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SUNDAY RECORD YOUR GUIDE TO PUBLIC RECORDS AND VITAL STATISTICS IN CALHOUN COUNTY BANKRUPTCIES
DEATHS Moses Adair, Anniston Cindy Parris Amos, Piedmont Barbara L. Bowen, Anniston Jerry Julian Brazeal Sr., Wedowee Ronder Lessley “Butch” Burt Jr., Bermuda Barbara Jean Shaddix Callahan, Jacksonville Bobby G. Collier, Talladega Hosea D. Connell, Anniston Christy D. Crabb, Piedmont Wilfred J. “Fred” Cunningham, Jacksonville Beatrice Daniel, Woodland Mazella Jackson Davidson, Anniston Sarah Lucille Davis, Florida Donna Badgley Engle, Leesburg James Richard Estes, Wedowee Kristie G. Farmer and Craigory Farmer, Centre Retired Major Frankie Allene Fisher, Eva Marcus “Darell” Gooden, Munford Hazel E. Goodwin, Anniston Ralph James Gray Sr., Anniston Mary Edwina Green, Gulf Shores Nell F. (Lovvorn) Greene, Georgia George William Hallman, Ashland Peggy A. Mitchell Harris, Georgia Retired SSG Millard C. Harville Jr., Anniston April Christene Hazel, Jacksonville Gladston “Bill” Henry, Atlanta Chief MSgt. (ret’d.) Walter Thomas Honeycutt Jr.,
Oxford Robert L. “Bob” Hoover Sr., Anniston Carl “Buffalo” Ingram, Ashland Lee Golightly Jacobsen, Hartwell, Ga. Phil Junior Kelley, Anniston Doris Logean Ledbetter, Jacksonville Pauline “Polly” Mayhall, Centre Wendy Ann Mayne, Jacksonville Steve Alan McCombs, Oxford Barbara Nell Miller, Centre James Alvin Moon, Piedmont June Elaine Motes, Jacksonville Carol Ann Lucas Parks, Oxford Dwayne Pollard, Ranburne James Donald “Red” Ray, Talladega Heather Genell Rutkowski, Weaver Carl A. Schmidt, Lincoln Betty Slay, Roanoke William Lamar Smith, Jacksonville Patricia Bunn Tate, Auburn Travis Andrew Tucker, West Blocton Carlene Ware, Brutonville Dorothy Webb, Piedmont Mildred W. Weeks, Alexandria Mattie Welch, Talladega Retired LTC Charlotte M. Wepner, Anniston Harold M. Wergin, Oxford Ellis Conner Whorton, Friendship Norman Williams, Lincoln Eddie Wright, Lincoln E.L. Young, Lincoln
RATE OF BANKRUPTCIES
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A Chapter 13 bankruptcy enables debtors, through court supervision and protection, to propose and carry out a repayment plan under which creditors are paid, in full or in part, in installments over a three-year period. During that time, debtors are prohibited from starting or continuing collection efforts. The following bankruptcies declared by Calhoun County residents were recorded by U.S. Bankruptcy Court Northern District of Alabama last week:
Chapter 7 • Latoya Carr, Anniston • Rodney Feazell and Judy Feazell, Alexandria • Tony Paxton, Shady Lane, Weaver • Tammy Lori Davis, Roy Webb Road, Piedmont • Gordon F. Fennell, Weaver • Felisia Brunson Woodward, US 78, Oxford • Paralee H. Thompson, West 33rd Street, Anniston
• Gordon Michael Patterson of Oxford to Mindy Lee Fellers of Oxford • Chris Demond Leonard of Anniston to Tiffany Evette Fields of Spring, Texas • Michael Anthony Ford of Talladega to Teresa Jane Treadaway of Talladega • Matthew Blake Johnston of Jacksonville to Courtney Nicole Davis of Jacksonville • Michael John Seconish of Anniston to Roseann Juliet Baker of Anniston • Robert Logan Cunningham of Jacksonville to Amber Nicole Rollins of Anniston
• Jeffrey Mark Kines of Anniston to Amy Blythe Robinett of Anniston • Johnnie Clifton Hayes Jr. of Anniston to Jo Ann Hayes of Anniston • Clifford Leon Surrett of Anniston to Stacey Michelle Self of Anniston • Jacob Josiah Bain of Jacksonville to Bianca Olivia Calderon of Jacksonville • Rodney Eugene Morris of Weaver to Crystal Ann Ward of Anniston • Jacob Joseph Goggans of Oxford to Allie Adelle Bobo of Oxford
Here is the livestock market report for the Tuesday sale. Receipts for this week 976 compared to 802 last week. Receipts a year ago 414.
