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What a Difference a Year Makes: The Elimination of Services for Young Children in California By Robert J. Rome, Ph.D.


ne year ago, I was privileged to coordinate a unique event in the community. Jewish leaders, parents, and educators gathered at Touro College in West Hollywood in early March 2010 to learn about resources available in the community for children with special needs under five years of age. Close to 100 gathered to discuss school and community services. Speaker after speaker gave hope to parents that there are abundant resources for their children. There was great excitement as the day ended. That was less than a year ago. One year later… Now, this year, when parents contact the state agencies designed to help their children, they are advised to call their health insurance. Instead of getting the treatment that can help their child, parents now often wait months on a waiting list for an appointment with a specialist. The local Regional Center used to provide two to three sessions weekly of speech, occupational, and physical ther-


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apies to a child, for a total of six or more therapy sessions total weekly. Now, after state cutbacks and the elimination of services, a child is lucky to get one therapy session, that is one session of only one kind a week. Young children with early autistic-like symptoms now often get worse not better. With intensive speech therapy, non-speaking two year old children often rapidly gained speech skills, that is up until the current budget cutbacks. Now, with less intensive services, time on waiting lists, and group therapy instead of individual therapy, or no therapy at all, treatment success is now beyond the reach of many. California had been a pioneer in early childhood treatment. A system of regional centers oversaw the Early Start Program which administered a vast network of service providers. Public schools had programs that were the envy of the nation. That was then… Now, families are most often on their own. It is as if the schools are saying to families go out and prove to us that your • 323-965-1544 •

child needs help and we might then help you. As the services have been so dramatically cut back, there is no advertising or publicizing of resources in the community. There are no community education programs like the one we had last year. Most parents now don’t even know that some services may be available. I’m not naïve. Our state budget is in crisis. I know that the state has had to cut back. There simply is not enough money for everything to continue as before. But while children’s services are decimated (or worse), other things go on in the state as if nothing has happened. A single retired prison guard still may get more than $200,000 a year in pension. State law permits, I am told, retirees to get in pension 80% of their highest annual pay as their retirement as long as they live. The year before retiring, a prison guard can sign up for hundreds of hours of overtime and build up his final year’s pay. The 80% he then draws in retirement is more than he made per year in all but the final year

fore retirement. What has prison guard retirement pay have to do with early childhood services? The $200,000 typically made in a single year by one retired guard can pay instead for intensive speech and language services for 30 children. The state honors pension commitments, but commitments to young children no longer seem to matter. The number of state employee retirees receiving six figure pensions is now in the thousands. The legislature and elected leaders refuse to address the growing problem of meeting these outsized pensions. The pensions continue, but services to young children get eliminated. There are special interest groups to fight for the employees. But who fights for the three year old child or her parent? Was there previous waste in the moneys spent for young children? Yes. Parents often fought with attorneys for as many services as possible. The zip codes showing the most services provided per child were the wealthier zip codes where families often had many resources to draw on in their fight to help their children. Children from poor working families received fewer services than those who could hire attorneys to fight the state. This was not an appropriate way to determine who would gain treatment. There needs to be a decisiontree based on research which guides in the distribution of treatment to be most effective.

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There was a need for change, but not for virtual elimination of services. There needs to be researchbased decision trees governing many aspects of the state budget and expenses. We need to take a look at the best way to fund pensions. We need to eliminate loopholes where individuals earn far more in retirement than they ever made on the job. We need to reconsider other areas of expense as well. While we cut classroom expenses that impact directly on the children, we go on building new schools at a record pace because school building comes out of different funds. Voter approved bonds enable new school construction. But once a school is built, general budget funds must be used for electricity and water at the school, for an administrative staff even before children attend the campus, and for many other expenses. Money is now being spent by the Los Angeles Unified School District to operate empty schools without a single student, while actual money for students is cut. I am reminded in the movie “Dave” when the man impersonating the President calls in his friend, a small town accountant, to search in the federal budget for money to cut. Using common sense, this Jewish CPA is able to cut millions from the budget to come up with money to pay for a desired program.

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through proactive treatment. Helping a child with some problems to develop from this point on in a totally normal and appropriate way is exciting. With a little proactive treatment now, we can prevent more serious problems later.

