Child magazine | JHB June 2016

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Ah, how wonderful to once again bring you our annual Let’s Party issue! As usual it is crammed with colourful inspiration as well as easy, practical solutions for your child’s next birthday celebration. With the cold winter months ahead, we know you’ll love the themes we have chosen, perfect for in- or outdoor parties. Last night, on learning that I had my note still to write, my youngest daughter, a pro party planner in her own right, offered her thoughts. “Mom, it’s all about balance. Children should be allowed to give their input when it comes to the planning, but not too much, ‘cause at the end of the day, it’s the parent who pays the bills and does all the work”. Pearls of wisdom I tell you, at such a tender age. I took the hint and have to admit that my enthusiasm for all things party may overshadow the real reason for celebration; the uniqueness of my child and her needs on her special day. Next year, my New Year’s resolution will most certainly be striving for balance and carefully consulting my daughters on what’s really important, on their red-letter day.

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But our June issue is not only about birthdays and gift-giving.

This month we celebrate dads too. Sadly mine died a few years back. He was kind, strong, loyal to his family and incredibly loving. If I had a wish granted on my birthday, it would be to spend one more day with my dad, to see him smile, and know that I was loved. Surely no other gift comes close?

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be an even better dad 3 a note from lisa

regulars

6 over to you readers respond

9 pregnancy news – tricky to treat Anél Lewis finds out which meds

features

are safe to take when feeling under the weather while pregnant

12 be an even better dad raising a child can be hard work. Mark van Dijk

10 best for baby – noisy newborns

gives powerful tips for dads to help

babies do snore, but when should you

them do a decent job

be concerned about Obstructive Sleep

14 man up annual health checkups can help men stay healthy longer.

Tamlyn Vincent explains why

16 rethinking experimentation Gary Koen gives us the hard facts on the dangers of marijuana

18 the gift of failure should we give our children the space to make mistakes and learn from the experience?

Samantha Page investigates

20 planning do’s and don’ts Anél Lewis shares her experiences on party etiquette and the related conundrums

Apnoea? By Lucille Kemp

20 dealing with difference – give a little Lucille Kemp looks at philanthropic parties and ways to give and not just receive

22 resource – let’s party! our annual party guide is here to inspire you to make your child’s birthday party a lasting memory. Compiled by Simone Jeffery

33 what’s on in june 37 next month in child magazine 38 finishing touch Anél Lewis is already wary of the day her children start asking questions about the birds and the bees

health 8 taking vitamin b Marina Zietsman

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over to you feminism recreated I really enjoyed reading the article “feminism and motherhood” (May 2016), as it struck a chord with my beliefs, and created some much needed, though goodhearted, debate in my home. I know there are many women that suffer due to abuse and a lot of wrongs should still be righted in workplaces all over the world, but for me feminism comes down to one word: choice – personal choice, to be exact. As a human being one should be allowed to make choices, within reason obviously, regarding one’s own life, without having to be subjectified, compartmentalised or categorised. I know gay couples with children, single moms with children, large families with seven children – and all these people are different, happy, secure, and made these choices, because that is what they wanted and what makes them content. Within these familial confines, lie individuals who are strongly outspoken about women’s rights, who are politically active citizens, who are vegetarian, who knit jerseys for the under privileged, who live for their careers… All strong women, who made a choice and tackle day-to-day problems with their children with all Follow us on twitter.com/ChildMag, facebook.com/childmag.co.za and pinterest.com/childmagazine

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your voice online in response to “raising children of privilege” This is an awesome feature and with research well done. The majority of parents who are able to provide more than basics for their children, feel that they are doing enough and thus invest more time in earning an income to support their provider role. Parents themselves who have suffered from a lack of active parenting, and who do not possess the nature to improve their parenting, tend to fall into the trap of materialism. It is important that we always check our personal stance on parenting, and understanding of parenting principles, with our peers. It is not a matter of not knowing, but rather a matter of ensuring eyes are on the right ball, or else facing our children going astray or, even worse, suffering from all these preventable challenges.

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health

the “popular” one

taking vitamin b

Vitamin B12, also called cobalamin, converts our food into fuel, allowing us to stay energised and function throughout the day. It also aids in the production of DNA and red blood cells, it restores bone marrow and the lining of the respiratory and gastrointestinal tracts, maintains the health of the nervous system and spinal cord and helps to prevent megaloblastic anaemia (a lack of healthy red blood cell production).

signs of deficiency It is believed that there is a lot of undetected vitamin B12 deficiency sufferers out there. Annelize Zeelie, a registered dietician based in Randburg, says, “A vitamin B12 deficiency can lead to tiredness and fatigue due to megaloblastic anaemia.” If not treated, it can cause incontinence, weight loss, shortness of breath, poor circulation, forgetfulness and confusion, psychosis and hallucinations, tremors (unintentional, rhythmic muscle movement) and depression. “In infants a vitamin B12 deficiency can cause a unique neurological problem called infantile tremor syndrome, where the child gets tremors and milestones can be delayed if the condition is prolonged,” says Zeelie.

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Vitamin B12 has many health benefits, but its main function is to keep the nerve and blood cells healthy. MARINA ZIETSMAN digs deeper to find out more about this life-saving vitamin and if it helps to supplement.

who is at risk?

A vitamin B12 deficiency is more common in older people (age 60-plus), but other potential candidates include those on all levels of vegetarianism (including newborns of vegan/vegetarian moms); those that suffer from pernicious anaemia, an autoimmune condition; when the stomach lining is thinning due to disease; after surgery to the stomach or small intestine; those suffering from digestive conditions such as Crohn’s disease; and, people on certain medication such as certain diabetes drugs and some antacid medication.

how to counter it It’s important to note that no plant can make or store vitamin B12 and it can only be found in animal foods. Zeelie suggests the following to get your daily dose: meat, chicken, fish, eggs, milk, yoghurt and cheese. “Vegans who exclude

all animal products from their diet may require a source of vitamin B12 either from a supplement providing the recommended daily allowance, fortified food, nutritional yeast or a reliable plant source modified to contain a biological, active source of vitamin B12,” says Zeelie. She adds that it’s important for children to get a variety of foods in their diet to help them get the energy and nutrients that they need for normal growth and development. “Aim for three to four food groups in a meal,” suggests Zeelie. For her list of nutritional, vegetarian meals rich in vitamins, including B12, visit childmag.co.za/vegetarian-child

to supplement or not Zeelie says a definite “yes” to supplementation. “It can be in tablet form or an intramuscular injection”. Though she adds that she would not recommend vitamin B12 shots for children unless there

is a diagnosed deficiency and other medical obstacles, such as an absorption problem, and a medical practitioner administers it in the correct dose. If you do suspect a deficiency, a fairly simple blood test can determine whether you should look at your diet or supplementation. If your diet is restrictive, speak to a registered dietician for advice, or your healthcare practitioner if you do consume enough vitamin B12 in your diet, but still have a deficiency.

vitamin B12 myths ✻✻ There is no proof that it can aid in the development of children with autism or ADHD. These children are usually picky eaters, and can have a deficiency in several vitamins and nutrients. Supplementation simply improves their nutrient levels. ✻✻ There’s no evidence that vitamin B12 injections aid weight loss. ✻✻ Vitamin B12 is a water soluble vitamin, meaning if you have any excess in your body, the body simply excretes excess amounts in the urine. Thus supplementing over and above a sufficient diet or sufficient levels of vitamin B, will not boost your energy levels.

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tricky to treat Popping a pill for pain is not always an option during pregnancy. ANÉL LEWIS finds out what is safe to take when

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ost of us think nothing of taking an aspirin at the onset of a headache, or sipping a hot toddy to keep the sniffles at bay.

But when you’re pregnant, you have to bear in mind that any medication you take may put your baby at risk of developing birth defects.

the golden rule When it comes to medication and pregnancy, Dr Susan Shelton, a Cape Town-based general practitioner, says pregnant women should always check with their doctors before taking anything. The safety of all medication during

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pregnancy depends on several factors, including the stage of the pregnancy. “Always check with your doctor first,” she advises. The internet has no shortage of online advice about what medications and ingredients could be safe to take, but doctors and chemists agree that the golden rule is always to consult a medical expert. You must know the possible risks so that you can decide whether they outweigh the benefits of taking the medication. Also note that medications that are not safe to take during pregnancy are generally not suitable for breastfeeding women either, as they could pass through breast milk to the baby.

chronic conditions However, not taking medication if you have a chronic condition can, in some instances, be as dangerous as taking the wrong medication during pregnancy. According to the American Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, pregnant women should not stop taking any medication without first talking to their doctor. The same goes for women who plan to fall pregnant. The sudden cessation of antidepressants, for example, could put the mother at risk.

However, some antidepressant medications could have risks for the foetus and newborn, and expectant women should always consult their doctors or consider alternative treatments to manage their condition during pregnancy. This would also apply to women with asthma, hypertension and auto immunodeficiency diseases. While research indicates that acetaminophens for pain relief do not seem to increase the risks of major birth defects in the first trimester, there’s not enough evidence about the use of painkillers or opioids during pregnancy. Some studies indicate a higher risk of birth defects, such as spina bifida, with the use of these drugs.

fight the flu The United States Food and Drug Administration’s (FDA) stance is that prescription and over-the-counter medicines containing nonsteroidal anti-inflammatory drugs (NSAIDs), opioids and acetaminophen carry potential risks and should be used with caution. Acetaminophen is a common ingredient in fever-alleviating medication, including treatment for colds, flu and allergies. However, the FDA says there is a risk of attention deficit hyperactivity disorder in children whose mothers used this medicine when pregnant.

Medicines containing nonsteroidal anti-inflammatory drugs (NSAIDs) or opioids, such as codeine, come with a risk of miscarriage in the first trimester. Research has indicated that opioids could cause birth defects of the brain, spine or spinal cord. Over-the-counter remedies should not be used for protracted periods and preferably only in consultation with a healthcare professional. Avoid decongestants that contain pseudoephedrine and phenylephrine, as these could affect blood flow to the placenta. Most medicines come with the following warning in the package insert: “If you are pregnant or breastfeeding your baby please consult your doctor or pharmacist.” Never take more than the recommended dose and consider other treatment options, especially during the first trimester when the baby is particularly vulnerable.

