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10 COLOUR ME HAPPY This spring, the brightest of bright colours in the most adorable pieces for babies are trending on high rotation. 12
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EVERYBODY LOVES THE SUNSHINE Time to get out the sunnies and hats and prepare for fun in the spring sun. Your Parisian Princess will shine in these springtime essentials!
14 ALL KIDS ARE COOL It’s warming up, but boys fashion just got a whole lot cooler.
MUM’S FASHION
16 THE NEW ROMANTICS Flattering on all body shapes, the maxi and midi dresses are a spring wardrobe must-have.
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DAD’S FASHION
16 STYLE FOR MEN Street style Spring trends
COVER STORY
20 CONSTANCE HALL, YOU CAN’T SAY THAT! All Hail Hall! - The hilarious internet mum not afraid to say what we’re all thinking… and some things we weren’t (but are now)!
FUNNY MUMMY
26 AMAZING GRACE Funny Mummy Ari likens child birth to a horror film.
RELATIONSHIPS
28 LET’S TALK ABOUT SEX BABY! Anne Marie Bradstreet consults her ‘secret mother’s group’ and takes on the real issue rumbling between the sheets.
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32 TÉA TACKLES RARE DISEASE Téa Lake was been diagnosed with a similar disease to the Zika virus, only more severe and rare.
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36 TWEEN CHALLENGES Gary shares what it’s like living with a daughter who had said goodbye to all things pink, in favour of stick-on tattoos, sports bras and Justin Bieber.
SPIRITUALITY 38 HER HEALING HANDS Passionate about providing the absolute best care for her patients, medical doctor, Priscilla Brockman, disillusioned and frustrated with the limitations of traditional medicine, left her career to practice Reiki.
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PREGNANCY & BIRTH
42 OFFSPRING’S PREPARING FOR BABY SPECIAL FEATURE A bible of everything you need before that little bundle-of-joy arrives.
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CHALLENGING YOUR CHILDREN The need of children to be stimulated, challenged and encouraged to take risks is as great as their need for stability and security.
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love this issue. In fact, I think it’s my favourite edition yet, and am very grateful to my staff for their contributions to the editorial, advertising and design; as well our as advertisers who enable us to provide you this magazine for free. Please support them. Constance Hall as our cover feature is pretty exciting. That girl has guts! I admire how true she is to herself and the realities of motherhood, not to mention she’s supportive and nurturing towards her ‘Queens’ – Facebook mums from all walks of life. It’s interesting Constance talks about an increasing tendency for postbirth slimdown to be seemingly more important than the creation of another
life, as does our Funny Mummy columnist, Ari Chavez in “Amazing Grace”. “Let’s Talk About Sex, Baby” is fascinating for the voyeurs like myself. Ann Marie Bradstreet investigates polyamory (and I learnt a new word!) and how other couples keep the intimacy alive by involving other people. I love anything Spiritual, so was intrigued to read about the miraculous healing results a Perth medical doctor is experiencing since implementing Reiki to her practise. Many of us are prone to wrapping our children in cottonwool so I thought “Challenging Your Children” was excellent, in that it explores the
benefits of kids taking risks and facing challenges, in order to grow. We also have a couple of special features in this issue - our annual Having a Baby feature, a good checklist for expecting mums; a special Christmas Gift Guide to stimulate gift ideas; and a Getaway Guide for traveling with the family in your state. You might not realise you can now get every Offspring issue delivered to your inbox before it hits the streets; you just need to sign up to our newsletter on our website offspringmagazine.com.au Kate X
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ARI CHÁVEZ COLUMNIST has had work published in Australia, England, Japan and Singapore. She has a delightful toddler, Gabriel, who was born with coffee in his veins. She is currently completing her first novel as part of a PhD project.
ELISE PAPAMIHAIL FASHION & STYLE is Mummy to Chloé and Olivia and is a passionate stylist and fashion writer, embracing the latest trends without compromising on timeless style.
LETITIA ROWLANDS JOURNALIST Letitia worked for daily newspapers for 20 years covering a wide variety of topics but since becoming a mother five years ago, her writing has focussed on family and parenting topics. Letitia lives in Sydney with her husband and two young sons Hugo and Jasper and enjoys a freelance career writing for magazines and websites.
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GARY AUSBRUCH ACCOUNTANT/COLUMNIST is financial controller for a Perth-based mining company. He has had columns published on the challenging subject of the lighter side of accountancy, and has written for SBS TV. He is married to Sue and has two young children, Ella and Sebastian.
DEVON PLUMLEY MIDWIFE believes her work is most satisfying when she can empower a woman and her partner to birth their baby naturally; and the new little human being thanks his mummy with a squeal!
TANIA CONNOLLY JOURNALIST Tania Connolly is a freelance writer who has been published in a variety of magazines. Her passion is people and sharing their inspirational journeys. With a husband and two teenagers life is hectic but she wouldn’t want it any other way.
LISA O’ROURKE WRITER Lisa is a freelance writer and her work has been published in print and online for more than 15 years. She is also a singer/songwriter and the Founding Director of popular edutainment pre-schooler program Rock ‘n’ Toddle. Lisa’s three children (all under eight) inform and inspire her work, and reward both her and her husband daily with precious gifts beyond words.
CLAIRE ARMSTRONG JOURNALIST of 10 years across a range of mediums and publications from mining and financial to bridal and pregnancy. She has a passion for all things parenting and a love of sharing stories about the parenthood journey. She is also a busy mum of three beautiful girls and is a trained post-natal doula.
KATE BULLEN DIETITIAN runs www.dietitianonline.com. au and is mum to three young children. Kate has translated her love of all things online to providing expert nutrition coaching online – it works well for anyone who is busy! Kate’s passion lies in making healthy eating simple and enjoyable.
BROOKE EVANS-BUTLER JOURNALIST has written for home improvement, bridal and women’s lifestyle publications, but says Offspring enables her to combine writing with her new favourite hobby, being a mum to her boys Caleb and Jonah.
JANE MILLINGTON INTERIOR DESIGNER has over 15 years’ experience in all facets of the design industry including Interior Design, Styling, Sales and Business Development. Jane specialises in colour design and styling of children’s bedrooms and nurseries with her biggest fans being her two children, Samson and Liv.
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hen I asked my friend Nina if she’d heard of Constance Hall, her eyes took on the kind of look I normally reserve for chocolate desserts. “I’ve pre-ordered
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her book!” she said.
“Con talks about parenting like it really is. She says we should
embrace our queenliness, not our failures. We should be helping each other, not judging each other. So that’s why I like her. And because she says ‘fuck’ a lot.” Constance Hall, tragicomic blogging queen, has an army of Facebook followers that includes Ashton Kutcher. Her page’s comments are full of women enjoying a good swear. Her critics are also vocal and vicious. Constance has broken ground by breaking the Mummy Rules flagrantly and frequently. You know the Mummy Rules. Did you change yourself to keep them? They may be unspoken, but break them, and maybe no one will chat with you at the school gate or invite your kid around for play-dates. There are consequences, so you stick to the rules. Unless you are Con. “This is who I am,” she says, simply. Her warm, husky voice makes me remember conversations shouted over loud music with my arms around friends. “I’ve always been a big swearer. I have strong opinions, and I don’t really hold back. “I noticed, as soon as I became a mum, that I was expected to just lose a huge element of myself. I found that really strange. So, I never changed. I got judged a lot. “I think people naturally would love to judge you, but once you have a kid, people feel like they can judge 20
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Supermarket magazines feature celebrity post-birth slim-down speed records, as if weight loss is a more important achievement than the creation of a new life.
We’re not living up to our expectations because they were too high.
you, because you’re not just controlling your life, you’re controlling the kid’s as well. So it gives the judgy parents these open gateways to go to town on you. The only thing that I do differently is that I don’t really care.” Actually, Constance’s notoriety is
based on how much she cares – about connecting honestly with other mothers. And Constance is well-qualified to talk about motherhood. As well as a teenage step-daughter, she has four small children: Billie-Violet (aged 7), Arlo Love (5), and twins Snow (a girl) and Rumi (a boy, 2). On her blog, she describes how her twins were conceived a month after separating from and reconciling with her husband, right after making a decision not to have any more kids. Constance chronicled her struggles on Facebook, and it turns out that many parents appreciate her irreverent candour. As she put it, her writing went “as viral as herpes”.
I noticed, as soon as I became a mum, that I was expected to just lose a huge element of myself. I found that really strange. So, I never changed. I got judged a lot. It would be easy to dismiss this former Big Brother contestant as an attention-seeker if she didn’t have such important things to say. Supermarket magazines feature celebrity post-birth slim-down speed records, as if weight loss is a more important achievement than the creation of a new life. Constance shares pictures of her mum-body in underwear with nothing sucked in and talks about self-love. “I think we’re allowed to love our bodies,” she says. “I had a realisation after having the twins – that my whole life, I had put a lot of value on my weight. Even my psychologist said to me one day, ‘You know, all you ever say is that you’re going to lose some weight, and then you’re going to do this and this and this. Maybe losing the weight isn’t the answer.’ And I was like, ‘What? It’s always the answer! Losing five kilos makes everything better!’ “Having the twins played a huge part in realising that, because I was almost defenceless. I was stuck. With all my other kids, I was like, ‘Okay, cool, I’ve got one baby, I’ll go back to work.’ I lost the weight, I did everything
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properly. When I had two babies, I opened up a hairdressing salon,
‘Only a fucking slut cheats.’ So there are certain topics that I don’t
lost the weight and kept going. Then when I had my twins, I couldn’t
really have the energy to write about online.
even go to the shops, because I had the C-section scar, me and Bill
“I wanted to say, ‘You can fuck up. You can have someone fuck
weren’t talking to each other; it was just horrible.
up on you, but things can be okay. And if they’re not, you’re still
“I cried all the time. After a while, I just surrendered to it and went, ‘Hang on, I
it was really important to get that message
actually don’t need any more than this.
across, because I know first-hand how
I don’t need to have a cool career that I can tell people about at dinner parties, and I don’t need to be extra-fit, and I don’t need anyone to think that I’m
many women are struggling out there. They tell me privately. I get these personal emails all the time.” Another Mummy Rule broken, Constance! No-one else will
a super-mum. I just want to
tell you about ‘parent sex’,
hang out with these kids,
“Where you position the bed to
’cos they’re really cool.’
have one foot against the door
Six months later I felt so different about the world, myself – everything. It was really quite healing.” Now Constance has put her mummy manifesto down on paper in her book, Like a Queen. When asked why she decided to publish her work, Con said, “There are a lot of trolls on the internet. It’s a nasty place. “There were things I wanted to say about my relationship with Bill, about things that happened during motherhood that were either too long for a post, or they were too intimate, or they were
‘Fuck off! I have not slept!’ Sleeping is a necessity. It’s like saying, ‘I don’t need to eat, because you work.’ It’s just ridiculous. too scary. But while I was writing the book, I felt really uninhibited because I realised that the person who would be reading it would be a beautiful woman lying in bed, flicking through pages with a glass of wine. It’s not a horrible arsehole on the internet just waiting for the chance to tear me down. So it was much more of an intimate experience between me and my girls.” This from a woman whose website features a picture of herself on the toilet, who has described post-birth incontinence and the size of her nervous poos. Constance, there were details you were holding back? “You get so much hate on the internet. I’ve talked about infidelity, and all of a sudden I get fifty emails from these arseholes going, 22
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because for a loud bunch of kids, yours can be pretty quiet when they’re sneaking up on people.” Nowhere else will you read an argument against slut-shaming asserting that sexually liberated women make the best wives.
