February 2023

FEBRUARY 2023 Volume 12, Issue 10

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February, or should we say the "Month of Love", as many call it, is a special time for many.

If I were to ask the question, "What is love", there would be a million answer to that. Here are 5 basic love languages that come to mind as follows: 1) Words of affirmation 2) Acts of service 3) Gifts 4) Quality time, and 5) Physical touch.

You might have a primary and a secondary love language, and those need to be attended

to.

One of the most common quotes to the issue of "love", is, "Love is hard". You might say, I don't get this or that, so why should I give it back?

To be honest, yes it can be hard to love. However, there is a realiable source of knowledge and wisdom that comes from a book called the bible; God's infallible word. It is there to assist us in knowing truth, a clear path and help to making the right decisions.

The bible says, "And now this remains: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love".

We are instructed to love another, as Christ has loved the church. We are to forgive one another, and be compassionate with one another. Easy? Not all the time, but with God, all things are truly possible. The possibilities are endless!

We pray you are able to live a life operating in Gods perfect love.

HispanicLife Magazine and all the staff

‘Where Their Hair is Celebrated’:

How an Abilene Native is Diversifying the Local Beauty Industry

By Ashly Ibarra | BigCountryHomePage

Trips to the beauty supply store is a regular occurrence for many. Whether you’re going to pick up a new shampoo or restocking on another hair product, the beauty industry means big business. For people with black or ethnic hair, it can be difficult to find the products you need at stores like Sally and Ulta Beauty.

Abilene native Jetquetta Glacken decided to help diversity the industry after hearing from friends who drove to the metroplex to find the right products. She is making her mark by opening Beauty Plug TX, a black owned beauty supply store. Although the business is still new, she is taking in requests from customers about products they want to see on the shelves.

“We’ve grown a lot since we opened and brought in a lot of products that we’ve taken in from customers to bring

in, so I’m really excited about that,” said Glacken.

Beauty supply stores provide a safe place for women to talk all things hair, makeup, and health. Glacken said she even has moms who come in for advice on how to do their kids hair.

“It feels great to be able to offer our experience to moms who wouldn’t know what to use on their kid’s hair. Their kid’s hair is a totally different texture than theirs,” expressed Glacken.

Andre Gwinn Sr., from the Black Chamber of Commerce, said he knows the impact small businesses have on the economy from providing jobs to keeping funds in the Big Country. He shared that it’s important to support black owned businesses, so the owners can leave a legacy behind for future generations to enjoy.

“I think it’s great to see others take their destiny into their own hands and provide their own income, their own stability, while leaving a legacy they can leave behind for their children,” Gwinn expressed.

Sephora to fight against racial bias with an action plan

As a mom of three girls, Glacken knows firsthand the importance of representation, especially in the beauty industry.

“You’re bringing them somewhere where their hair is celebrated. There’s this whole store of just specifically for their hair and it’s a good experience,” said Glacken.

Beauty Plug TX will celebrate its oneyear anniversary in May. It is located at 3556 North 6th Street in the Westwood Plaza.

The impact of free to low cost lodging for families of inmates in Abilene

By Ashly Ibarra | BigCountryHomePage.com

There is nothing like the unconditional love between a parent and their child. What lengths will you go to see your child? Hector Herrasti and his wife drive eleven hours from Brownsville to Abilene multiple times each year. They’ve been making that drive now for ten years to visit their son, who is in prison with a life sentence.

“Like many families, we first stayed in hotels those trips take a lot of planning. You have to make reservations and plan for other costs,” said Herrasti.

From word of mouth, Hector learned about the Eunice Chambless Hospitality House. A place where families of inmates can stay at for a low cost or for free. The house is located in Abilene right across from the Middleton and Robertson Correctional Facilities.

“We’ve spent Christmas and other holidays here. The support Yogi and Tim have given me, accepting us like family is huge,” Herrasti expressed.

“We’ve spent Christmas and other holidays here. The support Yogi and Tim have given me, accepting us like family is huge,” Herrasti expressed.

The house was opened in 1999 and runs completely on donations. Yogi and Tim

Christesson, directors of the facility, have the made reservations, clean and provide care for the past 14 years.

“We are a home away from home. We love on them. It is hard when they come back from visiting their loved ones. Sometimes when you see them, you can see how down they are because they had to leave them,” said Yogi.

Hector said without the hospitality house, he probably wouldn’t be able to visit his son as often.

“It’s very comforting to know that we’re just a small part of what they have to go through,” Yogi shared.

The couple said their favorite part about running the facility is getting to know the families over the years.

“God called us to do this ministry, we have fallen in love with the people that come. The Herrastis who are here this weekend have touched our heart in such a special way,” Yogi added.

Go to https://www.eunicehouse.org/ to learn more and how to help out their mission.

Downtown Tunnels Get Makeover with Abilene’s 1st 3D Mural by International Artist

By Karley Cross | BigCountryHomePage

Get ready for a delightful change in scenery around Downtown Abilene! The Abilene Cultural Affairs Council (ACAC) will be lighting two pedestrian tunnels which connect the Cultural District to the SoDA District next Thursday. There’s a brilliant twist, though. Those lights are going to illuminate the 3D storybook mural of a soaring dragon in the tunnel behind the T&P Depot!

In a release from the ACAC, the council said this project has taken three years of planning, getting approval and fundraising before it could finally happen.

In partnership with the City of Abilene, the ACAC will be responsible for lighting the tunnels owned by Union Pacific Railroad. In one tunnel, international artist Kurt Wenner was commissioned to create the city’s only 3D mural. This mural was designed so that people can pose on a dragon’s back, and it will look like they are riding it! You can also post on a castle tower, making it look like you’re stepping off into Storybook City.

