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CHRISTINA LAMB on Malala and the human side of war
#100years and still fighting celebrating our heroines
May Ball is turning silver
25 years of glamour on the Green
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Welcome to our bumper spring edition! With fresh shoots all around inspiring us to experience new things..and new spring fashion of course. Research reveals that travel is good for us so why not pack your bags for a weekend break? Our stylist, Justine Elton, has chosen outfits that will take you from sightseeing to cocktails, in style. But if high street shopping is letting you down, see what the-Bias-Cut.com can do to boost your confidence with clothes that are becoming on us more mature women. Christina Lamb, author and the chief foreign correspondent for The Sunday Times, travels to war zones instead. She uncovers human stories behind the horrific conditions the locals are having to survive in. She’s the chosen author of Malala’s story too. We are scratching the surface in our Inspiring Woman interview of the many amazing stories Christina has to tell. The 100-year anniversary of the vote for women is a great reminder for us to carry on fighting for equality. We celebrate heroines from the past, including Dame Ethel Smyth from Surrey, and also women of today who are leading the many movements spreading everywhere with the help of social media.
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We are also taking you behind the facades of the businesses on Friars Stile Road in our high street feature, hoping that you will be reminded how wonderful these local businesses are and will continue supporting them. It’s key to the survival of our local high streets.
Contributors Lyndsay Russell, Paul Mendelson, Dr Mariette Jansen
And before I sign off, a reminder of Mother’s Day on Sunday 11 March. Why not treat your mum with a workshop day of jewellery making with Shelley Thomas or picture framing with Sue Harper. Or you could just treat yourself.
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Christina Lamb - on Malala and the human side of war Richmond May Ball - 25 years of glamour on the Green Friars Stile Road - 'Richmond Hill Village' Shelley Thomas - up-cycling your silver and gold Style is every woman's right, what ever her age What to pack for a weekend getaway - style edit The Really Helpful Club Dealing with sexual harassment at work On the Couch with Dr De-Stress #100years and still fighting One woman's fight to save Twickenham Film Studios Feel like dining in Bangkok, Mykonos, Milan or Mumbai tonight? Best of the Best - ahead of the EuroHockey Cup in Surbiton What's in the Frame? Schools in the News Did you take a two week holiday last year? Teddington Theatre Club Hampton Court Palace Festival TV auctioneer Charles Hanson moves to our manor Unleash the eco-warrior in you On the Scene with the editor Looking for a home with Care? - Moving in the golden years What's On Paul Mendelson's bridge column Lyndsay Russell's Point of View Beautifully Bespoke Pieces from the Painted Furniture Company
In the land of WARS and WOMEN Christina Lamb writes from the world’s most dangerous countries. Yet, her stories are a testament to the power of life.
I need to get my family to your country, can you support me?” the text on the screen reads.
“This is a man whose father was the last man hanged by the Taliban in Kandahar,” Christina Lamb says as she shows me some of the messages she receives regularly from her sources. “Sometimes it’s hard to get away from the stories you tell.” As the Chief Foreign Correspondent for The Sunday Times, Christina has been covering the world’s most dangerous places for almost three decades – Afghanistan, Pakistan, Zimbabwe, to name a few. Amidst the horror and brutality of war, her stories often speak about life and resilience: she co-wrote the bestselling I Am Malala, the memoir of Malala Yousazfai, the young Pakistani girl shot by the Taliban for going to school, and The Girl from Aleppo, the inspiring story of Nujeen Mustafa, a Syrian refugee affected by cerebral palsy. Women are often at the heart of her narrative: over the years, Christina has visited the Yazidi sex slaves from Iraq and the girls abducted by Boko Haram in Nigeria. Her work has earned her 14 major awards including being named five times as The Foreign Correspondent of the Year. Christina is currently working 4
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on a new book exploring war rape through women’s eyes which will be out in 2019. You’ve been covering wars for many years. “Covering war is quite addictive: people are living on the edge, a situation where you don’t know if you’re going to come back alive at the end of each day. Sometimes it can be hard to adjust to normal life after that. When you’re in those kinds of situations, it makes you think hard about your priorities. The job itself has changed a lot over the years: journalists were once respected as “impartial observers.” But now we are targets, and that has made the task much more dangerous.” Indeed, you came under fire from the Taliban in 2006 when you were embedded with British forces in Helmand Province, Afghanistan. “When I was ambushed by the Taliban, I just thought “I have to stay alive.” Last thing I wanted to do was to die in that muddy field. It’s a kind of survival instinct that kicks in and you find that you are able to do a lot more than you think. It was July, we had no water. We were running through the field, being shot at and completely surrounded by Taliban. Bullets were landing all around us, so close that you could feel your hair lift. The sergeant-major asked me if I could use a pistol and said, “We are going to be pinned down and will have to fight for our lives.” You co-wrote Nobel Peace Prize winner Malala
Yousafzai's memoir 'I am Malala'. How did this collaboration come to be? “I had interviewed Malala's father a couple of years before the terrible shooting by the Taliban. He was then a prominent figure in his local community, an activist and a headmaster. When Malala was recovering from her injuries in Birmingham, where her family had been able to join her, her father contacted me, asking me to write Malala's story. It wasn't until I got to the house that I realised who Mr
Yousafzai was, as their family name is a common name in Pakistan.” You also wrote a play, 'Drones, Baby, Drones'. Why did you decide to use theatre as a storytelling vehicle? “I think it’s really interesting to use different techniques to make people think about issues. Journalism is changing: we still haven’t worked out how young people get news in a very different way than we did in the past. And the onus
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to. The person deciding where I go or what goes on the page has always been a man. I think men and women look at things very differently, so I would like to have more balance and I find it sad that it isn’t the situation.”
is on us to find new ways and new media to tell stories. I want people to care about foreign issues and it is really hard sometimes because these places are far away, wars go on for years and people just gloss over when you talk about them.”
