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Free Issue 312 Jan/Feb 2018

Life in the Inner West Est. 2005 ciaomagazine.com.au

Celebrate Year of the Dog Calligraphy, Asian film and lion dances

Going deep into the Barossa Valley Sex therapist Cat O’Dowd on consent Canada Bay’s war on waste and rising tides

GIVEAWAYS Happy End

“The Lunar Issue “


Benvenuto We welcome 2018, Lunar Year of the Dog with the friendliness (and ferocity) of our furry friends. 2018 is the year to mark out our territories, adapt to our new council areas and creating stronger communities. Once the holiday smiles have worn off and you are back to the grind, chat more to your neighbour, say hello when you walk the dog, PIF as much as you can and take your earphones out to listen to your surroundings. Dump the device in favour of community festivals and community courses, walk instead of wasting time looking for a parking spot and bring a bag when you shop (as if you don’t already!). We are getting set for a paradigm shift, the latte set is well and truly entrenched into the Inner West, property prices have peaked (as if), the uncertainty of our infrastructure is gone (Westconnex, the 33 km tunnel will open March 2019, like it or lump it), and independent craft beer on tap at your local is a big sign of how much your choices matter. Step back and appreciate how fortunate we are to have so many excellent resources on our doorsteps – libraries, health facilities, parks, cafes, shopping centres, retail strips, bird corridors, wetlands, bike tracks and everything else. Enjoy your time in our enviable villages and never forget how lucky you really are. So last year

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Bay Bitch

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KING TIDE There is talk on the Bay Run about the high tides that have appeared over summer. Walkers are murmuring about the closure of a lane on city west link near Hawthorne canal in early January, and complaining that they can’t take their precious pooches for swims at their local swimming beach just before Iron Cove bridge – the water is just too deep. For the casual observer of the bay, it isn’t hard to notice the high level of the water as it laps closer and closer to our pathway. Weirdly at the same time, there seems to be an abundance of jumping fish flying high in the Bay seemingly trying to escape the overwhelming amount of water. Something appears to be happening.

powers to regain some semblance of control and dignity, we can’t just let it happen without a fight. The melting icebergs are far away and perhaps unattainable, but the nearby tunnels of West Connex are closer and perhaps are disturbing the reclaimed land on the shores of the Bay and having an impact. Nature will prevail, and Governments can’t direct the water through tunnels or over bridges or delete it as bad policy. The devastation on Torres Strait Islands by never seen before King Tides, is a reminder that we must alter our ways but in the meantime

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For years now we have been told about the rising sea levels caused by the melting ice glaciers in Antarctica, but it just seemed so far away - far from the outlets of Birkenhead and the dog café of the canal. But now the rising tide is on our door step. It has somehow reached us, in our little insular lives - entered the Heads, gone through the harbour, past the outdoor film festival, under the harbour bridge, around Goat Island and found us on our Bay. This is real and scary! When global warming is changing our local possies, the threat becomes more real.

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This morning on the Bay the water level had almost exceeded the 2050 level again indicated by the marker. What can we do? In face of danger that we can’t change, we feel powerless and tied. We can watch and protest to higher

Contributors: Nigel Bowen, Lianna Taranto, Jada Bennett-Cross, Russell Edwards, Lucia Moon, Winsor Dobbin, Cat O’Dowd, Alison Xiao, Maani Truu, Jayce Carrano and Maria Zarro. Find us on www.facebook.com/ciaomagazine Instagram #ciaomagazinesydney

In / Out • Granita limone anytime anywhere

• Affogatos with stingy scoops of gelato

• Free movies in parks and other open air venues

• Overdue pool upgrades

• Swimming in Parramatta River (try Chiswick Baths)

• Going back to work/school

• Nice police people on NYE

• Low-level racism especially on Australia Day

• Marrickville Metro’s carpark makeover by @studiodennis

• The return of of non-school holiday traffic

• Glamping on Cockatoo Island (again)

• New Year’s Resolution fails

• All dogs (and their owners)

• Dog poo

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FREEps

sho k r o W vents &E

FEBRUARY - JUNE 2018

TREADING LIGHTLY ECO-LIVING IN THE INNER WEST

FEBRUARY

APRIL

MAY

JUNE

Saturday 10 February 10am - 12pm Waterwise Gardening

Saturday 7 April 10am - 12pm Worm Farming

Saturday 5 May 10am - 12pm Clothing Swap

Hosted by City of Canada Bay

Hosted by City of Canada Bay

Hosted by City of Canada Bay

Saturday 10 February 10am - 12pm Intro to Solar

Saturday 14 April 10am - 12pm Mending & Darning

Saturday 12 May 10am - 12pm Composting

Saturday 2 June 10am - 11.15am 11.45am - 1pm Repair Cafe for Electrical Items

Hosted by Inner West Council

Saturday 17 February 9.30am - 12.30pm Balcony Gardens Hosted by Burwood Council

Saturday 24 February 10am - 12pm Worm Farming Hosted by Inner West Council

MARCH Saturday 3 March 10am - 11.15am 11.45am - 1pm Repair Cafe for Electrical Items Hosted by Inner West Council

Saturday 10 March 9.30am - 12.30pm Sustainable Cooking Hosted by Burwood Council

Saturday 17 March 10am - 12.30pm Seasonal Planting for Autumn Hosted by Inner West Council

Thursday 22 March 10am - 12pm Kids’ Toy Swap Hosted by Inner West Council

Saturday 24 March 10.30am - 1pm Seasonal & Sustainable Cooking Hosted by City of Canada Bay

Hosted by Inner West Council

Wednesday 18 April 10am - 12pm Bush Adventure (for families) Hosted by City of Canada Bay

Thursday 19 April 9.30am - 11am Taronga Zoomobile Hosted by Burwood Council

Saturday 28 April 10am - 1pm Marrickville Sustainable Fashion Tour Hosted by Inner West Council

Found it very interesting and excited about the possibilities.

Absolutely lovely venue, friendly organisers

Hosted by Inner West Council

Saturday 19 May 9.30am - 12.30pm Gardening in Small Spaces Hosted by Burwood Council

Saturday 26 May 10am - 12pm Prepare Your Home for Winter Hosted by Inner West Council

My favourite part of the workshop was taking home knowledge and skills that I did not have before.

Really enjoyed the class and cannot wait to get my own materials, so I can start to practise at home.