Funding was made in part through private donations and a cultural district grant from the

Texas Commission on the Arts.

ACAC said, “The purpose of the new lighting and the dragon mural were to better connect the Abilene Cultural District north of the railroad tracks with the SoDA (South Downtown Abilene) district south of the railroad tracks and to use the arts as a tool for economic growth.”

The release from ACAC continued:

“With the continued growth in both districts, this latest addition of lighting should increase visitor enjoyment of downtown and ease of accessibility,” said Lynn Barnett, who has helped promote the city’s standing as the official Storybook Capital of America® through many projects and events. The ACAC has invested $6 million in the downtown Storybook Capital theme.

Barnett also cited City Manager Robert Hanna as being instrumental in the tunnel’s threeyear project. Other key players included were Tim Smith, SoDA founder and downtown property owner, as well as the Abilene Chamber of Commerce.

HOPE FOR MAN

Lord, we see ourselves that there is hope for a man who is lost in a world with no future.

We were given a chance on Earth to prove we can find our way to a new world which God has promised us.

As time passes, we still have hope that God will find a place for us in Heaven.

The rain taps at our window telling us the Holy Spirit is waiting for us to find ourselves in a world of sin.

The sun lights up our life as we search for salvation, which we will have one day.

We give and give, yet our world takes from us because we are only men who have no tomorrow!

Time travels only by the laws of God who gave us life at conception, and for His sake we will have salvation in the end.

Love revolves around God and it holds strong for us today, tomorrow and for Eternal Life forever.

God Bless the unborn children

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A Winning Drive and a Bright Future

By Sandy Lowe | HispanicLife Magazine

Day Nursery of Abilene is celebrating 50 years of critical child care service, a driving force to the economy of the Abilene community, and they’ve found the perfect person to join the celebration! Tony Dungy, Super Bowl winning former NFL coach, will speak at a football-themed, semi-formal event on Monday, March 27, 2023, 7- 9 pm, at the Abilene Convention Center.

“For more than a year, the board has discussed many potential speakers,” says Cynthia Pearson, president and CEO. “While Event Chair, Melody Roper was watching Sunday Night Football this fall, she immediately thought of Tony Dungy. After sharing more about what an outstanding person he is she checked into him further. He holds high standards and morals. He’s a dedicated family man, an advocate for healthy adults and for giving children opportunities. We are delighted he was available to join our celebration!”

The original roots of Day Nursery of Abilene extend back to 1933 when Mrs. Morgan (Jessie) Jones started the Negro Day Nursery so that working mothers, primarily domestic workers, had a place to leave their children. The first child care facility opened on Ash Street to serve 25 children. Due to an immediate waiting list that number doubled to 50 within the first year. A second facility was needed and established in a church on Park Street in the Sears Park area to serve 75 children in the northwest area of the city. In less than five years, another center opened. The Cedar Street facility opened in 1993, then another in 2000, 2007 and most recently a collaborative child care partnership between the Day Nursery of Abilene, Hardin Simmons University and Hendrick Medical Center opened in 2020.

Today more than 100 Day Nursery employees care for children of working parents at four bright and up-to-date centers providing quality child care services for 600 children (birth - 10 years). Cynthia joined the staff in 1991 and took on the Executive Director role in 1994 following the retirement of founding Executive Director, Bea Ganson.

While everyone understands that working parents need a safe and nurturing place for

their children, the child care industry also contributes heavily to a strong and thriving economy. Parents need to work. Businesses need those parents as employees. And the community needs those businesses to thrive. That process starts with excellent and affordable child care.

Day Nursery of Abilene encourages every employee to achieve a Child Development Associate’ (CDAs) credentials. This certification can be applied toward achieving an associate degree, which can lead further if desired to a bachelor’s degree. There's a true career path for Early Childhood Professionals!

veloping social skills, self-regulation and the knowledge they need to be prepared for and thrive in school.”

A number of school districts across the state have created Career and Technology Education (CTE) programs, which provide a path for students who want to work in early childhood. It can help them prepare for work that is meaningful, rewarding and fun.

All four of the Day Nursery of Abilene’s Center Directors have been with the organization for decades; the youngest for more than 10 years. These professionals and others on the staff make it their life long career to help children and families reach their best potential by working in this critical field of early childhood education.

While the event on March 27 will recognize and honor the history of Day Nursery of Abilene, moving forward will be key.

“Many, many studies have shown how important quality child care is to our society,” Cynthia says. “One study (Perry Preschool Project, 40-year longitudinal study) showed that for every dollar invested in early child care, seven to thirteen dollars is saved.”

The Texas Legislature’s House Bill 619 in the prior session established a task force to create a strategic plan for enhancing the child care workforce.

Cynthia served on that task force which made recommendations to the Texas Workforce Commission for recruiting, training and keeping child care workers to further enhance this professional industry.

“We call our staff Early Childhood Professionals,” Cynthia says. “They’re not babysitters or caregivers. They are teachers, helping children meet essential developmental milestones in every learning domain, including de-

“Since we’re 50 years old,” Cynthia says, “it would be wonderful to raise $50,000 or even more. We want to celebrate our accomplishments and set the stage for a rich and rewarding future.”

Four sponsorship levels are available some of which include an invitation to a private reception with Coach Dungy as well as autographed copies of his latest books. There are plans to have others for sale that night. See the additional pages in this issue for more sponsor levels and information.

Don’t miss this opportunity to meet an NFL legend and celebrate this milestone with the Day Nursery of Abilene! At the same time you’ll be helping local families, their children, business and our community by ensuring a bright future for all of us.

