The Male Mind During No Contact

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The Male Mind During No Contact

So, What Is The Male Mind During No Contact?

Most relationship experts would agree that one of the common reasons men break up with their partners is that they are emotionally unavailable. This means that the guy has decided that he is unfit to carry on being in the relationship. Perhaps the emotional attraction is lost, or even the sex feels like a chore or is nonexistent. The spark is not there anymore.

Most of the time, guys miss their freedom and need their own time and space to explore more of their world. They see freedom as a currency to help them find and own a piece of success.

This means that being in a relationship is blocking their way to achieve their new needs.

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When you’re going through the No Contact Rule, it’s normal for you to keep thinking about your ex. Most of the time, you find yourself uncontrollably thinking about the memories with tons of questions, wondering what went wrong. Now that your ex-boyfriend is out of the picture, it’s natural for you to think about how he is dealing with the breakup.

The male mind during No Contact. What do guys think and do during the next 30 or so days of radio silence? Will your ex show a sign of weakness and regret breaking up, or will he charge forward with his newfound freedom to a new chapter of his life without you?

Before we begin discussing the male mind during No Contact, keep in mind that all men are different and experience a wide range of emotions. Some guys could feel tense and become angry (even if they initiated the breakup), while others could be stubborn and clueless after the breakup.

In this post, I’m going to assume that your ex-boyfriend initiated the breakup. He broke up with you, and now you’re wondering what he’s going through. Is he going through an unstable wave of negative emotions like you are?

To be honest, I’m usually hesitant to explain what the ex-partner is going through during No Contact. It doesn’t matter if it’s the male mind or female mind, the only focus you should have during the No Contact Rule is you. Any thoughts of your ex and past relationship will only slow down your healing progress.

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What your ex-boyfriend is thinking about during No Contact is mainly related to how he’s going to utilize his newfound freedom.

Now that he’s freed himself from relational responsibilities, it’s time for him to embark on a new journey to conquer his world.

“So is my ex-boyfriend not going through the same emotional pain as I’m suffering?”

The answer is both yes and no. Your ex will go through a certain wave of regret, pain, and loss during the first few weeks. But keep in mind that he has already made up his mind to break up with you long before making it official. This means that your former flame has already experienced and dealt with the turbulence of emotions ahead of time and concluded that splitting up is the best move for him and his interests.

During the No Contact period, your ex-boyfriend will most likely be adjusting to his lifestyle and trying to capitalize on his new freedom. You might see him going on a few rebound relationships.

Your ex might be making a push for a new promotion. Or he might move to a new city to start over with a new job.

Whatever your ex-boyfriend has planned for, it’s a personal decision that he’s made.

Unfortunately, he’s not willing to invest in the relationship and pursue his dreams. But sometimes, it’s more of a rational decision for men to move forward with their lives and leave their previous relationships behind.

What Does No Contact Do To A Guy?

Your ex-boyfriend will miss you during No Contact to a certain degree. He’s used to having you around as intimate partners. Now that the relationship is over, your ex needs to adjust to his new lifestyle. He’s going to feel a sense of loss and regret for a period of time.

While you’re gone, there are going to be moments where he can’t stop thinking of the time spent with you.

These are normal reactions during the No Contact phase. For a guy who initiated the breakup, the feelings are usually temporary and fade away once he finds a way to cope with it.

Most guys may reach out to you to see how you’re doing. If that’s the case, don’t pick up the phone! You’re only giving into our ex’s wishes and allowing him to deal with their struggles.

Maybe it feels great to hear your ex’s voice for a moment, but that instance may bring back lots of thoughts, emotions, and questions that may hinder your recovery process.

If you’re going through the No Contact Rule, this period of silent treatment can make your ex miss you or even get him a little jealous. Even though your ex broke up with you, the No Contact period is the first time he’s experienced life without you. It doesn’t matter if your ex wrote a powerful breakup letter to end the relationship. Once he feels your absence, it’s going to hit him like a brick knowing that things are officially over.

Don’t let your ex break your No Contact phase.

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Will he miss me if I stop texting him?

If you are texting your ex during the No Contact phase, stop immediately. I get it. You want to stay on his radar and let him know you still care and want to get back together. But texting your ex after a breakup is not going to change his mind.

Don’t get your hopes up, though. This doesn’t mean that your ex-boyfriend wants to get back together. He’s only going through some normal reactions of missing someone who’s been a big part of their daily routine.

In fact, it’s only going to make things worse.

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You sound desperate and come across as clingy with low self-esteem. The more attention you give to your ex after the breakup, the more power he has over you.

Will he miss me if I leave him alone?

If you want to make, your ex miss you, disappear from his radar and take the bold move to delete his contacts on your phone and social media. This is also the best way to restrain yourself from keeping tabs on your ex.

Does silence make a man miss you? The answer is yes.

If you leave your ex-boyfriend alone, chances are he’s going to want to know what’s going on. He’s going to find it uncomfortable to realize that they are going to lose their ex-girlfriend forever.

They are curious how you’re coping with the breakup and wonder how you will move on.

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The more radio silent you stay, the more agitated your ex might be if he keeps thinking that you’ll be calling and texting to get his attention.

Will A Guy Miss You During No Contact?

It’s natural for us to think about our exes during the No Contact Rule. While we try to forget our previous relationship and move on, it’s hard to let go of someone who has been a big part of our lives.

