Aurora May 2019

Diocese of Maitland-Newcastle May 2019 | No.190

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Perfect fam ilies do not exist Page 6

Next Steps: A Diocesan Memorial for those affected by child abuse 5

Finding work central to lasting peace for Congolese migrants Camille’s story and how you can help 9

21st Century learning not just about bricks and mortar St Therese’s Primary School $6 million rebuild commences 12

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The importance of family

On the cover Ace, David and Paul at Newcastle harbour.

Photo courtesy of Lizzie Snedden.

To coincide with National Families Week, held annually from May 15-21, this edition of Aurora has focused on the importance of family.

Featured f f Next Steps: A Diocesan Memorial

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f f Perfect families do not exist

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f f Children entering out of home care in decline

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f f Mums’ Cottage is the place to be

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f f Finding work central to lasting peace for Congolese migrants

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f f Creating an alliance in the Hunter

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f f Cassidy Davis

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f f 21st Century learning not just about bricks and mortar

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f f Berejiklian victory guarantees $500 million funding boost

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f f Why we chose Catholic schools for our children

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Families Australia CEO and National Families Week Champion, Dr Brian Babington says families are the most important building block of communities, societies and nations.

We at Aurora agree as would the family of five who arrived in Newcastle with only each other after fleeing war-torn Congo; read about them on page 9.

The elderly father from Maitland eagerly awaiting the return of his adult son who has been studying for the priesthood in Rome for four years highlights that a parent’s love never fades on page 19.

A married couple eagerly anticipating the arrival of their first-born reminds us what’s really important in life on page 16.

A father who had his son returned to his care, and became a foster carer to his son’s half-brother at the same time,

reminds us that families come in all shapes and sizes but love is what binds on page 6 and 7.

Education is a vital part of family life so readers will find the story about the rebuild of St Therese’s Primary school most interesting given the aim of the rebuild is to create the ideal environment for 21st century learning.

In the same vein, Valerie Sullivan – whose daughter Jasmine was the Diocesan Dux for 2018 – tells in her words why she chose Catholic schools for all her children.

Her story is on page 13. What does your family mean to you?

For those who have family members at the other end of the education spectrum, the story about the ongoing expansion of St Nicholas early education is worth a read. Once the Branxton Centre is built, this will bring to seven the number of early education centres under the St Nicholas banner in our Diocese. That story is on page 17.

I did some research on what Pope Francis

has to say about the importance of family.

I rather like one article that appeared in francismedia.org that was written in October last year.

The article pulled together 10 different comments made by the Pope but it was the first that really caught the eye. It says that In order to have a healthy family, three words need to be used: please, thank you, and sorry. It cites three examples, namely:  “May I please do this? Would you be happy if I did this?”  We say thank you, thank you for love  And the last word: sorry – and the advice is don’t ever let the sun set without reconciling. Peace is made each day in the family.

Please enjoy this month’s edition focusing on the importance of family.

John Kingsley-Jones is the Head of Diocesan Communications for the Diocese of Maitland-Newcastle.

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Would Jesus watch reality television?

Recently I was at a meeting that involved a priest who is a leading commentator on film and television or, if you like, ‘popular culture’. In a coffee break, following a chance remark by some bishop or church bureaucrat, our popular culture man began holding forth on the need for us all to be watching reality television in order to be in touch with the prevailing values in our society.

He mentioned in particular Married at First Sight (MAFS) as the key to understanding where our society is up to in its understanding of marriage. He’s probably right, but I confess that I could only undertake that sort of viewing as a pastoral duty and, to take a phrase from Menzies, a ‘melancholy duty’ at that.

First let me declare a conflict of interest.

I have a nephew-in-law who was a TV producer. After a season or two of ‘doing’ a reality show, he chucked it in as professionally unsatisfying and opened a brewery. I think he had romantic views about the production values of a Hitchcock or Spielberg, but, in any case, his attitude to the ‘reality’ genre has no doubt influenced mine. It is TV done on the cheap, in every available sense of ‘cheap’.

If I had been doing my duty and watching reality in recent years it would have been a lot of work. We’ve had MAFS, of course, but also shows following people

marrying against their parents’ wishes, people marrying into different cultures, and probably others that I haven’t noticed. And there have been similar formats used in other areas of life, like cooking and home renovation.

They are all promoted in similar ways, short station ads showing conflicts, outrageous rudeness to other contestants, cheating on the game, or on each other in the marriage shows, and participants having emotional meltdowns of some sort. Some of these promos are quite amusing because the people aren’t professional actors. The faces they pull to show shock or outrage haven’t been seen since the worst hamming it up of the silent movie age. As the shows are popular, I have to accept that they are probably less awful than the promos, but even so…

But back to the question: is it my pastoral responsibility to watch this stuff to understand contemporary mores?

I think I already know that people can be mean and bitchy, that they can collapse emotionally under sufficient pressure, that they can do whatever it takes if that’s what the show needs. I think I’ve already noted the decline of the notion of marriage into ‘a relationship that will fulfil all my personal and emotional needs, at least for now’. So do I have to be steeped in contemporary culture, or can I go on watching the old British detective

re-runs much further down the channel list?

or because they ‘had all the bread you wanted to eat’.

The old Christian maxim was that one must be ‘in the world but not of it’. What does that mean today?

He knew and loved his people - but begged them to ‘seek first the Kingdom of God’ not just comfort, pleasure or entertainment. Where does knowing ‘popular culture’ come in that mix?

Jesus lived very much in the real world of his time. He was famous for hanging around in places and with people that the religiously respectable types would not have touched with a barge pole, quite literally. But he often didn’t like what he saw, either of the great and the good, whom he sometimes called hypocrites, or of the crowds who followed him simply hoping for the excitement of a miracle

You tell me: would Jesus have watched MAFS?

Bishop Bill Wright Diocese of Maitland-Newcastle

Frankly Spoken Christ is alive and he remains with us. Risen, he shows us the light of his face, and he does not abandon all those experiencing hardship, pain and sorrow…

May the Risen Christ, who flung open the doors of the tomb, open our hearts to the needs of the disadvantaged, the vulnerable, the poor, the unemployed, the marginalised, and all those who knock at our door in search of bread, refuge, and the recognition of their dignity.

Urbi et Orbi, Rome, 21 April 2019

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Next Steps: A Diocesan Memorial for those affected by child abuse

BY SEAN TYNAN

On the evening of 27 March 2019, a memorial was dedicated to the survivors, victims and families of historical institutional child sexual abuse perpetrated at Marist Brothers High School Hamilton. The memorial’s context is unique - the particular institution to which it relates is no longer in existence, albeit that some of the physical structures remain. The Marist Brothers are a religious order whose presence in the region has almost passed but whose historic presence is an intrinsic part of Diocesan history, for good and ill.

The memorial was conceptualised and developed in a collaborative, consultative process between the Clergy Abused Network (C.A.N), Marist Brothers Province of Australia and the Diocese of Maitland-Newcastle.

Whilst often challenging and fraught with the potential to cause unintended offence, I was fortunate to work with an extraordinary and dedicated group of people, drawn together by a shared purpose. Nevertheless, the odds against the memorial being built and accepted as well and as widely as it appears to have been, were significant. Without taking anything away from those who undertook such great work, I believe we were party to a moment of grace.

Now that the Marist Memorial has been dedicated, it is time to look to fulfilling Bishop Bill’s commitment that was made as part of The Atonement: Lina’s Project in 2017: The Project isn’t limited to one day. The Diocese has committed to future actions to see that the story is not forgotten and our determination that it not be repeated never fades… the Diocese will be consulting with survivors and the community to plan a permanent memorial.

Thanks to the wisdom gained through developing the Marist Memorial, we have a greater understanding of the inherent complexities and competing needs that require due consideration, when setting out to memorialise something as confronting and as sensitive as child sexual abuse.

The Diocese needs to ‘hasten slowly’, starting from a place of humility, ensuring that we encourage those who have been affected by child abuse to participate and have their voices heard in the process, as well

The Project isn’t limited to one day. The Diocese has committed to future actions to see that the story is not forgotten and our determination that it not be repeated never fades...

as engaging with the people of the Diocese, other institutions and authorities and the wider community.

