ISSUE 2: DECEMBER 2018
One Year on From Marriage Equality
Styling Your Wedding Venue
Summer / Spring Wedding Tips
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Welcome 5 Martin & Andrew
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Questions To Ask Your Venue
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Styling Your Wedding Venue
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Wedding Styles
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Summer / Spring Wedding Tips
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Wedding Registry
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Gift Ideas
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Stay Cool, Look Hot!
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Bronte Price, Sarah Kunst, Anne O’Brien.
Lardner Park
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Ph oto gra ph ic Co n tribu t ors
One Year On From Marriage Equality In Australia
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How Drag Changed My Life
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How To Make Your Wedding Eco Friendly
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Alastair & Cameron
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Signature Cocktails
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Power Of Attorney Vs. Guardianship
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Laughter & Love
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I Had To Come Out Too
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Angus Edwards, Simone Townsend, Prada Clutch,
Frank Farrugia (Samelove Photography), Yasmina Nadine (Yasmina Nadine Photography)
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WELCOME Our second edition of our magazine will be released on the eve of the first anniversary of the legislation passing, and will be a slimline digital version. The print industry is rapidly print magazine must also adapt for the future.
You don’t have to touch it to know Love is everywhere you go You don’t have to touch it to feel Love is every second we steal Love is love is nothing without you
marry in heartfelt ceremonies. That’s 5,000 mostly long
Love is love is everything you do
term couples, families and adopted rainbow families directly
Open up your eyes
affected and the earth hasn’t caved in. Imagine that!
And you will see
most about with the decades of struggle we have faced. These are traditions we may choose to include and often still mean a lot to us all and so deservedly we include them on our day. With traditions changing we are also paving the way for a new wedding industry, which is crafting an alternate path for generations to come. It’s the proudest day of our lives, so why not incorporate the things that we hold closest to our heart, celebrate what we want to honour and mark a day we have been waiting so long for.
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traditional vows that the LGBTI community knows more than
Love is love is everything to me
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‘Through sickness and health’. ’Till death do us part’ are
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One year on and we have seen over 5,000 LGBTI couples
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reducing and the world seeks instant access so, our lovely
And l leave you in the words of Culture Club ‘Love Is Love’
You don’t have to touch it to be Wrapped up in emotion like me Everyone must feel how I do, yeah Love is just to be close to you Love is love is nothing without you Love is love is everything you do Open up your eyes And you will see Love is love is everything to me
It’s our time, so celebrate it however you want, there are no rules. Well maybe a few you need to follow but the after
And you know that love is love
party is all yours. So talk, discuss and plan the day you
It’s written in black and blue
want, not what others expect.
And everything you say Must bring her closer, closer to you NI V E LO M I LLE R — FOUNDER
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Martin & Andrew 30 September 2018 Photography: Same Love Photography - Timo and Frank
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MARTIN & ANDREW 30th September 2018
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Andrew proposed to Martin at the rather famous proposal spot of Bow Bridge in Central Park, New York on their 9th anniversary together. Even though they were alone in a big city, when the question was popped they suddenly heard a scream of excitement from a random lady who was passing by and were lucky enough she started capturing this momentous occasion with her phone. Much like the proposal they held their wedding ceremony in a park here in Sydney, Mckell Park which has spectacular views over the harbour and well-appointed gardens. With such a beautiful backdrop photo’s ensued and the reception followed at Beta Bar in Sydney CBD where, the food was absolutely incredible and the staff were so warm and friendly. The wedding theme revolved around an elegant and classy Gatsby theme. There was a mixture of gold, black and florals in deep blues, purples, pinks with golden foliage. Just a few days’ shy of our 10th anniversary we are now legally married in the place we want to live the rest of our lives.
CEREMONY McKell Park, Darling Point RECEPTION Beta Bar, Sydney PHOTOGRAPHERS Same Love Photography Timo and Frank VIDEOGRAPHY Patrick Rose CREATIVE TEAM/PLANNER/DESIGNER Noel Nassar Events
CELEBRANT Gina Liano
CHANDELIERS Starlight Chandeliers CUTLERY/GOLD STANDS NPM Events EVENT RENTALS Harbourside Decorators LIGHTING QC Entertainment DANCEFLOOR Event Dance Floors CHAIRS White Label Hire SEATING/ARBOR/FURNISHING The Treasure Room MENUS/STATIONERY Edge House Design PRINTING Clever Fox Print
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MC/ENTERTAINMENT Verushka Darling
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QUESTIONS TO ASK YOUR VENUE DATE AND VENUE is the venue available on my preferred date? how many can you accommodate seated or standing? what is the fee for hiring your venue? what is the deposit? are there other weddings held on the same day?
WHAT IS INCLUDED IN THE FEE? what does the rental fee include and not include?
is there a minimum or maximum rental time? what is the cancellation/refund policy?
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how much is an additional hour?
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do you offer discounts for wedding guests to stay here? is there a curfew for music and when is that? do you have parking and how many spaces
VENDORS & STYLING can i use any vendor or must i use your preferred vendors? if it rains do you have a back-up plan? when can i begin setup on my wedding day? are there any restrictions on the space?
VENUE SPECIFICS do you have wifi, sound, AV system, DJ booth that i can use? can i BYO alcohol or catering? is there accessible toilets, a lift or wheelchair access? do you allow pets?
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do you have accommodation?
STYLING YOUR WEDDING VENUE THE STYLING OF YOUR WEDDING VENUE
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IMPRINTS YOUR PERSONAL VISION AND STYLE ON YOUR BIG DAY - HOWEVER THERE A FEW CONSIDERATIONS TO PAUSE AND REFLECT ON BEFORE LEAPING INTO THE ‘STYLING” PHASE OF ANY BIG DAY
Any small detail can throw off the whole look of the vision of your wedding and result in expensive and timeconsuming mistakes. So, at the very least it is a sound decision to take a “consult” with an experienced and professional wedding planner at the start of this important journey to your day.
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The very first thing that an experienced styling or planning service will discuss and advise you and your partner to consider is your budget for the big day. When meeting with the venues of choice across both the ceremony and reception spaces, remember that accessibility and distance can add not only hours to the setup of the day but also many financial and logistic aspects that you many not of considered. Remember all of this “styling” is also external to the other elements of the day e.g.: transport, photography, videography and the practical ‘on the day’ coordination processes across all suppliers and vendors. When viewing a venue ensure you ask what’s included in the hire and ask for this in flyer form so you have
easiest of wedding day aspects to handle also without
a copy of it when you leave the venue. The two most
guidance across planning, logistics, access, delivery
common options are:
and pack down – this requires some discussion and consideration to progress successfully on the day.
