Letters from CAMP Rehoboth, Vol. 30, No. 2

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THIS ISSUE

VOLUME 30, NUMBER 2 • MARCH 6, 2020

4 In Brief

48 Good Queer Fun

6 CAMP Matters

STEFANI DEOUL

MURRAY ARCHIBALD

St. Pet Tricks Day

News & Notes

St. Patrick’s Day

A Photographic Memory

50 CAMP Arts

8 CAMP Out

DOUG YETTER

FAY JACOBS

What’s Your Pronoun?

Boop, Boop Di Do

54 Booked Solid

10 CAMP News

TERRI SCHLICHENMEYER

56 Dining OUT

Happenings Around the Community

12 Historical Headliners Dog Dames

ANN APTAKER

14 Out & Proud

It’s Party Poodle Time STEFANI DEOUL

Not Your Average Ramen BARBARA ANTLITZ

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26 POP the Question How Would Your Pet Describe You?

28 CAMP Stories

16 FEST Preview

The Stinkbug Is Here to Stay

20 Community News

32 LGBTQ+ YA Column

Celebrate with Us

22 Special to Letters Dating as an Intersex Person BRIA BROWN-KING

24 FEST Interview

RICH BARNETT

My Own Admission

Become a Member Today

80 Health & Wellness No Shamrock Required

MARJ SHANNON

84 CAMP Dates March 6 – May 3

ERIC W. WAHL

42 CAMP Canines Dogs and Kids LEAP into Reading MICHAEL GILLES

43 Pet Shots

Adoptable, Lovable Pets

58 Q Puzzle

Max of M*A*S*H

60 CAMP Shots

The Stuff of Legends!

ON THE COVER Lucky Pets

64 It’s My Life Fighting Words

MICHAEL THOMAS FORD

68 Straight Talk

Lucky

Cisgenders—Please Do Not Misgender

All We’ve Got Screening

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74 Our Supporters Make It Happen

Felines in the Garden

34 CAMP Critters

Letters from CAMP Rehoboth welcomes submissions. Email editor@camprehoboth.com.

Photographs must be high resolution (300 dpi).

Documents should be sent as attachments in Microsoft Word®. Deadline for submissions is two weeks prior to the issue release date.

Barbara Keck

36 The Real Dirt

HANNAH SNADER

FAY JACOBS

72 We Remember

Mabel See page 43

DAVID GARRETT

PUBLISHER David Mariner EDITOR Mary Shockley COPY EDITOR Marj Shannon DESIGN AND LAYOUT Mary Beth Ramsey ADVERTISING SALES MANAGER Tricia Massella ADMINISTRATIVE SUPPORT Monica Parr, Barb Ralph DISTRIBUTION Corky Fitzpatrick, Mark Wolf CONTRIBUTORS Barbara Antlitz, Ann Aptaker, Murray Archibald, Rich Barnett, Tony Burns, Stefani Deoul, Michael Thomas Ford, David Garrett, Michael Gilles, Fay Jacobs, Bria Brown-King, Lee Lynch, Tricia Massella, Monica Parr, Eric C. Peterson, Glen Pruitt, Mary Beth Ramsey, Terri Schlichenmeyer, Marj Shannon, Mary Shockley, Hannah Snader, Eric W. Wahl, Doug Yetter

Letters from CAMP Rehoboth is published 15 times per year, between February and Thanksgiving, as a program of CAMP Rehoboth Inc., a non-profit community service organization.

CAMP Rehoboth seeks to create a more positive environment of cooperation and understanding among all people. Revenue generated by advertisements supports CAMP Rehoboth’s purpose as outlined in our mission statement.

The inclusion or mention of any person, group, or business in Letters from CAMP Rehoboth does not, nor is it intended to in any way, indicate sexual orientation. The content of the columns are the views and opinions of the writers and may not indicate the position of CAMP Rehoboth, Inc. © 2020 by CAMP Rehoboth, Inc. All rights reserved by CAMP Rehoboth. No portion of this publication may be reproduced in any form without the prior written permission of the editor.

CAMP REHOBOTH

MISSION STATEMENT AND PURPOSE CAMP Rehoboth is a 501(c)(3) nonprofit community service organization dedicated to creating a positive environment inclusive of all sexual orientations and gender identities in Rehoboth Beach and its related communities. We seek to promote cooperation and understanding among all people as we work to build a safer community with room for all.

We seek to promote community well-being on all levels; to foster the development of community groups; to develop community space; to promote human and civil rights; to work against prejudice and discrimination; to lessen tensions among the community at large; and to help foster the economic growth of the area. We work toward these ends through activities such as the following:

The Way I See It

by David Mariner

YEARS AGO, REHOBOTH BEACH WAS FIRST FOUNDED AS A METHODIST CHURCH CAMPGROUND and its name, a biblical one, can be loosely translated as ‘room for all.’ It is a beautiful sentiment, but one that has been sometimes hard to live up to here as CAMP Rehoboth.

Lately, we’ve been running out of room at several of our events!

Fundraising for other organizations,

CAMP Rehoboth Chorus had three amazing sold-out shows at Epworth United Methodist Church. It was a fun and festive show. Congratulations to all involved. If you missed out, however, fear not: a final show is coming up Sunday, April 26, at Sussex Academy of Arts & Sciences in Georgetown. And get ready, because a new chorus season will be starting soon with concerts to look forward to in June.

Networking resources and information

Women’s FEST passes sold out quickly, along with several Women’s FEST events, including the 18-hole golf outing, and the pickleball and cornhole tournaments. Don’t worry however—if you would like to be part of this amazing 20th anniversary event, there are still plenty of activities and events you can enjoy. Find out more in the pages ahead.

Promoting artistic expressions and creative thinking,

Our upcoming March bus trip to Philly has sold out, and our April bus trip to New York City will likely sell out by the time you read this. If you missed signing up for these trips, you will be happy to know that more fun bus trips are on their way!

such as AIDS service organizations, gay and lesbian community organizations, recycling programs, environmental projects, literacy training, and other ventures for the general betterment of the community. by publishing a newsletter, and functioning as an alternative tourist bureau and information center.

and giving aid to artists and craftspeople with an emphasis on the works of lesbians and gay men.

Education and outreach to the larger community,

Finally, our upcoming summit for students in Kent and Sussex Counties is fully booked as well. It is an honor to support local students who participate in GSAs (Gender and Sexuality Alliances) at this free event.

Promoting political awareness to build safe and inclusive community

CAMP Rehoboth offers many great opportunities to build community and connections, and of course, have fun and simply enjoy each other’s company. And there are lots of great events to look forward to, including our upcoming cabaret show with the Philadelphia Gay Men’s Chorus. While we know there may not be ‘room for all’ at each of our events, I hope every one of you finds a way to connect with this wonderful community.

including sensitivity training seminars, and printed materials to promote positive images of gay and lesbian people and others.

through voter information, education, and registration; and analysis of issues and candidates.

With support from people like you, we can continue and expand the community events you have grown to love. CAMP Rehoboth is lucky to have over 1,000 members who support our work. Each one of them is listed in this issue of Letters. We would not be here today without their support.

PRESIDENT Chris Beagle VICE PRESIDENT Leslie Sinclair SECRETARY Glen Pruitt TREASURER Natalie Moss, CPA AT-LARGE DIRECTORS Jane Blue, Wesley Combs, Mike DeFlavia, Max Dick, Linda Gregory Jack Morrison, Mark Purpura, Tara Sheldon, Kathy Wiz

In addition to our community building events, membership support allows us to continue our important work promoting health, supporting the arts, and advocating for our community.

If you are not yet a member, you can visit camprehoboth.com and sign up today! Among the perks that members receive is the opportunity to purchase tickets in advance. So if you want to make sure you get your tickets to our next event, be sure to sign up today. ▼

EXECUTIVE DIRECTOR David Mariner HEALTH & WELLNESS PROGRAM DIRECTOR Salvatore Seeley

CAMP REHOBOTH 37 Baltimore Avenue, Rehoboth Beach, DE 19971 tel 302-227-5620 | fax 302-227-5604 email editor@camprehoboth.com | www.camprehoboth.com CAMP Rehoboth, Inc. is tax-exempt under section 501(c)(3) of the United States Internal Revenue Code. Contributions to CAMP Rehoboth are considered charitable contributions for federal income tax purposes and may be deducted to the fullest extent of the law.

A copy of our exemption document is available for public inspection.

MARCH 6, 2020

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Legends is Legendary! CAMP Rehoboth Chorus Shines

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n Valentine’s Day weekend, the CAMP Rehoboth Chorus opened their 11th season with three sold out performances of Legends. The concert featured salutes to entertainers recognized by one name. Aretha, Bette, Cher, Dolly, and a full cast of single moniker celebs showed up to dazzle the crowd. The musical journey was conceived and directed by Rehoboth’s own legendary Doug Yetter, and shone as bright as the glitter jackets he wore for the performances. “They make us proud,” said CAMP Rehoboth Founder Murray Archibald. “And they continue to be amazing ambassadors for the organization.” Tickets are available now for an encore performance of Legends on April 26, at 3 p.m. at Sussex Academy in Georgetown. ▼

Shining a Light on Local Black History

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n Friday, February 7, the “big room” of the CAMP Rehoboth Community Center was filled to capacity with a crowd eager to hear the panel moderated by Don Peterson. The discussion, titled Shine a Light, was the Second Annual Black History Month Celebration at CAMP Rehoboth and featured panelists Jacqueline Goodwin, Waynne Paskins, Clem Jordon, Ruth Palmer, and Stell Parker-Selby. Shine a Light included an art show and reception in the CAMP Rehoboth Gallery. The show, using light as a metaphor, focused attention on the talent of African American artists. The celebration was co-hosted by CAMP Rehoboth and the Southern Delaware Alliance for Racial Justice.▼ Photo: Panel Discussion Participants with Moderator Don Peterson

CAMP Safe CAMP Rehoboth offers HIV/STI testing services for free year-round.

Appointments can be made by calling, 302-227-5620. Walk-ins are accepted at the community center in Rehoboth on Mondays, noon4 p.m.

CAMP Safe also offers these tests throughout Sussex County: • Ace Peer Resource Center, 20707 Dupont Blvd, Georgetown, 10 a.m. - 2 p.m. on Tuesdays • Laurel State Service Center, 31039 N. Polar Street, Laurel, 10 a.m. - 2 p.m. on Wednesdays • ACE Peer Resource Center, 547 N. Bradford Street, Seaford, 10 a.m. - 2 p.m. on Thursdays • Macedonia AME Church, 431 N. North Street, Seaford, 10 a.m. - 2 p.m. on First and Third Tuesdays Letters 4 MARCH 6, 2020

SPEAKOut Philadelphia Gay Men’s Chorus Brings Broadway to the Beach!

TRAVELS WITH LETTERS

The select ensemble of PGMC, Brotherly Love, presents a “Broadway Cabaret.”

This concert has been created specifically for CAMP Rehoboth and will feature solos, duets, and small/full group numbers from the world of Broadway. ▼

MAUI, HAWAII

Calling all new volunteers!

Jim Renna, Tony Zacchei, Jacob Anthony, and Allen Fielding in Maui for Tony and Jacob’s wedding, February 14, 2020.

Interested in Volunteering at CAMP Rehoboth in the future?

The next volunteer orientation will take place on Thursday, March 19, at 6 p.m. Learn all about CAMP Rehoboth, our volunteer registration website (signup.com), and upcoming volunteer opportunities.

CABO SAN LUCAS

Elizabeth Bergin, Emilie Paternoster, Debra Maier, and Monica Parr.

I can’t tell you how grateful I am for the AARP tax session I attended on February 25. The people were so kind and helpful, especially knowing that I had many forms related to the passing of my spouse, Sam Deetz, in 2019.

Thankfully, I attended the session and received much guidance. Due to the complications of some of my forms two people helped. In all they spent two hours with me (fortunately there were no people on line). When I had done a rough calculation I came out owing both the federal and state money.

Thankfully, after the AARP tax specialist reviewed my forms I got a small federal refund and only owed the state a small amount. I am so grateful.

Be certain to send my compliments on to the people in charge of the AARP program and again my thanks to CAMP Rehoboth for running this program.

– Jim Zeigler

Celebrating 30 Years of CAMP Rehoboth!

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AMP Rehoboth is planning a number of events to commemorate its 30th Anniversary, celebrating our past and building our future.

Save the following dates to join us!

30th Anniversary Kick Off at CAMP Rehoboth with light fare and entertainment. Saturday, April 4, from noon3 p.m. CAMP Rehoboth Community Center.

A CAMP Rehoboth Retrospective—30 Years in Photos. On display from April 10-May 9 at the Rehoboth Beach Museum.

Art Talk on CAMP Rehoboth History with Murray Archibald. Friday, April 17, from 4:30-6 p.m.

Rehoboth Beach Museum.

Closing Bid Reception of CAMP Rehoboth Retrospective Photography Exhibit.

Saturday, May 9, from 4-6 p.m. Rehoboth Beach Museum.

30th Anniversary Happy Hour Celebration.

Friday, October 16, from 5-7 p.m. Aqua Grill.

30th Anniversary Gala Dinner. Friday, October 16, from 7-11 p.m. The Pines.

CAMP Rehoboth 6th Annual Block Party.

Sunday, October 18, from 11 a.m.-4 p.m. Baltimore Avenue. (Rain or shine!)

Send letters to the editor to editor@camprehoboth.com MARCH 6, 2020

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CAMP Matters

BY MURRAY ARCHIBALD

A Photographic Memory Pete wins.

I’m not talking about politics, though I wouldn’t at all mind seeing that headline on the morning after the 2020 presidential election.

No, I’m talking about my 16-year-old Bichon Frise, Pete.

Pete’s full name (combined with the year he was born) is 04 Pete’s Sake—an expression I grew up hearing from my dad. He was a passionate, loving man but often exasperated by the antics of his four equally passionate children. He had a catalog of expressions we heard on a regular basis. Oh for crying out loud! Bless Patty! What in the Sam Hill?

To name a few.

The last one, by the way, provided inspiration for the name of the dog that preceded Pete. Sam Hill was a much-loved member of our family, and Steve never tired of telling the story that inspired his name. “What in the Sam Hill did we need with a dog this big!”

We were told when we got Pete that his name was Sailor Boy. Pete, fortunately, didn’t seem to know his name was Sailor Boy, and we changed it on his first day with us. Steve was adamant. “I will not walk up and down Baltimore Avenue saying, ‘come on Sailor Boy.’” He always told that story with a slightly naughty, come-hither tone in his voice, and most definitely, an impish sparkle in his eyes—a sure sign that he was joking, and the one enjoying his good humor most of all.

Back to Pete winning. I’m talking about number of photographs.

One of my tasks over the next year is to archive my CAMP Rehoboth photo files for the organization to have on hand for future use. As part of the process, I’m methodically revisiting all of my digital files, year by year.

More pressing even than the year-long search, I was asked to pull several hundred photos for possible selection in a CAMP Rehoboth 30th Anniversary Retrospective Photo Exhibit scheduled for the spring of this year.

And that is how I discovered that Pete wins. He is the most photographed being in all of my files—human or otherwise.

Steve is right up there, as well, and though I haven’t done an actual count—and never will, I’m sure, for I have better things to do with my time—I’m confident that Pete is the clear winner.

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Steve and me. He was the unofficial CAMP Rehoboth office mascot. By the time Steve passed away, Pete was already an “old man” dog, and spent much of his day happily snoozing under one of the desks in the office the two of us shared.

In the months after Steve’s death, Sondra Arkin took on the role of transition manager for me, and spent countless hours reorganizing the Letters from CAMP Rehoboth production process, conducting a staff analysis, and generally saving me and the organization in ways that will, I’m guessing, never be fully understood or appreciated.

“CAMP Rehoboth is powered by Pete’s sleep,” she was fond of saying during the many long hours we spent working together in my office.

Aside from inclusion in a select number of historical photos, most of Pete’s photographs will not become a part of the CAMP Rehoboth archive.

There are hundreds more that will.

As I worked my way through the first round of photo selection, I was surprised to discover how much I remembered about the time and circumstances surrounding each one.

Like many of us at a certain stage in life, I joke about “senior moments,” even though, frankly, I don’t see myself as a senior citizen. I admit, there are times when pulling out a name or a memory takes longer than others. I don’t worry about that too much. It seems normal to me.

Our minds work like our computers, I used to say to Steve—sometimes we have to dig down in our brains in order to find the folder containing the necessary information.

“A picture is worth a thousand words,” the popular saying goes. Apparently, as I’ve discovered in my photo file exploration, it is also the trigger for a thousand memories.

From the beginning of my search I’ve been aware of a voice in the back of my mind commenting on circumstances, people, events, feelings, and emotions associated with each image.

Most of all, building layers of commentary to go along with each one—and creating a timeline of what was happening in other areas of our lives at the same time.

A photograph is a moment frozen in time, but the story it tells goes far beyond the actual image recorded in it.

A good photograph requires the viewer to peer beyond the

edges of the image. Ordinary snapshots and personal photos connect us to family and friends, to the places we’ve traveled, and the sights and people we experienced along the way. It magnifies and shares our memory.

A great photograph speaks beyond our own personal experiences and elicits from the viewer an emotional and universal response.

I don’t claim the vast majority of photos in my files as art, though I have created some photo art along the way. Most of them are recordings of what was taking place in our lives and in the community we were building around us.

And that, my friends, is precisely why reviewing my library of photographs has moved me in unexpected ways.

THANK YOU TO OUR SPONSORS! CAMP REHOBOTH PREMIER SPONSORS

A photograph is a moment frozen in time, but the story it tells goes far beyond the actual image recorded in it.

As I reached photos from mid-summer in 2017, I noted, “This was the month when Steve first noticed the headaches.”

And by Labor Day weekend, “This was the Sundance when Steve felt so bad. We were at the mall that year because the convention center was under construction. I put a sofa in an office in an empty store at the mall so he could take breaks and rest during the nights of the auction and dance.”

Two days after Sundance Steve was hospitalized. His lymphoma was back—in his head this time—and more aggressive than ever before. His illness and death shaped the architecture of my inner timeline for the next year, not because of the photographs I took, but because of the photos I did not take.

The story of CAMP Rehoboth recorded in my photo files is not about death—at least not any more than life is about death.

Year after year, that photographic memory reveals the deep commitment and passion all of us felt for the organization and for the work we were doing in the community.

As a community, we sometimes wept together over the loss of family and friends, or struggled to deal with difficult issues or decisions, but we also celebrated life as best we could. We danced together. We laughed together. And together we built a safe and welcoming home for all of us. ▼ Murray Archibald is an artist and CAMP Rehoboth co-founder. Email Murray at murray@camprehoboth.com

CAMP REHOBOTH SPONSOR

For information on how to become a CAMP Rehoboth Annual Sponsor, email info@camprehoboth.com, or contact David Mariner at 302-227-5620.

