. Regarding first aid and safety, most other schools put their teachers through a Rescue Test which is the bare minimum and covers basic first aid and swim safety techniques: it lasts 2 days and needs refreshing every 2 years. We at Swim-Tots go much

further – we ensure that, along with the Baby Pre-School qualification and in-house training, all our teachers are fully NPLQ Lifeguard qualified – an intense 8-day course which requires on-going monthly refresher training and assessment in first aid, swim rescue and pool safety. This is the gold-standard as far as swim safety qualifications go, and demonstrates our dedication to professionalism from our teachers - there are very very few baby swim schools that can boast such a commitment to safety. Be sure to ask any prospective swim school what standards their instructors are trained to.

What if my baby cries or is really upset?

Listen to them – its best not to fight against them, and you can hardly reason with a baby.

It’s pretty rare for a little one to not enjoy lessons straight away, but there are always some who take a while to adjust. It’s also not uncommon for babies to experience a ‘wobble’ at around 12-18 months where they want to assert their own independence and control in the pool – and elsewhere as well! Your teacher should know when to adjust the lesson activities to suit your baby: more advanced for when baby is confident, taking it easier when not so, sometimes even having time out within the lesson to play with toys and just spend a few minutes quietly with mum or dad. Like us, babies have strengths and weaknesses, good days and bad days, so it’s vital to listen to your baby and not push them too far out of their comfort zone.

What are the benefits of swimming with my baby?

There are so many benefits! Physically it helps with muscle development, core stability and co-ordination – the exercise also helps with cardio-vascular fitness levels. Emotionally, there is a definite bonding between parent and baby in water: sharing experiences, developing trust and achieving together really helps bring everyone closer. There’s also the social side of lessons – the children, and mums, all get a chance to meet up and great friendships that last for years have been forged at our lessons.

Contact: 01423 528882, info@swim-tots.co.uk, lessons throughout York and North Yorkshire.

Call Jo or Gary for details of times and availability.

ask the

doctor

Clare Spencer is a local GP with experience in obstetrics and gynaecology. She lives near Harrogate with her husband and 3 children.

Clare juggles life working part time and being mum.

Local GP Clare Spencer offers some advice on food allergies

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ood allergies in children have become increasingly common, but the good news is that

many children outgrow their allergy before they reach school age. There are a number of theories as to why allergies are on the increase, including the fact that we are all cleaner nowadays! Food allergies can result in a whole load of different symptoms and so you should take your child or baby to see your GP if you suspect it.

What is a food allergy?

An allergy is when the immune system reacts to a food that has been eaten. There can be confusion between an allergy and intolerance. An intolerance is a reaction to food that is nothing to do with the immune system. For example, lactose intolerance where some children cannot absorb the main sugar in milk -but this is rare.

The most common foods that a child may be allergic to are nuts, cow’s milk, eggs, shellfish and wheat.

Who is at risk of food allergies?

Children are at risk if they already have another condition linked with allergies such as asthma, atopic eczema (an allergy-related type of eczema that tends to run in families) or allergic rhinitis (a type of allergy that includes hay fever). Alternatively, they may have a parent, brother or sister with a food allergy or allergy-related condition.

What should I look for?

There are different types of allergy. One is a more immediate reaction (IgE mediated) and one is a delayed reaction (non-IgE-mediated) or there can be a mixed reaction.

The main parts of the body affected are the skin, the gut and the respiratory system.

Skin - itching, redness, urticarial (raised red rash like a nettle sting), swelling of lips, face and round the eyes , eczema Gut – swelling of the lips, tongue or inside the mouth, itching in the mouth, sickness, tummy pains, diarrhoea or constipation, bloody motions, reflux Respiratory – itching nose, runny nose or congestions, wheeze, cough, chest tightness or shortness of breath.

General – poor growth.

Food allergies should be considered when there has been treatment for atopic eczema, reflux or chronic gastrointestinal conditions but the condition hasn’t got better.

Anaphylaxis is a sudden severe allergic reaction and is treated with adrenalin, so needs urgent medical attention. People at risk are given adrenalin filled pens to carry around with them.

How can a doctor tell if my child has a food allergy?