Venues that supply you with the basic facilities such as tables, chairs, table and stem ware, cutlery, linen, napery etc. plus any coordination aspects that the venue
that can reduce the level of external supplier and vendor engagement. However, if you choose the “blank canvas” option the planning timeline is often extended significantly (up to 12 months in some instances) and increases the number of suppliers and vendors required also to ensure every element is appropriately met.
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specifically will deliver for you.
Established venues have elements of choice in situ
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A “shell” or blank canvas is where you will have to bring
You also can expect this option to also increase your wedding budget - considerably.
everything in (and we mean everything) from tables,
While the blank canvas option allows you the most
chairs, linen, napery, floral decor, props and catering
flexibility in picking and choosing your vendors, it needs
plus all the on the day aspects across all spaces too.
to be considered within the context of your budget scope
It’s not at all unmanageable, but most certainly not the
and how much time both you and your partner have to devote to the logistic aspects of styling. An experienced stylist and planning service can help you avoid the time-consuming tasks related to cost quotes, contract negotiations, cost schedule payments and timeline delivery scheduled for set up and pack down on the big day across both the ceremony and reception spaces (and this is on top of the aesthetic of the styling of the day!). There are many different styles and looks to choose from when styling your wedding venue, and at LUXE – Unforgettable Events we would consider each one in context with you and your partner’s preferred vision and assist you to arrive at a unique and personalised agreement as to the look and style for your unforgettable day – in budget for your day.
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WEDDING STYLES
O NE O F T H E FI RST T H I NG S TO CO NS I D E R I S T H E T Y P E O F ST YLE YOU WO U LD LI K E TO I NCO R PO RATE WITHIN YO U R W E D D I NG . T H E R E A R E M AN Y TO CH O O S E FRO M A ND W E H AVE RO U ND E D U P S O M E O F T H E M OR E CO M M O N O NES TO CO NS I D ER .
R U ST I C aesthetics and simplicity of a country life style with organic elements such as timber and metals with unstructured bouquets and floral decors.
MODERN The modern wedding style can be thought of as the opposite design of the vintage style. This sleek look has an almost futuristic feel to it, including the most contemporary decor and a venue with modern architecture and geometric shapes. This style focuses on minimalism across all spaces on the day.
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A rustic look will combine the natural
CLAS S I C A classic look is elegant and traditional, and it’s always tasteful. A similar styling option that is popular amongst couples is vintage.
V I NTAG E Vintage design style, which incorporates antique buildings and decors so, your guests feel like they’re being transported back in time.
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Formal weddings are just that - formal
The Romantic style wedding certainly
and usually black tie that sets the tone
seeks to create a “magical” day to
of the event across spaces, pace and
remember and usually incorporates
flow.
flowers and other foliage with a breathtaking lush design. When
CAS UA L
choosing this wedding style, you will
A casual wedding style is the perfect
feel like you’re stepping into a fairy
design for your day if you are free flow
tale as you enter the ceremony and
and do not have any convictions to
reception space.
structures to your big day – and wish to celebrate your love in a relaxed and
A RT D ECO
casual way. This wedding style is often
The art-deco wedding style is the
set on a beach or home front where
perfect choice for you if you love glitz
your guests can sit back and celebrate
and glam. This jazz-inspired design
the love between you and your soon-
utilises gold and glitter. The art-deco
to-be spouse with their shoes off style.
style can be thought of as a hybrid of
This design will the focus in on the
glam and vintage – think “Gatsby” and
couple rather than any aesthetic.
all things F. Scott Fitzgerald.
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G LA M A “glam” wedding style is great for lovers of metallic colours. If you envision your wedding to be full of sparkle and shine, this style is one to seriously consider. Chandeliers are a common focal point at weddings with this design and are often decorated with ornate floral arrangements. This wedding style is a win for those who would like a “Hollywood” vibe on their memorable day. It is or should be always an option to discuss “looks” from several different that speaks to your day – your way and for your wedding that will be totally unforgettable and forms a fusion that is
way to deliver your dream day with styling and planning that represents you, your partner and the personality of the day in an affordable way. If you would like to explore your options for styling and planning further we are happy to arrange a complimentary consult which will provide you with a detailed look at all that goes into the planning, design and delivery of your wedding day, your budget expectation and next steps in the styling and planning journey toward your biggest day.
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SUMMER / SPRING WEDDING TIPS SUM M ER IS PRIME TIME FOR WE DDIN GS, WIT H TH E W EAT H E R S O G O OD AND LONG DAYS WIT H BEAU T IF U L S U N S E TS. T H E S U N CA N B E HARSH HERE IN AUST RA L IA S O WE HAV E P U T TO G E T H E R S O M E T I P S T HAT WILL ASSIST YOU A N D YOU R GU ESTS IN KE E P I NG CO O L A ND STAYING COMFORTAB L E . PROVIDE H EAT RELIE F We all love the heat but we do need respite from it if a large portion of your wedding is during the daytime. There are a number of ways to provide this, which could include shaded structures S UM M E R
to small ice-cold towels that you can have pre-prepared sitting in an ice bucket. You could scatter ice buckets with bottles of water around the area and limit intoxication. Place those ice
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buckets also around the dance floor guests have to go on a mission to find
provide moisture where it is needed
to have your photos taken with a
water it can be annoying. Our final tip
most to assist with cooling.
nice pre-sunset sky that will provide a beautiful background and a more
on this point: don’t forget your vendors. to cold refreshments and keep them in a good mood. R E N T AI R-CON UNITS OR FA N S Check with your venue if they provide air-conditioning and if they don’t you can quite often rent portable air-con units or large fans from specialist businesses. If you are hiring items for your reception put this on the list! Think
IC E BLOC KS O R PO P S Consider serving ice blocks or ice pops
comfortable time to be posing with each other.
somewhere during the event. They are refreshing, everyone will appreciate
W EA R CO O L , B R EAT H A B LE AT TIR E
them and they are also easy to prepare
Chose attire which breathes and we
prior to the wedding. This is something
address the specific fabrics in an
you could delegate or make with a
article written by Shane Ave on page
bunch of friends if you wanted to DIY.
