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THE POWER OF BEING YOU
There is a bloke in Mullumbimby whom I adore. I don’t know him, I don’t even know his name, but when I see him I feel this huge surge of happiness. I have never seen a person more comfortable with who they are. Every time I see him I am reminded of how wonderful it is to be exactly who you are. It shouldn’t be that hard, but in a society that smashes difference into sameness, that marginalises, taunts, victimises and ridicules, I am humbled by how spectacular and inspiring that particular
type of courage is. The Just Being You courage. Not the You that You are supposed to present for social acceptability, but the kooky, strange, unusual You that you really are. It sometimes makes me wonder who I would be if I didn’t care what other people thought of me. If I didn’t need to be liked. If I had grown up in a society where I didn’t seek the approval of people I would never meet. What would any of us look like if we no longer acquiesced to judgment? This man is my new
guru. I have seen him for years. You can’t not notice him. From the waist up he’s any regular bloke. Could be a landscaper, or a road worker. I sometimes see him in a hi-vis vest. Or a tight workman’s shirt. He often wears regulation bloke stubbies. But he loves stockings. The sensuality of the nylon caressing his man legs. Sometimes he’ll wear them under his stubbies, or he’ll pull them up over the top. He doesn’t wear stilettos. He’s a practical type of bloke. Probably doing some yard work. So he wears boots. Workboots. The other day I was rushing around town, stressed off my nut, and I saw him. I was so moved I almost cried. He was rushing towards the hardware store and peeking out from his shorts were very sexy white suspenders holding up some delicate lacy bridal stockings. How can you not love that? He’s not hiding his love of lingerie behind closed doors like it’s shameful, or worried that it will make his masculinity questionable. He wears his
Live Music
THEY JUST ARE BORNEO Borneo are a rainbow rock’n’roll outfit from deep within the concrete jungle of Sydney. This bunch of gumnuts have been
meeting to make music on Eora Country since back 2012.
the Australian desert and into a forgotten outback jungle.
Their sound is pretty much like your son in Year 3 at primary school. His teachers have organised an expedition across
The guardians chosen by the teachers to look after the kids for this year’s class camp are Freddy Mercury, David Byrne and Peter Garrett. See the Borneo show in Byron Bay at the backroom of the Hotel Great Northern, Friday.
SEVEN YEARS BETWEEN DRINKS
SEE BORNEO AT THE BACKROOM OF THE HOTEL GREAT NORTHERN, FRIDAY
After a wildly successful year in 2015 on the back of his awardwinning Double Live Set album, Aussie acoustic bluesmaster Lloyd Spiegel is headed back on the road for his first solo tour in seven years. This tour celebrates the launch
lingerie on the street. He redefines it. And it doesn’t actually look weird. It suits him. He’s not trying to make a statement. He’s just going about his day being who he is. I thank god he lives here. I would hate to think of the carloads of sexually repressed bogans that might vilify or cause him harm. A few weeks ago I walked through Perth late at night with a 6-foot-6 woman who would describe herself as ‘transitioning’. Adele was striking. In her former struggle with her masculinity she’d been a body builder. Although the hormones had softened her she still had a sense of extreme physical power. Every surface of her body was covered in tattoos – even her neck. She wore a short skirt, a loose-fitting shirt, ripped fishnet stockings and Docs. She played in a metal band. Her hair was long and luscious and she wore her lips fire-engine red. The 20-minute walk to her car was terrifying. I could sense the danger everywhere. As we weaved through the of Spiegel’s new Cole Clark signature model guitar – an instrument designed with these new solo shows in mind. Spiegel has worked alongside Cole Clark Guitars for the past 15 years and has had a hand in every advancement in technology and design at the company in that time. ‘I received the honour of my first signature guitar in 2012,’ says Lloyd. ‘It served me well, but now that I’m returning to solo performing I needed something different to evolve with.
midnight crew of Saturday night clubbers pouring onto the streets, probably around the same age as Adele, I could hear the comments. These were comments Adele was meant to hear. It was like pushing against a tide of drunken sameness. Here they were, the ugly arbiters of difference. As we passed, and just out of earshot, we hear, ‘Oh my God, what the fuck is that?’ or ‘Fucking hell, what an ugly slut’ (I think that might have been meant for me). The abuse and the judgment were unending. Everyone seemed to think that someone else’s life choices were part of their concern. I don’t get it. Adele could have been walking past muttering, ‘You boring same-same unchallenging fucks’. Or words to that effect. But I guess when you are outside the dominant paradigm, when you live your life as the ‘other’, you just have to find a way to live with it without it crushing your spirit. How does a person keep loving themselves when this happens?
It was so painful to walk beside her. These were under-25s. Young people who really should know a lot better. Haven’t things changed? You could feel the potential for violence. I asked her if it ever frightened her. If they ever tried to hurt her physically. Adele just smiled with those big generous red lips and said softly, ‘I can still handle myself. I don’t think any of them want the humiliation of being beaten up by me.’ Wow! What a girl. What a braveheart. I would be so proud to call her my daughter. And you know what, even though it was terrifying, it was strangely exhilarating to walk beside a woman so much bigger than I (it rarely happens). Like Amazonian Warriors. Battling bigotry one bogan at a time. I still don’t get it, though. Why is someone being themselves such a threat? Why is it still amazing to see someone comfortable with themselves. It shouldn’t be ‘brave’. But it is. We’ve still got a long way to go on the walk to acceptance.
$3,299) fresh out of the workshop (details www.lloydspiegel. com). Lloyd is playing at the Byron Theatre, Byron Bay on Saturday. Doors 7pm. Tickets: www. byroncentre. com.au.
‘The 2016 LS signature model is built with Australian blackwood top, back and sides. The extremely hard top was picked to suit my aggressive, hard-hitting style and withstand the tour schedule I keep.’ Thanks to the good people at Cole Clark, audience members attending shows on the tour will have the opportunity to win Lloyd’s signature guitar (RRP
LLOYD SPIEGEL PLAYING AT THE BYRON THEATRE ON SATURDAY
BYRON COMMUNITY CENTRE SATURDAY JUNE 25TH 8PM
Tickets: www.byroncentre.com.au or Byron Community Centre box office
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