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Cross Roads Journal of the Chapel of the Cross X December 2011

joy tO tHE WORLD!

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Dear Friends



The Christmas Pagent



Joy to the World!

8 9

Jesse Tree - ABC


Protecting Our Planet

Opening Doors

A Light on the Hill: Bulding to Serve


An Advent Reflection


Advent Calendar

18 19

Adult Education Calendar Lenten Retreat

Vestry Report - Altar Flowers

[ Dates to Remember ] December 3 Advent Quiet Day December 4

10:20 a.m. - Bibles given to twoyear-olds in Church School

Advent Service of Lessons and Carols

7:00 p.m. - Special Worship with People with Developmental Disabilities

December 18 December 19


December 24

3:00 and 5:00 p.m. - Christmas Eve Pagents

11:00 p.m. - The Christ Mass

7:30 - The First Eucharist of Christmas

December 25

10:00 a.m. - Service only

For a service schedule and information about the various ministries of the Chapel of the Cross visit:

Dear Friends, Christmas is a time of excess!

that we worship at odd hours the God who “so loved the world that he gave his only-begotten Son.”

There are many senses to that word, many of them negative. We can eat or drink or sleep or watch television or ring up our credit card to excess, and that is simply self-indulgence. I mean that Christmas is a time of wonderful extravagance, of there being far more of things than usual, far more than is strictly necessary.

My favorite form of extravagance at Christmas is the music, especially the carols (which we wait to ‘unleash’ until the fullness of Advent is complete). All music is extravagance, of course; music is not sparse or frugal. But perhaps more than any other music the joyful carols of Christmas help us all to be extravagant, to open up our hearts, to give more of ourselves than we might otherwise.

That is the pattern that God set. When humankind disobeyed and turned against God, God made a lavish promise - of a Savior who would set things right and bring unending life for all. God fulfilled that promise extravagantly by sending, in the fullness of time, not just a holy man, not just an ambassador for the Divine, but God’s very own Son. How extravagant and excessive! How much more than required! John Donne said, “Twas much, that man was made like God before. But, that God should be made man, much more.” The signs that announced this lavish action continued the pattern of extravagance. While much has rightly been made of the simplicity of Jesus’ birth - to humble parents, with a manger for a bed and insignificant shepherds as greeters and witnesses - it was an angel, the very essence of extravagance, who appeared to the shepherds and caused the glory of the Lord to shine around them. And if that were not enough, “suddenly there was with the angel a multitude of the heavenly host praising God and saying, ‘Glory to God in the highest.’” Add to this mysterious “wise men from the East” and a bright, moving star that guided them and gifts of gold and frankincense and myrrh, and what wonderful excess there was to that first Christmas! That is why our extravagance at Christmas is altogether fitting. In response to God’s lavishness, it is right that we should do much more than necessary in decorating our homes, that we should spend too much time baking cookies for our neighbors or delivering packages to our friends, that we should give away way too much money to those in need. It is appropriate that we bring out the best vestments, and that the Altar Guild spend more hours than they have adorning the church with greens and flowering plants, and

To take but one example, think of “Angels we have heard on high.” It is a paradigm of hilarity and extravagance. The images are of angel voices bouncing off the mountains and of shepherds who cannot contain themselves. The melody exudes joy, and the rhythm virtually impels you to dance. But most remarkable of all is the chorus, which proclaims the angel’s song, “Gloria in excelsis Deo - Glory to God in the highest.” The word ‘Gloria’ alone is allotted 18 notes! Wonderful extravagance! Sometimes I get so carried away, it is hard not to sing “Glo-ho-ho-ho-ho-ria!” And then we repeat the whole line!! But is this all just a bit of fluff, an escape from harsh reality, a momentary flight from the world’s violence, from cancer, from poverty, from loneliness? No, Christian joy is not a denial of human suffering, but an affirmation of hope in the midst of it. While fully acknowledging life’s difficulties, it proclaims a belief in a God who loves us extravagantly and who never abandons us in our distress. The extravagance of the first Christmas did not obliterate the pain of childbirth nor the wails of the parents of the Holy Innocents slaughtered by Herod nor the uncertainty of what lay ahead. It did express an overflowing Divine love that would never again be completely repressed. This Advent, I invite you to a quiet but whole-hearted preparation for the liturgical coming of God’s beloved Son. This Christmas, I invite you to an extravagant celebration of this lavish, overflowing love of God.

