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COVER STORY 14 Ready, Set, Celebrate!


COLUMNS 38 Spiritual Grounding Embrace the Moment


39 Beauty Fall into Winter Feeling Fabulous

18 Strollin’ through the Season 40 Parenting 22 Ultimate Gift Guide 26 A Delectable Journey

Not All Talk, Fostering Gratitude

48 Last Page with John Gray Just Enough

30 Beauty in the Simple Life: Visiting the Cotswolds 36 Caring for the Elderly Throughout the Holidays

SPECIAL SECTIONS 24 Shop Local 32 Senior Living

IN EVERY ISSUE 10 Editor’s letter 41 Arts & Entertainment



VOTE NOW! Bestie Ballot Page 49


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Photos by Konrad Odhiambo




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he warm embrace of a friend I haven’t seen in ages…the smiles of my children eagerly awaiting their slice of pie…cooking side by side with my sister who lives hours away. These are the reasons I love this season of thanks. The simple joys that come with November are why Thanksgiving has always been my favorite of the winter holidays. I love the universality of it – we are all celebrating the same holiday on the same day. I love that preparation is shorter, perhaps a week or so, and I love that it is truly a full sensory experi‐ ence; from the hugs, to the smells of dinner, to the clinking of glasses, and to the flickering of candles…every fiber is reminded how blessed I am. To recreate this sensory experience on your holiday table from Thanksgiving to the New Year’s countdown, we spoke with David Michael Schmidt of Albany’s Renaissance Floral Design for ideas on bringing the sparkle of the season to every happening we host. We also took a moment to look at other celebrations around the world, the customs and the food. From the floating candles of Thailand’s Loy Krathong to the colorful Christmas celebration of Puebla, Mexico, one thing remains a con‐ stant: the importance of family and friends. This year, as an introduction to our holi‐ day season, we once again bring you our favorite Capital Region shops that can help you find presents for everyone on your list. We have shared some of our team’s top picks for each personality on your list, and we have curated a list of amazing sources for the per‐ fect holiday gift. It is wonderful to visit these businesses throughout the season, but during a local holiday festival, it can be all the more joyful! Our collection of strolls will ensure that you are in the holiday spirit from now until we ring in the New Year! With much gratitude, I would like to thank you, dear readers, for your continued support of Capital Region Living Magazine, and wish you and your family the happiest of Thanksgivings.




This merrymaking season, aaahave plenty of cheer–

Cordials These spirits can be served on their own as a night cap, in coffee, or used in the creation of fun cocktails. v Amaretto v Galliano v Chartreuse v Kahlua v Cointreau

Mixers Purchase these in small bottles or cans, if possible. That way you can stash away unopened ones between festivities and their bubbles will be dancing fresh into the New Year! v Cola v Ginger ale v Club soda v Tonic v Cranberry juice v Orange juice

Garnishes v Lemons and limes v Pitted green olives v Amarena or maraschino cherries

Glassware v Red and white stems are wonderful to have, but if your guests (or you) aren’t that particular, find a solid multi-use stem that is sturdy and will fit in your bar. v If a toast is on the agenda, glam flutes or old-fashioned coupe glasses are a must-have. v Collins and rocks glasses are work-horses, so make sure to have a nice selection. The Well Told custom rocks glass are conversation starters for sure. v If your guests are big martini drinkers, invest in some nice martini glasses – for that Bond feel. v As you focusing on beer? You will need a few pint glasses on hand for your brew-loving friends. Bonus: they are perfect for water and juice for the DD’s on your guest list.


A bar should be personal – make sure to favorite libation, but also a couple of solid go-to drinkers for example, make vino your focus and rosés (add in a house cocktail – and mocktail – everyone typically has a cell phone on hand to is a fun addition to any bar. Plus, they make (CRL recommends, I'm Just Here for the Holding it all together: the wood-paneled timeless piece offering elegant storage and mix-


make sure your guests ddthe liquid kind that is.

Liquor v Bourbon – Stick with Kentucky here. SPLURGE – Invest in a smooth sipping bourbon for the Southern Belles on your guest list. v Rum – Keep a basic light rum on hand for mixing. SPLURGE – A nice dark rum is an essential for any tropical drink. v Tequila – White or silver tequilas are perfect for margaritas. SPLURGE – A lovely reposado or añjeo tequila is a wonderful alternative for lovers of a woody, smoky spirit. v Vermouth, both sweet and dry – For the Negroni and Martini crowd, these are essentials. v Gin – A nice London dry gin, such as Caorunn is a great option for mixing and sipping alike. v Vodka – Go with the crowd here. For mixing, Tito’s is a great value. SPLURGE – For the martini-lovers among you, investing in a higher-end vodka is worth it.


have what you need to mix up your own classics. If your guests are mostly wine offer a nice variety of reds, whites and dry for those who want to experiment). Although research a quick recipe, a great cocktail book great gifts for the home mixologist on your list. Drinks by the award-winning Sother Teague.) Cosmo Bar (bdiusa.com, shown here!) is a ing space for a sophisticated home bar setup.

There are definitely some necessities here, but for others think about what you like to drink. If you are a big Mojitolover, invest in a comfy muddler, for example. v Cocktail spoon v Paring knife v Cutting board v Cork screw v Bottle opener v Ice bucket v 2-sided jigger by Viski v Ice scoop or tongs v Reamer v Shaker v Cocktail Napkins v Cocktail picks v Metal straws and swizzles v Wine stoppers



Photos by Konrad Odhiambo Gratitude, Bounty, and Glitter

Ready, Set, Celebrate

From Thanksgiving to New Year’s Day, the right tablescape is the center-piece for a great party. by Dani Testa-Sgueglia


he holiday season is brimming with entertaining opportunities, from Thanksgiving feasting and binge‐worthy cookie exchanges to a decadent New Year’s Day brunch. Amid all of the hoopla, exactly one thing prevents a well‐intentioned party from descend‐ ing into creative chaos – a well‐designed tablescapes. The right setting not only showcas‐ es all of the scrumptious eats you’ve lovingly slaved over, but serves as the focal point for the warm, inviting atmosphere that fosters the rich holiday memories every family cherishes. With Thanksgiving right around the corner to kick off this decade’s last parade of parties, we sat down with David Michael Schmidt of Renaissance Floral Design (1561 Western Avenue, Albany; rfdny.com) to up our table‐set‐ ting game. Schmidt has more than two decades of experience in special events and caters to clients at his spectacular showroom and shop. “I just loved the design element,” he says about transiting to design from food in 1995, “and being a part of my clients’ special day.” Last year, the store, which is packed with unique home décor finds and stunning garden elements,

underwent a major renovation and reopened in October 2018 as the largest floral designer out‐ side of New York City. This interior design won‐ derland was the perfect setting to learn the right tips and tricks to carry your table from Turkey Day clear to the New Year’s Day finale.

Gratitude, Bounty, and Glitter Since the Thanksgiving table is truly the focal point of this gratitude‐filled holiday, delight your guests with a memorable tablescape that spotlights natural elements in unique presentations. Splurge on a lovely cen‐ terpiece (or two!) that incorporates the colors of the season, varying textures – and consider adding drama with some feathers and fruit. “We use locally‐grown flowers whenever pos‐ sible,” Schmidt says. “All the dahlias in this arrangement are from the Hudson Valley.” Metallic touches such as the pewter dining set from Match Pewter (shown above) add glam‐ our, by catching the candlelight throughout the meal and well into dessert and after‐din‐ ner drinks. Homemade touches such as the glitter pumpkin place cards and artichoke

votives add a bit of sparkle and can be a great project to keep little hands busy. “I just sprayed the pumpkins with spray glue and added glitter,” Schmidt says. “For the arti‐ chokes, I cut flat bottoms and cored them out. Put a simple glass votive holder in, and you are set!” Replace bulky salt shakers with commu‐ nal salt cellars and an antique spoon to free up valuable table space. The cellar on this table is from Be‐Home, and the rich wood grain com‐ pliments the table itself.

Here We Come A-Caroling! Cookie exchanges, tree‐trimming parties, and welcoming carolers require heaping plates of cookies, a couple of warming drinks – and not much else. Keep your table fun and whimsical by using a matched set of dishes – here, Schmidt showcases his Mackenzie Childs collection – dressed for the season with rose petals, “sug‐ ared” roses, and silk holiday picks. “We use spray glue and a larger grain of glitter to give them that sugared look,” Schmidt says. Displaying your offerings in tiered vessels and footed bowls is a great way to fill the space and

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Candlelit Christmas

create a bit of drama by moving the eye verti‐ cally. This is also the perfect time to break out a fun table covering! Schmidt selected a sequined textile in rose gold that catches the light. Add a smaller floral arrangement and a tabletop tree decorated with traditional ornaments and glass baubles to keep the fantasy of the season alive. “This is the perfect place to show off your fami‐ ly’s collection of older ornaments.”