You said that what you prefer covering isn’t the “bang bang” of the war, but human interest stories. Women are usually the “leading characters” in your features. “People talk about, 'Oh, it’s dangerous to be a war correspondent' but most wars go on for years and millions in those countries get on with their lives everyday despite war going on. In Syria, people are getting
You are an advocate for women’s rights. Gender equality is an issue in British journalism and women are often paid less than men. “I’m frustrated about the situation in print in this country. There’s only one female editor at a quality newspaper, The Guardian’s Katharine Viner, and there are few women in the top positions. I’ve never had a female boss and I don’t think that’s right. We have a female deputy editor but I 've never had a female line manager, the person that I speak to everyday about what I write or who I send stories 6
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married, having babies, going to work. I personally find the issue of how people keep going much more interesting, how you live when your country is at war and how you keep educating, protecting and feeding your children. And it’s mostly the women who do that.” Middle Eastern women have also found new forms of resistance against the status quo. “In lots of places women may not be on the front lines but they’re doing all sorts of important things. It’s fascinating how women in Iran are taking off their hijabs and putting them on sticks. That’s very brave. Resistance to me doesn’t have to be through guns, but it can be in many ways. Malala is a great example of that. She said, “One child, one teacher, one book, one pen can change the world.” And I think she’s right. We often think, “I can’t do anything, I’m just one person,” but these people show us that we can.”
Christina Lamb: “With my mum, Malala and her mum”
RICHMOND MAY BALL 25 years of glamour on the Green
Darling editor Marja-Leena caught up with chairman, Bob Harris, and Vivien Harris, committee member, to hear what’s in store for this year’s silver anniversary May Ball
he genius idea of making use of the marquee, that is erected on Richmond Green every year for the May Fair, came to a couple of local residents 25 years ago. Bob Harris was one of them. This year’s May Ball is held on Friday 11 of May and the 49th consecutive May Fair on Saturday. There will also be a book picnic on Sunday. The May Ball has grown from a small occasional event that raised £2000 in its first year for the Star and Garter Home to a prestigious event for nearly 500 people in a huge marquee and attracts local celebrities and residents who are entertained by a live band, casino, photo booth, carousel and hopefully a bucking bronco(!) plus an auction with unusual and exclusive prizes. Lord and Lady Attenborough were the unofficial patrons of the Ball for many years. This occasional event has since become an important annual charity fundraiser in the Richmond calendar and the marquee has grown in both size and elegance. Over the years the Ball has raised over £1million for more than 15 local charities. Each year two local charities are chosen as beneficiaries, on this silver anniversary there are three lucky charities, who also work tirelessly with the committee helping to ensure the Ball is a success. Momentum children’s cancer charity is one of this year’s beneficiary charities, together with My Life Films and Home Start.
Momentum Children’s Charity co-founder Bianca Effemey said: “We are so delighted to have been chosen to benefit from the Richmond May Ball this year. The funds raised will benefit so many sick children and their families who live in the Richmond area and we are enjoying working with the Ball Committee to make this year’s event the best ever!.”
Celebrity guests Sara Stewart and Samantha Bond at last year's May Ball
Erick Kervaon, Chair of Be Richmond, the ‘brand persona’ of the Richmond Business Improvement District (BID), and General Manager at The Bingham says; “Be Richmond is delighted to sponsor the 2018 Richmond May Fair, including support for the Richmond May Ball. The May Ball is renowned as a spectacular event in the Richmond social calendar, which launches a whole weekend of fun for the local community.” richmondmayball.com
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FRIARS STILE ROAD The ‘go-to place’ for shopping, coffee and lunch for Richmond Hill locals Next time you are passing the parade of shops, cafés and restaurants on Friars Stile Road, or slowing down for the Vineyard School pupils in their cute uniforms, stop and look around! You’ll discover a wonderful collection of shops, showrooms, cafés, pubs and services. Most businesses here have been operating for years and are loved by the locals but they know how to make new visitors feel welcome and part of the Richmond Hill community too. Mr Mullan's General Store specialises in sourcing your favourite products not found on the high street. We are excited to announce our first art gallery evening on Thursday 8th March showcasing work by Jason Revell. Jason Revell is a London based artist who works within the media of painting and digital imagery. The paintings on show at the Richmond Atelier are portraits of imaginary figures taken from a recent series of oil on canvas. The works are inspired by the representation of patrons and sponsors within Renaissance art. Also on show are works from an ongoing series of “Nevermades”. Each piece is a digitally created one-off print of an imagined object. 4 Friars Stile Road | mrmullans.com | 0208 549 3227
Chestertons Richmond is one of 33 Chestertons offices in London and has been at the heart of the Friars Stile Road community for the past two years. We are proudly involved with the Vineyard School and Vineyard Community Centre, supporting and getting involved in events throughout the year including sponsoring the ‘Wild About Richmond & Kew’ book. We help you buy, sell, let or rent, and work with you throughout the whole process, whatever your needs. For an experienced team, passionate about the local community, contact Chestertons today. 23a Friars Stile Road | chestertons.com | 020 3758 3222
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Described by our dedicated customers as the 'Heart of Richmond Hill', we pride ourselves in producing 'baked in house' produce and artisan coffees and teas on a daily basis. We are currently working on more vegan options- why not check us out! Our top sellers include delicious patisseries, fantastic focaccia toasties, BLT’s and yummy chocolate brownies…to name a few. We exhibit a range of local artists works on a rotation basis, support local charities & hold private events. *10% offer Darling readers. We look forward to welcoming you and your dog! 54 Friars Stile Road | facebook.com/RichmondHillBakery | 020 8940 1088
Walk into the family-run, redesigned and extended Curtain Call, to find one of the widest range of affordable curtains and blinds available. Nearly new curtains are priced at approximately half their new cost and are a great affordable way to finish off a room. Luxurious fabrics can be handmade to order into curtains or blinds, and nestle alongside all types of Luxaflex made to measure blinds on show in the new studio, including the latest motorised blinds. 52 Friars Stile Road | curtain-call.co.uk | 020 8332 6250
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Rachel, the owner and senior therapist of SKIN lounge has over 17 years industry experience, all of which were gained here in Richmond. Rachel and her friendly team have great passion and enthusiasm for the beauty and skin industry, believing that everyone can have great skin without going under the knife. Using the very latest technologies and result driven skincare products, their professional beauty experts offer a full range of beauty treatments 7 days a week! 40 Friars Stile Road | skinlounge.co.uk | 02079987805 / 07769334796
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Are specialists in supplying, fitting and restoring wooden flooring. With over 22 years of experience in creating beautiful floors that complete the room. Our showroom at the top of Richmond Hill offers a comprehensive range of leading manufacturer samples for you to view, to help with making that all important decision. We also stock restoration materials and flooring accessories. Our friendly staff are always on hand to help with any queries you may have. We have a vast range of stock that is available for prompt delivery. 46a Friars Stile Road | theultimateflooring.com 020 8948 5611 / 07786 545 786