I expect that we will be spending the rest of 2019 establishing all the necessary internal structures to support the project and begin our consultative processes. We will then take the time required to get it right, whether that is a couple of years or more.

The Diocese’s senior leadership have committed to supporting this project, as has the Diocesan Protection and Safety Council and dedicated resources are being targeted to work on this project. However, the success of the memorial will require the involvement of multiple personnel otherwise involved in challenging ministries and roles across the Diocese and beyond. This memorial will demand all the focus and effort we are able to quarantine from our other responsibilities.

Despite our best intentions, I expect there will be misssteps and setbacks, all of which is okay, as long as we work from a place of openness, commitment and care.

In the same spirit, I ask that our mistakes be assessed from a position of equanimity and that we are given the benefit of the doubt, in relation to this process at least.

The words inscribed into the granite stone of the Marist Brothers Memorial will stand the test of time: In remembrance of all students, both living and deceased, who were victims of sexual abuse at this school which was Marist Brothers’ High School Hamilton.

The Marist Brothers – Province of Australia and the Diocese of Maitland-Newcastle acknowledges your pain and apologises for our failure to listen, to intervene and to protect.

Let it never happen again.

We are committed to the healing process and to reconciling our past with our hope for the future.

Now the memorial will develop along its own trajectory, the gardens around it will grow and cast cooling shade, soften the sounds of the surrounding world and, hopefully, offer a tranquil well of memories for those who know or are drawn to wonder what it is we need to ‘Remember’.

Now we turn our hearts, heads and hands to the Diocesan Memorial for those affected by child abuse, made wiser and more certain of the paths to follow by our experiences in developing the Marist Brothers Memorial.

“Your word is a lamp to my feet and a light for my path” (Psalm 119:105) As soon as we are in a position to give you further details on the Diocesan Memorial for those affected by child abuse, we will do so.

Sean Tynan is Head of Zimmerman Services in the Diocese of Maitland-Newcastle

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Perfect families do not exist

BY LIZZIE SNEDDEN

Perfect families do not exist. This must not discourage us. Quite the opposite. Love is something we learn; love is something we live; love grows as it is ‘forged’ by the concrete situations which each particular family experience.”

This message was delivered by Pope Francis at the 2015 Festival of Families in Philadelphia. The words and sentiment have long stuck in my mind and occurred to me again recently when I met an inspiring foster family at a course provided by CatholicCare Social Services Hunter-Manning.

The course, titled Shared Lives, was designed to provide prospective foster carers with an understanding of how to support children who have experienced trauma.

In attendance was a father by the name of David* and with National Families Week just around the corner (15-21 May) I would like to share with you his family’s unique story.

In 2009 David and his former partner Stacey,* had a child together named Paul.* David and Stacey remained in a relationship for around a year, before separating. Stacey became the primary carer of Paul,

Ace, David and Paul.

and went on to meet a new partner, James*, with whom she had a second child named Ace.* Between the ages of one and four, Paul would enjoy regular visits with David. In this time David married a new partner and became a step-father to five children. Unfortunately the combined pressures of a blended family and co-parenting with a former partner led to David suffering mental health challenges. David came to believe he had ‘little to offer’ his son, and from the age of five to seven Paul had limited access to David. During this period David’s marriage also broke down.

In 2015 David realised he needed to make changes. He began to prioritise his mental and physical health and secured stable housing and employment.

By 2017 David was mentally and physically healthy and had regained structure in his life. He then received a call from the Department of Family and Community Services (FACS) notifying him Paul and Ace had been placed in foster care due to concerns for their wellbeing. David described the news as ‘shocking’ and ‘life-changing’.

After meeting with FACS representatives David was asked if he was open to resuming care of Paul, his biological son.

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“I told them ‘in all honesty I’d love it, but I want to ensure I can provide everything for him.’ No one is perfect, but I wanted to be certain I was in a position to provide Paul with the life he deserved, both mentally and physically,” David said.

To assist David and Paul with the transition, David visited Paul regularly while he remained in foster care.

He also took responsibility for past misgivings and apologised to Paul for not being more present in his life over the years.

After witnessing his interactions with Paul, and Paul’s brother Ace, FACS asked David if he would consider taking responsibility for the care of Ace as well.

was within my capacity to do something about it, so I become a foster carer,” he said.

To become a foster carer David had to complete training courses and mandatory assessments. At his own request he was provided with additional parenting sessions to help him prepare for the journey ahead.

In November 2018 Paul and Ace transitioned into David’s care fulltime.

“It’s been a whirlwind, but it’s been fantastic. I wouldn’t change anything, I love having both the boys in my life,” David said.

David immediately realised the gravity of the decision laid before him.

David is supportive of Paul and Ace continuing their relationship with their mother Stacey, and Ace’s father James*, by facilitating regular catch-ups.

“Any reservations I had were not about raising the two boys, but rather my ability to love them equally. I knew that if I was to care for them both, it was important to show them the same level of affection, caring and understanding regardless of my prior bond with Paul and their distinctly different personalities,” David said.

“Families can be complex, but for me, it’s about being there for each other in the good times, and in the bad times. The boy’s wellbeing is the most important thing to me, so while ever they are happy and safe I would love for them to spend more time with their parents - it’s only going to benefit them,” David said.

David said it became clear to both him and FACS that it was in the best interest of the boys to remain together and that with the right supports in place, he would be capable of caring for them both and loving them equally.

“What I have with both the boys is special, and I’ll always want them to stay with me until they’re ready to

“I wanted the boys to be able to retain their bond.

They’ve been through a lot, but they’ve always had each other. To my mind separating them, and having Ace remain in foster care without family, would have limited the amount of time the boys got to see each other and impacted them both negatively. I could only see the benefits of them staying together, and it

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leave on their own accord. Regardless of the biology, they’re both my sons. Ace is just lucky to have two dads who love him, and I tell him that all the time.”

After spending time with David, Paul and Ace, I was touched by David’s unwavering love for his boys.

As Pope Francis says, ‘no family is perfect’. But, if we measure a family’s success by its ability to flourish in the face of adversity, grow in love, learn from mistakes and embrace opportunities, then, despite being unconventional, this family should be held up as an example to us all.

To conclude our conversation, David provided a salient message.

“If anyone is considering becoming a foster carer, I would highly recommend it, particularly if you can take on siblings. Having Ace in my life has changed it for the better and has been so important for the boys.

Regardless of what they’ve been through, they’ve still got each other.” *Names have been changed to protect privacy.

Lizzie Snedden is the Team Leader Content for the Diocese of Maitland-Newcastle.

Any reservations I had were not about raising the two boys, but rather my ability to love them equally.

Children entering out of home care continues to decline For the second consecutive year, New South Wales has had the lowest rate of children and young people admitted to “out of home care” in the country.

These encouraging results were announced recently by the Secretary of the NSW Department of Community Services, Michael Coutts-Trotter and based on data provided by the NSW Productivity Commission.

This is a positive result that reflects the pro-active approach taken by both NSW Family and Community Services and non-government social service providers, the two sectors have been working collaboratively to deliver early intervention services that seek to keep families together.

Targeted early intervention child protection programs assist vulnerable families to develop parenting capacity while mitigating child protection risks.

CatholicCare’s family preservation service in the Upper Hunter and Brighter Futures Safe Care program in the Manning, both funded by NSW Family and Community

Services, centre on this premise and are achieving outstanding results for the families and their communities.

A key focus of these programs is addressing vulnerabilities such as: domestic violence, neglect, alcohol and other drug abuse to ensure children can remain at home and live in a safe and loving environment.

Of course, the success of any early intervention program is not reliant on government and non-government agencies alone. Rather, the safety and protection of children is the responsibility of everyone. It takes vigilance, care and a sense that we all have a part to play in our local community to keep kids safe.

To do that well, it is essential we connect and enquire about each other’s well-being and maintain a certain curiosity about the welfare of those who live near and around us. The earlier we can offer our neighbour informal support the more likely it is that services offered by agencies such as CatholicCare can be offered to society’smost vulnerable.

BY GARY CHRISTENSEN

In 2015/2016 entries to care in New South Wales were 2.3 children per 1,000 dropping to 1.2 children per 1,000 in 2017/18. While the data is certainly encouraging, the fact remains there are still over 18,000 children and young people currently living in out of home care in this state. It also does not reduce the need for foster care agencies to recruit new carers who can provide restorative care or permanency through open-adoption, guardianship or long term care for those children who, through no fault of their own, cannot live with their family.

