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As you walk towards a beautiful beginning, hand in hand, it’s only fair the beginning is just how you imagined it. Let’s create a wedding of your dreams. Let’s create the Shubh Muhurat, where every practice, every color, every emotion is meaningful. With dedicated wedding planners attending to your needs, we take care of all the little details to make your special day a truly memorable experience.
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Wedding season is here!!! Things maybe sombre due to the pandemic but we still have a life and have to make the most out of it, especially the ones who have decided it’s time to be with one another. In this issue we have got features to inspire you with fashion, wedding locations, wedding shoots and more. The cover star , Rohit Bal gets candid about his life’s journey and talks about how a designer can make a wedding more memorable.
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From a very early age, I have learned one small thing. “Great things in business are never done by one person they are done by a team of people” by-Steve jobs Highly creative and with the urge to work in a stimulating environment, encouraging design and thought-provoking contents, I have started my career with a background of MBA in Marketing and Branding. Catching up with the change from print to digital media, I launched the digital magazine “F.A.C.E Fashion Art Culture Entertainment F.A.C.E is a curated experience that highlights and celebrates Global heritage, its exciting evolution and its many million possibilities are seen through the modern lens of fashion, art, culture and entertainment. And provide its readers with compelling content, new trends, innovative ideas, inspiration and the new dimension of the media world. From emerging flavors and ingredient to new ideas buzzing in the industry, it promises to collect what’s hot and trending in the industry and deliver it in a format that keeps you informed and interested. The current world situation has a lot of us down and filled with anxiety, well, in fact, I believe this is the perfect time to make changes and make that shift towards our personal, economic, political, and especially environmental situations. This month we have focussed on topics from such varied scenarios and knitted them in context to Fashion, Art, Culture, and Entertainment. We have brought to you celebrities, trainers, environmentalists, eco-friendly fashion brands and also shed light on sustainability in what we eat and wear. I hope you have as much fun reading it as much as we did bring this issue to you. I pray we can all move towards sustainable living in our small ways and help the world situation. Until then. Stay safe and take care.
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Rohit Bal Interviewed By RISHIKA GARG FACE MAGAZINE
Was becoming a designer your childhood dream? What spiked your interest in the world of fashion?
don’t think it was a childhood dream. At the time when I was a child 20 years ago, in the ‘70s fashion designing was not a very big industry in India. I think when you are a child you either want to become a pilot or hero or maybe some superhero. I don’t think fashion designer was anywhere on the scene. It happened in my later teens. When I was in high school when I was in my 1112th, where my interest in fashion rose with the rising styles and incorporation of multiple styles in clothing as well.
Why did u decide to pursue Indian fashion? I didn’t start with Indian fashion, when I started it was only for men initially. For the first two years, I only did menswear. And that time I did both men’s western and Indian, started women’s western wear as well. There were a lot of brands where you could get western wear easily, there were big brands and designers, western wear is what you can get anywhere, even in India whether it was high street shopping, it was available everywhere, I was madly in love with the concept of arts and culture of India and also had an interest in Mughal India. Being a history student, I did history in college. So I wanted to recreate that historical perspective and I wanted to do Indian clothing so I started doing Indian clothing for men first and then I started doing womenswear and eventually came down to Indian and felt that is what I love more, I love that more than anything else. OCTOBER 2020
What do you think designers will change about the kind of clothing they will now bring into the market of weddings? I think fashion right now, with COVID is being pretty dead and I don’t think fashion will move forward during the COVID because its the last priority on anyone’s mind right now. Fashion is the last thing anyone is thinking about because you see, people are not going out, there is no place, there is no wedding and the weddings are very small, most of the weddings have been postponed to February. There’s no place to wear these clothes, why to get them? why buy? Fashion is at a standstill and I think I am concentrating on making much much cheaper collection, much more affordable collection, the collection which people not will hesitate to buy because of prices and also looking towards sustainable clothing. Sustainable fashion is the mantra which people will want to buy because nobody knows what the future is going to be like post-COVID. The situation is very dissembled and it’s a very sad period for the planet. And every industry is suffering. And fashion is something which is not a necessity its an indulgence, and it’s not the time for any kind of indulgence, there is no indulgence happening these days. Either in lifestyle, or food or in going out. The only important thing is your health.
How can designers make weddings more memorable? Since the scale of weddings has drastically reduced. Its a very simple thing, designers just have to make very affordable clothes, which are more appropriate. Clothes that are not very expensive. That FACE MAGAZINE
looks dramatic but doesn’t cost too much. Designers are now doing very intelligent designing and very intelligently. They have to keep track of what is happening around the world, they cannot get carried away with what they want, those days have gone. Fashion is not going to rule anything, fashion will be ruled.
What are your views on online shows and exhibitions, will you be releasing any collection online soon? I find it lacking any kind of energy but I know that’s the only way right now. There is a big difference between seeing something and you know especially in India, we want to touch and feel everything that we buy. We want to try it out, want to get it approved by our aunts or nanis. But be it the bride or groom wear and everything they show it to their family and everyone in the family must have to approve it. To see how it looks on that girl, how it looks on that boy. And not how it looks on a model. They want to see how it looks on their own family. Online buying for India I think is not going to work out. I don’t think it’s going to work in India. I am a designer I understand but being a normal person who has no idea about the concept of fashion ,and buying will not understand. They need to touch and feel. They want to ask how embroidery is done, which crystal is used. Which thread, which fabric We cannot take it any other way. Expecting someone to buy a lehenga of 5 lacks, not a possibility.