We are reducing food waste by donating our surplus food that is fit for human consumption. ‘Back-of store’ collection has been set up to help those in need in our area. Sainsbury’s also partners with local and national charities and runs selected programmes across all our stores to help make a positive difference in our communities. Active Kids voucher scheme, launched in 2005, is all about helping kids to eat, move and live well. It’s open to all schools as well as Scouts, Girlguiding groups and sports clubs in the UK. 42/44 Friars Stile Road | 0208 258 5610 | stores.sainsburys.co.uk
The Vineyard School
Hidden away behind imposing gate posts, in extensive and beautiful grounds, The Vineyard benefits from an unusually secluded and rural environment. It provides a safe and tranquil setting for primary school children – a breath of fresh air in a busy world. The school declares, having talked to parents past and present, three factors that are consistently considered the most important facets of life at The Vineyard: care, challenge and creativity. They are passionate about meeting every child’s needs, ensuring their happiness and making the most of their individual talents. vineyard.richmond.sch.uk
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etals are my thing; I have worked with them for more than 30 years now and for most of that time I was the blacksmith at London Museum of Water & Steam. Nowadays, I forge only gold and silver; I am still based at the museum which is located just a stone’s throw from where I was born in Kew 65 years ago. My use of gold and silver is quite raw and forceful, informed by all those years working heavy iron. Translucent facetted stones play a large part in my work; I love to balance the crisp delicacy of the facets with the roughness of my metals. I source my stones in many places; the beaches in Goa, flea markets in New Mexico and our own wonderful Hatton Garden. Ancient metal work influences me; my work has an excavated, medieval feel to it. It is important that pieces grow and change during the making; intuition is my preferred design partner. Alongside my bespoke work I run ‘Make a Piece of Silver Jewellery in a Day’ workshops. Originally started for couples to make their own wedding bands I have now opened the door for anyone who would like a jewel-
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lery experience day; I still only take 2 people at a time which makes for an intense and exciting day. A few weeks ago, I had two 40 something siblings bring all their late mother’s jewellery in and we spent the day ‘upcycling’ and they went home smiling with jewellery that they want to wear. These days are often full of laughter, tears and goosebumps. Christina came to me with a lovely commission; three of her grandmother’s rings and a gold navel stud…. (third image from top) was the result of my upcycling; I retained the little gold 3 diamond ring ‘cos I couldn’t bear to cut it up as it was so beautiful. I am a people person and I need to balance the solitude of making time with the fun, bustle of teaching days. Commissions: Much of my work is commissioned, please feel free to get in touch if there is something you would like me to make. London Museum of Water and Steam Green Dragon Lane Brentford Middlesex TW92PE email@example.com shelleythomas.co.uk Instagram: shelleythomasjeweller
Style is every woman’s right - whatever her age
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stream of allegations against high profile individuals and organisations has meant the issue of sexual harassment in the workplace frequently makes headline news. A 2016 survey by the TUC found that over 50% of women, and 63% of young women have experienced sexual harassment. It is therefore fair to assume that more than half those reading this article have been on the receiving end of some form of harassment. This issue doesn’t only affect Hollywood or Westminster - it is, and has been, a very real issue for women working in smaller businesses as well. It doesn’t matter if the perpetrator is Weinstein or the director of a small firm, the allegations of sexual harassment should be treated equally seriously. The benefit of the publicity surrounding this issue is that all
employers, both large and small, have had constant reminders that sexual harassment is not tolerated. Just because smaller businesses may not have HR departments, or a clearly outlined grievance procedure doesn’t mean you don’t have the right to raise a grievance. Employers have a duty to provide a working environment that is free from harassment. The Equality Act prohibits sexual harassment, and as such any employer should take any allegation of harassment very seriously. If you think you have been a victim of sexual harassment, the first step is to raise this with your manager. Follow up any relevant conversations with an email and note when complaints were made and what was said. In addition, it’s worth keeping a record of the harassment itself, recording what
occurred and when. The law also protects employees who are victimised because they complained about having been harassed. All complaints of sexual harassment should be taken very seriously by employers and handled fairly and sensitively by them.
If the issues aren’t resolved by talking with your employer, you should take advice and explore what further steps you can take. You may have a claim that you can pursue in the employment tribunal. What is clear is that a culture change is at work, and as such this should give all employees the confidence to raise issues of this sort. Acas offers advice to employees, as well as a conciliation service. And there are lawyers that specialise in sexual harassment cases who can offer advice and help. Katherine Maxwell Partner and Head of Employment 020 8334 0308 katherine.maxwell @mooreblatch.com
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Anyone can overcome anxiety, feel confident and take control of their life. With the right guidance. Dr Mariette Jansen - Dr De-Stress - is a life coach and therapist, who is an expert in helping people with anxiety and confidence issues. For a personal chat to find out how she can help you, just text DARLING FREE COACHING to 07967 717 131
Q: I am on sick leave as a result of a situation at work. It al started when I got a new male manager. He made me feel intimidated and put down by him. He was making sexual comments, looking at my breasts, hanging over me when I was at my desk. He did it all in such a way that I wasn’t sure if I was overreacting. But it really affected me. When an opportunity for a promotion came up I applied, knowing that I was the perfect candidate. I didn’t get the job as he had voted against me. That made me lose my confidence and become an emotional wrack. As a result I am sitting at home, seething with anger and frustration. I want revenge and feel it’s only fair that he gets punished. That’s all I am thinking of. My friends and partner don’t want to hear about it anymore. What do you think? Debbie (36) A: Dear Debbie, what an awful situation. Unfortunately, when you are ‘emotionally’ assaulted in a sexual
manner it can be very difficult to prove what has happened. However, you are not doing yourself any favours by obsessing about revenge. Angry and negative emotions don’t allow you to move forward. Your wish for justice is understandable, but it alienates you from your friends, your partner and yourself. I suggest you become metaphorically a ‘split personality’. One half of you will look for professional help to deal with your negative emotions. Instead of obsessing start processing and build up your confidence. Also, seek the support of a specialised law firm that can take over from you and advice and execute what can be done. The other half of you sees this experience as a life lesson, detaches herself and focuses on the future. A new job might mark a new beginning and bring new positive excitement to counteract the negative experience. You might still feel that he won in the end, but if you don’t make changes to your mindset, guess who is the loser? Life isn’t fair, but instead of fighting it you are better of learning from it.
