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TRANSFORMING THE LIVES OF MEN

2025 MAN OF THE YEAR Known as Black America’s attorney general, Ben Crump fights for the rights of those impacted by racism and division.

We celebrate his efforts by naming him Man of the Year for 2025!

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THEY DON’T THINK WE FEEL PAIN

For centuries, Blacks have been tortured and experimented on by the medical profession because it was assumed that they feel less pain than whites. Today, this theory is putting Blacks at risk when they visit their white doctors.

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2025 MAN OF THE YEAR

Quotes on life.

Amazing PEOPLE are refining what it means to be sexy.

Known as Black America’s attorney general, Ben Crump fights for the rights of those impacted by

The world of jazz is a complex narrative filled with stories of illustrious careers, innovation, and extraordinary artistry.

We don’t want to lose it!

racism and division. We celebrate his efforts by naming him Man of the Year for 2025!.

14 MOVERS AND SHAKERS Get to know people who are making a difference in their careers and changing the world!

18 BLUEPRINT FOR JAZZ LEGACY

26 STRATEGIES FOR STAYING SANE, HEALTHY AND HAPPY Beating the holiday blues starts with not allowing yourself to fall off the wagon. If you want to start 2025 off right, follow these easy steps to create a routine that will get and keep you in shape.

52 A SPIRIT OF LIGHT AND HOPE We must ever remember that the light at the end of the tunnel is eternal, something that the follies and foibles of humankind can never extinguish.

58 DRESSING APPROPRIATE FOR YOUR AGE The dress code has been blurred with the increase of social media. Here is survival guide of how you should be appropriately dressed based on your age.

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[ INSIDE ] Taking advantage of an opportunity as soon as it exists is always sound advice. This article centers around the idea of building the right process so you can strike whether the iron is hot or not.

32 THE WORLD WITH AI Is the planet better with artificial intelligence?

We did some digging and the answers might surprise you!

69 FAITH STARTS WITH FOCUS Tamika Shanea’ Robinson-Carter’s latest book discusses the powerful journey devotion to strengthening faith to find focus with God. 70 THE DIVINE 9 Get to know people who are making a difference in their organizations and in their careers.

72 THE TIMELESS COMPOSER As Luther Vandross’s composer, Nat Adderley Jr.’s music has stood the test of time and created the kind of career that every musician dreams of placing him among R&B arts royalty.

76 ‘TIS THE SEASON TO GIVE THE GIFT OF FASHION December is the month of giving. It’s also the month to celebrate winter fashions. Sweaters and scarves dominate this giving season.

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MOVERS &

SHAKERS

Get to know people who are making a difference in their careers and changing the world!

by Paris Lampkins

JENNIFER JORDAN Two-time, Emmy-award winning journalist Jennifer Jordan joined WJWTV News in January of 2012 as the noon anchor and reporter for the evening newscasts. She currently co-anchors the 6 & 10 prime-time weekend newscasts with John Sabol.

Over the last nine years in Cleveland, Jennifer has won three national awards.

The first two, an NABJ award and RTDNA Unity Award for "Race: Our Stories," a series detailing diversity issues with African American jour-

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nalists, stemming from the police killing of Tamir Rice.

The third national award was the second-place National Headliner Award for Best Newscast for the "Brelo Verdict," the Cleveland officer charged in the East Cleveland car chase. He was found not guilty. The award was for the second-best newscast in the nation, for which Jennifer anchored with then co-anchor Bill Shiel.

Prior to joining FOX 8, Jennifer worked at New York City's WPIX-TV/ CW11 as a freelance general assignment reporter and fill-in anchor.

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KELLEN COLEMAN Kellen Coleman is a follower of Jesus Christ, an entrepreneur, strategist, and mentor who turns vision into reality. As the founder of Coleman Public Relations & Consulting Firm LLC, he helps athletes, entrepreneurs, and organizations amplify their brands while building businesses that leave a lasting legacy.

Guided by his credo "It's a Family Business, It's Different," Kellen blends professional expertise with a mission rooted in community, culture, and empowerment.

A creator at heart, he has launched ventures including Vanguard Radiology and Fomenky Publishing House, while championing immigrant entrepreneurs and minority-owned businesses across the U.S. and Africa.

His work often extends beyond borders, connecting the African diaspora to opportunities on the continent and transforming global collaboration into economic growth.

Kellen is also passionate about inspiring the next generation.

He speaks to youth through schools and non-profits like the Talented Teen Club, urging them to embrace their own stories and see no limits to what they can achieve.

For Kellen, success isn't measured in profit alone it's measured in lives uplifted, narratives reclaimed, and bridges built between communities across the world.

GRACE ROBERTS Grace Roberts is a commanding presence in media with an unmistakable voice whose influence has “graced” Cleveland’s airwaves for more than two decades. She has also become a trusted professional voice-over talent on commercial platforms nationwide.

She served as Community Affairs Director for 107.3 FM WAVE and co-host of the WAVE Morning Show, and captivated listeners as a popular on-air personality with Radio One Cleveland.

Grace is also an accomplished author. Her book, 2.6 to One: Why You Must Shrink to Grow, is a deeply transparent, collaborative work created with women from across the U.S. that offers a heartfelt blueprint of their journey toward purpose.

A seasoned moderator and speaker, Grace, most recently, co-hosted the 2025 Pink and Black Honors—a celebration of minority entrepreneurs and community trailblazers—which also featured her Fireside Chat with multitalented icon Sherri Shepherd.

Grace is also the founder of Grace Roberts, LLC (Voices of Grace), where she continues to use her platform to uplift others. A devoted veteran’s advocate, woman of faith, lover of life, and student of God’s word, she is committed to serving with genuine compassion.

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BLACK CODES: Compiled by Bilal S. Akram

We do not steal from one another.

We do not kill one another.

We do not sell or offer drugs to another.

We do combine our dollars and buy collectively as a group.

We protect our own, women and children first.

We educate our own at every chance.

We do not fight one another.

Brothers protect and build up one another.

Sisters protect and build up on another.

Brothers protect and build up sisters.

Sisters protect and build up brothers.

We look for every opportunity to start your own business servicing the need of our people first.

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BLUEPRINT FOR A JAZZ LEGACY The world of jazz is a complex narrative filled with stories of illustrious careers, innovation, and extraordinary artistry. We don’t want to lose it!

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Written by DAVID CHRISTEL David has been ghostwriting books for well-known people since 1995. He is also the author of Married Men Coming Out: The Ultimate Guide to Becoming the Man You Were Born to Be.

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here have been several hot spots for jazz in the US, New Orleans and Nashville being two of them.

What you probably don’t know is that Detroit has had a notable jazz history, too. In fact, it is home to the oldest jazz station in the world. The station is WJZZ Detroit Jazz Radio, and its mission is to “promote, celebrate, and advance the jazz culture lifestyle and its music — internationally and as an international cultural brand.”

The company, WJZZ Detroit Jazz Radio Entertainment, LLC, is headed by Rodger Penzabene, Jr. — the sole independent owner, President, and CEO of WJZZ — who singlehandedly resurrected the dormant station in 2015. The reason he relaunched the station is that jazz is literally in his blood.

But before WJZZ’s rebirth, the call letters were WCHD when the station was founded in 1959 by Drs. Haley Bell, Wendell Cox, and Robert Bass. In 1974, it was changed to WJZZ. The station held the highest Arbitron rating for jazz radio stations in the US. But before Rodger even heard of the radio station, his personal involvement with jazz began with his parents. His father, a writer and producer at Motown, received a posthumous Grammy for having written a number of famous songs.