Helping families with a disabled child is one of the important appropriate uses of government resources. Because the expense of helping the child is so great, we take a little from each of us so that the child can be helped without bankrupting the family. Many times, we can even prevent a disability from occurring through early intervention and overcoming the problem before it worsens. We can actually prevent disabilities

It has only been a year since the Jewish community celebrated the wide array of services available to young children and their families. We can only hope and pray that treatment services for young children fully return and that soon we will again have a day devoted to helping parents choose among the many resources available for their children. Amen.

Robert J. Rome, Ph.D., is a licensed psychologist in clinical practice in Encino, California. He can be reached at

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Nobody would ever counsel a couple to have a strong argument every so often. A disagreement isn’t helpful in a relationship, and can result in a serious schism. Similarly, G-d doesn’t want us to sin. He commands us not to go down that path; to stay away from what He finds abhorrent, and to maintain a healthy relationship with Him. The Talmud states (Avoda Zara 4b) that the sin of the Golden Calf was an act far beneath the level of the Jewish people. Only a few days earlier, they stood at Sinai, where G-d spoke directly to every Jew; He infused each soul with G-dly energy, and said “I am G-d.” Now, suddenly, they are driven to worship the graven image of a calf!? It was as if they were unfaithful during their own wedding party! How was it possible for them to sin? The Talmud explains: They didn’t sin because of their own weakness; G-d created the perfect circumstances that made the sin irresistible to them. He increased their evil inclination beyond its natural strength, and gave it a potency to overwhelm them, and push them into sin. Why? The Talmud continues, and the commentators explain: this occurred to provide an opening for repentance. One who committed a grave sin might despair at the hopelessness of the situation – that G-d cannot not accept repentance for it because the relationship is damaged beyond repair. However, because G-d immediately accepted the sincere teshuva of the Jewish people for their sin with the golden calf - a sin which represented the complete and ultimate rebellion against G-d – therefore, there is hope for anyone. The simple lesson is that a person can never falter beyond repair. The sin of the golden calf is empowerment for anyone to teshuva, no matter what. G-d is just. We must say that Hashem did not cause an entire generation to sin and go through such pain and misery, extreme spiritual loss, and then necessitate thousands of years of


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rectification just to help a few people in later generations. They did not volunteer to suffer for the benefit of others. It’s clear that there is an even deeper lesson to be learned: We must say that this opening for teshuva, which was gained through the incident of the golden calf, was to the benefit of even that saintly generation. Through their process of sin and a sincere return, they attained a level of relationship with G-d that was previously inaccessible to them. Our sages tell us that "In the place where baalei teshuva stand, even the perfectly righteous cannot stand" (Brachos 34b). What is the true power of teshuva? The answer is connected to the purpose of life. Before birth, a person’s soul is plucked from the higher worlds. These spiritual realms are a place where the

holy “spark.” It is the divine interest that causes that particular phenomenon, substance or being to exist, G-d’s investment into that creation. In heaven, truth is apparent, that G-d is the only reality, and if something else appears to exist, it is because in the vast eternal plan that G-d has for the universe, it serves His desires and interests. The sparks shine brightly in heaven. On our world, however, many things are covered and blocked by a klipa, which literally means shell, because it conceals the spark like the shell of a nut covers and blocks the fruit inside. Because of the klipa, matter can appear to be isolated and disconnected from G-d. Our job, as the Jewish people, is to peel away all of the shells and uncover the inner G-dliness that is at the core of every being. We accomplish this in a very practical way: by applying whatever we can to the service of G-d.

Brightening the Darkness A deeper look into the mistakes we make light of G-d shines brightly, where the soul can bask in its glory and relate to Him on a level that, down here, we can never understand. Suddenly, the soul is thrown into our physical world, a place of concealment, where G-d’s presence is hidden, and His radiance and glory are not apparent. The purpose of this traumatic journey is for each soul to do her part of revealing G-d’s presence in the physical world; to transform the seemingly mundane, physical world into a holy one, where G-dliness is fully revealed and G-d can dwell, or so-to-say, feel at home. The challenge is not primarily focused on bringing G-d here by drawing down the light from above. Rather, the ultimate purpose is to uncover the (unapparent) G-dliness that has always been here, since the beginning. As the Kabbalists teach us, within all physical and spiritual matter, there is a • 323-965-1544 •