Tony Dungy - A World Champion in Many Ways

Tony Dungy retired in 2009 after a 31-year NFL career. In 13 seasons as head coach of the Indianapolis Colts and Tampa Bay Buccaneers, Dungy amassed a 148-79 overall record and reached the postseason an unprecedented ten straight times. His teams averaged more wins in the regular season than those of any head coach in NFL history. On February 4, 2007, Dungy became the first African American coach to lead his team to a championship when his Colts defeated the Chicago Bears in Super Bowl XLI. At the age of 25 Dungy became, at the time, the youngest assistant coach in league history and then at age 28, its youngest coordinator. As a player, Dungy won his first Super Bowl ring as a member of the 1978 Pittsburgh Steelers; he is one of only three individuals to have won the Super Bowl as both a player and a head coach. In 2016, Dungy was selected to join the Pro Football Hall of Fame.

Known for a leadership style that emphasizes decency and respect, his priorities of faith and family were always evident in his coaching. Dungy discussed these values, which have been praised and adopted by a crop of his assistant coaches who would go on to NFL head coaching positions themselves, in his memoir, Quiet Strength: The Principles, Practices,

and Priorities of a Winning Life, a #1 New York Times bestseller. Dungy’s second book, a children’s book entitled You Can Do It!, reached #1 on the New York Times list of best-selling children’s picture books. In Uncommon: Finding Your Path to Significance, a New York Times best seller in the hardcover advice category, Dungy reveals a path to achieving success and meaning in one’s life, reflecting on lessons he learned from his parents, during his career and through his faith. In August of 2010, Dungy released The Mentor Leader, another New York Times best seller in the hardcover advice category. Most recently, Tony and wife Lauren released a new book entitled You Can Be a Friend, which teaches children what it means to be a good friend.

Dungy is committed to a wide variety of organizations, including Abe Brown Ministries, the Fellowship of Christian Athletes, the Dungy Family Foundation, Big Brothers Big Sisters, Boys & Girls Clubs and All Pro Dad. Tony and his wife, Lauren, head up the Dungy Family Foundation, a non-profit organization they founded with the goal of strengthening communities by helping those in need. In retirement, Dungy devotes his passion and experience to programs that inspire him, especially those that benefit and speak to young men and enjoys spending as much time as possible with his wife and children.

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Ben M. Martinez, Sr., 82, of Abilene passed away after an extended illness on January 17, 2023.

Ben was born on April 12, 1940 in Fashing, Texas. He was one of 15 children born to the late Alberto and Francisca (Mireles) Martinez. His family eventually moved to Colorado City. From a young age, he had a strong work ethic. He was raised and worked on the farm for many years and eventually managed several cotton gins. He married the love of his life Mary S. Martinez on July 2, 1958. They moved to Abilene in October of 1969 and raised their eight children. He worked for Pride Refinery for many years and eventually owned & operated his business Kar-Glo Detail Service until his retirement. He was a car and sports enthusiast. He always enjoyed watching sports on television but especially like to watch his brother and grandkids play softball and baseball. He enjoyed the simple pleasures of life such as playing dominoes and listening to music. He worked hard and achieved much but his fulfilment was in his family. He excelled at whatever he did but nothing meant more to him than being “Papí”, to his grandchildren. He was preceded in death by his parents; two daughters, Sally Martinez, and Norma Flores; 1 son, Freddie Martinez; granddaughter, Clara Grace Anderson, and twin great-grandsons, Jude and Luke Hamilton. He is survived by his devoted wife, Mary Martinez; his children, Ben Martinez, Jr. and his wife, Tina; Tino Martinez and his wife, Carolina, Lenore Muñoz and her husband, Manuel, Oscar Martinez and his wife, Kannika, Maghen Anderson and her husband, David; son-in-law, Louis Flores, III; grandchildren, Ben Martinez, III, Lupe Hamilton, Lori Gusler, Rhyan Martinez, Alyssa Martinez, Victoria Martinez, JohnMichael Martinez, Robert Martinez, DJ Anderson, Alie Anderson, Oriana Flores, Madelyn Flores, Louis E. Flores,IV, Lauren McGuire, Andrew Muñoz, Mark Muñoz, Alexis Muñoz, and Andie Martinez; ten great-grandchildren with one on the way; several siblings, and other relatives and friends. Fond memories and expressions of sympathy may be shared at www.elliott-hamil.com for the Martinez family.

Juan Vasquez Jr., passed away on Tuesday, January 10, 2023, in Abilene, TX.

Juan was born on May 12, 1933, in Stamford TX, to his parents Juan Vasquez Sr. and Genoveba Vasquez. He married his late wife Elvira Vasquez in 1956 and they were married for 49 years.

Juan enlisted in the Army and served in the Korean War. He was honorably discharged after being wounded in combat and received the Purple Heart for his great sacrifice for his country. He was

proud of his service to his country and very patriotic. Juan was a devoted Catholic and attended St. Francis of Assisi Catholic Church, where he was a fourth-degree member of the Knights of Columbus. He volunteered as a foster grandparent at Sears Park Recreation. And, he enjoyed watching sports and rooting for his favorite teams, the Dallas Cowboys, Abilene High Eagles, and the Texas Rangers. Most of all he loved and valued his faith, family, and friends. Juan is survived by his sons, Bishop Joe S. Vasquez, Bobby and wife, Marenda, Vasquez, and James Vasquez; daughters, Cynthia and husband Alejandro Martinez, Connie and husband Tony Garza; brother, Jesse Vasquez; sisters, Lina Ortega, Lola and husband Jesse Sanchez, Mary Smith, Lydia and husband Victor Sanchez, Elisa Bustamante; and 19 grandchildren; 39 great-grandchildren and many more family and friends that he loved dearly. He is preceded in death by his wife, Elvira Vasquez; son, Samuel Vasquez; brother, Tony Vasquez; parents Juan Sr. and Genoveba Vasquez. The family expresses gratitude to his many doctors, nurses and staff who cared for him, as well as the personnel of SilverSpring Health and Rehabilitation Center. Also, the family expresses heartfelt gratitude to the many friends and family who faithfully visited Juan over the years, particularly Fr. Bhaskar Morugudi for his pastoral care. Online Condolence and Memories may be shared with the family at www.elmwoodfuneral.com

Josephine Reyna Martinez, 61 of Stamford went home to be with the Lord January 29, 2023 while surrounded by family.

