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OCT 2019

ENVY MAGAZINE

THE ERA OF THEMBSIE MATU

DEALING WITH DEPRESSION

TRAVEL GUIDE &TIPS

EXCLUSIVE!

MOTSOALEDI SETUME

“Allow me to be me”

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“Everything in life, even the negative things, are one and the same and make up this thing we call existence. – Willow Smith

Editor’s note Yes, 2019 is slowly coming to an end, and you probably feel like you have not done all the things you set yourself to do at the beginning of the year. That’s how we all feel every time we reach the end of the year You have lived up to this month of October, celebrate the things you achieved. It doesn’t matter how small they are. Be proud of the person you are becoming each day.

Take time to appreciate the people around you and find inspiration in what is to come.

Remember the year is not yet over, anything is possible. Cut yourself some slack, don’t be too harsh and focus on the positive and what you want to achieve.

In this month’s issue we decided to bring you up close and personal with Motsoaledi Setume and Thembsie Matu. Enjoy!

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TABLE OF CONTENTS

Cover 16 Spring Gym 18 Thembsie Matu 24 Depression 26 Foodie 32 Travel 13 Poetry 12

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CONTRIBUTORS Athabile Mrasi

Editor-in-Chief Facebook: Taba Mrasi Instagram: @iamathamrasi

Abongile Ndevu Lifestyle Editor Facebook: AbongileNdevu Instagram: @abongilendevu

Vuyokazi Vika Beauty Editor Facebook: VuvuVika Instagram: @vuvuvika

Content producers Avela Luke Fhumulani Lukoto Puseletso Nthate

“ALLOW ME TO BE ME” By: Athabile Mrasi

South African actress Motsoaledi Setume shares that most people find it hard to differentiate between her television character and her real-life character. Being onscreen every day may make people believe that the role you are playing is really who you are.

She says that sometimes people prejudge based on your tv character. “I am the total opposite of Mmabatho. People never really understand that and the judge you based on her actions or personality and not give you space to be who you are. Can I be Motsoaledi? Allow me to be me,” says Motsoaledi. .

Even though Mo more has been in the industry for three years fully, she admits that her life changed immensely when she joined ‘The Queen’, Msanzi’s most watch telenovela.

“A huge change in my life came when I started acting on ‘The Queen’. Most people started noticing the role, and because The Queen is one of the mostwatched television shows.

Fans of the show have fallen in love with Mmabatho and others, well…”, she says.

As much she loves and respects her followers, she sometimes feels like they are crowding her especially when she is at the mall with her grandmother.

“I understand that when someone who has been watching you on screen is seeing you in person, they want to take a photo or strike a conversation with you. But sometimes people can be so rude.

Great me first, I am a human being then is you see if I am eating with food in my mouth, can you wait?”

Fashion and Beauty Mo who always looks stylish and on point confesses that she is a lazy dresser and that her fashion icon is Rihanna, Keke Palmer, and Moneoa.

“I always go for simplicity and comfortability. If you see me wearing heels, you should know I am uncomfortable and angry. I am a sneaker kind on a girl,” says Motsoaledi.

Her fashion sense is the same as her beauty and makeup choice. “I have powerful features, so I always go for a natural look when it comes to make-up. On my daily basis, I just apply, foundation, mascara and I ready to go.”

Keeping Your Acting Job For an artist to be able to keep their job, Motsoaledi says you always have to be professional but sometimes there is nothing you can do if your storyline is no longer part of the show.

“It doesn’t matter how good you are at times. If your storyline cuts, they let you go. But you do need to be disciplined though.”

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POETRY SESSION If You Were Mine A poem by Augustus Waters

If You Were Mine A poem by Augustus Waters My love for you defined, is harmony in sounds Inside my heart it's found My stars were found aligned From since I fell in love, but you are not mine There is no rest when you are on a quest of connecting souls The type of bond whose description is found in ancient scrolls As far anatomy goes, you and I are made from the same stuff Flesh, blood, bone but why can't we feel the same way??

