Syracuse Parent April 2013

April 2013

we’re in this together

Megan Coleman on working and being a mommy

tasty travels

Eating better while on the road

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what’s inside

family FYI 4 Vacation and leisure time for your health

14 Newer

child safety seat guidelines

16 Boy Scout summer camp

17 Girl Scout

summer camp

meals in minutes 5 Fast & easy meals and snacks

to get your family to the table

www dots 9 It’s always best to share! Here are some of our favorite links

from the editor 6 One camp is never enough

calendar 7 Here is what’s happening around you this month

7 Lights, cameras, diapers!

Cutest baby contest information and entry details

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contents

2013

8 We’re in this together: Working and being a mommy

10 Autism rates rising...but why?

20 Eleven myths about autism 22 Talk to your kids about

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gambling before the teenage years

pay it forward 24 CNY Walk Now for Autism Speaks

cheers 24 Universal Cheer Co. takes over CNY

healthy family 11 Girl next door: Letter to

15-25 Summer is just around the corner. Register your kids now for their favorite summer camp.

the lost

12 Eating on the road 13 Fast parenting for the

busy parent: Harsh consequences to saving time

18 Badges? We don’t need no stinking badges!

from dad 19 All over the spectrum

toy box 26 Summer fun: Read about the latest and greatest toys and gadgets to make your kids happy.

Cover Photo

Pictured is Zoey LaRose McCall, of Mexico, N.Y., in the photograph by Raine C. Dufrane, owner of Raineydayz Photography. 430-3229 or visit raineydayz.com APRIL 2013 SYRACUSE PARENT

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family

FYI

some helpful information for your family

Vacation and leisure time for your health

By Dr. Mary Starr American families do not take enough vacation or leisure time away from home compared to our European friends across the Atlantic. We are either too busy working on projects or hanging out at home when we do have down time or vacation. Did you know that the research shows that taking time off of work and going on a vacation makes us healthier and happier?

Breaking away from the usual will help us refill our creativity, refresh our mind and regain new perspectives and insights on life and work. Sometimes it requires getting out of our comfort zones

and adjustments to our priorities in life.

I know my husband has a hard time taking time off of work, but when he does, it makes such a difference and he returns rejuvenated in all areas of his life. Both of us find we are super productive after a vacation.

Traveling together as a family helps us achieve higher levels of communication and relationship.

Seeing my son, a toddler, doing his thing while traveling and enjoying the view from the window seat on the airplane is not the same as finding out he threw my shampoo and half of his bath time alphabet letters into the toilet. You know what I mean?

Being a stay-at-home mom and a business woman working from home, I have the privilege to watch my son grow by leaps and bounds each day and the freedom to take him on trips whenever we can and not according to the regulations or time

slots given by an employer.

My husband, who works from home too, also gets to enjoy seeing our son more than most dads. But because we are home business owners it’s important to get out of the house and take regular vacation time.

Here are a few reasons why we take a vacation as a family: One: Get some sunshine If you are like us who live up north where winters are long, getting Florida sunshine is glorious. Imagine the walks on the beach and also the ability to pick pears and persimmons or fresh fruit off the trees in fall and winter. These are things we don’t get to do in our hometown.

(Although we did get a good broccoli harvest in mid-October.)

Two: Bonding with grandparents Not all of us live close to our parents or in-laws. It’s a great way to get away to visit them and let the children bond with grandparents and you get a break too. Grandparents deserve to spend time with our kids and kids can learn a ton from grandpa and grandma.

Three: Mental Health Getting away from the usual chores and environment helps us strengthen our mental health.

Vacations give our brain a recharge with new ideas and promote creativity and alertness. Devote time during your vacation to do the things you enjoy; maybe spending time reading, going for long walks at the beach, visiting a museum or going on a kayaking or white water rafting trip.

I got to read a book called Kisses from Katie on this trip, a biography about a young woman who followed her calling and is helping an entire country in need. Although it’s not my

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calling, it was a mental health recharge to read something that wasn’t work related, and my spirit got fired up for my own calling in my business of helping others.

Four: Create memories We are creating memories as a family when we get away for a vacation. Vacations always bring new experiences. There is something about the new.

Whether it’s spending quality time with a nephew for the first time, or visiting a new place with the family.

Kids do benefit from a vacation. It can be difficult sometimes with changes in routine, time zone and environment. But the benefits outweigh some of the adjustments needed. Memories, bonding, mental health, rest, rejuvenation and so much more is what vacations can bring to you and your family.

But those experiences are made so much better when your health is top notch on vacation.

Here are three must-haves to keep your family healthy and happy on vacation: 1. Thieves oil – to diffuse in hotel room, apply on bottom of feet and inhale to kill dangerous airborne bacteria.

2. Peppermint – aid digestion, headache or any minor aches and pains while traveling. Use to combat mental or physical fatigue while traveling.

3. Lavender – just in case of minor burns, cuts and other skin irritations, lavender can cleanse and soothe. It also calms the mind and body to promote better naptime or sleep at night.

Dr. Mary Starr is a chiropractor and essential oil expert. You can read her blog at thetotalwellnessdoc.com.

fast & easy meals/snacks to get your family to the table

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Slumber party pizza Total Time: Prep Time: Cook Time: Yield: Level:

Directions

15 min 5 min 10 min 12 Easy

Slice and cook sausage in skillet about 5 min or until cooked through. Preheat oven to 350 degrees F (175 degrees C).

Arrange 12 English muffin halves, cut-side up, on a baking sheet. Spoon 1 to 2 tablespoons pizza sauce onto each English muffin; top with mozzarella cheese. Place pepperoni slices on 1/3 the pizzas and Italian sausage on 1/3 the English muffins, leaving the remaining 1/3 with just cheese. Bake in the preheated oven until cheese is melted, about 10 minutes.

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meals in minutes

Italian pretzels Total Time: Prep Time: Cook Time: Yield: Level:

35 min 15 min 20 min 12 Easy

Line a baking sheet with parchment paper. Separate dough from one 11-ounce can refrigerated breadsticks into 12. Make an indentation lengthwise down center of each. Spoon 1/4 teaspoon store-bought pesto into each groove. Fold dough over pesto and press edges to seal. Twist and stretch each breadstick to form a rope; shape into pretzel. Place on paper-lined baking sheet. Beat one egg white until foamy. Brush over pretzels.

Sprinkle with parmesan cheese. Bake in preheated 375-degree oven 12 to 15 minutes or until golden brown.

Easy skillet chicken Ingredients

1 can condensed cream of chicken soup 1 can condensed cream of celery soup 1 package frozen mixed vegetables

Directions:

the sides of the skillet, until the vegetables are cooked mostly through, about 10 minutes. If mixture gets too thick, add a bit of water.

Return the chicken to the skillet.

Reduce the heat to low. Cover and cook for 10 minutes or until the chicken is cooked through. If desired, top with grated cheese and fresh chopped parsley.

4 skinless, boneless chicken breast halves (about 1 pound) 2 tablespoons olive oil or vegetable oil

Heat the oil in a 10-inch skillet over medium heat. Add the chicken and cook for 10 minutes or until it’s well browned on both sides. Remove the chicken from the skillet and set aside.

