Letters from CAMP Rehoboth, Vol. 35, No. 8 by CAMP Rehoboth

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BY KIM LEISEY, PHD

Embracing Nuance & Uncertainty

Have you ever experienced something that helped you to challenge your thinking? I recently watched a documentary on the Vietnam War. At the end I said to myself, “No wonder there are so many that distrust government.” I thought maybe I had acquired a new insight and possible truth into some of today’s problems.

We like to believe that right and wrong are easy to spot, that truth is singular, and that if someone disagrees with us, one of us must be wrong. It’s clean. It’s comforting. And it’s often false.

The truth is that life rarely fits into neat categories. Two opposing truths can exist at the same time and both can be real. A person can be both envious of and happy for someone. Changes to things we see as traditions can be challenging and simultaneously necessary. One can be queer and conservative. Grief can coexist with joy. That tension is not hypocrisy, it’s human.

So why is it so hard for people to accept this? Why does it feel uncomfortable, even threatening, when we encounter truths that contradict our own?

Two opposing truths can exist at the same time and both can be real.

One answer lies in how we are taught to see the world. From childhood, most of us are raised with either/or thinking. Either something is true, or it’s false. Either you’re with me, or you’re against me. This binary and dualistic framework gives us certainty, which feels safe. Complexity, by contrast, feels risky. If we admit there might be more than one truth, we’re left on uncertain ground. Could it be that this uncertain ground is where real understanding begins?

One reason we struggle with opposing truths is because we confuse disagreement with disloyalty. In close relationships, if someone we care about sees things differently, we may feel invalidated or rejected. But difference doesn’t equal disrespect. Two people can hold different beliefs and still deeply value one another. In fact, relationships often grow stronger not despite tension—but because of how we move through it with honesty and care.

We also live in a culture that rewards certainty and performance over curiosity and reflection. Social media, politics, and even activism often push us to take hard stances, to declare who’s right and who’s wrong. We’re encouraged to win arguments, not understand people. This pressure makes it harder to sit with nuance and say, “I see it differently, and I still see you.”

But perhaps the most challenging reason we resist opposing truths is because they demand emotional maturity. They ask us to tolerate discomfort. To say: I don’t fully understand this, but I’ll stay in the conversation. To recognize that someone else’s truth doesn’t erase our own. And that reality is not always either/or—it’s often both/and.

This is especially true in LGBTQ+ communities, where experiences are shaped by a wide range of intersecting identities: race, religion, class, geography, generation. A queer person raised in the 1960s may have a vastly different experience than a queer person raised in the 2000s. Their truths may seem to clash. This doesn’t mean one cancels out the other. They simply reflect different realities, and both deserve to be heard.

When we allow opposing truths to coexist, we make space for deeper relationships. We stop needing to win and start learning to listen. We become more generous in how we interpret others and are more honest about our own contradictions. We grow.

It’s not easy. It means acknowledging that people we love may say things that hurt us and that we might have blind spots too. It means recognizing that someone can be wrong about us and still be right about something else. It means allowing complexity to take up space where certainty used to live. This is where connection happens.

You can love someone and not agree with them. You can tell the truth of your experience without demanding it become universal. You can stay in the conversation, even when it’s hard.

We’re not meant to erase difference to belong. We’re meant to build relationships that can hold difference with grace. Two truths can coexist, even when they pull in opposite directions. Learning to live in that tension doesn’t weaken us—it humanizes us.

In a time when public discourse is increasingly polarized, embracing complexity is an act of quiet resistance. It reminds us that people are not puzzles to be solved or positions to be debated, but stories to be heard. If we can learn to accept that two opposing truths can both be real, we just might find more space for compassion, connection, and paradoxically, truth.

Not sure how to respond when you perceive an opposing truth? Try saying, “Help me to understand what you mean.” What follows may be enlightening and fascinating. And maybe you never thought of it that way. ▼

Kim Leisey, PhD, is Executive Director of CAMP Rehoboth.

THIS ISSUE

VOLUME 35, NUMBER 8 • SEPTEMBER 19, 2025

60 Celebrity Interview

Matt Matthews

MICHAEL COOK

62 National Ghost Hunting Day

Spirits of Sussex County

MARY JO TARALLO

*Historically Intentional

D., MATTY BROWN

66 View Point

Our Nation’s Defense Is Up to Us

RICHARD ROSENDALL

67 Opinion

Our Transgender, Gender Expansive Teens Deserve Better REV. KARLA FLESHMAN, REV. TIM RODDEN

68 CAMPshots

Labor of Love!

72 Historical Headliners

A Soldier’s Life: Antonio de Erauso

ANN APTAKER

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EDITOR: Marj Shannon

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DESIGN AND LAYOUT: Mary Beth Ramsey

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CONTRIBUTORS: Ann Aptaker, Chris Azzopardi, Rich Barnett, Matty Brown, Ed Castelli, Pattie Cinelli, Michael Cook, Graeme D, Robert DeDominic, Vincent DeLissio, Logan Farro, Clarence Fluker, Michael Thomas Ford, Fay Jacobs, Leslie Ledogar, Kim Leisey, Tricia Massella, Christopher Moore, Sharon Morgan, Eric Peterson, Mary Beth Ramsey, Stephen Raskauskas, Richard Rosendall, Nancy Sakaduski, Terri Schlichenmeyer, Marj Shannon, Beth Shockley, Mary Jo Tarallo, Sophie Wagner, Eric Wahl

76 Sea Salt Table

Marinara with Fresh Basil ED CASTELLI

78 CAMP Arts

LOGAN FARRO

79 Booked Solid

TERRI SCHLICHENMEYER

81 Volunteer Spotlight

SOPHIE WAGNER

82 Celebrity Interview

A Bromance Goes Dark

CHRIS AZZOPARDI

90 The Real Dirt

It’s The Great Pumpkin!

ERIC WAHL

98 We Remember

ON THE COVER

Come Out, Come Out, Wherever You Are!

Illustration by Murray Archibald

Letters from CAMP Rehoboth is published 11 times per year, between February and December, as a program of CAMP Rehoboth Inc., a non-profit community service organization. CAMP Rehoboth seeks to create a more positive environment of cooperation and understanding among all people. Revenue generated by advertisements supports CAMP Rehoboth’s purpose as outlined in our mission statement.

The inclusion or mention of any person, group, or business in Letters from CAMP Rehoboth does not, nor is it intended in any way, to imply sexual orientation or gender identity. The content of the columns are the views and opinions of the writers and may not indicate the position of CAMP Rehoboth, Inc.

L-R: CAMP Rehoboth Executive Director Kim Leisey, PhD and Senator Lisa Blunt Rochester See page 22.

CAMPshots

CAMP REHOBOTH

MISSION STATEMENT AND PURPOSE

MISSION

CAMP Rehoboth is an LGBTQ+ community center determined to Create A More Positive (CAMP) environment that is inclusive of all sexual orientations and gender identities in southern Delaware and beyond. We seek to promote cooperation, understanding among all people, and well-being, as we continue our work to build a safer community with room for all.

VISION

CAMP Rehoboth envisions communities in southern Delaware and beyond where all LGBTQ+ people thrive.

VALUES

From the Editor

BPRESIDENT Leslie Ledogar

VICE PRESIDENT Teri Seaton

SECRETARY Pat Catanzariti

TREASURER Polly Donaldson

AT-LARGE DIRECTORS

Amanda Mahony Albanese, Wes Combs, Lewis Dawley, Mike DeFlavia, David Garrett, Jenn Harpel, Kim Leisey (non-voting), Michelle Manfredi, Kevin Ussery, and Hope Vella

EXECUTIVE DIRECTOR Kim Leisey

CAMP REHOBOTH

37 Baltimore Avenue, Rehoboth Beach, DE 19971 tel 302-227-5620 email editor@camprehoboth.org www.camprehoboth.org

CAMP Rehoboth, Inc. is tax-exempt under section 501(c)(3) of the United States Internal Revenue Code. Contributions to CAMP Rehoboth are considered charitable contributions for federal income tax purposes and may be deducted to the fullest extent of the law. A copy of our exemption document is available for public inspection.

BY MARJ SHANNON

y the time you read this, Rehoboth Beach’s “Meter Season” will be over for 2025—yay! Equally yay-worthy: its things-to-do season continues apace. There’s the AIDS Walk, a new exhibit opening at the CAMP Rehoboth Gallery, a CAMP Rehoboth Chorus concert, the Pride Film Fest and Block Party looming on the horizon, and Sea Witch® following thereafter…. You get the idea. It’s a wonderful time to enjoy the beach and our community—come out and see for yourself!

Which brings us to a theme that runs through many of the pieces in this issue: October 11 is National Coming Out Day, and we’re celebrating. See our centerfold for two pieces that speak to both the origins of the day and some folks’ personal experiences. We’ve also got some quick takes on the topic on page 38, and Beth Shockley’s column recounts how her first Broadway show called to her deeply-closeted self. If you’re out—wonderful! If you’re not quite ready (or able) for that yet—that’s OK too. Your community awaits.

And while we’re waiting, we’re holding tightly to the message of hope and resilience that Senator Lisa Blunt Rochester brought when she dropped by CAMP Rehoboth last month. While there, she spoke with columnist Pattie Cinelli—see page 22. The Senator’s message is one we all would do well to revisit, again and again, in these very challenging times.

Speaking of which—Stephen Raskauskas takes a hard look at what LGBTQ+ folks are facing these days, or may in the days ahead. With a nod to World Mental Health Day (October 10), he offers some suggestions on ways to meet those challenges.

Perspective can help; Christopher Moore offers some in his column on the autumnal equinox and the magic of stargazing. More on autumn: Terri Schlichenmeyer gives us the skinny on all those colorful leaves we enjoy this season—at least, so long as they remain on the trees. (We may enjoy them less once they hit the ground….) And Eric Wahl writes about pumpkins—a great source of nutrition as well as oh, so much better than turnips for making jack-o’-lanterns!

In honor of National Ghost Hunting Day (September 27), Mary Jo Tarallo takes us on a tour of some local—purportedly haunted—houses; Spirit Boxes, anyone? Maybe football is more your idea of a good time? Rich Barnett concurs; he has lots to say about the joys of watching college games.

We have a Reader’s Choice Flash Fiction story for you; see page 30. Next month we’ll wrap up publication of the stories selected from among all those submitted for our contest. We’re still hoping to publish short-short (no more than 750 words) stories in our November and December issues—if you’d like to submit one for consideration, send it to me (editor@camprehoboth.org) by October 1.

Meanwhile—thanks for reading Letters! ▼

JOIN US!

CAMP Rehoboth Block Party

The CAMP Rehoboth Block Party will take over the second block of Baltimore Avenue on Sunday, October 19, from 11:00 a.m. to 4:00 p.m. Vendor spaces and sponsorship opportunities are still available but in limited supply at camprehoboth.org.

The annual community event will once again feature dozens of artists, craftspeople, local restaurants, entertainers, businesses, and nonprofits. Plus, the day will bring a full slate of performances at the CAMP Rehoboth Stage. Hosted by drag diva Amethyst Diamond, the show will showcase Clear Space Theatre Company, Off 24, CAMP Rehoboth Chorus ALLIANCE Singers, and more! ▼

The Lodge at Truitt Homestead Presents Check

On June 21, the Lodge at Truitt Homestead hosted The Ultimate White Party as part of its Summer Solstice fundraiser for CAMP Rehoboth. As part of the Pride Month Partners program, this event featured an evening of hors d’oeuvres, an open bar, silent auction, 50/50 raffle, carnival-style games, and entertainment provided by the Pamala Stanley Experience.

The party was a big success, raising $8,455 for CAMP Rehoboth’s programs and services. CAMP Rehoboth thanks The Lodge at Truitt Homestead for its continued partnership and support. ▼

Majority-LGBTQ+ Commission Elected

On August 6, the City of Rehoboth Beach held an election for two open commission seats. Residents elected Chris Galante and Susan Stewart. The results mark the first time the commission now holds a majority (four of the six) of LGBTQ+-identifying commissioners.

CAMP Rehoboth looks forward to working with the entire Commission in furthering its mission to Create A More Positive Rehoboth and beyond.

Dine & Donate at Dogfish Head

Join CAMP Rehoboth for a Dine & Donate night at Dogfish Head Brewings & Eats in Rehoboth Beach on Wednesday, October 8, from 4:00 to 9:00 p.m. During this time, a portion of the evening’s sales will be donated to CAMP Rehoboth. This is a great opportunity to celebrate the end of metered parking, dine with friends, and give back to a great cause.

Immediately after, it’s your chance to sing! Dogfish Head will host live-band karaoke until 11:00 p.m. with the Nick Kashmanian Trio. ▼

State Farm Shows Its Pride

This June, State Farm agent Catie Walther participated as a Pride Month Partner, showing support for CAMP Rehoboth and our community. We are grateful to State Farm for their commitment and partnership. Thank you! ▼

Photo: Laurie Thompson accepts check for $200 from State Farm representatives Elizabeth Axselle and Sermeno Chavez; credit: courtesy of State Farm

Pictured: Mayor Stan Mills, Howard Menaker, and Commissioner Patrick Gossett pose outside City Hall on August 6. Chris Galante and Susan Stewart at City Hall on August 6. Credit: Tony Burns. ▼

Photo: Monica Niccolai, Alex Ix, Elizabeth Smith, Nate Staebler, Laurie Thompson, Courtney Fitzpatrick, Sarah Curry, Ryder Bodis, Barbara Dickson, Anthony Moschitti, Cheryl Evans, and Suzette Chambers; photo courtesy of The Lodge at Truitt Homestead.

Palm Beach Mingo Raises Funds

n August, Palm Beach Bar and Grill hosted a Dine & Donate Mingo night to raise funds for CAMP Rehoboth. On August 27, representatives presented a $550 check to CAMP Rehoboth for the portion of sales donated to CAMP Rehoboth’s community programming. Thank you to Palm Beach, DJ Sue, and all who attended and played Mingo for a cause! ▼

Battle of the Bachelors and Bachelorettes Breaks Records

The numbers are in: On Sunday, August 11, the annual Battle of the Bachelors and Bachelorettes benefit raised over $40,000 for CAMP Rehoboth!

CAMP Rehoboth thanks host Aqua Bar & Grill and swimsuit sponsor BRASHhh for helping make this fundraiser such an incredible success. Thanks also to DJ Biff Piner, auctioneer Lorne Crawford, Roxy Overbrooke, the models (who rocked the stage!), and everyone who attended and donated.

Purple Parrot’s bartender Georgiy Yanchenko brought home the winning bid at $5,000 from donors Joe Petrone and Shawn Evans. ▼

Celebrating “The Best of Times”

From Jerry Herman’s “The Best of Times” (2019) to John Lennon’s “Imagine” (2025), the CAMP Rehoboth Chorus presents audience favorites from the past 15 seasons. .Concerts are Friday and Saturday evenings, September 26 & 27, at 7:00 p.m., and Sunday, September 28, at 3:00 p.m. at Epworth United Methodist Church, 19285 Holland Glade Road, Rehoboth Beach, Delaware. Tickets are $30 for adults and $15 for students, available at camprehoboth.org. ▼

CAMP Rehoboth Merch Now

Available

CAMP Rehoboth is excited to announce the launch of its online store! Now, community members can show their Pride and support for CAMP Rehoboth by sporting various merchandise. The launch includes the official SUNFESTIVAL 2025 event t-shirt, as well as custom shirts, crew necks, sweatshirts, tie-dyes, quarter zips, and hats, among other options. Find the best look for your style, and stay tuned to future merch drops with the online store at camprehoboth.org! Portions of each sale go to CAMP Rehoboth.▼

MARK YOUR CALENDARS!

Women’s+ FEST Sets 2026 Dates

Women’s+ FEST 2026 has set its dates: Thursday, April 9-Sunday, April 12. The weekend brings four days of fun, entertainment, sports, and tradition for the women’s community and those who identify with the feminine spirit. In 2026, Women’s+ FEST celebrates its 25th anniversary, and the committee is already planning some surprises. Follow the Women’s+ FEST Facebook page for the latest updates. ▼

TRAVELS WITH LETTERS ⊲

Photo: Laurie Thompson, James Petion, owner, and Christine Mitchell, general manager; photo courtesy of Palm Beach Bar and Grill.

DENALI NATIONAL PARK, ALASKA

Mary Jo Tarallo

Photos: Joe Petrone, Georgiy Yanchenko, and Shawn Evans pose after the winning bid; credit: Tony Burns. Group photo: Models pose in their SUNFESTIVAL 2025 t-shirts ahead of the battle; credit: G Michael Beigay

The Significance of Being an Ally

The fact that October is, among other things, LGBTQ+ History Month, and October 11 is National Coming Out Day, got me thinking about allyship. What does it mean to be an ally? Am I a “good” ally? I am aware that our membership often expresses gratitude to CAMP Rehoboth for being “out” for them, but is there more we can do?

In researching these questions, I wondered whether being an ally has a special meaning within the LGBTQ+ community. Interestingly, I found that many LGBTQ+ folks refer to our community and our allies, implying that our straight friends are our only allies. The problem with this approach is that it’s too simplistic. The reality is that there’s no one-size-fits-all approach for allyship. It looks different for everyone based on the needs of the person we’re supporting and the situation they are in.

Additionally, anyone can be an ally, including those outside of AND those within the LGBTQ+ community. That said, the burden can’t fall solely on people within the LGBTQ+ community, because our community is relatively small compared with the rest of the world. That’s why we also need like-minded and caring allies to provide support, to listen, and to amplify the message.

Drilling down a bit deeper, I found out that allyship is about more than just saying you support the community. It’s about putting action behind your words. In fact, my research revealed that being an ally starts with becoming educated and gaining perspective from the community and then taking that knowledge and using it to empower others.

Of the sources I read in preparing to write this article, I found that there are several specific keys to being an effective ally.

Being Educated — No, I’m not suggesting that we all get an advanced degree. But whether a community member or not, understanding that while the LGBTQ+

experience is vast, the discrimination and targeting is real, can go a long way in allyship. Understanding some of the community-specific terminology, the history around why safe spaces are needed, and why organizations such as CAMP Rehoboth are vital to the community, are ways to become educated.

…allyship is about more than just saying you support the community. It’s about putting action behind your words.

Listening and Validating — Sometimes, being an effective ally is simply listening with an open mind and heart. Everyone’s life journey is different and each of those journeys is valid. Listening can be uncomfortable, but being an ally is not about the ally. It’s about the person to whom we are listening. And, at the end of the day, we might just learn something new about ourselves as well as about the person to whom we are listening.

Using Inclusive Language — This can be one of the most difficult things to get used to, but when I make the effort, even if I make a mistake, my effort is usually rewarded. Using pronouns with which someone identifies, and talking about, for example, Congressional leaders rather than Congressmen or Congresswomen, takes the bias out and helps validate the identity of the person to whom I am speaking or referring.

Speaking Up and Taking Action — Folks forget that when we advocate for policies that promote equality and protect LGBTQ+ rights, we are promoting equality for all. As the old saying goes, “rising tides float ALL boats.” The HRC Foundation’s October 2022 report, Being an LGBTQ+ Ally, reminds us that many civil rights movements have been successful because people from nearly every part of society, including all people from all

walks of life, of all genders and sexual orientations, stood shoulder to shoulder in fighting bias.

Recognizing Intersectionality — No identity exists on its own, including LGBTQ+ identities. People aren’t just gay or just transgender. Everyone, including LGBTQ+ people, are a combination of many identities. Consider a bisexual, Black, middle-class woman, or a young, White, poor transgender man. They may be anything from wealthy to unhoused, and they may also be suffering from a mental health or substance abuse disorder. They may also be a veteran. Recognizing intersectionality helps allies ask questions and allows a person to tell their own story in their own way.

Supporting LGBTQ+ Organizations and Initiatives Through Donations and Volunteering — It is an appreciated show of support to see folks patronizing a gay-owned business or attending a Pride parade or an AIDS walk. But life is busy and allyship can be time consuming. That’s why consistently supporting an organization like CAMP Rehoboth can make your allyship go even further, even if you are not able to show up on a given day or time.

The work to make the world safer and fairer for LGBTQ+ people takes the effort and understanding of all of us. Thank you to those who already support CAMP Rehoboth Community Center. To those who are not already supporters—please join, because your allyship really does matter. ▼

Leslie Ledogar is CAMP Rehoboth Board President.

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Recognizes National Depression Screening Day

On Tuesday, October 7, CAMP Rehoboth will partner with the Mental Health Association (MHA) of Delaware to recognize Mental Illness Awareness Week with complimentary depression screenings open to the community. These screenings come two days before National Depression Screening Day on Thursday, October 9. The day is designed to call attention to the illness of depression on a national level, educate the public about symptoms and effective treatment, offer individuals the opportunity to be screened for depression, and connect those in need to the mental health care system in Delaware.

