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inspiring women

JESSICA HUIE DRINK, EAT AND MEET this summer our restaurant guide


'PRE-NUP' without tying the knot?

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PURPOSE Discovering NORBITON VILLAGE on Coombe Road

IYAF festival turns 10


Tennis by the Thames A private, friendly club for all ages in an idyllic location

At the Kingston Riverside Club we warmly welcome players of all standards and ages. Our newly upgraded facilities include covered, floodlit courts enabling play throughout the year, a modern clubhouse with a bar, showers and changing rooms and a private car park for our members.

We offer two different types of court surfaces: Macadam hard courts for faster play and clay courts which are softer, limiting impact on ankle, knee and hip joints. Why not pop in and see us – the entrance to the club is at the junction of Lower Ham Road and Lower Kings Road in Kingston.

Professional coaching for all levels of tennis players Children’s tennis camps during holidays Social tennis, events & tournaments Call 020 8546 5935 Lower Ham Road, Kingston, Surrey, KT2 5AJ

editor’s letter Dear Darling reader,

Cover: Jessica Huie, photographed at DoubleTree by Hilton, Kingston Photography by Gail Fogarty Makeup by Rakhi Purohit 07951 156 754

Publisher Darling Magazine UK Karine Torr Editor Marja-Leena Toseland All Enquiries 07802 949836 Email kingston@ Contributors Lyndsay Russell, Paul Mendelson, Dr Mariette Jansen

Wasn’t Meghan and Harry’s wedding just the perfect start to our wonderful summer season? Kingston has its own share of colourful festivals and art events, accessible for everyone to enjoy. The Annual Open Studios weekends in June have grown into very respectable art happenings bringing local artists and the public together. Perfect for picking up original art at affordable prices too. The IYAF (International Youth Arts Festival) celebrates its 10th year with over 200 performances of young creative talent, both on stage and behind the scenes, as the festival is run almost entirely by young people. We are thrilled to have Jessica Huie MBE as our Inspiring Woman in this issue. Her story from difficult beginnings to a glittering career truly impressed me. But Jessica isn’t stopping there. She’s on a new path to finding Purpose; also the title of her new book. Supporting local shops and businesses is dear to us. Shopping locally is the only way to ensure they can stay in business. Discover the lovely independent businesses of Coombe Road in ‘Norbiton Village’ in our special feature. We have also listed our favourite eateries for you to enjoy this summer. The world’s most watched tennis championships, Wimbledon Tennis fortnight, is a huge success story. Roger Jones from the Tennis Gallery Wimbledon looks back in our exclusive story and updates us on the strawberries and cream score too. And there is much more to enjoy… Wishing you a lovely summer! Until September…

Marja-Leena Toseland



Gail Fogarty

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CONTENTS 3 Editor's letter 5 Jessica Huie MBE, in pursuit of finding life's purpose 8 Discovering 'Norbiton Village' on Coombe Road 10 NC Supper Club brings you celebrity chefs 12 IYAF comes of age 13 Yum Sa Thai restaurant with an experimential twist 15 On the footsteps of The Rolling Stones and Rod Stewart 19 Where to drink, eat & meet this summer? 18 Time to update your summer wardrobe 21 A sports bra is not just a fashion accessory 22 Turning dreams into reality 23 Are you looking for consistent home care when you need it? 24 Wimbledon tennis Then and Now 26 Calling all art lovers! 27 On the couch with Dr De-Stress 28 Can I have a 'pre-nup' even if I'm not getting married? 31 Schools in the News 32 Champagne, celebrity and cake - a winning combination for fundraising 33 Rose Theatre's 10th year exhibition 36 On the Scene with our editor 41 Kiko Matthews solo trans-Atlantic rower smashes World Record 43 Love local 44 What's On 45 Get ready for Kingston Carnival 45 Paul Mendelson's bridge column 46 Lyndsay Russell's Point of View


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In pursuit of finding 


Zara Woodcock met with Jessica Huie MBE to talk about how fame, financial success and a glitzy career didn’t bring her fulfilment and happiness


essica Huie went from being a teenage mother staying in a hostel to completing a degree in journalism, carving a successful career in PR working with Max Clifford and being a publicist to the stars such as Samuel L Jackson, Kelly Rowland and Meghan Markle. She’s received an MBE from the Queen and has changed lives with her motivational speaking on how to embrace your calling. “I had a little girl who was dependent on me,” Jessica Huie explains to me when asked about how she pushed herself after getting pregnant at 17 and dropping out of high school. “If I didn’t take action, the opposite was mediocrity and I didn’t feel like we belonged in those sets of circumstances.” Her first step becoming an entrepreneur was with Color blind cards. It started a muchneeded conversation around the necessities of ethnic representation in greeting cards, and in retail in general, and how it affects people. Her work earned her invitations to No. 10 Downing Street to meet with the UK Prime Minister as well as earning her an MBE award for services to entrepreneurship.

Photographed at DoubleTree by Hilton by Gail Fogarty Photography. Makeup by Rakhi Purohit.

Jessica currently holds workshops every month at the British Library where she focuses on helping people build their brand. Her book, Purpose, shares stories of her struggles and triumphs.

I understand you created Color blind cards to positively influence your daughter on self-acceptance and importance of diversity. In 2018, how far have we reached in terms of media and diversity and SUMMER 2018


just ethnically but in all sorts of different ways." How did you pick yourself up after getting pregnant at 17 and dropping out of high school? “I had lots of people along the way who recognised something in me and extended a hand in one way or another. I was working as a junior at a hairdresser at that point just before I got pregnant and I dropped out of my A-levels because I just wanted to work and be independent and break free from my family life. This lady said “You’re too intelligent to be working here. Come and work for me!” and all I had to do was show up on the Monday and I did. I showed up and she said answer the phone and she turned out to be the publicist to Mariah Carey and George Michael, that was my first break.” You have this blog post, “9 things I would tell my 10-year-old self” where you mention “life is limitless, be kind to yourself and make a plan and work backwards”, what do you mean by that?