- Stephen P.S. Please excuse the excessive length of this letter!


Joy to the World! By Alice R. Cotton

Advent, the season of waiting, of anticipation, of preparing

mosquitoes. It kills nearly one million people every year; most

for the birth of Christ, will be here by the time this article

are children under the age of five. Each year there are 250

is in print (or online). For many parishioners, part of the joy

million cases. Ninety per cent of deaths from malaria occur in

of the season is caring for others by sharing our blessings.

sub-Saharan Africa. Laura Benton, a member of our Global

The parish helps us do this by suggesting several choices for

Mission Committee, is the parish Nets4Life representative.

Alternative Christmas Gifts.

In 2011 Bishop Curry challenged each parish in the Diocese of North Carolina to support the effort to raise money for

Nets4Life – A continuing area of parish support is Episcopal

mosquito nets by contributing based upon their number of

Relief and Development’s “Nets4Life,” a partnership for

confirmed communicants. A mosquito net costs $12.00; our

malaria prevention in Africa. Malaria is a common but deadly

parish target is to raise enough money to purchase 1,443 nets.

tropical disease transmitted through the bites of infected

We have now moved past a thousand and would love to meet


our goal. Last fall Mary Anne Handy’s fifth grade church

working alongside Hondurans. The Millers have visited our

school class had two bake sales and raised enough money

parish twice, including this past October, to share their vision

to buy 35 nets. This fall the Episcopal Youth Community

and show us what is happening at this new home. We will

joined their colleagues at

have opportunities to help

Holy Family in a fair to


raise additional money.

de Jesus” through our

Other parishioners have

alternative gifts this year,

contributed individually.


Here’s a chance for all


of us to participate as

expenses of the home, and


purchase of their gourmet










La Esperanza de Jesus –


An exciting new venture

Holiday Meals – Each

that our parish began



supporting in 2010, led



by the Global Mission

holiday meal for a family

Committee, is the Hope of Jesus Children’s Home, “La

Council $25



of four in our community.

Esperanza de Jesus,” a home for abandoned and abused children in Honduras that is rescuing

Personal hygiene kits – Plastic

Honduran children from abysmal

bags containing a list of items to put

conditions in state-run orphanages.

inside will be available and can be

Founded by SAMS (Society of

filled and returned to the church for

Anglican Missionaries and Senders)

distribution through the Inter-Faith

missionaries Kim and Mike Miller,

Council for Social Services.

this home provides a safe, nurturing who

These alternative gift choices are

otherwise would be living on the

offered with input from Children and

streets or in a government institution.

Family Ministry, Global Mission, and

There are four family homes and a

Outreach Ministry Committees. On

40-acre working farm that grows

the Sundays of December 4, 11, and

coffee and other crops and raises

18 please visit the Alternative Giving

cattle and chickens to help support

Table in the parish hall after both the

the home. Chapel of the Cross

9:00 and 11:15 services (and possibly




mission teams visited the facility in 2010, and a working

at other times) to learn how to participate in these alternative

group went in May 2011 and painted murals in the children’s

giving opportunities. X

rooms, planted a terraced garden, and made a compost pile,


The Christmas Pagent By David Frazelle

In the midst of one of the busiest seasons of the year, why does a 10th-grader spend hours of his time in order to rehearse and portray the rear end of a camel in the Chapel of the Cross Christmas pageants? Why, when the in-laws are preparing to visit or invade and occupy, do so many adults of the parish take time to shuttle and orchestrate youth for these two services? Why, in the midst of its exuberance, are people sometimes moved to tears by our Christmas pageants?

and character; hence, to attend such a play constituted an overt act of paganism in the eyes of early Church. Theatrical productions such as gladiatorial combats, obscene comedies, and the occasional event involving the slaughter of a persecuted Christian, only lowered Christian esteem for the dramatic arts. Tertullian, Cyprian, Chrysostom, and other early church Fathers wrote invectives against dramatic productions of their era.