Josephine Reyna Martinez was born August 22, 1961, in Bryan, Ohio to Lupe Lucas and Florencia Reyna Martinez. She was the baby girl of the family. From the time she was born she was on the go. Her family settled in Stamford, Texas where she attended school.

Since a young age she held her ground, did what made her happy, and quickly came to be known as "The Outlaw". She got married and started her family, had her sons Jason Lee Mendez, Adam Manuel Mendez, Jr., then later her son Israel Joe Martinez and daughter Amy Jane Martinez. Josie enjoyed her life on the road with Joe Flores, the man she loved and talked about often. She enjoyed music, singing, dancing, the outdoors and her weekly trips to Pink Ladies. She went to every dance she could and made sure everyone had a good time. The Outlaw was not one to be shy and made sure everyone knew how she felt, good or bad. She always let it be known how much she loved you, whether it was by giving you a pair of boots or something she found just for you. She gave everything she had with all the love in her heart. One of her proudest moments was seeing her Baby Boy Angel go to the Army. All her grandbabies adored her. She loved all her nieces and nephews as her own. Preceding her in death were her parents Lucas and Florencia Martinez; siblings Betty Martinez, Arnulfo and Helen Martinez, Johnny Martinez, Isidro Alanis; step-father Robert Quintanilla Sr., Love of her life Joe Flores and a host of ones she loved dearly.

Left to cherish her memory are her children Jason Lee Mendez, Adam and Esperanza Mendez, Israel Joe and Marlene Martinez, Amy Jane Martinez and Tyy Johnson all of Stamford; Her pride and joy, her grandchildren, Emmalynn Gutierrez of Abilene, Jaianna Mendez of Haskell, Celina and Xavier Castillo of Abilene, Angel and Kyleigh Martinez of Hawaii, Adan Martinez, Damien Garza, Leticia Garza, West Garza, Adam Mendez III, Adelina Mendez and Zaylei Acosta all of Stamford; One great-granddaughter Aubriella Castillo of Abilene; her siblings, Petra Salas of Ropesville, Mary Martinez of Weatherford, Freddy and Rosa Martinez of Purcell, OK, Jessie "Chuy" and Molly Martinez of Stamford; as well as a host of nieces, nephews, cousins and family and friends that she loved with everything she had.

Abilene Honors Beloved Donut Shop Owner's Legacy

By Lauren Sierra | KTXS

AM Donuts #3 is more than just a spot for morning coffee and donuts. It's a gathering place for both newcomers and old timers in Abilene, cultivated by owner George Kim.

"It was like a sitcom," described retired Abilene Chief of Police Melvin Martin. "Everybody knew each other, it was just fun times coming here."

After a battle with complications due to COVID-19, George passed away on Christmas Day of 2021, leaving behind his wife, children, and the staple donut shop. After a period of mourning, his wife Sokol took on the reigns of the shop, despite her mother battling stage four cancer.

"It's not been easy for me and my family at all," Sokul told the crowd of customers gathered at the shop on Wednesday morning. Customers new and old and community leaders were there to honor George and celebrate another year in business despite it all.

"George and Sokol worked so hard, so this is the proper way that we should move forward," said Virak Jey, Sokul's business partner. "We should carry on and continue regardless of the obstacles and hardships."

Equipped to Succeed

Sokol and George are natives of Cambodia. Abilene's Mayor Anthony Williams described AM Donuts #3 as the embodiment of the American dream. Sokol handed out gifts from a recent trip back to Cambodia to all her customers as a thank you for their support and for keeping her husband's legacy alive.

You probably already know that the Head Start program exists in schools to help lower-income children “catch up” in preparation for a successful academic career. But there’s a lot more to it than that.

Head Start began as part of President Lyndon B. Johnson’s “war on poverty.” An expert panel developed a program to address the comprehensive needs of disadvantaged preschool children. Head Start continues to be funded by the federal government and is administered in the Big Country by the Region 14 Education Service Center. Region 14 includes forty-three school districts.

Candace Bernice Villar was a new customer on Wednesday, inspired by George's story.

"He did so much," she said. "Giving donuts to the fire people, the police offers, the people in the community - some people have been lifelong customers and now the wife is taking over and I feel like that's empowering and beautiful, the whole community supporting her.

What you may not know is that the Head Start program addresses more than just academics. Every aspect of a child’s life has an impact on his or her educational success. So Head Start programs and teachers help with everything from potty training to speech and language de-

Samantha Rodriguez, who came to US from Juarez, Mexico, can tell you personally what an impact Head Start has had on her children. She learned about Head Start through the Anson school district. Because of the COVID-19 pandemic her daughter Coroline Sanchez, now eight, only had one year of Head Start. But that

“She loved it,” Samantha says. “She really opened up and learned. She’s doing really

Samantha’s son Damian is now in his second year of Head Start. He has the same teacher family” where teachers, aides and parents unite to protect and nurture children who can leave

How to Speak to Your Teen About Picking a Major in College

By Maureen Mirabella | Grown & Flown

A few years ago at the University of Wisconsin-Madison, one of the school’s deans greeted a group of incoming freshmen with this question: “How many of you know exactly what you want to major in here at Madison?” Hundreds of arms shot confidently into the air.