If you suspect your child has a food allergy, you should go and see your doctor and they will take a careful and detailed history. It can be useful to keep a diary of foods and symptoms. The next step is for investigation or avoidance of the food in an exclusion diet, both of which may involve a referral to hospital. Which investigation depends on the history and whether an immediate or delayed type of allergy is suspected. If an immediate reaction is suspected, investigations involve blood tests, skin prick testing or patch testing. If a delayed type of reaction is suspected, an elimination diet may be advised where the suspected food is eliminated for 2-6 weeks and then re-introduced. A dietician may be needed and, if a severe reaction is suspected, reintroduction may take place in hospital.

Elimination diets need medical supervision.

IgG testing, vega testing (where electromagnetic conduction is measured on the skin), hair analysis and applied kinesiology muscle testing are accurate in diagnosing food allergies.

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All aboard for summer 2012 It’s the depths of winter, so every family’s thoughts naturally turn to where they will be Affordable luxury – and abroad too this summer. Glamping is the way to go: much reasonable prices than villas or Joanna more hotels, and a wide range of familyMoorhead has friendly sites. And what’s new on glamping block for 2012 is an lots of ideas. the ever-widening range of top-notch

accommodation: for 2012, Select Camp has a new range of what it’s calling its ‘lodge suites’ featuring a canopy bed, free-standing oval bath, fully-equipped kitchen, shower and toilet – and a separate junior lodge tent next to the main suite. Select Camp also has four new sites, three in Italy and one in Spain – and coming soon, a brand new website which should make browsing and booking a lot easier too.

Perfect for: Budget-conscious, adventurous families Midsummer prices: from around £24 per person, per night www.selectcamp. co.uk

Away from the crowds in Norfolk If you love Cornwall and Devon, but are frustrated by the prices and the crowds, why not head instead for Norfolk? Cottage prices for midsummer are cheaper, it will take you less time to get there and it’s much easier to get to and from the beaches and other attractions because the roads are far less clogged. For a comfortable, childfriendly cottage look on the Recommended Family Holidays website under the ‘East of England’ tab. Poppyland Cottages, for example, have a range of properties dotted around a series of beautiful villages, and within easy reach of lovely Blue Flag beaches – and everything on the website has been checked for family-friendliness. Great pubs for lunches and suppers out, too – and Norfolk is also a very good option for families who love cycling.

Perfect for: Families with young children wanting to get away from the crowds Midsummer prices: from around £21 per person, per night www.recommendedfamilyholidays.com

Hideaway in Robin Hood’s forest

Camping meets boutique hotel

What child wouldn’t be excited to be holidaying in the centre of the wood made famous by the legendary Robin Hood? And what parent wouldn’t be happy to join them, now Forest Holidays are extending their venues to this one? The new lodges, which open this spring, will be set in the middle of 3,300 acres of forest, and include basic cabins to de luxe ‘golden oak plus’ cabins with their own hot tub. Loads to do for all ages – Sherwood Forest has a glorious labyrinth of cycle trails, plus farm parks, arts and craft centres and play areas.

Molly Dishwasher isn’t just an unusual name for a holiday experience – it’s an unusual experience, too. You stay in a shepherd’s hut nestled among acres of meadows and woodland in deepest Sussex. A comfy double for you, bunk beds for the children, all squeezed into a small but beautiful space with oodles of special little touches. Young children adore staying somewhere different, and they love pulling their parents into their adventures – which is what makes Molly Dishwasher such a hit. Plus breakfast included, a BBQ and food on hand, and loads of places to explore in the area including Drusilla’s Zoo, Battle Abbey, Hever Castle and endless beaches.

Perfect for: active families in search of a change from Center Parcs (and more of a bargain) Midsummer prices: From around £30 per person per night www.forestholidays.co.uk

Perfect for: families with small children who want a pint-sized adventure without having to travel too far.

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Generational family fun at Bluestone – whatever the weather Bluestone National Park Resort in Pembrokeshire, West Wales is helping more and more generational families spend quality time together at the all-weather five star short break destination.

Set in the spectacular Pembrokeshire Coast National Park, Bluestone provides a tranquil and relaxing environment combined with adrenalin pumping fun and activities suited to all ages and abilities.

Set in 500 acres of magnificent countryside surrounding a private Welsh village, Bluestone is a great place to get the family away together for a break or special occasion.