That said, the data does demonstrate that early intervention services play a pivotal role in ensuring vulnerable children and young people are able to continue to live with their families after child protection concerns have been mitigated and parents have shown a willingness to change and are supported to do so.

Gary Christensen is the Director of CatholicCare Social Services Hunter-Manning

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Mums’ Cottage is the place to be “Come on in, the water’s fine!” That was the first thing I heard as I opened the door to Mums’ Cottage in Holmesville.

I entered to see a room full of smiling women and felt immediately at ease.

The owner of the voice was Louise Roach. She welcomed me wearing a vibrant blue dress and yellow scarf with bright pink hair.

Louise is the Acting Coordinator of Mum’s Cottage while Coordinator Sr Helen-Anne is recovering from a hip replacement. Administrative Assistant Deanne March and many volunteers support Louise.

Mums’ Cottage is a community of women that exists to help other women. The original mantra of the ministry is Mothers Companioning Mothers.

The notion of companioning comes from the Emmaus story in the bible (Luke 24:13-35) in which Jesus walked

with two people. Jesus walked beside them- not in front of them, not behind them, just simply with them. “That’s something that gets demonstrated here every day,” Louise said.

One recent moment of companioning happened when a woman did not have money to pay an electricity bill.

She was trembling and very afraid to call the company, so Louise sat with her and began the phone call for her.

After beginning the conversation, Louise passed on the phone to the woman who completed the call. After the successful call, Louise said to her “You did that yourself” to which she replied, “yes, but you were sitting beside me.”

Mums’ Cottage is a place of welcome for everyone.

Some women are in deep crisis, and Mums’ Cottage is a launching point for them to get help. The staff and volunteers are able to link mums with the right organisations and counsellors.

“When women come in, we’ve had many say to us

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‘There’s just something about this place,’” Louise said.

Deanne echoed Louise’s sentiment. “They know when they walk in the door here that no one is going to judge them. They are going to be accepted,” Deanne said.

“We’ve had an influx lately of women who are homeless or are experiencing domestic violence. Remarkable, strong women. We don’t judge them, we just do anything we can and refer them to places that can help,” Deanne said.

Both Deanne and Louise say it is so life giving, being able to help someone every day.

Mums’ Cottage runs many activities each week, with new volunteers continually bringing new ideas. One of the newest additions is Wild and Wonderful Wednesdays. This is a time for women to gather for fun and company. Each Wednesday will be different, with possibilities including games of Scrabble, sharing stories, singing karaoke, and watching a movie together.

Every second Monday, a garage sale is held in the grounds, coordinated by as Louise puts it, a wonderful “whirlwind of women”.

Mother’s day is coming up, and to celebrate, Mums’ Cottage will be hosting an afternoon tea. This is part of the program Celebrating Women, which includes afternoon tea and a guest speaker each term. Details of the event will be on the Mums’ Cottage Holmesville Facebook page.

Another upcoming event is the Trivia Night. This will be held on Saturday 22 June 6.30pm at Cardiff Bowling Club, 175 Myall Road Cardiff, and will be a fundraiser.

Mums’ Cottage is a community of women that exists to help other women. The original mantra of the ministry is Mothers Companioning Mothers.

Mums’ Cottage is a place of welcome, help and companionship. For all those needing help or wanting to help others, it is the place to be. For anyone who walks through those doors they will be assured of the same warm welcome that I received.

Mums’ Cottage is at 29 St Helen St, Holmesville. Call 4953 4105, email admin@mumscottage.org.au or visit www.mumscottage.org.au.

Deanne March and Louise Roach.

Brooke Robinson is Content Officer for the Diocese of Maitland-Newcastle.

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Finding work central to lasting peace for Congolese migrants

BY BROOKE ROBINSON

Bushoshi Musabwa Camille fled war and poverty to reach Australia but his battle to secure his family’s future is ongoing.

Grateful to now be in the safety of Newcastle, Camille, 45, arrived from war ravaged Congo on 31 January 2019 with his wife Uwase Diane, two children, Ganza Mugisha, 5 and Burangi Stevo, 2 and nephew Mutebutsi Jean Paul, 20.

“I fled to Kenya to escape the war in December 2014, and was a refugee there before getting a resettlement in Australia,” Camille said.

The Democratic Republic of Congo (DRC) has been a country in turmoil for decades. In August 1998, a regional war broke out between the DRC government and Ugandan and Rwandan-backed rebels. As a result, approximately 1.8 million Congolese were internally displaced and around 300,000 fled to neighbouring countries. Much of the country remains unstable, and it is estimated that since conflict began in 1998, up to four million people have been killed.

Camille and his family were fortunate to be able to come to Australia. His sister is still in Kenya with her four children waiting for resettlement.

“The war has been going for a long time. It was a very bad life. They were shooting people. I was moving all the time, there was no stability,” Camille said.

Newcastle is one of the Australian Government’s cities of choice for refugees with no other family in Australia, after being declared an official ‘Refugee Welcome Zone’ in 2015.

Newcastle has certainly lived up to that name for Camille and Uwase Diane.

“The people who I have met have been very nice to me.

They are very caring,” Uwase Diane said.

“I want to stay in Newcastle forever, I like it here. In Australia we have a good life. It is peaceful and it is secure,” Camille said.

Uwase Diane, Burangi Stevo, Ganza Mugisha, Bushoshi Musabwa Camille and Mutebutsi Jean Paul.

When asked what it means for his family to be here instead of Congo, Camille smiles and says, “Everything will be ok”.

They look forward to their children growing up in stability and safety and receiving a good education.

“Our son likes going to school so much. It makes us very happy,” Uwase Diane said.

For now Camille’s biggest challenge is finding employment.

“I am looking for any job to support my family,” Camille said. Prior to arriving in Australia, he had a variety of jobs, including as a French teacher, an embassy receptionist in Kenya, and a construction worker.

How you can help There will be 270 refugees of all ages and from a number of countries, including Congo, arriving in Newcastle this year. Their primary needs are housing and employment.

How the Hunter community can help:  volunteer to teach English with DARA or practice English conversation in a casual setting, to help improve refugee’s social connections and likelihood of securing employment,

When they arrive in Australia, refugees are provided with short-term accommodation only. Many of the refugee adults have a number of children and  donate warm clothing and blankets to DARA. Many regardless of their previous experience or qualification, refugees arrive in Australia with no belongings and struggle to secure employment (of any nature) because struggle through the winter months, and of their limited ability to speak English. This in turn  if you are in a position to assist with training, makes it almost impossible to access housing via employment opportunities, or housing for refugees, the private rental market and also means they may please contact DARA at www.dara.org.au. continue to rely on government support, rather than supporting their family with a wage.

A devoted Catholic, Camille goes to Mass at Sacred Heart Cathedral, and it was through the church that he was linked with DARA (the Diocese’s Development and Relief Agency).

“I had contacted the parish office to ask about help finding work, and the receptionist put me in contact with DARA,” Camille said.

DARA is a registered charity that supports new migrants, refugees and asylum seekers in the Hunter community.

DARA’s Director Gary Christensen says it is vital practical ongoing services are available to ensure refugees have the opportunity to obtain work and support their families.

“When working with refugees and new migrants, our focus is on closing the gap between the supports that funded settlement services offer and the ongoing needs of our participants once these supports end, such as English lessons which we provide with assistance from volunteers,” Gary Christensen said.

Camille attends an English class at DARA headquarters, Mayfield each Tuesday, along with people from various other countries. Teachers from St Francis Xavier College in Hamilton volunteer to teach the class.

For Camille, attending the class is more about inclusion and community, as he is already fluent in English.

He assists fellow refugees with his knowledge of the English language where he can, sometimes acting as an interpreter.

Camille is open to any possibilities for work, so if you are able to assist please contact DARA.

Brooke Robinson is Content Officer for the Diocese of Maitland-Newcastle.

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Creating an alliance in the Hunter Teresa Brierley, Director of Pastoral Ministries in the Diocese, with support from Bishop Bill Wright, has been at the forefront of a discussion regarding the possibility of creating a Hunter Community Alliance.

