Then we collect a Joy Point from having done our best to repair. We remind ourselves that relationships are sometimes difficult and that nobody has to be perfect. We remind ourselves that we will give love stopping short of allowing abuse to occur.
Collecting Intimacy Moments When you awake in the morning, say to yourself, “I am creating JOY in my life!” Then, as you go through your day, stay checked in and watch for moments of intimacy to occur! When they do, you get a Joy Point, and can feel surges of pleasure in your body. To get more Intimacy Moments, use the 1-2-3 Connect Tool.
The 1-2-3 Connect Tool Step. 1. Check In Before you connect with someone, connect with yourself. Appreciate that each moment of connection can bring rewards, but it has risks, too. So connecting with yourself creates safety from within. Check in and get to Brain State 1 or acceptance. If you find you are in a stressed state, expect less. A social “hello” may be all you can manage. If you are at 5, connecting may not be effective. You’re apt to distance or merge. Consider taking a break and connecting with this person later. 128