Rather consider non-medicinal treatments such as toddy with only hot water, ginger and lemon, or saline drops for a blocked nose.

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best for baby

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newborns LUCILLE KEMP learns that if you have a snoring baby, know when to take matters further by being aware of the markers of Obstructive Sleep Apnoea.

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ot every child that snores suffers from sleep apnoea, but every child that has sleep apnoea will snore. For Dr Kevin Rosman, a neurologist with 20 years’ experience in sleep medicine and director of the Morningside Sleep Centre in Joburg, sleep apnoea is an important health issue. Because if your baby does suffer from it, they’ll snore because their airways are restricted and can’t be cleared with a simple nasal saline.

when to worry Paediatricians will tell you that babies generally tend to be noisy breathers because their airways are narrow and filled with lots of bubbly secretions. The air passing through these, cause many different vibratory sounds in the soft tissues of the airway, resulting in snoring.

Most of the time, these sounds subside as your baby’s airways grow and he learns to swallow excess saliva.

However, Rosman says if your baby’s snoring is also accompanied by gasping and, according to the National Sleep Foundation in the USA, the snoring is loud, they are probably battling to take in air because the throat is narrowed or blocked, keeping sufficient air from getting into the windpipe and lungs. This amounts to the sleep disorder Obstructive Sleep Apnoea (OSA).

“Various studies around the world have shown that about 1% to 4% of babies suffer from sleep apnoea and medically that’s quite common,” says Rosman. If gone untreated it may worsen, diminishing your child’s quality of life and, at worst, can be life-threatening.

Joburg-based ENT Dr Maurice Hockman says that problematic snoring needs an accurate, anatomical and medical assessment, which is why Rosman recommends you steer away from home testing and rather seek an in-hospital diagnosis by booking an appointment with an ENT. If a sleep disorder is suspected, a sleep specialist who has special training in sleep medicine, will perform a polysomnogram, which can help to determine if your child has sleep apnoea or another problem. This test records your child’s sleeping patterns to determine a diagnosis, including their brain waves, body movements, heartbeat, breathing patterns, arousals and noises.

While obesity, allergies, acid reflux and structural abnormalities in the head and neck, such as a deviated nasal septum, can contribute to sleep apnoea, Rosman says that the number one cause for sleep apnoea in babies is enlarged tonsils and often adenoids too, which block the flow of air through the throat and impair a child’s ability to breathe.

A treatment for sleep apnoea that has shown to have a very high success rate in children, says Rosman, is tonsillectomy, the surgical procedure of removing tonsils as well as a procedure called adenotonsillectomy, which is when both the tonsils and adenoids are removed. Children can have had their adenoids removed at around 11 to 12 months of age. Generally ENTs will only remove tonsils in children from three years of age, however tonsillectomy has been performed on children, who need to be treated for OSA, at one year of age. But it’s still best to speak directly with your ENT and find out what their recommendations are.

In a small percentage of cases the symptoms of a baby’s sleep apnoea are treated using CPAP, or Continuous Positive Airway Pressure, which treats by using mild air pressure to keep the airways open. It is often used on premature babies, so it is safe for infants.

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find the cause and treat

the far-reaching effect of sleep-disordered breathing There are findings that support the idea that the sleep-disordered breathing of Obstructive Sleep Apnoea is actually aiding behavioural problems in children. The National Sleep Foundation (USA) explains the mechanics of this, “Interruptions in breathing during sleep can cause the brain to ‘wake up’ to some extent, even if the sleeping person is not aware of it. These repeated interruptions disturb the sleep patterns that are essential to a good night’s sleep and are thought to be the reason why daytime behaviour might be affected by poor breathing during the night.”

Not every child that snores suffers from sleep apnoea, but every child that has sleep apnoea will snore.

Think of your mood after a night or several nights of restless sleep – you’ll battle to wake up in the morning, you might suffer from headaches and will be sleep deprived, which will affect your ability to focus. You most likely will be irritable and agitated causing you to become short-tempered and aggressive or feel overwhelmed. It is quite similar for a baby, who needs to sleep 16 to 20 hours in a day in order to thrive. Older children in a structured environment where they are required to concentrate to learn new things will also struggle when sleep deprived.

Research has revealed the profound role tonsils play in a child’s functioning. A rigorous, highly respected study was published in Pediatrics in 2006 where it was found that children who have surgery to remove their tonsils are very likely to behave and sleep better, one year later. Data was collected from testing sleep and breathing at night, and attention and behaviour during the day. About half of the children in the study who were found to have Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) before tonsil surgery no longer met criteria for this diagnosis one year later. Other cognitive and behavioural issues also improved.

The body of evidence on this issue suggests that a significant number of children with inattention, hyperactivity or sleepiness during the day and sleep-breathing problems at night, may benefit from a tonsillectomy.

home remedies for first relief Saline nasal spray If your baby’s nose seems stuffy, squirt a few salt-water drops into their nose at least once a day. Most pharmacies sell it.

Nasal aspirator This will suck out excess secretions gently.

Warm mist vaporiser To humidify the air in your baby’s bedroom. You can also stand in a warm bathroom with your baby, as the humidified air loosens excess secretions in the airway. Do this just before bedtime.

Allergy-proof Remove allergens from your baby’s bedroom such as items that collect dust and animal fur.

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parenting

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It’s one thing to father a child; it’s a lot harder to do a decent job of raising them. Here are five

simple but powerful tips to help you on your way.

By MARK VAN DIJK

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A recent Institute of Race Relations report found that only 36% of young South African children live with both of their biological parents. Most young children (43%) aged up to four years old live with only their biological mother, while 2% live only with their biological dad. So what does this mean for you? Regardless of your marital situation, being a good dad means being around. “A big problem in South African families is children feeling that their dad is just absent,” says Anthony Hawthorn, a social worker at the Family and Marriage Society of South Africa (Famsa) in the Western Cape.

For Hawthorn, the key lies in consistency. “Isn’t that the irony? We think that being a good father is making the grand entrance,” he says. “There is far greater power in consistency than in the grand entrance. Your child wants to know that you’re consistent, and that if you say you’re going to do something, that you do it. It speaks to the dynamic that all of us have: we function best in an environment that is predictable and stable. That’s where a lot of dads get it wrong. They do a great job... for a day.”

If you want to be a good father, Hawthorn says, you should start by being a good partner to their mother. One way to do this is to share the child-rearing responsibilities with her, and to realise that, in the modern economy where many homes have dual incomes, the roles of mothers and fathers have started to converge.

Despite what your own dad may have told you, modern parenting is no longer divided into What Mom Does and What Dad Does. It’s about What Parents Do. “There is no law written in the heavens that says ‘Mom changes nappies’ or ‘Dad cleans the drain’,” says Hawthorn. “The moment we start to shift that, we’ll create another, different generation where suddenly dad is changing nappies because mom has to clear the drain… or, Dad’s doing the cooking so that Mom can get some work done.”

There is a change needed here from both parents, Hawthorn explains: “Often men will find themselves placed in a role that they wouldn’t necessarily take on if it wasn’t expected of them. That might mean being a nurturer. So when your child is crying, it’s about not waiting for your partner to say, ‘I’ll go tend to the child.’ It means getting up and going to comfort your child, so that they see that masculine figures can be gentle and nurturing.”

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There are, of course, some jobs that Mom simply cannot do as well as you.

Like, for example, play-fighting. New research has found that a bit of playful rough-and-tumble can play a vital role in a child’s development. Anthony T. DeBenedet, co-author of The Art of Roughhousing (Quirk Books), argues that this kind of physical play helps children develop cognitively, socially and emotionally.

And his argument, while counter-intuitive, does make a lot of sense: when your child is counter-attacking the Tickle Monster, they’ll learn to read cues like body language and facial expressions.

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“Sadly,” writes DeBenedet, “among many of today’s families, roughhousing barely limps along on life support. What was once a motto of ‘Safety First’ has evolved into a fretful new motto of ‘Safety Only’. Many parents are more frightened by skinned knees and bruised feelings than life’s real dangers: stifled creativity and listless apathy.” Play, he says, and especially active physical play like roughhousing, “makes kids smart, emotionally intelligent, lovable and likable, ethical, physically fit, and joyful.”

Research from Australia’s University of Newcastle supports the theory. There, researchers found that children get a sense of achievement when they “defeat” a more powerful adult during a play-fight – and this builds their self-confidence and concentration.

But don’t go easy on your child: the same Aussie researchers said that fathers who resist their children can also teach them that, in life, you don’t always win.

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“The sentiment used to be: ‘Make it quality time’,” says Hawthorn. “But a lot of the thinking among educators and psychologists has shifted to now say: ‘It’s not just about quality; it’s also about quantity. Each of us has to etch out a living, so it’s unrealistic to think I can spend every waking moment of my life with my child. But do I spend an hour watching a TV programme at night, or do I spend 20 minutes in my child’s bed, reading a book with them? Those 20 minutes every day give your child a safe place to return to. And what is any child looking to their Dad for? Security.

Safety. Predictability.”

That quantity/quality time can really be as simple as 20 minutes spent reading bedtime stories. According to a new study from Harvard University, children actually benefit more from their father reading to them. After a year spent researching the impact that parents reading had on their children, Dr Elisabeth Duursma found that girls especially benefited more when read to by a man. “The impact is huge,” she says, “particularly if dads start reading to children under the age of two. Reading is seen as a female activity and children seem to be more tuned in when their dad reads to them. It’s special.”

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As a father, you’ll naturally reflect on what your own father did well (or not)… and that’s a healthy point to come to, says Hawthorn.

“For many men there’s a sense of, ‘I don’t know how to do this, because my dad was never there for me’,” he explains. “That’s often the junction of healing: when the child realises that Dad is only living out what he was taught, and that they need to work together to create something different. So, it becomes a reciprocal process. The child says: ‘I’m going to teach you how to be a dad’, and the father says: ‘I’m going to learn from you, what you need from me’.”