MARCH 6, 2020

7 Letters

CAMP Out Fay’s Rehoboth Journal

by Fay Jacobs

Boop, Boop Di Do

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am so over this aging gracelessly crap. I’ve had a six-month mysterious health issue, finally resolved happily, but my PTSD includes flashbacks of a clown making balloon monkeys and my devouring whole packages of Oreos before breakfast.

It started last fall, when a physician’s assistant in a cardiology office told me my heart was operating perfectly but she saw high blood pressure in my lungs. I didn’t even know lungs had blood pressure. She flippantly suggested I might have something called pulmonary hypertension. “Go see a pulmonologist.”

First, of course, I hit Google and nearly lost my cookies. The Internet predicted my fairly quick decline into gasping, panting, oxygen tanks, and bye Felicia.

No three-year Amazon Prime subscription for me. Good God. So I frantically called for an appointment with a pulmonologist. It was October. “We can see a new patient in February.”

“But I may have a fatal disease,” I whined, and besides, “I’ll be hyperventilating in Florida by then.” Nobody cared.

So, I found a hot shot pulmonologist in Annapolis to see me the next week, where I spectacularly flunked my pulmonary function test. The doc asked, “Ever had asthma?”

“Yes, when I was a child.”

And like Groucho Marx he wailed, “Well, you’ve got it again. “ Okay, then. Better news.

So a few weeks later, in sunny Florida, I woke at 3 a.m. with the pain of an object the size of my head trying to pass through my right kidney. At the local ER they shot me full of morphine (lovely, by the way) and took pictures.

“You’ve got a large mass in your right lung.”

Holy crap. Cue the Phantom of the Opera dirge. But the ER doc was great.

“You’ll never get a quick appointment here with a specialist, so I’m admitting

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you. We’ve got to find out what this is!”

So I’m in the Palms of Pasadena mini-hospital, tended by a cadre of wonderful queer nurses, and wondering if I’ll survive till Women’s FEST. Amidst three days of panic and Jell-o®, I had two CT scans, a PET scan, and a needle biopsy, all trying to identify the blurry blob behind my boobs.

One morning I wake up, trying to contain a freak-out, when a frigging clown walks into my room. Could this get any worse? Frankly, he wasn’t dressed unlike some of the old coots you see in the street around here, but the big rubber nose gave him away.

“Hello,” he giggles and proceeds to play a CD wailing Louis Armstrong singing “Hello, Dolly,” while he makes me a balloon animal. If I’ve died and this is hell I am not surprised.

One morning I wake up, trying to contain a freak-out, when a frigging clown walks into my room. Could this get any worse?

Mercifully, my doc comes in, dismisses the clown, and tells me I’m being sprung to worry at home until we get biopsy results three days later. Swell. We proceed with three days of uncomfortable conversations, talk what ifs, and I promise to write all the passwords down in one place. We eat, drink, and make as merry as possible, watching movies, cuddling with Windsor.

Finally, with ants in our pants, we sit, waiting, in the doc’s exam room. He bursts in the door, grinning, announcing, “You are one lucky woman! I was certain

it was a tumor, but you have…wait for it... pneumonia!”

And not just any pneumonia. I have something called BOOP. Seriously, BOOP. Bronchiolitis Obliterans Organizing Pneumonia. Very rare. Nonetheless, the good news is that it’s not going to obliterans me. Nope, it’s just something that’s settled in for a long winter’s nap, and something I need to take disgusting drugs to clear up. Whew!!! I have pneumonia. Yippee!!!!! BOOP BOOP Bi Do! The fact is this disease is also called iBOOP, idiopathic BOOP, so now, along with my iPhone and iPad I have iBOOP. I’m so connected.

I probably developed it from bronchitis last fall, which that local doc thought was the fatal lung disease, the Annapolis doc thought was asthma, and the clown thought a balloon creature could cure.

So here’s the deal. BOOP is a lot like what they used to call walking pneumonia. For the foreseeable future, I get to swallow a big dose of prednisone and keep getting CT scans to (hopefully) watch the big blob shrink. It’s already down from giant schnauzer to a standard. Hoping for mini by April.

Of course, prednisone makes me pee like a racehorse, suffer hot flashes like I was 50 again, walk and swim like a 30-something (but hurt like a 70-something the next morning), and continuously battle not to eat an entire package of Thin Mint Girl Scout Cookies.

But what the heck. I have pneumonia!

I’m so happy! I hope it’s gone when I get home in a few weeks. But even if not, whatever happens, don’t send in the clowns. Don’t bother, they’re here.

Bibbity Bobbity BOOP. ▼ Fay Jacobs is an author of five published memoirs, among them For Frying Out Loud, and Fried & Convicted: Rehoboth Beach Uncorked. As a humorist, she’s spent the past five years touring with her show Aging Gracelessly: 50 Shades of Fay.

CAMP REHOBOTH PRESENTS

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The Philadelphia Gay Men’s Chorus The select ensemble of the Philadelphia Gay Men’s Chorus, Brotherly Love, presents a “BROADWAY CABARET”. This concert, created specifically for CAMP Rehoboth, will feature solos, duets and small/full group numbers from the world of Broadway, from old style to contemporary hits.”

TWO PERFORMANCES ONLY Saturday, April 18, 2020 • 4 p.m. and 8 p.m.

CAMP Rehoboth Community Center Tickets $25 • Call 302.227.5620 or go to camprehoboth.com

37 Baltimore Avenue Rehoboth Beach, 19971

MARCH 6, 2020

9 Letters

CAMPNews Think Spring! Eric Wahl Returns for Nature Talk

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ocal landscape architect and Letters columnist Eric Wahl will be presenting Reclaiming Nature with Minimal Effort at CAMP Rehoboth. The free presentation will focus on backyards and buffers, their positive benefits to the environment, and the services they provide. Better design and better choices in planting, with a focus on native species, will ultimately help to reclaim nature by creating backyard habitats, improving green infrastructure, and connecting open spaces within neighborhoods.

This event is free, but attendees must register by visiting camprehoboth.com. ▼

CAMP Rehoboth Chorus Adds Second Season

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fter entertaining audiences for a decade with their annual February concerts, the CAMP Rehoboth Chorus presents a second concert for their 2020 season—June 5-7 at Epworth United Methodist Church in Rehoboth Beach. Under the guidance of Artistic Director Doug Yetter, the 100-voice chorus celebrates the season with "Out for the Summer," with great songs like Otis Redding's "Dock of the Bay," The Drifters' "Under the Boardwalk," "Summer Nights" from Grease, Chris Cross's "Sailing," the Beach Boys' "California Girls," Jimmy Buffett's "Margaritaville," the Go-Go's "Vacation," Zack Brown's "Toes," and Sinatra's "Summer Wind."

Tickets will be available at camprehoboth.com. Interested in joining the chorus for their spring concert? Contact: chorus@camprehoboth.com. ▼

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CAMP Rehoboth Goes Down Under

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ustralia is open for business and CAMP Rehoboth is heading down for a visit!

Following on the success of previous adventures to South America, Asia, Africa, and the upcoming Portugal and Spain River Cruise and vacation, CAMP Rehoboth travelers are signing up fast for the 11-night, port-intensive cruise in New Zealand on an LGBTQ friendly Celebrity Cruise ship. For a limited time, an onboard drink package is still included, so don’t wait.

An optional CAMP Rehoboth Seven Night Pre-cruise Land Tour to Australia is available. The land tour includes: two nights in Melbourne, two nights at Ayers Rock/Uluru, three nights in Sydney, internal flights, and exclusive day and evening experiences in each location.

The Australia Land Tour is custom designed by Certified Aussie Specialist, Accent on Travel Owner, and Past CAMP Rehoboth Travel Host, Annette Stellhorn.

Call Accent on Travel at 302-278-6100 for a brochure, more information, or questions on this January, 2021 journey of a lifetime! ▼

MARK YOUR CALENDAR

Encore Stonewall Performance Scheduled

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n June 2019, to celebrate the 50th anniversary of the Stonewall Riots, CAMP Rehoboth presented two sold out shows of Voices from Stonewall. The show was written by playwright Michael Gilles and directed by Fay Jacobs.

Audiences were captivated by the four actors on stage reading the words of the Stonewall participants including guests, bartenders, reporters, police, staff, and the bystanders outside, all telling the story of the event in real time as it happened on June 28, 1969.

Gilles and Jacobs will present an encore performance at CAMP Rehoboth Community Center on June 20 and 21. Tickets will go on sale this spring. Follow CAMP Rehoboth on Facebook for the latest news and always check the website. ▼

MARCH 6, 2020

11 Letters

HISTORICAL HEADLINERS

BY ANN APTAKER

DOG DAMES

Canine Loving Lesbians

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o the stereotype appears to be true: lesbians own lots of cats, or so say a zillion articles all over the place, in respected publications and populist sites. According to various sociological inquiries, cats have been an iconic feature of longstanding in lesbian culture.

Well, I’m a lesbian, and I like dogs. And I’m not alone.

Some of our most beloved idols have chosen dogs over cats to grace their households. To wit: writer Vita Sackville-West; designer Elsie de Wolfe and her companion, New York theatre manager and literary agent Elisabeth Marbury; Eleanor Roosevelt; artist Frida Kahlo; Margaret Wise Brown, author of Goodnight Moon; and painter Rosa Bonheur, among others.

But the award for Canine Obsessed Lesbians must go to Gertrude Stein and Alice B. Toklas, those Lesbian Toasts of Gay and Avant Garde Paree.

Though many dog loving lesbians, like dog lovers of every persuasion, have been photographed or painted with their cherished Fidos and Fifis, Gertrude and Alice’s succession of dogs was painted, sculpted, and photographed by some of the most electrifying artists of early twentieth-century Paris. Who else could boast of having their precious poodle immortalized by none other than Pablo Picasso?

The first in the couple’s succession of dogs came into their life in 1915 while they were on vacation in Spain. The pup was a Majorcan hound they named Polybe, the French name for the ancient Greek historian Polybius. He was a big dog and evidently a handful, with a habit of eating flowers. Bouquets didn’t last long in the Stein-Toklas parlor vases.

In the 1920s, when the Paris gay and art scenes revived in glory after the First World War, Alice hankered after a white poodle—and voila!—a white standard (the big boy size) poodle became the next adored member of the Stein-Toklas household. The beloved’s name was Basket, and it was he who was immortalized by Pablo Picasso with a shadowbox sculpture he titled “Hommage à Basket.” Basket found additional artistic fame in the camera of Man Ray with a surprisingly staid and regal portrait by the usually avant garde photographer.

Big boy Basket gained a little—a very little—brother with the arrival of a Mexican Chihuahua improbably named Byron. Once again, a Stein-Toklas dog could boast of impeccable artistic pedigree: little Byron was a gift from artist Francis Picabia. Poor Byron wasn’t long for this world, though, dying of typhus while

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still a youth. Picabia soothed the heartbroken Gertrude and Alice by presenting them with another Chihuahua, this time named Pepe.

Basket met his demise in 1937, but another standard white poodle soon took up residence in the Stein-Toklas household.

And what did they name him? Basket II. Basket II’s purebred pedigree may have saved his life—and contributed to the wartime survival of the Jewish Gertrude and Alice—during the German Occupation of France. The Nazis, obsessive about genetic purity, allowed the couple extra rations for the wellbeing of their highborn dog, entrusting Gertrude and Alice to properly feed and care for him. Thus, Basket II was able to ride out the war years, but little Pepe did not survive the harsh conditions of the Nazi Occupation.

He succumbed to the winter cold and meagre rations.

Basket II, like his earlier namesake, was also immortalized in art with a portrait by Marie Laurencin. But the visual arts were not the only creative venues celebrating the Stein-Toklas kennel. Not surprisingly, Gertrude referenced her love for her pups in her writings, notably in Identity A Poem, a short theater piece, in 1936. In her inimitable Cubist style, Gertrude wrote, “I am I because my little dog knows me even if the little dog is a big one.” She further writes, “The person and the dog are there and the dog is there and the person is there and where oh where is their identity, is the identity there anywhere. I say two dogs but say a dog and a dog.” Readers have been chewing on Gertrude Stein’s sentences for a century now.

In 1946, 10 years after the performance of Identity A Poem, Gertrude died. Alice looked after Basket II until the beloved poodle crossed the Rainbow Bridge in 1952. Alice lived on until 1967.

The Stein-Toklas relationship is legendary. Their apartment in Paris hosted the unsurpassed literary and artistic lights of the time: Picasso, Hemmingway, Fitzgerald, Matisse, Laurencin, et al, everyone giving Polybe, Basket, Byron, Pepe, and Basket II a scratch behind the ears and a lick of champagne.

A dog’s life, indeed. ▼ Ann Aptaker’s series featuring dapper lesbian art thief and smuggler Cantor Gold has won Lambda Literary and Goldie Awards. In addition to writing crime fiction, Ann is an adjunct Professor of art and art history at New York Institute of Technology.

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Out & Proud

BY STEFANI DEOUL

It’s Party Poodle Time

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poodle, according to dictionary. com, is “one of a breed of very active dogs, probably originating in Germany but regarded as the national dog of France, having long, thick, frizzy, or curly hair usually trimmed in standard patterns, occurring in three varieties (standard, miniature, and toy) differing only in size, and originally used as a water retriever.”

According to the Urban Dictionary, an alternate definition for a poodle is “…a title to be used for a lesbian who transcends the title lipstick lesbian in her level of high maintenance. It’s possible she may have been a gay man in a previous life given her aesthetic tastes, love of high fashion, and personal hygiene items. A poodle is not afraid to embrace her inner femininity and actively seeks opportunities to wear a tiara. She abhors physical labor and all things that may make her “glow.”

(Poodles DO NOT sweat)….”

And most importantly, here in Rehoboth Beach, Delaware, “Poodle” is the unofficial name given to the area of the beach where, according to history, gay men tired of dragging chairs and coolers down to Carpenter Beach, so they just stopped walking near Queen Street. Irony, anyone? It became a most effective sit-in, or perhaps, sun-in.

This year’s winner of Westminster got in on the poodle-icious action, too, as Siba was selected as Best in Show at the 144th Westminster Kennel Club Dog Show at Madison Square Garden.

And given Siba’s rather extreme head of hair and paw, she might be considered, according to multiple dictionary definitions, a poodle’s poodle.

Last year, I’m pleased to note, a smooth-coat Chihuahua from Delaware, named Tiffany, won best of variety at Westminster. I wonder if she’s ever been to Poodle Beach or if she boycotts as a matter of principle?

And why are we talking poodles?

Because it’s time to gear up for our annual event of epic proportions, one that might impact all our poodles.

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Yes, it is time to prepare for the Annual Opening of the Patio Season.

That time of year when we all sit outside and live our most glorious lives, which for some of us means either bringing our four-legged friends downtown to meet our two-legged friends for coffee, and smoothies, and a slice, or sitting outside and getting our vitamin D from the sun and our joy from O.P.P.’s (other people’s pets).

Well, as it turns out, our patios haven’t actually been regulated to allow for pets.

It’s just been an understanding that some places love a pet, and some don’t. And then it happens, just like in the movies, Cruella DeVille, wearing the guise of the Division of Public Health, appears on the scene (aka Facebook), posting a “reminder”—pets are forbidden in restaurants and on their outdoor patios.

Yes, even the poodles. And does that threat apply only to four-legged ones?

What’s a poodle to do?

Well, every movie needs a hero, and here in Rehoboth Beach it was time for that unmasked man, our very own Representative Pete Schwartzkopf, Speaker of the Delaware House of Representatives, to assume the mantle and fight for the (under)dog.

There are party poodles counting on you!

And the result is House Bill 275 (which has 18 co-sponsors).

It amends Title 16 of the Delaware code, permitting “the owner of a beer garden or food establishment to permit leashed dogs on licensed outdoor patios of food establishments and in beer gardens.” Those locations would “still need to abide by any health regulations and cleanliness rules.” Additionally, no location would be required to allow dogs.

It lets business owners decide, for themselves, whether leashed

dogs are allowed on their licensed outdoor patios or beer gardens.

And I love that. Those establishments with clientele that want to bring their poodles to town, fantastic for them. And those that don’t? Hey, they don’t have to.

It’s kind of simple.

Turns out, it’s incredibly bi-partisan.

The bill passed the house unanimously, and passed in the senate by a vote of 19 for, one against, one absent. (Only Republican State Sen. Bryant Richardson voted against the bill.)

So now it sits on Governor Carney’s desk.

A thousand dogs’ pleading eyes are upon him, tongues askew, bodies panting, wriggling with excitement, waiting for his hand to lift the pen and give them all a huge “good dog” cookie.

Delaware is small but mighty. We are the First State. We are also the first state in the country to achieve being deemed a no-kill state. Quite a history, far and near.

And with a woof of thanks to Rep. Pete Schwartzkopf, we’re just about ready to run. ▼ Stefani Deoul is a television producer and author of the award-winning YA mystery series the Sid Rubin Silicon Alley Adventures: On a LARP, Zero Sum Game, and Say Her Name.

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WOMEN’S FEST

Celebrate with Us!

20th Anniversary Women’s FEST to Offer Excitement and Honors

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h my goodness! FEST Passes are all sold out! (There may be some individual tickets later…we hope!) We are thrilled and shocked at the response and wish we could accommodate more audience members. For folks who were unable to get FEST Passes, please know there is so much more to Women’s FEST than just the three concerts.

We have all of our sporting events, the Regina Sayles concert, a remarkable keynote speaker, and other special programs PLUS the FREE Welcome Dance at the convention center (Wednesday, April 29) and a super new Closing Dance with Viki Dee on Sunday. In between there will be speakers and events and all kinds of fun, food, and friendship.

The FEST will take place April 29May 3 this year—with an added day and many more events to celebrate the big anniversary.

With concerts by Indigo Girls, Chely Wright, and a trio of Funny Girlz, the Rehoboth Beach Convention Center will be the site of three guaranteed sell-outs with these exciting entertainers and our great big women’s community.

Just as exciting will be national heroes like Feminist Majority Founder Eleanor Smeal, and current National Organization of Women President Toni Van Pelt, here to deliver the Keynote address about the effects of a newly-revitalized ERA—will women finally achieve legislative equality?

Additional speakers include Regina Lombardo, the highest ranking woman in the US Department of Justice. She’ll tell her personal story and discuss issues critical to our women’s community. There will also be a screening of the film All We’ve Got, about our disappearing women’s spaces, and a discussion by filmmaker Alexis Clements, as well as an inspiring presentation by former professional basketball player Mariah Burton Nelson,

discussing her personal, political, inspirational story about grief, sports, and creativity.

One special presentation will be the amazing film screening on Saturday of the film All We’ve Got by filmmaker Alexis Clements. She will be here in person to screen the movie—an exciting film about LGBTQ women’s communities and cultures, through the lens of the physical spaces they create, from bars to bookstores, to arts and politics. Alexis will host a Q&A following. (See an interview with her on page 24).

And if you laughed and were amazed by Liz Bradbury’s wonderful talk last year about lesbian artists, she’ll be back again this FEST with 10 more artists to celebrate. You’ll learn a lot and laugh a lot.