Many mundane things can be directly revealed through a mitzvah, like using wood to make a sukkah, money for tzedakah, leather for tefillin, wool for tzitzis, or flour for challah. Some things are elevated in a more indirect way. Our cars and our homes support us in the service of G-d, as do our jobs and the food we eat. By relating to our possessions and our relationships as means and opportunities to serve Hashem and implement His wishes, we reintroduce them into spirituality and bring to light their innate holiness. Certain things remain off-limits. The Torah tells us what foods are not kosher, and what activities and relationships to refrain from. If G-d forbid, a person gets involved with these things, a space is created that G-d will not manifest Himself within. Eating nonkosher food, pursuing a forbidden relationship, or engaging in any other

sinful activity supplies the klipa in our world with a powerful energy, and strengthens the blockages. Furthermore, by engaging and empowering them, they cover up our own soul’s ability to relate to G-d. These negative activities and objects cannot facilitate divinity, and only increase darkness in the world. G-d has clearly defined what He doesn’t want us to get involved with, and the best we can do with these things is to push them away. The life of a tzaddik is purely within this domain - doing mitzvos, transforming the mundane aspects of the every-day world into something spiritual, and rejecting that which is negative. The baal teshuva, however, has a much greater influence on making this world holy than the tzaddik. The true baal teshuva has returned to a place where the tzaddik will never venture. Yes, there is an absolute rule G-d clearly says that some things that are despicable and disgusting to Him. They are antithetical to Him, and can never join the realm of holiness. He warns us that if we persist and pursue them, He will be very unhappy with us, and our relationship with Him will become blemished. But one who, for whatever reason, has fallen into the unholy and the negative, has the opportunity to propel it into a pure and powerful good. The Talmud tells us (Yoma 86b): “Great is Teshuvah! For even deliberate sins are transformed into good deeds.” The implications are astounding! A person (with the proper kind of teshuva) can not only erase his own sins, but completely transform them into mitzvos! The very same negative energy that only moments ago was disgusting to G-d, has been purified and transformed into an active channel for G-dly light! Why do we have the opportunity to sin in the first place? Why did G-d create the things which He, Himself, tells us are not good? Because without them, we wouldn’t have the choice to do the right thing. We would be no different than the angels of the higher worlds, who see and experience G-dliness in every aspect of their existence. They have no free will – G-d is their only reality. The negative things that we are drawn to and experience in our world, which we are commanded to stay away from, are ultimately only here to push us towards the good things we are supposed to interact with. The mitzvos are G-d telling us, so-to-say, who He is. For example, when Hashem commands us to wear Tefillin, or to light Shabbos candles, it is because, on some level, He enjoys it. Obviously we must understand that mystically, behind the leather straps, or the candles, these mitzvos draw forth a very deep, divine energy and pleasure that we cannot comprehend. In our world, we are given only a physical representation of the divine Will, so we can relate to it in some way. By doing Hashem’s mitzvos, we connect to Him and His interests even though we don’t necessarily see what is truly taking place.

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Similarly, when we are commanded to stay away from something, it is because of the “divine distaste“ for it, because it doesn’t represent the truth and oneness of G-d. Although, evil doesn’t even truly exist, it’s strictly a façade created to challenge us, and make us better through avoiding it.

yearning to reunite, and when the couple does make up, the resulting bond makes the relationship deeper and stronger. The original act itself was bad. Now, after the reconciliation, looking back on it, the act brought them to a deeper connection. It was ultimately and effectively a positive part of their connection and not part of a disconnection.

G-d gives us a full buffet of choices, but He only wants us to choose Him. We must work to be sharp enough to recognize that everything else is completely false, and to completely reject it. When a person embraces the truth, it has a huge impact on the world. He reveals Hashem in the world. All the more so when a Tzaddik does it. Furthermore, by rejecting the unholy, ultimately, we completely dissipate its existence.