FEELING STUCK AND LOST? SUFFERING FROM ANXIETY AND PANIC ATTACKS? With the right guidance and support these issues are often easier to resolve than you think. Talk it through with Dr Mariette Jansen during a FREE coaching call and get strategies for moving forward in your life. Text DARLING FREE COACHING to 07967 717 131. Places are limited, so book now.
and still fighting
Darling Editor Karine Torr, celebrates our local heroines, past and present
t this moment in time, I feel awash with hashtags. #100years, #MeToo, #instawomen, #feminism, #GirlsLikeUs, #EverydaySexism, Emma Watson’s #heforshe campaign, #Fem2, #genderequality – the list is endless. It’s an exciting time for women, not only in the UK - the worldwide women’s movement is really gaining ground. There are young movements like Frances Scott’s #50:50parliament (men outnumber women 2:1 in Parliament) and Jude Kelly’s fantastic annual WOW Festival (Women of the World) at London’s Southbank and especially, The Women’s Equality Party, a liberal feminist political party in the United Kingdom that was founded by Catherine Mayer and Sandi Toksvig at the WOW Festival 2015. They felt strongly that there was a need for a political party in the United Kingdom to campaign for gender equality to the benefit of all. There are 32 million women living in the UK, they account for 51% of the population. Women make a massive contribution to society in their paid and unpaid work. They merit fair representation and inclusion in the most important decision-making institution in our country. Even our own London Mayor, Sadiq Khan is getting behind the hashtag with his very own #BehindEveryGreatCity, making gender equality a big focus for 2018.
Suffragette Magazine gives angelic status to Emily Davison. Suffragettes were members of women’s organization movements in the late 19th and early 20th century, particularly militants in Great Britain. Only in 1928 suffrage was extended to all women. Ethel Smyth, poster of The March of the Women, from Surrey History Centre
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o it seems appropriate 100 years later, to celebrate the life of a Surrey legend, Ethyl Smyth. Darling would like to thank Dr Christopher Wiley of the University of Surrey for sharing this wonderful story. Dame Ethel Smyth (1858–1944) lived most
A stamp printed in Great Britain dedicated to the national portrait gallery, shows Emmeline Pankhurst by Georgina Brakenbury, circa 2006
processions, addressing rallies, and developing a close relationship with Pankhurst herself. It was Smyth who taught Pankhurst to throw stones to hit their target, and in 1913 Pankhurst was even arrested at Smyth’s house. Smyth’s suffragette activity was reflected in the music she composed in the early 1910s, and particularly in her song ‘The March of the Women’. Quickly adopted as the suffragette anthem, it was sung during rallies to rouse the crowds, as well as to boost morale in prison during periods of imprisonment and hunger striking. The artwork presented the ‘March’ in the traditional suffragette colours: violet for dignity, white for purity, and green for hope. of her adult life in Surrey, first in Surrey Heath and subsequently in Hook Heath, near Woking, from 1910. History tends to remember her primarily as a pathbreaking composer of six operas and many other orchestral, chamber, and vocal works. This was an impressive output given that the music profession was then fiercely maledominated; it was extremely unusual at the time for a female composer to have enjoyed a successful international career. In later years, Smyth developed parallel activity as a writer of memoirs, biographical sketches, and polemical essays on the music profession, publishing a total of ten books. Yet the area in which she had arguably the greatest impact lay not in music or literature, but in politics. In September 1910 she heard a speech delivered by Emmeline Pankhurst, the leader of the Women’s Social and Political Union, and pledged to devote two years of her life to the ‘Votes for Women’ campaign. She became a leading suffragette, heading
Picture credit: Lewis Orchard Collection Ref.9180, courtesy of Surrey History Centre.
In 1912, Smyth served a jail sentence in London’s Holloway Prison, having been arrested along with many other suffragettes for taking part in a window-smashing campaign across the West End. Visiting her in prison, the conductor Thomas Beecham witnessed a group of suffragettes singing Smyth’s ‘March’ while exercising in the yard, with the composer herself frantically attempting to beat time from her cell window using her toothbrush as a baton! Smyth’s last official act for the suffragettes also saw her conducting the ‘March’, in 1930, performed by the Metropolitan Police Band at the unveiling of the memorial statue to Pankhurst in Victoria Tower Gardens, adjacent to the Palace of Westminster. Smyth is to be commemorated by her home town in this year’s Celebrate Woking festival, ensuring that her fascinating story as a pioneering female composer and suffragette continues to inspire new generations.
