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Fetishization’s negative effects on women of color

By Annya Loya @annyaloya Dating can have different obstacles for everyone but the concern that a romantic partner is only interested in you as an exotic object of sexual desire is particularly prominent for women of color.

Fetishization is the treatment of a person as an object, and factors of ethnicity, race, skin color, culture, language and facial features are targeted. Pornhub released their most popular searches in the United States in December 2021, and “Asian,” “Latina” and “Black” were among the top categories.

“I know I’m about to get sexualized from me speaking Spanish and Spanglish,” said Ashley Varela, a political science and international studies major at the University of New Mexico. “There’s also that stereotype, like the ‘crazy Latina’ and, ‘Don’t go Latina on me.’”

Varela said she gets sexual comments just for embracing her

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“Certain styles definitely get sexualized,” Varela said. “You want to embrace your culture, but if you do certain things, you’re going to get sexualized by men.”

Terms like “mami”, “mamacita” and “spicy” are often used to refer to Latinx women due to stereotypes, according to Varela. While they can

be considered endearing in some situations, she said it can be creepy coming from strangers.

Guadalupe Lopez, a recent graduate in international studies and Spanish at UNM, said the fetishization of her ethnicity is very closely tied to the objectification of her body. She began experiencing this fetishization at a very young age.

“Men showed interest in me in high school, and a lot of it was based

on my body shape or my body figure,” Lopez said.

Lopez recalled a time in high school when a fellow classmate claimed to have a crush on her because of her “big butt” and “exotic” looks. She said she felt disrespected and confronted her classmate but received backlash from her friends for defending herself and not giving the boy a chance.

“His interest is not genuine. It's rather just to fulfill this sexual fantasy about me. And because I defend myself, I'm a bad person,” Lopez said.

Katherine Wang, a women, gender and sexuality studies and biology major at Tufts University, has had similar experiences as an East Asian woman, dating back to high school. Wang recalled a previous relationship where she suspected fetishization from her boyfriend, but it wasn’t until after they broke up that he admitted his interest in her was based in exoticism and how he was “meant to date” an East Asian woman.

A 2018 academic paper concluded that as intimate platforms become

more popular, those platforms should engage also as critical structures to research issues of bias, discrimination and exclusion, which may be prevalent in online dating platforms.

Dating apps like Bumble have been working on tackling this issue to create a safer and more welcoming environment for its users, such as making reports on hate speech, catfishing and “unsolicited fetishization” issues easier.

The issue of fetishization affects how women of color approach potential future relationships. Lopez, Varela and Wang all said they constantly wonder whether someone is showing genuine interest or if it’s just related to fetishization.

“It's very hard to feel secure when part of me wonders if the reason they're attracted to me is because of my race or my racial features,” Wang said.

Annya Loya is a freelance reporter at the Daily Lobo. She can be contacted at news@dailylobo.com or on Twitter @annyaloya

Students fall for love, relationships classes at UNM

By Megan Gleason @fabflutist2716 Classes about love and relationships at the University of New Mexico help educate students on what makes a healthy relationship and how students can better improve their own love lives.

UNM psychology adjunct lecturer Bruno Gagñon has been teaching the Psychology of Love online for the past eight years and understands the depth and impact of love.

“All cultures experience love. They may define it differently; they may express it differently, but it’s universal so we’re sort of biologically driven to seek this out,” Gagñon said.

Love doesn’t have to be just toward a partner but can also be toward a child, pet and more, according to Gagñon.

“It gives us a very important sense of belonging, a sense of calm, a sense of security and a sense of meaning, and I can’t think of four or five more things that are more important in life than what I’ve just mentioned,” Gagñon said.

Love isn’t just about romance but is also about respect, according to student Stephanie Moulton, who took the Psychology of Love last year.

Moulton said knowledge is essential to understand others’ reactions and thought processes, which can apply directly to your own as well.

“I think it’s just beneficial to be able to understand empathy and compassion and everything that has to do with relationships in general, whether that’s professional relationships or romantic relationships or family relationships and friendships,” Moulton said.

Having a support system is directly tied to “your overall health and wellbeing,” according to UNM health education faculty member Jennifer Escajeda, who teaches Emotional Health and Interpersonal Relationships. This support can come from family, friends or others.

“Everybody needs socialization.

They need people around them to support them. They need people around them to bounce stuff off of when they’re going through things, like everybody just needs their own circle of people,” Escajeda said.

Without healthy relationships, Gagñon said, life isn’t complete.

“You can have tremendous success in various aspects of your life and various domains, whether it’s as a parent, in the workplace, but if you don’t have loving relationships — I’m not just talking about partner love but loving relationships — if you don’t have something that you can sustain and that can sustain you, there’s always going to be something missing,” Gagñon said.

Moulton brought up the legitimacy of love in LGBTQ communities and how these kinds of classes defy

the arguments that there is some sort of biological definition that love must abide by.

“If you take the classes like these that help you understand how love factors into how people behave and respond, you can understand it from another perspective,” Moulton said.

Gagñon said his course’s topics of love directly relate to students’ personal lives, and students have told him they’ve received “concrete information for how to make better choices.” Both Gagñon and Escajeda said students have thanked them later on for the courses, saying the classes changed their lives.