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You could also add frozen drinks or slushies to the drinks menu.
about the placement and test them out
B U Y S U NS CR E E N, B U G S P RAY A ND A LO E V E RA S P RAY
DON ’ T BEGI N YO U R O U T D O O R WE DDIN G AT M I D DAY
Those mega bottles of sunscreen you
right next to the celebrant or when you are delivering the toast. Plus, keep your
This is the time when the sun is at
them around the place perhaps next
DJ or band cool whilst they are playing
its strongest and your guests will
to the drinks and throw in a few aloe
because they are the ones who are out
quickly become uncomfortable in the
vera sprays in the ice buckets in case
there for several hours. Our tip, try and
sweltering sun. We suggest planning
anyone gets sunburn. You could even
hire those fans that blow mist as they
your ideal time for your dinner at
have water spray bottles available.
rotate. They move air around but also
sunset and work backwards. It’s best
beforehand. You don’t want a noisy fan
can purchase … buy a few of them. Put
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Set up an area where they have access
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Cover that dance floor or reception
going to be out in the sun think about
out foot pools but why not! Adding
area. It doubles as a sun shade and a
changing them so you and your guests
a small inflatable pool or four full of
plan B if the weather gets nasty.
don’t burn their bottoms. If you want
water (add some ice) and letting your
metal chairs get a marquee to cover
guests stick their feet into it whilst
them invest in chair covers or at least
drinking is a good idea. We often
cushions.
provide those clam shells you can buy for $14 at Bunnings full of water at
FLOWERS WI LT Q U IC KLY IN SUMMER HEAT If your flowers don’t have a water
our annual Xmas party so people can stand in the water and drink under some large Japanese umbrellas.
source they will quickly deteriorate.
CH A LK A RA I NB OW Ok, so this is not a summer wedding tip however we plan on chalking a rainbow across the driveway into the venue and it feels so fitting. Maybe you could include a rainbow crossing somewhere if the venue allows you to. You could even do it at the ceremony
Think of an alternative or have them
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where everyone crosses the rainbow
in water right up till the point you put
Heavy food and heat don’t mix. Talk
crossing as they enter and they take
them in your hair or put ice in the vase.
to your venue and see what options
their seat.
they have for summer or spring that T HONGS AND UMBRE L LAS Have a basket of thongs handy or ask your guests to bring their own and place them in the basket for the reception. Alternatively, provide a bunch of umbrellas for the guests which can provide shade during the ceremony.
are lighter. By doing so it will ensure everyone dances rather than sitting at their table feeling lethargic. Frozen cocktails that include mint and cucumber are popular and who would turn down an oyster platter or any type of canape for starters?
M A K E A STAT E M E NT W I T H YOU R W E D D I NG VOWS Make a statement, say something at the ceremony that’s personal and fitting to your wedding that emphasises the struggle and recognition that we have finally achieved.
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Bekki & Leanne
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National Park sitting with their feet in
the photographer, venue decoration
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a cool spring, Leanne slid a box over
and where were they going for their
to Bekki who almost instantly began
honeymoon. After meeting a couple
crying. They had both talked about
of photographers, Bekki and Leanne
the prospect of marriage but until that
found Yasmina and instantly loved her.
point it had never been more than
They thought her portfolio was great
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decided upon. All that was left was
a discussion. Almost instantly the
and open-minded. During the wedding
planning began with Bekki researching
planning process both were worried
different venue options, talking about
each time they talked to different
colour schemes, styles and most
vendors how they would react when
importantly, when the wedding would
explaining that it was a same-sex
actually take place!
wedding and no one at any point made them feel uncomfortable.
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On 24th August 2016 at Yosemite
The original plan was for October 2017 around the time of the school
The couple shopped for their wedding
holidays, which as a teacher, was very
outfits separately with their respective
important for Leanne. After much
parents, with only the wedding party
research, visiting venues and gathering
knowing what the other was wearing.
quotes they realised that an October
On the wedding day they dressed
wedding was breaking their budget.
separately, preparing to meet each
They asked their preferred venue about
other for the first time in the ceremony
a March date and the price was much
room. In a beautiful country house in a
more agreeable. So the date was set to
small town, the pianist played Canon
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in D as one bride walked into the room after the other and surrounded by all the people they loved. Despite
Colours for the wedding were set:
the nerves from earlier that morning
oxford blue and canary yellow. With
the day went off without a hitch. The
this decision made, Leanne could shop
weather was beautiful with most of
for her dress and Bekki could find a
the guests in sunglasses and spending
suitable suit for her Man of Honour.
time outside enjoying the warmth of
The flowers were selected and food
sun and love.
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A Headlands Wedding Headlands Austinmer Beach is a stunning ocean front venue located on the picturesque south coast of New South Wales. Surrounded by beautiful beaches and parkland, our breathtaking views will create the perfect backdrop for your wedding, with an abundance of ceremony locations just a stone’s throw away from your reception space. After your reception, retreat to our luxury apartments with mesmerizing ocean views certain to make your stay as newlyweds truly unforgettable .
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round it up you are surely covered.
GU IDE L INES O N W H AT TO S P E ND
Personally, we think that it’s worth
With peak wedding season around
placing at least $100 in the well for the
the corner and invitations arriving it’s
entire night if not more, depending on
lovely to be invited to a wedding but
your relationship and where the day is
it can also be a taxing time on the hip
held. You are better off throwing more
pocket.
in the well than left red-faced when a potential discussion evolves around the
More often than not same-sex couples
table about how much you put into the
will be living together for some
well.
therefore, they probably already have
CE LE B RAT E W I T H P R I D E
the home and kitchen appliances that
If the couple are very much out and
are so often purchased as wedding
proud we certainly suggest flights &
gifts.
accommodation to the next Mardi Gras, Midsumma or World Pride events? You
With that in mind, we are look at the
know they will have so much fun and
various types of wedding registries
it’s a mini honeymoon for them in a
that couples may chose for different
way.
scenarios and a guide to how much you would spend with each.
G I F T R EG I ST RY registries that have an array of gifts
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you can buy outright or contribute
A wishing well typically goes
towards a more expensive goal. This
towards a honeymoon, a new house
does allow the couple diversity on
(or apartment these days) or may
what they need and want for their next
just off-set their big day. Depending
stage in life. If the couple does provide
on how close you are to the couple
a link to a registry we would strongly
you should be looking to contribute
advise you do select from there as they
between $100 - $300.
have taken the time to work out what
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they really need. It’s worth noting that weddings in capital cities typically cost couples
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between $120 - $170 per head,
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while regional areas it’s normally
Being connected to the community
around $70 - $90 a head.
we know that many of you like a good drop, so we are throwing this one into
If the couple getting married attended
our potential list. This can be achieved
your own wedding, you can always be
two ways, the couple could post a list
guided by the amount that they spent
out of what wines/champagnes they
on you.
would like to stock their cellar with or you could sign them up to a monthly
Whilst it is hard to estimate what a
subscription of wines that deliver to
wedding would cost if you take the
their door.
above guide to pricing and perhaps
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We have also seen couples utilise
may come down to your attendance is
art gallery or a trip to MONA.
a wishing well for an artwork fund,
the gift if flying to a rather expensive
which they then use to select some
place. If you want to contribute a
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art for their home. This becomes a
smaller amount it might be an idea to
• Gift a relaxing weekend away
constant reminder of their wedding day
discuss with other guests about all
gift from their friends.
chipping in for a larger gift as a group.