Jessica and daughter Monet at Buckingham Palace

what do people need to do to help those who are not represented? “It was just over 10 years ago when I started Color blind and as you said it was just because I was looking for something for her that didn’t exist and felt really compelled to do something 6

about that. Not just for my daughter, but for all little girls and boys. And 11 years on, we have made loads of progress, and certainly at that time, part of the reason that Colour blind was able to be part of inspiring this conversation around the importance and impact of seeing ourselves represented. Not


“It’s about working on our own terms, it’s about visualising the number of days you want to work, the environment we want to work with, the sorts of people we want to work with because if we serve the customers and clients who will most benefit from what we have to offer then we’ll feel great and fulfilled. We’re in our sweet spot and we’re just happy. It’s about knowing where we want

inspiring woman always said, “I’m a black man and the colour of my skin has never pre-vented me from doing anything.” I used to think, “How is that possible, dad?” because he came here in the 1950’s when signs said, ‘No blacks, No Irish, No Dogs’ and despite hostility and despite rejection, we have a choice on how we respond to it.

to get to and recognising “what are the ingredients that I’m missing” and “what are those assets?” perhaps in partnership or expertise, that I need to go and get in order to get me closer to that vision of where I’m headed.” Do you think your 10-year-old self would understand your advice and know how to get to where you are today? “I think when we are young we are limitless. We have big dreams, I wanted to be a prima ballerina and dance on the stage of the Royal Opera House. But as we get older we have disappointments and rejections and we learn that there are certain expectations of ourselves and we start to move away from that freedom and start to mould ourselves into somebody else’s idea of who we should be and we get to a stage where that makes us unhappy. Our job is to strip back these layers of baggage and limiting ideas about what’s possible for us until we arrive back at that freedom to step into who we really are and make our lives the truest expression of ourselves.” There was a teaser in your new book, Purpose, that said ‘I was still living on the 15th floor of the council tower block amongst many other teen moms and suddenly I was in a lift with Simon Cowell’. How did you feel reaching that point?

We deserve to work in a place where we can bring who we are to the workplace and thrive, and if that doesn’t happen, we have a choice. We can leave and we have a voice.”

I was an intern at that point, it was the start of an adventure. Just getting the internship, as it was competitive, there was already a sense of accomplishment but it was just exciting and it felt like I was taking the first steps in building my life, for myself and my daughter. How different do you think it is finding a job as a black woman versus working as a white woman? “I was raised by parents who taught us that being mixed should never prevent us from doing anything. My dad has

Was there a specific point where you thought to yourself, “I made it”? “The book is about this insatiable quest to be more, that we have when we’re perfectionists or control freaks. You know, that feeling that whatever we achieve there’s still a sense of lack which can’t be solved by anything external: not getting an MBE, not going to Downing Street, it has to come from within and self-acceptance and loving ourselves and knowing that without me doing anything, I’m enough.” Purpose: Find Your Truth and Embrace Your Calling by Jessica Huie is published by Hay House and is out now, priced £12.99. Available online and at Waterstone’s. SUMMER 2018


COOMBE ROAD HIGH STREET Sunninghill’s Best Kept Secrets

Coombe Road Parade of shops is fondly referred to as Norbiton Village by locals and the business owners there. It is one of the few local shopping streets left in Kingston where you find only independent shops

Ataria-Ya Foods A Japanese specialist fishmonger with a wide variety of other Japanese delicatessen and food too and an excellent range of Japanese Sake. Their staff are very knowledgeable and always happy to tell you about ingredients and recipes should you ask them for advice. They also offer a take away service over the telephone or shop counter, you can ask for your Sashimi and Sushi to be prepared to your own specifications too. If you want to try authentic Japanese food you should head for Ataria-Ya. 44 Coombe Road | 020 8547 9891 |

Fish! Kitchen and Jarvis Fishmongers Just like fish!, Tony Allan’s flagship restaurant in London’s Borough Market, fish! Kitchen has the highest quality, responsibly sourced fresh fish, simply cooked and at a fair price. They serve fantastic fish and hand-cut chips and are popular with both lunchtime crowds and evening diners and as a take away from their extensive menu of battered and grilled specialities. Next door to fish! Kitchen lives Jarvis the fishmonger, established over seventy years ago. All of the fish served in the restaurants is selected, bought and prepared by the fishmonger before being delivered fresh each morning. 58 Coombe Road | 020 8546 2886 |

Lucie White & Company Letting agents that treat you, and your investment, differently and do the thinking for you when it comes to managing your properties. Although a small team, their knowledge and experience of the rental market across South West London and Surrey is second to none and their clients value the tailored approach to their individual circumstances. As a result, the majority of their business is generated by personal recommendation. 28 Coombe Road | 020 8549 8064 | 8


and services, many are long established and much loved by us local Norbiton, Coombe and North Kingston residents. Many of the shops attract regular customers from much further a field too. Next time you'll drive past, do take advantage of the 30 minutes free parking, just outside the shops, and find out for yourself. There is a cheese and wine shop, a gift and fashion boutique, a pet store and spa, an independent estate agent, a Japanese food and store, hairdressers, a cafe and a superb fish mongers and fish restaurant.