Candlelit Christmas Whatever your tradition, when celebrating the high holiday of the season, keep the sancti‐ ty of the celebration in focus by using your favorite china, simple napkin presentations, a small gift on each setting, and dramatic candles in varying heights. When selecting linens, choose complementary ivory or white with pearlized elements. The pearl will reflect the glow of the candles. Small bud vases filled with glittered roses, thistle, and lisianthus, are inter‐ mingled with dramatic homemade candle arrangements using water in clear cylinder vases. These are made by layering greens such as eucalyptus, juniper, and pine with rose petals, berries, and pinecones, filling with water

Here We Come A-Caroling!

and adding a floating candle. “I love the cylinder arrangments,” Schmidt says. “They are com‐ pletely customizable and can be used over and over for about five days.” Schmidt advises using candles with as high a burn time as you can find – this way your candles will last through dessert.

New Year’s Day Brunch To cap off the splendor of the season, keep your table simply dressed to welcome the new year. Clean white dishes – Schmidt selected hand made pieces from Montes Doggett and tureens from his personal Portmeirion collection – present your food offerings to guests in a buffet set‐up. Bring back the candle arrangements from Christmas dinner and add drama with a beautiful state‐ ment floral arrangement that includes belles of Ireland, juniper, hydrangea, Queen Anne’s lace, celosia, and blooms of pink mink protea. Schmidt’s Chocolate Biscotti is so deli‐ cious that we may or may not have snacked on set after finishing the “Here We Come A‐ Caroling” images. This recipe is perfect for catering to guests with dietary restrictions, as it is paleo, gluten‐free, dairy‐free, contains no refined sugar, and is soy‐free. CRL

New Year’s Day Brunch


RFD Chocolate Biscotti by DMS 1 ½ cup almond flour ½ cup coconut flour ½ teaspoon baking soda 3 tablespoons raw cocoa powder 1 teaspoon 100% pure vanilla ¾ cup organic honey ½ teaspoon Himalayan or sea salt, fine ½ cup nuts, chopped (Schmidt prefers hazelnuts, pistachios, or almonds) ½ cup dried figs, chopped Instructions: • Mix all dry ingredients in a stand mixer and slowly add the honey and vanilla. • After mixed thoroughly, add the nuts and figs • Place on parchment paper and flatten to about 1” think using another piece of parchment (mind the edges, keep them as consistent as possible.) If you DOUBLE the recipe, then use two pans. FOLLOW BELOW EXACTLY • Bake at 350⁰ F or convection bake at 325˚F for 15 minutes. • Shut oven off, DO NOT REMOVE THE BIS‐ COTTI FOR 30 minutes. • Remove Biscotti from the oven and let rest for ten minutes. Slice and place slices back on parchment. Schmidt uses a large serrated knife to get a cleaner cut. • Turn the oven back on and bake again for 5 minutes at the same temperature as the first bake. • Remove from oven and cool. • If you opt not to use the figs, the biscotti will be very hard. If you prefer a softer bis‐ cotti, store them in a zip‐top bag.



A Stroll to Remember

Street lights dressed for the season, a nip in the air, the warmth of a little hand in yours – it must be stroll season. As Capital Region natives, we dare Mother Nature to keep us inside during the holidays, and there are outdoor events from Rhinebeck to Saratoga Springs standing ready to call our bluff. Ready for the challenge? Here’s what some of our favorite annual events have planned this year – so break out that new scarf you’ve been dying to show off and turn on your holiday spirit! Full regalia at Troy’s beloved Victorian Stroll

Photos courtesy of The Rensselaer County Regional Chamber of Commerce Opposite page: Rhinebeck Sinterklass photo by Douglas Baz Photography

From dazzling floats (bring your sweet tooth!) to idyllic Victorian streetscapes, our favorite holiday strolls this year

Saturday, November 23 51st Annual Holiday Parade Downtown Schenectady • discoverschenectady.com Cookies, cakes, and candy, oh my! Downtown Schenectady’s parade of lights kicks off the holiday season with a mouth‐watering “Sugar Rush” theme, promising floats adorned with Candyland‐worthy houses, candy cane forests, and costumed gingerbread men marching with the performers, bands and fire trucks. The parade steps off at 5 pm, but make sure to get there early and armed with a thermos of hot chocolate and a blanket for the littles to camp out on. Watch their delight as the largest nighttime parade in the northeast rolls by culmi‐ nating with the landing of the big man in red…Santa! Saturday, November 30 Sinterklaas Send‐Off Celebration Kingston • sinterklaashudsonvalley.com This holiday tradition harkens back to the Dutch traditions of the Hudson Valley. Blending crafts, vendors, art markets and food, this cel‐ ebration is a feast of fantasy and a sight to behold. Family‐friendly activities begin at noon in downtown Kingston. But the highlight of the festivities is the parade that kicks off at dusk and heads straight to the waterfront to send off Sinterklaas (the Dutch iteration of Saint Nicholas) on his week‐long journey across the river. Sending Sinterklaas off…

Saturday, December 7 Sinterklaas Festival Rhinebeck • sinterklaashudsonvalley.com His week‐long journey completed, Sinterklaas is joyously wel‐ comed home to the eastern shore of the Hudson with dance, music and theatrical performances throughout the village of Rhinebeck (don’t miss the Crowns and Branches workshop!) More than 250 performers will be on display this year, ensuring something special for everyone. The day of family fun is capped off by the magical Children’s Starlight Parade at 6 pm. The two‐story tall puppets will delight the child in all!

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Thursday, December 5 Saratoga Springs Victorian Streetwalk Saratoga Springs • saratoga.com Old‐fashioned Christmas cards come to life with costumed per‐ formers, carolers, candlelit trees and Victorian holiday magic. Adorned storefronts up and down Broadway invite strollers in for warmth and loads of shopping (all of the holiday hoopla will get you in the mood). Down the street at the City Center, the Festival of Trees offers inspira‐ tion to even the grinchiest of folks in the decking of their halls. Santa and Mrs. Claus make their dramatic entrance to the sound of carols and the jingle of sleigh bells, while Mayor Meg Kelly has the honor of light‐ ing the tree, ushering in the holiday season. More than 40 sites around Broadway offer merry entertainment, while eateries such as Hamlet & Ghost and Cantina serve up treats for extra cheer. Thursday, December 7 Hudson Winter Walk Hudson • hudsonhall.org Troops of costumed carolers, Mr. & Mrs. Claus with their reindeer, storefronts aglow, and fireworks over the river all come together for this much‐anticipated holiday happening. Warren Street will welcome more than 20,000 visitors to the decorated street for an evening of hol‐ iday merriment, shopping, wonderful food and mugs of cheer!

Hudson winter walk


Sunday, December 8 37th Annual Troy Victorian Stroll Downtown Troy • victorianstroll.com The northeast’s largest free holiday festival is in its 37th year and once again celebrates the season in high Victorian style. Downtown Troy bustles with food trucks, local vendors, children’s exhibits and special presentations. More than 100 live performances throughout the day will delight your senses and ignite your holiday spirit. Local storefronts don their holiday best for the annual shop window decoration competition and offer wonderful samples and specials for the occasion. The eateries (hit up favorites such as the Illium Café, Mudaddy Flats, and Hudson‐ Chatham Winery) around Monument Square are ready with warming treats to take the chill off.

Troy Victorian Stroll



Ultimate Gift Guide Whomever you are buying for this holiday season, make sure to give them something unexpected – and perfectly picked out just for them. These are the CRL team’s top picks to make you this year’s gift-giving guru!

The MEN in your life may be the most difficult to buy for, but whether he is a “Joe Six-Pack,” Cristiano Ronaldo, or just the best man ever, he’s earned a special gift this season.




whiskerslaces.com Any fashionisto worth his artisanal salt loves his loafers to show a bit of personality. Whiskers Shoelaces gives him so many options, ensuring his ol’ reliables stay on-trend.

stephendavidleonard.com Make sure your man has everything he needs, even while on the go. The Traveler Messenger Bag is made of soft, durable leather that will age with grace – just like your fella.

manscaped.com Manscaped is tops in below-the-belt grooming. All your grooming goods are degisned to painlessly trim and style. For a dose of humor, a clean cut and 20% off, use code CRLMAG20.