Add to these special events Georgette’s Wednesday night Welcome Dance, golf, pickleball, and other sport activities, the Friday Book Fair and Health Fair, Saturday’s Art and Craft Expo at the Firehouse, and so much more!

As has occurred for the past decade, Sunday morning of FEST weekend finds the Broadwalk on the Boardwalk bringing out the gals, guys, and lots of pups to fight breast cancer—and all cancers—in a walk that raises both money and awareness. One of the highlights of FEST each year, the Broadwalk is both fun and moving, providing a great outdoor experience for an important cause.

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ack at the turn of the millennium, eight creative women with a mission formed the CAMP Rehoboth Women’s Project Committee. The group presented a half-day Women’s Conference, which morphed, over the years, into Women’s FEST. Of those visionaries, six still live in Rehoboth and attend FEST every year.

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Maggie Ottato, Leslie Rogan, Libby Stiff, and Bea Wagner. Former residents and board members Andrea Andrus and Maggie Shaw rounded out the group.

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CommunityNews Parking Fee Waived at DART’s Rehoboth Park and Ride.

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mple parking and convenient drop-off to downtown Rehoboth Beach has always been the draw to DART’s Rehoboth Park and Ride.

Visitors could ease their journey into America’s Summer Capitol without having to bother with a parking meter or finding a parking spot.

To encourage more visitors to use this service to access downtown this summer, DART is waiving the previous $10.00 charge for parking at the location. Beginning this summer, riders only have to pay the bus fare.

There are a variety of fare options including $2.00 for a single one-way; $4.00 for a single round-trip; $4.20 for a one-day pass; $18.00 for a seven-day pass; $65.00 for a 30-day pass. This option allows for unlimited use during the life of the pass.

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t a recent city meeting, Rehoboth Beach Commissioners approved a construction bid to start work on the Grove Park Canal Access Dock. Work is set to begin this spring and is expected to be completed within a year.

The canal is located behind the Rehoboth Beach Museum will offer docking for up to two, 30-foot pontoon boats, as well as kayak or canoe launch. ▼

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Special to Letters

BY BRIA BROWN-KING

Dating as an Intersex Person

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was born with an intersex body. I first learned about the root cause of my intersex traits in medical terms, when I was diagnosed with congenital adrenal hyperplasia (CAH). In short, my body doesn’t produce enough of the stress hormone cortisol, which affects how the body manages carbs, regulates blood sugar, and maintains its metabolism, among many other essential functions.

To compensate, I produce high amounts of testosterone. Androgens, such as testosterone, are hormones that create what would typically be described as secondary male characteristics, such as excess facial and body hair. Everyone produces androgens; some just produce more than others.

CAH affects people in many different ways. And it has taught me valuable lessons about self-acceptance.

It wasn’t until I was nine that I realized just how different I was. I was growing facial hair, my pit stains ruined all of my favorite shirts, and my entire body was covered in hair. I once nipped myself trying to cut all that hair off my stomach with scissors.

By the time I reached fifth grade, I knew that I was different. Other girls were developing breasts; I was developing thicker facial hair instead. It must have been around then that I noticed my large clitoris wasn’t as common as I thought it was. Neither was my Adam’s apple. One of my friends told all of the other girls in the locker-room that I had a penis because I had a visible bulge in my one-piece swimsuit. I realized that wearing swimsuits and using women’s locker rooms weren’t going to be safe options for me.

As a preteen, all I wanted was to be feminine; I wanted to wear pastels, go shopping for my first big-girl bra, and talk about boys. I figured that dressing as girly as possible would help me fit in, despite my body’s differences. I wanted boys to like me, not make fun of me for being too manly.

I had my first real boyfriend when I was 12. He was a nice kid who was also

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bullied, for his dry lips and older parents.

Once word got out that we were dating, things got progressively worse. His friends told him that I was ugly and looked like a man. I remember him telling me that he would break up with me if the other kids kept picking on me. Yet he didn’t. We kept up our on-again, off-again relationship for three years.

By middle school, boys would only secretly flirt with me. They liked me, but feared my differences. I accepted that that was just the way things were. And though romantic interests feared my body, friends ignored it. It felt like my intersex traits were invisible to people when sexual attraction wasn’t a factor.

My friend group stayed the same through high school, and offered me support in coming out as a lesbian. But though my friends accepted and understood me as a queer person, I never felt accepted or seen as an intersex person. They didn’t understand what my being intersex meant, and I didn’t know how to explain it to them.

Eventually, identifying as lesbian gave me the tools necessary to settle into how I wanted to present myself to the world.

I began exploring different ways to present as a masculine lesbian. I devoured YouTube videos on how to be a stud, a butch, a domme. During a shopping trip with my aunt, I snuck back into the men’s section of the store and bought myself my first men’s polo shirt. Polos and khakis were a part of our school dress code, but women’s polo shirts never fit quite right.

My shoulders were broad and my biceps were muscular. If anything, wearing women’s clothing made my intersex characteristics more apparent. In my mind, a polo shirt from the men’s section symbolized gender neutrality.

By that time, I was exclusively dating cisgender women who identified as bisexual or lesbian, whom I felt more comfortable telling about my intersex traits. With cisgender men, the panic of rejection was palpable, and I’d go out of my way to hide my intersex traits by shaving every day and emphasizing feminine aspects of my appearance. Yet being with women made

me feel like I could be myself. I could have hairy legs and wear cargo shorts, and many women found that attractive.

It wasn’t until college that I began to speak more openly about my intersex variation to all my romantic partners. Now that I’m in my mid-twenties, I’ve reached a point of self acceptance, and my dating experiences have been partly to thank in helping me understand myself and my intersex body. I’ve learned to ask questions of healthcare providers instead of just accepting their answers, and I’ve learned to be okay with the fact that my body doesn’t mirror that of many women. I am okay with the fact that for my partners, this means that physical intimacy with me might require a lesson on the anatomy of a person with a non-traditional body.

Twelve years of dating have also taught me to be okay with the fact that I’m constantly changing. Each relationship has helped me uncover parts of myself that were hiding behind a blanket of insecurity and low self-esteem. Even dating experiences that were less than ideal taught me how to experience the bad so that I can appreciate the good. I’ve learned that confidence is a skill that gets developed over time—in my case, one developed over the course of 12 years. I’ve worn many polo shirts during that time. Today, my polo shirts have turned into button-downs that are no longer a representation of who I desire to be, but a representation of who I am. ▼ Bria (they/she) identifies as a queer, intersex, masculine presenting black person. They are currently living in Delaware, but was born and raised in Harrisburg, Pennsylvania. Bria works as the Program Coordinator for InterACT, a national intersex advocacy organization that aims to protect intersex youth from harmful practices by advocating for policy changes. Bria started doing advocacy work as a youth member with interACT where they published articles for the ACLU, TeenVogue, and Them Magazine. They were also the first out intersex person to speak about intersex issues on the steps of the Supreme Court. Email bbrownki10@gmail.com or follow them on Instgram: bria.b.king

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WOMEN’S FEST

INTERVIEW BY FAY JACOBS

Film All We’ve Got to Be Screened at FEST Your film sounds fascinating. Can you tell us a bit about how the project got started?

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ne of the exciting events for Women’s FEST will be the screening of the lesbian themed documentary All We’ve Got by filmmaker Alexis Clements. And Alexis will be at the screening to conduct a Q&A following the film. Letters caught up with Alexis for a few questions prior to FEST. We’re delighted to welcome you to Rehoboth Beach. Have you visited before or will we be a new experience?

What have you heard about us?

I’m a military brat, but my family spent most of my childhood in the DC Metro Area, so the beaches of DelMarVa were a familiar spot to me, and my family came to Rehoboth a number of times, so it’s a place that holds really nice memories for me. Then, more recently, my parents decided to retire to the area, which has meant that as an adult, and an out lesbian, I get to see and enjoy a whole new side of Rehoboth. In the past year-and-a-half since my parents moved to Delaware, any time I’m there I always grab a copy of Letters to see what’s going on and find out if there’s any fun stuff I should try to do when I’m in town.

It was actually when I picked up a copy of the winter edition of Letters— when I was visiting for the holidays— that I learned about Women’s FEST and sent over an email to see if the film might be a fit.

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I had written a play inspired by the Lesbian Herstory Archives titled Unknown (which, incidentally, received its world premiere run in Minneapolis just one week before the film premiered).

Because the play had a multigenerational cast made up entirely of lesbians and queer women, I knew that the chances of having it produced by a theater were relatively slim, and at the time I was keen to find ways to connect more directly with audiences. So, rather than a production, I decided for the play’s first time out I would do a reading at the Lesbian Herstory Archives, and instead of working with professional actors, I invited members of the Archives community to read the script.

It was a wonderful and really moving experience for me, and so I decided I wanted to do readings like that around the country at bars and bookstores and community centers. But as I was putting that idea together, I was also very aware that the kinds of spaces I wanted to visit to share the play were closing in large numbers, which led to the idea for the documentary. I did end up going around the country, and we did a handful of readings of the play, but the documentary became more of the focus because I was learning so much from the conversations I was having and I knew other people would want to hear them.

What was your favorite part of the research and assembling the film?

Without a doubt it was getting to have the many conversations with people involved in creating, building, and sustaining communities around the country. I visited and spoke on tape with people who were part of about 12 different spaces around the US. And throughout the process I also heard from and spoke with countless others. In the end there are four spaces that you get to peek inside of, as well as one group that operates outside of physical spaces.

What struck you as most interesting or impressive about reactions to the loss of women’s spaces as detailed in your project?

The thing that I find most heartening is that one of the key characteristics of the spaces that have been able to stick around is that they are intergenerational. I think a lot of people believe these days that there are huge divides across LGBTQ generations. That shifts in language and the ways people identify have created barriers that are too difficult to overcome. My experience is the opposite. The spaces that are really thriving have bridged generations, they see the deep connections and commitments across experiences that transcend things like language. It’s not easy work, and it seems to work best when everyone is engaged in projects they feel passionately about that bring people together. But it’s a reminder that the work of bridging generations is work that all of us, from every generation, can do, and that there are rewards for doing it.

Did you learn some things along the way that surprised you?

Soooo many things! One of the things that wasn’t necessarily surprising but was really eye-opening was learning so much more about the history and present of the many different groups and organizations created by and for lesbians and queer women of color. I knew about a few—the Combahee River Collective being one of the most famous.

But it’s not always easy to find materials, stories, and media about these groups.

As a white cisgendered woman, it was very apparent that most of the history that was more readily available focused on people like me. So it was really wonderful to spend time digging into histories that centered people who have identities different than my own. And since I’ve been out sharing the film, I’ve gotten to learn about even more of these groups. For instance, I got to meet and (continued page 26)

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Pop the Question How would your pet describe you?

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FILM SCREENING, continued speak on a panel with Marion Tinsley and Nancy Pleasants, two women who founded Girlfriends, a group that brought lesbians of color together for over a decade in the Boston area. That was really exciting!

Did you learn of any unsung heroes?

People who deserve some recognition for their efforts?

One of the reasons I made this film is that I knew how hard it was to find stories about the LGBTQ women who work tirelessly to build these spaces and communities. We don’t have nearly enough media about these people and Letters 26 MARCH 6, 2020

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these communities. Every group and space featured in the film, even the ones you only hear about or see briefly, deserves their own documentary, and to have books and articles written about them. (I should mention that the Lesbian Herstory Archives does now have a documentary film about it, The Archivettes, and there’s another documentary in the works about WOW Café Theatre.) So, for me, they are all unsung heroes and I made this film in part to sing their praises.

Tell me whatever else you’d like us to know!

One of the best things about sharing this film in different communities and

spaces has been the conversations that happen after. It’s so clear that LGBTQ women are hungry to talk about what community means for them and also what it means that we’ve seen quite a few spaces close in the past decade.

So I’m incredibly excited to be able to be there for the screening at Women’s FEST to talk with the audience and hear from them. This film is about bringing communities together, and I love being at events that give us the chance to do that as part of the screening and Q&A after. ▼

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The Stink Bug is Here to Stay

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hat felt like an X-acto knife slowly slicing through the pale underbelly of my forearm was in actuality a specialized tattoo needle entering and leaving the skin about 20 times per second, depositing black, brown, and sepia ink into my epidermis and dermis. It hurt. Lord, it hurt. And don’t believe anyone who tells you otherwise. Two muscle relaxers, three hours, and $400 later I was the proud owner of a five-inch brown marmorated stink bug tattoo.

WHAT? People who know me were shocked. They might consider me a bit of a bon vivant, but a tattoo? A stink bug?

REALLY? At your age? “You’re a man who irons his button down shirts,” one close acquaintance remarked, shaking his head.

It’s true. I do like a crisply pressed shirt.

And I use spray starch. But I also appreciate a thoughtful tattoo on a well-muscled bicep or on the back of an athletic calf.

I almost got a tattoo one night way back in 1979 while exploring lower Manhattan’s punk rock scene with some college chums who were heavily into the Clash and the Ramones. After an evening of loud music and lots of whiskey at CBGB—how I was allowed in that bar wearing a pink and green striped crewneck sweater I still don’t know— we stumbled into a seedy tattoo parlor somewhere in the East Village. Only a lack of cash in my wallet kept me from leaving with the logo of my then favorite band, the B-52s, on my upper arm.

Over the subsequent decades, I occasionally thought about going under the needle. But I never felt cool or edgy enough.

And I still worried about the appropriateness of a tattoo in my white-collar world.

Moreover, I couldn’t come up with a meaningful idea for a design that I wanted inked onto my body. All around me gay guys were getting bands of barbed wire tattooed around their arms and legs and Tribal symbols emblazoned on their pecs and backs. Remember the Celtic craze?

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Only a lack of cash in my wallet kept me from leaving with the logo of my then favorite band, the B-52s, on my upper arm.

were oh so clever with a feather quill tattoo.

More recently, it seems like everyone is wearing elaborate tattoo sleeves or sporting petite inspirational words on their fingers and hands. Gentrification clearly begets homogenization.

By now you must be wondering why in the hell I would deign to get a stink bug tattoo?

As some long-time readers of this column might recall, I have written several times over the past decade about visits from a solitary brown marmorated stink bug. What you might not know is that these visits happen every single winter. One day a stink bug shows up in my Georgetown, DC apartment. The windows are shut and there are screens on the windows. Go figure. While in residence, the insect follows me around like a dog. It climbs onto my computer screen when I write. When I cook, it perches atop a little painting above my stove and watches me. It even sits on a lampshade beside my bed when I lay down to read. This winter it appeared to be fascinated with my water pick. Then one day it disappears as quietly as it arrives.

I have no explanation for why this particular species of insect keeps visiting me—a spirit, perhaps? But I can unequivocally attest to the fact that its arrival each year corresponds with a major spark in my creativity. I become almost manic in my devotion to writing, staying up until the wee hours of the morning then falling asleep at work. Coincidental?

To celebrate our 10-year anniversary, I got the brilliant idea to memorialize the stink bug in the form of a tattoo on my forearm.

It’s personal and I bet nobody else has one.

Seriously, why would they? My hope is that the tattoo will encourage many more stink bug visits and perhaps one day I shall solve this mystery. And if not, well, at least I got a good story out of it. ▼ Rich Barnett is the author of The Discreet Charms of a Bourgeois Beach Town, and Fun with Dick and James.

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LGBTQ+ YA Column

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My Own Admission Introduction by Barbara Antlitz For this month’s LGBTQ+ Young Adult (YA) Column we meet Hannah Snader, a student at Indian River High School (IRHS). Hannah will be going to Delaware Technical and Community College, Dover campus under the SEEDS (Student Excellence Equals Degree) program and then will be transferring to University of Delaware majoring in astronomy with a possible minor in graphic design. I first met Hannah on my visit to Indian River High School GSA (Gay Straight Alliance).

She and another student greeted me with her kind and confident smile. Her smile is contagious. Hannah is currently the president of the GSA; Ms. Jenna Sinnamon is the GSA advisor. There are an estimated 35-40 IRHS GSA members.

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y family is incredibly close, closer than those of a lot my friends and their extended family, I’m sure. We’re a very tight-knit group of people, always talking, always together. We talk, laugh, and argue. I’ve disagreed with my family on many things, we’ve fought, and argued, and been in conflict. But, I’ve never fought with anyone more than my father. We are both stubborn by nature; one never wanted to yield to the other.

We have never ever had the perfect relationship, and for the last couple years it was rocky, even. After years of almost resistance from myself, we’re slowly building a better bond.

When I was young, from elementary to middle school, I thought the person I was closest to in my life was my father.

And until recently when, I realized that wasn’t really the case; we weren’t distant, but there was always some kind of barrier between us that I couldn’t even see or sense. When I was around 12 years old, I found out something about myself that I knew my dad would disapprove of: I was attracted to girls. I was so scared of myself and of my own father and I hid from him and everyone I was close to, I prayed that I wasn’t gay.

And I know that’s not uncommon at all looking back but I felt so alone, I didn’t know anyone else like me. It was a very dark part of my life and I lived the next almost three years hiding because of something I couldn’t control.

The first member of my family that I came out to was my Uncle Richie, my dad’s brother. He was someone I could talk to and not feel like I was going to get looked down on or lectured on for what I had said. He understood my feelings and didn’t belittle me for them. I told him at the Ocean City Convention Center on Saturday, January 7, and when I did,

I said it in the smallest voice imaginable because despite his open mind I was still terrified of a reaction of hate. But what he gave me in return was love and acceptance and respect. I knew after I came out to him that sooner rather than later it would be my dad’s turn.

I came out to my entire family a few months later, I planned it a week in advance and told all my friends, my logic being if I tell them I’ll come out to my parents over the weekend, I can’t chicken out. I had to do it. Not going into much detail, my father’s reaction was not that of my uncle. He was upset, confused, and in a way, uninterested. He broke my heart and told me everything I knew I would hear and I couldn’t look at him or hold a real conversation with him for months. I wouldn’t tell him when I went on dates or things going on in my life. He saw it as a problem so that’s how we treated it. We didn’t talk about it and pretended there was no tension.

We didn’t start seeing eye to eye and understanding each other until almost six months later. He started opening up to me and I started telling him about my life again.

It’s progress, and we’re still figuring each other out day by day but I wouldn’t change how anything happened. I genuinely think our relationship will grow to be stronger than ever and it made me into a stronger person. I found my own validity when I couldn’t find it from the person I love most. I’m not grown yet, I’ve barely lived at all, but living in the shadows has aged me deeply and finally living in my own light has made the future look a whole lot more worth it than it did before. ▼ Barbara is CAMP Rehoboth’s Youth Coordinator, working with GSAs in middle and high schools in Sussex and Kent Counties, and with other groups supporting LGBTQ+ youth.

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CAMPCritters — LUCKY THE CAT — Meet Lucky, the 16-pound tuxedo shorthair cat who resides in Lewes with his owner, Jeanne Cahoone. He was taken in after being left behind and has adjusted well to his loving new home.

