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mind, body and spirit and you don’t have to do it alone.

Many Baby Boomer women have spent decades suppressing their own wants and desires, and losing themselves in the expectations and demands of culture, parents, partners, and children, working hard to please and care for almost everyone but themselves. They’ve been misunderstood by marketers, politicians, millenials, most men, and last but not least, themselves.

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our story Mission: To INSPIRE, EDUCATE and EMPOWER the baby boomer woman!

Be Fabulous! was designed specifically to be an event magazine to be presented to our guests at the Annual Fabulous@50 Experience and Martini Party. But something magical happened! Dianna Bowes took a look around and realized there was nothing in our community that was discussing the needs of the seasoned woman.

Be Fabulous!, much like the Fabulous@50 tradeshows, seminars, the meetup group and the Fabulous@50 on-line membership, filled a gap.

Since 2010, Be Fabulous! has spotlighted inspirational women on it’s cover and covered topics that mid-age women want to read about.

The vision of creative director, Dianna Bowes, was to publish a magazine that would be written by baby boomer women for baby boomer women.

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Fabulous at 50 Lifestyle with Dianna Bowes

Eating healthy is easier than you think, it just takes a little preparation and research before you head out to eat.

FAT, FOOD, FATIGUE I am heading into the 4th week of the food program with Shonda Holt, an Edmonton Functional Nutrition Practioner (Nourishing Yourself ). I decided to try her program because I was frustrated with my hormones, digestion issues and weight gain. Although I eat fairly clean and am very active, I felt something was off. The first few weeks were interesting as I was learning how to cook and prepare food from a different perspective. Planning is the key!

The hunger feels different, and I have only had a few cravings, one for ice cream a few nights ago. But I know my tummy will hurt... so I passed that one.

The very best thing has been sleeping. My thermostat turned down, the extreme hot flashes have gone, so guess who is sleeping better....me! Yeah!

But the hardest thing has been handling stress. Although I don’t feel stressed, my body has become used to operating at a high stress level and it has become my normal.

Shonda challenged me to spend time during the day to stop and breathe. She suggested I take a minute before each meal and just breath, focusing on my heart. It relaxes me, but I keep forgetting to do it. Some resistance here I think. I have been meditating before bed and

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in the morning before I get up, which is really nice, except I keep falling back to sleep.

gers who post great recipes online that are free from wheat, gluten, and dairy, it makes preparing meals so much easier.

This morning I was down just over 5 lbs.

My tummy is a little flatter and overall I feel pretty good. I have had several days of extreme fatigue, probably because I am not eating enough. From what Shonda tells me this is a common problem for women my age. It is not over-eating, it is under-eating and not getting enough nourishment from the food we eat. This is where Shonda is so great, she has lots of recipe ideas and is always there to help me when I don’t know what to do next.

I finally broke down and bought a new Ninja blender, holy cow, that thing could almost cut the grass, it is so powerful. It even came with a little food processor and smoothie cups.

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Still have some challenges to tackle, but overall feeling like this right choice for me.

Dianna Bowes is the creative director of Fabulous@50 and editor of Be Fabulous! spirit.

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The Ladybird’s Kitchen by Pam Robertson

Delicious

FISH Dishes

I’ve got a large bunch of fish in the freezer and I am in experimentation mode over here. Some of my favourite recent fish dishes include pan fried, fish cakes, fish pie, chowder, and this tasty Prosciutto wrapped delight.

This dish takes very little time to prepare (25 minutes from start to sitting at the table). Since this recipe uses a white fish and it’s pretty mild, you can easily add plenty of flavour with herbs and spices, and you can add a finely chopped red chilli pepper if you want some heat.

250 g baby potatoes 2 skinless, boneless haddock or pollock fillets 4 slices Prosciutto ham 200 g of 5-8 cm tomatoes olive oil 4 garlic cloves 5 ml salt 2.5 ml pepper 5 ml fish seasoning (a dry rub or blend if you have it) Lemon wedges for squeezing

1. Preheat oven to 375 degrees F (190 Celsius) 2. Carefully remove any bones from the fish, and skin (you can usually buy it this way).