The Christian impulse towards drama has deep roots, although its origins were troubled. For the first four centuries of the Christian era, the Church was unequivocally hostile towards drama. The pagan plays of the day, although not events of worship per se, retained a liturgical dimension

After the destruction of the Roman Empire and the decline of paganism, however, Christians began to use drama to represent sacred stories. “Passion plays� about the death and resurrection of Jesus, to be performed in church, emerged first. By the mid to late middle ages, Christians were writing


comedies, as well, involving “bad guys” such as Herod, or inherently comical figures like Balaam, who was outsmarted by his own ass (donkey) in Numbers (chapter 22). By the 16th century, plays with strong Christian themes were commonly performed outside of church buildings and were accepted as part of mainstream society. T. S. Eliot’s Murder in the Cathedral is one of the finer examples of more recent religious drama. And so re-presenting our faith by re-enacting our sacred stories simply is one of those practices to which Christians are drawn. Participation in Christian drama, from the stage or from the pews, strengthens our participation in the life of the parish family, in the story of Jesus Christ, and in the very life of God. At the Chapel of the Cross, our youth have participated in this pageant for many years. The 5:00 p.m. pageant became so popular and over-crowded that an additional and mostly identical 3:00 p.m. service was added. The youth know that these two services are the most heavily attended services of the year. They take pride in this and look forward to participating each year. The EYC and I invite you to participate in one of this year’s pageants, the details of which may be found below. December 24th, 3:00 p.m. in the church

Special Worship Christmas Pageant By Bill Joyner “Special Worship” at the Chapel of the Cross happens on the Third Monday of every month at 7:00 p.m., and is followed by refreshments. To this service, with lessons and music provided by Episcopal Campus Ministry students, we invite especially our friends and neighbors

This service is particularly inviting for families with young children. Children will be less hungry. You’ll be home before the 5 o’clock melt-down hour begins. The service is slightly less crowded (though you still need to arrive early). The attractive hazards of hand-held candles will not be used. Scriptures will be read, rather than sung, which makes for a slightly shorter service than the 5:00 p.m. pageant.

with developmental disabilities. But, as we emphasize, all

December 24th, 5:00 p.m. in the church

noise unto the Lord. This is not a worship event that we

The 5:00 p.m. service features the singing of the scripture readings, candlelight, and an even bigger crowd. It is a good idea to arrive at least a half hour early.

“do” for others, but something that all of us, all of us who

Both services will include a dancing angel and a live baby Jesus. For either service, please bring an unwrapped gift for a needy child to place at the foot of the living Nativity scene at the end of the service. These gifts will be distributed through the Chapel Hill Service League’s Christmas House charity.

You are always welcome at the Chapel of the Cross, and

are welcome. This “Third Monday” service in December (12/19) always takes place near Christmas, and then we pull out all the stops, using costumes, a Christmas play, and carols accompanied by the great organ. Each Third Monday, but especially in December, we all make a joyful

are “special” in God’s sight, take part in.

are especially welcome at the Third Monday worship. Volunteers are always needed – contact Bill Joyner.

We look forward to seeing you there! X 7

Jesse Tree - ABC By Boykin Bell

The First Sunday of Advent has long been a day of wreath

tree, as is Jonah’s scaly fish (a perennial favorite of older kids).

and Jesse Tree ornament making at the Chapel of the

There are also some brand-new designs. Try, for instance, to

Cross. Suzanne Sauter, who has helped design and craft the

find the ornaments representing John the Baptist, Amos, and

ornaments for our Jesse Tree for more than fifteen years,


remembers that tradition being introduced to our church in the 1980s by then Priest Associate John Westerhoff. Suzanne

Although the Jesse Tree is great fun for young people, it is

recalls children gluing and glittering ornaments in the dining

not just for children. Suzanne has recently selected different

room while parishioner Rebecca Ashburn told Bible stories.

ornaments for each of the three liturgical years and suggested appropriate Bible readings for each design. As we begin

Bible stories are, of course, the core of the Jesse Tree. Each

Liturgical Year B, adults and families can use the Jesse Tree and

image – whether in an illustration, a stained glass window

the companion book of devotions at home as either an Advent

or hung on a tree – reminds us of an ancestor of Jesus or a

calendar (an ornament can be hung on a small tree, banner,

prophet who foretold Christ’s birth. The most well-known

or bulletin board each day) or for daily prayer. Ornament

Jesse Tree is probably in a stained-glass window at Chartes

patterns, devotional readings, and a short history of the Jesse

Cathedral. Created at a time when many people could not

Tree are all available in the dining room, along with other

read, the pictures were meant to help Christians learn the

Advent resources.

stories of our faith – stories that include people like Solomon, King David and the “root” of Jesus’ family tree, Jesse.