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women at work
Flying the flag for WOMEN IN FILM One woman’s fight to save Twickenham Film Studios
ith so much negative press coming out of Hollywood about sexual harassment, it’s refreshing to hear a more positive story about women in the film industry right now. In 2012, Twickenham Film Studios was threatened with closure and demolition. Maria Walker, a St Margarets resident and Post Production Supervisor at the time could not sit back and watch the closure of her beloved studios where films such as Gandhi, Blade Runner, A Fish Called Wanda and The Iron Lady to name but a few were produced. Fortunately, Maria had the passion and drive to convince local residents and Hollywood hitters to get
involved and launched the “Save Twickenham Studios” campaign. Her tenacity and commitment to the cause paid off when she was introduced to Sunny Vohra who went on to purchase the site and together they set about relaunching and modernising the studios. Now COO of the newly revamped Twickenham Studios, Maria Walker believes that women have come a long way in the film industry (but there’s still a way to go!). “Over 50% of our staff at Twickenham Studios are female although
we are the exception for the industry. I started out my career as a runner and progressed to Assistant Editor and Post Production Supervisor before taking on the role as COO of Twickenham Studios. I guess my story demonstrates that if you have the belief and determination, you can achieve great things.” Almost six years on from the turbulent times of impending closure, Twickenham 20
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Studios is going from strength to strength. The studio has attracted many highly acclaimed and award winning productions across both film and TV, such as Baby Driver, The Martian, the Oscar winning documentary Amy, the BBC flagship drama MacMafia and the Netflix cult series Black Mirror. In addition to overseeing the studios, Maria also launched a private members’ club located on the top floor of the main building. ‘The Lounge’ is one of the only private members’ clubs in the area where local residents and representatives from the creative industries can enjoy panoramic views over Richmond Park and surrounding area thanks to the beautiful outdoor terrace. “We really wanted to create a space away from all the hustle and bustle where members can relax over a drink after work, get together with girlfriends for brunch on a
Saturday morning, watch a film or simply use for a meeting space. It really has something for everyone and it’s a great way for local residents to feel like they are part of the action, commented Maria Walker. Maria hired Natalie Hawthorne as the General Manager of The Lounge who previously ran Mayfair’s upmarket eatery the Mount Street Deli. As a result, members of The Lounge can enjoy all day dining from an innovative menu based on locally sourced ingredients. Readers interested in applying for membership of The Lounge, based at Twickenham Studios in St Margarets should email: membership@twickenhamstudios. com. twickenhamstudios.com
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events. The chefs are regular demonstrators at food festivals all over the UK including the BBC Good Food Show. Their clear passion to create dishes with a fusion take on the traditional Indian cuisine is why the NC Supper Clubs are taking off and treating guests to incredible food. From Chef Anjula Devi, author of “Spice for Life”, Chef Dipna Anand author of “Beyond Brilliant”, to Dan Toombs author of “The Curry Guy” and Chef Elisabeth Brown of Coco Labelle, these are just a few of the top names that Nesan works with. Adding to his already incredible menu of chefs, Nesan is also keen to work with his good friends such as writers and chefs Atul Kochhar (Benares Restaurant), Hari Ghotra, Suresh Pillai (Hoppers London), Sabrina Ghayour, Mallika Basu (Food Columnist, Evening Standard) and Asma Khan (Darjeeling Express). The events are targeted at food lovers who want to be part of this exclusive NC Supper Clubs experience. A love of food and exploring flavours is all that is needed.
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Chef Anjula Devi and Chef Elisabeth Brown
“When people come to my supper club, I want them to be simply blown away by the food. Many of these dishes are not available in mainstream restaurants which adds a unique twist to the food we serve”
Chef Shveta Tuli (Right)
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BESTof the BEST
Darling Magazine’s Holly Candlish caught up with Olympic gold medalist, Georgie Twigg, ahead of this year’s EuroHockey Cup at Surbiton Hockey Club in May
Surbiton Ladies First Team celebrating becoming National Champions 2017
ince the women’s team Olympic Gold at Rio 2016, the sport of hockey has been enjoying enormous levels of success. Who can forget the nail-biting drama of the penalty shoot-out to determine the final podium positions between GB and the Netherlands? In a bid to sustain this level of interest Surbiton Hockey Club are proudly hosting this year’s EuroHockey Women’s tournament from 17th-20th May. “We are excited to be staging this top-class event for the first time in the UK. Surbiton will be buzzing with sports fans eager to see some of the best clubs in the world. Having done so well at the Olympics there’s a bigger hockey fan
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base than ever and this will keep it in the public eye and inspire the next generation of players, “says Georgie Twigg, Olympic gold medalist and Surbiton mid-fielder. It’s no surprise that Surbiton, the second oldest club in the world, is hosting this prestigious European event as their playing record sets the team head and shoulders above other UK clubs. The line-up is impressive. Fellow Olympic gold medallists, Holly Webb and Giselle Ansley join Twigg, with a further four international players contributing to their success. National champions four years in a row, the team has enjoyed an unbeaten run of 52 matches. Surbiton Ladies 1s are the best of the
Photography by Tim Reder
Georgie Twigg in action
best and relish the opportunity of showing local supporters just how good they are. Event-goers can undoubtedly expect to see world-class hockey. The strong field includes over 40 Olympians and teams from Holland, Germany, Spain, Ireland and Belarus. “They are the strongest teams in Europe, but it is the Dutch who are the main competition,” says Georgie, “however, after the win at Rio, I feel more confident about facing them in the Euros.” Team GB’s performance at Rio was truly inspiring and Georgie is happy to relive the closing moments of the tense - if you were watching from your sofa - final. “It’s all a bit surreal. We knew if we kept it tight, and kept the score-line tight, then we stood a chance. With the final whistle we were tied 3-3 and it came down to penalties. At this point our captain ran up shouting, ‘Yes, we’ve got this girls!’ We’d beaten them before on penalties, so going into it our hopes were really high. It doesn’t make it any easier, but when Holly (Webb) stepped up I was actually very confident. The Dutch goalkeeper hadn’t seen her take a penalty before and didn’t have a clue what she was about to do. She was our secret weapon. The goal was a euphoric moment with us all running together screaming and crying.“ Since reaching the pinnacle of her sporting dreams winning Olympic Gold, 27 year old Georgie has retired from the international stage and has set herself different goals both on and off the playing field. “I now have a normal working
week training to be lawyer in London. Legal books have replaced the Monday-Friday training at Bisham Abbey National Sports Centre. On the sports front, taking Surbiton to the top and inspiring young people to take up the sport is now my goal.” To encourage young players, Surbiton trains more than 900 colts each week and is well known for its youth development programme. “For instance, Team GB player, Sarah Haycroft started playing at Surbiton aged ten and now at 26 years old captains the Ladies 1s,” she explains. “Teenagers regularly train and play with us in the first team. We want to nurture young players and inspire them. We are offering free entry to school children on the first day of the Euros to give them the opportunity to enjoy top level hockey first hand.” In the Olympics, Team GB had every confidence they would win and Georgie is certain that the home crowd will be a deciding factor for Surbiton HC at the Euros. “The Dutch are our nemesis and it is current champions HC‘s-Hertogenbosch from the Netherlands that we most fear. They always do well; they always win it. But we’re hoping with a home advantage, with our crowd on our home pitch, this is our year to win it.” To book tickets: https://www.seetickets.com/event/eurohockeyclub-cup-women/-/1194239/ For the school’s discount code contact: email@example.com
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WHAT'S IN A FRAME? Making precious memories last
just want to get this framed; I don’t want to spend a lot”. As a picture framer, I often hear these words. I teach framing and even my students say “getting pictures framed is expensive, I want to do it myself ”. I can defend the industry by explaining that bespoke framing is designed to suit the image, that we can use beautiful wood mouldings, or that we can use glass that has been purified and enhanced so that it’s almost invisible and has high conservation properties, and… but would it help?