Trust me, your ex has that same feeling. And he is likely missing you during the No Contact phase. If you are doing an excellent job staying radio silent, chances are your ex is going to leak a few signs that he’s missing you.

Here are a few possible signs to look for: 1. He’s active on your social media feeds.

Your ex suddenly shows more support on your social media posts.

He’s liking and sharing your photos, encouraging activity on your posts by commenting on them. Check if it’s normal behavior for your ex to be your top social media supporter. If it’s unusual, chances are your ex-boyfriend is trying to get your attention.

2. He’s in a fake relationship.

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Yup, he’s desperate to get your attention. He misses you so bad he’s faking to be in a relationship. It’s bizarre, but I’ve seen it happen many times. Some ex-boyfriends don’t even want to be in a rebound relationship to make their ex-partners jealous. Instead, they think temporary faking one is a way to get attention without committing to another person.

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It’s sad, but some guys will go the extra length.

3. He’s asking around about you.

Your ex is a sweetheart, and he still is after breaking up. During the No Contact period, your ex-boyfriend hasn’t lost the habit of checking up on you. Only this time, he’s asking your friends and family about you. Even though your ex was the one who initiated the breakup, he wants to know how you’re healing from the emotional pain. In your exes mind, he still wants you in his life.

4. Your ex calls or texts you.

This is an obvious sign that your ex misses you during the No Contact period. He flat out admits he’s missing you and asks how you’re doing. But guess what? Your ex doesn’t mention anything about getting back together. So what is the purpose of him reaching out?

Girl, be prepared if your ex reaches out to you. Before you even pick up his phone call, decide whether or not it is a good idea to hear his voice again. Will giving him affect your healing process? If yes, go ahead and ignore your ex.

Keep in mind that your ex only wants to relieve his temporary feeling of losing you. Once he feels like he can still get in touch with you, the pain will subside for him.

But not for you. If hearing your ex is going to bring back a range of emotions, then it’s best to ignore your former flame until you are ready to make contact again.

How do you make him miss me during no contact?

One of the scariest times in any relationship is during the “no contact” period. That’s after you break up with someone you love, and despite all the love you still have for him, you decide to break off any and all contact. Under no circumstances do you say a word.

It feels wrong, it feels reckless! You’re probably thinking, “But without talking to him, won’t he forget me? Shouldn’t I say something, anything, to get him to come back to me?”

That may be your instinct, but most statistical and anecdotal evidence says it’s the worst possible thing you can do. When you beg him to stay, or come back, or try so hard to recreate the doomed relationship, it shows weakness. It only confirms suspicions he’s had all along, that this relationship is not healthy.

And you probably know this by now, but still, you’re thinking “Why can’t I stop contacting him, stop clinging to him…even though I know it’s not what he wants?”

There is only one way I know and recommend to make your ex miss you during the No Contact period.

Consider this. Maybe the problem is you’re dying from the anticipation, the dread of not knowing exactly what your ex is thinking. This could be the precise reason why you’re so nervous and afraid to let go. You’re unsure of the “unknown” and that’s the scariest part.

Live your life.

Now that you are free and single, be selfish with your time and freedom. Focus on your dreams and start ticking off your bucket list. By genuinely being happy and letting go of your ex and past relationship, you’re freeing yourself from the emotional burden and giving yourself a chance to reflect on what matters.

If there was a way to know exactly what he was thinking then maybe it wouldn’t be so hard to distance yourself. Well, believe it or not…there is a way. And no, it’s not a fantastic new mind-reading product, or a complex college course on cracking the male ego.

Sometimes, breakups are a blessing in disguise. It stops us in our paths and forces us to reflect and think twice about what matters to us.

When your ex-boyfriend sees you happy and genuinely moved on, he’ll feel a sense of regret for letting you go and not working things out. Your ex may also wonder if he was the one holding you back from greatness.

No, it’s actually quite simple to guess what a man is thinking. Men think similar thoughts, and more to the point, in similar thought patterns after a breakup. And in this blog, we’re going to discuss your ex’s four most probable thoughts, even during those scary “no contact” breaks when he’s bound to be thinking something!

So go out and make things happen. It’s the effortless way to make someone jealous and miss you. It’ll be hard at first, but you will develop strength over time.

Reviewing what he’s actually thinking will help you to calm yourself, feel your inner power and confidence, and give yourself permission to let him go and work on finding himself without you.

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I think you’re going to be pleased once you discover his secrets. So

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let’s review each thought one at a time…

As you ignore him for days, weeks and months, he will begin to have serious doubts about himself, his attractiveness and his ability to truly connect with anyone. A lot of guys THINK that once they’re single again they’re going to be able to land the perfect partner and start a wonderful new direction in life.

1. “Hmmmm she’s acting really weird.”

Yes! The most basic thought during this no speaking time is confusion! He definitely notices there is a big change in the dynamic. Whereas before you were attentive, clingy and fearful about losing him, not you’ve done a complete turnaround.

But it rarely turns out that way. They usually find that they’re NOT emotionally connecting with their new partner and that the peace and happiness he once had with you is just not easy to replace. He soon learns that real love and real emotional connection is hard to find, because two people truly have to match each other, experience things together and be completely free of old baggage.

So let’s just avoid the heavy psychology here and focus on the simplicity. He’s confused. You’re now a mystery to him. And this is exactly where you want to keep him for as long as possible.

Because now, you’ve gotten his attention and now he’s thinking of you more often!