Elizabeth A. Davis, PsyD, of the MHA, will be onsite to offer complimentary depression screenings. These screenings are often the first step for individuals with depression in getting help. Pre-registration is encouraged but walk-ups are accepted on a first-come first-served basis. See camprehoboth.org to learn more and to register. ▼

Poetry Jam Now Accepting Submissions

Calling all poets! CAMP Rehoboth's theater program will host a CAMP Poetry Jam in early 2026 and is now accepting submissions. Selected poets will have the opportunity to read their works during two performances on February 21 & 22, 2026.

The CAMP Rehoboth Poetry Jam Committee will accept up to five submissions from poets through November 30, 2025. Submit works to poetry@camprehoboth.org.

This program is supported in part by a grant from the Delaware Division of the Arts, a state agency, in partnership with the National Endowment for the Arts. The Division promotes Delaware arts events on DelawareScene.com. ▼

CROP Helps Out!

Once again, CAMP Rehoboth Outreach Program (CROP) volunteers stepped up to serve our community.

AT THE FOOD BANK: On August 12, CROP volunteers assembled 200 bags of food for food-insecure members of the community for the Food Bank Healthy Pantry. On Fridays, the Food Bank does restocking, and eligible families who visit the Food Bank are given these ready-made bags of shelf-stable foods.

AT THE SPCA: On August 26, CROP volunteers helped bag and allocate food for Brandywine Valley SPCA 's monthly “Animeals” deliveries. Animeals are delivered by BVSPCA to homebound clients who rely on the program to feed their pets.

CROP volunteers finished their tasks efficiently, to allow ample time for socializing the cats (including Tootsie, one of the kittens who's available for adoption!) and dogs of the shelter. (Yes, that’s actually a thing that you can become a volunteer for!)

Thank you to our CROP volunteers and to BVSPCA! ▼

Veterans Day Storytelling

At CAMP Rehoboth, Veterans Day has been an important day to gather for local LGBTQ+ veterans. Last year, the gathering led to an official formation of the CAMP Rehoboth LGBTQ+ Veterans Group. This year, that group is holding its first official public program.

On Tuesday, November 11, join the CAMP Rehoboth LGBTQ+ Veterans Group for its first storytelling event. Set to take place at CAMP Rehoboth’s Elkins-Archibald Atrium, the group is inviting military veterans from all branches of service to share their stories and perspectives. For more information, email veterans@camprehoboth.org by October 3. Consider stories that inspire, bring laughter, or provide reflection.

“Our stories provide connection to our community!” said the group. No experience is needed to participate; dedicated workshop time will be provided with a published storyteller who will guide veterans through developing and polishing their story.

This event will be open to the general public; stay tuned to camprehoboth.org/ events for more information. ▼

SUNFESTIVAL 2025

“The laughter, music, and sense of belonging throughout the weekend was a testament to the incredible people who make this community thrive…”

FUN

BY NANCY SAKADUSKI

It Was Fabulous!

Anticipation started early, with the design team allowing sneak peeks of the magic behind SUNFESTIVAL. This amazing group seems to outdo themselves year after year.

DJ legends Robbie Leslie and Joe Gauthreaux have become part of the SUNFESTIVAL family. With their masterful mixes, the dancefloor became a living, breathing organism. The crowd responded to the music and the music responded to them.

Then, it was showtime! Emcee Donald Garverick (director, artist, and husband to CAMP Rehoboth Deputy Director Mark McDaniels) took the stage and kicked off the Saturday celebration. Multi-talented

Corey Andrew (what can’t he do?) tapped icons Tony Bennett (“Where Do You Start”) and Shirley Horn (“Here's to Life”) before energizing the audience with his own dance hit “Move Your Body.” Local favorite John Flynn added his special sauce. Then Zach Zimmerman riffed on politics and sexuality, along the way providing some light roasting of the attendees sitting in front.

FAVORITES

The promise of an immersive experience? Delivered. The open-concept dance floor featured six video towers that immersed dancers in visuals extending from the stage to the towers and back again. CAMP Rehoboth Communications Manager Matty Brown said, “The slick design felt like a NYC dance club and provided a warm sense of nostalgia.”

FASHION

The Disco Boyz led the fashion charge with costume changes, bubble machines, mirror-ball necklace giveaways, and flag twirling. At one point, whistles announced their procession down the dance floor to the stage. How will they ever follow that up next year?!

Others got into the spirit as well. Wigs, flags, fans, leather, fake mustaches, and the shimmer of the mirror ball extended into fun accessories for many dancers throughout the night. A group of eight attendees donned shirts as “The Pink Pony Club,” which played off the pink-branded theme this year and Chappell Roan’s queer anthem of

SUNFESTIVAL 2025

the same name. One attendee really camped it up, wearing an inflatable costume that read “Very Important Poultry.” Another came dressed as a unicorn. And of course, the signature “white on Labor Day weekend” theme found its way into many outfits.

FUNDRAISING

It was another record-breaking live auction. Huge kudos and much gratitude go to auctioneer extraordinaire Lorne Crawford and the generous auction donors. Danny Sebright’s trip to Rome was the top seller of the night—a bidding war led Danny to donate a second trip,

resulting in $25,000 each for those donations alone. The money raised ($92,000) will go toward the many CAMP Rehoboth programs and services we all enjoy and rely on.

FENOMENAL

The nearly 2,000 attendees and record-breaking funds raised for CAMP Rehoboth were only part of the story. Quite a few attendees mentioned a noticeable “more” element—more women, more racial diversity, more age ranges (including a healthy increase from the younger end of the spectrum).

CAMP Rehoboth Event and Volunteer Coordinator Sophie Wagner, who experienced SUNFESTIVAL for the first time, noted that it provided a firsthand view of the power of CAMP Rehoboth’s mission in action. “The laughter, music, and sense of belonging throughout the weekend was a testament to the incred-

ible people who make this community thrive,” Sophie said. “I feel so privileged to be surrounded by such dedicated volunteers, generous supporters, and a community that truly celebrates love and inclusion.”

SUNFESTIVAL Event Volunteer

Lead Lewis Dawley added, “Overall, the event was a huge success, including a record-breaking live auction and the always amazing dance on Sunday evening. The immersive digital and lighting experience was a massive hit with the attendees. Special thanks to all the attendees, sponsors, volunteers, and the amazing team at CAMP Rehoboth!” ▼

SUN Festival

a benefit for camp rehoboth community center

2025 camp rehoboth thanks our sponsors for their generous support of sun festival 2025

Diamond sponsors

Danny Sebright

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Holidazed

Idon’t know who needs to hear this, but I know someone does: You do not have to do all the holiday things. I am a holiday person. As soon as September rolls around, I start looking forward to what’s coming: the Autumn Equinox, Halloween, Thanksgiving, Christmas, New Year’s Eve and Day. I love all of them. We even celebrate Mothman Night and Krampusnacht around here. But let’s face it, this is a lot to cram into the last few months of the year.

A few weeks ago, I started thinking about Christmas cookie boxes. I love baking, and people love eating cookies. This year, I decided, it would be fun to make a bunch of different kinds of cookies and deliver boxes of them to our local friends. I did practice runs of a few cookies I thought would be particularly good to include. They came out well, and it was indeed fun doing it.

Then I did the math.

One batch of each cookie was one thing. But I would need a lot more than that. I made a list of everyone we would want to give cookies to. In order to create the cookie boxes I envisioned in my head, I would need to make about 1,200 cookies. A hundred dozen of them. That’s a lot of flour and sugar and eggs and assorted other ingredients. A lot of rolling out dough and cutting out cookies. A lot of cookie sheets going in and out of the oven. A lot of cookies taking up every available inch of table space in the house while they cool.

I estimated it would take me about 10 days of baking to get it all done. Ten long days. And they would have to be timed so that the cookies were all still fresh on the day we delivered the boxes. The boxes themselves were a whole other matter. I spent an hour or so looking at the options online, unable to decide what size and shape and color would be best.

“I don’t know,” I told Steve. “I don’t think I can do cookies and cards. It’s too much.”

“You know, you could scale it back,” Steve suggested. “You don’t have to do so many cookies. Or such elaborate ones.”

He’s obviously correct. But then the cookie boxes wouldn’t be the ones I see in my head. And this is the problem with holidays in general. There are so many expectations around them, and the reality almost never measures up.

Instead of making lists of what you should do, make lists of what you want to do.

A few years ago, after I spent two days preparing a Thanksgiving dinner for friends that was consumed in about 20 minutes, I made a note to myself on the calendar I keep for the coming year: Thanksgiving food is rarely that exciting. Plan something different this year.

The next Thanksgiving, looking at the note, I felt a moment of doubt. Surely, I was wrong. I should just try again. But in a rare moment of clarity, I decided to trust the Ghost of Turkey Day Past and that year I kept things simple and didn’t make myself crazy cooking All the Things. It turned out to be a relaxing, thoroughly enjoyable day. Nobody missed the omitted things at all.

I did the same thing at Christmas and New Year’s and again had wonderful experiences. It wasn’t that we didn’t do anything. We did lots of things. But they were all things we wanted to do,

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not things we felt we had to do, and that made all the difference. Instead of trying to make ourselves fit into a vision of the holidays, we made the holidays fit into our vision of what we wanted them to be.

You’d think that having successfully done this that I would naturally do it again every year. You would be wrong. I still struggle with thinking that I should do more, or bigger, or different. Ask me about the giant paper-mâché head I decided I needed to make last Halloween, to wear while handing out candy. I started it three days before the big day. I stressed about it. And it was a disaster.

Which brings us back to the cookie boxes. I’ll probably still do them, even if I don’t do as many of them, or put as many cookies in them as I would like to. And they might be as much of a disaster as the Halloween head was. The point is, I know I don’t have to do them. The holiday won’t be ruined if I don’t, or if they aren’t exactly the way I picture them in my head right now. I’m choosing to attempt them because I really do like baking. If they don’t turn out perfectly, it doesn’t matter.

Listen. Maybe you’re someone who really can do all the holiday things and not turn into an utter stressball while doing them. If so, I love that for you. But if you’re more like me and find yourself easily trapped in a tar pit of expectations around how the holidays should be, I am here to give you permission to let go of all that. In fact, I insist on it. Instead of making lists of what you should do, make lists of what you want to do. And I mean really want to do. What parts of the holidays make you genuinely happy? Figure that out and plan around those moments. Leave the rest to someone else.

Oh, and if you find yourself in need of a giant paper-mâché head, I can let you have one at a great price. ▼

Michael Thomas Ford is a much-published Lambda Literary award-winning author. Visit Michael at michaelthomasford.com.

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When Fiction Becomes Fact

“Yeah, well, you know, that’s just, like, your opinion, man.”

–THE BIG LEBOWSKI

While researching last month’s article, I noticed that several Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) webpages had a disclaimer banner (see sidebar). Similar banners are not only on the pages where information on LGBTQ+ subjects may exist, but also on webpages covering such topics as contraception, assisted reproductive technology (ART), and adolescent and school health. Perhaps more disconcerting, however, were the subjects where data has been removed and archived: Health Equity and Immunizations Work!, for instance.

The framing of critical information to suit an agenda is not new, but in an age of technology that blurs reality, the consequences may become increasingly deadly. Both Socrates (399 BCE) and the mathematician Hypatia (415 CE) were put to death for encouraging critical thinking. During the medieval period, the Catholic Church exerted significant pressure to shape the beliefs on the natural order of the universe. Roger Bacon (1219-1292 CE) was imprisoned by his Franciscan order for his published works on astrology and alchemy. Nicolaus Copernicus’s (14731543 CE) contrarian view that the sun was the center of the universe and not the earth, as touted by the Church, culminated in his works being placed on the (1616 CE) Index of Forbidden Books

Despite advances in open-source access and information flow and transparency, censorship continues well into the 20th and 21st centuries. The work of Gregor Mendel, the father of modern genetics, was ostracized by the then-Soviet Union regime as fascist. Nazi Germany recruited other scientists and banned books to discredit the works of Albert Einstein.

Censorship and misinformation are not just weapons of authoritarian regimes, however. The tobacco industry for decades suppressed research linking smoking to cancer and the fossil fuel

industry continues to flood the media with misinformation as to the link between that industry and climate change. The Clinton administration has been criticized for downplaying a 1990s National Institutes of Health (NIH) report advocating clean needle exchange programs as an effective means to reduce HIV infections. In 2007, internal documents released indicate that the Federal Emergency Management Agency (FEMA) attempted to suppress evidence that mobile trailers provided to Hurricane Katrina survivors had toxic levels of formaldehyde. Most recently, the ongoing media debates as to the origin of the COVID-19 pandemic and vaccine effectiveness underscore censorship and misinformation as potent tools in fostering public mistrust.

Historians Naomi Oreskes and Erik M. Conway, in their book Merchants of Doubt, highlight how industries and policy makers obfuscate data to promote their agendas. Their campaigns use a three-pronged approach: 1) incorporate tactics of doubt to create the perception of scientific uncertainty; 2) use so-called experts, whose viewpoints contradict or are outliers to mainstream scientific opinion; and 3) manipulate the media by consistently introducing fringe or discredited perspectives to ongoing scientific discussions. By creating doubt and confusion, these campaigns undermine public trust in science and established institutions.

Is censorship, however, always bad? Philosophers often view information restriction in terms of the social contract. Within the social contract framework, individual freedoms may be willingly limited for society to securely flourish. In its simplest terms, while freedom of speech is codified in the First Amendment of the Constitution, one cannot yell “fire!” in a crowded theater without there actually being a fire. Hence, censorship is defined only within the framework of what society deems is good or bad.

Unfortunately, when the decision makers who are framing these moral and ethical choices lack expertise or diversity, dangerous misinformation is bound to follow, even if unintentional. No one incident

BY SHARON MORGAN

captured this better than the March 23, 2017 photo of US lawmakers gathered to discuss the Affordable Care Act, which included significant implications for women’s health. Not one woman was in the photo and most lawmakers in attendance were White males.

Women’s health throughout history has been shaped by men, and the censorship of information, particularly related to reproductive and family planning issues, is not new.

Women’s health throughout history has been shaped by men, and the censorship of information, particularly related to reproductive and family planning issues, is not new. In her book Unwell Women, author Elinor Cleghorn argues anatomical differences between men and women have historically been absorbed into the medical profession, reinforcing socially constructed gender divisions. Men’s physical dominance morphed into overall gender superiority and the uniqueness of the female uterus relegated women to the primary roles of childbearing and rearing.

Health practitioners’ approach to women’s health issues have reinforced these gender stereotypes. Women have traditionally been exempted from clinical trials, because hormonal fluctuations were thought to make females too biologically erratic to make their input of value. Women are less likely than men to be referred for further diagnostic studies. In addition, women’s pain is more likely to be viewed as having an emotional component, and women are often prescribed tranquilizers or antidepressants more than analgesics for pain complaints. Women of color face even greater challenges. African American women are two-anda-half times more likely than Caucasian women and three times more likely than Latina women to die during or after giving birth. American Indians, Alaska Natives, and Asian Pacific Islanders are two times as likely to die from a bleeding event

than their African American or Caucasian counterparts.

The health paradox is that men generally have worse health outcomes than women. Research suggests that one explanation lies in an underappreciation for the diversity and complexity of health issues unique to men. Since the 1990s, several national health offices have been launched to address health disparities for women and minorities, but no such offices exist specifically for men. A review of health articles over a 48-year period demonstrated the term “women’s health” was 10 times more likely to appear than “men’s health.”

The biases do not just exist within the healthcare delivery system and are not just focused on male/female differences. Novels and autobiographical accounts that deal with sexuality, gender expression, rape, incest, and birth control have routinely been targeted for removal from libraries and school curricula as too explicit or inappropriate for younger readers. According to the American Library Association, of the top 10 most challenged books of 2024, all were sought to be banned for being sexually explicit or containing LGBTQIA+ content. Some of the most-challenged books of all time are surprising, however. These include such works as James Joyce’s Ulysses, William Faulkner’s As I Lay Dying, Oscar Wilde’s The Picture of Dorian Gray, and Judith Guest’s Ordinary People

The inception of social media has created new dimensions in censorship and misinformation capabilities. The 2024 World Economic Forum’s Global Risks Report lists misinformation and the technologies that drive it as a major global threat. Several research studies

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indicate that a plethora of health-related misinformation across a variety of topics currently is promulgated on social media platforms. Even before the COVID-19 pandemic, anti-vaccine rhetoric had begun to undermine the confidence in and the use of vaccines. Climate change, infectious diseases, nutrition, and cancer are all prevalent topics rife for misinformation efforts. Not only industry and policy players use social media, but influencers peddle misinformation for economic gain. Social media platforms are particularly conducive for spreading misinformation: First, messages are published instantaneously with no gatekeepers as to veracity or authenticity. Second, social media algorithms feed like content to consumers, amplifying existing messaging. Algorithms also are used to keep consumers engaged, which bolster opportunities to generate revenue. Third, internal robots imitating human behavior automatically post and reshare content. Finally, the constant loop of like content reinforces confirmation bias, i.e., the susceptibility to view new information as confirmation of one’s own beliefs.

Addressing social media misinformation is challenging and complex. As a worldwide technology, enacting effective legislation is of limited value outside regional or national boundaries. In addition, technology giants show little desire to attempt content moderation. Even if the proprietors were earnest in their efforts to modulate content, their efforts would likely be under First Amendment scrutiny. Moreover, technology itself is changing and expanding at such a pace that attempts to control could never keep up.

Countering social media misinformation will not be easy. Interventions at the

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systemic level include recognizing what is being said and how it spreads, as well as fact checking or labeling questionable messaging. Educational interventions at the individual and community levels can also provide a measure of digital and media literacy. Nonetheless, we are currently living in an era of alternative facts that is causing chaos and undermining public trust in the very framework of our society. Each of us currently shares in creating the dilemma; each of us—acting together—can find a healthy way forward. ▼

Sharon A. Morgan is a retired advanced practice nurse with over 30 years of clinical and healthcare policy background.

Example of what is published on CDC webpages: Per a court order, HHS is required to restore this website as of 11:59PM ET, February 11, 2025. Any information on this page promoting gender ideology is extremely inaccurate and disconnected from the immutable biological reality that there are two sexes, male and female. The Trump Administration rejects gender ideology and condemns the harms it causes to children, by promoting their chemical and surgical mutilation, and to women, by depriving them of their dignity, safety, well-being, and opportunities. This page does not reflect biological reality and therefore the Administration and this Department rejects it. Can be found at: cdc.gov/yrbs/dstr/index.html

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More Than a Step Forward

On September 20, CAMP Rehoboth will join the Delaware AIDS Walk in Rehoboth Beach—a powerful two-mile walk and community event dedicated to raising awareness and support for those living with HIV. For decades, CAMP Rehoboth has been at the forefront of HIV prevention and advocacy, and we continue to walk the walk, so to speak.

CAMPsafe continues this legacy by offering free, confidential, rapid HIV testing Monday through Friday at our on-site health suite, along with resources and referrals to ensure ongoing care and support. Each test represents our commitment to building a healthier, stronger, and more informed community.

Participating in the AIDS Walk is more than a step forward—it’s a reminder of the progress we’ve made and the work that remains. We are grateful to all members of our community who walk alongside us in honor, remembrance, and hope. Together, we can continue to fight stigma, expand access to care, and move closer to ending the epidemic.▼

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Bright Hope in Dark Times

Senator Blunt Rochester Inspires

Senator Lisa Blunt Rochester’s ebullience and focus were evident when she visited CAMP Rehoboth offices last month.

Reflecting on the current political climate, she talked about how important it is for us to seek strength and support from connection with others. Her campaign slogan—‘Bright Hope’—which was inspired by the name of the church her grandmother attended for 70 years in Philadelphia, dominated her conversation.

“This feels like a dark time for a lot of people,” she said. “Yet we have a saying that bright hope shines brightest in the dark. It’s important to remember the wins we have had. For the first time in history, two Black women are serving in the US Senate. That’s something for hope.”

Senator Blunt Rochester also referenced the collective power voters demonstrated to stores like Target, when they eliminated their DEI (Diversity, Equity and Inclusion) policies. “We need to be prepared [during this time], mobilizing and, in the interim, not let anyone define us. We define us.”

Senator Blunt Rochester has been an advocate for LGBTQ+ rights and equality as Delaware’s representative to the House; she continues to work in the Senate for these rights. She was an original co-sponsor of the Equality Act, which would prohibit discrimination based on gender identity and sexual orientation. She has been endorsed by the Human Rights Campaign and has stated, “Full and equal inclusion of LGBTQ+ Americans in our civil rights laws is long overdue. I will fight to enshrine protections into federal law.”