6, Tree

Pre-readers are still learning our stories from the Jesse Tree.


If you stepped into the Campus Center on November 27, you

transformation into

probably heard young children asking, “Who’s the ladder?”

an Epiphany Tree

(Jacob) or “What’s the heart mean?” (Ruth). Even the well-

of Warmth. Please

read may have had questions about the Minor Prophets

help redecorate the

(Haggai, Malachi, and Obadiah, anyone?). Throughout the

branches then with

intergenerational cutting and the coloring, there were lots of

warm scarves, hats,

questions and conversation.

gloves, and socks for


those in need. X The Jesse Tree is on display in the dining room through Christmas. Some of this year’s ornaments will be familiar. Daniel’s yarn-yoked lion and Ezekiel’s wheel (both originally designed, Suzanne believes, by Linda Malone) are on the



Protecting our Planet: God’s Creation By Mary Morrison The Creation Cycle events, displays and discussions on Solar

When buying gifts, think local. We are blessed to have

and wind energy highlighted the importance of protecting

many, many artisans and artists in Orange, Durham,

our planet - God’s Creation. During the upcoming Christmas

and Chatham Counties. Pottery, jewelry, and paintings

season the Environmental Stewardship Committee urges you

are available in shops or in studios/workshops. Try the

to continue thinking of ways to lessen your impact on the

Christmas bazaars held in local churches.


When buying gifts, think long-lasting. Insulated coffee mugs and reusable water bottles are now available in vibrant painted patterns. Canvas shopping bags are a

Here are some of the committee’s suggestions:

great way to decrease our use of plastic.

Wreaths and swags can be made using branches from

When buying gifts, think fun. Giving tickets to a play,

older fuller trees that you may have. Careful pruning is

concert, or performance gives the recipient a memorable

a good thing.


Gifts made by family members in workshops or at home

Books, the kind you hold in your hand to read or read

are always welcome and the list of food, items of clothing,

to your children, or e-bookreaders like Kindle and Nook

or crafts is endless. Try baking cookies, brownies, or

would be a big hit. Did you know e-books can now be

bread made with milk and eggs produced at local farms.

downloaded from some public libraries?

Make herb-infused oil, perhaps using herbs from your garden. And then there are jams and jellies, fudge, spiced

You and your family can think of many other ideas for a

or candied nuts, and of course peanut brittle. (North

greener Christmas. While protecting the planet and its

Carolina produces 3.6 million pounds of peanuts and

climate you could discover another dimension to the true

250 thousand pounds of pecans according to recent

spirit of Christmas. X


If you knit or sew, try making scarves (very trendy), mittens, aprons, or a simple vest.

Ornaments made from dough, construction paper, pine cones and seeds always bring a smile.

If it is your tradition to send cards, shop for those made from recycled paper. Electronic greetings are a great way to stay in touch with family and friends. A calendar listing birthdays and anniversaries can be done easily on your computer.


By Scott Beddingfield, 2012 Annual Giving Chair Undoubtedly you have heard, read, and maybe even received

During this campaign, members of my team and I have

email about our Opening Doors Annual Campaign. Many of

spoken to many of you by phone, confirming that pledge

you have responded: in fact 30% more of you have pledged

packets were received and answering questions about the

than at this time last year. For that effort we are both thankful

campaign. These conversations are always enlightening,

and grateful. Sunday, November 20, was Ingathering Sunday.

many times surprising; often both caller and recipient are

This day not only marked the end of our liturgical church

blessed by the pastoral ministry that occurs. Your fellow

year, but was also a day for acknowledging and blessing those

parishioners who have volunteered to call have demonstrated

pledges offered toward the 2012 annual campaign. We are

their commitment – their commitment to make sure you

moving in the right direction but still have a way to go to

have received informative campaign materials and convenient

make our goal.