Bulls and steers (Medium and Large No. 1 and No. 2): 200-300 lbs. 160.00 to 225.00; 300-400 lbs. 150.00 to 208.00; 400-500 lbs. 135.00 to 165.00; 500-600 lbs. 127.00 to 150.00; 600700 lbs. 100.00 to 142.00. Heifers (Medium and Large No. 1 and No. 2): 200-300 lbs. 140.00 to 195.00; 300400 lbs. 135.00 to 182.50; 400-500 lbs. 131.00 to 148.00; 500-600 lbs. 120.00 to 140.00; 600-700 lbs. 110.00 to 145.75 (3 loads).
Cows: Breakers 75.00 to 83.00; Boners 80.00 to 88.00; Lean 74.00 to 78.00. • Johanna Marie Fry Dinah A. Sexton and Jeffery Reed • Morgan Guthrie and Bulls: Normal Dressing 5458% 98.00; High Dressing Rowe Christopher Guthrie • James Fluker and • Glynda Doreen Harp- >58% 100.00; Low Dressing Amy Fluker er and Daniel Franklin • Ronald D. Lindsey Harper INCORPORATIONS and Jill N. Lindsey • Brad Lee Orman Jr. • Lacey Smith and Jar- and Jessica Brooke • Martin Message Therapy Chapter 13 LLC rod M. Smith Orman • Tracey L. Embry, Ellwood Drive, Easta- • Rocky M. Jenkins • Rammy Nicole John- • Scavengers Emporium and Kendrice Jenkins son and Dennis Burton LLC boga • Fabarc Steel Supply Inc. • Gregory J. Morgan Sr. and Heidi D. Mor- • Richard Sexton and Johnson Jr. • M&K Brown Properties gan, Savage Way, Piedmont LLC EDITOR’S NOTE • Rodney C. Hill and Christy Hill, Kimberly • Southern Sealers LLC Road, Piedmont The material inside the Sunday Record is • Teresa C. Duncan, Ina Lane, Oxford WILLS PROBATED recorded by The Anniston Star from various • Karen M. White, Choccolocco institutions and government offices. The public records are published as they • Hoke Anthony Sr. appeared on the documents obtained by the • Jura Mae Hanvey Check out the digital edition newspaper. Direct questions and comments about • Hazel W. Williamon at www.AnnistonStar.com Sunday Record to Isaac Godwin at igodwin@ AnnistonStar.com annistonstar.com.
A Chapter 7 bankruptcy allows the debtor to retain certain exempt property, but the debtor’s remaining property is gathered and sold by a trustee from which creditors will receive payment. It may also be used by businesses which wish to terminate their business.
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Here are food service establishments recently inspected by the Calhoun County Health Department, along with scores. A score of 100 indicates the inspector found no deficiencies. Potentially hazardous deficiencies (four- or five-point demerit items) are noted. These must be corrected immediately and inspectors say they are often corrected while the inspection is underway. Restaurants earning below 70 must raise their scores within seven days or face closure.