The Senator spoke about the frustration many of us have with this administration’s policies and positions. “The first thing, whether it’s protecting LGBTQ+ rights, reproductive rights, or even our diversity, is to recognize that while there are some people who want to take us backwards, you can never put the genie back into the bottle,” said Blunt Rochester. “Remember, just because this is who’s

in the White House now doesn’t mean many people support the direction he is going. The reality is there are millions who don’t agree.”

Senator Blunt Rochester shared ways LBGTQ+ folks can productively deal with targeted harassment and attempts at a reversal of rights. “We need to be there for each other,” she said. “I always refer to the African proverb that says, ‘Sticks in a bundle are unbreakable.’ If we stick together through this moment, we can be unbreakable.”

The Senator shared her perspective on how to navigate this moment with resilience and purpose, emphasizing the importance not only of staying connected with others, but also of taking care of ourselves individually. “Attending to your mental, spiritual, and physical health is crucial. Over the course of history, the way groups have been broken down is to rob us of our hope, rob us of our joy—and when you do that, you give up.”

Blunt Rochester said she lives by a saying she heard years ago: “Be conscious but not consumed.” For example, when she walks into a room, “Someone may think things about me because of my race or my gender, but I can’t let that

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“Mobilize, organize, stay connected with each other. Remember what this ultimately is all about. We are on this planet to love, and love is more powerful than hate.”

consume me or else I can’t do the work.”

“Be ready,” is her final suggestion. “Because we are going to have to build…. We must make sure that we are ready to re-build in terms of organization and mobilization. We will have to make the change to what we want our world to look like.”

When asked if she and other legislators pay attention to protests, social media posts, and emails, Blunt Rochester responded with an emphatic “yes.” The importance of constituents participating in the process and then voting cannot be emphasized enough. “It’s about participating in a way in which an individual is comfortable. If you are a person who protests, then thank you for going out there and marching and making your voice heard. Protest marches grab Congress’s attention. [The acknowledgement of these protests] is why some people have shifted their policy positions and why some decide not to run again. They have seen the evidence. And that’s what democracy is all about.”

But protesting may not be for everyone. “Some might be better at being a social influencer, using social media, or even writing poetry. We must use whatever skills we have. For some, that

“If we stick together through this moment, we can be unbreakable.”

collective action means all of us sitting around a table and writing postcards.”

The Senator reflected about a recent conversation with her sister, who told her about some friends who have just given up. “Giving up is a privilege,” she said. “The person being chased by ICE doesn’t have that privilege. The family who, because of the passing of the big bad bill, will be hungry doesn’t have that privilege. So, for me, there’s no giving up.”

Senator Blunt Rochester’s public service career began when she worked for then-Governor of Delaware, Tom Carper. She held various state government positions until 2016 when she was elected to the US House of Representatives.

She took on a prominent role in addition to her House responsibilities and

gained national recognition as co-chair of President Joe Biden’s successful presidential campaign in 2020. Just three years later, Blunt Rochester launched her campaign to become the first African American and first woman Senator from Delaware.

Although her role changed when she transitioned from Representative to Senator, her reason for serving has remained the same: she has always represented the state of Delaware. “I am now one of 100,” she said. “That means I have the ability to have a greater impact, which has always been our goal—to have the greatest impact on the greatest number of people.” Her office size grew from 14 to about 40. “We can provide even greater constituent services.” Because the term

of office in the Senate is six years—v. just two in the House—she has more time to turn Delaware’s—and constituents’— needs into a reality.

“I think what should give people hope is that even when you feel like you don’t have power, remember that the people do still have the power in this country,” she said. “Mobilize, organize, stay connected with each other. Remember what this ultimately is all about: We are on this planet to love, and love is more powerful than hate.” ▼

Pattie Cinelli is a writer who lived on Capitol Hill for almost 40 years. Email her with questions, comments, or column ideas at: fitmiss44@ aol.com.

2025 Pride Film Fest

Celebrate, Entertain, Inform

Mexican filmmaker Alejandro González Iñárritu has noted, "Cinema is a mirror by which we often see ourselves." At the Rehoboth Beach Film Society, we couldn’t agree more. What we see in that mirror reveals our values as a society. Indeed, one could trace the course of justice for queer people over the 130 years of film history simply by looking at how we were depicted—if we were represented at all— and how that evolved over time.

That’s what makes our annual Pride Film Fest so special. With the theme of “celebrate, entertain, inform,” this year’s festival celebrates not just queer representation, but also queer art, culture, history, and achievement. From documentaries like Sally!, a loving look at second-wave feminist leader Sally Gearhart, and Strange Journey: The Story of Rocky Horror, a 50th anniversary tribute to the iconic cult film, to provocative features like the Nepalese crime drama Pooja, Sir

…this year’s festival celebrates not just queer representation, but also queer art, culture, history, and achievement.

and the Danish romantic drama Sauna and beyond, we’re reflecting the truly global scope of queer joy on film.

This year, we’re thrilled to offer the Pride Film Fest from October 9-12, to

coincide with LGBTQ History Month and National Coming Out Day (Saturday, October 11). Our four-day event will include 12 features and two blocks of short films representing the best in LGBTQ+ moviemaking. We’ll also welcome filmmakers for Q&A sessions to accompany select films, and we’re hosting a reception on Saturday, October 11, along with the film Humans of Pride, and a special mimosa brunch on Sunday, October 12.

Special thanks to our planning committee members; our sponsors, Bonnie Kirkland and Wanda Bair; our film hosts: Brian Cox and Konrad Noebel, George

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Farrah, Sally Packard and Dinah Reath, and the Rehoboth Beach Bears; and our event partner, CAMP Rehoboth.

Purchase festival passes and tickets and view the full schedule of films on the Rehoboth Beach Film Society website, rehobothfilm.com, or call us at 302-6459095 for more information. To learn how you can sponsor the festival or host a film, please contact Executive Director Dave Bever at dave@rehobothfilm.com. ▼

Images, clockwise: Sauna movie poster, © TrustNordisk APS; Sally Gearheart, photo: Steve Savage; film still from Pooja, Sir, © The Film Collaborative

Lightship Overfalls Welcomes Regina Sayles

The Lightship Overfalls will close out its summer Happy Hour series on Thursday, September 25, from 5:00 to 7:00 p.m. at Canalfront Park in Lewes, Delaware. Sponsored by Groome Church and supported by CAMP Rehoboth, this final concert will feature singer/acoustic guitarist Regina Sayles.

Regina was named best emerging artist at the 47th Annual National Women’s Music Festival in Madison, Wisconsin, in 2023. The Overfalls Foundation is delighted to welcome her back for a second year to offer her music to our membership and guests.

Attendees can savor wine and beverages provided by Dogfish Head Brewery and R&L Liquors, enjoy the opportunity to see the ship, and meet some adoptable four-legged guests from Humane Animal Partners. Both the ship and the store will be open to the public during the Happy Hour.

The event is free and open to the public, but donations are always appreciated. Attendees are encouraged to bring along a blanket or chair to enjoy the music comfortably alongside the ship in the park.

In the event of rain, the concert will be held at Groome Church, 601 Savannah Road, Lewes. Watch the website and social media for any late-breaking updates.

For more information about the Lightship Overfalls Foundation or its events, visit overfalls.org. ▼

enefiting the Rehoboth Beach Historical Society & Museum, the 20th Anniversary Beach Ball Weekend kicks off soon! New for 2025, the Beach Ball is offering a full weekend of exciting events, including live and silent auctions, local artisan cuisine, and the Funsters for the ‘70s vibe that keeps everyone dancing.

The Beach Ball offers everyone a great community event that supports Rehoboth’s main cultural repository. Join in—every ticket and auction bid helps keep local history alive and accessible for future generations. ▼

Tickets are available at: auctria.events/BeachBall2025

For more information, visit rehobothbeachmuseum.org.

Walk to End Alzheimer’s

Educate, Connect, Support

For Ken Suter—a lifelong volunteer who calls Rehoboth Beach home—being involved with the Alzheimer’s Association is personal. Ken was very close to his grandmother—in fact, they shared a birthday! Sadly, she passed 10 years ago with an Alzheimer’s diagnosis. Two years ago, Ken saw a Walk to End Alzheimer’s promotion. He took it as his sign to take action. Today Ken is fully vested as a member of the Walk volunteer committee, serving as southern Delaware’s Community Engagement Chair.

“My involvement in the Walk to End Alzheimer’s is especially meaningful because I get back so much more than I give,” shared Ken. “I feel so passionately about the Association’s mission because Alzheimer’s touches nearly everyone I meet…every family. And I see a real need and opportunity in southern Delaware—to create awareness and fundraise for an end to Alzheimer’s disease.” Ken also feels passionately about making a connection between the LGBTQ+ community and the Alzheimer’s Association’s mission. “Dementia is a real issue in this community and it’s important to put a focus on education and the available resources.”

ALZHEIMER’S AND ITS IMPACT

Alzheimer’s disease is the sixth leading cause of death in the United States. The neurological disorder affects memory, thinking, and behavior, with its symptoms eventually growing severe enough to interfere with daily life.

Today there are more than seven million Americans living with Alzheimer’s and nearly 12 million provide their unpaid care. Alzheimer’s has made a tremendous impact in Delaware as well. There are more than 23,000 residents aged 65 and older living with the disease; 32,000 caregivers provide 47 million total hours of unpaid care.

As the Baby Boomer generation is aging, so too is the LGBTQ+ older adult population—and some may have limited social networks to support them. LBGTQ+ older adults are more likely to age without

a spouse or partner, more likely to live alone, and less likely to have children to support them.

“Dementia is a real issue in this community and it’s important to put a focus on education and the available resources.”

THE ALZHEIMER’S ASSOCIATION IS HERE TO HELP!

The Alzheimer’s Association is the world’s leading voluntary health organization in Alzheimer’s care, support, and research.

The Delaware Valley Chapter serves 18 counties in Delaware, South Jersey, and Southeastern Pennsylvania, providing programs and services to more than 489,000 individuals and 893,000 caregivers.

As the largest nonprofit funder of Alzheimer's research, the Alzheimer’s Association is committed to advancing vital research toward methods of treatment, prevention, and, ultimately, a cure. The Association is also the leading voice for disease advocacy, fighting for critical Alzheimer’s research and care initiatives at the state and federal level. Specific offerings include:

• Free nationwide 24/7 Helpline (800.272.3900), staffed by master’s-level

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clinicians and specialists to provide confidential support and information in more than 200 languages.

• Face-to-face and virtual support groups and education programs.

• An online community forum, ALZConnected®, which provides a place for people with Alzheimer’s disease and their care partners to connect with others.

• Comprehensive online resources and information through the Alzheimer's and Dementia Caregiving section at alz. org.

• ALZNavigator™, an online interactive tool, a guide to next steps. A new app, MyAlzJourney, provides support, guidance, and connection for newly diagnosed people and their caregivers.

• The Alzheimer’s Association & AARP Community Resource Finder is a comprehensive database of dementia and aging-related resources.

The Alzheimer’s Association invites you to participate in a Walk to End Alzheimer’s—the world’s largest event to raise awareness and funds for Alzheimer’s care, support, and research.

“We’re in a pivotal moment. There are now treatments that can change the course of the disease,” said Ashley Mittelmeier, Walk Manager for the Alzheimer’s Association Delaware Valley Chapter. “We encourage everyone to start or join a team to help raise awareness and funds for families facing the disease today, and help us to continue providing vital support services for all who need them.”

The Southern Delaware Walk to End Alzheimer’s will be held on Saturday, October 4, at Grove Park in Rehoboth Beach. Join Ken and all walkers for a day of community, awareness, and fundraising. To learn more and register today, visit act.alz.org/southerndelaware. ▼

Linda M. Barba is a Senior Manager with the Alzheimer’s Association, Delaware Valley Chapter.

Photo: Ken Suter; credit: Alzheimer’s Association, Delaware Valley Chapter

BY BETH SHOCKLEY

Reader’s Favorite

“Take the ‘A’ Train”

Iwalked into the waiting room at my dentist’s office. It had snowed the day before, the roads were bad, and it had taken some maneuvering to park. I would not have gone out normally, but I needed some repair work done on the back of a front tooth, and I felt lucky to have gotten an appointment that day.

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“Take the ‘A’ Train” was my favorite read. I love subtle and sweet storytelling that leaves me—as a reader—with a surprise, a smile, a savory desire to wonder, and wanting more.

I stomped snow off my boots as I signed in. I found a chair in the far corner of the waiting room and grabbed my phone to scroll the news while I waited. Out of the corner of my eye, I saw an older-than-me woman sitting in the chair across from me. I hadn’t really noticed her on my way in, but something about her seemed so compelling.

She had the air of someone famous, an aura of mystery and old-money grace. Looking more closely, I confirmed she was elegantly dressed in dark, warm colors. Her long gray hair was swept up on her head, which highlighted her nearly perfect facial structure. Nails, understated jewelry, makeup. Katharine Hepburn cheekbones. The deep lines on her face made her even more beautiful. It was hard to guess her age; she seemed so simply timeless. 75, 85? Older? And yet, she seemed so familiar, like I’d met her before, but when? And where?

I realized, too late, that I was staring at her. She met my gaze with smiling, kind blue eyes and I felt like a total creep. I smiled awkwardly and immediately looked down at my phone. At 64, yes, I can still be such a dork around beautiful women. Was she anybody I had seen before, maybe someone on TV? Then again, why would someone famous be in a dentist’s office in this tiny town?

“How were the roads where you came from?” she broke the silence, her voice clear and pleasant.

I looked up from my phone. “My development’s roads were horrible—the main roads, not so bad,” I replied. “How about you?”

“We had no problems—we were lucky.”

Yeah, I bet she lives somewhere where they plow at least twice, I thought to myself.

“I’m long past the days of shoveling snow,” she said. “I’m 94, and still have most of my own teeth, amazingly. Alas, why I’m here today.”

I didn’t want to be nosy about what she was here for, so the room got silent again, and my ears focused on a contemporary jazz version of “Take the ‘A’ Train,” softly playing on the office speakers. “Great song,” I said.

“Oh yes, one of the best,” she agreed. “Ellington was truly one of the greats. Everyone should know that song, yet most people don’t.”

“I agree,” I said. “it’s a shame that a whole musical genre—big band—is largely forgotten this day and age.”

“Well, yes,” she said. “A damn shame. My late husband rolls in his grave over it, I think. Most people don’t remember, but he was a bandleader. And I did some singing myself, as well, a hundred years ago.”

“Wow, my dad was, too—not a band leader, but he was a trumpet player in a big band,” I said. “He toured back in the 1940s all over the country.”

“Yes, I know,” she said and smiled the surprise right off my face. “My name is Evelyn Reece. I was in the same big band as your dad, the Ed Keely Orchestra. I was the singer in the band.”

“That’s incredible, what a coincidence,” was all my spinning brain could come up with. Before I could think twice, I blurted out, “Wow, so were you in the band before or after my dad met my mother?”

Evelyn looked directly into my eyes. “Both,” she answered sagely, her expression now more serious as she looked away. “I was with the band from ’48 to ’55, when they finally had to call it a day.”

“Yeah, my dad left the band when he met my mom in 1950.”

“Yes,” Evelyn said wistfully. “That seems about right.”

“So how did you end up here?”

Because really, what was she doing just an hour away from the beach town where my parents settled a few years after they married.

“That’s a long story, Jen, a story for

“Your mother was the best thing that ever happened to me.”

another time when we know each other better.”

Um, what? “It’s interesting you know my name,” I said, now openly suspicious that this regal woman was actually some kind of stalker. “I didn’t share it with you.”

Evelyn struggled a bit for words. “I— know you and your siblings. I’ve known you all your lives. I’ve seen each of you periodically over the years. I was at both your mom and dad’s funerals. Maybe I should have introduced myself then, but it wasn’t the right time.”

So why didn’t I know her? My dad had other famous friends. Especially since they lived so close. Then the realization began to dawn on me who this woman may have been to my father.

“So you were a friend of my dad’s,” I asked quietly, “all these years, nearby,”

the implication becoming clearer.

“Well, yes, I was close with your father. I loved him dearly as a friend. After all, he was the one who introduced me to your mother,” Evelyn smiled and winked. A small wink, but powerful in its intent. Her smile disappeared as she said, “Your mother was the best thing that ever happened to me.”

Just then, I heard the dental assistant call Evelyn’s name.

I was too shocked to say anything. As she stood, she reached into her bag and handed me a card from a pretty little case. Who did that these days? But written right there was her address and phone number.

“Do give me a call soon, dear Jen.” Evelyn smiled, touched my shoulder, and walked out of the waiting room. ▼

ABOUT THE AUTHOR

BethShockley is a retired editor and writer who traded the bustle of New York City for the quieter charms of Delaware two decades ago—all for love. She now lives happily with her wife and their three feline overlords, who graciously allow the humans to share their home. ▼

What I’m Watching this Fall

Summer has finally loosened its grip; the autumn clematis is perfuming the air, and the locals are coming out of hiding. At a couple of cocktail parties recently, the big topic of conversation wasn’t about Donald Trump but something breezier: “What are you watching?”

While I’m quite interested in seeing what happens with SNL this fall after its recent cast shake-up, that wasn’t my response. My answer was simple and not simple at all. I’m watching college football. You should’ve seen the confusion on the faces of those asking the question.

For starters, I was born into college football. In my family, it wasn’t just a sport. It was a religion. Saturday was our holy day, and the Florida Gators were our saints of the swamp. My parents were alumni, my grandfather captained the university’s freshman team before leaving to fight in World War II, and my grandmother revered Steve Spurrier like the Pope in a white visor. I took my first communion—a Bloody Mary and a homemade pimento cheese sandwich— at a Gators tailgate in Gainesville the day after I turned nine years old.

My ties to the game are personal and deeply rooted, even though I didn’t play beyond neighborhood pick-up games. I would have liked to. As a closeted gay kid, however, I found the locker room more horror film than fantasy. Boys in white jockstraps weren’t a turn-on. They were a full-blown existential crisis. But I never stopped watching the game.

My passion followed me to the University of Virginia, a place where fall Saturdays meant bourbon-spiked Cokes and preppies in bowties and blue blazers. UVA’s football program has a long history of being, well, polite. Like they might apologize for roughing the passer. I attended games faithfully, silver flask in hip pocket, hoping for a miracle win on any given Saturday.

Later, I earned a law degree at Georgia, momentarily trading the orange

and blue for red and black. My Gator grandmother about had a stroke, though I assured her I was going just for the degree. Truth told, I spent more time between the hedges of Sanford Stadium than between the stacks in the law school library.

And the upset—the glorious, impossible upset—reminds me hope isn’t naïve. It’s proof that effort plus courage, with some risk, and a little luck, can tilt the field

So, what am I watching exactly when I watch college football? A lot of homoeroticism, that’s for sure. Uniforms that emphasize the male form. Language riddled with sexual innuendo. Hugs, butt pats, flexes, and other displays of physical expression. Announcers that fawn over athletes, admiring their bodies as much as their talents and ranking them like fine wines. Cameramen who always seem to zoom in on the most photogenic players.

College football is also camp. Think about the pageantry—dramatic entrances, choreographed fight songs, marching bands, and young men in eye black and

tight pants performing for the roar of the crowd. And then there’s the tailgating. You’ve got themed outfits, coordinated menus, and specialty cocktails. UVA tailgates back in the day were quite the scene with white linen tablecloths, vases of flowers, sweaty ice buckets, and decorative platters piled high with ham biscuits. And, of course, performative drinking. What’s not to like?

Watching college football is very much like watching a great Netflix series. Each week a new episode drops with fresh characters, plot twists, and a cliffhanger or two. Villains often get their comeuppance, and a spectacular defeat becomes the season’s moral center. Then the credits roll, and we wait for the next installment. It’s a series that never disappoints, except for the ending where UVA never beats its archrival—Virginia Tech.

In a world that feels like its shedding manners and norms and moving the goalposts, the football field doesn’t. First downs are earned, the score is the score, time runs one way, penalties are assessed and accepted, and opponents shake hands at the end of the game. That order reassures me. And the upset—the glorious, impossible upset—reminds me hope isn’t naïve. It’s proof that effort plus courage, with some risk, and a little luck, can tilt the field. If David can topple Goliath on Saturday, then surely millions of us together can move a few mountains on a Tuesday.