Sartorial Boutique & Gifts Stocks a unique range of greeting cards, fashion, jewellery and gifts for men, women, children and babies. Many products are sourced from local designers offering something different to what you see in the high street. Justine is also a qualified Fashion Stylist and is happy to give you styling tips when you shop at Sartorial. Enjoy a stress-free shopping experience then watch the world go by whilst sipping your hot drink of choice at their alfresco ‘café. 50 Coombe Road | 020 3759 1445 | |

Wined Up Here Celebrating 10 Years in business, this is a wine and cheese lover’s paradise. They stock a great selection of deliciously pale Provence Rosé for the summer, so do pop in for your special summer wines alongside Beckett’s Gin, Park Brewery Ales and Artisan Cheese & Bread. A great place for gifts too! We offer free local delivery. Nationwide delivery £10.00 Just call Charlotte to place your order. Open Monday to Friday 11am – 7pm Saturday 10am – 6pm 10% discount to 30th June 2018 when you mention Darling Magazine on any purchase @ Wined Up Here. 30 Coombe Road | 0208 549 6622 |

Woofs a Daisy Is a friendly, family run pet supplies shop with dog grooming, cat sitting, day care and more. They stock premium quality foods for your pets such as Nutriment Raw, Benyfit Natural, Akela, Beco, Acana, Eden, Canagan and their own grain free brand. Cat sitting is available in your home while you are away. The Spa offers relaxed, caring, professional grooming and uses 97% natural products, they don't crate and genuinely care about pets. Free Goody Bag for all new grooms, just mention that you read about Woofs a Daisy in Darling. 36 Coombe Road | 020 8549 3469 | Photo of Harley by SUMMER 2018


food and drink

London’s Exclusive Supper Club From page to plate. That’s the simply brilliant idea behind Nesan’s Supper Clubs, now trending in a leafy suburb near you Arup Dasgupta

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Maria Elia

Photo credits: Charlie Burgio Photography Majella O’Connell from Pavlova & Cream

Serving great food from famous chefs and cookbook writers. That’s the unique experience of NC Supper Clubs that’s luring discerning diners back again and again for more. Started in the summer of 2017 by international entrepreneur Nesan Thirunesan, the exclusive NC Supper Clubs is taking over London with an incredible versatile menu from Indian, Mauritian, French, Modern European, Burmese and Sri Lankan fusion cuisine. May and June has already seen a Burmese and Sri Lankan experience with Wincie Wong of Burmese Kitchen and chef Jessica Heath, author of “CeyLove” supported by Executive Chef, Arup Dasgupta. Greek and Modern British cuisine has also been launched and

Supper Clubs will be taking over Clapham and parts of Surrey for even more exclusive cuisine experiences in addition to their events in Richmond, Wimbledon and Lavender Hill. The events so far have been graced with celebrities and high-end clients. As well as the Supper Clubs, Nesan runs an exclusive dining and catering experience with private chefs in South West London, Richmond and Surrey. Spending time between London and Bangalore, Nesan works with the best in celebrity chefs and wellknown cookbook writers to create the dishes served at the events. The chefs are regular demonstrators at food festivals all over the UK including the BBC Good Food Show, Taste of London

and other food festivals. Their clear passion to create dishes with a fusion take on the traditional Indian cuisine and others is why the NC Supper Clubs are taking off and treating guests to incredible food. From Chef Jessica Heath, author of “CeyLove”, Anjula Devi, author of “Spice for Life”, Chef Maria Elia author of “Smashing Plates, Full of Flavour”, Chef Dipna Anand author of “Beyond Brilliant” to Wincie Wong of “Burmese Kitchen”, these are just a few of the top names that Nesan is working with.

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Nesan Thirunesan, Executive Chef Arup Dasgupta and Jason Burrill

Wincie Wong and Celebrity Chef Jessica Heath

Adding to his already incredible menu of chefs, Nesan is also keen to work with his good friends including chefs Rohit Ghai (formerly of Jamavar), Suresh Pillai (Leela Raviz) Daniel P Britten, Anthony Raffo, Dave Pigram and Connor J Lowrey.

A love of food and exploring flavours is all that is needed. NC Supper Clubs also sponsors the monthly “London Kitchen Social” founded by Majella O’ Connell of (Pavlova & Cream) which has been an incredible success story.

The events are targeted at food lovers who want to be part of this exclusive NC KAOS Supper Darlings Clubs Ad Land AW 2018_KAOS ad experience.

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dishes are not available in mainstream restaurants which adds a unique twist to the food we serve and the overall experience” Follow the hashtag #NCSupperClubs and @ nesancreations (Instagram) @ttnesan (Twitter) on social media to find out about the latest events and what’s cooking in the exclusive world created by Nesan.

Kingston Artists Open Studios 09-10 &16-17 June 2018 Open each day from 11am-5pm

Visit artists in their studios and buy affordable art direct. Painting, drawing, printmaking, sculpture, ceramics, glass, photography, digital art, textiles, paper art and mixed media. For further information: search Open Studios Kingston ASC Kingston

Local restaurant guide: WHERE TO EAT, We really are spoilt for choice in our area for places to eat and drink this summer. Here are some of our favourites to whet your appetite

Fratelli Delicatessen Stepping into Fratelli Delicatessen feels like visiting Italy, without leaving North Kingston. A perfect place for a coffee or delicious lunch prepared by the owner, Antonio, who has years of experience as a chef at London’s top Italian restaurants. As well as creating fantastic food, he can suggest the perfect ingredients and give great advice for all your cooking queries. Alongside the variety of food available from the Deli counter and their artisan Italian gelato, Fratelli’s also offers a broad range of wines including some of the finest vintage Italian wine. 10% off for a case of of six bottles - offer valid until 31 July. 57 Park Road, KT2 6DB | 020 85498021 |

Stein’s Stein’s is a wonderfully authentic Bavarian restaurant. Staff dress in traditional dirndl and lederhosen serving German beer in big steins and carry long wooden boards of meat, sausages ...all imported from Bavaria. The atmosphere takes you to an Alpine chalet immediately. Their terraces on two floors overlooking the river are stunning places to enjoy lunch in the sun or watch the sunset in the evening. Open for afternoon coffee and homemade German cakes too. 56 High Street, Kingston KT1 1HN 020 8546 2411 |

Brouge Gastropub Twickenham We are a family friendly, community Bar Restaurant with cosy atmosphere, serving delicious fresh food prepared daily, friendly service and a wide range of Belgian and craft beers, great ales as well delicious wines and cocktails. The restaurant and bar areas are bright, stylish and modern. Signature Dish: Moule frites. Signature Beer: Rochefort10. Enjoy al fresco dining, Sunday roast, freshly cooked dishes, a great selection of drinks & excellent service. We cater for families, parties, celebrations, office meetings & more. 241 Hampton Road, TW2 5NG | 02089772698 | 12