More, more, more please, the workshop had us wanting to learn more. (Corroboree for Kids)

Limited capacity - bookings are essential for all events* Venue details will be provided at time of booking https://www.facebook.com/TreadingLightlyInnerWest

Book Online http://treading-lightly.eventbrite.com.au/

Hosted by Inner West Council

Saturday 16 June 10am - 12pm Plastic-Free Living Hosted by City of Canada Bay

Saturday 23 June 10am - 12.30pm Seasonal Planting for Winter Hosted by Inner West Council

All of it was brilliant. Thank you. Loved taking home some of what we made. Our group was great as well.

To book into a workshop go to: http://treading-lightly. eventbrite.com.au/ Bookings for workshops will open on Eventbrite approximately 4 weeks prior to the event date. Due to the high demand, workshop participants must be from within the Burwood, City of Canada Bay, and Inner West Local Government Areas. Please provide your address at time of booking. For further information (or assistance with booking) please contact the hosting council:

Burwood Council 9911 9911 City of Canada Bay 9911 6555 Inner West Council 9392 5000

* Due to the high demand, workshop participants must be from within the Burwood, City of Canada Bay and Inner West LGA. Please provide your address at time of booking.

Visit partner Councils’ websites for further information


What’s On

BLACK BETTY 2.0 Oxford Tavern, 1 New Canterbury Rd, Petersham

A LATIN CULTURAL FESTIVAL

FREE DANCE LESSONS WITH NIKKI WEBSTER

Fraser Park, 100 Marrickville Rd, Marrickville

227 Catherine St Leichhardt

THE BACKSTORIES Carriageworks, Sydney

Renowned Australia Day Slow cooked BBQ.

Celebrate 10 years in the Inner West.

Enjoy a day of food, dance, culture, entertainment then a night of Latin dancing. Indulge in South american food and drinks, dance classes and kids activities. Mi casa, Su casa!

F R I JA N 2 6 T H , A LL DAY

SAT JA N 27TH, F R O M 8.30

SUN 28TH JAN, 1 1 AM — 1 1 PM

FRIDAY 2ND FEB, 8PM

EAT DRINK MAN WOMAN SCREENING

UKELE CLASSES

MAKE AND CREATE A FAN

Marrickville Town Hall meeting room

BYO instrument. Free.

Decorating and design for Year of the Dog.

WED 7TH FEB, 7PM — 8. 30

WED 7TH FEB, 10AM

SECOND HAND SATURDAY Burwood/Croydon Garage sales throughout the inner west.

See in the Lunar New Year with intellect. Free.

TUES 6TH FEB, 1 0 AM

SAT 3 R D F E B , F RO M 9 AM

Penfold Room Woodstock Community Centre, Burwood. Learn how to make the most of a tiny balcony space with these earthy tips part of Treading Lightly, through Burwood Council. SAT 1 0 T H F E B

MEET THE AUTHORS Five Dock Library Nerida Newbigin and Kathleen Olive discuss Florence through the eyes of a 15th century artisan. Free.

T HURS 15 T H F E B 6PM

INTRO TO SOLAR WORKSHOP AND INFORMATION SESSION Ashfield Civic Centre Also get the latest info on home battery technology. Free.

SAT 1 0 TH FE B

SYDENHAM SKATE PARK OPENING Cnr Railway Rd and Henry St

State Theatre, 49 Market Street, Sydney

Join Inner West Mayor Darcy Byrne with the opening of this fab new skate park with demos and sausage sizzle. Free.

Italian Singing sensation makes it back to Sydney.

SAT 10TH FEB, 1 1 AM

SUNDAY 11TH FEB

CALLIGRAPHY AND PAINTING DEMONSTRATION.

RETHINK OR FUTUREPROOF YOUR CAREER

Ashfield library, 260 Liverpool Rd, Ashfield

St Peters Library, 39 Unwins Bridge Rd, Sydenham

Celebrating Lunar New Year and Year of the Dog.

M O N DAY 19TH FEB, 1 0. 3 0AM

Marrickville Library

ALBANO IN CONCERT

R OZWOUN DUP.CO M

BALCONY GARDENING

Chiswick Community Hall

A rare glimpse behind the public persona of one of the most influential Australians in women’s football, Moya Dodd.

Author talk with Joanna Maxwell.

TUES 20TH FEB, 6PM

INNER WEST SUSTAINABLE SCHOOLS MEETING Marrickville Youth Resource Centre For industry professionals and their colleagues, discussing the merits of sustainability in education. WED 2 8 TH FEB

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CIAO’S PICKS

WHAT’S ON

AUSTRALIA DAY AT ENMORE PARK

TREADING LIGHTLY

PICS IN THE PARK

26TH JANUARY 2.30 — 9PM

FROM THURS 1ST FEBRUARY

JANUARY 27TH — MARCH 2ND

Inner West Council will lead the celebrations for this year’s Australia Day in Enmore Park with a stunning line-up of live entertainment including ABC Kids’ new sensation Nay Nay, The Voice contestant Emad Younan and Aussie pop-rock legends 1927. There will be delicious food, like authentic Filipino cuisine, Spanish paella, traditional Indonesian dishes and ginger drinks plus kids activities like the renowned Magic Yellow Bus. Celebrations will be rounded off with the annual fireworks display at 8.45pm.

Treading Lightly is a series of FREE and fun workshops and events that promote sustainable living and include everything from bread baking to worm farming to balcony gardening. It is a collaborative project between Burwood, City of Canada Bay and Inner West Councils and all events are open to residents of these areas. To see a complete list of Treading Lightly events and book yourself a place to a free event or workshop, please go to http://treading-lightly. eventbrite.com.au/.

Enmore Park, Enmore Road, Marrickville

Whites Creek Cottage, Lilyfield Balmain Town Hall, Balmain

Inner West Council is hosting Pics in the Park, a series of outdoor movie nights for the whole family. The program commences on Saturday 27 January, 9pm with Jasper Jones (2016), then Friday 2 February, 9pm see Guardians of the Galaxy (2014) and Friday 16 February, 8:45pm – Beauty and the Beast (2017), Pioneers Memorial Park, Norton Street, Leichhardt. Every Pics in the Park event is free, with an optional gold coin donation with proceeds going to the Jimmy Little Foundation.