All that said, it should be a comfort for you to know that all he’s really thinking right now is why you’ve changed and what prompted this change. That’s just about it, at least until he reaches the next step…

2. “Has she met someone else?”

After thinking your sudden change of heart is weird, now he’s thinking all about who you’re dating and what kind of life are you living now, that prompted this change. Jealousy is a motivator.

He’s wondering if you’re dating someone better than him, or very similar to him. He’s picturing you sleeping with other men and it’s slowly poking at his insecurity.

It’s very unlikely he’s over you. He may be having more sex but is he experiencing the same bond, the intensity of love? Hardly. And that’s when realizes that you understood him better than anyone else.

What’s important now is focusing on rebuilding your self-confidence and then working on your NEW ATTITUDE. When the time is right, you will meet him again and blow his mind by unleashing a mysterious, sexy new persona that he will want.

Make him work for it and he will fall in love with you twice as hard this time.

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This is another great stage for you, because he’s the one sitting around obsessing about you, wanting answers from you, but of course, getting nothing. This is why the NO CONTACT rule works so well. The less you actually say, the more he wants to fill in the blanks and solve the mystery of what happened to you.

It usually comes out as an honest question when you want to connect with him…

Jealousy can very quickly become regret. Speaking of which…

But only serves to push him away and slowly kill your relationship from the inside out…

3. “I miss her.”

It can take a man who is filled with love and passion for you…

Yes, isn’t that just what you wanted to hear? And it’s absolutely true, even if you doubt it. Even if you messed up or the relationship became ugly towards the end. He still misses you and he still thinks about the good times you enjoyed together. The less he sees you, the less he hears from you (and again, no social media or email contact!) the more he begins to miss you.

He can’t miss you, while you’re talking to him, waiting on him and begging for his attention. But when you stop giving him so much TLC, that is when he begins to notice how unhappy he is without you.

And make him feel cold, distant, and uninterested…

Have you figured out what it is yet?

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And then are confused why he suddenly pulls away and disappears completely…

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Yet it can take a relationship that seems like it’s perfect…

In fact, the less amazing his new relationships are, the more he will miss that smooth and romantic dynamic that you had together.

And as we’re going to see in our next section, the time he spends alone (or in an unfulfilling new relationship), the more he’s beginning to realize the love he had with you was real, special and impossible to replace.

4. “I made a big mistake.

A relationship where you feel loved, cared for, and like you’ve finally found “the one”…

And overnight, it can tear that relationship apart…

Leaving you confused, frustrated, and heartbroken…

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Here’s one of the reasons I encourage you to “let him go” – because chances are, within a few months he’s going to realize he made a big mistake. There is a temporary rush of adrenaline that comes from ending a relationship and starting a new romance. But it doesn’t last long, especially if your ex never really grows up and sees the real problem.

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You both need this time gap of radio silence, no matter how hard it is.

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What Is He Thinking During No Contact? (8 Most Common Thoughts)

It helps you figure out where you are at and to process the whole situation. You need a cool head and collected thoughts.

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When you are freshly out of a relationship, you don’t have that.

You can’t think straight, you are hurt and your emotions are all over the place.

What is he thinking during no contact? Does he think about me at all or has he forgotten about me entirely and moved on while I can’t stop thinking about him?

If you leave no space for breathing right after the break-up, things will definitely be over and there will be no going back.

Is there any chance of getting back together with him? Have I made a mistake by sticking to the no contact rule?

If you are bold enough to follow through with the no contact rule, try not to break it. It’s easy to fall into the trap of staying in touch with your ex and getting that feeling of false comfort.

Let me reassure you and tell you that the no contact rule was not a mistake, it was the best way to go.

That trap will comfort you and it will feel good to hear from him and have him close but you won’t be satisfied or happy, at least not entirely.

All these questions are inevitable and they come from our broken heart and crushed dreams. They come from our pain and our fear of never having back that feeling we experienced with a certain person.

It will be short-term and entirely unfulfilling. When he decides to leave again, you will only be crushed.

‘Out of sight, out of mind’ is echoing in your head and you can’t help but think about the worst-case scenario.

You need to give it time and be determined and brave in your decision to avoid contacting your ex.

That is why our first instinct when somebody leaves is to go after them, get them back, prove that we are perfect together and that our love is worth staying for and worth the fight.

However, the questions I mentioned at first will still be your main thoughts and you will just want to get into his head to see, “What is he thinking during no contact?”

But that’s exactly what we shouldn’t be doing because it will only push them further away.

That’s why we are here to help. He is bound to think of you because the no contact period leaves him enough room to do so.

Another best thing you can do is use THESE BRILLIANT TECHNIQUES to make him beg you to take him back.

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What Is He Thinking About During No Contact?

Did he expect you to text by now and stalk him on social media?

He expected you to call. He expected you to come by, knocking on his door and demanding explanations.

He expected sad Facebook updates and Instagram stories with meaningful, sad quotes. Instead, he got nothing but complete radio silence.

So, what is he thinking during no contact?

He is confused but in a good way. He is thinking about you, about all the hows and whys and what happened that changed you so much.

He fears that you have given up on him this early on and he can’t believe it. The less he knows about you the more he will wonder about you.

This is a great indicator that the no contact rule works on him (assuming you want him to think about you).

Every guy experiences the no contact period in a different way.

Generally, the no contact period will awaken his emotions and make him realize how much he misses you and cares about you. It can also awaken his jealousy, make him feel confused, or make him regret his past actions.