• Anniston Bowling Center, 321 E. Blue Mountain Road, Anniston — 97. • Anniston Country Club (Pool House), 601 Highland Ave., Anniston — 96. • Anniston Country Club (Restaurant), 601 Highland Ave., Anniston — 94. • Jack’s Family Restaurant, 4984 U.S. 78, W., Oxford — 100. • Kentucky Fried Chicken, 2000 N. Quintard Ave., Anniston — 93. 4-OR 5-POINT DEMERITS • Kentucky Fried Chicken, 2024 U.S. 78, E., Oxford — 95. • Alexandria Foodland (Deli), 85 Big Valley Drive, Alexandria • Nueva Taqueria Michoacan, 229 Hamric Drive, Oxford — 93. — 93, presence of insects (flies). • Jack’s Family Restaurant, 18 Big Valley Drive, Alexandria • Olive Garden, 401 Oxford Exchange Blvd., Oxford — 98. • Pizza Hut, 322 Blue Mountain Road, Anniston — 100. — 93, equipment (pans) must be clean and sanitized. • Rally’s, 400 S. Quintard Ave., Anniston — 94. NO MAJOR DEMERITS • Subway, 5430 McClellan Blvd., Anniston — 98. • Alexandria Foodland, 85 Big Valley Drive, Alexandria • Subway, 1000-B S. Quintard Ave., Anniston — 100. — 96. • Weaver High School (Summer Feeding Program) — 99. • Wellborn High School (Summer Feeding Program) — 100. • American Deli, 700 Quintard Drive, Oxford — 99.
ARRESTS The people listed in this arrest report, whose names and charges are obtained from public records, are presumed innocent unless proven guilty in a court of law.
The following felony arrests were reported by the Anniston Police Department (addresses not provided) during the seven-day period ending at 7 a.m. Thursday. • Jenny Michelle Lunceford, 28: possession of a controlled sub-
stance. • Gary Parker Jr., 34: alteration of an insurance card. • Mikkos Rayon Toney, 31: thirddegree domestic violence. • Brandon Scott Willingham, 47: second-degree receiving stolen property. • Linda Angelas Edmonson, 60: two counts possession of a controlled substance. • Jahmaad Quentel Hill, 21: two counts of distribution of a controlled substance. • Tonya Susan Shell, 41: posses-
sion of a controlled substance. • Wesley Thomas Snow, 25: second-degree theft. • Pamela Macy Lindsey, 32: firstdegree manufacture of a controlled substance.
The following felony arrests were reported by the Calhoun County Sheriff’s Office during the sevenday period ending at 7 a.m. Thursday. • Jonathan Darrin McMichael, 32,
of Anniston: certain persons forbidden to possess a pistol. • Lucas Kevin Slowik, 21, of Oxford: second-degree possession of a forged instrument. • Kaunta Kinta McGrew, 36, of Eastaboga: distribution of a controlled substance. • Brittney Rena Carden, 23, of Anniston: failure to appear in court. • Stephanie Dawn Wells, 34, of Gadsden: order of arrest. • William T. Wegrzyn, 41, of Wedowee: secondary metals recycling. • Susan Blaire Caffee, 32, of Easta-
boga: second-degree promoting prison, unlawful possession of a controlled substance. • Jonathan Darrin McMichael, 32, of Anniston: probation violation. • Kelly Wallace Keel, 48, of Weaver: illegal possession of prescription medication. • Ricky Atlas Richmond, 34, of Rainbow City: bond revocation. • David Andrew Bonds, 49, of Anniston: unlawful manufacturing of a controlled substance.
BLOTTER Crimes are listed by location. Anonymous tips may be called in to Crime Stoppers at 256-238-1414. A reward of up to $1,000 may be given.
The following property crimes were reported to the Anniston Police Department during the seven-day period ending at 7 a.m. Thursday.
Burglaries • Residence, 300 block of East 29th Street: household items, electrical wiring. • Residence, 1100 block of Calhoun Place: television. • Residence, 400 block of Laurel Springs Road: jewelry box, jewelry.
• Residence, 700 block of Blue Ridge Drive: televisions, game console, charger. • Residence, 1900 block of Davis Avenue: televisions, laptop computer. • Residence, 800 block of Kirkwood Avenue: television, tablet computer.