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health

Annual checkups can help you stay healthier for longer. TAMLYN VINCENT looks at when men should schedule a visit to the doctor, and what

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en are known for not asking for help. How many men do you know who ask for directions? Or who read instructions before assembling a piece of furniture? Figuring things out on their own is, for the most part, what men do. But when it comes to health checks, asking for help is essential. Missing an early diagnosis isn’t the same as taking a wrong turn – you may not have the chance to turn back when it comes to cancer or cardiovascular disease.

A lot of older men, especially those over 50 years old, still need to be encouraged by their partners to visit the doctor, and usually only when there is a problem, says Cape Town GP Dr Jane Benjamin. Younger men are becoming more aware of their health, she says, and are booking routine checks and health screenings. But the Cancer Association of South Africa (Cansa) is encouraging every man to look after his health, to pay attention to changes in his body and to go for regular checkups. Early detection can save you time and money (by avoiding longer, and more expensive treatment) and it can save your life, making the annual checkup a must, especially as you get older. Benjamin says screenings will depend on a man’s age and risk factors, plus “the frequency of screening depends on your individual and family history”. Risk factors, such as a family history of stroke, diabetes, heart disease or cancer, as well as lifestyle, such as increased alcohol intake or not getting enough exercise, may mean checkups need to happen more regularly.

Screenings will also focus on two main areas: cardiovascular disease and cancer.

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matters of the heart Cardiovascular disease is the leading cause of preventable death says Benjamin, who adds, “80% of stroke and heart disease can be prevented with simple lifestyle measures.”

Knowing if you’re at risk is also essential, so you can look out for any problems before they become a real problem. Screenings for cardiovascular conditions will include checks for high blood pressure, cholesterol and blood glucose (diabetes), generally done every year once men reach the age of 40 years old. Annual checkups also give your doctor the chance to discuss your lifestyle factors, says Benjamin, and look at how you can reduce your risk.

A lot of men still need to be encouraged by their partners to visit the doctor, and usually only when there is a problem.

High blood pressure or hypertension can be dangerous to your heart and other organs. Checking it regularly is essential and you can do this at your annual checkup or at pharmacies or clinics that offer this service. It’s a good idea to check your body-mass index (BMI) at the same time, which indicates whether or not you are overweight. A normal weight to height ratio for men would usually register as a BMI between 18,5 and 25, while a BMI higher than 30 could indicate obesity. Being overweight can jeopardise your heart health, and lead to complications like type 2 diabetes. If your doctor is worried that you’re overweight, that your blood pressure is too high, or if you have other risk factors (like a family history, high cholesterol or you smoke), you may need to have your blood glucose tested, regardless of your age. If you’re over 40 years old, you should have your blood glucose checked every year, says Benjamin. The fasting blood glucose test is commonly used, but others include a random blood sugar test, an oral glucose tolerance test or a haemoglobin A1C test, which estimates your average blood sugar levels.

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High cholesterol is yet another risk factor for cardiovascular disease, adds Benjamin.

From 40 years old, men should have their cholesterol checked on a yearly basis. But more regular checks may be needed if you have risk factors such as diabetes, kidney problems or are at risk of heart disease. Blood tests will check your cholesterol levels and your blood triglycerides.

cancer scare If you’re on the road to a long, healthy life, catching cancer early is vital. Screening for cancer aims to detect cancer before symptoms appear, and could include blood tests, urine tests and medical imaging.

Testicular cancer more commonly affects younger men, particularly between the ages of 15 and 39, although it can affect anyone. By doing regular examinations, men get to know their bodies and can recognise any changes, says Professor Michael Herbst, a health specialist at Cansa. Cansa recommends that younger men do regular testicular selfexaminations, feeling for any lumps (which can be as small as a grain of rice and often feel firm, like hard rubber), changes in size, or other irregularities. Boys and men can ask their doctor to show them how to do these checks. Aside from general health, dental and eye checks, boys only need to start checking for testicular cancer once they’re about 15 years old. But as men get older, their risk increases, and from 40 onwards, getting that annual checkup is an all-important step in the right direction.

“Prostate cancer is one of the leading cancers in South Africa, with one in 27 men having a lifetime risk of diagnosis” reports Cansa. Men over 50 years old should have a routine Prostate Specific Antigen (PSA) at least once every two years, says Herbst. For those with a higher risk, annual screening should start between the ages of 40 and 45. The test results will indicate how frequently future tests should be taken. The Digital Rectal Exam, where the doctor examines the prostate through the rectum, should form part of the medical exam for men with a raised PSA reading. Risks for prostate cancer include a family history of the disease, drinking alcohol, not getting enough exercise, and having a poor diet with a high fat and red meat intake.

From the age of 50, Benjamin suggests that men should have screening colonoscopies for colon cancer every 10 years. Having a family history, or other risk factors, would mean earlier and more frequent screenings.

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following a healthy lifestyle is an important part of disease prevention Get enough exercise

Avoid processed foods

Lose weight, or maintain a healthy weight

Don’t smoke or use tobacco products

Follow a nutritious diet and drink plenty of clean water

Limit your alcohol intake

Cut down on red meat consumption

Go for regular screenings and do self-examinations

If you have signs, symptoms or a personal or family history of any condition, see your GP.

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Is experimenting with drugs, particularly marijuana, just a harmless rite of passage for teenagers? GARY KOEN gives us some hard truths to ponder about drug use, and challenges us to take a firm stand against experimentation. to have, what kind of activities they enjoy, and what skills they are going to need as adults. In simple terms, the point of experimentation is to learn how to solve problems, not create problems.

It’s dangerous for adults, particularly professionals, to misrepresent destructive behaviour as being merely teenage experimentation. Describing behaviour, which is clearly destructive as experimental is irresponsible because in the eyes of the teenager it normalises the experience. Few teenagers recognise that the point of experimentation is to find out more about themselves and to learn from the experience, not to get stuck in

the experimenting. For example, those who may have got violently drunk and escaped with nothing more than a severe headache and bruised pride may be able to learn from the experience and be a bit more circumspect in the future, but not if they believe that the point of being a teenager is to carry on experimenting, paying no attention to the consequences of their behaviour.

the grass is not greener Of particular concern when it comes to experimentation is marijuana. While sex and alcohol are two of the most common things teenagers tend to experiment

with, primarily because sex is natural and alcohol is legal and easily accessible, marijuana follows closely behind.

When teenagers are caught smoking grass, the stock answer often given when asked why they did it is that they were experimenting. Somehow this is generally considered a legitimate reason.

No one is going to convince me that it is normal for teenagers to start smoking grass. I believe the problem begins with the notion of experimentation, so my question is: where do you draw the line?

Is it really okay to try everything once? Is there anyone out there who would like to try a little bit of a car accident? Or who is keen for a little bit of jail time?

A popular comeback is that one doesn’t need to experiment with things that are obviously life-threatening or harmful, but this is where things get hazy.

The implication is that marijuana is quite harmless – less dangerous than alcohol, better for you than cigarettes. But just because you can grow dope in your backyard doesn’t change the fact that it is

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hen people casually say, “It’s just teenagers experimenting”, it can sound quite harmless and innocent – even quite fun. “Ag shame, it’s just a couple of teenagers experimenting with some crack cocaine” or “Ah, the sweetness of youth, they were just experimenting with a bit of unprotected sex; they didn’t know they were going to have a baby or catch a lingering disease or be charged with statutory rape.”

Experimenting with something known to be dangerous or potentially harmful is not an experiment. It is high-risk behaviour. It’s imperative that we do not excuse what is clearly self-destructive behaviour as being part of “normal teenage experimentation”.

What is viewed as so-called normal teenage experimentation refers to an inner striving to learn more about themselves and the world in order to discover who they really are. Teenagers should find out what they like, who they like, what kind of relationships and friendships they want

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a drug. Further fuelling the debate are the many adult dope smokers out there who fiercely defend their habit, contesting that their precious weed is nothing but a mere victim of a wider conspiracy designed to protect the alcohol industry, along with the thousands of jobs at stake needed to police, prosecute and rehabilitate its users, suppliers and growers. But while these protests may well have led to the drug’s legalisation in certain US states, this doesn’t mean it is safe or harmless for teenagers to try.

Simply put, marijuana is a drug and is as dangerous as alcohol because it has a similar limiting effect on one’s emotional development. Ultimately, it is more psychologically debilitating than alcohol.

Not only is it much harder to recognise as a problem and more problematic to give up, but it is also a considerable health hazard. Depending on the potency, one joint is estimated to be the equivalent of about five cigarettes and contains most of the cancer-causing agents found in ordinary tobacco.

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calculating risk So, what constitutes a successful experiment? If teenagers experiment with grass and happen to like it, does this constitute a successful experiment? This is the inherent risk with all drugs. After all, they are designed to work – they are supposed to make people feel good, hence their enduring, lethal allure. Furthermore, if it’s okay to experiment with grass, what stops them from trying other drugs on offer – cocaine, MDMA, tic or even heroin?

could try to convince themselves that dope is non-addictive. Unfortunately, this too is a fallacy and a very destructive one, because every dope smoker I have ever spoken to says that when they first started experimenting with grass, none of them would have believed that a year later they would be smoking every single day.

To make matters worse, because of all the myths about the “natural” effects of marijuana, users seldom seek help because they feel too embarrassed

The point of experimentation is to learn how to solve problems, not create problems.

Teenagers who experiment with marijuana and discover that they like the feeling it gives them might just have experimented themselves into a dilemma.

They’ve just found out that they enjoy getting high. Now what are they going to do? One option, I suppose, is that they

to be hooked on something that is supposedly harmless.

The truth is that it isn’t harmless at all. It erodes their motivation, diminishes their short-term memory, affects their coordination, perception and overall functioning, and generally leaves them

with a feeling of always being somewhat depressed. There are many teenagers whose “experiments” have left them rooted mindlessly on their couches, falling further and further behind their peers as their lives pass them aimlessly by.

In some frightening instances, marijuana can precipitate a psychotic episode, where a simple experiment can turn into a lifelong nightmare.