He is regretting his actions

These are the most common thoughts a guy has during the no contact period: He is confused

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you and seeing you often and now all of a sudden that is gone.

He can’t help but wonder why. You seemed crushed when you guys broke up and you are not falling for his late-night texts and possible attempts of a booty call.

You left him wondering: “Where is that woman who replied instantly every time his name lit up her screen?”

“Where is that woman who couldn’t wait to see me?”

“Why is she ignoring me?”

“Why can’t I stop thinking about her and she doesn’t even care?”

“Is she in a new relationship?”

After he has had a chance to experience life on his own, he will start missing everything you had.

Newsflash: she decided she wanted more than random texts and occasional hookups.

He will start thinking that he made a mistake. He will start missing you and all those moments you shared.

She decided she didn’t want to pretend you guys could be friends after a break-up because it was hurting her.

He has taken everything for granted. Distance made him see that what you had was priceless and if he doesn’t make any effort immediately, you will slip through his fingers.

Sometimes you don’t know what you have until you lose it, and that’s how it usually is with men. After a break-up, they are usually sad but not crushed.

They don’t think about all the things they have lost; only after some time, when they are done partying and living their single man’s dreams, do they realize that they miss all they had with you.

She decided to give you some time to come to your senses and see that she is amazing and you had something great before you messed it up.

She is sticking to the no contact rule until you are ready to be all in. She is tired of receiving crumbs.

He is fighting his fear of commitment

He is wondering if you miss him at all

His feelings are divided. He wants you but at the same time, he is scared as hell.

What is he thinking during no contact? He is used to hearing from

It has nothing to do with you and everything to do with the fact

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He thinks that he’s going to “win this breakup”

that he is simply not ready to make anything long-term.

He will probably overcome these fears at some point but the question is if you will still be waiting.

The truth is that commitment phobia can last for a long while and he is the only one who can fix it. There will come a point in which he will have to face his fears or lose you forever.

His love for you has to be stronger than his greatest fear, otherwise, he is not worth the wait and he is not the one for you.

He is wondering if you have moved on

What is he thinking during no contact? Well, believe it or not, one of the things men (might) think about during no contact is how they are going to win it.

We all know that men are competitive creatures so why would this no contact thing be any different, right? So, how does a person wins breakup according to men?

He thinks that if he refuses to contact you first, he will win and become a legit dumper (which makes you a dumpee).

Are you dating somebody else? He has had no contact with you and he doesn’t know if there are any other men in your life and the not knowing part is killing him.

He is scared that breaking up with you has sent you into somebody else’s arms.

He’s waiting for you to contact him first because if you do, it will mean that he won. Hillarious, I know.

If you want to get your ex back, don’t fall for this trick. Don’t reach him out despite all the love you still have for him.

If he genuinely cares about you, he will contact you first and won’t bother thinking about winning a breakup or other stupid things.

Somebody else may be taking his place and taking what he thought would always be his. You won’t have to do anything to make him think that, his male mind alone will create all sorts of scenarios.

The no contact period will awaken his jealousy and make him realize what he is losing.

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He thinks that he has lost you forever

He doesn’t think about you at all because he is only thinking about himself

Why is my ex silent after a breakup? What’s he thinking during no contact?

If you had the misfortune to come across someone narcissistic, self-absorbed and manipulative then rest assured that he only has one thought in mind and one thought only and that is himself.

Another thing he might think about during no contact is the fact that he has lost you forever.

He MIGHT contact his best friend to tell him that he’s worried about losing you for good and that he’s about to experience severe heartbreak. Okay, I doubt men would ever talk so openly about their feelings but you get the idea.

He is the type of man you use the no contact rule with to get over him and not to get him back.

He thinks that now he’s officially your ex-boyfriend and you will never be together again. He’s convinced that you moved on for good or that you’re already in a new relationship.

However, the no contact rule will help you in your healing process because the worst thing you can do is risk falling back into his toxic web again. The recovery process will be long and hard but essentially worth it.

The pain after the break-up will be excruciating regardless of your rationalizing and the fact that you are better off.

Men are also great at overthinking and the only difference is that they need more time to enter that phase. As being a woman, I admit that overthinking comes naturally to me like breathing. Of course, this doesn’t mean that every woman overthinks but you get the idea.

You have been missing out on life, attending to his needs, and it’s time you start thinking about yourself and rebuilding your life from scratch.

These are pure facts:

All in all, if he thinks that he has lost you forever, this is a good thing. It will make him anxious and it will make him miss you.

He might want to get in touch but it will never be because he has changed or he wants things to be different.

If you want to make your ex miss you, even more, treat him like your best friend (when and if he decides to contact you and I’m sure he will).

He will want it so he can fulfil his sick need to have you under his control.

He will want to see if he can lure you back in, just so he can leave you broken once again.

If you are aware that the man you have been dating is a narcissist or has any sort of toxic personality, under no circumstances should you break the no contact rule.

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Keep him as far away as you can from yourself. Let go of him.

Don’t let him destroy your life any further.

So, how do you find out whether he’s feeling anxious or depressed? Just check his social media posts and look for sad songs, heartbroken quotes, and other things that might indicate he’s still thinking about you.

How Do You Know If He Misses You During No Contact?

Also, he might post things that indicate he’s having lots of fun only to hide his true feelings. If you’re not sure about what’s going on inside his head, you can always ask your mutual friends.