ways to pledge, whether by mail, online, or in person; their commitment to answer your questions; their commitment


to be your church family, even if you haven’t attended in

Offerings were given for special occasions and extraordinary

awhile or if we’ve had your address wrong. Indeed, this is

needs. These came from resources accumulated over time. Tithes

a campaign all about opening doors. Hopefully you have

happened regularly; offerings occasionally. The same is true

experienced that our calls were not about money and not

for annual and capital giving. Annual campaigns call forth a

about amount: our calls were about commitment.

significant percentage of our annual income, returning to God a portion of that with which we have been blessed. Capital giving,

As the Reverend Tammy Lee beautifully shared in her

for out of the ordinary needs like construction and renovation,

October 9 sermon to kick off our campaign, how we think

draw on our accumulated resources and/or anticipated wealth.

about our commitments to God and our community

These are principles that can guide us all as we participate in

and how we think about our money says a lot about our

“Opening Doors,” our annual giving campaign, as well as “A

faith in God’s grace, and our trust that he can re-fill our

Light on the Hill: Building to Serve,” our capital campaign. “All

unclenched hands after we have freely given of that which

things come of thee, O Lord, and of thine own have we given

he’s provided us. If you haven’t already, are you able this


year to fill out a pledge card and share with your church what your intentions for regular offering will be for 2012?

Each one of us and our financial commitment is needed by

If you are one who gives regularly in the offering plate

both campaigns. So to those of you who have already turned

but doesn’t complete a pledge card, please help us budget

in a pledge card to Opening Doors (and it’s over half of you)

responsibly by giving us some idea of your intentions before

we say thank you. To those of you who have not responded,

2012 is upon us.

please consider doing so now. To quote Tammy:

Finally, a word about campaigns: There are two ongoing

“… open your spirit…throw the doors of your spirit wide

campaigns that merit your attention and appreciation of

open, honor the God who made you and all that is and

their differences. The A Light on the Hill: Building to Serve

practice the subversive act of believing that all you have and

campaign about which David Ross reports elsewhere in

all you are is really God’s …practice can indeed make perfect

this issue is for the long term. It is a capital campaign, and

the hope that is within you.”

capital campaigns do not come around very often. The Opening Doors campaign is about funding our church’s

Thank you and thanks be to God for Opening Doors. X

operating budget for next year. It is an annual campaign, and we will conduct it again next year, and the year after that. You may be thinking, “How could they expect me to give to both?” A helpful answer may be in this teaching from our Rector: Our faith has long exhorted us to “bring to the temple your tithes and offerings.” Those are two distinct things. For Jews and early Christians, tithes came from their regular income, the crops and money they lived on, which resulted from the responsible but bold use of their God-given skills and talents.


A Light on the Hill: Building to Serve Countdown to Victory By Dave Ross As you read this article there are less than thirty days until

pledges from more than 378 households.

December 31, 2011. Why is that significant? It is the fervent hope of the more than 150 volunteers who have worked long

Increasing gifts to the Opening Doors annual campaign,

and hard on the various phases of the Capital Campaign for

which will fund the 2012 parish budget, is an essential

the Chapel of the Cross that success can be declared by the

priority. However, the required commitments for our new

end of 2011.

Fellowship Hall, additional adult and children’s classroom space, an updated and efficient kitchen, modern and efficient

The total project cost for our new addition and renovation

HVAC, and adequate office space for our priests and staff is

project is currently at $6.3 million. Almost $5,000,000 in

critical to the wellbeing and future growth of our parish.

outright gifts and pledges has been received with additional commitments coming in weekly. This represents gifts and


The overall project cost has decreased from an estimate of

$10.3 million in 2010 to $6.3 million for 28,000 net square

increasing it or extending your pledged amount for one or

feet. Value engineering has been completed, some planned

two years.

finishes and furnishings eliminated, and every possible dollar saved throughout the project; this reduced the projected cost

If you want more details please contact:

by approximately $4 million. David Ross, Campaign Completion Task Force Chair Design development drawings should be completed by

Phone: 919.929.2193 ext. 25 – cell: 919.949.4676

late January, 2012. Barnhill Construction Company, our

Construction Manager, is committed to obtaining high quality contractors at the lowest possible cost to our parish

Margaret Conrad, Co-Chair

during the February-June, 2012, time period. It is anticipated

Cell: 919.818.8138

that actual construction can begin in October, 2012, with an

estimated 12-month construction period. Reid Conrad, Co-Chair Yes, this project will take place but only when it has the full