DRINK & MEET THIS SUMMER Roz Ana It has been nearly ten years since Roz Ana opened its doors to delighted diners around the Kingston Hill area. Now regarded as one of the finest Indian dining experiences in the area, it really is the place to find the best in Regional Indian Cuisine. With enticing cocktails, wines carefully selected for their value and perfectly matched with Indian food, it's a great place to meet, relax and celebrate. The younger ones will love the kids menu too! 4-8 Kingston Hill, KT2 7NH | 0208 546 6388 |

Salt and Vinegar A fish restaurant specialising in traditional fish and chip but their grilled fish options on the extensive menu are worth a try. This sleek and stylish restaurant is a welcome addition to New Malden eateries and has claimed its place as fish lovers favourite well beyond New Malden, thanks to their home delivery service. They serve an impressive selection of fish from grilled cod, salmon, white bait and king prawns, to traditional battered fish like calamari, rock, king prawn tempura and cod of course. If you'd rather skip fish and have a sausage or a burger; veggie or beef, you won’t go hungry with their halal options. 171 High Street, New Malden, KT3 4BH | 020 8942 6611

Riverside Walk Discover food with a view at Kingston’s Riverside Walk.

‘Very cool vibe’ and ‘good food, stunning views’. Experience for yourself the mouth-watering cuisine from around the world at the abundance of eateries at Riverside Walk. A great place to relax with friends, family and work colleagues as you enjoy al-fresco food and drink along many of the outdoor seating areas. When next in Kingston, head to Riverside Walk, it will provide the picture perfect venue for your next meet up!

Riverside Walk, Kingston, KT1 1QN |

Al Forno - authentic Italian Pizzeria and Restaurant Al Forno is an Italian owned restaurant, serving genuine fresh cuisine and pizza on the river. We have a lovely conservatory and an outside heated area and were voted 'Best Pizza in Kingston’ by Wine and Dine again 2016 and The Best Family Restaurant in Kingston in 2017. Live music and DJs and we cater for private parties too. Townsend Parade, High St, Kingston, KT1 1LY | 020 8439 7555


IYAF comes of age

International Youth Arts Festival celebrates its tenth anniversary


ingston welcomes young creatives from all corners of the world again this July. We will be entertained with youthful energy, talent, multicultural colour and sound. The festival has a fantastic line-up of inspiring and groundbreaking theatre, music, dance, circus, art and comedy. Running from 6 to 15 July 2018 at venues across Kingston, a packed programme of over 200 performances and events celebrates the best of the last 10 years and showcases the best of new talent. Companies featuring in this year’s IYAF include Hoipolloi with their acclaimed one-man show The Duke, National Youth Music Theatre with their new production Super Hero - The Musical and Chickenshed Youth Theatre with Raft, exploring the refugee crisis. There will also be work from IYAF Creative Talent companies including ‘AndOn Theatre and puppetry specialists Smoking Apples and a special

Losing It free event So You Want to Work in the Arts? curated by a panel of Young Creatives who are helping to shape the future of the Festival. Highlights of the significantly expanded Comedy programme include Trevor Lock, Sarah Callaghan and Willis & Vere, while the Circus, Dance, Music and Visual Art categories are all bursting with young talent. Artists from countries including Turkey, Sweden, the Canary Islands, South Korea and Ghana are among those taking part this year. There really is something for everyone! This year will also introduce a special conference ‘So you want to work in the the arts?’ aimed at young people thinking of a career in the creative industries. The conference is curated by Young Creatives, a group of very inspiring young people who come from different backgrounds with different interests and experience. To view the full programme visit or pick up a copy of the Festival brochure at the Rose Theatre and venues around Kingston.

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Yum Sa

Thai restaurant with an experimential twist


um Sa, which denotes “alchemy” in English, provides a harmonious balance between food, art, culture and wellness. Since opening its doors at the end of last year, Yum Sa has built up a sturdy reputation for innovative Thai cooking that delivers robust flavours, freshness of taste and notable presentation. Yum Sa’s interior is striking with maze-like geometric shapes and a variety of intimate spaces. There is even a meditation room and a gallery displaying wonderful artworks.

Stay at their snug bar area to enjoy wine from an admirable wine list or a very Thai watermelon cocktail accompanied with lighter ‘bites’ or let the staff look after you in the dining area. Clearly defined sections display items with different styles of cooking and textures, bolstered by hearty flavours and exciting combinations.

Yum Sa is at Unit 1, 3 Plaza Gardens, 88 Upper Richmond Road, Putney, SW15 2DT phone: 020 337 19111 web:

Healthy salads, ‘grills’, ‘one pot’ dishes, ‘Yum Sum’ and a lunch menu favourite; Grilled Beef Nam Pla Prik are all wonderful and so are the desserts. Also open for Sunday Brunch (12 noon – 4.30pm).

Yum Sa, 3 Plaza Gardens, 88 Upper Richmond Road, Putney, SW15 2DT phone: 020 337 19111 | email: | web:

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ocal tweens and teens are taking notice of a new and cool addition to Twickenham: Powerjam, a nonprofit “School of Rock &

guest claims, “My son and I had an absolutely brilliant time – to quote him, 'That was the BEST night ever!'” The gigs also give local youth a fun, safe place to see live music and hang out together. With such talented bands, the fact that Powerjam is also a charity

Pop” which is carrying on the long tradition of quality bands and music in the borough that began years ago with greats such as Rod Stewart, The Rolling Stones and Elton John.

may come as a surprise to some. Its volunteers allow Powerjam to keep fees relatively low and also gives free opportunities to disadvantaged musical youths. Anna explains, “I started Powerjam not only because I love music—but mainly because I know first hand that this kind of personalised support and work can change the course of a young life.” Perhaps this is the secret of Powerjam's success.

