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Lisa Menard An inspiring story of broken

Wedding Trends for 2013

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2ND WEDDINGS ETIQUETTE HEART HEALTH Do you know your heart?

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INSIDE THE ISSUE FEBRUARY 2013 60 | LISA MENARD A story of life after broken hearts.

06 | Editor’s Letter 08 | Around Town 10 | Health Matters 14 | Eat Well 16 | Nutrition 18 | Acadiana Life 22 | The Facts 24 | Family 30 | Your Career 32 | Relationships 34 | Grace Notes 36 | Bridal 46 | Beauty 50 | Fashion 68 | Show Your FACE

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EDITOR’s Desk | LISA DAY

February is a time of hearts and sweethearts.

Working with this month’s wedding-related

Valentine’s Day reminds us to cherish the ones we

content has reminded me of my own wedding

love and show them how special they are to us. Do

(so many years ago). It’s funny to see what Nick

a little something extra for your loved ones so they

and I incorporated into our wedding that is now a

know they are always close to your heart. It doesn’t

‘returning trend to classic style’ and other aspects

take much to touch someone’s heart.

that fall into the ‘what were they thinking’. Either way, your wedding day is what is important to YOU

February is also Heart Health Month and a time to remind the ones we love how important our

and your beloved, so plan and enjoy it your way.

Share the love in February!

hearts are. Take a moment to have your heart checked out, especially if you are a woman and have a history of heart disease in your family.

Many people are not aware that heart disease is the number one killer of women in the United States.

This month is the bridal issue at FACE Magazine.

Many of our articles touch on trends for the upcoming year in wedding planning, fashion and events. We hope you will find something exciting to incorporate into your upcoming nuptials.

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Happy Valentine’s Day and Happy Mardi Gras!

Lisa

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FEBRUARY 2013 Vol. 5, No. 9 EDITOR Lisa Day editor@faceacadiana.com ASSOCIATE EDITOR/EVENTS Flint Zerangue, Jr. flintjr@faceacadiana.com SALES/ADVERTISING 337-456-5540 Annette Vidrine | annette@faceacadiana.com Cassie Swain | cassie@faceacadiana.com Ashley Domingue | ashley@faceacadiana.com

LAYOUT & DESIGN Kellie Viola CONTRIBUTING WRITERS Danielle M. Dayries Dianne Dempsey-Legnon Tracee Dundas Kathryn Elliott, Ph.D., LPC-S Leslie Fontenot, RD, LDN, CDE Madeline Gardiner Laura Garey Dr. Christopher Hubbell Lynley Jones Annie W. Spell, PhD Dr. Leslie Jacobs Ste Marie Jan Swift Tyler Thigpen Flint Zerangue Jr.

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LAFAYETTE • • • • • • •

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Feb 6th – Hands-On Kayak Fishing Class with Pack and Paddle, 601 E. Pinhook Rd. Feb 7th – American Heart Association’s Go Red Luncheon at The Hilton Hotel Feb 8th – Le Festival de Mardi Gras at Cajun Field (Ends the 11th) Feb 9th – Cub Scout Saturday: Webelos Craftsman Badge at The Children’s Museum Feb 11th – Lundi Gras with Marc Broussard Feb 12th – Mardi Gras!

Feb 16th – Suzanne Vega at The Heymann Performing Arts Center

– Girl Scout Saturday: Brownie Painting Badge, The Children’s Museum

– Children’s Shelter King Cake 5k at River Ranch Town Square

– The Home, Garden & Lifestyle Show, Cajundome Convention Center (Ends the 17th) Feb 17th – Community Investors & Sisters Who Serve present their 2nd Annual Single Mother Gala Feb 18th – Presidents’ Day Feb 20th – 83rd Annual Banquet for The Greater Lafayette Chamber of Commerce Feb 23rd – Advertising Federation of Acadiana’s ADDY Awards at Keith’s Ballroom Feb 28th – Symphonic Winds & Concert Bands Concert at Ducrest-Gilfry Auditorium and UL Angelle Hall Mar 1st – Music & Faith with the Acadiana Symphony Orchestra (Ends the 3rd) March 4th – Heart’s of Hope present the Acadiana Culinary Classic at the

Cajundome Convention Center Mar 4th – Acadiana Symphony Orchestra presents Madhatter’s Luncheon at the Hilton Hotel

ST. MARTIN PARISH • Feb 14th – “Calling All Lovers” at the Evangeline Oak in St. Martinville

Iberia Parish • • • •

Feb 9th – Jeanerette Farmer’s Market at Jeanerette City Park Feb 23rd – TABASCO Shootout Soccer Tournament at Louisiana Pepperplex (Ends the 24th) Feb 24th – “Musical Valentines” Candlelight Chamber Music Concert at St. Peters Catholic Church Mar 2nd – Shadow’s on the Teche Arts & Craft Show

St. Landry Parish • • • •

Feb 8th – L’il Nate’s 3rd Annual L’argent Trailride and Chick Run, Opelousas (Ends the 10th] Feb10th – The 2nd Annual Zyde-Gras at Evangeline Downs Event Center (Ends the 12th) Feb 28th – LSUE Performing Arts Series presents The Savoy Family at Liberty Theater Mar 3rd – The 28th Annual Here’s the Beef Cook-off at Yambilee Agricultural Arena

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MARDI GRAS 2013 PARADES Friday, February 1st • Krewe of Andalusia Parade, New Iberia, 6:00pm Saturday, February 2nd • Carencro Mardi Gras Parade, Carencro, 11:00am • Krewe des Chiens Canine Parade, Lafayette, 2:00pm • Krewe of Carnivale en Rio Parade, Lafayette, 6:30pm Sunday, February 3 • Scott Parade, Scott, 1 pm Friday, February 8 • Friday Night Parade, Lafayette, 6:30pm Saturday, February 9 • Children’s Parade, Lafayette, 12:30pm • Krewe of Bonaparte Parade, Lafayette, 6:30pm Monday, February 11 • Queen Evangeline’s Parade, Lafayette, 6:00pm Tuesday, February 12 • Half Fast Krewe of Frank’s Parade, Opelousas, 9:00am • King Gabriel’s Parade, Lafayette, 10:00 am • Grand Marais Mardi Gras Parade, Grand Marais/Jeanerette, 11:00am • Lafayette Mardi Gras Festival Parade, Lafayette, 1:00pm • KADN/KLAF Independent Parade, Lafayette, 2:00pm

EVENTS Sunday, February 3 • Courir du Mardi Gras at Vermilionville Friday, February 8 • Festival du Mardi Gras a Lafayette begins • 52nd Annual Church Point Courir de Mardi Gras Festival Saturday, February 9th • Le Grande Boucherie des Cajun, St. Martinville • 52nd Annual Church Point Courir de Mardi Gras Festival

Monday, February 11 • Lundi Gras Street Dance in Eunice Tuesday, February 12 • Downtown Lafayette’s Mardi Gras Costume Contest, 9 am • Mardi Gras Show at Clark Field, 5 pm

Sunday, February 10th • Old Time Boucherie in Eunice • 52nd Annual Church Point Courir de Mardi Gras Festival

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FACE | HEALTH MATTERS

How Well Do You Know Your Heart?

Heart disease is the Number 1 killer of American women.

Each year, it claims more live than the next five causes of death combined – including all forms of cancer. It causes one in every three women’s death each year, killing approximately one woman every minute. A startling 90% of women have one or more risk factors for developing heart disease.

Signs of a Heart Attack

• Uncomfortable pressure, squeezing, fullness or pain in the center of your chest. It lasts more than a few minutes, or goes away and comes back.

• Pain or discomfort in one or both arms, the back, neck, jaw or stomach.

• Shortness of breath with or without chest discomfort.

• Other signs such as breaking out in a cold sweat, nausea or lightheadedness.

• As with men, women’s most common heart attack

symptom is chest pain or discomfort, but…

• Women are somewhat more likely than men to experience some of the other common symptoms, particularly shortness of breath, nausea/vomiting and

Your Heart is in Your Hands

back or jaw pain.

By knowing the risk factors for heart disease that each of us can control, then we can make heart healthy choices that reduce our risk. Some of the most common risks for

If you have any of these signs, don’t wait more than

These are scary statistics, but there is good news. Almost all of the symptoms of heart disease are preventable.

This means that we can take significant steps to reduce our risks. The American Heart Association is committed to building healthier lives free of cardiovascular disease and stroke and together we fight to save the lives of our mothers, daughters, sisters, and friends.

five minutes before calling for help. Call 911. Get to a hospital right away.

heart disease include: • High blood pressure. Over half of all adults with high

blood pressure are women. This condition can

increase your risk of stroke and heart attack. .