Your favorite BEAUTY BUFF will glow all season long with these YouTube vlog-worthy fun finds.




luckychick.com She wants luscious lips, so give her the gift of an all-natural matte look that hydrates and lasts all day. Bonus, these laquers are vegan and gluten-free.

ellamila.com Why have your favorite fashionista settle for chemicals, when they can have painted paws without them? Ella + Mia will give her a chip-free finish that will last.

lavenderstardust.com Her favorite color is glitter so, let her rock it all evening long..on her hair, face, and body. Check out these roll-on glitters from Lavender Stardust!

Make sure your beloved GLOBE-TROTTER opens up something spectacular this holiday – wherever they may be.

Fill your loved one’s STOCKINGS with these hot (but little) stuffable finds.

SOCKLESS? NOPE! invisiasox.com Invisasox brings comfort and a no-slip design to the family member wanting to rock the sockless look year-round.



sleepphones.com The most comfortable headphones ever – SleepPhones combine ultra-thin speakers and a soft-as-pajamas fleece headband; great for a snooze on that next cross-country flight!

parklandmfg.com Who says you can’t save the earth while traveling the globe? Parkland Designs makes a ton of packing solutions made from 100% recycled fiber.

Whatever your WEE BAMBINO is into, make sure to encourage their passion this holiday season. YEAR-LONG SIPS sipsby.com A subscription to Sips by will ensure your favorite tea-lover will have new and exciting brews to try every month!



loogguitars.com Loog Guitars are designed for little hands, and thanks to included interactive learning tools, your young aspiring rockers will be playing a future greatest hit on their first day!

learningresources.com Watch your littles creatively turn everyday ingredients into sweets using this Yumology kit. From ice pops to no-bake desserts...this kit will inspire your future pastry chef!

BRILLIANT BATHER lifearound2angels.com Beautiful designs made with all-natural ingredients, these bombs will keep your bather relaxed all winter long.



tinkeringlabs.com Imagine your budding inventor’s joy in building a machine that really runs! This Electric Motors Catalyst kit comes with everything your little needs, including tools and connectors.

olivertheornament.com The ornaments in this heartwarming book have seen many holiday seasons over the years from their perch on the tree. Gift set includes a hand painted Oliver ornament.

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FASHIONABLE FOOTWEAR fringeyou.com Add some dazzle to their tried-and-trues by adding some Fringe! Think classics, glitter and loads of color choices.


TEN THOUSAND VILLAGES tenthousandvillages.com Find fair trade games and gifts at Ten Thousand Villages in Albany. This Backgammon Box is handcrafted by artisans in Moradabad, India

One of the greatest joys of the holiday season here in the Capital Region is strolling the various pedestrian walkways, shopping areas and downtowns. This year, hit up our favorite local shops to find something they will l§ve!

CHRISTMAS DAYS xmasdays.com Christmas Days has décor to fit any holiday theme. Try this country look with red pick-up trucks, covered bridges, and buffalo plaid Santas.




joyellesjewelers.com Add a pop of color to her holiday wardrobe with this beautiful green and blue opal set in sterling silver with an accent diamond.

ceceswool.com Adorable handcrafted mittens from recycled wool sweaters will appeal to your most eco-conscious loved ones and keep their hands warm all season long.

bikebarncycles.com Bicycles and accessories for kids of all ages. Come see why they are the area’s top-rated bike shop. 2020 models have arrived! Open year round.






crosseyedowl.com These snuggly fleece critter blankets have a hood, cozy hand pockets and appliqued details. Many styles even have an attached tail! 40” x 50” $23.99 each.

Find us on Facebook The Speckled Hen carries a festive selection of candles, linens, pottery, florals and more! Stop in and see the beautiful vignettes.

trulyrhe.com Add this 100% cashmere topper to any look to bring a bit of color, glam, and warmth throughout the season. Available in many colors to suit any taste. $89.




adirondackstainedglassworks.com A superb selection of gift items including lamps, sun catchers, night lights, boxes, candle holders, garden items, and more! Stained glass at its best.

hewitts.com Give a melodic gift this holiday season. Discover the beautiful selection of wind chimes. Your loved one will love the soothing chimes available at Hewitt’s all year round!




fortunasausage.com Give the gift that gives back. Through 12/25/19, $5 from each purchase of Fortuna’s Ultimate Natural Assortment Box will be donated to the Angelman Syndrome Foundation. Only $52.95!

evolvesoapco.com These unique, handcrafted solid hardwood bandsaw boxes are lovingly made by Mr. Evolve and make wonderful holiday keepsake gifts. Free shipping across the USA.

romanationjewelers.com At Romanation Jewelers, discover a diverse collection of quality jewelry, like this rose gold plated sterling silver bracelet from award-winning designer Frederic Duclos.

lakesidefarmscidermill.com Meadowbrooke Gourds, a family-owned company, has been handcrafting these unique gourds for more than 20 years. The gourds are hand-carved and hand-painted with love.

A Delectable Journey

The Capital Region sets the table for these mouth-watering holiday traditions from around the world. by Dani Testa-Sgueglia


n this month of togetherness, where we count our blessings and find ourselves uni‐ fied in our search for the perfect turkey or craving moms chestnut stuffing, we see the core of what brings us together and it involves our stomachs. Everyone has family traditions for the win‐ ter holidays. These may include an evening in a house of worship, or perhaps ancient prayers uttered from memory above a flickering can‐ dle. It may include a house filled with raucous cousins from the far‐reaching branches of the family tree or a quiet dinner with your closest friends. Whatever your family’s holiday tradi‐ tion, most likely, there is one special dish that would never be left off the holiday table. The menu may change and morph to encompass changing times, but that one, time‐honored recipe will continue to grace the table for years and generations to come. This tradition, we have found, is one of those borderless similari‐ ties that is found around the world, and the thread woven through so many cultures. So moving past Thanksgiving, what about those from around the globe that are celebrat‐ ed by your neighbors right here in the Capital Region? Let’s take a quick foodie journey to find out. 26 | NOVEMBER 2019 | CRLMAG.COM

In Thailand, the heavily Buddhist popula‐ tion gives thanks and makes offerings to the water goddess during the first full moon of November. The Loy Krathong festival draws Thai people of all ages to the banks of rivers, streams and ponds to set small banana leaf boats called Krathong afloat. The small vessels carry incense, candles, and other offerings as well as thanks for the life‐giving water, wishes for the future and penitent apologies. The incense and candles are lit, and the boats are placed in the water; with a gentle push they float towards the others, creat‐ ing a flickering tableau. The holiday would not be complete with‐ out a large holiday meal of salads, grilled meats, curry stews, and noodle dishes. One of the traditional dishes is Gaeng Panang Gai (Panang Curry Chicken). Even though this festi‐ val isn’t really practiced in the Capital Region, you can certainly visit your favorite Thai restaurant to sample the flavors of the festival. Or for a frangrant addition to your repertoire, try making it at home. As with most tradition‐ al dishes, there are many variations, but the following recipe is a great starting off point. Make it your own by adding different vegeta‐ bles and tweaking the spiciness to suit your family’s palate.

Traveling west from Thailand, we land in India, where the largest holiday of the year fol‐ lows the lunar calendar and falls on the night of the new moon, mid‐October to mid‐ November. This year Diwali fell on October 27 but deserves to have its place on this journey since it is celebrated by such a huge population throughout India, Southeast Asia, and in Indian communities throughout the world (even here in our Capital Region!) The five‐day Hindu holiday celebrates the victory of good over evil and is memorialized as a festival of lights. The first day of obser‐ vance includes a thorough cleaning of the home and the creation of an intricate design of colored sand, rice and flowers on the floor of the home called rangoli. The main celebration falls on the third evening, when small clay lamps known as Diya, candles, lanterns and colored lights are lit in homes, places of wor‐ ship, on streets and even (as in Thailand) afloat on water to welcome good fortune. Families and friends gather to celebrate, perform puja (prayers and rituals), exchange gifts, and feast on mostly vegetarian special‐ ties like pakora, samosas, Aloo Tikki and dishes with paneer. Although these scrumptious savory dishes are hard to pass up, sweets like