Empty the two cans of soup into the pan. Stir in the frozen vegetables, cover and simmer, stirring occasionally and scraping

Ready In: Prep Time: Yield:

1 Directions

30 min 5 min 4

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Micro-s’mores Total Time: Prep Time: Cook Time: Yield: Level:

<1 min 30 secs 15 secs 1 s’more Easy

On paper towel place 1 whole graham cracker square. Top with ½ plain chocolate bar and 1 large marshmallow. Microwave on high 15 seconds or until marshmallow puffs. Remove from microwave oven and cover with other cracker.

5 Directions

Berry breeze smoothie Total Time: 5 min Prep Time: 4 min Blend Time: 1 min Yield: 2 smoothies Level: Easy

In a blender combine 8 strawberries, ½ cup milk, ½ cup plain yogurt, 3 tablespoons sugar and 2 tablespoons vanilla exract.

Toss in 6 crushed ice cubes. Blend until smooth and creamy. Pour into glasses and serve.

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from the editor

publisher

David B. Tyler 434-8889 ext. 302 dtyler@eaglenewsonline.com

editor

One camp is never enough My family is pretty lucky. We have a great camp on Lake Ontario, with a great beach, lots of opportunities for water sports – from frog catching to jet skiing - and fun neighbors, family members and friends with which to share the experience.

You’d think that would be enough to keep the kids happy, but they’ve found something else to add to the mix – the experience of going to an organized camp.

My daughter, Cassidy, has gone to a cheerleading camp at Niagara County Community College for the past two years, and plans to attend again this summer. She and her friends get to stay in the dormitories there, eat in the cafeteria and, most importantly, go to cheerleading seminars and practices with none other than the Buffalo Jills – the squad that cheers for the Buffalo Bills NFL team.

Jacob, who is 9, has seen how much fun Cassidy and her friends have at the camp, and is now eager to have a camp experience of his own. The first inkling I had of this was when he mentioned that he wanted to start playing lacrosse. He currently plays football, baseball and basketball, so I wondered how he planned to shift the seasons around in order to fit in this new sport.

But then I realized what was up.

“Wait a minute, do you just want to learn lacrosse so you can go to lacrosse camp at NCCC?” I asked him. His sly smile was the only answer I needed.

After I assured him that I would sign him up for a week of camp at Lourdes in Skaneateles, he lost interest in this new athletic pursuit. So, this summer, it looks like both of my children will be attending camp – as well as going to our family camp.

And, truth be told, I am glad. I feel that there are many benefits to going to an overnight camp – the camaraderie of spending time with like-minded children; the first feelings of independence and responsibility that go along with being away from the family unit; the memories gained from having fun while learning and, of course, meeting new friends while strengthening friendships already made.

The side benefit is that my husband and I will get some time to ourselves – during the nicest time of the year in Central New York, with plenty of fun things to do.

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Jennifer Wing editor Jennifer Wing can be reached at jwing@eaglenewsonline.com

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here is what’s happening around you

Mon April 1 TOYS FROM THE COLLECTION. 10 AM; 11 AM on Sunday only. Onondaga Historical Society. Visitors will see hand-carved trains and boats, Punch & Judy marionettes, Victorian dolls and more. Exhibit through March 17. Tickets: cnyhistory.org JEFF THE MAGIC MAN. 10:30 AM. Entertainment for kids of all ages. Magic and balloon sculptures.

APRIL FOOL’S CUPCAKES. 2 PM. Learn to decorate cupcakes that can masquerade as other food. For grades 6 and up. NOPL North Syracuse Library, 100 Trolley Barn Lane. Free. Registration Required at nopl.org. 458.6184.

Tue April 2 BUBBLEMAN DOUG. 2 PM. Watch Doug create beautiful bubble sculptures, giant bubbles three feet in diameter, the breathtaking child in a bubble and more. All ages. NOPL Brewerton, 5473 Library St., Brewerton. Free. Sign up at nopl.org or 676.7484.

Wed April 3 KIDDIE CAFÉ. 10 AM to Noon. Drop in to Cafe 300 for puzzles, coloring sheets, lacing cards, the train table, kids music, snacks and fun. Relax and visit with other

mothers while your children play. Fayetteville Free Library. 300 Orchard St., Fayettville. Register at fflib.org.

ART-IN-A-BAG DROP-IN CRAFT TIME. 1 PM & 4 PM. Choose a secret bag of craft supplies, and stretch your creativity to make something unique. Craft your heart out until you run out of supplies.

For preschool and up. NOPL North Syracuse Library, 100 Trolley Barn Lane. Free. Registration Required at nopl.org. 458.6184.

Thu April 4 STORYTIME WITH MISS COLLEEN. 10 AM. Story time every Thursday with books and activities. Ideal for toddlers and preschoolers. Barnes and Noble, 3454 Erie Blvd East, DeWitt.

449.2948.

LEGO CLUB. 2 PM. Explore your creative side at the library with Legos.

Children can either follow special project directions or build from their imaginations. For children in grades K – 3. NOPL Brewerton, 5473 Library St., Brewerton. Free. Sign up at nopl.org or 676.7484.

Fri April 5 BEACH PARTY CRAFTS. 2 PM & 4 PM. Come for some beach themed craft projects. You’ll make seashell monsters, permanent sandcastles, and paper leis.

Stay for one craft or make all three.

Ages preschool and up. NOPL Cicero, 8686 Knowledge Lane. Free. Registration Required at nopl.org. 699.2032.

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Sat April 6 EXPRESSIVE ART. 10:30 AM. This workshop is designed to foster creativity and build self-esteem in a non-judgmental way. Come explore art with your child.

For parents and children, ages 5-8.

Registration Required, $20 per parent & child. Call 471-8331 to register. childrensconsortium.org.

Sun April 7 MOVIE SCREENING. “Lincoln”. 2 PM. Screening appropriate for adults. Summary: Steven Spielberg directs Daniel Day-Lewis in Lincoln, a revealing drama that focuses on the 16th President’s tumultuous final months in office. Community Room A at the Fayetteville Free Library. 300 Orchard St., Fayettville.

Register at fflib.org.

Wed April 10 KIDDIE CAFÉ. 10 AM to Noon. Drop in to Cafe 300 for puzzles, coloring sheets, lacing cards, the train table, kids music, snacks and fun. Relax and visit with other mothers while your children play.

Fayetteville Free Library. 300 Orchard St., Fayettville. Register at fflib.org.

Fri April 12 THE PROM. 6:15 to 11:15 PM. Dinner, drinks and dancing and a “Return to Rydell” all to benefit the McMahon/ Ryan Child Advoccy Center. Live music, Hand Jive contest and silent auction. $75. mcmahonryan.org. 701.2985. calendar continued on page 9

DID YOU SAY...

CUTEST BABY CONTEST? Lights, camera, diapers!

Get your camera out, snap a few shots of your beautiful baby boy or girl and send it to us! We’re hosting a “Syracuse Parent’s Cutest Baby Contest” for babies 18 months and younger. Your little one could be the winner.

The bouncing baby will win a photo shoot with our cover photographer, Raine Dufrane, and get this, your baby will be on the cover of our May edition! Email your baby’s photo to fjadran@eaglenewsonline by April 8 with your baby’s name, parent or guardian’s name and phone number. Go baby, go!

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Working and being a mommy M eg

a n Cole m a n

I ended last month’s column by quoting Hillary Clinton’s suggestion that “It takes a village,” to raise happy, safe and confident children.