Rodger’s mother worked for a competing record company that was eventually bought out by Motown. In 1973, she

opened and ran a club called Jazz West on Finkel Street on the west side of Detroit.

Next door was the famous Watts club, Mozambique, which didn’t serve food and closed at 2 am. Jazz West didn’t have a liquor license but was more upscale, served food, and stayed open until 6 am. So, the two clubs worked well side by side. Both clubs brought in top-level entertainers, legendary jazz artists like Nancy Wilson, Marcus Belgrave, Wendell Harrison, Eli Fontaine, Teddy Harris, Roy Brooks, Ron Carter, Lonnie Liston Smith, Yusef Lateef, and Donald Byrd and the Blackbyrds.

Rodger’s parents held parties and get-togethers for the famous entertainers, actors, and artists coming to the club. Rodger knew people were famous and important, but he hadn’t yet developed an appreciation for jazz and their work. It wasn’t until years later, when he had an MP3 player, that he suddenly got schooled. A saxophonist friend of his, Dwight, checked out what jazz music Rodger had on his player. Dwight’s response was to cuss Rodger out, letting him know that what he had on his player was garbage.

Taken aback by his friend’s response, Rodger started doing research, which began his foray into jazz and Detroit’s jazz history.

Dwight, upon realizing what Rodger didn’t know about jazz, said, “This is why we need a jazz station like WJZZ.” He kept talking about WJZZ, which Rodger later learned had closed in 1996 due to all of Bell Broadcasting’s assets being sold. ●

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WJZZ Detroit Jazz Radio Entertainment, LLC, is headed by Rodger Penzabene, Jr.

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THEY DON’T THINK WE FEEL PAIN For centuries, Blacks have been tortured and experimented on by the medical profession because it was assumed that they feel less pain than whites. Today, this theory is putting Blacks at risk when they visit their white doctors.

Written by BRAD BOWLING Brad Bowling is the President of CODE Media Group, LLC. Bowling has his BA in mass media communication and an MBA in marketing. He contributes articles to the magazine continuing his love for writing.

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here is a quiet epidemic happening in the medical industry that very few people are talking about. But Blacks all over have, and are currently, experiencing racism in the most life-threatening way when they visit the doctor.

There is an age-old myth, still believed today, that Blacks feel less pain than whites. Half of white medical trainees believe such myths as Black people have thicker skin or less sensitive nerve endings than white people.

This belief system manifests in Blacks not being believed when they come in for symptoms of pain. Black people are either not believed, sent home, or given limited resources because their cause of pain is real.

Dr. M. Norman Oliver, Virginia’s health commissioner, studies racial bias in medicine and finds that the centuries-old idea about Blacks and health still exists today.

Several years ago, researchers at the University of Virginia, including Dr. Oliver, probed the beliefs of 222 white medical students and residents and published results in the Proceedings of the National Academy of Science. Half held false physiological beliefs about African Americans. Nearly 60 percent thought their skins were thicker, and 12 percent thought their nerve endings were less sensitive than those of white people.

ed by providers, are less likely to receive opioids as part of their pain management regimen and receive less aggressive pain treatment than white patients. Further, nonwhite patients seen in emergency departments are 22– 30% less likely to receive analgesic medications, 17–30% less likely to receive narcotics, have longer wait times, and are less likely to be admitted compared with white patients.

The results of not being taken seriously put Black patients at risk and impacted the Black community overall. So, what can Blacks do to decrease the confusion and get the quality health care they deserve?

Some of them perceive the problem to come from several areas.

False beliefs and implicit bias may be driving racial and ethnic disparities in the assessment and treatment of pain.

Cultural differences among people of diverse racial

The medical students and residents who endorsed false beliefs like these were more likely to rate the pain of a Black patient as less severe than that of an otherwise identical white patient and less likely to recommend treating Black patients’ pain.

Other studies show that physicians, white ones in particular, implicitly prefer white patients, falsely viewing them as more intelligent and more likely to follow professional advice.

These belief systems by white doctors directly impact the kinds of treatments that Blacks receive. Because there are racial and ethnic disparities in pain treatment, Blacks quite often get fewer diagnostics and remedies than their white counterparts. One review found such treatment disparities are present across treatment settings. For example, minority patients are rated as having less severe pain, are less likely to receive comprehensive diagnostic and treatment approaches for pain and receive fewer analgesics than white people.

Minority patients are more likely to have their pain underestimat-

White doctors will under prescribe medications to Blacks based on their bias.

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[ HEALTH ] and ethnic backgrounds lead to differences in pain treatment preferences.

Racial and ethnic minority patients have worse pain expectations, which may influence pain treatment disparities. However, there is evidence that expectations are malleable and may serve as a good target for intervention.

Factors including language barriers, lack of access to interpreting services, cultural differences in communication styles, and health literacy all impact patient/provider communication and can lead to poor treatment adherence and outcomes.

Some doctors complain that there is sometimes a language barrier that hampers a doctor’s ability to administer the right treatment. While this notion might have been true in the Deep South, it cannot be used as an excuse to deliver inferior medical treatment.

The trust between Black patients and white doctors can be called into question based on the history of how Blacks were treated in the past by the medical community.

The US Public Health Service (USPHS) Syphilis Study at Tuskegee was conducted between 1932 and 1972 to observe the natural history of untreated syphilis. As part of the study, researchers didn’t collect informed consent from participants and they didn’t offer treatment, even after it was widely available.

Knowledge of the Tuskegee Study resulted in less trust of researchers for 51% of African Americans and 17% of whites.

Forty-six percent of African Americans and 34% of whites indicated that their knowledge of the study would affect future research participation decisions. This study sharply impacted the trust that Blacks have for doctors in general.

So how can you protect the ones you love, and yourself, when visiting a white doctor?

The best policy when looking for a primary care physician is to ask friends and family about their experiences when going to the doctor. You can also do your homework and search for recommended physicians in the area.

Quite often. It’s the medical hospital itself that is the problem. Find out if the hospital has a robust position on Diversity, Equity, and Inclusion; or if any Blacks hold positions of responsibility. Today, many medical facilities are doing good work on making sure that the infrastructure of how they administer to Blacks and pain is addressed properly.here is a quiet epidemic happening in the medical industry that very few people are talking about. But Blacks all over have, and are currently, experiencing racism is the most lifethreatening way when they visit the doctor. ●

Black doctors have a better understanding of Blacks when describing their pain.

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STAYING SANE, HEALTH Beating the holiday blues starts with not allowing yourself to fall off the wagon. If you want to start 2026 off right, follows these easy steps to creating a routine that will get and keep you in shape.

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HY AND HAPPY Written by JUAN TONEY Juan Toney owns his own fitness studio and offers classes to those who would like to work out. He is CODE M’s fitness editor and can be reached at: www.fit4everu.com

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s the holiday season approaches, so do a myriad of stressors — from overindulgence in food and drink to financial pressures and strained relationships. This time of year often brings heightened expectations, which can, paradoxically, lead to feelings of sadness and disappointment for many. With the season’s abundance of festivities, it’s easy to feel overwhelmed or even fall into the “holiday blues.” But with a little strategy, the holidays can be a season of joy rather than stress. Here’s a guide to managing expectations, setting boundaries, and prioritizing health during the holidays, so you can celebrate without losing balance.

1. Embrace Realism: Be Kind to Yourself Understanding and accepting your current life circumstances can be the first line of defense against holiday stress.