An event of this kind of broad based community alliance was seen in action on 14 March when Sydney Town Hall was packed with around 1900 people. All were members of faith groups, community organisations and

unions, representing the diversity of Sydney. They were presenting possible solutions to political leaders for more affordable energy and housing. It was organised by the Sydney Alliance, St Vincent de Paul Society of NSW and the Everybody’s Home campaign. They were joined by members of the Diocese of Parramatta, the Archdiocese of Sydney, Catholics in Coalition for Justice and Peace, Jesuit Refugee Service, and the Sisters of St Joseph. It was ecumenical with Uniting and Baptist churches also

The hallmark of these alliances is the emphasis on listening to the stories of ordinary people, discerning what issues arise, researching win-win solutions, training and developing new leaders, taking action and then evaluating.

BY REV GARRY DERKENNE

present. It was interfaith with Jewish and Muslim groups attending. Unions, housing, environmental, refugee and community forum groups completed the colourful and purposeful picture. It has taken more than twelve years to build this kind of alliance of diverse organisations.

The hallmark of these alliances is the emphasis on listening to the stories of ordinary people, discerning what issues arise, researching win-win solutions, training and developing new leaders, taking action and then evaluating. Their effectiveness comes from the diverse range of organisations that partner together. This emphasis is on listening well to each other and through the sharing of who and what have shaped our lives to work toward a fairer and sustainable world. In this way respectful relationships of the kind Jesus calls for, marked by compassion and justice, are formed.

In the Hunter Region, the Diocese of Maitland-Newcastle is working with the Uniting Church and Community Disability Alliance Hunter to lead the conversation with other groups. An orientation last November saw 20 people from 12 organisations begin to see the potential.

Two-day workshops are planned for 14 and 21 June and 12 and 13 September.

These kinds of alliances trace their foundation to Depression era Chicago when sociologist, Saul Alinsky, was assisting unions to improve conditions in the meat processing industry. Companies refused to negotiate and there was an impasse. Many of the workers were members of the Catholic Church and Alinsky developed a strong relationship with the Bishop of Chicago. They formed an alliance of unions, churches and community groups that could not be ignored and workers and their families’ conditions were greatly improved. This kind of community organisation became a model that has been replicated in over 60 cities and regions in the USA, UK, NZ and Australia. It is one way for Christians to join with all people of good will to move from the world as it is to the world as God wants it to be.

Attendees of the first Hunter community alliance workshop.

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Cassidy Davis

BY BRITTANY GONZALEZ

One thing Dad always taught me was to prove people wrong.

When I was younger, I didn’t get noticed much in trials and games, was never a key player and wasn’t picked in teams. Dad always thought that I had the potential and told me to believe in myself, to prove people wrong, and to make a name for myself.

In sport the term ‘role model’ is bandied around often but for Cassidy Davis the only role model she needed was her father. At 12 Cassidy chose to leave netball and pursue the sport her dad had long been involved in – football.

was a natural choice for me to go to a Catholic school. Beyond that, Catholic schools are also safe environments, where I received an excellent education and developed both my core and gospel values.

Fast forward to today and Cassidy is one of the most experienced players in the W-League Newcastle Jets side.

Making her debut in 2013, the centreback has become one of the Jets’ key players, winning the 2017 Newcastle Jets Westfield W-League player of the year and appointed in 2018/19 as co-captain.

What do you consider are the main benefits that you received from a Catholic education?

A home-grown talent, Cassidy was born with a drive to work hard and make a name for herself. Aside from co-captaining the Jets, Cassidy also plays for Warners Bay in the Herald Women’s Premier League, is a Community Officer for the Newcastle Jets Hyundai A-league club and, until recently, coached two local clubs in Warners Bay one as a player-coach.

Which Catholic schools did you attend?

I went to St Therese’s Primary School, New Lambton, St Pius X High School, Adamstown, and St Francis Xavier High School, Hamilton.

Why did your parents choose Catholic schools for you?

Both my parents and I are Catholic so it

I believe the main benefits that I received from a Catholic education are selfdiscipline, the encouragement to pursue my goals, commitment, and respect of others.

What inspired you to start playing soccer?

My Dad has been involved in football since I was born, so I grew up around it.

I played netball from the age of five until I was 12. I said to my Dad one day that I wanted to be like him and play football, so I started playing.

Being such an important influence on your life, what lessons did your dad teach you growing up?

One thing Dad always taught me was to prove people wrong. When I was younger, I didn’t get noticed much in trials and games, was never a key player and wasn’t picked in teams. Dad always thought that I had the potential and told me to believe in myself, to prove people

wrong, and to make a name for myself.

He’s very honest with me about everything in my life, he’s hard-working and he really drives me and my sisters to be the best that we can be.

On and off the field you seem to have your hands full between studying primary school teaching, coaching local clubs as well as playing soccer at a professional level. How do you manage to balance all these priorities?

It’s tough, but I am doing all the things I love so that definitely makes it a lot easier for me.

One big thing for me is being organised.

For example, when I am travelling interstate for a game I have to make sure that my assignments are done, I’m up to date with everything at work, and I’ve planned for someone else to coach my local team.

I have learnt a lot from each of the things I do off the field, which I think have contributed to my football on the field. It has made me mentally stronger.

What are your goals on and off the field?

My goals on the field are to win a Westfield W-League Championship with the Newcastle Jets, and for the Jets to be the best team we can be both on and off the field.

My goals off the field are to finish my Bachelor of Primary Teaching degree and to keep growing and developing as a person in everything that I do.

What does success mean to you?

For me, success is the status of having achieved and accomplished an aim or objective. Being successful means the achievement of desired visions, values and planned goals that make you happy.

What is your proudest accomplishment?

Playing over 50 games for the Newcastle Jets in the Westfield W-League.

What advice would you give anyone wanting to play sport at a professional level?

From my own experiences, I believe that hard work and the mental strength and desire to be better each day in your chosen sport will get you to the next level, and are both crucial in progressing to that level of being a professional athlete. There are always ups and downs, but how you overcome those downs demonstrates your character, and that’s something which people look for.

Brittany Gonzalez is a Communications Co-ordinator for the Diocese of Maitland-Newcastle.

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21st Century learning not just about bricks and mortar Work is under way on a $6 million rebuild at St Therese’s Primary School in New Lambton which will transform the learning environment for the school’s 630 students.

The project is expected to be completed by May 2020 and includes nine classrooms, a learning space and library with four breakout rooms and a veranda, a canteen attached to the multi-purpose space and adjoining shaded area, a playground, a courtyard and two toilet blocks.

It is the largest construction project at the school in more than 60 years. Funding for the project has come from a variety of sources, including contributions by parents and carers through the Diocesan Family School Building

Levy and via a Commonwealth Government grant of $3.5 million from the Capital Block Grant Authority.

St Therese’s Primary School Principal of 19 years, Duilio Rufo, said the school environment played a significant role in a child’s learning process.

“This project is not just about bricks and mortar; it’s about crafting the ideal environment for 21st-century learning,” Mr Rufo said.

“The new, state-of-the-art facilities will be reflective of the changing culture within our school, moving from the idea of sitting in straight rows to learn, to fostering a more collaborative learning environment.”

BY LIZZIE SNEDDEN

Mr Rufo believes the versatility in design will allow for a greater range of pedagogical approaches to teaching and learning with the overall mission of moving students from being ‘data banks’ to inquisitive problem solvers and innovators.

The P & F Association, wider parent community and staff at the school have been a great support in advocating for the project.

Mr Rufo said that since he first arrived at St Therese Primary School almost two decades ago, he has seen a huge change in the role of the P & F Association.

“The members of the St Therese P & F Association are an amazing group of people. To complement the capital works project, they’ve committed to raising funds so that every classroom in the school will be air-conditioned and all the new buildings will have solar panels. Combined, these projects will cost approximately $80,000, and they’ve already raised around $40,000,” Mr Rufo said.

“Its members have moved from solely raising funds and are now motivated by a desire to be part of the decision making that directly impacts their the families, such as discipline procedures, uniforms and school canteen offerings.”

St Therese’s Primary School Principal of 19 years, Duilio Rufo, said the school environment played a significant role in a child’s learning process.

Mr Rufo says he is incredibly grateful to the P & F Association for its support in all areas of the St Therese Primary School community.