• Smoking. Smoking cigarettes is the most preventable

• Diabetes. Compared to women without diabetes, women with diabetes have two to four times higher death rates from heart disease.

major risk factor of heart disease, and it increases

There are other risk factors to be aware of — talk to your

your risk two to four times that of nonsmokers.

doctor about how your age, race and heredity may affect

• High Cholesterol. 44 percent of American adults have cholesterol levels that are too high. The higher your total blood cholesterol, the greater your risk of coronary heart disease.

• Physical Inactivity. Lack of physical activity increases your risk of heart disease. Aim to get 150 minutes of moderate physical activity each week.

• Being Obese or Overweight. Over 149 million American adults are overweight. If you have excess body fat – especially at the waist – you’re more likely to develop heart disease.

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your risk for heart disease. Take heart! By learning your risks and how to limit them, we can each begin to take steps to leading a long, healthy life.

For more information, go to GoRedForWomen.org and take a free online assessment that will give you an easy-to-read report that evaluates your risk of having a heart attack or other cardiovascular events within the next decade. It also identifies risk factors that can be changed and provides a personalized action plan that can be printed and used when discussing heart health with your doctor.

Myths about Women and Heart Disease Did you know that many of the beliefs about women and their risk for heart disease are myths?

• Heart disease is always genetic. FALSE Breast cancer is more deadly to women. FALSE • Estrogen protects women from heart disease. FALSE • My health care provider will automatically perform heart-related checks at my annual checkup. FALSE • Heart disease and stroke aren’t related. FALSE • If you’re young, you’re safe from having a heart attack. FALSE Visit GoRedForWomen.org for more detailed information.

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FACE | EAT WELL

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Restaurants purchasing local is important in the slow foods movement because, unlike individual consumers, food establishments are able to buy in large quantities, which drives the local foods movement.

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Sometimes that means spending more money, over buying fruits in bulk from other vendors. But our philosophy at Carpe Diem! has always been quality first.”

“Passion drives everything we do. People see that and can taste it.”

Carpe Diem’s commitment to fresh food is obvious in the taste and presentation of their assortment of seasonal sorbetto and gelato flavors. Depending on the season, you may find flavors such as mayhaw, lemon, blueberry basil, fig, blackberry, satsuma, mandarin, lime, orange, muscadine, and persimmon.

“We offer the best of the best and pour our heart into everything we do. Passion drives everything we do. People see that and can taste it.”

If Bertolazzi isn’t sourcing fruit from her own backyard garden, she is purchasing or hand-picking produce from local farmers and even her own customers. Some of the local foods producers and growers from whom she purchases from include Mark and Mary’s City Farm, Brad Mayfield, Dr. Maher, and Eddie Romero’s Orchard. Bertolazzi notes that she is passionate about using local foods. “It shows that you care, and that you want to offer the best possible product.

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FACE | NUTRITION

Weddings, Weight, and Valentine’s Day

By: Leslie Fontenot, RD, LDN, CDE

February stirs up talk of love, chocolate, and weddings. Wedding

the courage to change the things that I can, and the wisdom to know

planning quickly leads to discussions of dresses, designers and prices.

the difference.” This prayer helps with discerning various difficult

Fittingly, for many, the stress of the dress extends to anxiety about

decisions so keep it handy for the post honeymoon years of marital

the desired dress size. This dilemma of size is not just experienced

‘bliss’ and ‘bluster’.

by the bride but often the entire wedding party including the groom and groomsmen. How many times have we seen friends or have we purchased or hung onto outfits several sizes too small and hoped the size discrepancy would motivate us to lose weight? We pray the smaller size gives us the ability to take dieting to an extreme sport level so that we can starve ourselves and lose weight quickly. We know that starvation and excessive dietary restriction are not good for us and that they negatively affect our mood, thinking, and energy level but just the sound of those small even numbers is so alluring.

Consider steering away from this diet trap and sure recipe for Bridezilla behavior by using the age old wisdom of the serenity prayer.

“God, grant me the serenity to accept the things that I cannot change,

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Now, I’m not implying that weight loss is hopeless and that you’re doomed from the start so you might as well accept it. I’m suggesting that you start with some acceptance of the size and body type that you currently inhabit. You don’t have to like your body but know that there is peace in accepting body imperfections. Focus on the more attractive aspects of your body and purchase outfits that fit and flatter your unique body type. This peace and acceptance facilitates weight loss by motivating us to set realistic goals and persist with difficulty.

Next, look objectively at your eating and exercise habits and figure out what you can reasonably change prior to the wedding. Weight loss of 1-2 pounds per week is recommended. The goals will require some “oomph” and effort. Consider these ways to lighten up:

“Be kind to yourself and put your energy into feeding yourself in a kind and loving way. “ • Remove some meat and starch from your plate and fill up that space with fruits and vegetables.

• Minimize recreational, emotional, and mindless eating. Sharpen your mindful eating habits.

• Choose a snack-size supper by replacing it with a smoothie or cereal and milk.

• Get enough sleep and breathe deeply. Studies show that sleep deprivation and lack of oxygen make us fat.

• Limit restaurant meals to once weekly.

Valentine’s Day reminds me how we are often nice to others, yet

• Snack on small portions of fruits, vegetables, yogurt, low fat cheese, or nuts.

exceedingly tough on ourselves. Bullying ourselves around our weight

• Spend 15 minutes daily doing strategic meal planning and or grocery shopping.

esteem, and wasted time that cause us to miss out on the true joyful

• Start meals with a hot broth based soup or a big salad with low fat dressing. The heat, liquid, and fiber will help you to feel satiated with smaller portions.

yourself in a kind and loving way. Set fair limits with yourself and

• Drink a big glass of water between meals and snacks. Staying hydrated revs up metabolism and helps you burn more calories.

• Start an exercise program or exercise more frequently. Begin working in some activities that firm up exposed arm and back muscles like weight training, yoga, or Pilates.

• Pass up salty foods and alcohol to avoid added weight caused by bloating and fluid retention.

and eating always backfires and results in eating disorders, poor selfmoments in life. Be kind to yourself, and put your energy into feeding create reasonable and achievable goals.

The next time you receive a wedding announcement in the mail or notice that Wal-mart has put out their Valentine’s Day candy in December, take these invitations as an opportunity to focus on the people and the true meaning of weddings and Valentine’s Day. Make it more about love and less about the dress size.

About the author: Leslie Fontenot, RD, LDN, CDE is a Dietitian and Diabetes Educator in Lafayette.

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GRAMMYs, nous voilà!

By Tyler F. Thigpen and Flint Zerangue, Jr.

Louisiana musicians have been winning GRAMMYs since the founding of the award in 1958. Talented musicians are as common in Acadiana as art galleries in New York City, and the worldwide music community is well aware.

Acadiana’s musicians are repeatedly recognized for their talent, contribution to cultural music, and being competitive among the best of the best throughout the years.

The highly esteemed GRAMMY is recognized as the greatest achievement in music, and the only multi-national musical accomplishment that is awarded by peers and given independent of sales/chart position. “The peer-voting process is what makes the GRAMMY awards meaningful,” says Lucius A. Fontenot, co-owner of Valcour Records (the label has received 5 GRAMMY nominees for various albums). “It’s not a popularity contest where everyone can vote. To have fellow musicians and industry people who you have deep respect for say that your album is the best of the year, well, that’s an honor.”

In 2008 GRAMMY winning Zydeco musician Terrence Simien and his wife, Cynthia, pioneered the Cajun/Zydeco category, which existed until 2011 when the category was eliminated as part of a large-scale downsizing of award categories. Although it was short lived, the presence of Acadiana artists persists within a new Best Regional Roots category.

“I think the Cajun/Zydeco GRAMMY category shined a bigger spotlight on our music on a very big stage and that is always a good thing, however, I like competing with other genres of roots music and roots musicians from other parts of the country,” says Steve Riley, a four-time GRAMMY nominee. “I think the new category works well and Acadiana has had a presence at the GRAMMYs every year since the category was omitted. So, it’s all good!”

With no surprise, Acadiana music gained two spots in the category of Best Regional Roots with Cajun music from The Band Courtbouillon and Zydeco jams composed by Corey Ledet.

Although Acadiana is most known for its contributions to the Cajun/Zydeco genre, the industry is beginning to observe the vast array of musical talent we have to offer. That was proven this year with the nomination of Breaux Bridge native, Hunter Hayes. Hunter surprised everyone by receiving three GRAMMY nominations this year, making him even more of a local celebrity. In addition to his album, Hunter Hayes, being nominated for Best Country Album, he also received a nomination for Best Country Solo Performance for his song “Wanted”. These two nominees were overshadowed when Hunter also received a nomination for New Artist of the Year. Hunter is competing in this category alongside New Orleans native and R&B artist, Frank Ocean.

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“I think the Cajun/Zydeco GRAMMY category shined a bigger spotlight on our music on a very big stage and that is always a good thing...”

To have fellow musicians and industry people who you have deep respect for say that your album is the best of the year, well, that’s an honor.”