When it comes to college football, I’ll always be a Gator at heart, a Cavalier in spirit, and a Dawg by diploma. History, pageantry, and a little eye candy draw me to the game, but hope keeps me tuning in. And that, dear readers, is why I’ll watch this beautiful spectacle of a game instead of a silly reality show or a Downton Abbey re-tread any given Saturday. ▼

Rich Barnett is the author of The Discreet Charms of a Bourgeois Beach Town, and Fun with Dick and James.

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World Mental Health Day

Protecting LGBTQ+ Mental Health

If you’re feeling more stressed than usual these days, you’re not alone. We’re all feeling anxiety from sweeping political changes that affect so many aspects of our lives.

And while we’re all impacted by politics, we’re not all impacted in the same ways. Those of us in already-marginalized communities often bear the brunt of the blows.

With so many daily legislative and cultural attacks on LGBTQ+ populations, it’s hard to keep anxiety at bay. But, if we don’t protect our mental health, we can’t keep fighting the good fight.

Every year we celebrate World Mental Health Day on October 10.

At the risk of causing more anxiety, let’s review exactly what’s at stake for LGBTQ+ communities in this moment, and how to protect your mental health in spite of everything!

WHAT’S AT STAKE

There’s a lot to keep up with these days. While it’s impossible to discuss every piece of legislative change impacting LGBTQ+ people, we can divide things into a few categories.

First and foremost, our identities are being threatened. On January 20, 2025, Trump issued an Executive Order redefining sex as a strict male/female binary and removing federal recognition of gender identity, including on passports.

As a consequence, transgender, intersex, and nonbinary individuals were blocked from updating gender markers on passports. This triggered the Orr v. Trump lawsuit, currently ongoing, with a preliminary injunction allowing a small number of plaintiffs to receive correct passports while proceedings continue.

Day to day, people may face anxiety or harassment when presenting mismatched IDs for work, housing, or airport security. Even routine tasks like opening a bank account or checking into a hotel become fraught with stress when documents don’t align with who they are.

Our general civil rights are also under threat. Project 2025, a blueprint

for the current administration’s agenda, instructs agencies to treat sex as fixed and binary, and to eliminate classifications of “sexual orientation” and “gender identity” in federal civil rights laws.

Already on his first day in office, Trump rescinded Biden’s protections for LGBTQ+ individuals under Title VII of the Civil Rights Act of 1964, effectively allowing discrimination based on sexual orientation and gender identity in federal agencies.

Ultimately, protecting mental health in turbulent times means learning to hold grief and joy simultaneously.

We could lose marriage equality. Justice Clarence Thomas signaled that Obergefell v. Hodges, the 2015 ruling legalizing same-sex marriage nationwide, should be reconsidered. If Obergefell were overturned, many pre-existing state bans on same-sex marriage would automatically reactivate unless intervened by state law or courts.

We’re losing healthcare access. The executive order titled “Protecting Children from Chemical and Surgical Mutilation” (Executive Order 14187, January 28, 2025) bans federal funding for all gender-affirming care for individuals under 19. Starting in 2026, federal employees will not be eligible to have gender-affirming care covered under their health care coverage.

BY STEPHEN RASKAUSKAS

The administration also rescinded nondiscrimination protections tied to healthcare and public health data collection. This has led to many community health centers and programs that serve LGBTQ+ populations losing funding or scaling back services.

Access to public accommodations is disappearing. The federal gender-binary directive effectively restricts transgender individuals’ access to single-sex federally funded facilities consistent with their identity and denies recognition of gender identity in various federal contexts.

In federal prisons, an order to revert to binary sex-based housing and deny hormone therapy for trans inmates was issued, though a federal court issued a temporary restraining order protecting trans women from being placed in men’s facilities.

Students and educators are losing rights and protections. A federal directive warns states to remove references to transgender people and “gender ideology” from sex-ed curricula or face loss of funding from the federal Personal Responsibility Education Program (PREP).

So-called “Don’t Say Gay” laws, currently effective in several states, ban classroom instruction or discussions about sexual orientation. Florida was the first to pass such legislation in 2022, and since, according to the Movement Advancement Project, eight states explicitly censor all school discussions of LGBTQ+ issues, while another seven require parental notification/opt-out, and four restrict LGBTQ+ topics to specific curriculum like sex ed.

Trump’s campaign and early 2025 orders promise the rollback of Title IX protections of the Education Amendments of 1972, which prohibits discrimination based on sex in education programs and activities that receive federal financial assistance. While the implications are profound for everyone, for transgender students, rollbacks would remove rights around pronouns, access to locker rooms and bathrooms consistent with gender identity, and more.

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Our rights to free speech are being eroded. Trump’s “Safe Roads Initiative” directed the removal of non-standard street markings, including rainbow crosswalks, on the grounds of “safety.” In Florida, this led to the overnight removal or black-and-white repainting of LGBTQ+ memorial crosswalks at Pulse nightclub. Who knows what kind of censorship is next?

WHAT YOU CAN DO

It’s easy to feel like the world is closing in; like every day brings another headline designed to make LGBTQ+ people anxious, angry, or exhausted.

Even in “normal times,” LGBTQ+ folks suffer from minority stress, the chronic pressure marginalized groups face from prejudice, discrimination, and stigma. For LGBTQ+ people, this might mean hiding a partner at work, fearing harassment at school, or being denied respect or access in healthcare. The accumulation of these stresses takes a profound toll on mental health and well-being.

So, how can you protect yourself?

Limit the constant onslaught of news and social media. Staying informed is important, but obsessively scrolling only

deepens the anxiety. Learn what you need and then give it a rest!

If you need to consume some more fluffy content to help you decompress, go for it! But don’t let entertainment or frivolous news items distract you from what’s important.

Ground yourself in daily rituals that stabilize your mind and body, whether it’s journaling, movement, meditation, or simply stepping outside for a walk.

Community is also an important lifeline for all of us. Surround yourself with people who see you, affirm you, and share the burdens of living in a world that often feels hostile. Chosen family and queer spaces aren’t just about fun, they’re about survival, giving you a place to vent, laugh, and recharge.

Luckily, we can also create communities in digital spaces. Connecting on social media or in a group chat can be a lifeline for many folks who may not have affirming, in-person support.

When it comes to community, be sensitive that others may be experiencing different stressors than you are and be respectful. When in doubt, ask how you can best be supportive—never assume. Try to meet others where they are and

ask them to do the same for you.

Above all, we should turn anxiety into action. Volunteering, organizing, or even small gestures of advocacy remind us that we aren’t powerless, that our energy can move things forward. In fact, apathy is just being complicit with our aggressors. Silence is violence.

And when the weight becomes too heavy, seeking professional support—especially from queer-affirming therapists— isn’t weakness, it’s a strength! It means you know what you need to be your best. If access is difficult, there are nonprofits and online resources designed to meet LGBTQ+ people where they are.

Ultimately, protecting mental health in turbulent times means learning to hold grief and joy simultaneously. It’s about building a life that acknowledges fear and pain while also fiercely defending your capacity for resilience, connection, and joy. ▼

Stephen Raskauskas is a Sussex County native who has produced content for radio, TV, digital, and print.

Come Out, Come Out…

We invited people to share with us their “ah ha!” moments—when they first knew they were queer—or their coming out stories. Here’s what some of them had to say.

I was in the Navy and an Air Force woman I met at a bar had the most beautiful blue eyes….

—BONNIE Q.

My Congolese partner Patrick was outed by a cousin who spied on our amorous emails. His uncle said, “You have brought shame on our family.” Patrick said, “I have a right to live my own life.” The uncle lunged at him with a knife; Patrick kicked it away. I rushed Patrick money to get to Europe. Years later, the uncle apologized and sought Patrick’s help with his gay son.

—RICHARD R.

When I was 8, I was trying on my mother’s long black opera gloves. She saw me and I yelled, “To the bat cave, Robin!”

—ANONYMOUS

When my partner of 12 years decided to break up with me I knew I would be a mess. So, I had to “fess up” even though I was no spring chicken at the time and should have had more courage. I stopped by my parents’ house on my way to Rehoboth for a long weekend with friends and I spilled the beans. My dad said he thought I was going through a “stage.” I told him, “It’s a pretty long one.” A little humor helped.

—MARY JO T.

My parents knew when I brushed sand off of my shoes in the sandbox.

—PATRICK N.

It’s a funny catch-22 when not having a choice about coming out with one queer identity gives

you a choice about coming out with the other. I’m a gay transgender man, and my visibly queer-coded fashion, voice, and body language actually improves my odds of being gendered correctly as male. Fitting some gay male stereotypes causes any notable femininity on my part to get recoded in people’s minds as effeminacy. Works for me—I’d rather be called “guuurl” than “girl” any day of the week!

—JULIAN H.

I knew I was gay the first time I watched The Dukes of Hazzard; seeing that gorgeous Bo and Luke in those impossibly tight blue jeans confirmed it. I was 12.

—COREY A.

Life’s a Beach and So Am I

When I was first asked to write a regular column for Letters, I was told that I’d be writing mostly about pop culture—movies I’d seen, books I’d read, a television show I’d streamed, a jeans commercial that might be supportive of racial eugenics, stuff like that. If there was LGBTQ+ content, all the better, but it wouldn’t always be necessary. And I wouldn’t critique the shows necessarily (although if something were really good, I could be enthusiastic enough that readers might decide to check it out themselves). Instead, I’d offer thoughts about what I’d seen—what it says about our larger society, or why it matters. And if I could pull in some insights from my 20+ years as a DEI (Diversity, Equity & Inclusion) practitioner, all the better.

Needless to say, I said yes. And I was genuinely excited about the opportunity. Anyone who knows me knows that I have opinions and a willingness to share them with anyone who will listen. (Though I’d like to think that I’m also happy to entertain the opinions of others, even if they disagree.)

I only had one reservation about the gig: I didn’t live in Rehoboth. I visited often and always had a wonderful time here. I knew a lot of full-timers, but I wasn’t one myself. I lived a couple of hours away in Washington, DC and wasn’t sure if that would prevent me from writing about the things that my friends in Rehoboth would find relevant or interesting. It was probably a silly thing to dwell on; I quickly talked myself out of it and am very glad I did. Well, readers—none of that matters anymore. Because on Labor Day weekend this year, I moved to the beach full time. I live here now. It still feels a little weird to think I’m not just on an extended vacation and won’t be making the drive back across the Bay Bridge in a few days. But no, I actually live here now. As my pals in DC like to say, I’m a Rehomo.

Unfortunately, a month that has consisted of ordering lots of boxes and bubble wrap; cutting the bubble wrap into little squares that fit neatly in between every plate, bowl, and saucer I own before depositing them into said boxes; sorting my clothes into piles marked Keep (I still wear them), Donate (it no longer fits), and Trash (who am I kidding; no one wants this); renting a dumpster for all the junk I’m not taking; hiring a moving truck; driving to the beach behind said moving truck; and spending the next week wading through all the boxes and bubble wrap that entered my life a month ago—I haven’t watched, read, or streamed much of anything lately. So, I’m indulging myself by writing the rare personal column. I moved. I live here now. That’s it; that’s the column.

I actually live here now. As my pals in DC like to say, I’m a Rehomo.

And it’s big news, but it doesn’t feel that big. I was always going to move here. For at least a decade, I knew I’d end up in Rehoboth eventually. I didn’t expect it to be this soon. But thanks to someone I shan’t mention by name moving into Washington, DC last January, my entire industry has fallen apart (Diversity, Equity, and Inclusion—we were in the news quite a bit last spring) and most of my clients have fallen to the wayside. The little bit of work that remains wasn’t enough to pay the mortgage and the rest of my bills, and I felt I had no choice but to accelerate my plans.

Which isn’t to say that I feel sorry for myself. I can hardly claim to be the most pathetic victim of today’s political climate, especially when I see stories of young cancer patients being deported, medical research being slashed, Latino friends who no longer feel safe sharing

BY ERIC C. PETERSON

the sidewalk with ICE agents casually strolling through downtown Washington, or millions of people around the world who depended on food and medicine from USAID suddenly doing without. Gosh—Eric had to move to a gayfriendly seaside resort town that’s been his happy place for more than 30 years. It’s not exactly Hamlet.

In fact, I feel incredibly lucky. Lucky enough that I had enough money in savings to fund the move and the renovations that will be necessary to sell my house for what it’s worth (please knock on all the available wood the instant you read this). Lucky that I have a place to go that’s already populated with dear friends and a bunch of wonderful people I haven’t met yet but will soon. And lucky that a place such as Rehoboth exists.

Now that I’m here, everyone tells me to await the moment I wake up in a panic, wondering, “WHAT THE HELL HAVE I DONE??!” Perhaps it will happen. Change can be scary. But in 2025, a whole lot of things are scary. And so far, living here feels like the opposite of that.

Okay, thanks for indulging my life update. I promise to watch a movie or something before my next deadline. ▼

Eric Peterson is a Diversity, Equity & Inclusion (DEI) practitioner, pop culture junkie, and sometime novelist. His debut novel (Loyalty, Love & Vermouth) is available at Broweseabout Books and online.

Questions & Courtship

They met on a dating app and after a few days of exchanging messages, they decided to exchange phone numbers. It was at that moment that the true courtship began.

For the next several days it was a series of good morning texts and evening phone calls that heightened their curiosity about each other and their desire to learn more. They made plans to meet for dinner Friday night. It went well. The photos they posted on their dating profiles were real and up to date. The chemistry between them was just as good in person as it was over the phone. This could be going somewhere.

Weeks went by and they continued to enjoy each other’s company. As another Saturday approached, one gentleman invited the other to brunch. He said there was something he wanted to share. One mimosa, a few strips of bacon, two eggs, and two pancakes into this meeting, he was comfortable, full, and ready to tell this guy something he’d been holding back. It wasn’t sinful. It wasn’t shameful. It was something increasingly common for many men of a certain age now.

He announced that in two weeks his mother would be packing her things and moving in with him. She was aging alone back in his hometown and the family thought it was best for her not to

be living there by herself. While she was mostly independent and in good health, they still had concerns. As the only adult child with no spouse, no children, and an income more conducive to sharing expenses with his mom, the family decided she should stay with him. Now, he was dealing with how he would pursue dating and relationships with his new roommate—his mom. A real scenario.

The situation with my friend started me thinking about how the questions you ask when dating in your 20s are different from the questions you ask potential partners when dating in your 40s and 50s. In my 20s, I’d ask people if they had children and if they lived with them. In my 40s, I ask if they have parents who are still alive and what role do they play in caretaking. As we evolve, so do our questions, desires, and values. What we think is important in a partner today is often based on where we are in life at that moment. And moments change.

I informally polled a few of my single friends in my circle of the same age to learn what questions they ask when getting to know someone now that they wouldn’t have thought to ask or would not have been important to them 10 or 20 years ago. The responses were good.

Some of their questions were ones that I’d thought about and asked guys in the past; others they offered, I decided to add to my list to ask in the future.

…the questions you ask when dating in your 20s are different from the questions you ask potential partners when dating in your 40s and 50s.

BY CLARENCE FLUKER

A common set of questions, or theme, was around financial outlook. One friend said that if he’s been dating someone for longer than six months, he asks them their credit score. Another said that if things are moving in a serious direction and they start talking about an imagined future, that offers him permission to ask the person how they approached their retirement planning.

Questions also came up about more practical things, like how does one treat people. When you’re together on a date, you can see how they might treat the waitstaff at a restaurant, but not what happens when you aren’t there. What is your Uber/Lyft rating? A friend insists that this question tells you how the person acts when they think no one else is looking.

Of course, in the current climate, people told me that they ask their dates early on about their political views and stances on social issues from reproductive rights and gender-affirming care to immigration and fair wages. Policy is about people and how someone views policy says something about how they view people. Shared values in this area are important because of the foundation it provides for the relationship and what can be built upon it. It is also why I tend to ask about faith. We don’t have to share the same religion, but I do want to know where you draw from for source. There might be an occasion when we need to pull from that place together.

The questions we choose to ask or not ask on the journey of getting to know about a potential mate will vary from person to person. The point is, we must ask and be respectfully curious. ▼

Clarence J. Fluker is a public affairs and social impact strategist. Since 2008, he’s also been a contributing writer for Swerv, a lifestyle periodical celebrating African American LGBTQ+ culture and community. Follow him on Instagram: @Mr_CJFluker.

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Those Autumn Leaves BY

TERRI

Drifting by Your Window

They’re on the sidewalk.

They’re so widely scattered on your lawn that you can barely see whatever grass is left beneath them. They’re on the roof, clogging up the gutters. Staining your lawn furniture, stuck in the spot between your windshield and your car’s hood. And there’s little you can do about them. It happens every year: leaves turn colors and fall off the trees and there you are. Pretty…or pretty annoying, depending on your role in clean-up.

So. Why?

Do you remember second grade?

That’s not a non sequitur. It was probably second grade when you learned why trees jettison their main food source. But if you don’t remember, the short reason is...science. Here’s a brief refresher.

It almost sounds like magic, when you think about it: little green leaves feed a mighty tree through photosynthesis, using chlorophyll to turn energy (sunlight) into sugars to feed the tree from which they hang. In other words, a tree’s grocery bill is enviable. When Earth’s axial tilt turns away from the Sun during its year-long orbit, the result is cooler temperatures, longer nights, and less sunlight in a 24-hour period. Less sunlight tells trees that winter is approaching and it’s time to cut the amount of chlorophyll to zero.

During the summer, chlorophyll’s green pigment overpowers the carotenoids that are inherently in leaves. It “masks” the orange and yellow pigments that are there. No chlorophyll, no masking, which allows the carotenoids to show through in certain trees.

In other kinds of trees, chlorophyll-made sugars left in the leaves produce anthocyanins, which result in leaves that are purple or red. What color (or lack of color) you see is dependent on the kind of tree that’s dropping the leaves; the trees’ genetics influence the hues. You might even see different colors within a species.

Weather has some influence on leaf color, too. When it’s cool, dry, and sunny, you’ll see different vibrancy than you will if the weather is warmer, wet, and overcast, because cool nights stop chlorophyll and sunshine starts it back up again. If you were a tree, you might want a spreadsheet for all this.

As autumn progresses, sunlight wanes, and the weather turns even colder, the trees suck up all the sugar they can before making a barrier between

branch and leaf, which ultimately causes the leaf to fall off the tree. At this point, leaves wouldn’t live through the winter anyhow, and they are liabilities in the effort to conserve energy in cold weather. Buh-bye.

Overall, this may seem weird. I mean, could you go without grub for an entire winter?

Probably not, but trees can. The lack of leaves doesn’t kill them because trees adapt in various ways to their surroundings—even without blankets, sweaters, earmuffs, or furnaces.

When it’s cool, dry, and sunny, you’ll see different vibrancy than you will if the weather is warmer, wet, and overcast…

Okay, but back to All. Those. Leaves. What can you do about them?

Many lawn experts say that mulching may be best. Just let the leaves fall where they may, and mow over them once or twice without using your lawn mower’s bag. The mulch will enrich your lawn’s soil. Alternately, you can just leave some of the leaves around your tree (but away from the base!), to provide a bit of winter protection and mulchy-nourishment next spring. That helps beneficial insects, too.

If you’re taking it easy this fall, you can get a neighborhood kid to get rid of the carpet of crunch that’s accumulated or hire someone to come out and get rid of what’s littering your lawn. Or you can just DIY, rake and bag them yourself, and dispose of them in a manner appropriate to your city or town’s rules, which may vary.

On that note, you should know that there are 15 different kinds of rakes, but you’ll likely only need two of them. If you ever watched Saturday morning cartoons, you’re familiar with a garden rake’s right angle and the sturdy, stiff business end that the coyote always stepped on before being hit in the face by the handle. Next, lawn rakes and leaf rakes are similar, with a fan-shaped business end, perfect for gathering leaves. The difference is that the former is sturdier and the latter is made mostly of plastic.

So maybe that’s three kinds of rakes, eh? You’ll need three kinds of rakes for the best of tines and the worst of tines. ▼

Terri Schlichenmeyer’s third book, The Book of Facts and Trivia: Science, came out in September 2024.

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That Singular Sensation

When I was 17, I was totally blown away by a Broadway musical. I didn’t see it coming at all because to my rock and roll brain in 1978, musicals were just plain boring—something old people liked; stupid, even. After all, wasn’t that the dumb music my Dad played? Yawn fest! Yes, I did enjoy West Side Story and The Sound of Music. Even Funny Girl, all of which I saw on TV. But nothing prepared me for the thrill of seeing a real Broadway show, as part of a special trip my parents gifted me for high school graduation.

I was reminded of this incredible experience because my wife and I recently moved our collection of hundreds of CDs and vinyl record albums back upstairs after more than a decade in the basement. Not only did I find my copy of the vinyl cast album, but tucked away inside the album was the original Playbill, in nearly perfect condition. I cleaned the album, put it on the turntable, and Sandy and I sang along with the lyrics we remembered. She knew the show because unlike me, she loves Broadway musicals, the more classic, the better.

