Letters from CAMP Rehoboth, Vol. 28, No. 14

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October 19, 2018 Volume 28, Number 14 camprehoboth.com

Inside This Issue

Speak Out ................................................................................. 4 In Brief....................................................................................... 5 CAMP Matters — The Space Between...................................... 6 CAMP Out — On My Honor........................................................ 8 President’s View — Engaging Community...............................10 Out and Proud — Senator Coons’ Civility................................ 14 View Point — Bawling and Belligerence..................................16 CAMP News — AARP, Chorus, CROP, and More......................18 Straight Talk — All in the Family............................................. 20 The Real Dirt — Garden Asleep?............................................. 22 It’s My Life — Here We Go Again............................................ 24 Eating Out — Celebrity Chef’s Beach Brunch......................... 28 Health and Wellness............................................................... 30 Intentionally Inclusive — Costume Choices............................ 38 CAMP Stories — Cure for the Common Birthday.................... 40 Volunteer Spotlight — Mike DeFlavia..................................... 44 CAMP Cheers! Ginger Breneman ........................................... 48 Remembering Joe Bowman.................................................... 54 RB Film Festival Preview......................................................... 58 CAMP Shots — Bears on the Beach, Oh My!........................... 64 Q Puzzle — Ms. Borden........................................................... 70 CAMP Interview — A Conversation with Cher........................ 80 CAMP News — Kay Cummings................................................ 82 Out and About — Out of the Felt Closet................................. 86 CAMP Critters ......................................................................... 90 CAMP Arts — The Jammies!.................................................... 94 Booked Solid — Trans Generation ........................................ 98 CAMP Dates — October 19 –December 12............................106 Letters from CAMP Rehoboth welcomes submissions.

Email editor@camprehoboth.com. Photographs must be high resolution (300 dpi). Documents should be sent as attachments in Microsoft Word®. Deadline for submissions is two weeks prior to the issue release date.

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Dia de los Muertos, cover design by Mary Beth Ramsey.

Resources Serving Delaware’s Coastal Area ACLU of DE Lesbian & Gay Civil Rights Project ..................................................... 302-654-3966 AIDS Delaware New Castle County........................................................................ 302-652-6776 AIDS Delaware Kent & Sussex Counties................................................................ 302-226-3519 AIDS Hotline Delaware statewide.......................................................................... 800-422-0429 CAMP Chorus a program of the CAMP Rehoboth Community Center................... 302-227-5620 CAMP Rehoboth Community Center LGBTQ Community Service Organization ....... 302-227-5620 CAMP Rehoboth Families allows LGBTQ parents to connect.................................. 302-227-5620 CAMP Rehoboth Parents of Transgender and Gender Non-Conforming Children........... 302-227-5620 CAMPsafe AIDS Education & Prevention program of CAMP Rehoboth ................ 302-227-5620 Christiana Care HIV Wellness Clinic AIDS Support Services, Georgetown............... 302-933-3420 Christiana Care LGBTQ Health Initiatives TRodden@christianacare.org................... 302-733-1227 Delaware HIV Consortium HIV Treatment & Prevention, Statewide ....................... 302-654-5471 Delaware Human Relations Commission Housing & Public Accomodation ............. 877-544-8626 Delaware Pride Community events, annual Pride Festival.................................... 302-265-3020 Delaware Transgender Resources transdelaware.net, delawarelgbtq@gmail.com Delaware Transgender Support Support for Trans Men & Women......................... 302-402-3033 Gay/Lesbian Alcoholics Anonymous Call for other schedules................................... 302-856-6452 Saturdays at 6 pm: Epworth Church, 19285 Holland Glade Rd. (Step Meeting) Saturdays at 7:30 pm: All Saint’s Church, 18 Olive Ave. (Step Meeting) Tuesdays at Noon: St. Peter’s Church, 211 Mulberry St., Lewes (Step Meeting) Thursdays at Noon: CAMP Rehoboth, 37 Baltimore Ave. (Open Discussion) Gay Men’s Support Group a program of the CAMP Rehoboth Community Center............. 302-227-5620 LGBT Student Union University of DE, Newark........................................................ 302-831-8066 Lesbian Support Group a program of the CAMP Rehoboth Community Center...............302-227-5620 Letters from CAMP Rehoboth LGBTQ Magazine...................................................... 302-227-5620 National Alliance on Mental Illness of DE (NAMI)....................................................... 302-427-0787 PFLAG - Rehoboth 2nd Tuesday, Public Library, 111 Adams Ave., Lewes............. 302-841-1339 SLAA and SAA Thursdays at 7:30 pm.................................................................... 302-745-7929 All Saint’s Church, 18 Olive Ave. (Church Hall-Lower Level), Rehoboth TransLiance of Delaware Rehoboth TransLiance meets the 4th Tuesday of every month 7 pm at MCC Church. Contact TransLiance@gmail.com

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CAMP Rehoboth Mission Statement and Purpose CAMP Rehoboth is a nonprofit community service organization dedicated to creating a more positive environment in Rehoboth Beach and its related communities. We seek to promote cooperation and understanding among all people, as we work to build safe, inclusive communities with room for all.

We seek to promote community well-being on all levels; to foster the development of community groups; to develop community space; to promote human and civil rights; to work against prejudice and discrimination; to lessen tensions among the community at large; and to help foster the economic growth of the area. We work toward these ends through activities such as the following: Fundraising for other organizations, such as AIDS service organizations, gay and lesbian community organizations, recycling programs, environmental projects, literacy training, and other ventures for the general betterment of the community.

Networking resources and information by publishing a newsletter, and functioning as an alternative tourist bureau and information center.

Promoting artistic expressions and creative thinking, and giving aid to artists and craftspeople with an emphasis on the works of lesbians and gay men.

Education and outreach to the larger community, including sensitivity training seminars, and printed materials to promote positive images of gay and lesbian people and others.

Promoting political awareness to build safe and inclusive community through voter information, education, and registration; and analysis of issues and candidates.

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EDITOR IN CHIEF Murray Archibald INTERIM EDITOR Fay Jacobs DESIGN AND LAYOUT Mary Beth Ramsey EDITORIAL ASSISTANCE Marj Shannon ADVERTISING SALES MANAGER Tricia Massella ADMINISTRATIVE SUPPORT Monica Parr, Barb Ralph DISTRIBUTION Tom Craft, Corky Fitzpatrick CONTRIBUTORS Murray Archibald, Sondra N. Arkin, Chris Azzopardi, Rich Barnett, Chris Beagle, Tony Burns, Wesley Combs, Stefani Deoul, Michael Thomas Ford, David Garrett, Michael Gilles, Fay Jacobs, Tricia Massella, Monica Parr, Eric C. Peterson, Mary Beth Ramsey, Richard Rosendall, Sal Seeley, Terri Schlichenmeyer, Eric W. Wahl, Debbie Woods, Doug Yetter VOLUME 28, NUMBER 14 • October 19, 2018 Letters from CAMP Rehoboth is published 15 times per year, between February and Thanksgiving, as a program of CAMP Rehoboth Inc., a non-profit community service organization.

CAMP Rehoboth seeks to create a more positive environment of cooperation and understanding among all people. Revenue generated by advertisements supports CAMP Rehoboth’s purpose as outlined in our mission statement.

The inclusion or mention of any person, group, or business in Letters from CAMP Rehoboth does not, nor is it intended to in any way, indicate sexual orientation. The content of the columns are the views and opinions of the writers and may not indicate the position of CAMP Rehoboth, Inc.

PRESIDENT • Chris Beagle VICE PRESIDENT • Leslie Sinclair SECRETARY • Shelley Couch TREASURER • Natalie Moss, CPA AT-LARGE DIRECTORS Jane Blue, Mike DeFlavia, Max Dick, Kathy McGuiness, Jack Morrison, Glen Pruitt, Mark Purpura, Tara Sheldon, Kathy Wiz INTERIM EXECUTIVE DIRECTOR • Murray Archibald HEALTH PROGRAM DIRECTOR • Sal Seeley CAMP Rehoboth 37 Baltimore Avenue Rehoboth Beach, DE 19971 302-227-5620 • Fax 302-227-5604 e-mail: editor@camprehoboth.com www.camprehoboth.com CAMP Rehoboth, Inc. is tax-exempt under section 501(c)(3) of the United States Internal Revenue Code. Contributions to CAMP Rehoboth are considered charitable contributions for federal income tax purposes and may be deducted to the fullest extent of the law. A copy of our exemption document is available for public inspection. © 2018 by CAMP Rehoboth, Inc. All rights reserved by CAMP Rehoboth. No portion of this publication may be reproduced in any form without the prior written permission of the editor.

The Way I See It

by Murray Archibald THIS IS THE NEXT TO LAST ISSUE OF OUR 28TH SEASON OF PUBLISHING LETTERS FROM CAMP Rehoboth, and I confess that I find it somewhat of a miracle that we made it through the year in as good a shape as we did. That can only be attributed to dedicated friends, family, staff, and volunteers who pitched in to provide support, encouragement, and creativity in the wake of Steve’s death. I’ve said this time and time again in recent months, this is a wonderfully supportive community, and I continue to be grateful for the love and care expressed to me and to all of us at CAMP Rehoboth.▽ NOW THAT WE ARE BACK TO PUBLISHING LETTERS ONCE A MONTH, TIMING BECOMES EVEN trickier for us. For example, the Block Party was Sunday, October 14, but this issue went to the printer the day before that—meaning that though the Block Party took place before the issue release date, it will not be covered until the November 8 issue. The same is true for the ACLU Delaware Kandler Memorial Awards Dinner on October 17. The ACLU honored Steve Elkins, Maria Matos, and Kevin O’Connell. Watch for details—and CAMPshots in November!▽ OVER THE SUMMER MONTHS, WORK ON THE NEW CAMP REHOBOTH STRATEGIC PLAN continued with individual interviews and focus groups, and on September 29, with an open community discussion and workshop at the Community Center, led by our DANA Consultant Sheila Bravo.

As I am every time members of the community gather to talk about CAMP Rehoboth, I was impressed by the level of commitment and creative support from participants.▽ SINCE THE EARLY 1990S, WORLD AIDS DAY HAS BEEN OBSERVED IN REHOBOTH BEACH, AND that tradition continues on Saturday, December 1 with the Candlelight Walk and Service of Remembrance and Hope. The Walk begins at 6:30 p.m. at the Rehoboth Beach Bandstand, and ends at All Saints’ Episcopal Church on Olive Avenue for the Service—including the reading of the names of family and friends lost to AIDS. To have a name added to the list of those read at the service, call CAMP Rehoboth or go to our website at camprehoboth.com.▽ CAMP REHOBOTH HAS BEEN A SPONSOR OF THE REHOBOTH BEACH FILM FESTIVAL FOR MANY years because we believe that the Festival lives up to the CAMP Rehoboth mission of making “room for all” by celebrating diversity and exposing all of us to new ideas and perspectives.

Though many of the year’s best LGBTQ+ films have now been moved to the Film Society’s Delaware LGBTQ+CINE-brations in April—in partnership with CAMP Rehoboth—this year’s Festival still features some LGBTQ films. Those films, along with other highlights from this year’s Festival, are featured in this issue of Letters.▽ CENTERLINK IS AN ORGANIZATION THAT SUPPORTS STRONG, SUSTAINABLE LGBTQ COMMUNITY centers, and now serves over 200 centers in 45 states (plus Puerto Rico, DC, and centers in Canada, China, and Australia). CAMP Rehoboth has been a member for several years, and though I was not able to join her, CAMP Rehoboth Vice-President Leslie Sinclair was able to attend the 2018 CenterLink Conference in Rochester, NY in September. Leslie says it was a “tremendous learning experience,” highlighted “by the chance to meet and network with Board members and executive leadership from the 87 community centers represented.”▽ ON OCTOBER 26, FROM 5:30-7:30 P.M., CAMP REHOBOTH IS PARTNERING WITH AARP TO HOST On Tap with Delaware AARP at the CAMP Rehoboth Community Center. Billed as a “fun evening with refreshments and hors d’oeuvres,” AARP is inviting us all to “discover exciting ways to connect”—and to find that we might be surprised by what we don’t know about AARP. Come discover how AARP is reaching out to the LGBTQ community and about some new programs coming to CAMP Rehoboth. To attend the event, please RSVP by calling 877-926-8300. ▽ IT IS BELIEVED BY MANY THAT FALL IS THE BEST TIME OF THE YEAR IN REHOBOTH BEACH. Enjoy the season—and the Film Festival, Sea Witch, and Halloween. Trick or Treat? ▽

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SpeakOut What can we do about nefarious attempts to undermine our democracy?

How can we counter cyber attacks intended to skew the facts, sow dissension, and polarize voters? Only an unprecedented turnout at the polls on Election Day, November 6, will demonstrate to the world that we will not succumb to underhanded attempts to destroy confidence in our democratic elections.

Here in Sussex County, we can stand up and demonstrate our commitment to government by the people by taking time to find out who the candidates are and where they stand on issues that affect our everyday lives.

Even as the votes we cast will influence the direction that the US Congress takes on critical issues such as health care, international trade, environmental protection, immigration, and social policy, our choices of candidates on the state and county levels will directly impact our quality of life. To make our votes really count, we need to know how each candidate is likely to vote on basic issues such as water quality, land use, economic development, road improvements, gun violence, funding for education, drug use and abuse, and managing the budget.

Voters can find and compare the candidates’ views on key issues on the nonpartisan VOTE411.org site.

Government by the people can only happen if we the people actually participate. The League of Women Voters urges everyone to consider the issues at stake, to ask questions and insist on honest answers, and to stand up to be counted on Election Day. Martha Redmond, President League of Women Voters of Sussex County On behalf of CAMP Rehoboth and the Women’s FEST team, we say “THANK YOU” to all who attended the Reunion Tour Concert on Friday September 21.

The performers were overwhelmed by the welcome they received, and both the size and the warmth of the sold-out crowd. They were also thrilled by the crowd rushing to thank them after the Letters 4 OCTOBER 19, 2018

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show and purchase their music CDs. A special thanks goes to Epworth United Methodist Church for hosting this CAMP Rehoboth event and all the volunteers who worked so hard to make it happen.

Finally—and critically importantly—a big shout out to all our sponsors, including Presenting Sponsor, Olivia Travel; Karen Gustafson, Realtor for Keller Williams, Move2Rehoboth.com; Jenn Harpel, Morgan Stanley; the estate of Georgette Krenkel, in her memory; Kate McQueen; KPG Global, LLC of Lewes, DE; and Kathy Bostedo and Jo Picone. Special thanks, as well, to the Delaware Division of the Arts for their generous support.

Nancy Hewish, CAMP Rehoboth Women’s FEST Committee I write this letter in support of Don Allan, candidate for State Representative, 36th District. Don is a second-generation carpenter from a family of blue collar workers, a husband, and a father. He understands firsthand how hard it is for working families to make ends meet today.

Some parents work several jobs and still struggle to provide for their families, much less save for the future or plan for their children’s futures.

Don understands the struggles of Delaware’s seniors, some of whom choose between food and medicine, healthcare and utility bills. Seniors who have worked hard their whole lives should live their golden years in comfort and dignity.

To protect Delaware’s families, Don wants to level the playing field.

For example, he supports additional personal income tax (PIT) brackets for wealthier Delawareans. Currently, Delaware has six PIT brackets, but all Delawareans making $60,000 per year or more pay the same rate. That is morally unacceptable and financially foolish, denying the state a steady long-term revenue source.

Don will fight to protect Delaware’s seniors—ensuring that vital programs are not cut and are expanded. He will also stand up for the protection

and expansion of Medicaid, Medicare, and Social Security. Don will also fight to protect the hard-earned rights of Delaware’s LGBT citizens, whom he supports fully and vocally.

Another issue about which Don is passionate is clean drinking water. He realizes that this is a public health crisis affecting many Delawareans, especially in Sussex County. We must address the crisis now.

I urge readers to learn about Don Allan and then join me in supporting him.

Eric Morrison, Newark, DE

Email letters to Letters to editor@camp rehoboth.com. Letters may be edited for length and clarity.

Light a Candle on World Aids Day World AIDS Day is December 1, and the occasion will once again be observed in Rehoboth Beach with a Candlelight Walk and a Service of Remembrance and Hope (including the reading of the names of friends and family lost to the disease). To have the name of a loved one added to the list of names to be read at the service, email worldaidsday@ camprehoboth.com. The Candlelight Walk begins at 6:30 p.m. at the Rehoboth Bandstand; the Service of Remembrance and Hope begins at 7 p.m. at All Saints’ Episcopal Church on Olive Avenue. A light supper will be served following the service. ▼

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Around the World with Letters!