kheer, gulab jamun and various types of halwa (grated vegetables mixed with condensed milk and ghee) take center stage throughout the celebration. Kheer caps off most meals at our local Indian hot spots. This is a basic kheer recipe using the most common and quintessential ingredients. As with most traditional recipes, every home and restaurant has its own variations, so sample different iterations around the area to find what you like best. Experiment with using rose water (about 1 ½ teaspoon), saffron (a few strands), or kewra essence to change the fla‐ vors a bit. From the lively colors of India, we travel to the Mediterranean and land in the diverse melting pot of Lebanon. The small country, the most religiously diverse in the Middle East, is home to Muslim, Christian and Druze people, all celebrating their holidays and traditions in different ways. Representing about 40% of the population, Christians marry traditions from the Mediterranean, colonial French and the Middle East in the celebration of Christmas. Stemming from Maronite traditions, the building of a crѐche or manger scene in a home, public squares and places of worship, is a sacred event and becomes a consistent reminder of the holiday as well as a place to offer prayer. The scenes blossom to life during the season as chickpea, oat and lentil seeds are spread during construction and sprout from the cotton underlayment as Christmas approaches. The traditional Lebanese Dabke dance is performed during the season. The beating rhythm of the percussion, the vibrant cos‐ tumes and joy of participants is truly a Lebanese sight! After working up an appetite, a feast awaits. A table filled with Lebanese specialties such as tabbouleh, hummus, beet and lentil salad, lamb Rotis and sweets like a bouche de noel (a nod to French colonialism) await, but the star is the Kebbeh Pie – consid‐ ered the national dish of Lebanon. Most Lebanese restaurants serve their own version, usually football shaped pockets that are fried. Call ahead to make sure they are serving it before you visit. Of course, for the adventur‐ ous home cook, try it at home. This is a basic recipe – other spices you can experiment with include marjoram, parsley, rose petals, cumin, pomegranate molasses, coriander, pine nuts and sumac. From the seas of the Mediterranean, we head north to the snows of Poland, where the Christmas celebration begins on Christmas Eve and continues over the next few days. “Our family traditionally attends midnight mass on Christmas Eve,” says Latham’s Jay Wynn of his Polish family. “On Christmas Day we celebrate with family and a feast of 12 dishes, followed by sharing the altar bread.” “Our family table always includes Golumbki,” he adds. “We hope you enjoy them.” And of course, his family’s famous

Golumbki are part of the special Thursday evening tradition at his Golden Krust Bagels (638 Columbia Street, Ext, Latham; golden‐ crustbagels.com) – The Blue Plate Special! Crossing the Atlantic, we find ourselves in the Spanish colonial city of Puebla, Mexico. The Bermejo family of El Mariachi Restaurant (289 Hamilton Street, Albany; elmari‐ achirestaurant.com) hails from the rich cultur‐ al and gastronomic traditions of this region, where their Christmas celebration falls on Christmas Eve. “We start early in the morn‐ ing,” says Patty Bermejo‐Bhola. “We cook all day – it is a big part of the celebration for us.” Preparation of the feast is followed by worship at church. “Christmas is a very religious holiday

Kheer ¼ cup basmati rice, uncooked 1 teaspoon ghee 3 – 4 cardamom pods, slightly crushed 4 ¼ cups whole milk ¼ cup sugar 3 tablespoons chopped nuts like pistachios, almonds or cashews Instructions: • Rinse the rice in cool water until it turns clear. Drain and reserve.

for us. We go to midnight mass on Christmas Eve as a family and then come home and eat.” “It wouldn’t be Christmas without Chiles en nogada!” she says. “This is our traditional family recipe that our mom made when we were children. We carry the tradition on and make them every Christmas.” Whether you are picking out the perfect tree for your home, counting your seven fishes for a Christmas Eve feast, or celebrating mira‐ cles of ancient births or festivals of light, take comfort in your traditions, and experiment with a few from around the world. Maybe they will become new traditions for your family for CRL years to come. See more recipes on next page.

• In a dutch oven or saucepan, heat the ghee over medium‐high heat. • Add the drained rice and cardamom pods. • Stir and toast until aromatic. • Add the milk and sugar, stir well. • Allow the milk to come to a boil, stirring frequently. • Lower the heat to low and cook for about 25 minutes, stirring often, until the rice cooked. • Remove from heat, stir in nuts. Enjoy hot or cool.



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Chiles en Nogada Courtesy of Patty Bermejo‐Bhola, El Mariachi Restaurant 2 poblano peppers, roasted, seeded and peeled 1 teaspoon olive oil ½ pound ground beef 2 tablespoons onion, chopped 2 tablespoons garlic, chopped ½ plantain, chopped 2 tablespoons raisins ¼ cup almonds

Kebbeh Pie For the dough: 1 cup fine bulgur 1 medium onion, coarsely chopped 1 pound ground lamb ½ cup fresh mint leaves (or 1 tablespoon dried) 1 teaspoon allspice ½ teaspoon cinnamon ½ teaspoon black pepper 1 teaspoon salt For the filling: 1 medium onion, finely chopped 2 garlic cloves, minced 2 tablespoons olive oil ½ pound ground lamb ½ teaspoon allspice ½ teaspoon salt

Gaeng Panang Gai 1 tablespoon coconut oil 2 medium bell peppers (one green, one red) 2 cups coconut milk ¼ cup Panang curry paste (available at Asian groceries or make your own) 2 boneless, skinless chicken breasts, sliced to about ¼“ thick 2 cups chicken stock


Courtesy of Jay Wynn, Golden Krust Bagels 2/3 cup water 1/3 cup uncooked rice 8 cabbage leaves 1 pound ground beef ¼ cup onion, chopped 1 egg 1 teaspoon salt ¼ teaspoon black pepper 1 (10.75 oz) can condensed tomato soup Instructions: • In a medium saucepan, bring water to a boil. Add rice and stir. Reduce heat, cover

½ cup walnuts ½ cup sour cream 1 cup milk ½ cup pomegranate seeds 1 tablespoon fresh parsley, chopped Instructions: • In a large frying pan, heat olive oil over medium heat. Add meat, onions, and garlic and saute. Add plantain, raisins, and almonds and cook until meat is cooked through. Remove from heat and allow to

and simmer for 20 minutes or until rice is cooked. • Preheat oven to 350⁰F. • Bring a large saucepan of water to a boil. Add cabbage leaves and cook for 2 to 4 min or until softened, drain. • In a mixing bowl, combine the ground beef, 1 cup cooked rice, onions, egg, salt, pepper, and 2 tablespoons tomato soup. Mix thor‐ oughly. • Divide the beef equally among cabbage leaves. Roll and secure with toothpicks. • Place cabbage in a large pan. Add about a ½” of water to the pan and spread the remainder of soup over the cabbage. Cover and bake at 350⁰F for 1 hour.

cool. Once cool, stuff peppers with filling and set aside. • In a blender, combine walnuts, sour cream, and milk and blend until thoroughly pureed. Reserve in the fridge until ready to serve. • When ready to serve, plate peppers on indi‐ vidual dishes, top with nogada sauce, and garnish with pomegranate seeds and chopped parsley. Serve at room tempera‐ ture. Buen Provecho!

¼ teaspoon cinnamon ¼ teaspoon black pepper ¼ cup pine nuts, toasted Instructions: • In a small bowl, cover the bulgur with cool water and rinse twice or until all of the dust is removed. Cover the bulgur with cold water and let sit for 10 minutes. Drain in a fine‐mesh sieve, pressing to remove as much water as possible, and reserve in a large bowl. • In a food processor, pulse onion until finely chopped. Add lamb, mint, and spices and pulse until well mixed, and meat is smooth. Add meat mixture to the bulgur and mix well. Set aside until ready to assemble. • In a heavy skillet, heat olive oil over medi‐ um heat. Sauté onion and garlic until fra‐

grant. Add meat and spices, and cook through breaking up meat as much as possi‐ ble. Remove from heat and add pine nuts. • Preheat oven to 400⁰ F. In a greased pie plate, press half of bulgur mixture evenly onto bottom and up sides. Spoon filling (meat and nuts) into shell and top with remaining bulgur mixture, smoothing the top as you go. Brush top with about ½ tablespoon of olive oil and score top in a crosshatch pattern. You can decorate the top with additional pine nuts if desired. Bake 35 – 40 minutes or until cooked through. Turn on broiler and broil until top is crisp, about 5 minutes (keep watch, so you don’t burn the nuts.) • Cut into wedges and serve.

3 kaffir lime leaves 1 tablespoon brown sugar 2 tablespoons fish sauce ¼ cup Thai basil leaves, chiffonade Instructions: • Heat large saute pan, wok or dutch oven over medium‐high heat. Add oil and pep‐ pers and sauté until firm tender. Remove from pan and reserve. • Add coconut milk and curry paste to the

pan and simmer over medium‐high heat until oil begins to separate, stirring consis‐ tently, about 12 minutes. • Add chicken and simmer until cooked through, about 5 minutes. • Add stock, lime leaves, sugar, fish sauce, and peppers to pan and simmer for about 10 minutes. Add salt and pepper to taste. • Remove from heat and add basil. Serve immediately with jasmine rice.