• Residence, 2100 block of Christine Avenue: crate, speakers. • Parking lot, 1900 block of South Quintard Avenue: 2004 Chevrolet Impala. • Residence, 300 block of Rice Avenue: car battery, tire and wheel. Thefts • Street, Main Street/Hinds Street: 1996 • Unknown location, 1000 block of U.S. 431: Chevrolet Cavalier. (Recovered 07-23-2013) television. (Recovered 07-22-2013) • Parking lot, 400 block of West 29th Street: • Residence, 500 block of Loy Circle: fire- 2002 Chevrolet Trailblazer. arm. Calhoun County • Department store: 1700 block of Quintard Avenue: television. The following property crimes were report• Restaurant, 5500 block of McClellan Bou- ed to the Calhoun County Sheriff’s Office levard: wallet, cash, debit/credit cards, per- during the seven-day period ending at 7 a.m. sonal I.D. Thursday.
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• Residence, unspecified address, Ohatchee: firearm, televisions, DVD player.
• Residence, U.S. 431, Alexandria: sewing machines, desk, quilts/blankets, scooter, cookware, glassware, family photos. • Parking lot, U.S. 21 South, Oxford: front end loader, tractor. • Commercial location, U.S. 431, Alexandria: car hauling trailer.
• Service station, unspecified address, Jacksonville: car battery, CD player, plug wires. • Commercial location, unspecified block of U.S. 77, Lincoln: copper wiring.
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CALENDAR: AnnistonStar.com/calendar PROPERTY TRANSFERRED • Fannie Mae to Kenneth McGuire, Chris Sims and Matt West, Greenleaf Heritage subdivision, 2nd addition, block C, lot 19, $10. • Housing & Urban Development to Ohio Investments LLC, Hillandale subdivision, C. Mange’s 1st addition, block E, lot 9, $35,338. • Dustin Cason and Sonya Cason to Billy R. Thomas Jr., Mountain Terrace subdivision, Street’s 2nd addition, block C, lot 10, $10. • Andy Secor and Diane Secor to National Equity Inc. and N.P. Dodge Jr. Trust, Grandview subdivision, 7th addition, lot 76, $370,000. • National Equity Inc. and N.P. Dodge Jr. Trust to Jason D. Cobb and Melissa J. Cobb, Grandview subdivision, 7th addition, lot 76, $370,000. • Geraldine Chambliss Trammell and Edward A. Trammell II to Geraldine Chambliss Trammell Revocable Trust, Anniston City Land Co., block 170, lot 12; Anniston City Land Co., block 171, lots 7 and 8; Model City Land & Improvement Co., block 198, lots 10-13 and 16; Randolph Park, block 9, lots 5-7; South Anniston Land Co., 1st division, lots 1-3 and South Anniston Land Co., 1st division, block 29, lots 2, 4 and 5, $10. • Wells Fargo Financial to Janet Justice, a parcel of land in section 17, township 14, range 6, $10.