Guests can choose from a wide variety of activities for all ages: Steep Ravine and its high ropes and tree climbing adventures, woodland walks, kayaking, bushcraft skills and much more. Then there’s the Adventure Centre with its wide range of indoor activities for the youngsters. From the Blue Lagoon water park to the relaxing Well Spa and thermal rooms, there literally is something for everyone within the family.

Perfect for: families who want to share time (but not activities) together Midsummer prices: Spring breaks prices start from £40 per person per night based on 8 people sharing.

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The Alps in August Switzerland isn’t just for skiing: in fact, the Alps can be one of the loveliest places in Europe for a summer holiday en famille. As well as beautiful weather, there’s a wealth of sporty things to do for both smaller children and teenagers. Chilly Powder runs its Morzine chalet hotel through the summer as well as the winter, offering the same attractions (professionally-cooked food, childcare etc) and with the emphasis on comfortable living alongside a wealth of outdoor pursuits. Morzine is an eight-hour drive from Calais, or fly to Geneva and hire a car; the chalet has 17 bedrooms and there’s even a hot tub in the garden.

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Pamper yourself in Devon The word ‘barton’ means ‘a small country estate’ in Devon, so head for Libbear Barton and what you’ll be buying is a slice of laid-back country high life, half an hour from the nearest beach.

Libbear Barton is a 40-acre farm with four properties: the Georgian farmhouse (sleeping up to 14) and three cottages. Rent one if you’re holidaying with your immediate family, or rent two or even all of them if you’re bringing your extended clan or another family or families along (the maximum number of guests, if you take all the properties, is 39).

CUSTOMER Self-catering in style If you’re looking for a self-catering holiday with facilities around you to keep boredom at bay, look no further than Sandy Balls in the New Forest.

Located in 120 acres of private estate, it’s perfect for weekends away as well as for longer holidays.

You can camp, hire a caravan or stay in more luxurious wooden lodges – fully equipped with BBQs, while some even have their own hot tubs.

On site there are indoor and outdoor swimming pools, plus a spa with a range of treatments if you fancy a little The whole place is kitted out me-time, as well as the chance to take with under-fives in mind, so part in plenty of daily activities planned you won’t need to worry about cramming the car with clobber – for all ages ranging from drawing, cookery and crafts, to exercise even buggies are provided. You classes, bike riding or kayaking. There won’t need to leave the farm every day, because there’s plenty are also games rooms, playgrounds, and woodland walks. And with a to do there – an adventure well-stocked shop, pub, and Italian playground, indoor swimming restaurant on site the chef in your pool, woodland and meadows, family can have a holiday, too – you a fishing lake, games room and can even order a takeaway. loads and loads of play space.

For those days when you do There’s also plenty to keep you busy want to venture out, north Devon in the area around the resort: venture is teeming with family-friendly into the beautiful New Forest for trips things to do, and the beautiful to nearby towns like Lyndhurst, Peppa beach at Bude is only 15 miles Pig World at Paultons, Beaulieu for the away.

National Motor Museum or, if you’re after a little retail therapy, Westquay in Perfect for: groups of families nearby Southampton is a shopper’s holidaying together paradise.

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Are We Nearly There Yet? If you love travel books and reading about other people’s hilarious misadventures, then we at Families highly recommend this book.

Ben Hatch, author of Are We nearly There Yet?, his wife Dinah and their two children Phoebe (3) and Charlie (1) spent 5 months touring Britain’s familyfriendly attractions.

In the course of 8000 miles they reviewed 900 attractions, slept in tents, mobile homes, castles, hotels, and, once, in their car. They were attacked by bats, had confrontations with puff adders, Nazis and Billie Piper’s pyjamas.

We asked Ben to share with Families readers some of the things he’s learned from his travels:

15 things Ben Hatch now knows: 1) Not owning a sat-nav today is like being a

14th century sailor and trying to round the Cape without a nautical chart. We bought one halfway through our trip. Put it this way, if I’d a choice – brakes or sat-nav? - I’d gladly drill a hole in the driver’s footwell and use my feet to slow down.

2) It’s unwise to accidentally-on-propose

allow Dinah, my wife, who has a raging cheloniaphobia (fear of tortoises and any creatures that look like tortoises), to wander untended through the Turtle Sanctuary at Birmingham’s National Sealife Centre. I’m also aware now that afterwards claiming “Sorry, I thought they were hibernating,” cuts little ice.

