October 2015
Gardening: A New look at
GRASSES
Pre-marital counselling:
Your Wedding Wish Llist: We've got you covered for your
Big Day!
Why it's the wise thing to do!
Shrinking to fit:
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We explore non invasive fat reduction treatments
a pamper hamper to look your best
worth R1500!
Shelley Lewin: The Relationship architect!
Treating Sinusitis with Osteopathy
This was a super exciting issue to work on with one of the central themes being love and weddings to honour the start of the official wedding season. Weddings are such a big industry in Cape Town and support so many local businesses. Thousands of couples from around the world choose to host their big day in our beautiful city. It's an exciting and yet stressful time in a couples lives for them and their nearest and dearest; which is why we invited the esteemed
Cover Photo supplied by D&A model management. www.damodels.co.za
relationship architect Shelley Lewin to grace our cover. She offers some sage advice on how to keep your relationship healthy and the spark alive (in all instances) but especially for couples who are planning their big day. The scent of summer is definitely in the air and the feeling of excitement it brings with it is electric. Use this time to look and feel your best so that by the time summer is in full bloom, you feel confident to make the most of it.
There is truly no better place to spend the season than in our magnificent Mother City. Enjoy!
A Pamper hamper to look and feel your best! A Months course of Collagen Lift™ Paris worth R700 Collagen Lift is a daily collagen drink that is easily absorbed by the body and has been clinically proven to increase collagen densities, reduce wrinkles by up to 50% and increase the skin's elasticity and hydration.
A Shellac Manicure worth R200 from Nails Etc in Hout Bay Hout Bay Video Spot, Caffeine Annie’s Toy Box Dario’s Café Earthworx Camps Bay Soukop Property Group Constantia Ferndale Nursery Raith Gourmet (High Constantia Centre) Steps to Health (Kendal Road) Steenberg Village Thai Cafe, Reddam Pharmacy CBD & Kloof St Lifestyle Centre, Kloof Centre Sea Point Piazza da luz Vida Cafe, Point Mall, Vondi’s Wynberg Pool Doctor, Farriers Centre
A full set of lashes from Petticoat Lane worth R650 (T&C's apply. Call our offices on 021 200 5906 for more information.)
How to enter: Go online to the following link: http://www.facebook.com/thebaymag and like our page. After 'liking' our page, please write us a post on our page telling us your favourite way to pamper yourself!
(Please include your email address so we may notify you if you are the winner!)
Congrats to the winner of last month's competition: Sue Manners-Wood won a one night stay at Lord's Guest Lodge in McGregor worth R1800 including breakfast
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Cover Story
At the start of the wedding season we felt there was really no one better to talk to than Shelley Lewin, The relationship architect (read guru). She discusses all things love related and offers up some sage advice on how to keep your relationship healthy and the spark alive (in all instances) but especially for couples who are planning their big day.
Shelley Lewin: The Relationship Architect By: Danni Thunell Ende How did you become THE relationship architect? I believe life is a design activity. There is no right or wrong recipe for living or relationships, only what you prefer to have. We are all the architects of our own lives. I learnt the hard way that love is not enough in a relationship. Love does not equal compatibility. If we have to sacrifice our dignity, self-respect, ambitions or the essence of who we are in order to maintain/ remain in a relationship, the relationship is destined for failure. Eventually, the resentment and frustration of not being yourself takes its toll on your emotional and physical wellbeing and you begin to hate yourself or your partner. In my 20's, I completed the Life Line personal development and counseling course which inspired me to become a counselor. I studied for 4 years at SACAP (South African College of Applied Psychology) which exposed me to a fairly progressive approach called Relationship Coaching. This approach has as its focus the future and solutions, rather than traditional helping methods of being past and problem focused. Facilitating a process that supports clients to find their own solutions (rather than me prescribing ideas about what I believe to be the best way) resulted in clients taking ownership for their lives and leaving with practical, pragmatic strategies to move forward. What are your tips for keeping the spark alive? We can approach sexuality in one of two ways. We can either wait until we are in the mood or we can allocate time to create an environment for