FUN FACT His begging strategy is to sit too close and stare until he wins. #tuxies Interested in having your critter featured in Letters? Send a high resolution picture (300 dpi) along with its name and one fun fact to editor@ camprehoboth.com. Our roaming photographer will take photos in the courtyard all year long.

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The REAL DIRT

BY ERIC W. WAHL

Felines in the Garden “A kitten is, in the animal world, what a rosebud is in the garden.”

- ROBERT SOUTHEY

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unny story. We rescued our cat a little over 10 years ago. He was hiding on a delivery truck inside a palette of Hudson Valley fans which were wrapped in that clingy plastic. To this day he hates the sound of rustling plastic bags.

Nobody at the store could take him, so my partner called me and asked to stop by after work. I was hesitant as we just lost the best cat in the world to old age and I said never again. Well, I ended up going there, picked up the quivering, scared bundle of fur hiding under the restroom sink, and held him on my chest. Needless to say, we went home with Hudson that night.

I’ve always been a cat person—well, any kind of pet, really—but grew up with lots of cats as long as I can remember. Some were outside cats, some indoor cats, many were both. We had a decent size yard and lived next to a creek, so there were many places for them to explore. To this day my brother swears that he saw his cat, Fred, roaming the city streets of downtown Harrisburg, which was a few miles away from our house. I’m not so sure, but Fred lived to be in his twenties, so anything is possible.

Going from a suburban setting to more urban, and then into a more clustered neighborhood with smaller yards, it became evident to me that not all people appreciate our feline friends. They can do some real damage to gardens and become a nuisance to neighbors. What is one to do?

Here are some tips for both protecting your garden from curious cats plus giving them some room to play.

To deter cats from digging up your garden beds, try mulching them with prickly or coarse materials such as pine needles and pinecones, holly twigs, or even a stone mulch.

Placing chicken wire on top of your soil can also help deter digging by cats.

This measure has been used for deterring squirrels and other critters as well, making it difficult for them to get to those precious bulbs.

A cat’s sense of smell is much stronger than ours. They tend to dislike strong smelling plants, such as lavender. Lavender is also deer resistant, so a two-for-one deal.

Along the same lines, citrus peels and mothballs can be scattered throughout the garden too.

It’s not a good idea to place food for your pets outside. The smell can attract other wildlife, including neighboring cats. Always clean your grill, too.

Make sure to plug holes or openings under decks, sheds, garages, etc. as they can play host to feral cats or other animals seeking shelter.

If you want to share your space with a friendly feline, here are a couple ways to make that experience fun for all but still steer them away from your special garden spaces.

Place specific species that cats favor, like catmint, in a separate part of the yard. They may make it their home and leave other parts of the garden alone.

Consider installing a sandbox near these plants. Yes, it will be an attractive space for cats to do their business, but better here than in the garden.

Cats, along with gardens, have always provided me with joy. Combining the two may not suit everyone. So, whether you’re the type to shoo them away or the type who wants to share your garden space, I hope these tidbits come in handy. ▼ Eric W. Wahl, RLA is a landscape architect at Element Design Group and president of the Delaware Native Plant Society.

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CAMP Canines

BY MICHAEL GILLES

Dogs and Kids LEAP into Reading

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ogs. They are man’s and woman’s best friend. Dogs can be loyal pals, faithful guardians, partners in joy. Windsor, Duffy, and Sam (their real names) all provide comfort in the most turbulent of storms.

Lassie, well, where would Timmy be without his dog? I shudder to think. And don’t forget, dogs help kids to read.

Wait…what? That’s right. Just ask the many kids in our area who know that Fido and Rover (not their real names) are local heroes. For these pups, and their more than 75 canine partners, helping kids read is a heroic canine cause. It gives a new meaning to “teacher’s pet”.

Literacy Education Assistance Pups, or LEAP, is a group of volunteer pet owners and their dogs that bring this revolutionary reading experience to children at Sussex County libraries, elementary schools, and other locales providing services for kids, as well as facilities for older or disabled adults.

According to LEAP Director Diane Miller, the program began when the minister at Bethel Christian School in Lewes approved a dog-as-reading-mentor program idea. Soon there were 35 kids honing their reading skills with the one-on-one help of seven volunteers and their non-human teachers. The program spread throughout Sussex County, and today LEAP has grown to more than 75 teams serving 18 facilities and is still growing. Miller herself is a mentor/partner with dog Griffin. She knows how special the bond is between dog and human.

It makes volunteering for the program rewarding and fun.

All kinds of dogs participate in the program. Some are beloved household pets; some are trauma dogs who travel out-of-state to comfort people hit by disaster. But all dogs go through the same training and are calm, well-behaved, and most of all, patient.

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tor sign-up. The pups looked sporty in their business blue bandannas. As they gathered, one teacher was overheard declaring “this is my favorite day!”.

I was met by Love Creek reading specialist Rosemary Lobodzinski, an 11-year veteran of the Cape Henlopen school district who has spent the last seven years at Love Creek. She began using the doggie reading program at Rehoboth Elementary, and brought the dogs with her to Love Creek when she transferred. “(Some children) are resistant to reading, but the dogs give them confidence and a willingness to read…dogs are non-judgmental”.

We were led to a large space out of the way of hallway traffic. Dogs and their owners were placed in strategic areas around the room. Then it became time for the kids to pair up with a dog/owner mentor.

I was curious. How would the little ones react to their reading assignments?

For one, each child is given the option whether to participate. Then Ms. Lobodzinski encourages them to select the book they want to read with their furry friends.

Now came the real test. Kids ask excitedly “is it our turn today?” And soon it is! Young ones jump up and down at the opportunity. A recipe for chaos? I hadn’t

counted on the skill of Ms. Lobodzinski and teachers like Shannon Davis to produce the best possible outcome for the students. It turns out that kids are MORE attentive when reading with their canine buddies. Ms. Davis said it best: “It’s a great opportunity for the kids, calming and stimulating at the same time…a chance to enjoy both reading and their companion.”

Advocates like Lobodzinski, Davis, and Miller are innovators that make the LEAP program work. They know that children who have participated in programs like LEAP have shown dramatic gains in reading levels and impressive improvement in self-esteem and other social skills. There are a lot of heroes in LEAP: the advocates, the owners/mentors who share their time and their pets, the kids who shed their fears and read aloud. And perhaps the biggest heroes of all—dogs like Bilbo and Griffin, Cooper and Cassie.

They’re kids’ best friends. Come to a local library with your child and see for yourself.

Lassie would be proud. ▼ The LEAP reading program is offered at many locations in Sussex County, Delaware, including schools, afterschool and pre-school programs, and libraries. All of the library sessions are open to the public—families can bring their children whenever the program is scheduled to spend a fun-filled evening reading with friendly dogs and their owners. LEAP also offers programs for special needs adults and older folks at several locations. For more information on these programs or to volunteer, visit the LEAP website at leapdogde.org.

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Michael Gilles is a playwright, actor, and director from Milton, and a regular contributor to Letters from CAMP Rehoboth.

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BEACH AREA LODGING At Melissa’s B&B, 36 Delaware Ave...............................................302-227-7504 Atlantic Sands Hotel, Boardwalk & Baltimore Ave.........................302-227-2511 Atlantis Inn, 154 Rehoboth Ave.....................................................302-227-9446 Breakers Hotel, 105 2nd St & Baltimore Ave.................................302-227-6688 Canalside Inn, 34 6th St.................................................................866-412-2625 Rehoboth Guest House, 40 Maryland Ave.....................................302-227-4117 Sea ‘n Stars Guest Suites, 44 Delaware Ave.................................302-226-2742 Summer Place Hotel, 1st St & Olive Ave........................................302-226-0766 The Shore Inn, 37239 Rehoboth Ave Ext.......................................302-227-8487

LEWES FOOD & DRINK Go Brit, 18388 Coastal Hwy...........................................................302-644-2250 Matt’s Fish Camp, 34401 Tenley Ct...............................................302-644-2267

OTHER AREA FOOD & DRINK Bluecoast Seafood, 1111 Hwy One, Bethany................................302-539-7111 Catch 54, 54 Madison Ave, Fenwick..............................................302-436-8600 Matt’s Fish Camp, 28635 Coastal Hwy, Bethany...........................302-539-2267

SERVICES AT THE BEACH REHOBOTH RETAIL SHOPS Atlantic Jewelry, 313 S. Boardwalk...............................................302-226-0675 Browseabout Books, 133 Rehoboth Ave.......................................302-226-2665 Gallery 50, 50 Wilmington Ave......................................................302-227-2050 New Wave Spas, 20660 Coastal Hwy............................................302-227-8484 Ocean Boulevard Furniture, 19803 Hebron Rd.............................302-645-2626 One Day At A Time Gifts, 46-B Baltimore Ave................................302-212-5632 Shademakers, 33 Baltimore Ave....................................................302-226-2222 Unfinished Business, Rt. 1 behind Panera Bread..........................302-645-8700

REHOBOTH FOOD & DRINK 1776 Steakhouse, Midway Shopping Center................................302-645-9355 Back Porch Café, 59 Rehoboth Ave...............................................302-227-3674 Blue Moon, 35 Baltimore Ave........................................................302-227-6515 Café Azafran, 18 Baltimore Ave.....................................................302-227-8100 Café Papillon, Penny Lane Mall......................................................302-227-7568 Diego’s Bar Nightclub, 37298 Rehoboth Ave................................302-227-0818 Dos Locos, 208 Rehoboth Ave............................................. 302-227-3353 Go Fish, 24 Rehoboth Ave..............................................................302-226-1044 Goolee’s Grille, 11 South 1st St.....................................................302-227-7653 Iguana Grill, 52 Baltimore Ave.......................................................302-727-5273 Just In Thyme, 38163 Robinsons Dr..............................................302-227-3100 Lori’s Café, 39 Baltimore Ave.........................................................302-226-3066 Loves Liquors, LLC, 305c Rehoboth Ave........................................302-227-6966 Lupo Italian Kitchen, 247 Rehoboth Ave.......................................302-226-2240 Palate Bistro, 19266 Coastal Hwy.................................................302-249-8489 Penny Lane Liquors, 42 Rehoboth Ave..........................................302-567-5245 Purple Parrot Grill, 134 Rehoboth Ave...........................................302-226-1139 Rigby’s, 404 Rehoboth Ave............................................................302-227-6080 Shorebreak Lodge, 10 Wilmington Ave.........................................302-227-1007 The Pines, 56 Baltimore Avenue....................................................302-567-2726 The Pond, First & Rehoboth Ave....................................................302-227-2234

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All Saints’ Episcopal, 18 Olive Ave.................................................302-227-7202 Epworth UMC, 19285 Holland Glade Rd.......................................302-227-7743 Grace of God Lutheran, ELCA, 20689 Shoppes at Long Neck.......302-947-1044 M.C.C. of Rehoboth, 19369 Plantation Rd.....................................302-645-4945 Seaside Jewish Community, 18970 Holland Glade Rd..................302-226-8977 St. Peter’s Episcopal, 2nd & Market Sts, Lewes.............................302-645-8479 Unitarian Universalist, 30486 Lewes-G’Town Hwy........................302-313-5838 Unity of Rehoboth, 98 Rudder Rd, Millsboro.................................717-579-2612 Westminster Presbyterian, 301 King Charles Ave.........................302-227-2109

COMMUNITY RESOURCES

AARP of Delaware (age 50+)..........................................................866-227-7441 ACLU of DE—Lesbian & Gay Civil Rights Project............................302-654-3966 CAMP Chorus—Program of CAMP Rehoboth.................................302-227-5620 CAMP Rehoboth—LGBTQ Community Service Org........................302-227-5620 CAMP Rehoboth Families—LGBTQ parents connect......................302-227-5620 CAMP Rehoboth Parents of Transgender & Gender Non-conforming Children............................................302-227-5620 Cape Henlopen Senior Center—Rehoboth (age 50+)....................302-227-2055 CHEER Centers of Sussex County (age 50+)..................................302-515-3040 Delaware Aging & Disability Resource Center...............................800-223-9074 Delaware Human Relations Commission Housing & public accommodation............................................877-544-8626 Delaware Information Line............................................................................2-1-1 Delaware Pride—Community events, annual Pride Festival..........302-265-3020 Delaware Transgender Resources—transdelaware.net, delawarelgbtq@gmail.com Delaware Transgender Support.....................................................302-402-3033

Gay/Lesbian Alcoholics Anonymous—add’l schedules..................302-856-6452 Saturdays 6 pm: Epworth UMC, 19285 Holland Glade Rd (step meeting) Saturdays 7:30 pm: All Saints’ Church, 18 Olive Ave (step meeting) Tuesdays noon: St. Peter’s Church, 211 Mulberry St, Lewes (step meeting) Thursdays noon: CAMP Rehoboth, 37 Baltimore Ave (open discussion) Sundays 9 am: CAMP Rehoboth, 37 Baltimore Ave (open discussion) Tuesdays 8 pm: CAMP Rehoboth, 37 Baltimore Ave (Young Persons) Gay Men’s Discussion Group—Program of CAMP Rehoboth.........302-227-5620 Lesbian Support Group—Program of CAMP Rehoboth..................302-227-5620 Lewes Senior Activity Center (age 50+).........................................302-645-9293 LGBTQ Student Union—University of DE, Newark.........................302-831-8066 Meals on Wheels Lewes-Rehoboth................................................302-645-7449 PFLAG-Rehoboth—2nd Tuesdays, Public Library, 111 Adams Ave, Lewes............................................................302-841-1339 SLAA and SAA—Thursdays, 7:30 pm, All Saints’ Church 18 Olive Ave ............................................................................302-745-7929 Social Security Administration—Lewes office................................800-772-1213 TransLiance of DE—Rehoboth—4th Tuesdays at 7 pm, MCC of Rehoboth; contact: TransLiance@gmail.com

COUNSELING/THERAPY/LIFE COACH

Karen Abato, ATR-BC, LPAT, Licensed Art Psychotherapist... 302-232-5330 Kevin J. Bliss, Personal/Professional Coaching.............................302-754-1954 Jewish Family Services........................................................ 302-478-9411

ENTERTAINMENT

Jazz SEAduction music, Valerie McNickol............................ 302-381-6707

ERRANDS/PERSONAL NEEDS

Alternative Lifestyle Services.........................................................302-727-2050

EVENT PLANNING/CATERING

Big Fish Catering................................................................. 302-226-5500 Flair................................................................................................302-930-0709 Palate Bistro & Catering.................................................................302-249-8489 Plate Catering.................................................................................302-644-1200

FINANCIAL SERVICES

Bell Rock Capital, 19606 Coastal Hwy..........................................302-227-7608 Community Pride Financial............................................................302-227-2939 County Bank, 19927 Shuttle Rd.......................................... 302-226-9800 Jenn Harpel, Morgan Stanley.........................................................302-644-6620

FLORISTS

Windsor’s Florist, 20326 Coastal Hwy...........................................302-227-9481

FUNERAL SERVICES

Parsell Funeral Homes & Crematorium................................ 302-645-9520

HAIR SALONS/TATTOO & PIERCING

Beach Cuts, 214 Rehoboth Ave...........................................302-226-ROBB Gregory Meyers Hair Studio, 20245 Bay Vista Rd & Rt 1..............302-727-5331 Stephan & Co Salon & Spa, 19266 Coastal Hwy................... 302-260-9478

HEALTH-RELATED

AIDS Delaware – Kent & Sussex Counties.....................................302-226-3519 AIDS Delaware – New Castle County............................................302-652-6776 AIDS Hotline – Delaware statewide...............................................800-422-0429 Brandywine Urology Consultants...................................................302-824-7039 Beebe Healthcare, 26744 J.J. Williams Hwy.................................302-645-3300 CAMPsafe AIDS education & prevention program of CAMP Rehoboth........................................................................302-227-5620 Christiana Care HIV Wellness Clinic ..............................................302-933-3420

Christiana Care LGBTQ Health Initiatives.......................................302-733-1227 Delaware HIV Consortium - Statewide..........................................302-654-5471 Delaware Hospice..........................................................................800-838-9800 Delaware Total Foot & Ankle Center.................................... 302-297-8431 National Alliance on Mental Illness of DE (NAMI)...........................302-427-0787 Rehoboth Beach Dental, 19643 Blue Bird Ln....................... 302-226-0300 Steven B. Wright, D.M.D., 18912 J.J. Williams Hwy............. 302-645-6671 The Aesthetic Center......................................................................302-827-2125

INSURANCE

Eric Blondin, State Farm...................................................... 302-644-3276 George Bunting, State Farm................................................ 302-227-3891 Jeanine O’Donnell, State Farm............................................ 302-645-7283

LEGAL/ACCOUNTING/TRUST SERVICES

Steven Falcone CPA, Taxes & Planning..........................................302-644-8634 Lawson Firm, 402 Rehoboth Ave...................................................302-226-3700

LOCKSMITHS

Rock Lock/Robin Rohr/Your Community Locksmith.......................302-386-9166

MASSAGE THERAPY/FITNESS

Midway Fitness & Racquetball, Midway Center.............................302-645-0407 One Spirit Massage, 169 Rehoboth Ave........................................302-226-3552 Rehoboth Massage/Alignment.......................................................302-727-8428

PET RETAIL

Critter Beach, 156 Rehoboth Ave..................................................302-226-2690 Pet Portraits by Monique................................................................717-650-4626

PET SERVICES

Brandywine Valley SPCA, 22918 Dupont Blvd, G’twn.......... 302-856-6361 Delaware Humane Association, 18675 Coastal Hwy........... 302-200-7159 Parsell Pet Crematorium, 16961 Kings Hwy, Lewes............ 302-645-7445

REAL ESTATE

Allen Jarmon, RE/MAX, 317 Rehoboth Ave...................................302-227-4800 Bill Peiffer, Patterson Schwartz, 18958 Coastal Hwy....................302-703-6987 Chris Beagle, Berkshire Hathaway, 37230 Rehoboth Ave............302-227-6101 Debbie Reed Team, 319 Rehoboth Ave.........................................800-263-5648 Donna Whiteside, Berkshire Hathaway, 16712 Kings Hwy...........302-381-4871 Eric Atkins, Patterson-Schwartz, 18958 Coastal Hwy...................302-727-1456 Hugh Fuller, Realtor........................................................................302-745-1866 John Black, Patterson Schwartz, 18958 Coastal Hwy...................302-703-6987 Lana Warfield, Berkshire Hathaway, 37230 Rehoboth Ave...........302-227-6101 Lee Ann Wilkinson Group, 16698 Kings Hwy....................... 302-645-6664 Lingo Realty, 246 Rehoboth Ave....................................................302-227-3883 McGuiness Group, 246 Rehoboth Ave...........................................302-227-3883 Randy Mason/Shirley Kalvinsky, Lingo Realty................................302-227-3883 Sea Bova Associates, 20250 Coastal Hwy........................... 302-227-1222 Troy Roberts, Mann & Sons, 414 Rehoboth Ave............................302-228-7422

TRAVEL & TRANSPORTATION

Accent On Travel, 37156 Rehoboth Ave.............................. 302-278-6100 CHEER Transportation (age 50+)....................................................302-856-4909 ITN Southern Delaware (age 60+ or disabled)...............................302-448-8486 Jolly Trolley Shuttle from Rehoboth Ave & Boardwalk...................302-644-0400 Olivia Travel...........................................................800-631-6277 ext. 696

POPULAR LGBTQ BEACHES

Poodle Beach, south end of the Rehoboth Boardwalk Cape Henlopen State Park, Ocean Dr north to Cape Henlopen State Park. Daily parking rate in effect March-November

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GOOD QUEER FUN by Stefani Deoul

Welcome to a St. Paddy’s quiz!