Volunteer Director, Anna Texier, originally from LA, started Powerjam as a way to keep this age group interested in their instruments by playing music that excites them. Three years later, Powerjam consists of various bands and over 20 members who rehearse weekly in the studios at Heatham House and have a “gig” every term. Anna’s professional music industry background along with her qualified staff provide the structure and training necessary to prepare the young bands for local public stages like the

notorious Eel Pie Club and St. Margaret’s Fair where the bands play popular crowd favourites from all generations and originals. Adults are often surprised at their level of play and young people are inspired to see their peers onstage, sounding like rock and pop stars. Their recent event attracted approximately 400 locals where one guest commented, “If you shut your eyes, you would think they were professional adult bands!”. Another

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Time to update your summer wardrobe I’ve chosen some great, on trend, designer and high street pieces for this feature. You don’t have to just stick to designer brands when updating your wardrobe. 1. When shopping, choose items which compliment your current capsule wardrobe. 2. Think about the colours which you know suit you. If you’re not sure, why not ask me, your local professional Fashion Stylist. I can teach you how to mix colours, which suit your complexion and body type. 3. Your make-up choices and hair colour is also something to think about. 4. When putting an outfit together, use the 2-3 colour rule... i.e. never wear more than 2 or 3 colours in your outfit. Otherwise you’re in danger of looking like a walking rainbow! 5. Choosing the right accessories is key to finishing off your outfit. When shopping, pick new items which can be worn with multiple outfits. If you’re not sure how to apply these tips, book an appointment with me; your free consultation will form part of your styling session. Justine Elton, Sartorial Image Consultant 020 3759 1445

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A sports bra that fits incorrectly can ruin your workout and affect your health, so here are five things you should know when buying one

1. Are you being measured and fitted correctly? Any kind of exercise, particularly high-impact fitness like HIIT or running, places tension on the supporting muscles of your breasts, so it’s important to have a professional fitting. Get measured around the smallest part of your lower bust, where the band sits and then the fullest part of your bust. Go through a letter for each inch of difference and you've found your cup size.

2. When do you have the right fit? The band of your sports bra should sit firmly around your chest at an even level. Your shoulder straps should provide support without leaving marks. You should be able to set the hooks on the loosest setting when you first begin wearing your bra, so you can tighten it as it begins to naturally lose elasticity. When it comes to augmented breasts, it’s important to invest in a supportive sports bra

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WimbledonThen And Now A nostalgic look back at the past 50 years of The Tennis By Richard Jones Imagine if top professional tennis players such as Roger Federer, Andy Murray, Rafa Nadal and Novak Djokovic were not allowed to play at Wimbledon! Unthinkable as it may seem, that’s exactly how it was before the introduction of ‘Open’ Tennis fifty years ago this year. 2018 sees the fiftieth anniversary of the first “Open” Wimbledon Championships when amateur and professional players were able to compete together for the first time. Before 1968, only amateur players were allowed to play at Wimbledon and the world’s other major tournaments such as the Australian, French and US Championships. Many of the top players of the day such as Rod Laver, Ken Rosewall and Lew Hoad were touring professionals, and as such had to play mainly hard-fought exhibition matches in front of sparse crowds in much less glamorous venues around the world.

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In 1968 all that changed. For years pressure had been building in the tennis world to end the distinction between amateur and professional players which was a throwback to the early days of the sport in the nineteenth century, when to be seen as a professional was highly frowned upon by Victorian society. Led by the British Lawn Tennis Association, various attempts were made during the twentieth century to introduce open tennis, but each time this radical proposal failed to gain sufficient support amongst the world’s major tennis nations. By 1967, however, the pressure for change had become an unstoppable force, and in the summer of that year Wimbledon staged an eight-man professional tournament on the Centre Court shortly after The Championships. This was the first time that professionals had ever played on the lawns of SW19, and the tournament was a great success. Afterwards, Wimbledon’s chairman Herman David told winner Rod Laver that he and his fellow-professionals were invited back to play in The Championships the following year.



So, it was that Britain’s unilateral action ushered in the world of professional tennis as we know it today. Laver won the first open Wimbledon tournament in 1968, having previously been champion as an amateur in 1961 and 1962. He won £2000, the first-time prize money had ever been paid at The Championships. Billie Jean King won the Ladies’ Singles, but her prize was just £750. Billie Jean later campaigned successfully for equal pay for women tennis players and remains an iconic figure in the ongoing campaign for women’s equality in all areas of life and all parts of the world.

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a huge worldwide tennis boom, and Wimbledon’s annual profits have risen from just over £37,000 in 1968 to over £35 million today. Much of this surplus comes from TV rights, with Wimbledon now watched on television and online in more than 200 countries around the world. Attendances at Wimbledon have always been high, but improvements in facilities at the All England Club, in particular the opening of the new No.1 Court in 1997, have seen the aggregate attendance increase from 276,270 in 1968 to 473,372 in 2017. In 2009 an all-time record of 511,043 people visited Wimbledon during the fortnight. Queen in 2010



The contrasts between The Championships then and now are quite remarkable. Laver’s £2000 prize cheque back in 1968, a tidy sum at the time, simply does not compare with the £2.2 million Roger Federer and Garbine Muguruza took home as singles champions last year. Also in 2017, Martina Hingis and Jamie Murray received £100,000 for winning the Wimbledon Mixed Doubles title. Back in 1968, the Australian pairing of Margaret Court and Ken Fletcher shared just £450 for winning that event.