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KINSEY Interviewed By RISHIKA GARG
What was the most dangerous Stunt you have ever done? Standing on top of a plane no parachute. This stunt I felt the most adrenaline I have ever felt. The second the wind hit me when I exited the plane I was shaking but also very excited.
What are the projects have you got coming up? I have been working on a new series called â€œfearlessâ€? where I take a new celebrity on every single episode to conquer their fears and do something extreme. Like skydiving, bull riding, shark diving :)
What would you say to anyone hoping to follow in your footsteps and walk in the stunt industry? Safety first :) only do things that you know you can do or that you have trained for. It can be very dangerous and injuries arenâ€™t fun! But I do push everyone to live their life to the fullest and push themself out of there comfort zone!
We saw that you really like doing pranks...Who influences you? My ex-boyfriend and still very close friend is the master of pranks and taught me everything I know he saw how fearless I was and really pushed me to start filming everything I already was doing. I am very thankful for him.
Your Definition of Style? I love sexy business suites. Something about a woman in a suite is just so powerful and beautiful. I like a classy elegant powerful look. Thatâ€™s my style FACE MAGAZINE
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Tell us more about Your Show”The Simonetta Lein Show”?
he Simonetta Lein Show is a IGTV native show where celebrities and top influencers talk about current issues. The show has started right before the quarantine and made it through the “in home” version to get stronger for the second season that just premiered with superstars actor Bob Saget.
Of all the Show you have done, which one is your favorite? Bob Saget
Tell us about your upcoming project? I am shooting the show so please stay tuned on @simonettalein to see the incredible guests that will come on The Simonetta Lein Show
Some important tips to our readers about social media marketing? You should always put a face behind your product/service. People need to feel that there is someone behind, an idea, and a message. In an era where everything is going digital, accountability will differentiate you from the rest. Good old manners are truly important in marketing more than you can imagine.
Simonetta Lein Interviewed By RISHIKA GARG
Tell us about your philanthropist projects? and how anyone can be a part of it. Please go to www.thewishwall.org check out the medical facility we have rebuild for 800 people in Africa. You can donate to the cause and/or you can decide that you want to help others. You can also submit your wish under the voice: Express your wish.
What will be your dream project? Having a child and be able as a woman and a mother to continue to thrive and inspire millions. Women can do it all
CAPRI Interviewed By RISHIKA GARG
What first got you into music?
What an average day like for you?
hen I was 5 years old, my parents put me in piano and I loved it so much. I used to write little songs and sing along so my parents decided to put me in singing too. A few years ago, I started doing guitar as well which I love.
Well, I recently re-started school a few weeks ago, however, I am in a half day program so that I have more time for music. On a typical day, I will go to school, then come home and do around 2-3 hours of music/ social media content. I also dance competitively so I will also have that most days.
Who are you inspired by? Some of the musicians that inspire me include Shawn Mendes, Ariana Grande, Lady Gaga, Jlo and many more. Iâ€™m inspired by anyone who has worked hard to the attention they got. Do you sing in the shower? What songs? Of course! The songs that I sing usually depend on my mood and what songs I saw on Tiktok that day, however, Iâ€™m always down for some Christina or Beyonce. One advice you want to give to young people/your fans? I would say my advice to young people is to always stay motivated. I believe that motivation is one of the most
valuable qualities a person can possess. I would recommend that everyone find something that motivates them whether that be goal setting, watching motivational videos or anything else. Personally, I like to watch videos of my favourite artists performing as it reminds me of what Iâ€™m working towards. How do you feel the Internet has impacted the music business? I feel like the internet has definitely changed the music industry. If you think about some of the biggest celebs right now, many of them have risen to fame on the internet. Not only that, but we now use the internet to stream all of our music, watch artists live and even to buy an artists merch.
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Was acting your first love? How did you decide this was going to be something you pursue as a career?
or me, acting has been instinctive. The age I decided I wanted to act; I didn’t really understand what profession truly meant! Although even when I later discovered what it is, I decided to continue acting as it’s a part of me, and who I am. I don’t see myself as the human that I am without it. That’s how passionate I am about acting.
Of all the roles have you played, which one is your favorite? To be very honest, all the roles that I’ve played to date are my favorite! And I say that because each role has taught me something! And every role brings in a different perspective towards life!
Have you progressed in your acting career as you have expected? I always process information depending on what I look at doing next, and not with what I’ve accomplished and if that’s enough, it’s a journey!
Do you consider yourself a method actor? Not at all! I switch on and switch off very easily! And for me, performing any role and every role has been spontaneous!
Tell us about your upcoming project? Currently, I’m shooting for a very interesting Hindi film. I should be able to talk about it very soon! Another one of my films is Seetimaarr which is a Telugu film. I’m really looking forward to resuming the shoots soon! Both films have great scripts!
What will be your dream project, and what will be your dream role? I dream to play something that’s larger than life! OCTOBER 2020
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GET THE LOOK MAKE UP With the bridal season on peak amidst the pandemic, going out and about for your skincare and beauty routine may not be ideal. Hence, get that perfect bridal glow with cool DIYs at home in your safe abode! The basis of a good skincare routine includes having a nice skin toner, cleanser and moisturiser. A good sunscreen would do wonders with your skin. Make sure you know your skin type, that makes things easier. For your daily skincare routine using a jade roller or a gua sha with some good serum to maintain the skin, quality is highly recommended. It really does affect the skin. Getting monthly facials, at least 3 months before the wedding helps to firm and illuminating your complexion. Prepare your skin to get the best makeup results by drinking an ample amount of water, because hydrated skin is the key to having a perfect base for your makeup. This season the fresh and dewy makeup look with some blush and nude lips is a major go-to! And, if you’re bold and adventurous you can try something new like pink flushed cheeks look or the bold red lips or feathered brows. Getting made up by yourself may not be everyone’s cup of tea, thus, the first and foremost step is to invest in a good makeup artist to put you out of your misery. FACE MAGAZINE
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Japna Gambhir Founder of Majestic Fashionn Interviewed By DEEPTI CHANDAK OCTOBER 2020
Tell us about the Festive collection that you are focusing on? The style and inspiration
he collection Iâ€™m currently focusing on is a range of finely curated festive jackets and luxury masks. Our major focus is on the cuts of the pieces that are created to highlight the shape of the woman wearing them. Each garment having sophistication, intricate draping and exquisite attention to detail. My collection is inspired from previous trends and contemporary elements like innovative cuts and materials are added to these omnipresent reminiscents.