I was deep in the closet at 17, but there were so many references in the show to being gay, I felt like I was seen and that it would be OK.

Hearing those songs again really brought back that long ago pivotal experience of seeing the show. And what a show it was! There I was in the Schubert Theatre, after a day of visiting the tops of the original World Trade Center and the Empire State Building and you name it with my older, male cousin who was my chaperone. He was familiar with the city and was a saint, making sure I managed to see everything I wanted.

I was so excited to be in the Big Apple for the first time. For years I had

BY BETH SHOCKLEY

wanted to live there, go to college there. I was saving my money to move there. But a graduation trip is the most my parents would do, and I am so grateful to them and to Chip for providing that inaugural taste of the city. It would take another 15 years before I settled there (and remained for 13 years).

I was not exactly looking forward to seeing the show—I could have easily just skipped it. But it was part of the gift, so I thought I’d just suffer through a boring couple of hours. Nothing prepared me for the wow factor I was about to feel. I can’t describe the feeling as the first notes of the orchestra blasted through, the lights went up, and the cast began to perform. I wish I had a photo of my face in that moment—positively gobsmacked. Spellbound.

The show was so many things to me, including comforting. I was deep in the closet at 17, but there were so many references in the show to being gay, I felt like I was seen and that it would be OK. The best part was that nobody made a big deal about it. These were my people—they were just living their lives gay and no one batted an eye. How refreshing. How unlike home. This made me feel safer; that all I had to do was find my people in a big city and I’d be fine. Which is what I did.

And the incredible music and performances! “Dance Ten, Looks Three”

about buying “tits and ass” from a plastic surgeon had me cackling along in delighted surprise. “What I Did for Love,” which I had sung the year before in my high school choir, took on a much deeper meaning. As I learned the stories about each of the dancers, the themes that were revealed were universal. And the big finale, the chorus line come to life—I was awestruck.

That A Chorus Line is celebrating its 50th anniversary this year speaks to its longevity. It was a runaway hit, receiving 12 Tony Award nominations, winning nine, along with the 1976 Pulitzer Prize for Drama. The original Broadway production ran for 6,137 shows and was the longest-running show in Broadway history until it was unseated by Cats in 1997.

For me, it was a friendly introduction into young adulthood. I knew I’d have to deal with being a lesbian—I had promised myself I would do so when I got to college. Those couple of months between high school graduation and university in the fall were so fleeting. I was soon going to find my own way. But A Chorus Line helped me know that I would be OK. I was on my way to finding my own singular sensation. ▼

Beth Shockley is a retired writer and editor; she shares life with her wife and three kitty boys.

National Coming Out Day

Celebrate! Celebrate!

Coming up soon, October 11 is National Coming Out Day. That is, if it isn’t cancelled by the MAGA goons trying to erase the LGBTQ+ population. Well, they really can’t cancel it since it’s not a government holiday, but we can celebrate it like it should be.

National Coming Out Day, or annual LGBTQ+ awareness day, has something for everyone. It celebrates folks who are "coming out" and embracing their sexual orientation or gender identity, and also cheers on those who are not yet out.

Of course, those of us already out, proud, and helping heterosexuals get used to us, adore a good celebration and Coming Out Day is a great excuse to put on party hats and rejoice.

This holiday was first observed in 1988, coinciding with the one-year anniversary of the 1987 National March on Washington for Lesbian and Gay Rights, to commemorate its importance and encourage open expression and visibility.

Gay activists (prior to the tongue-twisting acronym LGBTQ+) Jean O’Leary and Robert Eichberg came up with the idea to encourage individuals to live authentically by coming out of the closet and to raise our community’s visibility. While the holiday started in the US, it’s now celebrated globally. And the late Keith Haring, the celebrated artist who died of AIDS in 1990, painted a now iconic graphic to celebrate the holiday.

“That will be $3.99 after the 10 percent lesbian discount,” said the clerk.

Actually, I’ve never thought about why it’s called coming out of the closet, although it’s clear what it means. In a 2017 Time magazine article, writers told of the phrase “coming out” being borrowed from early 20th century debutants, then by “an elite group of gay men in the early 1940s who ‘came out’ at drag balls. According to the Time article, men

mostly used the term between themselves to identify as part of the underground world of homosexuals. It is thought that the closet metaphor was added sometime in the 1960s.

So now, it’s up to us, members of the community and our wonderful allies, to encourage those who remain closeted to come out (if it’s safe for them to do so) and the rest of us can celebrate the uncloseted masses.

And of course, there are, in our Sussex County environs alone, thousands of diverse and very personal coming out stories.

As for me, I was painfully slow to come out. In my late twenties, a very intuitive friend asked if I’d go with her to Provincetown on Cape Cod. I saw gay people everywhere. I didn’t know where to look. I was fascinated.

We stopped at the Womencraft bookshop, a small, crowded space bulging with lesbian literature, feminist gifts, and crafts. I gawked at everything. I stared at the short-haired, sporty-looking women behind the cash register. Were they…you know? I picked up a mug with a photo of Robert Indiana’s LOVE sculpture on it and took it to the register.

“That will be $3.99 after the 10 percent lesbian discount,” said the clerk. Holy shit. My face flushed and I bobbled my wallet trying to get to my money to pay for my lesbian-discounted mug.

Running back out to Commercial Street, sweat beaded on my forehead and my knees went weak. Like an undercover cop in trouble, I’d been made. And then it hit me. I was a lesbian. Of course, I was! It all made sense now. Right there on Commercial Street in P-town I had an epiphany. I also had a lobster roll. And that was that!

I’ve been out and proud since the late 1970s, and an openly lesbian writer for 45 years.

One gay man I know, an actor and playwright, wrote a play featuring several gay characters while professing his heterosexual identity.

Until one day, during auditions for

BY FAY JACOBS

the play, the director asked the playwright to get up on stage and read alongside a prospective leading man. At the end of the scene there was a stage direction instructing the two actors to kiss. Wham! The man who wrote the play figured life out on the spot. He now writes for this magazine.

In honor of Coming Out Day this year, I intend to ask friends to tell me their coming out stories and celebrate them all. On page 38, there are some quick coming-out tales from folks you may or may not know. But it’s true: we’ve all got a story!

In fact, in 2005, there was a gorgeous coffee-table book published called When I Knew, with all manner of fascinating coming-out paragraphs. My favorite of all remains a quote by an Andew Freedman: “It was 1969 and my father was watching the evening news. The announcer said that Judy Garland had died. I fainted. I was nine.”

Let’s all celebrate on October 11! ▼

Fay Jacobs is a freelance writer, storyteller, and author of six books of (mostly) comic essays. She has written for the Washington Post, Baltimore Sun, The Advocate, the Washington Blade, Delaware Beach Life, and—for 30 years—Letters.

BY ROBERT DEDOMINIC

I’m Coming Out… “I

’m coming out, I want the world to know, Got to let it show…” Diana Ross belted out these lyrics in 1980, but when I was a college student and just coming to terms with my sexuality and realizing that I was gay, I didn’t want the world to know and I def did not try to let it show.

Greetings Letters readers, Robby from Brooklyn here, and I’m proudly gay. Proudly queer. Today I can proudly, comfortably say those words. But 25 years ago, things were very different—in the world and in my tiny corner of the world. Queer Eye and RuPaul’s Drag Race were years away from debuting on television. For a short, Catholic, Italian boy growing up in Queens, New York, the gay mecca of Chelsea and 8th Avenue in Manhattan might as well have been 3,000 miles away.

In the early ‘90s, gay role models were few and far between. Obviously, they were there. I just didn’t know how to find them or even where to look for them. There was no one I thought I could confide in, so I just pushed those feelings aside and tucked away—anywhere but out. I joined the swim team, the drama club, volunteered, and went on school trips. Dated a girl, maybe two. Okay, probably just the one.

After graduation I moved to Hoboken with three friends from college and got a job in event planning in Times Square. Now 23, I was working in Manhattan and exposed to people from different cultures, different backgrounds, different lifestyles.

In NYC I began living my best life. I worked at a company where most of the men, if not all of them, were gay. I listened to them tell me stories of their lives, their weekends, their partners, all the time feeling inside that I was just like them. I am certain they knew it too. They were extremely patient, letting me know that it was OK to be gay but never outright asking or pressuring me.

Living in Hoboken—with three straight males—and working in an environment

of all gay men was quite the culture shock. I felt like two different people. The secret weighed inside me more and more, getting heavier day by day.

My coming out wasn't one episode. It was a miniseries.

My coming out wasn’t one episode. It was a miniseries. I decided to tell friends one at a time over a span of a few weeks—straight male friends were told last. Again, all were extremely supportive and assured me nothing had changed, and that they had known for a long time. Everyone pretty much knew so my reveal wasn’t as big and grand as I had imagined it was going to be!

Coming out only inten sified the double life I was living. Gay in Manhat tan. Not gay in Hoboken. It took some time, but I did eventually find my “gay friend group,” and my life became a whole lot more gay. Instead of a shore house in Manasquan, NJ, I took a summer share in Fire Island Pines. I moved from Hoboken to the Upper East Side. While before if it was 90 percent hanging out with college friends, 10 percent hanging out with gay friends, the numbers now switched. I was exploring this new identity in every facet of my life.

A year later I dropped the bomb on my family over dinner. My mom cried visibly and loudly at the table—so much so that our waiter came over to make sure we were all OK. Through her tears she assured me that, “We love you no matter what, but I just think that your life is going to

National Coming Out Day

be harder, and that breaks my heart.”

Remember, this was 2000. Not 2020. After trying to calm her down, my dad felt it was best that I head home; we could talk again soon.

It did take some time. But once I included them in my life, introduced them to friends—even boyfriends— Mom’s tears stopped. She even joined the local PFLAG chapter. A few years later, tipsy at a family wedding, I made sure to let her know that “being gay is the best thing EVER!”

My coming out was disjointed, long, messy…but it was MINE. My heart broke for Simon in the 2018 rom-com, Love, Simon, as he screamed to his blackmailer how he took that away from him, outing him in an email to his whole high school. Gay icon Barry Manilow recently “officially” came out on the cover of magazine, stating he has been out his whole life: everyone who knew him knew he was gay, and he didn’t feel the need to officially come out to the public. Same for Anderson Cooper. Sean Hayes regrets not coming out when Will and Grace was on the air the first time. Celebrity or not, coming out should be on your terms and when you are ready. No one deserves to be outed or forced to

For me, it felt like a huge weight was lifted. I was essentially lighter. No more secrets, no more shame, no more fear. If/when you’re ready—I hope it’s the same for you. ▼

Robert DeDominic is a queer freelance writer living in Brooklyn, NY. Follow Robert on Bluesky at robertdominic.bsky.social.

The H.I.M.* Society

*Historically Intentional Male

In May 2025, CAMP Rehoboth launched a new support and social group called the H.I.M. Society. The program serves as a space for trans men to find connection and fellowship. The title derives from an acronym that stands for “Historically Intentional Male,” as a tribute to the visible presence of trans men throughout history.

Like many support groups at CAMP Rehoboth, the H.I.M. Society is led by a volunteer facilitator—one who saw the need to create a safe community space not yet available to southern Delaware. Driven by his passion to create an affirming group, Graeme D. is ready to help others form meaningful connections and build a strong sense of belonging and unity.

MEET GRAEME D.

Born in Harlem in the 1950s, Graeme brings an understanding of LGBTQ+ history both to his work as an advocate and to his growing understanding of his own identity. Societal expectations filtered perceptions of men as “the breadwinner of the family,” argues Graeme, or otherwise as “a pillar of strength in the world.” However, Graeme knew that many individuals didn’t quite fit that description. There were men who identified as “biologically other and needed a place to exist.” These are transgender men.

He points to “pioneer” transgender men who were “courageous in an effort to live authentically.” People like Michael Dillon, who had the first documented female-to-male re-assignment surgery in 1946. Or Billy Tipton, a Missouri jazz musician who lived happily as a man in the 1940s, initially keeping his sex assigned at birth a secret so he could play in his high school band.

Throughout the 1960s and ‘70s, the Stonewall riots and LGBTQ+ protests propelled a movement for the queer community in its fight for the right to exist visibly and proudly. “Lesbian, gay, bisexual, and trans people just wanted to be acknowledged for who we were,” said Graeme.

Meanwhile, in 1979, the first version of the WPATH Standards of Care (SOC) was published by the Harry Benjamin International Gender Dysphoria Association, now known as the World Professional Association for Transgender Health (WPATH). For the first time, there was a vocabulary for folks experiencing gender dysphoria. “It’s something I didn’t realize I had,” said Graeme.

Graeme observed a growing trend of acceptance for the lesbian, gay, and bi community in the 1980s. “Every straight person wanted to say they had a friend from the LGB community. For trans folx, well, that was still a challenge,” said Graeme. From a personal standpoint, “My encounters with trans folx were limited as I lived the ‘L Word’ life…. Wow! I really said that out loud.”

The rise of the AIDS crisis in the 1990s led Graeme to become “more of an activist than I already was. I resisted and fought the good fight to help others. It was not easy.” Meanwhile, this era did not yield much visibility nor many reports of trans folx, and especially trans men, observed Graeme.

The 2000s brought on a sense of renewed hope. Organizations were becoming more visible. Businesses were more accepting of LGBTQ+ individuals in the corporate world. Same-sex marriage

BY GRAEME D. WITH MATTY BROWN

became legal nationally in 2015. Yet, for Graeme, “I was still living the ‘L Word life,’ but I began to feel that—that thing called ‘gender dysphoria’—increasing.” Through his LGBTQ+ advocacy work in New York City, Graeme met more trans folx.

However, Graeme’s interactions were mostly with trans women. “As active as the NYC LGBTQ+ scene was—to not meet nor see any trans men felt somewhat…sad and disconcerting. How would I find men—trans men—that I could talk to and have a sense of community with?”

Graeme began his transition in 2015—or, as he puts it, “stopped living the ‘L Word’ life.” Graeme explains that the transition took some time because he did not yet have all the resources for gender-affirming care.

During this time, Graeme moved around New Jersey several times—from Bergen County to Monroe Township, and then Asbury Park. Once in Asbury Park, Graeme connected with local LGBTQ+ groups and hospitals that supported gender-affirming care. While staying engaged in LGBTQ+ advocacy and activism, Graeme “still seemed to be the only visible trans man in that community. That didn’t seem right. How can a community as large as the LGBTQ+ community in Asbury Park not have any trans men? Well, at least not any that I was aware of at the time.”

In 2022, Graeme moved to Sussex County, Delaware, after visiting for over two decades on vacation. Graeme became aware of CAMP Rehoboth after attending various events, groups, and fests, and knew he wanted to make a stronger connection to the community center. But, yet again, Graeme says that he “did not see—in many of those events—any representation of the ‘T’ [in LGBTQ+]. This was clearly troubling to me. I observed no trans men in and around the community.”

With that, Graeme decided to step up to make that space much more visible for the community. “The need for trans men to be visible is so poignant to me,” said Continued on page 58.

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Autumnal Equinox

Written in the Stars

Irecently found myself in the throes of something I hadn’t experienced in a long time: standing outside looking at the stars.

It was late at night in Prince Edward County, in eastern Ontario. My partner and I were on holiday with lovely friends who have an equally lovely cottage. After an evening of food, laughter, and a generous amount of wine, we wandered into the backyard. Overhead stretched a sea of constellations, satellites, and shooting stars. To say it was magical is an understatement.

I stood there, mouth agape, wondering why these moments seem so few and far between. In Wilmington, I never bother looking out my apartment window at night. Four floors up offers a decent view, but the city glow drowns the stars into a faint haze. At my own cottage, weekends get swallowed by socializing and sleeping, leaving little time to turn my gaze skyward. But that night in the county, I did—and in the weeks since, I haven’t stopped thinking about it.

Of course, once something lodges in my brain, I turn to my most trusted resource: the internet. With a few clicks, I was down a rabbit hole of star maps, telescope reviews, and explainer videos on why Pluto got kicked out of the planet club. It turns out the world wide web is just as vast as the world wide sky.

Somewhere in my cosmic clicking one theme kept popping up: the Autumnal Equinox. I’ve heard the phrase before, and usually it’s uttered by pals who track when Mercury is in retrograde. These are also the folks who tend to speak fluently in star signs. They say things like: “Leo season is coming,” or “that’s such an Aquarian thing to say.” Or my personal favorite: “Of course they did that—they’re a Virgo rising.” I have perfected the art of eye-rolling in response. Astrology is, in my book, delightful malarkey: entertaining, poetic, and occasionally accurate in the same way a fortune cookie sometimes lands a bullseye. But I digress.

This equinox thing really intrigued

BY CHRISTOPHER MOORE

That night of stargazing in Ontario didn’t just give me wonder—it handed me perspective.

me. Unlike horoscopes, it wasn’t just mystical metaphor—it was planetary choreography. So I dug deeper.

The equinox is a big deal. It marks the exact moment the sun crosses the celestial equator. On that day, give or take a few minutes, day and night are nearly equal in length everywhere on Earth. This happens twice a year—in March (the Vernal Equinox) and again in September (the Autumnal). It’s the universe’s way of handing out symmetry, like a perfectly balanced seesaw.

In the northern hemisphere, the Autumnal Equinox tips us out of summer’s heat and into autumn’s coolness. Days shrink, nights expand, and the sun arcs lower in the sky. Plants slow their growth, birds pack up for migration, and humans— even if we don’t notice it—shift gears. While this doesn’t explain our terrifying national obsession with pumpkin spice lattes, it does account for the change in seasonal vibes this time of year.

For centuries, the equinox wasn’t just an astronomical curiosity. It was a cultural anchor. Ancient Greeks tied it to the myth of Persephone returning to the underworld, explaining why crops died in winter. In China, the equinox is one of the 24 solar terms guiding farmers. Pagans

mark it with Mabon, a harvest festival of gratitude. In Japan, it’s a national holiday dedicated to honoring ancestors.

Even today, you’ll find farmers consulting almanacs which highlight the equinox for planting and harvest schedules. It’s proof that celestial math still informs earthly sustenance.

But there’s also a catch: the “equal” in equinox isn’t always an exact science. Thanks to Earth’s atmosphere bending sunlight, daytime lasts a few minutes longer than night. Even in its grandest balancing act, the cosmos leaves a little wiggle room. Balance, it turns out, isn’t static perfection. It’s more like a dance— sometimes graceful, sometimes clumsy, but always in motion.

There’s something comforting in that. If the solar system can’t nail perfect symmetry, maybe my patchy beard and lopsided sourdough loaves aren’t such a big deal.

The equinox serves as a reminder that the world is turning whether we notice or not. Seasons shift, days shorten, leaves fall, and life quietly resets. That night of stargazing in Ontario didn’t just give me wonder—it handed me perspective.

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The H.I.M.*

Society Continued from page 54.

Graeme, explaining that even while it’s nice to live in a state that has vowed to protect individuals seeking gender-affirming care, a group like the H.I.M. Society is “so needed in this clearly unfriendly administration that’s running the country.”

While Graeme understands some of the issues and nuances that limit or stop trans men from attending events, groups or anything public—citing assault, harassment, and violence, among other reasons—he hopes for this group to be a safe haven to share experiences and form connections. “My journey is not yet complete, but it is my desire and pledge to hold a place and space for trans men in Sussex County,” said Graeme. ▼

Find out more about The H.I.M. Society and how to register for the next meeting by visiting camprehoboth.org/programs. This group is for trans men.

For nonbinary folx, allies, and others who do not identify as trans men, or to express interest in leading a group for NB, trans women, or to share other program ideas, please contact programs@camprehoboth.org.

Graeme D. leads the H.I.M. Society at CAMP Rehoboth.

Matty Brown is CAMP Rehoboth’s Communications Manager.

Autumnal Equinox

Continued from page 56.

Here’s the truth: when you look up at a sky glowing magically with constellations, your to-do list feels non-essential. The trivial things you worry about seem small. The universe has been cycling through equinoxes long before any of us showed up, and it will keep doing long after. There’s humility in that— and also relief.

Since that trip, I’ve made a deal with myself: to look up more often. Even if city lights blur the view, there’s always at least one or two bossy stars cutting through. They serve as tiny reminders that while I may be bogged down in earthly concerns, there’s always a bigger picture above.

Maybe that’s why cultures across time have built myths, calendars, and holidays around celestial events. Not because stars dictate our fates, but because they remind us to pause. To breathe. To notice that balance isn’t perfect, harvests must be gathered, and seasons—in nature and in life—always change.