Fay J­­­acobs—Girl Scouts Woman of Distinction

BARCELONA, SPAIN Andrea Jones

Wedding Bells are Ringing in Rehoboth Shelley Couch and Lauren Thomas celebrated their wedding at CAMP Rehoboth on Saturday, September 24. Larry Richardson and Joe Filipek were married in a ceremony in their beautiful home overlooking Silver Lake on Saturday, October 6. ▼

Longtime Letters from CAMP Rehoboth columnist Fay Jacobs was honored on September 26 by the Girl Scouts of the Chesapeake Bay region as the 2018 Woman of Distinction. Among those attending the award luncheon at Baywood were (from left) Rehoboth Beach Commissioner Lisa Schlosser, Bonnie Quesenberry, Fay Jacobs, Pam Kozey and CAMP Rehoboth Board Member Tara Sheldon. ▼

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THE SPACE BETWEEN

“We hid in the closet.

We hid from the world around us. We were the ones living in the space between the walls.”

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by Murray Archibald

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very morning I walk my dog on Rehoboth Avenue. Pete loves it; so do I. Those walks give me time to appreciate where I live. In the months after Steve died, they got me out of the house.

In time I began to notice the world around me again—to see the streets where I live as though looking at them for the first time.

I have become fascinated by the space between buildings—some no more than narrow passageways hardly big enough to squeeze through; others the estate of garbage cans or overgrown with vines and weeds, or just empty.

I want to photograph them because they are places we don’t usually see, and certainly don’t pay attention to, attracted as we are by the fancy shops and enticing window dressings on either side.

I want to photograph almost invisible people inside that often unnoticed space between the walls.

My mother has severe dementia and is receiving hospice care at a facility in Grove City, Pennsylvania.

My brother Mark and his wife Sally— and their boys when home from their studies or time in the Peace Corps—have done a remarkable job of taking care of her. On a recent rainy weekend, my dear friends Ward and Allen (who seem to have become guardian angels for my entire family) accompanied me to Grove City for my first trip to see her since Steve died.

I visited with her four times while we were there. Three of the four times, after an initial greeting she wanted to go back to sleep. The fourth and last time, she was too agitated to focus longer than a second or two on my presence.

Her condition was not unexpected as I talk to Mark and Sally frequently, and I have past experience with dementia patients. I have confidence that she is well cared for, but I know from conversations with her in the past that she would hate being like this.

Somehow though, she is still able to say “I love you, too,” when I tell her how I feel.

I wonder where she has gone and if she now lives in a kind of “space between” the walls.

Dementia may be an extreme example but people become invisible all the time, lost in depression, addiction, grief, age, ill health, bullying, pain, discrimination, poverty, or loneliness.

Rev. Jonathan Baker was the longtime pastor of Epworth United Methodist Church—first on Baltimore Avenue and again, later, at the new building on Holland Glade Road. Steve and I worked closely with Jonathan beginning with AIDS issues in the early 90s and later on laying the foundation that led to Epworth becoming the inclusive, welcoming, reconciling congregation it is today. Jonathan spoke at Steve’s funeral—and at our wedding. He remains a good friend. After retiring from Epworth a few years ago, Jonathan and his wife Donna spent much of their time working in Africa. On a recent visit to Rehoboth, he reminded me that a familiar greeting there—Sawubona—in Swahili, translates as “I see you.”

The CAMP Rehoboth mission statement calls us “to work to build safe, inclusive communities with room for all.”

In many ways we have been successful in living up to that mission, especially in the broad strokes it takes to define the organization, but what about one to one?

Do we as individuals really take the time to see one another?

People come to CAMP Rehoboth for many reasons. They come to socialize—to make connections with the community around them. They come to volunteer, to be a part of the collective effort of making this a better place to live. They come to access services, for support groups, for counseling, or an HIV test. Sometimes they come because they don’t know where else to go.

In the early days of CAMP Rehoboth there were discussions about the location of the organization, and the benefits of remaining on Baltimore Avenue. Those discussions were revived when the organization made the decision to buy 39 Baltimore Avenue, and a few years

THANK YOU to our sponsors! later when it purchased 37 Baltimore Avenue and plans got underway to expand to a full service Community Center.

Through it all, the choice was made to stay where we are because we needed to be visible—we wanted to be seen.

For far too long the greatest weapon used against LGBTQ people was invisibility. We hid in the closet. We hid from the world around us. We were the ones living in the space between the walls. The closet allows no one to be seen for who they really are. Closets mangle the truth and twist our souls into knots.

Nowadays, as we work on our strategic plans for the organization, some of those old conversations resurface, this time as they relate to creating a welcome for all people— especially during the busy summer months when parking meters and traffic congestion make it difficult for some to come downtown. We are still passionate about being a visible presence downtown, and now, we are also considering ways to carry CAMP Rehoboth “off CAMPus” as well—and to make it visible in places where LGBTQ visibility is as needed today as it was in downtown Rehoboth Beach 30 years ago. Already we have three satellite HIV testing sites and our CAMP Rehoboth Outreach Program (CROP) carries volunteers out to a wide variety of places throughout the state.

All of us who work and/or volunteer at CAMP Rehoboth understand that part of our job is to welcome everyone who comes to us. When we’re in the middle of a deadline, or rushing from one meeting to another, there are simply times when we have to put all that aside and focus on the wellbeing of someone who needs us. Steve instinctively understood that, and almost every day since his death, I have been reminded of his generosity of spirit. He saw people who were hanging back in the shadows of those in between spaces—who needed to be seen, who needed a kind word, or a smile.

Shortly after Steve died, I got word that the mutual friend who introduced the two of us the first time we met, had committed suicide. Oddly, I was not surprised. Nothing he ever said led me to think that he would take his own life, but his occasional communication with me seemed more eccentric than usual and his glowing reports about a recent move to Palm Springs rang less than true in the back of my mind. At the time it was all I could do to take care of Steve, but looking back I feel sure I was seeing through his “gay” façade to the real man inside. He was hurting; I was too far away.

Sawubona. I see you. What a powerful thing to say to someone hiding in between the walls. ▼

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[Editor's note: Murray's mother passed away as this issue was on its way to press.]

Murray Archibald is an artist, CAMP Rehoboth Co-Founder, and longtime President of the CAMP Rehoboth Board of Directors. He is currently serving as CAMP Rehoboth Interim Executive Director and Editor in Chief of Letters from CAMP Rehoboth. Email Murray at murray@camprehoboth.com

For information on how to become a CAMP Rehoboth Annual Sponsor, email info@camprehoboth.com, or contact Murray Archibald at 302-227-5620.

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CAMP Out Fay’s Rehoboth Journal

by Fay Jacobs

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n Wednesday, September 26, I was given the wonderful privilege of being honored as the Girl Scouts of Chesapeake Bay’s Sussex County Woman of Distinction for 2018. I want to share the remarks I made at the event with you.

Good afternoon. First, thank you all so much for being here. Not so much to honor me, although I really appreciate the support of all of you, but to help raise awareness of and funds for the really good work done by the Girl Scouts.

At ages five and eight, my younger sister and I were enrolled in ballet class. Within weeks, my sister showed incredible promise as a budding ballerina. Me, not so much.

From the get go I was perpetually a half step behind in the Hungarian Gypsy dance, and pitched a wild hissy fit, refusing to go onstage in a tutu.

My sister went on to a decade of dance, while my mother suggested I join the Brownies.

I loved it, flew up to become a Girl Scout, and was introduced to some of the things that would retain my interest and spark my career over a lifetime—like a photography badge.

I would stalk my sister, parents, and the babysitter, and take frightening candids with my Kodak Brownie Starflash.

I learned about theatre when we did a little play about Girl Scout founder Juliet Gordon Low, who, by the way, was one tough cookie.

And speaking of cookies, Death of a Salesman had nothing on me. I once sold 62 boxes at a single Passover Seder. Good thing they were marked kosher. We saw the relatives less after that.

I wasn’t really good with the outdoor stuff though. One time three other fifth graders and I sat squashed into the back, rear-facing seat of a 1958 Dodge station wagon. We each had a pad of paper and a pencil and, going for our Orienteering Badge, we drew a map of where we had just been. Pretty soon, all of us got nauseous from riding backwards, and wound up sitting on the side of the road trying not to toss our Girl Scout cookies. I never got that badge but I got a great candid photo of our troop leader with an expression that said “Why me?”

Likewise, I forfeited the Outdoor Explorer badge when refusing to even look at a picture of a snake, much less risking an encounter with a real one. Bugs, too, were outside my wheelhouse, even as my scouting career reached into junior high school. As our troop leader explained the value of citronella as a mosquito deterrent, I announced that the best deterrent was staying in the house. The other scouts laughed; the leader did not.

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And finally, as an adult, I want to know who thought it was a good idea to provide a pocket knife to an inquisitive eithth grader? Favoring the screw driver function, I went home and unscrewed every screw in the house, in many cases being unable to reassemble the toaster, table lamp, and my father’s new stereo record player cabinet. On my honor, I tried.

So here I am, six decades later, a Girl Scout Woman of Distinction.

There are really two meanings to the word distinction. From Webster, the most common usage is “the quality or state of being distinguished or worthy.” And for that I am truly honored for this designation and celebration.

The second, though, is “the act of perceiving someone or something as being not the same and often treating as separate or different.”

I knew I was different from most of my friends at just about the same age as I kicked that pink tutu across the room and ran off to join the Brownies. It took almost two more decades to define that difference and muster the nerve to come out of the closet as a gay woman.

From there, I continued to put to use the skills I honed in my Girl Scout youth, in high school and college, going into journalism, theatre and activism, still taking annoying candid photos. And hopefully, I’ve used my skills making a small difference, somehow for the better, in other people’s lives.

And despite my failings in orienteering, camping, and stink bug collection, I have been tapped for this honor by the Girl Scout organization.

It’s been my privilege to be honored in the gay community for many things—my books, my fighting for equality, and my story telling. It’s been amazingly rewarding and I am so grateful.

But on my honor, I swear, that I could never have imagined, all those closeted, fearful years ago, and even a decade ago, that the Girl Scouts, as progressive as they are, would celebrate a very openly gay person as their Woman of Distinction. I’m incredibly honored by this—for me, and for my community here in Sussex County. For this incredibly meaningful honor, I thank the Girl Scouts of Chesapeake Bay very, very much. (shows antique Girl Scout pocket knife) Anybody have a screw loose? I’ve got you covered. ▼ Fay Jacobs is an author of five published memoirs. Her newest is Fried & Convicted: Rehoboth Beach Uncorked. As a humorist, she’s touring with her show Aging Gracelessly: 50 Shades of Fay. See www.fayjacobs.com

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President’s View

by Chris Beagle

Engaging Community

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s this issue goes to print, our 4th annual Block Party will have come and gone and with any luck, along with some help from Mother Nature, it will have been a gorgeous fall day on Baltimore Ave. Created in celebration of CAMP Rehoboth’s 25th anniversary in 2015, the Block Party has expanded from 45 vendors that first year to just over 100 vendors and two stages of entertainment this year.

It has quickly evolved into a major event not only for CAMP Rehoboth, but also for the city and region, while personifying the true meaning of “community” and creating “room for all.”

Special thanks to all who attended, participated, supported, and volunteered!

Staying on the topic of community, and as an update to my last column, the staff and Board of Directors continues its strategic planning initiative here at CAMP Rehoboth.

After a series of four Focus Groups, we hosted a Community Conversation on Saturday September 29 to gather input, ideas, and feedback from anyone who wanted to attend.

Coordinated by our contracted consulting organization, DANA (Delaware Alliance for Nonprofit Advancement), and led by its President and CEO, Sheila Bravo, a productive and tremendously helpful session resulted.

Throughout the morning, I was struck by the level of passion and thoughtful contributions expressed by so many of the nearly 40 people who attended. Several statements particularly resonated and left me feeling optimistic and confident that our efforts to conduct an inclusive and collaborative effort were paying off.

One such statement expressed the importance of “generational engagement,” essential for our organization to remain relevant into the future and to be able to address the needs of all segments of our diverse LGTBQ community.

Another comment was shared during the segment when

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attendees were asked “Five years from now, what do you hope CAMP Rehoboth will be?” A long-time member and major contributor to CAMP Rehoboth replied, “I hope we will have had a profound impact on fostering a strong confident community where labels do not denigrate and where you are okay, just the way you are.” While there were many notables from the event, that single comment will undoubtedly influence this overall process. That simple and eloquent sentence spoke volumes and was a takeaway not to be forgotten.

The qualitative input from this phase of the initiative will help to produce a quantitative survey that soon will be extended to the broader CAMP Rehoboth community. More information will be forthcoming shortly here in Letters, on Facebook, through Constant Contact, and at camprehoboth.com.

In the next phase of the initiative, during our annual Fall Retreat in late October, DANA will facilitate a full-day strategy session with the Board of Directors. A work plan addressing accountabilities and establishing timelines will be developed on this day to help create the strategic operating plan.

With clarity around where the organization wishes to focus its resources, our long range planning team will then work with DANA to develop a strategic operating plan to support our Mission and Vision.

In this critical time for the organization, we are committed to seeing this process through and welcoming the resultant recommendations. I am more confident than ever that the end result will produce the plan we need to ensure organizational sustainability and a smooth and efficient transition to the next phase of leadership and staffing for CAMP Rehoboth. ▼ Chris Beagle is President of the CAMP Rehoboth Board of Directors and is a realtor at Berkshire-Hathaway-Gallo Realty in Rehoboth Beach.

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13 Letters

Out & Proud

by Stefani Deoul

Delaware’s Senator Coons and First State Civility

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ike many people, not only across the country, but throughout the world, I watched both Christine Blasey Ford and Brett Kavanaugh appear in front of the Senate Judiciary Committee and give their testimony.

And, like many people, not only across the country, but throughout the world, I have deep, dark thoughts about that day. But this column is not about that.

This column is about one man trying to be bigger than that moment, trying to be about our nation, our ideals, our differences, and in many ways, our civility. This column is about Senator Chris Coons. Our guy.

Senator Coons is the man who chased a friend, not just across an aisle, but down a hallway, into a phone booth, and up and into his conscience to say, “there has to be a way for this to be more fair.”

And the man who listened, Senator Jeff Flake, did so because there was history here. And no, I am not referring to the history being made in the room from which they fled, with its testimony and cameras blazing every which way. I am referring to the history of a senator willing to look for civility, even on issues he does not like.

Civility. Our old friend Merriam Webster defines it as “a: civilized conduct especially: COURTESY, POLITENESS…’bemoaned the decline of civility in our politics’ b: a polite act or expression…’the men briefly exchanged civilities before the meeting began.’”

Here’s how civility works. Earlier this year, Delaware Senator Chris Coons changed his committee vote from “no” to “present” on CIA Director Mike Pompeo’s nomination for Secretary of State, allowing the nomination to advance to the full Senate for consideration—even though Coons opposed him.

This change, from “no” to “present,” did not change the final outcome of the vote. But it did spare his friend and colleague, Republican Senator Johnny

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Isakson of Georgia, from having to rush back from a close friend’s funeral services in Atlanta. And it did spare other senators from having to wait, possibly until 11 p.m., for his return.

Senator Bob Corker, the Republican from Tennessee, was deeply moved when he gave a press conference following Senator Coons’ gesture, where he thanked him for, “displaying the statesmanship that I’ve been accustomed to seeing in the Senate.”

Senator Susan Collins read a fortyminute speech to announce her “yea” vote for Judge Kavanaugh. There are many things one can criticize about the speech, starting with staging two other Republican women behind her. And there are many things one can hate—or love—about her decision.

I respect that she came, she spoke, and she owns her decision. I also appreciate her defense of Dianne Feinstein, going on record that she believes in Dianne Feinstein’s integrity and that she believes Senator Feinstein did not leak Dr. Ford’s letter.

But no matter what I thought of her vote and her speech, she should not face death threats for it. PERIOD. End of subject.

Death threats are happening to her.

To her family. To Dr. Ford. To her family.

Instead of outrageous death threats, citizens should be registering to vote left, right, and center! Let Senator Collins be voted out if that’s what the people of Maine want.

By the time you read this, Brett Kavanaugh will have been confirmed.

Only time will answer whether he wishes to be a jurist of the highest order, weighing each case with respect and individual attention, and one day leave a legacy spoken about with reverence for all corners, or if he will join the small but memorable rogues gallery of justices who should never have worn those robes.