Many people struggle with time constraints, financial pressures, and a schedule full of social gatherings, while others may feel isolated and miss family. Rather than denying these realities, recognize and accept them. Realism is an antidote to unnecessary stress.

Beating the holiday blues means setting realistic expectations for yourself and others. Some years may look different from past holidays, and that’s okay. Managing expectations also means being kind to yourself if things don't go as planned. It’s important to seek support, laugh at minor setbacks, and accept life’s occasional chaos. The act of letting go of perfection can be liberating, helping you stay grounded and find moments of calm amid the holiday rush.

2. Create New Traditions As families grow and evolve, traditions can, too. Holiday traditions should reflect the personalities, needs, and values of the people involved. Rather than feeling bound to old practices, try creating rituals that fit your current lifestyle. For example, a busy working professional may not have time to recreate an elaborate holiday feast, but can still create a special meal that brings family or friends together. Similarly, those who find themselves single or far from family can invite friends to celebrate, expanding the definition of “family” to include nearby loved ones.

For divorced families, creating harmony during the holiday season is one of the greatest gifts you can give your children. Putting aside personal differences in the spirit of the holidays can make the season memorable for everyone involved. New traditions can be as simple as an evening of board games, baking holiday treats with children, or volunCODE M / DECEMBER 2025 27

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[ HEALTH ] teering together. They are the foundation of memories that reflect the holiday spirit of joy, love, and community.

these temptations. Start by focusing on balance. Aim to fill half of your plate with vegetables, choose lean protein options, and be mindful of portion sizes. Staying hydrated is essential as well, es3. Help Others to Beat the Blues pecially during colder months when dehydration can be more subOne of the most powerful ways to overcome seasonal sadness tle. Drinking water throughout the day not only supports overall is by focusing on others who may need support. The act of helphealth but also helps regulate appetite and prevent overeating. ing not only aids others but provides a sense of purpose and fulfillment. Studies show that helping others can boost mood, Exercise Regularly reduce stress, and combat loneliness. When the holiday season Exercise isn’t just for the New Year; it’s a powerful tool for managfeels overwhelming, it’s easy to become focused on our own ing holiday stress and enhancing mood. Even short, brisk walks challenges and stressors. Giving, though, can provide a valuable can help clear your mind, release endorphins, and reduce anxiety. perspective and renewed appreciation for what we have.

Regular exercise helps reduce symptoms of the blues and improves physical energy levels. If gym commitments feel overLook for opportunities to volunteer at shelters, soup kitchens, whelming, remember that exercise can take many forms, from or community events. Donating time or resources to causes dancing in the living room to winter sports like ice skating or skithat you personally resonate with can help shift the focus from ing. holiday stress to holiday joy. Engaging in acts of service reminds us of the holiday’s true meaning and connects us to others in Prioritize Sleep meaningful ways.

The holidays often mean later nights, but sleep is critical to maintaining mental health. Sleep deprivation is linked to mood fluctua4. Seek a Sacred Space tions and heightened stress, which can compound feelings of holiIn the rush of holiday errands, finding a quiet moment in a saday overwhelm. Set aside time for rest and relaxation, and create cred space can bring unexpected peace. Regardless of religious a sleep-friendly environment by limiting caffeine intake in the affiliation, many find solace in stepping into a quiet church, evening, powering down electronics before bed, and setting a mosque, synagogue, temple, or other place of worship. Sacred spaces often provide an atmosphere of reflection, offering a reprieve from holiday pressures.

Many places of worship keep their doors open and are welcoming to those seeking a moment of tranquility or spiritual grounding. Taking a few minutes to sit quietly, absorb the calm atmosphere, and reflect on the positive can be rejuvenating. It offers a reminder of the season’s deeper meanings — peace, compassion, and love.

5. Prioritize Your Health: Care for Your Body Holidays can be a minefield of temptations when it comes to food and drink. While it’s normal to indulge, maintaining a balanced approach to diet, exercise, and sleep can dramatically impact mental and physical well-being. Instead of setting New Year's resolutions to start a fitness program or cut down on sugar, why not start now? Small, mindful choices can help maintain a steady routine that minimizes post-holiday regrets.

Eat Well and Hydrate Holiday gatherings often feature high-calorie foods laden with sugar and unhealthy fats, and it can be challenging to avoid

Working out during the winter can lead to excellent results just in time for the summer.

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[ HEALTH ] consistent bedtime. Even a brief nap can help re-energize and reset, improving your ability to manage stress.

6. Manage Financial Stress One of the top sources of holiday blues comes from financial stress, as the desire to show love through gift-giving can lead to overspending. Setting a budget before holiday shopping and finding creative ways to express appreciation can help reduce financial strain. Thoughtful, handmade gifts or experiences — like a shared meal or activity — can be just as meaningful, if not more so, than costly purchases.

Avoiding last-minute shopping can also ease stress, as it allows for thoughtful, budget-friendly gift choices. Another way to manage financial pressure is by setting limits with family and friends; consider a holiday gift exchange where each person buys for only one other. Thoughtful planning will ensure that giving feels enjoyable rather than burdensome.

7. Create a “Holiday Stress-Free Zone” Designate a time or space for holiday relaxation. Creating a stress-free zone — whether it’s a quiet corner in your home, a cozy chair with your favorite book, or a weekend getaway — can help alleviate holiday pressures. Personal timeouts, when combined with the above strategies, allow you to regain bal-

ance and enjoy the season with renewed energy and focus. Try meditative activities like journaling or listening to calming music during these moments to reset your mind and body.

8. Establish Boundaries with Family and Friends Family gatherings can be challenging, especially with differing opinions, beliefs, and expectations. Set boundaries that protect your emotional well-being. Politely decline invitations if you feel overwhelmed, or limit the time spent in potentially stressful situations. Practicing assertive communication while respecting others’ perspectives can keep the peace. Remember that it's okay to prioritize self-care over people-pleasing.

Boundaries also extend to digital spaces — holiday updates on social media can lead to comparison traps that worsen holiday blues. Take breaks from scrolling and focus on the people and experiences around you to stay grounded and avoid unnecessary stress.

9. Give Yourself Permission to Feel Not all holiday blues can be cured by positive thinking, and it’s essential to honor emotions as they arise. If the holidays bring up feelings of loss, loneliness, or disappointment, acknowledge these emotions instead of suppressing them. Processing difficult emotions allows for healing and acceptance. Reach out to trusted friends, family, or mental health professionals if you need support.

10. Focus on What You Can Control The holiday season can feel chaotic, with many elements outside of our control. While it's tempting to try to manage every detail, focusing on what you can control helps maintain peace of mind. Prioritize what matters most to you — whether it's time spent with loved ones, spiritual practices, or maintaining healthy routines. Simplify plans and find joy in the small, meaningful moments, letting go of perfectionism.

Finding the Balance This Holiday Season The holidays bring joy, but they also bring stress, expectations, and potential challenges. By embracing a realistic approach, creating new traditions, focusing on health, setting boundaries, and practicing gratitude, it’s possible to celebrate the season fully while beating the holiday blues.

Instead of waiting to make post-holiday resolutions, take charge now with small, purposeful actions that make this time of year more fulfilling and enjoyable. This year, let balance, mindfulness, and self-care guide you through the holiday season. ●

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THE WORLD WITH AI Is the planet better with artificial intelligence? We did some digging and the answers might surprise you!

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People are quickly learning that the one thing they can count on since the pandemic is that nothing is the same and nothing is safe. Gone is the expectation that life is predictable. The college degree, salary, home, food, and life we all could count on are over.