SHORT+SWEET FESTIVAL

THE UNCOMMON FEAST

FARM CHATS

FROM FEBRUARY 1ST

WEDNESDAY 7TH FEBRUARY

WEDNESDAY 7TH FEBRUARY

The popular 10-minute format in theatre, dance, cabaret and comedy festival has spread across the globe. But the original Sydney theatre festival is now in its 17th year and has a new home in Surry Hills’ Tom Mann Theatre. The first week has 10 short plays nightly including a hilarious one-woman play about on-line dating. Reality Check by Elizabeth is a comic tour-de-force by writer, director, actor and film-maker Annisa Belonogoff of Marrickville. “Searching for love, with a little too much wine. What could go wrong?”

As part of Lunar New Year in the Inner West, celebrated Asian-Australian writers Lachlan Brown, Wai Chim, Eileen Chong, Isabelle Li, and MC Sheila Ngoc Pham will read their work and discuss themes of culture, identity and food. Live Chinese music from Eugenia Teng, traditional Chinese tea and snacks, book sales and author signing. Book online viawww.innerwestlibraries.eventbrite.com.au or call 9716 1810.

Each month a range of experts each month talk about food growing, ethical and fair food, young farmers, female farmers, food sustainability, waste, native foods, plant-based eating and farm-to-table. Join a panel chat on urban farming with co-founders of Pocket City Farms, Emma Bowen and Michael Zagoridis, plus Nick Ritar from Milkwood, Jon Kingston from Wayside Chapel and Michael Ableman. There is Young Henrys on the beer taps and Maker Sydney providing delicious snacks. Tickets are $20, including a drink and nibbles.

Tom Mann Theatre, 136 Chalmers Street, Surry Hills

STO RY TI ME WED 7TH FEB, WED 14TH FEB For children ages 3-5. Kiran Shah will lead festive chanting and dancing, and tell stories involving Chinese Zodiac animals, to usher in the Year of the Dog. No bookings required. On Wednesday 7 February at Haberfield Library Author Wai Chim leads an interactive story time of the popular Chinese fairy tale The Four Dragons. No bookings required. Ashfield Library and Wednesday 14 February there is a fun and interactive story time session dedicated to doggy fuzzy, shaggy and adorable best friends. Bookings required on the day of the session, call the library on 9335 2173.

Marrickville Library

Ashfield Town Hall

Pioneers Memorial Park, Norton Street, Leichhardt The Village Green @ Mort Bay Park, McKell Street Balmain

Pocket City Farms, Camperdown

FREE LUNAR NEW YEAR FILM SCREENINGS TUESDAY 6TH FEBRUARY

CALLIGRAPHY AND PAINTING DEMONSTRATIONS FROM THURSDAY 8TH FEB

Enjoy a selection of gripping Asian cinema, for free. On Tuesday 6 February. Eat Drink Man Woman screens at the Marrickville Town Hall meeting room. On Friday 9 February watch Chinese Zodiac at Ashfield library. Light refreshments provided. For more info go to  www.innerwestlibraries. eventbrite.com.au or call 9335 2173.

See Chinese artists Professor Wen-hua Tan and calligrapher Daniel Ng demonstrate the ancient art of calligraphy and traditional Chinese painting. The finished pieces can be taken home - a tradition said to gather good wishes for the year ahead.. No bookings required. Monday 12th February see Chinese artists Su-bin Xu and calligraphers Wen-lu Zhu and Zhuo-quan Chen. On Monday 19 February, Chinese artists Xiu-ying Chen and Ding-xian Luo and calligraphers, Wen-lu Zhu and Herry He Wang will be at Ashfield Library.

Marrickville Town Hall meeting room

Marrickville, Leichhardt Ashfield Libraries


CIAO’S PICKS

WHAT’S ON

E-WASTE DROP OFF DAY

ART X

FEBRUARY 10TH 9AM – 3.30PM

SUNDAY 11TH FEBRUARY

Residents of the City of Canada Bay can drop off e-waste for specialist recycling at the upcoming FREE E-Waste Drop-Off Recycling Day. Please note, proof of residency will be required. Residents are encouraged to drop off the following: Computers, laptops, monitors, keyboards, printers, scanners, faxes, home entertainment devices such as TV’s DVD players and sound systems, mobile phones, household appliances such as irons, kettles, toasters, power tools and vacuum cleaners.

10 years of Breathing Colours Art Gallery in Balmain. This tucked away creative institution is turning 10. After years of nurturing, showcasing and breaking emerging artists and established artists, Breathing Colours pays tribute to some of the greats in the stable with a show – Art X. Until Sunday.

Montague St, Balmain

THE METROPOLITAN ORCHESTRA TURNS 10 SATURDAY 17TH FEB, 8PM To celebrate enjoy a gorgeous concert of Beauty. Sibelius’ “Swan of Tuonela” is immersed in ancient Finnish mythology taking the listener on a magical journey where a swan glides majestically on black mystical waters.Then move to the beautiful and desolate Australian outback in a world premiere Australian orchestral song cycle titled ‘Beauty’. The second half of the evening will take the audience to the ‘New World’ with Dvorak’s iconic ninth symphony.

Eugene Goossens Hall, ABC Centre

Cintra Park car park, Crane Street, Concord

AGED CARE EXPO

STREET PAWS FESTIVAL

INSTRUMENT PETTING ZOO

SATU RDAY 1 7 FE B, 10AM — 3PM

SATURDAY FEB 17TH, 11AM — 4PM

Scalabrini is hosting a free Aged Care Expo to provide families with an informative event to help reduce the stress of navigating the complex system. Take the opportunity to discuss, Retirement Village, Home Care and financial systems (discussing lump sum and/or regular income stream withdrawals from your home equity), problems with seniors’ medication mix-ups, home down-sizing and more. Enjoy complimentary wood-fired pizzas freshly cooked by the resident chef, and go on site tours of the brand new state-ofthe-art village at 11am, 12pm, 1pm and 2pm.

SUNDAY 18TH FEB, 1 PM — 2:30PM

Celebrating dogs and community, this new festival held in Marrickville for dogs and their humans. Is a fun free event for dog lovers of all ages with stalls, competitions, entertainment, dog skills demonstrations, expert advice from vets and dog trainers. There will be several pooch parades and competitions including best haircut, best outfit and best mutt. There is also a photo competition where Inner West dog owners submit images of their hound to #spotyourdog to win a 2 hour photo shoot with Alex McGregor (creator of the Inner West dog calendar).