“Men are seen as heroes because they’ve shagged half of the town, whereas women are tainted goods and are untouchable because we’ve had too much sex, when that’s absolute rubbish.” Constance’s husband, Bill,
“Would anyone want a wifey
features regularly in her writing.
that didn’t love love?” asks
Con announced Bill’s vasectomy
Constance. But mummies are
on her blog and posted a video
supposed to shut the memories
of him dancing because “he
of their wild years away in a
thinks he’s getting a root”.
cupboard with hefty locks. “I loved having a lot of sex when I was young. My husband loves hearing that,” Constance laughs.
“Bill is a show-pony,” she giggles. “He loves it. He gets this little grin on his face when I read him a blog and read the comments. I
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easier to say, ‘Me neither.’ So, whatever I’m struggling in, I try and share, because
Hang on, I actually don’t need any more than this. I don’t need to have a cool career that I can tell people about at dinner parties, and I don’t need to be extra-fit, and I don’t need anyone to think that I’m a supermum. I just want to hang out with these kids, ’cos they’re really cool.
then I get a lot of women going, ‘Yeah, me too.’ “Me and Bill, when we had our first baby, we were living in this small unit. It was only two-bedroom. Then I got pregnant again. Bill was earning whatever he could as a carpenter, and I was just going, ‘What happened? How come everyone’s in these milliondollar houses with flash cars?’ Even my best friends, they had the most beautiful interior-designed houses.
wouldn’t do it if it offended him or if he ever asked
When I get to their house, they’re like, ‘Oh
me not to. He thinks he’s the star of this show, not me.” “Honestly, in my household, Bill’s the clean one. We fight all the
We fight every day. We can’t even afford to buy the good milk;
time over housework, because he thinks I should be doing more,
we have to buy the cheap milk.’ But you need to get really close to
whereas I’m not that fussed about a messy house. I’m like, ‘I can
people before you learn all of that. On the outside, everyone’s lives
live with that pile of dirty washing. I want to go to the beach.’ And
look amazing. And it’s stressful, because you can’t keep up.”
Bill’s like [she puts on a deep, gruff voice], ‘You can’t go to the beach because the house is a pigsty!’ And I’m like [high voice], ‘Well, you do it!’ My house looks like shit at the moment, and I just walked out.” Most of us could not bear to have our lives scrutinised to
Forget keeping up with the Joneses, Constance was kept up by the twins regularly. “It was horrible,” she said. “Every half hour one would wake up, and then twenty minutes later the other one would wake up. Bill
this degree, but Con does not know the meaning of ‘too much
didn’t wake up ever. In the mornings I was like [her voice high and
information’. She lets us know her intimately, exposing the details
desperate], ‘Bill, I haven’t slept at all.’ And he was like [her voice low
of her daily grind, allowing her readers close enough to share their
and gruff], ‘Yeah, well, I’ve got to go to work.’ And I was like [even
struggles. She helps us laugh together about the same things that
higher], ‘Fuck off! I have not slept!’ Sleeping is a necessity. It’s like
make us cry alone. Her Facebook comments are full of women
saying, ‘I don’t need to eat, because you work.’ It’s just ridiculous.”
expressing gratitude for the feeling of community and acceptance
“I think that, if I can see the funny side, it’s going to be okay.
she creates. Her work is a reality check for the parenting experts
My girlfriends and I have a competition about whose life is worse,
who push for perfection.
whose husband is being the biggest dickhead, who’s had less sleep.
One fan comments, “Constance, after every book I read I’m always inspired to change, be more organised, eat healthier, [be] a better mother … But your book didn’t make me want to change a thing about myself.” By fiercely baring her vulnerabilities and daring the reader to judge her wanting, Constance forces us to confront the things we judge in ourselves. “We’re not living up to our expectations because they were
I always win.” Constance has used her considerable influence to assist women worldwide. She and her followers raised $200,000 to build a house for sexually abused Kenyan girls through the charity Rafiki Mwema. She said, “It has actually been a life-long dream of mine to help in some way.”
too high,” Constance argues.
A one-woman movement against
“People just don’t talk about
competitive mothering, Constance
their struggles. Rather than
Hall proves that you don’t need to
saying, ‘Are you okay?’ it’s
know how to spell to
much more healing to say,
write astoundingly
‘I’m not okay.’ Because then the person in front of you, instead of having to take that step of saying, ‘No, I’m not okay,’ they actually go, ‘Oh, me neither.’ It’s so much
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FUNNY MUMMY with Ari Chávez
FUNNY MUMMY ARI LIKENS CHILD BIRTH TO A HORROR FILM.
The Child and my Beloved had skedaddled to the park for an hour - THANK YOU, GOD - so I grabbed the stash of chocolates that no one else had yet found - THANKS AGAIN, GOD - and hit the sofa for some mindless net surfing and sugar-high-ing.
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he first article I saw was about
birthing war stories – blood, guts and zombies - and wished,
a woman who had just given
hope-lessly, that the goddamn stork was the delivery
birth but managed, somehow,
mechanism, not me.
the stupendous achievement of
In the birthing suite, before things turned all Horror
looking AH-MAY-ZING one hour later.
Movie, I could hear another labouring woman screaming
She looked so amaz-ing, in fact, that
in agony.
someone took a photo of her and flung
“What is that noise?” I asked my Beloved, palely.
it around the internet for the world’s
He looked panicked. “What noise?” he said,
admiration.
ridiculously.
Ahem. Okay, so she looked glorious, and she was half-naked and smiling in some frilly white-knicker concoction. Good for her. But for feck’s sake, she’d just spent nine months growing a human, who is probably the size of a couple of pumpkins, and then however many hours screaming and bellowing as she pushed that two-pumpkin-human out of her
unblinking. “Ah, that noise,” he said. “That noise is a cat.” I began to pace, as the woman in the suite next to me erupted into a crescendo of auditory agony. “That is not a bloody cat,” I said. “That is a woman giving birth.”
down-belows. Unless she did one of those silent birth things –
My husband said nothing.
WHO DOES THESE AND HOW? – and didn’t scream or bellow.
“WELL GO AND TELL HER TO STOP,” I said. “She is making
It doesn’t matter, really, the woman had a baby and that is the
me VERY nervous, and it’s EX-TREMELY inconsiderate of her.
shining achievement, not how she looked one hour later.
HURRY UP!”
Isn’t having a baby enough, nowadays? I seem to recall,
My husband silently considered how to placate both me and
hazily thank goodness, that labour and birth was more than
the screaming Cat Woman. Cat Woman kept yowling. Maybe she
enough achievement for one day, but I am not one of those
was birthing a seven-pumpkin baby, so I can’t really blame her,
I-AM-WOMAN-HEAR-ME-ROAR types about birthing. I’m the
but, my goodness, she set me on a terrible path.
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I want to go home NOW. I DON’T WANT TO BE HERE. TELL THAT CAT WOMAN TO STOP!” My Beloved stood in front of the door. “You can do
Maybe she was birthing a sevenpumpkin baby, so I can’t really blame her, but, my goodness, she set me on a terrible path.
this, sweetheart,” he said. “No,” I said, “I actually can’t. And don’t tell me I have to. WHY DON’T YOU DO IT!? WHY DO I HAVE TO DO IT!? YOU DO IT! YOU DO IT!!!! WHY DO I HAVE TO DO EVERYTHING? YOU HAVE THE BABY, I’VE DONE EVERYTHING ELSE!” Clearly, it was the beginning of a very downward spiral. It went on. And on. For hours. It got worse. There was blood and guts and zombies. Some Dracula and a few
clown masks. Basi-cally, it was all your horror movies rolled into one. And then, at the end, there was him. The Child. Our Grace. The most beautiful thing we’d ever seen. As beautiful as the day. A couple of pumpkins’ worth. Amazing. And I looked like hell, for days, years even. I spent all my time in ugly flannelette PJs, feeding the Child, who had an abnormally large appetite, and not sleeping because he never slept. Ever. And I didn’t give a hoot, because I’d grown my own pumpkin, survived the horror mov-ie birth and he was mine. Well, I probably did give a hoot, actually, but I was too sleep deprived to do anything about it. So there’s that, I guess. All of that.
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Let’s talk about sex baby! BY ANN MARIE BRADSTREET
Or, alternately let’s talk about the lack of sex parenthood seems to inspire. Let’s examine the factors creating such a dismal correlation. I’ll go first – with my full and diverse life filled with nappy changes, school runs, regular incidences of one of my three children vomiting or urinating in my bed at midnight, and amusing myself each day with an enduring mountain of washing, could it be related that I find my libido is a wasteland? Cue tumble weeds and a haunting whistling wind. 28
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side from clearing my
communicate and respect each
spam folder every now
other’s ever-changing boundaries.
and then, and driving
Just because we have no limits
past SexyLand en route to the
doesn’t mean we reach them, it just
supermarket (Yes - That is the real
means we never feel trapped by
name of the adult shop in my town),
each other. My partner is bisexual
I’ve been completely estranged
and we’ve always had an open
from my sexual self. I have relegated
relationship but since having kids
sex to another chore on my to-do
he’s only been with a few guys and
list, hardly a rousing aphrodisiac.
I’ve had a few drunken make-outs. “I used to think it meant I
Suffice to say, my husband of 10
didn’t love my partner when I
years is tearing his hair out, grasping at straws and other metaphorical behaviours I shan’t elaborate on. Understandably, he is becoming less enamoured with the pity shag of
desired another but I discovered
Lucinda practised an open relationship with her husband Sam in the past with varying success and admits that jealousy got in the way but she is currently interested in the idea of polyamory.
when I spend time with someone and drown in their pheromones I come home and my partner’s pheromones are brand new again. I feel like we have a perfect partnership and wouldn’t have it any other way.
predictable narrative
Everyone is different though, it works for me
that is allocated a twominute window on my domestic schedule every blue moon, in the conscious pursuit of staving off extramarital affairs - just joking, well, sort of, I’m a little bit serious. Let’s just conclude that my sex life is scant at best and for the public record (I’d also like to avoid divorce) IS NOT DUE TO MY HUSBAND’S LACK OF TRYING. His dedicated
because freedom is the most important thing to me in a relationship.” Even though an open relationship is not for me, I envy the intimacy and safety that exists in the way Kara and her partner communicate, and despite having the same pressures of family life, they make a conscious effort to spend time together. “We usually put on a two-hour long movie and spend that
campaign of trying, however, has had a disappointing run of
time pleasuring each other, the actual intercourse is only
counterproductive results. It is a conundrum in need of urgent
minutes but that’s not necessarily the fun part. We do this about
resolution – the answer, however, seems to continually elude our
twice a week and take advantage of time when the kids are tired
fatigue-addled brains.
and fed, it’s rarely uninterrupted and that’s generally why it takes
So, I decided to put a whole lot of fatigue-addled brains together to see if I could find an answer by consulting my online
the whole movie.” Kara does admit that her sex life has improved since she
secret mother’s group. The response and suggestions I received
stopped working full-time, and prior to that there were times she
from this cherished community, where all and nothing is sacred,
was just too tired to bother. It is somewhat comforting to find
were as varied as the spectrum of sexual appetites in a vintage
that fatigue snatches the romance from even the most sexually
Dutch porn movie. Help was at hand!
dedicated.
Previously unbeknown to me, open relationships appear to
Lucinda practised an open relationship with her husband
play a key role in keeping the sex lives of some couples robust. As
Sam in the past with varying success, and admits that jealousy
someone whose relationship values rely heavily on loyalty and
got in the way. However, she is currently interested in the idea
fidelity, and the fact I am struggling to rally enough enthusiasm
of polyamory, which on a quick Google search I discovered can
to have sex with just one person, I can’t see it working for me, but
be described as, rather than having casual sexual encounters
am fascinated enough to ask a lot of questions.
outside of a traditional partnership, a polyamorist engages in
Kara, who is in a long term open partnership writes, “My
loving committed relationships with more than one partner and
libido does die down when things become stagnant, which can
sometimes even a network of people, all respectful and aware of
be attributed to motherhood, but things get spiced up again when
the situation.
one of us takes on a new sexual experience; sometimes a kiss is all it takes from somebody new.”