In line with other major world-class events, Wimbledon’s spectators are now referred to as “guests.” Guests now consume 110,000 scones, 86,000 ice creams, 76,000 sandwiches, 30,000 pizzas, and 17,000 portions of fish and chips each year. Far and away Wimbledon’s champion food item, however, is the great British strawberry. Wimbledon’s strawberries are picked on the day of sale at a farm in Kent and then rushed to Wimbledon. It is anticipated that around 150,000 bowls of strawberries and cream will be purchased during the thirteen playing days of the 2018 Wimbledon Championships. Back in 1968, Wimbledon had a small kiosk selling tennis magazines, books and photographs of the players. There were no other onsite retail facilities. Today the Wimbledon Lawn Tennis Museum shop and its various satellite outlets around the grounds offer a comprehensive range of branded gifts and souvenirs. In 2017, 46,000 baseball caps, 30,000 towels, 17,000 tee-shirts, and 8,000 umbrellas were sold, all contributing to Wimbledon’s profits, ninety percent of which are paid over to the Lawn Tennis Association for the development of tennis in Great Britain. In half a century, Wimbledon has been transformed from a national treasure to an iconic global event. Who knows what the next fifty years may bring? Photographs kindly supplied by the AELTC

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Calling all ART LOVERS! Kingston artists welcome you to their studios


t’s already that time of year again when Kingston artists and makers open their homes and studios to the public. Over two weekends in June – 9/10th and 16/17th – they will exhibit the work that they have been making over the past year. In these final weeks they are putting the finishing touches to those last pieces and clearing away the paint pots, brushes, clay, paper and fabric to make space for the annual show. And what a show it will be, with over 80 artists in 20 venues, many taking part for the first time. Painting, drawing, ceramics, photography, printmaking, textile art, illustration, fashion design, jewellery design and many more artistic disciplines are all represented at this exciting and intriguing event. This is a perfect opportunity to meet local artists, see their work and discover the passions that inspire them. Visits are free of charge and artists are happy to talk about their creative

process. Works of art are for sale but there is no obligation to buy, the focus is on enjoying your visit. A trail map and catalogue of participants will be widely distributed around local cafés, restaurants and public buildings, but is also available to download from our website. The Young KAOS competition, launched in 2016 as part of our commitment to raise the local profile of the Visual Arts, took place again in April. Students aged 16-19 submitted an imaginative range of work that demonstrated their artistic flare in manipulating a broad range of art materials. The winner was George Birch from Tiffin School, second Freja Khela from Tolworth Girls’ School and third Yena Choi from Tiffin Girls’ School. Many congratulations to you all! They will be exhibiting their winning pieces alongside professional artists during Open Studios.

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An exciting addition to the creative scene is the upcoming ‘Print Kingston with KAOS’ event, kindly sponsored by Pullingers Art Supplies and Eden Walk, taking place on 2 June in Eden Walk. Members of the public are invited Cressida Borrett to draw their faGlorious Mud Ceramics vourite Kingston building and add it to our rolling community artwork that will hopefully tour the Borough over the autumn months. Kingston Artists Open Studios (KAOS) is an unfunded, voluntary group set up and run by local artists to promote the arts in the Kingston borough. For more information or to get involved please visit or email

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Can I have a ‘PRE-NUP’ if we are not getting married and are just living together?

‘Kind of’ – that’s the legal answer from Victoria Walker, a partner at Moore Blatch in Richmond


ou can have a cohabitation agreement prepared instead. This is similar to a pre-nup in that it sets out agreed arrangements between you and your partner including your rights and responsibilities regarding your home and how you will deal 28

Why would you do this?

regarding disagreements between unmarried couples over property, the law is not as flexible as it is for married couples.

Court proceedings are prohibitively expensive and complicated. Unfortunately,

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Therefore, if you are buying a property with someone it’s very important to set out how you own the property and what will happen if the relationship ends and you want the property sold. Such agreements are considered to be good evidence of what you both intended to happen in these circumstances, and if prepared properly the court should take them in to account. It’s also a very good idea to enter in to an agreement if someone is moving in to your property and you want to prevent them from having any claim over it in the future.

What if we are renting a property? A cohabitation agreement is still a useful way of setting out what you have agreed, for example how much rent you’ll each pay and who is responsible for paying what utilities.

It is important to set out how you own/rent the property and what will happen if the relationship ends

Would it work for flat mates?

What else can a cohabitation agreement cover?

Are there any problems with cohabitation agreements?

hard to save and achieve. Also, if your parents or other family members have lent or gifted you money, you will want to keep that safe too.

A cohabitation agreement can also cover agreements about personal belongings for example cars, antiques, valuables or inherited items with sentimental value. Should you split up, the court has no power to order maintenance payments for either individual unless there are children and only then in limited circumstances. If you want to make provision for your partner in case of a separation, then a cohabitation agreement is the best way by which this can be arranged. This can be particularly important where there are children.

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gether but if that’s not possible you can do it afterwards.

Yes absolutely, this is not limited to couples.

They aren’t guaranteed to be upheld by the court. However, currently the general view is that, if prepared properly, they are taken in to account. They are considered to be contracts and are subject to those rules.

How much do they cost? £1,500 - £2,000 is a good guide though it does depend on how simple or complex the issues are and how many issues you have agreed with your partner.

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Barry Evans co-founder of Drug Education Uk gives us the highs and lows It’s been 4 years since Bob Tait of ‘Trust The Process’ Harley St, Education Services submitted an article to Darling informing Parents, on what was then worryingly trending as social recreational drug use/misuse and the need to communicate the very concerning issues connected to NPS (Novel Psychoactive Substances) aka Legal Highs et al. That term ‘misuse’ is often misunderstood by those who at that time were experimenting with chemicals that had not been fully researched and/or tested to standards labelled ‘NOT FOR HUMAN CONSUMPTION’, where the term ‘legal’ subconsciously creates ignorance to every warning signs when considering the use of such chemicals. Early in 2016 a BBC documentary (The Last Days of Legal Highs) identified a particular chemist who, in 2009, created the very chemicals that were fatally wounding our population, across a variety of age groups. His primary testing methodology was to try them on himself, before unleashing his chemicals to a global network of lawful suppliers. A direct relationship to these ‘research chemicals’ and other substances was cause or coincidental to an increase in mental health issues amongst our young people. The overall governmental ‘control measure’ was to produce a new piece of drug legislation called the ‘Psychoactive Substances Act 2016’ – a law intended to restrict the production, sale and supply of “legal highs”; having the intention