3) Containing the world’s largest collection

8) On long journeys don’t oversell

destinations as we did visiting the Wensleydale Cheese Visitor Centre. On the strength of a Yorkshire Tourist Board leaflet featuring Wallace and Gromit sticking their thumbs up, we rashly promised life-size models of the cartoon characters wandering around. However, the only thing Wallace and Gromit related was a chalk outline of them on the café’s specials board. We’d driven two hours to a working cheese factory to show the kids the processes milling and tipping and for them to learn how Wensleydale cheese did in the last Nantwich International Cheese festival.

9) At Leicester’s Abbey Pumping Station

children can excitedly follow the progress of David Hockneys, The 1853 Gallery in of excrement from a toilet to the Wanlip Saltaire, West Yorkshire, has a café where sewage works via a see-through waste staff heat up baby food and turn a blind pipe (“Look daddy, there it goes!”) eye while your toddler daughter completes, fittingly, her first mixed media work (a 10) Cheap in-car dvd players are inadvisable. rabbit that involved crayons, a pencil and Ours kept disconnecting from the a satchet of Ketchup from her fish-finger cigarette lighter and returning the film If you’ve travelled anywhere with sandwich). to the beginning every time my wife children you’ll be able to relate to scratched her leg in the passenger seat. the story of their adventures around 4) At the Jorvik Viking Centre in York it’s Consequently despite watching Finding the country and you’ll certainly be possible, through responding to a series of Nemo 10 times our kids are still unaware moved by the poignant exploration of questions about your hair colour, and also, Nemo was eventually reunited with his somewhat baffling, your sandwich filling of family relationships that the book also father. choice, to see how much Viking blood you explores. possess.

11) Mother Shipton’s Cave in North Yorkshire, is where a 17th century prophetess lived, 5) After almost being blown up a field of predicted both the Great Fire of London live ordnance inside a Military Zone, near and the advent of email.

Otterburn, we’ve learnt to be careful taking the kids for nature wees and to look out for 12) I now never to listen to my wife on health Are We Nearly signs saying: “Warning: This may explode matters. In a serviced apartment in Leeds There Yet? and kill you.” she advised me a pain in my side was 8000 Misguided trapped wind and I should “cycle in the 6) It’s easy stealing lunch from hotel breakfast Miles Round Britain air” to alleviate it. I was eventually rushed buffets. Secretive initially we’d pilfer odd rolls is available from all (after she and kids finished watching Nina when waitresses backs were turned. A few good bookshops and and Neurones on cbeebies) to the A & E weeks in, feral, we were snatching camembert from Amazon for £5. department of St James Hospital, Leeds triangles, bacon, where a kidney stone was diagnosed. sausages and yoghurts then asking for napkins 13) Scone Palace near Perth was where to wrap it all up in.

Queen Victoria was taught curling on the polished floor of the Long Gallery. It’s 7) You can also where Robert the Bruce and Charles impersonate David II were crowned and where we heard Blaine on the A719 one the funniest utterances of our trip. between Dunure and A German man in the café ahead of us Croy in Scotland. ordering “Von Bobbily Bobbily.”

Here there’s an optical illusion created by the 14) You can have fun in the Scottish Central surrounding landscape Highlands at Doune Castle, used in the which means that if you filming of Monty Python and the Holy put your car in neutral Grail, shouting from the ramparts on and release the brake our best John Cleese voices: “I fart in it appears to slowly your general direction. Your mother was roll up hill. Known as a hamster and your father smelled of the Electric Brae (brae elderberries.” meaning slope), the 15) Finally, if all distractions in the car fail, turn Tennis Tots is the UK’s To book a free trial call spot is marked by a up Classic FM to max volume and kid leading tennis play and York / Pocklington stone cairn inscribed yourself you aren’t muffling the kids’ din coaching programme for - 07807 949874 with an explanation that with an even louder one, but that you’re boys and girls aged 2-6 Harrogate - 07725 339257 you needn’t trouble your educating them about Haydn. awe-struck family with. years of age ww.tennis-tots.co.uk

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ABBEY TOURS

ALICE IN WONDERLAND

FOUNTAINS ABBEY & STUDLEY ROYAL WATER GARDEN Join a free tour to discover fascinating facts and stories about the Abbey and monks. Near Ripon, North Yorkshire 01765 608888 www.fountainsabbey.org.uk

HARDCASTLE CRAGS Lots of activities, trails, crafts and things to explore during half term week. 01422 844518 www.nationaltrust.org.uk

EUREKA! Join Alice in a wonderland of tea parties, weird potions and mad hatters this February half term.