OH! I already know the answer you don't have to say That's because you are not mine See, I'm the type of guy that can only be with one woman at a time and that's only if I can see a future between us and if Genies were real and I could find one to give me three wishes My first wish would be to spend a day with you My second wish would be to spend a night with you My third wish would be to spend more time with you You have a beautiful mind that's why I fell for you And your beautiful smile is how I got hooked to you I know how I feel but I just can't quite say it to her face That's why I wrote this poem and I speak as if her and I are face to face

If you were mine I'd create a space in time where the moon and sun shine in the same sky at the same time when you and I see eye to eye If you were mine Ndingabambha ndiyeka Ndiyek' ubambha ndiyeka Ndibambhe wena wedwa If you were mine I'd text my ex like 'Yo, stop calling me' If you were mine See, a woman with good physical appearance got me hanging from the edges of her curves but a woman with good conversation got me hanging from the edges of her mind That's my definition of Ubuhle Bendalo Kalok' ubuhle bufihlakele angekhe ubone inkangeleko ogqiba ugqibe ngelithi ubuhle bugqibelele Ngakhakathi bukhangele That my definition of Ubuhle Bendalo You are the whole package got me thinking and wishing If you were mine I'd write a love poem Dumb question, if I wrote a love poem would you be mine?

My love for you defined, is poetry and sound in harmony combined Inside my heart it's found My stars were found aligned From since I fell in love, but you are not mine

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Spring Back Into shape After The winter By: Abongile Ndevu

As much as we all try to stick to our workout routines, the cold weather and shorter days during winter often lead to less working out and more Netflixing. Suddenly you realize that days are longer, and the temperature starts to rise which calls for swimsuits.

Summer body season is around the corner!

HOW TO SPRING BACK TO SHAPE 1. Find a workout buddy When you don’t have someone to exercise with, it has been cited as a barrier to regular workouts among both women and men. Having a workout partner comes with benefits. You get interested in trying out new types of workouts if you aren’t doing it alone. A work out partner can also motivate you when you feel like giving up during the middle of a routine; plus, there is somebody to relate with after a particularly hard work-out. It also allows you to commit to something with somebody.

2. Set yourself realistic goals.

Start by committing to working out two or three times per week. That will help you get back into the habit of making it a priority. You’ll also need to be realistic about the results you expect to see, if you’ve been sedentary all winter and packed on the pounds, don’t expect to start working out in October and have a six-pack by November.

3. Choose workouts that are best for you.

A lot depends on your individual goals, you and your partner might have different body goals so be sure to take up on exercises that will suit your needs and goals on the time frame you’ve set for yourself.

4. Don’t skip the warm-up If you are anxious to get back to a routine and see results, it may be all too easy to think that it’s better skipping the warm-ups and spending your whole hour at the gym. This is a trap you’ll have to work hard to avoid. A proper warm-up is not essential for your safety, but it also leads to a more beneficial workout!

5. Don’t forget to stretch!

Just as important as the warm-up is, the cooldown and stretching portion of your workout routine is essential. Many people finish their workout and head straight for the door without even considering stretching. A good cool-down routine will help decrease soreness after a workout, which can be essential to helping you stick to your workouts.

6. Make sure you fuel properly If your workouts are making you feel dizzy or lightheaded, you are either dehydrated or not eating enough before your workout. Nutrition isn’t just important if you’re trying to lose weight; it’s also important to make sure you’re eating enough and drinking enough water to safely fuel your work out.

7. Don’t beat yourself up Getting back into a workout routine isn’t easy.

Even if you start slow keep being consistent.

There may be days where you will give in to the call of the couch. The worst thing you can do in those days is beat yourself and decide to give up.

Throwing a towel isn’t worth it. Cut yourself some slack especially early on. Don’t let missing a single day take the steam out of your engine!