Now, as a working parent, I have come to know, first hand, that she was right on We target. The invisible thread that holds many ’re i n families together is not just their parents, but also, the collection of people in their lives including teachers, babysitters and grandparents.

The decision to work or stay home after having children is a very personal one, and it certainly is never easy. Sometimes it is not a choice. For those able to make the decision, it is not one they make without much thought and debate.

I was raised by a stay-at-home mom and had always intended to follow in her footsteps, as family has always been the number one priority in my life. As a result of the wonderful role model my mother represented – not to mention the ironed clothes, the home cooked meals, the endless playgroups, the plethora of enrichment classes, team sports, assistance with homework (and more) that she juggled daily – I always anticipated raising my own children in a similar way.

Since I began working in broadcast journalism more than a decade ago, not only has my personal world changed with marriage and children, but also, my professional sphere has undergone major shifts. It has given me the ability to stay in the workforce and be a mother to my two young children.

Since my children were born, I have been given rare opportunities, including the ability to work from home, work with ad-

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justed hours and leave on a moment’s notice when my little ones need “their mommy”.

It takes a village... It takes a neighbor next door to await the arrival of a relative r or sitter so we can head into the workforce, he t e t h i s to g should a child fall ill. It takes an understanding employer to know that the bottom line is our family’s well being. It takes a business owner or a supervisor to know that we are unquestionably dedicated to a job well done. It takes a spouse who understands that these are our children and our careers and our contributions.

As I write today’s column, I know there is an enormous sense of satisfaction that every “stay at home” mom gets from her children’s growth and stability. I admire the enthusiasm with which the same book is read over and over again, knowing that their children will benefit from it.

As for working mothers, of whom I am one, we always wonder whether there was a first word said, a first song sung, a hug that was needed...yet heard or given by another in our absence. We do, however, as workingwomen, enjoy the intellectual stimulation provided by our careers and the satisfaction of fulfilling our own personal goals.

Until next month...

Megan Coleman is CNYCentral’s Content Managing Editor and news anchor for the 5 and 6 p.m. NBC 3 newscasts. Follow her on Twitter at @MegsNewsFlash.

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calendar AN EVENING WITH PETER SAGAL. 7 PM. Peter shares his humorous stories about life and work. He’s an avid runner, author, humorist, and host of the NPR’s “Wait Wait...Don’t Tell Me”.

Q&A and a chance to meet him. Colgate Inn caters with a cash bar. $40.

Seating is limited; general admission.

The Palace Theater, 19 Utica St., Hamilton. 824.1420. palacetheater.org.

Mon April 15 SUNY UPSTATE MEDICAL UNIVERSITY PRESENTATION. 6 PM. Presentation for high school students interested in a career as a physical therapist, physician or physician assistant. Presented

by Kevin Neville, Assistant Professor of Physical Therapy and Wendy Meter-Wilson, Senior Assistant Director for Admissions. NOPL Cicero, 8686 Knowledge Lane. For more information visit nopl. org. 699.2032.

Wed April 17 SUNY UPSTATE MEDICAL UNIVERSITY PRESENTATION. 5:30 PM. Presentation for high school students interested in a career as a physical therapist, physician or physician assistant. Presented

by Kevin Neville, Assistant Professor of Physical Therapy and Wendy Meter-Wilson, Senior Assistant Director for Admissions. NOPL Cicero, 8686 Knowledge Lane. For more information visit nopl. org. 699.2032.

KIDDIE CAFÉ. 10 AM to Noon. Drop in to Cafe 300 for puzzles, coloring sheets, lacing cards, the train table, kids music, snacks and fun. Relax and visit with other mothers while your children play. Fayetteville Free Library. 300 Orchard St., Fayettville. Register at fflib. org.

Tue April 23 JUDY’S BOOK CLUB. 7 PM. Discussion on “The Unfinished Work of Elizabeth D.” by Nichols Bernier. Barnes and Noble, 3454 Erie Blvd East, DeWitt.

449.2948.

Wed April 24 KIDDIE CAFÉ. 10 AM to Noon. Drop in to Cafe 300 for puzzles, coloring sheets,

lacing cards, the train table, kids music, snacks and fun. Relax and visit with other mothers while your children play.

Fayetteville Free Library. 300 Orchard St., Fayettville. Register at fflib.org.

Thu April 25 THE TOWN MOUSE AND THE COUNTRY MOUSE. 9:30 Am to Noon.

Theatre IV performs this musical based on the book for two shows. The show is appropriate for kids ages 4-8. Seating is limited and general admission, $8.

Group rates apply. The Palace Theater, 19 Utica St., Hamilton. 824.1420. palacetheater.org.

COMPLETELY ORGANIZED. 6:30 PM. Special presentation by Completely Organized President and founder Lisa DeVeau. Come and learn about some of Lisa’s favorite technology tools for running a busy household. NOPL North Syracuse Library, 100 Trolley Barn Lane. Registration is requested; visit nopl.org. 458.6184.

Fri April 26

Rent kayaks, rowboats, canoes and “power paddlers” onondagacountyparks.com nysparks.com Join other boaters centralssailing.org cnykayakclub.com Swim lessons ymcaofgreatersyracuse.org s y r a c u s e . n y. u s / P a r k s / lessons recreationservices.syr.edu/ programs/aquatics Join other swimmers dewittdolphins.com Staff on call

THE SUSTAINABILITY GENERATION: The Politics of Change and Why Personal Accountability is Essential NOW!

by Mark Coleman. 7 PM. Talk and signing. Barnes and Noble, 3454 Erie Blvd East, DeWitt. 449.2948.

24 HOURS A day!

TENTH OF DECEMBER by George Saunders. 7 PM. Reading, discussion and signing. Barnes and Noble, 3454 Erie Blvd East, DeWitt. 449.2948.

Sat April 27 FAMILY MOVIE SERIES. 1 PM. “Rise of the Guardians.” This film is rated PG and is based on the popular Guardians of Childhood book series by William Joyce. Free popcorn is available.

NOPL Cicero, 8686 Knowledge Lane.

For more information visit nopl.org.

699.2032.

Tue April 30 CNY CHILDREN’S WRITERS & ILLUSTRATORS. 7 PM. Discussion at the children’s stage. Get information and connect with local authors and illustrators. Barnes and Noble, 3454 Erie Blvd East, DeWitt. 449.2948.

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the ins and outs of educational and stimulating activities for your children

Autism rates rising ... but why?

In early 2012, the U.S. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention issued findings from a study that found one in 88 children is now diagnosed with autism spectrum disorder by the age of eight. This is a 23 percent increase in ASD diagnoses in just two years. What troubles doctors is that the rate has risen far above the 2006 estimate of one in 110.

The National Institute of Neurological Disorders and Stroke says that ASD includes a range of complex neurodevelopmental disorders, characterized by social impairment, communication difficulties and restricted, repetitive and stereotyped patterns of behavior. Children with ASD can have difficulties learning what are typically simple lessons for other children. Although ASD varies in severity, the common thread is that it occurs in all ethnic groups and affects every age. Males are four times more likely to have ASD than females.

Doctors do not understand why autism rates have risen so profoundly.

Some believe that a broader definition of autism is fueling these growing numbers. Diagnostic criteria has changed and ASD is now encompassing conditions that weren't first included under the autism banner. Currently, ASD is classified into the following subsets.