First question, no points: Did you know there’s a theory that good old Saint Patrick is one of our own? Yes, a Saint Queerly of the Highest Order. This theory is posited by Brian May in his book on Irish gay history, Terrible Queer Creatures.

And while it might seem a stretch, history isn’t always what it seems. The most famous of St, Patrick’s feats, chasing the snakes from Ireland, is long debunked—there never were any snakes—and yet, even debunked, people repeat it—endlessly. Therefore, I say, why not let St. Patrick live Gay-ly on! (How do you like them shamrocks, Staten-IslandSt.-Patrick’s-Day-Parade-organizers?!)

And now, 10 questions: 1. People wear green on St. Patrick’s Day to avoid what? a. Getting kissed b. Getting pinched c. One year of bad luck d. People not knowing they’re Irish 2. When was St. Patrick alive? a. Third century b. Fourth century BCE c. Fifth century CE d. Sixth century CE 3. What did St. Patrick believe a shamrock represented? a. Good luck b. Good fortune c. The Holy Trinity d. Nature 4. According to myth, when is the best time to sneak up on a Leprechaun? a. When he’s taking a nap b. When he’s counting his gold c. While he’s mending his shoes d. When he’s eating 5. What was St. Patrick’s given birth name a. Henry O’Malley b. Patrick O’Riley c. Gabriel McSweeney d. Maewyn Succat

6. How many pints of Guinness are consumed worldwide on St. Patrick’s Day? a. 13 million b. 1 million c. 6 million d. 1 billion 7. Ireland has four million residents.

How many Americans claim Irish heritage? a. 38 million b. 12 million c. 17 million d. 33 million 8. Myth says if a human catches a leprechaun, he has the ability to do what in return for his release? a. Give you his shoes b. Grant three wishes c. Reveal the secret to life d. Lead you to his gold 9. Which of these colors was originally associated with St. Patrick’s Day? a. Orange b. Blue c. White d. Green 10. What does “Erin Go Bragh” mean? a. I am Irish b. Bottoms up c. Ireland forever d. Cheers to Ireland

ANSWER KEY: 1-b, 2-c, 3-c, 4-c, 5-d, 6-a, 7-d, 8-b, 9-b, 10-c Letters 48 MARCH 6, 2020

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arts+entertainment CAMPArts St. Pet Tricks Day

by Doug Yetter

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hen I received the 2020 publication schedule for Letters, I noticed that every issue was themed—Love, Drag Queens, Pride, Family…though we were offered a choice for this issue—Pets or St. Patrick’s Day. I’ve decided to combine them and celebrate St. Pet Tricks Day. Pets would have won out easily as I’ve had a wide variety of them throughout my life including dogs, cats, parakeets, a mynah, and a ferret.

When offered a treat, my Maltese, Noel, would spin around on his back legs for hours. If you put a coin on the table my parakeet, Ricki, would pick it up and flip it over his head. Well, he’d flip dimes and pennies. My grandpa gave him a silver dollar and nearly laughed himself to death watching poor Ricki trying to flip that huge coin.

And while I’ve never wasted my time trying to teach one of my cats a trick, when I worked at the Dunes in Las Vegas some drunk chorus boys came over after work and put freezer tape on my beloved cat Sophie’s paws and told me she was learning to tap dance. I told them to leave and never to torture an animal again. Pet tricks are one thing, cruelty is quite another.

And speaking of cruelty…being a pianist in a bar on St. Patrick’s Day is the ultimate form of torture. I’ve never been a fan of green beverages or people who think New Year’s Eve and St. Patrick’s Day are an excuse to behave badly. And though I’m exceedingly fond of genuine Irish music, I have little tolerance for the rubbish created by Tin Pan Alley. Combine my dislike of sloppy drunks, green beer, and the 27th request for “When Irish Eyes Are Smiling” (sans tip), and you’ll quickly realize why I couldn’t write a piece celebrating March 17.

So there are two secrets about me—I love animals and hate drunks. Here’s one more—I am infatuated with the rehearsal process and have an inherent dislike of performance. Honestly, I would be quite content to do only the prep work for a show or a concert and skip out on the performance. Maybe conducting has become my own variation on a pet trick. Put singers in front of me and I’ll flap my arms at them for hours. We’ll call it a Do(u)g trick.

Sorry. ▼

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SPOTLIGHT ON THE

arts

AT CAMP REHOBOTH

CAMP Rehoboth Puts Art at The Heart of Our Community EngAGE I’m a HUGE fan of collaborative art and an even bigger proponent of intergenerational connectivity, so EngAGE might just be my favorite gallery show of the year.

The CAMP Rehoboth Gallery will showcase the art of high school students from Cape Henlopen, Lake Forest, and Sussex Central as well as artists who are 55+ years of age. The work is wonderfully creative, and there are some fascinating stories behind their art. The show runs from March 7 through April 1, with an Artists’ Reception on Saturday, March 21, 2-4 p.m.

2020 Women’s FEST Art Show I know that the CAMP Rehoboth Women’s FEST is still weeks away, but we’re kicking things off in the gallery with a juried show featuring the work of Delaware’s women artists. Fine art artist Caroline Huff will be this year’s juror for this exciting Olympus, by Kimmie Aiken at CAMP Rehoboth.

and unique annual community art show. The show runs from April 7 through May 2, with an Artists’ Reception on Friday, May 1, 3-5p.m

A CAMP Rehoboth Retrospective—30 Years in Photos The Rehoboth Beach Museum (511 Rehoboth Avenue) will feature a retrospective photography exhibit which tells the story of 30 years of CAMP Rehoboth history in 30 memorable photographs—carefully curated by Murray Archibald and members of our community. The show runs from April 10 through May 9, with a Closing Bid Reception on Saturday, May 9, 4-6 p.m.

CAMP REHOBOTH GALLERY HOURS: 9 a.m.-5 p.m. Mon.-Fri. 9 a.m.-4 p.m. Sat. Closed on Sundays in March.

arts+entertainment PERFORMING ARTS

Ringers “Handbells Rock” (matinee), Rat Pack Together Again (evening). Check their website for details.

CAMP Rehoboth Chorus (37 Baltimore Ave.; 302-227-5620; chorus@camprehoboth.com) has an encore performance of their extremely popular “Legends” concert—April 26 (3 p.m.) at the Sussex Academy (21150 Airport Rd. in Georgetown). The chorus has started rehearsals for their next concert—“Out for the Summer”—June 5-7 at Epworth UMC. Watch this column for details!

Capital Ringers (P.O. Box 35, Lewes; capitalringers.org) is hosting the “Spring Ring Festival” at Epworth UMC (19285 Holland Glade Rd.) on March 14 (7 p.m.).

The concert will feature local handbell choirs playing a wonderfully diverse program. Admission is by freewill offering. Their spring concert tour of “Handbells Rock!” begins April 18 and continues through May 2. It may be the first time you’ve heard “Bohemian Rhapsody” or “Old-Time Rock and Roll” played on handbells. Check their website for details.

Cinema Art Theater (17701 Dartmouth Dr. in Lewes; 302-313-4032; rehobothfilm.com) screens new Independent films through the Rehoboth Beach Film Society. Met Opera Live in HD: Handel’s Agrippina—March 7 & 9; Wagner’s The Flying Dutchman—March 21 & 23; Puccini’s Tosca—April 18, 20 & 21. Jewish Film Festival: March 11-15, and in collaboration with CAMP, the LGBTQ CINE-bration: April 2-5. Check their website for screenings and show times.

Clear Space Theatre Company (20 Baltimore Ave.; 302-227-2270; ClearSpaceTheatre.org) has Cole Porter’s Kiss Me Kate on the boards from March 6-22, and High School Musical presented by their Spotlight on Young Performers April 17-19. See website for tickets and more information.

Coastal Concerts (in residence at Bethel UMC Hall; Fourth and Market Sts., Lewes; 888-212-6458; coastalconcerts.org) continues their season with “Songs of Travel” with baritone Andrew Garland and pianist Warren Jones on March 14 (7 p.m.), followed by

Possum Point Players (441 Old Laurel Road, Georgetown; 302-856-4560; possumpointplayers.org) is producing a show that’s very close to my heart— Godspell—March 27-April 5. Their great cast is under the direction of John Hulse.

Their annual fundraiser will be Saturday, May 2—"All the Fixin’s!”—an evening of country and blues songs complete with a barbeque dinner. I saw the musical director in my bathroom mirror just this morning.

Acrylic Abstract by Adam Goreki at CAMP Rehoboth.

violin/double bass duo Tessa Lark and Michael Thurber on April 18 (8 p.m.).

Dickens Parlour Theatre (35715 Atlantic Ave., Millville; 302-829-1071; dptmagic. com) offers magic, music, and comedy in an intimate setting. March events: 6-7: “Notes on the Beach,” an evening of Gershwin with vocalist Stephanie Griffin and pianist David Zipse; 12-14: Magician Derrin Berger; 19-21: Magician Kirsch; 26-28: Comedy magician Chris Tracy.

April Events: 2-4: Illusionist Chris Capehart; 9-11: Magician Randy Forster; 25-26: Southern Comfort with Rich Bloch as Mark Twain.

The Milton Theatre (110 Union Street, Milton; 302-684-3038; miltontheatre. com) “keeps Milton weird”! March events: 6: One Lucky Night with the Dame!; 7: The Funsters Benefit Dance Party; 8: The Janglebachs; 13: Split Man Andy Gross; 14: Divalicious!; 19: Fellow Travelers (Irish Folk Music); 20: The Funny Thing About Being Irish (Stand-Up Comedy); 21: Wish Upon a Star with Grace Field (matinee), Men in Motion (evening—18+); 25: Wizard of Oz sing-along; 26: Nightrain—The Guns ‘n’ Roses Experience; 27: The Honey Dewdrops; 28: Hank & Heidi’s Hillbilly Hoedown Wedding. April Events: 2: Serafin—A Little Night Music; 3: Kat Wright; 4: Swing Time Dolls; 10-12: Godspell—a Milton Theatre production; 17: Foolish Fools Stand-Up; 18: Capital

Rehoboth Concert Band (rehobothconcertband.org) presents their Spring concert March 15 (3 p.m.) at the Indian River High School (29772 Armory Rd. in Dagsboro), with Valerie McNickol as guest soloist. The concert benefits the Philanthropic Educational Organization, which has promoted higher education for women through grants and low-interest loans for over 150 years.

While you have your calendar out, add their concert fundraiser for the Cape Henlopen Senior Center on April 19 (3 p.m.) at Epworth UMC. Second Street Players (2 South Walnut St, Milford; 302-422-0220/800-8383006; secondstreetplayers.com) has the Ray Cooney comedy Caught in the Net (as in “internet”)—April 17-26.

Dancing Clowns #5, Richard Grote at CAMP Rehoboth.

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arts+entertainment Heidi Lowe Gallery (328 Rehoboth Avenue; 302-2279203; heidilowejewelry. com) has unique handmade pieces and classes in jewelry making. Heidi is rebuilding the gallery and will re-open Fall 2020, but is “in the studio” creating custom pieces.

In the Fields by Dane Tilghman at Peninsula Gallery.

GALLERIES & MUSEUMS Abraxas Studio of Art (515 Federal Street, Lewes; 302-645-9119; abraxasart. com) features the oil portraits and landscape paintings of Abraxas.

The Brush Factory on Kings (830 Kings Highway, Lewes; 302-745-2229; Facebook@ brushlewes) houses a co-op of 50 local artisans and merchants.

CAMP Rehoboth Gallery (37 Baltimore Avenue; 302-2275620; camprehoboth.com) features EngAGE, Women’s FEST Art Show 2020, and CAMP Rehoboth Retrospective at the Rehoboth Beach Museum. (See listing elsewhere in this column).

Cape Artists Gallery (110 W. 3rd Street, Lewes; 302-6447733; capeartists.org) is a half-block from the Zwaanendael Museum and features the work of two dozen artists and their personal interpretations of life at the beach.

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Gallery 37 (8 South Walnut Street, Milford; 302-2652318; marciareedpainting. com) represents over 45 artists and artisans from around the country with fine art, wood-turned vessels, fibers, glass art, and more.

Gallery 50 (50 Wilmington Avenue; 302-227-2050; gallery50art.com) features original paintings, jewelry, glass, sculpture, ceramics, and mixed media.

Sisters by Dane Tilghman at Peninsula Gallery.

Peninsula Gallery (520 E. Savannah Road, Lewes; 302-645-0551; peninsula-gallery.com) offers over 3,000 square feet of display and custom framing. The gallery features a solo show

by Dane Tilghman, with works detailing the life of African-Americans during the Jim Crow era. Through March 22.

Rehoboth Art League (12 Dodds Lane, Henlopen Acres; 302-227-8408; rehobothartleague.org) Juried Members’ Showcase—through April 19; the Regional Juried Photography Exhibition—through March 8. The Old and New: A Retrospective—works by Aina Nergaard-Nammack; Pipes of Perception—works

by Ted Sare; and Micro/ Macro—works by Caitlin Gill—all three run April 3-26.

Check their website for details on their extensive class offerings in ceramics, stained glass, pottery, mosaic, pen and ink, watercolor, acrylics….

Rehoboth Beach Museum (511 Rehoboth Avenue at the Canal, 302-227-7310; rehobothbeachmuseum.org) has fresh exhibits on their renovated second floor for you to enjoy, and lots of Rehoboth Beach history on the first floor. Check the calendar on their website for walking tours and special events.

Frozen Pond, Susan Daily at CAMP Rehoboth.

Tideline Gallery (111 Rehoboth Avenue; 302-2274444; tidelinegallery.com) offers unique gifts, Judaica, jewelry, pottery, lamps, and art glass. ▼ Doug is the Artistic and Musical Director for CAMP Rehoboth Chorus, Director of Music Ministries at Epworth UMC, and co-founder and Artistic Director emeritus of the Clear Space Theater Company. Contact Doug at dougyetter@gmail.com if you want to add your events to the calendar. Check out CAMP Arts on our website at camprehoboth. com for links to all the listed theatres, galleries and museums

This program is supported, in part, by a grant from the Delaware Division of the Arts, a state agency, in partnership with the National Endowment for the Arts. The Division promotes Delaware arts events on www.DelawareScene.com.

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by Terri Schlichenmeyer

BOOKED SOLID What’s Your Pronoun? Beyond He & She by Dennis Baron (He/Him/His) c.2020, Liveright, $25.95/$34.95 Canada, 304 pages

Words can never hurt you.

Even as a child, that last half of the retort to playground taunts never made sense to you. Of course, sticks and stones broke bones but even then, you knew that there’s no sharper weapon than a word said in anger or misunderstanding. In the new book What’s Your Pronoun?, by Dennis Baron, you’ll see that some of those weapons go way back.

Language is a funny thing. Words hurt, they sooth, and in today’s world, a “pronoun without sex is...sexy.� We ask ourselves, and others, which ones to use as “an invitation to declare, to honor, or to reject, not just a pronoun, but a gender identity.�

Generally, though, and until relatively recently, “he� was the default pronoun used by many to indicate both masculine and undeclared gender. As far back as 1792, neutral “he� was thought to be confusing, however; one writer even suggested that “one� might work better than “he� to indicate gender neutral. “They� was brought up for consideration in 1794.

A century later, and with mostly men controlling law and business, “he� was firmly the pronoun of choice, and it had become politicized; when women protested that “he� clearly didn’t include them, lawmakers stated that “he� also implied “she.� Women countered that if “he� could hold office, then it was implied that “she� could, too, and, well, you can imagine the arguments—not to mention the injustice of three masculine pronouns (he, his, him) but just two for the feminine (she, her)!

Oh, the scandal of it all!

Through the decades, other words have been suggested (zie, hir, thon) to indicate gender neutral or unknown but none have seemed to stick. Many felt that there simply was no good way to signify neither male or female, or a separation of gender-neutral and non-binary, and some bemoaned the lack of a “missing wordâ€? that was easily understandable. Says Baron, though, in sifting through the possibilities, we’ve had the word all along‌.

Sometimes, as author Dennis Baron points out in his introduction, people today offer their preferred pronoun without being asked, so ubiquitous is the question. Still, we sometimes struggle with the right word. In What’s Your Pronoun? he offers a solution—though readers may be skeptical.

First, though, it’s true that this etymological history is a good read, especially for word nerds. It’s not college-lecture level; Baron writes with a lighter hand and doesn’t preach, and the occasional threads that spring from the stories here are explored appropriately and in an inviting way that requires no drudgery. It’s like sitting down at a workshop you’ve eagerly anticipated, and being more delighted than you hoped you’d be.

And yet, there is such a thing as information overload, and the obvious solution isn’t so obvious. Proof is at the end of the book, in which we see more than two centuries of verbal wrangling.

So: em, thon, zier, they? We haven’t heard the end of it, but maybe we’re close; certainly, reading What’s Your Pronoun? couldn’t hurt. ▟ Terri Schlichenmeyer has been reading since she was three years old and never goes anywhere without a book. Always Overbooked, she lives on a hill in Wisconsin with two dogs and 15,000 books.

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Dining Out

BY BARBARA ANTLITZ

Not Your Average Ramen

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ngredients to a delicious meal...I love eating, but then, who doesn’t? My dining partner, Gail, and I recently ate at the Miyagi Ramen Bar located in the Safeway shopping center. Miyagi Ramen Bar opened in August 2017 and is owned by Jeong Hoon "Kim" and his life partner, John Anderson. Sarah and Gi were the hosts and greeted us with their kind smiles.

Miyagi has an open bar with a recently expanded array of sake (Japanese alcoholic drink made of fermented rice). Miyagi invites one in with an open and warm atmosphere with high ceilings; and a choice of bar, table, or booth seating designed to allow for privacy when dining. We were able to laugh and hear one another while talking.

Sarah, our main server, was attentive and extremely knowledgeable about every entree on the menu. She patiently explained each dish and asked about our preferences before making her recommendations.

For appetizers, we chose gyoza and edamame. Both were amazingly delicious, and our taste buds craved more of the same. The timing was perfect between appetizers and our main meal.

MIYAGI RAMEN BAR 19266 Coastal Hwy #6 Rehoboth Beach, DE 19971 (302) 567-2385 miyagiramenbar.com

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Gail, who is trying to be a vegan—at least that week—chose Bibimbap with vegan tofu, a dish with organic Asian mountain root vegetables over rice, a spicy sauce, and topped with a sunny side egg (she opted to skip the egg).