Cell: 919.612.8003

and complete support of the entire parish. In September it

was determined that a minimum of $1 million in additional outright gifts and pledges was required. Of this total,

Ford Worthy, Senior Warden

approximately $500,000 is now committed with a number of

Phone: 919-969-7584

parishioners already making second and third gifts/pledges to

assure completion of this effort. You may also contact any of our four staff priests. Any one For parishioners who want to preserve and support only the

of these individuals can discuss how you can best assist with

Battle and Yates buildings, there is $750,000 in the project

assuring success of this essential project.

budget for renovation and upgrades to those facilities. This also includes required funds for a new HVAC system for the

It is in your hands. Please give the matter careful and prayerful

entire complex as well as a sprinkler system that has been a

consideration. X

deficiency for our irreplaceable chapel and church as well as the other parts of our parish facilities. The Vestry, upon recommendation from the Finance Committee, will make decisions on the ultimate size and scope of the new and renovated facilities hopefully in the first quarter of 2012. If you have not made a gift or pledge, please do so immediately. It can be paid over a three to five year period (2011-2015). If you have already made a commitment, please consider


An Advent Reflection By Christopher Hogin It is early morning before dawn in December of 1998. I stand

through the hollow sanctuary, while candles pour light over a

alone in the courtyard of an Episcopal church in Knoxville,

small wooden cross on the altar.

Tennessee, exhaling frosted breaths, shivering amidst the cold and darkness. My mind is scattered and reeling, plagued

With dawn breaking, I stare at the Advent wreath as flecks

with anxiety. The darkness mirrors the darkness within; I am

of morning sun filter through the stained glass windows. At

lost. Despite this inner turmoil, I stand there committed to

this moment I am given a new understanding of the season.

attending morning payer during Advent.

Like this holy physical place, there is a holy place within, a chambered sanctuary where light perpetual glows. It can be

Eventually, the iron latch of the wooden door clanks open,

difficult to find at times, especially when shrouded by cold de-

and I am welcomed by an elderly morning prayer officiant.

spair, but it does exist. It flickers patiently, beckoning us to find

She leads me through a darkened stone-columned passage-

a passageway through the empty labyrinth reaches of our souls,

way until we arrive at the chapel. Three flickering white can-

leading us homeward to a place where neither shadows nor de-

dles placed in a red-berried evergreen wreath illuminate the

spair can overcome the perpetual light of Christ. X

sanctuary. A strong essence of freshly cut pine awakens my senses. The service proceeds in a rhythmic, meditative pace as the two officiants and I exchange prayers, our voices echoing


Adult Education Sunday Mornings - 10:20-11:05 a.m. December 4

Looking Ahead

The History of Lessons and Carols – Dr. Wylie S. Quinn

January 9 – February 6, 2012

Newcomers’ Welcome – The Rev. Stephen Elkins-Williams Growing with Our Aging Parents, A monthly support group – Zoe Ulshen

December 11 Seasonal Poetry – Michael McFee 2nd Sunday NOOMA Class – The Rev. David Frazelle

December 18 Reception following Lessons and Carols Service

December 25 and January 1

Monday Mornings, 9:00-11:00 a.m., Let the Bones Dance – The Rev. Marcia Mount Shoop Contemporary Christian faith and practice tend to address spiritual, mental, and emotional issues but ignore the body. As a result, many believers are uncomfortable in their own skins. Marcia Mount Shoop is a theologian and author of “Let the Bones Dance, Embodiment and the Body of Christ”. She received her Ph.D. in religious studies from Emory University. An ordained Presbyterian minister, she presently serves as theologian in residence at University Presbyterian Church. This class will be limited to 20 participants. You may register on the adult education bulletin board in the dining room. To defray cost, a $50.00 love offering is recommended, which includes the cost of the book. Obtain the book from Gretchen Jordan.