Lucinda writes, “Sam and I still haven’t found something we are totally happy with. At the beginning of motherhood, I was so
On querying which rules applied to keep the relationship
not into sex and so I encouraged him to welcome any advances
intact, I was surprised to find there were none and learned the
at gigs that he played. When he told me about it I actually found
relationship relied on open, honest, communication.
him more attractive, zero jealousy. He came home to me and
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PARENTING
“I’ve let myself succumb to his sexual desire of me and we have been rocketed to a new depth of passion.”
“I used to think it meant I didn’t love my partner when I desired another, but I discovered when I spend time with someone and drown in their pheromones I come home and my partner’s pheromones are brand new again.”
“We usually put on a two-hour long movie and spend that time pleasuring each other, the actual intercourse is only minutes but that’s not necessarily the fun part.”
Mums with older children and others whose younger kids sleep well did offer hope that things can get better. Two key points kept arising from those that were getting some. Communication, openness, honesty, and prioritising time for each other to allow
could do ‘open’ I felt really free and happy although I didn’t sleep
intimacy to grow, whether it’s a date night (that can be attempted
with anyone. But he changed his mind and said he couldn’t do
at home with the kids in bed with a nice meal if babysitting or
jealousy.
finances are obstacles), sending a sexy text message or email to
“Now I am beginning to believe in polyamory, in that every
over several days, or allowing the sensual kiss to happen without
sex. I want someone in particular and the chemistry took me
feeling pressure to go further - whatever it is that sparks the
by surprise. It’s not about avoiding or fixing anything in the
romance.
relationship as Sam and I are probably happier than we’ve ever
Sexually-fulfilled Casey sums it up best when she writes, “It
been right now but I feel I want something to do with this other
goes to show that what may work for one won’t work for another,
person as well. Sam and I chat about it and it’s a work in progress
but communication is the most important factor. Sex is extremely
to me. We have books to try and understand how it works for
important to my relationship with my husband. We rarely go a
others and a jealousy workbook. Anyway, I don’t really have
week without it, excluding post birth and my cycle. We have a very
answers as far as an outcome goes – it’s definitely a work in
strong chemistry but we have had to work on it. Talking honestly
progress.”
is important as is my husband’s patience and understanding.”
Polyamory doesn’t stand out as a solution in sprucing up my
“I struggled (sex) drive wise after my second and third child
sex life, but nor do I think it is meant to. Polyamorous blogger,
and there have been periods when being touched has left me
Angie Becker Stevens, writes about her lifestyle choice and
feeling annoyed because he was only doing it to get some head
explains that she is equally committed to and deeply in love with
and I found that selfish but post-bub number four I’ve been open
both her husband of seventeen years and her boyfriend of two
about these issues and we’ve found a new spark.”
and a half years.
“I’ve let myself succumb to his sexual desire of me and we
I have no judgement in consenting adults structuring a love
have been rocketed to a new depth of passion. Our youngest is 13
life that brings no harm to others, but it does seem an increase
months and we just try to grab each other when we can. Foreplay
in workload in my view. It may be a stretch to split my two
is generally a build up over a couple of days and I guess this keeps
minute blue moon shag between multiple slots, pardoning any
things exciting….”
unintentional puns, especially if I have to make everyone dinner and listen to their problems. The forum did reveal many mums with very young kids and
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your partner at work and allowing something to simmer and build
relationship is consensual and meaningful and not just about
If communication is the most important factor, then - Let’s Talk About Sex Baby! You owe it to yourself and the one you love, or ones if you happen to be polyamorous.
babies, or with children who had special needs, found themselves
Footnote….it appears that communication is the remedy, my
too tired for sex with their partner. Many described how intimacy
husband and I are back in the sack, let a conversation take you all
on all levels erodes when a kiss is deflected or a massage declined
the way to SexyLand! *all names in article have been changed to
in case it is misconstrued as an invitation for sex.
protect privacy.
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A FirstBIKE for the adventurer at heart Offspring Editor, Kate Durack, reviews the wonder bike that has all the kids on the block talking. y son is an adventurer at heart. A child with a desire to be
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handle bars and was off in an instant. Running his little heart out.
constantly moving, always learning. He had recently tired
Leaving me in his dust.
set of wheels! I walk everywhere, so having a hand free to enjoy my
on it. I’ve seen kids on similar products really struggling with their
morning (and afternoon) coffee sounded just great. We agreed - he
balance, but on the FirstBIKE his natural instincts just seemed to
would finally get his First bike!
kick in. Once he gained enough speed, he just lifted his legs and let
of mum pushing him everywhere ‘like a baby.’ He wanted his own
We settled on the German created balance bike - FirstBIKE. The choice was easy. It has state of the art safety features, which is paramount to me, and my son was able to design his own bike (green and silver of course with a blue basket), which is paramount to him. Honestly, I’m not a mechanical whizz, but the FirstBIKE was super easy to put together - straight out of the box and just one tool, which is included.
What I loved about the bike is how easily he appeared to balance
the bike take him. The look on his face was priceless, his spirit just soaring. It’s surprisingly light too, although it’s one thing I haven’t had to carry around too much when my son gets bored of it - because he never ever does! Now all his little friends have a FirstBIKE too. They have even formed a little bike gang in our neighbourhood - ‘The Bike-ateers.’
So we set off to our local park. Things started a little shakily - with me that is. I was nervous, it was his first big boy toy and I wasn’t sure how he’d handle it. While I grappled with this thought he gripped the
Too cute! My little adventurer has concurred yet another life skill - and I couldn’t be prouder of him or happier with his FirstBIKE!
“WHAT I LOVED ABOUT THE BIKE IS HOW EASILY HE APPEARED TO BE ABLE TO BALANCE ON IT… HIS NATURAL INSTINCTS JUST SEEMED TO KICK IN.”
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Six years ago, Giulia Lake gave birth to her daughter, Téa, and knew nothing of the Zika virus. By 2015, as thousands of Brazilian babies were born with smaller-than-average heads due to microcephaly – a condition linked to the virus – she could only empathise. Téa had been diagnosed with a similar but much more severe and rare neurodevelopment disorder called microcephaly-capillary malformation syndrome for which there is no known cure. BY TANIA CONNOLLY
Téa tackles rare disease B
outs of morning sickness and other associated symptoms endured by millions of women worldwide, bypassed a happily relaxed Giulia Lake. She confesses she breezed
Twenty minutes later, Téa arrived at the Neonatal Intensive Care Unit (NICU) at the local children’s hospital where she
through her pregnancy and hoped her baby’s birth would proceed
remained for four weeks as doctors attempted to pinpoint the
just as smoothly. Unfortunately, her perfectly natural, preconceived
origin of her seizures.
notion of blissfully cradling a healthy newborn, while surrounded by smiling visitors, was shattered mere minutes after Téa was born. During the second Appearance, Pulse, Grimace, Activity and Respiration (APGAR) evaluation, performed on Téa five minutes
“They just didn’t know,” Giulia says. “They basically had a meeting with us and gave us all the options that might be out there. So we kind of knew that severe disability was on the cards.” Looking back, Giulia suspects Téa’s health issues began in
after her birth, on 21st September 2010, Giulia says she was advised
the womb. She says a 23-week scan depicted Téa’s head to be
her daughter appeared to be having seizures. They didn’t present
disproportionately small, but she recalls no concerns being raised
as violent convulsions, but instead as “little movements” Giulia
or follow-ups requested. At the same time, she felt continual
thought looked completely normal. She began to comprehend the
rhythmic movements in her belly. “I thought Téa was having
gravity of the situation when drugs were immediately administered,
hiccups which, in hindsight, were probably seizures.”
and panic set in. She admits, “[I] didn’t know what was going on. It 32
was very emotional and horrible.”
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Since her birth, Giulia says Téa averages 20 seizures a day,
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sometimes over 40, and they continue throughout the night like clockwork - 10pm, 2am and 4am - each one lasting between 10 and
15 minutes. “I’m not entirely certain if she’s actually awake during the seizure, but she’s asleep when it starts and asleep when it finishes.” Giulia concedes the triggers continue to remain a mystery. The source of Téa’s issues puzzled doctors until her dermatologist chanced upon a newsletter, detailing a study carried out by a Washington doctor on children with symptoms mirroring Téa’s; specifically a head circumference less than the first percentile, numerous tiny red birthmarks and epilepsy. Giulia’s little girl is also afflicted with profound intellectual delay, resulting in an inability to walk or speak. Confined to a wheelchair, she has no
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Téa averages www.krystlericci.com 20 seizures a day, sometimes over 40, and they continue throughout the night To correct her scoliosis, Téa wears a ‘secondskin’ like clockwork - 10pm, - a garment which is rigid around her torso ensuring 2am and 4am - each she remains upright with her lungs open. Recurrent one lasting between pneumonia and aspirations have resulted in lung disease 10 and 15 minutes. and a constant patchy left lung. Her epilepsy is controlled
control over her hands so cannot perform sign language, but will soon begin a trial to learn to communicate with her feet. Tests conclude Téa is vision impaired, able to distinguish only shadows and lights. She struggles to swallow so meals are fed into a percutaneous
as best as possible with diet and a variety of drugs. With “a mini ICU going on” in their home, the Lakes avoid transporting Téa to hospital where possible, as it’s paramount to keep her delicate respiratory system free from infection. Data compiled on all Téa’s health challenges and forwarded
endoscopic gastrostomy (PEG) tube attached to her stomach, in
to America prior to her first birthday, confirmed a diagnosis of
which medications are also directly injected.
microcephaly-capillary malformation. The condition is so rare, only
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we’re okay with it. When you’re first in that position you feel like you’re completely alone because you look around and see ‘normal’ people, ‘normal’ families going about their business.” She admits it took her six months and an encounter with another mother with a special needs child to come to terms with the tangent her life had taken. “It was pretty much at that point that I thought, she’s surviving, she’s getting on with life and her life is still relatively normal. It’s terrifying at the start because you’ve got no idea. You just manage. Fall into your routine. It just turns into ‘normal’.” Movies, shows, parks and shopping; Giulia ensures Téa experiences everything, although being cuddled by her family is her favourite thing to do. “She’s cheeky. She’s really beautiful,” Giulia says with pride, but is aware outings tend to highlight her differences. She is more relaxed when Téa is in the hospital ward or at gatherings surrounded by children with similar issues. “It’s nice because you can kinda plonk them down together and they touch hands and make little noises to each other. It’s really cute. All the parents understand what’s going on.” She pauses and adds quietly, “Your kid’s not the weird one.” Giulia credits Danny, her stepson Jamie, her parents and close friends for providing much-needed assistance. “My parents are very supportive. They can both care for Téa [just] as well as us,” Giulia says and adds, “I’ve got a friend I’ve managed to quietly train up, so she’s looked after Téa a couple of times as well.
12 cases have been reported globally and Téa is believed to be the only child in Australia who suffers from it. The study also revealed the cause of the condition to be genetic. Subsequent blood
Movies, shows, It’s not easy for someone not used to doing parks and shopping; Giulia that.” She insists she and Danny have had to ensures Téa experiences become stronger or risk “falling in a heap”. everything, although Giulia knows of four other children from being cuddled by her overseas who have passed away in recent years family is her favourite from complications related to this condition. She thing to do
tests indicate both Giulia and her husband Danny carry a mutated gene. “There’s nothing that connects us in any way so it’s just a random throw of the dice,” Giulia sighs. Their decision to have more children hinged on this information and she reflects sadly on the consequences.
that ultimately claim them so is adamant they live in a warm climate. Currently the oldest child living with the condition is eight years old, only two years older than Téa. This causes Giulia angst which is why she prefers to focus on the present and is reluctant to plan
Told there is a one in four chance of future
too far ahead.
children inheriting the condition, Giulia
“It’s hard because Téa is
says, “[It’s] not good odds. I don’t think
a palliative patient. She’s
I’d be able to terminate but then at the
part of end of life care
same time I wouldn’t willingly do
now, with the hospital.
that to another child … I wouldn’t
Now everything that
want another child to go through
is done for her is
what she does every day.”
purely for comfort.”