“Its passion, talent and tireless work is tremendous and compliments the Catholic Schools Office’s commitment to creating a dynamic and supportive learning environment for our students,” he said.

Gerard Mowbray, Acting Director of CSO, with students and staff of St Therese’s Primary School

Berejiklian victory guarantees $500 million funding boost for Catholic and independent schools The re-election of the Berejiklian Government ensures NSW Catholic and independent schools will receive a $500 million funding boost for new buildings and upgrades over the next four years.

Following extensive negotiations with Catholic Schools NSW (CSNSW), the NSW Government pledged to triple its capital grants to the 944-strong non-government schools sector in the largest single increase ever provided. CSNSW estimates that NSW Catholic schools will receive $60m in 2019/20, almost

$70m in each of the next two years and some $100m in the final year.

Diocese of Maitland-Newcastle, acting Director of Schools, Gerard Mowbray said the funding commitment was crucial for this region as the Diocese was in a significant phase of growth and development.

“This is great news. We have a number of major projects to complete over the next 15 years, including new school developments at Chisholm, Medowie and the West Maitland corridor plus the constant renewal

Lizzie Snedden is the Team Leader Content for the Diocese of Maitland-Newcastle.

of current facilities.”

The NSW Government currently spends around $41 million per annum across the state on capital funding for Catholic and independent schools, said Mr Mowbray. “The funding boost will almost double this to somewhere in the order of $97 million per annum, meaning the number of upgrades and the development of new facilities will be significantly enhanced.”

Catholic Schools NSW Chief Executive Officer Dallas McInerney said all capital funding from governments was prioritised to support the Catholic schools that had the greatest need. This included, low socioeconomic status (SES) schools, those in fast growth areas and those where learning facilities are in urgent need of repair or an upgrade.

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Why we chose Catholic schools for our children

BY VALERIE SULLIVAN

Valerie Sullivan is the mother of the 2018 Dux of the Diocese of MaitlandNewcastle, Jasmine Sullivan.

Jasmine received an ATAR of 99.50 and topped the Diocese in three subjects. Below Valerie writes in her own words about her decision to give Jasmine and her other children a Catholic education and the benefits she feels it has provided them.

Catholic education is important to our family and all our children have had the opportunity to complete their secondary education at Catholic high schools. This is because we wanted our children to have access to education that was of high quality, but also inclusive and values based.

Jasmine completed her education at San Clemente High School, Mayfield and at St Francis Xavier’s College, Hamilton. Our older daughter, Liela, went to All Saints’ College, St Peter’s and St Mary’s Campus’ in Maitland and our youngest son, Isaac, is currently studying at San Clemente.

During their time at school, all of our children have had access to teaching staff that are not only skilled and passionate about the subject areas that they teach but are also supportive, encouraging and committed

Jasmine Sullivan with her parents.

to building positive relationships with students. This helps to foster a belief in students that they are unique, special and can achieve whatever they set out to achieve, regardless of their academic results.

Jasmine is a natural life-long learner and is passionate and curious about the world around her. Both schools offered quality teaching staff which helped her achieve her best and provided an environment that encouraged personal growth.

Jasmine’s final years at San Clemente in particular offered her the chance to develop her leadership and public speaking skills which enhanced her selfconfidence. While she was naturally shy and reserved, Jasmine now has the confidence to reach out and build relationships with her teachers that encouraged her individuality and enabled her success.

San Clemente also offered a close and proactive relationship with us as parents. Where concerns for either Jasmine’s or Isaac’s welfare was identified, this

“Government funding enables Catholic education to build the classrooms we need to meet our share of student growth,” Mr McInerney said. “Without those extra places, students will be forced onto the public school system which is already at or near capacity – requiring taxpayers to fund not only the full cost of their education, but also new buildings and classrooms to accommodate them.”

In 2018, 41 NSW Catholic schools lodged funding applications for capital works worth $158 million.

“CSNSW could only partially support 24 of the 41 projects because it only had $58 million in State and Federal Government capital funding to distribute,” Mr McInerney said. “To put that into context - $58 million does not cover land and construction for a new K-12 school in outer suburban Sydney.”

The funding increase will also alleviate the added financial pressure placed on NSW families who attend Catholic or independent schools. “Until now, NSW Catholic school parents have funded 90 per cent of capital works in their children’s schools (based on 2016 MySchool data),” Mr McInerney said. “Any additional funding will better support parents by funding more projects.

Archbishop of Sydney, Anthony Fisher OP, welcomed the government’s funding package saying it recognises the role Catholic schools play in educating more than a quarter of a million NSW students. “School education is a partnership between the state and federal governments and education providers such as the Catholic Church, which has educated Australian students for almost 200 years,” Archbishop Fisher said.

“This increase will help Catholic education build the new

was brought to our attention with offers of support.

This positive support is provided not only to our children but also to the wider school community. Workshops are provided that are varied and resourceful, while communication is open, honest and regular.

Both Jasmine and her younger brother are fortunate to have had a wonderful mentor in Kate Tolfree who was, and continues to be, the Year Advisor for both of them. She has also become a close family friend over the last six years.

Quality education is extremely important and Catholic schools recognise that education is more than just what is taught in the syllabus.

Every effort is made to support students to achieve their personal best, whether that be in academic, sporting or cultural endeavours as well as in their relationships, their individuality and their respect for self and others – all of which are equally as important.

classrooms we need to meet our share of expected student growth.”

In the Diocese of Maitland-Newcastle, the expansion of St Joseph’s Lochinvar and St Mary’s Gateshead to Year 7-12 in recent years are excellent examples of what can be achieved through sufficient levels of capital funding.

“Instead of our schools waiting 10 years for a much needed upgrade or expansion, this funding increase may mean it is only a two or three year wait. It is fantastic news,” Mr Mowbray said.

Todd Dagwell is the Senior Content Officer for the Diocese of Maitland-Newcastle.

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How to help my son gain more confidence My family has not long moved to the area and my eleven year old son is about to start at a new school. He is not very confident and I worry that this new start will not be easy for him. He has one or two friends that he knows at the new school but I would like to see him develop a broader circle and gain more confidence. What can you suggest?

CatholicCare’s Assistant Director and registered psychologist Tanya Russell, addresses an issue each month.

The advice provided is general in nature and does not replace ongoing support and advice from your health professional.

To talk to someone about counselling support, P 4979 1172.

Call Lifeline 24/7 on P 131 114.

Do you have a question for Tanya?

Email your question to aurora@mn.catholic.org.au or write to Aurora-CareTalk PO Box 756 Newcastle 2300.

Changing schools can be a difficult time for many children so my first suggestion would be to give your son a few weeks to settle in before becoming too worried.

Engage with him during these first few weeks and get to know what it is like for him and support him where you can. Here are some tips to make life a little easier for your son: • involve your son in the planning and preparation of starting at the new school. You mentioned he already knows two other kids at the school so perhaps your son could contact them to let them know he will be going to their school; • get your son to do a little bit of research on the school website so he can familiarise himself with the facilities and programs. For example, would he be interested in the school band or sporting team? He could also get an idea of the canteen menu in case he had some pocket money he could spend during breaks; • try to visit the school in advance. Have your son become familiar with the route

to school as well as the school grounds; and his new school teacher if possible.

Find out if it is possible for your son to be placed in the same class as one of his friends, so that he has a familiar face around as soon as he arrives. If you believe your son and his two friends get along well, you (or your son) could ask them to show him around to get him used to the new school; • encourage your son to find out what his friend’s interests are and if they play a particular sport, would he be interested in becoming involved? The more activities he becomes involved in (within reason of course), the more opportunities there are to make new friends; • knowing that it can take a while to adjust to a new school, think about activities or friends he could spend time with after school. It is important that your son still has something to look forward to after school in these first few weeks. If he comes home and mentions the name of a new friend, invite the friend over when there is an opportunity;

• prepare your son for times he feels anxious or lonely while adjusting to the new school. For example, if he is feeling physically anxious, suggest that he take a few deep breaths through his nose and encourage him to tell himself something empowering such as “I’ll be ok”. Also remind him of other times where he may have felt worried about new experiences but ended up enjoying them or feeling better about them; • does your son enjoy playing handball?