She’ll be wandering the galleries looking for the White Rabbit, there will be a special round of croquet and other curious games in the Queen of Hearts’ Garden and you’ll be able to join the Mad Hatter and the March Hare for tea at various times throughout the day. 01422 330069 www.eureka.org.uk

11-19 FEB

11 - 19 FEB

WIZARD WEEK

JORVIK VIKING FESTIVAL

NATIONAL RAILWAY MUSEUM The magic returns to the museum with a week of spells, tricks and mischief. See the steam star from the Harry Potter films and spell-binding activities for wizards of all ages. www.nrm.org.uk/wizardweek

Every Day CASTLE HOWARD The Gardens, Park and Adventure Playground are open daily throughout Jan & Feb from 10 - 4pm 01653 648333 www.castlehoward.co.uk Every Day Throughout Jan & Feb 10.00am - 4.00pm HAREWOOD HOUSE Gardens, grounds, adventure playground, cafe & shops all open with bird garden open until 2.30 0113 218 1010 www.harewood.org 7/8, 14/15, 21/22, 28/29 JAN 1.30pm

ABBEY TOURS FOUNTAINS ABBEY & STUDLEY ROYAL WATER GARDEN Join a tour to discover fascinating facts and stories about the Abbey and monks. Near Ripon, North Yorkshire 01765 608888 www.fountainsabbey.org.uk 21 & 22 JAN 10AM - 5PM

CLOWNING AROUND EUREKA! Slap on some make-up and funny clothes, and learn how to clown around.

01422 330069 www.eureka.org.uk 22 JAN 11am – 1pm

BIRD WALK FOUNTAINS ABBEY & STUDLEY ROYAL WATER GARDEN Discover the resident winter bird life on a 2 mile walk around this beautiful estate. Meet at the Visitor Centre. Near Ripon, North Yorkshire 01765 608888 www.fountainsabbey.org.uk 28 & 29 JAN 10AM - 5PM

CLOWNING AROUND

EUREKA! Slap on some make-up and funny clothes, and learn how to clown around.

01422 330069 www.eureka.org.uk 4th FEB 2-3pm

Wheldrake Playgroup Annual GIANT Jumble Sale 2012 WHELDRAKE VILLAGE HALL Admission 50p. Go along and have a rummage!

Hundreds of items on sale at rock bottom prices.

Everything from clothes, hats, shoes & books.

11 - 19 FEB 1 - 3 pm

FEBRUARY FUN

The festival will take place at various sites across York during the week. A full breakdown of over 80 activities can be found on their website.

01904 543403 www.jorvik-viking-centre.co.uk 11 – 19 FEB 11am – 3pm

HOLIDAY FUN - HERALDRY FOUNTAINS ABBEY & STUDLEY ROYAL WATER GARDEN Follow the clues on the trail and join in with drop-in craft activities in Swanley Grange.

Near Ripon, North Yorkshire 01765 608888 www.fountainsabbey.org.uk

11-15 & 18 Feb 10.30 - 4pm

14 FEB 10.30

FAMILY ORIENTEERING - NATURE HARDCASTLE CRAGS Navigate your way around the orienteering course testing your natural history knowledge - and win a certificate and prize at the end. Family £5 for a team ticket. 01422 844518 www.nationaltrust.org.uk

FAMILY TRAILS & CRAFTS EAST RIDDLESDEN HALL Dust off the winter cobwebs for some springtime fun. FREE. Bradford Road, Keighley, West Yorkshire BD20 5EL 11 - 19 FEB 10AM - 4PM

VIKING TRAIL FOR CHILDREN

CLIFFORD’S TOWER, YORK Concealed within the grounds are the mini model Viking Gods and Goddesses who promise a small prize to those who can find them. In conjunction with the Jorvik Viking Festival. www.english-heritage.org.uk 11-19 FEB

BELOW STAIRS HAREWOOD HOUSE Terrace Café also open during half term 12.00am - 4.00pm 0113 218 1010 www.harewood.org Families Vale of York

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14 FEB 11AM & 1PM

19 FEB 2pm – 4pm

8 FEB

LOVE BIRDS!