I chose the special, Tom Yum Ramen, homage to Thai Tom Yum soup. The dish is a spicy chicken broth topped with tomato, menma, red bell pepper, cilantro, scallion, and a wedge of lime.

It’s served with your choice of shrimp, chicken, or pork. Both dishes were served at the proper temperature with Western utensils provided along with the hashi (Japanese for the Americanized chopsticks).

We ended with sharing mochi ice cream (green tea, mango, and strawberry), which provided a soothing chill for our taste buds. We highly recommend the mochi ice cream from their variety of desserts.

The evening closed with a warm conversation with John Anderson, co-owner. "Everything we make is from scratch. Kim has this incredible ability to recreate something and make it taste better," said John.

We also shared stories about our love for our dog companions. John shared stories about Kim and his love of cooking since childhood, growing up as the son of a restaurant owner in Korea, and his relationship with his mother who is sharing some of her family secrets.

One of the beauties of living in our small town is being able to keep our bellies full of good warm conversation and authentic food.

Miyagi is open six days a week during the winter months and every day during the summer. There’s plenty of free parking.

Winter specials include Wednesday night $10 ramen and all-day Sunday $10 wings at the bar.

Eating at Myagi’s was a fun, affordable, friendly experience around authentically flavorful and well-served food. It was a great dining experience which we highly recommend. ▼

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SCENES FROM REHOBOTH BEACH The Stuff of Legends! CR Chorus Concert, Black History Month, Polar Bear Plunge, Chili Cookoff, CHEF Winter Jam, and More THIS PAGE 1) Barb Ralph, Valerie Reber, Eileen Johnson, Tom Ketterman, Doug Yetter, Carl Schloegel, David Garrett, Pam McMillan, Cheryl Graves, Maureen Ewadinger, Rehoboth Beach Commissioner Pat Coluzzi, Irene Fick, Dianna Johnston, Carol Bresler, Carolyn Billinghurst, Josh Megee, Barry Bugg, Ken Mahan, Kathleen Taylor, Joe DiSalvo, Kathy Osterholm, Chris Beale, and Eric Engelhart at CAMP Rehoboth Chorus Concert at Epworth.

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THIS PAGE 6) Nina Spincer, Angela Taylor, Keyanna Mozle, Terrance Vann, Patricia Stiles, Kathy Wiz, Diaz Bonville, and Barb Antlitz at Black History Month Art Reception and Panel Discussion at CAMP Rehoboth. 7) Alex Shapiro, Rick Stellhorn, Annette Stellhorn, Deb Chase, Terry Barrera, Doug Sellers, and Mark Eubanks at Accent on Travel Event at CAMP Rehoboth.

8) Betty Mann-Beebe, Gene Lawson, Scott Rennie, Mike Cowell, Lewis Renoll, Marc Blackfield, Dave McCarthy, and Walt Cassell at Rigby’s. 9) Ron Hughes and Ben Cross at Café Azafran. 10) Scott Button, David Streit, Dan Kyle, Robert Mittleman, and Marvin Miller at Polar Bear Plunge.

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It’s My Life

BY MICHAEL THOMAS FORD

Fighting Words Yesterday, I got into a fight.

I am not a fan of conflict, particularly of the online variety. It’s too easy to misunderstand tone, to dash off thoughts that aren’t fully-formed, to get caught up in the heat of battle. And honestly, I don’t think anyone’s mind has ever been changed due to a flame war. However, when I found myself reading yet another social media post by someone who has been crafting a particularly distorted narrative against a good friend for going on 15 years, I decided enough was enough.

The details of the incident, which center around a longstanding family situation my friend is embroiled in, are not important. What is important is everything surrounding it. During the actual exchange of words, numerous friends and relations of the person I was calling out flocked in, offering protection and questioning who I was to say such things.

Afterwards, the exchange was scrubbed, I was blocked from commenting, and the person recrafted the original narrative with selective and altered quotes to appear to be a victim of unfounded slander.

This was not unexpected. I have witnessed this person’s behavior for decades. I knew full well what the response to my criticism would be—a circling of the wagons to reinforce the façade of innocence that has been built up carefully, one fabrication at a time, over the course of a lifetime. My friend, long the target of this behavior, said, “It’s the same thing all over again. Nothing will ever change.”

I understand his feeling of defeat. It’s how I’ve felt for most of the four years since the Great Orange Toddler once again failed upwards and began his reign of mediocrity. Over and over again, I’ve groused that nothing ever happens to people like him or those who enable him, that there is never accountability, that they are immune to repercussions because even when you drag their reprehensible behavior out into the clear light of day, far too many people refuse to acknowledge it. We’ve repeatedly seen the narrative reworked to prevent terrible people from getting the comeuppance they deserve, to turn losing into winning.

My final words to the subject of my personal wrath were these: “A lot of us see you. A lot of us

...of course we knew.

We always knew. But sometimes you do the right thing simply because it’s the right thing.

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know the truth. You can fool your friends. You can even fool yourself. But hear this—you are seen.”

My fantasy, of course, was that people would read my comments and begin to question whether or not the narrative they’d been fed was in fact accurate. Mostly, this did not happen. In fact, apart from the individual’s immediate family, everyone else who subsequently commented pretended that our exchange wasn’t even happening. Again, I was reminded of so many political discussions that have taken place in recent years; I was screaming into a vacuum.

Still, I think I accomplished something. I believe defending my friend was the right and moral thing to do. Time after time during the recent impeachment hearings, I heard people on both sides of the argument state that it was a “waste of time,” some because they don’t believe the president did anything wrong and others because they say we all should have known from the start that he would be acquitted and that it would make those who brought him to trial look foolish.

As I responded to one of those latter people, of course we knew. We always knew. But sometimes you do the right thing simply because it’s the right thing. Isn’t that the entire point of America’s favorite novel, To Kill a Mockingbird? Isn’t this what Atticus means when he says to Jem, “I wanted you to see what real courage is, instead of getting the idea that courage is a man with a gun in his hand. It’s when you know you’re licked before you begin but you begin anyway and you see it through no matter what. You rarely win, but sometimes you do.”?

It is never the wrong thing to call out people for their bad behavior. It is never the wrong thing to state the truth in the face of lies. It is never the wrong thing to take on a battle against corruption, even when it feels (and may in fact be) unwinnable.

Because even if there’s no immediate win, no visible acknowledgment of the truth, letting badly-behaved people know that even one person sees them forms a crack in their veneer, a crack that widens bit by bit, eating away at them until they crumble into dust. ▼ Michael Thomas Ford is a much-published Lambda Literary award-winning author. Visit Michael at michaelthomasford.com

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Straight Talk

by David Garrett

Cisgenders—Please Do Not Misgender

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illiam Strunk, Jr. would not recognize much of the English language in use today. He most surely would cringe at the misuse, misspelling, and mispronunciation of everyday vernacular. No doubt he might want to edit his original 1918 book, The Elements of Style, to reflect the myriad ways in which our common tongue has changed.

One of the more heated issues regarding the use of language today is that of proper use of pronouns. This does not refer to using plural pronouns when referring to more than one person. The focus of proper use of pronouns today is in reference to those who have changed their gender identity.

Let’s have a brief vocabulary discussion. Cisgender refers to any person whose gender identity conforms to the gender to which that person was born.

If you were born female, and identify as female now, you are cisgender. And the same is true for being born male and now identifying as such. Transgender, of course, refers to any person whose current gender identity is opposite, or different from the gender to which that person was born.

The terms AMAB and AFAB are in current use in the transgender community. They mean Assigned Male At Birth or Assigned Female At Birth. They are used as shorthand to help others understand which side of the gender binary the person was or is at a particular time. While it is quite difficult to imagine a delivering physician declaring, “It’s an AMAB,” there are appropriate times to invoke binary language and times to revoke it. The goal for everyone is to know when it is time for which approach.

Nicholas Meriwether, a philosophy and religion professor at Shawnee State University in Ohio, chose the wrong time and the wrong method. He was directed in 2018 by university officials to cease addressing a female transgender student as he, sir, and other male terms. Meriwether claimed that abiding by this directive was in contradiction to his closely-held Letters 68 MARCH 6, 2020

religious beliefs; that changing one’s gender identity from birth gender is in opposition to the Bible. He filed a lawsuit for discrimination, claiming that both his First Amendment and religious rights were being violated.

Taking up the cause for this professor was the Alliance Defending Freedom (ADF). This ultra-conservative legal firm is well known for their defense of the bak-

Let the person who is the object of your conversation, discussion, or diatribe determine which pronouns are acceptable. ers who denied a gay couple a wedding cake, along with siding with Hobby Lobby in their birth control benefit case. Thus far, Meriwether and the ADF are on the losing side of the law. We may assume that ADF will advance their case through legal channels, positioning for a favorable Supreme Court ruling.

Another person making the news for misgendering is the newcomer to the Democratic Presidential campaign, Michael Bloomberg. As review continues into his business interests, and more past “sins” are uncovered, this one comes as not only a surprise, but a deep disappointment. Allyson Chiu of the Washington Post reported that shortly after Bloomberg released an ad touting his support for the LGBTQ community, a video from 2019 was uncovered that completely undermines that claim.

According to Chiu, “Bloomberg had been trying to explain why certain social issues, such as transgender rights, could pose challenges for presidential candi-

dates hoping to appeal to a majority of the American public. ‘If your conversation during a presidential election is about some guy wearing a dress and whether he, she, or it can go to the locker room with their daughter, that’s not a winning formula for most people.’” These comments, not surprisingly, have drawn significant criticism and demands for clarification.

It is important that the cisgender halt the misgender that is all too prevalent today. There is one simple rule to which the public should adhere: Use the preferred pronouns of the person to whom you are talking or referring! Let the person who is the object of your conversation, discussion, or diatribe determine which pronouns are acceptable. Does that person prefer “he/him/his,” “she/her/hers,” or perhaps even the now-common “they/ them/theirs”? It is important that we not define others, but allow others to define themselves.

One set of parents who have made headlines for the unconditional support of their transgender daughter is Dwayne Wade, now retired from the NBA, and his wife, Gabrielle Union. Their 12-year-old child recently transitioned and her parents couldn’t be more supportive.

In an interview with CNN, Wade related, “Zion, born as a boy, came home and said, ‘Hey, so I want to talk to you guys. I think going forward I am ready to live my truth. I want to be referenced as she and her. I would love for you guys to call me Zaya.’” The family shared a video of Dwayne and Zaya talking together.

Zaya tells her father, “You gotta just push through, I mean it’s worth it, I feel like it’s very worth it, when you reach that point of like, yourself.” How about we all try to “push through”! ▼ David Garrett is a straight advocate for equality and inclusion. He is also the proud father of an adult transdaughter. Email David Garrrett at dlgarrett4rb@gmail.com.

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WE REMEMBER

Barbara Ellen Keck, Dedicated Teacher

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arbara Ellen Keck, 77, of Lewes, passed away Saturday, January 25, 2020, at The Moorings at Lewes. She was born Wednesday, July 8, 1942, in Camden, New Jersey, daughter of the late Donald and Bette (Williams) Keck.

Ms. Keck built a career as a teacher, specializing in physical education. She found her calling immensely rewarding and made a difference in the lives of countless students. In 1970, she met her partner and love of her life, Carole Bradt. They would go on to spend 48 cherished years together. She loved animals, enjoyed golf, Tai Chi, travel, antiques, stained glass art, yoga, and knitting. Above all, Ms. Keck was a loving

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and devoted partner, aunt, sister, and friend. She was loved by many and will be deeply missed by all who knew her.

In addition to her parents, Ms. Keck was preceded in death by her beloved partner, Carole Bradt, in 2018, and her brother, Donald Michael Keck, in 2019.

She is survived by her brother, James H. Keck; her sister-in-law, Patricia Seelaus; her nephews: Matthew Keck, James D. Keck, Daniel Keck, and Jonathan Keck; and her nieces: Christine Keck and Kathleen Keck.

A celebration of Ms. Keck’s life was held on February 22 at The Moorings at Lewes. ▼

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Jack Morrison & Bob Dobbs* Sandy Neverett & Pam Cranston X Robert Nowak & David Bergman X Judy Olsen & Joanne Kempton X Maggie Ottato X Dotti Outland & Diane Mead X Stephen Pape & Jerry Clark Marilyn Pate & Dorothy Smith* Peninsula Gallery - Tony & Carol Boyd-Heron* John Piccirillo & Jonathan Rose Joanne Picone & Kathy Bostedo Denny Pintello & Coke Farmer* Tom Poor & Tom Bachmann - Bin 66 Fine Wine* Jim Pressler X Sam Profeta X Lisa Rabigi & Bea Vuocolo Joie Rake & Nan Flesher X Charlotte Reid & Polly Smale* Marty Rendon & John Cianciosi* Gene Roe X Thomas Rose & Thomas Sechowicz X Lucien Rossignol & Tom Harris Mark Saunders & Bob Thoman* Sheryl Schulte & Jeanne LaVigne* Mary Ann Slinkman & Sharyn Santel Susan Soderberg & Terri King X John Michael Sophos & Miss Dot Sophos* Diane Sozio & Patricia Hutchinson* Dee Speck & Linda Kauffman X Mary Spencer & Kathy Lingo* Russell & Patricia Stiles* Caroline Stites & Elizabeth Coit X Lenny Stumpf & John B. Pitchford* Brett Svensson & Bill Quinn Dust Doctors LLC* Gordon Tanner & Robert Patlan* David Theil* James Tucker & In Memory of Dennis Murphy* Lana Warfield & Pamela Notarangelo X Daniel Watkins & Micah Shockney Cal Weible & Daniel Halvorsen X Michael Weinert* Douglas Werner & JD Pryor John Wood & Mike Roob Tony Wright & Mary Jo Bennett X Jean Sutliff Young* Joanne Yurik* Larry Zeigler X John Zingo & Rick Johnson*

ORANGE LEVEL Donna Adair Gwen Atwell & Marla Hoon Shannon & Sarah Avery* Pamela Baker & Diane Dixson* Romulus Barba & Dean Yanchulis* Paul Barbera & Joseph Nolan Kathleen Biggs & Maria Campos Deborah Bosick Linda Bova & Bridget Bauer The Sea Bova Associates* Anita Broccolino - In Memory of Cathy Fisher Wendy Bromfeld* Barry Bugg Ronald Butt & Steve Cannon*

Debbie Cali & Maddie Cunningham John Carr & Billy Cox* Jean Chlastawa & Susan Griesemer Steve Clayton & Brad Lentz Michael Clement & Mac Gardner* Charlie Codacovi* Gregory Cole Community Bank Delaware* Mark Conheady* Quida Cooper-Rodriguez Lois Cortese & Jill Stokes X Kenneth Currier & Mike Tyler X John D’Amico* Scott & Donna de Kuyper Hotel Blue* Robert Defendis & Ronald O. Dempsey Linda DeFeo X J. Lynne Dement & Lisa J. Snyder Jim DiLalla & In Memory of Frederick Episcopo* Tony DiMichele & Jeff Smith* Joe DiSalvo* Donna Dolce* Kevin Doss & Arie Venema Brenda Dunn & Karen Anderson Martin Durkin & Chetan Patel* Jeanne Embich* Gary Espinas & Daniel Sherlock Maureen Ewadinger* Ellen Feinberg & Lesley Rogan X Jerry Filbin* Sara Ford & Anne Donick* Deb Fox & Deb Bonneau Christopher Galanty & James Apistolas Anne Geary William Gluth & Channing Daniel Ed Gmoch* Mike Gordy & Ed Brubaker Joe Gottschall & Scott Woody Suzanne Graefen & Tad Webb Deborah Grant & Carol Loewen Michele Grant & Michelle Meyers* DiMitri Guy* Wesley Hacker & David Block* Sharon Hansen X Tracey & Erica Hellman Bill Hillegeist X Vance Hudgins & Denny Marcotte John Hulse X Mary Huntt & Angela Creager Janet Idema & Patricia Higgins* Bob Kabel Sharon Kanter & Cyndy Bennett* Marilyn Kates & Laura Glenn* Anne Kazak & Chris Coburn X Mark Kehoe X Maryl Kerley & Pat Sagat X Bonnie Kirkland & Wanda Bair X Judy Kolb & Martha Hanlon Jay Kottoff & Mark Matey* Rob & Jean Krapf X Barbara Lang & Diane Grillo Leslie Ledogar & Marilyn Hewitt* Edmund LeFevre & Keith Wiggs X Jim Lesko Dale & Sue Lomas* John Mackerey & Donald Filicetti Duncan MacLellan & Glenn Reighart* Marsha Mark & Judy Raynor Gina & Jules Marotta Vicki Martina & Nancy Hewish* Marie Martinucci & Pam Kozey* Michael & Stephan Maybroda Kathy & Steve McGuiness Kate McQueen Marvin Miller & Dan Kyle X

Julia Monaghan & Carissa Meiklejohn Margaret Moore & Sheree Mixell X Thomas Moore & Richard Bost Marie Murray & Deb Ward X Debbie & Frank Navecky Robert Neighbour & Andrew Dan Pat Nickols Donna Ohle & Susan Gaggiotti X Sandra Oropel & Linda Frese* Carolyn Ortwein & Ann Barry* Rutland Paal & Robert Mittleman* Sandra Pace & Barbara Passikoff X Steve Parker* Ellen Passman X Emilie Paternoster & Monica Parr X Rina Pellegrini Colleen Perry & Jane Kuhfuss* Marianne Perry & Jeanette Laszczynski Deena Pers X Grace Pesikey & Janet Urdahl* Russ Phipps & Stephen Jacobs* Peter Pizzolongo & Carlos Prugue* Roni Posner X Pat Powell Renata Price & Yona Zucker* Joseph Purdy & Anthony Pontorno Pierce Quinlan & Ginny Daly Thomas Ramsey & Chris Murray Susan Reinagel & Dawn Henderson Pat Renninger & Tammy Plumley X Judy Rosenstein & Elva Weininger X Katherine Sams* Richard Sargent* Gary Schell & Jim DiRago Betsy Schmidt & Beth Greenapple X Rosemarie Schmidt & Carolyn Horn X Laurie Schneider & Margie Ripalda* Teri Seaton & Rena Frampton-Seaton Michael Seifert & Harvey Holthaus* Craig Sencindiver & Gary Alexander* Sue Shevlin & Ren Culp* Frank Shockley & Arthur Henry Matthew Stensrud & Michael Cohen Greig Stewart & Jake Hudson* Robert Stoltzfus & Gerald Warhola* Brian Straka* Sandra Sullivan & Lorie Seaman* David Szumski & James Carfagno Trudie Thompson Thrasher’s French Fries Jeffrey Trunzo & Herman Goodyear* James Vernicek & Jeff Dailey* Tama Viola Don Wainwright & Tom Jamison* Elizabeth Way & Dorothy Dougherty* Donald Wessel William Wheatley Ralph Wiest & Anthony Peraine* Daryle Williams & Steven Fretwell Terry Wise & Beth Shank* Melanie Wolfe & Monica Niccolai Sherri Wright & Dick Byrne* Niki Zaldivar & Cecil McNeil X Kathryn Zimmerman Helaine Zinaman & Roselyn Abitbol X

