The Courier - November 2022

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The

COURIER

Christ the King November 20

November 2022

Official Newspaper of the Roman Catholic Diocese of Winona-Rochester, MN | dowr.org

Supporting Adoption By SARAH VETTER

�doption is a wonderful way to provide a stable and loving

home for a child, but the process for adoptive parents can be long and unpredictable. Each prospective adoptive family starts with a home study process. They complete background checks, secure financial and health reports, obtain personal references, and participate in hours of assessments and education on adoption before being approved. Once they secure an approved home study, they may meet with multiple expectant parents before being chosen to adopt a child. On average, couples wait two years or more to adopt an infant. An estimated 40% of adults have a close friend or family member who was adopted. But how do you support prospective adoptive parents throughout the process? Be a reference. Every adoptive family must have an approved home study before they adopt. If your friends are starting the adoption process, you could offer to be a personal or professional reference for their home study. References help the adoption agency understand a family’s dynamics, strengths, and areas for growth. Help with marketing. Many adoption connections are made by word-of-mouth and social media. Couples who are adopting may be doing outreach by hanging posters, mailing information to referral sources, or posting on social media. Telling others about friends who are adopting, sharing their social media posts, and offering to introduce a parent wanting to adopt can help someone adopt sooner. Be willing to bring up adoption as an option. Expectant parents should know their options and what adoption could mean for their child.

Throw a party. Baby showers are a long tradition to celebrate a new child and help the new parents get needed baby items. Welcome home parties can be a great way to celebrate a new child of any age! Many adoptive parents prefer to wait until they are matched with an expectant parent or have already brought baby home before a shower is thrown so they know specifically what they will need. Be sure to ask your friends about the timing they prefer. Provide tangible support. Many adoptive families get little notice before a baby is born. They may need someone to watch their dog or pick up baby essentials while they go to meet their new child. Running errands or dropping off meals can help the new parents focus on bonding, attachment, and getting much-needed sleep! Use positive adoption language. Through the language you use, you can impact how others view adoption. While you may be used to hearing about birthmothers “giving up a baby”, be assured that birth parents are not giving up or giving away their child. They are making an intentional plan to place their child in a loving home. It is more accurate - and positive - to refer to birthparents making an adoption plan or placing a child for adoption. Similarly, some have referred to birthparents as a child’s “real parents.” Both the adoptive and biological parents are real and have an important and unique role in the child’s life. Learn more. Adoption can be a long process and a lifelong journey. By learning more about adoption through books or podcasts, you can better understand and support the adoption community. Catholic Charities offers a Modern Adoption training for pregnancy centers, birth center staff, or anyone wanting to support members of the adoption triad. Call our office at 507-287-2047 for more information on adoption, our services, or to schedule a training for your group.

Meet the families ready to adopt through Catholic Charities on pg. 8.

USCCB Welcomes Document for Synod's Continental Stage from usccb.org WASHINGTON (Oct. 27, 2022) – Earlier today, the Holy See’s General Secretariat of the Synod issued the Document for the Continental Stage (DCS) of the 20212024 Synod: For a Synodal Church: Communion, Participation, and Mission. The DCS is a working document that will be used for the next step, the Continental Stage, of the Synod process and is a result of the Holy See hearing from 112 episcopal conferences, including the U.S. Conference of Catholic Bishops (USCCB), as well as Eastern Catholic Churches, religious congregations, ecclesial associations and movements, the Vatican dicasteries, and individual contributions. In the first stage of the Synod, listening sessions were held at the local level across the world. Bishops in each

Continental Stage, cont'd on pg. 16

INSIDE this issue

'We Are Saved in Community' page 5

Liturgies of November

Meet the Families page 6

pages 8-9


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