It is vital to the longevity of your relationship that you understand the importance of closeness and “unity” in your marriage. If you are doing things behind your spouse’s back, you are divided. And we all know that a “house divided against itself cannot stand” (Mark 3:25) Do not listen to peers or others who are divisive, or have agendas against the opposite sex or your spouse. Stay clear and FAR away from them! We were shortly dealing with a woman who after 20 years of marriage divorced. She fully admitted that she was listening to the wrong person and did the wrong thing. It only takes one or two times to begin the motion of continuance. After you do something once or twice, that you should not have done, your conscience begins to override that Godgiven tug of conviction. Pretty soon, you seek others to make you feel better and support your wrongdoing. Stop now! Turn back to your spouse and know that to be right with God, you must FIRST be right with your spouse! (1st Corinthians 7:5, 1st Peter 3:7, Ephesians 5:22, Colossians 3:18, Ephesians 5:21, Matthew 5:23, 24) When you hide something from God, you are in essence attempting to hide it from God. For God has placed your spouse as YOUR covering of protection. For both husbands and wives. If you seek to make yourself vulnerable outside of that protection, you in essence, “give place to the devil”, and trust us, he WILL come in like a roaring lion seeking to devour.
Let us not be “ignorant” of the enemy’s devices and maintain closeness within the relationship. When we hear of individuals in a marriage speak of how they do things, buy things, go places and be with people, without the knowledge or acceptance of their spouse, we immediately see red flags of grave danger in that relationship. That relationship is no doubt unhealthy and needs immediate attention before it gets worse. If you are in that situation, realize that you have the power to stop in your tracks and get into the right direction. We implore you to see things for what they are, and to take a step in the right direction. Go right away to your spouse and repent before them. They are the ones God placed over you for the blessings and acceptance of God. If you’re not right with your spouse, you are NOT right with God, period. Many among us have a twisted concept that if I “feel” God or if I’m “anointed” and can have goose bumps in the Holy Ghost, and I’m not right with my spouse, then I’m still right with God because of feeling and emotion. You are deceived by your own emotions and our salvation, promises of God, and marriage is not built on how we “feel”, it’s built on the Word and on our “full commitment” to our partner. You can feel God and dance around the church, and still be wrong with God. Your anointing does not dictate your righteousness. It never has. “For the gifts and calling of God are without repentance.” (Romans 11:29) Many leaders today still are used mightily by God, but are living in sin and disobedience; right now. Yet they preach under the anointing and shout as if God is totally smiling down on them. Don’t fall for it. 19 | P a g e