• Buy them a voucher to a restaurant
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EX PE RIENCES & M E M B E RS H I P S
• Buy them a Bunnings gift voucher if
We came across this recently on our
If you have no need for material
they are re-modelling their home
blog where Thai & Serafin requested no
possessions but are after some
• A voucher at a department store so
gifts but instead asked their guests to
experiences that you will remember
contribute to their wishing well which
forever then somewhere like Red
was donated to the Brain Foundation
Balloon may pop-up on your radar with
As a general guide if you are building a
in memory of Serafin’s late father.
various ideas from hot air ballooning
gift registry we recommend you build it
over the Barossa Valley to seaplane joy
around the $80 mark for everyone, so if
flights.
you have 50 people then a gift registry
complete with massages for a special meal
D ESTINATI ON W E DDIN GS When travelling to a destination
they can pick out what they want
of $4000 would be appropriate. Then
wedding travel costs and
A membership could really appeal to
two months prior to your wedding go
accommodation do play a part in the
some couples, if they love art they may
back and revisit it and add some more
amount given to the gift registry and it
appreciate a membership at their local
items if needed
GIFT IDEAS
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HEADPIECES:
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ATTIRE:
HANDKERCHIEFS, BOWTIES & TIES:
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JEWELLERY:
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CONTRIBUTORS Photography: Same Love Photography @samelovephotography Models: Kyrah Cilia, Maria Temelkos, Susie Culbert, Jacqueline Lee Freestone Hair: Steve Miller
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STAY COOL, LOOK HOT!
WHETHER YOU’RE GETTING MARRIED OR JUST A GUEST AT A WEDDING, YOU DESERVE TO LOOK YOUR BEST! DRESSES, TUXEDOS AND OTHER FORMAL WEAR CAN FEEL LUXURIOUS BUT SWEAT ISN’T SEXY. BEFORE CHOOSING YOUR STYLE FOR THIS SEASON’S SPECIAL EVENTS THINK ABOUT THE FABRIC FIRST.
BEST FABRICS FOR SUMMER
champagne bottles). Since linen
In fact, most fabric blends are summer
Suit styles and preferences can vary as
creases easily, it’s mostly used in less
wedding no-go’s. Due to their synthetic
much as the people wearing them but
formal weddings.
nature, they don’t usually excel at
one consideration remains the same: some fabrics are just better suited (pun intended) for summer than others.
Cotton is also a popular option for any type of summer attire, including wedding ensembles. Light and airy,
keeping you cool and dry. Any fabric that’s clingy, tight, or repels water will make you rethink your choices.
When it’s hot and humid, the type of
100% fine cotton is generally low
MIX AND MATCH
fabric you choose can ultimately affect
maintenance and budget-friendly.
Once you’ve settled on a fabric option
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your overall look. Heading down the aisle with a soaked shirt is no way to
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start a wedding. Whether you’re going to an outdoor garden ceremony or just
As an added bonus wool, cotton, and linen are 100% natural and sustainable and look flattering on any body type.
walking from the car to the ballroom,
MATERIALS TO AVOID
the last thing you want is to suffer from
If linen or wool aren’t viable options
clothes made of stifling fabric.
then you should take care to avoid
Choose clothing made from 100% wool or linen to keep you light and cool. Wool might make you think of winter
some of the most heat-producing fabrics if you want to stay fresh and focused.
you need to turn that material into shapes and styles that flatter. Finding that perfect combination isn’t always easy, especially since there are dozens of ways to mix and match suit pieces. The classic three-piece suit remains a top choice consisting of a coordinating jacket, vest, and pants. Or you can pare down the options to just a jacket and pants - one less layer might leave
but this fibre has a naturally ability
One of the worst offenders is polyester
you cooler if the special date is during
to shed water. It also helps to pull
fabrics. While they’re often the
the peak of summer.
moisture and heat away from your skin
cheapest, they’re also water repellant.
to keep you cool and dry.
This means that instead of wicking
Linen is a super lightweight fabric that provides unmatched airflow and lets your body breathe. It’s less clingy than other materials and dries quickly should your clothing become wet (helpful if you plan on popping
moisture away from you polyester allows moisture to build, which can leave you feeling sticky, sweaty, and miserable. Beware the polyester/wool
If you’re wearing a long necktie it usually makes sense to wear a vest to keep your tie tucked into place. Bow ties can work with or without a vest or choose to go sans tie.
blends too - adding wool to the mix
Other accessories that can complete
doesn’t give you the same benefits as
your ensemble include silk pocket
100% wool.
squares, cummerbunds, cufflinks, tie
lapel pens. These items all give you limitless flexibility in customising your
Also, trending is the step outside the one-dimensional colour chart in favour of mixing bolder colors, textures and
you’re never stuck with the basic,
metallics are making their way down
masculine cuts of traditional weddings.
the aisle.
You can opt for curvier lines, tighter fits, shorter jackets, higher in-seams, and softer colors than what you’d find in an off-the-rack suit shop.
“We’ve seen such a shift in what summer wedding attire not only looks like but also how it makes the wearer feel.” says Deb Saywell, Founder and
LOOKING FOR A SUMMER SUIT?
Lead Designer of Shane Ave. We
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know that in order for us to offer true
Summer wedding trends are constantly
bespoke suits, we need to consider
in motion and Shane Ave strives
that no option is off the table and help
to stay on the cusp of styles their
each of our clients experience clothing
customers crave.
like never before.”
One of the most surprising trends seen
“What our clients want is the
is the shirtless vest with coordinated
opportunity to step into an environment
pants. It’s actually a genius idea for
that gives them the confidence to
summer because it eliminates one of
express what they want to wear on
- just professional, friendly advice that focuses on colour palettes, fabrics and your desired fit to make every wedding truly special.” “Our clients want to feel empowered when choosing their wedding attire.” Saywell observes: “The shopping experience for our LGBTIQ community is rife with challenges and fears that typical department stores just aren’t equipped to handle their needs and every newlywed deserves to feel special on their day.”
Contributor: Deb Saywell Founder, Shane Ave www.shaneave.com
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patterns. Stripes, plaids and even
or recourse. There is no right or wrong
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With bespoke suits keep in mind that
their wedding day with no judgement
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look.
the most stifling layers of the suit.
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Same Love was born in 2012. We have a long standing relationship with LGBTQIA organisations that have contributed to achieving marriage equality, with 3.5 years of pro bono work.