All of this is possible because it is a result of the sin and then teshuva of the golden calf. Even the eruv rav - the mixed multitude of tag-alongs that instigated the sin - were forgiven and elevated because of it. They reached spiritual heights that would otherwise have been impossible

What happens, if G-d forbid, someone does sin? The person enters a zone that is devoid of truth, and ultimately, existence - literally experiencing a taste of death. However, simultaneously, a very powerful opportunity presents itself. Because this soul, an entity of truth, has separated herself from G-dly reality and entered into a space that’s dark, one where G-d is blocked, and the truth is gone, she is now yearning for it. The soul is thirsting for divine light, but it can’t access G-dliness because a barrier has been put up. A klippa which was energized by the sin now stands in the way. The bigger the sin, the less experiential G-d becomes in our lives. That’s why, G-d forbid, if someone sins, it’s becomes harder to pray, more difficult to experience the joy of Shabbos, and generally challenging to feel the connection of G-d to our everyday lives. Nonetheless, as the sinner covers up the soul and creates the blockages, simultaneously the soul is intensifying her yearning to reconnect with G-d. The more isolated and disconnected a person gets, the greater the longing of the soul. This ache might simmer quietly for a long time under the rubbish. Eventually, there will come a time, without question, that this soul can no longer cope with her detachment. She will erupt with a desperate force of desire and passion for G-d with an intensity that a tzaddik cannot have because the tzaddik always quenches his thirst. G-d is always accessible to him. The baal teshuva, who entered into the realms of death, visited the muck of the world and interacted with it, was drawn back to Hashem with a greater passion than ever before, because of it! Sometimes in a marriage, a couple experiences their deepest connection only after a quarrel. As a result of a poor choice of words or disagreeable behavior, their relationship may experience coldness and a separation. If they have true love, however, as a result of that separation there is a greater


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The fact is that many times a disagreement doesn’t lead to reconciliation, but only to destruction. Sin is very dangerous and not a correct path to choose. G–d tells us not to go there, He commands us to stay away. He warns us that it will bring both physical and spiritual pain and suffering, and it does. However, the potential and the possibility exists that if, G-d forbid, a person does sin, he or she will be able to achieve a deeper and stronger connection to Hashem, one that a tzaddik doesn’t have. No matter what happens to us, or what choices we make in our lives, we are on a journey moving towards a deeper connection with Hashem. G-d forbid, we ought never to sin, and we must run away from it. Then again, looking back at our mistakes, we must realize that we have the power to not only erase the past but to redefine it, and turn all of our baggage into propelling forces that forever deepen and intensify our relationship with G-d. May we all see the ultimate transformation of all darkness into light very quickly, with the coming of Moshach. ________________________________________ Excerpt from "The Parsha In My Life" class by Rabbi Reuven Wolf. Maayon Yisroel was founded by Rabbi Reuven Wolf, a renowned educator and inspiring lecturer who has devoted his life to reaching out and rekindling the spirit of Yiddishkeit in his fellow Jew. Over the past five years Rabbi Wolf has been teaching a 2-4 hour class on the weekly Parsha, named affectionately "The Thursday Night Shiur".

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arriage is a pretty bizarre concept. It must have been G-d's idea. Who else could think of such a wacky plan like bringing together two opposites and putting them under one roof to share a life? And who else could invent an institution as beautiful and powerful as marriage? It's wacky-but it works. It is precisely its absurdity that makes marriage an experience not to be missed. One of the most exciting aspects of marriage is the discovery of the profound differences between men and

love. But we should ask: what is it that makes us different? Is it just social conditioning that makes a man a man and a woman a woman, or are we born that way? Is masculinity a hormone, a feeling, or a way men are educated? Are women trained to be feminine or do they innately know how themselves? There are many theories on the gender issue. In the works of Jewish mysticism, or Kabbalah, the question is dealt with extensively. The Kabbalah's approach is both unique and revolutionary. It says that the source of

Although every individual is unique and we don't all fit into over-simplified definitions, in a general sense there is a clear distinction between male and female spiritual postures. Their diverse soul-sources translate into two very different personas. Perhaps it can be expressed like this: Men are more removed souls; they are geared to provide the direction in the relationship. Women are more involved souls; they have the capacity to bring presence to the marriage. This becomes clear as we analyze and

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male/female identity is beyond both nature and nurture. It is our very soul. Men and women have totally different soulroots, and that is why they are different.

contrast the respective natures of men and women. There are certain situations in which this contrast becomes more obvious and exaggerated. Let's look at a few examples.