So, despite what many people say, marijuana is a mind-altering substance that interferes with one’s reality. It is a drug, and when it comes to drugs and teenagers, there is no such thing as normal experimentation. This is the unambiguous message that professionals, teachers and parents need to be giving our youth.

Experimentation is about learning to take risks that will assist in their growth and development, about challenging themselves and learning to differentiate between a valid set of likes and dislikes. It is certainly not about acquiring destructive habits that are likely to cause untold grief in years to come.

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From the moment your child is born, you feel compelled to guide and protect him from getting hurt or experiencing failure or discomfort. But perhaps giving him the freedom to make mistakes

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our Grade 4 child, who hates science, has been set a science project, which is due in three weeks.

Do you?

A: Set up a timeline for him or her, ensuring the assignment gets done in time. Buy all the required materials, create a workspace and add some biscuits and a glass of milk to make the experience more bearable.

B: Let your child figure out what needs to be done and let him or her give you a list of what materials he or she needs to complete the task (sans treats), checking regularly to make sure he or she is on track.

C: Pray that it all comes together in the end.

If, out of love or a desire to bolster your child’s selfesteem, you picked A, teacher and author of The Gift of Failure Jessica Lahey thinks you’re making a big mistake.

Lahey recently told Quartz (qz.com) that not long ago she realised that something was wrong with her parenting and something was amiss with the middle-school students she was teaching. “They wilted in the face of challenge; they didn’t love learning like they used to; parents took bad grades personally and it seemed everyone was unhappy,” Lahey confesses.

She continued to be confounded by the root of the problem until she realised that, as parents, we seem

to be more worried about raising happy children than competent, autonomous ones.

In a fascinating study conducted by psychologist Wendy Grolnick, the scientist puts pairs of mothers and children in a room and videotapes them as they play. Grolnick then labels the mothers as either “controlling” or “autonomysupportive,” the latter indicating moms that let children figure things out on their own. Grolnick invites the pairs back and children are put in the room by themselves and asked to perform a task. The children who had controlling moms gave up when they were faced with a task they could not master, while those with autonomy-supportive moms did not and instead adopted a problem-solving attitude.

Lahey concludes that children raised by controlling parents could not contemplate tasks on their own, but those raised by autonomy-supportive parents stuck with the task even when they became frustrated. These children, who can persevere despite the tasks becoming more difficult, become less dependent on guidance in order to focus, study and organise, and more equipped to run their own life, as they get older.

While it’s natural for parents to worry about failure, there are times when it can be productive for children, and present an opportunity to change, says the late child

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behavioural therapist James Lehman. In his work, Lehman often noted that the Chinese symbol for “crisis” is a combination of the symbols for danger and opportunity: your child has the opportunity to learn a valuable lesson when he experiences the discomfort of his choices. “This could be what happens when you cut corners, when you don’t do your best at something or experience the reality of not being productive,” said Lehman.

“Too much control breeds either resentment or passive compliance,” says KwaZulu-Natal counselling psychologist Dr Rob Pluke. “If we want our children to take ownership of their studies, then we have to concede that they have the right to fail. It’s really their choice. You don’t want your child to think he’s doing his studies for you – that he’s doing you a favour.”

By her own admission, Gauteng mom Caroline* and her daughter Jessica* went through some rough waters last year when Jessica was in Grade 4. Caroline seemed to be putting in more time and effort and was running herself ragged trying to keep track of Jessica’s homework, assignments, hockey gear, reply slips and keeping books neat and tidy so her daughter’s teachers would see an organised learner instead of a scattered, disorganised one.

“I took my daughter’s bad grades and negative feedback from teacher’s personally because I felt I had failed despite all my efforts. I realised it was time to make some drastic changes to rescue our relationship. Instead of helping to do the work, I felt my input had to be about assisting Jessica to cultivate a different approach to her work,”

explains Caroline, a view supported by Pluke who cites the work of world-renowned Stanford University psychologist Carol Dweck, who pioneered work on mindset.

Dweck believes learners have either a fixed mindset, which is based on a belief that talent and intelligence will bring success, or a growth mindset, which believes basic abilities can be developed through hard work and dedication, and brains and talent are just the starting point. “Moms and dads are better at ‘you can do it’ than ‘this is how you do it’,” says Pluke. “It’s hard learning complex maths from someone you love. This is when the learning environment becomes a forum for tears and frustration.”

But what if your child is more prone to fail because of learning deficits, poor executive function and low self-esteem? Couldn’t failure bring more negativity into that child’s life? “It most definitely does,” says Cape Town-based clinical psychologist Fairuz Gaibie. “I have sat with children who have erroneously come to the heart-breaking conclusion that they are just stupid. Here it is important to build on the child’s competencies and provide them with consistent and unconditional love and support. Extramural activities in which they can experience a sense of mastery is vital in these children, as well as praising the child’s character and attributes, such as their kindness, generosity and thoughtfulness. Parents should also make an effort to place more emphasis on a person’s character instead of what is traditionally seen as ‘achievement’.

As parents, we seem to be more worried about raising happy children than competent, autonomous ones.

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This sends an important message to these children that who they are is more important than any accolade they could acquire.” *Names have been changed

how to talk to your child about failure Whether you and your child are dealing with feelings of discomfort or feelings of failure, there are three simple questions parents can ask their child, says James Lehman.

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what part did you play in this?

That’s what you want your child to learn

because that’s the only behaviour or action he can change. Therein lies the lesson.

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what are you going to do differently next time?

This is an important question because it will help him see other, healthier ways of responding to his problem.

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what did you learn from this?

Put the responsibility back on your child. It

is better for him to see that his schoolwork is essentially his work; this realisation or idea can be applied to almost every other area of his life too.

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dealing with difference

The abundance of a birthday party means there is more than enough to give to others who need it, says

the power of giving Thinking about it now, I see that my parents’ timing was ingenious. A birthday party is a time of great joy and abundance, when giving feels easy because there is more than enough to go around. They used a special day in the family to cast the net a little wider and make others feel special too. They used the birthday party to teach their children not only how important it is to give to others that don’t have, but how good it feels.

A parent-child relationship is powerful, so when a child sees a parent giving to another they are learning

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Party planning is not for the faint-hearted. ANÉL LEWIS shares some insight from her experiences.

invited guests There are some fundamental do’s and don’ts when it comes to party etiquette. Unless you can invite the whole class, don’t place brightly coloured invites in easily visible pigeonholes or lockers where the hapless children, who haven’t been included, can see them. The same children who can’t seem to find their own shoelaces will spot a party invite a mile off. While an emailed invitation is perhaps not the most personal option, it will spare the feelings of those children who have not been invited.

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✻✻ Create a birthday in a box – package all the things you need for a birthday party and give it to a less fortunate child. ✻✻ Donate a portion of your child’s gifts. ✻✻ Ask for gifts or gift money to be donated to a nominated organisation. ✻✻ Provide the cost of a birthday cake to an organisation that feeds the hungry or cut back on the catering and take the money saved on this catering and donate it. ✻✻ Calculate the cost of having an additional guest at your party and make that donation to an organisation. ✻✻ Have a birthday buddies party – ask your child’s guests to donate goodies and get the children to spend some time at the party preparing packages for each of their buddies. ✻✻ Throw a shopping spree party – a Joburg mom, Yvonne, took her seven-year-old daughter, Mae, to one of these parties. As the birthday girl was moving to Mexico City with her family, her mom thought to put many of her still pristine toys up for sale. The birthday guests got to keep the toys and all the money raised went to an organisation.

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quickly learnt the importance of putting “end” times on party invites when I found myself dragging diehard guests from an inflatable pool at 11pm on the night of my daughter’s first birthday party. In hindsight, we probably should not have opted for a spit braai that started at 10am to celebrate the birthday of a toddler who would doze off twice before we had even cut the cake.

But those were back in our eager days when we were party rookies. Now that we have organised almost 10 bashes for the children, since then, and attended countless others (have you ever noticed how they seem to happen in batches so you end up rushing like a headless chicken from the petting zoo to the superhero picnic with a blubbering Batman covered in straw?), we’re more prepared for the party gauntlet.

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on tap Given that the parents of younger children have to also be included in the party plans, decisions need to be made about whether alcohol will be on tap.

For the bleary-eyed parents attending what may be their third party that day, a glass of wine seems almost mandatory.

Perhaps keep alcohol for celebrations that start later in the day, and make sure the booze table is set up far away from the children’s area.

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numbers game Always RSVP to a party invite; especially if the theme involves a paid activity. Parties these days can cost as much as the down payment on a small speedboat, so be considerate and let the host know if you are coming.

Also bear in mind that the host may have capacity for a fixed number of guests. So ask before you rock up with your child, her three siblings and the great granny who is visiting from Poland. Also, younger children probably still need you to be at the party, so refrain from throwing your son out of the car quicker than anyone can scream “Piñata!” so that you can get a few hours of alone time at the mall.

Teach your children to hand over gifts graciously when attending parties, and to also say thank you for their gifts.

I recall being very rude about being given an ironing board as a present when I was about seven years old. My mother locked away all the other gifts until I had apologised and said thank you appropriately.

It’s good form to also send a written thank you afterwards.

Although, as most parents know, the gifts tend to get opened in a frenzied scrum that would put the Springboks to shame, and the chances of actually matching the cards to the toys are zero to none. If you can’t pair the gift to the guest, maybe just send out a general email with a few photographs from the party as a sign of appreciation. But if the bash ended with the adults in the inflatable pool again, maybe the best thank you would be to avoid all photographic evidence. magazine joburg

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that kindness, thoughtfulness and selflessness are qualities to be highly regarded. Mom and Dad are broadening their children’s horizons by showing them that people beyond their family circle are worthy, too, of being looked after.