As part of the opening celebrations, Inner West Institute of Music are hosting a free event: An Instrumental Petting Zoo. This is an opportunity for curious children (and adults!) to see, hear, and touch the musical instruments, such as violins, cellos, saxophones, drums, piano accordions, ukuleles…the list goes on! Discover your child’s inner Mozart.

The Village Scalabrini, 5 Mary Street,Drummoyne

BAG IT SCREENING THURS 22 FEB, 6PM — 10PM Everyone is invited to a free screening of /“Bag it: Is Your Life Too Plastic?” - a film which takes a light-hearted look at a serious issue. The screening will be followed by drinks and nibbles and a chance to talk to local business owners about how they have reduced single-use plastic and to find out about saving money and the environment, gaining a competitive edge over big business, attracting environmentally-conscious Inner-West customers by harnessing the awareness fuelled by “War On Waste.”

The Addison Road Community Centre Marrickville.

Suite 2, 84 Great North Road, Five Dock

142 Addison Rd, Marrickville

LUNAR NEW YEAR FESTIVAL IN THE INNER WEST SATURDAY 3 MARCH, 11AM Inner West Council will celebrate the Lunar New Year of the Dog with a series of events culminating in the annual festival in Ashfield Civic Centre. Everyone’s invited to this free event featuring Beijing Opera, and traditional dance and musical performances in the Town Hall, and a lucky Lion Dance through the business district.

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STRESSED AND ANXIOUS? 1ST SAT OF EACH MONTH, 3PM The Free Glebe Anxiety Disorder Support Group meets on the 1st Saturday of each month at 3pm. The next meeting will be on the 3rd March. The support group is open to people with Anxiety Disorders and their friends and family. The group is for over 18s and is not suitable for people with Schizophrenia or PTSD. Find people that can help support you and your network. For more information call Rachel on 9339 6013 or email supportgroups@ wayahead.org.au

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MOVIES

Passion and pain

February’s hits...

Warwick Thornton has good reason to be angry. But what’s bugging Michael Haneke? SWEET COUNTRY In the opening scene of Warwick Thornton’s provocative and powerful new film we gaze into dark water as a billy boils. Sugar is added, lots, while off camera a racially charged argument explodes into thudding ugly violence. Sweet country indeed, and the film arrives at an auspicious time, carefully calculated no doubt. It doesn’t so much contribute to the Australia Day date debate as lob bombs into it left and right and centre. It’s an impassioned, angry and didactic film, there’s no escaping its message that this country was built on land theft and racist violence. And Thornton thumps that home with a beautifully photographed (he’s easily this country’s best cinematographer) classic Western that is as stunning and stark as the country it’s set in. The story is simple: Black stockman Sam (Hamilton Morris) shoots a brutal white settler (Ewen Leslie) in self-defence, but in the 1920s in NT, there was no excuse for killing a white man. So Sam takes off with his wife into the bush. He can easily outsmart his white pursuers but we know what will happen to him, even though Thornton teases us, right through to a devastating climax. There’s a surprising degree of nuance to the actions of his white characters though (Bryan Brown, Sam Neill and Matt Day), and even the racist who is shot is seen as a victim of historical forces way beyond his control – a classic case of WW1 PTSD. “He’s bit crazy man, that fella,” says Sam. Well, the fact that that we’re even having a debate about that date means we all still are. MA15+ from Jan 25.

Molly’s Game

MOLLY’S GAME

Sweet Country

HAPPY END Michael Haneke clearly doesn’t like “privileged white people.” In film after film (Funny Games, Hidden and the excruciating Benny’s Video) he’s sliced through the hidden veneers of social ritual and acceptable behaviour to expose a toxic, violent ugliness beneath the complacent lives of the well-off middle class. The reason for his anger is not entirely clear, but of course the title of his latest film is ironic. The wealthy Calais family we spend an uncomfortable 110 minutes with is comically dysfunctional: Elderly patriarch Georges (Jean-Loiuse Trintignant) wants to die; his daughter Anne (Isabelle Huppert) is trying to sell the family’s construction business after an horrific workplace accident; her pompous brother Thomas (Mathieu Kassovitz) is carrying on a lurid online affair; Thomas’s daughter Eve (Fantine Harduin) seems to have poisoned her mother and is now trying to settle into this screwed-up family, while Anne’s dopey grown son Pierre (Franz Rogowski) struggles with doing anything at all except disappoint his mother. It’s a smorgasbord of unhappiness, loneliness and madness all framed, quite subtly by the European refugee crisis and the poisonous racial injustices of our times. Even though we’ve been primed for something darkly perverse to happen, the very last scene is stunner, and Haneke’s fans may be tempted to laugh out loud. I did, but maybe I am perverse. M from Feb 8.

Aaron Sorkin, the writer behind The Social Network and The West Wing has long been known for his rapid-fire dialogue. His characters tend to lob whole thesauruses at each other while debating lofty issues all at a pace that is both unnerving and exhausting. But at its best (the court scenes of A Few Good Men for example, or the climatic showdowns of Steve Jobs), the language known as “Sorkinese” is utterly thrilling. And anyone who loves the power of words will enjoy his directorial debut. In Molly’s Game he tells the real-life story of Olympic-level skier Molly Bloom (Jessica Chastain), who quit the sport after a crippling accident and then embarked on a new test of nerves, running high-stakes poker games with Hollywood millionaire and celebrities that eventually caught the attention of the FBI, who busted her on mob and racketeering charges. Flashbacks and some looping nesting-doll style plot devices then flesh out the complicated details of her predicament, while Idris Elba as her combative lawyer gets his best role since Stringer Bell in The Wire. Destined to be Bond? Let’s hope not but that man sure looks good in a suit. M from Feb 1.

...and misses

Happy End

Faces Places

FACES PLACES Pioneer of French New Wave cinema Agnes Varda’s passion is celebrating the lives of ordinary French workers and townsfolk. In this lively and remarkable film (nominated for Best Doco at the Oscars) and likely to be her last (she’s 89) she teams up with a scampish 33-year-old photographer and street artist who goes by the name of JR, and the pair set off on an road trip around the France tourists rarely see – its agricultural and industrial backwaters. They choose people to photograph and then paste huge printed out murals of them on the sides of buildings. We learn a bit about the lives and histories of their subjects – like the elderly retired

miner living in a derelict town, a farmer who toils alone on a computerised tractor, the wives of dock workers at Le Havre, a philosophical goat farmer, some chemical factory workers and even a crusty toothless 70-year-old hippie who lives alone in a shack decorated with bottle tops…. All the while the JR and Agnes bicker and tease one another, and philosophise about art, life, mortality and the ephemeral nature of memory. It’s disarmingly charming and edited to look way more breezy and spontaneous than it could possible have been. Many of the installations must have been quite difficult – but the results are just astonishing to behold. The film is at its best as their conversations become more and more personal and ruminative, finally climaxing in a scene of quite extraordinary grace. G from Jan 25. Exclusive to Dendy Newtown. We have 5 double in season passes to Happy End to give away. Head to www.ciaomagazine.com.au and click through to the giveaways and let us know you’re interested. It really is that easy!