What should you frame? Picture frames enclose, protect and enhance a story. It is true that often we frame valuable pieces of art. I have framed limited edition prints, original water colours and valuable maps, and these have their own stories. I have framed letters of encouragement, certificates of achievement, work on fabric, tea towels and children’s art. These may not have the same monetary value, but they’re precious and should be enjoyed. I want to encourage you to frame memories!
Why frame? We frame memories; moments in life, unexpected events or anniversaries. We often buy pictures, little original paintings or cards on holiday, only to push them into a box to gather dust. It’s a recurring theme with my customers. Get them framed!
Who should do the framing? It is true, anyone can buy a readymade frame for a piece of art and in a few minutes your art is framed. Do you know if it will last or fade? As a framer, I place great value in being a member of the Fine Art
Trade Guild, the framers’ association in the UK that defines the different standards and methods framers can use. Knowing how to handle artwork and the impact environment and materials have on the art is an important part of the design. I work by appointment, which means I’m able to give my customers time to tell the story, find out where it’s going to hang and find a suitable frame and mount. Sometimes there have been cups of tea, tears and laughter. I want you to love the piece you take home, to be thrilled and delighted to see your memories framed. After all, why have a piece framed? Sue Harper GCF (APF) Picture Framer and Trainer River Crane Framing …making memories last… firstname.lastname@example.org rivercraneframing.com 07747 632 678
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ot on the heels of the opening of our new PrePrep building we opened our new nursery last term. The our very first intake of nursery pupils settled incredibly quickly and within our safe and nurturing environment have grown in confidence, are developing an understanding of community and have made new friends. Our morning sessions have a gentle literacy and numeracy focus where we create play orientated activities to help the children develop their understanding of letter sounds and counting skills. In the afternoons, they really enjoy learning about the world around them through topic based play sessions. Every play experience allows them to grow and develop their knowledge and understanding across a range of different skills. They loved learning about hibernating and migrating and our children tucked their teddies in for a long winter’s sleep and read them bed time stories in our Bear Cave. They have also been busy exploring and investigating our extensive outdoor play area where they have time, space and plenty of energy for free play. Their time in the Nursery creates an ideal platform for progression into the Pre-Prep. Our Nursery and Pre-Prep 28
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provide a calm and nurturing environment where children can develop their own style of learning. We focus on increasing confidence and work with parents and children to create an individualised learning experience. Prospective parents are welcome to visit. Find out more from firstname.lastname@example.org newlandhouse.net | 020 8865 1305
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GOOD COP, BAD COP GOOD COP, BAD COP
Having a united front is the holy grail of parenting, says Elaine Halligan of The Parent Practice. Here are her top tips on communicating with Having a united front is the holy grail of parenting, says Elaine Halligan your partner to find unanimity on tricky family issues of The Parent Practice. Here are her top tips on communicating with By yourPhilippa partnerHennessy to find unanimity on tricky family issues
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the family rules are not being upheld by both A UNITED FRONT CAN GO A LONG WAY parents.
• If your children are very young, agree on A UNITED FRONT CAN GO A LONG WAY a strategy for teaching them how to dress or how react whenagree they have • themselves If your children aretovery young, on a tantrum. a strategy for teaching them how to dress themselves or how to react when they have a • Agree on the rules and boundaries in tantrum. different situations, whether it is at meal or away on holiday. • time, Agreeon onexcursions the rules and boundaries in different situations, whether it is at meal • Acknowledge your partner’s point of view time, on excursions or away on holiday. when it differs to yours. • Acknowledge your partner’s point of view • Compromise when there is disagreement when it differs to yours. consistency is more important than the actual • rule. Compromise when there is disagreement consistency is more important than the actual • When there is conflict with your partner, do rule. not criticise but make requests and explain • your Whenneeds. there is conflict with your partner, do
not criticise but make requests and explain • Respect each other’s commitments outside your needs. the home and family life by taking into how much free time one of you • consideration Respect each other’s commitments outside may have from day-to-day. the home and family life by taking into consideration how much free time one of you may have from day-to-day.
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relate to your children, such as backing each • Avoid criticising and arguing with each other other up when one of you is enforcing a rule. in front of the children. Instead, say positive to/about your partner with in front them • things Avoid criticising and arguing eachofother -inshould you need to discuss a contentious front of the children. Instead, say positive issue, it is best wait until the children thingsthen to/about yourtopartner in front of them are not in earshot or in bed. - should you need to discuss a contentious issue, then it is best to wait until the children • Consult your partner before making promises are not in earshot or in bed. to the children. • Consult your partner before making promises • It is normal behaviour for children to play to the children. you off each other, particularly when one of “no”behaviour to something. • you It is says normal for children to play you off each other, particularly when one of Elaine Halligan is the London director of The Parent you says “no” to something. Practice, an organisation that delivers positive parenting skills toisenable parents to bring out the best Elaine Halligan the London director of The Parent in their children Practice, an organisation that delivers positive parenting skills to enable parents to bring out the best theparentpractice.com in their children theparentpractice.com
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Get the kids involved in the kitchen this Easter and it doesn’t have to be all chocolate...