His mutual friends (or his friends) tell you that he misses you

If he seems depressed, changes his lifestyle, or his posts sound like they’re about you, then you know he misses you during no contact.

There are also other signs that indicate he misses you and can’t stop thinking about you, so pay close attention to all of them!

He changes his appearance Have you noticed that we women have a tendency to change our appearance due to some significant life events?

What is your ex thinking during no contact? Does he miss you? If a man is hurting, chances are he’ll enter the man cave zone. He’ll hide from everyone around him including himself (if that’s even possible) and “he’ll wait for better days to come”.

For example, when I went through my last breakup, I changed my hairstyle because I subconsciously wanted to escape those intense feelings. Obviously, I still cared about him.

Indeed, in a way this helped me feel like I was a new, reborn person and that I’m slowly but surely healing. Well, the same thing applies to men as well.

If he changes his appearance (his hairstyle, his beard, or similar), then this means he’s fighting his feelings for you. He can’t get you out of his head and he hopes that changing his appearance will provide temporary relief for his pain.

BUT sometimes, men decide to talk about their feelings with their friends. Perhaps they first enter the man cave zone and then decide to share their feeling with their close friends.

If his mutual friends or his friends tell you that he misses you, then you know he’s been talking about you with them. If he’s still talking about you, this is a great sign because it means he genuinely misses you during no contact period.

He changes his lifestyle

He seems anxious and depressed It’s really hard to decipher what’s going on in a man’s mind because they are really good at hiding their emotions. Even though he’s hurting, he might behave like everything is fine.

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He’s never been a gym addict but now he’s become one. He’s never been into gaming, but now that’s his main hobby. If a man changes his lifestyle, this is a legit sign that he’s trying to distract himself.

Now you’re probably thinking: But from what? Well, he’s

trying to distract himself from thinking about you because he OBVIOUSLY misses you.

also another indicator that they might be missing you without even knowing it (or letting you know).

Also, he might be trying to impress you with his new lifestyle. This is especially true if he posts his new gym body and other new things on social media.

He stalks you on social media

He is acting confused and mysterious

Well, if he likes all your posts (even those you posted two years ago), if he comments on your posts, watches all your stories on Instagram and similar, then you know he (kind of) stalks you on social media.

How do you know if a man stalks you on social media?

I bet he’s checking your profile 50 times a day because he misses you that much. Trust me, if he was determined to move on, he wouldn’t bother “stalking you” on social media.

Instead, he would delete you/unfriend you/stop following you, or whatever.

His posts on social media are vague and unclear

If a man is acting confused and mysterious, this is both a good and a bad sign.

It is a good sign because in most cases it means that he still thinks about you. It is a bad sign because it can make you confused as it made me.

Last year I pushed my now ex-boyfriend away by being clingy and needy during lockdown so we tried to go long distance for some time. Well, that long-distance trial period has turned into the no contact period.

Honestly, I expected him to text me the next day but he didn’t. He messaged me a few weeks later. He admitted that he has some problems with mental health and he needs some time for himself.

What does a man think during no contact when he posts vague and unclear things on social media?

By vague and unclear I’m referring to songs that you used to listen to together or random lyrics that indicate how much he misses you.

Given that my female mind is wired to sense bullshit, I knew that he was just trying to buy more time because he was indecisive about the idea of getting back together.

If his posts seem to be a little bit vague and they can easily be connected with your breakup and his current emotional state, then you know he’s still thinking about you (and he wants you to know it, too).

After a short period of time, I gave him the address of my new job and told him to contact me only if he genuinely misses me. He did it. It took him some time but he did it.

The bottom line is that men can sometimes act confusing which is

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He breaks the no contact rule

move on for good.

He’s messaging you. To be more exact, he’s bombarding you with lots of text messages. Evidently, he broke the no contact rule.

Why?

If your wish is to make him realize how much he misses you and cares about you, then don’t chase after him. Instead, focus on rebuilding your own life and everything else will fall into place.

Because he still cares about you and he can no longer wait to let you know that. He might not tell you that immediately, but just give him some time and you’ll realize what exactly is going on inside his head.

Will No Contact Make Him Move On?

When a guy breaks the no contact rule, he does it for a reason. If he was determined to move on with his life, he wouldn’t break the rule for sure.

What Does No Contact Do To A Guy?

If a man goes weeks or months without contacting you, it could mean that he moved on. Also, if you keep chasing him during no contact, this might make him move on. If he genuinely cares about you, then the no contact rule will make him come after you.

Chasing after him, letting him be with you when he is feeling lonely and finding it convenient, and providing him with emotional support, sending one unanswered text after the other or replying to his lame texts won’t get you anywhere.

Generally, the no contact rule helps a guy realize how much he misses you. It evokes his desire to want to come back. In a nutshell, it shows a guy that you aren’t available for him whenever he wants you.

It may provide you with some instant gratification but he will not be there to stay.

The no contact rule shows guys that you don’t need a man to be happy because you’re perfectly happy on your own. Once a guy sees that he will realize that you’re a high-value woman and he will be determined to win you back.

This rule also helps them sort out their feelings, figure out what is that they want, and look at things from a different perspective.

The absence helps guys evaluate their mindset and feelings toward you. If you disrupt that absence (if you contact him during the no contact period), this might create a countereffect and make him

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However, if he truly has strong feelings toward you then the no contact rule will work its magic and he will come after you. He will move mountains and do his best to have you in his life again.