Pervasive developmental disorders (not otherwise specified, or PDD-NOS): These are a large group of disorders characterized by delays in communication and socialization skills.

Children may vary in their abilities, intelligence and behaviors. A PDD is typically diagnosed by age three.

Asperger's syndrome (AS): AS is a

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developmental disorder that includes repetitive routines or rituals, peculiarities in speech and language, such as speaking in a formal manner or monotone, socially and emotionally inappropriate behavior and the inability to interact with peers, clumsy motor movements and problems with nonverbal communication. Unlike children with autism, children with AS retain their early language skills, but their condition may be realized due to motor development delays, according to the National Institutes of Health.

Autism disorder (AD): Also known as classical autism, those with this diagnosis of-

ten have the most severe form of ASD. Characteristics of this disorder include repetitive movements, self-abusive behavior, inability to speak or communicate, failure to play with other children and no smiling or social responsiveness. Many with AD have restricted patterns of interest that are abnormal in intensity or focus.

Because children are placed on the autism spectrum at different severities, autism in general is quite a broad term -- and only seems to be getting broader.

Therefore, net ASD includes more and more children who may not have been diagnosed with ASD in the past. Increasingly, doctors and specialists have a better understanding of behaviors and symptoms indicative of ASD, which means more children have the potential for an ASD diagnosis than in the past. These are just some of the factors contributing to why autism rates seem to be growing.

According to Autism Speaks, just a few years ago little was known about the causes of autism. Now it is known that there is no one cause of autism, just as there is no one type. Scientists recently identified a number of rare genetic changes, or mutations, associated with autism. Many cases, however, seem to be a combination of genetics and environmental influences during early brain development. The organization also notes that the clearest evidence of these autism risk factors involves events before and during birth.

They include advanced parental age at the time of conception (both of mom and dad), maternal illness during pregnancy and certain difficulties during birth, particularly those involving periods of oxygen deprivation to the baby's brain.

These factors don't cause autism, but they can contribute to it.

Autism spectrum disorder affects more than one million children in the United States alone. Mark Roithmayer, president of Autism Speaks, says that autism should officially be considered an epidemic in the United States. Ongoing research and customized treatment options remain the best opportunities for anyone with ASD.

tips and ideas for keeping your family fast, fit, and feeling great

healthy family

Letter to the lost Then it came: a miscarriage. Such a clinical word for such a brutal experience. As if it doesn’t mean loss, ruin, death. You were gone just as suddenly as you came, and with none of the fanfare.

There are no words for the depth of my grief, and your father’s. We had such grand hopes for you, such sweet plans. Now they’ll never come to fruition. We won’t even get to meet you, much less hold your hands while you learn to walk, hear your first words, read to you, watch you grow.

Sometimes, when I feel like torturing myself, I fixate on each and every thing you’ll never do.

I can’t decide what’s worse, the grief or the numb, empty sensation that replaces it.

I feel dull, colorless, washed out much of the time, but then the world comes rushing back, all harsh brights and sharp edges. I’ll go to Wegmans and realize I can’t park in the “Expectant Mother” parking (at least, not legitimately) and break down.

Meanwhile, everyone else goes on like nothing happened. How am I supposed to do that? How can I go to work, run errands, eat, sleep, breathe, when I’m not going to be your mommy anymore?

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Fortunately, I’m still somebody’s mommy. Andrew — he would have been, should have been your big brother — has been my salvation.

He’s such a sweet boy, and he distracts me from the hollowness of my womb. He reminds me to have hope.

But I don’t expect a continued on page 23

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To the baby I will never know: When I found out I was pregnant on Valentine’s Day, I was over the moon.

I’ve wanted you for so long, a little niblet to complete our family. Your dad and I couldn’t wait to meet you.

And you were due right around my birthday; you could have been the third generation born on Oct. 23.

At first, all was rosy.

Then things changed. I started spotting. A sonogram showed you were too small for your gestational age. More and more signs started to appear suggesting that you weren’t going to make it.

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Eating on the road

By Julie Mellen RD, CDE, CDN

Spring break is quickly approaching. Whether you are traveling for vacation or spend a lot of time in your car, eating on the road can be a challenge. So what would be some good food choices while traveling?

While on the road, first remember that if you stop at a fast food establishment you are going to have limited food choices, most of which will be high in fat, calories and/or salt.

If you must stop, ask for the nutrition facts so that you will be able to make an informed choice. Think grilled chicken, meat or

ham, roast beef or turkey breast all can be packed into the cooler and give you that appetite satisfying protein boost Bring plenty of water.

Club soda, skim milk and 100 percent fruit juice (in moderation) are good choices too.

Popcorn and baked whole grain crackers are a good source of fiber and complex carbohydrate Other healthy snacks to pack include whole grain cereals, whole grain bread with peanut or almond butter, granola bars, protein bars,nut, seeds such as pumpkin or sunflower seeds, fresh cut vegetables or fruit,

vegetables, burritos or soft tacos, sandwiches without added mayonnaise or special sauces, veggie burgers, salads with light dressing, chili, broth or tomato based soups for some healthier ideas.

A better alternative may be to search out the nearest grocery store and your choices will be endless.

Take the time to pack some food before you hop into the car. Invest in a cooler and some ice packs or some quart-sized freezer bags to load up with ice. Hard boiled eggs, Greek yogurt, low fat string cheese, low fat sliced cheese, rolled up lean deli

dried fruit (cranberries, blueberries, raisins, apricot, banana, mango, pineapple, etc), vanilla yogurt covered raisins, trail mix, individually packaged tuna packs or salmon - rich in omega3â&#x20AC;&#x2122;s and great source of protein, jerky - salty but a good source of protein or Hummus and pita bread triangles.

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begin to think about how they want to make an impact on the world Most parents are running around them. around like mad people trying to Parents’ reasoning to their teenget work done, taking care of their ager has real world implications kids, paying bills, making sure their that most never could imagine. children’s homework is completed, One major aspect is that children cleaning and bringing kids to will be able to recognize when othextracurricular activities, all while ers are trying to manipulate or take trying to somewhat (I use this term advantage of them. This creates loosely) take care of themselves. a free-thinking child that can be This tends to create quick parenting more aware and able to adapt in techniques and phrases that fix a “just follow the masses” kind of the short-term negative behavior culture that includes peer pressure children and teens exhibit. These around alcohol, phrases come drugs and in varying sex, which syntax and is a largely words, but all growing have the unproblem for derlying tone our youth. This of authoritaralso allows ian parenting.

Stephen Chbosky, the child to unA few of “The Perks of Being a Wallflower” derstand that these phrases they contribute are “Because in a way to I said so” perpetuating and “Do as what continues to happen to them I say, not as I do.” This, however, both good and bad. This instills doesn’t answer a very important empowerment, instead of helplessquestion … Why? ness.

Without providing a why to The most important impact that your teen, you’re missing out on an this strategy for parenting has on opportunity for your child to underchildren is the fact that they are stand the consequences, both good important and deserve to feel and bad, of their actions. This will loved and be happy. Parents crereinforce positive behaviors of ate this sense of worthiness through self-regulation and self-control that the use of properly responding to they consciously choose to make their children and assisting them with little guidance from an adult. in understanding what is happenYou also communicate to your child ing and why. This helps regulate respect – respect that says, “You a child and assist them in being are more than worth my time and self-sufficient and self-reliant, while energy.” not defining themselves through You may have perceived that other people’s thoughts and actions these phrases may have worked towards them. most of the time when your child

We accept the love we think we deserve.