Den of Thieves

DEN OF THIEVES

Amongst all the big menacing guys with tats and muscles who swagger through the 140 punishingly long minutes of writer/director Christian Gudegast’s bloated heist thriller set on the means streets of Long Beach, its hard to know who the cops are. Eventually we work out that one of the surly bearded thugs swearing at us is actually the head sheriff of the elite major crimes squad. That’s “Big Nick” Flannagan (Gerard Butler), and he’s so tough he looks like he’s just ate Dwayne Johnson for lunch and now wants Russell Crowe for dessert. He snarls and threatens the bad guys and his superiors alike, acts like an obnoxious jerk to his estranged wife and basically anyone who comes into his line of sight as details of the big job he’s trying to thwart on are outlined. It’s a generic heist run by a supposed criminal genius (Pablo Schreiber) and there is a twist at the end no one will see coming (mainly because it’s so ridiculous). But it’s hard to care what happens when our hero is so unlikable. He is the hero, he must be – he cries once while he’s trying to contact his adorably cute daughter at a school from behind the fence. If I was a teacher and saw someone so threatening and mean lurking nearby I’d call the cops. Ah yes, he is one... MA15+ from Feb 1. Russell Edwards


LEICHHARDT BOWLING & RECREATION CLUB

88-92 Piper St Leichhardt Ph: 9569 1936 / 9560 3574 WWW.LEICHHARDTBOWLINGCLUB.COM.AU

Wednesday - Friday Lunch 12pm - 2.30pm Dinner 5.30pm - 9.00pm Saturday & Sunday 12pm - 8.30pm

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COMMUNITY

Chris, Eva, Xavier, Steve and Gianapaolo from Precedent Productions

Briana and Natassia - gorgeous Ciao Ladies

Marghanita, Wendi, Lianna and Vera keep it local

SNAPS Seeing in the back end of holidays at the Ciao Christmas Party held at Capriccio Osteria and Australia Day celebrations at Enmore Park. Congratulations to Citizens of the Year, Euphemia Bostock, Sarah Midgley and Anne Maree Hoang.

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Euphemia Bostock received a standing ovation upon being presented with her award, pictured with other winners and councilors

Sarah Midgley receiving her award from Inner West Mayor Darcy Byrne

Lovely food bloggers Milktead and co.

Celebrating Australian Day in Enmore Park

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COMMUNITY

SUSTAINABILITY & NEWS LOCAL MATTERS

Slow Clothing So we know fast fashion creates enormous amounts of waste, clutters your wardrobe and puts a strain on your credit card and the option of “Slow Clothing” (like slow food) is gaining momentum, but why is it still so hard to throw out your favourite pair of jeans or not hit the “add more” items to your cart button on the showpo site? Unfortunately we have culture of consumption ingrained into us – and strangely this has been transposed onto our reward/punishment psychology. Think Santa and presents when you’ve been good and buying yourself new shoes when you get a promotion or new 2XU tights because you can finally get around the Bay Run. All fashion label and retailer marketing is modeled on consumer behavior and our aspirations and motivations for buying – their photography, imagery, models, culture is all designed to bait us (and our wallets). Here are some guidelines that might help make the switch from fast fashion to slow clothing. 1. Lead, don’t follow. Sure the latest Burberry campaign is cool. But are you six foot tall with a lazy $3000 to spend on a handbag? The opening pages of magazines, billboards, TV campaigns for sales at David Jones, instagram posts for Australian made playsuits are all trying to get your attention. Ignore them all. You are a fashionista in your pyjamas. Style is on the inside. You do not need “their” look to be fabulous. Design your own look. Wear your mum’s shoes with your handmade cardigan and Vinnies scarf. This is true couture. For inspiration check out Alex Van Os or Inner Westies Annika Victoria and Kassia Aksenov. 2. Clear out your wardrobe every six months (winter/ summer). The general rule is, if it hasn’t been worn in the last 12 months – chuck it. Sell or donate frequently. It’s easy. Canada Bay Council have recently introduced a clothing van pick up every Thursday. As part of King Cotton’s recycling and re-use textile program, the company has teamed up with Canada Bay Council to make it easier for textiles to avoid landfill. The “new, free clothing and textile collection and recycling service for residents that will divert over 660kg of waste from landfill each year,” Mayor Angelo Tsirekas

said. Accepted items include clothes, shoes, belts, handbags, accessories, towels, bedsheets and blankets. Donated items must be in a reasonable condition – no stained, ripped or unclean clothes or shoes. To book a collection, visit: www. clothingcleanup.com.au or call 1300 889 014. 3. Buy second hand or natural fabrics only. Fashion design consultant Ms Milburn is an advocate of buying natural fabrics only and says that “manmade fibres are effectively plastic clothes that don’t decay readily when they are sent off to landfill and they’re shedding micro plastic particles along the way,” Ms Milburn also noted the wasteful nature of the fashion industry when manufacturing these garments (20 per cent of fabric can end up on the factory floor) Natural fabrics include cotton, wool and silk, whereas man-made fabrics are made from petroleumderived chemicals and plastics include nylon, synthetics, vinyl and polyester. Scour thrift shops, vintage shops and use apps like Shedd. There are some great shops in the Inner West (King St, South Newtown, Darling St, Rozelle),

fabrics, trimmings, ideas that will get the creative juices flowing. Grab a sketch pad, or camera and experiment with colours, textures and your own skin tones, shape and feelings. Many struggle with the actual time it takes to create something magnificent – but that is the point – take projects on one step at a time and enjoy the process. Australians buy 27kgs of textiles every year and discard 23 kgs and as shown on the War on Waste, that is 6 tonnes every 10 minutes of textile landfill. So rather than dress to kill, dress to reduce landfill. It is definitely sexier.