“Through all the readings that we do and the introspection, invariably students will think about their own experiences with love, their own mate selection processes; it immediately applies to their lives in the present,” Gagñon said.

Although college students may not realize it, there is a direct connection between relationships and health, according to Escajeda. She said college students need to learn what a healthy relationship is.

“Just having a support system and healthy relationships, that’s going to help their health in the long term. And that plays into everything — it plays into how they react with their anxiety, their fear, just everything,” Escajeda said.

Gagñon’s class adapted to fit the COVID-19 pandemic with new sets

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of timely coursework and he noted that the strength of a relationship before the pandemic, whether good or bad, typically determined how the relationship has been affected by the situation. Relationships in the pandemic can be more stressful, according to Moulton, partly due to the fact that “the normal trajectory for these conflicts tends to have a finish line and we’ve not reached it.”

Still, she said there are ways to avoid interpersonal conflict.

“If you can take yourself out of being reactive and look at things more from an angle of what could cause someone to react a certain way or behave a certain way, if you can just pick yourself out of that equation and be able to look at it through

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Gagñon wants students to appreciate the depth of love after taking his course.

“I would like students to come to understand as deeply as possible this very human universal experience of love … I would also like them to be able to make better choices in life and to have successful relationships,” Gagñon said.

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‘A deeper connection’: UNM professors offer lessons on love letters

By Annya Loya @annyaloya

In a digital age, classic romantic gestures can go a long way, especially during the month of love. Two University of New Mexico creative writing professors sat down with the Daily Lobo to share tips with readers on why and how to write the perfect love letter.

Diane Thiel has been teaching creative writing at UNM for 20 years and believes that “love letters are a beautiful way to build a deeper connection.”

“A love letter allows one to consider and reflect and choose words carefully, rather than simply speaking in the moment,” Thiel said.

Love letters can have more emotional value than other mediums and can serve as a mark of seriousness about your feelings, according to professor Sharon Warner.

“It's something you can go back to and read again and again, and it's also something you can't unsay, in a way. You put your heart and your vulnerability on the page, and you hand it to somebody else to keep,” Warner said.

Love letters can express love outside of the sphere of romance, according to Thiel. For example, she

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writes love letters to her children.

“I definitely think a love letter can be for more than romantic love. I have a number of poems that I consider love letters to my children,” Thiel said.

In order to write a love letter, Warner said it’s important to take notes and brainstorm in preparation. She also said to consider the factors of who, what, when, where, why and how.

“So why do you love the person?

What is it about them that you love?”

Warner said. “How do I love this person? When do I love this person?

And where do I love this person?”

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It’s important to be vulnerable in the letter, according to Warner.

Even if it’s nerve-wracking if you don’t know the other’s feelings, she said that the genuine quality will be apparent to the recipient.

“You can convince them that you truly know them and truly admire them, and that you're not just writing the equivalent of a pickup letter,” Warner said.

Warner noted that the date is a very important detail to include on the love letter so that when that person hopefully keeps the letter for the future, they remember when they received it.

To make her letters more personalized, Thiel enjoys writing while traveling not only to memorialize her feelings but also where she was when she felt those feelings. It also helps her see the place from her beloved’s perspective.

“The poems are both poems of place and poems written for the listener,” Thiel said.

A personalized letter stands out, according to Warner.

“It has to be a good letter for the particular person you're writing it to, so if you think that that person needs reassurance that you do love them, then it's a good letter if

you're convincing,” Warner said.

These letters don’t have to be in any specific format, according to Thiel. She said she writes her love letters as poems and her children write them as music.

“My children are young musicians and have written me songs over the years that I consider love letters and which I will cherish forever,” Thiel said.

Thiel has had the opportunity to publish many of her poems, some of which were also love letters.

These as well as love letters written specifically to her have greatly impacted her personal life and her writing overall.

In one of her earlier books she wrote a poem called “Love Letters,” which Thiel said was “about my mother trying to write my father love letters in his native language, German.”

With effort, Thiel said, any person can write a love letter and can make a notable impact.

“Anyone can write a love letter.

With experience, one might write a more memorable one,” Thiel said.

Annya Loya is a freelance reporter at the Daily Lobo. She can be contacted at culture@dailylobo. com or on Twitter @annyaloya

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tionship meant something. Be kind to yourself in this period of hurt and healing as you recover.

It’s important to remember that we are not defined by our previous relationships. That person and your perception of them shouldn’t have any influence over the beautiful and powerful person that you are growing into.

Relationship edition: Questions about love.

Burnt out with the dating scene?

Ex won’t leave you alone? General relationship anxiety? Have no fear; the Daily Lobo editors are here to answer all of your most pressing questions on love and relationships.

Zara’s advice Q: Is it okay not to have been in a relationship before being in college?

A: It’s more than fine to have not been in a relationship before college.

There are a myriad of reasons someone wouldn’t want to date in high school, but at the end of the day, it’s your life. It’s important to respect your own boundaries, especially in regards to intimacy. I also didn’t date before college, and I would go as far as to say I’m glad I didn’t date any of the guys in my friend group in school; the emotional damage I was spared must surely be immense.