“OK,” he said. “How many of you have absolutely no idea what to study, let alone be after graduation?” Heads swiveled throughout the crowded room for a few minutes until three intrepid, shaky hands rose.

The dean smiled broadly. “Congratulations,” he said, “You three are right.”

Pressure on teens to know their majors before they get to college is intense - I’ve bustled five very different children off to some fine colleges and universities and have been shocked by how much pressure some of these kids feel to walk onto campus, already knowing their majors.

When Uncle Bob sidles up to them at the graduation party to ask what they plan to study next year, it doesn’t quite trip off the tongue to say, “Oh, I don’t know. I thought I’d just bebop around. Feel the vibe. See what hits me.”

No. They say, “Pre-law, Uncle Bob.”

Most 18-year-olds have no idea what they want to do, and that’s okay - But, if we’re honest, some of this pressure comes from us and our failure to make it clear to our kids that eighteen-year-olds shouldn’t know what they want to do with the rest of their lives. Can you imagine if your high school senior closed his Spotify account because he’d made the definitive playlist for his lifetime? Or if your daughter announced she’d found the hairstyle that would carry her straight through retirement? You’d laugh and point out, quite rightly, that that won’t last.

Eighteen-year-olds and long-term decisions don’t really go together. They haven’t poked around the world enough, checked out the options, and spent sufficient time living in their own skin.

Yet that’s exactly what these kids feel pressure to do as they head off to college. And chances are very good that they will turn to you for guidance. As someone who’s discussed the major question frequently with many kids, I’d like to share a few things I’ve learned that could make these conversations more valuable and meaningful for everyone involved.

1. Punt - Sure, a few majors need to be declared before your child even starts college. Engineering comes to mind. And some universities expect prospective students to apply to a particular “school” from which, they imply, it would be very difficult to transfer later. But most schools don’t require students to declare a major until the spring of sophomore year.

Take advantage of that time! Encourage your child to fill up on core curriculum courses and sample a few other courses that interest them. The last thing you want is for your psychology-loving daughter to discover in the spring of her sophomore year

that it’s chemistry that genuinely sings to her soul.

Suppose the four psych courses she already took don’t transfer to her new major or satisfy another curriculum requirement. In that case, she may be looking at spending an additional semester in college to get the degree she wants…cha-ching.

2. Don’t fall into the trap of thinking that a major is the same as a career - More than half of college graduates don’t ultimately work in their field of study. This doesn’t mean their majors were useless. Quite the contrary. It means they used their chosen disciplines to acquire skills and critical thinking abilities that they could transfer to various real-life applications.

So, don’t freak out if your son announces he’s double majoring in French and Elizabethan poetry. One of my daughters was an English major who worked in a healthcare consulting firm. Another was a philosophy major who was in law school. One of her best friends was an art history major who now manages a baseball team. Life unfolds.

3. Don’t tell your child what to major in -I’ve met far too many downtrodden college students whose parents insist that they major in Computer Science so they can get a job when they graduate. Seriously? Spend four years doing something you don’t especially like so you can . . . spend forty years doing something you don’t especially like?

Your child was smart enough to get into college. They’ll be smart enough to use their education to find a job.

4. But don’t tell them to “follow their passion” either - I mean, the pressure. Most full-grown adults I know don’t have a passion. And truth be told, if my parents had encouraged me to follow my passion, I would have spent much more time with the cute Irish kid from my history class than I would have spent in my history class. It’s much better to encourage your child to explore and follow their interests. Interests are more accessible to identify than passions, and everyone has them. Several of them.

5. Have a thoughtful conversation about meaningful work - It’s easy for college-aged kids — and maybe even us — to equate majors with careers. It’s our job to disabuse them of that notion. Many professional positions our children will hold haven’t been invented yet. Our children invent them.

So I suggest raising our kid’s gaze by having heartfelt conversations with them about work. Meaningful work. Which problems would they like to be part of solving? What role could they see themselves playing in their communities? What types of tasks keep them engaged for hours? What topics quicken their heart?

There’s a gift in not knowing what you want to do. It’s discovering what you want to do. I propose we give our college kids the time and space to do just that.

TEACHER TRIBUTE

Daniela Salas - Lawn Elementary

Name: Daniela Salas

School: Lawn Elementary

Grade: First Grade

Student: Alexandra

Alexandra proudly read her letter in front of a gym filled with the students and teachers of Lawn Elementary. “Ms. Salas is like a friend and a parent all in one. She is the best teacher in the GALAXY!”

Daniela Salas is a second-year teacher at Lawn Elementary. Daniela fell in love with teaching when she was a little girl. Her kindergarten and first grade

teachers made a lasting impression on her. “They made me feel wanted and important. I loved the feeling I got when I finally understood something. I get that same feeling when my students learn something new.”

Inside and outside of the classroom, Daniela is passionate about making a difference. Her hobbies include reading, basketball, traveling, and watching movies. Daniela attributes her success as a teacher to her family, teaching partners, and principal. “I’m truly thankful for them and their guidance they gave me to get me here.”

Congratulations, Daniela Salas, on being our 2023 Teacher Tribute honoree!

don’t just see a customer. I see you.

While other insurance companies just see a customer, I see a neighbor in my community. I’m here to get to know who you really are so I can help life go right.

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HSU Physical Therapy Students Train New Puppy After ‘Graduating’ Greer

By Annabelle Tuggle | BigCountryHomePage

Do you remember the dog who graduated from Hardin-Simmons University’s (HSU) Physical Therapy Program in December?

Well, since Greer’s graduation, a new puppy is roaming HSU’s halls in her place.

Meet Dion. Some HSU students told KTAB/ KRBC her name means protector, and they’re making sure she lives up to that name.