4. Separate (and understand) emotional fashion shopping. Resist temptation to buy clothing that doesn’t fit properly, is “on-trend” or is on being bought because it is a good buy/ bargain rather than because it is needed. Avoid shopping when you are upset or having a bad hair or fat day. Make thoughtful meaningful decisions when you purchase clothing - ask - does it make me feel good, how often will I wear it, are the creators ethical? Think of your wardrobe as a collection and buy holistically rather impulsively. Stay away from websites like www.wish.com that reward you to shop. Slow down and make considered, informed decisions when you buy and dress, you’ll feel better, look better and make the world a better place. 5. Sew, craft, create. There is nothing more rewarding that making something that receives compliments from your peers. Not only is your creativity rewarded, magical things happen to your self-esteem and your image and your personal creative process improves. If unsure, start small, knit scarves while Netflix binging or just drop into Spotlight at Birkenhead Point for some inspiration. There are hundreds of natural

City of Canada Bay Mayor Angelo Tsirekas with (back row) Five Dock residents, Dana Pekic with her children, Harlen and Havana Hunter and Allison Greenland with her children (front row) Ayla and Avery Greenland. Dana is the first City of Canada Bay resident to book a collection with Clothing Cleanup

Local News:Inner West serious stuff that you probably should know Canada Bay Council announces new General Manager

Peter Gainsford has recently stepped into the role of General Manager at Canada Bay Council replacing retiring council vetran Gary Sawyer. Sawyer was well respected within the community and leaves behind a legacy of good local policy and procedures and some significant local infrastructure. Some of you may know Gainsford from his most recent post as Deputy General Manager Assets and Environment for Inner West Council. He has an MBA and a Degree in Civil Engineering. He started at Leichhardt Council as an apprentice in March 1983 and rose through the ranks in Corporate Services and Asset Management to become Director of Infrastructure and Service Delivery in 2002. He’s not to be confused with the other “Peter” who worked as General Manager at the former Leichhardt Council (Peter Head) who was replaced when the Inner West (Leichhardt, Marrcikville and Ashfield) councils merged. Mayor Tsirekas and other councilors are excited by the appointment, stating that “This is a wonderful opportunity for Peter. He takes over the leadership of Council in a strong position but following a time of change and uncertainty. I am sure the staff will join me to make him welcome as we move into a period of stability where we can build on delivering great services for our community. The other Councillors and I are looking forward to working with Peter”.

New Canada Bay COuncil General Manager Peter Gainsford

Congratulations to 2018 Citizens of the Year

Newtown’s Sarah Midgley, NSW Co-Convenor of Australian -11-

Marriage Equality is Inner West Council’s 2018 Citizen of the Year. Congratulations also to Bundjalung-Munajali woman, Euphemia Bostock, who is Senior Citizen of the Year and Anne Maree Hoang, mental health awareness advocate who is Young Citizen of the Year. Midgley has spent vast amounts of time volunteering to help LGBTIQ people achieve social inclusion. As NSW Co-Convenor and Director of Australian Marriage Equality, Sarah spent many hours helping at early morning market stalls, running community forums after work and on weekends, rostering, and managing other volunteers. “Hearing that Australia voted YES and then seeing the legislation pass through the parliament were both amazing moments for me,” Sarah said. Bostock is a founding member of Boomalli Aboriginal Artists Co-operative (she designed the Boomalli logo), and has worked across a variety of media including textile, sculpture and printmaking, and tirelessly promoted the work and improved the lifestyle of Aboriginal artists across Australia for more than fifty years. Euphemia and her brothers Lester and Gerald were founding members of Sydney’s Aboriginal Black Theatre in 1972. What an achiever! Hoang is honest about her mental health journey and as volunteer with the national youth mental health foundation ‘headspace’ has assisted in raising awareness of mental health particularly amongst culturally and linguistically diverse communities.


TRAVEL

THE BOLD AND THE BEAUTIFUL: THE BAROSSA VALLEY THERE IS NOWHERE QUITE LIKE THE BAROSSA VALLEY. TRAVEL EDITOR WINSOR DOBBIN EXPLORES AUSTRALIA’S MOST FAMOUS WINE REGION. winery’s 115-year-old cellar door and restaurant Fino. The new development, which also includes superb new gardens, was opened late in 2014 and has been hailed as one of the Barossa’s most significant gastronomic tourism endeavours in recent history. Other “must visit” cellar doors include historic Penfolds, recent arrival St Hugo and the modern Jacob’s Creek Visitor’s Centre. Chateau Tanunda, established in 1890, is widely regarded as one of Australia’s most beautiful winery estates, while family-owned Yalumba has atmospheric tastings rooms, wonderful old buildings and an eclectic range, including a number of whites made from the rare viognier grape. There is no shortage of great places to eat, either, with Appellation part of the luxury The Louise complex and widely regarded as one of the best regional restaurants in Australia. Fino, Hentley Farm and FermentAsian are regional favourites.

WHERE TO STAY:

Views of the Barossa

The names are familiar to anyone with even a passing interest in wine; Yalumba, Seppeltsfield, Penfolds, Jacob’s Creek, Grant Burge and Wolf Blass. Brands that are famous around the globe. Penfolds Grange and Henschke Hill of Grace are the regional icons, with Yalumba’s The Caley a new contender, but the Barossa is a region of contrasts and while there are plenty of big wineries with on-site restaurants, there are also several boutique cellar doors worth seeking out. Names like Teusner, Yelland and Papps, Schild Estate, Rick Burge, Glaetzer, Charles Melton, David Franz, Rockford, Schwartz and John Duval are prominent. The Barossa is arguably the best-known “new world” wine region on the globe and a gourmet’s delight. It is rated alongside Bordeaux, Tuscany and the Napa Valley in terms of quality wine tourism. And the Barossa is now just a one-hour drive north of Adelaide, thanks to some intensive work on the local roads. It is a region that is about a lot more than just wine. It’s about the people, many of whose families have been farming the land for five or six generations. It’s about history; the region is dotted with old churches and cemeteries; and exploration: there are plenty of biking and walking trails through the vineyards. It’s about the hearty food and ingrained German heritage; just visit the local butcher shops like Finke’s, where all the smoking is done using a secret family recipe, and the traditional bakeries, to unearth some unfamiliar gourmet delights. German-speaking settlers, many devout Lutherans from Silesia seeking to escape trouble-torn central Europe, arrived in the 1800s and brought with them culinary traditions from their homeland. Today visitors to the Barossa can try dill cucumbers, pickles and preserves, smoked and cured smallgoods (try mettwurst and lachschinken at Schulzes), dried fruits, locally made egg noodles and a range of Germanstyle cakes and pastries (sample a Black Forest Torte at the Tanunda Bakery or maybe a streuselkuchen cake). A warm region viticulturally, the Barossa is synonymous with big red wines, usually made from shiraz and grenache, and previously for fortified wines, while the cooler Eden Valley is best known for rieslings (think names like Pewsey Vale). Some of the Barossa vines are among the oldest surviving anywhere in the world.