Sure, there may be something of a learning curve in navigating the dynamics of a romantic relationship, but that can be overcome with an understanding partner. Never feel bad about moving at your own pace.

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Joseph’s advice Q: How do I start a queer relationship if I’ve never been in one before?

Q: How would you start a conversation with a crush if you haven’t talked to them yet?

A: Get to know their interests.

Conversation flows much more smoothly when you get people talking about the things they like; even better if you like them too. Music is always a good conversation starter.

I struggle to think of a single person who doesn’t enjoy it when other people think their passions are cool, so talk about something that you share some degree of real interest in. Of course, you shouldn’t be a total yes-man or be disingenuous — people can spot that kind of thing. Genuine mutual interest can also be an indicator of a real potential for bonding and maybe even a full-fledged relationship.

Shelby’s advice Q: How do you keep a strong relationship while you both work and are in school?

A: Intention is everything. By having been in a long distance rela-

tionship with my partner while we both worked and were in school, I learned that intention completely makes the difference. Set aside specific times in your schedules for each other. Planning may not seem sexy, but it shows your partner how valuable their time is to you. Learn what each other’s love languages are and focus the time you do have on meeting those needs.

Most importantly, prioritize communication and listen to each other.

If you don’t like what you’re spending your time on, tell them and work together to adjust accordingly. Don’t forget to let your partner know when things are working well too.

Q: How do you get over an ex who crushed your heart?

A: The answer you probably don’t want to hear is that you likely won’t, not for a long time. Getting over an ex is not something that you can just be done with at the flip of a switch.

That pang of hurt you feel in your chest when you see pictures of them online is a reminder that your rela-

A: Your first queer relationship is a treasure. I recommend that you surround yourself with people who love and support you for who you are, and who you love in return. All queer relationships are beautiful, so have the courage to put yourself out there because you are worthy of this beautiful experience, even if it’s new.

Remember to be kind to yourself throughout this journey. It’s new, exciting and can be intimidating.

But don’t forget that the people you seek are in the same position as you — no one can better understand the queer experience than a fellow queer person.

Q: Is it okay if I’m not interested in anything serious right now?

A: Yes, of course it is. The most important relationship you have in life is the relationship with yourself.

So much pressure is put onto us to dive headfirst into any relationship at the first possible chance. Instead, protect your time and your energy, be patient with yourself and trust your subconscious.

Something I do when I’m faced

with similar questions is reverse it to help gain perspective and imagine the consequences. Trust yourself through this. If and when the time comes for you to approach something serious, you’ll know. For now, explore the nonserious and see what it has to offer to you. If your nonserious experience crashes and burns, it’s probably not a big deal.

Contrary to the sentiments of indie darling Rex Orange County, loving is not easy. However, we hope that our advice gives you some peace of mind and the courage to open your heart to a world of new possibilities in love.

Zara Roy is the news editor at the Daily Lobo. She can be contacted at news@dailylobo.com or on Twitter @zarazzledazzle Shelby Kleinhans is the multimedia editor at the Daily Lobo.

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Zara’s Zodiac: February love horoscope forecast

By Zara Roy

@zarazzledazzle It’s February, which means love is in the air … Or is it? Venus and Mars, the astrological signifiers of love and sex, will be in the pragmatic and ambitious sign of Capricorn for the remainder of the month.

Here’s what that means for the respective signs.

Aries February may be tense, romantically-speaking, for Aries. There could be some conflict between your career or public identity and the way you approach partnerships and romance. You should remember not to overwork yourself and neglect interpersonal needs in the process. I see Feb. 19-20 as being a particularly important time to be sensitive to this balance as the moon travels through Libra.

Taurus Now is the time for the ever-steady Tauruses to go beyond their comfort zone.

You may find yourself pleas-

antly surprised and inspired by taking a risk on someone, or perhaps talking to someone with a different cultural or philosophical upbringing.

If new partnerships are not on your mind, you should at least work to expose yourself to a novel experience.

Gemini Geminis may feel some disconnect in their love lives.

Maybe nothing has been clicking lately, or you feel misunderstood by your partner. You may be experiencing losses that have the potential to reap unexpected gains.

Things should lighten up a little when the moon enters Libra on Feb. 19.

Cancer Cancers may feel highly impassioned in starting or revving up long-term interpersonal relationships.

You should try to focus this passion toward building up loved ones rather than picking fights. You could just as easily make a longterm partner rather than a long-term enemy.

Leo Leos may be asked to make highly consequential decisions in your partnerships.

The foundations of these relationships may be tested, and you could be pushed to make the changes necessary in your life to either keep yourself upright, or let yourself fall and start from the ground up.

Feb. 15 could be particularly tense emotionally when the moon in Leo moves directly opposite to Saturn.

Virgo Let your creative passions flow. Virgos may feel called to romance, passion and new creative projects, especially as the moon enters Virgo on Feb. 16. You should try not to overindulge while being careful to not be taken advantage of but still be joyful and swept up by your feelings this month.