Beauty in the Simple Life Bucolic charms that heal the soul and revitalize the spirit in Cotswold, England.

Photos courtesy of Lygon Arms Bottome Left and opposite page: Photo by Vikki Moran

by Vikki Moran, The Grateful Traveler

Stately Lodge


ravel to Great Britain should be much more than a sightseeing trip to London. While the Tower of London, Harrods, Westminster Abbey, and Buckingham Palace are all beautiful to experience, going out to the Cotswold cannot be missed. I would add that away from the summer tourist months and before the holiday season is prime. On this, my second journey to the Cotswold (we in the Capital Region would term it a region), it was an extraordinary treat to stay at Lygon Arms (lygonarmshotel.co.uk), in the town of Broadway. The hotel has been graced and indeed stamped by many of the world’s most famous faces, including Great Britain's royals. History surrounds you at this stunning prop‐ erty. You can have dinner in the Lygon Bar and Grill, where you will be sit‐ ting under the suite where Oliver Cromwell lodged, plotted, and planned in the nights before the Battle of Worcester in 1651. Later that night, you may find yourself sleeping in the former quarters of a famous general or mem‐ ber of the royal family. The Lygon Arms has roots reaching right into the 1300s, which is astounding to a citizen from young America. It also served as a Tudor coaching inn within the village of Broadway, which was a critical connection between Wales, Worcester, and London in Elizabethan times. The main building today is a labyrinth of cozy corners and fireplaces and has the look of an iconic English country manor home, with its lovely English garden just outside the doors of the adjacent suite building. The suites are apart from the core lodge yet somehow maintain the same warm and snuggly appeal. They are incredibly comfortable as well as mod‐ ern in their amenities. The Lygon Arms spa houses a marvelous mother of pearl tiled, infinity hot tub, and a huge lap pool. From the pool is a beauti‐ ful wrought iron scrolled spiral staircase to the service area where the treatment of your choice is performed in absolute quiet and tranquility. During my late fall visit, preparations were already underway for their Christmas and New Year celebrations. Fireplaces were decorated and invi‐ tations prepared for all the festivities, including special dinners and spe‐ cially prepared holiday teas. Ammenities to explore the countryside

Cotswold countryside

Cotswold is every bit the way it sounds – quaint. But make no mis‐ take, this is a large swath of England covering nearly 800 miles. Cotswold is rural south central England covering parts of six counties, notably Gloucestershire and Oxfordshire. Less than two short hours by train from London, your journey after flying in travels through the bucolic English countryside. Stratford‐upon‐Avon may be the most vis‐ ited village of the Cotswold with the unique and challenging‐to‐main‐ tain thatched roofs. Of course, the active link to William Shakespeare makes this small community very crowded with vacationers as well. Each thatched roof holds a rather flamboyant mark of the thatcher with a thatched animal somewhere on top. I spotted hens, chickens, rabbits and birds that were replicated throughout the towns by each particular thatcher. This pristine section of England offers something for everyone, including a 102‐mile Cotswold Way walking trail from the Cotswold Edge, Bath in the south to Chipping Campden in the north. Like our own Saratoga Springs, horse racing is king in Cotswold. Cheltenham Racecourse, one of the many courses in the region, is world famous for its horse racing at Prestbury Park. Their hurdles (steeplechasing) event held at the Gold Cup National Hunt Festival takes place in March. Steeplechasing has been around since 1755 and is extremely popular within the Wolds. The name Cotswold is under a bit of a local dispute. If you ask the residents, they will each have a similar yet different answer. Cots most often is told to mean "sheep enclosure in rolling hillsides." Wold is hills. The size of each town is generally described by the number of pubs it has. "Upper Slaughter doesn't even have a pub while Lower Slaughter has several," Michael, our driver, and guide for the day explained. Each town, apart from the abundance or absence of pubs, has its unique flavor. Babbling brooks, small bridges linking streets, duck ponds, water wheels, horses sauntering by with casual riders, small shops and count‐ less sheep dot the landscape of Cotswold, and it is frankly revitalizing for the spirit. Londoners visiting the Wolds for weekends shared with me that they quench their souls by visiting every few months. Packing only boots, sweaters and reading material, they come here to escape the hustle of their daily life in a big city. These families come to drink wine and eat marvelous Cotswold cheese selections, and Londoners can walk in nature to their heart's content, often with their dogs. Every town, pub and lodge, including Lygon Arms, embraces dogs with very open arms. My personal favorite, although I loved them all, was a puppy named Puppet. Puppet is a Jackapoo, and he faithfully walked his London family to our favorite pub each evening. Full of puppy exu‐ berance as well as an apparent love of neighborhood pubs, Puppet entertained everyone. Simple charms equal an uncomplicated and enjoyable life, and the Cotswold exemplifies this better than all others. To be captivated, even for a short vacation, will transform your thoughts on living and living CRL well. It could even change your life a bit. Now that is a vacation!

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To Grandma’s House, We Go Celebrating the season with our elders while alleviating concerns about their health, safety, and independence. Courtesy of the New York State Office for the Aging


he upcoming winter holidays are approaching. This is a natural time for family and friends to get together and are sometimes the only occasions loved ones have to physically check in with each other during the year. As you’re spending time with older loved ones this season, you may have concerns about their health and well‐being. You should feel reassured that New York State was desig‐ nated as the first Age‐Friendly State in the nation by AARP and the World Health Organization in part because of the network of supports and services available across our state. Here are some suggestions on how you can prepare for your visit with an older family


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Physical Changes You may notice physical changes, such as weight loss or gain. If their weight change is significant, they may need some nutritional education or help with meals. NY Connects (1.800.342.9871) is a trusted source for free, unbiased information about long‐term servic‐ es and support for New Yorkers. Resources on age‐friendly meals (such as Meals on Wheels), the locations of congregate meal sites where older adults can enjoy a hot meal and com‐

panionship, or the Supplemental Nutrition Assistance Program (SNAP), which provides financial assistance for purchasing healthy foods, are all available through this office. Perhaps you’ve noticed their balance is deteriorating. Many communities offer fall prevention classes and programs that help older adults improve their balance. New York Connects, again, is your go‐to resource to learn more about these programs. Your loved one may also may be eligible for a Personal Emergency Response System (PERS) through the New York Elder Caregiver Support Program, notifying emergency services and a caregiver if the wearer falls.

Condition of the Home As you’re visiting, consider the environment. Is the walkway clear of snow and ice? Are the appliances in working order? Is the interior temperature of the house warm enough? Do you notice any broken railings or stairs? If you have concerns about the structural safety of the living space, contact NY Connects. You may also consider engaging in the New York State Department of Housing and Community Renewal’s RESTORE Program, which provides financial resources to help older homeowners with the cost of dealing with home maintenance emer‐ gencies. Additionally, the Office for Temporary and Disability Assistance offers the Home Energy Assistance Program (HEAP), provid‐ ing financial help with paying home energy bills.

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Behind the Wheel Statistically, and contrary to stereotype, older drivers are the safest drivers on the road—they cause fewer accidents, have lower rates of impaired driving, and are more likely to obey traffic laws. However, if you’re taking a ride with your older loved one and have concerns about their driving, quietly observe the vehicle’s condition. Is the registration up to date? Do you notice any scratches or dents? If you are worried about an older driver, the NYSOFA publication, Are You Concerned? is dedicated to helping families keep older drivers safe (available at aging.ny.gov). Additionally, many communities offer CarFit clinics, where a trained technician evaluates the “fit” of the driver in their vehicle and makes recommendations that result in safer driving.

In a Nursing Home If your loved one resides in a nursing home, it is vital to maintain a connection. Approximately 60% of nursing home residents never have a single visitor. If you have concerns about the care of a loved one who is living in a skilled nursing facility, please contact the New York State Long Term Care Ombudsman Program (1.855.582.6769), which provides nursing home residents with a trained and caring advocate to speak up on behalf of your loved one. Additionally, the New York State Department of Health operates a Nursing Home Hotline (1.888.201.4563), with which you may share your concerns. Above all, the most important elements of helping an older loved one maintain their health and independence are good communication and respect. Relish your time with the elderly of our community, and CRL especially, enjoy their company this holiday season. The New York State Office for the Aging is here to support you and your loved ones as you live, work, and age in New York State. To learn more about any of the resources mentioned, please contact NY Connects at 1.800.342.9871.