When gas prices increased, there was a realization that Americans might be able to deal with this one thing. Then housing and rents increased. Then the price of food went up. Now people must deal with the threat that the job they spent $70K getting might be gone due to Artificial Intelligence (AI).

At first, it was considered acceptable. The auto attendant, self-checkout, the ATM machine, and EZ Pass for the turnpike. It seemed harmless because it made life easier — maybe even better in some ways. But today, AI is starting to disrupt lives and careers.

The recent launch of ChatGPT has literally changed the game for anyone who holds a position that interacts with

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anything digital. ChatGPT is a sibling model to InstructGPT, which is trained to follow instructions in a prompt and provide a detailed response. ChatGPT can compose essays, describe art in detail, create AI art prompts, have philosophical conversations, and even do coding.

AI has the potential to bring about numerous positive changes in society, including enhanced productivity, improved healthcare, and increased access to education. AIpowered technologies can also help solve complex problems and make our daily lives easier and more convenient.

AI already provides a range of benefits, including increased efficiency, reduced costs, improved accuracy, enhanced decision-making, and new opportunities for innovation and job creation. People have already seen this across many enterprise verticals.

Since the introduction of AI, there have been several instances where people cannot tell the difference between what is fake and what is real. Music, art, photos, movies, and video have all been impacted by the use of AI.

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[ TECH ] For the working class, AI is starting to take away everyday jobs.

Waiters in restaurants, forklift drivers, meal delivery, and a host of other positions are being eliminated due to AI. The question remains, is your job safe from the advancement of technology?

What used to be convenient has now turned into a possible threat to millions of people who thought their degree made them safe, their knowledge of their job protected them, and their length of employment made them comfortable. Now music producers, marketing professionals, and content creators must deal with the reality that a computer can create the same result, using less effort, and almost no money, all with no need for a break.

It used to be the call centers in India were the problem, and it still is. Now it’s technology that’s the threat — the same technology everyone has come to enjoy and even depend on.

In a recent study, people showed the most support for a 75% human to 25% AI decision-making collaboration or a 50%-50% split.

People still prefer to talk to people. When using AI to navigate a phone conversation, people still expect and need to speak with other humans to get their point across.

A WORLD WITH AI Now that artificial intelligence is here, many people wonder what

will happen if it’s used for evil. There are a myriad of risks having to do with AI that people deal with in their lives today. Not every AI risk is as big and worrisome as killer robots or a sentient AI. Some of the biggest risks today include things like consumer privacy, biased programming, danger to humans, and unclear legal regulation.

ChatGPT is an incredible invention. It can be used in all sorts of applications, including bad ones. Recently there was a song created using ChatGPT using the likeness of Drake that went viral online.

“Heart on My Sleeve,” the song created by TikTok user Ghostwriter97, combining the AI-generated voices of Drake and the Weeknd, managed to go viral, accumulating millions of plays across Spotify, TikTok, and YouTube before being taken down; the song wasn’t a joke, and its success shone a spotlight on the blurry legal issues that arise when something fake creates revenue and the original artist doesn’t benefit from it.

Despite the originality of the artwork, the US Copyright Office has taken the position that AI-generated images themselves are not entitled to copyright protection, as they are not the product of human authorship and therefore do not meet the definition of original. The same goes for music created using AI. That goes for an AI art piece. It can’t be protected either by typical copyrighting standard practices. One AI art generator, Deep AI, states on its Terms of Service page that all content created using its AI tools is free of copyright, including for all legal uses, such as personal and commercial gain. This blurry line will only create more questions as the use of AI expands into all areas of marketing, content creation, and publication.

Currently, AI-generated images are free for commercial use.

AI art does not have automatic copyright protection, and ownership cannot be claimed.

THE FUTURE WITH AI The impact of AI on society is a complex and multi-faceted topic. Like any powerful technology, AI has the potential to bring both positive and negative consequences. It’s important to consider various aspects when evaluating its effects.

Ron Busby worked with President Barak Obama on increasing funding for Black businesses.

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It’s possible AI could revolutionize numerous fields and improve society in several ways. It can enhance productivity, automate repetitive tasks, assist in scientific research, drive innovation, and improve healthcare outcomes. AI-powered

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[ TECH ] systems can provide valuable insights, make accurate predictions, and help in decision-making processes.

Economic Impact – AI has the potential to create new job opportunities and boost economic growth. It can lead to the development of new industries and contribute to increased efficiency and competitiveness in existing sectors. However, there are concerns about the displacement of certain jobs, particularly those that are routine or repetitive in nature, which may require society to adapt and reskill workers accordingly.

Another way to use AI to generate passive income is by creating AI-powered products. For example, you could create a chatbot or virtual assistant and sell it to businesses. Once the product is developed, it could be used to generate passive income by selling it without having to put in any additional effort. It could also be used for: Freelance copywriting – This is perhaps the most obvious way of making money online with generative AI, but it’s also hugely lucrative.

Ethical Considerations – AI raises important ethical questions that need to be addressed. Issues such as data privacy, algorithmic bias, and transparency are critical to ensure that AI is used responsibly and does not perpetuate discrimination or harm individuals. Establishing ethical frameworks and regulations for AI deployment is crucial to mitigate potential negative impacts.

Freelance coding – ChatGPT, and other AI LLMs, can be used for coding.

Social Implications – AI can have far-reaching social consequences. It may alter the dynamics of the labor market, impact social interactions, and raise concerns about autonomy and accountability. The deployment of AI systems must consider potential consequences and prioritize human well-being, fairness, and social cohesion.

In summary, AI has the potential to bring significant benefits to society, but it also poses challenges that need to be addressed. It requires careful consideration, responsible development, and the establishment of regulatory frameworks to maximize its positive impact while mitigating potential risks. We each need to take our time, protect our income, and make sure we do our research before making any decisions about how to use ChatGPT or AI. Happy hunting! ●

Security and Privacy – The increasing reliance on AI systems also presents security and privacy challenges. AI technologies can be vulnerable to hacking, and the misuse of personal data collected by AI systems can lead to privacy breaches. Ensuring robust security measures and protecting individuals’ privacy are essential aspects of AI development and deployment.

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There is no doubt that the future of AI is here to stay. For those who work in industries that use AI or ChatGPT, there are many ways to work with the technology to make money. Here are some of the top ways to earn an income using ChatGPT: •

Find unclaimed money

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Build an app, website, or service

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Get business ideas from ChatGPT

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Create an AI chatbot

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Email affiliate marketing

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Delivery services are using robots to send food to customers.

AI has started to replace many jobs that used to be conducted by humans.

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FACE Face is the creator and visionary behind EverythingbyFace, a luxuryforward beauty and lifestyle brand known for creating an experience through good vibes and positive energy. As a beauty expert specializing in browsbyface and elevated facial services, he has shaped a loyal community of diverse women. His clients trust his eye for detail and commitment to excellence. Face, has mastered the art of delivering services that blend artistry, technique, and a signature BYFACE touch. His brand extends beyond the treatment room—Face is also the creator of EF cosmetics, specializing in high quality lip gloss, and BYFACE apparel. He is a lifestyle curator and event planner known for introducing his clientele to "the life". His latest partnership with Life Time Beachwood featured "Adult Swim" parties and a Garden Party.

Face's mission is simple: elevate to the space that you belong, through loving energy, authenticity and service.

You can find him inside Life Time Beachwood 3850 Richmond Rd. 216.381.3223 and on Instagram: Face_thelife

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Known as Black America’s attorney general, Ben Crump fights for the rights of those impacted by racism and division. We celebrate his efforts by naming him Man of the Year for 2025!