WILDLIFE WANDER

PEPPA PIG’S TREASURE HUNT

BRIMHAM ROCKS Join the Rangers and make a bird box to take home. Tickets £5 . Booking Essential.

Summerbridge, Harrogate, North Yorkshire HG3 4DW 01423 780688

FOUNTAINS ABBEY & STUDLEY ROYAL WATER GARDEN A gentle 2 mile walk discovering the wonders of the estate’s wildlife. Near Ripon, North Yorkshire 01765 608888 www.fountainsabbey.org.uk

GRIMSBY AUDITORIUM Peppa Pig and her friends are going on a treasure hunt and need your help!

0844 871 3016

14, 15, & 16 FEB

BE A VIKING YORKSHIRE MUSEUM OF FARMING Activity days as part of the Viking Festival. Dress up as a Viking before being taken into the Viking village where you can learn what life was like 1100 years ago! www.murtonpark.co.uk 01904 489966 15 &16 FEB 10am – 12pm & 1pm – 3pm

BIRD BOX MAKING FOUNTAINS ABBEY & STUDLEY ROYAL WATER GARDEN Make a bird box for your garden. Drop in craft workshops in Fountains Mill. £5 per box.

Near Ripon, North Yorkshire 01765 608888 www.fountainsabbey.org.uk 16 FEB 10.30

FAMILY ORIENTEERING - NATURE

HARDCASTLE CRAGS Navigate your way around the orienteering course testing your natural history knowledge - and win a certificate and prize at the end. Family £5 for a team ticket. 01422 844518 www.nationaltrust.org.uk 16 FEB 11AM

BRILLIANT BIRDS BRIMHAM ROCKS Have a go at building your own nest. FREE. Booking Essential. Summerbridge, Harrogate, North Yorkshire HG3 4DW 01423 780688 17 FEB 1.30PM

CHILDREN’S CRAFTY FRIDAY - FELTING

HARDCASTLE CRAGS Find out how you can make felt with wool, bubbles and water. Tickets £5.

01422 844518 www.nationaltrust.org.uk

19 Feb 19th 11am - 4pm

Pregnancy Information Day MILLERS YARD, GILLIGATE, YORK Go along and meet the Millers Yard Pregnancy Support Network who are there to help and guide you through pregnancy, birth and the early days of parenthood. Explore the availability of pregnancy massage, acupuncture, hypnobirthing, dancing for birth, doula support, homoeopathy and much more. For more details, visit the Millers Yard website www.millersyard.co.uk, or www.MYPregnancyEvent.co.uk 25 FEB 10AM - 2PM

BABY FAIR & FAMILY DAY ASHVILLE COLLEGE Over 50 stalls aimed at parents of children under twelve, showcasing useful and unique products and also offering advice and information about services available to parents, and classes for both pre-school and school age children.

Demonstrations will be running throughout the day.

Entry is free, with free bouncy castle and free face painting. www.harrogatebabyfair.com

theatre UNTIL 15 JAN

BEAUTY & THE BEAST HARROGATE THEATRE Packed with everyone’s favourite pantomime characters, this enchanting and spellbinding tale combines spectacular scenery, jokes galore, magic and sparkle.

01423 502116 www.harrogatetheatre.co.uk UNTIL 15 Jan

ANNIE

classes

Tuesdays from 10 Jan 7.15- 8.

15pm Yoga

in York

ST GEORGE’S PR IMARY SCHOOL , FISHERGATE From 14+ weeks p ost conception. Dr or pay in advanc op in (£7.50) e at Anna Semlyen Yo £6.50 for 6 weeks ga in York www.yogainyork.c o.uk 07891 9893 10 Tuesdays 6.15 - 7.15

Bumpercise

Antenatal and po stnatal exercise.

Contact Sarah on 01904 780 355 07 828 727 539 Weds & Thurs 6.

30 - 8.15pm

WEST YORKSHIRE PLAYHOUSE 0113 213 7700 www.wyp.org.uk

11 FEB

WIND IN THE WILLOWS THE GEORGIAN THEATRE ROYAL, RICHMOND Watch Toad’s voyage unfold as he meets Ratty, Badger and the reckless Mr Toad of Toad Hall!