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SWITCHBOARD The sleigh bells are ringing, the
important piece of the puzzle in our
partridge is in the pear tree and
lives we also know from listening to
Mariah is telling us again for the
LGBTIQA+ people that, there remains
20th year in a row that ‘all I want for
so much more to fight for and change
Christmas is you’.
– in both the personal realm and in
For many in the LGBTIQA+
broader society.
communities, the very thought of the
Whether it is Christmas Day,
festive season sends a shiver down
Hanukkah or Pancha Ganapati, all
our spines – not just because of the
these December days of observance
expense and the carols but also
rooted are in religion and historically,
because we are queer. Christmas is
many of these religions have rejected
sold to us as a time to reconnect with
us. Like queer weddings, many in
our (for want of a better term) family of
our communities are reclaiming and
origin yet for many of us this is deeply
‘queering’ these festive holidays. An
complicated. Too many LGBTIQA+
example of this is Melbourne’s 2018
people remain unwelcome within our
Carols by Queerlight held at St Kilda
families of origin for reasons out of
Town Hall on Saturday December 15.
our control including: rejection of our
However, even with these emerging
partners and/or kids; not wanting to
events and the growth in inclusive
see our transitioned bodies; or being
faith-based congregations, it doesn’t
asked to use pronouns and/or names
mean that everything is now hunky
they don’t accept. Some of us just
dory. I don’t need to tell you that, dear
don’t want to go to another family
reader.
shindig to sit with family who voted ‘no’ or hear discriminatory opinions voiced as casual conversation.
At Switchboard we know all about the loneliness of the holiday season. After all many of us experience these
At Switchboard Victoria we listen
feelings ourselves. Switchboard has
to our communities tell their stories
over 160 volunteers and a small team
every day. We know that many people
of staff who all identify as part of the
feel silenced by the recent Marriage
LGBTIQA+ communities. From our
Equality win, not empowered. They
own lives and the work we do, we
feel that they are no longer able to talk
know how important it is to talk to
about rights or discrimination because
and connect with others who share
they have ‘gotten what we wanted, we
and understand what we are going
won’. Whilst marriage equality was an
through.
This ‘festive’ season, we recommend
• If you are travelling at this time,
Perhaps you can be there for people –
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you actively prepare for how this
check out what is now on offer
be one of the five friends who will pick
time of the year impacts on you. Ask
in the city/town you grew up in –
up the phone. Think broadly of those
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yourself: what am I going to do to look
you might be surprised.
in your life who have struggled this
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year or might be struggling now. Go
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after myself ? Here are some tips. • Make a ‘festive season’ plan,
• Think of the things that make you happy and put them into
whether you are staying in or
your plan. Create a list of songs
going out lots.
and dance around the house, have
• Create a list of people you can call and text to connect with wherever you are. Aim for five
some long baths, go to the gym (or get a visitor pass for a local gym if you are travelling).
old school and send them a card in the mail or invite them along to events you are going to. Finally this festive season you might also consider becoming a regular financial donor to Switchboard Victoria. Support us to support those queers who are doing it tough.
people and add Switchboard/Qlife
If you love this time of year, and I know
Whatever this time of year means to
to the list – there you go, that’s
many of you do, have fun! Perhaps
you, let’s stay connected. Remember if
one!
between decorating the tree, going to
you need help reach out and if you are
multiple work Christmas parties and
doing well we encourage you to give
drinking egg nog, you might consider
back.
• Arrange to go to a queer event just before and just after the festive season.
giving back to those in our LGBTIQA+ communities who find this time of year uncomfortable (at best ) and at worst unbearable.
Happy holidays everyone and all the best if you are getting married over the festive season!
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GETTING WEDDING READY CAN BE A CHALLENGING TIME FOR COUPLES, BUT AT LARDNER PARK WE TAKE OUT THE HASSLE BY OFFERING A VENUE THAT PROVIDES ALL THAT YOU NEED IN ONE
Lardner Park offers a natural outdoor
With an abundance of undercover
setting, spanning over 300 acres,
pavilions plus the expansive Events
in which to exchange your vows
Centre, the options are endless for
with panoramic vistas of rolling
venue selection. Or perhaps you
hills and lush farm land, providing a
would like a marquee style reception
spectacular scenery for your special
amidst our stunning open spaces,
day.
such a beautiful way to put your
Enjoy unique ceremonies by the lake, mystical photo opportunities in the
stamp on the overall look and feel of the celebration.
forest or be charmed by the romantic
So, we welcome you to contact us at
setting in the historic rotunda.
Lardner Park where our experienced
Let your imagination run wild by
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creating your fairy tale wedding; think fairy lights hanging from the trees,
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long wooden tables laden with floral
and friendly team will assist in coordinating the day’s events to help you design a wedding with creativity, style and a host of personal touches.
arrangements and champagne, and
To find out more or to arrange a site
ceremonies filled with love, laughter
inspection, please call Lardner Park
and all your guests.
on 5626 1373 or email marketing@
Breathtaking vistas and sunsets
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provide the perfect backdrop for photography and our onsite caterers will work with you to create a dining experience to suit –cocktail finger food, shared platters and a grazing table, or a buffet showcasing all your
Venue: Lardner Park. Vic
favourite treats.
www.lardnerpark.com.au
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ONE YEAR ON FROM MARRIAGE EQUALITY IN AUSTRALIA
MANY OF US CAN REMEMBER THE EUPHORIA OF 15 NOVEMBER 2017, THE DAY THE AUSTRALIAN BUREAU OF STATISTICS RELEASED THE RESULTS OF THE “YES” VOTE ON MARRIAGE EQUALITY. I RECALL I WAS IN A MASSIVE CROWD OUTSIDE THE STATE LIBRARY IN SWANSTON STREET IN MELBOURNE,
respect from hospitals and other health
announced, the mood swung several
service providers that straight couples
times from positive and hopeful
have always received – and, yes, I have
to concerned and depressed, and
heard some horror stories. I’ve seen the
discussions wavered from the joy and
bravery of numerous LGBTI couples from
thrill of “it” finally being all ok and
countries where marriage equality is
marriage being legal for all people over
far from being legal, couples who have
the age of 18 in Australia, to “if we lose,
travelled to Australia to get married just
what will be the next steps?”. I won’t
to commit to each other in a formal way,
go over the flood of high emotions that
even though that marriage won’t be
followed the announcement, but they will
recognized back home. In some of these
forever be remembered by many of us.
countries, “homosexuality” is punishable
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In the hour prior to the results being
So, what’s happened since then?