“She’s going to impact their life in such a positive way,” encouraged Dr. Janelle O’Connell, Dean of HSU’s College of Health Professions and Physical Therapy (PT) Department’s professor.

Since Greer’s graduation, she’s going off to professional training with Canine Companions, where the pros will decide where she can best help someone in need.

Deciding to take in another dog for the PT program, one first-year PT student vouched for the move.

“There is an aspect where you question

whether or not you can do this,” student Cameron Matocha explained.

Matocha has been able to get to know Greer since August, including, “Having this whole process to be able to have another dog trained to Greer’s level is going to be quite the experience.”

Students will be assigned a shift to take care of Dion, which entails either bringing her to class with them, or, sometimes, taking her home.

“It’s definitely a full day when you have her, but knowing that you’re training her, and she’s not just there, it does make it a lot easier,” said Weston Hickman, another first-year PT student.

Hickman told KTAB/KRBC this puppy dog face makes it all worth it, and sometimes even helps with his stress.

You just walk out, and there it is,” Hickman shook his head. “You just have to smile.”

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Dr. O’Connell said Dion’s presence is an important part of her students’ education because she was able to see how it helped the class that recently graduated.

“They made a commitment,” Dr. O’Connell insisted. “They fulfilled the commitment and understand the impact a dog can have on someone’s life.”

Even though Greer’s leaving is bittersweet, O’Connell said she knows she will do great things.

“She’ll learn to turn lights on and off, she’ll get out of bed and hold a toothbrush for a quadriplegic so they can brush their teeth,” added Dr. O’Connell.

Dion will be with HSU’s PT department for 14-16 months and will learn about 40 commands.

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Busy Going Nowhere

By Joyce Meyer | Joyce Meyer Ministries

Have you ever felt like you’re spinning your wheels—you’re busy all the time but not accomplishing much of anything? I know what it’s like to get to the end of the day exhausted but not sure what I accomplished even though I was active all day long.

When we feel this way, it’s easy to fall into a frustrating cycle of being extremely busy but failing to actually achieve our goals.

It’s interesting to me that there is no scripture in the Bible where God commands us—or ever even suggests to us—that we should just be busy. But there are scriptures that encourage us to make the most of our time and be “fruitful,” or effective, in the way we live.

God has given us one of the most valuable gifts—the gift of time—and it’s important for us to use it wisely. Because whatever we spend our time on, once it’s spent, we cannot get it back.

When Dave and I were first married, I was not a peaceful, content person, and I would get upset very easily. I remember Dave saying to me one day, “Wouldn’t it be awful if Jesus came back today and you spent the last day of your life on this earth angry?”

It really made me stop and think about how I was wasting my time. And it caused me to seek God’s wisdom and direction for the way I live my daily life.

PARTNER WITH GOD

One of the things that can keep us busy rather than effective is what the Bible refers to as “dead works.” When we get impatient and try to make something happen that only God can make happen, we are producing dead works.

We can see this plainly with Abraham and Sarah in the Bible. They wanted to have a child and God had promised them that they would have a child. But they got tired of waiting and came up with a plan of their own that didn’t work (see Genesis 17).

Many times, we do the exact same thing. When we want to change something, we can find a thousand different ways to try to make it happen. I can remember hearing teachings on the mouth and I would try to control my mouth on my own.

First, I would say too much and then I wouldn’t say anything at all. I finally realized that I couldn’t do it on my own. I needed to get God involved. John 15:5 says, “…Apart from me you can do nothing.” We need to lean on God for help.

CHECK YOUR MOTIVE

Motives are very important to God. Why we do something is even more important than what we do. That’s why it’s so important for us to take the time to stop and ask ourselves why we are doing what we are doing.

Matthew 6:1 (AMP) says, Be [very] careful not to do your good deeds publicly, to be seen by men; otherwise you will have no reward [prepared and awaiting you] with your Father who is in heaven.

In other words, when we do things with a wrong motive, we may get acknowledgement from people. But that is not as satisfying as knowing we’re pleasing God and accomplishing His purpose, which has eternal value.

The bottom line is, if we aren’t doing what God has asked us to do, then we need to rethink whether or not we should be doing it.

IDENTIFY UNPRODUCTIVE AREAS

Another way to be more effective is to take a look at what we’re putting our time into and the results we are getting. God never meant for us to go through life feeling tired, exhausted, run down, and missing opportunities He has placed before us. He wants us to enjoy our life and experience His best every day. We all have 24 hours in the day, and God wants us to make the most of that time. If we really want to do that, we need to learn to live a balanced life. This comes by asking God—and relying on the Holy Spirit—to help us do what we should do, when we need to do it, rather than following our emotions and feelings.

I want to encourage you to start asking God every day, “What can I do for You today?” God loves when we ask for His help, and when we make His priorities our priorities, He will start surprising us with new opportunities to be a blessing to others.

John 15:16 says, …I chose you and appointed you so that you might go and bear fruit….God chose you, and He wants you to live a life that reflects Him.

With God’s help, instead of being stressed out with busyness that gets us nowhere, we can learn how to make the most of our time and live a fruitful life that we truly enjoy.

What is Your Worth?

By Kristie Carpenter | The Blended Family Mom

In our social media world, the ability to not compare ourselves with friends having the perfect hair, the most romantic date, or your kids dressed alike for the perfect picture is almost impossible. I hear things in my head like, “Why can’t I look like that?” or “Wish I was that confident.”

And then, if we aren’t comparing ourselves to the hundreds of people on Facebook and Instagram, we are reading the short, sweet, and concise articles on how to have a better marriage in six steps, or five ways to be a positive parent; and all the other articles that tell us to just do these numbered things and we will be amazing!