As for the advise and consent process? We all know there was a lot

of screaming on both sides. But where was the civil discourse? Down a narrow hallway tucked inside a phone booth? Is that our best?

We, THE PEOPLE, deserve to have a lifelong appointment vetted. We deserve to believe in our Court. And if someone comes forward at the eleventh hour with a reason this is a bad idea, we deserve representation that says, with civility, “Let’s deal with this because the wrong choice shatters a country, and that is not what our people, and their Supreme Court, deserve.”

We deserve leaders who say please and thank you to each other, don’t indulge in histrionics and snide comments, use a well thought out vocabulary, believe truth and justice matter, and do not mock a woman who came forward with nothing to gain, and everything to lose.

We deserve leaders capable of questioning a woman with enough statesmanship, civility, maybe even respect, that they don’t need a stand-in to do their job.

We deserve leaders who don’t have to live in fear—on both sides of the aisle. It should bother every American, regardless of party, that Senator Jeff Flake, on Sixty Minutes, conceded that if he was not retiring he would not have had the courage to agree with Coons and demand, “a week’s delay to investigate must be acceptable.”

So I thank Senator Coons for working to be that leader. The one we deserve. I would like to think others might join him.

Before it truly is too late. ▼ Stefani Deoul is a television producer and author of the award-winning YA mystery On a LARP, with the second in the series, Zero Sum Game, to be published in November.

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15 Letters

View Point

by Richard J. Rosendall

Bawling and Belligerence in the Ruling Class Senate Republicans display their unevolved views of women

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epublican Sen. Jeff Flake has spent the Trump era delivering high-minded sermons deploring the president’s crassness while mostly continuing to vote the party line. Last week he made a show of being torn over Supreme Court nominee Brett Kavanaugh, only to announce on Friday that he would vote to confirm.

Minutes after Flake’s announcement, Ana Maria Archila and Maria Gallagher cornered him in a Senate elevator to tell him they were sexual assault survivors and to rebuke him for falling in line despite Dr. Christine Blasey Ford’s brave, compelling testimony. Flake then attended a Senate Judiciary Committee meeting, where he conferred with his friend, Democratic Sen. Chris Coons, and others. This led Flake to leverage his senatorial power, backed by Republican Senators Susan Collins and Lisa Murkowski, to slow the process to allow a week for an updated FBI investigation.

The bipartisan breakthrough was a welcome interruption of partisan rancor.

But the shift by Flake’s GOP colleagues from attacking Anita Hill in 1991 to politely dismissing or patronizing Dr. Ford today reflects a halfhearted desire to improve the optics, not growth in respect for women.

At the Judiciary hearing on September 27, the Democrats were sober and professional, in contrast to the belligerent nominee and his angry defenders on the Republican side of the dais. By its end, despite overheated right-wing accusations and conspiracy mongering, my overall sense was that Democrats appeal to aspirations while Republicans appeal to resentments.

Kavanaugh could have striven to show he is more than a scion of white male privilege and a dedicated partisan operative. Instead, he pouted, cried, yelled at, and insulted Democratic senators, and displayed an outraged sense of entitlement rather than anything like a judicial temperament. He left no Letters 16 OCTOBER 19, 2018

doubt regarding the narrow interests he would serve on the Court.

The week showed that it matters who is at the table, who stands in the elevator doorway, and who does the reporting.

As a friend who knows the Court well recently noted, Trump’s first Supreme Court nominee was “a rich white frat boy...who attended Georgetown Prep with its own Olympic size swimming pool.” For the next vacancy on the Court,

The week showed that it matters who is at the table, who stands in the elevator doorway, and who does the reporting.

Trump chose “a rich white frat boy...who attended Georgetown Prep.” My friend observes, “This from a populist president who promised to drain the Washington lobbyist swamp. He can’t even drain the Georgetown Prep swimming pool.”

“Why,” my friend wishes a senator had asked Kavanaugh, “should we add such a similar pea to that small pod? What do you bring to the Court’s deliberations that Neil Gorsuch doesn’t?”

The answer, he suggests, is that conservative economic true believers “wanted to take no chance whatsoever on getting a rock-solid anti-redistribution, anti-regulatory fifth Justice.” (Actually, they are fine with upward redistribution to themselves.)

The lack of diversity on the Court (every justice hales from Harvard or Yale) resembles that of commercial bananas, which are genetically identical to the point that a single blight could wipe out the entire world supply.

Beyond their privilege blindness

regarding sexual assault, Kavanaugh’s patrons overlook the innovation and vitality that have come from immigrants and their children (see Steve Jobs).

They dismiss the greater good that is served by environmental regulations.

As they widen the gap between the monied class and the working class, they weaken the common cause that binds us together as a people. They rob us of the adaptability that diversity gives us in facing future challenges.

In contrast, the bracing spectacle of Flake’s “elevator moment” may inspire more women to end their miscasting as props for men. Standing against the trampling of norms and decency in pursuit of power, women and their male allies can work to restore the vital center and pull America back from alienation and governmental immobility.

When Senators Kamala Harris and Mazie Hirono stood with women protesters in the Hart Senate Office Building, one felt a fighting resolve stirring that will endure beyond the current battle.

Had Kavanaugh been defeated, his replacement might have been scandalfree but would likely have been just as bad on constitutional issues including reproductive choice. Trump cannot be negotiated with, only defeated.

Consistent civic engagement is essential if equality is to prevail. ▼ Richard J. Rosendall is a writer and activist who can be reached at rrosendall@me.com.

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17 Letters

CAMP NEWS AARP to Team Up with CAMP Rehoboth October 26

CROP’s Time of Harvest

Do you know AARP? The many things the organization does for its membership might come as a surprise. To learn more— AARP has teamed up with CAMP Rehoboth for an introductory meeting on Friday, October 26, 5:30-7:30 at the Community Center.

CAMP Rehoboth and AARP invite the public to join in an early evening event with refreshments and hors d’oeuvres, to hear about expanding the possibilities in life at any age through AARP. The program is FREE, with registration requested at 877-926-8300. ▼

On September 22, CROP volunteers joined other volunteers in Grove Park and along the route to support AIDS Walk Delaware. Over $4,000 was raised for the fight against AIDS by CAMP Rehoboth’s Rainbow Unicorn Team. Thank you, teams!!

See Shakespeare’s The Merchant of Venice on November 3 The Delaware Shakespeare Community Tour will present a FREE performance of Shakespeare’s The Merchant of Venice on November 3 at the CAMP Rehoboth Community Center.

This professional acting company will present Shakespeare’s masterwork, a play focusing on discrimination and marginalized communities, which is as relevant today as when it was written in the 1590s.

While The Merchant of Venice is a story that focuses on the specific injustice of anti-Semitism, the company seeks to broaden the conversation, looking at root causes and similarities for other marginalized groups.

Save the date—November 3, at 7 p.m. for this remarkable opportunity to see live, professional theatre at CAMP Rehoboth Community Center. ▼

CAMP Chorus Tickets Available Soon To celebrate the 10th Anniversary of the CAMP Rehoboth Chorus, a special concert called Seasons of Love is planned for February at Epworth United Methodist Church in Rehoboth.

Hosted by Liane Hansen of NPR’s Weekend Special Edition, the show dates are February 15 and 16 (Friday and Saturday evenings) and February 17 (Sunday matinee).

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by Debbie Woods

Here’s what’s coming up for the harvest season: Saturday, October 20—Delaware Botanic Gardens, Dagsboro, 8:30 a.m. to noon

It is a great time to be outdoors. CROP returns to the Delaware Botanic Gardens in Dagsboro. Help DBG keep the momentum going as they grow and become a worldclass, inspirational, educational, and sustainable public botanic garden in southern Delaware. As an option, volunteers can bring a brown-bag lunch and have a tour of the gardens and woodland afterwards.

Saturday, November 10—Rehoboth Beach Film Festival, Cape Henlopen High School, Lewes

A highlight of the Fall season is the Rehoboth Beach Film Festival and CROP is there to help. Volunteers will assist with ticket taking and more. There will be several shifts throughout the day.

Tuesday, November 13 from 1 to 4 p.m.

CROP has a team traveling to the Food Bank of Delaware in Milford to help make sure families in need enjoy the bounty of the season. Volunteers will sort and pack a multitude of food items for distribution throughout the state just in time for Thanksgiving. This project is FULL, but there is a wait list.

Many friendships and memories were made this year.

Volunteers can harvest the rewards by joining CROP at one of these Fall projects. Email crop@camprehoboth.com to help! ▼ Debbie is an active volunteer with CAMP Rehoboth and also serves on the Membership Committee. She’s lived full time in Rehoboth since 2009, when she retired after a long career in the Federal Government.

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19 Letters

Straight Talk

by David Garrett

All in the Family

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he image is as clear as a bell in many people’s minds. Picture Carroll O’Connor and Jean Stapleton sitting at a piano, singing the opening theme song to the classic television show, All in the Family. “Boy, the way Glenn Miller played. Songs that made the hit parade. Guys like us, we had it made, those were the days.

And you knew where you were then, girls were girls and men were men.

Mister, we could use a man like Herbert Hoover again...” (Lee Adams and Charles Strouse, “Those Were the Days”).

The show ran for nine seasons, was the first to be televised in front of a live audience, and broke almost every rule there was in acceptable television programming. The subjects broached

by Archie and Edith, their daughter Gloria, and her husband Michael (aka Meathead) included racism, antisemitism, infidelity, homosexuality, women’s liberation, religion, rape, miscarriage, abortion, breast cancer, menopause, impotence, and the Vietnam War. Did they miss anything?

The show’s title is universal. All of those issues, in some way and at some point, lie somewhere in every family. This rings especially true when the discussion turns to LGBTQ topics.

A retired pastor and his wife in central Pennsylvania recently contacted me because they had heard from a friend that my daughter transitioned a few years ago. The situation they are now facing is that they have a 50-something nephew who made the decision to transition to become their niece.

That would be less of a problem if not for their nephew’s/niece’s wife and children who are affected and involved.

This couple wanted to know what all this transgender talk was about. They knew nothing.

Sharing with them the journey I took, difficult as it was, helped them to understand that each person’s transition is unique to themselves. Journey is a very appropriate word, as those who are “all in the family” with someone who Letters 20 OCTOBER 19, 2018

is transitioning have a journey awaiting them. The road to understanding, acceptance, and advocacy can be a long and winding road indeed.

There is a conservative rural church in central Delaware where members have made it clear that their pastor will not preach or teach acceptance of homosexuality. An aging congregation, almost all members of this church have their beliefs set in cement. Yet behind their veneer, there are incredible instances of family connections to gays.

One outspoken leader of the church had a gay brother who died of AIDS in 1992.

The show ran for nine seasons, was the first to be televised in front of a live audience, and broke almost every rule there was in acceptable television programming.

Another key person in the church has a son in his twenties who lives further north in Delaware with his partner.

Yet another active couple in the congregation is involved with family members twice over. The husband of this couple— who are in their seventies—has a brother who is gay, and they share a nephew who has come out. This nephew is the same age as their own children, and the cousins spent a lot of time together as they were raised. The wife shared recently how much she loves her nephew, but still cannot accept his lifestyle. As she confided, “The Bible says….” She shared this on the verge of tears. And so the walls of separation remain firmly intact.

This begs the question, can someone

“love the sinner, but hate the sin?” The question is hypothetical. We must not take the question literally, for this writer does not believe for a moment that being gay or transgender is a sin. But can someone love a gay or transgender person—be it a brother, son, nephew, sister, daughter, niece—but hate their lifestyle?

If it is possible, then it is an utterly incomplete love. There is no easier or safer place to reinforce one’s biases against being gay than in a church or synagogue with fundamentalist beliefs.

Eliel Cruz wrote an article for the Huffington Post on “Gays in the Family.”

This was a review of a conference with the same title, conducted by a certain church group. The purpose of the event was to give church people the proper tools to enable them to “fix” the gayness out of their relatives. Cruz shares, “I read a moving letter from an older brother to his younger gay brother, who attempted suicide this last fall, overwhelmed by what the church said about him. In the letter the older brother pleads, ‘Please do not ever give up on your Jesus. You may have brothers who turn against you...and churches that can’t legally bar their doors yet still bar their hearts against you. Please do not let these people dictate the character of your Jesus.’”

In only its fifth episode, All in the Family introduced television’s first openly gay character, Steve. Archie was quite disbelieving, since Steve was a former football linebacker. But Archie was left speechless when Steve told him he was gay. There are many more untold family ties to the LGBTQ community.

Don’t be left speechless. Love. Simply love. It’s what families do. ▼ David Garrett is a straight advocate for equality and inclusion. He is also the proud father of an adult transdaughter. Email David Garrrett at dlgarrett4rb@gmail.com

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21 Letters

THE REAL DIRT

by Eric W. Wahl

The Garden Asleep?

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his time of year brings thoughts of hot apple cider, mesmerizing camp fires, brilliant shades of oranges and reds, and of course a garden that appears to be dormant and dull. A complete 180 from the spring and summer months.

But I am here to tell you quite the opposite. Your garden and backyard landscape are full of activity and promise during the upcoming colder months. It only takes a change of perspective to appreciate the cold weather garden.

Autumn is when gardeners start the process of preparing their outdoor rooms to overwinter, and preparing for early spring blooms as well.

This is, of course, the time to plant spring flowering bulbs.

But it’s also the time to dig up and protect your tender summer flowering bulbs and rhizomes (root stalks). Store them somewhere safe like a garage or basement, and replant them next spring once the ground has warmed.

Perennials are cut back and discarded. However, gardeners might try something different this year. Grasses and other plants with feathery plumes look quite stunning with a cover of frost or snow. Maybe leave these to be cut in very early spring so that the stems and tufts remain all winter. This is not only beautiful, but it also plays an important role in overwintering beneficial insects. Did you know that many native bees actually burrow into pithy stems of herbaceous plants and hibernate? They emerge in early spring and begin their pollinating journey once again.

Some species of bees also overwinter in the ground and inside cavities of woody branches and trunks. Some even hibernate in compost. In other words, if you completely clean out your gardens of debris and cut back plants to the ground, you may be killing off some of next year’s bees and other pollinators.

Caterpillars also overwinter in your garden. Some species actually drop from the native trees in your yard and fall into the leaf litter on the ground. They build a protective cocoon within the leaves and wait until spring to emerge and begin the next stage of their lives. Leaves also decompose and provide nutrients back into the soil: the carbon cycle at work.

Let’s not forget about the birds. Many of the native grasses, shrubs, and trees offer food sources for birds and other wildlife. Dead stems and branches also provide material for nesting. Some of my favorite shrubs like winterberry and beautyberry provide berries throughout the fall and winter Letters 22 OCTOBER 19, 2018

months and also look amazing in the sleeping garden, especially against a backdrop of evergreen trees.

It just so happens that this is the best time to divide your clumping perennials, too. In a previous article I wrote about sharing your garden with friends and family. This is a great opportunity to have a plant swap or just to say thanks for being there. Dividing plants is also healthy for them and helps to maintain their size and spread.

Planting and transplanting shrubs and trees can be done now just before the plants go into dormancy. However, some trees do not like being dug out of the ground, as it can be too stressful. This is mostly a concern for nurseries when they go to “ball & burlap” a tree that has been growing in the ground: the act of injuring and pruning the roots is too much for the tree to take before going dormant. Ask your nursey about this when selecting trees—they usually have a list available that warns customers of these concerns.

A potted or containerized tree should be fine if planted in the fall. Their roots will not be damaged or impacted when transplanting from the container to the ground. Just make sure they are not root-bound or girdling (encircling the tree inside the container).

Finally, don’t forget to feed your garden. Autumn is an excellent time to add a light layer of compost. By doing this now, it gives you some extra time in the spring since you will not have to work the soil as much. Leaf litter makes a good mulch as well and it will help provide protection to some beneficial insects as previously mentioned. Just make sure there are no diseased leaves among the the litter.

I hope I have changed your outlook on the winter landscape and that you may try some alternative practices this year, helping both your garden and wildlife mature into next year’s bounty and enjoyment.

Henry Mitchell, late author of the well-known Earthman column in The Washington Post, wrote in November 25, 1984: “Turn down the noise. Reduce the speed. Be like the somnolent bears, or those other animals that slow down and almost die in the cold season. Let it be the way it is. The magic is there in its power.” ▼ Eric W. Wahl, RLA is a landscape architect at Element Design Group and president of the Delaware Native Plant Society.