Matt Maynard is a student at Syracuse University and an intern of Syracuse Parent columnist Theressa McMorris, MS, a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in private practice in Syracuse and Rome. Her experience includes church conflict management, guest speaker and retreat leader. You can connect with her at Theressa@ harvesthousecounseling.com.

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was younger. As the child grows into an adolescent their perspective of themselves and their role in the world shifts into one of questioning and obtaining understanding of themselves, society and, unfortunately, your parenting.

The teenage years are a time of slow separation and personal exploration of beliefs, attitudes (pun intended) and motivators. This time is also a period where they

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Parents of young children may need to brush up on their knowledge of child safety seats and seat belt restraints. Many are still operating in adherence to older guidelines that go back more than a decade. As a result, parents should re-educate themselves in order to ensure child safety.

In guidelines published in April of 2011, the American Academy of Pediatrics made some modifications to the period of time a child should be kept in a rear-facing seat. Prior to 2011, parents were told it was safest for infants and toddlers to ride rear-facing up to the limits of the car seat or when children reached 12 months in age and 20 pounds. But new guidelines advise that children should be kept rear-facing until age 2, or until they reach the maximum height and weight for their seat.

“A rear-facing child safety seat does a better job of supporting the head, neck and spine of infants and toddlers in a crash, because it distributes the force of the collision over the entire body,” said Dennis Durbin, MD, FAAP, the lead author of the new policy.

In addition, new advice on booster seats for older children were also presented. The AAP and the National Highway Traffic Safety Administration say children should ride in a belt-positioning booster, which is the high-back booster seat that provides a guide for the vehicle’s seat belt, until they are at least 4 feet, 9 inches and between 8 to 12 years old.

Vehicle seat belts are designed to fit an average adult. In order to get the best protection, children usually need a booster seat until they are about 4 feet 9 inches tall and weigh between 80 to 100 pounds.

Smallerchildren may need to remain in a booster a little longer than anticipated.

Children should not ride in the front seat of a car until they are age 13 or older.

Parents of preteens who were under the impression that booster seat days were coming to an end will need to keep the safety seats in the car a few years longer.

But safety seats should not be placed in an area of the car where an air bag can be deployed.

Parents and other adult drivers may want to heed some other safety precautions before a child is upgraded to a new seat.

- A seat belt should never be placed under a child’s arm.

- Children should always be buckled up in a booster seat with both the shoulder and lap belt.

- The seat belt should fall across the shoulders and the lap belt should rest on the upper thighs when a child is in the seat of a car. If the seat belt rubs against the neck, the child is not yet tall enough to give up a booster seat.

- Mirrors placed in the rear seat of the car can help parents see their

children in rear-facing toddler seats.

- Children who cannot be trusted to keep a seat belt latched should not be moved from a five-point harness to a regular seat belt.

- Parents unsure if their children are buckled up correctly can have the seat checked at a police station or first aid building.

Keeping children safe means heeding warnings and guidelines regarding safety restraints. It is not adviseable to upgrade a child into the next seat until he or she has met all the measurement requirements set in place.

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CAMP GUIDE YOUTH SPORTSMAN CAMP

Open to girls & boys, ages 12-15 Space limited.

Dates: 3 one-week sessions Hunter Safety: July 15-18 Bow Safety – July 22-25 Waterfowl ID – July 29-Aug. 1 Registration required by May 17.

Site: Montezuma Audubon Center, Savannah, N.Y. Contact: 365.3588; montezuma@audubon.org

PONY CAMP IN CAZ

Open to girls & boys, ages 6 and up Space limited to 6 students per week.

Dates: July and August weekly sessions.

Programs include individual daily riding instruction and different equestrian topics each week.

Registration required.

Site: Canterbury Stables, Cazenovia Contact: 420.2244; canterburystablesny.com

YMCA DAY CAMPS

Open to girls & boys, ages 4-16 Space limited.

Dates: Varies by camp.

Camps offer a variety of activities including sports, art, field trips, rock climbing, horseback riding and more.

Registration required.

Site: 8 locations across Greater Syracuse More information: ycny.org

ONONDAGA COMMUNITY COLLEGE

Open to girls & boys, ages 5-17 Space limited.

Dates: 3 one-week sessions Children’s Learning Center: July (3 sessions, ages 5-7) College for Kids: July (3 sessions, ages 8-14) STEM Camp: July 29-Aug. 2 (ages 15-17) Registration required.

Site: Onondaga Community College Contact: 498.6000; lifelong@sunyocc.edu

SORRELL HILL

Open to girls & boys, ages 6 and up Space limited to six campers per session.

Dates: 1-week sessions starting June 25 Each day includes private riding lesson, crafts and hands on horsemanship.

Registration required. No experience required.

Site: Sorrell Hill Equestrian Center, Baldwinsville, N.Y. Contact: 638.5392; terri@ sorrellhillstables. com

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Boy Scout summer camp When one thinks of Boy Scout summer camp, images come to mind of boys paddling boats across a lake surrounded by lush forests in which they can engaged in activities such as archery, arts and crafts and identifying various flora and fauna.

But, hidden within these many camp adventures, lies the true benefits of a boy’s week at camp.

Harris Interactive of New York designed a study on the impact of summer camp in the lives of Boy Scouts, leaders and parents of scouts. The researchers concluded that within the typical six days of Boy Scout summer camp, boys are in an environment that comprehensively provides them with critical elements of healthy youth development.

Since its beginning in 1910, the Boy Scouts of America has believed

in personal growth through service.

The camps allow boys to get away from the day-to-day stress that comes along with increased technology, giving them time to get back to what is important, by building character and strengthening their personal value system. At camp, boys gain a positive sense of self-worth and usefulness through serving others. Boys serve their peers at camp through helping clean up campsites, helping clean up after meals and serving food.

According to the study, a majority of boys at camp receive praise from others, and 78 percent of boys indicate that they “accomplished something worthwhile” du ring camp, most Scouts made a new friend or became better friends with someone while at camp.

Summer camp is an outdoor classroom in which boys test themselves. They test their skills, as well as their courage to try new things. Also, in the study, 69 percent of boys said they felt challenged, with 71 percent said their mental/thinking abilities were tested while at camp. The majority also had success in working with others on a badge or task, with 83 percent completing a merit badge.

Parents see the difference Scout camp makes. Eighty-one percent of parents of Scouts who attend camp say the camp experience resulted in a positive change in their sons.

They agree their sons have fun, are safe, and learn and test new skills. In addition, 84 percent of parents said their son learned personal responsibility while at camp, and 96 percent of parents surveyed said they would recommend camp to others.

Source: scouting.org

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Girl Scout summer camp

Looking for an outdoor experience like none other? Want to make new friends and try things you’ve never done before? Then it’s time to register for Girl Scout Camp!

This year resident camp is being held at Camp Trefoil in Harrisville and the Comstock Program Center near Ithaca. There will also be family camping at the Misty Hollow Program Center this year!