PHOTOGRAPH: Caroline – Hugatree Photography

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remember after every birthday party, back in my junior primary school days, my mom and dad would take my brother and me to the local children’s home to share our birthday cake and sweets. The folks had us walk into the centre ahead of them with the party treats in-hand to give directly to the house mother. Our parents didn’t make a big deal of the gesture; it was just something that we did. As a way to introduce the idea to us, my dad simply made an observation during one of the post party clean-ups, “Look at all this cake. Why don’t we take it to children that don’t get to have birthday parties like these? Would be so nice for them, hey?”

I think my dad got our buy-in quickly because he always trumped up his ideas, making them sound so fun. My parents also worked it in such a way that we felt like we were calling the shots (plus getting to “gallivant”, as my mom would put it, on the same day as a birthday party was a bonus).

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birthday party basics It’s party time! Plan your child’s big day using one of our inspiring themes.

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equipment hire Biddy’s Jumping Castles – Northern suburbs – 082 453 0348 – jump@ biddyscastles.co.za – biddyscastles.co.za Bumpy Jumpy Castles – 082 227 8537 – fun@bumpyjumpycastles.co.za – bumpyjumpycastles.co.za Crazy Water Balls – 082 694 9833 – bookings@crazywaterballs.co.za – crazywaterballs.co.za JK Productions – 086 111 2876 – info@ jkproductions.co.za – jkproductions.co.za

indoor venues Bounce Inc – Waterfall Lifestyle Centre, Midrand – 011 517 2500 – enquiries@bounceinc.co.za – bounceinc.co.za

Col’Cacchio Pizzeria – Fairland – 011 431 3538/4204 – colcacchio.co.za Color Café – Hyde Park – 011 341 0734 – cilla@colorcafe.co.za – colorcafe.co.za

indoor & outdoor venues Cedar Junction Theme Park – Zwavelpoort, Pretoria East / 012 811 1183 / bookings@cedarjunction.co.za / cedarjunction.co.za EarthKids – Crowthorne – 011 023 5746 – party@earthkids.co.za – earthkids.co.za Happily Ever Laughter – Bedfordview – 011 450 0711 – info@happilyeverlaughter. co.za – happilyeverlaughter.co.za Smile Café – Fourways – 011 465 4162 – reservations@smilecafe.co.za – smilecafe.co.za Spur Steak Ranches – spur.co.za Tembali Party Park – Chartwell – 082 900 5474 – info@tembali.co.za – tembali.co.za Two Trees Bakery – Mulbarton – 076 174 7903 – Facebook: Two Trees Bakery Wacky Wanda Party Venue – Farmall – 082 822 3896 – parties@wackywanda. co.za – wackywanda.co.za

outdoor venues Fantasy Park – Chartwell West Country Estates – 062 289 7788 – fantasypark@ yahoo.co.za – fantasypark.co.za Green Garden Café – Broadacres – 073 417 7533 – info@greengardencafe.co.za – greengardencafe.co.za

Jungle Beat Kids – Alberton – 082 451 7377 – Facebook: Jungle Beat Kids Venue on Meyers Farm Kidzville – Kempton Park – 083 463 1429 – beth@kidzville.co.za – kidzville.co.za Petra’s Edu-Playgroup – Senderwood, Bedfordview – 083 326 3290 – petraq@ netactive.co.za – petraseduplaygroup.co.za RollEgoli – Bryanston – 083 232 9861 – info@rollegoli.co.za – rollegoli.co.za Sun Valley Pony Parties – Kyalami – 082 571 0309 – sunvalleystables.co.za The Mighty Jungle – Bedfordview – 082 880 9335, 083 452 8120 – mightyjungle@ global.co.za – mightyjungle.co.za The Silver Birch Restaurant – Randpark Ridge – 011 792 5714 – bookings@ thesilverbirch.co.za – thesilverbirch.co.za Takis and Takis Greek Tavern Happyland – Senderwood, Bedfordview – 011 027 3030, 076 324 6958 – takisandtakis.com

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in the garden strawberry-and-vanilla frozen-yoghurt cake From Real Meal Revolution: Raising Superheroes makes 10 portions ingredients for the strawberry frozen yogburt ✻✻ 600g strawberries, washed and quartered ✻✻ ½ cup honey ✻✻ 2 teaspoons lemon juice ✻✻ 3 cups Greek yoghurt ✻✻ a pinch of salt ingredients for the vanilla frozen yoghurt ✻✻ 1L Greek yoghurt ✻✻ ½ cup honey ✻✻ 1 teaspoon vanilla extract ✻✻ 2 teaspoons lemon juice ✻✻ a pinch of salt to make the strawberry frozen yoghurt Drizzle the strawberries with the honey and allow to stand for an hour.

Blend all the ingredients together until smooth and pass through a sieve to remove any seeds and bits. Freeze in an ice-cream churner. Spoon into a freezer container and freeze overnight or until needed.

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to make the vanilla frozen yoghurt In a bowl, mix together all the ingredients until they’re combined. Freeze in an ice-cream churner. Spoon into a freezer container and freeze overnight or until needed. to assemble the cake When the frozen yoghurt is properly set in the freezer, you’re ready to make the cake.

Line the sides of a 20cm springform cake tin with a sheet of plastic acetate.

Secure the acetate with some sticky tape, ensuring that it’s on the inside of the cake tin. Place it all on the plate you wish to make the cake on, then pop it into the freezer to chill for a few hours.

When you’re ready to make the cake, remove the frozen yoghurt from the freezer and allow it to soften slightly.

Spoon it into the prepared cake tin, starting with the strawberry and finishing with the vanilla.

Pop the cake back into the freezer overnight. The longer you freeze it for, the longer it will take to melt when it comes out.

When you’re ready to serve, remove the cake tin and peel away the acetate.

Top with berries or dark-chocolate shavings, or simply make it beautiful and girly with rose petals.

wild flowers From More Easy Party Treats for Children makes 10 ingredients ✻✻ green butter icing ✻✻ 10 Marie biscuits ✻✻ variety of small sweets method Spread the green butter icing over the Marie biscuits. Place a round sweet in the centre of each biscuit and arrange other sweets around the outside to create flowers.

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Use this easy-to-follow example of a template to create your own bright cardboard invites for a garden party.

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face up!

Face painting is a fun way to dress up, because there is no costume required. But take note of these questions to ask the face painter before booking. What kind of paint do you use?

Paint must be water-based and lead free. Also ask the painter how many children they can paint in an hour and if they have experience working with small children.

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the rain as backdrop. Get

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children’s garden gloves, seedlings and miniature pots and start digging.

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african safari what’s hiding in the river?

From More Easy Party Treats for Children ingredients ✻✻ green, white and grey fondant ✻✻ blue chocolate ✻✻ 10 Marie biscuits ✻✻ non-toxic marker pen First shape the heads and the bodies of the crocodile and hippo so that they can harden before they are attached to the biscuits. crocodile Shape the head from green fondant. Using a toothpick, make a mark for the mouth and two small holes for the nostrils. Cut small circles of white fondant and attach them to the head for the eyes. Shape the body and tail sections. Use a small pair of scissors to snip the top of the head, body and tail, to resemble the scales. Add dots to the eyes with a non-toxic marker pen.

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hippo Shape the head from grey fondant. Using a toothpick, make a mark for the mouth and small holes for the nostrils. Cut small circles of white fondant and attach them to the head for eyes. Shape the body section. Add dots to the eyes with a non-toxic marker pen. Set aside until the fondant hardens.

Melt the blue chocolate in the microwave and spread some over the Marie biscuits.

Place the fondant sections in the wet chocolate so that it looks as if the crocodile and hippo are in the water. Set aside until the chocolate hardens.

snakes on a branch ingredients ✻✻ different coloured fondant ✻✻ water ✻✻ 10 Flake chocolates ✻✻ non-toxic marker pens Shape the snake from your chosen colour of fondant. Using a contrasting colour fondant, make dots of different shapes and sizes and stick them to the snake’s body.

Shape a forked tongue from red fondant and attach it to the snake’s head.

If necessary, use a little water to get it to stick.

Add the eyes and nostrils with the non-toxic marker pen. Carefully wrap the snake’s body around the Flake.

wildlife fingers The book, More Easy Party Treats for Children has an entire section on how to create these adorable finger biscuit characters using fondant and a tad of creativity.

Set aside until the fondant hardens.

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old games with a twist Children are comforted by traditional games. Add a new twist to “Pin the tail on the donkey” by replacing the donkey with a cheetah. Or find plenty of origami instructions for children online to fold and create their own creatures.

explore and create art and crafts parties Craft Basket – Fourways – 011 467 5694, 082 707 4699 – info@craftbasket.co.za – craftatfourways.co.za Pottery Junxion – Edenvale – 011 453 2721 – rosie@potteryjunxion.co.za – potteryjunxion.co.za Spotted Frog – Bryanston – 072 112 7166 – jennyboon7373@ gmail.com – Facebook: Spotted Frog Pottery

go green with e-invites If you are really stressed for time, and creatively challenged, go green and send paperless invites. E-invites are cost effective, convenient and give you the freedom to create what you want. Some sites such as e-invites.co.za charge a fee, but this includes an RSVP manager and email distribution. Most sites need you to sign-up or register.

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entertainers Please come to

Jack’s

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Wild and Earthly – 084 550 0120 – lisa@wildandearthly.co.za – wildandearthly.co.za Leo’s Puppet Theatre – 083 378 2272 – info@puppettheatre.co.za – puppettheatre.co.za

indoor & outdoor venues Croc City – Crocodile and Reptile Park – Nietgedacht – 083 321 1016 – info@ croccity.co.za – croccity.co.za Joburg Zoo – Parkview – 011 646 2000 – lebo.moalusi@jhbzoo.org.za – jhbzoo.org.za Lory Park Animal and Owl Sanctuary – Midrand – 011 315 7307 – info@lorypark.co.za – lorypark.co.za Montecasino Bird Gardens – Fourways – 011 511 1864 – education@ montebg.co.za – montecasino.co.za Old Macdonald’s Party Farm – Lanseria – 082 500 9613, 071 354 6622, 082 459 1728 – info@oldmacdonald. co.za – oldmacdonald.co.za Rhino and Lion Nature Reserve – Kromdraai – 011 957 0106 – info@ rhinolion.co.za – rhinolion.co.za

Saturday 7 May 3pm @ P irate Rd, Cape Town. R.S.V.P by 24 A pril: 079 987 6543

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team spirit soccer fever Ask your baker to create sporty cupcakes. A cupcake can represent any sports ball, from tennis to cricket and even rugby.

parmesan chicken strips From Real Meal Revolution: Raising Superheroes makes 8 portions These chicken strips are a little more grown-up than the others in the book, so are great to do as a family snack. You could also use the coating on a flattened chicken breast to make a delicious schnitzel. ingredients ✻✻ 120g parmesan, finely grated ✻✻ 120g ground almonds ✻✻ salt and pepper ✻✻ 4 chicken breasts, cut into strips ✻✻ 2 eggs, beaten ✻✻ 2 tablespoons coconut oil for frying ✻✻ 2 tablespoons butter for frying ✻✻ homemade mayo, lemon wedges and chopped chives to serve

method Mix the parmesan and almonds in a bowl and season with a little salt and pepper.