Embrace the Moment Detach from expectation to enjoy the spirit of the season by Diane Foster


all is officially in full swing with the bus‐ tle of the holidays fast approaching. November is such a magical month of transformation as we start to bring out the hol‐ iday finery for our homes and ourselves. We decorate and make lists, plan parties and shop‐ ping excursions, book family getaways, and anticipate watching our favorite holiday movies (mine is A Christmas Story). Through all of this preparation, there is a feeling of expectation. Expectation is a funny thing. It can make us happy or sad, either excited by the possibil‐ ity of what will come – or completely over‐ whelmed by everything yet to be done. For many of us, it can also come with a sense of disappointment, loneliness or even failure.

Why do you think that is? As we move into the holiday season, expectation is amplified as we strive for per‐ fection. For most of us, it’s usually the one time of year when everyone gets together, travelling to one another. We always want everyone to have a great time, so we spend a lot of energy working towards the perfect pic‐ ture of fun that we have in our heads. But, when reality doesn’t exactly align with our ever‐elusive ideal, we start getting stressed and overwhelmed, which can even lead to anger and resentment. The energy of judgement starts creeping in and now we’re not only comparing the reality of our experi‐ ence to others, but we’re scrutinizing the ver‐ sion that we’ve imagined. We do this because we’re attached to the outcome, an outcome we design within our‐ selves and which is rarely close to reality. When we do this, we’re missing out. On a lot. We become so caught up in the energy of what should be happening that we completely miss the experience of what is happening. When this happens, we’re not fully engaged in what’s going on around us, leading us back to 38 | NOVEMBER 2019 | CRLMAG.COM

our expectation of what we think the perfect experience should be. Now we’re caught in that energy spiral of unmet expectation that weighs us down and loops us into regret, judgement and disappointment. So how do we detach from the outcome? How do we let that go? By being grateful for the experience around us regardless of our pre‐ conceived ideas. And by recognizing that every‐ one’s experience is their own responsibility.

That’s a big one. Everyone is responsible for their own experience (and their own happiness). We know this deep down, yet there’s nothing like the holidays, with all of the parties and hoopla, to reveal just how rarely we accept it. For example, how many people do you know (including you) who move through a party mak‐ ing sure everyone is having a good time? The perpetual “you’re having a good time, right?” question. And when we hear that someone isn’t having the best time, we take it personal‐ ly. And that leads to self‐judgement, which adds to the energy spiral of unmet expectation. But here’s the thing…we choose to be responsible for another person’s experience and their happiness. That is our choice. We have within ourselves a tremendous power to choose to accept another person’s energy or not – even if that energy is positive or negative. So then, what would happen if we choose not to be responsible for another per‐ son’s experience? We wouldn’t be carrying that energy around with us, for one. We need to teach our‐ selves that if someone is unhappy, that unhap‐ piness is on them, not us. But also, the more we stay centered in our own energy, the more we lift others out of their own negative spin. Cause and effect. Expectation comes in all shapes and sizes. We expect to feel lonely or sad when

our loved ones are gone or too far away. We expect to be disappointed when things aren’t going as planned. It’s okay to feel lonely or sad or disap‐ pointed. To be human is to have emotions, and it’s good for us to experience them. For in the experience, we allow the energy to lift and release. And that is important to remember. Go through the emotion for as long as you need to, but don’t linger in the energy created by it. That is usually where we get stuck. We tend to stay there too long, and before we know it, it’s hard to get out. But also remember, our mind will believe what we tell it. If we expect to be sad, we are sad. But what if we just allowed the experience to happen without setting the expectation for a specific outcome? That small mindset change now opens up for a whole new world of possibilities that weren’t there before. We are now setting the stage for new energy to flow in. It takes practice to understand that we don’t have to carry other people’s expecta‐ tions and even more practice to become unat‐ tached to our own. That’s why we have to do a little work every day. I call it building your Spiritual Core. The more we practice it, the easier it gets, and the effort is well worth the end result. So when you start preparing for your hol‐ idays and are in the thick of it, try practicing detaching from the outcome. Remember to allow yourself to be in the moment, without expectation. You may be surprised at how good it actually feels. Foster is an Energy Practitioner and offers intu‐ itive energy healing sessions, workshops, and meditation groups. Find and follow Diane on Facebook.


Fall Into Winter Feeling Fabulous Prepping your skin for a healthy glow all season long by Heather Jablonski


y love of beauty products goes back a long way. And no time of year allows that obsession to shine quite like November, when we brace for those first plummeting temps that can seriously impact the overall state of your skin health. As the days start to get shorter and the brisk weather approaches, you might notice more dryness and tightness of the skin, increased acne, noticeable fine lines, and even eczema and psoriasis flare‐ups. Luckily, with a few sea‐ sonal switch‐ups, your beauty arsenal can help combat the cold. Olive + M’s body oil boasts a very faint, fresh citrus fragrance and

A lot of people think it is crazy to wash your face with oil.

is one of my favorites. As the name suggests, Olive + M (oliveandm.com) uses plant‐based oil as the base ingredient in all of its products, which range from eye serum and face polish to gift‐able sets for the holidays. The tried‐and‐ true tradition of using olive oil as a beauty product has been around since antiquity as it closely resembles your skin’s own natural oils, allowing it to nourish the skin at a deeper level. The creators at Olive + M deftly work with this all‐natural skin‐saver to create a body oil that is impressively moisturizing while also absorbing quickly with absolutely no residue, leaving behind only hydrated, glowing skin. But my favorite part? It is 100% natural, cruelty‐free and vegan. While on the topic of miracle oils, Olive + M also has a wonderful facial cleansing oil that is the perfect addition to your winter season skincare routine. A lot of people think it is crazy to wash your face with oil but, like the old saying goes, “don’t knock it till you try it!” You might have a change of heart, especially during the cold winter months when we need that extra moisture in our skin. Oil dissolves oil, and when oil cleansing is used correctly, it works fabulously! Another amazing find for exfoliating and smoothing the skin is the Lavender and Pumice Soap from Waxing Kara (waxingkara.com). The best bar soap ever, it is double sided, so it exfo‐ liates and moisturizes at the same time! Plus, you will feel like you are in a beautiful field of lavender while lathering up. Beautifying your skin with the calming therapeutic effect of lavender… can’t beat that. Both your body and senses will thank you. Everybody needs a great face mask for fall and winter. Waxing Kara’s Farm to Body Clarity Mask is wonderful. I am a sucker for clay masks, and rose clay is one of my favorites. Dry masks, which minimize surface shine and absorb impu‐ rities, are fun and easy to use. Formulated with natural minerals to cleanse and clear the skin, these spa day staples are used for tighter pores, increased skin clarity and to reduce wrinkles. What is super fun about this mask in particular is that you can use different mixers to person‐ alize it for your skin type! The products are packaged in a beautiful glass jar and mixing takes 60 seconds or less. For combination skin mix in milk, oily skin gets citrus juice blend with yogurt for dry skin, and mature skin uses carrot juice. Each mixer brings its own set of healing properties, creating a fully customizable experi‐ ence every time. Let’s be good to our skin and fall into winter feeling fabulous together. Jablonski is a Capital Region beauty enthusiast and owner of Heather's Naturals organic skin care and cosmetics. Find Heather's Naturals on Facebook.




Not All Talk Telling holiday stories of gratitude is great, living them is even better by Dr. Randy Cale


t’s that joyous time of year when you hear stories evoking gratitude and apprecia‐ tion. It seems just about everyone is on board with supporting the value of gratitude and “believing in it.” In choosing the rebellious parenting style, a renegade parent doesn’t only talk about gratitude; they live it. Their home is an ongoing source of appreciation, and the family reaps the benefit. They under‐ stand the true power of gratitude not only to alter lives but to transform the quality of their family home.

It Begins as an Inside Game Renegade parents recognize that the world around them is always playing the “out‐ side game.” The outside game relies on the collection of the outside stuff: medals, acco‐ lades, and material things to build esteem, ful‐ fillment, and happiness. The renegade does not teach or support this at home, instead understanding that we all have a choice: fulfillment based on materiality or fulfillment based on character and outlook. The common choice is to seek fulfillment through accumulating these outside trophies. Most join the herd in that race to compete. The renegade choice is to make life about mastering the “inside game” first. At home, they demonstrate this by not allowing the tri‐ als and tribulations of their day to mute their family’s happiness. Marcus Aurelius, the Roman Emperor and philosopher of antiquity, stated centuries ago that “You have power over your mind, not outside events. Realize this, and you will discover strength.” The Renegade Parent has this strength and has nurtured a strong inside game in themselves and their children.