While the GRAMMYs are an honor, they are not wholly representative of the talent out there. “I think it’s important to celebrate all of the music and musicians from Acadiana, and not just for their recognition from the GRAMMYs,” notes Eric Frey of The Band Courtbouillon. “While the GRAMMYs garner a certain hype both in the Nation and the World, the music from here stands up on a World Stage already. People from all over the globe travel here to enjoy and dance to the music that we are able to hear any day of the week. I think that deserves more celebration than all the GRAMMYs ever minted.” Most musicians, GRAMMY associated or not, tend to agree.

The Deep South, in general, has made its mark on many forms of music including Jazz, Rock n’ Roll, Blues, Cajun, Creole, Zydeco, and it’s certainly something we should all be proud of. Without a community of supportive citizens, the world may have never noticed the talent that resides here. It’s a symbiotic relationship that we need to continue to embrace by going to concerts, buying CD’s and spreading the word about one of the richest cultures in the world.

Photo of Steve Riley courtesy of Lucius A. Fontenot of Valcour Records

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In Celebration of Presidents’ Day

Interesting Facts about U.S. Presidents You May Have Never Known The celebration of Presidents’ Day began in 1885 as a tribute to President George Washington and traditionally, the holiday was celebrated on February 22nd, George Washington’s birthday.

That all changed in 1971 with the signing of the Uniform Monday Holiday Act. The Uniform Monday Holiday Act was an act of congress that moved Washington’s birthday, Veteran’s Day, Memorial Day, and Columbus Day from fixed dates to designated Monday’s as an effort to give our nation’s workers more threeday weekends. It was during this act that the celebration of Washington’s Birthday became a celebration of all past and present presidents, thus becoming Presidents’ Day. Now that we all have something to thank Congress for, here are some interesting things you may not have known about some of our Presidents: 1. With the reelection of President Obama, we’ve now had three two-term presidents in a row. This event is so rare, you’ll have to go back 200 years to find the last consecutive winning streak (Jefferson, Madison, Monroe). In fact, Americans born after 1980 have seen only one president seek reelection and lose: George H.W. Bush.

2. Richard Nixon was first to visit all 50 states.

3. Abraham Lincoln is the only U.S. president who was also a licensed bartender. He was co-owner of Berry and Lincoln, a saloon in Springfield, Illinois.

4. The only president to be unanimously elected was George Washington. He also refused to accept his presidential salary, which was $25,000 a year.

5. “Teddy Bears” were so named when Theodore “Teddy” Roosevelt refused to shoot a small bear cub one day. The incident was reported in the news, which inspired a toy manufacture to come out with the cute stuffed animals.

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7. Ronald Wilson Reagan won the Most Nearly Perfect Male Figure Award from the University of California in 1940.

8. James Garfield was ambidextrous and could write Latin with one hand and Greek with the other hand simultaneously.

9. Abraham Lincoln was the first president to ever be photographed at his inauguration. In the photo, he is standing near John Wilkes Booth, his future assassin.

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10. Much has been written about the Lincoln-Kennedy assassination coincidences, including:

-Both had seven letters in their last names.

-Both were shot in the head on a Friday seated beside their wives.

-Lincoln was shot at Ford’s Theatre. Kennedy was shot in a Lincoln Limo, which was made by Ford.

-Lincoln was in Box 7 at Ford’s Theatre, and Kennedy was in Car 7 of the Dallas motorcade.

-Both assassins had three names with 15 letters (John Wilkes Booth and Lee Harvey Oswald).

-Both were elected to the U.S. House of Representatives for the first time in ’46 (1846/1946), were runners-up for their party’s nomination for vice president in ’56, and were elected president in ’60.

11. During his second run for presidency, Teddy Roosevelt was shot by a would-be assassin while giving a speech in Milwaukee. He continued to deliver his speech with the bullet in his chest.

12. Calvin Coolidge liked to have his head rubbed with petroleum jelly while eating his breakfast in bed.

13. The capital of Liberia is called Monrovia after President James Monroe.

14. Sixth president John Quincy Adams had a pet alligator that lived in a bathtub at the White House 15. John Adams and Thomas Jefferson (America’s second and third presidents) both died on the same day, July 4th 1826, exactly fifty years after the signing of the Declaration of Independence. Adam’s last words are said to be ‘Jefferson survives’ when in fact Jefferson had died hours earlier.

16. Grover Cleveland was almost literally a cradle robber. He married the daughter of his law partner, at whose birth he was present. When his partner died, Cleveland became the girl’s legal guardian. Several years later, they got married at the White House, and had a child, Ruth (the namesake of the candy bar Baby Ruth).

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Children’s Dental Health Month

By: Dr. Leslie Jacobs Ste Marie

Developing good habits at an early age helps children get a good start on a lifetime of healthy teeth and gums.

Awareness of potential dental health issues in small children is key to ensuring dental health. Here are a couple of common situations:

Baby Bottle Tooth Decay Baby bottle tooth decay occurs when teeth are exposed frequently, and at length, to liquids that contain sugar. The liquid provides food for the bacteria in plaque, a sticky film that forms constantly on the teeth. When bacteria consume the sugar, they produce acid, and this acid attacks your child’s teeth, causing decay.

How can decay be prevented?

• Begin cleaning your child’s teeth as soon as they erupt by wiping teeth and gums with a clean, damp washcloth or a very soft infant toothbrush after each feeding.

• If your child takes a bottle to bed or needs the comfort of a bottle for long periods during the day, put only water in the bottle, or switch to a pacifier.

• Use a sippy-cup only at mealtime or put water in the cup between meals.

• Begin flossing your child’s teeth daily when any of the teeth touch.

• Bring your child in to see us every six months, beginning when the first tooth erupts or by your child’s first birthday.

Dental Emergencies What if my child’s baby tooth is knocked out?

Do not scrub it or clean it with soap. Clean only with water.

Why is this condition serious?

It can lead to toothaches, which can make it difficult for your child to eat. Left untreated, the decay can also cause infection, which may result in the need to have the teeth removed. If baby teeth are lost too early, your child could suffer from poor nutrition, speech problems, crooked teeth, and permanent damage of adult teeth.

Which liquids cause decay?

All liquids that contain sugar can cause baby bottle tooth decay.

This includes breast milk and cow’s milk (which contain the sugar lactose), formula, fruit juice (which contains the sugar fructose), as well as soda pop and other sweetened drinks.

Your child’s teeth are vulnerable to decay from the moment they break through the gums. You may not even notice the decay until it is too late to save the teeth. It is crucial that you prevent baby bottle tooth decay from occurring in the first place.

Promoting good oral hygiene when your child is young can prevent baby bottle tooth decay and promote good dental habits that will last a lifetime.

save the tooth, prevent infection and reduce the need for extensive dental treatment.

If possible, replace the tooth in the socket and hold it there with

What about a severe blow to the head or jaw fracture?

clean gauze or a wash cloth. If you cannot put it in the socket,

Go immediately to the emergency room of your local hospital.

place the tooth in a clean container with milk, saliva, or water.

A blow to the head can be life threatening.

Get to the pediatric dentist immediately (call the emergency number if it is after hours). The faster you act, the better your chances of saving the tooth.

What if my child has a toothache?

Call your pediatric dentist and visit the office promptly.

Ibuprofen may help to relieve the discomfort in the meantime.

What if a tooth is chipped or fractured?

Regular dental visits and preventive care can prevent

Contact your pediatric dentist immediately. Quick action can

unnecessary toothaches.

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Creating Balance in Blended Families With blended families representing approximately one-third of all households in the United States, growing discussion and concern have been raised on how to balance the needs of each family member, especially those of the child and teen family member. While the new couple may have excitement and high hopes over the newly formed family, various obstacles and family factors lend to children and teens often requiring a longer adjustment period. Thus, a three-prong approach may ease the multiple transitions experienced by children and teens within a blended family: 1. Allow time and planning to create a firm family foundation.

2. Focus on parenting.

3. Take special consideration of each child’s needs.

These steps may create a path in balancing everyone’s needs, engendering harmony within a newly formed family.

“A harmonious blended family does not occur by happenstance.

It requires time, patience, consideration, and openness to the new emerging family dynamic.”

Create a Firm Family Foundation As is the case with any network of close relationships, a harmonious blended family does not occur by happenstance.

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• Take it slow. Multiple changes all at once can be unsettling for children and teens. Research indicates that blended families where the couple waits two years or more to remarry after divorce have the highest success rate.

• Limit adult expectations. Don’t expect

for your stepchildren to fall in love with

you instantly. Love and affection, for

anyone, takes time to develop.

• Leave the repeated fantastical outings at the door, and opt for real life experiences. It is all too tempting to schedule multiple fun-filled theme park visits, indulgent shopping sprees, and excessive vacations. This may provide quite a bit of family fun, but it falls short of giving everyone an idea of what life will be like in the new family. Attempt to experience everyday life together as a means to create stronger bonds over time.