3. Parboil potatoes for 5 minutes in salted boiling water, drain well and let them dry during the rest of your prep.

4. Season fish with salt and pepper, along with dry fish rub, or some Old Bay, or Italian seasoning.

5. Wrap ham around the fish 6. Place fish in a baking dish with tomatoes, parboiled potatoes, and garlic cloves.

Season again and drizzle everything with a little olive oil.

7. Bake in the oven for 15-18 minutes, depending on thickness of your fillets. Check the fish with a fork to see if it is flaking easily, and cook for another minute or two if it’s not quite ready.

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8. Squeeze lemon juice over fish and potatoes, and serve along with a crispy salad. A splash of balsamic vinegar or balsamic glaze over the entire dish (including the tomatoes) is a tasty alternative to the lemon. *What’s prosciutto? It’s a delightfully salty, thin sliced, long aged ham that adds great flavour to your fish. Look for it at the deli, and treat yourself to a good one (some of the mass processed prosciuttos look good but they don’t have the same depth of flavour to them). You can wrap prosciutto around all kinds of goodies, including asparagus, melon, cheese, or whatever your heart desires.

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Tea with Sue Paulson

Five Ways to Honor the Mother of all Mothers© As Mother’s Day approaches, many of us find ourselves without our mothers to take to lunch, buy flowers for, or to send a card. However, we all do still have a mother – the great mother of all – Mother Earth. She is there for us always and has been nurturing us for centuries, maybe even eons.

While we do whatever we do, be it a help or a hindrance, she remains steadfast in providing, despite a great depletion of resources and a lack of support in return.

There are many ways that we can help nurture and give gifts to Mother Earth to honor her nurturing of us all.

1. Plant Something: flowers, greenery – in a garden, on a balcony, in a pot, or even out in the wild somewhere. Re-sow seeds so that we replace that which we have taken from the earth.

2. Honor the 3 Rs – Reduce, Re-Use, and Recycle: Here in Edmonton, we are pretty

good at recycling all the packaging that comes with the things we buy. It seems we are also good at re-using, as evidenced by the many garage sales, thrift shops, and all manner of opportunities to pass along our treasures or gather up someone else’s.

The reduce part is one of the trickiest because we still live in a society where mass consumerism is still thought to be the best way for our economy to thrive.

But how many pairs of shoes does one person need? The latest gadget and the latest bling have to have been produced from somewhere using resources from Mother Nature. What if we were to assess how much is enough and then stop buying what isn’t essential?

3. Attract Birds and Bees: Even if you have just a small yard, there is much you can do to attract birds and bees.

Without the birds and the bees, our ecosystem falters.

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I’m intrigued by a simple house for lone bees that are not part of a hive.

It’s easy to install in your yard and will help with flower pollination.

4. Sing or Hum: Whether or not you think you can carry a tune, make a joyful noise. Singing, humming, and whistling are all healing to us and Mother Earth. We may have no idea of how much impact those joyful sounds will have, but we do know that positive thoughts and positive sounds change the structure of water; there is plenty of water on our planet to be healed.

5. Keep Love in Your Heart: Hold a sacred space of love for all beings on this

earth, whether human, animal, vegetable, mineral, or flying and crawling creatures.

We each have our place, with one supporting the other. Let’s teach our children, by example, what a loving heart is.

Happy Mother’s Day, Mother Earth.

We’re grateful for you and your bounty; we appreciate your beauty; we will work diligently to restore what has been lost to you!

Sue Paulson inspires others to love their magnificence. Her third book, “Magnificent Misery – From Adversity to Ecstasy” is now available at Audrey’s and Ascendant Books in Edmonton or through Amazon. www.suepaulson.com or check out her website www.suepaulson.com

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Avoiding the heartbreak of Ghosting in over 50’s Dating

Watch for the warning signs The definition of Ghosting according to Urban Dictionary is… “The act of suddenly ceasing all communication with someone the subject is dating, but no longer wishes to date.”

A better definition is you and I meet, we have amazing chemistry, we hang out, have awesome sex, I bond to you and you disappear ultimately breaking my heart.

You don’t answer my calls or texts and I am so confused and concerned.

Are you hurt? Did I do something wrong?

We were making plans and now you’re gone. Sadly, ghosting happens all the time now.

Back in the day before the Internet when people met via a fix up by friends, no one

would have even thought to disappear like they do today.