The designs you created are no doubt good enough, but who and which things were your inspiration while creating such designs? 2020 has been a year of various new normals. We are trying to inculcate the same in our wedding and festive collection. We are launching a premium luxury range of gowns and jackets along with coordinated masks. Also, as a supporter of Vocal for Local, I have used fabrics and materials that are locally sourced and handcrafted in India.
What would be the way forward for the weddings and festive for 2020? Coming from a business family, from a very young age,Iâ€™ve been a part of the fashion industry and indulging myself in the world of fashion and business. That inspired me to start my own label. Majestic is an expression of who I am and the impact I wanna have on the world of fashion. It is about sensuality, femininity and a touch of glamour!
Do you believe minimalism is the way to go? In my opinion, minimalism is the way to go. However, I believe weddings and festive season should be glamorous and blingy. Our collection, revolving around that idea, consists of bold and intricate designs with shimmer that add an oomph factor to your outfits.
Tell us more about the present collection. Majesticâ€™s latest collection Lustrino is positioned at the highest end of the luxury market. Driven by artistic, modern and luxurious design and style, couture-like quality and a high level of customer service, The collections hold impeccable customer appeal.
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Thota Vaikuntham OCTOBER 2020
orn in 1942 in Boorugupalli, Telangana, Thota Vaikuntam pursued a Diploma in Painting at the College of Fine Arts and Architecture, Hyderabad, in 1970 and went on to Baroda to study under eminent artist-teacher K.G Subramanian in 1972. During his stint in Balbhavan as a mentor and later working for alternate films by eminent filmmaker B. Narsing Rao, Vaikuntam had developed his own visual idiom that embodies an ethnic cultural identity and established a pictorial world of nativity employing a vibrant palette and mannerism. The Telangana-ness is visibly confirmed through these depictions which were very much part of his psyche. His longing for painting the theme directly comes from his first-hand interaction with his native people, whose drawings he made several times. The attire, jewellery and costumes became the visual vocabulary for Vaikuntam, epitomizing the typical Telangana ethnicity. The fluid lines and tones of charcoal show the underpinning of the artistic style that he introduced. The sun burnt bodies of the rural women are depicted with dynamism and sensuousness, embellished with
typical ornamentation and large bindis on the forehead. The portraiture of the figures dressed in local handloom attires is consciously rendered to bring out dispositions of the people belonging to different communities. Evidently, the heavily stylized portraits reveal the artistâ€™s aspiration for figurative distortion that typifies the typicality of the commoners. The beautiful depictions Telangana woman exemplify the conventional portrayal of nativity, whereas renditions like Rajavva and Danavva stem from the working class Dalit identity. Apart from the depiction of women of various types, Vaikuntam captured the essence of people belonging to different occupational communities and their accessories. Be it the depiction of Goundlollu (Toddy Tappers) or the portrayal of the Brahmin priests, Sheik Sahibs and Hamalis (labourers), all are the embodiment of cultural identity of Telangana that he cherishes. His inspiration largely comes from Indian art and folk traditions. Thus, Vaikuntam established a pictorial world of women employing a vibrant palette. His charcoal drawings and fine lines all
over the form emanate a sense of vigor and an intense aesthetic quality. The earthy colours and subdued tones create a perfect symphony. His drawings, etchings and paintings are predominated by people of Telangana and their festivities like Bathukamma (Goddess of Life). His longing for painting women and their attire, jewellery, costumes and the bindis became the visual vocabulary for Vaikuntam, exemplifying the typical Telangana women. Gradually, he portrayed men along with women of his village with real names as his titles. Thus, his paintings have an iconic presence and are highly sought after in art markets for their formal/ethnic appeal and the embellishment. Moreover, his most recent works are a continuation of an ideological representation of the regional, ethnic identity that has become more elaborate and vibrant in nature. Thus, the artist seems to have progressed from his popular man-woman relationship series or single portraits to more of a collective or group figural compositions.