Written by BRAD BOWLING Brad Bowling is the President of CODE Media Group, LLC. Bowling has his BA in mass media communication and an MBA in marketing. He contributes articles to the magazine continuing his love for writing.

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mericans are living in a new era of how it supports its national leaders. In a country of divided politics and ideals, leaders must pick a side if they want to play in the game. Blacks are no different. In a world where everyone and everything is open to criticism, the term leader takes on a whole new meaning.

Attorney Ben Crump does not use today’s standards to determine how he is going to be perceived. He understands that not everyone is going to agree with his choice of cases he takes,

how he addresses the nation, or how he goes about his business fighting for Black America.

Crump, considered to be Black America’s attorney general, travels across the country to fight for the rights of those who are in situations that require seasoned representation. He often picks his cases using two sets of criteria.

“I often use the process that the great Thurgood Marshall used when he decided on the cases he would take,” Crump continued, “Marshall said, ‘take the case that will impact the most people. And take the case that will shock the legal system.’”

Crump encourages all Blacks, and anyone who might feel marginalized to join an organization and give back to help the cause. Crumps feels like everyone needs to belong to something that creates union and membership. The best way for everyone to win is for everyone to participate in the process.

Benjamin Lloyd Crump was born on October 10, 1969, in Lumberton, North Carolina. He specializes in civil rights and catastrophic personal injury cases such as wrongful death lawsuits.

His practice has focused on cases such as those of Trayvon Martin, Breonna Taylor, Michael Brown, George Floyd, Keenan Anderson, Randy Cox, and Tyre Nichols, people affected by the Flint water crisis, the estate of Henrietta Lacks, and the plaintiffs behind the 2019 Johnson & Johnson baby powder lawsuit alleging the company's talcum powder product led to ovarian cancer diagnoses. Crump is also the founder of the firm Ben Crump Law of Tallahassee, Florida.

Ben Crump’s office is wherever the next case is. He travels the country tirelessly to represent those who have been wronged by the system. He fights for Blacks in the past, present, and future. He has won cases that no one else can win, and he is determined that if Blacks stay committed, the war for equality can be won.

In 2025, Crump’s mission was to make sure that Blacks understood the mission at hand. With every law erased, with every policy eliminated, and with every gain destroyed, it is ever clearer that Blacks need to rally and join in the fight to main-

Ben Crump’s latest book, Open Season.

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And he is not wrong. Any gains made for Blacks over the last 50 to 70 years have either been eliminated or attacked by the current federal administration. But it goes a step further. Policy is not the only place where Blacks are suffering. National statistics show that Blacks are suffering from changes in the employment market, too.

Positions typically held by Blacks are under attack as the classification of a degreed profession is no longer deemed degreed. Blacks are being eliminated from white collar positions as well. Companies no longer feel obligated to hire Blacks or maintain a certain number of minority employees.

Black suffering has increased across the board, whether it be financial, academic, or political. Crump and his team understand where the country is and implore Black Americans to fight the good fight.

“Remember what Frederick Douglass said, ‘without struggle, there can be no progress.’” Crump continued, “He wanted people to know that you cannot get depressed because of the struggle, you cannot be discouraged because of the struggle, if anything, we have to celebrate the struggle because as long as we are in the struggle, that means that our Black children have a better day coming.”

Crump quotes past leaders when referencing today’s problems, which underscores the fact that the problems Blacks face are not new. However, how Blacks address today’s struggles is new.

ever. If Crump is going to have an impact, he must be different.

And different he is. Crump is still powerful because he lives with integrity. You will not find any content that blemishes his resume. Crump does not have a need to sell a ticket or work for political gain. As a working attorney, he makes his money in the old-fashioned way: he earns it. He has no agenda other than to fight for the rights of those in need.

Simply put, Crump cannot be cancelled. Knowing that makes him a very powerful figure in the fight for justice for all Blacks.

It is very clear what he stands for when you see the kinds of cases he takes.

Erica McGriff: Crump is representing McGriff, who alleges she was subjected to excessive force, including a chokehold and being punched, during an arrest outside a school in Jacksonville, FL. William McNeel Jr.: Crump is representing McNeel, who claims he was brutally beaten and suffered a brain injury during a traffic stop in Jacksonville, after being pulled over for allegedly not having his headlights on in daylight.

Henrietta Lacks estate: Crump filed a lawsuit against Thermo Fisher, alleging the company profited from the DNA of

Gone are the days when Black people all lived in the same community. Gone are the days when the Black church was the center of the movement for equality and rights, and gone are the Blackowned publications that spread the word and kept the community abreast of what was going on.

Today, Blacks live everywhere. The Black church has been reduced to a few songs and speeches, and social media is the new pipeline for information—tough conditions for a national figure to rally the troops to all get on the same page.

By today's standards, Crump feels like he is the last national figure to hold Black America’s attention. Today, people often listen to the message, not the messenger. Black America’s appetite to tear down its musicians, actors, and political leaders is stronger than

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Top: Fraser and Daymond John.

Middle: Fraser and Secretary Colin Powell.

Bottom: Fraser and Robert Smith.

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Crump continues to represent families in police brutality and civil rights cases across the country.

He is also known for his work on high-profile cases like those of George Floyd and Breonna Taylor, where his firm helped negotiate substantial settlements.

These are just a few of the cases that Crump’s team has taken on in order to right the wrongs against them.

The Crump law firm receives over 50,000 calls a month from people who seek representation. Crump takes the cases that will have the most impact when the verdict is read.

One recent case Crump has taken is the Massillon, Ohio, high school football team case, where the local police pepper-sprayed the Black football team during a heated standoff at the end of a football game against a white school. Crump knew taking that case would send a message to Black kids across the country.

We took that case because I want Black kids all over the country to know that their rights are worth protecting too,” Crump said. “We have to send a message as early as possible that these kids that protected by the law, and they are worth fighting for.”

Crump feels like it is important for Black youth to protect their rights. He knows that if they feel like they did not have the voice of protection as young adults, they would grow into adults who would not seek legal justice when they encounter abuse.

“We need to send a powerful message to our Black children and set the precedent early that they, too, are important, and the laws protect them as well,” Crump said.

As 2025 draws to a close, Blacks are learning that their expectations of equality and fairness have been reduced. They are beginning to understand that there is no amount of preparation, education or advancement in life that will protect them from injustice.

The last option on the table is for Blacks to come together, to vote together, and to fight the good fight together, in solidarity as a block.

Crump encourages all Blacks and anyone who might feel marginalized to join an organization and give back to help the cause. Crumps feels like everyone needs to belong to something that creates union and membership. The best way for everyone to win is for everyone to participate in the process.

Powerful words from one of the country’s last leaders. CODE M uses a difficult process to determine who should be the man of the year. With so much at stake, with so much at risk, the magazine does not take the decision on who is going to grace the cover of the magazine lightly.

The tagline of the magazine is, “Transforming the lives of men.” The person who becomes our man of the year must do exactly that. He must represent the best of us, he must be an example to all of America what Black America looks like when you combine honor with class, and education with determination.

We salute and honor Ben Crump for his shining example of what Black America looks like when it takes advantage of all of its opportunities. Congratulations, Ben Crump, CODE M Magazine’s 2025 Man of the Year! ●

Faith and conviction guide Ben Crump.

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A YEAR OF LIGHT AND HOPE We must ever remember that the light at the end of the tunnel is eternal, something that the follies and foibles of humankind can never extinguish.

Written by DAVID CHRISTEL David has been ghostwriting books for well-known people since 1995. He is also the author of Married Men Coming Out: The Ultimate Guide to Becoming the Man You Were Born to Be.