Resistance is Futile, Frustrating and Steals Gratitude The renegade parent realizes early on that resistance to life’s events is futile. In other


words, life will often not meet our expecta‐ tions, but if we respond by complaining, fight‐ ing, arguing and throwing angry tantrums, then we have surrendered our well‐being to external events beyond our control. For example, most of us might throw a small tantrum when we break our favorite cof‐ fee cup. This reaction is universally understood because of its commonality; we may even see it as perfectly reasonable and appropriate to the situation. Yet, not everyone screams, not everyone gets upset. There is a choice here, and the renegade parent chooses calmness and refus‐ es to indulge in the negative thoughts and emotions that stem from the situation. This cultivates enormous ease and eliminates many frustrations. More importantly, this lays the foundation for gratitude to evolve.

Choosing to Say “Yes” to the Moment at Hand Opening up is the opposite of resistance and is the secret to acceptance in life. The strategy is clear and reaps immense rewards – say an internal “yes” to all that happens. It may sound simple. It’s not. It might sound stupid. It’s not. You might find it promotes fear, help‐ lessness, or giving up, but it’s none of these. The renegade’s commitment to an inter‐ nal “yes” brings immediate ease and elimi‐ nates fear and frustration. They are truly living in the moment. Most importantly, the “yes” is opening the door to gratitude. The renegade is using the energy of life and working with the moment – not against it. She realizes that there is something that could always be learned from the experience, and often finds it. Almost every event can be a source for learning, growth, and evolution, and for this, she is grateful. For the renegade parent no moment pass‐ es that doesn’t hold the seed of a lesson, and they cherish teaching this to their children.

Gratitude Signals Abundance and Abundance Triggers Infinite Ways of Giving Renegades use the state of gratitude as their ally in another way that remarkably enhances their lives. They notice that grati‐ tude always signals abundance, and they find, regardless of their pocketbook, that there is always something to give when truly grateful. Having something to give freely is what we might call the internal state of abundance. While in gratitude, this abundant state emerges and discovers that there is always room for a smile, a word of support, a sweet nod of encouragement, a patient ear, an extra few bucks for those less fortunate, and even forgiveness. These giving moments accumu‐ late in the daily experience with family, friends, colleagues, and strangers, creating a uniquely profound experience of over‐flowing abundance – and even more gratitude.

The Grateful, Abundant Renegade is Absurdly Happy and Successful on Their Chosen Path The research favors the renegade model in many ways, both with the inside and the outside game. The grateful renegade is pre‐ dictably happier, and in that happiness, they tend to be more optimistic, they live longer, and they live more satisfying lives. The mind is an interesting organ. It has a predictable habit of defending and protecting its habits, regardless of the pain, frustration, and cost. Many parents critique, ridicule and proclaim the absurdity of the renegade path. The renegade does not argue, and in fact, does not care. Happiness and abundance are their rewards. Cale offers practical guidance for a host of par‐ enting concerns. For more information visit ter‐ rificparenting.com.


ALBANY COUNTY 11/2 6:30 – 9:30 PM BUILT – NYS Museum; The Historic Albany Foundation’s annual fall fundraiser which celebrates both local artists and the built environment of the Capital Region is set to be as exciting as ever. Showcasing over 150 unique pieces by both well-known and undiscovered artists, it’s an evening not to be missed. $55, Under 35; $85, HAF Members; $95, General Public. Visit historic-albany.org for more information.

11/8 5:30 – 7:30 PM Warehouse Appreciation Party – Historic Albany Foundation, 89 Lexington Avenue; Join HAF for a celebration at their first annual Appreciation Party where you can get to know like-minded individuals in the Warehouse afterhours with refreshments. Bring friends - everyone’s invited! Free! Visit historic-albany.org for more information.

11/9 7:30 PM Albany Symphony presents Rachmaninoff Symphony No. 2 – Palace Theatre; David Alan Miller, conductor. Visit albanysymphony.com for more information.

11/12 10 – 11:30 AM The “New” Retirement Lifestyle – Pioneer Bank, Glenmont; Join Dr. Diane Albano, Certified Life & Leadership Coach, in one of her inspirational workshops to achieve a more fulfilling life. $20, registration required. Visit aleaderinyou.com for more information.

11/14 5:30 – 6:30 PM 100 Women Who Care – Delmar Reformed Church; See how 100 women can make a powerful difference in the community in just one hour. Visit 100wwcalbany.com or find us on Facebook.

11/14 6 – 8 PM Nerd Night Trivia Event – Pearl Street Pub; Join HAF Board Member and trivia aficionado, Matt Malette, for a fun filled Albany trivia night! Bring CAPITAL REGION LIVING MAGAZINE | NOVEMBER 2019 |



your friends and your best Albany thinking caps for categories on local architecture, architects, history, public figures and more. Prizes and bragging rights! $5 HAF Members / $10 General Public. Visit historic-albany.org for more information.

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Restoration 101 Workshop – Historic Albany Foundation 89 Lexington Avenue; Are you interested in restoration but not sure where to start? Join Kim and Jack Alvarez of Landmark Consulting in a demonstrative workshop to help budding rehabbers learn the basics. Learn secrets, tips and tricks including how to fix and clean up hardware, strip paint correctly, renew wood finish and more. This is a great starting point for anyone interested in learning DIY skills for their home, so don’t miss it. $5, HAF Members; $10, General Public. Visit historicalbany.org for more information.

11/24 6:30 – 10 PM Community Ballroom Dance – Polish Community Center; Single Outreach Services, Inc. hosts one of their most popular events on the 4th Sunday of each month. The night includes a dance lesson, lots of fun and open dancing to D.J. Joe Sweeney. Cash bar, snack table and raffles! Visit singlesoutreach.org for more information.

11/29 – 1/2 6 – 9 PM SUNDAYS THROUGH THURSDAYS 6 – 10 PM FRIDAYS & SATURDAYS Capital Holiday Lights in the Park – Washington Park; A true sign of the season for the past 20 years! Filled with light displays, craft vendors, holiday treats and even Santa visits! $20 per car. Special events 11/23 – 11/25, check website for details. Visit albany.org for more information.

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Viennese Buffet of Genius: Neurosis and Melodrama. This is the first installment of the 2019-2020 series of intimate and stimulating afternoons on music and ideas. Visit cewm.org for tickets and information.

COLUMBIA COUNTY THROUGH NOVEMBER (LAST THURSDAY OF EACH MONTH) 7 PM Coffee House Open Mic Night – The Valatie Community Theatre; Visit valatiecommunitytheatre.org for more information.

11/9 1 – 3 PM Herb-Infused Candle Making – Clermont Cottage, Germantown; Just in time for the holidays! Using dried herbs, create aromatic and colorful homemade candles. $15 per person. Visit friendsofclermont.org for more information.

FULTON COUNTY 11/5 4 – 7 PM Annual Election Day Spaghetti Dinner – First Presbyterian Church, Johnstown; Annual Election Day spaghetti supper to benefit the church’s free community lunch program and other local missions. The meal consists of spaghetti, meatballs, tossed salad, Italian bread, homemade desserts and assorted beverages. Eat in or Take out. Adults, $9; Children (5-12), $4, free for children under 5. Call the church at 518.762.8263 for more information.

11/9 3:30 PM GCM presents: Tradition! – Mayfield Central Presbyterian Church; The Gloversville Wind Symphony, features very talented high school and college students, as well as area music educators and professional musicians. This concert will include Symphonic Dances from Fiddler on the Roof as well as folk music from around the world. Tickets will be $5 pre-sale and $10 at the door. Find us on Facebook or e-mail us at gloversvillecm@gmail.com for more information. CAPITAL REGION LIVING MAGAZINE | NOVEMBER 2019 |


A&E 11/11 11:30 AM – 1 PM Inspirational Speaker: “Happily Ever After” – Holiday Inn of Johnstown – Gloversville; Enjoy a wonderful luncheon followed by inspiration speaker Sharon Ditton. In addition, singer Pete Jorgensen will present several songs for your enjoyment. To fill out the program Charlene Brown, owner of “The Garden Bug” will be our special feature! Complimentary child care is available upon request at time of reservation. Please call Gloria at 518.853.3126.or email women2connect@yahoo.com for more information.

11/23 10 AM – 3 PM Soup, Pie & Craft Sale – Frothingham Free Library; Delicious homemade soups and pies along with craft items for your holiday shopping. Visit fonlib.blogspot.com for more information.

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11/16 10 AM – 4 PM Holiday Art & Craft Fair – Arkell Museum and Canajoharie Library; Visit arkellmuseum.org for more information.