romance to blossom. Romance can begin when you wake up and greet each other with a response that shows “I am happy to see you”. It can be encouraged by creating a sacred space in the home (think soft lighting, scented candles etc), sharing sensual foods, watching/reading erotica, arousing touch and massage, playfulness with adult toys, experimentation, role playing, provocative dress and talking dirty. There is a multitude of ways to invite passion back into a stale relationship. It all starts, however, with connection. We have to want to want it. We need a desire to connect. For sure Gary Chapman's '5 Love Languages' play a large role in keeping romance alive i.e. knowing your partner's preferred language. Romance is a consequence of the ongoing choice to place your relationship as a priority. The 'spark' is not hidden in the person you're with; it's hidden in the behaviors' you exhibit when you bestow your adoration on your lover. It's that which ignites the spark. Can every relationship be fixed or is it sometimes better to part ways? They can be fixed but that doesn't mean they should be. Some people are just not good for each other. When we have 'met our match' they bring out the best in us. Sometimes though, we meet and marry people that we really want to be our best match, despite the evidence proving otherwise. They align with dreams and fantasies in our head. We ignore the warning signs. We stay married because of the shame and the guilt of
hurting the people around us, living a life of quiet desperation. A quality relationship leaves us feeling 'more than' good enough. It's how other people make us feel that's most important. What top 5 tips do you have for keeping a relationship strong during stressful times (like planning a wedding?) Most important is “don't sweat the small stuff”. Keep the relationship as a priority over being first, best or right and prioritise the partnership over the perfect wedding. Choose your battles carefully- which ones to fight and which ones to let go. Be considerate of each other's feeling and opinions. Honour that which is important to your partner even if it doesn't make sense to you What is the most common problem the couples who come to see you face? Disconnection. Mostly couples become disconnected when there are unfulfilled expectations regarding roles and responsibilities, cohabitation ideals, financial management, sexuality, parenting styles, spiritual beliefs, lifestyle choices and extended family relationships. How do you balance your thriving career with love and family? I am privileged to be able to work my own hours, which affords me the opportunity to be available for my son most afternoons and with my family on weekends. I also have a wonderful support structure in place.
LOOK YOUR BEST
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DETOX WEDDING SPECIAL Wedding detox slimming package Was R1910 Now R1040 (Save R870!) Spring into action this October! Detoxify your body, loose centimetres and improve the appearance of cellulite. 7-day Thalgo Slim 7 refining drink 2 x Thalgo Cellucean anti-cellulite 20 day courses 30 min Endermologie Target Lipomassage treatment
Book for a Bio Therapeutic facial and a Vita Liberata Spray tan (valued at R995) & receive a 90 Min full body couples massage for you and your soonto-be hubby for the price of a 60 min massage each.
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PAMPER YOURSELF
Get glowing Skin for your big day with an exclusive Hydradermie Double Ionization facial by Guinot. It's a treatment that uses galvanic currents to push powerful active ingredients deep into the skin.
Look your best with a set of luscious lash extensionsR650 for a full set
Win a full set of lashes (see pg 2 for more info)
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Pinotage on Tap 10 Oct Pinotage on Tap is an annual lifestyle, food and wine event – voted 'Best Wine Event in the World' at the Drinks International Wine & Tourism Awards 2014.It provides free flowing wine and features well-known local bands Crash Car Burn and Grassy Spark. It's taking place at Diemersfontein Wine & Country Estate from 12.30pm – 7pm. Tickets cost R 410 (incl. wine on tap, lunch and dessert) | R 925 (incl. ticket and a case of Pinotage). Visit www.diemersfontein.co.za Dragging 30 Until 10 Oct This coming of age musical comedy takes you on a journey through the eyes of two women, trying to come to terms with life's third decade, whilst learning to love themselves and embrace their thirties. With the help of the fabulous Drag Queen Extraordinaire, Cadenza Jones, these two women realise that there is truly nothing more liberating than being yourself, living in the moment and owning your "fierce" at any age! Starring Genna Galloway, Natasha van der Merwe with special appearance by Alain Fleischmann. It's taking place at Kalk Bay Theatre. Tickets cost R125 and are available online at www.kalkbaytheatre.co.za
Constantia Valley Grape Run 18 Oct A half marathon through the historic wine estates of the Constantia Valley, namely Groot Constantia, Buitenverwachting, Constantia Uitsig and Klein Constantia. Includes a 21 km, 17km and a fun run. It's from 6am – 10am and tickets cost R 25 – R 70. Visit www.letsgo.co.za.