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Alan Anderson X Daniel Anderson & Greg Melanson Lois Andreasen & Jean McCullough* Andrea Andrus & Maggie Shaw X Peter Antolini X Patricia Antonisse X Wanda Armwood & Illona Williams Judith & Wanda Ashbrook Jan Atwell Terry August Jack Ay & James Krebsbach* Kathleen Bailey X David & Sandra Baker John Baker & Richard Latham X June Baker* Ruth Ball & Mary Ellen Jankowski* Susie Ball & Susan Delaney X Michael Barnes & Scott O’Neill Sarah Barnett Curtiss Barrows X Brian Bartels Eric Barton & Greg Nagel John Batchelor X Sherry Baxter & Robin O’Neil Karen Beck Beebe Medical Foundation* Mike Behringer & Nelson Correa Sheryl Bender & Doreen DiLorenzo* George Benes & Michael Mallee X Suzanne Bennethum & Deborah Smith Norman Bennett & Marco Morales Joel Berelson & Charles Maples* Lisa Beske Peter Bezrucik* Christine Bielenda & Karen Feuchtenberger* Thomas Biesiadny X Deb Bievenour & usan Shollenberger Lorraine Biros Cathin Bishop & Laura Simon X Jason Blachek Ann Black & Kaye Wachsmuth X Carol Blair* Eric Blondin - State Farm Insurance Rehoboth Beach X Jacquelyn Blue X Rev. Dr. Tom Bohache & Tom Laughingwolf Simmons X Annabelle Boire Carl Bomberger & Mike Rhoads Robin Bond & Leanna Johannes* Bob Bonitati X Joy Boone & Marina Simmers X Randall Borgerson X Sheri & Carl Borrin Pete Borsari X Laura Borsdorf X Darice Bowles & Gerry Sue Davis* David & Donna Bowman X Deni Boyer & Loretta Imbrogono Beth Bozman Jim Brady & Mike Hays X Victor Branham & Mark Clark Kelly Brennan & Susan McVey William Briganti & Gary Moore Susan Brinsfield John & Bud Broda-Knudsen Debora Brooke * Cathy Brown Gladys Brown Kevin Brown X Lyn Brown & Winsome Boyd Tina Brown Diane Bruce & Annie Sorvillo* Daniel Bruner & Tim Beymer Marilyn Bryant Belinda Buras & Linda Simeone

Geoffrey Burkhart & Bruce Williams* Carol L. Burnett X Mary Jean Burns & Novalyn Winfield Rob Burns & Cris Hamer* Timothy B. Bush X Randy Butt & Emerson Bramble* James Byrnes X Chris Cahill X Robertine Cale Ingrid Callmann & Karen Askins* Leslie Calman & Jane Gruenebaum* Michele Campisi & Julie A. Slick X Matt Carey X Jim Carlo X Justine Carpenter X Shirley Carpenter & Mary Coldren X Lisa Carrol & Deb Dubois X Marianna Carson & Laura Bobo Alice Casey Jo Cason & Peggy Neidlinger Teresa Cason & Lynda Schepler X Linda Chaney & Irene Lawlor* Helen Chang & Pat Avery Dr. Harvey J. Chasser X Mike Chateauneuf X Anthony Chiffolo & Rusty Hesse* Dan Childers & Ted Hernandez* Tom Childers & John Hall X Sandra Chinchilla & Michelle Holmes X Curt Christensen & Ellen Heald* Billy J. Christian X Dennis Chupella & Rob White X Norma K. Clark X Terry Clark* Barbara Clipper Amy Clouse & Betty Long X Carolyn Cole & Sandy McDevitt X Nancy Commisso* Stuart Comstock-Gay X Inez Conover X Bill Cooley & Ken Watkins DVM X Joshua Cooper & Stephen Rathburn Jeffery A. Coover X Michael Cornell X Lois Corson & Mary Murdoch X Mary Costa & Kris Nygaard Becky & Tom Craft X Wendy Cramer & Carolyn Baranowski* Theresa-Ann Crivelli & Angela Murray Robert Crocetti X Bill Cross & David McCall X Donald Crowl* Richard Culver Mark Cunningham & Ken Tattersall X Howard Cyr & Lynn Ashley* Ellen Dahl Susan Daily Charles Daniels William T. Darley X Joseph Davey & H. Ralph Fletcher Jeff Davidson & Steve Yahn Marsha Davis & Bev Lesher X Kathy Davison & Ruth Dickerson X Frederick Dean & Steven Swierzy X Linda Dean & Donna Whiteside* Penny Lee Dean Scott Dechen & James Maino Michael Decker X Susan Deise & Jerri Budzinski Bernie Delia X Claire Dente & Leslie Campo* Stefani Deoul* Karen DeSantis & Carol Brice* Nancy DeToma & Meg Smith

David DeVargas & Steven Champion X Barbara Devenport & Susan Brinsfield Carolyn DeVito Henry & Marcia DeWitt X Geri Dibiase Photography* Julie Dickson X Richard Dietz Phyllis Dillinger Mary Dipietro & Wendy Schadt* Romana Dobbs Deb Dobransky & Ketty Bennett* Arthur Dochterman X David & Lizann Dockety X Peg Dolan & Mary McDevitt X Debra Doricchi Andy Dorosky & Greg Oliver* Debbie & Karen Dorris* Kathryn Downs Frances Doyle X Diane Drabositz Paul Dradransky X Michael Driscoll & Ben McOmber X Susan Dube & Diana Patterson* Deanna Duby & Carol Bruce Barry Dunkin Deborah Duran Gregory DuRoss Gene Dvornick X Sue Early X Frank Echols & Robert Robinson Eden Restaurant X Gail Elliott & Bea Hickey Pamela Elliott W. Kay Ellis Susan Farr & Joanne Pozzo Rene Fechter & Cynthia Smith Larry & Ro Fedorka Karen Ferguson Virginia Fessler & Chris Patton Jayne & Ro Fetterman* Irene & Edward Fick* Allen Fred Fielding X Joe Filipek & Larry Richardson X Mark Finkelstein & Michael Zeik X Paul Finn & Joseph Porporino Rick Fischer X Barbara Fischetti & Janet Thoden Gary Fisher & Josh Bushey* Barbara Fitzpatrick & Denise Centinaro Chuck Flanagan & George Whitehouse X David Flohr & Steven Kuschuck* Paul Florentino & Chris Pedersen X Anthony Forrest & Glyn Edwards Roland Forster & David McDonald Daniel Foskey* John J. Foster Jr. Beebe Frazer X Phil Fretz X Billiemichelle & Evelyn Friel* Neil Frock & Bob Harrison* Marilyn Fuller & Teresa Marigliano Lorraine Gaasche & Jill Mayer* Charles Gable Frank Gainer & Ramon Santos* Lynn Gaites & Faye Koslow X Nina Galerstein* Marcia Gallo & Ann Cammett Jerry Gallucci & Conrad Welch Marilyn Gamble & Joan Morgan Karen Gantz & Jeanie Geist Kathryn Gantz & Kathryn Gehret Don Gardiner X Cheri Garnet & Cynthia Arno Mindy Gasthalter* Wilson Gates X MARCH 6, 2020

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OPPOSITE PAGE 1) Mitch Crane, Jeffrey Davis, Delaware Attorney General Kathleen Jennings, Peter Schott, and Marty Rendon at Stonewall Democrats Annual Meeting. 2) Tracy Limmer, Dominick Mannello, Wayne Hodge, Alex Reed, Gia Gunn, Matthew Rice, Bobby Hughes, Jim Burke, Joe Scott, Paul Ptizermayer, Wes McNealy, Mona Lotts, and David Gonce at The Pines. 3) Ah Bashir, Dan Kyle, Gary Seiden, Pete McKinley, Tony Burns, Marvin Miller, and Rick Hardy at Lupo Italian Kitchen. 4) Linda Wieser, Kim Schuler, Cindy Ann, Robin Strong, Lita Weiss, Zoe Vette, Kris Martino, Pam Wiley, Jill Kerney, Shelly Conaway, Angie Falise, Teri Agosta, Kim Witmer, and Laura Reitman at Winter White Party at the Glade. 5) Andy Dorosky and Chuck McSweeney at Purple Parrot.

THIS PAGE 6) Mike Webster, Lowell Scott, Ron Hargis, Michael McCormick, Damien Gray, Latez Hudson, Brian Gray, Dave Calhoun, Rod Cook, Jamie Romano, Chris Chandler, Todd Fritzler, and Chris Ferrone at Purple Parrot.

7) Michelle Holmes, Robin Rohn, Mary Mahoney, Ken Grier, Glenn Fornoff, Darryl Ciarlante, and Charlie Garrison at Diego’s Bar and Nightclub. 8) Sally Packard, Diana Beebe, Gabriele Tillenlourg, and Dinah Reath at Rehoboth Art League. 9) Mike Glinski, Mansie Lyer, Mark Kehoe, Dan Lutz, Paul Maltaghati, Peter Milioti, Chuck McSweeney, Samer Alhawamdeh, David Franco, Matthew Stensrud, Colin Brewer, and Michael Cohen at Blue Moon.

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By Marj Shannon

No Shamrock Required: Taking “Luck” Out of the Health Care Access Equation

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odies and Barriers: Queer Activists on Health is a compelling new book that recounts the experiences of LGBTQ people as they navigate the health care landscape. It includes the stories of 26 individuals’ encounters with providers who were too often clueless or even hostile; too seldom compassionate and competent. Their experiences—engaging, instructive, and often poignant—serve not only to inform, but also to inspire.

Organized across four broad segments of the lifespan (youth, young adults, middle-age adults, and older adults), the book provides a chronological journey through diverse LGBTQ people’s lives. Noting the intent was to cover as broad an experience as possible, editor Adrian Shanker notes he “went wide instead of deep.”

Among the contributors is Alisa Bowman (“Navigating Pediatric Care for Transgender Youth”), who ghosted her seven-year-old’s pediatrician; she realized that her child’s non-conforming gender expression had never been discussed during their visits. “It was akin to treating a child’s high blood sugar and never once saying anything to the parents about type I diabetes,” she laments.

And then there’s Liz Margolies who, in “Gender, Cancer and Me,” reports on “…what health disparities look like in real life,” as she loses too many friends to cancer and digs into the contributing factors—such as less-frequent screening or social stressors—which may put LGBTQ people at greater risk.

Justin Sabia-Tanis, in “Grieving Together: LGBT Bereavement Support Groups,” relays his largely-positive experience as the only man—and only queer person—in a grief group otherwise composed of straight women. But he reports also on the added value an LGBTQ-specific group afforded him: “I could relax and tell my unedited story….”

The book, heralded by NBC News as one of “10 LGBTQ books to watch for in 2020,” hit the shelves on March 1.

Letters talked with editor Adrian Shanker just a few weeks before its release.

Tell us how you came to develop this book.

A couple things that happened around the same time made me realize this book was necessary. First, I was in graduate school at George Washington University’s LGBT Health Policy and Practice Program. I was surprised to discover I could not find published literature written by LGBT health care consumers that was aimed at improving the health care system. What I could find was written about LGBT people— by professionals or researchers—but not by LGBT people.

Second, I had a negative experience with a dermatologist due to my LGBT identity. From the minute I walked into the waiting room till the moment I left, I felt the care provided wasn’t intended for people like me. For example, the intake forms were unnecessarily restrictive; the waiting room catered to a different clientele. There were no visible signs of affirmation or welcoming. Fox News was playing on the waiting room TV, broadcasting a biased news program about LGBT people. When I got in to see the physician, he made assumptions instead of asking questions.

Frankly, I needed this book to exist.

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The writing—and topics—vary widely across chapters. Was this variation purposeful?

When you’ve heard one LGBT person’s story, you’ve heard one person’s story.

I’m white and relatively young (32) and have health insurance and ready access to health care. I wanted to put together a collection that provided a much more diverse story than just my story.

Barriers to care are very pervasive and affect every part of LGBT people’s lives. I wanted a book that would narrate the barriers within our community; one that would curate a conversation about barriers to care.

What one main message would you like LGBTQ people to take away from this book?

I hope LBGT people find they are not alone in their stories. Their experiences are not isolated; unfortunately, the barriers in health care are systemic. But when we share our stories—loudly and in venues where we can be heard—we have the power to change the system.

What one main message would you like health care professionals to take away from this book?

If you provide care in a way that assumes you can provide the same care to all people, in the same exact way for all patients, you are leaving LGBT patients behind. “One size fits all” does not work. Our lives are different, our experiences are different, our bodies are different, and our health care needs are different.

What do you feel is the most valuable contribution this book makes to LGBTQ health literature and literacy?

There’s very little published that both tells our stories as LGBT people and is able to really reach health care

professionals. To do so, our stories have to be presented in a way that is well-sourced and provides an evidence base. It’s not enough just to tell our stories; we have to back up our stories with the available data. That’s what this book does: it merges our personal stories and lived experiences with well-sourced information that can be utilized to improve care.

If a health care provider wanted to communicate a “welcome” to LGBTQ patients/potential patients, what’s the first thing you’d recommend they do?

The very first thing is training—not only for clinicians, but for the entire practice.

It should include the intake person, the billing staff, the insurance people, the nurses, the physician assistants— everyone.

And that training should not be just in cultural humility—it needs to include medical competency. Clinicians need to develop the skills they need to treat the LGBT population. For example, a pediatrician should understand the basics of LGBT youth, and be able to address the essential health needs of LGBT youth. The provider should be well-informed about puberty blockers, hormone therapy, binding, and so on.

After developing an understanding of the medical component, THEN the provider can set up the waiting room and offices to be welcoming. It is inauthentic to do things like offer affirming forms before a provider is trained and ready to provide care.

How do you hope this book will be used?

First, I hope it’s read by people who work in health care or plan to work in health care. Hearing the lived experiences of LGBT consumers will make health care better.

Second, I hope it’s read by policy makers of all sorts, e.g., those who

develop policies for school districts, or the White House, or health insurance companies, or health networks. Hearing the lived experiences of people and creating responsive policies leads to better health outcomes.

And finally, I hope it is read by LGBT activists, and health care activists, and everyday people. Hearing these experiences might motivate them to mobilize to develop a better health care system that works for all of us. ▼

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Adrian Shanker, editor of Bodies and Barriers, is Executive Director of BradburySullivan LGBT Community Center in Allentown, Pennsylvania. An accomplished activist and organizer for LGBT health equity, Shanker has developed numerous health promotion campaigns to advance health equity through behavioral, clinical, and policy changes.

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health+wellness Classes and Events TAI CHI Tai Chi is an ancient Chinese system of mind-body-spirit health, based on the wisdom of the Tao and the I Ching.

Tai Chi can have many health benefits including: lowering blood pressure, and reducing leg, neck, and back pain.

Research has shown that practicing Tai Chi promotes balance and is an effective way for older adults to reduce risk of falling. Classes are free and all ages and fitness levels are welcome! ⊲ 1:00 p.m. on March 11, 18, and 25

GAY MEN’S DISCUSSION GROUP The men’s group serves as a place for gay, bisexual, and transgender men to network and share experiences that are important. Group members offer support for one another, which helps promote a healthier environment for all gay men.

The group meets the 2nd and 4th Wednesdays of each month at 7 p.m. at Epworth United Methodist Church, 19285 Holland Glade Road.

AA MEETING—OPEN DISCUSSION AA meets every Thursday at noon. ⊲ 12:00 p.m. on March 12, 19, and 26 AA—YOUNG PEOPLE’S MEETING This group meets every Tuesday at 8:00 p.m. ⊲ 8:00 p.m. on March 10, 17 and 24

POSITIVELY TRANS This is a FREE group for those who identify as transgender. The focus will be to discuss the positive aspects of identifying as transgender.

The group will meet for six weeks, and will be facilitated by Cyd Vordenbaum, a licensed clinical therapist.

Topics will include: • enhanced interpersonal relationships, personal growth, and resiliency • increased empathy/a unique perspective on both sexes • living beyond the sex binary • increased activism and connection to the LGBTQ communities The group meets Wednesdays at 6 p.m. ⊲ 6:00 p.m. on March 11 and 18

A MATTER OF BALANCE This course can help you avoid a dangerous fall so you keep doing the things you want to do. During the class you will learn how to: • increase your mobility with exercise • increase strength, coordination, and balance • keep yourself and your home environment safe This program is FREE. Please register on Eventbrite. ⊲ 9:00 a.m. on March 12, 19, 26, and April 2 AARP & CAMP REHOBOTH AARP and CAMP Rehoboth invite you to a night out in Lewes on May 7th from 4:00-6:30 p.m. Be our guest and meet us at the Lightship Overfalls at the Lewes Canalfront Park for a VIP tour of the ship. Afterwards, join us under the stars for music, hors d’oeuvres, and cocktails on the waterfront. Mix and mingle with friends and make new ones. Come learn

about AARP and the work they are doing for the LGBTQ community, hear what new projects CAMP Rehoboth is starting, and get a tour of one of the 17 remaining Lightships in the nation. No cost to you but please RSVP at camprehoboth.com.

SOCIAL SECURITY 101 This seminar will take place on Friday, May 15, at 3 p.m. and will cover the purpose and eligibility criteria for all of the Social Security Administration’s benefit programs.

Besides retirement benefits, Social Security also offers disability benefits to individuals aged 18 years and older and survivor benefits to children and widowed spouses. Concerns about the future solvency of these programs will be addressed, followed by an overview of the online services available through Social Security’s website. Workers can use these services throughout their careers for financial planning purposes and later, while collecting Social Security, to manage their benefits. Finally, there will be a discussion about how to best protect yourself from the ongoing Social Security telephone scams targeting everyone, regardless of age, living in America. A Q&A session will follow the presentation. This program is relevant to everyone aged 18 years and older.

HEALTH & WELLNESS PROGRAM DIRECTOR Salvatore Seeley HIV CTR COUNSELORS Jerry Filbin, Allen Cuff, Niki Nicholson, Alan Spiegelman THRIVE YOUTH COORDINATOR Barbara Antlitz

Programs are held at CAMP Rehoboth Community Center, 37 Baltimore Ave, Rehoboth Beach, unless otherwise indicated.

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CAMPDates SUNDAYS

• Alcoholics Anon. Open Discussion. CAMP Rehoboth Community Ctr., 37 Baltimore Ave. 9 am • 2nd Sunday. Conversations with Caffeine hosted by Delaware Pride. Panera Bread, 3650 Kirkwood Hwy., Wilmington. 1-3 pm. delawarepride.org • 4th Sunday of each month. Healing Circle.