Contribution While people of Telangana were in search of their lost identity, Vaikuntam brought in the ethnic identity as an assertion of typical cultural identity. Due to his incessant proclamation of regional and marginalized class depiction, in taking to the mainstream and stirring the consciousness for ethnic and indigenous identity is triggered. Several artists followed him as he encouraged, supported and promoted in the field of art. It appears that few artists consciously depicted rustic imagery of their surroundings in order to show their nostalgia, whereas, a few silently proclaimed their regional cultural identity. The cultural consciousness further triggered off as a community identity in some artistsâ€™ work as they were exposed to various political ideologies. His art is showcased both in India and abroad, he travels extensively along with his art shows and his paintings have become a status symbol. He lives in Hyderabad with his wife and three children. OCTOBER 2020 189
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orn in 1925 in what is now Faislabad in Pakistan, Krishen Khanna grew up in Lahore, only studying art after he graduated from college at evening classes held at the Mayo School of Art there. In 1947, Khanna’s family moved to Shimla as a result of the Partition of India and Pakistan, and Khanna was deeply affected by not only the change in his personal life, but also the socio-political chaos that reigned around him. His early works are reproductions of the scenes that were indelibly imprinted in his memory during this period. Most of Khanna’s work is figurative; he chose to not explore the abstraction that most of his contemporaries were delving into. He says “I used to do abstracts earlier and I have now moved on to human forms. I thought that the person or the individual is being neglected – the person in a particular situation who is influenced by the conditions around. I want to now emphasise the human beings caught up in their particular condition.” Bordering on the narrative, Khanna’s work captures moments in history, much like photographs do, but the artist’s technique is far from photo-realist. Khanna transfers his observations onto the canvas with spontaneity and exuberance, keeping the representational elements of his subject matter intact. The artist’s use of colour and his expressionist brushwork make the mundane rise to the challenge of the creative. OCTOBER 2020
A largely self-taught artist, Khanna studied at the Imperial Service College, Windsor, England, from where he graduated in 1940. After his family’s move to India, a job with Grindlays Bank brought him to Bombay where he was invited to be a part of the now famous Progressive Artists’ Group. The first exhibition in which Khanna’s works were featured was one of this Group’s exhibitions held in 1949. In 1955, Khanna had his first solo show at the USIS, Chennai, and since then has been exhibiting his work widely in India and abroad. Among his solo exhibitions are Krishen Khanna: Drawings & Paintings at Vadehra Art Gallery, New Delhi, in 2016; When the Band Begins to Play... at Grosvenor Gallery, London, in 2015; A Celebration of Lines at Sakshi Gallery, Mumbai, in 2013; Krishen Khanna: A Retrospective presented by Saffronart, Mumbai at Lalit Kala Akademi, New Delhi, in 2010; The Savage Heart at Cymroza Art Gallery, Mumbai, in 2008; Krishen Khanna, Saffronart and Berkeley Square Gallery, London, in 2005; and An Airing at Pundole Art Gallery, Mumbai, in 2004. Recent group exhibitions include Ideas of the Sublime, presented by Vadehra Art Gallery at Lalit Kala Akademi, New Delhi, in 2013; The Discerning Eye: Modern Masters at Vadehra Art Gallery, New Delhi, in 2013; and Masterclass at Dhoomimal Art Gallery, New Delhi, in 2011.WW
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In 1964, Khanna was artist-inresidence at the American University, Washington D.C. In 1965, he won a fellowship from the Council for Economic and Cultural Affairs, New York following the travel grant they had awarded him three years earlier. Recognising his immense contribution to Indian Art, the Government of India has bestowed several honours upon him including the Lalit Kala Ratna from the President of India in 2004 and the Padma Shri in 1990. Krishen Khanna lives and works in New Delhi.
What made you choose the “Bandwallas” as your subject matter? These are the most recent of my paintings so they are much talked about. What has drawn me to the bandwallas is the context they come from. They are a legacy of the Raj. The British left the bandwallas in India and now all baraats (wedding processions) look like parades. Everyone must fall in line. The bandwallas themselves wear glittering uniforms of a general and resemble the grandeur of the army except for their chappals. I see the Bandwalla as a relic of the past appropriated by Punjabis and people in the North in general for their marriage processions and the like. On the one hand, we have uniforms which provide a kind of grandeur— as well as anonymity—to military personnel, while a different kind of uniform transforms the bandwalla into an amusing public entertainer. That is so peculiarly Indian. I have not only painted the bandwallas but also truckwalas (truck driver) because to me they seem very peculiarly Indian. I am moved by Chaplinesque situations that involve dual emotions. On the face of it, they can be very funny, even ridiculous. But there is a kind of pathos beneath it all.
What does it mean to you to paint? Art for me, is the ultimate Annanda (bliss). Art can provide you with the metaphysical answers you have been looking for even whilst you are involved in its creation. They call it drawing. I really have no name for it. Itâ€™s a compulsion, an itch. The more I scratch, the more I want to continue. It is enjoyable but it can also hurt when nothing emerges but an incomprehensible mess. Was I taught to draw? Silly question really. How can one manipulate a compulsive itch? Try and stop it and see what happens. Bad temper, depression and a sickness of spirit. Emptiness. It follows that my subject matter is of importance to me and is not fortuitous. Dependent on this choice are the means that will reveal it. Nor is it ever certain that every venture will be successful. What is certain, and this gives me some comfort, is that a moment of my life was spent in such absorption that bypassed Time. If at the end of it, what I make I made finds acceptance with someone, it confirms to me that Iâ€™m not alone. The drawing becomes a ground for sharing an experience.
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THE ARTY KNOT Madhuri Bhaduri
he Indian wedding industry is one of the largest wedding markets in the world, especially owing to the country’s propensity for grand, lavish matrimonial celebrations. Traditional Indian weddings are known for their grandeur, scale of celebration, splendour of festive attire and the huge guest lists. A wedding may spill with emotions from beginning to end creating a very festive mood to bring people together. Lot of emphasise is given to the emotional quotient of both the families when it comes to the selection of themes, décor, merchandising and clothing, similarly in my view if an artist’s work is used throughout as the theme of the wedding it becomes a branding exercise that resonates all along with the couple. The whole creative element of an artist is very exclusive keeping in mind the mood and theme of the wedding. Whether it is the outfit of the couple or the décor & merchandise a similar theme can be brought around under an artist’s brand. An artist’s theme can help elevate the overall experience of the wedding. The fabric of a wedding reminds me of some fine and rich elements which an artist can capture very aesthetically and emotionally through the subject of his works.