Their reputation was at stake and they didn’t want to face the judgment of their friends. They would have done the proper thing and said… “I think we aren’t a match.”

You’d have closure, maybe some tears but you’d have known why the relationship was ending. In today’s cyber world, no one is holding anyone accountable so it’s easy to disappear.

People think by not answering your texts or calls, they are not hurting your feelings.

What they don’t realize is you hurt even more because you have no idea what caused the rift and no way to fix it.

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When the chemistry is this hot, turn and run the other way.

Relationships are rarely based on chemistry alone and chemistry keeps a friendship, a much needed connection from happening.

You can’t totally prevent this from happening but I want to give you some warning signs that can help you recognize you’re headed for trouble when they appear.

Warning Sign #1 is Chemistry…and I mean hot can’t take your hands off each other and the sex is so amazing.

When the chemistry is this hot, turn and run the other way. Relationships are rarely based on chemistry alone and chemistry keeps a friendship, a much needed connection from happening.

Warning Sign #4…You start talking future talk and he is silent. He knows there’s no future. He’s just in this for the fun and nothing serious.

He stays silent when you future talk and disappears versus “Hurting your feelings” letting you know he’s not on the same relationship page as you are.

Warning Sign #5…He tries to end it but you draw him back into the relationship because you’ve bonded and you miss him so much when you are apart.

You bond so fast from the intimacy that you don’t have a chance to really see who someone is until it’s too late.

At this point, he feels like you are not hearing him so instead of going through the drama of a breakup again he just disappears.

Warning Sign #2…He won’t commit to being exclusive to you.

Really listen to what men are saying to you because men mean what they say.

Usually he’ll say something like, “we are having so much fun, let’s see where it goes.”

We as women don’t always mean what we say…mostly because we are people pleasers and we think things are changeable. The disconnect happens because we think men think this way too! They do not!

And you agree to it because you’re bonding through sex and he’s fun and you think he is too.He’s not and he’s telling you he’s not about a relationship.

He’s about fun when he uses this phrase.

Warning Sign #3….You find yourself feeling more clingy and needy because you don’t how you fit into his life.

Instead of being a grown up and telling you this is getting on his nerves, he disappears. People would prefer to just leave then get involved in some type of confrontation with you. Again, the reason is because he is not committed to the relationship.

I’ve given you 5 warning signs to watch for in future relationships. Use these. They can save you a lot of heartbreak in the future.

Lisa Copeland is a leading internationally recognized love coach and dating expert for women in their 40’s, 50’s and 60’s. She shows women who are struggling with dating how to find true love in the second half of their life with a quality man. Lisa offers a Free Report called, “The 5 Little Known Secrets for Finding Love”. You can get your copy at this link: Findaqualityman.com

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Fabulous@50 Featured Member

GAY DERK What are you looking forward to doing/creating in this next half of your life?

GAY: My Passion Project, Love Works, The Movement. Divorce is at 50% in Canada and 55% in the US, so for the past 10 years with Bridal Fantasy Magazine I’ve been blessed to have authors like Dr Wayne Dyer, Dr John Gray, Dr John DeMartini, Dr Brenda Wade, Gail Vaz- Oxlade, Louise Hay, Arielle Ford, Gary Goldstein, Dr Deepak Chopra, Kris Carr, Serena Dyer, Gabriella Bernstein, Danielle LaPorte and more contribute articles. Which in turn we post on our website section Love Works that deals with money, communication, health, home, and relationship issues. We need to work on creating healthy relationships, healthy individuals, healthy families, and healthy communities. Because in the end we all benefit, but it’s been a struggle to do on my own and I’d love to find some help take it to the next level!

How has hardship, tragedy, or trauma shaped who you are – what gifts have come of it?

GAY: When I was pregnant with my first son, a burglar broke into our home and ended pushing my husband through a plate glass window beside the front door, he had a physiological amputation of his arm, head injuries, internal injuries…he

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ended up in the hospital for months and then several years of daily physiotherapy, I had the baby, had to go into work the next day to run his business, and deal with making sure my husband got back on his feet, it was a real juggling act to try and do everything well…you learn to take joy from the small moments each day like your child smiling or taking his first step, your husband beginning to function again, helping a couple with their wedding and seeing the joy and love of that event, and just taking a deep breath with gratitude for that day…that moment!