Téa requires 24-hour care and
Giulia stresses Téa
Giulia says she and Danny only
will not be subjected
stopped floundering when they
to invasive, painful or
discovered other parents in the
uncomfortable tests and
same situation.
procedures that provide
“Being around people who knew
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explains that generally it is respiratory problems
no obvious benefit to her
exactly what we were going through,
wellbeing. “We just want
that kind of got us to the point where
quality of life, that’s all.”
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DAD’S WORLD
with Gary Ausbruch
Tween challenges “L
ike, seriously Dad?” Ella asked
deserting, it was the colour. Pink, that is. Her
assume it was a question by the,
bedroom was gradually being de-pinked and was
Like, seriously strong upward inflection at the
now starting to exhibit much more mature
end of the phrase. I’d been on the receiving end
hues. When we built our house four years
of a few “Like seriously dads” from her recently,
ago, she would have gleefully accepted an
often in combination with a brilliantly executed left eyebrow raise. My mistake this time was to ask her whether she liked a particular
offer to paint her walls pink (thank goodness there was no offer). But now, gone were the
doll, a question that wouldn’t have seemed so completely and
bubblegum-coloured cushions and dusty pink
unfathomably ridiculous even as recently as a year ago. But now,
pillow slips. About the only exception to the
aged eight (and three quarters, if you were to ask her), Ella had
eradication of all things pink, was a lamb’s wool
reached the stage where she was able to recognise that some dolls
throw draped fashionably over her bed, its colour
look, well, pretty freaky.
way down at the subtle end of the pink spectrum. Rose,
I’d never really thought too much about the characteristics of a tween – those years in between child and teenager – but it was clear
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It wasn’t just the toys of her childhood she was
me in the toy shop. I could only
or perhaps blush at a stretch. Her tween-ness was also being borne out in the way
that Ella was undergoing some sort of transition by ditching some
she’d started to dress. The more mature palette continued
parts of her past, while embracing new things.
here too, but it was the choice of garments that were most
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noticeable, all making me think she now wore
I’m not up with here. But on the other hand, it signalled the start of
“proper clothes”, rather than kids wear.
some of the stuff that goes along with being a teenager, and to be
A typical “proper clothes” outfit would be something along these lines. First, there were the skinny jeans with long boots, emphasising these elongated legs she’d sprouted. Then, there was the active wear top that looks like a sports bra, worn under an oversized sweater with the specific purpose of allowing her fellow tweens a glimpse of strap on shoulder. And finally, given the age for ear piercing had been settled as 12, the magnetic stud earrings, not just one on each lobe mind you; another
honest, I’m just not ready for the pain. What I really love about Ella’s transition to tween are the little bits of her early childhood she just can’t get rid of. Although she declares that along with, so hating pink, she also now so hates princesses, she clearly still doesn’t hate fairies. If
“While she’s old enough to declare Justin Bieber as “sexy”, she only has a vague idea of what this actually means.”
stud would often be found positioned high up on the cartilage of one ear! I wasn’t sure how I felt about tween Ella. On one hand, I guess I was thankful
anything, the fairy communication attempts and near-miss fairy sightings are increasing. She’s not ready to stay up half the night for a slumber party, but she’ll stay up half the night to try and catch Pickles or Silvermist coming to play in the miniature fairy garden in the corner of her bedroom. She’s still not so self-conscious not to wear in public the slightly garish, multi-coloured
patchwork shorts she made at sewing class. And while she’s old enough to declare Justin Bieber as “sexy”, she only has a vague idea of what this actually means. In fact, if I had to rate each stage of her life from baby to toddler to
that she still wanted to go into toy shops with me at all, even if
kid to tween in relation to how much how much enjoyment I got out
the doll section was now bypassed in favour of the self-tattoo
of being her parent, I would say that tween is easily the best so far.
kits, beauty packs or beads/loom bands/insert latest trend that
Tweens are like, seriously so the coolest age.
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Her healing hands BY LISA O’ROURKE
Passionate about providing the absolute best care for her patients, medical doctor, Priscilla Brockman, disillusioned and frustrated with the limitations of traditional medicine, left her career eight years ago to follow her heart and heal with her hands.
S
and CT Scan and what he had actually found during surgery. “The tumour had shrunk considerably. Initially extending beyond three layers of bowel wall and dangerously close to the liver, the tumour had quite significantly
ome things truly defy belief. Time
complementing her treatment with this
shrunk to become a small tumour in the
and time again, Dr Brockman
energy, yet she still needed further proof.
inner lining of her bowel,” Priscilla says.
habitually dismissed her unusual
A friend then invited Priscilla to attend
“We were just so happy and relieved
experiences that were beyond the realm
a Reiki workshop. Shortly after this
with the outcome, we didn’t tell the
of her scientific understanding and
training, Priscilla’s mother was diagnosed
surgeon what we had done. Yet, even
education, as mere coincidence.
with advanced bowel cancer requiring
with such profound results, I was still
urgent surgery. A, then, Reiki novice,
sceptical!”
In 2000, feeling particularly heavy-
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between the pre-op colonoscopy report
hearted, plagued daily with worries of
Priscilla lovingly treated her mother
her patient’s ails in the Psychology Ward
over ten days until the day of surgery
experience for Priscilla was an impromptu
at Fremantle Hospital, Priscilla stumbled
arrived. The baffled surgeon emerged
distance healing she performed on a kind
upon a crystal shop during a lunch hour
post op, explaining some “discrepancies”
stranger’s dog. While walking her puppy
Not long after, the most validating
stroll to clear her head. She later defined
in the local park, Priscilla encountered
this moment as the threshold to her future,
a sullen dog with a bandage on his leg.
altering her path to greater fulfilment, yet
Priscilla and the stranger exchanged the
she notched it up to chance.
usual pleasant dialogue all dog owners
There she stood, holding a crystal.
understand. Priscilla was horrified to learn
Feeling it resonate in the palm of her
that the dog’s leg was to be amputated due
hand, awakened to its power, Priscilla
to the necrotic tissue remaining following
grew excited at the possibilities of
a recent operation on a benign tumour.
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“Usually I didn’t tell people I
With surmounting, unequivocal
performed Reiki for fear of judgement,
evidence, Priscilla’s confidence in her
but I was so horrified about this poor dog’s
innate healing abilities began to grow, as
prospects I asked if I could send some
too did her quest for knowledge to further
Reiki,” says Priscilla.
her skills which would see her evolve and
With the owner’s blessing, Priscilla sent
flourish in this alternate healing approach.
Reiki to the convalescing canine that night
Energy healing presented Priscilla with
and a few weeks later another coincidental
a refreshing limitlessness of possibilities
encounter with the kind stranger and his
and weightlessness to the worries of
dog was both joyous and remarkable.
traditional medicine. She was relieved and
The dog was completely healed! With
eager to move forward.
his bandage abandoned, Priscilla’s
She started to experiment and “see
non-human patient was running happily
what I could really do around the place,”
through the park with equal measure of
she says, “I started to feel that I could do
recklessness. He was happily bounding on all fours across the park towards her. The stranger reported that the morning after his chance liaison with Priscilla (and the distant healing) his dog resumed normal function in his leg. A subsequent assessment by the vet confirmed the wonderful news that there was now no need to amputate! Thus ends a spectacular series of remarkable truths she could no longer
The tumour had shrunk considerably. Initially extending beyond three layers of bowel wall and dangerously close to the liver, the tumour had quite significantly shrunk to become a small tumour in the inner lining of her bowel.
ignore.
more with energy work than I could do with medicine.” Priscilla had always suspected her abilities existed throughout her childhood, yet had never completely accepted or pursued them. She began to vigorously learn all that she could from the very best about crystals and healing, revealing and developing her skills as a gift she now felt could no longer be denied her patients. So, in 2008, Priscilla took a courageous leap into an unknown future, leaving the
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medical profession behind to become a Healer. “It was definitely difficult initially because there were many unforeseeable and unexpected obstacles and issues,” says Priscilla. “People automatically have a respect for the medical profession and this certainly doesn’t exist in the case of Reiki. I have learnt to accept this and really believe in myself, develop confidence and be okay if people think it’s crazy!” Operating her own business from home, Healing Divine, for the last eight years, Priscilla has honed her healing skills, offering patients Reiki as well as crystal therapy. “Reiki that is taught today, and hence the way I was taught, has literally been passed down in a direct line of succession training,” says
they love it and want to return because it is
We need to find a way to release it, not
Priscilla, “In this way, Reiki is preserved
such a love-filled experience bringing with
suppress it.”
and protected by the Reiki Masters, being
it an unlimited supply of energy.”
the only people permitted to teach. I was
Priscilla fondly recalls a young girl
including some displayed by our animal
trained by an Australian lady, Barbara
who recently came to her for treatment.
friends, which Priscilla advocates alleviate
McGregor, who teaches both in Australia
According to her concerned parents, she
stress. She offers classes on how people
and abroad.”
was filled with anger, extremely anxious
can protect themselves from negative
and displaying extreme behavioural
energy.
Today, Priscilla particularly delights in
“You will notice that when a dog is
treating children, who she describes are
problems such as social withdrawal with
the most responsive to the healing powers
inexplicably sudden outbursts of anger.
over-excited or frightened they give
Priscilla cleared “a lot of negative
a shake. This is actually immediately
results. Priscilla describes herself as a
energy” while the girl slept through her
clearing negative energy.” She says,
spiritually aware child. Growing up on a
first treatment. The girl awoke happy and
“Literally, ‘shaking it off ’ really works! Use
sheep farm in Muradup (near Katanning)
relieved, proclaiming, “All of the pain in
your breath and intention as you release
in the South West of Western Australia,
my heart is gone now.”
and sweep negative energy away to the
of Reiki energy, with the most rewarding
universe where it can be turned into light
she reflects on loving animals, rescuing abandoned lambs, seeing fairies, talking to trees, praying a lot and connecting with nature. It is this very “openness” which all children demonstrate, that Priscilla believes is the reason why they are so responsive to Reiki. “I really love treating children as they are so open and receive energy so beautifully,” she says. “A child will only require one treatment compared with adults, who require three of four sessions to achieve the same healing
People automatically have a respect for the medical profession and this certainly doesn’t exist in the case of Reiki. I have learnt to accept this and really believe in myself, develop confidence and be okay if people think it’s crazy!
and love and not be collected by anyone else.” Priscilla laughs about her mother’s initial struggles with this technique. “It’s quite hilarious. She would wave it onto me. I would tell her to send it elsewhere!” Priscilla says. While Priscilla has realised her ambition to pursue a life of healing outside of the Medical faculty, she continues to expand her knowledge and develop her
results…Children see the magic and enjoy
specialised skills. This learning journey
the process. I see their guides and receive
has also been self-serving. She has
different messages from them, which the children can then learn to experience too.”
The girl’s family reported “a complete
discovered new ways to nurture her own
turn-around” in their daughter’s
emotional and spiritual needs by clearing
behaviour. Returning about six months
negative energy and letting things go more
of the energy and feel the warm, tingling
later, Priscilla again treated the young
easily. Learning how to protect and heal
sensation, enabling them to identify where
girl for a “hurting heart” with repeated
her own heart and health is a gift not only
energy is shifting in their body. They are
success. Priscilla explains that “the
to herself but to the lucky others who she
so open to that. They all say how much
inability to release stress can take its toll.
treats every day with her hands.
She says that children “see the colours
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g n i r a Prep y b a b for
BY BROOKE EVANS-BUTLER
Finding out you are having a baby is without a doubt one of life’s most exciting experiences – but it can also be overwhelming when you start thinking about everything you need to do before you welcome your bundle-of-joy into the world. Fear not, the Offspring Preparing for Baby Guide will help keep you on track.