So we read the articles, and either we implement these new steps to have everything we have ever wanted, or we look at the list and tell ourselves that we are already pretty much doing all those things – so it must be the other person’s fault.

Oh goodness! I know for me, I come away from the social media scroll with many feelings of “less than.”

SO HOW DO WE STOP THE MADNESS?

Social media seems to be a way of life – the way to stay connected with family and friends, the way to get our encouragement from the gurus we follow, the way to lift us up spiritually by the Scripture posts.

Those can all be great things. But, social media is not all truth.

Social media can’t save you or your marriage.

Social media can’t change your heart or heal your soul.

Social media can’t give you your worth.

So where do you go?

This day, this month, this year – I’m asking you to go to The Bible. We try to find all the things to make life better, to feel better ourselves, and yet we hardly ever seek the book with the answers. This book has been changing lives for lifetimes.

So, as you continue to seek truth, solid foundations, and a life and love that you will never regret, open God’s Word -- find Jesus. It’s His story, both in the Old and New Testament.

You will read of the extravagant love that God had for His people – and how far He was willing to go to let you know your worth – more precious than rubies.

Song of Songs 4:7 says, “You are altogether beautiful, my darling; there is no flaw in you.”

There is no comparison to you. You are one of a kind – an original – a work of art, precious, and perfectly created by the Creator. That is your worth.

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(Editor’s note: Women’s author, speaker and mentor Kristie Carpenter, aka The Blended Family Mom, has been a blended family/step mom since 2004; her blended family currently includes four children and four grandchildren. Follow Kristie on Facebook (facebook.com/ theblendedfamilymom), Twitter (@BlendedFamilyM), and Instagram (theblendedfamilymom). Her books - “The Blended Family Mom,” and “Blended Mom Moments,” are both available on her website at www.theblendedfamilymom.com)

5 Things to Do When Your Marriage Feels Boring

By Mark Merrill | Helping Families Love Well

Remember when you first got married? Everything was new and exciting, and your relationship was full of fun and connection. Conversations just clicked and flowed naturally. Somewhere along the way, life happened and the new became not so new, and the exciting became less exciting. Before you knew it, you felt like you had a boring marriage.

Sadly, feeling bored can lead a marriage down a dark path of arguments, bad decisions, and even divorce. It’s up to you to see the signs, take action, and make things more exciting. Here are 5 things to do when your marriage feels boring.

1. Ask yourself why you feel bored. Don’t go down the route that you’ve married the wrong person. Instead, take time to self-assess and perhaps you’ll see that it’s a season of life you’re going through. From your career to personal aspirations, maybe life hasn’t worked out as you expected. Maybe it’s because your life has become routine and dull. Or maybe you’re not noticing the blessings in front of you. Either way, it’s important not to try to simply fix boredom but to consider the reason behind your feelings.

2. Take responsibility for changing. Now that you’ve assessed the issues around why your marriage has become stale, it might be time to make a change. This can be as simple as getting a babysitter and going out to dinner as a couple, taking a quick day trip in your city, or even taking a weekend getaway. Make it your job to think outside the box, step out of the ordi-

nary, and ensure that your marriage isn’t boring.

3. Consider what you used to do when you weren’t bored.

When you first got married, you probably made eye contact in conversation and focused on one another. Did you have a favorite coffee shop or restaurant you went to all the time? Sometimes, familiarity needs to be revisited. There’s a powerful thing that happens when we walk down memory lane. There are emotions and stories that only you share together. Tapping into those experiences and feelings will not be boring.

4. Be spontaneous.

Break out of the rut of what you do every day. If you normally eat at home, try ordering takeout for dinner and eating it picnic-style at your local park. Or if you usually turn the TV on after dinner, turn on your wedding song instead one night and relive your first dance as a married couple. If you’re bored by the routine, change the routine. And you do that when you decide to be spontaneous.

5. Start a new habit together.

To not have a boring marriage, it might be time to do something exciting together. This could mean going out to lunch together once a week or deciding to make one day a week something special, like Milkshake Monday. It might mean taking a class together related to something you both find interesting. The point is to grow and learn together.

9 Simple but Meaningful Ways to Show Your Spouse Love

By Mark Merrill | Helping Families Love Well

Too many days throughout our marriage, I’ve given my best to others in my work, leaving my leftovers for my wife, Susan—as if everyone else is prime rib and she’s chopped liver. I’m learning to be more aware and intentional to remind her every single day that I love her, not just in big ways, but in small ways that add up.

The simple things in life can be profound. We’ve all heard the saying “it’s the little things that mean the most.” Legendary college basketball coach John Wooden went a step further when he said that “it’s the little details that are vital. Little things make big things happen.” I couldn’t agree more. Here are 9 simple but meaningful ways to show your spouse love.

1. Greet each other every day. Don’t look past the obvious. Every morning is a new opportunity to help your spouse start the day with a loving “good morning” that recognizes his or her dignity and value. (If you miss the chance, send a text message showing that your spouse is on your mind.)

2. Write a note to your spouse. I like leaving notes for Susan in different places, like on our bathroom mirror, so as she’s getting ready for the day, she knows I’m thinking of her. A handwritten note is a brief but meaningful investment in time to communicate how important your spouse is to you.

3. Look for a daily reason to compliment your spouse, directly and to others. Our words can build each other up or tear each other down. I’ve learned a sincere compliment to Susan, or to others about her, is one of the best ways I can show her I love her.

4. Say “I love you” every day, more than once, even when you don’t feel like it. Love is not what we sometimes think it is—just a strong emotion or romantic feeling. When you learn how to show love to your spouse, you learn that love goes beyond feel-

ings, and we need to express it, even when our feelings falter. The words “I love you” aren’t just for wooing or special occasions. Make it an everyday sentence. We can’t say those three words too much.