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Personally for me, art is like translating the vision inside my mind onto the canvas, and being able to bring a sense of that inimitable vastness of the subconscious in which dreams and visions take place. For instance, in my Reflections series, the surfaces of the lakes and ponds reflect impressions of the surrounding foliage creating compositional depth as well as hinting towards deeper reflections within the mind. The events across my canvas are intuitive, intense, immediate and direct. I depict my interaction of mind and matter in a dialogue of brush and paint that is warm, vivid and sensual to the eye. Images depicting tranquil lakes with wild flowers decorating its surface, a faraway view of an imaginary city visible in between a haze of colour that exist in a timeless space, my subjects are universally relatable and while they may be deeply personal, their abstract quality characteristically evokes some form of emotion in the viewer which connects to the idea and theme of a wedding holistically. My canvases bleed colour, the vibrant reds, yellows and greens replace the usual blue skies in the landscapes creating a visually entrancing colour palette that is almost festive. My treatment of colour involves using a variety of shades and hues that complement the mood of the painting and derive a sense of joy
and fulfilment. The subject of my art is meant to be a liberating experience. I myself thrive on the meditative and rejuvenating quality of my paintings and endeavours to achieve a perfect harmony of nature and imagination through my artworks which is also a strong foundation for a blissful marriage. Today, India has thousands of discerning wedding consumers in the country. There is steep growth in the number of evolved modern Indian brides and grooms, who are well informed on a global platform to make customized choices for their weddings. As long as this phenomenon is on the rise, weddings will experience an entire different concept based on the experiments related to the themes. To succeed in todayâ€™s environment itâ€™s important to be relevant to all industries and segments of the society, art being a very integral part of it. Weâ€™re in the moment and the moment demands that we maintain our drive and enthusiasm while doing things in a different way. Make memories by focusing on offbeat concepts that go a long way to patronise it. I strongly feel that art in weddings as a brand can be an agent of change and evolution futuristically.
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AMAYA â€œWe, the current generation, have a moral responsibility to make the world better for future generations.â€? his quote by Prescilla Chan is best exemplified in a 14-year old Mumbai girl, Amaya Aggarwal. While other girls her age are busy with school, friends and social media, Amaya has taken it upon herself to raise awareness about the plight of young girls facing violence at home or being married off at a young age. In addition to awareness, she has contributed to the cause by raising funds in a novel way.
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It wasn’t always like this. Until a year ago, Amaya was not aware of the plight of young girls in disadvantaged situations until she came across the Breakthrough Foundation in India. Through a Breakthrough event, she discovered that millions of girls globally, and especially in India, are forced into child labour, sometimes abused by their family members, and in many cases married off before the legal age of 18 years. There are many social and economic pressures that subject young girls to face such trauma.
Amaya is horrified that girls her age or little older can still be forced into early marriage, and don’t have a voice. She feels privileged, since she has been raised in a business family in South Mumbai’s chic Carmichael Road and Malabar Hill areas, and studies in one of the finest schools in Mumbai, the Cathedral & John Connon School. She was so moved by the situation of these abused young girls, that she felt compelled to help. Her mother is a well-known jeweller who owns the luxury jewellery brand - Maharani, and this provided Amaya an opportunity. Amaya decided to use her design skills to produce a gold & diamond pendant that would convey a powerful message to girls. At the same time, by selling these pendants, she could raise funds for Breakthrough Foundation to contribute to the cause of abused girls. Her pendant has been an instant hit. At a charity event promoted by Rohit Bal in Mumbai for Breakthrough in November 2019, Amaya’s pendants sold very well, and the funds were donated to Breakthrough India. Subsequently, at another event held online in August 2020, she donated her pendants as gifts to winners of an online charity tambola. On her birthday in January 2020, she decided
to raise awareness among her friends and family members. Instead of return gifts to friends, she decided to make a donation in the name of each friend or family member that wished her. She resolved that she would raise funds by her own means, and not depend on her parents to just donate to her cause. Her efforts have been noticed by many, and she has received the support of many patrons, donors and celebrities, including Siddhi Kumari, the Princess of Bikaner, and local M.L.A. from the Bikaner constituency in Rajasthan. Amaya’s pendant is designed as a heart, with natural yellow-colored diamonds on one side signifying daytime. On the other side, the pendant is studded with natural black-colored diamonds signifying nighttime. In the middle of the pendant, is etched the words “daughter.” The pendant is a metaphor to show that daughters are loved day or night, and always. Infact, a note accompanies each pendant telling a girl – “Day or night, you are loved.” For some buyers of her pendant, she has customized her creation by putting the name of the girl who will receive the pendant. In addition to her charitable heart, this deep-thinking young lady is also keen design aesthete. Whether it is jewellery or interiors, Amaya has a keen eye for cutting-edge design and avante-garde style. She carries her personality effortlessly, whether in her chic dressing style or no-nonsense talking manner. Amaya is definitely a force to look out for among India’s gen-next!
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Akshita Gandhi FACE MAGAZINE
Let there be light “Half a pound of tuppenny rice, Half a pound of treacle, That’s the way the money goes, Pop! goes the weasel. I am sans virtue and vice No bound, no form, no label Into the quantum realm I go To make love to my easel Conform or sin? I rolled a dice I was tried for treason My soul embraced the artist’s prose My brush became my beacon. Ascending I said, “Let there be light!” Embracing all my demons Sigmund Freud and Aphrodite Shaman in hand with evil No caste no creed no gender no time An artist of rebellion My wings and lust both epitomised Pop! Goes the weasel. Akshita Gandhi
ight signifies the beginning, the fantasy wave that teleports you into a realm where space, time, gender, identity, caste,creed et al becomes irrelevant because the artist’s soul is boundless and cannot be defined. Light strikes the momentyou embrace all of you - your sexuality, your virtue, your sin, your lust and your conformities. This show is an allegory ofmy soul denouncing hibernation and evolving, embracing the dark, the outcast, the bright, the good and ugly. The onlything that matters is you and your creation.