PRAM/STROLLER
mainly for getting around shopping centres? If so, a pram that features a
You might think you are buying a small
basket underneath can be handy for
car when you look at purchasing a pram.
storage.
Indeed, there are many features to consider – and the price can also range
expecting twins or planning on having
drastically (with some prams costing
children close together? If so, a double
thousands).
or twin pram might be the best option
So, what do you want in a pram? It is
(or look at prams that have added
important to consider how you will be
options, such as a toddler seat/or
using the pram before you go shopping.
skateboard attachment).
Consider the following:
• Remember some accessories can make
Car restraint aby carrier/sling (this can be a B good option for those times you don’t want to use a pram – some mums find carrying the baby in a sling is also great for around the house). Pram
a big difference! Buy a rain cover and
Pram Liner
for newborns and that the pram meets
sun cover just in case. Another great
Pram rain/sun/insect cover
Australian Standards. Like all baby
option, which can be just as much
equipment, safety is very important.
a fashion statement as a practical
Ensure that the pram has a five-point
accessory, is a pram insert/cover,
harness and tyre brakes.
which makes the pram much easier to
rolley cover (great for comfort T and to protect your baby from trolley germs when you go shopping).
• C heck that the pram you buy is suitable
• Do you want to run/exercise with your pram? If so, check where you buy your
clean if needed. • How easy is the pram to fold down/put
Baby on Board sign Blanket/rug
pram that the tyres are going to be
up? Try it out at the shops when you
Portable cot (optional)
suitable.
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• Size matters. Check that the folded
pram will fit into your car boot. It is also important to consider
sanitiser, scented nappy bag, age-appropriate
the size of the pram depending on the intended purpose. If you
toy, nappy rash cream, bottle/
mainly want your pram for when you go to the shops, it will not
formula, dummy (optional) and
be a good choice to get a pram that is so wide it is difficult to fit
a change of top for mum in case
down the aisles.
you are the one that ends up messy
• Consider features. Do you want a reversible handle so you
after a feed or nappy change.
have the choice of your baby facing towards you or away from you? This can be a handy feature if you want to face your baby away from sun glare or wind – or simple so you can look at your gorgeous baby as you push the pram!
CHANGE TIME Changing nappies is something you do a lot when you have a newborn, so it is important to have everything you need to make this task a simple one. The first decision to make is if you want to put your baby in disposable or cloth nappies.
Disposable Disposable nappies are very convenient – no washing, drying or folding required. You can get nappies easily from most shopping centres and when it comes to change time; you just chuck out the dirty nappy and put a new one on your baby. Easy!
Cloth Modern cloth nappies are so easy to use. With either press studs or Velcro, they are easy to change (no sharp and fiddly nappy pins). They are also easy to take care of. You store the
NAPPY BAG Goodbye tiny clutch or sleek handbag and hello nappy bag! Never fear, gone are the days of the ghastly bulky nappy bag (there are now a range of design options and some look like designer handbags). However, the baby bag is an essential item when you go out-and-about with your baby. Consider the following: • The style – yes, of course style is important! This bag will essentially replace your handbag so ensure you are happy with the look. However, remember that other people are likely to be using this bag too (for example, your partner or the grandparents). • Get two baby bags if possible. It is handy to have one to use and one that is packed and ready to go in the second car, ready for babysitters or just in case of last minute outings. • A baby bag that comes with a travel/inbuilt change mat is very handy. • Check that the bag is easy to clean – inside and out. • Ensure it has enough storage. You don’t want to overload your baby bag, but some easy-to-access pockets/zips can be a good feature. • Are you planning to formula feed? Many baby bags feature an insulated compartment for bottles. Once you have chosen your nappy bag include: a couple of outfit changes for baby, hat/beanie, bibs, nappies, wipes, hand www.offspringmagazine.com.au
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dirty nappies in a dry bucket (no soaking required), until cleaning time, when then
Disposable nappies checklist
they are simply washed in the
Nappies
washing machine. Disposable
Wipes
liners are available – giving you
Wipe warmer (optional)
the option of simply flushing
Odour neutralising bags
solid waste straight down the
Nappy bin (optional)
toilet. They are also suitable to wear at night – with boosters available for heavy night-time wetters. TIP: Even if you are
MCN nappies checklist
planning on using MCNs for
Nappies
your baby, buy a packet of disposable nappies for the
Wipes (either cloth or disposable)
early days/weeks. Newborn
Nappy liners
babies can go through many
Night-time boosters
nappies (and an infant first bowel movements, Meconium, is very sticky) so using disposables even for the first few days can be good option so you don’t have any
BABY ROOM
Sleep time
‘Wet bags’ (to carry dirty nappies in)
A bassinet is an ideal sleeping place for a baby in the early weeks/months. It is much smaller than
Nappy bucket (for nappy storage between washes)
a cot and if on wheels can easily be moved around
Appropriate washing powder (such as Rockin’ Green)
the house during the day and then beside your bed at night. If you do not want to purchase a bassinet
extra washing while you are
as it will be only be used for a short amount of time,
recovering from the birth.
bassinets can be hired. An alternative to the traditional bassinet or Moses basket is a ‘Baby Box’ from the Baby Box Company. This product stems from the tradition in Finland where mums-to-be were given a box of baby essentials. As well as housing clothes and accessories for the baby, the box that the goodies came in is used as a sleeping place for the baby (without the lid of course), with a fitted mattress making this specially designed box a very handy option.
The cot Walk into a baby store and you could be overwhelmed by the number of cots to choose from – it’s not a simple choice between timber and white! Some cots may have clever storage options and drawers. Some may have the option of converting into a toddler bed or a day bed.
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An infant sleeping bag is a handy option – and ensures your the need for blankets, it is a good way to ensure your baby’s head
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have had a C-section, because you do not have to bend over a bed or low surface to change the baby.
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If you don’t want a dedicated change table, you can get a change mat for on a set of drawers. Or portable
Note
baby baths that double as
Kidsafe recommends babies sleep in their own cot or bassinette in the same room as you for the first six to 12 months.
a changing facility are also handy. Regardless of whether you get a change table or not, it is important that everything you need to change your baby (nappies/wipes etc) is within reach and that the baby is never left unattended for any amount of time in case the baby falls.
and face remain uncovered. It is important if you are using a baby
Storage is important for any room – and remember, your baby
sleeping bag that the correct size is chosen and the correct weight
is going to grow! A tallboy is a good option for any bedroom (but
for the season, so your baby doesn’t overheat.
remember to fix it to the wall to prevent it tipping over). A toy box
Remember to buy a couple of good quality mattress protectors to protect the mattress in case of late night nappy leaks.
Furniture A change table is not essential, but many parents find them handy. They are also a good height, especially for mothers who
is also a great addition to the nursery to store toys or even linen, but ensure it is a safe toy box, with soft-closing lid to prevent pinched fingers, so it is a safe addition to the room as your baby grows. Although, again not essential, a feeding chair is handy in the nursery for late night feeds and cuddles.
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Décor You don’t have to have the baby’s room complete and perfect by the time they are born (many parents choose to keep the baby’s cot in the parents’ room for the first year), but the décor available is just irresistible!). A theme is a great way to bring a room together and looks very effective – but you don’t have to go overboard. You can introduce colour or animal/pattern theme simply by adding a few well-chosen key elements – perhaps some wall art, linen in your chosen colour/theme a floor rug or accessories on a shelf. Personalised options are a great addition to the baby’s room – and now with so many online options, no matter how unique your baby’s name is, you can order custom-made décor –
Bottle feeding checklist
from canvases to their name for the door.
Formula Bottles and teats Bottle brush
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Chosen formula Formula dispenser Steriliser Bottle warmer (optional) Feeding pillow or wedge
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Tip
When your baby starts solids, invest in a ‘mess mat’ to go under the highchair. It will catch most of the food the baby drops, and will save you time cleaning the floor.
ACCESSORIES Depending on your feeding choice you will need bottles (don’t overstock on these before your baby is born – many babies take to certain bottles and teats so you may go through several brands
FEEDING
before settling on one. If you are breastfeeding, consider breastmilk storage containers, so you can freeze expressed milk if needed. Storage
Are you breastfeeding or formula feeding? Your essentials will differ depending on the feeding option that is best for you and your baby. Breastfeeding is very convenient – the milk is always the right
cups or special freezer bags are available. When your baby is ready to start solids, stock up on baby bowls and spoons (there are spoons available that change colour if the food is too hot, which is a clever safety option).
temperature and you can feed your baby anytime, anywhere.
Bottle feeding There are many formulas on the market, so talk to your health professional about how to choose the right option for your baby.
Starting solids A high chair is also an important feeding tool (but not something your newborn will need until they start solids, so this
Newborns don’t need a bath every day, but many parents like to give their baby a bath every night to make it part of a relaxing prebed routine. Baby baths are available; however you can bathe your baby in a sink or laundry trough. A water thermometer is essential (Kidsafe says 38°C is the
can be a later purchase). As with all other baby equipment, safety
recommended temperature for bathing young children). However,
the most important feature. A great tip is for whatever highchair
it is also important for a parent to check the water temperature as
you are considering – imagine how easy it would be to clean if it
well as checking the thermometer to prevent accidental scolding.
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Bath time checklist Baby bath (optional) Bath support (optional) Baby body wash/ shampoo (optional) Thermometer
products to establish a
•
Mittens (for in the hospital to stop baby scratching themselves)
•
Bibs Remember to choose something special to bring your new baby
home from the hospital in. It is a very exciting day (and lots of photos will be taken) so definitely take a super-cute outfit to the hospital with you.
KEEPSAKES
Towel
Your baby is tiny for about a second (it goes too quickly!) so ensure
Wash cloths
you create some keepsakes to remember this very special time.
Safety products (such as slip mats and tap covers)
Photography - Many hospitals offer a photography service and this can be a great way to get some very special pics when
familiar routine.
Clothes It can be very easy to go overboard when it comes to buying baby clothes. However, remember this is a very popular gift item (so you are bound to get some from excited friends and family when your baby is born). •
Singlets
•
Onesies
•
Socks
•
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your baby is so brand new. Another option is to hire a newborn
Labour bag checklist
photographer to do a photoshoot (ideally within your baby’s first
Aromatherapy oils
two weeks). Photographs are such a special keepsake and can also
Lip balm
be used to make birth announcement cards or to send to family
Refreshing facial mist
and friends. Print kits – inkless print kits are available, which are handy to be able to take to the hospital. Capture your baby’s tiny, perfect finger prints, hand prints and footprints. You can then make them into a special canvas or put them in your baby’s record book. Baby record book – A baby record book is great to remember all of your baby’s important firsts and milestones. Remember to fill things out as they happen (because they do grow so quickly).
AT HOME
TENS machine – these can be hired and offer another pain-relief option if you prefer (ask your hospital if they supply or hire these) Comfortable nighty/t-shirt that you don’t mind getting stained Lollies Some snacks for your partner/birth support person
Hospital bag checklist Pyjamas/nightie Maternity bra/singlet
Before you go into hospital, organising a few things can make your
Underwear
homecoming less stressful.
Maternity pads
Food – Stock up the freezer so you and your partner can spend less time in the kitchen and more time gazing at your precious
Comfortable clothes (yoga pants, track pants)
newborn. Make things that are nourishing, easy-to-reheat and
Comfortable slippers
that can be cooked in bulk, such as casseroles and hearty soups.
oiletries (toothbrush, toothpaste, brush, hairdryer, T shampoo, body wash, lip balm)
Remember to also freeze some snacks (very handy when hungry strikes during late feeds), such as sausage rolls and fruit muffins.
Book/magazines
If budget allows, there are also various home delivery services,
Camera
which deliver home-style meals to your door.