So the next time someone tells me Mercury is in retrograde, I might still roll my eyes. But I’ll also sneak a glance upward— just in case the universe has something to say. ▼

Christopher Moore is a writer, a teacher, and a lover of music, NPR, yoga, caulk guns, abandoned shopping malls, reproductive freedoms, peanut M&Ms, and a man who lives in Toronto. His email is moore.cc@gmail.com.

Photo by Andy Holmes on Unsplash.

Celebrity Interview

Matt Matthews

Boujee on a Budget!

For Matt Matthews, his comedy is all about helping a sometimes wildly chaotic world lock the doors, laugh raucously, and “make fun of everybody!”

Direct from Birmingham, Alabama, Matthews has worked in other careers as a photographer and an author, but for Matthews, bantering with a packed crowd from the stage is where he truly shines. I sat down to chat with Matt Matthews about his comedy stylings, his dream gig (he needs to be on a roast immediately!), and why his husband remains his biggest cheerleader.

MICHAEL COOK: Since TikTok helped change your life, how crazy has life gotten?

MATT MATTHEWS: Oh my gosh, every single day. I’m like, “What is my life?”

MC: You do a lot of crowd work and it’s so fun because everybody seems to come to play. From your perspective when you’re on stage, is it ever difficult to decide who you’re going to play with a bit?

MM: No (laughs). I definitely will go off of the vibe that somebody’s giving me. There are definitely people—you can tell, they’re just dying for it; they want it so bad. The thing is, these people are paying money to sit in these front row seats because they want to be roasted. They’re paying to be there for that reason.

Now there are some people—a lot of the times, they’ll bring a partner or something and they’re not the biggest fans of comedy or they don’t really know who I am or something like that, and those are the ones that I really go after. Especially the straight guys that sit there and they’re just so terrified to laugh. I will give it to them and by the end of it, they’re eating out of the palm of my hand and they love it.

MC: Is it difficult to be truly funny in today’s world, which can sometimes be overly cautious in terms of what can be considered truly funny?

BY MICHAEL COOK

MM: I definitely, in the last year, have even gotten more offensive. I would say that I just don’t care. You know, I feel like the best comedians are people that don’t hold back. And I just don’t care if I hurt your feelings; I don’t care if I offend you. I know that we’re in a really dark world and everybody is so offended over everything and I just don’t have time for that.

So if you come to my show and you’re just easily offended…well, number one, you messed up and came to the wrong show. Number two, I’m going to offend you just because you look like you should be easily offended.

I feel like we should be making fun of everybody. I feel like we should bring bullying back because people get so offended over everything and I just have zero time for it. I feel like everybody is fair game at my show. It doesn’t matter—your race, your sexuality—it doesn’t matter; I am going to make fun of you, and I tell people that at my show.

MC: Is there anybody from the comedy world that you pattern what you do after or anybody that’s an inspiration?

MM: I love the wholesomeness of Leanne Morgan. I think that she’s precious and she’s just up there kind of doing her thing

and making everybody happy and not offending anybody; that alone is a lot of talent right there. I really do try to just stay in my lane and not compare myself to other people.

MC: My own mother is officially a huge Leanne Morgan fan and her new Netflix sitcom is sensational. She is one of the biggest comedy names out there now.

MM: I mean, you can’t not love her, she’s precious. She doesn’t say a curse word and she doesn’t say anything bad. Everything she talks about is just so wholesome. She’s like Barney (laughs)! It could never be me, but that’s why people probably love her more than they love me because I’m going to say shit that’s gonna hurt your feelings.

MC: Your comedy is in the spirit of amazing and legendary roasts; I could truly see you thrive on a roast dais.

MM: I mean yeah—ultimate goal right there!

MC: You give your husband so many kudos and you really give him his props for basically being the center of your world and not letting you come totally unhinged. Is he truly your biggest cheerleader?

MM: Oh, yeah. I mean, he’s my best

It doesn’t matter—your race, your sexuality—it doesn’t matter; I am going to make fun of you, and I tell people that at my show.

friend, he is my biggest support system, he is my number one fan always. He may tell me that I’m absolutely nuts for doing something or, you know, he may say that I need to not do this or that, but he’s always going to support me in whatever I do because he knows I’m going to do it anyway. I always tell people, I’m on a level 10 at all times and he’s on a level zero. He is calm, he’s the yin to my yang for sure because I’m the one that stays ready. Like, I’ll slash your tires, you know, I’m kind of crazy. He’s like, it’s not that big a deal.

MC: Coming from the South and I think being in the world that we live in now, it must be so surreal for you to be seeing such a divide and you’re right in the mid-

dle of it. How do you navigate both sides of that world?

MM: I think at the end of the day, it just kind of comes down to being a relatable person. We do have so much division and so much hate in the world, but there’s also a lot of love and there’s a lot of good people out there. Laughter brings us together and laughter is the best medicine.

That’s kind of the reason why I will absolutely avoid topics in my show that I know will just divide people. I really try to bring people together in my shows and just make people laugh and to forget about what’s going on outside for 90 minutes of their day. They’re coming to laugh and they’re coming to enjoy their

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night. They’re coming to forget about the hard things that they’re struggling with outside of these walls. That’s what my job is, my job is not to divide people even more. ▼

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National Ghost Hunting Day BY

MARY JO TARALLO

Spirits in Sussex County

There is a scene in The Wizard of Oz where the Cowardly Lion worriedly declares, “I do believe in spooks, I do, I do, I do believe in spooks…” when, to the delight of the Wicked Witch, Dorothy and the gang encounter some odd happenings in the Haunted Forest on their way to the Emerald City.

And what about you!? What if you learned about some strange, often unexplainable occurrences in Sussex County and throughout Delaware?

You may or may not believe me, but Rachael Lynch knows what she is talking about, and she does believe in spirits. Lynch, through her company First State Paranormal Investigations (FSPI), conducts investigations for Historic Lewes (formerly the Lewes Historical Society). The organization’s “Haunted Histories: Paranormal Investigations” and “Legends of Lewes Evening Tour” are two of their most popular walking tours. (The Haunted History tour is the longer, at over two hours.)

The Burton-Ingram House, on the Historic Lewes campus, is notorious for unusual experiences. There’s an old-time crank-up music box that mysteriously plays notes without the touch of the human hand, and the sound of footsteps being heard on the second floor when no one is there.

One incident at the Burton-Ingram House involved a two-hour, on-going conversation with a spirit named Michael, who was hesitant to give his last name because he was a German who had lived in a prior time. He answered questions throughout the night, using several pieces of FSPI’s equipment, including a Spirit Box. (A Spirit Box is a radio, but a unique one in that it includes tools and features used in paranormal research to connect with spirits and ghosts by detecting EVPs— electronic voice phenomena.)

Michael’s answers were all relevant— from the Spirit Box replying “U-Boat” when asked if he knew Captain James

Rowland (credited with driving the last U-Boat out of Delaware), until the end of the session. As the investigation team was leaving, someone said, “danke,” the German word for “thanks.” The spirit box replied, “bitte,” which in German, is often used to express “you’re welcome.”

Tour guide extraordinaire and Historic Lewes staffer Bill Hicks tells a story on the Legends of Lewes tour about the Cannonball House where, back in the ‘60s, spirits apparently insisted on rearranging the tools of a maintenance man who was restoring the (now) museum. The man would neatly arrange his tools each night, only to find them scattered the next day, with a door to the attic ajar. After several occurrences, the latch to the door was nailed shut. But the next morning, the nail had popped out and the tools were again scattered.

Another Cannonball story involves a woman named Susan Rowland who got

“I like to think of the paranormal as science that hasn't been discovered yet.”

her dress caught in the fireplace there; she burned to death in 1917. Bombarded by the British in the War of 1812, Cannonball House is considered one of the most haunted houses in Delaware.

Hicks claims that he often feels a painful tightness in his chest, like a heart attack, when approaching the second floor of the house. When he steps down, the pain disappears.

Hicks also says he has heard footsteps upstairs in the Burton-Ingrams House as he was turning off the lights and closing the door after a tour. He muses that it has to do with the Wiley-Wilson murder—but that is a whole other story.

Another incident took place during a paranormal investigation in the doctor’s office on the Historic Lewes campus. A team member asked if the spirit present were the captain of a ship. The Spirit

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Box replied, “Fairmont.” None of those present knew anything about a ship with that name, so Lynch did some research and discovered that the Fairmont was a steamship built in 1917 by the New York Ship Building Company out of Camden, New Jersey. According to her, the odds of a captain from that ship coming to Lewes are very high.

On still another occasion, when setting up the cameras prior to an investigation, Lynch and another female investigator heard what sounded like a weighted window slam shut. When they played back the recording, the sound of the window slamming shut was obvious, but no windows were open at the time. Right before the sound is a man’s voice saying, “This isn’t your home!”

They sent the tape to a forensic audiologist who confirmed that the voice was in the male register—but only the two women were in the house at the time.

Lynch says each investigation is different. “Some are tedious, like sitting in a hot attic for two hours waiting for something. Others, like with Michael, are totally enthralling as each question is answered in real time,” she said. (Michael’s “conversations” are posted on YouTube.)

“It’s great when they’re responsive using the equipment, but sometimes, it’s not until after we’ve reviewed hours and hours of audio and video that we find a voice answering our questions,” she added. “Techniques are always changing. I like to think of the paranormal as science that hasn’t been discovered yet. At Historic Lewes, we use dowsing rods, pendulums, compasses—items that would have been used during their time. They get the biggest responses.”

Maggie’s Bridge in the village of Woodland (near Seaford) is the site of a fatal crash where a pregnant woman named Maggie died. As the story goes, if you stand on the bridge at night and shout out, “Maggie, I have your baby,” you may hear a sobbing Maggie as she searches for her baby in the marsh.

An article published in the Cape Gazette notes other ghostly experiences. Some maintain that a phantom soldier still stands guard behind Tower 12 at

Fort Miles in Cape Henlopen State Park. The Addy Sea Historic Oceanside Inn in Bethany Beach purportedly has three of 12 rooms that are haunted. The Victorian home has been a beach landmark since it was built in 1902; guests have reported hearing organ music, seen a shaking bathtub, and seen a ghost running through the halls at night. Others have reported hearing footsteps on the roof.

In addition to Historic Lewes, the Ft. Delaware State Park (near Newark) is the site of a paranormal investigation that is open to the public. It is conducted by the Diamond State Ghost Investigators and park staff. Participants visit areas where paranormal activity is suspected and are allowed to bring their own equipment although equipment is included in the tour.

Another option for curious souls is Sussex County native and author Josh Hitchens’ Haunted History of Delaware. The book highlights ghostly tales from all

three Delaware counties and Hitchens has a particular fascination with the 18th century Old Christ Church near Laurel that locals claim has a resident ghost if not several. One, a woman in a long black dress, has been sighted. There are many other incidents throughout Sussex County and other parts of Delaware that involve tales about ghosts or spirits. Perhaps you have a ghostly tale to tell? Anything is possible! ▼

Mary Jo Tarallo is a former journalist and public relations professional for various non-profits including a ski industry trade association. She won a Gold Award for a United Way TV program starring Oprah Winfrey.

Photos by Mary Jo Tarallo. Pictured on page 62: Historic Lewes staffer Bill Hicks, music box at Burton-Ingram House; above: St. Peter’s churchyard.

Our Nation’s Defense Is Up to Us

Trump Is the Crime Wave.

There are questions you can type into your browser and get a ready answer, such as “Why does looking at the sun make you sneeze?” or “How did Mussolini die?”

Others are harder, such as “How can people be so vicious as to let an ignorant, bigoted sociopath wreck our democracy?”

For someone obsessed with appearances, Donald Trump is the king of bad optics. His advisor Stephen Miller constantly seems so angry, someone might need to tell him his underwear is too tight. Jeanine Pirro, US attorney for the District of Columbia, is a self-caricature. FBI Director Kash Patel looks like the winning answer in a game of “Spot the Looney.” Trump himself looks like the result of a hotel putting its free breakfast buffet in a circle and neglecting to mark the exit.

The problem is far from merely optical. Trump is attempting a takeover of the Federal Reserve; attacking science; undermining public health; weaponizing DOJ; destroying FEMA; using talking points from Vladimir Putin; handing ambassadorships to unqualified cronies who failed in the first jobs he gave them; and running up huge deficits.

His attacks on the Smithsonian Institution raise the question of how it is in the president’s wheelhouse to impose his vision of American history on museums. Erasing the unsavory aspects of our past to shore up our self-image is of a piece with his photoshopped memes that portray him as a war hero. Qualities essential in a wise leader include humility, reflection, service, and restraint—all alien to him.

Trump’s low impulses make him a terrible role model. Many of his right-wing allies made much of the fact that a mass shooter in Minneapolis was transgender. It is just as senseless to engage in group blame against a minority on account of a crime by one member as to blame all straight white cisgender men for the crimes by serial killer Ted Bundy.

The right’s denials notwithstanding, the ready availability of assault weapons facilitates horrific, preventable crimes. Trump’s followers, like him, are quicker to hate than to help. No one is made safer by exploiting a tragedy to score points in the culture wars.

We deserve not just the absence of tyranny, but the presence of justice.

We are in a fight for America’s soul. The fact that Democrats have finally decided to fight fire with fire does not make us arsonists.

The arsonist is Trump. A convicted felon who incited an insurrection to overturn the results of a free and fair election and immediately pardoned the insurrectionists upon his return to the White House cannot credibly claim the mantle of law and order.

Trump talks about a crime wave in the nation’s capital and blue states while ignoring higher crime rates in red states. If anyone is fomenting disorder, it is Trump.

He undermines our national security. He insults our allies and gives aid and comfort to our enemies. He steals

BY RICHARD J. ROSENDALL

healthcare and nutritional assistance from the working class to give tax cuts to the wealthy. He considers no election legitimate that he does not win. He creates chaos in order to exploit it. His deployment of the military in our city streets should be recognized as laying the groundwork for more attempted election theft.

Calling Justice Ketanji Brown Jackson a “diversity hire,” as Trump’s partisans do, reflects the racism underlying many of their policies. Jackson has better credentials than most others on the federal bench.

Speaking of credentials, not only did Maryland Governor Wes Moore earn his Bronze Star, but I don’t see an embodiment of the Seven Deadly Sins when I look at him as when I look at Trump. Jackson and Moore represent the best of us. They are striving to help people. Trump and his allies represent the worst. They are hurting people and our country.

But pointing out that Trump is lawless and tramples the Constitution is insufficient. We deserve not just the absence of tyranny, but the presence of justice.

We must advocate our vision and our proposals clearly and vividly. From protests to education to litigation to voter registration and electioneering, there are many ways to advance freedom.

There can be no thriving democracy with single-party rule. The point of defeating Trumpism is not to install a different single party, but to open space to restore sane conservatism in place of the personality cult the GOP has become. Then we can resolve our differences more constructively.

If we do not work together to thwart this madman, we will become just another place that future tourists can visit to see the ruins. ▼

Richard Rosendall is a writer and activist who can be reached at rrosendall@me.com.

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BY REV. KARLA FLESHMAN, LCSW, MDIV & REV. TIM RODDEN, MDIV, RBC, FACHE(R)

Our Transgender, Gender Expansive Teens Deserve Better

As a new school year begins, many Delaware teens face an unnecessary crisis. They need medical care but are being denied access.

In June 2025, Nemours Children’s Hospital quietly stopped accepting new participants in their Gender Wellness Program (GWP) for medical care, continuing only behavioral health services. New patients lost access to medical treatment without warning or notification.

The news didn’t break until late July. One 17-year-old shared their devastation: “I was filled with hope until completely out of nowhere it stopped being offered at Nemours. They were quiet about it, they didn’t tell us.... We were waiting for months and we didn’t hear anything; my mom had to call them herself. Nobody deserves this, having something that could save their life ripped right from their fingertips.”

This stark pivot comes after seven years of excellence. Nemours’ GWP had been a national role model. In a 2019 Delaware Today article praising Nemours’ GWP program, a parent said, “Anybody I meet who has transgender kids, I send them to [Nemours]. They embrace them for who they are and make them feel normal. It’s all so positive and professional.”

When did it become acceptable to deny Delaware adolescents medically necessary healthcare because executives in Florida decided to halt services for all of our Delaware families?

As both a follower of Jesus’s teachings and a licensed clinical social worker, I find these actions morally bankrupt and ethically violating. Over 30 medical and mental health professional organizational boards advocate for gender-affirming care based on exhaustive research showing better health outcomes for transgender teens including the American Academy of Pediatrics.

The Pediatric Endocrine Society states: “Medical intervention for transgender youth and adults (including puberty suppression, hormone therapy, and medically indicated surgery) is effective, relatively safe (when appropriately monitored), and has been established as the standard of care.”

This isn’t rogue science or a political agenda. These are adolescents with parents, medical providers, and mental health professionals working together to develop the best care for

each teen. An interdisciplinary team partnering with families is standard care for gender-affirming treatment and many other medical conditions.

Nemours’ vision statement now reads like false advertising, “cherry-picking” which Delaware children can access medical care in “THEIR” hospital. This discrimination contradicts Delaware values and the founding principles of the DuPonts who established this hospital. Alfred I. duPont believed “it is the duty of everyone in the world to do what is within his power to alleviate human suffering.”

What will be the next medical condition they stop medically treating? When might it be your kid cut off from access to life-giving medical care?

Delaware families now have no in-state access to medically necessary gender-affirming care because Nemours executives in Florida suddenly stopped providing services to adolescents eligible for treatment.

The stakes are life-changing. Transgender adolescents who receive medically necessary puberty blockers or hormone therapy experience a 60 percent reduction in depression and 40 percent reduction in suicidal ideation. They live better lives because they feel better in their bodies.

Anyone taking medication for autoimmune diseases, diabetes, COPD, or heart disease understands how the right treatment changes quality of life and life expectancy.

Delaware’s teens deserve better than having life-saving care “ripped right from their fingertips” by distant executives who disregard medical consensus partnered with family needs.

It’s time to act, Delaware! It is time to write, call, and proclaim, “Nemours, stop denying my neighbor’s teens access to care! This isn’t ethical. It isn’t moral. It isn’t Delaware!” ▼

Rev. Karla Fleshman (They/She), LCSW, MDiv, is owner and Clinical Director of Transitions Delaware.

Rev. Tim Rodden (He/Him), MDiv, RBC, FACHE(R), is a Presbyterian Minister.

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Historical Headliners

A Soldier’s Life: Antonio de Erauso

In March of 2022, the Spanish art collective Cabello/Carceller opened an exhibition in Bilbao about a fascinating figure in Spain’s history and its colonization of the Americas. The exhibition neither ignored Spain’s pride and achievements in its Colonial past nor did it gloss over the oppression and injustices its colonizing enterprise forced onto the Indigenous peoples of the New World. What the exhibition did do was tell this story through one of its more unique participants: transgender soldier Antonio de Erauso.

Born as Catalina de Erauso in the late 16th century (the date is unclear, with 1585 or 1592 debated as possible birth dates) in San Sebastian in the Basque region of Spain, Catalina was sent away at the age of four to a convent of the Dominican order. Her sisters, Isabel and Maria, were sent to the convent as well.

Life at the convent was not a good fit for Catalina, who by all accounts felt no deep religious conviction and refused to adhere to the convent’s daily requirements. Her further refusal to take vows and fully embrace the life of a nun resulted in severe disciplinary measures, including time in a solitary cell and harsh beatings.

At 15 years old, after nine brutal years in the convent, young Catalina carefully planned her escape. Gathering fabric from here and there around the convent, she fashioned boys’ clothing and made her escape dressed as a male youth. Her muscular build and boyish face helped maintain the ruse. Once free, Catalina maintained her male persona easily and naturally. She assumed various male names over the years, including Alonso Diaz, Pedro de Orive, Francisco de Loyola, and eventually settling on Antonio de Erauso.

Antonio’s life over the next few years was a series of highs and lows. The highs included a stint as a page to the secretary to King Phillip III, while the lows included arrest for brawling, which resulted in time in prison. Eventually, Antonio, now firmly established as male

in his acceptance of himself—an identity we now recognize as trans—signed on to a Spanish galleon. The ship set sail for Spain’s colonies in what is now South America in the year 1600.

It is here that Antonio’s life entwines with the checkered story of Spain’s colonial undertaking. As a soldier in Spain’s colonial military, Antonio was posted to

Gathering fabric from here and there around the convent, she fashioned boys’ clothing and made her escape dressed as a male youth.

numerous South American locales in what is now Ecuador, Mexico, Venezuela, Bolivia, Chile, and Argentina. As a soldier, Antonio carried out orders issued by the King of Spain to subdue the Indigenous populations. These orders could be as simple as keeping tabs on local Indigenous leaders, to Spain’s harsher treatment of its colonized subjects.