• Randy Holcomb and Debra Holcomb to Denita J. Smith, a parcel of land in section 36, township 12, range 7, $10. • Angela Curry to Jeffery Curry, Pine Hill Estates, 7th addition, lot 98, $10. • Robert D. McGatha and Justin D. Ledbetter to Robert D. McGatha and Jane A. McGatha, a parcel of land near 927 Ladiga Street, Jacksonville, $10. • Terry Spendlove, Brenda Roberts and Debbie Csaky to Deborah Lynn Csaky, a parcel of land in section 31, township 14, range 7, $1. • Scott T. Macargel and Andrea G. Palyok to Willard Macargel, Kaitlyn Court subdivision, lot 18, $10. • Kathie Jordan, Don Sexton Jordan II and Jessika Jordan to Kacee J. Norton, L.M. Burns Lakeview subdivision, R.W. Fisher’s addition, lot 5, $10. • Luke C. Crow Jr. and Donna Crow to Charles D. Long IV, a parcel of land in section 34, township 15, range 5, $88,506. • Daniel S. Stephens and Natalie H. Stephens to Nathalie H. Stephens, Buckhorn subdivision, phase III, block E, lot 2, $10. • John Sears to Jeffrey Bryan Adair, a parcel of land in sections 3/4, township 15, range 8, $10. • Wells Fargo Bank to Herlinda Ramos, South Anniston Land Co.,
division A, block 3, lot 8, $14,500. • Luke L. Thomas to Fayleen R. Thomas, a parcel of land in section 33, township 12, range 8, $10. • Jamie L. Miller to William E. Johnson, Club View Heights, block 566, lot 12, $10. • Merle Pilkington-Estate to Joyce P. Smith and Thomas A. Smith, Heritage subdivision, block C, lots 11 and 12. • Charles Edward Blair to Davis C. Draper and Debra Draper, Jacksonville Mining & Manufacturing Co., block 408, lots 7-10, $10. • Barbara Wilson to Jeffrey S. Roberts and Amanda G. Roberts, a parcel of land in section 20, township 13, range 9, $10. • CNL APF Partners LP to NobleBank & Trust, City of Anniston, block 22, lot 2, $382,648. • Robert Pope to John H. Waide and Kelly L. Waide, a parcel of land in section 19, township 14, range 6, $10. • Paul Canter Homes Inc. to Sheng Chen and Lixiang Pan, Windwood Estates, 1st addition, lot 15, $10. • Annie Lois Cole-Estate to Zachary Haney, Shannon Hills subdivision, block 1, lot 4, $85,000. • Charles R. Hinkle and Jewell A. Hinkle to Ricky Sims and Patricia Sims, a parcel of land in section 4, township 15, range 9, $10. • Frank H. Ragains and Stella G.
Ragains to Frank H. Ragains, Stella G. Ragains and Adam K. Ragains, Russell Property, lot 10, $10. • Bonnie Herrington to Dennis Griggs, Brown Acres, 1st addition, lots 23-35, $10. • Bonnie Herrington to Dennis Griggs, a parcel of land in section 8, township 16, range 9, $10. • Amber Clark Green to Jeremy Bryan and Stephanie Dawn Louise Bryan, Piedmont Land & Improvement Co., block 18, lots 9-12, $10. • Jean Warren Jakovac-Estate to Amanda Ward Shanor, East Highlands subdivision, lot 7, $10. • Tony Porco Construction Co. Inc. to John L. Stanton and Catherine Stanton, Cane Creek Homes in McClellan, lot 141, $314,960. • Ellis H. Ford and Jacqueline R. Ford to Stephen Paul Ford, Ellis Randall Ford, Ellis H. Ford and Jacqueline R. Ford, Rolling Green, lot 11, $10. • Consolidated Publishing Co. Inc. to Andrew B. Hatley and Margaret Hatley, a parcel of land in section 10, township 16, range 8, $10. • Don J. James to Martha Bain Kimbrough, C.S. Fite’s subdivision, block 4, lot 3, $74,000. • Danny Cox and Kay Cox to Troy Douglas McFarland and Terri McFarland, Terrace Meadows, phase II, lot 11, $10. • Angela Moore to John W. Wig-
gins, Vaughn’s subdivision, lot 26, $10. • Tony L. Pugh and Michelle Moeller to Tommy O. Parrish and Jean B. Parrish, Timbercrest subdivision, lot 109, $100. • Glenn Alan Gardner and Francie Gardner to Charles Header and Sara Header, Sunset Point, lots 21 and 24, $10. • Larry D. Knighten and Donna Knighten to David C. Glass, a parcel of land in section 14, township 14, range 8, $10. • Wells Fargo Bank to Veterans Affairs, Lone Oak subdivision, lot 13, $10. • Pioneer Properties LLC to Daniel Lopez, Lakeview subdivision, lot 6, $10. • Primestar Fund I LP to Primestar Fund I TRS Inc., Mountain Pointe, phase I, lot 148, $1. • Lonnie Coker and Tommi R. Coker to Garry Burns, a parcel of land in section 15, township 16, range 7, $10. • Jerri Lynne Hanson to David Shane Hanson, Pine Hill Links, lots 29 and 30, $10. • Gloria Brooks Goode to Bradley Hays and Joyce Pearl Hays, a parcel of land in section 26, township 13, range 7, $10. • Alisha Mae Wren to Rovenia M. Brock, a parcel of land in section 27, township 15, range 9, $10.