With four actors, puppets, original music and lots of joining in, this show is guaranteed to please family audiences especially children aged between four and nine. 01748 825252 www.georgiantheatreroyal.co.uk 15 FEB ( AGE 8 -12 10AM; AGE 12+ 1PM)

CREATE A COMIC HARROGATE THEATRE Create a comic in just two hours with Kev F, the writer and artist from The Beano, Doctor Who, Marvel comics and so much more.

15-19 FEB

THE WIZARD OF OZ WAKEFIELD THEATRE ROYAL & OPERA HOUSE Join Dorothy on her journey through the land of Oz, with Scarecrow, Tin Man and Lion, in search of the Great Wizard. 01924 211311 www.wakefieldtheatres.co.uk 16 FEB ( AGE 6 - 8 10AM; AGE 8 - 11 1PM)

PUPPETRY WORKSHOP HARROGATE THEATRE Make your own puppet and then use it to devise a short play about brave heroes and dastardly villains.

17 FEB - 3 MAR

THE DIARY OF ANNE FRANK YORK THEATRE ROYAL Anne Frank’s world famous diary charts two years of her life from 1942 to 1944. This extraordinary personal account of hope, courage and survival has united and touched people world wide. 01904 623568 www.yorktheatreroyal.co.uk 17 FEB ( AGE 6 - 8 10AM; AGE 9-11 1PM)

UNTIL 21 Jan

MAKE A MASK

JACK AND THE BEANSTALK WEST YORKSHIRE PLAYHOUSE 0113 213 7700 www.wyp.org.uk

HARROGATE THEATRE Design and make your own theatre mask and use to tell epic stories of the battle between heroes and villains.

UNTIL 4 FEB

19 FEB

THE YORK FAMILY ROBINSON YORK THEATRE ROYAL From York to Whitby and then on to Australia, but will the comically dysfunctional “York Family Robinson” ever reach their final destination? See York’s loudest, wackiest panto which returns for its 33rd year.

01904 623568 www.yorktheatreroyal.co.uk 4 FEB

THE CHUCKLE BROTHERS GRAND OPERA HOUSE YORK See the Chuckle Brothers in The Return Of The Pirates Of The River Rother 2 - In Stranger Tights - guaranteed hilarity! Cumberland Street, York. Box Office: 01904 671818 25 FEB

LITTLE HOWARD’S BIG SHOW HARROGATE THEATRE The nations’ favourite human-cartoon double act: Big Howard and Little Howard return to the stage with their brand new comedy spectacular Little Howard’s Big Show.

Yoga for Pregnancy

FREMAN SAM - PONTYPANDY ROCKS

Baby Yoga

UNTIL 5 Feb

HORRIBLE HISTORIES

ST COLUMBA’S CH ST, CENTRAL YO URCH HALL, PRIORY RK. With Alison Good win www.yogaco.co.uk 019of04York 799097 Families Vale

ROBIN HOOD ALHAMBRA THEATRE 01274 432000 www.bradford-theatres.co.uk

ALHAMBRA THEATRE We all want to meet people from history The trouble is everyone is dead!

01274 432000 www.bradford-theatres.co.uk

JACOB’S WELL, TR With Sophie Carr INITY LANE, YORK. www.yogaco.co.uk 01904 733752 Mondays 10.30a m - 12pm

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HULL NEW THEATRE The Hero next door is back, in a brand new show live on stage. 01482 300300 www.hullcc.gov.uk

28 FEB - 3 MAR

empowering

kids

Why empowering your kids makes for a happier home life

Dr Clare Bailey explains why giving choices builds trust and competence ‘Go and brush your teeth! Now! Why haven’t you done it yet??’ ‘I’m going to ask you twice only, then the naughty step… OK… no bike, no TV!’. Sound familiar? And as you walk out of the room, do you wonder why it has to be such a battle?

But put yourself in your children’s shoes – imagine being told to do the same simple thing every day of your life, wouldn’t you prefer just to be trusted to get on with it?

It’s so easy to get caught in a cycle where everything feels as if it becomes a power battle – asking them to do a simple everyday task such as brushing their teeth, they don’t do it when asked, followed by escalating threats and confrontation; without even meaning it, the morning’s off to a bad start. And unfortunately this can also start a cycle – you expect confrontation next time and so on, it’s exhausting and upsetting for everyone.

For recurring situations of confrontation think about what’s behind their behaviour: • Is your response stronger or more punitive than perhaps the situation deserves?