No Church School or Adult Education

Other Opportunities December 7, 9:00-10:30 a.m. First Wednesday Women’s Bible Study, The Letter from James – Gretchen Jordan Tuesdays, 5:00-6:30 p.m. Centering Prayer, Choir Room Thursdays, 6:00- 6:30 p.m. Veni Spiritus, Binkley Baptist – Susannah Smith


Advent and Christmas Calendar December 3 - 31 Saturday - December 3

Advent Quiet Day led by the Rev. Stephen Elkins-Williams (9:30-2:30 at Camp New Hope)

Sunday - December 4

10:20 a.m. - Bibles given to two-year-olds in Church School

Newcomers’ Welcome Session

History of Advent Service of Lessons and Carols led by Dr. Wylie S. Quinn

Growing with Our Aging Parents led by Zoe Ulshen

2:30 p.m. - Caroling to homebound parishioners

Wednesday - December 7

8:30 a.m. - Women’s Bible Study led by Gretchen Jordan

Saturday - December 10

Town Christmas parade

9:00 a.m. - Awakening Heart

4:00 p.m. - Children’s Participatory Pageant

Bishop’s Ball at the Summit

Sunday - December 11

10:20 a.m. - Seasonal Poetry with Michael McFee

CrossTies NOOMA Class led by the Rev. David Frazelle

9:30 p.m. - Last Compline for fall term

Saturday - December 17


1:30 p.m. - Lessons and Carols rehearsal

Sunday - December 18

Advent Service of Lessons and Carols (identical services at 9:00 and 11:15 a.m.)

Monday - December 19

7:00 p.m. - Special Worship with People with Developmental Disabilities

Wednesday - December 21

Junior Choir rehearsal and Christmas party

Saturday - December 24

3:00 and 5:00 p.m. - Christmas Eve Pageants (children bring unwrapped gifts)

7:30 p.m. - The First Eucharist of Christmas

11:00 p.m. - The Christ Mass

Sunday - December 25 - Christmas Day

10:00 a.m. service only; no nursery care or church school

Monday - December 26

Parish Office Closed

Wednesday - December 28

No choir rehearsals

Saturday - December 31 Final day to submit gifts for 2011; must be postmarked by 12/31 or in the slot in parish office door before midnight


Lenten Retreat - March 23-26, 2012 Just Noticing ... Awareness Tools for Contemplative Practice: A Meditation Journaling Retreat Workshop for Contemplatives The Spiritual Life Committee of the Chapel of the Cross invites you to attend the 3-day Lenten retreat, led by Paul J. Ilecki, Ed.D., “Just Noticing ... Awareness Tools for Contemplative Practice, a meditation journaling retreat workshop for contemplatives” beginning on Friday afternoon, March 23, and continuing over the weekend until Monday morning March 26, 2012. The retreat will be held at St. Francis Springs Prayer Center, Stoneville, NC, approximately 30 miles north of Greensboro. The Prayer Center is a 25,000 sq. ft. state-of-the-art facility situated on 140 acres of beautiful and peaceful wooded property that offers a natural setting for prayer, reflection, and meditation. This retreat is about rediscovering God’s presence and action in our lives in whatever form that may be. Just noticing: Most journaling techniques rely on reflection and insight, a gathering of memories and understandings that may prove helpful but ultimately remove the journaler from the immediate experience of awareness. Just noticing is a set of awareness tools that can lead the journaler back into the flow and energy of life as it is being lived, with sufficient attention to the forms of experience (events) to address their energies and force. We then move silently toward states of awareness that may bring deep peace and calming mindfulness. An outcome of just noticing practice is a life lived with attentiveness, expanded awareness, and graceful acceptance. The retreat will include meditation practice, instruction, small group discussion, and a silent environment. More detailed information on the retreat, along with a downloadable detailed .pdf document, can be found at Paul’s website, The leader: Paul J. Ilecki, Ed.D., a former priest and monk at St. Benedict’s Monastery, holds a doctorate in adult learning and development. He was assistant dean of the Graduate School at UNC-Chapel Hill. He currently serves on the staff of Intensive Centering Prayer retreats for Contemplative Outreach of Colorado, conducts his own meditation retreats and workshops, and teaches reflective journaling using the Intensive Journal® developed by Dr. Ira Progoff for Dialogue House, NYC. He developed Just noticing in response to a felt need for a noticing process that more directly complements contemplative practices. The cost for the retreat, room, and meals is $295 per person for double occupancy, or $375 for one of the six available single rooms. Registration is limited to 25 attendees. Call the parish office (929-2193) to reserve a place with a $100 deposit. For more details, contact Pat Moore, (967-1961) or the Rev. Tammy Lee, (929-2193) tlee@