HOT CROSS SCONES
(easier to make than hot cross buns)
Ingredients • • • • • • • •
225g self-raising flour, plus extra for dusting ¼ tsp salt 50g butter, chilled 1 small dessert apple, peeled and cored 3 tbsp currants or other dried fruit (chopped if large), optional 50-75 ml milk 4 tbsp natural yogurt 1 egg, beaten (optional)
Heat oven to 200C/180C fan/gas 6. Tip the flour and salt into a large bowl. Grate the butter into the bowl, toss the mixture together, then rub the bits of butter into the flour until there are no big lumps left. Grate the apple into the bowl, then add the dried fruit, 50ml milk and the yogurt, and combine to make a soft dough. If the dough looks dry, add a little more milk. Don’t squeeze it too much and don’t worry if it looks a little lumpy. Roll out the dough on a floured surface and cut out scones using a
4cm round cutter. Combine any off-cuts and cut out more scones until you have used up all the mixture. To make the crosses, mix plain flour with water and knead to make a smooth dough. Roll out thinly, then cut into strips. Lay the strips on top of the scones and brush with milk, then bake in the oven for 10-12 minutes until golden. Mix together the a tablespoon of caster sugar with 1 tbsp water and use to glaze the tops of the scones as they come out of the oven. Cool on a wire rack and split to serve.
Did YOU take a two week holiday last year? Darling magazine’s Rosy Jones delves deeper had lost weight, compared with those who stayed at home!
f you are amongst the working population in the UK who didn’t take at least a two week break – you’re not alone. Research commissioned by British Airways found that 65% of us didn’t “indulge” ourselves with a two week holiday, and over half of us have spare leave at the end of the holiday year. Maybe you’re one of the 16% who feel guilty taking all your leave allowance – and then go on to lose it.
Convinced? So where will you go in 2018? If you’re like the vast majority of Brits, then it’ll be somewhere you’ve been before. Four out of five of us go back to somewhere we’ve visited at least once before. This is true for me – I love visiting some very familiar places. I go to Paris almost every year, just to inhale that very Parisian atmosphere (flooding and gauloises) and if I don’t take at least one annual trip to Lundy Island, for a week of e-detox and marvelling at wildlife, then my
friends tell me I’m barely liveable with. According to a study from Baylour College of Medicine in Texas,
going somewhere new allows us to experience life as a child again, slowing down our memories, invigorating our brains and helping us to be more creative. While I wouldn’t necessarily recommend doing something new every week (my own fiftieth birthday challenge for 2018) nor indeed going on a bobsleigh run (note to self – don’t let your friends pick your challenges…) it seems that going away is healthy in all kinds of ways. Go on – book your fortnight away now. It’ll do you a world of good. British Airways commissioned research with Atomik Research
Going away on holiday is good for your health and your state of mind. Research done in 2013 showed that improvements in health for those who travelled compared favourably with those who had stayed at home for their holidays. And although we might indulge in all sorts of “treats” while we’re away, the group who travelled saw a decrease in their blood pressure, were more able to deal with stress at the end of their “break”, and
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The Play’s The Thing…
alk to the end of Hampton Hill High Street, past the Library, the Bloated Mallard pub and the excellent Noble Green Wine merchant and craft beer shop, and you’ll happen upon the lively Hampton Hill Theatre. Owned for the past 20 years by Teddington Theatre Club, Hampton Hill Theatre is only the most recent home of an institution founded in 1927 to help local pupils get a taste for Shakespeare – and 90 years later, is still going strong. If you’ve got a yen for the stage in all its glorious forms, then you could do worse than pay them a visit. And you don’t have to feel the need to stand in the spotlight – particularly if you’re more interested in working them from behind! The theatre is run by volunteers, and lots of people are needed to deliver a professional
theatrical experience from lighting design to Front of House, from Stage Designs , Props to that most important actors’ safety net in the Prompt corner. And if you fancy yourself as Mistress Quickly (but have a problem memorizing Shakespeare) then your role could be in the bar – the members say that the Bar is the beating heart of the theatre and is vital to the success of the club. Of course, a theatre club also needs its actors, and Teddington holds open auditions for each of their many performances, meaning that if you’ve never tried acting before, or if you’re new to the area, then you are always welcome to go along and test your feet out on the boards. New members are welcomed as participants or at a discount for audience benefits.
Chairman Clare Henderson Rowe & President Roger Smith, 90th anniversary in October 2017
The Theatre Club is proud of its roots in the community and ensures that it there is a welcome
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to stage schools and drama clubs as well as to others in the community who want to rent the stages or other spaces for events and special functions. TTC produces many shows each year, and to deliver variety from farce (writer of The Good Life Bob Larby’s Month of Sundays is on later in March) to theatrical polemics, with the musical The Matchgirls showing in July being only two of their current season’s shows. Full details of shows and membership can be found on the club’s website: teddingtontheatreclub.org.uk
Dancing on the Ceiling with Good Vibrations By Marja-Leena Toseland
am so excited to learn of Lionel Richie joining Gary Barlow, Joe Bonamassa, The Beach Boys, Jools Holland and Paloma Faith at the stunning Tudor Courtyard at Hampton Court Palace Festival in June. What a super line-up it is at this year’s festival. It’s a chance to see your superstar idol close in this intimate and beautiful setting. And it’s on our doorstep!