• Are they upset, confused or fearful and so unable to take on board the message or to learn?

• Are they really doing it to annoy you? Or are they looking for respect and an opportunity to be trusted to make some of their own choices?

• Do you really need to be involved in every small detail? Might a ‘you are trusted’ message be more effective in moving towards getting things done.

Here are a few questions to ask yourself before next time • Is this important? Whose problem is it, mine or theirs?

• Does it have to be done now?

• Have I made it clear what I want them to do and why?

• With an older child, talking through the problem and what might help develops their problem-solving skills and independence.

• Can I offer limited choice instead? ‘WHEN you have done…, THEN you can have/do…’, ‘Would you like THIS ONE or THAT…?’

• Am I too wound up to notice when they are responding or behaving well, and do I remember to praise these small improvements?

Often if we step back, take a breath and calm down, we can see other options which avoid confrontation.

They have an opportunity to learn to be more capable and to make better choices the next time. Time and encouragement at these moments

requires astonishing levels of self-control by parents, but can make interactions so much more constructive. Children learn to be more co-operative as they feel respected.

Trusting your child involves taking a risk as a parent.

I remember being allowed to sit on the counter as a child of five and paint the kitchen wall. I can still remember how much effort I put in when painting around the white light switch in a dark petrol green colour. I felt competent and trusted. No doubt my parents had to tidy up the edges, but I didn’t see that part. I was not being over-managed, I was shown what to do and allowed to get on with it. So I did my best.

‘The hardest part of raising a child is teaching them to ride bicycles. A shaky child on a bicycle for the first time needs both support and freedom. The realisation that this is what the child will always need can hit hard.’ Sloan Wilson Of course you need to have some non-negotiables about areas such as safety, sleep, eating, family rules etc which are backed up with constructive consequences, but keep these to a minimum where possible. Then you can move into more expansive areas; imagine your older children organizing a birthday celebration for you (give them a budget and prepare to be surprised!), or making dinner one evening, or the young ones packing their own luggage for a trip to Granny’s, or perhaps gathering nice things for an afternoon picnic. Th ey’re likely to put heart and soul into the job and OK things can get quirky, but maybe that is part of the fun.

Giving your child choices, even limited ‘This-oneor-that-one’ choices makes them feel trusted and capable. Feeling valued, they don’t need the power battles to say ‘Get off my back, I can do it!’ And when they make mistakes, or things don’t quite work out we can only admire them for having tried and encourage them to try another approach.

You can contact Dr Clare Bailey from Parenting Matters about individual consultations held by phone or face-to-face, by calling 01494 677575 or by going to www.parentingmatters.co.uk. Parenting Matters also run courses you can do from home (or work) in small groups using an interactive webbased, coach-led presentation.

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THE MOUNT PRE-SCHOOL

Everyday is Open Day Come and see us

7.30am - 6.00pm Open all year Girls and Boys aged 3 & 4 years old For further information and to arrange a visit please contact Julia Hampshire

Tel: 01904 667529 E-mail: registrar@mountschoolyork.co.uk Dalton Terrace, York, YO24 4DD www.mountschoolyork.co.uk

Clifton Pre-Prep School

For boys and girls aged 3 - 8 years ‘Academically excellent’

Building the foundation of your child’s education

Come and Visit Us! Contact us to arrange a visit to our nursery or reception classes. We look forward to meeting you!

Clifton Pre-Prep School York YO30 6AB Tel: 01904 527361 enquiries@cliftonprep.sch.uk www.st-peters.york.sch.uk/clifton

Clifton Pre-Prep • St Olave’s • St Peter’s

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ASHVILLE ADVENTURE

A fun interactive session for pre-school children and their parents. Stay and play at Ashville Pre-Prep school. An opportunity to meet the teachers, see the school and have some fun. Children will be invited to engage in a range of activities, including story telling, arts and crafts and even feeding the guinea pigs! At the end of the session parents will be offered an informal tour of the school whilst children enjoy a snack.

Come and see what makes Ashville different.

Wednesday 12th January 10.00 - 11.30am

Tuesday 15th February 1.30 - 3.00pm

Thursday 17th March 10.00 - 11.30am Ashville College, Green Lane, Harrogate HG2 9JP 01423 566358 ashville@ashville.co.uk www.ashville.co.uk