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Well, more than 5000 LGBTI couples have got married. As a gay marriage
by death, but these couples push forward because they just know it’s the right thing for them to do.
celebrant who’s taken more than 60
I’ve been surprised by the number of
LGBTI wedding bookings in that time,
LGBTI couples who have been deeply
it’s been wonderful to see a great range
closeted and, yet, wish to get married.
of couples come forward to be joined
Usually, these marriage ceremonies
together. Many have been together
occur within their home with only their
for decades. For lots of them, getting
two witnesses and me present (or
married has been about reaffirming that
perhaps a handful of friends). They’re
and ensuring they both have the legal
very short ceremonies but are full of as
rights afforded them by marriage that
much love as many of the longer and
straight couples have always enjoyed.
more complex ceremonies. There are no
For others, where one party has been
photos posted to social media; there is
seriously ill, it’s been an opportunity
no public indication that the marriage
to stitch up the legal rights that come
has taken place; and the couples are firm
with marriage but also to get the same
about need for secrecy, for the sake of
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And, of course, I’ve been the celebrant
has now made it optional for the
memberships, their church membership
at some big gay weddings. There’ve
gender of a person to be included on
or their blood family’s cohesion. And,
been rainbow sashes and arches,
their birth certificate. The gay panic
in lots of these ceremonies, there’s not
rainbow cakes, rainbow tablecloths for
defence remains law in SA – work still
a member of their blood family to be
the signing table and rainbow coloured
needs to be done on that. Trans people
seen.
balloons on the dance-floor. And those
are now more easily able to amend
touches have put people in a great
their gender on birth certificates
mood for a wonderful celebration of
although some states and territories
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the marriage that has just taken place.
still require trans people to undergo
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But they’ve been the exception rather
gender reassignment surgery first.
than the rule.
And, in Victoria, married trans people
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Other LGBTI couples have had a focus on the celebration associated with their marriage, preferring to spend their limited funds on lovely food and fabulous beverages for their guests rather than on the trimmings often
On a more serious side, of course,
associated with straight weddings. So,
marriage equality was only ever one
they may invite 40 or 50 guests to a
more step in the fight for genuine
small venue not typically associated
equality for LGBTI people.
with the wedding industry, often on a weekday, and there’s not a table of 10 with an alternate-drop menu in sight! The MO is casual, standup, mingling, grazing table, informal party. The word “reception” isn’t uttered. And whilst there may be a rainbow or two in full view, people are there because they know the couple deeply rather than because they are friends of the parents who happen to be paying for the party.
no longer need to get a divorce in order to change their gender on their birth certificate. Non-binary people can now register a non-specific sex on various legal documents, but intersex people
Since marriage equality became a
continue to face medical interventions
reality in Australia in December 2017,
in their early years.
it is now legal for LGBTI couples to adopt children in all states and territories, including the Northern Territory. Discrimination on the basis of sexuality or gender identification is
There is still much more work to be done, particularly to ensure the rights of bisexual, trans and intersex people. The fight continues.
outlawed in every jurisdiction, apart from in religious schools which still
Contributor:
retain the right to refuse students and
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teachers on those bases. Tasmania
Gay Celebrant Melbourne
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HOW DRAG CHANGED MY LIFE THE FIRST TIME I SAW A DRAG SHOW ON OXFORD STREET I THOUGHT TO MYSELF, THERE’S NO WAY I COULD DO THAT. NONETHELESS WITHIN AND DRESSING ME IN DRAG FOR MY VERY FIRST TIME. launched, vocal chords-a-blazing, onto
I have been self-employed as a
the ability it gives me to perform all
the Sydney gay scene but this was only
professional drag queen for eleven
the female songs that I absolutely love,
the beginning for this songstress.
years now, giving me the freedom to be myself. Drag is a creative outlet where
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been doing drag for eleven years now
Drag has opened many doors for
I not only get to sing live & entertain
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& I’m absolutely loving it. It was one of
me, having the pleasure of meeting
people but I get to wear fabulous
those life-changing moments that you
celebrities like American singer
costumes, big hair & killer heels. It’s
least expect but was obviously meant
Glenn Fry from the rock band The
what every gay boy wishes for! Drag
to occur as it felt so right.
Eagles. When Glenn travelled to
has also given me the freedom to
Australia, he would request me as
travel.
As a young & naive musical theatre
his entertainment & host for the night
student, I was told that drag was the
when he was chilling with his band &
The greatest joy that drag gives me
dog-end of the industry & to avoid
crew in-between shows. Then there’s
is the satisfaction of helping people
it if I wanted to be taken seriously
Australian journalist & television
forget their worries while they are
as a theatre performer. Drag queens
personality Chris Bath. Chris & I had
being entertained by me. When I go out
on the scene told me that I could not
the pleasure of working together on
on stage it’s my mission to help people
live solely from working in drag &
The Sydney Markets Fresh Awards.
have fun. When you attend one of my
that I would need a second job doing
shows you can expect to be uplifted &
something more ‘normal’ to make a
It was at this event that I really
living & survive.
connected with her and discussed my
your sides will ache from the laughing.
regional tour & Chris eagerly invited me
Contributor:
Now I’m not one to take no for an
onto her ABC Radio evenings program.
Prada Clutch
answer & if you say I can’t do it, then
It was during this interview that we
Sydney Drag Queens
I will work harder to make it happen.
discussed how drag changed my life
www.sydneydragqueens.com.au
And this is what I did ten years ago
& allowed me to help communicate a
when I gave birth to my alter ego;
message of acceptance to the young
The Six-Foot Something Songstress,
people of regional NSW.
Prada Clutch. It was at this moment I
HOW TO MAKE YOUR WEDDING ECO FRIENDLY THINKING OF WAYS TO MAKE YOUR WEDDING ECO-FRIENDLY? IT IS EASIER THAN YOU THINK. MANY PEOPLE ARE LEANING TOWARDS STAYING AS GREEN AS THEY CAN, AND THEY DON’T NEED TO DRESS THE WEDDING PARTY IN BIODEGRADABLE CLOTHING TO DO IT. CHECK
RECEPTION VENUE
invitations are kept as mementos.
The ultimate way to cut down on
Check out printing on recycled or
energy usage is by having an outdoor
plantable paper where the infused
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venue for your ceremony, reception,
seeds can sprout in a garden, or even
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or both. But if the season of your
in a landfill if the invitation is thrown
wedding date requires you to be
away. For those technically switched-
indoors, you still have less impact on
on, consider creating a wedding
the Earth by having your ceremony
website or utilise a free online
and reception in one place (that’s
wedding planner.
less traveling for the guest and less pollution). Encourage your guests to car-pool, another great opportunity for those from out-of-town to get to know the others at their table.