When you go through an experience like this you really learn what matters and how important it is to have gratitude for even the small things!

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If you were to share one thing that made a difference in your life, what would it be?

GAY: We always think we can do it all on our own…the day you realize the power that comes from creating a mastermind group is a life altering day…that is the day you realize all the big things, and the amazing things can come from spreading that mastermind power and the infinite power of love around. It will blow you out of the water.

Who most inspires you and why?

GAY: Women….we are power houses… we have the most awesome energy and insight….my idol is the amazing Louise Hay who started her business in her 60’s and is still going strong at 90, she’s an author in this year’s issue of Bridal Fantasy Magazine. My Mom and my Grandmother who ran businesses into their 70’s, juggled families and homes and always still had time to create wonderful family meals and celebrations like Easter, Christmas, Halloween and Birthdays. Each and every one of us is stronger than we think we are and that strength can pull you through the tough times.

What would you like to share with younger women about “being beautiful”?

GAY: We take so many pictures, so many

When your body is healthy and your soul is beautiful you are beautiful …you have a light that shines and radiates to those around you.

selfies, and everyone wants their 15 minutes of fame, now-a-days there are so many procedures, micro-blading eyebrows, chemical peels, lashes and more and being cosmetically beautiful has become an obsession…as you age you realize that when your body is healthy and your soul is beautiful you are beautiful … you have a light that shines and radiates to those around you.

What makes you laugh?

GAY: My family…from my husband, my sons, their wives, my grandchildren, my 8 brothers and sisters and their families, my pets, and my extended family which includes staff and friends, there is humor and joy to be found everyday. There is laughter to be had everyday….most of life is not about being serious …love and laughter definitely go together.

GAY’s Favorites

Color: Orange Flats or Stilettos: Flats (gotta move) Martini/Wine: Martini Sweet Treat: Crème Brule Vacation Destination: =Paris Book: A Return To Love by Marianne Williamson Movie: The Sandpiper with Burton and Taylor Charitable Cause: Compassion House, Stollery,Gregors Grads, Canadian Breast Cancer, Kids Up Front, and more because Derks and BF give us the opportunity to touch a lot of great organizations.

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Roberta and Jesse on vacation.

Late in Life Motherhood

A Dream Come True As we get older and wiser (and better in my humble opinion), we reflect on our lives, and the paths we have chosen and decisions we have made, there is sometimes, if we are lucky, one thing that stands out as that life changing decision and or experience that is truly a ‘dream come true’.

I am sure that most of the mothers reading this will agree with me that motherhood is that one amazing experience we can’t imagine not having in our lives. For me, being a mother was really my biggest dream for myself, the one thing in life that I always wanted, looked forward to, dreamed about and could not imagine a full and contented life without.

But by the time I hit my 40s, the ‘typical’ path to motherhood - meeting the ‘perfect’ man for me, getting married and starting a family, still had not happened.

And because I knew the one thing I never wanted to ‘miss out on’ was having a baby,

I had to make a very big decision, and that was to forgo the ‘husband’ or partner, and become a ‘single mother by choice’.

Think Positive

So in consultation with my family Doctor, I was referred to a fertility clinic. There the Doctor told me where I stood in terms of motherhood at this age - at my age 43 almost 44, the chances of me getting pregnant were 3 - 5%, and then if I got pregnant the chances of a miscarriage at my age were 50%.

Wow, I thought, maybe I waited too long!!

I was worried, but still 100% determined to think positive and try my best to be a mom, to get pregnant and give birth to my own child. I honestly took the attitude that if it was ‘meant to be’ then the universe would send me my child.

And so the long journey through fertility treatment began. I tried 6 times to conceive a baby with an unknown donor sperm, my own 43 year old eggs, lots and

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lots of fertility drugs and IUI - but each month it did not work. For my 7th try (and 7 has always been my ‘lucky’ number), my Doctor suggested IVF, a very expensive and invasive procedure, but she was hopeful that it would work for me - and so was I. So I took out a loan to pay for it - that plus all the drugs through my 7 attempts probably cost me close to $50,000, and went in hoping against hope that this time would work.