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23 Letters

It’s My Life

by Michael Thomas Ford

Here We Go Again

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n Monday two weeks ago, I turned 50. That same week I watched as a bunch of mostly old, wealthy, white men ignored mountains of evidence and public outcry and advanced a completely unsuitable candidate to the highest court in the land, then gloated about it.

Now, we pretty much knew this was going to happen. Still, it was hard to watch it unfold, particularly as it’s just the latest in a long string of things we’ve had to watch happen ever since the Orange Toddler broke into the White House and started soiling the carpets as he attempts to drag American society six decades back into the past.

Another morning I saw an image taken by photographer Mary Mathis, who covered the Kavanaugh hearing protests for NPR. The photo is of a woman sitting on a bench, clearly distraught.

Accompanying it is Mathis’s account of how the woman, when approached for permission to use her image, responded by saying, “How are we going to find the strength to keep fighting? Are we going to be out here for another 30 years? I don’t have 30 years left.”

This is exactly how I feel. This is not where I expected the world I live in to be when I turned 50. I thought we were better than this. I like to think most of us are. And that’s what’s terrifying about where we currently find ourselves. If so many of us want a different world, why don’t we have it? Why are horrible, stupid, destructive people still winning?

The first book that made me consider the nature of evil was Madeleine L’Engle’s A Wrinkle in Time. In that story, the world is under the shadow of the Black Thing, an evil force determined to consume everything. When the young protagonists ask how they can possibly fight it, they’re told to stand up to it with love, to combat darkness with light, evil with good, hate with kindness.

When I read this, around the age of eight, I thought this was a lovely idea. Of course you could combat evil with good.

After all, that was the theme of some Letters 24 OCTOBER 19, 2018

of my favorite stories, from Dorothy defeating the Wicked Witch of the West to the rebels battling the Imperial baddies. Good, I was conditioned to believe, would always win out, no matter the odds.

I’m no longer so sure about that.

Every time something awful happens, I hear the same response from people who are horrified by it: We can’t let this happen again! We have to vote! We have to make our voices heard!

I really want to believe that this is the last gasp of a desperate group of people who are quickly becoming the minority and soon will be rightfully extinct.

Well, some of us did vote. Some of us did make our voices heard. And look what we got. The corruption currently eating away at the heart of this country is not a Black Thing that can be beaten back by love and light. It’s immune to reason, to justice, to kindness and righteous anger, and to all of the things we’ve been told will vanquish it. It’s like the monster in a bad B-movie that keeps coming back again and again and again for one more kill.

Now, the good news is that, eventually, those monsters always do die. And this one will as well. I really want to believe that this is the last gasp of a desperate group of people who are quickly becoming the minority and soon

will be rightfully extinct. I want to believe that the wave of change that started with the primaries will grow into a November tsunami that will wipe the slate clean (or at least slightly cleaner) and keep on going.

But like the woman on the bench in Mary Mathis’s photo, I am tired. There are days when I want to disappear and leave the world to end the way it will.

Then there are days when I think it’s still worth fighting for. The problem is, those latter days are getting fewer and farther between. And I’m running out of ideas.

After the Kavanaugh confirmation vote, my social media immediately began filling up with the frustrated cries of people feeling as I do. Women in particular are outraged, as once again their experiences have been discounted, their opinions shunted aside for the political gain of men who care nothing about them. My anger is rage-inducing, and I cannot even imagine what theirs feels like. Many have fought for years to be heard, to be treated with respect, to gain some measure of equality. This is not the world they fought for. It is not the world they wanted to leave to the next generation. Many of them feel as if they’re starting over, only now against even more insurmountable odds.

My hope is that this, finally, is the last straw; that even though we are weary and tired of trying, this will be the thing that gets us all to turn to our worn-out compatriots and say, “Yeah, I know. But what else have we got to do today but try to change the world?”

See you on the battlefield.

Michael Thomas Ford is a much-published Lambda Literary award-winning author. Visit Michael at michaelthomasford.com

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n a gorgeous Sunday morning, October 7, the bayside Rusty Rudder in Dewey swarmed with sponsors, donors, and foodies reveling in the sunshine and divine tastes from some of the finest chefs in the area.

The event was the 16th annual Meals on Wheels Celebrity Chefs’ Beach Brunch fundraiser and included tastings by top beach chefs, craft beer, wine, and brunch cocktails, along with a silent and live auction plus the outstanding music of the Bettenroo duo.

While raising money for the much-needed Meals on Wheels program here in Sussex County, the by no means secondary intent was to be one of the most popular meet-and-greet, dining, and beverage fests of the year.

One short column is no match for the expansive kitchen and distillery talent on display that morning, but I have to mention the ones I found to be the most inventive and delicious. But don’t get me wrong, everybody there, cooking, working, tasting, organizing deserves the kudos.

My first stop, mimosa in hand, as I sought a breakfast entry, was Crust and Craft, serving Butternut Squash Whole Wheat Flapjacks. No mere pancakes, they were topped with wet walnuts and whipped cream. Decadent. Kill me now; I had two.

From there I found Bluecoast’s exquisite deviled egg, served with a bit of scrapple and deliciously divine seasonings. It was so good I enjoyed the scrapple. A first for me.

Following a few peeks at the auction items, a tune or two from Bettenroo and DJ Nan, plus lots of socializing, lunch tastes appealed to me. grandpa (MAC)’s/a(MUSE)’s offering, by chef Hari Cameron, fit the bill, with his new take on old fashioned chicken and dumplings. Hari calls it New Delaware Style, made with heirloom chicken, stoned wheat dumplings, parsley, and a bit of egg yoke. It’s from Hari’s entry in America: The Cookbook, and it’s amazingly brand new and familiar at the same time.

JAM Bistro (East of Eden)—I love that descriptor! I can only rave so much about their duck pastrami with Gruyere cheese without seeming like a crazy person. It was amazing, inventive, and the taste station was mobbed.

And last, but by no means least on my Best Of list, comes Fork and Flask at Nage with their Duck Rilette on sourdough crostini with whipped goat cheese. Oh my.

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health+wellness CAMP Rehoboth Offers Variety in Fall Programs

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t CAMP Rehoboth, the Health and Wellness programs cover more than HIV prevention, education & testing—they cover a full gamut of health programs to help the community live full and productive lives. Wellness programs focus on preventive care, improving socialization, and support. All Health and Wellness programs are organized by Salvatore Seeley; many require registration, many are free, and all are presented by thoughtful experts in their fields.

Here is a round-up of programs available through CAMP Rehoboth this Fall. For a day-by-day listing of programs sponsored by CAMP Rehoboth, either onsite or elsewhere, check out the CAMP Calendar on the website.

Silver Pride CAMP Rehoboth, October 25 at 2 p.m.

Network, socialize and learn at the Silver Pride group at CAMP Rehoboth. This monthly group provides an opportunity for community members ages 55+ to come together to discuss and learn about issues that impact their lives. Each month a different speaker brings important information to the community.

The October 25 speaker/topic is Cadbury at Home. Cadbury at home is a program that uniquely combines the most important features of long-term care into one complete plan. Their members live independently at home for as long as possible.

If you would like to attend this meeting—please RSVP to 302-3607179 or info@cadburyathome.org.

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PrEP Education Comes to CAMP In the past five years, medications with the generic title PrEP (Pre-Exposure Prophylaxis) have become one of the most highly effective ways of stopping the spread of HIV. It consists of one pill taken once a day—i.e., easy to use! PrEP is an effective prevention strategy for reducing HIV acquisition risk by 90-99% if taken as prescribed.

For this reason, CAMP Rehoboth is leading the way to provide coordinated services in Delaware for referrals and resources regarding PrEP. In September, CAMP Rehoboth hosted service providers from around the state who wanted to learn about PrEP and how to integrate screening, resources, and referrals into existing programs. The goal of this workshop was to educate service providers so community members who would benefit from PrEP would get the most accurate and up-to date information.

PrEP is recommended for men who have sex with men, people who inject drugs, transgender men and women, and heterosexual adults who are at high risk for HIV infection.

Tai Chi Wednesdays CAMP Rehoboth. Upcoming Classes: October 24, 31; November 7, 14 at 1 p.m.

Salvatore Seeley at CAMP Rehoboth (302-227-5620) or email salvatore@ camprehoboth.com.

Stressed Out? Anxious? Unbalanced?

Tai Chi may be the answer. Classes are every Wednesday and are open to the public. Classes are free but freewill giving is encouraged. For more information, contact Salvatore Seeley at CAMP Rehoboth (302-227-5620) or email salvatore@camprehoboth.com.

Gay Men’s Discussion Group Epworth United Methodist Church.

October 24 and November 17 at 7 p.m.

Parents of Transgender and Gender Non-Conforming Children Discussion Group CAMP Rehoboth, last Tuesday of each month, October 30 at 6 p.m.

This group enables parents to network with other families who are going through similar experiences while raising a transgender or gender nonconforming child. The goal of the group is to provide parents a safe space to discuss issues important to them. They can raise questions, share resources, network, and listen to the experiences of other parents whose children are gender diverse. Issues explored include school, legal matters, privacy, siblings, extended family, and medical considerations.

For more information, please contact

This group is a safe and welcoming place to talk about what matters most in your life. The group is half social/ half discussion, and talks about issues that relate specifically to the LGBTQ+ community and how they impact daily lives. Epworth UMC is at 19285 Holland Glade Road. Contact Salvatore Seeley at CAMP Rehoboth (302-227-5620 or email salvatore@camprehoboth.com) with any questions.

Medicine Wheel Journey CAMP Rehoboth, Last Sunday of each month. October 28 at 5 p.m.

Gather around the stone circle in a sacred space to track personal evolution during this shamanic healing circle. All are welcome. Dress comfortably. Bring a notepad and writing utensil to record notes for personal reference. Art materials and supplies will be provided. For more information contact Nate Metz at nate@natemetz.com with any questions.

Women’s Coffee Chat CAMP Rehoboth. Next meeting: November 3 at 10 a.m.

All women are invited to this first and third Saturday morning gathering at CAMP Rehoboth to get together, encourage one another, and share life’s ups and downs. The group is professionally facilitated.

Beginners Genealogy Workshop: Who Are My Peeps?

CAMP Rehoboth, November 14 & 15, 6-8 p.m.

This two-evening workshop will introduce participants to the fun—and benefit—of creating a family tree. Creating such a tree can be important for a variety of reasons, including insights into your family history, a broader cultural appreciation, and valuable medical history information. (That last might even lead to an exploration of genetic genealogy through DNA testing!) Developing a family tree also allows family facts and stories to be passed to future generations.

Alzheimer's Caregivers Group CAMP Rehoboth, second Wednesday of each month.

November 14 at 6:30 p.m.

Caring for someone with Alzheimer's disease or a related disorder can be super stressful for the caregiver. This caregivers support group, facilitated by an Alzheimer’s specialist, encourages members to share information and to give and receive mutual support. For more information or to sign-up for the group, please contact Ruth Pryor at RFCpryor@gmail.com.

FREE HIV Testing­­— Whenever you need it.

CAMP Rehoboth offers FREE HIV rapid testing at multiple sites in Sussex County. If you would like testing at one of our sites or if you’re looking for testing early morning or evening hours, contact Salvatore Seeley at CAMP Rehoboth (302-227-5620) to make an appointment.

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Intentionally Inclusive

by Wesley Combs

Is She Really Wearing a Sexy Border Control Costume?

A

few weeks ago, I turned on the television and a panel on the Megyn Kelly Show was discussing Christine Blasey Ford’s recent sexual harassment allegations against Judge Brett Kavanaugh. At the end of the segment, host Megyn Kelly segued into a discussion about the brouhaha surrounding a sexy ‘brave red maiden costume’ based on the Hulu series, The Handmaid’s Tale.

In full disclosure, I have not seen this highly popular show but have followed its meteoric rise in the media and on award shows. For those who have not seen it, the show is based on author Margaret Atwood’s dystopian novel where women who have committed gender and religious crimes (e.g., adultery; being a lesbian) are required to work for the men who govern them.

One group, the Handmaids, are forced to have sex with their “Commanders” in order to produce children for women who are infertile.

Yes, someone thought it was a good idea to create a costume based on a show whose subject matter is disturbing to many in today’s #MeToo environment.

But it was the design of the costume which was generating all of the buzz on social media.

As People Magazine described it, “The retailer recreated the bodyconcealing red clothing handmaids wear in Margaret Atwood’s dystopian novel (that has been adapted into an Emmy award-winning TV show) by shortening the hem via a red mini dress, adding a cape with slits along the front and side, and topping off the look with fishnet tights.”

While most of the panelists agreed this was the wrong costume at the wrong time, Ms. Kelly had a different point of view. In her mind, The Handmaid’s Tale was really about female empowerment, so why all the fuss about this lessconservative version? My jaw dropped.

I sat there incredulously wondering why an outspoken victim of sexual harassment like Ms. Kelly felt that creating sexy versions of abused

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characters was not only appropriate but also funny.

The discouraging news is that despite widespread media coverage of individuals who continue to make poor choices when selecting costumes, we continue to witness co-workers and friends donning costumes that are, at a minimum, insensitive (i.e., dressing as a Native American) or downright offensive (i.e., coming as a convicted sex offender like Jerry Sandusky or Bill Cosby).

On the flip side, increasingly there

I sat there incredulously wondering why an outspoken victim of sexual harassment like Ms. Kelly felt that creating sexy versions of abused characters was not only appropriate but also funny. is a price to pay for those who fail to understand how their actions negatively impact others.

The Hindu community was quick to denounce Heidi Klum, creator of the hit reality show Project Runway, when she dressed up as Hindu goddess Kali for Halloween one year. For Hindus, Goddess Kali is highly revered and meant to be worshipped in temples, not used for publicity stunts, or thrown around loosely for dramatic effect.

Dancing with the Stars’ judge Julianne Hough faced a raft of negative publicity when she appeared in black face while depicting Crazy Eyes from Orange is the New Black.

But, becoming infamous (for the wrong reasons) can happen in an instant

for anyone thanks to pictures posted on Facebook, Twitter, or Instagram. In 2013, a woman dressed as a Boston Marathon bombing victim was subsequently fired from her job.

If you were hoping I would provide a checklist of dos and don’ts to help guide your selection of this year’s costumes to avoid your becoming the next internet celebrity for the wrong reason, I am afraid you will be disappointed.

Just like many of the other topics I discuss in this column, my hope is that you will pause and take a moment to ask yourself whether your costume idea is as brilliant as you believe or if some people might be surprised or shocked when you walk into the room.

Do I know anyone who might take offense to my costume? If the answer might be yes, ask others what they think.

If you are uncertain, perhaps adjusting the costume or going in another direction makes sense. When all else fails, Google your costume idea. You may be surprised to learn that your brilliant idea is just the opposite.

What might others think about me because I wore this costume? Like it or not, people make snap judgments about others based on how they present themselves in different situations. Ask yourself, if you were at a party and saw someone come in the room wearing your costume, how would it make you feel?

Also, if your boss or members of your family were in the room, what do you think they would say?

Remember, everyone’s perspective is influenced by their personal experience in life. If you were born in Mexico and someone else showed up dressed in a sombrero and poncho, how would that make you feel? ▼ Wesley Combs is a diversity and inclusion expert and a passionate social justice advocate. He is the founding Principal of Combs Advisory Services, working with clients who share his values of enabling equity, equality and opportunity in the workplace and community.

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By Rich Barnett

No Cure for the Common Birthday

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raise the Lord and pass the biscuits! I finally figured out I can suppress that annoying Facebook birthday notification feature.

Every day on my computer I was receiving little messages with gift package images reminding me it was so-and-so’s birthday. Facebook even populated my calendar with these same birthday reminders. Great, I’d think, now I’m expected to send a happy birthday greeting or else walk around all day feeling guilty. You know damn well the birthday boy or girl is aware his or her friends all received the notice so he or she knows exactly who can’t take the 30 seconds it takes to pen a little note or hit the “like” button. I don’t know about you, but I sure as hell don’t need any more guilt and pressure in my life.

As you might surmise, I’m not a birthday enthusiast. It has nothing to do with growing older, which I don’t mind at all. And I don’t suffer from fragapanophobia, which is the irrational fear of birthdays. No, my apathy stems from my upbringing, where kids did not rule the roost.

In my family, Thanksgiving and the Florida-Georgia football game were big deals; children’s birthdays, not so much. Adult birthdays were never mentioned. I’m certain my brothers and I had lovely little birthday parties when we were young. I just can’t remember them.