FORECLOSURES • Michael S. Nix and Brithany Courtney, Plainview subdivision, 3rd addition, block 3, lot 6. • Bertha Faye Davis, a parcel of land in section 23, township 14, range 8.
• Robert B. Bailey and Ashley Bailey, Buckhorn subdivision, phase VI, 1st addition, lot 134. • Carl Sheets and Linda Sheets, Delwood Estates, 1st addition, block E, lot 7.
• William Anthony Crenshaw, Eagle’s Landing, 1st addition, lot 65. • Curtis K. Barker and E. Jani Barker, Jackson Terrace subdivision, 1st addition, lot 4. • James Allen Carson and Millicent M. Car-
son, Pinewood Estates, Charles Strickland’s 2nd addition, lots 3-5. • Marie Hutchinson, Anniston City Land Co., block 218, lots 1 and 2.
Study: Today’s kids in no hurry to grow up Why? Kids ‘get to do more things’ than grown-ups BY EMILY ALPERT Los Angeles Times
LOS ANGELES — Seven-yearold Hannah Thome munched on a chocolate cookie after getting home from cheerleading camp last week and mulled the question, brow furrowing over her wide blue eyes. Did she want to be older? “No,” the Tustin, Calif., youngster concluded. “I like being a kid. You get to do more things.” Her mother remembers Tom Hanks wishing for adulthood in the 1988 film “Big” and remembers wishing for the same. But childhood has changed a lot since then. And that might change how kids think about it. Kids today are increasingly likely to say they like being kids, a survey shows. A whopping 85 percent of children ages 8 to 14 agreed that “I like being my age,” television network Nickelodeon found in surveys of more than 900 children. That’s an increase from already high numbers at the turn of the millennium. In that same survey, carried out by market research firm Harris Interactive, more than three out of four said they weren’t in any hurry to grow up. The findings startle many childhood researchers, who have watched as modern kids cast off dolls earlier and gravitate to all things teenage. Yet the phenomenon seems to echo a shift already spotted among teens and twentysomethings — the lengthening road to adulthood. Nickelodeon chalks up the change among kids to many of the same forces attributed to the longer transition to adulthood, including parents becoming more involved with their children. “They’re in no rush to be older because they have it so good at home,” said Ron Geraci, executive vice president of research for Nickelodeon. And during the tough economy, “they see what their parents are going through.” The network said it pursued the survey so it could portray kids and their families accurately on-screen. Children were surveyed online two years ago, and the sample was then weighted to reflect the racial and economic makeup of the country. Mindful of the trends, Nickelodeon recently launched “The Haunted Hathaways,” a new show about a closely knit family, network officials said. If kids are happier being kids, the growing work of parenthood may be paying off. Several studies back up the idea that parents are stepping up efforts to nurture their children.