I had 4 eggs retrieved, and 3 days later when it was time for the eggs to be transferred back into me, there was only one egg still alive. One little microscopic 43 year old egg left! I was so discouraged, as the more eggs transferred back in the better my odds that one would survive to make a healthy viable baby.

But the lovely team of nurses, who had gotten to know me so well over this year

long journey kept encouraging me - ‘you only need one egg’ - and they were right.

This time I was successful, I had a very healthy and enjoyable pregnancy and on June 29th, 2008 at the age of 45, I gave birth to my beautiful, healthy son Jesse, who is now almost 9 years old. I call him my ‘one good egg’.

Motherhood has been my dream come true, and it has been even better, more fun and more exciting than I even imagined it would be. Raising a 9 year old at the age of 54 is amazing - it keeps me young - we have so much fun together.

And having Jesse always reminds me daily of the miracle of life - the universe sent me my son, and I am grateful every day that I have him.

Roberta Scott is an advanced care Parmedic in Toronto, a single mother to her 8 year old son and the Toronto Fabulous@50 Community Director. Contact her at Roberta@fabulousat50.com

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Life is just a Phase by Laurel Vespi

What my mother knew about

GARDENS AND LIFE Well what did you expect?

Sometimes my mother’s voice pops into my head with the most annoying questions even if they’re said in the most loving way. Many years ago when I was a novice gardener, my mother would share her years of expertise. I suggested that daisies would be a fine addition to my new garden and she cautioned me that although pretty, daisies are just like an unwelcome houseguest. Once they take root they don’t go away easily.

I took my mother’s advice for a long time.

Even after she passed away I continued to avoid the daisies. There came a time a few years ago while encountering challenges

with shade and drought, that an area of my garden wasn’t filling in as quickly as I wanted. And so I decided to plant the dreaded daisies. I do recall the voice of my mother whispering in my ear that this was not a good choice but I quickly dismissed it and made the decision to invite the daisies in.

I didn’t stop long enough and ask myself, “Given that the daisies are going to take over, is this what you really want to do?” Or remind myself that truly satisfying results sometimes take patience. Or even that the short term burst of blooms was going to come with long term consequences.

Nope. I ignored the obvious and plowed ahead.

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Fast forward. Guess what? The daisies are making a fine stand in trying to take over.

Yes, in the past couple of years, I’ve made some progress. Indeed I think that the war may have actually turned in my favour.

But I’m still paying the price today for that unconscious choice made earlier.

Your life is no different than my garden.

There are likely areas where you make mostly unconscious choices and then experience the consequences for months or years. And like me you probably have a loving little voice in your head that asks, “Is this a good idea?’ but you go ahead anyway.

The irony is we somehow expect something different will happen even though we know better. We are a little surprised that we are out of breath on the stairs when we’ve chosen to not work out, or we are taken aback by a credit card bill when we’ve not paid attention to our purchases. Or you might find that you and your partner have nothing in common when you’ve spent all of your energy and time at work.

It’s not that you always get what you want. Sometimes you make a fully conscious decision and you don’t get the results you expect. That’s the nature of life.

What you can count on is when you make choices without really thinking about the probable outcome, you will likely get you what you don’t want.

Slow down long enough to consider the outcomes of your actions. In gardens and life, weeds are inevitable. It’s just nice to not have to take care of the ones you plant yourself. At least that’s what my mother would have said.

Laurel Vespi is a certified life coach, author and motivational speaker who helps women live more mindfully no matter what phase of life they are in. Learn more and get resources and inspiration for mindful living at stonecirclecoaching.com

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Sacred Sex by Barbara Lee

Sex: Sin or Sport On the airplane on the way to a conference in Las Vegas, the women sitting next to me asked what I do. When I told her I was an author, speaker and trainer, she asked me what I wrote about. When I told her I write and speak about Sextegrity, you could see the alarm register in her eyes.

Celebrate Sexuality

When I started talking about the fact that we are polarized as a society between “sex as sin” and “sex as sport” her eyes had glazed over completely. And when I told her I thought we needed to be able to celebrate our sexuality while treating it with moral integrity, she pursed her lips together, told me that she believed in Jesus, and then looked straightforward determined not to have any further conversation with me for the duration of the flight.