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ight now, life is looking pretty bleak and scary. We seem to be going down a rabbit hole where we’re losing our humanity, our connection to who we truly are. As we spiral downward, we’re losing our identity because of: •

racism, elitism, and separatism

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purposeful ignorance and ideological extremism

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fundamentalism and cults from religious to political

No doubt about it, the world is a mess with so many competing forces seeking power, wealth, fame, status, influence, domination, and control. The majority of people, though, are only seeking to live comfortably and create a life with as little stress as possible. Very simply, they want peace of mind, stability, safety, and the chance to enjoy a life of meaning and fulfillment.

Day by day, that’s becoming more difficult to achieve and maintain as uncertainty, anxiety, and fear insinuate themselves into every nook and cranny of our society. What are we to do?

There are a lot of causes and movements a person could join to combat the things seemingly trying to diminish and tear us down. They can make us feel useful, empowered, activated, energized, and even give us a sense of fulfillment. Yet they are all derived externally. One day, we’ll wake up and realize that what used to fulfill us doesn’t anymore.

What occurs then is a feeling of emptiness, a void bereft of anything attractive and compelling. We feel listless, untethered, wandering aimlessly through our days wondering what will give us that electric vivacity we used to experience with all the things we fill our lives with. But it doesn’t reactivate and life’s enticing neonicity no longer entices us.

borders. Uncomfortable disruption is occurring threatening our sense of reality, of “the pursuit of happiness.” We awaken to another day of anxiety wondering what horrible new surprise awaits us. Life is chipping away at our defenses against the dark shadow, our life force fading degree by degree.

But — that isn’t the whole story. Though the narrative of the dark shadow is very real, there is something more powerful and enlivening residing within us that needs unleashing. No, it’s not “Release the Kraken!” Instead, it’s “Release your Light.”

You’ve no doubt heard “Let your light shine!” That’s not to be taken lightly (pun intended). These days, we need all the light brought into the world that we can muster — individually and collectively. Let’s begin with each of us as individuals.

What really needs addressing is what’s going on within us, within our hearts and minds — we need to traverse and awaken to our own emotional terrain in order to find genuine contentment, joy, and fulfillment. The outcome is that we’ll be able to discern the things that truly matter to us and invest our time, energy, creativity, and heart into them.

Many people won’t want to do this for fear of revealing dark memories of trauma and pain. Others fear exposing unsavory things about themselves, and the experiences that cause them shame and regret. Then there are those who believe they are such bad or pitiful and unlovable people that they don’t deserve a better life.

That’s when the million-dollar questions begin floating through our consciousness: What’s it all about? Why am I here? Does my life have any meaning? Has it all been worth it? Where am I going?

As we look around us today, a dark shadow is slowly encroaching on our internal

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[ OPINION] And, of course, there are those who pooh-pooh this kind of work because they insist they’re on top of their game, they’re a winner, they’ve got everything handled and they’re in control — life is for the taking and not for the weak of heart. For them, they’ve got life figured out, and that they are a Master of the Universe.

Finally, there are those who need someone else to tell them how to think and act, who to be, and what to believe. They fully support a hierarchical reality led and devised by “authorities.” They are willing to be subsumed into another person’s reality in order to feel safe and that life is ordered and planned. They fear the unknown, fluidity, and change.

The fact is that all of us are in the same boat to some degree, so no one is actually alone, though it certainly feels like it at times. The other fact to come to terms with is that we’re all in this together.

Amazingly, a lot of people don’t care much for this idea. They prefer to remain exclusive, separate from those not of their “tribe” whether that tribe is derived by ancestry, race, economics, gender, work, sports team, language, academic degrees, culture, politics, religion, country, or any of the other multitude of distinctions humans come up with.

Now you know why the world is in such a mess. So many competing forces, perspectives, and agendas vying for recognition, control,

power, and authority — or to just be left alone in one’s own little universe.

With all this reality interference swarming about us, it’s quite challenging to rise above it, see it for what it is, and to dispel it. The only way to do that is to recognize ourselves for who we truly are: a divine spark of God, Divine Power, the Universe, All-That-Is — however you want to state it. Hence, let the light already residing within us shine!

What that means is that WE are the light at the end of the tunnel because we ARE the light itself. So, it’s time to open the shutters of our heart and let that divine light shine unfettered — unconditionally. By doing so, we recognize that true power comes from a full heart, not a bank account, title, what we own, who we know, what we think we control, the accolades we garner, or anything else outside ourselves.

With this approach, we can be the change we seek in the world. We can create a year of light and hope to create a more life-affirming future.

But there are three things we have to be willing to do: 1) surrender our cherished beliefs about who we think we are — our egos, 2) take a step back from the world so that we can see a larger, more dispassionate picture, and 3) choose to be love, be peace, be compassion, be kindness, be discernment, be selflessness, be generosity, be adaptability, be authenticity, be grace, be integrity, be the light.

It's not just talk, it’s a way of life, a way of being in life every single day.

Coming into this world, we each have a mandate: Be you, the truest essence of who you are at heart. If we each take on this mandate with fullest sincerity 24/7, not only will we each discover life’s deeper meaning, but every interaction we have in every relationship will reveal the greater connection of two hearts meeting, rather than as adversaries or as threats to one another.

All it takes is a simple choice, one that can change your individual world and the world at large. Envision the upcoming year as a year of light and hope. Let your light shine. Be the truest essence of you! ●

Praise is on the rise for many who seek a better way forward.

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DRESSING APPROPRIATELY FOR YOUR AGE The dress code has been blurred with the increase of social media. Here is survival guide of how you should be appropriately dressed based on your age.

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Written by CY BORG Cy Borg is an artificial intelligence writer. Using Open A.I., Cy responds to various prompts with fully-qualified answers using the internet and technology.

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h, dressing for your age — the sartorial equivalent of navigating a minefield blindfolded. Somewhere between your childhood Spider-Man pajamas and the orthopedic shoes of your golden years lies a mythical sweet spot where your wardrobe says, “I’m fabulous and ageappropriate,” instead of screaming, “I’m desperately clinging to my youth” or worse, “I’ve given up.” Dressing for your age is about embracing who you are while trying not to traumatize the neighbors or cause teenage bystanders to sigh audibly. Let’s dig in, shall we?

Childhood: Anything Goes (Until Your Parents Step In) Ah, childhood — a time when you could wear a tutu with rain boots and a Batman cape to a grocery store, and no one would blink. This is the only age when glitter, mismatched socks, and cartoon-themed shirts are considered both appropriate and adorable. It’s also the time when adults praise your “individual style,” which is their polite way of saying, “You look like you dressed in the dark, but you’re a kid, so we’ll let it slide.” Sadly, this blissful freedom disappears as you age, and society begins expecting consistency and taste. Boring.

Teens: The Phase of Questionable Choices

you really wearing that?” or the classic, “I don’t understand your generation.” Fear not, adults: teens don’t understand their generation either.

Your 20s and 30s: The Identity Crisis Years Welcome to the years when you can still technically shop in the juniors’ section, but probably shouldn’t. Your 20s are a wild mix of college hoodies, job interview blazers, and the occasional wedding guest outfit that costs more than your rent. By your thirties, you start to notice things like “dry clean only” tags and realize you probably shouldn’t wear graphic T-shirts with ironic slogans to work anymore.

This is also the age when some folks start clinging to their youth for dear life. No, Chad, you cannot wear your cargo shorts to a cocktail bar. And Karen, let’s discuss the glitter crop tops: Just because you can doesn’t mean you should.