If so, this is a great way to join in with other kids, especially if your son brings his own handball to school. He can either stand near a group of kids who are already playing and slowly work up the confidence to ask if he can join in.

Or, he could seek out another kid who is on their own and start a game of handball.

These tips are just a few to help your son settle in for the first few weeks. Talk to your son’s teacher to get a feel for how he is going. Hopefully his confidence will begin to grow as the weeks pass. Good luck.

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Good sleep the key to a sweet life for parents and children

CatholicCare

BY BRITTANY GONZALEZ

Becoming a parent is one of life’s great joys but it also involves major lifestyle changes, challenges, questions and always sleep deprivation.

Research conducted at RMIT University, Melbourne, found sleep is one of three key pillars of health alongside diet and exercise. Good sleep is essential for infants whose brains are working hard to absorb and store new information at a rapid pace.

In 2018, CatholicCare Social Services Hunter-Manning partnered with Sweet Dreams Baby, a business dedicated to helping parents and young children get more sleep, to deliver free sleep workshops to the public.

Known as Nurturing Sleep Workshops, the service has been hugely popular with sleep-deprived parents ensuring the collaboration will continue.

Sweet Dreams Baby, founder, Renee Scuilli, is a certified maternity and child sleep consultant and mother of two. Ms Scuilli, like many of her clients, became sleep deprived whilst caring for her young children and her health began to suffer. The family’s daily routine became unsustainable and this realisation changed the trajectory of Ms Scuilli’s life. She began to research infant sleep patterns in great detail which led to the birth of Sweet Dreams Baby - a business that educates, empowers and supports families during the first few years of a child’s life.

“My job is to listen to the client and hear what their needs are, understand their toughest challenges and develop personalised solutions that will support their whole family to establish and maintain healthy sleeping habits,” Ms Scuilli said.

Elle and Noah Tamata.

CatholicCare understands the profound impact prolonged sleep deprivation has on parents’ wellbeing. Asking for assistance is crucial and could be life-changing for new parents

CatholicCare Counselling and Clinical Services, manager, Kelly Pavan is passionate about assisting parents to get more rest.

immune health,” Ms Pavan said.

“CatholicCare understands the profound impact prolonged sleep deprivation has on parents’ well-being. Asking for assistance is crucial and could be lifechanging for new parents” Ms Pavan said.

CatholicCare host the Nurturing Sleep Workshops to provide parents with an opportunity to connect with other families in a similar situation and to learn new coping skills.

“Unrealistic messages from society about what constitutes ‘good enough’ modern parenting - whilst sleep deprived and juggling multiple stressors such as relationships and the mental and physical load of managing a household and paid employment; parents can become worn down and more vulnerable to post-natal anxiety and depression, relationship problems, accidents, injuries and poor

“Ultimately we are reminding parents that accessing professional support is a sign of strength and resilience and an investment in their overall well-being,” Ms Pavan said.

During the workshops, Ms Scuilli addresses common concerns raised by parents such as, how to break feedingto-sleep patterns, eliminate a pacifier, implement a daily schedule and extend

Sweet Dream Baby’s top three tips to assist infants adopt stable sleep patterns.

naps. Additional follow-up support is also available.

1. L earn to recognise when your baby is genuinely tired and ready for sleep.

Ms Scuilli says the age parents begin sleep training must be carefully considered.

2. C reate a sleep space that is conducive to sleep.

“You can begin implementing flexible feeding and sleeping routines from day one. However, I do not recommend any form of behavioural modification programs until a baby is between five-six months of age,” Ms Scuilli said.

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by CatholicCare or to learn more about CatholicCare’s counselling services, visit www.catholiccare.com.au.

3. I ntroduce a consistent wind down routine before naps and before bed time.

Brittany Gonzalez is a Communications Co-ordinator for the Diocese of Maitland-Newcastle.

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How Before We say I Do impacted Andy and Lauren

BY LIZZIE SNEDDEN

Andy and Lauren Rossi are genuine high school sweethearts whose love is obvious and touching.

To date, we’ve been partners in everything and have a strong union because of this. We’re going into parenthood with a commitment to co-parenting.

The 20-something Novocastrian couple met 12 years ago, in their final year of high school, during a hospitality class at Saint Francis Xavier College in Hamilton and began dating the following year.

In a time when many young couples are meeting via online dating and opt for nontraditional weddings involving a celebrant, their story is romantic and full of old-world charm.

Andy commenced work in his family’s real estate business, Castle Property, the same year he started dating Lauren. He is the 3rd generation of family to work in the business, something he is very proud of and Lauren keenly supports.

“I think a lot of people are surprised when they meet Andy - he has a great love for family and an amazing work ethic, is genuine and down-to-earth and not at all the cliché real estate agent! He is reliable and the man I want to raise a family with,” Lauren said, beaming from ear-to-ear.

The couple married in October 2017, almost 10 years to the day after they started dating. A few years on and family planning is certainly on their agenda, with their first baby due in July.

“Lauren is caring to a fault. She is so considerate of other people and that’s what I think is important in family. I have no doubt she will be a magnificent mother,” Andy said.

Following a marriage proposal by Andy in Cairn, France and upon their return to Australia they met with Father Geoff Mulhearn, who they asked to officiate at their wedding. Father Geoff agreed and also suggested they undertake CatholicCare’s Before We Say I Do marriage education course. The group program provides couples with the opportunity to explore their relationship, build on their strengths and gain essential knowledge and skills that they will use for years to come.

“When you’re in a work, home, work, home space and you’ve been together for 10 years it can be easy to lose each other,” Andy said.

Andy and Lauren Rossi.

The couple married in October 2017, almost 10 years to the day after they started dating. A few years on and family planning is certainly on their agenda, with their first baby due in July. about matters that are important to us as individuals, as well as a couple. Just because you get married doesn’t mean your relationship is guaranteed, we are now equally committed to ensuring it doesn’t go stale,” Andy said.

Following the course came the wedding, which was centred on their love of family and each other.

“We knew how to live with each other but the course taught us how to listen - not so much to what is said, but why it is said,” Lauren continued.

“We both held the view that wedding was not just ‘our day’ - it was a celebration of two families coming together,” Lauren said.

“In that sense, the course reminded us to make time for each other and talk

To reflect this, members of both sides were allocated special tasks at the

ceremony and at the reception everyone took their place at one long table signifying the families’ unity. The couple described the occasion as “perfection”.

As Andy and Lauren prepare for their life as a trio, there are a number of matters they can feel confident about.

“We’re so excited to become parents and start our own family. We’re also very grateful that our parents are equally enthusiastic about the baby’s pending arrival and will be on hand to offer assistance and create an extended network of love and support,” Andy said.

“To date, we’ve been partners in

everything and have a strong union because of this. We’re going into parenthood with a commitment to co-parenting. We understand there are going to be some massive adjustments, but we also know solid communication will be vital so we intend on enrolling in CatholicCare’s Bringing Baby Home course, to guide our parental journey and give us the best start possible,” Lauren said.

Lizzie Snedden is the Team Leader Content for the Diocese of Maitland-Newcastle.

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St Nick’s expansion knows no bounds The St Nicholas Early Education expansion continues with construction soon to begin on a centre in Branxton.

This follows on the official opening of a new facility at Raymond Terrace in early April.

The purpose-built early education hub at Branxton is expected to open in 2020 and is licensed to provide care and education for up to 104 children, aged up to five years.

Sean Scanlon, CEO of the Diocese of Maitland-Newcastle, and Kerri Armstrong, General Operations Manager of St Nicholas Early Education, visited the site in Station Street in April for a sod-turning ceremony to mark the start of construction.

Mr Scanlon said the site, located directly opposite Rosary Park Primary School, was selected with parents in mind.

“With the early education centre across the road from Rosary Park Primary School, parents with children of varying ages can avoid the hassle of getting in and out of the car for multiple drops offs, saving precious time,” Mr Scanlon said.

Branxton will be the seventh early education facility operated by the Diocese in the Hunter region under the auspices of St Nicholas Early Education.

Other centres are at Lochinvar, Chisholm, Singleton, Newcastle West, Raymond Terrace and Cardiff and future

BY LIZZIE SNEDDEN

developments are mooted for Maitland, Muswellbrook, Gillieston Heights and Medowie.