Dip the chicken strips into the egg then coat with the parmesan mix.

Heat the coconut oil and butter in a pan and fry the chicken strips until golden brown on both sides.

Serve in little cups with homemade mayo to dip, lemon wedges and chopped chives.

hanging balls decor Cut different coloured circles from cardboard, glue them to string and hang them from the roof or from trees if the party is outside.

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Stumped by what to give as a party favour? Hula hoops keep children fit and toned in a fun way and they are inexpensive.

shoe lace threaded invite Copy an outline of a shoe on a piece of coloured cardboard. Decorate it according to your theme, add all your details, and punch holes where the shoelaces should be. Thread real shoelaces through for an authentic invite. magazine joburg

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doughnut game Tie a long string across the room or in the garden, attach individual doughnuts with string and partygoers must eat the dougnuts without using their hands or dropping it on the floor.

boerie rolls Create a festive sports atmosphere and braai boerewors outside for boerie rolls with a variety of relishes.

jan braai lamb pita From The Democratic Republic of Braai feeds 6 what you need ✻✻ 6 pita breads ✻✻ 6 lamb leg chops (those roundish ones) ✻✻ 1 tsp coriander seeds ✻✻ 1 tsp cumin seeds ✻✻ 1 tsp salt ✻✻ 1 tsp ground black pepper ✻✻ 2 garlic cloves (chopped) ✻✻ 1 lemon (juice) ✻✻ 1 tot olive oil for the sauce ✻✻ 1 cup Greek yoghurt (or cream yoghurt) ✻✻ ½ cucumber (chopped) ✻✻ 1 tot olive oil ✻✻ 2 garlic cloves (finely chopped) ✻✻ salt and pepper

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indoor & outdoor venues 21 Jump Street – Mall of the South, Aspen Hills – 011 682 1657 – info@21jumpstreet. co.za – 21jumpstreet.co.za AcroBranch – Melrose – 086 999 0369, 010 593 0493 – acrobranch.co.za Avalanche – Cedar Square, Fourways – 011 467 2426 – info@avalanche.co.za – avalanche.co.za Discovery Soccer Park – Illovo – 011 447 1198 – dustin@discoverysoccerpark. co.za – discoverysoccerpark.co.za iJump – Strubens Valley, Roodepoort – 011 086 6720 – info@ijump.co.za – ijump.co.za

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what to do Crush the coriander and cumin seeds in a mortar and pestle, and mix in the salt, pepper, garlic cloves, lemon juice and olive oil.

Rub the chops with the mixture from step 1, cover and let them marinate in a fridge for about 2 hours.

Make the sauce by combining all its ingredients and then adding salt, pepper and a few squeezes of lemon juice to taste.

Make the salad by chopping and combining the tomatoes, cucumber, onion, mint, parsley and oregano.

Add a bit of olive oil to give it that nice shine.

Braai the chops for about 10 to 12 minutes over hot coals until done.

As you remove the chops from the grid, add the pita breads to the grid and toast them for a few minutes, turning a few times and taking extreme care not to let them burn.

Use your sharp chef’s or carving knife to debone the chops and slice them in thin diagonal slivers.

Open the toasted pita breads and evenly distribute the various ingredients into them.

Jozi X – Bryanston – 082 456 2358 – info@jozix.co.za – jozix.co.za Sandton Action Sports – Sandton – 011 444 6176 – paul@sandtonactionsports. co.za – sandtonactionsports.co.za The Ski Deck – Ferndale, Randburg – 011 781 6528 – info@ski.co.za – ski.co.za

entertainers Beat Parties – 071 682 0551 – jayson@ beatparties.co.za – beatparties.com Little Kickers – 087 550 3188 – admin@ littlekickers.co.za – littlekickers.co.za Soccercise Starz – 011 882 3428 – info@soccercise.co.za – soccercise.co.za

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culture crazy mexican fiesta with power poppers From Real Meal Revolution: Raising Superheroes makes 14 poppers ingredients ✻✻ 14 fresh large jalapeño chillies ✻✻ 250g–300g streaky bacon for the mexican white sauce ✻✻ 2 cups mayo ✻✻ ¾ cup milk ✻✻ ¼ teaspoon smoked paprika ✻✻ 1 teaspoon ground cumin ✻✻ ½ teaspoon salt ✻✻ 1½ teaspoons garlic powder ✻✻ 1½ teaspoons dried oregano for the filling ✻✻ 70g grated mozzarella ✻✻ 70g grated cheddar ✻✻ 70g cream cheese ✻✻ 1 clove garlic, crushed ✻✻ 1 tablespoon chopped parsley ✻✻ salt and pepper method Bring a small pot of water to the boil.

While you’re waiting, make a single lengthways slit in each chilli.

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for about 3 minutes. When the skin starts to peel, transfer them into a bowl of cold water. Using your fingers, scoop the seeds out and dry the chillies well.

In a bowl, mix all the ingredients for the Mexican white sauce and put aside.

To make the filling, mix all the ingredients in a bowl.

Stuff each jalapeño with enough filling for the chilli to return to its original shape.

Wrap one of the pieces of bacon around each chilli, ensuring the slit is completely covered, and lay the chillies on a baking tray.

Preheat the grill, then place the chillies underneath it to cook. Grill until the bacon is crispy, turning as needed.

swiss fondue From Real Meal Revolution: Raising Superheroes serves 6–8 people for the cheese sauce dipping suggestions ✻✻ 1½ cups white wine (optional) ✻✻ fried mushrooms ✻✻ 500ml cream ✻✻ slices of fried chorizo ✻✻ 2 heaped teaspoons ✻✻ cherry tomatoes Dijon mustard ✻✻ meatballs ✻✻ 3 cups grated cheese (mild ✻✻ lightly cooked carrots gruyère, Emmenthal or cheddar) method Pour the wine into a saucepan and bring it to the boil. Simmer until it has reduced to half.

Add the cream and mustard and continue to simmer until the cream thickens slightly – about 5–10 minutes. Remove from the heat. (NB: at this point, once the cheese is mixed into the sauce,

you need to serve it immediately.

If you want to finish it off later, allow the cream sauce to cool and reheat it just before serving.

Add the cheese to the hot sauce and stir until melted. Pour it into a fondue pot and serve immediately with a variety of bits and pieces for dipping.

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Build a temporary stage and let guests choose a popular play or musical, rehearse lines, dress up and act out. You can also get djembe drums to make some noise or host a rock concert. All that drama is sure to entertain young and old.

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Cooking Up a Storm – Randburg – 083 408 8802 – info@cookingupastorm.co.za – cookingupastorm.co.za The Taste Bud Cooking Studio – Paulshof – 071 136 1622 – info@tastebudstudio. co.za – tastebudstudio.co.za Little Cooks Club – 083 556 3434 – headoffice@ littlecooksclub.co.za – littlecooksclub.co.za

music & drama parties Disco Baby – 084 804 6550 – bookings@discobaby.co.za – discobaby.co.za Drum Connection – 084 389 6814 – info@ drumconnection.co.za – drumconnection.co.za National Children’s Theatre – Parktown – 011 484 1584 / cindy@nctt.org.za – nationalchildrenstheatre.org.za The Barnyard Theatres – Cresta, Rivonia, Emperors Palace – for contact details: barnyardtheatres.co.za Wired Sound Studios – Blairgowrie – 082 339 4733 – info@wiredsoundstudios.co.za – wiredsoundstudios.co.za

pamper parties Featherbrooke Children – 083 704 8600 – springett@mweb.co.za – featherbrookechildren.co.za Ooh–La–La – 084 576 0342 – info@oohlalaparties.co.za – oohlalaparties.co.za

Pretend you’re in Paris for brunch and serve croissants with fruit and healthy spreads. You can also make French toast and serve it with almond butter and preserves. Or find a recipe for crepes and sauteed fruit (berries or bananas) with a chocolate sauce. Serve eggs royale: poach eggs, toast an English muffin and serve with salmon. Bon appétit.

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party recipe books Real Meal Revolution: Raising Superheroes

By Tim Noakes, Jonno Proudfoot and Bridget Surtees (Published by Real Meal Revolution, R330) Following the record-breaking success of The Real Meal Revolution, Tim Noakes and the Real Meal Team have now set out to rethink the way we feed our children. The result, Raising Superheroes, is not a Banting cookbook and doesn’t suggest no-carb eating for children. It also has a section dedicated to party food with recipes featured in Child magazine as well as “Frozen Banana Chocolate Rockets”, “Lemon-and-Vanilla Cheesecake”, “Princess Ritz”, “Mini Cheese-and-Tomato Pizzas”, party drinks and more.

More Easy Party Treats for Children

By Janette Mocke (Published by Struik Lifestyle, R210) Children love themed parties; and if you’re a mom who wants to give your child a party to remember, but without the hassle and stress of baking cakes and cookies, this is the book for you. Filled with simple, no-bake treats that are made from readily available sweets and biscuits, this book presents 15 party themes that can be adapted to suit your child’s age.