Some programs being held at Comstock this year include Fun ‘N Sun for girls going into grades 2 and 3. Girls will spend their week around the waterfront boating, swimming, playing water games and having a great time; Going Green for girls going into grades 4 and 5. Girls will learn to preserve and protect the environment while spending a week living at camp; Night Owls for girls in grades 6 and up. Girls will explore camp during the dark hours, stay up late, sleep in the morning, take a hike, and enjoy camp; Be Xtreme for girls in grades 4 and 5. Girls will learn canoe-over-canoe rescue and trailblazing and participate in traditional camp experiences; and sailing for grades 6 and up. Girls will improve their sailing skills, learn about sunfish and play with the fleet of boats on Cayuga Lake. There is also a Mom and Me camp overnight at Comstock this year where girls and a significant adult female will spend time hiking, boating, arts and crafts, swimming and relaxing, among other things.

Some programs being held at Trefoil this year include Nature Nuts for girls going into grades 2 and 3.

Girls will learn all about endangered animals, build a bird house, explore various habitats and create a model habitat for an animal; Club Med for girls going into grades 4 and 5. Girls will pamper themselves during a ‘spa

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week,’ enjoy tropical drinks, facials and a gourmet snack; Hit the Ropes for girls in grades 6 and up. Girls will tackle the new ropes course, both high and low elements, and also enjoy the other great things camp has to offer; Backpack Trip for girls in grades 6 and up. Girls will spend time in the High Peaks of the Adirondacks; and Mix and Match for girls in grades 2 and 3. Girls will pick an exciting activity every day such as hiking, animal habitats, be an artist and more.

Girls do not need to be Girl Scouts to attend any of these programs and financial aid is available for Girl Scout members.

To find out more about these programs and other great programs being offered, visit the summer fun page at gsnypenn.org. Registration is available right online at gsnypenn. org/ebiz.

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CAMP GUIDE JCC

Open to girls & boys of all ages.

Space limited.

Dates: June 24–Aug. 16 Offering Pre-school camps, 36 school age camps and teen programs.

Registration required.

Site: The JCC of Syracuse Contact: 445.2360; jccsyr.org

CAMP ROTHSCHILD

Open to girls & boys, age groups vary.

Space limited.

Dates: June 24-Aug. 29 Offering swimming lessons, free swim time, nature/science activities, art projects, theatre, sports, weekly field trips and healthy lunch and snacks.

Registration required.

Site: Camp Rothschild, Syracuse Contact: 445.0049; camprothschild@adath.org

SU LAX CAMPS

Open to girls & boys, age groups vary.

Space limited.

Dates: Varies by camp.

Gary Gait has been directing camps for 24 years and has developed the ultimate camp experience for girl’s lacrosse players that want to take their game to the next level. Campers are taught how to learn the skills rather than just be put through drills.

Registration required.

Site: Varies by camp.

Contact: sulaxcamps.com

BASCOL ULTIMATE SUMMER ESCAPE

Open to girls & boys, age groups vary Space limited.

Dates: June 24-Aug. 28 Camp includes weekly themes, filed trips, waterslide, guest speakers, robotics and more.

Registration required.

Site: BASCOL, Liverpool and Syracuse locations Contact: 365.3588; 622.4815; bascol.org

LEARN AS YOU GROW

Open to girls & boys, age groups vary.

Space limited.

Dates: Varies by camp.

School age summer camp including guest speakers, cooking, space camp, sports, file trips and nutritious breakfast, lunch and snacks.

Registration required.

Site: Learn As You Grow (5 locations) More Information: learnasyougrowccc.com

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CAMP GUIDE MANLIUS PEBBLE HILL

Open to girls & boys, ages 14-17 Space limited.

Dates: June 24-Aug. 16 Eight weeks with more than 100 offerings that include day camp, academics, theater, circus skills, sports, driver education, SAT prep and more.

Registration required.

Site: Manlius Pebble Hill School Contact: 446.2452; mph.net

SPORTS CAMP AT DRUMLIN’S

Open to girls & boys, ages 6-12 Space limited.

Dates: July 8-12; July 15-19 Programs include golf, tennis and swim instruction (lunch and a T-shirt included) for recreational or competitive participants.

Registration required.

Site: Drumlin’s, Syracuse Contact: 446.4555; drumlins.com

FEATS OF CLAY

Open to girls & boys, age groups vary.

Space limited.

Dates: Varies by camp.

Offering environment where kids can experiment with different forms of art, meet new friends, have healthy snacks and play games.

Registration required.

Site: Feats of Clay, Manlius Contact: 682.3700; featsofclay.com

ST. MARGARET’S SUMMER CAMP

Open to Catholic school & Catholic Parish girls & boys, age groups vary Space limited.

Dates: Varies by camp.

Offering a variety of activities with a weekly theme, sports, arts and crafts, swimming, field trips and more.

Registration required.

Site: St, Margaret’s, Syracuse Contact: 455.5791

SPORTS CAMP AT DRUMLIN’S

Open to girls & boys, ages 6-12 Space limited.

Dates: July 8-12; July 15-19 Programs include golf, tennis and swim instruction (lunch and a T-shirt included) for recreational or competitive participants.

Registration required.

Site: Drumlin’s, Syracuse Contact: 446.4555; drumlins.com

Badges

“Badges? We don’t need no stinking badges!”

So goes the oft-quoted line from “Blazing Saddles,” but as a parent I want some badges.

I don’t need a badge to mark myself as The Law in the house. I have a withering look for that. What I want are badges akin to what’s awarded in Boy and Girl Scouts: badges of accomplishment, of survival and of recognition to be worn with pride so parents can acknowledge each other with a dignified head nod.

Badges would be awarded for the things that seem monumental at the time but truly won’t matter in 10 years – or even a month, for that matter. For these events, let’s have some tangible proof that we – and our offspring – survived.

Badges would include: Entomology: awarded not for identifying insects by genus and species. Rather it’s for surviving the school note stating “a member of your child’s class has lice

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By David Tyler When I speak with people about my son, John, and our life with autism, I’m often asked, “Where is he on the spectrum?”

My answer is always the same: “All over it.”

The question presupposes that the autism spectrum is like an speedometer. A child with a little trouble with eye contact and some slight speech delays is slotted in at 10 mph, whereas a child with no response to verbal stimulation who spends his days rocking back and forth is redlining the tachometer.

Caution! Engine Failure Imminent!

It’s not like that.

The truth is that because each child is so different, they fall onto the spectrum in many different places. John makes decent eye contact and can ask us to fulfill his basic needs. He reads fairly well, is beginning to develop some math skills and clearly has some emotional connection with his family, particularly his mommy.

But on the flip side, he can’t sit still for lon-

ger than 10 seconds, spends hours with his fingers in his ears loudly humming or shouting, erupts in anxious tantrums at the smallest break in our daily routine and is prone to quick, violent, and unpredictable outbursts.

So where is he on the spectrum? Who knows?

What I strongly believe about all children with autism, and what I know about John, is that there is an “Inner John” with intelligence and imagination and humor and emotion.

So, John is not slowly plugging along at 10 mph, nor is he revved up into the danger zone of the autism spectrum. Instead, like most kids with autism, he’s an erratic driver, fast sometimes and slow other times, with plenty of twists, turns and abrupt lane changes. As parents, it is our job to address the behaviors - usually those that approach the red line - that prevent the Inner John from coming through.