The Cabello/Carceller art exhibition addresses Antonio’s participation not only from the general perspective of the history of colonial era Spain, but through the perspective of LGBTQ+ history, specifically

BY ANN APTAKER

the history of trans experience. The title of the exhibition, Una voz para Erauso, Epilogo para un tiempo Trans (A Voice for Erauso, an Epilogue for a Trans Time) directs the viewer to consider a specific moment in time and the life of a trans person living in that time. Do we only condemn Antonio de Erauso for participating in the brutalization of Indigenous peoples? Or do we acknowledge his courage in living a trans life at a time when discovery of that life would result in harsh punishment and even death?

The exhibition asks us not to dismiss the first while also celebrating the courage it took to face the second. It reminds us that the moral judgments of the 21st century can’t be applied with any honesty to the moral philosophies of the 16th and 17th centuries, especially, perhaps, when it affects the lives and safety of our LGBTQ+ ancestors.

After his military service, Antonio returned to Spain where once again his life experienced high points and low. It is possible he had an audience with Pope Urban in Rome, though that is unconfirmed. His petitions for compensation for his military service were not always honored, but his heroics in Spain’s colonies made him somewhat a noted figure, and a play was published about his life, Comedia Famosa de la Monja Alférez, Monja Alférez having been one of his aliases.

Antonio eventually returned to the New World, living out the rest of his life there, notably in the city of Cotaxtla, Mexico, where he died in the year 1650.

The history of Spain, and the history of the Western world generally, is a mosaic of extraordinary achievements alongside extraordinary brutality. Transgender soldier Antonio de Erauso found a way to survive in that sometimes beautiful, sometimes ugly mosaic, and for that we remember him. ▼

Ann Aptaker is the author of short stories and the Lambda & three-time Goldie award winning Cantor Gold series. Her latest in the series—Gold for the Dead—will be released in October 2025.

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Marinara With Fresh Basil

Another harvest is upon us. Which makes me think of the phrase “farm to table.”

Don’t you just love those words? They evoke a beautiful sunset, behind a smiling group of friends, eating in a vineyard, with faded linens, amongst vases of sunflowers and Mason jar candles.

I like the idea of going to the market without a recipe in mind. Being inspired by produce still warm from the field, paired with the freshest meats and seafood. Sadly, this can be very far from the reality of how I plan, shop for, and cook meals. I envy you readers who have vegetable gardens and laying hens right outside your doorsteps.

Are you familiar with victory gardens? During the world wars, people were encouraged to supplement their food with things they grew themselves. Supplies were scarce and rationing was in effect. Farming became focused on feeding soldiers. Well-fed armies win. Hence victory gardens.

Sadly, we can’t properly tend a vegetable garden of our own. We spend too much of our summer at the shore. And we’re not always able to shop frequently for uber-fresh ingredients.

Even buying organic can be tricky. We love pesticide-free, non-GMO, etc. But we find they’re often way more perishable. And sometimes, frankly, I need blueberries to last a couple days. I’ve even resorted to buying one organic container to eat immediately and a non-organic to eat over the next few days.

I can only imagine for busy families. Especially those on a budget. Which is to say all of us.

I’ve always had a thing for not wasting food. It was drilled into us from an early age. For sure, I hate to squander the cost. But it’s also about all it took to grow, pick, wrap, ship, store, and display it. Lots of energy and resources go into what appears on our tables. Not to mention, there really are starving children in this world.

So yeah. I’m the guy who swishes

water in the catsup bottle and dumps it into baked beans. I pantry- and freezer-dive for things about to expire. I eat odd things for breakfast if it means keeping them out of the trash.

As a baby of the Great Depression, my Mom would be proud. Cooking for six on a carpenter’s salary, she had a talent for stretching a pound of beef into delicious, filling meals WITH leftovers. And yeah, she was the gal who squirreled restaurant rolls into her purse. She once heard that they go from the basket on the table to the bin. Not on her watch.

Where Mom was talented avoiding waste, Gramma was hardcore. Not quite a hoarder, I’ll call her a collector. We found pallets of glass mayonnaise jars in her basement. And one of those huge balls made of rubber bands. And—wait for it—a very large bag filled with a lifetime of shoulder straps cut from worn out girdles. Because you never know when you’re gonna need to tie up a loose muffler.

So, back to food. I guess my point is I sometimes have to lean into canned and frozen staples. But in the case of this recipe, canned is the only way to go. It’s my Marinara with Fresh Basil.

I promise, you can make this in the dead of winter, and it will taste like you just picked the freshest sun-ripened tomatoes.

Let’s get started, shall we?

BY ED CASTELLI

STEPS

 In a small stockpot, heat over medium high:

• ¼ cup extra virgin olive oil

 When the oil’s shimmering, add the following just for a minute or so:

• Pinch crushed, dried red peppers

• 1 Tbl chopped fresh oregano

Add, just for another minute:

• 3 minced cloves of garlic

 Stir in:

• 2, 28-oz cans of San Marzano tomatoes

• 2 tsp kosher salt

• Fresh ground pepper, to taste

 Crush and break up the tomatoes using a wooden spoon. Bring to a boil. Reduce the heat to low and simmer for 15 minutes.

Add, and continue simmering for a couple minutes:

• ¼ to ½ cup torn fresh basil

• 1 Tbl unsalted butter

Taste for seasoning and adjust to your liking. Enjoy!

TIPS

• Ensure the tomatoes say “San Marzano” in the ingredients. Most grocery stores carry these, often on the bottom shelf. They’re a bit more expensive, but key to this recipe.

• It’s important to use fresh oregano and basil, not dried, to add that rightfrom-the-garden flavor.

• Do not skip the butter. It’s the finishing touch that gives this sauce a creamy, rich depth. ▼

Ed and his husband Jerry split their time between homes near Harrisburg Pennsylvania and Bethany Beach. Ed builds websites to pay the bills but loves to cook, garden, hike, and dote on their dog Atticus.

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CAMP Rehoboth Puts Art at the Heart of Our Community

Bear Witness: 10 Years of the Rehoboth Beach Bears

September 19-October 7, 2025

Opening Reception: Saturday, September 20, 3:00-5:00 p.m.

CAMP Rehoboth is thrilled to announce that the Rehoboth Beach Bears are back! This annual juried exhibition showcases the work of over 20 different artists in a variety of mediums, including paint, jewelry, and ceramics. The exhibit includes not only art by members who identify as a part of the Bear community, but also general bear-themed artwork. Come enjoy an exhibit that demonstrates the incredible range of creative talent both within the Rehoboth Beach Bears group and among artists outside the group who create bear-themed art. Drop by soon—this fantastic exhibit is open only till October 7. ▼

COMING IN OCTOBER

INTO LIGHT

Opening Reception: Friday, October 10, 4:00-6:00 p.m.

Starting October 10, CAMP Rehoboth will be hosting INTO LIGHT, a national art activism project. The project seeks to dismantle the stigma surrounding the disease of addiction and address the misconception that people with addiction are to blame for their illness.

INTO LIGHT will be on display October 10 till the end of November. We invite—and encourage—everyone to view this powerful exhibit. ▼

CAMP Rehoboth Gallery typically is open Monday-Friday, 9:00 a.m. to 5:00 p.m. Call ahead to confirm: 302-277-5620.

This program is supported, in part, by a grant from the Delaware Division of the Arts, a state agency, in partnership with the National Endowment for the Arts. The Division promotes Delaware arts events on DelawareScene.com.

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Images, from top: Ouijia Bearer by Craig Simmons; Shadows (detail) by Don Twine.

BY TERRI SCHLICHENMEYER

BOOKED SOLID

One thousand, two hundred pounds and four legs.

Put that between your knees and you’ll find out what real horsepower is. You’re five feet off the ground, moving as fast as a car on a downtown street, hooves pounding as hard as your heart. Dangerous?

Maybe. But as you’ll see in Mounted, by Bitter Kalli, your ancestors did it and so can you.

When they were a young child, “around the age of six or seven,” someone gave Bitter Kalli a set of “pony books,” the kind that appeal to young girls, mostly White ones. Kalli wasn’t entirely comfortable identifying as a girl, then, but they adored the books, in part because the stories featured the kinds of friendships and acceptance Kalli wanted. After devouring those stories, they begged their parents for riding lessons from a nearby Brooklyn stable.

Fast forward to 2014, when Kalli was 17 years old, an experienced equestrian, a trans individual, and a protester at college. During that protest, they watched the horses that carried the police and wondered what those animals saw in the crowd.

For that matter, what did horses see throughout Black history?

In times of slavery, it was not uncommon for fleeing slaves

to steal a horse or two to get away faster. Kalli recounts heart-pounding tales of escape, sharing examples of how human chattel was often compared to that of equines in newspaper ads, as slaveholders mourned the latter loss much deeper than the former.

Many Americans are unaware of the rich contributions that African Americans made to the settling of the West. Kalli examines a popular movie, deconstructing it and adding real history to the Hollywood tale.

“What we know as the Wild West would not exist without the 182,000 enslaved people living in Texas in 1860…,” they say.

Horses are featured in many of the world’s religions. Horsey language lends itself to the erotic. Even, says Kalli, “Black and Brown youth in Brooklyn” understood the appeal of a good-looking polo pony….

Take a good study of the cover of Mounted. Appreciate the artwork, notice the design. Then add this book to your “Things I Never Really Thought About” list, because you’ll think about it now. And you’re going to want to read every delicious word.

Horses have been hiding in plain sight in Black history for centuries, but author Bitter Kalli pulls them to the forefront, turning each facet of the subject over for deeper examination and additional thought. Happily, you won’t feel forced to do that; their writing comes across like an invitation to a warm, intimate conversation, the kind you get while casually hanging out with a new group of friends on the patio. What you learn is highly intriguing, and you won’t ever see horses in the same way again.

Be aware that this book has one explicit chapter inside, but it fits the narrative and you won’t mind. You’ll be too busy enjoying what you read and wanting more. For horse lovers and history lovers alike, Mounted is the perfect ride. ▼

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CHARLES VANDERGRIFT & MARK SHAW

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CR: When did you start volunteering at CAMP Rehoboth?

CHARLES: I started volunteering in 2017 for one of the shows as an actor.

MARK: I started volunteering when I moved to Rehoboth in 2017 at SUNFESTIVAL. As a master arborist, I’ve helped CAMP with the trees in the courtyard and other horticultural issues.

CR: What’s your best memory volunteering at SUNFESTIVAL?

CHARLES: My best memory is having fun with the guests as I check them in and getting to see the fabulous outfits and dish later…just kidding!

CR: Favorite season here at the beach and why?

CHARLES: Fall—all the vacationers are gone, traffic is less, and I can still have quiet days on the beach.

MARK: I love spring, summer, and fall here.

CR: What’s a piece of advice you received early in life that has stuck with you?

CHARLES: My family was not the type to pass on good advice—but that’s another story! So the best advice I give to myself is to remember I’m a great guy and don’t let shady queens tell me any different!

CR: What are you most thankful for?

CHARLES: First and foremost, I’m most thankful for my healthy and loving partnership with Mark Shaw. Secondly, in 2021 I had a near-fatal car accident and am thankful to be alive despite the aftermath of an accident I have no recollection of (and totally sober I was)! I’m also thankful for my Mother, my special Mom, and step-children.

MARK: I’m most thankful for my loving partner, Charles, and my family in Illinois and North Carolina. ▼

Above L-R: Charles, Mark

A Cinematic Rollercoaster

Twinless: A Bromance Goes Dark

BY CHRIS AZZOPARDI

Dylan O’Brien and James Sweeney talk queer grief in their genre-bending film Twinless—and that leaked sex scene

By the time my conversation with Dylan O’Brien and James Sweeney wrapped, I was still trying to figure out how to categorize Twinless—and whether I even wanted to. The film, which premiered to buzzy acclaim at Sundance (and not without controversy, thanks to a leaked sex scene that derailed its digital run), is one of those rare cinematic experiences that hits like a jolt: unsettling, hilarious, devastating, and tender, sometimes all at once.

That emotional rollercoaster is very much intentional, as I discovered while speaking with lead actor Dylan O’Brien (Teen Wolf) and writer-director-star James Sweeney. Sweeney explained, “there’s a support group” for all those feelings—perfectly in tune with the film’s tone. Even offering a brief summary feels like revealing too much. In fact, this interview contains some light spoilers, so consider yourself warned. Here’s what we can openly share: Sweeney plays Dennis, who meets Roman (O’Brien) at a grief support group. Both are coping with the loss of a twin—and O’Brien also portrays Rocky, Roman’s late gay brother.

What began as Sweeney’s personal rumination on identity, loss, and the unique grief of twinhood evolved into a bold, genre-blurring narrative that avoids easy labels—both in plot and in tone.

But how do you promote a film that’s better left unspoiled? As it turns out, that question is one of many the duo navigated with humor, honesty, and surprising vulnerability. Over the course of our interview, they opened up about everything from the film’s intimate emotional core to their unexpected off-screen bond—and yes, even their mutual failure to watch Steel Magnolias.

CHRIS AZZOPARDI: I’ve been thinking about how hard it is to talk about this film without giving too much away—even just writing about it feels tricky. How are you navigating that line during this press tour?

SWEENEY: It has been a…oh, what’s the idiom I’m looking for? A tight needle to thread? [Laughs.]

O’BRIEN: A hard line to straddle?

SWEENEY: Gosh, we’re both having a Roman moment. [Both laugh.] One thing that we discovered at Sundance was how wonderful it is for people to go in completely blind and we’re trying as much as we can to preserve that experience for audiences.

O’BRIEN: But there’s also a wide appeal that we obviously want to net from this. We really want as many people as [possible] to go see it. But then we’re also begging them to ask for no other information than that. [Laughs.]

SWEENEY: Just trust.

O’BRIEN: A real tough sell.

CA: If we’re trying to sell this story for

wide appeal, we should talk about the sex scene, right?

SWEENEY: I mean, that’s kind of what happened in January.

O’BRIEN: Yeah, it’s already out there. So that one we don’t have control over.

CA: When a sex scene from the film was leaked online, causing Sundance to quickly remove the entire film from its digital roster, what did that feel like to go through in real time?

SWEENEY: I think [Dylan] got more respect out of the situation than I did. [Laughs.] I wasn’t even getting named half the time.

O’BRIEN: On behalf of James, I think he shared a lot of feelings with me about it that I was sensitive to. I’m not really online, but it obviously saddens me. There were so many people too who were like, “Oh, I wanted to see your movie at Sundance, but they pulled it off.”

I was like, damn, I really wish people understood, even just outside preserving the integrity of our film and the fact that

I think when I first heard about a twin support group, it did strike me as such a profound, deeply tragic loss because it is also about a loss of self…

it’s a spoiler and that it’s best to go in completely blind. And that was tough. You try to look on the bright side and maybe, at least, it points people in the direction of our film.

SWEENEY: It creates a liminal awareness.

O’BRIEN: Which we do ultimately want.

CA: James, this film feels personal, as you wrote and directed it and also star in it. What sparked your creativity here?

SWEENEY: I feel connected to all the work that I write, and there’s not always a role that I could play, but I guess that’s just kind of my writing process. It’s a combination of pulling from the personal and infusing it with the imaginative.

This came from being very interested in twins and their psychology and identity. I think when I first heard about a twin support group, it did strike me as such a profound, deeply tragic loss because it is also about a loss of self, and that just felt like a really robust theme to explore in a film.

And my boyfriend, who is an identical twin, had recently broken up with me and that kind of spurred some childhood memories of wishing I had a twin.

CA: What was it like for you to direct something so emotionally complex, but also be so in the story?

SWEENEY: The heavier moments are more challenging—they feel like they ask more of me emotionally. I’m particularly thinking of the climax scene in the hotel room. That was one where I did feel the strain between actor and director and being able to compartmentalize those two sides of my responsibilities.

CA: Dylan, you also have a powerful scene, where you tell Dennis what you wish you could say to your late twin brother. How did you approach that scene emotionally?

O’BRIEN: I had so much connection at this point to the story and to the role and so much investment emotionally to what we were making, and that scene was

toward the end. It was also so beautifully written by James, and I never wanted to change a word of it from the first time I read it. I don’t memorize word for word, but this is one I wanted to memorize and honor verbatim. I just thought it was so human and beautifully written in that way. It was the most in touch I’ve ever felt as an actor and one of the things I’ll forever be most proud of in my entire life, let alone career.

CA: What kind of process was required of you to play both Roman and Rocky?

O’BRIEN: I think I’ve been different people at different times in my life, especially when you’re growing up and you’re figuring out who you are. Most people are really surprised to hear me describe myself as a really quiet and shy kid. So I have sort of that Roman internalism in me that I know so dearly. But I know very well that that’s not how I’m perceived.

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OPPOSITE PAGE 2) at Battle of the Bachelors and Bachelorettes at Aqua: Elisha White, Michael Skinner, Scott Burdette, David Bartholomew, Laura Herkalo, Lincoln Greenstreet, Kevin Adler, Lisa Johnson, Brittany McCunney, Rob Wilkinson, Any Feschenko, Gary Foley, Matt Hocking, Mike Whitlock, Paul Weiss, Lee Whitehead, Carolyn Smith, Angelo Tabbita, Jon Kaplan, Katie Lydell, Georgiy Yanchenko, Drew Mitchell, Tyler Townsend, Patrick Saparito, J.D. Beam, Andy Staton.

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OPPOSITE PAGE 3) at Local Color Art Reception, CAMP Rehoboth: Rocco Scutarom, Phil Merida, Nancy Weaver, Amy Westerman, Kathleen McHugh, Frank Echols, Lolly Yager, Bob Robinson, Charlie Mahjoobi, Joe Vescio, Barry Moshinski, Matt Castrina, Rob Ponzini, Logan Farro; 4) at CAMP Families Sunset Cruise: Guillermo Silvera, Coca Silvera, Monica Bianca, Drake Smandra, Asher Smandra, Judy Hansen Smandra, Laurie Smandra, Angel Smandra, Bree Smandra, Vienna Cavazos, Bailey Weaver-Ronk, Denise Poust, Diane Scarantino, Abe Latta, Josh Scarantino, Olivia Clegg.

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The Real Dirt

It’s the Great Pumpkin!

Few plants are as instantly recognizable and culturally evocative as the pumpkin. With its glowing orange skin, ribbed surface, and association with fall harvests, Halloween lanterns, and hearty autumn meals, the pumpkin carries a wealth of meaning. Yet beneath its festive charm lies a deep botanical history and cultural importance, particularly to Indigenous peoples of the Americas, where the plant was first cultivated.

Botanically, the pumpkin belongs to the genus Cucurbita, which also includes squash, gourds, and zucchini. Most cultivated pumpkins are varieties of Cucurbita pepo, though C. maxima and C. moschata also produce pumpkin-like fruits. These plants are annual vines, characterized by sprawling stems, broad lobed leaves, and curling tendrils that help them climb or spread across the ground.

Pumpkin flowers are large, trumpet-shaped, and bright yellow, with separate male and female blooms appearing on the same plant. Pollination is carried out primarily by bees, especially squash bees, which have co-evolved with this species. Without these specialized pollinators, pumpkin fruit-set is poor, making the health of pollinator populations critical to pumpkin production.

The fruit itself is technically a pepo, a type of berry with a hard rind and fleshy interior. Pumpkins vary in size from small “sugar” varieties used for pies to giant competition pumpkins weighing well over 1,000 pounds. Nutritionally, pumpkins are rich in vitamin A, beta-carotene, and fiber. Their seeds, or pepitas, are high in protein and healthy fats, making them a valuable food source in addition to the sweet orange flesh.

Long before the pumpkin became a symbol of autumnal celebrations in Europe and North America, it was a cornerstone of life for Indigenous peoples of the Americas. Archaeological evidence suggests that pumpkins and related squashes were domesticated over 7,500 years ago in Mexico. Early forms were

smaller, harder, and more bitter than today’s varieties, but they provided a hardy and storable source of nutrition.

In stories and traditions, pumpkins symbolized sustenance, connection to the earth, and seasonal cycles of abundance and rest.

For many Indigenous communities, pumpkins were part of the “Three Sisters” agricultural system, alongside corn and beans. This poly-cultural planting method was both ecologically ingenious and nutritionally complete: corn provided a structure for beans to climb, beans fixed nitrogen into the soil, and pumpkins sprawled along the ground, shading out weeds and conserving moisture.

Pumpkins also carried cultural and spiritual significance. Some Indigenous groups used dried pumpkin strips in woven mats, while seeds were prized for their high energy content. The Cherokee and other nations roasted pumpkin slices, and the flesh was often dried for winter storage. In stories and traditions, pumpkins symbolized sustenance, connection to the earth, and seasonal cycles of abundance and rest.