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THEMBSIE MATU

THE ERA OF THEMBSIE MATU She is writing her own histrory By: Athabile Mrasi “People would ask me where I bought my clothes and they would be very interested to get the same outfit as mine.

As much as I didn’t pay that much attention to it, I noticed when people started making theme parties and wear like my character Petronella, then I knew. People approached Thembsie Matu is more than just me about designing, we talked and took it from there. That’s an actress, she has joined the how my clothing line fashion industry by storm with ‘Nomabhongo came about.” her female clothing line ‘Nomabhongo’. She says her Nomabhongo clothing line grandmother used to call her caters to all sizes and shapes.

‘Nomabhongo when growing up People request what they because she loved beautiful want. And she says she things. creates clothes for women to feel good in themselves.

“I wanted to use the name for something else. But when the Thembsie plays the role of clothing came into the picture, I Petronella on The Queen, knew it was the right name to use.

Mzansi’s most-watched Now I will use it every time, it is Telenovela. She shares that part of my brand,” says Thembsie. people should invest in the She says one of the things that craft as she has been in the motivated her to start her clothing industry for more than three line was seeing people interested in decades. everything she was wearing.

“You have to study the industry that you are in, the technique and you do not have to go to big schools, as long as you will be learning. Also, you have to love what you do and should be just about being famous,” says Thembsie.

She has a huge social media following, Thembsie says she finds it hard to keep up with constantly engaging on the platforms, but she loves and enjoys interacting with her followers when she gets time.

“Back in the day there were no social media platforms, you had to sell yourself. Now I have Adapted well. I know that my following is true and authentic.”

“Study your craft and the technique.”

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CRISTYLES

“Every time, I release a song it’s something fresh and different.”

Sifiso Peter Mkhwanazi better known as Cristyles is making waves with his single “Love your shoes”. It’s out in Envy magazine caught up with him to talk about his latest all digital play stores. single, what inspires him to make music and more.

By: Abongile Ndevu 1. As a producer/ song writer what

6. Share with us some of the struggles you’ve

influenced the transition from being behind the scenes to being on stage performing?

experienced as an artist in South Africa and how have you managed to overcome those struggles?

I just felt like I was ready, I had learned a lot behind the scenes so now I want to have the experience of releasing a commercial song and perform them.

2. Would you say having the technique of producing your own music makes it easier as an artist?

It makes it very easy, because initially my biggest challenge was finding a producer that would understand exactly the sound and instruments I prefer. So, I had to teach myself

3. Your stage name Cristyles, how did it come about?

It’s simple (C)clever (R)real (I)intelligent Style.

4. “Love your shoes” that’s a catchy name for a song title, tell us more about the inspiration behind the single?

Well, the single was inspired by my love for shoes, I collect shoes, sneakers like I’m crazy, so I put myself in a position of a man admiring his woman’s shoes, the way they fit, the way she dresses for them.

5. As an artist who would you say has been your influence when it comes to music?

I was inspired a lot by Usher, R Kelly etc., from the styles of music and writing, but I listen to a lot of classic lately.

Primarily it was finding a studio that would give me the kind of quality I want. I have overcome that by owning my own record company and my own powerful studio. I also have visual equipment for shooting video and documentaries.

7.What’s for next year?

In the next year I’m getting into audio visuals, I’m extending my company CLT music into CLT audio visuals, that will be the division that will mostly deal with TV and film adverts. Everything is already in order, just waiting to launch and start doing big things.

8. What is the best part about making music?

Being creative. I think being creative is the best gift and just being in the creative space goes beyond any imagination. Bringing a song to life is life itself.

9. Any coming up events where your fans

can go watch you perform?

No performances yet, I’m still busy with ground work.

I think more effort must be put into developing the brand ground up. So, for now it’s making sure the song is available to people, more interviews then I will be on tour promoting.

Single can be downloaded and streamed in all digital streaming services.