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The Democratic Republic of Braai

By Jan Braai (Published by NB Publishers, R320) It is your democratic right to gather with friends and family around braai fires throughout the country, and even more so on a birthday celebration. This is the promise of Jan Braai’s The Democratic Republic of Braai. It brings you the greatest braai recipes that Jan knows – it’s your right to braai the best. Find exceptional braai recipes for steak, chicken, lamb and more – there’s no need to eat badly braaied food ever again.

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Gateway to Space: The Exhibition

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Have you ever wondered what it’s like in space? The exhibition introduces audiences to the people, technologies and circumstances that made space exploration possible.

Among the highlights is a real moon rock, a life-size Mir space station core module, a Sputnik-1 model and an Apollo capsule model. The exhibition runs at the Sandton Convention Centre until 31 July. Tickets cost R180 for adults, R120 for children 18 months–18 years old and R520 for a family of four. Tickets are available through computicket. com. For more info: gatewaytospace.co.za

Forever Jackson

Artist and producer Robin Parsons embodies Michael Jackson in every sense of the word.

Singing 100% live, his voice replicates the distinctive tones of Jackson, his dancing mirrors the legend, and his image, created through a two hour theatrical make up process, is the exact replica of Michael Jackson.

Performances take place at the Joburg Theatre until 19 June at 8pm Wednesday–Saturday and 3pm Sunday. Tickets cost R120–R325. Book through the Joburg Theatre: 0861 670 670 or joburgtheatre.com

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You can also access an extended calendar online at

childmag.co.za or submit aan event for July before 27 May to joburg@ childmag.co.za

The Dino Expo

An exhibition of life-sized, animatronic dinosaurs that capture the imagination with their lifelike demeanour and movement.

Children can also take part in dino-themed activities, fossil digging and watch the dino musical theatre. The expo runs at Eastgate Shopping Centre from 10am–4pm. From 29 April–26 June (including 16 June) Friday–Sunday, and from 28 June–17 July Tuesday–Sunday. Entrance costs R120 for adults and children 13 years and older, R110 for pensioners, R100 for children 2–12 years old, R380 for a family of four (2 adults and 2 children) and free for children under 2 years old. Book through computicket.com

Learning Point High School Options Expo Weigh up the pros and cons and make an informed decision regarding your child’s future education. There are representatives from several government and independent high schools

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The expo takes place during the mall’s trading hours until 5 June. For more information, contact Natasha: 061 296 4141, natasha@thelearningpoint.co.za or

National Antiques and Decorative Arts Faire

The faire showcases everything from classic antiques to retro collectables until 5 June at the Sandton Convention Centre. Find that statement piece that will be the talking point of your home, that rare piece to add to your collection or just something special that catches your eye. The fair is open from 10am–6pm.

Entrance costs R100 per person. Contact: 011 482 4259 or naada.co.za

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Magical Medieval Fayre

Artists Under the Sun A monthly open-air exhibition of fine art and sculpture. Dogs on leads are welcome. The exhibition takes place on the lawns of Zoo Lake from 9am–4pm until 5 June. Contact: 011 432 1482, artists.aus@mweb.co.za or artistsunderthesun.co.za

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George’s Marvellous Medicine

The National Children’s Theatre in Parktown presents a magical Roald Dahl classic adapted for the stage by award-winning children’s theatre director, David Wood.

The production tells the story of young George who tries to cure his horrible Grandma’s attitude with a marvellous medicine. Performances are held from 7 June–17 July at 10:30am and 2:30pm Monday–Saturday during the government school term and Tuesday–Sunday during government school holidays. Bookings essential. Tickets cost R110 for chairs, and R90 for cushions and pensioners. For bookings, contact: 011 484 1584, bookings@nctt.org. za or nationalchildrenstheatre.org.za

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All countrymen and their kin can enjoy a midwinter afternoon of carousing, rabble rousing (wenching optional) and medieval activity. The market offers all manner of medieval games and craftsmanship from 12pm–6pm. There will be a sumptuous sit down banquet for a limited number of guests from 6pm. The fayre will be held at Her Majesty’s, cnr Bridle Pass and Champion St, Kyalami, Midrand. Entrance to the market is free. For more info: medievalfayre.co.za

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The Oyster, Wine and Food Festival

Montecasino hosts a feast of 65 000 succulent Knysna oysters paired with 40 prime wine estates and gourmet food vendors. You can also expect a craft beer garden, champagne deck and varied live music performances. The festival takes place until 12 June at 3pm–9pm Friday, 11am–8pm Saturday and 11am–6pm Sunday. Tickets cost R140 per person, which includes a wine-tasting glass, teenagers 14–18 years old R110, children under 13 years old free. Tickets are available through ticketpros.co.za or contact Montecasino for more info: 011 510 7995

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Melville Koppies hikes and tours

Receive an introduction to our natural and cultural heritage while on a three-hour guided hike around the Koppies, suitable for 6 years and older. No booking required. The hike departs at 8:30am on 12, 19 and 26 June and at 2pm on 5 June. Park opposite the entrance to

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Disney’s Peter Pan Jr

The Peoples Theatre in Braamfontein will captivate children and adults with enchanting sets and costumes, swashbuckling fights and a flying sequence as they present the musical stage version of Peter Pan until 31 July. Booking essential. Tickets cost R85 for club members, R110 if attending with a club member, and R125 for non-members.

To book, contact: 011 403 1563/2340 or joburgtheatre.com

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Kidz Rock the Hits

A fist-pumping and hip-swaying production that pays tribute to

the billboard number one hit songs from 2015.

The production will be at the Barnyard Theatre in Cresta at 2pm on 11 June, and at the Barnyard Theatre in Emperors Palace at 2pm on 18 June. Tickets cost R100 per person. To book contact Cresta: 011 478 5300 or Emperors Palace: 011 928 1108 or barnyardtheatre.co.za

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Donate a unit of blood at your nearest donor centre and help save the lives of patients in dire need of blood. Donors need to be 16–65 years old, in good health

Marks Park Sports Club, Judith Rd, Emmarentia. The hike

and weigh 50kg or more. For more info contact the

costs R50 for adults and R20 for children. For more info,

South African National Blood Service: 0800 119 031 or

contact Wendy: 011 482 4797 or mk.org.za

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Terracotta Army and the First Emperor of China Exhibition The army of Emperor Qin Shi Huang, China’s greatest military, was immortalised in clay in 209 BC. You can now view more than 300 life-size reproductions of statues, chariots, and weapons, such as they were discovered in the pits of the necropolis. The exhibition runs at Silverstar Casino from 9am–7pm, 15 June–24 August. Tickets cost R140 for adults, R95 for pensioners and students, R85 for children, free for children under 5 years old, and a family of four (2 adults and 2 children) R350.

Special school packages available. Book through Webtickets and for more info: exporsa.co.za/terracotta

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Violinist Kristof Barati

Hungarian violinist Kristof Barati will perform at the Linder Auditorium in Parktown at 8pm. As one of the most saught-after violinists, he has a dazzling technique and

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Darin the Magician will be visiting Kinderspiel, 39A Greenhill Rd in Emmarentia at 10am to perform a mind-boggling show for the whole family.

Then on 18 June, Kallie the Clown will treat you to more laughs and magic at 10am. The shows cost R55 per person. To book, contact: 011 646 0870, kinderspiel@ telkomsa.net or kinderspiel.co.za

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From 10am until 5pm, Nirox Sculpture Park at 24 Kromdraai Rd in the Cradle of Humankind, hosts a concert featuring original compositions from a collection of the finest guitar players in South Africa, including: Derek Gripper, Steve Newman, Pops Mohamed, Sibusile Xaba, Richard Bruyns and Michael Plaxton-Harrison. Food and refreshments will be on offer from the Epicurean Emporium. Gates open at 10am with music from 11am. Tickets cost R300 per person, R320 at the gate, children under 12 pay half-price (R150–R160) and children under 2 years old are free. Tickets available online through acousticsnow.org

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Little Maestros classical concerts The theme for this month’s classical recital for 0–7 year olds is “Percussion Fun” – meet the marimba, glockenspiel, drums, triangle

gorgeous tone and plays the “Lady Harmsworth” violin

and many more fun percussion instruments.

made in 1703 by Antonio Stradivari. Tickets are available

The concert is from 3pm–4pm at the

through Computicket or at the door one hour before the

Foxwood Theatre in Houghton and includes

start of the performance. Please note there are no credit

classical music, sing-along nursery rhymes

card facilities at the auditorium. Tickets cost R165–R200.

and live interaction. Tickets cost R120. For

For more info, contact: 011 728 5492, jms@artslink.co.za

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littlemaestros.org or littlemaestros.org

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Father’s Day braai Take your own meat and camping chairs for a Father’s Day braai at Willow View Academy in Bredell, Kempton Park.

The braai fires, cutlery, salads, pap and gravy, boeresport and music will be provided. The braai starts at 11am and costs R70 for adults and R25 for children under 12 years old. For more info, contact Karen: 011 565 6600 or karen. britz@plgschools.co.za

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Beechwood Gardens open day

Take an amble around this classic Joburg garden, laid out in 1945 by landscape architect Joane Pym. The gardens feature magnificent trees, a rainforest, a water garden comprising six ponds and a bog, a colonnade, a formal rose garden, a lotus garden and a sunken vegetable garden. The open days are from 9am–5pm, 24–26 June.

Beechwood Gardens can be found at 25 Christopherson Rd, Hyde Park. Entrance costs R50 per person, children under 12 years old are free. Contact: 011 325 4477, margaret@charlesgreig.co.za or beechwoodgardens.co.za

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Shrek the Musical

Disney on Ice presents

Worlds of Enchantment

An action-packed ice spectacular featuring four fun-filled Disney stories that showcase many of the beloved characters from Cars, The Little Mermaid, and Toy Story, along with Mickey Mouse, Minnie Mouse, Donald Duck and Goofy. Joining these cherished characters are the dynamic sisters Anna and Elsa from Frozen.

The spectacular runs at the Ticketpro Dome in North Riding from 24 June–3 July. Tickets cost R175–R475.