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Cleaning – When you are recovering (especially from a c-section) housework will be very low on the list of priorities. If you don’t have a partner or family close by to help, organising a reputable house cleaner (even just to do the floors and the
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bathrooms) is a good idea, if budget allows. Medicine cabinet – Ensure the medicine cabinet is stocked with the essentials to prevent late night dashes to the chemist. Include a digital thermometer, baby saline nasal drops and Baby Panadol (but ensure you check the age and dosage
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recommendations before use). Furry friends – Is your furry friend prepared for the arrival of your new baby? Preparations are best to start early (such as keeping pets out of the baby’s room or on the furniture). When the baby has been born, bring home a blanket the baby has been wrapped in so your dog gets familiar with the new scent is often recommended. Enlisting the help of some friends or a dog walker/pet sitter to take your dog on extra walks or give some extra attention during the early weeks is also a good idea. Siblings – A new baby can be a big adjustment for an older child, so make some preparations to help ease the change. Organising some special outings with friends or grandparents for your older child is a great idea when you are busy with the
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new baby. If you have a toddler, organising a box of quiet toys and activities (such as building blocks, books and arts and crafts) are handy to get out when you are feeding or settling your newborn.
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Supporting baby bonding
A new birth is usually a time of excitement and happiness but for some it brings up concerns about abilities to cope.
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t John of Burwood work closely with mothers, partners and families to optimise emotional health and bonding with baby and minimise anxiety at this potentially overwhelming time. The Mother and Baby Unit at St John of God Burwood provides specialist care from doctors, psychologists, Mothercraft nurses and parent-infant therapists for mums and babies in a purpose-built, home-like, environment. Mothers can stay with their babies up to the age of 12 months and partners can stay overnight for a nominal charge. They help mums and babies bond, and infants develop a secure attachment to their primary carer, as well as provide assistance with sleep and feeding issues.
Upon discharge mums can continue with group sessions which include cognitive behavioural therapy, attach-ment-based groups, anxiety management, mindfulness, Mothercraft groups, relaxation and art therapy. If you have concerns that you or someone you know has postnatal depression consult a doctor urgently. A GP referral letter is required for admission to the Mother and Baby Unit. Most health insurance funds cover the cost of these programs depending on the level of individual cover. Visit www.sjog.org.au/burwood to learn more about the Mother and Baby Unit.
Research tells us... SYMPTOMS
1in 5 women experience a mental health issue within the 1st year after child birth.1
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Feeling sad, anxious, angry, lonely or hopeless Not bonding with baby Inability to cope or make decisions Sense of panic Distressing thoughts Sleep and appetite disturbances Exhaustion
TREATMENT With proper support and treatment most women recover fully. Holistic practical and psychological support from a perinatal specialist team is vital. Contact St John of God Burwood Hospital specialist inpatient and outpatient services.
1. Gavin N, Gaynes B, Lohr K, Meltzer- Brody S, Gartlehner G, & Swinson T, (2005) Perinatal depression: A systematic review of prevalence and incidence. Obstetrics and Gynecology, 106 (5, Pt. 1), 1071–1083
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Beautiful birthing at Hawkesbury District Health Service
The birth of a baby is a joyous experience for new parents. Each mother and newborn has different expectations and care requirements, which is why Hawkesbury District Health Service has a comprehensive suite of maternity services providing outstanding personalised care.
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and anaesthetists, who are available 24/7, ensuring the smoothest of birthing experiences for every mother and baby.
he Hospital’s Maternity Unit welcomes more than 800 births per year and includes:
The Maternity Unit’s Special Care Nursery is equipped with specialist equipment for newborns needing a little extra support.
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New Obstetrics Team
Breastfeeding support is always on-hand too for mothers and
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babies with the sometimes challenging task of breastfeeding.
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Birthing Suites
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Midwifery-led Antenatal Clinics
stay and after discharge from hospital, and include tailored parent
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education, communal breakfasts with infant education sessions
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from hospital.
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Various support services are available to parents during their
St John of God Health Care’s renowned Raphael Service is now
These maternity services integrate to provide well-rounded, high-level and compassionate care to mothers and their
available to parents and families affected by anxiety, stress or depression during and after pregnancy.
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Our midwives, obstetricians, and special care nurses are all on hand to support you from conception to birth and well beyond. To find out about ensuring your own experience is as smooth as it can be, visit: www.sjog.org.au/hawkesbury
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heir products utilise a revolutionary design that allows air and water to flow through freely. The material that COMFI uses is 100% Polyester. So it is not a new material but a brand new design that sets it apart from other baby bedding on the market. The 3D hollow structure means the mattresses and pillows are not only completely breathable throughout, they are also super easy to keep clean. All of COMFI products are washable and made from the same air-permeable de-sign! This keeps moisture and bacteria from building up and keeps baby cool to prevent over-heating, allergies and skin rashes.
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The thickness has no impact on air-flow throughout the structure. Which means even their 7cm thick mattress is breathable right the way through. COMFI bedding allows for an oxygen friendly environment preventing infant suffo-cation, over-heating, and the re-breathing of carbon dioxide, allowing you and your little ones to have quality sleep every day and night to be fully energised and ready for tomorrow’s challenges. The safest bedding choice for parent’s peace of mind. When they say breathable, they mean it! Visit their online store www.comfibaby.com.au for the full range of products.
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Experience our beautiful private rooms with designer dĂŠcor and breathtaking views, and enjoy the convenience of built-in baby baths in every suite and space for your partner to stay. Our state-of-the-art facilities include delivery suites with birthing pools for water births and 24 hour nurseries for well babies and those needing special care. Located in leafy Wahroonga, Sydney Adventist Hospital (fondly known as the San) has been delivering babies since 1903. Choose the San and let our remarkable doctors and midwives take care of you and your family.
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Parenting
The need of children to be stimulated, challenged and encouraged to take risks is as great as their need for stability and security.
BY KEITH READ, NGALA EDUCATOR
CHALLENGING YOUR CHILDREN O
ur instincts focus around protecting our children and
otherwise known as resilience. Simply put, resilient children do
keeping them safe from harm, so messages arguing for
better in later life.
challenging our children and actually encouraging them
to take risks may seem contradictory.
RESPONSIBLE RISK-TAKING
But this is exactly what child development experts and their
Why is risk-taking so important? We are not talking about reckless,
research is telling us: in order to help our children prepare for life
life-threatening risks, but responsible and appropriate risk-taking.
outside our direct supervision and develop the capacity to deal with
We all need to take social and physical risks in life; to form new
unexpected events such as failure, we need to support children to
relationships, get better jobs, and access new experiences and
develop the skills and frame of mind to do this. In other words, by
learning, and appropriate risk-taking is a skill we need to teach our
providing children with training and experience in managing risk,
children. We do this by stimulating and challenging them, guiding
solving challenges, recovering from setbacks, and dealing with
them through the process with encouragement, and by setting
disappointment and failure, we are helping them learn to make better
boundaries to help decision-making.
decisions and prepare for life. If not us as parents, then who?
BUILDING BRAINS
Think about your child’s future – teenagers’ brains are geared toward taking risks and they will be more equipped to better assess big risks and make appropriate decisions if their brains have training
Children’s brains are primed for learning in the early
and experience with smaller risks in their early years.
years, and experiences in the first five years lay the foundation for future learning and development. By guiding our children through appropriate, challenging situations, providing a stimulating environment, and encouraging risk-taking, we help the child’s brain form problem-solving templates they can draw on when faced with difficulties and roadblocks in life. This can provide the child with confidence in dealing with life’s unexpected events and the resources to recover from setbacks, 56
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“Children’s brains are primed for learning in the early years, and experiences in the first five years lay the foundation for future learning and development.”
EMOTIONAL REGULATION So what does challenging and stimulating our children mean, and how do we do this? One researcher described this as “temporarily destabilising” children; briefly raising their excitement levels above normal so they learn to manage this situation (with our support) and return to emotional balance. This teaches emotional regulation, a vital part of resilience. www.offspringmagazine.com.au
With older children, this can include physical play with a degree of unpredictability – chasey and play wrestling, as well as friendly scaring and teasing games and use of humour. Babies need more care with appropriate support and safety, but can be gently stimulated by slow movement through the air, lifting, and bouncing on your knees or tummy. The golden rule is of course safety, and checking in with your child to ensure they
“Children who have lots of unstructured, challenging play and feel confident to take risks, will most likely be more ready to face the challenges of life as they grow older.”
are happy and a willing participant in this activity. Every child has a different temperament; some can’t get enough of these games, while others prefer less boisterous
longer as it gets more difficult compared to children praised for how smart they are.
FRIENDLY COMPETITION As well as letting children explore and play outside, we can play friendly competitive games with our children as they grow (chasey, keepie-off, play wrestling etc). While always keeping in mind the golden rules mentioned above, share the winning and losing with your child and ensure that in order to “win”, your child has tried hard.
When they “lose” we can encourage with words such as “you almost
activities, so keep this in mind. The important thing is that by exciting
got it that time, keep trying harder”, help them develop new strategies
our child and then helping them learn to calm themselves down, we
and approaches, and of course praise their effort when it is evident. It is
are training their brains and bodies to deal with unexpected events
not difficult to see the lesson here – sometimes we win, sometimes we
and changes in emotion.
lose, but success takes planning, effort and persistence. This practical
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lesson will be far more effective than any lecture from us. Experience shows that dads, in particular, enjoy engaging with
Providing appropriate challenges for our children promotes problem-
their children in this way, but these types of interactions from both
solving skills, effort and persistence (keeping at it) – all important
parents play a vital role in their child’s development and future
parts of resilience. Praise alone does not build resilience.
outcomes. Children who have lots of unstructured, challenging play
In fact research has shown that overpraising children about their
and feel confident to take risks, will most likely be more ready to face
abilities can have the reverse effect by promoting a false sense of
the challenges of life as they grow older, and isn’t that what we want
confidence. We are learning that praise for effort is far more effective
for our children?
than just praise about ability. A number of studies have shown that children who are praised for trying hard consistently persist at a task
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Have Yourself a Merry Little
Christmas BY BROOKE EVANS-BUTLER
shops Don’t wander around the your aimlessly when attempting will Christmas shopping – you e too spend too much, it will tak , you much time and chances are will not find a perfect gift.
for
baby
Stocking stuffers:
CUTE ONESIES, BATH TOYS, BATH LOTIONS/MOISTURISERS, KEEPSAKE TOY/DOLL, SOCKS, BIBS, BOOKS
Time to start your Christmas shopping? We have ideas sorted for the entire family.
Every baby needs a Christmas-themed onesie, and we love this one for new parents who would like a little more sleep! $32 from Unique Baby Boutique, www.uniquebabyboutique.com. au/collections/christmas
For an extra special first Christmas gift that can be used for years to come, a beautifully-made Santa Sack is a wonderful gift. Santa Sack, $44.95 from Unique Baby Boutique, www.uniquebabyboutique. com.au/collections/christmas
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et’s face it – babies don’t need much and, yes, they probably
will not notice what they receive because they are asleep or too interested in the wrapping paper. However, choosing Christmas gifts for a baby can be an excuse to get something very special (think sentimental gifts for their first Christmas) – and remember, you can definitely give gifts that will be useful as they grow.