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DIFFERENT TYPES AND CAUSES OF MISCARRIAGE By: Fhumulani Lukoto

Within the first 20 weeks of pregnancy some women experience an unplanned expulsion of a fetus from the womb. The medical term used to identify this potential complication or loss is known as Spontaneous abortion. But since it sounds very hush and insensitive, the preferable term to be used is Miscarriage.

Studies show that women in their childbearing years, have 10-20% chances of having a miscarriage and an increase in maternal age affects the chances of miscarriage.

DIFFERENT TYPES OF MISCA RRIAGE: •

Threatened miscarriage is some degree of early pregnancy uterine bleeding accompanied by cramping or lower backache. The cervix remains closed.

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Incomplete miscarriage is when abdominal or back pain is accompanied by bleeding with an open cervix. Miscarriage is inevitable when there is dilation or effacement of the cervix or there is rupture of the membranes.

Complete Miscarriage is when the embryo or product of conception have emptied out of the uterus, bleeding should subside quickly as should any pain or cramping.

Missed miscarriage is when embryonic death has occurred but there is not any expulsion of the embryo.

Recurrent miscarriage defined as 3 or more consecutive first trimester miscarriage.

Blighted Ovum is also called an embryonic pregnancy, a fertilized egg implants into the uterine wall but fetal development never begins.

Ectopic pregnancy is when a fertilized egg implants itself in places other than the uterus, most commonly the fallopian tube.

Molar pregnancy is a result of genetic error during the fertilization process that leads to the growth of abnormal tissue within the uterus.

• While there are some things that increase the risk of miscarriage, generally it isn’t a result of something that you did or didn’t do. During pregnancy your body supplies hormones and nutrients to your developing fetus. Most first trimester miscarriages happen because the fetus doesn’t develop normally.

CAUSES OF MISCARRIAGE MAY INCLUDE: • •

Hormonal problems, infections or mental health problems.

Lifestyle (smoking, drugs use, malnutrition, excessive caffeine and exposure to toxic substance)

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Implantation of the egg into the uterine lining does not occur properly Maternal age and Maternal trauma.

Since most causes are due to chromosomal abnormalities, there is not much that can be done to prevent them. If a specific problem is identified with testing, then treatment options may be available. One vital step is to get as healthy as you can before conceiving to provide a healthy atmosphere for conception to occur.

Emotional treatment is highly needed for women who go through miscarriage, unfortunately miscarriage can affect anyone. It is very important that lines of communication are open with family, friends and health care provides during the time.

Remember having a miscarriage doesn’t mean you won’t conceive again in future.

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Is depression slowly becoming an epidemic most people are suffering and dying from?

By: Vuyokazi Vika To get help you can reach out to the following South African Depression and Anxiety group 0112344837 Suicide crisis 0800567567 Adcock Ingram Depression and Anxiety helpline 0800708090

Depression is proving to be a number one killer. It is a feeling that is categorised by sadness, feeling, how you

think and act. You become disinterested in your normal daily activities and see yourself stuck in an unexplainable position, unfortunately to some leading to suicides. It is high time that the topic is discussed as often as we can to prevent the high number of deaths caused by it.

According to the World Health Organisation, one in three South Africans will suffer a mental health episode in their lives. Of these, 75% will go untreated.

The unprocessed negative emotions that have been bottled up pile up to be a burden. They disconnect from the outside world. It is a vicious cycle that keeps them trapped in a negative state emotionally and physically.

It is very important to take care of our minds and beat the emotions that are stored in our subconscious mind, whether it is pain, rejection, desperation or suffering. It is hard when you literally feel trapped in this downward spiral of sadness and depression that is why it is very important to speak about it and not suffer in silence, seek professional help.

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Busiswa Shozi, 26 from the rural of Peddie in the Eastern Cape was diagnosed with clinical depression in her first year of university.

“School work got overwhelming, never in my wildest dreams did I think that I could feel the way I did seeing that I am a very strong woman,” she said.