Symphony of Dance 7-11 Oct It's a collaboration between Cape Town City Ballet and the Cape Town Philharmonic Orchestra for an evening of ballet and music. Taking place at the Artscape Opera House at the following times: 7 & 9 Oct at 7.30pm, 10 Oct at 2pm & 7.30pm and 11 Oct at 3pm. Tickets cost R 150 – R 350 and are available online at www.computicket.com Spier Secret Festival 30 -31 Oct It's an annual food and wine event that includes talks and hands-on workshops. It's taking place around the recently restored Spier Werf , Spier wine estate and launches a bakery and café run by one of South Africa's top chefs, a farmer's market and a boutique estate wine cellar. From 11am – 6pm. Tickets cost: R 1100 workshops | R 350 food and movie night. Call 021 809 1100 for more info.
Cape Town International Boat Show 9 to 11 Oct The annual Show returns, showcasing a range of water crafts and hosting a speaker series featuring adventurer Davey Du Plessis. It's taking place at the CTICC, Convention Square, 1 Lower Long Street, Cape Town from Fri to Sun starting at 10am. Tickets cost R 80 and are available at www.computicket.com. Visit www.boatshow.co.za
16-18 Oct The banks of the Breede River will come alive with the annual and ever-popular Robertson Wine on the River – this year th celebrating its 10 anniversary. The festival will take place on the farm, Goudmyn, situated on the R317 between Robertson and Bonnievale. Visit www.wineonriver.com for more info.
BOOK REVIEWS
Jurassic World. Genre: Adventure Staring: Chris Pratt Running time: 124 IMDB Rating : 7.4
22 years after the original Jurassic Park failed, the new park (also known as Jurassic World) is open for business. After years of studying genetics the scientists on the park genetically engineer a new breed of dinosaur. When everything goes horribly wrong, will our heroes make it off the island? Jurassic World has been running with great success for more than a decade in the wake of the disaster that haunted the island 22 years ago. The park's geneticists have once again broken scientific and ethical boundaries in order to raise attendance for the park, now experiencing a decline in happy customers. Convinced that the new attraction will bring in many more people, but having crossed the line once again, the results may be devastating.
Love may fail By: Matthew Quick R308 Another brilliant novel by the author of Silver Linings Playbook. The lead character Portia Kane has a meltdown after discovering her pornographer husband in bed with another woman. She takes stock of her life and doesn't like what she sees. The allure of money and financial security has caused her to discard her own dream of one day being a writer. She moves back to the unhappy place of her childhoodSouth Jersey. Lost and alone she sets off on a mission to save the one man who always believed in her - her beloved high school English teacher, Mr. Vernon. Unfortunately it is not as easy as it seems as Mr Vernon has himself had a breakdown and retired. There are some very quirky, colourful characters you will thoroughly enjoy like a brazen nun, an ex-heroin addict “heartthrob�, a metalhead little boy and a mentally disturbed hoarder. Will Portia's hope in the human race be restored? This is an inspiring story of the heartache and bravery it takes to become who you are destined to be. I laughed, I cried, I loved it. 10/10
A year of Marvellous Ways By: Sarah Winman
R308
The main character Marvellous Ways, is a 90 year-old woman who lives alone in a remote Cornish creek. She spends her days sitting on the steps of her caravan with a pair of binoculars, waiting for something - she's not sure what. The other lead is Freddy Drake-a young soldier who was left emotionally scarred from the atrocities he experienced during the war. He agreed to fulfil a dying friend's last wish to deliver a letter to the boy's father in Cornwall. He washes up in Marvellous' creek, a broken man. He forms an unlikely friendship with Marvellous Ways. I found this book a little too abstract and lyrical. Whilst some of the writing was truly poetic and beautiful; I often struggled to make sense of it all. However, I like the way it all came together in the end. Perfect for readers who like to really think and not for those looking for an easy read. Whimsical with a touch of magic. 7/10
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