As European colonists encountered pumpkins in the Americas, they quickly integrated them into their diets and

BY ERIC W. WAHL

farming systems. Pumpkins were easy to grow, store, and prepare, making them a crucial survival food in the early colonies. Over time, they became closely tied to the agricultural calendar, especially the harvest season.

By the 19th century, pumpkins had become associated with autumn in literature and art. Writers like Nathaniel Hawthorne and poets such as John Greenleaf Whittier celebrated the pumpkin as a symbol of rustic abundance. Pumpkin pie became a staple dish of Thanksgiving, cementing the fruit’s place in seasonal traditions. The bright orange color of pumpkins, echoing autumn leaves, reinforced their role as a visual marker of fall.

The pumpkin’s role in Halloween traditions has roots in Celtic and European folklore. The Irish practice of carving turnips or beets into lanterns, called “jack-o’-lanterns,” was brought to America by immigrants. These lanterns were tied to the tale of Stingy Jack, a trickster condemned to wander the earth with only a glowing coal inside a carved vegetable to light his way.

In North America, the native pumpkin proved to be a far superior carving medium than turnips. By the mid-19th century, jack-o’-lanterns made from pumpkins became a widespread Halloween tradition. Their eerie glow fit perfectly with the holiday’s themes of spirits, mischief, and the thinning veil between worlds. Today, the carved pumpkin is one of the most iconic symbols of Halloween, adorning porches, windows, and community festivals throughout October.

The pumpkin, in all its forms, remains a plant of nourishment, symbolism, and celebration. As each autumn brings cooler air and shorter days, the sight of ripening pumpkins reminds us of the enduring connection between plants, people, and the cycles of the seasons.

Have fun and let’s garden together. ▼

Eric W. Wahl is Landscape Architect at Pennoni Associates, and President of the Delaware Native Plant Society.

I do also have these Rocky qualities, and I thought it was really interesting to sort of apply them to a gay character. We have these effeminate qualities that a lot of straight men don’t embrace in themselves or that you’re taught not to. But I’ve always been quite in touch with my femininity, and especially as I got into adulthood. So it felt quite natural to become both of these guys. And then I just had such an implicit trust for James, which was so freeing.

CA: Wait, does that mean that if you have some similarities with these characters that you have not seen Steel Magnolias in real life?

O’BRIEN: At least you caught that. I feel like so many people miss that line.

SWEENEY [ashamedly whispering]: I actually haven’t seen Steel Magnolias

O’BRIEN: I haven’t either! [Both laugh.]

CA: I like that Dylan was delaying until James answered.

O’BRIEN: I was sweating. [Laughs.]

SWEENEY: I got shamed for it once, which is where that line came from.

O’BRIEN: We should watch it one night.

CA: Where did the bond between you two start?

O’BRIEN: It hasn’t yet. [Laughs.]

SWEENEY: Still waiting.

O’BRIEN: Any day now. [Laughs.]

SWEENEY: I’m just going through the chronology.

O’BRIEN: We want to give you a more interesting answer than one that we’ve been giving. We’re very different in so many ways, but we also have a lot of similarities in terms of experiences. We’ve both experienced loneliness in our childhood. We’ve both experienced having to adapt to a new environment and being uprooted. We both value very similar things in our relationships and our friendships.

I think we really kind of share such a DNA in so many ways that enabled us to, just through effortless conversation, talk about how we feel about the world and our life and friends and movies, whatever. We can talk to each other for a long time. CA: As a queer boy, hearing a straight guy speak so openly and tenderly about his queer friend feels like it would have been the dream. James, what makes your bond with Dylan feel special to you?

O’BRIEN: Growing up, I did gravitate toward more female friendships, but it’s been interesting how I’ve now grown into so many straight male friendships. As you were saying, it’s like when you’re young and you’re fearing rejection, from elementary through high school, a fear of exclusion, a fear of being identified as being gay or being called out for not fitting in the group or being one of the boys. I never felt like one of the boys and I’ve always felt more comfortable one on

one. And it’s been interesting how that has evolved.

One thing I love about this movie is that it’s a friendship movie. I love bromance movies and comedies about friendship. And obviously this goes in different directions, but it’s something

One thing I love about this movie is that it’s a friendship movie.

that I don’t think we see enough of. And I wouldn’t necessarily pinpoint Roman and Dennis as the ideal role models of male friendship, but I do think there are a lot of qualities that their friendship portrays that I hope people can think about and hopefully find in their personal lives.

CA: Dylan, with Twinless coming out not long after Ponyboi, I’m curious—what draws you to work that is queer and is led by queer filmmakers?

O’BRIEN: I think it might follow a DNA of what I’m drawn to in the qualities of people in my friendships. River [Gallo, the writer of Ponyboi] became family to me. And again, they’re someone I can just gab with for hours. They are blood to me. I guess these friendships oftentimes exist in spaces I feel safe in.

Both of these films are scripts I read and instantly was like, this is unbelievable. I follow what my heart’s drawn to and spaces that I feel safe in and people that I feel inspired by, and if I can have any hand in going on that ride and empowering [people], that’s just a bonus. ▼

Chris Azzopardi is the Editorial Director of Pride Source Media Group and Q Syndicate, the national LGBTQ+ wire service. He has interviewed a multitude of superstars, including Cher, Meryl Streep, Mariah Carey, and Beyoncé. His work has also appeared in The New York Times, Vanity Fair, GQ, and Billboard.

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THIS PAGE (left to right) 1) at Diego’s: Edmund Bagnell, Daniel Zelibar, Magnolia Applebottom, Alberth Silva, Mikey Leek, D’Netric Gatling, Joe Zuber, Danny Zelibor, Edmund Bagnell, Darryl Ciarlante, Eddie Adams, Rob Land, Chad Stover, Roger Valentine, Mike Kluk, Antonio Di Leva, Jim Aliquo, Judy Aliquo, Monica Parr, Emilie Paternoster; 2) at Blue Moon: Shana Lang, Robert Sheema, Juanita Williams, Jasmine Williams, Mark Lenard, Jessica Bain, Michael White; 3) at The Pines: RB Commissioner Edward Chrzanowski, Grant Uhle, Beth Yocum, Deb Kennedy.

OPPOSITE PAGE 4) at Clear Space Theatre: John Cianciasi, Joe Gfaller, Marty Rendon, Carolyn Billignham, Carol Bresler; 5) at Purple Parrot: Jim Keits, Eric Markow, Andy Guthridge, Duane Reed; 6) at Gallery 50: Gary Fisher, Charlie Jones, Glen Fry; 7) at Aqua: Jim D’Orta, David Briggs, Adel Berrachdi, John Christie, Brad Davis, John McNamara, Bonnie Quesenberry, Lucas Ricardo, Fay Jacobs; 8) at Boxwood Cottage: Taylor Weidenbach, Lorne Crawford, Thomas Hoy, Sandra Neamah, Elliot Hoy, Simone Feres, Rita Fry, Matt Weidenbach; 9) at Caftans and Cocktails: Paul Weiner, Paul Smedberg, Mark Doppersmith, Jason Pier, Daniel Head, Mike Moleksey, Eric Engelhart, Chris Beagle.

We Remember

John F. Brady

John Francis Brady, 66, of Lewes, passed away peacefully at his Angola home Sunday, August 10, 2025. John was born June 13, 1959, in Darby, Pennsylvania, but grew up in Wilmington, Delaware, where he was the oldest of Claire Louise Brady and John P. Brady’s four children. He graduated from Salesianum High School in 1977.

John earned the rank of Eagle Scout in the Boy Scouts of America in 1976, and following his graduation from the University of Richmond in 1982, he served as an executive with the Boy Scouts in New Jersey, Massachusetts, New Hampshire, Virginia, and Maryland. He remained actively involved with the Boy Scouts as a volunteer and mentor throughout his life.

Professionally, John followed the lead of his father and became an attorney. He graduated cum laude from Widener Law School in Wilmington in 1991 and was admitted to practice in Delaware and New Jersey that same year, as well as before the Supreme Court of the United States in 2011.

During John’s 32-year legal career, he worked at several Sussex County and New Castle County law firms and also served as a deputy attorney general for the State of Delaware. While actively practicing law, John was appointed as an attorney for the Delaware House of Representatives and worked with officials in both parties at Legislative Hall in Dover. That experience later spurred him to run for elected office, where he ultimately won seven of nine elections in which he entered.

John was the first openly gay elected official in Delaware and very likely, the only person who won county-wide elections as both a Republican and a Democratic candidate. It was his last elected position, clerk of the peace, that John enjoyed the most; during his four-year term, he conducted more than 1,000 marriages, including the first same-sex marriages in the state starting in 2013.

In addition to serving in office, John was solicitor to the towns of Milton, Dewey Beach, and Ellendale, and was both the chief deputy register of wills for Sussex County and Sussex County law librarian. He also served on the Delaware Industrial Accident Board, and among many honors, earned a Public Leadership Executive Certificate from the Harvard Kennedy School of Harvard University.

The day before he passed away, John was presented with The Order of the First State by former Lt. Gov. Bethany HallLong and former Speaker of the House Peter Schwartzkopf at

his home, with his family and close friends present. The Order of the First State is Delaware’s highest civilian honor and is bestowed upon individuals who meet a high standard for community service.

John was a member of Rotary Clubs in many states across his career. More recently, he was one of the five remaining charter members of Rehoboth Sunrise Rotary Club. Within the last year, John was instrumental in assisting the club in establishing its own charitable foundation to fund activities to benefit worthwhile programs of the Cape Region.

John had a unique ability to explain complex legal matters in easily understood terms, and that made him in particular demand, whether it was appearing on multiple television or radio stations, or having his phone number on speed dial for local reporters. He offered legal analysis on radio station WXDE in Lewes and acted as a political reporter and legal analyst for television station WRDE in Rehoboth Beach. Toward the end of his career, John appeared on a weekly show on radio station WGMD with MJ Powell. In a moving August 11 tribute by WGMD’s Jake Smith, John was referred to as “The People’s Lawyer.”

The thing John loved most about being an attorney was the feeling that he could help someone. He once shared with Cape Gazette writer Bill Shull that one of his most proud accomplishments in his law career was serving as a volunteer attorney with the State Office of the Child Advocate, helping to safeguard the welfare of abused and neglected children in Family Court, while one of his toughest tasks, but meaningful endeavors, was drafting wills for people who were dying of AIDS in the late 1990s.

John was preceded in death by his partner, Joshua Benjamin Davis; his parents, Claire and Jack Brady; and multiple maternal and paternal aunts, uncles, and cousins. He is survived by his three siblings, James M. Brady, Nancy B. Miller (John), and William P. Brady (Deborah); and many extended family. Also very significant in John’s life were his Sussex County family/caregivers, Jake Fox, Amy Rust, and Pat Campbell-White, who were responsible for honoring his wishes to return to his home in Lewes during the final week of his life.

John will be deeply missed by his family and friends.

A visitation will take place from noon to 2:00 p.m., Saturday, September 20, at Parsell Funeral Homes & Crematorium, 16961 Kings Highway, Lewes; a Celebration of Life service will immediately follow. Anyone unable to attend the services may view the livestream at: parsellfuneralhomes.com/obituaries/ permalink/11879667/LTWebcast.

A Mass will be held at 10:00 a.m., Thursday, September 25, in New Castle County, at St. Joseph’s on the Brandywine Roman Catholic Church, 10 Old Church Road, Greenville.

In lieu of flowers, John expressly requested contributions be made to Scouting America Del-Mar-Va Council, 1910 Baden Powell Way, Dover, Delaware 19904, delmarvacouncil.org (see tab Support Scouting, drop down to Memorials). ▼

Thomas J. DePrince

Thomas J. DePrince, PhD, died Monday, August 4, 2025, at his home in Rehoboth Beach. Born in Philadelphia, Pennsylvania, he was the son of the late Michael DePrince Sr. and Helen (Squillace) DePrince.

He is survived by his lifetime partner, Vernon Crawford; his four children, Brett, Dalton, Seth, and Elizabeth DePrince; and his beloved granddaughter, Oliva. Also surviving are his brother, Michael DePrince Jr.; his sisters, Rosemarie Daisey, Helen DePrince, and Carolyn DePrince; and numerous nieces, nephews, friends, and family, including Wendy Hunter.

Thomas earned his PhD in early childhood development from Fairleigh Dickinson University and worked as a special education teacher for many years. He was well-versed and hugely

Cathy Martinson

Cathy L. Martinson passed away Friday, August 15, 2025, in Philadelphia, Pennsylvania, after a valiant battle with cancer. Cathy was born August 27, 1954, in Elizabeth, New Jersey, to the late Donald and Wanda Martinson (Matreyek).

Cathy was a graduate of Linden High School and Kean College, where she earned her Bachelor of Science degree in 1976. She pursued her career in the environmental services industry with a focus on clean water regulations.

Cathy embraced life with an open heart, a keen and inquisitive mind, and a determined “can-do” attitude. She loved a challenging puzzle, a great story, and magical moments captured with her camera.

An avid golfer and bocce ball player, she also enjoyed boating and tracking the great blue herons and bald eagles

successful in real estate. He spent most of his life operating his Antique and Estate Jewelry business.

He enjoyed antiquing, collecting, and shopping; taking long walks on the boardwalk, where he would speak with his best friend, God; going to the casino; eating sweets; and he especially loved giving gifts and making everyone he encountered feel special. He will always be remembered for his loving, big heart.

A Mass of Christian Burial was held August 16 at St. Edmond Roman Catholic Church, Rehoboth Beach.

Anyone wishing to make a memorial donation is asked to donate to the Parkinson’s Education and Support Group of Sussex County or St. Edmond Roman Catholic Church, both in Rehoboth Beach. ▼

on Red Mill Pond. More than anything, Cathy loved spending time with her family and an amazing network of friends. She is remembered as a great friend whose optimism, compassion, and resilience were an inspiration to many.

Cathy is survived by her wife, Susan E. Tobin; her brother, Glen Martinson; her sister, Barbara (Joseph); her brother, Robert (Nancy); and her niece, Morgan.

A Celebration of Life will be held at 2:00 p.m., Friday, October 17, at Unitarian Universalists of Southern Delaware, 30486 Lewes Georgetown Highway, Lewes.

In lieu of flowers, donations can be made to The Headstrong Foundation (Nick’s House), headstrong.org; or CAMP Rehoboth Community Center, camprehoboth.org/give.

Visit Cathy’s Life Memorial webpage at parsellfuneralhomes.com. ▼

Robert Ward

Robert (Bob) Ward of Rehoboth Beach, Delaware, age 80, passed away Saturday, August 30, 2025. Born and raised in Baltimore, Maryland, Bob met the love of his life, Ken Walz, in 1984, and they moved to Rehoboth Beach in 1986. They married in 2013. Bob and Ken were original members of the CAMP Rehoboth Founders Circle. Services will be held privately. ▼

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• Appreciated Stocks & Bonds

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CAMP Rehoboth Volunteer Opportunities

Send your check for $50 to CAMP Rehoboth, 37 Baltimore Ave., Rehoboth Beach, DE 19971. If you prefer to use your Visa, MasterCard or American Express call 302-227-5620.

THANK YOU TO THE WONDERFUL CAMP REHOBOTH VOLUNTEERS

CAMP Rehoboth would not be the same without the dedication and generosity of our volunteers. Month after month, you show up with your time, energy, and compassion—whether it’s supporting our largest events, pitching in behind the scenes, or lending a smile that makes someone feel welcome. We are deeply grateful for all that you do to keep our mission alive and thriving.

BE PART OF THE FUN—VOLUNTEER AT THE BLOCK PARTY!!

CAMP Rehoboth’s Block Party is right around the corner, and we need helping hands to make it a success. From greeting guests to assisting vendors and keeping the celebration running smoothly, volunteers are at the heart of this community event. If you’d like to join the team, sign up today and be part of the joy, energy, and connection that make the Block Party so special!

CROP: CAMP REHOBOTH OUTREACH PROGRAM

The CAMP Rehoboth Outreach Program (CROP) is constantly working to cultivate community and strengthen relationships and the connections among us all. Check the site for monthly volunteer opportunities.

Your volunteer efforts benefit you and others. Please visit camprehoboth.org/volunteers to register as a volunteer and to sign up for available opportunities.

THANK YOU

CAMP ACCESSIBILITY

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CAMP ADVOCACY TEAM

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CAMP ART RECEPTION

ASSISTANTS: LOCAL COLOR

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CAMP ARTS TEAM

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Jane Knaus

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Leslie Sinclair

Patricia Stiles

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CAMP CHORUS LEADERSHIP COMMITTEE

Bill Fuchs

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Sue Pound

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CAMP DEVELOPMENT TEAM

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Wes Combs

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Albanese

CAMP FACILITIES

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Lisa Evans

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CAMP VOLUNTEER DEVELOPMENT COMMITTEE

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Martin

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CAMPCIERGES

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Peter Keeble

Jim Mease

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CAMPSAFE HIV TESTING AND COUNSELING

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CAMPSHOTS PHOTO VOLUNTEERS

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CROP RETURNS TO FOOD BANK OF DELAWARE

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CROP SUPPORTS

BRANDYWINE SPCA

Debbie Bonn

Melissa Danskin

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Ted Hickman

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Barbara Ralph

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LETTERS

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LETTERS PROOFING

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THIS MONTH IN QUEER HISTORY

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OAKWOOD VILLAGE - Lewes. 2023 4BR/2BA is 1,887sf. Open concept. Bamboo floors. Granite & SS in the kitchen. ¼ acre. Community pool. 8 miles to Lewes public beach. $495,000 (2081788)

FAIRFIELD AT LONG NECKMillsboro. 2004 3BR/2.5BA. Oversized garage. Patio + screened & open balcony. Furnished. Community pool. 15 miles to RB boardwalk. $299,900 (2084876)

REHOBOTH BAY - Rehoboth. 1979 3BR/2BA was fully remodeled in 2018. 1,030sf with the 4-season addition Pool. Marina. 6.5 miles to beach. $153,000 (2085884) Lot Rent $734/mt.

CAMELOT MEADOWS - Rehoboth. 1972 3BR/2BA is 1,288 sq. ft. Fully fenced side yard. Main bedroom is en Suite. Community pool. 4 miles to beach. $99,900 (2071060) Lot Rent $1,080/mt.

CRESCENT SHORES - Lincoln. 2009 3BR/2BA home w/2car garage. Pool & hot tub. 1/2-acre corner lot. Freshly painted, new LVP flooring. Updated kitchen. Split BR plan. $339,000 (2095712)

FAIRWAY VILLAS - Dagsboro. 2003 2BR/2BA condo w/loft. 7 miles to the Bethany Beach boardwalk. Located in Cripple Creek Golf & CC w/pool, golf & social memberships avail. $360,000 (2085536)

SILVER VIEW FARMRehoboth. 1983 2BR/1BA remodeled in 2023! SS kit appliances w/granite. LVP. Shed. Community pool. 3 miles to beach. $112,500 (2092564) Lot Rent $723/mt.

CAMELOT MEADOWS - Rehoboth. 1976 2BR/2BA has deck & screened porch w/skylight. Ready today! Community pool. 4 miles to beach. $72,500 (2084706) Lot Rent $1,080/mt.

SHADY DELL -Ocean View. 1988 3BR/2BA manufactured home on 1/4-acred lot. Low HOA of just $75/yr. Screened porch. Shed w/30amp for your RV. 3 miles to the beach! $390,000 (2095732)

COLONIAL EAST - Rehoboth Beach. 2019 3BR/2BA features the “ultimate kit” & main BR “super bath” upgrades + more! 4 miles to Rehoboth or Lewes beach. $299,900 (2091602) Lot Rent $896/mt.

SEA AIR -Rehoboth. 1990 2BR/2BA. Split BR plan. Eat-in kitchen. Furnished. Patio & shed. Community pool & 3 miles to bch. $98,500 (2096180) Lot Rent $702/mt includes water.

CAMELOT MEADOWS - Rehoboth. 1974 2BR/2BA has patio & enclosed porch Fully furnished & offered AS IS. Community pool. 4 miles to beach. $49,900 (2090702) Lot Rent $1,080/mt.

SILVER VIEW FARMRehoboth. 2012 4BR/2BA is 1,624sf w/family room. Furniture negotiable. Shed. Community pool. 3 miles to beach. $297,500 (2081216) Lot Rent $723/mt.

with wrap-around porch & fenced yard. 0.20 acres. Furnished w/2 golf carts. Marina. $229,900 (2056236) Lot Rent $1,122/mt.