Libra Libras should take a step back and take care of themselves this month. Perhaps you have been feeling disimpassioned or in a slump.

You should try not to give

away so much of yourself and take this time to connect with family. You should take solace in knowing that new creative and romantic rejuvenation is somewhere in the near-distant future when Venus and Mars move into Aquarius.

Scorpio Scorpios may be craving intellectual stimulation. You should try to get more involved with groups or people whose interests align with yours — you may spark fantastic connections there — or just take short trips to places you love. For those in relationships right now, this is a pretty safe time to smooth out any lingering qualms.

Sagittarius Sagittariuses should be careful with money right now. You may feel pushed to cultivate security in your life, monetarily or otherwise. You should try to fight your highly independent urges and make sure that your loved ones are in on this building process, ensuring all your ducks Editor-in-Chief Megan Gleason Managing Editor John Scott

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are in a row before letting passion take the wheel.

Capricorn Capricorns may be feeling exceptionally energetic right now. You should take your current positive outlook in stride and not be scared to pursue relationships. As the month winds down and the moon exits Virgo, however, you’ll want to make sure you are not neglecting your duties at work while in pursuit of your dazzling, rakish lifestyle.

Aquarius Aquariuses should selfreflect this month. If you’re in a relationship, you may feel some sense of insecurity or even paranoia within that relationship, but don’t let yourself be subsumed with these thoughts. If you’re not in a relationship, you may be feeling disconnected from love.

This is, however, a great time to develop creative pursuits.

Pisces Pisces may be feeling especially wistful this month.

There may be an opportunity

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for you to make a romantic connection through a group or a mutual friend. If you’re in a relationship, you may have a pleasant honeymoon period where things are moving smoothly. You should let your feelings run their course, but listen to friends and make sure your romantic prospects are worthy of your abundant compassion.

For some, love is not only in the air but also in the stars.

Now that each sign is armed with cosmic wisdom, you can get out there and ask that person out on a date, start that new project or chow down on those clearance Valentine’s chocolates alone in your room.

(Note: I highly recommend reading horoscopes based on your rising sign. If you do not know your rising sign, you can calculate it at Cafe Astrology.)

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5 and Why: 5 ideas for local dates for new couples

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Participate in a paintball tournament While participating in a paintball match may not be an ideal first date for some, Romero Campbell said it is one of the best ways to pick out who’s going to stick around for you and who may not be the most reliable or supportive partner.

“You’ll really find out if they’re ride-or-die,” Romero Campbell said. “If it’s a Bonnie and Clyde type of thing … or if they’ll just kind of ‘peace out’ when things start to get rough.”

Ruckus Paintball is a paintball and airsoft arena in northern Albuquerque. Another local facility that offers paintball is Paintball Field Services.

The weeks surrounding Valentine’s Day can be particularly nerve-wracking, especially for those in new relationships, but Albuquerque has plenty to offer in terms of activities for the dating scene. University of New Mexico sophomores Geronimo Romero Campbell and Cooper Lennon offered five ideas for simple but meaningful dates around Albuquerque for new couples.

Go to the movies A classic date is a trip to the movies, according to Romero Campbell. He said the experience is simple and exciting, and there’s not much room for error.

“There’s just not much that can go wrong … Everything is pretty much all set for you,” Romero Campbell said. “See what kind of person they are with the movies.”

An option for a local theater could be the Guild Cinema, which is located on Central Avenue and is just a short walk from campus.

Other nearby theaters include Century Rio 24 and Regal Winrock, located near the @25 Shopping

Take a trip to a water park To take the stress off of a date, Lennon recommended a trip to a water park, where you can both unwind together.

“You can relax, but it’s also a way to do something together …

It’s something low-maintenance,” Lennon said. “Plus there’s always pretty good food.”

Located off of San Mateo Boule-

vard, Watermania at Cliff’s Amusement Park has various water-based attractions, including slides and fountains. Although the location is closed for the season, this could be an option to follow Lennon’s advice when the weather warms up.

Go thrifting Thrifting is a fun and easy way to get to know someone while maintaining a casualty that not many other activities offer, according to Romero Campbell.

“Their personality will really

show through … Plus it’s inexpensive and just a lot of fun,” Romero Campbell said.

There are dozens of thrift stores throughout Albuquerque, including Savers, which has multiple facilities throughout the city, and Thrift Town.

Cook a meal together Cooking and eating together is intimate and fun, according to Lennon, and allows for low-impact trials of conflict mediation.

“It’ll help you get to know them, and it’s just really nice,” Lennon said. “It isn't expensive and a good way to build your relationship.”

This month, Romero Campbell and Lennon are prepared to put their best feet forward in the world of dating and this list of date ideas can help fellow students follow suit.

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‘Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind’ is a cathartic viewing

By Shelby Kleinhans @BirdsNotReal99 This review contains spoilers An essential viewing this Valentine’s season is Michael Gondry’s 2004 sci-fi romance “Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind,” which argues that even the most painful aspects of our relationships are worth remembering.