I do remember my 18th birthday and boldly walking into Ducks, a rundown gas station and convenience store on old Route 11 on the outskirts of town to buy beer as a legal adult in the State of Virginia. No more worrying about whether or not I’d be carded or if the fake ID was good enough or if someone’s parents walked in and saw me. Unlike Supreme Court Justice Brett Kavanaugh, I didn’t just study in high school….

For decades, I declined to celebrate my birthday until I agreed to a very small party for my 50th but only because it coincided with a trip to New Orleans. There was a cake, lots of 25-cent martinis, and a nice lunch at Commander’s Palace restaurant. It was over in three hours and life returned to normal.

Now I don’t begrudge anyone celebrating a birthday. It’s a free country. But I can’t keep my eyes from rolling whenever I hear about someone going on and on about their special day.

Are they aware that on a planet of 9 billion people it’s likely that 19 million others share the same special day?

And don’t get me started on the concept of birthday weeks or months. I once had an employee get pissy with me because a complicated assignment had to be completed during his “birthday week.” Puh-leeze…. I told him I realized the celebration of Christmas now started before Thanksgiving, but in the spirit of one Ann Richards, he was no baby Jesus and there’s a

reason it’s called a birthday. His only response: who was Ann Richards?

While I don’t give a hoot about birthday celebrations, I am interested in the history behind them. Cultural historians say the ancient Egyptians, Greeks, Romans, and Chinese all celebrated birthdays with bread cakes and gifts to ward off evil spirits. Naturally, early Christians associated birthdays with paganism— until the Immaculate Conception.

Germans in the fourteenth century began the practice of putting one candle on a sweet cake to celebrate each year of a person’s life and giving birthday gifts. But this was only popular among the very wealthy until the Industrial Revolution led to the mass production of affordable sweet cakes and candles.

Then there’s the “Happy Birthday” song. As I understand it, two American educators in Louisville, Kentucky—Mildred and Patty Hill—wrote a song titled “Good Morning to All” in 1893.

It was geared for young school children and it quickly spread across the country.

Someone unknown later added the happy birthday verse we know and sing today. The Clayton F. Summy Company published the song in a book of songs for children in 1924. The company claimed the Hill sisters gave them the rights to the original song in exchange for a cut of the profits. However, the company didn’t copyright the song until 1934 after it showed up in a couple of popular movies.

You can see the problem. Who added the happy birthday lyrics and who really owned the copyright to them? Summy Company sold its copyright to a company that was eventually bought by the company that became Warner Music and Time Warner, which collected some royalties on it when it was used in commercials, TV shows, and movies.

The battle simmered along until a court ruled in 2016 that the copyright origin was unclear and the “Happy Birthday” song is a free public work. Damn! Now there’s no way to stop birthday singing in restaurants.

In fact, there seems to be no cure at all for all this birthday hoopla. It’s worse than the common cold. Now if you’ll excuse me, I’m going to wrap up this column, fix a Bloody Mary, and figure out how to manipulate my Facebook account to hide yours truly’s upcoming birthday. ▼

Damn! Now there’s no way to stop birthday singing in restaurants.

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IN THE Community

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The Lewes Historical Society will be hosting the Boos, Brews & Booze fundraiser on October 27 from 7-10 p.m. to benefit the soon-to-open Children’s Discovery Center at the Lewes History Museum. The event will feature spooky views of the historic campus, food, and local spirits. Visit historiclewes.org for tickets and information. ▼

Do the Hop for Food Pantry The Milton Community Food Pantry is holding their Second Annual Sock Hop Fundraiser on October 20 from 7-10 p.m. The event is at the Milton Fire Hall, 116 Front Street in Milton.

DJ Mary ‘WooWoo' Buchness will play hits from the 50s, 60s, and beyond. Each ticket will include a chance to win a 32-inch TV and there will be prizes for Best Dressed and Best Twist!

There will also be food for sale.

Tickets are $15 for singles and $25 for couples. Tickets are on sale now; call Barbara Wright at 302-684-8901 or email MCFP.Delaware@gmail.com. ▼

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CAMP Volunteer Spotlight

by Monica Parr

Michael DeFlavia

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ichael DeFlavia was raised in Levittown, Pennsylvania, a planned community built by William Levitt outside Philadelphia. His parents were the original—and only—owners of a house built in the late1950s until 2012, when it was sold. Mike attended Catholic schools for 16 years, graduating from LaSalle University in Philadelphia. Mike says, “Although not a practicing Catholic, I do believe there is a higher power in the universe.” He is a Vice President at Lautman Maska Neill & Company, a consulting firm specializing in direct response fundraising for non-profits.

Mike and his partner Tony Sowers, together for 18 years, originally met at Cloud 9, now G Cask, on July 4, 2000.

They began dating the following October.

Currently, their permanent residence is in Washington, DC’s Capitol Hill neighborhood, although they spend as much time as they can at their home in Rehoboth Beach. They are currently exploring how to make Rehoboth their permanent—or at least permanent summer—home within the next few years.

When Mike is not working at his day job as a non-profit fundraising consultant, he volunteers for CAMP Rehoboth, where he serves as a Board Member.

He also enjoys relaxing by his pool with friends, and traveling. He is looking forward to next November when they hope to visit South Africa.

When did you start volunteering at CAMP Rehoboth?

My first exposure to CAMP as a volunteer was either 2001 or 2002, helping spread the love about the July 4th LOVE Dance. I met some great people helping promote the event on the beach and throughout town.

What events/activities have you been involved with as a volunteer?

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and various other events in whatever capacity I could help.

Of the many events held by CAMP Rehoboth, which is your favorite?

I like the big dance events like the previously mentioned LOVE Dance. It would be great to see that reprised—although I know how much work is involved in making it a success. And, I couldn’t mention dance events without giving proper accolades to Sundance. I love seeing all parts of the community come together for a night of fun, dancing, and revelry.

What’s your best volunteer memory?

It would have to be in my current capacity as a Board member, organizing entertainment events. It’s great being able to offer experiences for people to come together and have a great time.

Name a childhood mentor or someone who influenced you while growing up.

Honestly, there is not one person that stands out. Everyone from whom I’ve had the privilege of learning has influenced who I am today.

If you could go back to the age of 18, what do you know now that you wish you knew then?

That my friends and family would have accepted me for who I was. I never had a big “coming out” moment. Rather, I let my being gay come out naturally in conversation. Not one person even batted an eye or treated me differently.

What is your favorite season here at the beach?

Fall. While I love the summer and all the excitement it brings, the fall weather is perfect. And the crowd is still sizable enough and fun.

Do you have an LGBTQ hero?

I’d have to say Jim Obergefell, et al (see Supreme Court case Obergefell v.

Hodges) for their courage to fight for what is right—equality—and stand on the right side of history!

The LGBTQ community has made significant progress in the fight for equality. Did you expect to see this in your lifetime?

I did. While often pessimistic (perhaps as a defense mechanism), I was optimistic in this arena. I had hope that those fighting the good fight, both individuals and organizations such as Human Rights Campaign (HRC), the ACLU, and countless others, would charge forward and succeed in securing marriage equality. We still have a long way to go for full equality for all, in all arenas. We’ll get there.

Given the current political climate, are you concerned about the possible loss of rights for the LGBTQ community?

I am certainly concerned. We’re seeing it play out on a daily basis with attacks on equal rights at every level of government with more than 100 anti-LGBTQ bills. And there are still 30 states where LGBTQ people are at risk of being fired simply for who they are. But we’re making strides every day, including right here in Delaware with the recent passage of SB 65—legislation protecting Delaware’s LGBTQ youth from the dangerous and debunked practice of so-called “conversion therapy.”

What is your favorite holiday?

Christmas. Regardless of the hubbub about saying Merry Christmas or Happy Holidays, everyone is in the holiday spirit.

What advice would you give to the younger LGBTQ community?

Do you. Be you. Look toward those who have come before you and learn from them. Don’t be an ageist toward those older than you. God willing, you’ll be old one day too.

How long have you been coming to Rehoboth?

My first time in Rehoboth was a weekend in 1998 with my friend Ken P. It happened to be the weekend of Cliff Lassahn’s (and others’) Delmarva Swimsuit Pageant house party. Needless to say, I was overwhelmed—but hooked on Rehoboth! The next couple of years, with some friends, we rented a house for the week. Then, in 2001, I joined a summer share with Tony (Sowers) and his friends who also threw big, themed house parties.

After a couple of years as a share, we bought a house and continued throwing a party. Only this time, it was a pool party…during July 4 week. Next year will mark our 15th—and perhaps final. We’ll see what happens. Our dear friends and housemates are instrumental in pulling the party together.

And, well, we ain’t spring chickens anymore.

Since you began coming to Rehoboth, name the biggest change(s) you’ve seen.

The biggest one is the development behind our house. When we bought our house in 2002, the area behind it was a corn field. Now it’s houses, condos, and townhouses. The benefit: Hebron Road, which allows us to get into town without going on Route 1.

What is your favorite U.S. city, and why?

New York City. It needs no answer to why.

What are you most thankful for?

That I have my friends, family, health, and job. Especially the latter. I love helping non-profits and it’s allowed me to afford a place in Rehoboth, our little slice of paradise. And, our condo in Mexico, our winter escape.

Mike, we look forward to the time when you and Tony will be living here on a full time basis. Thank you for being a part of the CAMP Rehoboth family, and putting forth all of the hours volunteering. Without volunteers like you we would not be able to do what1we do. I hope we will continue to have you Project1_Layout 4/1/2018 4:49 PM Page 1 helping us, going forward. ▼

thank you to all the CAMP Rehoboth Community Center Volunteers for the period: September 13 – October 11 COMMUNITY CENTER Sondra Arkin David Carder Ron Childress Max Dick Ann Evans Corky Fitzpatrick Kathy Fitzpatrick Jack Morrison Natalie Moss Sandra Skidmore Patricia Stiles Russell Stiles CAMP MAINTENANCE Eric Korpon LETTERS MAILING TEAM Andy Brangenberg David Carder David Hagelin Nancy Hewish Grant Kingswell Vickie Martina Fran Sneider Russell Stiles Linda Yingst GRANTS COMMITTEE Kate Cauley Liz Coit Rebecca Moscoso Pat Newcomb Lois Powell Leslie Sinclair

MEMBERSHIP COMMITTEE Jane Blue Ann Evans Rich Grote Pat Newcomb Glen Pruitt Debbie Woods RAINBOW THUMB CLUB Chris Bowers Carol Brice Linda DeFeo Karen DeSantis Ward Ellinger Monica Fleischmann Carolyn Ortwein Kim Schilpp Diane Scobey Ed Shockley Frank Shockley Theresa Shockley Barb Thompson Jeffrey Trunzo Evie Simmons Elva Weininger REUNION TOUR Carla Avery Rose Barcelona Lorraine Biros Carol Brice Dottie Cirelli Shelley Couch Karen DeSantis Deb Doricchi Dee Farris

Nancy Hewish Linda Kemp Liz Malverson Missy Mehring Anne Morillon Rebecca Moscoso Gwen Osborne Dotti Outland Monica Parr Emilie Paternoster Rina Pellegrini Barb Ralph Tama Viola Stephanie Wingert VOLUNTEER DEVELOPMENT COMMITTEE Dusty Abshire Pat Catanzariti Donna Dolce Jaye Laszcynski Michael Safina Leslie Sinclair Angie Strano WOMEN’S FEST COMMITTEE Dottie Cirelli Fay Jacobs Nancy Hewish Pam Kozey Margie Moore Rebecca Moscoso Gail Tannenbaum Kathy Wiz

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ThanksLiving November 18, 2018 Dr. Will Tuttle - 5 PM at CAMP Rehoboth Dinner at a(MUSE.) before or after Dr. Tuttle is a visionary speaker, educator, author, and musician.

His writings, music, and presentations focus on compassion, creativity, intuition, and the intersection of social justice, animal liberation, and environmental, health, spiritual, and peace issues.

Tickets $35 VegRehoboth.org

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CAMP Cheers!

BARTENDER’S FAVORITE Ginger Breneman, from Fork and Flask at Nage

CAMP Rehoboth Volunteer Opportunities OCTOBER 20 CAMP Rehoboth Outreach at Delaware Botanic Gardens, Dagsboro

NOVEMBER 8 Volunteer Opportunities Meeting and Dinner* (please RSVP)

NOVEMBER 10 CAMP Rehoboth Outreach at Rehoboth Beach Film Festival Cape Henlopen High School

NOVEMBER 13 CAMP Rehoboth Outreach at Food Bank of Delaware, Milford

Ginger has been behind the bar there for two and a half years now. This flask beverage is one of her favorites.

DECEMBER 1 World AIDS Day Event

FEBRUARY 15-17, 2019

Passionfruit Margarita Flask 2 oz. Tequila 1 oz. Triple Sec 1 oz. Lime juice 1.5 oz. passionfruit simple syrup 1 oz. water

Mocktail Strawberry Mint Flask Crushed strawberries 1.5 oz simple syrup 4 oz. club soda Mint

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CAMP Rehoboth Chorus Events * The Volunteer Opportunities Meetings (Breakfast and Dinner) provide information for all volunteers to learn the details of upcoming opportunities and sign up for specific events. RSVPs are required so an appropriate amount of food can be prepared.

Please RSVP to volunteer@camprehoboth.com.

To volunteer, contact Monica Parr at

volunteer@camprehoboth.com FOR MORE INFORMATION VISIT

camprehoboth.com/volunteers

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FASHION & FINE ARTS PHOTOGRAPHER September 11, 1945 – December 12, 2017

Estate of Photographer Joe Bowman Gifts CAMP Rehoboth

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he executor of the estate of photographer and Rehoboth friend Joe Bowman has gifted two of Joe’s favorite pieces to CAMP Rehoboth in recognition of the well-known Philadelphia photographer’s love for Rehoboth Beach.

Signed and numbered, Horse Play and Miami Palms are valuable black and white fantasy works of art that fuel the imagination with highoctane fun.

Bowman, who died in 2017, was a frequent Rehoboth visitor in between his photo shoots in such hot spots as 1980s New York, L.A., P-town, London, San Juan, and South Beach.

(Top to bottom) Joe Bowman’s Horse Play 1993, 10" x 15", and Miami Palms 1999, 6.5" x 10"

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Remembering Joe Bowman 1945-2017

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espite Bowman’s legions of fans throughout the City of Brotherly Love, Steve McLerran of Rehoboth initially thought Joe was “a pushy photographer hounding me to book him to shoot my fashion campaigns.”

But he soon learned that Joe Bowman was the ambassador for the Philly community with an “uncanny knack for connecting people who shared his free-spirited, artistic, maybe-a-littletwisted take on life.”

According to McLerran, “After all, I am Mr. Philadelphia,” was a frequent non-sequitur Joe Bowman “shamelessly inserted into many conversations. It was another crowning badge of honor, and he made certain you would not forget it!”

McLerran says, “Although he proclaimed the guest room at our house was the Joe Bowman Suite, he didn’t need Larry and me to introduce him to the joys of our little beach town. Long before we were buying cocktail party paté at the long-gone Company Store, Joe and his posse were regulars on Poodle Beach, North Shores, and the club circuit frenzy here in Sussex County. (Yes, there was one.)”

Even as health and age started to dim his spotlight, Bowman would answer his phone with “Do you have any gossip for me?”

On December 12, 2017, Bowman passed away. Almost a year later, on Friday, October 19, the William Way Center in Philadelphia hosted the Joe Bowman Cocktail Party—with tributes from his infamous Rolodex of friends sharing their own “back in the day” stories about Joe. Many guests also contributed to the newly established Bowman Legacy Fund for ongoing preservation and conservation of images that captured gay life in the big city.