“Branxton and the surrounding area has been identified as an area of extensive growth over the next five years. St Nicholas plans to provide early education services that will cater to the needs of the community now, and in the future.

Our research indicates that by 2026, the area will experience a 41% population growth,” Mr Scanlon said.

Operating Monday-Friday, from 6.30am to 6.00pm, the Branxton centre will provide local families with greater flexibility and is expected to increase employment opportunities locally.

“At capacity we expect the centre to employ approximately 22 educators, three trainees, a cook and cleaners.

St Nicholas Early Education promotes employment from the local community as a priority,” Mr Scanlon said.

Rosary Park Primary School and the local parish support the St Nicholas Early Education development, as local families will have the opportunity to enrol their children in Catholic education in Branxton up to the age of 12.

Ms Armstrong said St Nicholas Early Education had a proud history of working with the Catholic schools to deliver exciting learning opportunities for children enrolled at their centres.

Kurt Daley, Sean Scanlon, Ray Bowen and Kerri Armstrong.

The purpose-built early education hub at Branxton is expected to open in 2020 and is licensed to provide care and education for up to 104 children, aged 0 to 5 years.

“We’re looking forward to offering our Transition to School Program in collaboration with Rosary Park Primary School, for pre-school aged children, to support their educational pathway,” Ms Armstrong said.

“St Nicholas educators implement a Reggio Emilia-inspired curriculum that is underpinned by a child-led, play-based approach to learning. This approach is complemented by our high ratios of educators to children, ensuring personalised care and support,” Ms Armstrong said.

Natalie Cortis, a mother of two children and a new resident of the Branxton area, has already registered her interest in enrolling her youngest child at the centre via the St Nicholas website.

“It is a bonus to have it located across the road from our school of choice and where our daughter is currently enrolled in kindergarten. Mostly, we are excited St Nicks will be implementing a Transition to School Program,” Ms Cortis said.

The Branxton Early Education Centre will provide children with a full-service foodmenu including morning tea, lunch and afternoon tea as well as the provision of nappies and cot linens.

The building is expected to take shape within months, with constructioncompany Artel Constructions engaging a workforce of up to 70 people during construction.

While operations will officially start in from January 2020. Interested families will be able to tour the centre from December 2019.

Demand for the service is expected to be high so those interested in reserving a space for their child are encouraged to register their interest by visiting stnicholasmn.org.au

Lizzie Snedden is the Team Leader Content for the Diocese of Maitland-Newcastle.

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Protecting your income to provide for your future

BY AUSTRALIAN CATHOLIC SUPERANNUATION If you weren’t able to work tomorrow, would you be able to pay the bills? The insurance you have through super may be able to help.

When you think about an injury or illness preventing you from working, you might think that can only happen to people in high-risk jobs, like those working in the logging industry (one of the most deadly in the world) or fishing for lobster off the coast of Alaska (both dangerous and extremely cold).

While there’s no doubt those professions need insurance to protect life and livelihood, you might be surprised by how common it is for people in less dangerous industries to be unable to work for a time.

That’s where the value of income protection and life insurance through superannuation come in very handy. And, if you’re like most people, you don’t realise you need something like this until you actually need to make a claim.

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The most common claim for income protection and permanent disability is also the one that is sometimes the hardest to see. Mental health claims, like for depression, anxiety or stress can be just as debilitating as a physical injury. While the stigma around getting treatment has certainly lessened in recent years, many people still put off treatment because they may not see a problem. It can compound until it leads to physical manifestations, which we’ll talk more about later.

protection lies: you’re able to have the time to get well, which can get you back to doing the thing you love the most.

When it comes to death claims, you likely won’t be surprised. Cardiovascular issues (heart attacks and strokes) top the list, along with cancer.

Of course, this is never something you want to think about but having the security of your insurance through super can provide a small comfort if you ever face these circumstances.

Other claims we regularly see come from cancer and tumour discoveries. An especially common one, which will come as no surprise to Australians, is skin cancer. While teachers are vigilant about protecting themselves from the sun’s rays, they can have excessive exposure when they supervise students during recess.

How to return to work after an extended absence This might seem odd to hear, but there might be value in insurance beyond money. Some insurers are now focusing on providing a holistic experience, one that includes supporting rehabilitation and a return to the workforce.

Our last three common claims directly influence a teacher’s ability to get up in front of students: neurological issues, injuries and back problems.

Some of these issues can be treated, given time. That’s where the value of income

Rushing someone back to the office before they’re ready might lead to a relapse or a worsening of their underlying condition. That’s why OnePath offers consultation services to help people know when it’s right to go back.

It’s important to think about what’s best for you. This could be coming back parttime and gradually increasing the time at work.

Get answers to your questions Planning for your future is confusing. We can help you understand your insurance options and put together a plan that’s right for you. Members of Australian Catholic Superannuation can do it via a phone call with a financial adviser for no additional cost.

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From the courtroom to the pulpit Graham Fullick shocked many people when he left the courtroom to become a man of the cloth – not least his Fr Greg Fullick.

A former partner in a major Sydney law firm, Graham will be the next priest ordained in the Diocese of MaitlandNewcastle, following the ordinations of Fr John Lovell and Fr Anthony Coloma in February.

At 54, just a few years younger than Fr Lovell, Graham’s ordination will continue an increasing trend of older men joining the priesthood later in life.

After watching his son spend decades forging a successful legal career, Greg said he was shocked when Graham told him he was giving it all up to become a priest.

“He was always a devout Catholic but I was very surprised when he told me his plans,” Greg said. “He argued lots of cases in front of the big red judges, was in charge of junior solicitors and won a lot more cases than he lost but he was no prima donna. He always had a very strong feeling of giving back.”

Born and bred in the Hunter Valley, Graham attended St

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After watching his son spend decades forging a successful legal career, Greg said he was shocked when Graham told him he was giving it all up to become a priest.

Patrick’s Primary School, Cessnock, and Marist Brothers Maitland. He will return to the Diocese in June after spending the last four years studying at the Pontifical Beda College in Rome.

Men who aspire to the priesthood early in life must complete up to seven years of formation in local seminaries in their own country. However, older candidates are often sent overseas to colleges like the Beda that specifically cater for mature age students, and offer an intensive course of studies across four years.

Some years ago, at the start of his new life, Graham was interviewed by a Sydney newspaper where he discussed the areas of his legal career he was happy to leave behind. “No minimum billable hours, timesheets, humungous court preparation deadlines or documents to

draft in international transactions in many time zones,” he told the Inner West Weekly.

Despite working very long hours as a lawyer, and enduring the pressure of the profession, Greg says Graham still found time to join a St Vincent de Paul food truck late at night and help those in need.

“Greg is sincere, trustworthy and knowledgeable and he’ll make a great addition to the priesthood,” Graham said.

“Aside from that I’ll also be very happy to have him back home.”

Graham Fullick’s ordination date has yet to be set.

Todd Dagwell is the Senior Content Officer for the Diocese of Maitland-Newcastle.

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Newcastle hosts two important events linking justice and spirituality in May!

BY ROD PATTENDEN

Later this month Newcastle will host two events exploring justice and spirituality with a focus on music, art, prayer and how faith can make a difference in the world. These two events are ecumenical in nature and will be hosted by the Adamstown Uniting Church in an effort to demonstrate the link between expressing one’s faith and ensuring the Church remains a positive influence in the world today. Headlining the events will be two internationally known speakers and workshop leaders, John Bell and Donna Mulhearn.

Scottish musician Bell is a world-renowned composer of Church music and an advocate for faith and justice.

Ms Mulhearn, originally from Maitland, is a retreat leader, author and activist, who was recently the subject of an ABC TV Australian Story episode, which explored her fascinating life from conservative country girl to political activist. Australian Story followed her from Baghdad as part of the human shield movement, to her current work as retreat leader and spiritual guide.

Ms Mulhearn’s work and story links the two sides of the one experience in which prayer and meditation feed one’s inner spiritual life, while at the same time encouraging us to become involved in the world around us as

activists and passionate promoters of God’s word. Ms Mulhearn will invite us to follow her as she explores some of the deeper resources of our traditions through prayer and meditation in the hope of fostering compassionate action in the world. Ms Mulhearn will lead three sessions from May 17-19 including a full Saturday retreat style experience.

