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Mondays 3:30 - 4:00 4:00 - 4:45 4:45 - 5:30
Ballet 5/6 Ballet 7-9 Ballet 10-13
Thursdays 12:00 -12:30 12:30 - 1:00 3:30 - 4:00 4:00 - 4:45 4:45 - 5:45 5:45 - 6:30
8 Wk Parent/Child 8 Wk Movement 3/4 Tap/Jazz 5/6 Tap/Jazz 7-9 Musical Theatre 7-14 Tap/Jazz 10-13
Saturdays 10:00 - 10:30 10:30 - 11:00 11:00 -11:30 11:30 - 12:15 1:00 -1:45 1:45 - 2:15 2:15 - 3:00 3:00 - 3:45 3:45 - 4:45
8 Week Parent/Child 8 Week Movement 3/4 Ballet 5/6 Ballet 7-9 Ballet 10-13 Boys Only Movement Ages 5-7 Hip Hop 7-9 Hip Hop 10-13 Adult Drop In
You may be very clear about your No’s with your children, and you could still get “the whine.” Your children may have a hard time feeling the futility of your “No,” and so rail against it. Children don’t always have access to their sadness and disappointment in any given moment. In this case, it is so important that we soften their hearts so they can feel this vulnerable emotion. Futility is one of the most important emotions for children to feel because it is critical to the maturing process. All of us have futilities in life that we can’t change— including some of the big ones like the death of a loved one or not getting that dream job, or their simply not being enough time to do all the things we want to do. If we can’t find our sadness and disappointment about these experiences, we too may perseverate in trying to change the unchangeable, or we may lash out at others or ourselves in an aggressive attack. Feeling futility is one of the most important emotions for us to feel, and our children need lots of practice at it in their younger years, so they
become adaptive, resourceful, and resilient adults. What’s my recipe for sipping a good wine on a quiet sunset beach? Be clear about your “no’s’”, yet at the same time, be compassionate with your kids when you are saying no. This makes it easier for kids to feel the futility and adapt to your “No.” If this unfolds as it should, children will know from the tone of your voice that there’s no point in arguing, and at the same time, feel their sadness about not getting their way, and get on with enjoying the sunset with you. Wine in hand. Heather Ferguson is a Registered Clinical Counsellor with a private practice in Duncan. heatherfergusonconsulting.com.
To register call 250-818-9086 or email warmlanddance@gmail.com Studio Location The Hub @ Cowichan Station 2375 Koksilah Road, Cowichan Station
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