“It is very fortunate that though depression is viewed as an illness, but it can be treated. All medicines can cause side effects, typically unwanted effects increase when dose rises. These side effects usually vary from one drug to another, but it is very important that if diagnosed with depression for your wellbeing take the medication and finish the course,” says Busiswa.

Most of us hold on to so much motions that it is very to start living the cause of life and not the effect. It also is liberating to take charge of your healing journey and how you’d like to change the content of your script.

To get help you can reach out to the following •

South African Depression and Anxiety group 0112344837

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Suicide crisis 0800567567

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Adcock Ingram Depression and Anxiety helpline 0800708090

Who is prone to depression?

According to psychologist there is no time frame for when you can feel depressed but most often than not, it strikes during your teens leading to adulthood and in some cases to your seniors. It is very important that you are aware and able to point out when it strikes. Here are some depression symptoms:

Trouble sleeping or sleeping too much Feeling worthless or guilty Thoughts of death or suicide Feeling sad Loss of interest in activities that you once found pleasure in Difficulty thinking, concentrating or making decisions

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Ingredients

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Food This month’s recipe courtecy

BBQ Sauce: 1 cup finely chopped onion 2 cups cider vinegar 6 ounces tomato juice 1/2 tablespoon pepper 1 teaspoon garlic powder Pinch cayenne Dash hot sauce, such as Tabasco 1 teaspoon sugar

1. For the sauce: Puree the onion in a blender with 1/4 cup water. Place the pureed onion in a 2-quart saucepan with additional water to cover. Bring to a boil, then reduce the heat. Cook, stirring constantly until the water has almost evaporated. Add the vinegar, tomato juice, pepper, garlic powder, cayenne and hot sauce and mix well. Bring to a boil, and then stir in the sugar. Immediately remove from the heat. Set 1 cup aside for the roast. Let the remaining sauce cool completely, then refrigerate for later use.

2. For the roast: Put the quartered onions in the bottom of a 5- to 6-quart slow cooker. Mix the brown sugar, paprika, salt and pepper and rub it over the pork roast. Then place in the slow cooker on top of the onions. Drizzle the reserved 1 cup of sauce over the roast. Cook the roast in the slow cooker on low for 10 to 12 hours, checking after 10 hours for tenderness.

3. Remove the meat and onions from the slow cooker.

Discard the onions and finely shred the pork.

Reserve the juices from the slow cooker to add to the meat for desired juiciness.

4. Serve on a bun with the juice.

Roast: 2 medium sweet onions, such as Vidalia, quartered 2 teaspoons light brown sugar 1 teaspoon smoked paprika 2 teaspoons salt Pinch black pepper One 4- to 6-pound Boston butt pork roast, bone-in Buns, for serving

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RECIPES

Bloody rum punch The bloody rum punch is a sangria recipe that has a few twists which make it perfect for Halloween parties, be warned though because this punch has a reputation of being very strong. This is actually a very simple punch to construct, it uses just a few common ingredients and should be made up ahead of time to let the flavor develop Ingredients 1 (750 ml) bottle rum 1/2 (750 ml) bottle red wine 6 ounces lime juice (fresh) 6 ounces triple sec 6 ounces simple syrup 2 limes (sliced into thin wheel) 2 red oranges (sliced into thin wheels)

Directions The construction of this punch takes no more than 10 minutes of your time, keep chilled for at least 2 hours before serving.

Have fun decorating your punch bowl with fake spiders or cobwebs (on the outside of the bowl).

You could also make some creepy garnishes like eye balls or pumpkin tops using oranges and limes to float in the punch.

CARAMEL APPLES

Ingredients 2 cups of sugar 1/4 cup light corn syrup 1/2 cup heavy cream 2 tablespoons of unsalted butter 1/2 teaspoon pure vanilla extract Kosher salt 6 medium very crisp apples (such as Honeycrisp, Red delicious), well washed and dried.

Nonstick cooking spray, for the parchment

Directions Special equipment: a candy thermometer; 6 candy apple sticks, large lollipops sticks or dowel rods, cut to 5-inch lengths with one end sharpened.