FLOWERS If you are keen for flowers at your wedding, opt for in season flowers which means they spend less time in the fridge, and therefore use less
STATIONERY
electricity. Wild flowers can add a
If you can’t resist beautiful hand-
personal touch to your style. If you’re
lettered stationery for your wedding
not big on florals, you could make
invitations, consider going paperless
a bouquet from brooches, recycled
for your “Save the Date” notifications.
paper flowers or even succulents.
Once the official invitation arrives, this
Potted plants are a cool option for
typically gets tossed in the bin, while
centre pieces and favours, as your
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decorations, tree leaves for the table
You may decide to frame particular
them as a memory of the fun they
decorations and bio-degradable
items as a memory, use chalk boards
had at your celebration.
tableware including bamboo plates
instead of printing, re-purpose and
are all eco-friendly solutions. If you
place them in the kitchen or garden
would like confetti thrown, rose
or insert them into your wedding
petals and gum tree leaves are great
album if you have one.
ATTIRE Re-wear, hire, purchase vintage or borrow your wedding clothing to save $$$ and help with the staying eco-friendly. Those in your wedding party could wear something they already own or could borrow with just a few guidelines from the couple including colour or length. If you are set on purchasing your wedding clothes new, check out sustainable
substitutes. The options are endless with what you can recycle and use as decorations, even see what your guests might be able to lend you for the day. Try to avoid items that are only a “one time use” and are harmful to the environment like balloons and
decorations. Vintage furniture, mix and match china, mason jars for drinks, recycled cardboard
everything already) ask your guests to donate to your honeymoon fund or your favourite charity. Having eco-friendly wedding is
afterwards.
simple. Just a few small changes can make for a greener wedding
SIGNAGE
Everyone can be creative with
If you don’t need gifts (and have
plastic tableware that’s discarded
fabrics like cotton, silk or hemp.
DECORATIONS
GIFTS
Whether it be the seating plan, the timeline or the Mrs & Mrs signs that hang off the wedding party table, think about what they are printed on and how you could re-use them later.
and there can be a sense of accomplishment knowing that your celebrations have made a difference.
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SIGNATURE COCKTAILS
COCKTAILS ARE FABULOUS. Nothing says a wedding more than enjoying a fantastic drink or two celebrating the love and union of two great friends. And nothing else says ‘fabulous drinks’ like cocktails!
assortment of alcoholic and non-alcoholic drinks at their wedding. Some may even decide on a dry wedding, either for religious purposes, because the couple don’t drink much (or at all) themselves or they have that family member who turns into a nightmare when they get a few drinks into them. Nevertheless, a cocktail or two is a fantastic way to get your celebration under way and ensure your guests have a great time. Even mocktails can set the tone of the celebration.
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Most people will offer guests an
of your wedding and reception. If at a beach or outdoor setting, jugs of cocktails are an easy and great way to start the celebration. They can be easily poured out to your guests, are more costeffective but also easier for the bar staff to make and serve. If at a restaurant or a bar, you can go all out and opt for more ornate cocktails that are made to order. These usually take longer to make that other drinks so take that into consideration when planning your day.
Cocktails can be made to team with the
SOME COCKTAIL SUGGESTIONS:
theme of your wedding via a particular
• A classic Bellini – made with peach
colour, or even a country e.g. Japan: a
nectar and champagne or sparkling
fruity cocktail made with yuzu juice;
wine. It was invented at the famous
Italy: a spritz cocktail (prosecco or
Harry’s bar in Venice. Simple,
other sparkling wine with a fruit or bitter liqueur base - Aperol spritz are
elegant, and screams class. • A Spritz cocktail – generally a
hot right now); Brazil: Caipirinhas,
sparkling wine mixed with a fruity
Mojitos or anything with white rum
or bitter liqueur. Aperol spritz,
and fresh fruit juice. If having a beach
Elderflower cordial and prosecco.
wedding, try serving Piña Coladas. If
• A classic champagne cocktail or any
serve a rum and hot chocolate, or even mulled wine if it is cold enough.
other variation on it. • A refreshing gin or vodka-based cocktail - cucumber and tonic, raspberry and lemon, apple and
Consider when to serve your chosen
elderflower • S angria – white (sparkling wine sangria in a jug is a refreshing and
the ceremony, some wait until the
tasty way to start your festivities.
reception begins. It all depends on your ideas and how you want your special day structured.
• M argherita – classic lemon or strawberry or even watermelon • D aiquiris – watermelon, lychee,
Consider the cost of cocktails into
strawberry, passionfruit. They can
your budget as they are usually more
be made in big batches to be poured
expensive per drink than a glass of wine. Remember most cocktails have
when ready to serve • M ocktails – try some classic fruit
a higher volume of alcohol per drink
blends and experiment with coconut
than other drinks, so you don’t want
juice, fresh herbs and juices and
everyone sloshed before the meal
sparkling water.
service. I would avoid the following: Negroni Manhattan or a Dry Martini as
In any event, cocktails are a fun way
they are mostly pure alcohol with very
to start any party and everyone loves
little or no mixer of any kind in them.
to hold a classic cocktail glass in their hand. They are a sure way to facilitate conversation between your guests and get the event underway in style. Cheers! Contributor: Steve Miller Fine Wine and Dining Ambassador
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based) or red (red wine based)
some serve the first drink right after
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POWER OF ATTORNEY VS. GUARDIANSHIP
IT’S NOT NICE TO THINK ABOUT OR AN EASY CONVERSATION TO HAVE BUT IT’S SOMETHING WE ALL NEED TO BE PREPARED FOR. WHO IS GOING TO LOOK AFTER YOUR AFFAIRS WHEN YOU AREN’T ABLE TO AND WHAT SHOULD YOU PUT IN PLACE TO MAKE YOUR LOVED ONES’ LIVES EASIER IN THE EVENT THAT SOMETHING SHOULD HAPPEN TO YOU?
for your Power of Attorney, you
SO, WHAT IS AN ENDURING
is more likely that you or someone you
would be better off arranging an
GUARDIAN?
love may suffer periods of deteriorating
Enduring Power of Attorney.
The law also provides a way for you
Enduring Power of Attorney - this
to appoint someone to make lifestyle
Fortunately, the law provides ways
is where a ’Principal’ appoints an
decisions for you when you have lost
for you to make provisions to manage
’Attorney’ to manage their
the ability to make these for yourself –
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your finances and lifestyle; this is done
financial affairs. If you own
this is known as an Enduring Guardian.
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by arranging a Power of Attorney and
property, you can register an
An Enduring Guardian can help decide
Enduring Guardianship. These two
Enduring Power of Attorney
where you should live, what type of
documents are very important estate
with the Land Registry Services
personal services, medical and dental
planning tools.
which will allow the ’Attorney’ to
treatment you would like to receive
sell your property if applicable.
or not receive. When establishing an
The important point is that an
Enduring Guardian, you can tailor the
Enduring Power of Attorney
limit of the powers as you see fit.