5. Give your full attention to your spouse. Both Susan and I feel ignored and unimportant when the other is completely engrossed in a screen or activity. Not noticing your spouse is a certain way to push him or her away, even unintentionally.

6. Be a more active listener to your spouse. As hurtful as it is to talk to someone who is clearly ignoring you, it is meaningful to the same degree to talk to someone who is actively listening to you. Being a better listener makes your spouse feel heard—and that makes your spouse feel cherished.

7. Ask your spouse what you can do to help. It is so important not to wait for a request for help but to ask, “How can I help you right now?” or “How can I make your day better?” This one little action can be a game changer to a spouse who feels overwhelmed, who now realizes you’re there and ready to help.

8. Offer a kind, non-sexual touch. We’re wired to need physical contact, and although it can play into your marriage’s sexual relationship, we need other kinds of touch, too. Sometimes, we just need a comforting hand on the shoulder or back. Even something simple like holding hands can carry great meaning (and lots of benefits).

9. Consistently thank your spouse. The two most transformational words in a relationship are often “thank you.” Look for reasons to thank your spouse for what he or she does and says—and for who your spouse is.

All of these steps require and help us to be better students of our spouse. Being more intentional in these small ways can help you learn more about each other, even after many years of marriage.

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Abilene Convention and Visitors Bureau Welcomes New Convention Sales Manager

By David Waller | Communications Director, Abilene Convention & Visitors Bureau

The Abilene Convention and Visitors Bureau (ACVB), an affiliate of the Abilene Chamber of Commerce, is pleased to announce the hiring of Courtney Eden as its newest Convention Sales Manager.

Eden brings more than a decade of sales and hospitality experience to the organization, having served various roles with Hyatt Hotels in catering and event management. Most recently, she served as events manager for ASM Global at the Abilene Convention Center.

Her addition to the ACVB comes at an exciting time for the city, as the much-anticipated Doubletree Hotel & Conference Center is set to open in June 2023.

"Courtney's experience and industry knowledge add instant value to the ACVB, and we are delighted to have her on the team," said Robert Lopez, vice president of the Abilene Convention & Visitors Bureau. "With the development happening downtown and the soon-to-open conference hotel, we wanted to add to the strength of our sales team, and Courtney helps us do that."

Eden is a graduate of Abilene Christian Uni-

versity, where she earned a bachelor's degree in business administration management. She is also a member of the Junior League of Abilene.

Eden commented on her new position, "I am thrilled to have the opportunity to leverage my extensive hotel and event planning experience by joining the accomplished sales team at the ACVB. With so much happening in Abilene, I am excited to showcase our wonderful city to convention planners and help drive tourism to the area."

The Abilene Convention and Visitors Bureau looks forward to working with Eden to promote and drive tourism to Abilene, Texas. According to the State of Texas, Office of the Governor, Economic Development & Tourism, tourism generated $483.5 million to Abilene's economy in 2021 and supports the livelihoods of 3,570 hardworking Abilenians.

If you are a member of an association or organization and would like to bring your meeting to Abilene, please contact the Abilene Convention & Visitors Bureau at 325-676-2556 or email tiffany@abilenevisitors.com.

Hilton Offers Reputation, Amenities to Attract Abilene Residents to Hotel Jobs

By Greg Jaklewicz | Abilene Reporter-News

As Abilene nears the start of 2023, the impact of three construction projects - west, city center and east - are to be considered.

At Five Points Business Park in far west Abilene. a $31.6 million expansion of Primal Pet Food has been underway.

On far east Abilene, Great Lakes Cheese Company nears completion of its $184.5 million, 280,000-squarefoot facility.

And downtown, work continues on a $80 million project for a DoubleTree by Hilton between North Fifth and Sixth streets, across the street from the Abilene Convention Center.

All three landmark projects will add jobs to the city.

This is in addition to the 1,000-acre Lancium clean energy campus northwest of the city, Ground was broken in November for that project, which expects to invest $2.4 billion over the next five years.

DoubleTree general manager John Kukreja in an email

last week said the 200-room facility is due to open in June. In addition to the rooms, it will offer a restaurant, cocktail bar, and a pool and fitness center (complete with Peleton bikes). It will have 17,000 square feet of meeting space, and its ballroom can accommodate 1,000 people, Kukreja said.

As for addressing hiring concerns seen both locally and nationwide, he said Hilton for seven years has been included in Fortune magazine's Best Company to Work For and a Great Place to Work. In 2022, it was ranked No. 2 among companies to work for. Hiring for as many as 120 jobs will begin in April, he said. Job fairs will be scheduled so applicants can learn more about Hilton.

Jobs will be posted at jobs.hilton.com.

"Our aim is to build a fully human experience at work and create a culture that supports our team members in both their personal and professional journey," he said. "We have some incredible benefits available to both hourly and salaried team members, including expanded parental leave, adoption assistance, extended bereavement leave, discounted hotel rates and employee stock purchase plan."

Borden Milk Building Will Become Senior Housing

By KACU

A historic building is about to undergo significant renovations that will give the property new life, and solve a need for Abilene. The Abilene city council approved rezoning to allow for construction of a new residential living space in the historic Borden Milk Building on the west side of the city. The outside will remain the same, but renovations will create new residential space dedicated to senior citizens. The plans also include adding a one story building directly across from the existing building. Rosten Callarmen, Executive Director for Habitat for Humanity in Abilene, says he talked with the developers and felt that this was a great opportunity to provide more affordable housing in the city, “I also did inform them that if they don’t do a good job with this historic property Abilene will not forgive. So, they are aware that they have to do a good job and so I personally as an Abileanian very much support this project.” The redesigned property will feature 36 units of housing as well as community facilities such as a fitness room and computer lab.