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We live in a world wherein out roles and lives are defined and judgement engulfs us but an artist lives different lives, inand out of different realms and parallel universes, constantly seeking inspiration and living in transience. I am AkshitaGandhi and this is all of me, an artist whose soul has come undone.
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Malta Weddings Interviewed By DEEPTI CHANDAK
How is Malta preparing up with weddings post COVID?
his is a very difficult situation to imagine as none of us knows what post-Covid is going to be like and hope that it will look something like pre-Covid. Our priority during the virus pandemic has been to ensure that Malta as a totally safe destination. With weddings, the family of the bride and groom must have the confidence that both their families and friends will be protected as best possible at all times. It is our responsibility, both as the Malta Tourism Authority as well as the professional service providers – DMCs, hotels, wedding venues - to facilitate this “feeling” and do our best to provide this safety net necessary for such a celebration to be a total success. On this, the whole industry is in accordance and have placed this goal as a top priority. Once the country can boast its safety record and confidence is restored, interest will start trickling in once again. So whilst this strategy is in motion, the operators like ourselves – Blue Marble Destination Services – must embark on trying to understand fully how this pandemic has impacted the lives of our future guests. It is vital to understand how the virus has effected these people, their surroundings and their mental state postCovit. Only by understanding their state of mind and being compassionate will an operator be able to offer the required services in line with expectations – helping the guests turn their family celebration into a dream come true.
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What makes Malta particularly attractive for destination weddings? Valletta, Malta’s capital city, European Capital of Culture in 2018, boasts numerous heritage properties. The fortified city of Mdina retains the glory of its 4,000 year history. The 19th Century Palazzo Parisio in Naxxar and its walled ‘fairytale’ gardens will take guests back to a by-gone era. Such flamboyant weddings and ceremonies also thrive on easy logistics, flexibility and hospitality. Malta offers experienced service providers equipped for the task, coupled with the tourism board and government authorities’ support. The luxury hotels, with over 350 rooms, are all conveniently clustered together. For a successful wedding celebration, the operator must research the culture and the different requirements it brings with it. This is to be complemented by communicating with the guests as early in the process as possible to fully understand their requests. Food and drink are fundamental for such events to be successful. It is recommended that the family bring in their caterer of choice (from India) and his full crew to the island. In turn, specialized DMCs like Blue Marble will set up a kitchen and provide all the catering equipment necessary which we have readily available. We also recommend that the family confirm the photographer and videographer of their choice. It is important that whoever is contracted knows the family well and has clarity on what is expected out of him or her. We will always be available to assist in providing crew at all times, should this be required.
What type of venues are recommended for weddings? Venues in Malta are unique, majestic and historical. The island offers the ideal setting as a grand destination for a â€˜Big Fat Indian weddingâ€™ or any other family anniversary festivities. The entire island of Malta has been described as an open air museum and because if its size, it is in a unique position to be the cradle of numerous events all over the country during the 3-day stay. Malta is only 17miles (27.35kms) long and 9 miles(14.48kms) wide with a richness in world-class historical venues which belies its size, therefore many venues all over the island can be utilized throughout the stay as the distances to and from never exceed 30 minutes. Malta does not only offer the perfect setting in terms of venues and hotels, but compliments this with a value for money product. FACE MAGAZINE
Provide ideas and themes suggested for wedding parties in Malta. Pictures speak a thousand words please find attached photos to help you understand the settings that have been offered in past events. Themes are subjective and usually discussed between the family, the wedding planners and ourselves at a very early stage. We have had some incredible themed celebrations from some very talented wedding planners and so far we have always delivered their requests and exceeded expectations. Not easy, but the willingness of the local suppliers to provide has always superseded the complexity of the job at hand. The island offers a number of settings:
Beach weddings: The entire island is your playground. The Westin Dragonara, the Malta Hilton, Golden Sands Radisson Blu are perfect should one consider a seafront wedding. Fairytale weddings: Spread your functions out across Palazzo de Piro, Villa Bologna, the Mediterranean Conference Center and the city of Mdina. Intimate Weddings: Malta will be able to provide you the vibe you are looking for whilst hosting your events at the lower Barrakka Gardens or the likes of Palazzo de Piro whilst enjoying a cozy stay at one of Maltaâ€™s top notch boutique hotel. Outdoor wedding: Villa Bighi, Palazzo Villa Rosa and the Montekristo Estates promise unbeatable settings. A function at the Saluting battery is a must. Church weddings: With over 300 churches, one is spoilt for choice. St Paulâ€™s Cathedral, Mdina and the Naxxar Parish church are favorites.