This column is a collection of thoughts and family life lessons from our publisher Dave Tyler.

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CAMP GUIDE CREATIVE ENVIRONMENT SUMMER DAY CAMP

Open to girls & boys, ages 18 months -13 years Space limited.

Dates: Varies by camp.

Programs include sports, nature study, horses, playground time, art, educational activities, swimming, overnight stays and more.

Registration required.

Site: Creative Environment Summer Day Camp, Fayetteville Contact: 637.6071

GIRL SCOUTS

Open to girls, age groups vary.

Space limited.

Dates: Varies by camp.

Programs include opportunities for your children to make new relationships, experience fair treatment and feel like they belong.

Registration required.

Site: Varies by camp.

Contact: gsnypenn.org/summercamp

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CAMP GUIDE PONY DAY CAMP

Open to girls & boys, age groups vary.

Space limited.

Dates: Varies by camp.

Programs include private and group lessons from beginner to advanced. Showing opportunities available at all ages.

Registration required.

Site: Trillium Stables Inc., Lafayette Contact: 677.3643; trilliumstablesinc.com

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Eleven myths about autism 1. Myth: People with autism don’t want

friends.

Truth: If someone in your class has autism, they probably struggle with social skills, which may make it difficult to interact with peers. They might seem shy or unfriendly, but that’s just because he or she is unable communicate their desire for relationships the same way you do.

2. Myth: People with autism can’t feel

based solely on one’s body language or sarcasm in one’s tone of voice. But, when emotions are communicated more directly, people with autism are much more likely to feel empathy and compassion for others.

4. Myth: People with autism are intel-

lectually disabled.

Truth: Many people with autism have normal to high IQs and some may excel at math, music or another pursuit.

or express any emotion.

Truth: Autism doesn’t make an individual unable to feel the emotions you feel, it just makes the person communicate emotions (and perceive your expressions) in different ways.

5. Myth: People with autism are just like Dustin Hoffman’s character in Rain Man. Truth: Autism is a spectrum disorder, meaning its characteristics vary significantly from person to person.

3. Myth: People with autism can’t

of autism are just odd and will grow out of it.

Truth: Autism stems from biological conditions that affect brain development and, for many individuals, is a lifelong condition.

understand the emotions of others.

Truth: Autism often affects an individual’s ability to understand unspoken interpersonal communication, so someone with autism might not detect sadness

6. Myth: People who display qualities

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Dates: July 8-Aug.23 Half and full-day professional instruction for gymnastics, various other sports, arts and crafts, facility air bounces and trampolining.

Registration required.

Site: CNY Gym Centre, Shoppingtown and Great Northern malls Contact: DeWitt 437.4535; Clay 622.4600

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learning curve 7. Myth: People with autism will have

autism forever.

Truth: Recent research has shown that children with autism can make enough improvement after intensive early intervention to â&#x20AC;&#x153;test outâ&#x20AC;? of the autism diagnosis.

This is more evidence for the importance of addressing autism when the first signs appear.

8. Myth: Autism is just a brain disorder.

Truth: Research has shown that many people with autism also have gastrointestinal disorders, food sensitivities and many allergies.

9. Myth: Autism is caused by bad parenting.

Truth: This has long been disproved.

10. Myth: The prevalence of autism has been steadily increasing for the last 40 years.

Truth: The rate of autism has increased by 600 percent in the last 20 years. In 1975, an estimated one in

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11. Myth: Therapies for people with

autism are covered by insurance.

Truth: Most insurance companies exclude autism from the coverage plan and only half of the 50 states currently require coverage for treatments of autism spectrum disorders. New York state is one of those states.

Autism Speaks is the worldâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s leading autism science and advocacy organization, dedicated to funding research into the causes, prevention, treatments and a cure for autism; increasing awareness of autism spectrum disorders; and advocating for the needs of individuals with autism and their families. We are proud of what weâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;ve been able to accomplish and look forward to continued successes in the years ahead.

The previous information can be found on autismspeaks.org

CAMP GUIDE THE GINGERBREAD HOUSE

Open to girls & boys, age groups vary.

Space limited.

Dates: Begins June 24.

Programs designed to nurture childrenâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s potential and help develop life skills.

Registration required.

Site: The Gingerbread House, Syracuse Contact: 471.4198

ROSAMOND GIFFORD ZOO CAMP

Open to girls & boys, age groups vary.

Space limited.

Dates: Varies by camp.

Kids participate in zoo tours, hands-on activities, games, and crafts and interact with animals and staff at the zoo.

Registration required. Begins April 8 to member; April 22 open registration.

Site: Rosamond Gifford Zoo, Syracuse More information: rosamondgiffordzoo.org/summer-camp

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Talk to your kids about gambling CAMP GUIDE before the teenage years graders reported they had gambled Itâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s not just nickels in the past year, 10 percent have had CAMP TALOOLI problems due to their gambling and and dimes an additional 10 percent are at risk for

SUMMER

Open to girls & boys, age groups vary.

Space limited.

Dates: Varies by camp.

Day and resident camp available. Programs include swimming, boating, nature, arts and crafts, the challenge course, music, campfire cooking, and special daily programs. In addition, resident campers enjoy evening campfires, dining hall meals, and learn to live and make decisions with other children their own age.

Registration required.

Site: Camp Talooli, Phoenix, N.Y. Contact: 934.4051; campfireusacny.org

LOURDES CAMP

Open to girls & boys, ages 7-14 Space limited.

Dates: Varies by camp.

Programs include both resident and day camp programs. Campers choose their own activities for the week from arts and crafts, sailing, canoeing, sports, pontoon boating, archery, hiking and fishing. Ropes and challenge course is available for an additional fee.

Registration required.

Site: Ten Mile Point, Skaneateles Contact: 424.1812; lourdescamp.com

CITY OF SYRACUSE PARKS & RECS CAMPS

Open to girls & boys, age groups vary Space limited.

Dates: Varies by camp.

The City will provide free, supervised bus transportation to all full-day camps from the pick-up sites listed below. Programs include basketball, ESF, golf, multi-sport, MOST, animal camp, robotics, police and fire camps, soccer, track, art and more.

Registration required.

Site: Varies by camp.

Contact: 473.4330; syracuse.ny.us/parks/summerCamps.html

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By Cheryl Thomas Prevention Network Parent Outreach-Problem Gambling Initiative Kids that gamble are three times more likely to drink, four times more likely to smoke and four times more likely to be in trouble with the law. What at first seems to be a harmless activity can quickly escalate to a problem or addiction. More than nickels and dimes are at risk and the younger a person is when he or she starts to gamble the more likely it is that he or she will experience problems.

Most parents have conversations with their children regarding other topics such as safe sex, internet use, alcohol and drugs. Less than half of parents ever discuss gambling issues with their children and only 13 percent of parents believe that their child actually gambles for money.

According to the New York Council on Problem Gambling, in New York state 48 percent of seventh to12th

problem gambling. Of the youth that experienced problem gambling in the past year, 28 percent may also be in need of chemical dependence treatment.

When parents are aware of the potential risks of youth gambling and that it can lead to serious problems and addiction they can help their children in making healthy choices.

So what can parents of young children do now?

Be a good role model. Children are more likely to gamble if they see adults show interest and excitement about gambling.