The film follows Joel, played by a woefully sad Jim Carrey, after he realizes his ex-girlfriend Clementine, charmingly played by everyone’s favorite love interest Kate Winslet, used a medical procedure through the company Lacuna to erase all of her memories of him. He then tries to cope with his feelings of anger, grief and residual love.

The film adopts a nonlinear

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narrative: it begins where it ends and bounces back between the present and Joel’s memories of the past. What I love about writer Charlie Kaufman’s use of this structure is that it’s done in a way that makes sense within the world of the story and doesn’t leave the audience with a massive headache, like Christopher Nolan’s “Tenet,” which has a similar time-bending nature.

A spiteful Joel decides to enlist Lacuna as well to come to his apartment to erase Clementine from his memories. As Joel’s subconscious tries to make sense of his memories during the erasure, the audience slowly begins to piece together Joel and Clementine’s fragmented relationship.

At the midpoint of the film, Joel’s subconscious becomes aware of the procedure and tries to fight it from within his own head. He attempts to escape to other parts of his brain with his projection of

Clementine, having realized that he would rather keep his memories of her than permanently erase them.

This encompasses the question that anyone in the throes of heartbreak wrestles with: is it better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all? This film expertly argues the answer is that it’s best to have loved because you need to experience the good with the bad, and the painful memories prove that your love actually meant something. Having had my share of heartbreak, I can attest to the benefits of loss that are revealed over time by hindsight.

Unfortunately for Joel, his plan to escape the procedure and cling to his painful memories is subverted by the erasure technicians Stan (Mark Ruffalo) and Patrick (Elijah Wood) and the company’s receptionist Mary (Kirsten Dunst) after the technicians’ distracted partying in Joel’s apartment al-

lows him to go “off the map.”

The whole sequence in Joel’s apartment is great sci-fi commentary on the demoralizing effects of capitalist culture with Stan, Mary and Patrick viewing Joel not as a human but as an object to perform their job on.

The film concludes brilliantly after Mary has a moment of ethical clarity when she realizes she had the procedure performed on herself to erase memories of her affair with Lacuna’s head doctor.

She sends out the records of erasure to every patient the company treated and Joel and Clementine ultimately get back together, even after both of them become aware they each have performed this memory erasure procedure.

It shows that humans are multifaceted creatures who can refuse to do what’s best for themselves while empathetically prioritizing the needs of others.

The film doesn’t, by any

means, suggest that their reunion is the smartest choice, but anyone who's ever dated anyone can tell you that your brain is often overruled by your heart. It’s a choice that is undeniably human, and I think that there’s beauty in that.

Even if you agree with Joel and believe Valentine’s Day is a scam created by greeting card companies, you can still enjoy a feeling of catharsis watching this film. If you have a broken heart, this film will remind you that there are good memories to go along with the painful ones. And for those happily in a relationship, it proves that all the missteps along the way do, indeed, serve a purpose.

Shelby Kleinhans is the multimedia editor at the Daily Lobo.

She can be contacted at multimedia@dailylobo.com or on Twitter @BirdsNotReal99

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WANT TO GET INVOLVED AT UNM???

HERE’S YOUR OPPORTUNITY! There are over 320 STUDENT ORGANIZATIONS listed in this publication looking for students, just like you, to get involved. If the organization you are searching for is not on this list, you can start your own very easily and it’s a good bet there are other students on campus looking for a group just like yours. THERE IS A GROUP HERE AT UNM FOR YOU! You can get involved as much or as little as you want. START SMALL by just attending meetings or going to campus events (1-2 hours a week). Involvement allows you to meet more people and leads you to new opportunities. Working within a student organization teaches you ESSENTIAL SKILLS today’s employers are looking for like time management abilities, working with budgets, communication skills, delegation experience, running meetings and most importantly leadership. Many of these are skills you can acquire through your involvement and may not learn in the classroom. INVEST IN YOUR FUTURE by making yourself a more well-rounded person. See how EASY IT IS TO GET INVOLVED and contact a group today! The Student Activities Center is always available to meet with students looking for more assistance in getting involved here at UNM. Our contact information is below.

GET CONNECTED WITH STUDENT ORGANIZATIONS: See a group you would like, follow these steps to get connected with that group: 1. Begin by going to http://sac.unm.edu 2. Click on Student Orgs (on the top menu) then Student Org List. 3. Search for groups by keyword and/or type. You can also scroll through the groups.

4. If you click on the group name, click on Organization Details in the box on the left for links to websites, contact information, and group information.

5. You can Sign In using your UNM NetID and password. 6. When signed in, you can click buttons to show interest, apply to join, or simply join!

7. Contact the Student Activities Center (505-277-4706) for any login assistance or to start a new group.

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College is more than going to class!

When you get involved, you find a home base in the midst of a large campus community. You’ll have fun and make friends. Students who are involved know what’s going on around campus. If you’re afraid you won’t have time, consider this: students who are involved actually get better grades and graduate at higher rates.

Please stop by our office, Student Union Bldg Rm 1018, 277-4706, Monday-Friday from 8am-5pm or go to our website http://sac.unm.edu for more information.

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Student organizations are all eligible to have a financial account with and financial advisement from the Student Government Accounting Office (SGAO). For more information about SGAO, stop by Student Union Bldg Rm 1018, 277-7888, http://sgao.unm.edu or sgao@unm.edu.