to shut down the retailers of legal highs with immediate effect from 26th May 2016. As to its own legislative effect, we may have to wait perhaps at least another 4 years or more, as ‘Spice’ (synthetic cannabis) is still rife in not just our prisons but problematic in larger cities like Birmingham and Manchester. The good news is they are not as frequently available, however, there will always be a stock pile to use and be swept up from the dealer stockists on the dark web or black market. Vaping JULES and taking certain medicines with alcohol have taken on current trend at parties - JUULING being the latest youth trend. Other drug related legislation has seen drivers affected by a new Section 5A of the Road Traffic Act 1988, where a saliva type test for illegal and medicinal substances has been implemented. Bob still educates on the concerns about substance misuse, to pupils, parents and staff in schools across the UK. He and I, the co-founder of DRUG EDUCATION UK, continue to deliver a programme of information that engages young people to make informed choices that are designed to protect them and those around them. Drug Education is NOT compulsory in school – FACT! Some people believe that ‘prevention is better than cure’, but in an age where people take risks above and beyond what anyone would ever have perceived we would or could do; at a time when we have more treatment available for substance misuse than ever before – then

it’s not just parents, pupils and staff who need continually updating and educating on drugs, drug trends and how to support their children, family and their community. This type of educational exchange shouldn’t stop at school – Industry is very well placed to educate its personnel to good effect – it has the ability to improve performance, productivity and re-motivate people to better effect. Take Cannabis for example: Although they say “… ignorance is no defence!” sadly it is! Although a very weak one, nevertheless a defence. As frequently I am asked – which is the worst drug? Or cannabis is far safer than alcohol! DISCUSS – questions and statements that give me a superb foundation from which to work MOOD* on a person’s denial of problematic use or unreasonable comparisons. How do we compare a drug that is smoked, to one that is drunk, one that delivers carbon monoxide on every draw of your breath, to that which we can naturally ingest with very little negative effect, if we drink to guidelines and understand how it works. [*Motivating Out Of Denial is a flexible tool for working on a person’s ability to accept truths related to potential drug user scenarios previously denied]. If you wish to discuss anything mentioned in this article please call Barry on 07778643209 or Bob on 07852333667. Or email: or


Champagne, celebrity and cake a winning combination for fundraising

By Alison Ewbank

Hilary Paxman, Felicity Montagu, Rachael Coleman and Jo Scott


urbiton Farmers’ Market shoppers put their hands in their pockets for Momentum Children’s Cancer Charity at the 100th Farmers’ Market Surbiton Farmers’ Market marked its 100th market on Saturday 21 April by raising £1,276 for Momentum Children’s Charity. Funds raised will go towards the charity's hospital improvement programme including refurbishments in the Sunshine and Dolphin Children’s Wards at Kingston Hospital’ Momentum Patron and comedy actress Felicity Montagu – the much put-upon Lynn in TV’s

Richard Sealtiel and Felicity Montagu


I’m Alan Partridge – cut a cake to mark the occasion and helped draw the prizes in the market’s Anniversary Raffle. Stallholders and charities joined the volunteers who run the market to raise a glass of bubbly at a special reception at Maple Road’s Gordon Bennett Bar + Kitchen. Since the market first appeared on Maple Road in 2009 it has helped raise more than £60,000 for local charities, and won eight local and national awards including the prestigious FARMA Farmers' Market of the Year. Along with Gordon Bennett owner Richard Sealtiel – one of the founders of the market – Felicity unveiled a plaque on Maple Road to mark the 100th market. ‘The success of the monthly market has come about as a result of the initiative being truly run by the community, for the community,’


commented Richard. ‘Residents get to enjoy top-class produce right on their doorstop every month. But the benefits run so much deeper than that, from providing a point of cohesion in our community, to bringing the businesses closer together on Maple Road, and inspiring other initiatives locally and further afield. ‘I feel extremely proud that the Farmers’ Market has sustained itself and rolled out a welcome 100 times, come rain, snow or shine,’ he said. Surbiton Farmers’ Market is a community interest company run by volunteers. Visit surbitonfarmersmarket., join Facebook at Surbiton Farmers’ Market and follow Twitter @SurbitonFM and Instagram @surbitonfarmersmarket for details. Momentum is the local charity supporting children with cancer or life-limiting conditions, and their families, in south west London and Surrey. Visit


Celebrating the tenth anniversary of

Rose Theatre

Darling’s Zara Woodcook visited the anniversary exhibition and found out and what the summer promises to bring


pening its doors back in 2008, Rose Theatre in Kingston has welcomed some of the most incredible performances.

This year, the theatre celebrated its 10 year anniversary with an exhibition showcasing the sets and costumes worn by many critically acclaimed performers that most of us have, at one point, excitedly waited to see. The free exhibition, held between the end of March to the end of April, included Dame Judi Dench’s costume from when she played as Titiana in A Midsummer Night’s Dream. For you theatre lovers out there, this was not something to miss. But if you did, hope you had a chance to see the revival of Shakespeare's Much Ado About Nothing, starring TV presenter Mel Giedroyc and Poldark’s very own John Hopkins in May instead.

Worn by Dame Judy Dench as Titania in A Midsummer Night’s Dream. Costume by Elizabeth Bury

The summer show, on the other hand, is set to being on September 13, so be ready to purchase your tickets. Hogarth’s Process, a double bill celebrating the life of William Hogarth is filled with sleazy characters everyone will learn to love. Covering two floors, props and set designs could be found scattered around, including the grand throne from the trilogy of The War of the Roses, which starred the one and only Robert Sheehan as well as Joely Richardson, best known from The Tudors. The trilogy begins in 1422 with Henry VI, played by Alex Waldmann, when an infant king takes England's crown against the powerful and intense Edward IV (part 2), and finally ending with the emergence of political tyrant in Richard III. Over the years, the Rose Theatre has brought many world-famous

Queen of Hearts costume in Alison in Winterland

The throne from The Wars of The Roses

stars to Kingston; John Malkovich masterfully directed the Good Canary and Joely Richardson played Margaret in memorable performances and staged questions times with the likes of Jennifer Saunders. Although small, the exhibition was a great way to have a look into the life of performing arts and the hard work put into it. Here’s to another 10 years of the Rose Theatre growing and bringing world class theatre to Kingston.