The big name wineries are joined by the likes of St Hallett, Peter Lehmann, Elderton, Turkey Flat, Schild Estate and Torbreck. While shiraz and grenache reign supreme, many younger Barossa growers and winemakers are experimenting with Italian, Spanish and Portuguese grape varieties including sangiovese and tempranillo, which are proving highly popular. The wine industry here has deep roots. Penfolds was founded by an English doctor, Christopher Rawson Penfold, in 1844 – as visitors are reminded by a large roadside sign as they enter the valley. Today, tourists visiting the Penfolds winery can try their hand at blending their own red wine in a laboratory with guidance from young winemakers. The Barossa spreads across a number of small towns and villages; Tanunda, Nuriootpa, Greenock, Angaston and Lyndoch are among the more prominent but some, like Marananga, are mere specks on the map. It is, however, de rigueur to visit at least a couple of wineries with history; particularly family-owned Yalumba, which boasts a history dating back to 1849. With its own cooperage, where visitors can watch barrels being hand-made, to glorious gardens and historic cellars, the Hill-Smith family was also a pioneer in the use of screw caps and a founding member of Australia’s First Families of Wine. Yalumba oozes with history and style. Yalumba is generous in throwing open its historic buildings to visitors. Among the options available are a tasting in the Wine Room followed by a picnic on the lawns, but there are also several private experiences for those who want to learn more. Yalumba is at 40 Eden Valley Road, Angaston. (08) 8561 3200. www.yalumba.com. Also check out the Butcher, Baker, Winemaker Trail, which guides visitors to stops including the Lyndoch Lavender Farm and Café, Maggie Beer’s Farm Shop and new Eatery, and the Barossa Valley Cheese Company. The Artisans of Barossa cellar door offers a quick snapshot of the region and is a facility shared by some of the region’s most talented winemakers, including Hobbs, John Duval, Massena, Schwarz Wine Company, Sons of Eden and Spinifex. For some other authentic local tastes, visit the Barossa Farmers Market, which is held every Saturday morning and is something of a meeting place for local vignerons. This authentic Farmers Market boasts over 40 stallholders offering a selection of “fresh, seasonal produce including fruit and vegetables, freshly baked artisan breads and sweet treats, ethical meats, freerange eggs, sauces, condiments, olive oils, nuts, milk and cream, and a whole raft more”. Seppeltsfield, which dates back to 1851, has always been one of the de rigueur stops in the Barossa and that is the case more than ever with the opening of the -12-

Novotel Barossa Valley Resort Close to one-third of all visitors to the Barossa stay at the very smart Novotel Barossa Valley, high on a hill overlooking vineyards and the Jacob’s Creek winery. Novotel Barossa Valley Resort is just over an hour’s drive from the Adelaide city centre, adjacent to the 18-hole Tanunda Pines golf course. The Cellar Kitchen Restaurant and Bar features seasonal menus incorporating the best of the Barossa, in collaboration with Saskia Beer. “The Cellar Kitchen isn’t just a regional restaurant, it’s all about sharing the best of our local Barossa community and inviting guests to our table,” says GM Sarah Goldfinch. “Saskia’s dishes are all produce-driven not chef-driven, with local seasonal Barossa ingredients featured as the hero.” Another gourmet alternative is grabbing a bike from the hotel and riding to Jacobs Creek Winery for wine tasting and lunch (available only during weekdays). One of the signature elements of the Accor group’s MyResorts scheme is MyGlass, whereby for a small fee guests can enjoy a beverage experience. Depending on the resort, that may include a cocktail-making class or a wine-tasting with a local producer. At the Novotel, a local winery will guide you through a selection of their wines paired with five small plates featuring gourmet Barossa produce. During my recent stay the first night was hosted by Grant Burge cellar door manager Julie Webster, and the second by veteran vigneron Tim Smith. Novotel Barossa Valley Resort is at 42 Pioneer Ave, Rowland Flat. (08) 8524 0000. www.novotelbarossa.com.

HOW TO GET AROUND:

One of the easiest ways to visit several Barossa cellar doors without the need for a designated driver in the Barossa Explorer, hop-on, hop-off bus, which operates from the Novotel Barossa Valley Resort, the Barossa Information Centre in Tanunda and the Weintal Hotel. For a one-off fee of $30-35, visitors can be dropped at the tasting facilities of up to seven different wine producers. The wineries visited change seasonally but include the likes of Turkey Flat, Langmeil, David Franz, Rolf Binder, Artisans of Barossa, Chateau Tanunda and Seabrook, as well as Maggie Beer’s Farm Shop and Eatery. Visitors can join the tour at any of 12 stops along the route and tickets can be purchased on board. The complete route takes approximately an hour so rejoining the tour is easy. Tours run 10am-5pm every Thursday, Friday and Saturday. www.barossaexplorer.com.


IN THE KITCHEN

Creamy Mango and Passionfruit Pops There is nothing like a Sydney summer filled with mangoes. Ripe and as cheap as they’ll ever be. Kids and adults alike appreciate the sweet juicy flavours and nutritional value. These cold healthy treats are the perfect end to a backyard barbie, swim or dance under the sprinkler. Preparation 20 mins + freezing time Makes 8

Ingredients: • 3 medium ripe mangoes, peeled and flesh chopped • 1 cup light cream • 2 passionfruit, pulp removed

Method:

Refreshing and healthy

Wine with Winsor gourmetontheroad.blogspot.com

1. Place the mango flesh and cream into a blender or food processor. Blend or process until smooth. Pour mixture into a jug and swirl through passionfruit pulp. 2. Pour mixture into 8 paddle-pop moulds

(these can be bought from Ikea for about $5). Gently tap moulds to dislodge any air pockets. Insert a paddle-pop stick into each. Freeze for 5 hours or overnight until firm. Remove pops from moulds and serve.