• Make respect a must. While it may take time for everyone to begin to like and adjust to spending time together, everyone should be expected to treat each other with respect.

• Establish new family traditions. Whether it is a game night, or a regularly occurring dinner time, creating family traditions

helps to unify a family.

Focus on Parenting With two families joining as one, there is likely some disparity in the form and methods of discipline between the two previously separate households. Beyond parenting differences, there may also be a wide gap in the ages of the children within the blended family, variable levels of parenting experience, and differing relationship status with the other natural parents. It is a delicate situation for any stepparent to delve into when it comes to the discipline of stepchildren. Some guidelines to consider may include:

• Make parenting changes before you marry if needed. In order to create a smoother transition, discuss and attempt to agree with your new spouse on how you plan to parent together, making any necessary changes before you marry.

• Establish clear boundaries for everyone. With clearly outlined boundaries for each stepparent when it comes to child discipline and clear boundaries and expectation of child behavior, this will decrease the possible anger or resentment that may ensue without such boundaries.

• Consider roles for each parent.

It may be best to allow the biological parent to remain primarily responsible for their child’s discipline, until the stepparent has developed a solid bond with the child.

• Create a list of easily viewed family rules. These rules may apply to all family members. It may also be helpful to understand the rules and boundaries for the children in their other family homes, attempting to be fairly consistent with such.

• Focus on the new bond of marriage.

Without the marriage, there would be no family. Any family, blended or not, is more successful when the marriage is strong and solid. In the blended family, this may require effective communication skills, in order to reduce the likelihood of hidden and growing resentment and frustration.

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• Be unified. When it comes to rules, chores, discipline, allowance, etc., each parent should strive to respond similarly to the other parent in order to reduce any unfairness that may creep in.

“With clearly outlined boundaries for each stepparent when it comes to child discipline and clear boundaries and expectation of child behavior, this will decrease the possible anger or resentment that may ensue without such boundaries.”

Consider the Child’s Needs For the stepparent, establishing a healthy relationship with a stepchild can be difficult and confusing at times. For many children and teens, entering into a blended family may bring up a high level of uncertainty.

They may be unsure of various family factors, including how their relationship with their natural parents may be affected given the changes in their family structure.

Thus, considering the child’s needs and attempting to meet those needs within the capacity as a stepparent may engender a sense if trust, thereby easing this likely uncertainty.

All children have very basic needs, with some variability based on age, gender, and personality. From this perspective, children have the need to feel: • Loved. Children like to see your

affection, but remember this is a

gradual process.

• Safe and secure. After the oftenuncertain experience of divorce, it is integral that children in a blended family know they can trust their new stepparents and parents alike.

• Heard and connected. Allow a judgment-free atmosphere whereby the child sees their perspective being heard and appreciated.

• Limits and boundaries. Children need some form of boundaries, communicating to them that they are safe and cared for. As a stepparent, it may be best to work with your spouse in setting limits.

• Appreciated and encouraged. Children and teens respond to meaningful praise and encouragement. It is key to draw attention to their positive contributions to the family.

• Some level of power in the new relationship. When creating a bond with stepchildren, it is important that the child sets the pace of how fast the relationship will progress. This pace may be determined by their age, as younger children may adjust more easily to new family relationships than adolescents.

be best to seek outside help from a mental health professional. These times may include, among others:

• A child repeatedly directs anger towards another family member.

• A child’s previous social, academic, or recreational involvement or activity drops.

• A child frequently cries or withdraws from the family, refusing to talk about their upset feelings.

• A parent openly shows favoritism

toward one child.

• The family members experience

no pleasure from the usually

enjoyable family activities.

About the author: Dr. Annie W. Spell is a licensed clinical psychologist, specializing in the assessment and treatment of children and adolescents. She currently provides services within the private practice setting, working with children facing variable psychological and learning difficulties.

Dr. Spell has also worked within the school setting, pediatric clinics, and the juvenile justice system. She is the psychological

“After the often uncertain experience of divorce, it is integral that children in a blended family know they can trust their new stepparents and parents alike.”

contributor to LEAP ’N LEARN, an early childhood movement education syllabus sold and used worldwide. Additionally, her research on childhood responses following trauma has been published in professional psychological journals, as well

Given these guidelines, one can be hopeful that the child members in their blended family will feel loved and emotionally supported. However, there are times it may

as in a book chapter.

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A Day for the Loved, Not Just Lovers: A Simple Guide for a Married-With-Kids Valentine’s Day Every year during the weeks preceding Valentine’s Day, couples

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If you’re a parent who loves to cook, fix up a fancy meal to

around the world reminisce about the early years they spent

enjoy with the family. If cooking wasn’t exactly what you

together; when the two of you had time to plan an extravagant

had on your mind then get dressed up and have a family

day together or even enjoy a romantic dinner out. Sure, you may

dinner together at your favorite restaurant.

still get a “Happy Valentine’s Day, Babe”, but it’s no surprise

• Take the opportunity to get the whole family involved in

that as life grows increasingly fast paced, that this day tends to

making an after dinner delight. Instant cupcake mixes

get left on the back burner.

only take 15-20 minutes to make. Each of you can make a cupcake for every member in the family and decorate it in

Let’s face it, things aren’t ever going to be quite the same; and

a way that shows the love you have for that person in an

it’s not because you two have lost any love for one another,

intimate way.

it’s because the two of you have chosen to bring an even more sacred abundance of love into the world, your children.

• Every child loves pancakes and what better way to remind them that it is Valentine’s Day then a stack of red, heart-

Now that we’ve reached that time when our families are a huge

shaped pancakes! A little red food dye and a cookie-cutter

portion of our lives, its time we re-learn how to celebrate this

makes an easy breakfast ten times more fun!

holiday. It’s not about what you do for Valentine’s Day, it’s about whom you do “what” with. This year incorporate your children

•

Valentine’s Day gifts are usually exchanged between

in your Valentines plans! For years we’ve understood this

husband and wife but why not give your kids a small gift for

holiday to be a day for lovers, however, let us remind ourselves

them to enjoy. Some candy or a small teddy bear is an easy

that we now have loved ones, not just a lover and the day can

and simple gift that doesn’t seem like much but will mean

be equally fun for the whole family.

the world to them.

Here are some ideas on how to make this Valentines Day one to be remembered:

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After you’ve had a great family night and your spouse is beginning to think about the next workday…stop them; and take this time for just the two of you. Share memories of

•

Are you the mom that packs a lunch for the whole family

the experiences you’ve had together on Valentine’s Day in

every day? I bet you could find time to slip an “I love you”

the past. Furthermore, take this time for romance with the

note as well as a few favored goodies into each one of

one you chose to love and live with forever.

those lunch boxes.

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Finding Your Positive Career The most common thought patterns that create failure, and the guide to transforming them into a positive lifestyle that will accelerate your career.

We have all heard the familiar saying, “Find the job you love and you’ll never work a day in your life,” and then spent countless hours rummaging through job postings for the one that describes, word for word, what we love. Where is that job that basically spells out your name as the job title? In reality, you probably already have your dream job. It might just be covered up by the wrong thoughts.

The path to fulfilling your career dreams, while rewarding, can also be full of speed bumps. It can be very easy to find yourself stuck in a negative mind set, yet a quick change from negative to positive thinking will allow you to immediately find fulfillment in your current career and guarantee that you will reach long term success. The following guide will help you take those negative thoughts and patterns harmful to your professional wellbeing and transform them into positive ones that are certain to improve your current career.

“Your attitude determines whether you achieve failure or success.”

Assessing Your Work. When working on a new project or toward a new goal, you might often set your goals on perfection and identifying anything less than perfect as failure. Yet our world is full of people, things, places, and events that are imperfect, but still successful. Aspiring only to reach perfection is simply setting you up for failure. Instead, adjust the evaluation methods you use to assess your level of success rather than your level of perfection.

Accepting Responsibility . When approaching the important things in life, a successful person takes responsibility and action, rather than just leaving it up to fate. To achieve your career goals, you must do the same. All too often professionals use poor luck as an excuse for a project or deal that failed In addition, some also attribute their success to “good luck.” Luck in both cases eventually creates failure. Next time, rather than blaming a failure on luck, identify what you could have done better and what actions you will take to fix the situation. In addition, when you succeed, be proud of your accomplishment and use what you learned to further your career.

Teaming Up With the Competition. Today’s market is full of competition, whether it is the other applicants for the job, that colleague that is also up for a promotion, or another company in your same market. Many professionals often confuse these competitors as enemies. In order for you to succeed, the “enemy” must fail. This mind set not only creates a negative atmosphere, it also can be limiting. Great ideas are inspired by competition, and many great business partnerships are a joining of two competitors. Thus if you only view your competition as an enemy, you will miss the ideas your competition can inspire and even the possibilities you both possess at a team.