Associated Students of UNM SUB Room 1016, 277-5528 http://asunm.unm.edu, asunm@unm.edu

ASUNM is the governing body of all undergraduate students at UNM. The following agencies operate under the direction of ASUNM for the benefit of undergraduate students. All of these agencies offer valuable service to UNM students. If you are an undergraduate student and would like to become a member of any of these organizations, please feel free to stop by for more info.

Graduate and Professional Student Association SUB Room 1021, 277-3803 http://gpsa.unm.edu, gpsa@unm.edu

All graduate students, including business, law and medical students, are members of the Graduate & Professional Student Association. The purpose of the GPSA is to provide representation, advocacy and direct services to individual students and to graduate student groups.

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American Indian Council of Architects & Engineers American Indian Science & Engineering Society American Institute of Aeronautics & Astronautics

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American Medical Student Association - Pre-Med

American Nuclear Society American Society of Civil Engineers American Society of Mechanical Engineers Anthropology Club ASPRS UNM Student Chapter Associated General Contractors of AmericaUniversity of New Mexico Student Chapter Association of Geology Graduate Students

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Association of Minorities in Pre-Medicine Athletic Training Students' Association Biology Undergraduate Society of UNM Black Law Students Association Chi Sigma Iota - Upsilon Nu Mu College of Pharmacy Class of 2022 College of Pharmacy Class of 2024 Communication and Journalism GPSA Delta Sigma Pi Deutsch Klub Directed Reading Program Doctors Without Borders Student Chapter Financial Management Association Foreign Languages & Literatures GSA Friday Night Philosophy Geology & Environmental Science Club Graduate Art Association Health Professions Symposium Committee High Desert Linguistics Society Hispanic Engineering & Science Organization Hispanic Women's Council Student Organization

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Alpha Phi Alpha Fraternity Incorporated Alpha Tau Omega Beta Theta Pi Interfraternity Council Kappa Sigma Fraternity Omega Delta Phi Fraternity Inc. National Student Speech Language Hearing Assoc.

Phi Beta Sigma Fraternity Inc. New Mexico Defense Lawyers Association Phi Delta Theta-New Mexico Alpha New Mexico Society of Student Physician Scientists Phi Iota Alpha Fraternity, Inc. Nutrition Club Pi Kappa Alpha Organization, Information & Learning Sciences Sigma Alpha Epsilon Out in Science, Technology, Engineering, & Math Sigma Chi Phi Delta Chi Physical Therapy Student Association Graduate Physics and Astronomy GSA Population Health Undergraduate Network American Medical Student Association Pre-Dental Society American Medical Women’s Association Pre-Medical Society American Planning Association Pre-Pharmacy Society American Society of Landscape Architects Pre-Physical Therapy Society American Studies GSA Pre-Physician Assistant Society Anderson Graduate Ambassador Program Public Health Student Association Anesthesiology Interest Group Radiology Interest Group Asian Pacific American Medical Student Assoc Resolanas

Org for Advancement of Graduate Worker Labor Rights

Orthopaedic Surgery Interest Group Pediatric Medicine Interest Group (UNMSOM) Pharmacy Class of 2023 (UNM) Phi Lambda Sigma Pharmacy Leadership Society

Physican Assistant Student Society Physicians for Human Rights Psychiatry Student Interest Group Network Political Science Graduate Student Association Public Administration GSA Society of Native American Graduate Students Spanish and Portuguese GSA Sports Law Society Student Assoc of Healthcare Administrators Student Bar Association Student Occupational Therapy Association Student Pathology Association Surgery Interest Group Urology Interest Group Women's Law Golf Association

Honorary Beta Alpha Psi - Theta Xi Chapter Mortar Board Senior Honor Soc, Maia Chapter National Residence Hall Honorary National Society of Leadership and Success Phi Eta Sigma National Honor Society Phi Sigma Pi Psi Chi Int Honor Society in Psychology Rho Chi Society Tau Beta Pi - New Mexico Beta Tau Sigma Delta Honor Society in Architecture & Allied Arts

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Recreation Cherry and Silver Swim Club Lobo Life Mountaineering Club (UNM)

Religious Baha'i Association at UNM Baptist Student Union Christian Challenge

Catholic Apologetics Fellowship & Evangelization

Christians on UNM Delight Ministries UNM Deviate Graduate Christian Fellowship Hillel at UNM, Jewish Student Center Hindu YUVA InterVarsity Christian Fellowship Lobo Catholic: UNM Aquinas Newman Center Luther House Muslim Student Association Navigators NOVO on Campus Young Life College

Residence Halls Residence Hall Association

Service Agora Crisis Center Albuquerque Opportunity Center Clinic of Health Science Students BA/MD Organization Circle K International

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Gift of Life UNM Healing Harmonies (UNM) Immigration Law Student Association LoboTHON Native Health Initiative: Main Campus New Mexico Covid-19 Association NM YMCA College Youth & Govt Alumni Assoc Peers for Advocacy, Wellness, and Safety Student Health Leadership Council Trailblazers Youth Advocacy for Real Change

Sororities Alpha Chi Omega Alpha Kappa Alpha Sorority, Incorporated Chi Omega Delta Sigma Theta Sorority, Inc. Kappa Delta Chi Sorority, Inc. Kappa Kappa Gamma Lambda Theta Alpha Latin Sorority Inc. Multicultural Greek Council Panhellenic Council Pi Beta Phi Pi Lambda Chi Latina Sorority, Inc. Sigma Gamma Rho Sorority Inc. - Xi Eta Chapt Theta Nu Xi Multicultural Sorority, Inc. Zeta Phi Beta Sorority, Inc.