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The exhibition explores poison’s paradoxical roles in nature, human health and history, literature, and myth from across the globe and features real poisonous animals and plants. The exhibition runs at Silverstar Casino from 9am–7pm, 24 June–24 August. Tickets cost R140 for adults, R95 for pensioners and students, R85 for children, free for children under 5 years old, and R350 for a family of four (two adults and two children). Special school packages are available. For more info, contact: 021 418 0738, info@exporsa.com or exporsa.co.za/power-of-poison

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Direct from the fabled Shaolin Temple in China’s Henan province, the Shaolin Monks will demonstrate their authentic martial arts expertise on stage at Montecasino’s Teatro. The show combines traditional Shaolin kung fu, inch perfect choreography with dramatic lighting and sound that evokes the spirit of their traditions in one breathtaking performance. Performances take place at 8pm Tuesday–Saturday, 3pm Saturday, and 2pm and 6pm on Sunday from 28 June–10 July. Tickets cost R285–R565.

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A larger than life musical stage adaptation of DreamWorks’ Shrek with an enormous cast, a fabulous score and extravagant costumes. The story revolves around an unlikely hero, a benign ogre who sets out to reclaim his swamp from disgruntled fairytale creatures and ends up vanquishing the villain and finding true love. Performances are at the Lyric Theatre in Gold Reef City at 2:30pm Wednesday–Saturday, 7:30pm Friday and Saturday from 24 June–17 July. Tickets cost R150–R290. Book through computicket.com

Seeff lumo walk/run

Dress in neon for a 5km lumo walk held on the last Friday of every month at the Rietvlei Lifestyle Centre in Alberton. There are prizes for the best dressed.

Register at Calco Café & Pizzeria from 5pm; the run starts at 5:30pm. Entries are free. Contact: 011 867 0143/5 or rietvleilifestylecentre. co.za

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The Jittery Citizens

Improv comedy by a fearless and talented group of comedy and musical improvisation artists. Audience members inspire the topic for the night, putting the comedians on the spot as everything that happens is created with no preparation, the results depend entirely on how sharp, quick-witted and just plain funny the artists are.

The show kicks off at 8pm at the Joburg Theatre. Tickets cost R80. Book through the Joburg Theatre: 0861 670 670 or joburgtheatre.com

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Field and Study Market The market takes place at Field and Study Park, cnr 14th St and Louise Ave, Parkmore on 18 June from 9am–2pm. Contact: fieldandstudymarket@ gmail.com or fieldandstudymarket.co.za Father’s Day at Riversands On 19 June, you can enjoy traditional fun with dad at the Riversands Farm Village, Rose Rd, Fourways. Dogs on leads welcome. The market is open from 9am–4pm. For more info: riversandsfarm.co.za Cedar Square Banting and Health Foods Market It runs at Cedar Square in Fourways on 25 June from 9am–1pm. Contact: 011 465 0910 or cedarsquare.co.za

open day

Dainfern College open day Prospective parents and pupils are welcome to take a tour of the school’s facilities and meet the principals between 9am–10am.

The school caters to learners from Grade 0–12. Venue: Dainfern College, Broadacres Dr, Dainfern.

Contact Kathryn: 011 469 0635 or dainferncollege.co.za Omatas Learning Centre open day On 8 June, 9am–11am, find out more about how they cater to children, Grade 1–7, who are battling with the typical school system.

The address is Berario Recreation Centre, cnr Dolores Ave and Hoover St, Room 10, Berario, Northcliff. Contact: 084 440 0151 or info@omatas.co.za

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holiday programmes Expressions Centre winter holiday fun A fun-filled, activity-based holiday programme where children enjoy a variety of activities as well as take part in fun physical games including yoga, baking and cooking, dance, drama, music, gardening, Minute to Win It challenges and a science fair. The camp is held at the Expressions Centre, Norfolk Rd, Carlswald, from 27 June–15 July, 8am–4:30pm (half day until 1:30pm) Monday–Friday. Early bird drop– off service available, as well as a later pick-up time can be arranged. Suitable for 4 years and older. The programme costs R260 for a full day and R200 for half day. Contact: 082 402 8169, carla@expressionsinfocus.co.za or expressionsinfocus.co.za Holiday fun at Yeesh! fun for kids Under the watchful eyes of childminders, children 4–12 years old (younger children must be accompanied by an adult) can play on the giant two level structure with slides, trampolines, jumping castles and soft play obstacles. The centre is open from 9am–5pm Tuesday–Sunday, open every day during the school holidays.

Yeesh! Fun for Kids is situated in the Woodmead Commercial Park, Waterval Cresent, Woodmead. Contact: 011 656 9669, 083 923 2306, info@yeesh.co.za or yeesh.co.za ITA Holiday Clinic Keep your 3–16 year olds active with a five-day tennis coaching clinic from 27 June–1 July. The camp focuses on providing a positive experience

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while improving your child’s tennis skills. Booking essential. The camp runs from 8:30am–1:30pm at Crawford Preparatory, Sceales Rd in Lonehill. The clinic costs R300–R990. Contact: 083 443 3391, info@itatennis.co.za or thetenniscoach.co.za Kidz fishing camp From 27–29 June, children 7–15 years old can get close to nature and learn how to fish, tie knots, canoe and more. Transport is provided from Joburg to the camp on the Vaal River.

The camp costs R1 300 per child. Contact: 083 610 2911 or kidzfishingcamp.co.za Little Cooks Club Boksburg Enjoy a morning or afternoon of cooking, where you’ll make various treats from chicken pie to breakfast dishes, cookies and more. Classes take place at 231 Trichardts Rd, Cinderella, Boksburg from 9am–12pm and 1pm–4pm, 27 June–15 July. The programme costs R170 per class for 2–6 year olds, R265 per class for 7–15 year olds. For more info: 072 271 8904, erikab@littlecooksclub.co.za or littlecooksclub.co.za Run and play at Serendipity Children 0–10 years old are kept busy with organised games, free play, baking, art and craft activities and storytelling from 9am–12:30pm or 9am–4:30pm Tuesday–Friday during both the public and independent school holidays. Serendipity is based at 48 Keyes Ave, Rosebank. Half day costs R160, and full day costs R260. For more info: 011 447 7386 or serendipityplay.co.za

Sugar Bay holiday camp – Angry Birds Week A week-long adventure camp held at Sugar Bay Holiday Resort, Zinkwazi Beach in KZN. Children 7–17 years old experience over 100 free-choice activities under the supervision of trained counsellors. Campers will watch as the Angry Birds video game characters come to life and go on an excursion to Joy Land in Gateway and to the Umgeni Bird Park in Durban. Booking essential. The camp runs from 26 June–3 July and costs R5 799 for a new camper. Contact: 032 485 3778, holidays@sugarbay.co.za or sugarbay.co.za The Winter Craft School The programme consists of nine traditional art and craft workshops, including shibori dyeing, copper beating, stone sculpting, textile design and print, jewellery making and more. Booking essential. It takes place at Michael Mount Waldorf School in Bryanston 27 and 28 June, as well as 29 and 30 June, 9am–4pm, and is suitable for children 9 years and older. The two full days cost R950, including materials. Contact Lea: 083 454 4076 or craftschoolsa.com Tots n Pots cooking playdate Children 3–10 years old (minimum 4) will be kept busy with a cooking or baking activity, food crafts, food games and more from 10am Monday– Friday between 27 June–15 July. Booking essential. Tots n Pots Randburg is based on Oak Ave, Robindale. The programme costs R150 per child. Contact: 082 304 4491 or tilana@totsnpots.com

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wise beyond their years ANÉL LEWIS dreads the day her children start asking questions about the birds and the bees. Her five year old is already going through a

he question came out of the blue one morning. “Mom, why did you choose to have Conor?”

I looked at Erin, now five years old (going on 15), and thought she was probably bemoaning the fact that she had to share the TV room with a boy sibling interested in only watching movies with cars or trains.

“Would you have preferred a sister instead of a brother?” I asked.

Without missing a beat, she replied: “No Mom, I didn’t need either. I was quite happy on my own.”

Poor Conor didn’t seem too upset by his sister’s disdain for his existence. He was more concerned about how he had managed to eat while he was in my stomach for nine months.

I just love how uncomplicated the universe is for him.

Erin, on the other hand, seems to be pondering the mysteries of life at the moment.

Another humdinger that came at me while I was driving to school, innocently singing along to UB40’s “I got you, babe”, was “Mom, when you go to heaven, will you be up there as a grown-up, or will you go back to being a baby again?”

Wowzer, that was a tough issue to grapple with before my second cup of coffee. When I asked her which she would prefer, she was quiet for a few seconds before replying, “ I want you to stay as an adult so that you can still be my mom when I get there.”

While Erin appears to be having some sort of a mini-existential crisis, Conor’s more focused on the practicalities of things. While looking at one of our wedding photos, he said to me, “So, Mom, did you marry Dad?” I assured him that yes, that is exactly what I was

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Erin, Anél and Conor

doing in that white get-up on a beach in May. After dealing with Erin’s questions, I expected Conor to then probe further about the meaning of marriage, life and the universe.

But thankfully, he only wanted to find out about the decor. “So, you had flowers, hey?”

“Um, yes, my boy,” I replied nervously.

“Looks like a nice day then, Mom.” And that was that.

But I wasn’t off the hook just yet. It only took a few seconds for Erin to ask, “Mom, will you get married to Dad again? I really don’t want another brother.”

Despite Erin’s apparent fear of another sibling being added into the mix – which is about as likely as a certain politician paying back all the money – she is fiercely protective of her younger brother, and vice versa.

Conor gets his pronouns confused, so he’s very concerned if his “brother” is sent to time-out. The two still share a bedroom, even though Conor has a perfectly good bed just across the hall.

And when Erin gets too deep, and starts mulling over the big life questions, it’s Conor who helps her put things back into perspective.

“You’re my brother, hey Erin? I love you.”

And suddenly, the universe makes perfect sense again.

Anél Lewis is becoming as adept as a politician at dodging questions from out of left field while stuck in rush-hour traffic. She’s just wondering what’s going to happen when the inevitable “birds and the bees” queries start coming.

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