Defining Your Goals. All too often, especially in the workplace, we can allow others’ perceptions of us to determine our own self worth. For example, you might put that extra pressure to meet standards or display an outward success to avoid having others think negatively of you. As a result of constantly trying to achieve others’ expectations of you, you will fail to achieve your own goals. Rather than allowing

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By Danielle M. Dayries others’ opinions define you, find your own self worth. Take control; set your own expectations for yourself and your career. This will not only lead you to personal satisfaction, but also allow you to find a career that you enjoy and will be successful in.

“Stop dwelling on excuses and start focusing on your talents, small triumphs, capabilities, accomplishments, and career goals. “ All too many professionals spend a great deal of time transferring between jobs, looking to fulfill their career dreams. Yet, they have actually abandoned it in the search. Use these simple changes in thought patterns to help you prevent

this mistake by breaking the limiting beliefs you have placed on yourself, the people around you, and your current career so that you can transform your job into your dream career.

Stop dwelling on excuses on why you have not reached success and start focusing on your talents, small triumphs, capabilities, accomplishments, and career goals. Your attitude determines whether you achieve your dreams.

About the author: As the owner of the local resumé writing, outplacement, and career-consulting firm, DMD & Associates, Danielle assists her clients in reaching their career goals by developing personalized career plans and offering career counseling to assure each individual is on the right path to career success. Contact Danielle at careeradvisor@cox.net, (337) 504-5576, or dmdcareerconsulting.com.

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Love —It’s an Artesian Well!

Ever noticed how people’s faces light up with interest and warmth when someone tells of getting engaged or of having a baby or of adopting a new pet? We respond that way, because we all love to hear a love story. It’s in our bones. I saw this clearly 24 years ago after I had met Jim, my soulmate and future husband I saw some old friends in a card store and burst out with, “I’m in love!” Every head in the store turned to me with warmth.

You have had love experiences in your life. Maybe it was a great love. Maybe it was a whiff. Perhaps it wasn’t a romantic story but still a story of love.

We cherish the story we experienced of the little mother bird who built her nest at the top of the brick post on our patio; who every day knocked herself out bringing food to her babies. We were charmed one night when she sat above us on the

post and drowsily listened while we sang love songs.

“All that a man has to say or do that can possibly concern mankind, is in some shape or other to tell the story of his love.” -H.D. Thoreau Thoreau had it right. At the heart of all mankind and of our endeavors in this life is to experience love and then to find a way to let our lives tell that love story.

And love is not scarce. There is an artesian well of love inside each of us. It’s deep in our being, and it’s always ready to flow.

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Each time you feel warm feelings for someone at the post office who holds the door for you or someone you pass in the grocery story aisle, that’s love you’re feeling.

And when you express those feelings with a smile or a handshake, or a hug, that is love too.

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Then there’s the love you feel for your friends and family. Each time you feel that surge of pleasure when you hear their voices on the phone or reconnect with them

during the day, that’s love too.

• And that melting passion you’ve felt for the partners you’ve had in life-- that, of course, is love too.

But, here’s a truth about love: You don’t even have to physically know the other person. You can feel the love for your fellow human beings. Every outpouring of caring for those around the world who are suffering—that’s love. And when you feed the birds-- that’s love too. And when you pet your dog or cat, that’s love too. See? There’s no stopping love.

It truly is like an artesian well, flowing forever.

But you may say, “That love is over; it’s gone.” You know what? It doesn’t matter, because love never dies. We’ve seen this over and over in others, and we know it in ourselves. Even if your relationship ended, watch what happens when you run into that person, or even think of them, and really, they don’t even have to be alive. You can still feel a surge of love. You may not want to live with them, but the warm feelings remain. And that’s the wonderful

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thing. Love never dies.

You have a love story to tell too. And we all want to hear it. Let’s spread the love this month. Tell your love story to someone.

Here’s wishing you a month of love!

About the author: Kathryn Elliott, Ph.D., is a Licensed Professional Counselor-Supervisor and Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist. She is Director of Anthetic Psychology Center in Lafayette. She also has been a counselor educator since 1985, training graduate students in mental health counseling.

She is co-author with her husband, Dr. James Elliott of the book, Disarming Your Inner Critic. Kathryn appears weekly on Sunday Passe Partout on KLFY TV-10 in “Dr. Kathryn Elliott: On Relationships.” She also has appeared in Modern Bride, Good Housekeeping, and Web MD.

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Second Weddings

Grace Notes for a first class celebration.

“Love is lovelier, the second time around,” as sung beautifully by Frank Sinatra. And as beautiful as a second love may be, planning a second wedding can seem tricky due to prior relationships and concern for appropriateness. Allow these Grace Notes to smooth your path to a graceful and lovely celebration.

First, let’s be specific on what exactly qualifies as a second wedding.

A wedding is considered to be a “second” wedding only if the bride has been married. The fact that the groom has been married before has no effect on the size or elegance of a bride’s first wedding.

Second weddings (or third, fourth, etc.) may be as beautiful, reverent, and meaningful as the first, but to be in the best taste, they should be dignified and simple.

Engagement: If you are planning a second wedding, a main concern should be the effect it has on any children you have from your previous marriage. Rebecca Black of Etiquette Now advises that your children should be the first to know of your engagement, followed by your parents and, if joint custody is an issue, your ex-husband.

Who pays? If you’re getting married for the second time, you and your spouse-to-be should pay all of the bills for the wedding. While your parents may have helped pay for

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the first time around, they shouldn’t be obligated to a repeat performance.

Tasteful Second Wedding Ceremonies and Receptions: A widow’s second marriage may take place in any of the places a first wedding takes place. A divorcee may be married in church if her faith permits it, or in her home or her parents’ home or she may simply be married in a civil ceremony.

Whether the bride wears white for a second marriage isn’t nearly as big an etiquette issue as it once was when the color was more closely associated with virginity. While white is no longer considered to be in poor taste for second weddings, most second-time brides opt for off-white or other colored attire.

“A wedding is considered to be a “second” wedding only if the bride has been married. The fact that the groom has been married before has no effect on the size or elegance of a bride’s first wedding.”

A second-time bride usually does not have more than one or two attendants.

The procession can be eliminated, with the bride, groom, maid of honor and best man merely coming in from a side room and standing in front of the minister when the ceremony is to begin.

The ceremony itself is exactly the same as that of a first wedding, whether held in church or at home.

The reception is exactly like any other wedding reception. The location of a reception is determined, just as it is for a first wedding, by the formality of the occasion, the number of guests, and the budget.

Choose which traditions you wish to include. You can still do a bouquet toss, cake cutting, dad/daughter dance, and any other wedding traditions, depending on how you have set the tone of the wedding.

Invitations: When the bride and groom pay for their own wedding and reception, the invitations are typically sent in their names. This means that rather than the invitation being worded, “Mr. and Mrs. John Smith request the honor of your presence at the marriage of their daughter Jane Marie to Ken Brown,” it would instead say, “Jane Smith and Ken Brown request the honor of your presence at their marriage.”

Even if a couple would prefer not to receive gifts, it is considered to be in poor taste to have the words “No Gifts” imprinted on your wedding invitation because it indicates that the couple assumes they will be receiving gifts. According to Peggy Post of the Emily Post Institute on weddingchannel.com, do not expect wedding gifts, especially from guests who attended your first wedding.

Whom to invite? Make a guest list.

You may want to either include or

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exclude former in-laws and your ex-husband depending on your relationship with them. If you still have children at home, this can be an important decision. The decision to invite “ex” family members should be one made in total unison. You must decide if it would create an embarrassing situation with the new family if the first in-laws attend. You must simply do what seems best and will make everyone happiest.

Bridal Showers? Tell your friends

what you expect in regards to a shower or party. Bridal showers are acceptable for a second wedding.

Make sure your family and friends are aware of your needs in terms of gifts, as registering for gifts may cause you to seem brazen.

“Second weddings (or third, fourth, etc.) may be as beautiful, reverent, and meaningful as the first, but... should be dignified and simple.”

Best wishes to all of Acadiana’s lovely brides from Grace Notes!

May you live happily ever after and enjoy true love.

About the authors: Lynley Jones and Jan Swift are partners in Grace Notes, LLC, an etiquette endeavor to help further society’s niceties. They may be reached at gracenotesetiquette@yahoo.com.

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Wedding Trends of 2013 Your wedding is one of the biggest days of your life and one that you will want to remember forever.

This year make your wedding not only an event you will remember, but one that all your friends will remember (and try to live up to) as well! Stay ahead of the curve with this year’s hottest trends. Here are just a few:

A Return to Elegance Bring back the classic elegance to weddings.

With the release of movies like The Great Gatsby and television shows like Downton Abbey, brides are wanting to incorporate the simplistic elegance and classic look of the early 1900’s. Bring back these elements through the design of the bride and attendants’ dresses, the theme of the reception, through elements of décor and furnishings and even with tableware such as gold flatware and chargers.