1. Add the sugar, corn syrup and 1/2 cup water to a small saucepan over medium- high heat. Stir a few times before the sugar begins to boil to combine the ingredients. Attach a candy thermometer to the inside of the pan and bring the syrup to a boil. Cook until the syrup begins to turn an amber color, the swirl the syrup to even out the color. Continue to cook until syrup is a deep amber and the thermometer reads between 375 and 380 degrees, then remove from heat.

Carefully pour in the cream and gently whisk to combine.

Stir the butter, vanilla and a pinch of salt until smooth. keep off the heat but keep the thermometer attached to the pan.

2. Pierce the apples through the stem ends about half way through with candy apple sticks. Line a baking sheet with parchment and lightly spray with nonstick cooking spray.

3. When the temperature of the caramel reads around 190 degrees, dip an apple, using the stick as a handle and swirling to coat completely. Allow excess caramel to drip off the bottom and use a spatula to help remove any large amount of caramel, as it will pool around the apple when you set it down to cool on the lined baking sheet. Repeat with the remaining apples, gentle heating the caramel on the stove over low heat, stirring, if it gets too thick for dipping.

Allow the caramel to set and cool completely before serving or wrapping apples, about 1 hour.

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"LEARN TO LOVE YOURSELF ALL THE OTHER STUFF WILL NOT MATTER."

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REASONS WHY YOU SHOULD VISIT PORT ALFRED By: Vuyokazi Vika

Port Alfred is popular for being amongst the most serene places, if you want to just unwind, find peace and tranquillity, this is the perfect place for you. Port Alfred offers an idyllic setting for a memorable holiday. Guests can spend their days exploring this charming town by enjoying boat cruises and other water sport activities, play golf and take in the beauty of nature.

HERE ARE THINGS YOU COULD DO IN PORT ALFRED. Kowie History Museum The Kowie History museum is focused on displaying the social history of the historic Albany District and the activities of the early settlers between 1820 and 1889. The museum is housed in Port Alfred’s old post office. The town is well known for its large variety of shells along the shore and there is a fascinating collection of sea shells from the Port Alfred area on display.

Three Sisters Horse Tails Tailor made hiking and horse-riding adventure breaks on a coastal farm halfway between Port Elizabeth and East London. They offer a three-day “African adventure” starting off with a horse ride along remote beach to fisherman’s Beach cabin.

This horse riding offers an opportunity to explore the beaches, forests and rivers on horseback.

Delicious meals are provided for the riding adventure and gear is transported between camps.

Three sisters horse trails The Big Pineapple Standing 16.7 meters tall situated in a small settlement of Bathurst. The gigantic structure is not just a cell phone tower in disguise but rather a tribute to the agricultural success of the prickly fruit. Early farmers struggled to grow any crops here until the first pineapple top was planted in 1865. You can visit with your family the interior boasts tourist shop to learn about the pineapple industry or find a little memento. Head to the Porcupine Pub afterwards and try their popular pineapple cocktails.

Visit the safari now website to see other fun, exciting things you can do whilst in Port Alfred .

Kellys beach

The Big Pineapple Kellys beach The sandy beach is situated near the Kowie River estuary mouth and is well worth the visit. Two viewing decks offer fantastic viewpoints to watch whales, beach goers and a breath-taking sunset. It is clean, safe and exceeds the standards of environmental standards.

And if you feel tired to travel, just next to the Kelly’s beach is the Hallards hotel.

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What to watch

On Netflix On Netflix Childhood sweethearts have a falling out and don't speak for 15 years, only reconnecting as adults when Sasha runs into Marcus in San Francisco. Although the old sparks are still there, the couple live in different worlds.

A grieving teenager finds an unexpected connection with two classmates at her new high school when they all land in the same Shoplifters Anonymous group.

Model: Zoey Mayekiso Travel and Tourism graduate Photographer: @Blackmanseason

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