He will realize that leaving you was the biggest mistake of his life.

That’s why it’s vital you don’t make the first move—let him come to you. He is the one who broke things off and it’s his mess to repair.

Key Things To Remember During And After The No Contact Period

come back into your life for totally selfish reasons.

He will come back for all the good things and all the benefits of being in a relationship but he will have no intention of working things out or making an effort.

He will think that just being there is enough. If that’s the case, you are better off without him and you shouldn’t let him back into your heart or your life.

The worst-case scenario will not be so bad either. Regardless of whether you used the no contact period to get him back or to get over him, you will have used that time wisely.

You are rebuilding your life.

One of the most beneficial and greatest things about the no contact period is that you are concentrating on yourself. You are putting yourself first for a change and you are focusing on your dreams and desires.

When the no contact period ends, you will feel like you have been given a new set of eyes. You will see it’s not just him who needed space—you needed it too.

Don’t be surprised if after the no contact period you realize that you don’t want him back anymore. When you are in a relationship or shortly after a break-up it’s hard to see the reality of things.

Maybe there were a lot of things that weren’t working, maybe you decided to overlook some things way too many times and now that you are far away from him you realize he was never the right one for you to begin with.

To get the best out of the no contact period, you need to be familiar with its rules and the reason(s) why you are doing it in the first place. Here are some things to pay attention to during and after the no contact period (especially if it is your first time doing the no contact rule.)

The duration of the no contact period is mainly up to you.

You have to assess how much time both of you need to let things fall into perspective. It usually varies, around 30, 60 or 90 days of no contact.

The important thing is not to break the rule, as it will make things more difficult.

One more highly important step will be to assess the situation when or if he comes back after a set no contact period. You have to see where his desire to come back is coming from.

You have to figure out whether he is coming from a place of love or a place of need.

If he is coming from a place of love, you have nothing to worry about; he will make amends for all the heartache he has put you through.

He will try to be the best partner you have ever had and you will be happy because the difficult and painful days of the NC will have finally paid off and you will finally have your shot at happiness.

However, if he comes from a place of need, he will want to

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Whatever the outcome is and no matter what realizations you come to, the no contact rule will be definitely worth a try. It will help you discover and build some other side of yourself that you will love and cherish more than ever.

Final Thoughts

I hope some of these thoughts can help you grasp the overall situation better and answer the main question, “What is he thinking during no contact?”

I also know that you fear that the no contact rule won’t work in a way that guarantees you will get him back. But it is your best shot.

Whatever happens, know that you won because the no contact rule will help you rebuild your life and it will help you realize whether he’s the right one for you (or not).

If he still cares about you, he will make sure to let you know that.

If he doesn’t, then you know you weren’t meant to be together.

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Guys’ Mind During No Contact — Magnet of Success Nov 18, 2019 10:59PM The guys’ mind during no contact is slightly different from the girls’ mind. Guys tend to be more rational than emotional and think with logic rather than intuition.

Instead of relying on emotions and feelings for guidance, the male mind during no contact is oftentimes guided by logic.

The guys’ mind just like all human beings is, of course, empowered with emotions because we’re all human beings with powerful emotions.

But despite both genders being of the same human species, negative breakup emotions seem to wane quicker for guys than they do for women.

Unlike girls whose breakup decisions are often engraved deeply into their subconscious and conscious minds, guys are usually able to let go of their victim mentality and anger much quicker.

The reason why guys are like that dates far back in history.

A long time ago, guys used to hunt which required them to be calm and collected.

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They needed to wait for their prey and bring it down as quickly and efficiently as possible.

But for them yield good results, guys had to conceal their anger, fury, and other emotions of power until they absolutely needed to use them.

They basically needed to exercise patience in order to feed their starving bellies.

The girls’ roles, on the other hand, were more communication-based.

Their more important jobs were gathering various fruits and plants—so they (generally speaking) had a lot less physically demanding jobs.

Guys’ Mind During No Contact

Because of their tasks, women conversed, bonded with one another, and exchanged good and bad emotions in numerous ways.

Since guys are rational creatures, the guys’ mind during no contact tends to be decision-driven.

This is the reason why scientists believe that women have “overdeveloped” the way they experience emotions.

When guys feel discontent around their romantic partner, they rationally decide that their partner is not making them happy and that they need to chase after their own goals and happiness.

They think that it took women 1.5 million years to develop into the people they are today—and that as a result, their emotions are now deep-rooted into their brains.

And they do just that.

They say goodbye to their romantic partner and start looking for happiness on their own or by dating someone else right away.

Another interesting study suggests that women feel more pain compared to guys.

In some cases, guys immediately monkey-branch into the next relationship and sweep their issues under the rug.

From a biological and psychological perspective, guys tend to be less receptive to pain than women because of their physique and upbringing.

They think that they can forget about their ex’s shortcomings by dating someone new and fresh.

As for people’s emotional strength, according to Mayoclinic, twice as many women experience depression and various mental illnesses than men.

And to their surprise, they initially do.

They erase their ex out of existence and focus on their new and exciting life.

So without sounding biased, statistics show that guys tend to be more resilient when it comes to pain.

Dumpers immediately start doing things that make them happy and appear unaffected by the breakup.

But why do guys come back if they’re “stronger and more resilient”? What are guys thinking during no contact?

Some even act irresponsibly because they’ve detached long before the actual breakup.