Birds Lovebirds can’t help but sing out ‘romance’ and continue to make a bold appearance in wedding accoutrement like invitations, cake decorations, centerpieces and general décor.

Culinary Trend of the Year: Spotlight Your Heritage

Color Trends Even the color selections are making a move back to the traditional. Neutral tones of taupe, grey, black and cream are perfect choices to achieve that air of classic formality and sophistication.

Even though there is a trend toward the traditional, it is not for everyone. Color is still a hit whether as a theme or a simple pop of color. Growing in popularity in 2012, the color MINT will be the IT color for 2013 and is especially fitting for the vintage, retro theme.

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Reception Lounges This is an element more and more people are opting to add to their wedding receptions. Along with the dance floor, and the tables for family and friends, add a separate but adjoined reception lounge.

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Extended Receptions Wedding receptions are now being extended and starting to move away from the traditional vibe. There is still the dinner and toasts, but after all that is when the fun really starts.

Think of it as an after party for the reception, a time where grandma and grandpa can go home while

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Extended receptions can be held at the same venue, or for a more “after party” feel have all the willing guests move to a more relaxed location.

Color of the Year: Mint Flower of the Year: Peony (again!)

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Cakes Opposite ends of the spectrum are anticipated in 2013 for cakes. Simple, classic elegance and romance envelops the wedding cake in gorgeous neutrals mimicking details of the wedding dress, lace and embellishments. Pops of color will be added to the classic wedding cake but outrageous color will continue in grooms’ cakes and other culinary arts.

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Invitations Classic and traditional is also returning to the invitations. Elegant invitations using ‘letter press’ technology and design is making a comeback but is kept modern with pops of color. ‘Wedding’ invitations can range from Save the Date, Bridal Shower, Engagement Party, After Party, Brunch, Groom’s Party, Bachelor and Bachelorette parties, Rehearsal Dinner and of course, the wedding itself. Be careful…Invitations can become the biggest runaway cost!

More Groom Involvement In recent years there has been a growing trend in groom involvement. The wedding day is as much for him as it is for you and now it’s his chance to have a little say in what goes on. Let the groom have input on what he would like to see in the reception lounge or help him design a specialty groom’s cake. You could even let him help out in the planning and therefore see some of his ideas incorporated into you two’s big day.

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Beer... At Your Wedding?

Champagne is the classic, sophisticated libation of choice at weddings, so where does beer fit in?

Or does it? With the growth in microbrews and craft beers market, there are quite a few options available that may add that special twist to your wedding celebration or allow for an extra level of creativity. Craft beers can be utilized in the culinary heritage theme and some brewers may even allow specialty labels to mark your special occasion. Mixed with a ‘reception lounge’ theme for the groom, it is also the perfect opportunity to get the groom more involved in the planning.

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Tradition and sophistication doesn’t have to be boring…

For the Guys: 2013 Tuxedo Trends They say that history repeats itself and while that may not be true for everything, it certainly is true in regards to what’s hot for Tuxedos in 2013. The traditional look is back! Leave the bright colors at home because the standard black & white tuxedo is what wedding parties across the nation are wearing. No, not coat tails and top hats, that piece of history is not repeating itself, but the classic bow ties, suspenders, and a few other components of the “classic” look are definitely back. Here are a few key components to keep in mind when choosing your tux in 2013:

-Bow ties, suspenders and cummerbunds in matching or contrasting colors

-Square toed, flat black shoes as opposed to the recent round-toe trend

-Striped pants in tonal or pinstripes

-Custom cuff links of your choice

Trends and selected photos from TheKnot.com, Blush129, Weddings Illustrated, Strictly Weddings, Bella Figura, Timeless Paper, The Bride Link, Wedding Elation, Mary Ellen’s Tuxedo Shop and Lowry’s Printing.

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Flash Wedding

There are many trends in weddings these days that change year to year: classic and traditional, shabby chic, vintage charm, outdoor rustic, do-it-yourself, and then the trends seem to start over again. But what never goes away is the desire to make your wedding day something to remember, to hold close to your heart and be representative of who you are as a life-long couple.

So is it possible to invent your own personal wedding trend? Teresa and John Pastor think so and did just that. On New Year’s Eve 2012, Teresa and John who share a wild sense of spontaneity, got married…numerous times.

“We decided one week in advance, so we wanted something simple, personal and fun, not the big weddings that everyone does,” shares Teresa. “We really made it all up as we went along. We chose things that we wanted because we had been to so many bland weddings in the past, that we just wanted it to be fun and about us. We weren’t concerned about it being perfect, just about loving each other.”

“My dress came from Charisma. I walked into their store and told them I had 30 minutes to pick a dress to take with me, so Jason, who works there and is a long-time friend gave me three options, but when I saw that one, I knew it was the one. It was a strapless dress with a stone belt around the waste, a ruffle skirt & lace-up back.”

“We did the formal service at a friend’s house with the Justice of the Peace and a room filled with candles. We wrote our own vows and my friend, Laura Steiner played Sea of Love by Cat Power on her ukulele. We had a DJ for all of the other music, which was a mix of current indie songs like Marry Song

by Band of Horses. Our cake was a gluten-free chocolate praline cake from Everything Else is Cake. Instead of a toast, we did a “roast” during which all of our guests made jokes about us. Then we sang a duet, which was hilarious, by the way, called ‘In Spite of Ourselves’ by John Prine & Iris Dement. John played the guitar. All of our food was catered by Cafe Vermillionville. All of my kids were in the wedding. My 15-year-old son, Zyron walked me down the aisle, my 8-year-old daughter, Elise was my flower girl and Liam, 5 years old, was my little ring bearer. He kept us from crying through the ceremony because he kept falling on the floor and cracking us up. What a ham!”

Similar to the trendy ‘flash mobs’ and ‘flash choirs’ where people in the crowd participate in spontaneous dancing or singing events, Teresa and John embarked upon an evening of flash weddings.

“From our friend’s house, we piled up as many people as we could into the limo and had a rolling wedding. We stopped at as many places in town as possible before midnight; Ruth’s Chris, Cafe Vermillionville, Cafe Cottage, and Artmosphere, to name a few. Every place we stopped we did another ‘flash

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wedding’ with our wedding party. We invented the flash wedding... miniweddings at random locations. The finale was back at the house where we got married before a huge fireworks display and we spent the night at T-Frere’s Bed & Breakfast because John’s parents own it. It was the night of our lives and we had a blast!” beams Teresa.

“A lot of our friends pitched in, so we let them do what they wanted to do so that they could add their personal touches to our wedding,” shares Teresa. “It was incredibly special to us to have all of our friends involved in their own artistic way. Our wedding party was just a couple of our friends, dressed in New Year’s Eve Party clothes, nothing formal.”

At the first place we stopped after the wedding, Cafe Cottage, all of our friends in the limo became the wedding party and a friend ‘married’ us.

From there we picked up strangers and random people excited about a spontaneous wedding.” Teresa and John were married at each location including being married by members of a band.

“Our goal is to have 50 flash weddings the first year we are married. I think we are at number eight. I know we can do it. Our plan is to have our one-year anniversary in New York’s Times Square and have another flash wedding as the ball drops.”

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Green Weddings (BPT) - You’re ready to say your “I do’s” in front of your

possible to achieve a great vintage look with a used wedding

family and friends. Planning a memorable celebration of your

dress - whether it’s one handed down from your mother or

commitment to each other, however, doesn’t mean you have

one you found in a second-hand store. A new gown can cost

to compromise on your commitment to the environment.

thousands of dollars, while a repurposed dress can be had much

It’s possible to create the wedding of your dreams and stay

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“green,” even in the cold, white months of winter.

Greener Invitations Environmentally correct weddings are a hot trend, according

The invitation is often the first impression guests will have

to TheKnot.com, a leading wedding-planning website. If your

of your wedding. While every bride wants invitations that

vision of the perfect wedding marries eco-friendly green with

will wow guests, keep in mind the costs - both monetary and

winter white, here are some tips and ideas to help you turn your

environmental - of all that paper. Many eco-minded brides are

vision into reality:

switching to invitations made with recycled paper or, better yet, electronic invitations.

Friendly Feasting Great food is an essential part of any wedding, whether you’re

No raw materials are consumed to create e-vites, and what’s

serving a sit-down dinner or just hors d’oeuvres and cocktails.

more, you can find online services that not only help you create

When you’re planning your menu, however, keep in mind how

an e-vite, but send it and monitor responses all online. Using

the foods you choose may impact the environment. For example,

such a service can help you keep better track of RSVPs.

is that fish entree net caught, line caught or farmed?