Look for opportunities to talk to your children. Children need to know that gambling is not a way to make money and the majority of gamblers will lose.

Establish family rules. Underage gambling is illegal and children who perceive parental disapproval are less likely to develop a gambling problem.

Our children are exposed to gambling messages at a very young age from lottery ticket sales at the grocery store to internet and television that portray gambling as exciting and easy money. Parents can make a difference in how children respond to these messages.

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Letter to the lost continued from page 11 loss”?

I might sound bitter. I guess I am.

I have no one I can blame for losing you, and I have all of this anger. I have to direct it somewhere.

But I’m also touched. There are people who have reached out to share their own stories of loss —something like 20 to 30 percent of all pregnancies end in miscarriage — and others who simply offered kind words and thoughts. Those have meant the world to me and your dad, just to know that we’re not alone, that we’ll get through this.

I know better days are ahead. But that doesn’t make these days any easier. I miss you. I’m bereft. I was pregnant, and now I’m not. There was a life inside me, and now there isn’t.

We were going to have a baby, and now we aren’t.

There’s nothing in this world that can ever make up for that.

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3-year-old to be responsible for my mental well-being; it’s not fair, and it’s not practical, either. Your daddy and I have been relying on each other, and I feel very lucky to have him — but then, I always have.

Outside of my family — what should have been your family — though well-meaning, some of the words of “comfort” I’ve been offered have done anything but. What could possibly make someone think I want to hear it was “God’s plan” that my baby died?

I know there could be other babies, but how can that make losing you better? As if you were disposable because you hadn’t yet grown arms and legs.

I’m also amazed at the people I thought were good friends who’ve said nothing. If I had given birth to a child, and he or she died, would they ignore that, too? How hard is it to drop a line to say “I’m sorry for your

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pay it forward

CNY Walk Now for Autism Speaks

Autism Speaks, the worldâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s leading autism science and advocacy organization, today announced that the fifth annual Central New York Walk Now for Autism Speaks fundraising and awareness event will take place on May 19 at Long Branch Park in Liverpool.

All event proceeds will support Autism Speaksâ&#x20AC;&#x2122; work, both locally and nationally, to increase awareness about the growing autism health crisis, fund innovative autism research and family services, and advocate for the needs of individuals with autism and their families in CNY and beyond.

Each Walk Now for Autism Speaks event is unique, offering a safe and fun day for families impacted by autism.

The day includes a two to three-mile Walk and Community Resource fair with educational sources, therapists, schools, recreational organizations, and creative child-friendly activities, a true â&#x20AC;&#x153;one-stopshopâ&#x20AC;? for families affected by autism.

In addition to its national science and advocacy work, Autism Speaks has made a significant impact in the CNY area.

The organization has provided funding to innovative local service providers, including Onondaga Community College and Awesome Summer Days Camp through its Family Services Community Grant program. Autism Speaks science grants have supported research at local research institutions, including State University of New York, Upstate Medical University and Cornell University.

For more information about the 2013 CNY Walk Now for Autism Speaks, visit www.walknowforautismspeaks.org/ centralny or contact 646.843.6665 or email centralny@ autismspeaks.org.

Universal Cheer Co. takes over CNY Universal Cheer Co. provides educational, athletic and social development skills to children and adolescents between the ages 5 and 25 with special needs through its cheer program known as the Comets.

Cindy Caprilozzi and Sharon Marra coach the team and practices are held weekly in Syracuse.

The Comets perform at many local events and at cheerleading competitions throughout the state.

Most recently the Comets performed at halftime during the Harlem Globtrotters game on Feb. 8 at the Carrier Dome. And in March, the squad performed another exhibition at a Le Moyne Womenâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s Basketball game.

The squad is now looking forward to the GLCC Get Loud Tour, which takes place April 21 in Rochester.

The Comets cheer program is run on a seasonal schedule between September and May, leaving the summer months as opportunities for the group to do some fundraising events.

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For more information on how to get involved or for future performance dates, email universalcheer co@yahoo.com.

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CELEBRATING OUR 50TH ANNIVERSARY, 1963-2013!

Fun, Fitness & Self Defense for

ALL AGES! At CNY Karate and Kobudo Schools, the focus is on

Summer Fun

physical strength, growth and on important skills that lead to personal success in life.

A healthy individual is characterized by a strong body and a strong mind.

In our classes, you can expect to sweat, lose weight, decrease body fat and tone your muscles in an enjoyable environment.

Now is the perfect time to â&#x20AC;&#x153;test driveâ&#x20AC;? martial arts with professional and friendly instructors who will take into account your specific needs.

You are never too old or too young for Martial Arts.

Beginner Classes available for seniors, adults, teens and children!

Family and Kids Pentagon Pool

Want to keep your kids cool this summer? He or she can take a dip in this giant inflatable kiddie pool to cool off. You can save yourself a trip to the water park, and your kid can make a splash right in your own back yard. The pool has durable vinyl walls and is easy to inflate, measures almost seven feet wide and has a convenient drain plug to allow for easy emptying. The Family and Kids Pentagon Pool is safe and will stay useful year after year.

KARATE KIDS PROGRAM

ONE FREE MONTH

1 month of Karate for only $99 & get 2nd month FREE. Plus FREE uniform. ($35 value)

Cannot be combined with other offers. For new students only.

Nerf N-Strike Elite: Strongarm Blaster

KICKBOXING

ONE FREE MONTH

1 month of Kickboxing for only $99 & get 2nd month FREE. Plus FREE bag gloves. ($30 value)

The Strongarm Blaster is excellent for kids looking to run around outside using fun and games to target one another. It fires darts up to a distance of 75 feet, and the darts work with any Elite blaster and most N-Strike blasters. The rotating barrel allows for easy loading, too. This trendy toy includes a blaster, six Elite darts and instructions.

Cannot be combined with other offers. For new students only.

KARATE FOR ADULTS

Cannot be combined with other offers. For new students only.

Call Today 437-9417 or visit: www.cnykarate.com 720 West Manlius Street East Syracuse, NY 13057 26

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ONE FREE MONTH

1 month of Karate for only $99 & get 2nd month FREE. Plus FREE uniform. ($35 value)

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Little Tikes Easy Score basketball set Practice makes perfect on the basketball court, so the youngest of aspiring athletes will love this summer toy. The set includes an oversized rim on the basketball hoop and a junior-sized basketball, so toddlers and young children will be able to make their shots with ease. The Little Tikes EasyScore basketball set encourages outdoor activity while developing hand-eye coordination and social and motor skills. The base can be weighted with sand for stability, though sand is not included.

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PRESENTS

CONFERENCE

THE BULLY, THE BULLIED & THE BYSTANDER

BREAKING THE CYCLE OF VIOLENCE

Presenter: Barbara Coloroso Internationally renowned author and educator

Tuesday, April

30, 2013 from 9 am to 3:30 pm

Drumlins Country Club 800 Nottingham Rd., Syracuse, NY 13224 Professionals: $85 (by April 5) $95 (April 6 -19) Parents: $55 (by April 5) $95 (April 6 -19)

For more information call (315) 472-4404 or Register: KohlsAutism.com

AUTISM AWARENESS WALK “one piece at a time”

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Saturday, April 27th 10:00 am Long Branch Park in Liverpool Register: KohlsAutism.com