MANGOES An excellent source of vitamin C which helps the body defend itself against infection. A good source of beta carotene, which the body converts to vitamin A (important for healthy skin and eyes). The highest levels are found in mangoes with deep orange-coloured flesh. A source of dietary fibre and also potassium. Fibre is important for the digestive system and potassium helps balance the sodium from foods with added salt. Courtesy www.sydneymarkets.com.au

Ripper Riesling

Quality Quaffer

Bodacious blend

Mad Fish 2017 Pinot Gris

Flametree 2014 Cabernet Sauvignon Merlot

Mount Horrocks 2017 Watervale Riesling

A classic blend of the Bordeaux red varieties of cabernet sauvignon, merlot, malbec and petit verdot, this is a red wine style in which Margaret River producers excel. Expect to find hints of violets on the nose and trademark dark chocolate, cassis, integrated French oak and impressive structure thanks to 14 months in barrel. This is drinking very well now but would also be a good cellaring prospect. From a reliably good producer. Match with steak and kidney pie. $28.

Stephanie Toole is something of a riesling whisperer, producing cracking wines vintage after vintage, albeit from the stellar Watervale region of the Clare Valley. This is estate grown and certified organic, but what counts most is expressions of flavour and regionality that burst onto your palate. This is freshness vinified and from a stellar vintage; made without acid additions or fining. Think fresh-cut citrus explosions, bright juicy acidity and remarkable length. $30.

Pinot gris and pinot grigio, two different styles made from the same grape variety, are all the rage right now; gaining momentum just as sauvignon blanc did a decade ago. This is a very refreshing example from the entry-level label of top-notch West Australian producer Howard Park. It is a lovely summer drink, slightly pink from the grape skins, with pungent ripe pear aromas and fresh sea breeze and citrus notes. A great match for salt and pepper calamari. $20.

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Horoscopes YOUR MONTH IN THE STARS

Aries Make 2018 the year you become the expert in your chosen arena. Set yourself specific goals and focus on achieving them with the help of motivated Mars. Taurus Begin a journey of reshaping your world in a positive way under the influence of revolutionary Uranus.

Scorpio Jupiter continues his journey through your sign until the end of the year. Take advantage of opportunities that come your way over the coming months.

Gemini

Sagittarius With Saturn moving on from your sign, life will be sweet in 2018. You begin an energising cycle of luck and growth in November when Jupiter enters Sagittarius.

Cancer

Capricorn Focus on wellbeing in 2018. Transformation on various levels is possible through concentrated inner work under the serious Saturn cycle.

The Twins may break new financial ground in 2018 under the Saturn-Pluto link. Explore the power of partnerships in elevating you to the next monetary level. Saturn begins a three-year tour of your love zone this year, putting the emphasis on relationship commitment. Seek guidance from wise and experienced souls.

Leo You get a taste of your destiny in 2018 under the karmic North Node and the Leo-Aquarius eclipses. Be prepared to severe the past and follow your bliss.

Aquarius Mars, Uranus and the Leo-

Virgo

Pisces Jupiter and Saturn hold elevated

Pay attention to internal shifts and trust your hunches this year. Be flexible and adapt your schedule to allow new developments to flourish.

Libra

‘Stability’ is the key word for Librans in 2018. Pull away from the white noise of the world to focus on issues close to home.

Aquarius eclipses ensure that you’re shaken and stirred throughout the year. Take action on stalled issues or projects with favourable results.

positions in your chart, giving 2018 a buoyant vibe. Blissfully participate in life by exhibiting your gifts to the world. By Astrogirlzarro www.astrobabylon.blogspot.com

Amore SEX, DATING AND RELATIONSHIPS WITH CAT O’DOWD

Sexual consent is everything Consent is more than just submitting to sex! It means freely agreeing to sex! Enthusiastically agreeing to sexual contact! “Yes! I want to kiss you!” The law says that you cannot freely agree to sex if you are; - under the age of 16 (in NSW) - being forced/pressured into it or too scared to say no - being threatened or your children are threatened - being coerced, intimidated, deceived, manipulated - unconscious, asleep or substantially intoxicated by alcohol or another drug - restrained or tricked into it - tricked into believing it is essential for medical purposes. If you don’t have a choice or the freedom or capacity to make that choice, then you can’t consent to sex. Injury and resistance aren’t necessary to prove consent was broken. That’s the law! Sexual assault can happen to anyone. No one deserves to be sexually assaulted. We all have a right to say yes or no to sexual activity. No one is “asking for it.” It was not your fault! The survivor is not responsible for the perpetrator’s actions. Remember just because someone has had sex with you before, you can’t assume consent. If someone is kissing you- you can’t assume they’ve consented to a list of sexual activities in your head you’d like to engage in. Sexual consent can be revoked at any time. You can say yes and as things progress, if you’re not feeling it anymore or you don’t feel comfortable, you have every right to say, “no/stop/hey, let’s have a breather, can we slow down, I only want to x and y tonight..” If you’re unsure try saying something like: “are you okay with this….” “can we….now”

“I’d love to...... would you like that?”

blame! You aren’t to blame

Checking in is sexy! That’s why the word SENSUAL is in the word CONSENSUAL!

if you knew your attacker, if you were under the influence of drugs/alcohol, if you’d had sex with them before, if you were wearing clothes that others might define as ‘sexy,’ you said yes at first and then said no and were ignored or if you ‘froze’ in fear and were unable to fight back or say no.

I have educated hundreds of children and adults about consent. I hope I’ve made a difference to the next generation. I’ve used every metaphor under the sun to explain it in a simple way, chocolate milkshakes, a cup of tea, a three course meal. You can start eating the entree with someone and it doesn’t mean you want desert. I wish my generation had received this education when I was young. We weren’t taught about sexual consent. I work with a lot of adults now who are survivors of sexual assault and the myths about sexual assault can hinder their healing. If you’re a survivor of sexual assault please remember there is no ‘normal’ response to what you went through. Everyone copes with it in different ways. You are not to -14-

I was on the edge of my seat watching the Larry Nassar sentencing today. When Judge Aquilina spoke to the victims that had spoken out about the sexual assault I stood on my chair and cheered aloud as she spoke these words; “You are no longer victims. You are survivors. Leave your pain here and go out and do magnificent things.” Cat O’Dowd Sex Therapist - Relationship Counsellor - Art Therapist www.creativesexpression.com


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Ciao Magazine #312  

The Lunar Issue

Ciao Magazine #312  

The Lunar Issue

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