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What is the best time/season of the year to have weddings in Malta? The island boasts 300 days of sun and excellent temperatures all year round particularly during the shoulder months. The recommended months, between October and April (not recommended between the 15th December till the 7th January), coincides perfectly with the Indian Wedding Season. You will also be able to get preferential rates during this period. Our winters are generally very mild. Please note the average table below. Jan Feb Mar Apr May Jun Jul Aug Sep Oct Nov Dec High °C 16 16 18 20 24 29 32 32 28 25 21 18 Low °C 13 13 13 15 17 20 24 27 28 25 22 18 15
Our winters are far milder than most other European cities the Indian community usually consider, the likes of Vienna, Florence or Venice. And the weather, coincidently, is also better than New Delhi. On the other side of the scale, the peak season – June to September – is not recommend due to the beautiful and elaborate dresses the ladies always wear complemented by the immense heat. FACE MAGAZINE
Do you make wedding parties on Yachts / boats for large groups? In Malta practically everything is possible, we do have such boats available in our marinas which are big enough and can be decorated beautifully for such celebrations. However, all this will depend on the Covid outcome in the coming months. So whilst the answer is yes, we will have to wait and see.
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Breathtaking Experiences and Peace of Mind
Constance Lemuria Reopens with True Stories on Offer
onstance Lemuria in the Seychelles has reopened its doors with the new ‘Constance Stay Safe’ safety measures in places. Welcoming guests back to the property, General Manager Bruno Le Gac, said: “We are all excited to resume service and we are looking forward to welcoming our guests, who can expect a greater level of pampering than before.” As well as the new safety measures in place, Constance Lemuria has introduced ‘True Stories’ to suggest ways in which guests can get the most out of all the things on offer at the resort and on the beautiful island of Praslin. Says Bruno Le Gac “I am convinced that guests now, more than ever, will be seeking to combine a high level of service with a spiritual and meaningful experience”. FACE MAGAZINE
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The True Stories include: Miraculous Fishing - pick up your rod and bait at the boathouse and find a perfect spot on the fishing platform over the rocks. Keen fishermen from the hotel team will show you the Seychellois way of fishing and chef will prepare your catches for you to enjoy that evening. Revive! - enjoy a full day of activities and challenges, starting with a jog around the spectacular golf course before taking a bike out, swimming to the floating plat more and testing your balance on a paddle board. After a sushi lunch take a welldeserved rest in one of the garden hammocks.
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Super Robert - with the approach of the turtle nesting season guests can meet with turtle manager Robert who has been at the hotel for 14 years, making sure that guests and turtles live happily side by side. He can tell you all about the turtles and show you their nests and in the hatching season alert you so you can witness the incredible sight of the hatchlings heading for the sea. In addition, Robert will take you on a botanical tour of the property and introduce you to the hotel’s giant tortoises Donatello and Leonardo.
Up & Down - take a late afternoon adventure trail to the ‘top of the mountain’ with stunning views over the hotel before walking down for a refreshing swim at the world renowned Anse Georgette beach. Watch the sunset, feel alive and breathe!
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Constance Lemuria is a sanctuary set amongst stunning nature, on Praslin Island for 20 years now, next to two of the most stunning beaches in the Seychelles and 1st hotel in Seychelles in the Top 25 Africa 2020 of TripAdvisor. It has 96 suites and eight spacious villas, each with its own private pool and the hotel boasts an 18 hole Championship golf course as well as a fantastic choice of four restaurants and bars.
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The Hotel has also been awarded the label of Safe Tourism - certification to assure visitors that they have put in place the safety standardized protocol to ensure all guestsâ€™ comfort and safety Constance Hotels & Resort is offering a 30% discount at Constance Lemuria until the 26th December 2020. The package for a relaxing holiday include bed and breakfast or a half board accommodation in a Junior Suite, Senior Suite or a pool villa. bine such an extensive list of positive criteria as the Seychelles. It has the purest air in the world, is breathtakingly beautiful, natural and overall very clean. The weather is great and the sea is always at the right temperature. There are no cyclones, no earthquakes, no volcanos and no dangerous animals. The country has many of the most beautiful beaches in the world, plenty of natural reserves and unique features, with a huge diversity of landscapes, flora and fauna.â€?
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TO MARRY OR NOT TO MARRY !? Article by UTKARSHA KESARKAR
Decoding the most common and complicated question governing modern liaisons FACE MAGAZINE
e human beings have always desired a soulmate or partner, so that we unite ourselves with experiences of scintillating passion, carnal intimacy, mutual amity, mystifying euphoria and paramount bliss. Today, freedom of choice has empowered modern couples to redefine their love life. Contemporary relationships have become more versatile, volatile and unconventional. Financial independence of both men and women have led to people taking a break from commitment and resorting to live-in relationships. Due to advancement in medical sciences i.e. the origin of contraception, young people are participating in casual physical relationships without the fear of conceiving a child. Trends as No Strings attached and Friends With benefits are being actively engraved in modern youth culture. Although unlike rest of the globe, in India, these forms of relationships are executed in great secrecy. But despite these rising trends, various studies have revealed that marriage continues to be the most preferred norm of relationships. According to a survey on statista.com, about 83 per cent of Indian women and 77% of Indian men surveyed chose marriage over other forms. Even in the US, where the stigma attached to pre-natal relationships has faded, the majority of the population still opts for marriage. Behavioural Analyst Mr Steven Sisler said in an interview, “Marriage as an institution will always be here because since antiquity it has been institutionalized”.
While marriage symbolises eternal bonds, live-in relationships embody commitment phobia. It is arranged with a mindset that if tomorrow we are to separate we don’t have to overcome long drawn hassles of divorce. However, lack of a stable assurance over a long term leads to tremendous amounts of insecurity and jealousy. Inevitably, we are creatures of feelings and we cannot repress our instinctual emotions. Another reason for live-in is that new generation youth want to ‘test drive before buying the car’. But, oftentimes the case is that, if you’re moving in to test the relationship, you’re not so confident about it. In a 2016 Psychology Today column, one of the studies states, “It seems to us that many people who think about testing their relationship by cohabiting already know, on some level, what the grade of that test may be; they are hoping that the answer looks better over time.” Accordingly, it’s dangerous to enter into a live-in relationship with full confidence that it will eventually turn into a marriage. On a side note, however, the concept of live-in relationships is a boon to same-sex couples who in various countries are yet not allowed to marry legally.