That night in Las Vegas, I was in the lounge visiting with other speakers when

one of the women in our group drew the attention of a nearby man. He complimented her on her outfit and asked about our group. He asked for a picture to be taken with her and wrapped his arm around her. She politely smiled and told him she was married. He paid no attention to her personal boundaries or appropriate social boundaries and moved in closer to her while telling her she was hot. At that point, one of the men in our group drew him off by engaging him in conversation, asking what he did for a living and the like.

Navigating

Every single day we encounter people who treat sex like it is a sin and people who treat sex like it is a sport. Every day we receive messages about how we look and how we should look. Every day we have to navigate our sexual lives in the midst of conflicting and contradictory messages.

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Which is why it is so important to define your own sexual ethic and to use it as your personal guide when determining the circumstances in which you will and will not engage in healthy sexual behavior. If you have been reading my column, you know that I encourage you to adopt a sexual ethic that includes mutual consent, maturity, equality, responsibility, relational intimacy, authenticity, and joyfulness.

Sexual Repression

May we be free of the kind of worldview that would strangle the passion out of life and try to tell us that sex is somehow ungodly and unclean. How grateful we can be that we no longer need to cower in the sexual repression of the past. But may we also be free of the worldview that my actions are mine alone, that I have no responsibility for the darkness in society, that I am not connected to every other human being and that their fate is not also mine to bear.

Today and in all the days to come, I invite you to love your body, to relish sex, and to marvel in this very good gift.

Embrace the joy of being a body fully united to spirit, the wonder of being a truly whole and holy person!

Barbara Lee is an ordained interfaith minister and the author of Sacred Sex: Replacing the Marriage Ethic with a Sexual Ethic. More information is at www.DontDoesntWork.com.

LOVE YOUR BODY: Embrace the joy of being a body fully united to spirit

FAN FEEDBACK Question?

What is your favorite thing to do on Mother’s Day? Deborah: Spend time with my son’s.

Roberta: For Mother’s Day I plan to hang out with my 82 year old mom and my 8 year old son - have a nice meal and enjoy a relaxing day ...so what is my favourite thing to do on Mother’s Day? Be with family and be grateful I have one .

Juanita: Get together with my kids Loretta: Hang out with my daughters.

Sandy: Hang out with my son and not accomplish anything that day!

Just enjoy each other’s company. This year he’ll be away on Mother’s Day, we are going to create our own MD date.

Probably hit a market, do whatever moves us in the moment.

Pam: My kids both live in different provinces from me, but we are in touch all the time. Mother’s Day I will speak with both of them by phone, and call my mum for a nice chat, and maybe go for a nice hike on a local trail. Great way to spend Mother’s Day in this chapter of my life.

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Edmonton, AB Dianna Bowes Edmonton Director & Founder Email Dianna COSMO CLUB EARLY BIRD ENDS MAY 15TH Go to our website Fabulous@50 has grown to 4 cities and with that growth, have come changes to our memberships. Dianna has been busy as a Read my blogs beaver, making the new and improved membership something you will not want to miss. One of the most exciting parts is our EXPERIENCE IT! partnership with Boomerluxe gift boxes. A cute little box that encourages you to discover new products. There is a Relaunch The Fabulous@50 special of $30.00 per month until May 15th. Plus a draw for a Experience Deluxe Boomerluxe Gift box.

Martini Party Check out the details on www.fabulousat50.com November 4th River Cree Casino UPCOMING EVENTS “Winner of Edmonton’s Best Find Your Sacred Gifts Tradeshow” Tuesday, May 30th, 6:30 pm

Don’t spend another day being tired and frustrated. Don’t spend another minute blaming your boss because you aren’t happy. Don’t spend another second putting your time and energy into things that aren’t totally meaningful to you.

Discover what your gifts are and start using them in your life.

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We wll be opening up our show to new vendors as of April 1st.

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Calgary, AB

Joanne Newenduk and the Fabulous@50 ladies enjoy themselves at the Voice workshops. Click here

UPCOMING EVENTS Raw Food Cooking Class - June 8, 2017 Go beyond salads with Susan Hoy. Demonstration style cooking class to revitalize your health and inspire you through out the summer. For more information email joanne@fabulousat50.com My Fabulous Book Discussion - May 24, 2017 May Book Read - Crow Lake by Mary Lawson Click here to join the book club.