THERE ARE TWO TYPES OF POWER OF ATTORNEY: 1.
2.
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We are living longer and as a result it
continues to operate when you
General Power of Attorney – this
have lost the ability to manage
involves a person referred to
your financial affairs.
as the ‘Principal’ appointing another person to handle their financial affairs, referred to as the ’Attorney’. This type of Power of Attorney is usually limited to a certain period of time, e.g. if you go on a holiday or are unable to manage your own affairs due to a health condition. If you don’t have a specific timeframe requirement
An Enduring Guardian can only exercise their appointment when you have lost the ability to make lifestyle decisions yourself. The appointment
For obvious reasons whom you appoint
of an Enduring Power of Attorney
as your Attorney has to be absolutely
and Enduring Guardian is only valid
trustworthy. You can specify when the
while the Principal is alive and those
’Attorney’s’ appointment commences,
documents cease to operate on the
what powers the ’Attorney’ has and
death of the Principal.
providing that you have capacity, you can revoke the Attorney’s appointment at anytime.
POW E R
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VS.
G UA R D I A N S H I P
WHAT HAPPENS IF YOU DO NOTHING? If you don’t have a plan in place you or your partner
or partner of the Principal. In one example, we have
will need to make an application to the Guardianship
seen a legal officer of the tribunal appointed as a
Tribunal which can be expensive and time
Guardian, which is not ideal.
consuming. Unfortunately, you don’t always end up with your preferred Guardian when the court is left
It’s important for couples and families to talk about
to decide who should manage your affairs.
what this means for you and how you can be best prepared in the event that life takes an unexpected
Whomever makes the application with the
turn. If in doubt, contact your solicitor to book
Guardianship Tribunal, will often determine who is
in some time to sit down and chat about your
selected as your Guardian. This may not always be
individual situation and what steps you need to take.
the person that you would have otherwise selected.
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LAUGHTER & LOVE After being together for almost 9
The couple shared special moments
years, Ellie and Latoya were finally
with family and friends during the
married on 11th August this year.
ceremony. They had a ring warming
Parliament House in Canberra, rallied with their allies, stood together for the announcements of results—and then partied in the street! Whilst Ellie and Latoya were overjoyed with the result, it took a while to sink in. Latoya says, “It took
during our ceremony where our rings, tied to a piece of timber, were passed through our guests to be warmed and blessed. The couple’s six children played a big part in the wedding—and also provided most of the entertainment during the ceremony!
until February 14, 2018 to realise we
Ellie and Latoya created a “blending”
could actually marry, so we did!”
painting where they and each of
They planned their perfect wedding day in only 6 months, with all of the pieces of their perfect day falling into place. “Our venue, celebrant,
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wanted. It was everything we envisioned and more.” said Latoya. They were married by the sea, at
their children used a different colour to produce a blended piece of art. The idea behind this was that each individual colour is beautiful but when placed together they create something magical. Once the colours had blended, they can never be separated. Ellie says, “As our family is finally legally one, we will forever be intertwined.”
Latoya’s late father’s favourite place near Mollymook, NSW. The couple was happy to have their ceremony
While it was only a small wedding,
with their friends and family in a
it was evident the couple were
place where they have created so
surrounded by love and support.
many memories. Ellie and Latoya
Latoya says, “We had never actually
made almost all of the decorations
kissed in front of our family and
and signs themselves. Each held a
friends until our wedding day. Ellie
unique bouquet of flowers too, with
and I cried a lot, but we laughed
the rest of the wedding party holding
even more. It was a day that we had
combined bouquets. Latoya held a
waited for since we fell in love.”
bunch of white lilies in memory of her nanna, and Ellie held red roses in memory of her late mother.
Photography: James Day
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AT THE AGE OF FORTY YEARS I HAD TO MAKE A DECISION, WHICH FORCED ME TO REVERSE THE WHOLE DIRECTION OF MY LIFE. When I was eighteen years old
tears). I could not face most members
meant for them to be trans. My essay
I entered an Australian religious
of my family, some of whom were
was printed in their newsletter and I
teaching Order. This was my own
convinced I had had a breakdown and
was presented with a small trophy as
freely chosen decision with no
would return to religious life. I knew
a reminder of my contribution to the
encouragement from parents or other
otherwise. From living a very structured
Elaine Barrie group.
significant people. I was fulfilling my
life I now had no purpose, nothing that
dream and I intended to live this life
would offer me a meaningful existence.
until my death.
I had no friends as I had forfeited them
I held several senior positions in the Order and other members who were seeking change held me in high regard as I was viewed as a potential change
when I was eighteen years old. I had no shared interests with other people, no avenues of communication. I was desperately lonely.
agent. I forfeited life in a community
I studied and became a registered
where I enjoyed companionship,
psychologist partly because I thought
security of lifelong employment and all
that I could work at least part time if
health and welfare needs met… But I
health and age brought me to another
simply closed the door and left.
fork in the road. For a major essay I
My decision to return to the lay state was made rather quickly, but not without serious consideration and advice. My decision meant that I had
chose the topic of sexual differences,
by now. I received only $500.00 as
Communication with a gay group led
severance pay.
me to a connection with Elaine Barrie,
this demanding work. I was in deep depression (manifested especially in
I watched The Danish Girl, which depicted the person who had the first surgical change which resulted in their death. I marvelled to hear her say to her partner: “What have I done to deserve such love?”.
community. I worked again in a
where I could make personal contact.
teach, but I had no energy to undertake
education.
meted out to members of the LGBTIQ
have ended up in a psychiatric ward
with no future. All I could do was
of seniors for the purpose of their
eye-opener and education for me.
searched for a Melbourne group
the Order I now felt like an outsider
1992 and saw it again with a group
people. This proved to be a marvellous
I not taken this step I would probably
‘burnt out’. Having left the security of
at the movie The Crying Game in
As a Catholic I abhor the treatment
To get first-hand experience I
this time but that’s exactly what I was:
identity has continued. I shed tears
with special interest in transgender
much to lose. I now believe that had
We didn’t use the phrase ‘burnt out’ at
My interest in sexual and gender
a cis gender male who identified as a female person. She was the coordinator of a trans group that met
Catholic parish now wearing my psychologist hat as well as several other hats. The priest and I were adamant in our love and respect for anyone whom the church considered an outsider. Our motto was ‘Come as You are’ and parishioners followed our lead.
regularly in Elwood. I visited this group
Eventually I found equilibrium and have
on several occasions and enjoyed
now found contentment in my journey. I
entering their world and they appeared
can lift my head up high.
to be comfortable chatting with me. I listened to their stories and what it
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