Your 40s and 50s: The Sweet Spot (Maybe) This is the moment when you find yourself saying things like, “Is it comfortable?” before making a purchase. By now, you know what looks good on you — a skill honed through decades of trial and error — and you’ve finally learned to appreciate quality fabrics. Sure, you may lean into a “capsule wardrobe,” but hey, if it works, it works. Just don’t drift into “mom jeans and orthopedic sandals” territory too soon, or someone will stage an intervention.

Teenagers are the brave trailblazers of fashion … and also its most tragic victims. With their natural confidence and unlimited access to TikTok trends, teens are unafraid to experiment, often at the cost of their dignity. One day, they’re sporting ripped jeans that have more holes than fabric; the next, they’re wearing shoes that look like alien 60s and Beyond: The Era of True Fashion Freedom spaceships. And let’s not forget their devotion to logos — the bigger, the better. If their shirt doesn’t scream a brand name loud Congratulations! You’ve reached the Promised Land: the age enough to be heard in the next town over, is it even fashion? when you can wear whatever you darn well please, and no Parents, meanwhile, stand at the ready to mutter phrases like, “Are one can say a word. Want to rock sequins on a Tuesday afternoon? Do it. Feeling bold enough for a lime green muumuu? Live your truth. After decades of worrying about what’s “in” or “out,” you’ve finally earned the right to dress for nobody but yourself. Comfort reigns supreme, style is optional, and somewhere, a younger person is whispering, “I hope I’m that cool when I’m older.”

In Conclusion: Age Is Just a Number, But Fashion Is a Statement

At the end of the day, dressing for your age is less about following rules and more about striking a balance between comfort, confidence, and sanity. It’s about wearing what feels right without looking like you lost a bet. Whether you’re 7, 17, or 70, the most important thing you can wear is a smile (and, let’s be honest, pants — pants are important).

So go forth, dress boldly, and remember: If anyone questions your outfit choices, just tell them you’re starting a trend.

Works every time. ●

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Taking advantage of an opportunity as soon as it exists is always sound advice.

This article centers around the idea of building the right process so you can strike whether the iron is hot or not.

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[ BUSINESS ] [ VIDEO REVIEW ] hen William Butler Yeats coined the phrase, “Do not wait to strike till the iron is hot; but make it hot by striking,” he didn’t know that quote would become the catchphrase to define taking advantage of an opportunity. But that is exactly what people are doing in 2023.

It is very clear that America is different: Different in the fact that inflation is increasing faster than pay. Different in that rent is now, on average, $2,000 a month. Different in that something must change if people are going to make it over the next three to five years. And finally, different in that people are less and less happy with their financial status so they are searching for solutions.

As people search for alternative incomes to add to their primary income, they’re finding that there are options available to them. Adding a part-time job is one option, working with a delivery app (e.g., Uber, Door Dash, Grubhub).

Keith has decided that he’s going to work 100 hours a week to ensure that he’s successful with his consulting business. Working 100 hours means that he’s not waiting for the iron to strike. He is creating his own opportunity by working his plan as hard as he can.

“Luck looks a lot like hard work,” Brayden from Battle Creek, Michigan said. “I’m not waiting for an opportunity to find me. I’m going out, working my tail off, and I’m creating my own winning formula.”

Brayden bought a box truck and started delivering for companies like Amazon and other companies that needed packages moved around the state and country. Brayden knew he would, most likely, work more hours. But he schedules his own day, makes great money, and doesn’t have to worry about being laid off or fired.

This is a huge change for some people. Working for yourself can

But the key to not missing an opportunity to strike is to never worry about whether an opportunity will come or not.

The key is to develop a plan and work on that plan for as long as it takes to make the plan work.

If you wait for the right situation to come along, you may never advance on your goals. When Yeats said “Do not wait until the iron is hot,” he advised that opportunity comes from the work put in to create it. If you have a desire for a different life, Yeats advised that it’s better to create that life, than to wait for it.

And people are doing just that across the country. They’re not waiting for something to happen to them, they’re going out and creating an opportunity for themselves.

Keith, from Aurora, Ohio was laid off from his job recently.

He sensed that changes were coming when new leadership was hired. So, he planned to be released and started to look at his options for his next position.

“My goal, since I knew I was going to be let go, was to make sure that I work on my own terms,” Keith said. “So, I work day and night, I started my own consulting company, and I’m going to attack my goals so that I never have to work for anyone again.”

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[ LIFE ] be difficult if you don’t understand all the aspects of being an entrepreneur. Bookkeeping, banking, sales, taxes, marketing, and financing are all part of what it takes to run a good business.

Most people will struggle in one or more of those areas. If you do, work to find solutions that fill the gap of where your skills end.

“I thought owning my own business would be fun. What I realized after a couple of years is that I work longer hours and harder than when I worked for a company,” said Julie from Washington DC. “If you’re not going to dedicate yourself to your craft, you’ll ultimately fail. But if you succeed, working for yourself is one of the most gratifying things you can do.”

There is also a satisfaction factor that needs to be discussed.

Post-pandemic people are finding that they’re not happy in their current positions. The job no longer makes them happy, or they realize that working paycheck to paycheck is not living. So, they’re redefining what makes them happy.

Quiet quitting is a post-COVID term that describes an employee who is still working but has checked out of their current position or career. They come to work every day, but they are working on quitting their position or have simply just checked out.

Public school teachers are one example of an industry where teachers are quitting by the thousands across the country and

looking for other careers.

“I would wake up and couldn’t breathe. I thought something was wrong with me. I went to the doctor, and he asked me if I was stressed out, I said ‘No, I don’t have any stress,’” Nikki from Memphis said. “He asked me what I did for a living, I said teacher, and he said that my job was causing me stress.”

Nikki left her profession, she left a great pension, and she left the stress of dealing with teaching. Her health problems went away, and she’s now working a job that pays her bills with a lot less stress. She had no idea that her job was causing her to have health problems.

The bottom line: tomorrow is not promised. The faster you can get to your true purpose, the happier you will be, and the more fun life will be. Work in a position that allows you to work on your main goal and don’t stop until you hit your goals. Pick up the iron, and strike as often as you can, for as long as you can until you create the kind of life you always imagined. ●

Developing your passion is the key to success.

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Phillip Weeden has an audience ofJermel over 750,000 Youtube D. Carr details the subscribers. process of winning in the game of life with his latest book.

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Tamika Shanea’ RobinsonCarter’s latest book discusses the powerful journey devotion to strengthening faith to find focus with God.

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Born from her “Convos with God FB series”, personal seasons of reflection, growth, and faith, Faith x Focus is a 7-day devotional written by Tamika Shanea’ Robinson-Carter to help readers slow down, reconnect with God, and regain clarity in the midst of life’s noise.

Through carefully selected Scripture (KJV + NIV), uplifting affirmations, and heartfelt prayers, Tamika invites readers into daily moments of stillness and intentional focus.

of reflection, Faith x Focus creates a sacred space to reset your spirit and refocus your heart.

This devotional is an invitation to pause, breathe, and walk forward—aligned, strengthened, and grounded in faith. ● Available on: https://www.stan.store/tamikashanea1

Each day explores themes such as faith, peace, clarity, courage, purpose, gratitude, and surrender—guiding readers toward deeper trust in God and renewed spiritual alignment. Drawing from her own journey of balancing faith, purpose, and everyday life, Tamika offers a devotional experience that feels personal, calming, and encouraging.