Moms and dads are spending more time with their kids than in past decades, according to a Pew Research Center analysis of surveys stretching back to 1965. Parents are also spending more money, devoting a growing share of income to their kids, according to a study published this year in the journal Demography. And more attend or volunteer at school meetings and events than in the ’90s, a Child Trends analysis of federal data shows. Ex per ts t ie t he booming invest ment in parent ing to mounting anxiety about kids making it in the U.S. economy. Among the middle class, “a lot of parents are feeling they need to be their child’s teacher, their coach, their friend, their chauffeur,” said Sara Harkness, a professor of human development at the University of Connecticut. “There’s an increasing intensification of what it means to be a good parent.” In South Pasadena, Calif., Annalee Andres remembers her own parents — “really good parents who were really devoted” — deciding not to enroll her and her brother in soccer again because it ate up their weekends. As parents today, “sometimes we go to three soccer games a Saturday,” Andres said. “My parents had a very full life of their own,” said Andres, a mother of three. “That’s a radical shift in my generation — the parents are child-centered.” The give-and-take between kids and parents also seems to be changing. Children’s obedience is seen as less important than it was decades ago, according to data from the General Social Survey, a project of the University of Chicago. UCLA researchers who followed middle-class Los Angeles families noted that parents often negotiate with kids over household tasks, rather than simply ordering them. In many middle-class households, “there’s a decreasing sense that parents and children are at odds,” said Daniel Cook, an associate professor of childhood studies at Rutgers University-Camden. On top of that, if kids are free to do things once barred from children, staying young might seem all the more attractive. “Perhaps growing up begins to sound like responsibility as
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Heather Thome and her daughters Charlotte, 3, left, and Hannah, 7, right, play at their Tustin, Calif., home. Thorne says she is no “helicopter parent.” opposed to freedom,” Cook said. In Los Angeles, some moms and dads have embraced parenting philosophies that look little like the way they were raised. Los Feliz, Calif., mother Karen Mejia said that her twin daughters decided to be vegetarian at the age of 10 — a choice she can’t imagine being allowed to make at the same age. “My mom would have said, ‘You eat your chicken,’ and that’s it,” Mejia recalled. Her 13-yearold son is free to wear his hair long. “I was never allowed to talk to my parents the way my children are able to talk to me,” said Mejia, who works as a nanny and embraces the philosophy of “nonviolent parenting” with her own children, avoiding rewards, bribes or punishments. “I grew up to be seen but not heard.” Her husband sometimes asks, “Aren’t you worried that they’re going to treat us like we’re their buddies?” Mejia recounted. But that doesn’t seem like such a bad thing to her. “We treat our children as equals,” she said. Some scholars believe longstanding changes in parenting have already shown up in adults. Twentysomethings today talk to their parents more often and
more openly than baby boomers did at the same age, an AARP survey found last year. The Pew Research Center found that most young adults who weathered the recession by moving in with their parents were satisfied with their living situation. Baby boomers “didn’t want to have the same hierarchy and distance with their kids” as their parents did, said Jeffrey Jensen Arnett, a Clark University research professor of psychology. “They wanted to be more like friends.” Among parents of adults ages 18 to 29, 73 percent said they had a “mostly positive” relationship with their children, the Clark University Poll of Parents of Emerging Adults found this year. Yet the changes in parenting could have drawbacks. Some adults fear the devotion to parenting has gone overboard, especially among middle-class families with time and money to obsess over their decisions. Americans have grown increasingly worried that having kids infringes too much on parental freedom, the General Social Survey shows. Some complain that children are excessively sheltered as parenting goes into overdrive — and lament that parents who aren’t
totally consumed by childbearing are shunned. “If you want to read a magazine while they’re on the playground, that’s seen as selfish,” said Linda Williamson, a Granada Hills, Calif., mother of two. “If you don’t want to share a bed with your toddler, that’s selfish.” Williamson said she once battled an elementary school over letting her son bike alongside her a few blocks to school — something that other parents saw as unsafe. Writer Lenore Skenazy, who was flooded with media attention after letting her son ride the New York City subway by himself, said children “kept in bubbles” probably see little to envy in their parents’ lives. “Would you rather be the princess or the lady-in-waiting?” said Skenazy, author of the book “Free-Range Kids.” “Literally — the lady-in-waiting-in-the-car.” In Tustin, Heather Thome says she is no “helicopter parent.” She wants little Hannah to be able to handle the bumps and bruises of life. But she has also tried to make sure Hannah enjoys being a kid, remembering the responsibilities she herself had to shoulder after her parents divorced. “My daughter has been really funny about saying, ‘I absolutely do not want children,’” Thome said. “She says, ‘They’re just too much work.’” Hearing that, Thome found herself wondering, “Gosh — is she saying that because of what — Karen Mejia, Los Angeles mother of three she sees me doing around here?”
“I was never allowed to talk to my parents the way my children are able to talk to me. I grew up to be seen but not heard.”
Published on Jul 28, 2013