We’re going to talk about what goes through a guy’s mind during no contact and how you can make sure that your ex gets what he needs to be content.

Although some guys initially cry for a day or two for breaking their partner’s heart (thanks to guilt), they don’t sit at home and cry for weeks and months the way dumpees do.

They instead rationalize with themselves and convince themselves that the breakup was a smart decision and that they have to get through with it.

What goes through a guy’s mind during no contact?

Provided you prioritized yourself, avoided begging and pleading and making other post-breakup mistakes, the guys’ mind during no contact usually hits a reset.

When enough time has passed, your ex no longer feels emotionally disturbed by the way you made him feel prior to the breakup.

He instead “only” remembers you in a negative, relationship-unworthy way and regularly reminds himself that breaking up with you was the right thing to do.

In doing so, your ex strengthens his decision to stay separated from you and continues to focus on himself and whomever he’s dating.

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Months into no contact, dumpers basically feel happy or “okay” to be on their own or with someone else, but they no longer hate you or despise you.

And that’s a huge improvement compared the day of the breakup when your ex resented you or appeared cold to you.

You must understand that unless a person keeps stimulating his or her negative emotions that he or she feels toward you, this person is eventually going to “calm down.”

He or she is going to relax and let go of his or her negative associations toward you.

And if you’re lucky, he or she might even acknowledge you as a decent human being again.

That’s why all your ex needs in no contact to think about you in a better light is some personal maturity.

He needs to be self-aware enough to: understand his emotions want to let go of negativity and victim mentality consider himself partially responsible for the end of the relationship have the drive to improve be positive about his life Here’s what goes through a guy’s mind during no contact.

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Your ex probably hasn’t trained his mind to be self-aware and adaptive to smothering, unpleasant emotions.

Up to this point, your ex probably always reacted to his surroundings and hasn’t learned to process intense breakup emotions.

And that’s because your ex hasn’t had the chance to.

He probably hasn’t gone through a difficult breakup before—or if he did, hadn’t learned much from it.

So the best way for your ex to let go of what he’s feeling toward you is for something emotionally challenging to happen to him.

Something like a breakup or anything that helps him remove negative stigma from your persona.

Dumpers tend to lack self-awareness A lot of dumpers, unfortunately, lack the ability to forgive. They lack the strength to go against their repulsive emotions and listen to dumpees for as long as they feel they were wronged.

In the breakup world, we refer to such thoughts and emotions as the victim mentality.

This mentality essentially prevents the dumpers from giving their dumpees another shot. And the worst thing about it is that it can’t be reasoned with and that it usually requires a lot of time, space, or something influential to get rid of it.

That’s why your ex just like most people needs to rely on time, space and distance to do the job for him.

He basically needs you to follow the rules of no contact and provide him with his fundamental human needs; respect, space, and time.

If you want to give your ex what he needs and make him happy, you need to start doing the right things immediately.

Give your ex the medicine that he craves and start following the indefinite no contact rule.

As a dumpee, you need to know that other than the indefinite no contact rule, there is no other way to make your ex relax and think positively about you.

He won’t suddenly heal from his suffocating emotional state until you give him everything he craves.

So give your ex the only gift he wants and leave your ex alone until you hear from him.

Do it even if your ex appears happy and you’re miserable.

You can’t intentionally change the guys’ mind is no contact

Guys need space and time

No matter how hard you try, you can’t directly change your ex’s mind during no contact.

Now that the breakup has ensued, your ex needs a lot of space and time.

You can’t do it if you’re the richest, smartest, prettiest person on the planet—as long as your ex isn’t ready.

He needs it to think rationally and slowly, one day at a time, let go of negative disturbances that plague his mind.

You need to understand that guys are often ego-driven—and won’t be reasoned with no matter how apologetic you appear.

Although your ex could theoretically let go of negative associations very quickly if he wanted to, he likely can’t right now.

They just won’t become receptive to you until their perception of you changes.

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So for the guy’s mind in no contact about you to change, one of the following things has to occur first; 1. Your ex willing changes his negative thoughts about you to more positive ones.

2. Enough time passes since the breakup for your ex’s repulsive emotions to subside.

3. Something unpredictable makes your ex self-reflect.

Dumpees don’t possess the power to change their guys’ mind during no contact.

And that’s precisely what dumpees often don’t comprehend.

They often think that they can single-handedly influence or manipulate their ex into their way of thinking.

But the truth is that self-destructive actions usually only backfire.

Although jealousy games can work on some less mature dumpers, they don’t work on most dumpers.

Almost all dumpers end up hating their dumpee for doing something so devious.

In some cases when the dumpers actually fall for sly tricks, dumpers leave shortly again anyway.

That’s because they come to a realization that they came back for everything but love.

So if you’re thinking about forcing your ex to return, here’s what happens when you try to single-handedly change the guys’ mind during no contact.

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He could try to extort validation, redemption or even love.

So whatever you do, don’t think that your ex will come back before he has a reason to come back.

It likely won’t happen before you’ve moved on and your ex dated a few other girls.

That’s why you need to prepare yourself in advance and become “okay” with your ex seeing whoever he wants to.

You can’t stop your ex from dating even if you try, so at the very least protect your heart and guarantee your safety.

Practice forgiveness affirmations and continue letting go of your ex so that your ex dating someone else doesn’t devastate you.

Influencing guys’ mind during no contact The only way to influence the guys’ mind during no contact is to exude confidence, self-respect and high self-esteem.