Monthly meetup meeting held every second Thursday, join us and have fun! Click here for info

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Moncton, NB UPCOMING EVENTS

Learn to Walk or Run- Juanita and a the Fabulous@50 ladies get some fresh air and knowledge at the May 1st, workshop. for more information juanita@fabulousat50.com Learn to Walk or Run -Starting May 1, 2017 Have you ever wanted to learn how to properly run or walk long distances? Do we have a deal for you? To register email juanita@fabulousat50.com Cooking Class - May 12, 2017 Join Juanita and Cynthia of Epicure and learn some new delicious and healthy meal ideas. To register email juanita@ fabulousat50.com Support Juanita in her 3rd marathon with Team Diabetes. Her goal is $6,500. This is a very important cause for Juanita as her mother has had diabetes for over 30 years and her 3 sisters and one brother have it now so it is very dear to her heart.

Click here to support Juanita.

Juanita Wilson Moncton Director Email Juanita Go to our website

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Toronto, Ont. Fabulous@50 welcomes our newest Community Director We are so excited to welcome Roberta Scott from Toronto, Ontario to the Fabulous@50 family. Roberta has been an advanced care paramedic for 30 years in downtown Toronto. She was awarded the Queens Jubilee Medal in 2013 from the Paramedic Association of Canada for her contributions to the profession and her community. Roberta has a 7 year old son and wants to enjoy life with him as well as traveling and making a difference in her community. If you are in the Toronto area, make sure to join her on on Facebook, meetup and our website.

UPCOMING EVENTS Toronto Launch - Monday, May 15th.

Why NOT Be Fabulous At 50!!

What does it really mean to be Fabulous at 50? And if you are not quite feeling Fabulous at 50 (yet) - What is stopping you? .......We can help!

At this inspiring, energizing and fun launch event, renowned speaker, writer, psychotherapist and mindfulness teacher, the amazing Elaine Smookler - www. elainesmookler.com - will give you the tools to empower you to live your 40s, 50s and beyond with passion, purpose and joy, and tell you how you can follow your own unique and personal journey to Fabulous. **NOTE: Special Bonus Offer for Early Bird Ticket Purchases: The 1st 30 tickets sold will be discounted to only $20.00 Click here for more information 26 • Be Fabulous! eMagazine I www.fabulousat50.com I May • 2017

Does your company serve women who are 40 and over?

How are you reaching them?

SHARE YOUR STORY! Be an inspiration to other women by sharing your story of success and build strong relationships.

Read about inspirational women like Petra Remy. Click here

INSPIRE Tell women everywhere how you became successful, and inspire them to follow their dreams.

EDUCATE Share your knowledge and expertise to educate women to take their next step.

EMPOWER Through your story, empower women to become change agents in their own lives and others.

Cheryl Anne is the creator of the Beautiful Women Project - The Art to Loving Life.

Click here to read about Cheryl Anne.

Be Fabulous! E-Magazine: is a monthly on-line magazine aimed at the baby boomer woman. This monthly issue will be sent to the growing Fabulous@50 on-line community.

Featuring inspirational woman (this could be you) we will also have articles that will interest women in the 40 plus age range. Be Fabulous! is a part of what makes Fabulous@50 so vibrant.

EMAIL US TODAY FOR THE MEDIA KIT AND MORE INFORMATION ...info@fabulousat50.com

We are more than a magazine.

We are a community!

Loretta Friedrich shares her love of nutritious food with us. Click here to read about her.

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FAB Books!

Dementia in the Family

by Lee Cardwell

Approximately six million people have some form of dementia in North America, and they each have an average of five care partners. This number is growing each year and will continue to grow until a cure is found. There are books that are very clinical and books that are fictional, but ‘Dementia in the Family’ provides clinical information in lay terms within a true story of how dementia affects not just the person with the disease, but everyone around them.

To order your copy click here.

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Create Your Legacy Fabulous@50 is expanding and we are looking for enthusiastic, energetic and well-connected women 40 plus to bring Fabulous@50 to their communities. This is an once-in-a-lifetime opportunity to run your own heart-centered business and create your legacy!

Cllick here for more information INSPIRE • EDUCATE • EMPOWER

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