Vestry Actions At its meeting on October 20, the Vestry:

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Authorized Hartman-Cox to proceed with a full set of Design Development Drawings (assuming a fullyfinished third floor as an “add alternative)” at a cost not to exceed $132,000 Learned that Church of the Holy Family has agreed to host the Preschool during construction/renovation, that Holy Trinity Lutheran has agreed to lease parking spaces, and that UNC has agreed to location of a temporary sandbox playground on the Spencer Dorm grounds Learned that the Global Mission Committee has submitted to the Rector and Wardens a request for $15,000 from parish special gifts and bequests to fund an event rental microbusiness at San Patricio and that this request has been forwarded to the Finance Committee to determine what funds are available Approved the recommendations of the Outreach Ministry Committee for disbursement of funds from the Discretionary Outreach line item in the amounts of $2000 to Alliance of AIDS, Carolina, and $500 to Faith Connections on Mental Illness.

Altar Flowers for Christmas Offerings of flowers for the church and chapel altars, as a memorial or thanksgiving, are especially appropriate at Christmas. For names to be included in the Christmas bulletins, this request form along with your check must be in the church office by Monday, December 12. The check: The Chapel of the Cross, memo line Christmas flowers.

Mailing Address: St. Hilda’s Altar Guild – Christmas flowers The Chapel of the Cross 304 East Franklin Street Chapel Hill, NC 27514

Enclosed is my check for $ __________(any amount you wish). Please print (full names, no titles): In Thanksgiving for: _______________________________

In Memory of: ____________________________________



My name, email address, and daytime phone number. Please add your mailing address if you wish a copy of a bulletin to be sent to you. ______________________________________________________________________ ______________________________________________________________________


A Parish in the Episcopal Diocese of North Carolina 304 East Franklin Street Chapel Hill, North Carolina 27514

The Vestry Terms end 2012 Carter Kersh James Moeser Linda Rimer (Junior Warden) Ford Worthy (Senior Warden) Terms end 2013 Alice Cotten Nancy McGuffin Dick Taylor Joel Wagoner Terms end 2014 Joe Ferrell Hugh Morrison Alan Rimer Nancy Tunnessen David Joseph, Treasurer Nancy Kelly, Clerk Eugene Dauchert, Chancellor The vestry regularly meets on the third Thursday of each month. Assignments, contact information, and photos of the vestry members may be found on the parish web site (www., and on the board across the hall from the parish office.

The Rt. Rev. Michael Bruce Curry, Bishop The Rt. Rev. William O. Gregg, Assistant Bishop The Rt. Rev. Alfred C. “Chip” Marble, Jr., Assisting Bishop

The Clergy The Rev. Stephen Elkins-Williams, Rector The Rev. Tambria E. Lee, Associate for University Ministry The Rev. Victoria Jamieson-Drake, Associate for Pastoral Ministry The Rev. David Frazelle, Associate for Parish Ministry The Rev. Dr. William H. Joyner, Deacon The Rev. Margaret Silton, Deacon The Rev. Dr. Richard W. Pfaff, Priest Associate The Rev. Dr. William H. Morley, Priest Associate The Rev. John M. Keith, Priest Associate

Parish Office hours: Mon.—Fri., 9 am to 5 pm. Phone: 919-929-2193 Fax: 919-933-9187 Web: Email:

The Staff Dr. Wylie S. Quinn III, Organist/Choirmaster Gretchen Jordan, Associate for Christian Formation Boykin Bell, Associate for Christian Formation Caren Parker, Youth Ministry Assistant Mary Anne Handy, Parish Administrator Marsha Pate, Parish Administrative Assistant Nick Jaeger, Comm. and Tech. Manager Debby Kulik, Parish Accountant Ron McGill, Facilities Manager Joy Gattis, Sunday Morning Child Care Director Elizabeth Terry, Cantus Choir Director Sarah McRae Anna Lorenz Wedding Coordinators Rebecca Rogers Susan Gladin, Johnson Intern Program Director

December 2011 - Cross Roads  

Episcopal, journal, monthly, newsletter

December 2011 - Cross Roads  

Episcopal, journal, monthly, newsletter