In Kabbalistic terms, men's souls come from the world of divine transcendence; women's souls come from the world of divine immanence. Transcendence is the divine quality of being beyond; immanence is the equally divine quality of being present. These are the male and female aspects of the Divine, and are reflected in man and woman respectively down here in the human realm.

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t takes a lot to build a Sanctuary in the desert. And it takes perhaps, even more to adorn the Kohanim who serve, in beautiful vestments that both symbolize deep spirituality while depicting splendor and glory. You need more than golden threads and fine tapestry. You need more than the ability to weave and design ornate garments. You need devotion, and you need heart. Not ordinary heart. Not the heart that pennant winners have or athletic coaches call for. You need a special type of heart. You need a heart filled with wisdom -- Divine wisdom. That is why Hashem commands Moshe to gather "all the wise-hearted people whom I have invested with a spirit of wisdom" to make the priestly garments (Exodus 28:1). But the Torah is unclear. Were these select people Divinely ordained with a spirit of wisdom for this particular mission, or were intrinsic "wisehearted" people imbued with an extra

spiring message, approached the famed Magid. "The sages tell us," began the skeptic, "'that words from the heart, penetrate the heart.' Rabbi," he snickered, "I assume that you spoke from your heart. Your words, however, have had no impact on me whatsoever! How can that be? Why didn't your words penetrate my heart?" Rabbi Kranz smiled. In his usual fashion, he began with a parable. "A simpleton once went by the workplace of a blacksmith, who was holding a large bellows. After a few squeezes, the flames of the smith's fire danced with a rage. The man, who always found it difficult to start a fire in his own fireplace, marveled at the contraption. He immediately went and purchased the amazing invention. Entering his home, he smugly announced, "I just discovered how to make a raging fire with the simple squeeze of a lever!"

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He set a few logs in the cold fireplace and began to push the two ends of the bellows together. Nothing happened. The logs lay cold and lifeless. Embarrassed, the man returned to the blacksmith and explained his predicament. "I want a refund!" he shouted. This blower doesn't work!" "You yokel," laughed the experienced blacksmith. "You were blowing on cold logs! You must start a small fire on your own! If you don't start with a spark, a fire will never erupt!" The Magid turned toward the maskil and sadly shook his head sadly. "If there is no spark, the largest bellows will not make a fire." In telling Moshe whom to choose

for the sacred task of designing the Mishkan, the Torah tells us how G-d invests. He wants people that were imbued with a ruach chachmah - a sprirt of wisdom. But he prefaces the statement by telling us how one receives spiritual wisdom. The gift of spiritual wisdom does not go to just anyone. Hashem looks for those who have wisdom of heart. Those who understand what it means to be kind, compassionate, and loyal. Those who have the devotion to His will and the desire for more enlightenment get His ordination. The people who were imbued with Hashem's Divine spirit previously had a spark. And from that spark grew a force - a Divine force - that propelled wise hearts into a Divine spirit of wisdom. Hashem tells us that we must begin the process on our own. If we supply the heart, He will supply the power to have deep, spiritual, even holy insight. He will supply the force. We must make sure, however, that we put the heart before the force. • Rabbi Mordechai Kaminetzky


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WOMEN's PROGRAM to be held at Young Israel of Hancock Park The National Council of Young Israel, together with the Rabbinical Council of California and the Young Israel of Hancock Park, will present an exciting lecture for women on Sunday, February 13, 2011 at 7:30 PM. The program, which is entitled “A Happy Family Order: What do we want for our children? What do they need from us? will take place at the Young Israel of Hancock Park, which is located at 225 South La Brea Avenue in Los Angeles, California. The special guest speaker at the February 13th program will be renowned educator Rebbetzin Bracha Goldberger, Kehillas Tiferes Yisroel, Baltimore, MD and member of the Faculty, Maalot Seminary, Baltimore, MD. The program is open to all women and girls, and admission is free. For more information about “A Happy Family Order: What do want for our children? What do they need from us? Contact NCYI Director of Programming Rebbetzin Judi Steinig at (212) 929-1525, ext. 112, or email


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TEACHER FROM HARKHAM HILLEL HEBREW ACADEMY RECEIVES MILKEN AWARD FROM BJE & MILKEN FAMILY FOUNDATION On October 20 and 21, four teachers from BJE-accredited Jewish Day Schools in Los Angeles were presented with Jewish Educator Awards by the Milken Family Foundation. Educators from Harkham Hillel Hebrew Academy, Abraham Joshua Heschel Day School, Valley Beth Shalom Harold M. Schulweis Day School, and Milken Community High School were publicly recognized for their significant contributions to excellence in education at surprise, school-wide assemblies at their respective schools.