John Bell is an inspiring and creative individual who has brought new songs to the worldwide church. The Iona Community in Scotland supports his work and has brought to wider prominence the richness of our Celtic traditions, as well as new songs extolling joy and justice from Africa and the Pacific. John has written many songs now used around the world and he provides a warm and inspiring presence that encourages creative expression and justice making in the world around us. How do we sing songs of joy in the face of unjust structures, and a future that has to deal with the implications of climate change? John will give a public lecture on May 29 and offer a full day workshop on May 30, called Joyful Voices for Hope and Change.

Only a week apart, these two events will offer new perspectives on the rich resources of the Christian tradition for hope and change in the world we seek to love. Registrations are now open. Contact Adamstown Uniting Church for further details on 49571887 or go to https://adamstownuca.org.au/arts/.

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Community Noticeboard Marriage and Relationship Education Courses 2019 Marriage Education is a vital part of planning for a life partnership. CatholicCare offers a selection of courses for married and soon-to-be married couples.

Couples are advised to attend a course around four months prior to the wedding.

Book early as some courses are very popular. Before We Say I Do is a group program held Friday evening and Saturday as advertised and the FOCCUS group program is three Monday evening sessions.

Marriage and Relationship Education Course – FOCCUS at the Toohey Room, Newcastle, 6 and 13 May. 5.15-7.30pm (Session 3 to be confirmed).

Before We Say I Do, 7 and 8 June at the Toohey Room, Newcastle. Friday 5-9pm, Saturday 9am-5pm.

Marriage and Relationship Education Course – FOCCUS at the Toohey Room, Newcastle, 29 July and 5 August. 5.15-7.30pm (Session 3 to be confirmed).

Before We Say I Do, 23 and 24 August at the Toohey Room, Newcastle. Friday 5-9pm, Saturday 9am-5pm.

Marriage and Relationship Education Course – FOCCUS at the Toohey Room, Newcastle, 28 October and 4 November. 5.15-7.30pm (Session 3 to be confirmed).

Before We Say I Do, 22 and 23 November at the Toohey Room, Newcastle. Friday 5-9pm, Saturday 9am-5pm.

We also have a wait list for our Bringing Baby Home workshop which assists couples transition to parenthood. FOCCUS

For further information on all our courses please contact Robyn Donnelly P 02 4979 1370 E rdonnelly@catholiccare.org.au.

for women to gather for fun and company. Each Wednesday is different, with possibilities including games of Scrabble, sharing stories, singing karaoke, and watching a movie together.

Vesak Day

Other upcoming events:

Celebrations for Sakyamuni Buddha’s Birthday will be held at Cham Shan Buddhist Temple, 85 Freeman’s Drive Morisset, NSW, Saturday 11 May and Sunday 12 May from 10.00am-3pm. A good opportunity for some Interreligious learning and dialogue. All welcome.

RSVP 0426511220 or E info@chamshan.org.au

• A Fundraiser Trivia Night will be held on Saturday 22 June 6.30pm at Cardiff Bowling Club, 175 Myall Road Cardiff.

Individual Sessions by appointment only.

ChapelJazz The Morpeth ChapelJazz, organised by the Catholic, Anglican and Uniting Church communities in Morpeth will be held on the weekend of 17-19 May. Full details of the weekend’s events are available on chapeljazz.com or by accessing the ChapelJazz Facebook page.

All events with the exception of the Friday night Jazz Dinner Dance are free.

Bookings for this event can be made through the Maitland Visitor Centre, website or Facebook page.

Annual TWEC Dinner Will be held on Friday 31 May at 6:30pm at Therry Centre, New England Hwy, East Maitland. Speaker will be Dr Michele Connolly rsj on ‘Does the New Testament speak to contemporary Australia?’ $65 includes canapés, drinks and dinner.

Bookings by 21 May P 4979 1134 or E Sharon.Murphy@mn.catholic.org.au.

• Mother’s Day afternoon tea. This is part of Celebrating Women, which includes afternoon tea and a guest speaker each term. Details on the Mums’ Cottage Holmesville Facebook page.

• A garage sale is held in the Mums’ Cottage grounds every second Monday.

For more information, P Mums’ Cottage 4953 4105, E admin@mumscottage.org.au or visit www.mumscottage.org.au.

Youth Mass On the last Sunday of each month, the 5.30pm Mass at St Patrick’s Church, Macquarie St, Wallsend, has a youthful flavour. Everyone is welcome.

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Book Review Salt, not honey

for a faith that stings Reviewing this book is difficult. Right from the George Bernanos quote on the book’s dust jacket, I was irked.

“Well, a man can’t live on jam, and neither can a Christian society. Our Heavenly Father said mankind is the salt of the earth, son, not the honey. And our poor world’s rather like old man Job, stretched out in all his filth, covered with ulcers and sores. Salt stings on an open wound, but saves you from gangrene.”

The author, Luigi Maria Epicoco, then goes on to describe a world on the “brink of spoiling” - a view he describes as “realistic” not pessimistic.

Cloaking pessimism in realism is the mantra of the pessimist and this double entendre, to me as a reader whose view of the world is one of hope far removed from the idea of spoilage, is a consistent

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theme of this book.

Salt, not honey is meant to “become something of a program and provocation for all our lives”. The provocation I would liken to that of prominent figures in the secular world like USA’s Bill Maher, or Rush Limbaugh, who utter bold yet easily disprovable maxims as a way of shocking people to attention.

While I feel Epicoco erred on the side of pessimism and shock-value in Salt, not honey, he does make valid points.

“I believe each of us carries dead hopes within, buried expectation, maybe peacefully put to rest. But no matter how peaceful, hope without life is dead, and is expectation without anything to wait for. No matter how much peace we have made with our dead hopes, they remain dead. However, the Lord does not ask us

to resign ourselves, he asks us to trust, and this is something quite different” Epicoco says in the book’s prologue.

As someone whose hopefulness is hidden so as not to be battered by racism veiled with innocuous labels like “alt-right”, and intolerance born of fear and a lack of understanding, this is a wake-up call that I have been dragging a dead horse rather than carrying hope.

Later in the book, Epicoco goes on to talk about a surface-scratching faith one where we rely on Jesus for healing, forgiveness and answers to our prayers without knowing Him personally.

This is the faith we see all around us in movies and popular culture. It is only out of desperation that a movie’s protagonist falls to their knees to pray. It is a faith paid only with lip service. As Christians, our

Lamb, Cumin and Raisin Pie Is that a cool chill in the air after such a long hot summer? This month’s recipe will delight the tastebuds and nourish the soul. Enjoy.

Ingredients

Method Toss the diced lamb in flour, using a freezer bag to shake together.

 1 kg lamb shoulder (diced by butcher)  8 french shallots - peeled and sliced  5 baby carrots - cut into small chunks  1/4 cup raisins  1 tbsp of cumin  1 tsp of sugar  2 tbsp red wine vinegar

In a large heavy based pot on a medium heat, add a dash of oil and a bit of butter. Sear the diced lamb until browned. This may take a few rounds. Do not stew the lamb, rather aim for a nice seared fried brown outside which will add flavour.

Once all the meat is browned, set aside, reduce heat, add some oil and a bit of butter and cook the shallots for five minutes followed by the carrots. Add cumin and stir. Add lamb back into pot along with the vinegar and sugar. Add a little of the chicken stock and stir through.

Continue this until all the stock is used. Add raisins. Season and bring to a simmer and then cover and leave for 90 minutes.

 2 tbsp plain flour

Allow to cool to room temperature.

 500 ml chicken stock

Preheat oven to 160°C fan or 180°C. Line and grease whatever pie dishes you are using and follow the instructions on the puff pastry. Cut circles and make a puff base.

 1/4 cup chopped parsley  Zest of half a lemon  50g butter  1 packet puff pastry  Egg wash

Fill with the mixture and top and seal with puff pastry lid.

Paint a little egg wash over the pies and cook for 20 minutes.

Best served with mashed sweet potatoes and vegetables or fresh garden salad. Finish with a spicy tomato relish.

faith should be more than lip service.

In Salt, not honey, Epicoco reminds us of the three virtues given to us at baptism: faith, hope and charity and urges us to rethink these virtues within the framework of life.

Britten Thompson is the Digital Team Leader for the Diocese of Maitland-Newcastle.

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