somebody has given you 99% of what you asked for, or 90% or even 70%, even 50% of what you’ve asked for, that what we automatically tend to do is look for all things that they haven’t given us, how heartbreaking that is for the person providing. I know I’ve experienced that. I remember cleaning a friend’s flat, and I didn’t clean the sink drain. I cleaned everything else but miss the drain, the house was spotless. She walked in and only pointed out that I missed cleaning the drain. I had spent a couple of hours cleaning everything else. I was just devastated. I know in that moment I didn’t want to do it again, because if all you can see is what I haven’t done, it’s not worth the effort of doing everything that I did. No one tells us this way of communicating doesn’t work, and it’s so automatic. When you have a partnership, and when you learn these skills, asking for what you want and having these needs met in a way that’s kind and considerate it’s amazing. It brings out the best in you and your partner. It’s like, “Oh my, can relationships, be are this good?” Yeah, they can be, we just need to know the skills how. You offer programs, and you do coaching. Could you just describe a little bit about each of them and what people could expect from each? I have online group workshops where I teach looking from other perspectives. It’s for people that are willing and wanting to try new things and to look at things newly and see what else is possible. It’s amazing how just one person from a couple can cause a change in the relationship. The Online Creating Connections Workshop is an introduction to what I have seen from my studies are the common differences between most men and most women. It’s a start and introduction to my other programs – Delving into the minds of men and my premium program that I am working out that will be out at the end of the year. I also do personal coaching. So it really depends, where a person’s at and what their goals are and what they want. I talk about intentional dating, how to find a really great man that’s really a good match that you could spend whatever period of your life that you want to spend with them. Some of the topics I coach about are intentional dating, sex and intimacy, understanding men and understanding women. How to bring up those really tricky subjects and how to speak with your partner in an empowering way, because it’s the hardest thing to be so open and vulnerable with the people we love because it hurts the most. But again, for most of us as women, it’s the hardest thing for us to do because it’s our instinct not to do that, to look after everybody else and put ourselves last. From what I’ve experienced for myself and what I see with the people I coached, it’s one of the worst things that we can do is withhold what we really want and expect them to know, and it just doesn’t tend to end very well. I also talk about partnership. I help identify what your blind spot is and help to remove any blocks. If we get hooked by the same thing, time and time again, we develop a pattern of dating the wrong type of guys or the guys that don’t want to commit, or you’re still in love with your ex, or you’ve had a nasty marriage breakdown, and you just can’t seem to get over it. I can help with healing work. Or I’ve got some other healers as well if I’m not the one, I can send people to other people that I know that are amazing healers as well. So it really depends on what someone wants. I offer a free discovery call with me, and it’s finding out where somebody is and where they want to get to and are whether or not we are a good fit?
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Who is best suited to come and see you? Men, women, single, married? Anyone single, or in a relationship, dating or married. It really depends more on what they want to get out of the coaching. What I require is somebody that’s willing to be open to new concepts and perspectives. If that’s not something you’re prepared to do, then I probably may not be the person that you want to work with. And if you are willing to think and say, “Okay, maybe if I did see it from a different way, how would that look? Or what could that illuminate or open up for me?” Then yeah, definitely. How is it different from something like counselling? It’s more like being a relationship strategist. Rather than delving into everything that’s not working, we move forward. “Okay, what’s the goal? What do we have to do to get you to your goal? This is the information that will make a difference to you. Let’s try this. Let’s try that. Where are you at?” So it’s more like creating a strategy to get to where you want to. So I’m definitely not a counsellor, I’m not a psychologist, I don’t have any training like that. What I do have is this research that I’ve done and qualifications with my mentor in understanding men and understanding women. Knowing this information, I know it totally transformed me and my life. I believe it can make a huge difference if you’re open to it. And how can people find you? Several ways. My website is embracingpartnership.com. Or if they want to come to find me on social media and friend me on social media, I’m on Embracing Partnership Group, on Facebook. If people want more information on the partnership, or if you’re single, I’ve got a Facebook group for single women called Heart’s Desires Dating. So they can come to find me there. And I’m also on Instagram at Embracing Partnership. Was there anything else you’d like to add? I want people to have hope. I really was the most resigned, and if I can change like this, my belief is if you’re willing and open, anything really is possible. Having experienced extraordinary relationships, it really is possible to achieve that if you’re open to it and open to doing the work and trying new things.
Thank you very much for your time. You’re welcome. To find out more, visit www.embracingpartnership.com or please contact Elissa at: elissa@embracingpartnership.com or phone: 0403 472 234