Special Interest Advancing Women in Science American Pharmacists Assoc - Academy of Student Pharmacists Association for Public Interest Law Assoc for Sustainability & Corporate Social Responsibility Best Buddies Bioethics Interest Group Cannabis Law Society Cardiology Interest Group

Crip Liberation Culinary Medicine Interest Group Dermatology Interest Group Estate Planning and Elder Law Society Family Law Society Fellowship of Future Ophthalmologists Food Justice Initiative Health Law and Policy Society Health Sciences Center Orchestra Intellectual Property Society Internal Medicine Interest Group Interprofessional Health Outreach Program Kappa Psi Pharmaceutical Fraternity Lambda Law Student Association Lobo Gardens Club Magic the Gathering Club Moms of Law

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Physical Medicine & Rehabilitation Int Group Plastic & Reconstructive Surgery Int Group Pre-Law Society of UNM Professional Sales Association Queer Student Alliance Rural & Urban Underserved Student Int Group Society for Creative Anachronism Something Major A Cappella Space Law Society Speech and Debate of UNM Student Chapter of the National Assoc of Teachers of Singing Student Int Group in Neurology & Neurosurgery

Student Solidarity Coalition Student-Athlete Advisory Committee Students for Life (UNM) Tabletop Tavern UNM Wilderness Alliance Women 2 Be Lobo Chapter Women's Law Caucus Women in Physics, Astronomy and Optics World Affairs Delegation

Sports and Recreation Bengal United Sports Club Club Soccer Disc Golf Club Esports Club (UNM) Hockey Team (UNM) Men’s Rugby Football Club (UNM) Ultimate Frisbee (Men's) Women's Rugby Club - UNM Women's Soccer Club Women's Ultimate Frisbee NOT ON THE CHARTERED LIST The following organizations are in the process of chartering but have not completed all the requirements to be recognized. If your organization is listed below, please contact our office, 277-4706 or SUB room 1018, to receive assistance in completing the process: Assoc. of Native American Medical Students Biology Graduate Student Association Biophysical Society Student Chapter Chi Epsilon Christian Student Center at UNM Climate Change and Health Equity Coalition Club Tennis College of Pharmacy Academy of Managed Care Pharmacy Collegiate Powerlifting UNM Critical Care Student Organization Episcopal Campus Ministries Exercise Science Club Fishing Club Hemisphere: Visual Cultures of the Americas Kappa Kappa Psi Mountain Biking Club Pre-Veterinary Society Student Animal Legal Defense Fund Student National Medical Association Student Society of Health System Pharmacists Women’s Health Interest Group Wrestling Club

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Examining a graceful yet turbulent relationship in ‘Normal People’

By Emma Trevino @itsemmatr This review contains spoilers.

When news of a television adaptation of Sally Rooney’s superb Ireland-set novel “Normal People” hit my ears, I first thought they could never do the book justice. But when it was released in April 2020, the two main characters’ on-and-off relationship proved me wrong and displayed a master class in understanding power dynamics and how easily your soulmate can slip through your fingers.

The show tells the story of Connell (Paul Mescal) and Marianne’s (Daisy Edgar-Jones) relationship from high school until the end of college, as the two frequently break up just to get back together again when they realize they can’t be without each other.

While this premise might sound exhausting and repetitive, the way the characters grow as individuals during their time apart makes it all completely worth it.

At the beginning, it’s Connell who holds all the cards. He often gently reminds Marianne, whose personality contrasts starkly from his, not to tell anyone about their arrangement, and she obediently obliges.

Marianne later tells Connell she was

embarrassed by the way he treated her in the early parts of their relationship, and it’s extremely sad to watch her be, in a way, taken advantage of.

On the flipside, Connell’s charm is just so hard to resist that it isn’t surprising Marianne agrees to this deal.

Honestly, I would even agree. The relationship ultimately suffers from this initial cruel arrangement, and the theme of selfishness continues to echo throughout the show.

It seems that Connell inadvertently fed off of a young Marianne’s insecurity. Marianne, on the other hand, guards herself from pain and emotion with walls. When Connell penetrates these walls, it’s a high of excitement and curiosity for both of them. We all want to be desired, and when someone you perceive as cool and uncaring desires you, it can lead to a complex dynamic with painful sacrifices made. As someone who leans toward the unemotional side myself, it felt deliciously cathartic watching their initial encounters.