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The 2010 award recipients include Dalia Golan, an elementary school Hebrew Language Specialist at Harkham Hillel Hebrew Academy. Dalia Golan, who has taught at Harkham Hillel Hebrew Academy for 17 years, is recognized as an exemplary educator at Hillel and throughout the community. Credited with successfully launching Hillel’s comprehensive Hebrew Language immersion program, Golan teaches Hebrew Language to 4th and 5th grades and is the coordinator of the Elementary School Hebrew Language Department. Her mastery of Hebrew Language instruction coupled with expertise in creating interactive lessons using the latest technologies, keep her in high demand as a professional development presenter. Devoted to making Israel come alive at Hillel, Golan chairs the LA-Tel Aviv Partnership Program overseen by The Jewish Federation of Greater Los Angeles and coordinates the Bat Ami Program. The Milken Family Foundation, in cooperation with BJE, established the Jewish Educator Awards program in 1990 as an adjunct to the Foundation's Milken National Educator Awards program. Each year, representatives from the Milken Foundation and BJE meet to select exemplary educators for special recognition. In December, the Milken Family Foundation presented each winner with $15,000 prizes at a community-wide luncheon hosted by the Foundation. This year’s awards were presented by Lowell Milken, President of the Milken Family Foundation and by Richard Sandler, Executive Vice President of the Foundation. Dr. Gil Graff, also part of the awards presentations, commented: “The Milken Family Foundation stands at the forefront of honoring the importance of educators in our society. Recipients of the Milken Foundation’s Jewish Educator Awards represent the excellence that is at the heart of Jewish Day School education.”• For more information about BJE, visit To learn more about the Milken Family Foundation, visit


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NEFESH B’NEFESH AND PRESENTENSE LAUNCH SOCIAL ENTREPRENEURSHIP ROAD TRIP ACROSS N. AMERICA (Jerusalem, January 17, 2011) Nefesh B’Nefesh, the Aliyah organization which works in close cooperation with the Jewish Agency for Israel and the Ministry of Immigrant Absorption, has teamed up with PresenTense, a Jewish organization dedicated to training social entrepreneurs, to engage adults in five cities across North America through a panel discussion entitled “Innovation Israel: Shaping Israel’s Future Today.” The week-long road trip is intended to engage Israel-conscious members of the Diaspora community in discussion about social change in Israel through innovative entrepreneurship. Three active social entrepreneurs - Elyssa Moss-Rabinowitz, Romi Shamai and Chaim Landau, who were chosen for their inspiring contributions to social change in Israel, will embark on a week-long road trip that will take place in the second week of February in Philadelphia, Boston, Toronto, LA and New York.

lowed by a panel discussion where the entrepreneurs will introduce their various projects and the impact they are making on Israel, as well as explain their vision for the country over the next few years. Following the panel discussions, the floor will be open for participants to share their own thoughts and experiences. “This is a great opportunity to create dialogue among Jewish young professionals from North America and Israel and help foster and cultivate Israelrelated social ideas and initiatives,” said Marc Rosenberg, Director of Nefesh B’Nefesh’s One Aliyah Department. “We believe that this will help maintain Israel awareness and consciousness in the minds of future leaders in the Jewish world.” The participants will be blogging and tweeting (#InnovateIL) throughout the road trip, and the Philadelphia and New York events will be streamed live. This can all be viewed at:

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n what is probably the most anti-climactic event in Jewish history, the nation that was about to receive the Torah from Moshe turns away from the will of Hashem. After 40 days they begin to worry that Moshe will never return and they panic. They create a new leader for themselves -- The Golden Calf.. The Torah describes the scene in Exodus 32:6: "The people offered (the calf) peace offerings and they sat down to eat and drink and they got up to revel." Hashem immediately commands Moshe to descend Mount Sinai in order to admonish his corrupt nation. As Moshe comes down the mountain he hears tumultuous shouts emanating from the people who were celebrating their new found deity. His student, Yehoshua, also hears the sounds and declares (Exodus 32:17) "the sound of battle is in the camp." Moshe listens and amends the theory. He tells Yehoshua, "It is not the sound of victory, nor the sound of defeat: I hear the sound of distress." When Moshe sees the Golden Calf he breaks the Tablets and restores order, sanity, and the belief in Hashem. What is strange about the episode is

the contrast of the sounds made and the sounds heard. If the Jewish People reveled and celebrated then why did Yehoshua hear sounds of war and how did Moshe hear sounds of distress? They should both have heard the sound of celebration and festivity. Rav Chaim of Sanz had a custom: he would test the local children on a monthly basis. The children would recite orally from the Mishnah or Talmud and Rav Chaim would reward them generously with sweets and money. Once a group of secular Jews decided to dupe Rav Chaim. They taught a Talmudic selection to a gentile child and reviewed it with him until he knew it perfectly. They dressed him like a Chasidic child and had him stand in line with all the other children to be tested. The rabbi listened to the young boy intently. The other children were puzzled: they did not remember this boy from their cheder, yet they were amazed at the remarkable fluency he displayed in reciting his piece. Rav Chaim was not impressed at all. He turned to the young man and said, "please tell your father that there are better ways to earn a few coins!" With that he dismissed the child.

The secularists were shocked. "How did the Rabbi know?" Their curiosity forced them to approach Rav Chaim. Rav Chaim smiled as he answered them. "There are two ways to say the Gemorah. One is filled with spirituality. The child's body is swaying and filled with the emotion of Torah. The other is just repetitive rote. This young man lacked the fire and the true joy that the Jewish children have when learning Torah. I knew he was not one of ours." The Jews got up to revel around the golden calf. Moshe and Yehoshua however knew the difference between true joy -- simcha -- and confusion. The Jews revel were in essence distressed but it was masked with drinks and noise makers. True joy is coupled with a certainty and a sense of direction; something lacking for those Jews celebrating the idol. The Jews may have gotten up to celebrate, but it was no celebration. It may have looked like a party to the untrained eye, but Moshe knew the true sound of joy. It did not exist with the Golden Calf. True joy is the harmony of spirituality and contentment. Superficial sounds of euphoria and celebration are heard by those with true insight as sounds of battle and distress. •

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• 3/4 cup freshly squeezed lemon juice (4 lemons) • 3/4 cup good olive oil • 2 teaspoons kosher salt • 1 teaspoon freshly ground black pepper • 1 tablespoon minced fresh thyme leaves, or 1/2 teaspoon dried thyme • 2 pounds boneless chicken breasts, halved and skin removed • Satay Dip, recipe follows

Directions Whisk together the lemon juice, olive oil, salt, pepper, and thyme. Pour over the chicken breasts in a nonreactive bowl. Cover and marinate in the refrigerator for 6 hours or overnight. Heat a charcoal grill. Grill the chicken breasts for 10 minutes on each side, until just cooked through. Cool slightly and cut diagonally in 1/2-inch-thick slices. Skewer with wooden sticks and serve with Satay Dip.

Satay Dip: • 1 tablespoon good olive oil

• 1/4 cup light brown sugar, packed

• 1 tablespoon dark sesame oil

• 2 tablespoons soy sauce

• 2/3 cup small-diced red onion

• 1/2 cup smooth peanut butter

• 1 1/2 teaspoons minced garlic

• 1/4 cup ketchup

• 1 1/2 teaspoons minced ginger root

• 2 tablespoons dry sherry

• 1/4 teaspoon crushed red pepper flakes

• 1 1/2 teaspoons squeezed lime juice

• 2 tablespoons good red wine vinegar

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Cook the olive oil, sesame oil, red onion, garlic, ginger root, and red pepper flakes in a small, heavy-bottomed pot on medium heat until the onion is transparent, 10 to 15 minutes. Whisk in the vinegar, brown sugar, soy sauce, peanut butter, ketchup, sherry, and lime juice; cook for 1 more minute. Cool and use as a dip for Grilled Lemon Chicken skewers.

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