There is the option of sending invitations printed on recycled A dish’s environmental impact depends on several factors,

paper with flower seeds imbedded in the paper. Your guests can

including how the product was raised and harvested, how it

plant the invitation in their garden, and remember your special

was transported and how far it had to travel from point of origin

occasion every time they see the beautiful flowers growing.

to plate. By choosing locally grown products or those grown

The little things that mean a lot

and harvested using sustainable practices, you can reduce your

Some other steps that may seem small - like choosing locally

wedding feast’s impact on the environment.

grown, in-season flowers rather than out-of-season ones that must be imported - can also make a big difference in how your

Reuse, Recycle, and Revel

wedding impacts the environment. Whether you opt to replace

Brides in bygone generations once gladly wore their mother’s

cut bouquets and centerpieces with artificial ones that can be

wedding dress, but the practice fell out of vogue as more brides

reused, or choose acoustic music that requires no electricity

wanted their own unique look for their wedding day. But the

to keep guests dancing, it’s possible to find green options for

green movement has breathed new life into the practice, since

almost every aspect of your wedding.

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Timeless Glamour

By Madeline Gardiner | Photos by Penny Moore of Moore Photography

It’s your wedding day and all eyes will be on you.

Selecting just the right style for your hair and makeup is as important as the selection of your dress. Whether your style is romantic and whimsical, vintage chic, or modern classic; here are a few suggestions on getting just the right style.

This retro inspired updo (right) infuses both sophistication and class.

Great for any bride looking to create the vintage look on their wedding day. To up-play this hair-style, keep the eyes simple with a thick eyeliner and make the lips scream old Hollywood glam.

For the hopeless romantic, this soft updo (left) creates an ideal look for the bride wanting to achieve a romantic, whimsical look. Volume at the crown and texture in the back is easily enhanced with lace details. This beautiful style can be paired with a soft or sultry look makeup.

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Glow on Your Wedding Day

By Dr. Christopher Hubbell

Brides should radiate. That’s a given. Part of that glow will come from within –pure excitement. But the bigger part will come from cultivating healthy, pampered skin with the help of your skin care specialist. The following time line will help you plan so that your complexion is at its absolute

is the time to handle chronic blemishes: acne scars, rosacea, moles, tags, warts, etc. These pests don’t belong in your wedding pictures.

Besides your face and neck, check your back and arms. Consider appearance enhancing maneuvers like Botox and fillers. A qualified dermatologist can offer you a variety of treatments for serious

best on The Big Day.

blemishes.

Three Months Out Rule #1: The earlier you start, the better your skin can look on your wedding day. Leaving down time for healing gives

Older brides take note: If you’ve developed protruding veins in the hands or forearms have these removed. You don’t want

you many wonderful options.

Second order of business: Consider taking advantage of these treatments that thoroughly remodel healthy complexions, taking

Rule #2: The older the bride, the more that can be done to remodel and refresh her complexion. And the earlier she starts, the better.

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These work gradually to clarify complexions, as they facilitate rapid turnover of the epidermal cells and new collagen production. The longer you use them, the lovelier your complexion gets. Start as early as you can and marvel at what a glowing surface can do to bring out the beauty of your features.

One Month Out Laser therapy with Intense Pulsed Light (photorejuvenation).

This will even skin tone, reduce pore size, and get rid of brown blotchiness and red blood vessels. It’s not painful or incredibly costly. Down time is minimal, if any.

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Mild chemical and laser peels will refresh the epidermis thoroughly, improving everything from wrinkles to sun damage and they add a radiant sheen.

Two Weeks Out I recommend giving the following lowest-impact treatments two weeks to heal, even though technically speaking they require only 3 days to a week for recovery. When it comes to once-in-a-lifetime events, why take chances? Breakouts sometimes happen after facials, and needles can cause prolonged bruising in rare individuals.

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VOW Wow to

By Tracee Dundas of NOLA Fashion Week

When it comes to planning for your special day, many brides-to-be are opting to break some of the traditional molds and giving consideration to some bridal trends that will “WOW” everyone!

Something Blue The tradition of “something blue” has been connected to weddings for centuries as a goodluck token for the bride. In ancient Rome, brides wore blue to symbolize love, modesty, and fidelity.

Christianity has long dressed the Virgin Mary in blue, so purity was associated with the color. And, before the late 19th century, blue was a popular

High-Topper

color for wedding gowns, as evidenced in proverbs

A bridal veil has given way to new traditions. Over

like, “Marry in blue, lover be true.” A modern-day

the past 20 years, traditions surrounding the bridal

twist to keeping with this tradition is to wear a gorgeous pair of cobalt blue shoes, or add a splash of color to your wedding set with sapphires diamond.

veil have changed even more. Veils were worn more frequently over the face (a blusher). Taking a cue from the Royal Family, many brides have optout of the traditional veil and replaced it with hats, feathers, and fascinators. Often the bigger the better and always a showstopper!

A Touch of Color & Lace Color, style and ceremonial importance of the gown can depend on the religion and culture of the wedding participants. But white wedding gowns will always be the number one choice of brides-to-be.

What is taking center stage are dresses that have a subtle touch of color, as in a sash, bow; have a vintage ivory tone; or all-over lace dresses. Gowns

“...brides-to-be are opting to break some of the traditional molds.”

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“...Add a little something different to the traditional ‘Something Borrowed, Something Blue’” with all-over beading or scream lots of sparkle and bling are taking a backseat, which actually allows the bride to shine.

Even the most traditional bride may want to add a little “Something Different” to the traditional “Something Borrowed, Something Blue” and make her wedding day “Something Wow!” About the author: Tracee Dundas is a freelance stylist, blogger, fashion editor for New Orleans Magazine and fashion event producer. She is the Founder and Creative Director of Fashion Week New Orleans and the “go-to-gal” for all things fashionable in the Gulf Coast. Tracee hosts a weekly fashion style segment “Fashion Friday” on WVUE Fox 8 sharing the latest trends, styling tips and DIY ideas. She works with nationally known clients such as Lucky Magazine, Essence Magazine, Payless Shoes and The W Hotel and frequently works as a stylist for films, commercials and music videos. Tracee is a graduate of USL and a native of St. Martinville, LA.

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Return to Elegance

Classic and Traditional Wedding Styles

Romance is definitely in the air with this classic and elegant, form-fitting wedding dress with vintage neckline, embellished lace overlay and pooling skirt.

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This outfit is a must have for a trendy bridal luncheon! A long silk blazer vest is layered with a rhinestone embellished lace top for a sophisticated look. Silk pant in buff complete the soft and sexy look.

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Perfect for a bridal shower! This elegant, apricot silk blouse with a back slit and embellished collar pairs perfectly with buff denim tux pant with a leather stripe.

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Cute and classic elegance for flower girls and junior bridesmaids in these beautiful sleeveless white dresses with chiffon overlay, sash belts, and embellished ballet flats.

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Stunning elegance in this gorgeous fit and flared gown with sweetheart and lace illusion neckline and sleeves.

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Return to traditional wedding style with classic white, cream, or black notch-lapel tuxedo jackets in 1, 2, or 3 buttonfront styles with matching or coordinating slacks. Complete the look with custom cufflinks and square-toed shoes.

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Heart of My Heart Life After Loss

By Dianne Dempsey-Legnon Photos by Penny Moore with Moore Photography

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“Anything is possible with a little hard work, even though you have lost the strongest part of yourself.”

“His name is imprinted on my soul.” His name is Oscar Menard. Lisa Broussard knew Oscar was the love of her life the first time she looked across the street and noticed the handsome young man, dark and mysterious. She told her best friend, “I am going to marry that man.” He was living with his sister at that time. Their first date was for the Merry Christmas Dance at Acadiana High School. Lisa wore a long red dress for the occasion. She loves all things red even to this day. Her car, purse, and short hair are all shades of red. They dated for only two months. She was fourteen years old and he was seventeen when they married in a quiet ceremony in her parents’ home. It was February 6 and he was her Valentine. Lisa remembers wearing a wine-colored school dress for the occasion. It was a simple ceremony with only a Justice of the Peace and her parents present. Most young girls dream of an elaborate wedding with a white dress. The love Lisa felt for Oscar made all of that seem immaterial. They honeymooned for one night in Lake Charles. Oscar and Lisa had no money and lived with her parents for three years. Lisa gave birth to a beautiful daughter, Tamara, during that time. With her parent’s guidance, she gradually matured into the role of wife and mother.

Lisa Menard came from a large boisterous family. Her mother was living in North Africa during WWII when she met a handsome Cajun soldier. The two would visit every time he brought his clothes to be laundered by her family. Friendship blossomed into romance. After the war, with assistance from the Red Cross, Lisa’s mother traveled to Louisiana with her eighteen month old son to join her husband, Lennis Broussard. Hermaine Sanchez boarded a ship going from Casa Blanca to New York. Next, she traveled by train to New Orleans. She did not even recognize her new husband when she arrived at the depot because he was in street clothes and not a uniform. Lisa often remarks, “Can you imagine the courage it took to

leave your family and come to a new country? Our Cajun culture was very different from hers.”