Cute soft toys that provide soft music to lull your little one to sleep can quickly become a child’s firm favourites. Teletubbies™ 10inch Musical Lullaby Laa-Laa, RRP $59.99 (suitable for 18months+), available from Big W, Myer, Target, Kmart, Kid Stuff, Toyworld, and Mr Toys. 58
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How cute is this! Babies love to learn and explore, so this sensory dome is a great gift choice. Worlds Apart Zebra Sensory Dome Tent. For ages 12 months plus, RRP $49.95, go to www.childsmart.com.au for stockist details. www.offspringmagazine.com.au
for Stocking stuffers:
toddlers
PLAYDOH, BOOKS, BUBBLES, BATH TOYS, BUCKET AND SPADE FOR THE BEACH, BALL, CLOTHES What toddler doesn’t love the pups from Paw Patrol? PAW Patrol Treat Time Marshall, RRP $49.95, features play modes including letters, learning rescue, search and rescue, and music time. For details go to www.vtech.com .au
Every child should receive a beautiful book for Christmas – and this personalised gem allows the names of your child’s family and friends to be added to this lovely alphabet book. RRP $30 from www.hippoblue.com.au
Personalised gifts are always a hit with kids, and if you are planning on going away during the Christmas holidays a large backpack is a really useful purchase, like this cutie from Hippo Blue (Large Backpack, RRP $50). www.hippoblue.com.au
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his is really when the fun of Christmas begins! Toddlers find the
Christmas experience so magical and there is so much excitement about even the smallest things. This is a great age
Toddlers love to do what their parents do! So when you are cooking a Christmas barbie for friends, your little one can be role playing too. Young Ones my first Barbecue, $29 from Target.
to get something that a toddler can use as they grow (such as a trike or balance bike), and toys for imaginative play (a dolls house and dress-ups are great for toddlers).
Plush animal pillow toys are always great to have on-hand for when your toddler falls asleep out-and-about – and they double as a favourite toy. FlipaZoo animal pillows features two plush characters that flip back and forth so your child can have two toys (and an emergency pillow) with them. Available in ‘Unicorn to Dragon’, ‘Giraffe to Hippo’, ‘Tiger to Elephant’, ‘Hedgehog to Turtle’, ‘Bee to Ladybug’, and ‘Husky to Polar Bear’. RRP $29.99 from Big W, www.flipazoo.com
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Do you have a child that loves art and craft? Once placed in the ‘Magic Swivel’, Cut It Out! Markers can cut and colour at the same time, so they can create beautiful masterpieces, even on the busiest days. Cut It Out! Starter Blister, $12.99, available at Woolworths.
Stocking stuffers:
for
girls
BUBBLE BATHS AND GELS, COLOURING BOOKS, CRAYONS/PENCILS, BOOKS, FUN STATIONERY, FASHION ACCESSORIES – SUCH AS HEADBANDS AND BRACELETS.
The tweens will love their own camera to record holiday activities and fun moments with friends. Fuji Instax Mini 8 Camera Pink, RRP $88.00. Available in store and online at Officeworks, www.officeworks.com.au
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here are so many present ideas for girls this age. Get a good mix of toys,
The Rainbows and Clover teepees come in three sizes, so it is suitable gift option for children to teens. RRP is $109.95 (for the regular size). For more options, to buy online or for stockist details go to www.rainbowsandclover .com.au
Girl Lane – a fun tween skincare and haircare range – features some great stocking fillers, including Hair Sparkle Shine (RRP $19.99), Tinted Moisturiser (RRP $16.99) and Everyday Face Moisturiser ($14.99). Girl Lane products are sold exclusively through Priceline, or online at www.girllane.com.au
things that are secretly educational and some necessities (such as fun fashion). Many tweens want to be grown up right now – so they will love electronics, fashion and accessories – but don’t forget to include some fun toys and things to get them outdoors and active, such as pool toys or even a skipping rope.
Who knew a pen could be so exciting! The Smiggle Party Marker Duo Pen enables you to write secret messages with invisible ink – which is revealed with the attached light. RRP $7.95 www.smiggle.com.au
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Is the force strong with your son? If you want a special gift for a Star Wars fan, the Star Wars R2D2 Interactive Robotic Droid, $175 from Target, is sure to delight! www.target.com.au
Stocking stuffers:
for
boys
G
ames and toys are still very ‘cool’ at this age (find out their latest craze and you are sorted), they will
also love anything that keeps them busy (think Lego and building/craft kits). Shopping for tween boys doesn’t have to be scary. With a good mix of funny books, crafts/
For a tween boy, some body products that help him smell great are handy stocking fillers. 808 Dude Shampoo & Body Wash R.R.P $13.95, 250ml, 808 Dude No More Stinky Pits Deodorant RRP $8.89, 50ml. Available from selected natural health food stores and pharmacies www.808dude.com
science kits, latest fashion and sport gear available, there will be something for all personalities and interests.
ART AND CRAFT SUPPLIES, A COOL HAT, COLLECTABLE/ SWAPPING CARDS (AFL, POKEMON ETC), TOOTHBRUSH, BOOKS, WATER BALLOONS, ITUNES CARDS, BOOKS, MOVIE TICKETS
If you have a tween curious about the world, Lonely Planet Kids: The Cities Book is packed full of pictures and facts about 86 of the world’s greatest cities. $29.99, www.lonelyplanetkids.com
Why not forego the chocolate this year (it is likely to melt in the hot weather) and include this game for something a bit different? The BeanBoozled Spinner Gift Box, RRP $15, is a game where you never know which flavoured jelly bean you are going to get, as weird and wacky flavoured jelly beans are mixed in with traditional Jelly Belly flavours. Will you end up with a Booger or Sticky Sock flavoured jelly bean? Eww! www.jellybelly.com.au
Do the kids cry ‘I’m bored!’ on the holidays? A camera could give them a different way of looking at everyday objects and events. Qpix Full HD Action Camera, RRP $69.84. Available in store and online at Officeworks, www.officeworks.com.au
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for
mums & dads
Stocking stuffers: BODY PRODUCTS AND PERFUMES, GOURMET DELIGHTS, BOOKS/MAGAZINE SUBSCRIPTIONS
Philips MoistureProtect Straightener Styling can damage hair – but the Philips MoistureProtect Dryer helps preserve the hair’s hydration levels with MoistureProtect sensor. RRP $139.00, available at retailers nationally
For Mums and Dads that want to prioritise fitness as their New Year’s Resolution, a Fitbit is a fantastic gift to keep them on track. Fitbit Alta Activity Tracker Large Teal, $179.00. Available in store and online at Officeworks www.officeworks.com.au
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es, Christmas is always very exciting for the kids – but make sure you
remember the Mums and Dads when you go shopping. Useful gifts, such as things for the home, are always appreciated, but some gifts to encourage relaxation and fun over the Christmas break is a great idea too. Note: All prices listed may be subject to change. Some prices listed may not include postage costs for online purchases. Check with your retailer or online store for details and product availability.
This great book will give Mum the tools to focus on habits to prioritise health and wellbeing. The Fit Busy Mum: Seven Habits for Success by Rosemary Marchese, RRP $29.95. Available online or in all good book stores, www.thefitbusymum.com.au
Did you know robots can also take care of the mopping? That’s right…we hope we are that much closer to finding a robot that can also make the beds! Treat your loved one to the Braava 380t, which is a whisper-quiet mopping robot that uses dry or damp cloths to mop hard-surface floors. Braava 380t, rrp $599. For further details go to www.irobot.com.au
Jules Allen urges people to foster children Could you be a foster carer? Children in your community need a safe and caring home today. You will be provided with on-going training, 24/7 support and a dedicated social worker.
If you have room in your home and heart, please get in touch with us today: 1800 WE CARE canifoster.com.au
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Former MasterChef contestant, Jules Allen, is urging people to foster children in need.
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ules has fostered 31 children and speaks passionately for the care of children. She recently partnered with Key Assets to help recruit carers for children in need. “43,000 children need care and protection. This number is growing, but the level of carers is in decline,” Jules says. “I urge anyone who is interested to take the next step and contact Key Assets today. Changing a child’s life is the most rewarding thing you will ever do.” Contact Key Assets: 1800 WE CARE or www.canifoster.com.au
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TRAVEL
FAMILY FUN IN NSW! BY COLLEEN WILLIS
Who doesn’t dream of some time away from the hustle and bustle of daily life? Whether it’s for a weekend or a few weeks, NSW has it all. From the beautiful beaches to the Snowy Mountains NSW has it covered!
THE BLUE MOUNTAINS The Blue Mountains has a lovely laid back feel and is perfect for a quick getaway. Highlights include Summer • Leuralla Toy & Railway Museum NSW • Jenolan Caves • The Three Sisters • Hop on Hop off Trolley Tours • Megalong Valley Heritage Farm • Horse Riding
SNOWY MOUNTAINS
Accommodation
The Snowy Mountains have long been a favourite for snow
• Owls Cottage Katoomba • Jenolan Caravan Park
enthusiasts and are perfect for both summer and winter holidays.
• Emirates Wolgan Valley Resort and Spa (for a bit of luxury)
Highlights include Summer • Hiking
Getting there • Horse riding
• Water sports - kayaking, canoeing, sailing, boating, fishing,
200km so driving is the most practical option. However, the train
swimming
or bus is also another way.
• Cycling
• Kosciusko National Park
• The annual Peak Festival which celebrates the opening of the ski
season at Perisher (normally early June) • Cross Country Ski Week for all levels (normally early August) • Skiing and Snowboarding • Kosciusko National Park
For more information visit www.bluemts.com.au
www.stayz.com.au/accommodation/nsw/blue-mountains
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Glenbrook is roughly 75km away and the Jenolan Caves are nearly
SOUTH COAST
The South Coast sure is home to spectacular scenery and exciting activities.
• Snowball fights!
Highlights include
For more information visit www.snowymountains.com.au
• Kiama Blowhole
• Illawarra Fly Treetop Walk
www.peakfestival.com.au
• Minnamurra Rainforest
• Mogo Zoo
• Batemans Bay
• Jervis Bay
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• Beach fun
ILLAWARRA FLY TREETOP WALK This is a great activity for the whole family. Its beautiful views take in
• Hunter Valley Gardens Aqua Golf & Putt Putt
the rainforest canopy, Lake Illawarra and the South Pacific Ocean. A
• Extreme Go Karting
big bonus is that it’s both pram and wheelchair accessible. It’s located
• McGuian Cellars (it also has cheese, chocolate and fudge - yum!)
approximately 1.5 hours south of Sydney so could even be a day trip.
• Wyndham Estate
• Drayton’s Family Wines • Potters Hotel, Brewery and Resort
For more information visit www.illawarrafly.com.au
Accommodation
JERVIS BAY
• Potters Hotel, Brewery and Resort
Known for its pristine beaches, turquoise waters and national
• Bellbird Cottages and Swallows Homestead (pets welcome here)
parks, it’s also famous for its dolphins and whales. There are 80-120 dolphins in Jervis Bay all year round, which gives you plenty of
Getting there
opportunity to see them. The whale season is from June to October
The tourist route T33 is a lovely drive. Another option is taking the train.
and is a truly magnificent sight to see.
For more information visit www.winecountry.com.au
For more information visit www.jervisbaytourism.asn.au
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PORT MACQUARIE
Port Macquarie is still close enough to Sydney for a quick trip, or you could make this a stopover on your way up north.
Accommodation Batemans Bay is a good spot to base yourself in if you want to stay in
Highlights include
one spot. From backpackers to luxury, there is plenty to choose from.
• Whale watching (June to October)
• Big4 Batemans Bay Beach Resort (cabins, caravans and camping)
• Water fun - swimming, surfing, fishing, kayaking,
• Chalet Swisse Spa at Surf Beach Retreat
• Billabong Koala and Wildlife Park • Timbertown Heritage Theme Park (on 87 acres of natural forest!)
For something a little different, why not visit the Observatory?
Getting there Follow the Grand Pacific Drive and take your time. Batemans Bay is
Imagine what the kids will be thinking when they look through
about 280km from Sydney.
the telescope! It’s open on Sunday and Wednesday nights
For more information visit www.batemansbay.com.au
throughout the year.
www.visitnsw.com | www.grandpacificdrive.com.au
Accommodation I stayed with my family at the Mantra Quayside Apartments and
HUNTER VALLEY
found the location good and apartment to be a reasonable size.