The festival is attracting more international superstars each year. Lionel Richie, who will perform on the 5th and 6th June as part of his UK tour, is a great coup. The Beach Boys, with founding member, 76 year old Mike Love as their lead soloist, are still incredible on stage, thrilling audiences with their old hits such as Surfin’ USA. Paloma Faith’s concert will mark her return to Hampton Court Palace Festival having last performed sold out shows there in 2015. Paloma recently reached number 1 in the album charts with the acclaimed ‘The Architect’. She has also secured a BRIT Award 2018 nomination for British Female Solo Artist.
of truly special and unique openair concerts. Attendees will arrive at the sumptuous Palace Gardens to enjoy a spot of picnicking in the spectacular surroundings with champagne available to purchase from the festival’s Champagne Partner, Champagne PIAFF. The festival also offers the perfect opportunity to celebrate special occasions in a prestigious setting, with exclusive dining and corporate entertainment available, ensuring a memorable VIP experience. Artists perform in an intimate 3,000seat auditorium in Base Court, set against the backdrop of Henry VIII’s magnificent Tudor Palace. There are still some tickets left to certain performances but many of us fans will have to take our picnics to the river banks by the palace and enjoy the good vibrations from a distance. hamptoncourtpalacefestival.com
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TV auctioneer CHARLES moves to our manor
Cristiano Dalla Bona went to meet the man at his launch in Hampton Court Village to be entertaining and a moment caught in time.” Charles will be on television soon, in a BBC programme called Flipping Profit, where antique experts are placed around the country with their own money to try and buy objects to raise money for good causes, including Children in Need. “I enjoy the television work, I thrive on meeting people and when profits and programs go to worthy charities I thrive on taking part.”
elevision’s most famous auctioneer has come to London. Charles Hanson is fulfilling a long- held dream this year by expanding his Derbyshire business to our area. “I’m an ambitious man and I’ll be 40 in May. If I don’t do it now, I never will,” he said in a statement. The Bargain Hunt star has recently opened a consignment office in Hampton Court Village and the first auction took place at Teddington’s Normansfield Theatre at Langdon Down Centre on February 10. We met Hanson at the opening of his new business.
What attracted you to this area? “The area is not well-covered by auctioneers although, when it comes to antiques, I feel it’s very well-covered by a clientele who loves to collect. Not to mention the richness and history of places 34
like Hampton Court Palace and Richmond. I thought it was a good setting for us to start the business.”
What are the current trends in antiques and how do you see the future of antiques? “Buyers are increasingly purchasing online and that’s appealing because we offer a packaging service worldwide and it’s now easy to take part in auctions without being present. But in this traditional market we hope to bring people into the salesroom to enjoy the ambience, the theatre, the moment before we say “Going, going, gone!”. For many buyers it’s going
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Any tips for our readers on choosing antiques? “I would say, come down to see us at the Normansfield Theatre. We would love to get people to handle tools, to help them learn about pieces. I always say: the best way to learn about antiques is to simply handle objects, to look at how they’re constructed. Close your eyes and imagine being transported back in time, because every object at an auction tells a story.” hansonsauctioneers.co.uk
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The costumes are on display at the 17th century mansion house until 29th April. nationaltrust.org.uk/ham-house-and-garden
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SPRING BRIDGE With Darling’s bridge expert Paul Mendelson This hand defeats most players yet, upon analysis, it is embarrassingly logical. Would you play it correctly?
♠ West S 876 H K1052 D K42 C J106
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South’s 2♣ opening bid was the strongest bid she had available; 2♦ was a negative and 2NT showed a balanced 23-24pts. North raised to game. Declarer has 3 spades tricks and one each in hearts, diamonds and clubs. You need three more. Crucially, you only have one entry to dummy. There is one piece of good news: West’s 2♥ lead suggests a lead from a 4-card suit. If you use the A♠ entry to take the diamond finesse, it loses, and now you cannot get back to dummy to take the club finesse. But, here’s the thing: even if the diamond finesse had won, you could not get back to the table to take it again. So, you were almost certainly going to lose K♦ anyway - whoever held it. For that reason, declarer should win trick 1 with A♥ and lay down A♦ and then Q♦, continuing until K♦ is taken. E/W will take 3 heart tricks, but now you still have A♠ in dummy to reach the table and take the club finesse which, thankfully, wins. aceoftrumps.com aceoftrumps.com
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The Silver Lining
here I was, having coffee with my editor, when she stopped and stared at me intently. “You are beautiful,” she said. “Well, thank you,” I replied, chuffed. “No, I’m thinking U. R. Beautiful. The beauty salon. You need to go.” Oh. Not quite the same sentiment. To be fair, I’d had my hair in waist-length silver braids for the last four months, and having taken them out I was well aware I was left with such dyed and dried blonde hair that it looked like I was styled by The Donald. My editor reached in her bag for her mobile, as if making an emergency call, “UR stands for Urban Retreat. You need a new headshot, and there’s only so much Photoshop can do.” “Well they sound like Pets R Us.” I complained, feeling like I was being booked into the groomers. “Are you saying I’m a dog?” “Not at all”. “What then, that I’m letting down the On the Scene social pages?” Too long a silence. “I was joking” I added. Marja-Leena responded by practically speeddialling them. So off I padded like a disgraced puppy. The salon nestles on the first floor in Boots. Hidden
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away, it’s a gem. Sam the senior stylist took to the challenge like a Britain’s Bake-Over finalist as I explained how my hair had grown grey prematurely. (Editor: Yeah right. Did you also explain how your nose had just grown too?) Their task was to reduce the Myra Hindley brassy yellow dyed ends and turn me into my dream blonde - an all over ash-silver white. Very fashionable, and a colour no salon had yet achieved due to my normally dark brown hair that was currently being afflicted with unexpected grey. We browsed the internet pictures to get a clear idea of the options. Sam warned me to that to keep the cool, white shade I picked out would mean applying a violet toner regularly - but it turned out to be a price worth paying, because three and a half hours later, she had worked magic. It’s tricky for a woman of a certain age to get the ‘grey’ right. Too short a cut and you look like a granny. Too long, and a hippy. Just right…and you can appear on the social pages of Darling Magazine. U R Beautiful Boots 1st Floor Kingston Upon Thames ur-beautiful.com
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