DON’T FORGET TO VOTE! Independently-owned store offering high-quality fashion and home goods at reasonable prices.We specialize in providing women in our community excellent consignment shopping with a boutique feel. Each section of the store is full of carefully selected products from well-known brands, and our inventory is always changing to follow the latest trends. Whether you need a new dress or are looking for a unique bag, we’re here for you! Tuesday - Saturday 10-5.

11/29 4 – 7 PM Tree Lighting Ceremony – MVGO & Bridge Street, Amsterdam; Live music, caroling, warm food & drinks, goodies, Santa & friends, free holiday train rides, free horse drawn carriage rides, free kids’ activities, vendors, & more! Visit visitmontgomerycountyny.com for more information.

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11/29 – 11/30 10 AM – 4 PM Thanksgiving at the Farm – Farmers’ Museum; Walk off your holiday meal with a stroll through the idyllic historic village as The Farmers' Museum opens its doors for Thanksgiving at The Farm. The museum is the perfect setting to spend time with family and friends over the holiday weekend. Visit farmersmuseum.org for more information.

WEEKENDS BEGINNING 11/29, RUNNING THROUGH DECEMBER 1 PM Santa Claus Express – Cooperstowm Charlotte Valley Railroad; Board at the Milford Depot and enjoy an afternoon train ride with Santa, Mrs. Claus and their helpers. Santa and Mrs. Claus will be entertaining kids of all ages on board the beautifully decorated train, filled with Holiday music, goodies and refreshments for everyone’s enjoyment. Trains run about 2 ½ hours. Visit lrhs.com for more information.

RENSSELAER COUNTY SATURDAYS THROUGH APRIL 9 AM – 2 PM Troy Farmers’ Market – The Troy Atrium, 49 4th Street; Where the farm meets the city! Nearly 100 local farmers and fresh food vendors! Visit troymarket.org for more information.

11/9 10 AM – 2 PM Lansingburgh Historical Society’s Open House – Melville House, Troy; Come tour the house and enjoy an acoustical performance by Zach and Hannah, two young musicians from the


A&E Troy Music Academy from 12 – 2 PM. A $5 donation at the door helps support maintaining the history of Lansingburgh for future generations. Please contact John and Mary Ward at 518.885.4295 for more information.

11/21 5:30 PM Lansingburgh Historical Society's Annual Holiday Party – Van Schaick Country Club; Dinner at 5:30 PM by reservation only. Basket raffles, 5050 and a raffle of beautiful holiday dishes. "The Anti Rent Strikers of the 1800's" will be presented by well-known and lively historian speaker, Michael Barrett at 7 PM. Admission is $15 at the door and you will be given a free raffle ticket with the cost of admission. Any questions or concerns call John or Mary Ellen Ward at 518.885.4295. For dinner reservations, call 518.237.0145. Proceeds from this event helps the Society maintain the history of Lansingburgh and maintenance on the House.


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Howlin’ at the Moon Concert Series, featuring Red Haired Strangers – Schenectady County Historical Society: Mabee Farm Historic Site, Rotterdam Junction; The perfect place for toe-tapping bluegrass, folk and great beer! Visit schenectadyhistorical.org for more information.

Regional Food Bank Annual Auction Gala – Saratoga Springs City Center; Treat yourself to a night on the town at our 30th Annual Auction Gala. The evening begins with a cocktail reception and silent auction followed by dinner, a live auction, and drawings for spectacular raffle prizes. Get a jump on your holiday shopping and enjoy great food and friends at the same time. Visit regionalfoodbank.net for more information and to purchase tickets.

SCHENECTADY COUNTY SUNDAYS THROUGH APRIL 10 AM – 2 PM Schenectady Greenmarket – Proctor’s Theatre; Each Sunday shoppers, musicians and friends gather and enjoy the festive marketplace with 70+vendors who produce everything they sell. Enjoy live music, prepared food, and the region’s freshest local produce. Visit schenectadygreenmarket.org for information.

11/23 5 PM Schenectady Holiday Parade – Downtown Schenectady; Giant floats will light the streets at this festive event known as the largest nighttime holiday parade in the Northeast! Visit downtownschenectady.org for more information.

11/30 ALL DAY Small Business Saturday – Schenectady; Come to the city for a full day of shopping, dining and exploring to support the small businesses. Shops will have in-store specials, contests, discounts and events. Visit downtownschenectady.org for more information.

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Just Enough How an act of kindness gave one family the perfect Thanksgiving by John Gray


argaret Houlihan hadn’t bought herself a new dress in years. A home‐ maker with health issues that kept her from work‐ ing, she raised the kids while her husband worked at the nearby factory and brought home just enough for them to get by. Like with so many mid‐ dle‐class families, all it took was one unexpected expense to put them behind the eight ball and find themselves, as the saying goes, “stealing from Peter to pay Paul.” Most days, thankfully, they did have just enough. As Thanksgiving approached, Margaret found herself in good spir‐ its because they were caught up on bills, and she was hopeful they’d have the money to finally do the holiday right. In Margaret’s mind, that meant (for the first time ever!) buying a fresh turkey to prepare for the family instead of the frozen variety. Now, there was nothing wrong with a frozen bird, but every year Margaret would find herself staring longingly through the glass case at the local super‐ market at the “fresh turkeys,” wishing she could afford one. With the day of thanks fast approaching, Margaret took her shop‐ ping list and money over to the store and went to the meat counter to inquire about the birds. Sal “the butcher,” as he was known, greeted her with a smile as she peered through the glass like a child picking out a puppy. The pricing wasn’t easily visible, so Sal had to turn over the tags and then watch the smile run from Margaret’s face. “Something wrong, dear?” he asked. She could only look down and say, “I knew they were more expen‐ sive, but I didn’t realize they’d be three times as much as the frozen ones.” Sal was moved by her disappointment and found himself looking at her weathered shoes and faded coat with the second button missing. “I’ll tell you what,” he said. “These fresh birds are expensive, but the day before Thanksgiving, if we have any left, we mark them down to half‐ off.” Margaret’s eyes lit up as she did the math in her head of what that would cost and she said, “Then I’ll see you the day before Thanksgiving.” As Turkey Day crept closer, Sal noticed his fresh birds selling much faster than usual. At this pace, he’d surely run out before the big day. Growing up poor himself, he felt a connection to that woman he’d some‐ times see in the store with her two young children and wished he could help out. “I guess we’ll just have to hope for the best,” he said to himself. On the afternoon before Thanksgiving, Margaret Houlihan arrived at the store with her shopping list and went directly to the meat count‐ 48 | NOVEMBER 2019 | CRLMAG.COM

er. Sal motioned with his hand for her to wait a moment and then emerged from the back with a perfect fresh bird. As promised, it was marked way down to a price Margaret could afford. After thanking the butcher, she pushed her cart away, and Sal was overwhelmed with a sense of warmth. It lasted about two minutes before the store manager appeared at his counter, looking upset. He said, “The other day I was doing inventory in the cooler and hidden under a box in the corner was a fresh prize turkey. I know what you’re doing, and I have to tell you that hiding that until today so you can buy it for yourself and save money is theft. Now go get the bird and put it in the case.” Sal looked down sheepishly and said, “You’re right; I did set it aside but not for me.” He then walked his manager to the front of the store, where they saw Margaret checking out at the register. The manager saw the woman in the tattered coat carefully laying out her coupons and anx‐ iously watching the numbers on the register climb higher. Then she counted out her money, paused, and let out a heavy sigh. She was short four dollars. “This is who you helped?” the manager asked Sal. He nodded, yes. The manager paused and ran his calloused hands through his hair before approaching Margaret. Sal swallowed hard, not certain what his boss would do. The manager said to the woman running the register, "Susan, did you not see the sales signs we put out today? Everyone who buys a fresh turkey gets a free pumpkin pie. Take that pie off her bill, please.” When the clerk punched the buttons, and the pie came off, Margaret had just enough. The manager and Sal helped Margaret carry her bags to her old car, and as the creaky door slammed shut and they turned to go, the driver’s side win‐ dow open just enough for a gentle voice to say, “God bless you both.” As the two men walked back toward the store, the manager said to Sal, “Do you have any more turkeys hiding for people like her?” Sal smiled and said, “No, sir.” His manager put his hand on Sal's shoulder and replied, “Why not?” ** Share more. Care more. Dare more. You just might change a life. Have a safe and wonderful November and Thanksgiving. Gray is weekly columnist for the Troy Record and the Saratogian news‐ papers and news anchor at ABC 10 and FOX 23. He can be reached at johngray@fox23news.com.


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