Most of us love a good winery and Hunter Valley doesn’t
Other spots are
disappoint! With roughly 150 wine producers and breweries a
• The Observatory Resort
plenty, you’re bound to come across one you like! However, there
For more information visit www.port-macquarie.net/
are some that are more ‘family friendly’ than others and include
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• Marina Holiday Park
kids’ menus, playgrounds and large grassy areas for the kids to enjoy. This then allows the adults get onto the serious business of
Getting there
eating and drinking!
The distance from Sydney is approximately 380km so no need to rush. Flying is with Qantas and Virgin.
Highlights include • Ballooning
• Horse riding
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COFFS HARBOUR
How can you not enjoy a place that is home to The Big Banana?? Coffs is a great spot to break your journey if you’re on a road trip from Sydney. Other highlights include • Dolphin Marine Magic Show • Helicopter Scenic Flights • Sky Diving • Water fun
Accommodation We stayed at the Breakfree Anuka Beach resort and loved it. The
• Amaze’n’Place - Alstonville • Macadamia Castle - Knockrow
water slide was a big hit in our family! Other options are:
• Crystal Castle & Shambhala Gardens – Mullumbimby
• Smugglers on the Beach (I love that name!)
• Art
• Ballooning
• Park Beach Holiday Park
• Hang gliding
• Loads of water activities
• Aqualuna Beach Resort
For more information visit www.coffscoast.com.au
Accommodation Getting there
• Lennox Beach Resort (baby-sitting services for a fee)
By road the distance is approximately 540km, so allow enough
• Ballina Lakeside Holiday Park
time if not stopping on the way. From Port Macquarie it is roughly
For more information visit
150km. Flying is with Qantas, Virgin or Tiger Air
www.visitbyronbay.com | www.byronbayaccom.net
BYRON BAY
For travel information visit
www.virginaustralia.com.au/en | www.qantas.com.au
Byron Bay is such a melting pot of people and ideas. It’s a good spot
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the facilities, community and surrounding
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within an easy distance
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options available. Relax in cottages, cabins
ways to unwind, de-stress and
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to reconnect with nature on the shores
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coastal and inland holiday parks to enjoy,
rich mix of unpowered and powered sites.
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GETAWAY IN NSW The great outdoors is never far away in NSW and, with Spring here and Summer on the way, it’s a beautiful time of the year to plan a getaway with the kids.
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Kootingal Horseriding Adventures, at Glenworth Valley, or in
will get a taste of country life, have plenty of space to roam, enjoy
offer. A different ride is on the back of a camel! Glide along
fresh air, seasonal foods and loads of fun. In a packed getaway
a Coffs Harbour beach with Coffs Coast Camels or at Port
you could be watching Giselle performed by The Australian
Stephens from Oakfield Ranch.
f you’re looking for a different sort of holiday this year, why not head off to a regional NSW event for a long weekend? The kids
the beautiful Snowy Mountains where alpine treks are also on
Ballet, ute races in Deniliquin, hip-swivelling junior Elvises,
Animal attractions around NSW offer a range of special
junior rugby championships
experiences from keeper talks
and much more.
to behind-the-scenes tours
Another way to have a
that are fun for everyone.
family holiday that’s fun
Mogo Zoo’s lowland gorillas,
and affordable is to go
tigers and snow leopards
caravanning or camping.
are simply inspiring, while
A range of holiday parks is
Taronga Western Plains
located in some of the state’s
Zoo in Dubbo is a standout
best locations – on headlands,
wildlife park with onsite
in national parks, by the
accommodation. Other
beach or in pretty riverside
popular animal attractions
locations. You’ll step straight
include the Australian Reptile
into the great outdoors (every
Park and the Australian
day) and immerse yourself
Walkabout Wildlife Park, both
in nature. And if you’re staying by the coast, you might also be lucky enough to catch sight of migrating whales as they travel along the NSW between May and November each year. A few of the best whalewatching spots include Port Stephens, Byron Bay, Jervis Bay and Eden. Depending on your kids’ interests and
ANIMAL ATTRACTIONS AROUND NSW OFFER A RANGE OF SPECIAL EXPERIENCES FROM KEEPER TALKS TO BEHIND-THE-SCENES TOURS THAT ARE FUN FOR EVERYONE.
on the Central Coast, Atlina Wildlife Park near Griffith, the Shoalhaven Zoo, Billabong Koala and Wildlife Park in Port Macquarie and the Tamworth Marsupial Park. More unique and family-friendly activities include some old favourites such as the Big Banana at Coffs Harbour, hot-air balloon rides in the Hunter Valley, The Three Sisters in the
ages, you might also like to include some special adventures
Blue Mountains followed by a thrilling ride on the Scenic Railway,
into your getaway, bound to be remembered years later. Join a
a ride on a Murray River paddle steamer and a tour of the sublime
trail ride through the countryside on horseback at Tamworth’s
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Eat FOOD & NUTRITION
and be
happy! BY KATE BULLEN
Take a trip to your local market to stock up on fresh fruit and vegetables to improve your mental health and happiness. Fresh fruit and veggies contain important carbohydrates, B Vitamins and antioxidants and we can’t expect tablets to provide us with the same results.
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ecent research from Australia and England measured 12,000 people’s happiness and wellbeing. The research focused on whether there were improvements in people’s
wellbeing after eating more fruit and vegetables. People were asked a few questions about how often they ate fruit and vegetables and how much they ate. Two years later they were asked the same questions. The outcome was positive for those who had increased the amount of fruit and vegetables, resulting in increased happiness and wellbeing. Why am I writing about food and happiness? We know mental illness is common. Around 20 per cent of Australians experience a mental illness in any year. Teenagers and young adults (18 to 24 year olds) are most likely to show signs of mental illness of any age group. If we can set up good eating habits now for our children, then this could help reduce and improve their happiness, and maybe improve their mental health. Of course food is just one part of improving our mental health and happiness. There are many, many
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Low glycemic fruits and vegetables Fruits:
Vegetables:
Apples l Bananas l Strawberries l Kiwi fruit l Oranges l Berries (fresh or frozen) l Mango l Pear
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can affect our mood. Fruits and vegetables with a low glycemic index release glucose in a slow and steady fashion which may help to regulate our moods and our happiness. Unlike highly processed food (think: lollies, cake, biscuits) which give that sugar hit that we can all relate to (think: kids just came home from a birthday party) usually results in a pretty big crash in mood. So, slow and steady
Make a toastie with these delicious fruit and vegetable fillings:
wins the race.
• Banana, ricotta cheese, sultanas and pinch cinnamon • Banana, peanut butter • Grated cheese, tomato, avocado • Baby spinach, avocado, cheese • Ham, cheese, pineapple • Baked beans, mushroom, cheese • Tinned tuna/salmon, cheese, sweetcorn • Chicken, coleslaw, cheese
2. B VITAMINS Fruits and vegetables are great sources of B vitamins, including folate and vitamin B6. These two vitamins are again important in our brains making serotonin and other chemicals that affect mood. Low levels of B vitamins may be linked to depression. As an aside, Vitamin B12 is also an important B group vitamin in helping making serotonin and other neurotransmitters. Vitamin B12 is not usually found in fruits and vegetables, but instead in fish, lean meat,
factors including genetics and where we live, for example, that also impact on our happiness. Exercise, getting out in the
eggs and dairy – so all food groups are important.
sunshine, fresh air and being with supportive friends, are all
3. ANTIOXIDANTS
healthy strategies that we can encourage our children to do.
Research looking at antioxidant content in fruits and vegetables has
In Australia we have the ‘Go for 2 fruit and 5 veg’
increased over the last few decades. Vitamins C and E and other
campaign which aims to increase awareness of the need
components such as phytochemicals, are all found in fruits and
to eat more fruit and vegetables. The campaign also offers
vegetables. It is thought that these types of antioxidants protect
useful tips and strategies to increase the amount of fruit and
our body cells against damage and they may also reduce body
vegetables we eat.
inflammation, which has been linked to poor mental health.
The research suggests that fruits and
I would like to emphasise the importance of eating
vegetables might impact on our mental
fresh (or frozen, tinned) fruit and vegetables and not
health and happiness based on the
just taking a few multivitamins and antioxidant tablets. Not only are fruits and vegetables
following components that are in fruits
cheaper, but more and more the research
and vegetables:
1. CARBOHYDRATE TYPE We know that when we eat fruits and vegetables, our body releases insulin and causes the carbohydrate to be broken down into glucose. Our brain is then triggered to make important neurotransmitters such as serotonin, which
“If we can set up good eating habits now for our children, then this could help reduce and improve their happiness, and maybe improve their mental health.”
is showing the importance of eating the whole food and we can’t just isolate certain components of food into a tablet and expect the same results. So, take a trip to your fruit and vegetable market and stock up. Even better take your children with you and let them choose some of the fruits and vegetables. sydney | spring 2016 | Offspring
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STEM CELLS
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When Dani and Pete received the news that no parent ever wants to hear they were grateful they’d taken out an insurance policy from the day their first son was born. Miles’ life was saved by his brother Jasper’s cord blood stem cells.
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blood meant Miles would have a pure source to go to transplant –
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reducing the likelihood of infection post transplant. We had the
first child, Jasper at the time.
‘golden ticket’ to give Miles the best possible chance of survival!
y partner Pete and I possibly made the
moment!!! This meant we would
smartest decision of our lives! It was
be able to use Jasper’s stored cord
when we decided to store the cord blood
blood to treat Miles. Having the cord
Collecting and storing the cord blood from the placenta
Once the transplant was complete there was a long, 120-
at birth meant that our babies could benefit from stem cell
day rejection countdown. Miles had his up and down days, but
advancements in the future. Stem cells are cells in the blood or
overall with the cord blood and our quarantine boot camp, we
bone marrow that are capable of producing all mature blood cells
were extremely lucky to avoid any major infections through the
including both red and white blood cells and platelets. There are
transplant period. It was fantastic. Miles was recovering extremely
current studies showing the potential for stem cells from cord
well and left the hospital after just 8 weeks, not the usual 6
blood to repair damaged spinal cords, or to help stroke or liver
months. We had broken hospital records!
failure patients. Cord blood is also widely used to treat leukaemia and several other types of cancer. Pete and I felt that storing the
Miles is now completely drug free, which is hard to believe as he was on 45+ medications at one point. Now his overall health,
cord blood was an insurance policy for our
weight and growth are all spot on. He is the
children’s future health.
most social little boy who sings everywhere
We have two beautiful little boys, Jasper 8 and Miles 6. On Monday morning, 17th August 2009, I received news that no parent ever wants to hear. Miles, then 10 months old, was suspected of having a rare form of leukaemia known as JMML (Juvenile Myelomonocytic Leukaemia). JMML is a
Our two children often stun adults with the story of their ‘superhero blood’ that came together and now they can fix everything!
cancer of the blood and is found in infancy or
on life. He is very aware of what happened to him. In fact, it really is quite magical to hear the two brothers talking about the transplant. Miles often asks Jasper to remind him about what happened because he was only very young and doesn’t remember all
early childhood. It is fatal if left untreated and the only treatment
the details. The two of them often stun adults with the story of
is a stem cell or bone marrow transplant.
their ‘superhero blood’ that came together and now they can fix
Miles’ only chance of survival was a bone marrow transplant. Pete, Jasper and I were all tested to see if we could donate our
everything! We have learnt from this experience to take life one day at a
bone marrow. At this stage we told the doctors that we had stored
time, that there is nothing more important than family and you
both Jasper and Miles’ cord blood. Would this help? The doctor
never know what is around the corner. Appreciate every second!
was pleasantly surprised and confirmed it was great news! I
I would appeal to everyone to become bone marrow donors
remember feeling relief. Since the nightmare began, we had felt
and for new mums, please consider storing your cord blood as an
totally helpless, now maybe we had done one thing right that
insurance policy for your child’s future health.
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