In addition to the photographs the estate has gifted to CAMP Rehoboth, Joe’s estate is also awarding some of his pieces to New York’s Leslie-Lohman Museum of Gay and Lesbian Art, where his artwork has been exhibited over the years. ▼

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R E H OB OT H RETAI L SHOPS All Dried Up, 149 Rehoboth Avenue, Suite 6b..............484-667-7122 Atlantic Jewelry, 313 S. Boardwalk...............................302-226-0675 Beach Essentials, 33 Baltimore Ave..............................302-227-5210 Critter Beach, 156 Rehoboth Ave..................................302-226-2690 Elegant Slumming, 33 Baltimore Ave............................302-227-5551 Gallery 50, 50 Wilmington Ave......................................302-227-2050 Gidget’s Gadgets, 123 Rehoboth Ave...........................302-227-3959 Mod Cottage, 247A Rehoboth Ave...............................302-227-7277 New Wave Spas, 20660 Coastal Hwy...........................302-227-8484 Pelican Loft, 149 Rehoboth Ave....................................302-226-5080 M.G.T. & Company, 39 Baltimore Ave............................302-567-5976 Rehoboth Breeze, 117 Rehoboth Ave...........................302-226-5720 Salty Paws, 149 Rehoboth Avenue, Suite 6a................484-667-7122 Shademakers, 33 Baltimore Ave...................................302-226-2222 Sterling Optical, 19287 Miller Rd, Unit 12....................302-226-8800 The Linen Outlet, 19269 Coastal Hwy..........................302-727-5362 Unfinished Business, Rt. 1 behind Panera Bread.........302-645-8700 Ward Ellinger Gallery, 39 Baltimore Ave.......................302-227-2710 Wooden Indian, Ltd., 25 Baltimore Ave.........................302-227-8331 One Day At A Time Gifts, 46-B Baltimore Ave...............302-212-5632

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FUNERAL SERVICES •• McCrery & Harra............................................................302-478-2204 •• Parsell Funeral Homes & Crematorium.........................302-645-9520 HAIR SALONS/TATTOO & PIERCING 72 Bad Hair Day? 20 Lake Ave............................................302-227-HAIR 62 Beach Cuts, 214 Rehoboth Ave................................... 302-226-ROBB •• Salon Milton, 517 Chestnut St., Milton..........................302-684-1880 99 Gregory Meyers Hair Studio, 20245 Bay Vista Rd & Rt 1.................................................................................302-727-5331 INSURANCE 100 George Bunting, State Farm..........................................302-227-3891 109 Jeanine O’Donnell, State Farm......................................302-645-7283 109 Eric Blondin, State Farm................................................302-644-3276 LEGAL/ACCOUNTING/TRUST SERVICES 79 Lawson Firm, 402 Rehoboth Ave..................................302-226-3700 79 Morris James, 402 Rehoboth Ave.................................302-260-7290 •• Fuqua, Willard, Stevens, & Schab, PA, 26 The Circle, Georgetown...................................................................302-856-7777 MASSAGE THERAPY/FITNESS 72 Bad Hair Day? 20 Lake Ave............................................302-227-HAIR •• Jeffrey Socorso, LMT.....................................................302-227-0731 8 Konrad Noebel, LMT, 26 Baltimore Ave........................302-226-8833

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OTHER •• Ocean Boulevard Furniture, 18467 Coastal Hwy.........302-645-2626 PET SERVICES •• Parsell Pet Crematorium................................................302-645-7445 REAL ESTATE 77 Allen Jarmon, RE/MAX, 317 Rehoboth Ave...................302-227-4800 18 Bill Peiffer, Patterson Schwartz, 18958 Coastal Hwy, Suite C...................................................................302-703-6987 87 Chris Beagle, Berkshire Hathaway, 37230 Reh Ave.....302-227-6101 77 Debbie Reed Team, 319 Rehoboth Ave........................800-263-5648 •• Eric Atkins, Patterson-Schwartz Real Estate, 18958 Coastal Highway.........................................................................302-727-1456 108 Eva Monteagudo, Keller Williams Realty.......................862-588-1342 81 Jim McAlister, Mann & Sons, 414 Rehoboth Ave..........302-227-9477 18 John Black, Patterson Schwartz, 18958 Coastal Hwy, Suite C...................................................................302-703-6987 90 Karen Gustafson, Long & Foster, 37156 Reh Ave.........302-227-2541 87 Lana Warfield, Berkshire Hathaway, 37230 Reh Ave...302-227-6101

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Lee Ann Wilkinson Group, 16698 Kings Hwy................302-645-6664 Lingo Realty, 246 Rehoboth Ave...................................302-227-3883 McGuiness Group, 246 Rehoboth Ave..........................302-227-3883 Randy Mason/Shirley Kalvinsky, Lingo Realty...............302-227-3883 Sea Bova Associates, 20250 Coastal Hwy, #3.............302-227-1222 Steve Janosik, Maggio Shields, 37169 Reh Ave...........302-226-3770 Suzanne Landon, Lingo Realty, 246 Rehoboth Ave......302-227-3883 Thompson Communities...............................................302-450-8147 Troy Roberts, Mann & Sons, 414 Rehoboth Ave...........302-228-7422

TRAVEL & TRANSPORTATION 87 Accent On Travel, 37156 Rehoboth Ave.......................302-278-6100 28 Jolly Trolley, Rehoboth-Dewey Shuttle from Rehoboth Ave & Boardwalk. Call for schedule.........................................302-644-0400 POPULAR LGBTQ BEACHES Poodle Beach: south end of the Rehoboth Boardwalk Cape Henlopen State Park: Ocean Dr north to Cape Henlopen State Park.

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21st Annual Rehoboth Beach Film Festival Returns November 1 - 11

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his year marks the 21st anniversary of the Rehoboth Beach Independent Film Festival. For eleven days (November 1-11) the Festival presents dozens of American and international features, documentaries, and shorts.

This is the oldest and largest event of its kind in the State of Delaware.

Screenings will take place at the Rehoboth Beach Film Society’s Cinema Art Theater on Route One, the large Cape Henlopen High School Theater in Lewes, and the comfortable sanctuary at the Unitarian Universalists of Southern Delaware on Route 9.

An expanded Festival program for 2018 presents a total of six IN DEMAND schedule slots on Sunday (November 11), designated for encore screenings of films that are popular and/or highly rated by audiences. The films selected for these slots will be announced at 3 PM on Saturday, November 10 on the Rehoboth Beach Film Society’s website and at the Box Office. Tickets will available for online purchase at the same time.

As always, the Festival offers a diverse selection of film subject matter for a variety of interests. Looking ahead, in April 2019 the Film Society will present Delaware LGBTQ+ CINEbrations, in partnership with CAMP Rehoboth. The Rehoboth Beach Film Society’s strategy, according to

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Executive Director Sue Early, is “to save the best LGBTQ+ films for that event, but three very good films are programmed into November’s Festival.”

The following are only some of the independent films on tap for the 2018 Festival. Many, many more include a biographical comedy about the secret life of writer Emily Dickinson, a tribute to Hal Ashby, and a suspenseful thriller.

Get information about films, the screening schedule, and instructions on how to purchase tickets at rehobothfilm. com. Tickets may be purchased easily online or, for those into risk-taking, try the Rush Ticket Sales option.

There are plenty of volunteer opportunities during this event as well.

To schedule a shift, please call the Main Film Society Office at 302-645-9095.

Great films await at the Rehoboth Beach Independent Film Festival, November 1-11. This coastal area tradition gets bigger and better every single year. Happy viewing! ▼

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LGBTQ+ FILMS 1985 Inspired by the award-winning short film of the same name, 1985 follows Adrian (Cory Michael Smith, Gotham), a closeted young man returning to his Texas hometown for Christmas during the first wave of the AIDS crisis.

Burdened with an unspeakable tragedy in New York, Adrian reconnects with his brother (Aidan Langford) and estranged childhood friend (Jamie Chung), as he struggles to divulge his dire circumstances to his religious parents (Virginia Madsen and Michael Chiklis).

[Dir. Yen Tan, 2018, USA, 85 minutes.

Rating: NR]

Mapplethorpe An intimate portrait of the celebrated yet controversial photographer Robert Mapplethorpe (Matt Smith—Dr. Who, The Crown). The film explores Mapplethorpe’s life photographing his friends, including artists and musicians, socialites, film stars, and members of the S&M underground.

Mapplethorpe’s work displayed eroticism in a way that had never been examined or displayed before to the public. The film explores the intersection of his art, sexuality, and struggle for mainstream recognition.

[Dir. Ondi Timoner, 2018, USA, 102 minutes.

Rating: NR]

The Lavender Scare This film documents the story of an unrelenting campaign by the federal government to identify and fire all employees suspected of being homosexual. In 1953, President Eisenhower declared gay men and lesbians to be a threat to the security of the country and unfit for government service. In doing so, he triggered the longest witch hunt in American history. In 1957, after thousands had lost their jobs, a Harvard-trained astronomer named Frank Kameny became the first to fight his dismissal. This is a compelling story of one man’s fight for justice.

[Dir. Josh Howard, 2017, USA, 77 minutes.

Rating: NR]

Bathtubs Over Broadway For all audiences, this year’s Festival has a unique selection of very appealing documentaries. For example, did you know there was a whole world of corporate musicals which sustained the lives of Broadway stars and well-known song writers? Well, Bathtubs Over Broadway is the film that reveals this unknown treasure.

While scouring bargain bin vinyl to use on a segment of Late Night with David Letterman, comedy writer Steve Young stumbled upon bizarre cast recordings of Broadway-style musical shows about some of the most recognizable corporations in America. His find led him to an unexpected, decades-spanning obsession. This comedic music documentary features David Letterman, Martin Short, Chita Rivera, Susan Stroman, Jello Biafra, Florence Henderson, and more.

[Dir. Dava Whisenant, 2018, USA, 87 minutes. Rating: NR]

Brewmaster Beer lovers will enjoy Brewmaster, the story of craft beer as told through a young New York lawyer who dreams of opening his own brewery and a Milwaukeebased beer educator trying to pass the Master Cicerone exam. Helping tell the story of beer are some of the best-known personalities in the industry, including Sussex County’s own Sam Calagione.

[Dir. Douglas Tirola, 2018, USA, 95 minutes. Rating: NR]

Three Days of Glory And yes there is a film for wine enthusiasts—Three Days of Glory. Les Trois Glorieuses (Three Glorious Days) is the name of the world’s greatest wine celebration in the most legendary of wine regions. This documentary offers a glimpse into aspects of Burgundy never filmed before. Home to the most renowned wines on the planet, a series of difficult years in the 20s and 30s led to the creation of a wine festival. This is the story of that festival, its origins, and the small-estate winemakers of today who have faced a string of brutal years that threatens their very survival.

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The Parting Glass Who can pass by a good dysfunctional family story, especially if the cast includes Ed Asner, Cynthia Nixon, Melissa Leo, and Denis O’Hare?

The film is The Parting Glass. After the death of their beloved sister Colleen (Anna Paquin), three siblings (Melissa Leo, Cynthia Nixon, Denis O’Hare) and their father (Ed Asner) travel to her home to uncover the truths of her death and reminisce about a lifetime of memories.

[Dir. Stephen Moyer, 2018, USA, 95 minutes. Rating: NR]

Bel Canto Fans of Julianna Moore and opera lovers who enjoy the voice of Renée Fleming must see Bel Canto, based on the best-selling novel by Ann Patchett. Julianna Moore portrays a worldrenowned opera singer who becomes trapped in a lengthy hostage situation when she’s invited to perform for a wealthy industrialist in South America. Unexpected bonds are forged in the standoff that ensues. Opera star Renee Fleming provides vocals for Moore’s character.

[Dir. Paul Weitz, 2018, USA, 102 minutes. Rating: NR]

On Borrowed Time And for some humor, you must see On Borrowed Time. When an elderly man in Dubai suddenly inherits countless millions, he and his three friends plot an escape from their monotonous lives in a senior home. The men embark on an adventure that forces them to face their fears and uncover secrets. Throughout the streets of Dubai, they follow their forgotten dreams on a journey of selfdiscovery, forgiveness, and fun.

[Dir. Yasir Al Yasiri, 2018, UAE, 95 minutes. In Arabic with English subtitles. Rating: NR]

For information about films, the screening schedule, and instructions on how to purchase tickets visit rehobothfilm.com.

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CAMP INTERVIEW

by Chris Azzopardi

Love and Understanding: A Conversation with Cher

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her is so low-key about being Cher that calling her is like calling your mom. “Hi,” she purrs with signature simplicity when I phone her presidential suite in late August.

We are speaking matter-of-factly about gay things, political things, about going to Walgreens.

This seems so very…normal?

Certainly, Cher is the most multi of multi-hyphenates—fiery human rights activist, Auto-Tune pioneer, a unicorn, the phoenix—but no, not at all normal. Not from down here, where we’ve basked in the long-reigning diva’s treasure trove of film and music and bedazzled Bob Mackie costumes, and admired her ability to get down, do a five-minute plank (seriously), and somehow get back up again. That motion is the time-tested signature of Cher’s enduring six-decade career. It’s where grit meets guts meets glitter.

She has three Golden Globes, a Best Actress Oscar (Moonstruck), a Grammy (“Believe”), and an Emmy (Cher: The Farewell Tour). And in December, she’ll be the recipient of the prestigious Kennedy Center Honor for her indelible contributions to culture. But Cher’s superheroine, Hollywood-royalty sheen isn’t without genuine normal-person realness. In July, she did her gay icon due diligence by helicoptering onto the set of Mamma Mia! Here We Go Again to play the role she’d been playing in front of the world, most discernibly to generations of baby-gays and grown-up gays: maternal pillar.

The night we spoke, Cher was laid-back, reflective, and full of hearty chuckles as she talked about that Walgreens detour, kissing Silkwood costar Meryl Streep, the breadcrumbs of her legacy, and not only her long-standing influence on the LGBTQ community, but our influence on her.

Cher, it’s 2016, you’re at a Walgreens in Flint, Michigan, on Halloween. You were campaigning for Hillary and some shoppers told you they loved your Cher costume.

Yes! Oh my god! Wasn’t that, like, the weirdest experience at the Walgreens?!

Are you frequently mistaken for a Cher impersonator? Because, I mean, how often would the real Cher be at a Walgreens?

Right? And in Flint! Well, probably not often. Ha! But you know, the minute I start talking, they pretty much know it’s me.

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happen? I have no idea! It’s just like, we made a pact and we’re a group and that’s it.

But you were seeing more of the LGBTQ community come out at some point? There was a switch?

Yeah, there was a change, there was definitely a change. But I always had gay friends. I actually almost got arrested at a party with my best friend at school. He was gay but he couldn’t let anybody know, and he wanted me to go with him to a party and the party got raided. And we jumped out the bathroom window!

Do you recall the moment that galvanized you to stand up as an LGBTQ ally?

I really don’t know if there was a moment…. I just feel that, probably, there was a moment where guys thought I was just one of you. Gay men are very loyal.

Look, I had a friend, (makeup artist) Kevyn Aucoin—he’s dead now—but he told me when he was young, he was growing up in some place in Louisiana, and he said how horrible it was to have to hide and be frightened. He said he loved listening to Cher records. I think that’s a dead giveaway! Haha! If you want to hide being gay, do not buy Cher records!

When in your life have you felt like the LGBTQ community was on your side when the rest of the world maybe was not?

Always. I remember when I was doing (the play) Come Back to the Five and Dime (in 1976) and we had standing room only before we got reviewed, and after we got reviewed nobody came except the community—the community, and little greyhaired old women who came to matinees. We managed to stay open until we could build back up the following. Also, the gay community, they just don’t leave you, they stay with you; that’s one thing that always keeps you going.

At the Mamma Mia! Here We Go Again premiere, you and Meryl Streep kissed on the lips. Was that meant to be the Silkwood reunion the internet wanted it to be?

Haha! No! We were just thinking it was stupid! It was so dumb! Meryl came behind me and I didn’t know it, and then we turned to each other, she looked up at me and she said, “You weren’t this tall yesterday!” And we laughed. And we just kissed! I have to tell you something: She is funny.

She is wicked funny! And I don’t know that she gets to show that side all that often, but she’s

wicked funny and she just will do anything for a lark. She’s got a really great serious side, but she’s got this really hysterical side too.

How do you hope your role as the mother of a trans son, Chaz Bono, has influenced other parents of LGBTQ kids?

Look, I didn’t go through it that easily. Both times. When I found out Chaz was gay, I didn’t go through that easily; when I found out Chaz was (transitioning).... there’s such a fear of losing the child you love, and what will replace that child? I think it’s about the fear, mostly. I felt, who will this new person be? Because I know who the person is now, but who will the new person be and how will it work and will I have lost somebody?

And then I thought of something else: I thought, my god, if I woke up tomorrow and I was a man, I would be gouging my eyes out. And so I know that if that’s what you feel then that must be so painful that it doesn’t make any difference what anyone else feels or what anyone else thinks. Chaz is so happy now and we get along better than ever.

There seems to be a fair amount of homophobes who you end up calling out.

Yeah. I mean, I don’t know what they are. There’s just so much phobia of everybody. You’ve gotta be the same color, you’ve gotta like the same things, you’ve gotta be the same religion. It’s like if you’re not one of them, you’re an enemy.

I’ve been thinking a lot about how we interpret an artist’s legacy, like after Aretha passed, and every time an icon passes on.