Whether used in the morning, evening, or during quiet moments

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DIVINE 9

Get to know people who are making a difference in their organizations and in their careers.

By Bilal S. Akram

BRIAN K. POTIER Brian K. Potier is a native of Lake Charles, LA., and a Spring 2020 initiate of the Zeta Psi Lambda Chapter of Alpha Phi Alpha Fraternity, Inc. He is the visionary behind the establishment of Tau Kappa Lambda, the first chapter of Alpha in Panama and in Central America.

On February 5, 2021, having been in the Fraternity for eleven months, Brother Potier inquired about starting a chapter in Panama. He developed and conducted the Panama Alphas Educational Series, a series of seven classes geared toward high school students in Colon, Panama –

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the most populous Afro-Panamanian city on the isthmus. The series was approved in 2023 by the Ministry of Education for inclusion in the school’s curriculum.

Brother Potier continues to volunteer at schools across the country.

He has also provided full-ride university scholarships for deserving Panamanian scholars and has plans to expand this ever-important scope of benevolence.

With his recent purchase still under construction, Potier’s Casa Legado (“Legacy House” in Spanish) will be Panama’s first Alpha House and the first of its kind in all Latin America.

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LORI WRIGHT Lori Wright is a dynamic professional who blends technical expertise with a passion for service and mentorship. She currently serves as an Adobe Workfront System Administrator and Agile Product Owner at Ernst & Young (EY), where she drives innovation and efficiency through technology solutions. Beyond her corporate role, Lori's commitment to education and community empowerment shines through her role as Co-Director of EY's Cleveland College Map program—a multiyear group mentoring initiative that provides local high school students with guidance, encouragement and resources to access higher education.

Her strong faith in God is central to her life, and she is an active member of Abundant Grace Fellowship Church, where she finds inspiration and fellowship. Lori has been a proud member of Delta Sigma Theta Sorority, Inc. since 1985. She recently reconnected with her sisterhood through the Greater Cleveland Alumnae Chapter, continuing her lifelong dedication to service, scholarship, and sisterhood.

Lori is a graduate of DePaul University. She's a native of Pittsburgh and an avid Steelers fan. Lori now calls South Euclid home, where she lives with her husband and son. A mother of three,

she values family as her greatest blessing and loves time spent creating lasting memories together. In her free time, Lori enjoys paper crafting, reading, traveling, and photography—hobbies that reflect her creativity and love for exploration.

DERELL BEDINGFIELD, JR. Meet Derell Bedingfield Jr, Senior at the University of Toledo. Studying Public Relations, Derell has used his experience and personal outreach to connect with people all over the map. Oldest of 5 to Lakia Griggs, Derell has made huge strides within Cleveland (where he was born and raised) and anywhere his charismatic personality has driven him to go.

Leading to his college endeavors, Bedingfield earned (15) Division 1 scholarships. He decided to attend The University of Toledo. While in his freshman year, Bedingfield Jr won the 2022 MAC Championship along with the 2022 Boca Raton Bowl Championship. In addition to these feats, Bedingfield earned a place on the Dean’s List with a 3.5 GPA while also becoming a 2023 initiate of Alpha Phi Alpha Fraternity Inc. Currently, Bedingfield Jr is a member of: The National Association of Black Journalists, Public Relations Student Society of America, Lambda Pi Eta Nat. Communications Honors Society. Holding multiple positions within Alpha Phi Alpha Fraternity Inc. Earning his degree, while just completing over 200 volunteering hours, continuing to be a representative for his younger siblings and family and growing his Junk Removal Business “WrldWdePros Hauling” are at the forefront of the list for Derell as he continues to navigate through his personal and professional development.

Bedingfield Jr, is currently seeking Graduate Assistant positions for multiple Universities and will graduate from The University of Toledo in May, 2026. He credits every ounce of his being and breath to Jesus Christ.

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THE TIMELESS COMPOSER As Luther Vandross’s composer, Nat Adderley Jr.’s music has stood the test of time and created the kind of career that every musician dreams of placing him among R&B arts royalty.

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[ MUSIC ] aking a song and remaking it has always existed in music. Often, a country artist would take a popular song and sing it as a country song. No changes were made to the way the song was composed; just sung differently. That all changed when Nat Adderley Jr. and Luther Vandross started making music.

Their ability to rebirth a song was something totally different was an industry first and a musical invention at the same time.

“Superstar was my time composing for Luther, and originally, I did not like what we were doing. But after we slowed it down so much, I fell in love with it,” Adderley said.

Superstar was the beginning of something special between the duo. With the help of Adderley, Vandross’s career was defined by their ability to take others’ songs and re-create them in an entirely new way.

If Adderley was not composing music for Vandross, he was playing. A House Is Not a Home was one of the first times they worked together. Adderley remembers the one-take session to make the hit record.

“Luther flew me to New York to record A House Is Not a Home.

“Adderley continued, “I told him that I could have found him a piano player in the city to play on the record, but he insisted, so I

flew up there and we did the song in one take.”

That day was the beginning of a wonderful period when the two created some of R&B's best music. Songs that are considered timeless by today's standards cemented both artists as some of the most respected musicians in the industry.

Adderley ended up joining Vandross’s band and touring all over the world.

Born in Quincy, Florida, on May 23, 1955, he grew up in Teaneck, New Jersey, moving to that suburban New York City community with his family when he was five years old.

He started playing piano as a child and had his first song, I'm on My Way, recorded by his uncle Cannonball on the 1967 album Why Am I Treated So Bad! by the Cannonball Adderley Quintet when the young Nat Adderley was only 11 years old.

With the support of his family, Adderley studied music a The Juilliard School, a world-class performing arts school. One of his first opportunities to play music was for Ashford and Simpson’s, Valerie.

After his tenure with Vandross was over, Adderley returned to his jazz roots, performing his own works, as well as tributes to both his father and uncle. He cites his influences as Chick Corea, John Coltrane, and Thelonious Monk. In a 2009 interview with the StarLedger, he said pianists "who are killing me" include Kenny Barron, Herbie Hancock, Cedar Walton, and Joe Zawinul.

His latest release, Took So Long, offers a blend of modern jazz with a touch of R&B mixed in for one amazing project.

Adderley still tours the country and enjoys the opportunities to collaborate with some of music's great artists.

For those who know his music, they will never forget the impact he had on how music is made and how he changed the way classics were recomposed to be something else. Bravo Nat Adderley Jr. ●

Nat Adderley Jr.’s latest release, Took So Long.

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‘TIS THE SEASON TO GIVE THE GIFT OF FASHION December is the month of giving. It’s also the month to celebrate winter fashions.

Sweaters and scarves dominate this giving season.

Written by LARON HARLEM

A wardrobe shopper, stylist, and accessories designer who specializes in dapper looks that truly appeal to the most discerning eye. mailto: styledbydecar-lo@gmail.com, https://www.styledbydecarlo.com/

There is nothing like making sure the gift matches her outfit. Red is the color of love and romance.

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Cadillac CT5-V $48,990 The high-performance 2025 CT5-V and CT5-V Blackwing variants are also being updated. They get the tech updates of the regular CT5 plus distinctly sporty facelifts, and the Blackwing model now has Carbon Fiber Packages available.

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Fathers often will provide protection and guidance for their daughters. They also provide a sense of fashion when gifting their kids with warm sweaters.

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The warmth of a turtleneck cannot be denied.

Especially when it’s wrapped by a special someone.

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DJ Johnie O is the owner of Nerve DJ’s Mixtapes.

Sharing a hug is warm.

Sharing a hug in warm sweaters makes Christmas comfortable and special.

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