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encounter complex dilemmas as children can be left without a father because the man is not legally entitled to care for a child born out of wedlock.
Life Coach and Image Consultant Mrs Chhaya Momaya says, “I still believe in commitment, I am definitely in for a marriage because it gives you a certain level of security. Even if you have children, they have been given a name, otherwise, the whole thing becomes illegal as per law. If you love each other, care for each other and you’re already living together, why not formalise it? It’s as simple as that. It’s not about ‘you and me’, it’s about ‘us’ and that mindset makes a key difference. However, I don’t judge casual relationships. Sometimes you don’t want to commit to anybody, and you’ve your biological needs - they’re not a luxury. So until you’re being discreet, decent and precautious about it, there should be no issues with an individual’s personal decision”. Countless studies show that children of married couples receive a stable environment, economic resources, and better opportunities. Whereas, children born out of live-in relationships FACE MAGAZINE
The legitimacy of marriage offers emotional security that is beneficial for mental health. A lower incidence of chronic diseases and higher recovery rate is found among married couples who have the advantage of social recognition, financial security and emotional stability. Marriage, most of the time, means that there is someone waiting on you, to comfort you when you’re back home from a day of work. You are sure that your partner will be with you today, tomorrow and day after tomorrow. and is not out of the blue going to run away. This framework insulates us from substance abuse and depression. Married couples, therefore, create better communities. In case of live-in, your partner abandons you or throws you out of the house, there is often nowhere to go and no one to lean on. In a marriage, the drive for conflict resolution is stronger. Marriage involves familial ties and partners don’t insist on splitting unless the situation is extremely abusive or out of control. In various prenatal relationships, however, one can smoothly walk out of the relationship with absolute ease, so breakups and patch-ups are mostly rooted in one’s whims and fancies. Accordingly, one or both live-in partners are often vulnerable to psychological turbulence. Indeed, the phenomenon of divorce is
prevalent, but the live-in relationship doesn’t imply permanency either. Couples on both sides of the spectrum experience conflicts and incompatibility. But on the sunny side, the institution of marriage has become relatively flexible, at least in urban India and developed countries. Although marriage involves absolute comment of mind, body & soul but it doesn’t mean that people are stuck for life. Today, divorce is no longer a prerogative of elites & Bollywood celebrities. Women are increasingly becoming independent and so can live on their own income post annulment. Nowadays, it is not taboo for an ex-husband to demand alimony from a higher-earning exwife. Marriage involves the challenges of adaptation and adjustment but so does all other long term relationships be it parent- children, brothersister, best friends or even close work-colleagues. We as human beings are constantly experiencing the inevitable process of evolution. We are a different person than what we were yesterday, last year or last to last year. Couples need to constantly re-align themselves with each other’s transforming personalities, lest the change is toxic. It is the definition of compatibility. Lithuanian Lawyer, Well Being Explorer, Expat Wife In India, Aurelija Dirgeliene tells, “The beauty of marriage is to feel loved no matter what mood I wake up in, or whatever mistakes I have made. To feel truly adored each day, even OCTOBER 2020 233
when I don’t feel myself in the best shape, to always have a company to travel the world, to get all these first times in parenting and to feel support in each step, And lots of other beautiful things….Yes, challenging life situations happen, but marriage teaches us to stay hand in hand and take it as a possibility to go through it and grow in it. Then meet the glory moment, look into each other’s eyes and enjoy that we overcome it together. Forget the process and to learn the lesson. Growing is what we dedicate our energy to. We always do our best to focus on the bright side without escalating the darkness and it really works! Because when the light appears, darkness disappears”. Although modern relationships are liberated from traditional barricades, never choose an unconventional romantic bond only because it is ‘popular’ or because your friends are into it. Don’t date a girlfriend or boyfriend to rebel against the family, show off on social media or to merely enjoy a fling on Valentine’s Day. However, if you do get in a casual, non-committed or cohabitating relationship, analyse on a daily basis if you both are on the same page regarding romantic and emotional attachment. Regular communication is needed about what one feels about the other and to what extent. In case you get serious about the other person, do not delay the “we need to talk.” Any arrangement needs to be inclusive of both parties. A partnership is a healthy partnership only when it is reciprocal and a catalyst to the progress of the relationship. FACE MAGAZINE
Conversely, don’t get married only because you’re ashamed of being single. Don’t get married against your will for the sake of the family. Avoid marriage if you have to compromise on your career or lifestyle. Moreover, it is not advisable to marry for the status symbol or for extracting material benefits from the spouse. Once we begin to notice the real person beneath the veil, it could exert unbearable strain on the relationship, eventually leading to infidelity, depression and loneliness. Marriage then persists to be nothing more than a contractual agreement. Finally, evaluate the pros and cons of each relationship & recognise your inner instincts towards the person you want to marry ; prevent lust, greed, or societal pressure to guide you into a decision that you might regret for a lifetime. Above all, prior to exchanging vows and aligning your present & future with someone else’s, be sure to fall in love with yourself first. The fairytale blissful relationships are not ‘made in heaven’ but are created on the strong foundations of self-love and selfesteem.
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The wedding season is here!!! Things may be somber due to the pandemic but we still have a life and have to make the most out of it, especi...
Published on Oct 15, 2020
The wedding season is here!!! Things may be somber due to the pandemic but we still have a life and have to make the most out of it, especi...