These are the traits that are highly desirable in both genders.

So if you’re wondering how to change your ex’s mind about you during no contact, you need to know that there is no direct way.

All you can do is to follow a strict regimen of the indefinite no contact rule and never, ever reach out to your ex.

It’s really that straightforward.

Staying silent and focusing on yourself is the best way to influence a person who lost hope in you.

It exhibits high levels of self-respect and shows your ex that you’re going to be okay without him.

There truly is no better message you could send to an ex who’s lost attraction, love, and respect for you.

The guys’ mind after no contact The male’s mind after no contact could be difficult to interpret as long as you’re still heartbroken.

Your ex might tell you one thing and do something else—and you might think that he’s playing mind games with you.

But before you unleash your wrath on your ex and get back at him for playing with your feelings, think about what your actions intend to accomplish.

If you really think about it, you will realize that nothing good.

So find a way to relax and look at what your ex is saying to see if his words match his behavior In this way, you’ll realize whether your ex is serious or if he’s merely playing you for a fool.

You need to understand that guys often reach out for ego, guilt and validation purposes.

The guys’ mind during no contact takes time to change Usually, something has to force dumpers to think better about you.

Whether it’s depression, a failed rebound relationship, or anything negative, some external factor has to influence the male mind during no contact.

They break no contact in the form of a breadcrumb and check up on their dumpees to elicit a reaction our of them.

In doing so, they obtain what they’re after, empower themselves, and quickly go back into their hiding.

When that happens, your ex will likely contact you and try to obtain something from you.

So if you’re trying to understand what goes through a guy’s mind

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What Is Your Ex Thinking During No Contact?

during no contact, know that you don’t really need to understand everything.

You especially don’t need to know what your ex doing in his free time or saying about you.

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All you need to know is whether he regrets hurting you and if he intends to come back.

That’s it.

Everything else is irrelevant as it will only give you false hope and make your anxious brain overanalyze.

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So wait for your ex to express the desire to take things further with you.

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When and if he does, you will hear from him.

A lot of people want to know what their ex is thinking during the no contact period (a period of time where the person who has been broken up with does not contact the ex in any way whatsoever).

And if he doesn’t apologize for hurting, nor want you back, then that’s okay too.

For more information, read The No Contact Rule.

Your ex’s inactions will inadvertently help you move on and detach from him.

They will ask if no contact makes their ex miss them or want to get back together, if the no contact rule works on men, women, etc.

Give guys what they want

If you want to know what is he thinking during no contact (or she), this article will explain the concept for both the male and female mind during no contact.

Whether you’re in no contact or your NC has ended, you must continue giving your ex what he wants.

You need to continue giving your ex freedom, independence, respect—and everything he ever wanted so that he can properly let go of his breakup emotions.

Let’s get started:

His emotions and mindset have to undergo a natural change and slowly—one day at a time return back to its regular, calm and relaxed state.

Many people who call me for coaching to get their ex back feel that when their ex broke up with them that a switch was flicked in their ex’s mind so that now their ex is cold and no longer feels anything for them. Unless your ex is truly dealing with mental problems or genuine/clinical character flaws, that is not the case.

Get your ex back with Coach Lee’s Emergency Breakup Kit!

But before you get too excited, you need to know that the guys’ mind during no contact or after can take forever to change.

It is most likely that your ex still cares about you and thinks about you during no contact. That does notmean you should reach out to them. You should not. If you’ve just been broken up with, read “What Do I Do If I Was Just Dumped?” for a detailed explanation of why this is the case and why it should encourage you.

Although guys usually let go of their negative emotions, they don’t always forget all the negative aspects of their previous relationships.

They instead rationally hold onto the past and frequently reason with themselves so that they can stick to their decision.

Just because they’re thinking about you or even if your ex is missing you during no contact, that doesn’t mean you should text, call, or go see them. In fact, the opposite is true if you want to get them back. I discuss that in the articles linked to above but that’s not what this article is about.

They do this to continuously think about the dumpee in a negative way and to strengthen their decision to stay broken up.

This is the main reason why some guys’ mindset about their dumpee never changes.

For such dumpers, reconciliation is not possible even if you’ve improved all your shortcomings and become the most attractive person in the world.

Here’s the deal:

You need to understand that as long as your ex views you in a bad way, he is never going to give the new version of you another shot.

He will instead hold onto the negative image he’d created before the breakup and continue to corrupt your persona.

Here’s a video on guys’ mind during no contact.

Yes, your ex probably doesn’t have bad thoughts about you unless you two broke up due to shared anger at each other. But even then, if you are giving your ex space and not pestering them with texts and calls, they are likely using your greatest ally — their mind — to separate the anger at the end from the rest of your relationship. That’s right, your ex’s mind is your greatest ally in your fight to get them back.

Your ex probably doesn’t feel the effects of no contact at the same trajectory you do.

Do you agree that there’s no changing the guys’ mind during no contact as well as after unless they first become receptive? Drop your thoughts in the comments section below.

Usually the person who has been broken up with feels the pain of no contact immediately and then begins to develop strength over time. The person who did the dumping usually feels strength (and

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often relief) at the very first, but with the days and weeks of no contact your ex likely begins to develop feelings of doubt in their decision, missing you, fear that you have moved on, and confusion that you have not chased, begged, and pleaded as most others do after being dumped. You want them thinking along those lines!

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