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Lyndsay Russell, our columnist, Kathy Lette and our editor

personal journey

Kiko Matthews solo trans-Atlantic rower smashes World Record “I didn’t get scared by the adverse conditions, I just got on with things. What can you do about it? You have no choice but to carry on, like in life. It was temporary relentlessness.” The tumour on her pituitary gland caused severe memory loss, psychosis, diabetes, osteoporosis, insomnia and muscle wastage. Briton Kiko Matthews, 36, celebrates arriving in Barbados having smashed the World Record as the fastest woman to complete a solo trans-Atlantic row in 50 days. Photo by Anthony Ball


ecently, Wimbledon resident, Kiko Matthews, 36, arrived in Port St.Charles, Barbados late one evening in spring, smashing the World Record as the fastest woman to complete a solo trans-Atlantic row. Kiko, finished the 3000 mile journey, from Gran Canaria, single-handed and unsupported in 49 days, breaking the previous record of 56 days. Having only learnt to row last year Kiko, rowed the Atlantic alone in 21-foot long Soma of Essex for up to 16 hours a day for seven weeks, slept in twohour shifts, dealt with 70 foot waves, sharks, hand and feet blisters and the least prevailing winds. She was her own doctor, mechanic, skipper, friend and worst enemy in one of the toughest physical and mental challenges known to man. Only five women have previously completed the journey solo.

Arriving to scenes of jubilation, with crowds lining the coast line and yachts sounding their horns, the Union Jack toting Brit rowed in after what she described as one of the hardest days of rowing in the last two months. Kiko was met by her family – mother Genevieve Matthews, father Paddy Matthews, brother Robin Matthews and nephew Louis Matthews – and was noticeably relaxed, calm and full of energy. Kiko says;” The thought that eight months ago I was lying in hospital having my brain operated on and now I am here having rowed the Atlantic, I guess I am a bit proud. I have shown that anyone can attempt anything given the right attitude, belief, and support,” she says. “I want to use my story to inspire women to challenge themselves.” If I did ever get down I thought of the people willing me on, I wanted to do it for them. The stories they sent me supported me incredibly. By the last two

weeks I was just totally content and at peace, I didn’t even listen to music.” In completing the challenge, Kiko has so far raised over £90,000, of her target of £100,000, for King’s College Hospital Intensive Care Unit who twice removed a brain tumour from her. In 2009, Kiko, was diagnosed with Cushing’s disease, a rare condition that made even walking up stairs impossible. The second was removed in August 2017 whilst she was in training for the Atlantic crossing. On land she has been virtually powered by a team of women, through her 100TogetHER initiative. The collaboration of women from all walks of life, have come together to support Kiko financially and with skills highlighting what can be achieved through community, challenge and collaboration and it’s their names which adorn the boat. Part of 100TogetHER is Britain’s most successful female Olympian, Katherine Grainger and Tracy Edwards - who skippered the first all-female crew in the Whitbread Round the World Yacht Race. She was also coached by Guin Batten, the 2000 Olympics silver medalist. Part of her fitness training was also sponsored by the Louise Whelan and the wonderful trainers at Fit8 in Wimbledon. For more stories go to, SUMMER 2018


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West led K♥, Q♥ and a low heart to East’s A♥, which South trumped. When declarer played off ♠AK, she sighed deeply when East showed out. This meant that she had a trump loser and now she felt that she would have to rely on the diamond finesse. She cashed K♦ and led 7♦ from dummy. When East played low, South put on J♦ and this lost to West’s Q♦. One down.

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The bad trump split is a blow, but there is a silver lining: declarer knows that West must win Q♠. Before conceding this trick, South should set up an unpleasant situation for West. She cashes three rounds of clubs (it doesn’t matter if West could trump the final round), and then she plays another trump. West wins Q♠, but now look at her choices: if West leads a heart, declarer can trump in dummy and throw away a diamond from hand; if West could lead a club, the same ruff/discard occurs. So, West will lead a diamond. Declarer runs this to her J♦, and the contract is made.

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Harnessing FEAR


hen I was a kid, I used to love craggy beaches, pretending to be a nimble goat, leaping effortlessly from ledge to ledge. So when a climbing instructor mate of mine offered to take me to White Spider’s indoor walls, I thought it would be fun, and a challenge. Truthfully, I arrived feeling very edgy. But as soon as I entered the cavernous halls and saw the wall ahead, my step brightened and shoulders relaxed.

“Err… Lynds, that’s the kiddies wall,” sighed Andy. ‘We’re going to start over here”. “No way!” I gasped. Ahead loomed The Wall of Death. (Well, a wall three stories high). “Can I just go up a few feet?” “Nope”, insisted Andy. “You’re going right to the top, then I want you to lean back out, feet flat against the wall, and walk down.” Surely he was joking. I was a total novice. He wasn’t. After strapping me into a harness and rope system and tying a figure of eight that would have impressed Jack Sparrow, he told me to “Try and pick the blues, it’s the easiest climb”. The walls are dotted with different coloured rocks jutting out creating routes. Easy ones give you a deep grip and foothold. The hardest, and you cling with anything you can… in my case, breasts, nails and tongue. With all colours scattered over the walls, a novice can be climbing alongside a professional on the same rock face. A good thing, really. When I finally crawled to the very top an experienced woman next to me helped me over the next terrifying hurdle. “Lean back and just hold the rope. Trust… you’ll be safe.” She held the small of my back as I gulped in fear. Letting go is the hardest thing. Total trust the ropes won’t break, and that your partner on the ground is ready to take the slack should you fall. (Health and Safety Tip: Don’t climb with ex lovers). Grimacing, I made it down. “Now up this,” ordered Andy directing me to a corner and instructing me to place a foot on each face of it! Insane. He was beginning to drive me up the wall. Nonetheless, with each varied ascent, I felt my confidence and imagination grow. By the last climb, I was proud to be the first goat to conquer Everest. Package of 10 day passes £94.50 Beginner’s Course Six hours from £55



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Darling Magazine - Kingston Summer 2018  

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Darling Magazine - Kingston Summer 2018  

living in kingston, surbiton and teddington