Living with Children

By: John K. Rosemond www.rosemond.com

Bath Time Stress

Q: My 14-month-old was taking baths just fine until about a month ago when he became enraged because I wouldn’t let him stand up in the sink (which is where I’ve bathed him until now). Ever since then, he becomes hysterical when I take him to the sink or the tub. I’ve tried putting him in without water (with toys) in order to help him re-form a positive association, but no luck. We’ve gone to the local indoor pool twice now, and he began to relax and splash around a little by the end of the second trip. I would love not to have to rely solely on sponge baths and showers with mom to get him clean. Should I cater to his fears and rest bath time for now, or should I push the issue?

A: Although it may look like it, this is not rebellion. Your son freaked when you wouldn’t let him out of the sink. This may have been the biggest emotional reaction he’s had to anything thus far in his short life, so it made a big impression, one that’s going to take time and patience to undo. In the meantime, it’s sponge baths, and showers and baths with mommy. When he’s comfortable going into the tub and being held in your arms (don’t turn on the water until you’re in there, and even then, turn it just past trickle), try getting out without him and seeing how he does. But give it at least a month before you make that attempt. Bottom line: This too shall pass.