Lisa was the youngest of eight children and the only girl.

“My father use to tell people that he had seven sons and each one of them had a sister. And they would say, ‘You mean you have fourteen children?’ And he would say, ‘No, you didn’t listen to me. I said they all have a sister.’” Living with a house full of brothers taught her many valuable life lessons. Lisa is strong, independent, and loyal. With a shrug of her shoulders, she jokingly admits to being a little spoiled by her seven brothers.

Then, there was Oscar. To be sure, he spoiled her as well; this burly handsome man with the long dark hair and the full mustache. Lisa recounted, “If there had been eight days in a week, he would have worked every one of them to provide for his family.” Oscar started out as a carpenter’s helper and later became a home builder. Lisa was working in her family’s business, Frenchie’s Meat Market and Café on Johnston St. near Cullen’s Playland and Babyland.

Her father ran the butcher shop, her mother ran the café, and one of her brothers was the cook. One day, Lisa’s father hinted to a regular customer, Bob Cullen, that his daughter was a hard worker and needed a part time job. Cullen hired Lisa and she excelled at her new job which eventually led to a management position. In the meantime, her family grew.

She and Oscar adopted another daughter, Alexis. Life was busy and exciting. However, after ten years as a graduate from what Lisa termed “Cullen College,” she decided that a new challenge was needed.

She cast her big brown eyes on the bicycle shop of the Cullen enterprise and eventually moved into a management position there. When the opportunity arose to buy the bike shop, Lisa jumped at the chance. She began to take the Continue reading

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“Good people deserve good things.”

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necessary steps to acquire the business. Unfortunately, there was one obstacle. She had no capital to actually purchase it. She straightened her shoulders, marched down to the nearest bank, and boldly requested a loan for one hundred thousand dollars. When they asked her to provide collateral for the loan, she replied. “I wouldn’t be here if I had anything, sir,” her tiny face registering her determination.

Lisa applied for an unsecured loan at an extremely high rate of interest. She was a business woman and she was exhausted from the effort. It was Mother’s Day weekend, May, 2007.

Oscar had committed his full support to this new venture.

They had big plans for Capitol Cyclery, but no cash flow.

The morning after the visit to the bank, Oscar made his usual pit stop to buy a cup of coffee on his way to the construction site. He purchased a scratch lottery ticket.

Scratch. No luck. On impulse, he bought another ticket. As he sipped his coffee and began to scratch the new ticket, the number “one” appeared. He scratched a little more and a “zero” appeared, then, another zero. One hundred dollars!

Oscar was already thinking about the wonderful dinner he would treat Lisa to that night. He continued. Suddenly, a comma materialized. “This is not possible, this is not possible.” Oscar calmly walked over to the clerk, verified the ticket, put it in his pocket, and drove to work.

During his noon break, he went to meet Lisa at the cycle shop. She was buzzing around busily and Oscar met resistance when he asked her to sit down to hear his news.

He handed her the scratch ticket. Lisa was unfamiliar with lottery tickets and simply stared at it. Oscar became impatient and heralded, “This is our hundred thousand dollars to open the bike shop.” In disbelief, Lisa began to pace making wide circles around the shop until she was able to assimilate the realization of her good fortune. Next, there was a flurry of jubilant cries and excited phone calls to family and friends. “And the bike shop just grew.”

Oscar worked all day at his own job and spent his nights at the shop. It was during these evenings that he remodeled the building to better meet their needs. He installed flooring, built an office, added a stairway, and built an upstairs storage area to house their inventory. He designed practical ways to keep everything organized. Everything seemed wonderful. Customers would listen to Lisa tell

the story about winning the lottery and declare, “Good people deserve good things.”

Unfortunately, it didn’t last. In September of 2008, everything changed. Lisa was watching a documentary on Coco Chanel when Oscar complained of heartburn.

As Lisa stood up and walked towards him, he dropped to the floor on his knees. Lisa got him into the car and drove to the nearest hospital, Southwest. It took about forty five minutes to evaluate him. Lisa began making calls to family and friends. She was soon surrounded by loved ones. “The doctor came out and asked me how I could not have known this man was so sick. I thought he was talking to someone else. Maybe someone was standing behind me, but it was me.” Oscar was in critical condition following a massive heart attack.

During that difficult time, Lisa stayed by Oscar’s side day and night. He seemed to rest better when she was there.

“He would sit up to make sure I wasn’t cold. Because that’s just how he was.” She shaved her husband for the very first time on the last day of his life. She fanned his face and spoke sweet nothings meant for his ears only.

And then he was gone. “I was there at the beginning and I was the last thing he saw at the end.” After a week long battle, Oscar succumbed from complications due to a massive heart attack at the age of 51. Lisa was devastated.

Her life was forever changed.

Lisa was numb. She wept and silently asked, “Where did you go? What happened?” At first, she wanted to move in with her mother and sell the business. Her mother refused to allow it and told her she could not make any major decisions for two years. So, she built a swimming pool instead, but couldn’t step into the water.

Lisa went to grief counseling and gradually realized that after each session she was more depressed than when she arrived. She sat in her backyard, admiring the new swimming pool with its twinkling starry lights, drank a glass of wine, and made several decisions. It was time to live again! She would keep the business. Hadn’t Oscar prepared the way for that? And she was going to take dancing lessons. Soon her feet were tap, tap, tapping all day long. “Music tends to bring up your spirit.” A copy of Continue reading faceacadiana.com | FACE 65

the lottery ticket was enlarged, framed, and put on display in the store. She joined a health club and began working toward personal fitness goals.

Lisa still struggles with her loss, but she loves to recount the “good times” she and Oscar shared. Their wedding anniversary was always a special occasion and often included a road trip. Lisa remembered the first time they went to Las Vegas. The energy of the city matched her own enthusiasm for life and she could not sleep. Valentine’s Day was usually celebrated with a quiet dinner for two and, on occasion, a little gambling at the casino.

Oscar loved to surprise Lisa with presents.

The song, “The Twelve Days of Christmas”, inspired him to create the tradition of giving Lisa twelve presents leading up to Christmas Day; each one a little bit bigger than the day before. He took great pride in wrapping them himself. Her daughters tried to fill that void when he was gone by continuing the tradition.

Although she loved the sentiment, she asked them not to continue. The tradition was theirs and theirs alone. And now it was gone.

others. In turn, there were many who stood by and supported her through her difficult grief journey. She is continually amazed at the kindness of others and she is now focused on her business and giving back to people in appreciation of the many blessings in her life. “You never forget what people have done for you.”

Her employees, many of them UL students, call her their “Work Mama.” Ninety percent of the time, when asked, Lisa gives generously of her time or donates items. She is actively involved in raising money for the American Heart Association. She has donated bicycles for the Lafayette High Project Graduation. She donated a bike for the first “Bike for Hospice” ride. She sponsors athletes in various cycling competitions and has sponsored numerous local community rides.

Even though the process is the same, grief is a deeply personal journey because every couple is unique. Lisa is an inspiration to anyone who has lost a loved one. From the ashes of her tragedy, she made a conscious decision to build a new life for herself. She chose to channel her experience and energy Lisa finds ways to keep Oscar’s memory into reaching out to others. Lisa’s “Sometimes, I close my alive. Around Mother’s Day she and a recent tragedy has led her to become eyes and I dream.

He girlfriend get together and drink wine and actively involved in an effort to make scratch lottery tickets. After all those years others aware of the warning signs of stays in my dreams. together, it was difficult to define herself heart disease. Awareness can save lives.

Hopefully, that will as a separate individual. Friends reassured She is now involved with the “Go Red stay with me forever.” her, “I don’t think you know who you are Luncheon” sponsored by The American and how much you have accomplished.”

Heart Association. When first asked to participate, she was eager to help, but Tears fill Lisa’s eyes and she dabs at them. Humbly, Lisa queried, “What do I have to do?” The response: All she acknowledges how far she has come from her meager needed was a little red dress and a bit of swag [swagger] beginnings. Recently, one of her brothers asked, “What to participate. Everyone agreed; Lisa could manage a bit are your plans for the future?” She answered, “Right now of swag! there are no plans. I take one day at a time.” For Lisa, some About the author: Dianne Dempsey-Legnon is the author of Belair Cove: days are good and others require that she muster all of A Novel of Life, Love, and Loss in a Prairie Cajun Village. She has been an her courage to get out of bed and move forward, but Lisa educator for over thirty years and a consultant with the Acadiana Writing Project has plenty of spunk. She does indeed get out of bed with a at UL Lafayette. She is interested in various aspects of writing and is often smile on her face and kindness in her heart. “Sometimes, inspired by the ebb and flow of life around her, both past and present. You can I close my eyes and I dream. He stays in my dreams. purchase Dianne’s book at Lafayette Barnes & Noble, the Kitchen Shop in Grand Hopefully, that will stay with me forever.”

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