Do you think about yours?

You know, I don’t really think about it. The only provision I’ve made is: I want all my friends and family to go to Paris and have a big party. Also, what’s really great is there’s music left behind and there’s film left behind, you know? I’m gonna leave a trail. I’ll leave breadcrumbs. ▼ As editor of Q Syndicate, the international LGBTQ wire service, Chris Azzopardi has interviewed a multitude of superstars, including Meryl Streep, Mariah Carey, and Beyoncé.

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by Michael Gillies

Kay Cummings Brings Her Theatrical Talent to Baltimore Avenue

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he has played leading roles off-Broadway, in national tours, stock, repertory theater, television soaps, series, and commercials, and has appeared in major motion pictures. She has created and directed works performed at venues such as the Joseph Papp Public Theater, Lincoln Center’s Serious Fun, and Off-Off-Broadway’s legendary La MaMa Experimental Theatre Club.

While that’s quite the resumé, there’s more!

She has written and performed a series of highly acclaimed one-woman cabarets and her work has been featured on Alive from Off Center on PBS. And yes, there’s more.

Kay Cummings was the dance curator for New York’s Symphony Space for ten years and served another ten years as the Chair of the Department of Dance of New York University’s Tisch School of the Arts. She continued to teach choreography and acting there as well as being the Associate Chair until she retired in 2016. She founded the Tisch Dance Summer Residency Festival. She was also awarded the NYU Distinguished Teaching Medal.

The great news is that now-local resident Kay Cummings is bringing this headlining background and experience to CAMP Rehoboth!

So how did Kay end up living in Lewes, sharing her talents as an actor, director, choreographer, singer, dancer, pianist, and educator with the community?

This transplanted New Yorker bought a home in Lewes six years ago with then long-time partner (and now wife) Ellen McKeon. They split time between New York and Lewes before Kay retired, eventually settling in Delaware full-time along with their beloved Yorkie.

Since moving to Lewes, Kay has taken up acting again. At the 2016 Baltimore Avenue Block Party, Kay met Russell Stiles, director of Stop Kiss, to be performed the following spring at CAMP Rehoboth. He cast her in the play and their friendship grew. Her experience in Stop Kiss led to a role in Last Summer at Bluefish Cove, and a special relationship with CAMP Rehoboth.

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ter, bringing the same sensibility to her classes here that she had at NYU. Her class welcomes anyone who wants to learn.

Kay started her theater journey as a child in or around the New York area. She sang or acted as a baby (yes, an actual baby), and has never stopped. She continued on through high school and college, and suddenly her fun endeavors became a full-time career. Always a small but formidable presence, WNYU radio described her as “a small lady with boundless energy, and a dramatic range that is so wide it’s all but intimidating.” The magazine Michael’s Thing said, “The lady has guts and good humor.” After spending time with her, this author can verify all.

In Kay’s view of the world, teachers teach what they’ve learned from their own experience, so that what resonates in them ends up resonating in others.

This results in a circle of learning that can last literally for a generation. And for Kay, it means that she can only become a better artist.

While the acting classes are going on this fall, Kay’s next project is directing the play In the Wake, by well-known playwright Lisa Kron. Produced by CAMP Rehoboth, the play is a funny, passionate, and ultimately searing script illuminating the assumptions that lie at the heart of the American character, the blind spots that mask us from ourselves, and how the past sows the seeds of our present reality.

Kay found the play after reading over 50 scripts to determine her next project. She was looking for something about the world now. It didn’t have to be about gay people or straight people. It needed to have a sensibility toward all kinds of people, because, in her words, “life is that.”

The Associated Press called the play “formidable.” That makes it even more fitting for the human dynamo that is Kay Cummings. ▼ Editor’s Note: Auditions for In the Wake will be November 27 and 28 at 7 p.m. Auditions will consist of a cold reading and short interview.

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by Eric C. Peterson

Coming Out of the Felt Closet

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t’s been difficult to keep up with all the news in pop culture this month, what with the Deputy Attorney General maybe getting fired, the circus surrounding the Supreme Court nomination, and a burgeoning love affair between the North Korean dictator and the President of the United States.

So you’ll be forgiven if you somehow missed that during September 2018, a couple of Muppets came out of the closet…again.

The question of whether irascible Bert and goofball Ernie are more than roommates is not a new one. Back in 1994, the New York Times broached the question in an op-ed entitled, “Are Bert and Ernie Gay?” It was written in response to a bunch of homophobic parents who wondered if the creators of Sesame Street were somehow plotting to homosexualize a generation of American children.

And now, almost a quarter of a century later, we’re asking the question again. But this time, it’s the gay community which is proudly embracing their fellow felt friends of Dorothy. This time around, it started with an interview on the LGBTQ website Queerty, in which former Sesame Street writer Mark Saltzman, an out gay man, recalled basing most of the interactions between Ernie and Bert on his own relationship.

“Without a huge agenda, when I was writing Bert and Ernie, they were [a couple],” he said. “I didn’t have any other way to contextualize them. The other thing was, more than one person referred to Arnie [Glassman, Saltzman’s late partner] and me as ‘Bert and Ernie.’”

So Saltzman never really said that Bert and Ernie were gay, just that the dynamic between them was very much like the dynamic in his own homosexual relationship. But it was enough to send the gay world aflutter. On Buzzfeed, Allie Hayes wrote a terrific piece called, “So Bert and Ernie Were Based On an IRL (In Real Life) Couple and My Little Queer Heart Is Screaming.” Predictably, within days, the Children’s Television Workshop took to Twitter (where all important news

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is made these days) to issue a bland denial which ended with, “they remain puppets, and do not have a sexual orientation.”

Before I go too much farther, let me be clear. I don’t require Bert and Ernie to be queer. I’m 47 years old, I’ve been to therapy, and I’ve seen Angels in America twice. I have enough validation in my life to be at peace with my fabulous gay self without the aid of two adorable puppets.

All the same, the blanket denials that Bert and Ernie could be gay have filled me with a surprising and frightening amount of rage. Let’s take the arguments one at a time, shall we?

Because someone should probably tell Miss Piggy, who is a screaming heterosexual with a distinct amphibian fetish. But nobody thinks that’s too much for kids to handle.

“Why limit Bert and Ernie this way?” Look, if you believe that gay people are simply bipedal, anthropomorphized genitalia, grow up and join the 21st century. Gay people have career aspirations, favorite foods, migraine headaches, pets, homes, and automobiles just like straight people do. We are just as complex, glorious, and flawed as any garden variety heterosexual.

“Puppets don’t have a sexual orientation!” Really? Because someone should probably tell Miss Piggy, who is a screaming heterosexual with a distinct amphibian fetish. But nobody thinks that’s too much for kids to handle. Next question.

“Why are you making them gay?

This is a show for children!” Okay, first of all, there are children who are gay.

Additionally, there are kids out there with gay parents, and lots of kids who go to school with kids of gay parents. There are kids whose parents have gay friends.

There are many, many lesbian aunties and gay uncles.

The idea that innocent children should be protected from the dastardly influence of potentially gay puppets in a world where children of all ages are meeting real-life same-sex couples all the time is absurd.

If a child asks about a gay couple they’ve met, what follows is typically not a detailed description of sexual positions, but a simple, “well, they love each other, just like [point to the nearest straight couple],” and that’s that. And if that’s good enough for reality, why say anything different if a kid asks you if two of their favorite puppets are more than good friends?

If a child doesn’t know any gay couples, it’s just good education. If they do, especially their own parents, then it’s not only healthy, but vital for these kids to see their own lives reflected on screen in this way, somewhere.

No one is asking the Children’s Television Workshop to let them lead a Pride Parade down Sesame Street (although that would be fabulous; admit it), but to simply let them be exactly who they are—and if a child (or an adult) sees themselves or someone they love in these adorable characters, to just be quiet and let that happen. Because that’s healing, and it’s wonderful, and it’s actually necessary. ▼ Eric Peterson is a diversity and inclusion educator living in Washington D.C. and cohost of a weekly podcast about pop culture.

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n a recent dream, my subconscious produced an award show to recognize the artistic achievements in Sussex County. After noticing that everyone was wearing their nightclothes, I discovered the awards were called the “Jammies.” Geez! Bad puns even in my dreams.

Hosting the event were Oprah and Tom Hanks. An attractive young woman asked me to follow her backstage, as I was to receive a Jammie for Life-Time Achievement. As I waited, I heard Oprah and Tom joking about that “loser,” and how his biggest achievement was “Baltimore’s Best Piano Bar”—in 1998! I was about to be exposed as the fraud I had always known I was. Well! I wasn’t about to be humiliated in my own dreams.

When I awoke, I found myself pondering my artistic legacy. A handful of small-cast musicals which will never see the light of day again (one was produced off-Broadway), co-founding three theaters (one still exists), a pile of vocal arrangements which will only be sung by groups I direct and—not to compare myself to Noel Coward—a talent to amuse.

What I realized is that despite not having a shelf full of awards, or the ability to live off my royalties, I’m pretty darned happy, and pray that my music has brought some joy into a few lives over the years. Hopefully, some of the artists listed below will win that Jammie one day! I’ll just wear mine. All locations are Rehoboth Beach unless otherwise noted.▼

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Summer may be over, but the CAMP Rehoboth Gallery has a great line-up of art exhibitions throughout the fall and into the winter months. Head into town to see the art, or better yet, attend the receptions, meet the artists, and celebrate the arts. Parking is free now and much more plentiful!

Visually Disrepaired: Paintings and Drawings

by Scott G. Brooks November 3-28 | Artist’s Reception: Saturday, November 10 (4-6 p.m.)

Those who saw the Bears art show last month, may recall the burly ginger bear featured on the entry wall. We’re thrilled to announce that the creator of that work, Baltimore artist Scott G. Brooks, will return to CAMP Rehoboth for a solo show, where he will be exhibiting a variety of new and older work, prints, and more. His artworks are figurative and range from simple portraiture to intricate narratives.

Says Brooks, “I create work based on the figure. It is a language that is accessible and facilitates communication. Like dance, a narrative is created without words.

The stories are told in the infinite number of faces, gestures, and bodies that inhabit my work.” Brooks’ art incorporates social, psychological, and political issues, usually infused with a dark sense of humor. “Even in my most severe pieces, humor exists on some level, if only as a reminder not to take

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Images: (top to bottom) Leda and the Swan, Mixed media on paper, 10" x 13" The Shaming, Oil on canvas, 18" x 24"

arts+entertainment events: 1: Eighth Grade; 2: Larry XL Comedy (18+); 3: Heathers (Clear Space); 8: Sorry to Bother You; 9: Think Pink Floyd; 10: Jesse Garron’s Tribute to Elvis; 15: Robert Redford’s All Is Lost; 16: Magicians Trick Trio; 17: The Funsters (Benefit Dance Party); 18: The Greatest Showman.

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December 1-29 Artists’ Reception: Saturday, December 8 (2-4 p.m.)

Something magical happens when multiple generations come together to make art. The act of creation gives a powerful voice to artists of any age and builds a sense of shared community pride. CAMP Rehoboth’s December art exhibition, Generations!, will combine the talents of emerging, established, the young, and the “young at heart” by showcasing the work of high school student artists and artists who are 55+ years of age.

Creative high school students and 55+ artists who wish to have work considered for this show should email artshow@camprehoboth. com and the art team will respond with details. Deadline for entry is November 7.

PERFORMING ARTS CAMP Rehoboth Chorus (37 Baltimore Avenue; 302-227-5620; camprehoboth. com) is in rehearsal for their February 15-17, 2019 presentation of Seasons of Love—celebrating their first decade of making music. Make a note to get tickets for the concerts the second they go on sale.

Cuban Attitude, by Dottie Teixeira, Rehoboth Art League.

Epworth UMC (19285 Holland Glade Road; 302-227-7743; eumcrb.org/ mercyswell/) has a special Veteran’s Day celebration Saturday, November 10 (7-9 p.m.), with a terrific quintet of musicians and soloists to entertain you with the memorable music of the Korean War. Mark your calendars for their annual Christmas Spectacular—Yule Love It...Again! December 8 (7 p.m.) featuring Epworth’s Music Department, the CAMP Rehoboth Ensemble, and several surprise guests, including the big guy in red!

Capital Ringers (capitalringers.org) are rehearsing for Celebrate the Season— their 2018 holiday tour runs November 18-December 15.

Possum Point Players (441 Old Laurel Road in Georgetown; 302-856-4560; possumpointplayers.org) presents A Night of Motown Hits on October 27 (7:30 p.m.) and October 28 (2 p.m.).

A fundraiser for Possum’s lobby refurbishment, it also features a 50/50 raffle, silent auction, Chinese auction, and baked goods. It’s a Wonderful Life will warm your hearts from November 30-December 9.

Clear Space Theatre Company (20 Baltimore Avenue; 302-227-2270; clearspacetheatre.org) produces Heathers—the “killer” musical based on the classic 1989 film (October 19-31).

Their Spotlight on Young Performers group presents Willy Wonka (November 9-11), followed by A Well-Strung Christmas (November 17-18), and ends the year with A Christmas Carol (November 23-December 9).

Premier Centre for the Arts at Milton Theater (110 Union St. in Milton; 302-684-3038; miltontheatre.com) “keeps Milton weird”! October events— 18: Revival House film They Live; 19: Magnolia Applebottom’s Night of the Living Drag; 20: Milton Zombie Fest (matinee) / Rocky Horror Picture Show (evening); 25: Kirtan: Transcendental Jam Session; 26: Dynamo; 27: Divine Hand Ensemble; 28: Coco; November

Rehoboth Beach Film Society (17701 Dartmouth Drive (Lewes), 302-3134032; rehobothfilm.com) screens the best new Independent films at their Cinema Art Theatre. The Met: Live in HD - Saint-Saëns’ Samson et Dalila (October 27 & 29); Puccini’s La Fanciulla del West (November 17 & 19). National Theatre Live: The Madness of George III (December 8-11). Get your tickets for the 21st Rehoboth Beach Independent Film Festival—November 1-11!

Second Street Players (2 South Walnut Street in Milford; 302-422-0220/800838-3006; secondstreetplayers.com) prepares for their holiday offering Miracle on 34th Street (November 23– December 2). The theatre will be closed for renovations through March 2019, and they celebrate the event with Bryan Clark on December 7.

Southern Delaware Chorale (P.O. Box 444; 302-260-7022; southerndelawarechorale.org) performs Handel’s Messiah on December 2 (3 p.m.) at Cape Henlopen High School under the direction of Dr. Colin Armstrong.

Hidden Queen 2 (detail), painting by Terrance Vann, CAMP Rehoboth Gallery.

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arts+entertainment VISUAL ARTS Abraxas Studio of Art (515 Federal Street, Lewes; 302-645-9119; abraxasart. com) features the oil portraits and landscape paintings of Abraxas and his own style of illuminated reality.

Anna Hazzard Museum (17 Christian Street, 302-2261119) is a captivating look at the early history of Rehoboth Beach as a religious retreat.

The museum is housed in one of the original “tent” houses from Rehoboth’s 1870s camp-meeting era and is named for former owner and civic leader, Anna Hazzard.

The Brush Factory on Kings (830 Kings Highway, Lewes; 302-745-2229; Facebook@ brushlewes) is an artist/craft co-op: furniture, art, clothing, antiques, and more. They’re currently in a “pumpkin state of mind”!

CAMP Rehoboth Gallery (37 Baltimore Avenue; 302-2275620; camprehoboth.com) on display through October 31: Imagine: New Works by Terrence Vann. Opening November 3: Visually Disrepaired: Paintings and Drawings by Scott G. Brooks.

Cape Artists Gallery (110 W. 3rd Street, Lewes; 302-6447733; capeartists.org) represents two dozen artists, with much of their work focusing on beach scenes.

Delaware Art Gallery (239 Rehoboth Avenue; 302-8535099; kevinfleming.com) offers new and classic Delaware photographs by Kevin Fleming as well as lovely coffee table books of his work.

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Gallery 50 Contemporary Art & Frame Shop (50 A-B Wilmington Avenue; 302227-2050; gallery50art.com) features a variety of artworks in painting, jewelry, glass, sculpture, ceramics, mixed media, and mobiles. A new show featuring the works of Constance Costigan and Michael Krausz runs through November 1.

Heidi Lowe Gallery (328 Rehoboth Avenue; 302-2279203; heidilowejewelry.com) has beautiful and unique hand-made pieces (including wedding rings!) and offers classes in jewelry making.