For Connell and Marianne, it was never about just sex, which never felt gratuitous or vulgar. It was sheer romantic (and sexual) chemistry that they shared. This is what makes the show such an anomaly, because on the rare occasion I find myself watching a romance, it’s either filled with eye-rolling levels of cheesiness or unrelatable detachment.

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Paul Mescal plays Connell and Daisy Edgar-Jones plays Marianne in “Normal People.” Photo courtesy of IMDb.

The two rekindle their relationship in college, with Marianne now beautiful and widely admired while Connell struggles to fit in, and their seemingly never ending cycle of pain, heartbreak and trauma begins again. The problem with Marianne and Connell is their complete lack of ability to communicate, and that’s what I find so engaging and real as a viewer. There’s always a point where one is yearning for the other and vice versa, and only occasionally do they get the timing right.

Even so, both characters remain empathetic toward one another

even when they aren’t romantically involved, which is vital for their friendship to survive and made my sympathy and appreciation for Connell and Marianne skyrocket.

There may be awkwardness or tension when Marianne has asshole boyfriends or Connell gets into a comparatively normal relationship, but the closeness the two share never goes away, which harkens back to the high level of trust the two share.

This trust is especially visible when Connell goes through a period of extreme depression when Marianne’s in Sweden for a semester

REVIEW

‘The Love Hypothesis’: an electric read

By Elizabeth Secor @esecor2003 This review contains spoilers

Over the past few months, “The Love Hypothesis” by Ali Hazelwood has taken booklovers on TikTok by storm, and for good reason. The novel is filled to the brim with clichés that I love and proves that, when done right, the fake-dating trope can be adorable.

The novel follows Ph.D. candidate Olive Smith as she begins fake-dating “antagonistic and unapproachable” (Olive’s words, not mine) professor Adam Carlsen, and

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pure chaos ensues. She does this to prove to one of her best friends, Anh Pham, that she is really and truly over her ex-boyfriend so Anh can feel more comfortable entering a relationship with him. The element of friendship made the cause for the fake-dating sweeter than ever before.

The side characters in “The Love Hypothesis” are exceptionally welldesigned and aren’t watered down to serve simply as supporters of the protagonist. They are fully-formed characters of their own. Olive’s two best friends, Anh and Malcolm, add a lot of humor to the story and, as a sucker for sweet friendships, I loved it. Malcolm also had the best side-plot romance I’ve ever seen with Adam’s

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A great deal of Olive’s draw is relatability. She is anxious and full of self-doubt and is completely oblivious to Adam’s affections for her. My own love for Olive was cemented when we are first introduced to her character with her eyes burning after she decides to wear expired contacts, something I’m guilty of myself.

The novel appeals to a vast majority of readers, but lovers of romance and science, technology, engineering and math will be especially pleased. As someone with a very minimal background in science, it took me most of the book to figure out what a pipette was and why Olive was so annoyed that her labmates

kept stealing them, but anyone that likes science jokes and tropes will find even more to love in this book.

Olive’s struggles with self-doubt surrounding her academic pursuits and “boy troubles” are relatable to many college students juggling academics and a social life.

On the topic of school, I genuinely enjoyed the description of academia throughout the novel, finding both humor and relatability in the story as Olive and her friends debate dropping out whenever things get really stressful. These pursuits in science made for a nice secondary plotline which differentiates “The Love Hypothesis” from other romance novels.

Toward the end of the book,

abroad, but they still communicate constantly. The commitment the two have to keeping the other safe is endearing and beautiful, with their only obstacle being their abysmal communication skills.

When they reunite again, they acknowledge they’re better off as friends. Then they have sex, and the romance is back on — to no one’s surprise whatsoever. Connell ends up getting accepted into a creative writing program in New York, and the true proof that Connell and Marianne love one another unconditionally lies in the gutwrenching decision the two make together that he’ll go to New York and she’ll stay in Dublin. Of course, I wanted them to stay together forever, but I was glad in a bittersweet way that they would get a break from their poisonous codependency.

Do I think the two had the healthiest relationship? Absolutely not. In fact, their cat-and-mouse game was so painful to watch that I had to walk away several times just to think it over before coming back to enjoy the delicate tragedy of it all. I rooted for Connell and Marianne the entire time, and it’s an open-and-shut case of right person, wrong time.

The show is something I come back to more often than I care to admit, and no matter how frustrating it is, “Normal People” struck gold on defining what it means to be young and tragically in love.

Emma Trevino is a senior reporter at the Daily Lobo. She can be contacted at culture@dailylobo.com or on Twitter @itsemmatr

Hazelwood does shift from the Hallmark-worthy displays of affection to offer two chapters full of detailed sex scenes. These scenes are handled spectacularly well and with consent at the forefront the entire time. However, if you’re not comfortable with sex scenes, I’d recommend skimming through Chapters 16 and 17.

All in all, this book is a perfect indulgence. Hazelwood managed to appease the cliché-loving crowd while still maintaining an excellent overarching plot free of loose ends.

The popularity this book has garnered across TikTok is well-deserved and I recommend it to any reader that loves romance clichés as much as I do.

Elizabeth Secor is a freelance reporter at the Daily Lobo. She can be contacted at culture@dailylobo.com or on Twitter @esecor2003

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