CAMP Rehoboth Community Ctr., 37 Baltimore Ave. 5 pm. nate@natemetz.com • Ed Mills. Rigby’s Bar & Grill, 404 Rehoboth Ave. 5 pm. 302-227-6080 • Last Sunday of each month. TransSocial of Delaware. Metropolitan Community Church, 19369 Plantations Rd., Lewes. 7 pm. meetup. com/Rehoboth-TransLiance • The Birdcage Bad Girls Drag Show. Purple Parrot Grill, 134 Rehoboth Ave. 10 pm. 302-226-1139

MONDAYS

• HIV Testing. CAMP Rehoboth Community Ctr., 37 Baltimore Ave. 12:30-4:30 pm. 302-227-5620 • 2nd & 4th Mondays. HIV Testing. CAMP Rehoboth at Jewish Family Services, 20684 John J Williams Hwy., Lewes. 302-227-5620 • Matthew Kenworthy. Rigby’s Bar & Grill, 404 Rehoboth Ave. 5 pm. 302-227-6080

TUESDAYS

• HIV Testing. CAMP Rehoboth at ACE Georgetown, 20707 DuPont Blvd., Georgetown.

10 am-2 pm. 302-227-5620 • 1st & 3rd Tuesdays. HIV Testing, Macedonia AME Church, 431 North St. Seaford. 10 am-2 pm.

302-227-5620 • 2nd Tuesday. PFLAG. Lewes Library, 111 Adams St. 6 pm. pflagrehobothbeach@gmail.com • 3rd Tuesday. Kent County LGBT Dover Support and Social Group. Christ Episcopal Church, 523 South State St., Dover. 7 pm. lgbtdover_kent@yahoo.com • Young People’s AA. CAMP Rehoboth Community Ctr., 37 Baltimore Ave. 8 pm

WEDNESDAYS

• HIV Testing. CAMP Rehoboth at the Laurel State Service Center, 31039 North Poplar St., Laurel.

10 am-2 pm. 302-227-5620 • Tai Chi. CAMP Rehoboth Community Ctr., 37 Baltimore Ave. 1 pm. FREE. 302-227-5620 • 1st Wednesday. PTK South (Parents of Transgender Kids). Bayhealth Hospital, Sussex Campus, Milford. 6:30 pm. parentstranskidssouth@gmail.com • 2nd Wednesday. Alzheimer’s Caregiver Support Group. CAMP Rehoboth Community Ctr., 37 Baltimore Ave. 6:30 pm. 302-227-5620 • 2nd & 4th Wednesdays. Men’s Discussion Group. Epworth United Methodist Church, 19285 Holland Glade Rd. 7 pm. 302-227-5620 • Karaoke w/Rick. Rigby’s Bar & Grill, 404 Rehoboth Ave. 8 pm. 302-227-6080

THURSDAYS

• HIV Testing. CAMP Rehoboth at ACE Seaford, 547 N. Bradford St., Seaford. 10 am-2 pm.

302-227-5620 • Alcoholics Anon. CAMP Rehoboth Community Ctr., 37 Baltimore Ave. 12 noon. 302-856-6452

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• 3rd Thursday. PFLAG Middletown. St. Paul’s Methodist Church, 406 Main St., Odessa. 6:30 pm. 802-279-8100. pflagmiddletowndelaware@ gmail.com • Holly Lane w/John Flynn. Café Azafran, 18 Baltimore Ave. 7 pm. 302-227-8100 • SLAA/SAA Meeting. All Saints’ Church Hall, Lower Level, 18 Olive Ave. 7:30 pm. 302-745-7929 • Karaoke. Rigby’s Bar & Grill, 404 Rehoboth Ave. 8 pm. 302-227-6080 • Karaoke. Purple Parrot Grill, 134 Rehoboth Ave. 9 pm. 302-226-1139

FRIDAYS

• Karaoke w/Mike & Scott. Rigby’s Bar & Grill, 404 Rehoboth Ave. 8 pm. 302-227-6080 • Karaoke. Purple Parrot Grill, 134 Rehoboth Ave. 9 pm. 302-226-1139

SATURDAYS

• 1st & 3rd Saturdays. Coffee Talk. CAMP Rehoboth Community Ctr., 37 Baltimore Ave. 10 am • Karaoke w/Mike & Scott. Rigby’s Bar & Grill, 404 Rehoboth Ave. 9 pm. 302-227-6080 • Karaoke. Purple Parrot Grill, 134 Rehoboth Ave. 9 pm. 302-226-1139

MARCH 6 • Kiss Me Kate. Clear Space Theatre Company, 20 Baltimore Ave. 7 pm. 302-227-2270 or clearspacetheatre.org • One Lucky Night With the Dame: Dame Edna Tribute. The Milton Theatre, 110 Union St. 8 pm.

302-684-3038 or miltontheatre.com

MARCH 7 • Kiss Me Kate. Clear Space Theatre Company, 20 Baltimore Ave. 7 pm. 302-227-2270 or clearspacetheatre.org • The Funsters. The Milton Theatre, 110 Union St. 8 pm. 302-684-3038 or miltontheatre.com

MARCH 8 • Kiss Me Kate. Clear Space Theatre Company, 20 Baltimore Ave. 3 pm. 302-227-2270 or clearspacetheatre.org • Janglebachs: Music of the Woodstock Generation. The Milton Theatre, 110 Union St. 7 pm. 302-684-3038 or miltontheatre.com

MARCH 11 • Positively Trans. CAMP Rehoboth Community Ctr., 37 Baltimore Ave. 6 pm. 302-227-5620

MARCH 12 • Kiss Me Kate. Clear Space Theatre Company, 20 Baltimore Ave. 3 pm. 302-227-2270 or clearspacetheatre.org

MARCH 13 • Kiss Me Kate. Clear Space Theatre Company, 20 Baltimore Ave. 7 pm. 302-227-2270 or clearspacetheatre.org • Split Man: Andy Gross. The Milton Theatre, 110 Union St. 8 pm. 302-684-3038 or miltontheatre.com

MARCH 14 • Brandywine Baroque presents The Duenna. The Lutheran Church of Our Savior, 20276 Bay Vista

Rd. 2:30 pm. 302-652-4190 or brandywinebaroque.org • Kiss Me Kate. Clear Space Theatre Company, 20 Baltimore Ave. 7 pm. 302-227-2270 or clearspacetheatre.org • Divalicious: Celebrity Impersonator Holly Faris.

The Milton Theatre, 110 Union St. 8 pm.

302-684-3038 or miltontheatre.com

MARCH 15 • Kiss Me Kate. Clear Space Theatre Company, 20 Baltimore Ave. 3 pm. 302-227-2270 or clearspacetheatre.org

MARCH 18 • Positively Trans. CAMP Rehoboth Community Ctr., 37 Baltimore Ave. 6 pm. 302-227-5620.

MARCH 19 • Volunteer Opportunities Meeting. CAMP Rehoboth Community Ctr., 37 Baltimore Ave. 6 pm.

302-227-5620 or volunteer@camprehoboth.com • Fellow Travelers: Irish Folk Music. The Milton Theatre, 110 Union St. 7:30 pm. 302-684-3038 or miltontheatre.com

MARCH 20 • Kiss Me Kate. Clear Space Theatre Company, 20 Baltimore Ave. 7 pm. 302-227-2270 or clearspacetheatre.org • The Funny Thing About Being Irish: Stand-up Comedy. The Milton Theatre, 110 Union St. 8 pm.

302-684-3038 or miltontheatre.com

MARCH 21 • Wish Upon A Star: Broadway’s Grace Field. The Milton Theatre, 110 Union St. 2 pm. 302-6843038 or miltontheatre.com • Kiss Me Kate. Clear Space Theatre Company, 20 Baltimore Ave. 7 pm. 302-227-2270 or clearspacetheatre.org • Men In Motion: Male Revue. The Milton Theatre, 110 Union St. 8 pm. 302-684-3038 or miltontheatre.com

MARCH 22 • Kiss Me Kate. Clear Space Theatre Company, 20 Baltimore Ave. 3 pm. 302-227-2270 or clearspacetheatre.org • Wish Upon A Star: Broadway’s Grace Field. The Milton Theatre, 110 Union St. 2 pm. 302-6843038 or miltontheatre.com

MARCH 25 • Wizard of Oz: Dress-up & sing-along film screening. The Milton Theatre, 110 Union St. 2 pm. 302-684-3038 or miltontheatre.com • Wizard of Oz: Dress-up & sing-along film screening. The Milton Theatre, 110 Union St. 7 pm. 302-684-3038 or miltontheatre.com

MARCH 26 • Nighttrain: Guns N’ Roses Tribute. The Milton Theatre, 110 Union St. 7:30 pm. 302-684-3038 or miltontheatre.com

APRIL 10 • Godspell. The Milton Theatre, 110 Union St. 8 pm. 302-684-3038 or miltontheatre.com

APRIL 11 • Godspell. The Milton Theatre, 110 Union St. 2 pm. 302-684-3038 or miltontheatre.com • Godspell. The Milton Theatre, 110 Union St. 8 pm. 302-684-3038 or miltontheatre.com

APRIL 12 • Godspell. The Milton Theatre, 110 Union St. 2 pm. 302-684-3038 or miltontheatre.com • Godspell. The Milton Theatre, 110 Union St. 7 pm. 302-684-3038 or miltontheatre.com

APRIL 18 • Philadelphia Gay Men’s Chorus presents “Broadway Cabaret”. CAMP Rehoboth Community Ctr., 37 Baltimore Ave. 4 pm. $25 pp.

302-227-5620. camprehoboth.com • Philadelphia Gay Men’s Chorus presents “Broadway Cabaret”. CAMP Rehoboth Community Ctr., 37 Baltimore Ave. 8 pm. $25 pp.

302-227-5620. camprehoboth.com

APRIL 19 • CAMP Rehoboth Volunteer Appreciation Party.

CAMP Rehoboth Community Ctr., 37 Baltimore Ave. 3-5 pm.

• Dance Craze of the 80s w/DJ Shrone. The Pines, 56 Baltimore Ave. 5-8 pm. $10 pp.

Hor D’oeuvres. Cash bar.

APRIL 26 • 23rd Annual Celebrity Chefs’ Brunch to benefit Meals on Wheels Delaware. DuPont Country Club, Wilmington. 11:30 am. mealsonwheelsde.org • CAMP Rehoboth Chorus presents “Legends.”

Sussex Academy, 21150 Airport Rd. Georgetown.

3 pm. $25. camprehoboth.com

APRIL 29—MAY 3 • CAMP Rehoboth Women’s FEST.

APRIL 29 • Women’s FEST Welcome Dance in honor of Georgette Krenkel w/Viki Dee and DJ Jamie Fox. Rehoboth Beach Convention Ctr., 229 Rehoboth Ave. 7 pm. FREE. 302-227-5620/ camprehoboth.com

APRIL 30 • Women’s FEST Golf Outing (weather permitting).

The Rookery South, 27052 Broadkill Road. 9 am. $70 pp (max. 80 players). camprehoboth.com • Women’s FEST presents Chely Wright. Rehoboth Beach Convention Ctr., 229 Rehoboth Ave. 7 pm.

Included with FEST Pass. camprehoboth.com

MAY 1 • Women’s FEST Yoga on the Beach (weather permitting). Atlantic Sands Hotel, 1 Baltimore Ave. 8:30 am. FREE. 302-227-5620/ camprehoboth.com • Women’s FEST Pickleball Doubles Tournament.

Dave Marshall Tennis Club, 1600 Pennsylvania Ave., Lewes. 8:30 am. $24 per team. camprehoboth.com • Women’s FEST and Beebe Healthcare Health Fair. CAMP Rehoboth Community Ctr., 37 Baltimore Ave. 9 am-2 pm. FREE. 302-227-5620/ camprehoboth.com

• Women’s FEST Bingo with Vicki Shaw and Lisa Koch. Atlantic Sands Hotel, 1 Baltimore Ave. 10 am. $10pp at the door. 302-227-5620/ camprehoboth.com • Women’s FEST Book Fair. Atlantic Sands Hotel, 1 Baltimore Ave. 10 am. FREE. 302-2275620/camprehoboth.com • Women’s FEST Rehoboth Walking Tour (max 30 people) (weather permitting). CAMP Rehoboth, 37 Baltimore Ave. 10 am. FREE. 302-227-5620/camprehoboth.com • Women’s FEST Lewes-Rehoboth Bike Ride (weather permitting). Cape Henlopen State Park Trail. 10 am. FREE. 302-227-5620/ camprehoboth.com • Women’s FEST Liz Bradbury, Art Talk. Atlantic Sands, 1 Baltimore Ave. 1:30 pm. FREE. 302-227-5620/camprehoboth.com • Women’s FEST Mariah Burton Nelson. Atlantic Sands, 1 Baltimore Ave. 2:30 pm. FREE. 302-227-5620/camprehoboth.com • Women’s FEST Photography and Art Show.

CAMP Rehoboth Community Ctr., 37 Baltimore Ave. 3-5 pm. FREE. Refreshments.

302-227-5620/camprehoboth.com • Women’s FEST Singles Mixer w/DJ Nan. G Restaurant, 234 Rehoboth Ave. 4 pm. FREE. 302-227-5620/camprehoboth.com

MARCH 6 – MAY 3 • Women’s FEST Funny Girlz Lisa Koch, Roxanna Ward, and Vickie Shaw. Rehoboth Beach Convention Ctr., 229 Rehoboth Ave. 8 pm.

Included with FEST Pass. camprehoboth.com

MAY 2 • Women’s FEST Yoga on the Beach (weather permitting). Atlantic Sands Hotel, 1 Baltimore Ave. 8:30 am. FREE. 302-227-5620/ camprehoboth.com • Women’s FEST EXPO. Rehoboth Beach Fire Hall. 219 Rehoboth Ave. 9 am. FREE. 302-227-5620/camprehoboth.com • Women’s FEST Nine-hole Golf Scramble (weather permitting). Heritage Golf Course, One Heritage Shores Circle, Bridgeville. 9 am. $36 pp (max. 36 players). 302-227-5620/ camprehoboth.com • Women’s FEST Cornhole Doubles Tournament (weather permitting). Atlantic Sands Hotel Patio, 1 Baltimore Ave. 10 am. $10 pp (one person registers team of two) (max. 25 teams). 302-227-5620/camprehoboth.com • Women’s FEST Keynote Speakers Eleanor Smeal and Toni Van Pelt. Rehoboth Beach Convention Ctr., 229 Rehoboth Ave. 11 am.

FREE. 302-227-5620/camprehoboth.com

• Women’s FEST duo Phase 2 (during the EXPO). Rehoboth Beach Fire Station, 219 Rehoboth Ave. 11 am. FREE. 302-227-5620/ camprehoboth.com • Women’s FEST speaker Regina Lombardo from the US Department of Justice. Rehoboth Beach Convention Ctr., 229 Rehoboth Ave. 1 pm. FREE. 302-227-5620/camprehoboth.com • Women’s FEST musician Regina Sayles. CAMP Rehoboth Community Ctr., 37 Baltimore Ave. 2 pm. $15 pp. camprehoboth.com • Women’s FEST film screening of All We’ve Got and discussion w/filmmaker Alexis Clements.

Atlantic Sands Ballroom, 1 Baltimore Ave. 2:30 pm. $5. camprehoboth.com • Women’s FEST presents The Indigo Girls.

Rehoboth Beach Convention Ctr., 229 Rehoboth Ave. 8 pm. camprehoboth.com

• Women’s FEST presents Fay Jacobs’ updated STILL Aging Gracelessly: 50 Shades of Fay. CAMP Rehoboth Community Ctr., 37 Baltimore Ave. 3 pm. $20 pp. camprehoboth.com

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MAY 3 • Broadwalk on the Boardwalk. CAMP Rehoboth Community Ctr., 37 Baltimore Ave. 9 am. 302-227-5620 or debreastcancer.org • Women’s FEST Farewell Party w/Viki Dee. Noon-4pm, TBD. FREE. 302-227-5620/ camprehoboth.com

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AD INDEX Accent On Travel..........................................11

Dos Locos................................................... 33

Palate......................................................... 23

Troy Roberts, Realtor.................................. 38

AG Renovations...........................................73

Eric Atkins, Realtor..................................... 23

Penny Lane Liquors.................................... 86

Unfinished Business................................... 29

Allen Jarmon, Realtor................................. 57

Gay Women of Rehoboth Meet-Up............. 71

PFLAG.......................................................... 71

Village Volunteers ..................................... 48

Beagle Real Estate Group...........................13

General Dentistry....................................... 30

Philadelphia Gay Men’s Chorus................... 9

Volunteer Opportunities............................. 83

Beebe Healthcare...................................... 69

Go Fish/GoBrit............................................ 72

Photo Restoration...................................... 34

Volunteer Thank You.................................. 83

Beebe Healthcare Career Opportunities... 27

God’s Greyts Senior Greyhounds............... 29

Purple Parrot...............................................47

Windsor’s Flowers.......................................19

Brandywine Baroque.................................. 53

Gregory Meyers Hair Studio........................ 71

Randall-Douglas......................................... 23

Women’s FEST............................................. 17

Brandywine Urology Consultants............... 25

Hugh Fuller, Realtor.................................... 46

Randy Mason/Shirley Kalvinsky, Realtors.. 29

Brandywine Valley SPCA.............................37

Immanuel Shelter....................................... 58

Rehoboth Beach Dental............................. 38

Women’s FEST Broadwalk On The Boardwalk...................................................18

Breakthru Beverage................................... 35

Insight Homes.............................................31

Rehoboth Beach Museum.......................... 58

Browseabout Books................................... 54

Jack Lingo, Real Estate.............................. 49

Rehoboth Guest House...............................19

Café Azafran................................................19

Jazz SEAduction......................................... 55

Rehoboth Massage & Alignment................ 72

CAMP Rehoboth Annual Premier Sponsors..7

Jenn Harpel, Morgan Stanley......................13

Rigby’s Bar & Grill....................................... 65

CAMP Rehoboth Chorus Legends.............. 67

John Black/Bill Peiffer, Realtors ................ 65

Ron’s Repairs.............................................. 30

CAMP Rehoboth Letters Subscription........ 83

Jolly Trolley.................................................73

Saved Souls Animal Rescue....................... 30

CAMP Rehoboth Women’s Golf League......13

Just In Thyme Restaurant........................... 40

Sea Bova Associates, Realtors................... 88

Cat and Mouse Publishing..........................73

Lana Warfield, Realtor.................................19

Chesapeake & Maine................................. 30

Lee Ann Wilkinson Group, Realtors.............37

SoDel Concepts/Thompson Island Brewing Co................................................. 59

Clear Space Theatre................................... 55

Lori’s Café.................................................. 55

Community Pride Financial Advisors...........37

Mark Engberg & Stephanie Brown, Charles Schwab...........................................73

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EDGEWATER HOUSE Rehoboth Beach. Ocean-front 2-story, 2BR/2BA condo. BRs have pool views. 8’x14’ balcony.

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POT-NETS BAYSIDE - Long Neck. 1990 3BR/2BA. Sunroom w/pellet stove. Garage.

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SILVER VIEW FARM Rehoboth. 2005 3BR/2BA w/split bedroom plan. Eat-in kitchen. Laundry area. Ready today. Pool & just 3 miles to the beach & boardwalk. $59,900

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