Catch her Art in the Yard with the Dewey Artist Collaboration on Friday, October 27 (5–8p.m.) during the Sea Witch Festival. Her fantastic annual Earrings Galore is on view through December.

Painting with a Twist (17723 Coastal Highway; 302-3135769; paintingwithatwist. com/lewes/) offers painting classes and “pARTies” for all occasions. Visit their website for details.

Peninsula Gallery (520 E. Savannah Road, Lewes; 302-645-0551; peninsulagallery.com) presents Mutual Interests with work

by Richard Calvo, Howard Port Mahon Beach, painting by Steve Rogers, Peninsula Gallery Gallery.

Eberle, and Steve Rogers through October 31. Opening November 3: On the Road Again—four artists who often travel together to paint or enter the same plein air competitions—featuring Lynn Mehta, Gray Dodson, Bernard Dellario, and Meg Walsh.

Rehoboth Art League (12 Dodds Lane, Henlopen Acres; 302-227-8408; rehobothartleague.org) has a fantastic schedule of classes—pottery, to pen and ink technique, to jewelry making…something for everyone. Current exhibitions: About Face–A Members’ Showcase Exhibition (through October 31); Beach Blowout–Juried Members’ Showcase Exhibition (through December 30). Their 34th Annual Holiday Fair is November 3 & 4 (10a.m.–4p.m.) rain or shine! Check their website for a complete schedule of exhibits, salons, and gallery talks.

Rehoboth Beach Museum (511 Rehoboth Avenue at the Canal, 302-227-7310; rehobothbeachmuseum.org) has completed renovations to their second floor and revamped their permanent collection exhibits, and is OPEN! Check their website for some great walking tours of the area and fascinating lectures.

The Studio on 24 (20231 John J. Williams Highway, Lewes; 302-6444424; thestudioon24.com) is open by appointment only, but worth it to visit with owner and artisan Deb Appleby and view her custom-made glassware or have her make something special just for you.

Chasing Waterfalls, painting by Sallie Otenasek, Gallery 50.

Tideline Gallery (111 Rehoboth Avenue; 302-227-4444; tidelinegallery.com) offers unique gifts, jewelry, pottery, and art glass.

Ward Ellinger Gallery (CAMP Rehoboth Courtyard, 39 Baltimore Avenue; 302-2272710) features art in different mediums by abstract expressionist Ward Ellinger and Sondra N. Arkin. ▼ Doug is the Artistic & Musical Director for CAMP Rehoboth Chorus, Director of Music Ministries at Epworth UMC, and co-founder and Artistic Director emeritus of the Clear Space Theater Company. Contact Doug at dougyetter@gmail.com if you want to add your events to the calendar. Check out CAMP Arts on our website at camprehoboth. com for links to all the listed theatres, galleries and museums.

This program is supported, in part, by a grant from the Delaware Division of the Arts, a state agency, in partnership with the National Endowment for the Arts. The Division promotes Delaware arts events on www.DelawareScene.com.

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To volunteer or to have the name of a family member or friend who has died from AIDS added to the list of names to be read at the service, call the CAMP Rehoboth Community Center 302-227-5620 or email worldaidsday@camprehoboth.com. For more information visit the CAMP Rehoboth Web site at camprehoboth.com.

Dec 1 - 7:00 PM Service of Remembrance and Hope—including the reading of the names at All Saints' Church, 18 Olive Avenue in Rehoboth Beach

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The Trans Generation: How Trans Kids (and Their Parents) are Creating a Gender Revolution

by Ann Travers

c.2018, New York University Press, $25.00/higher in Canada, 261 pages

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Boy or girl?

That’s a common enough question, if you’re an expectant parent. You might even have wondered it yourself: will you need pink things or blue, and what name will you choose?

For generations, it’s been an exciting decision for prospective parents, but Ann Travers asks in The Trans Generation if it’s a prudent one. Maybe letting the child decide would be a better choice.

Fifty-six years ago, when Travers was born, their (Travers’ preferred pronoun) mother’s doctor unwittingly caused a lifetime of hurt: “It’s a girl,� he said, and Travers spent years trying to untangle what it meant. That, they said, is part of what drives this book. The other part is the desire to improve the lives of trans kids through understanding.

Getting to that point is harrowing: Ninety-five percent of transgender kids in one study felt unsafe in their schools.

Many report that physicians misunderstand kids who are gender-nonconforming. Trans kids attempt suicide and/or self-harm at very high rates and, says Travers, â€œâ€Śmany grow up hating their bodies‌.â€? Most employ several kinds of coping mechanisms to live their lives.

In writing this book, Travers says, they interviewed a wide variety of trans kids from the U.S. and Canada—19 in all, ages 4 to 20, plus 23 parents. The children mostly came from middle-class families, which allowed them privileges such as better access to medical care and chances to change schools if they needed to do so.

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Other children Travers interviewed lived in poverty, their stories illustrating how being a trans kid can be socially and medically isolating, and how lack of access to needed resources can affect their well-being.

Parents, of course, can affect that well-being, too. But as Travers notes, it takes a â€œâ€Śphenomenal amount of care, advocacy, and activism‌to push back against cisgendered environments,â€? such as schools, sports, binary-only bathrooms, social activities, medical facilities, and politics. It takes a willingness to learn, listen, and lean in.

Not just for parents, but for teachers, advocates, and loved ones, The Trans Generation is one heavy-duty book.

Writing with a bit of a scholar’s voice and occasional, relatively advanced science and law studies, Travers also offers readers plenty of eye-opening chats with trans kids, which turn out to be the most helpful, useful, and even entertaining parts of this book.

From the mouths of babes, as they say, those interviews give insights that adults will find wise and thoughtful, even monumental. They’re also heartbreaking. But considering the kids readers are introduced to, and the singular interview with a 16-year-old who made her own hormone treatments in her high school’s laboratory, they’re a good indication of hope for the future.

While you could be forgiven for skipping to those case studies, you’d be missing out. The thicker parts of The Trans Generation are worth reading and reflection and are deeply instructive on pronouns, on gender fluidity, and on being trans in a cisgender-based society. They are also serious and weighty but that kind of rock-solid information could make this book the right choice. ▟ Terri Schlichenmeyer has been reading since she was three years old and never goes anywhere without a book. Always Overbooked, she lives on a hill in Wisconsin with two dogs and 15,000 books.

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Bad decisions have a way of cascading. Yielding to temptation in the heat of the moment might seem like a good idea at the time, but if someone suggests that you forego a condom for some extra fun, that’s a concession you can’t afford. The stakes are too high.

Sometimes abstinence or something non-penetrating is a better choice.…Have fun. Play smart.

Sponsored by CAMPsafe. © 2009 CAMP Rehoboth, Inc. For more information, call CAMP Rehoboth at 302-227-5620 or the CDC hotline at 1-800-232-4636. Funding provided through a contract with the Delaware Division of Public Health. CAMPsafe is a program of CAMP Rehoboth.

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• Brunch w/Pamala Stanley. Blue Moon, 35 Baltimore Ave. 10 am. 302-227-6515

• John Flynn. Shorebreak Lodge, A Restaurant, 10 Wilmington Ave. 5 pm.

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• Karaoke. Rigby’s Grill, 404 Rehoboth Ave. 9 pm. 302-227-6080

• Alcoholics Anon. Open Discussion.

CAMP Rehoboth Community Center, 37 Baltimore Ave. 9 am

• 3rd Sunday. Drag Brunch. Goolee’s Grille, 11 S. 1st St. 1-3 pm. 302-227-7653 • T-Dance. Diego’s Hideaway, 37298 Rehoboth Ave. 3 pm 302-227-1023 • 4th Sunday. Healing Circle.

CAMP Rehoboth Community Center, 37 Baltimore Ave. 5 pm.

• Ed Mills. Rigby’s Grill, 404 Rehoboth Ave. 5 pm. 302-227-6080 • Pamala Stanley. Blue Moon, 35 Baltimore Ave. 6 pm. 302-227-6515 • Last Sunday of each month. TransSocial of Delaware. Metropolitan Community Church, 19369 Plantations Rd., Lewes.

7 pm. Visit meetup.com/RehobothTransLiance • Karaoke. Diego’s Hideaway, 37298 Rehoboth Ave. 9 pm. 302-227-1023 • Games w/Magnolia. Blue Moon, 35 Baltimore Ave. 9:30 pm. 302-227-6515 • The Birdcage Bad Girls Drag Show.

Purple Parrot Grill, 134 Rehoboth Ave. 10 pm. 302-226-1139

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• Insight Meditation. St. Peters, Mulberry St, Lewes. 4 pm. 302-644-2514 • Pamala Stanley. Blue Moon, 35 Baltimore Ave. 6 pm. 302-227-6515 • Bandeoke! Karaoke with a Live Band.

Murph’s Beef & Ale, 37169 Rehoboth Ave. 7 pm. 302-212-5355

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• 2nd Tuesday. PFLAG. Lewes Library, 111 Adams St. 6 pm. pflagrehobothbeach@ gmail.com • 3rd Tuesday. Kent County LGBT Dover Support and Social Group.

Christ Episcopal Church, 523 South State St., Dover. 7 pm. lgbtdover_kent@yahoo.com • Young People’s AA. CAMP Rehoboth Community Center, 37 Baltimore Ave. 8 pm

• Tai Chi. CAMP Rehoboth Community Center, 37 Baltimore Ave. 1 pm.

302-227-5620

• 2nd Wednesday. Alzheimer’s Caregiver Support Group. CAMP Rehoboth Community Center, 37 Baltimore Ave. 6:30 pm. 302-227-5620

• Karaoke. Purple Parrot Grill, 134 Rehoboth Ave. 9 pm. 302-226-1139

• Alt. Wednesdays. Men’s Discussion Group. Epworth United Methodist Church, 19285 Holland Glade Rd. 7 pm.

302-227-5620

• Legends. Blue Moon, 35 Baltimore Ave. 9:30 pm. 302-227-6515

• Showcase w/Mona Lotts. Blue Moon, 35 Baltimore Ave. 9:30 pm. 302-227-6515

THURSDAYS

• Alcoholics Anon. CAMP Rehoboth Community Center, 37 Baltimore Ave. 12 noon. 302-856-6452 • Cathy Gorman. Diego’s Hideaway, 37298 Rehoboth Ave. 5-8 pm.

302-227-1023 • Holly Lane w/John Flynn. Café Azafran, 18 Baltimore Ave. 7 pm. 302-227-8100 • SLAA/SAA Meeting. All Saints Church Hall, Lower Level, 18 Olive Ave. 7:30 pm. 302-745-7929 • Lower Case Blues. Murph’s Beef & Ale, 37169 Rehoboth Ave Ext. 7:30 pm.

302-212-5355 • Karaoke. Rigby’s Grill, 404 Rehoboth Ave. 8 pm. 302-227-6080 • Karaoke. Purple Parrot Grill, 134 Rehoboth Ave. 9 pm. 302-226-1139 • Karaoke with the Blue Moon Divas.

Blue Moon, 35 Baltimore Ave. 9:30 pm.

302-227-6515

FRIDAYS

• 1st Friday. FURst Friday Bear Happy Hour. The Pond, 3 S. First St. 302-227-2234 • John Flynn. Shorebreak Lodge, A Restaurant, 10 Wilmington Ave. 5 pm.

302-227-1007 • Karaoke. Rigby’s Grill, 404 Rehoboth Ave. 8 pm. 302-227-6080 • Karaoke. Purple Parrot Grill, 134 Rehoboth Ave. 9 pm. 302-226-1139

• Loco Tuesday w/DJ Eddie. Diego’s Hideaway, 37298 Rehoboth Ave. 9 pm.

302-227-1023

• Fantasy Friday w/DJ Biff. Diego’s Hideaway, 37298 Rehoboth Ave. 9 pm.

302-227-1023

• Bingo w/the Blue Moon Divas.

Blue Moon, 35 Baltimore Ave. 9:30 pm.

302-227-6515

• Spotlight Show. Blue Moon, 35 Baltimore Ave. 9:45 pm. 302-227-6515

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• 1st & 3rd Saturdays. Women’s Coffee Talk. CAMP Rehoboth Community Center, 37 Baltimore Ave. 10 am. 302227-5620

• ManDance. Diego’s Hideaway, 37298 Rehoboth Ave. 9 pm. 302-227-1023

OCTOBER 19 • Heathers the Musical. Clear Space Theatre, 20 Baltimore Ave. 7 pm.

302-227-2270. Tickets: clearspacetheatre.org/buy-tickets • Magnolia Applebottom. Milton Theatre, 110 Union St. 302-684-3038. 8 pm.

Tickets: miltontheatre.com

OCTOBER 20 • Milton Zombie Fest. Milton Theatre, 110 Union St. 12 pm. 302-684-3038.

Tickets: miltontheatre.com • Heathers the Musical. Clear Space Theatre, 20 Baltimore Ave. 302-2272270. 7 pm. Tickets: clearspacetheatre. org/buy-tickets

OCTOBER 21 • Heathers the Musical. Clear Space Theatre, 20 Baltimore Ave. 3 pm.

302-227-2270. Tickets: clearspacetheatre.org/buy-tickets

OCTOBER 24 • Ghosts of Delaware presented by CAMP Rehoboth. CAMP Rehoboth Community Center, 37 Baltimore Ave. 7 pm

OCTOBER 25 • Heathers the Musical. Clear Space Theatre, 20 Baltimore Ave. 7 pm.

302-227-2270. Tickets: clearspacetheatre.org/buy-tickets

• Heathers the Musical. Clear Space Theatre, 20 Baltimore Ave. 302-2272270. 7 pm. Tickets: clearspacetheatre. org/buy-tickets

OCTOBER 27 • Mirabelle Storytime. Browseabout Bookstore, 133 Rehoboth Ave. 302-226-2665. 9 am • 28th Annual Seawitch Festival Parade.

Rehoboth Avenue. 10 am • Heathers the Musical. Clear Space Theatre, 20 Baltimore Ave. 7 pm.

302-227-2270. Tickets: clearspacetheatre.org/buy-tickets

OCTOBER 28 • Heathers the Musical. Clear Space Theatre, 20 Baltimore Ave. 3 pm.

302-227-2270. Tickets: clearspacetheatre.org/buy-tickets

OCTOBER 29 • 4th Annual Southern Delaware Wine, Food, Music Festival. Independence Clubhouse, Millsboro. $75 pp. Tickets: sodelfest.com

OCTOBER 31 • Bubbles and Bites Halloween Bingo to benefit Immanuel Shelter.

Rehoboth Beach Convention Center, 229 Rehoboth Ave. 6-9 pm. Tickets: immanuelshelter.org • Heathers the Musical. Clear Space Theatre, 20 Baltimore Ave. 7 pm.

302-227-2270. Tickets: clearspacetheatre.org/buy-tickets

NOVEMBER 1 – 11 • Rehoboth Beach Independent Film Festival

NOVEMBER 3 • 3rd Annual Delaware Resorts 55+ Expo.

Cape Henlopen High School. Free Admission. 9 am

NOVEMBER 8

• 28th Annual Seawitch & Fiddlers’ Festival

• Volunteer Opportunities Meeting.

CAMP Rehoboth Community Center, 37 Baltimore Ave. 6 pm. RSVP 302-2275620

OCTOBER 26

NOVEMBER 10

OCTOBER 26 – 28

• On Tap with AARP. CAMP Rehoboth Community Center, 37 Baltimore Ave. 5:30-7:30 pm. RSVP Required 877-926-8300

• Delaware Resorts Fall Home Expo.

Rehoboth Beach Convention Center.

9 am-5 pm. Free Admission

OCTOBER 19–DECEMBER 12

NOVEMBER 11

NOVEMBER 25

• Delaware Resorts Fall Home Expo.

Rehoboth Beach Convention Center.

10 am-3 pm. Free Admission

• A Christmas Carol the Musical. Clear Space Theatre, 20 Baltimore Ave. 3 pm. 302-227-2270. Tickets: clearspacetheatre.org/buy-tickets

NOVEMBER 18 • ThanksLiving w/Special Guest Dr. Will Tuttle presented by VegRehoboth.

CAMP Rehoboth Community Center, 37 Baltimore Ave. $35. Tickets: www.vegrehoboth.org

• A Christmas Carol the Musical. Clear Space Theatre, 20 Baltimore Ave. 7 pm. 302-227-2270. Tickets: clearspacetheatre.org/buy-tickets

DECEMBER 2

NOVEMBER 29

• Southern Delaware Choral presents G.F. Handel’s Messiah. Cape Henlopen High School. 3 pm. Tickets: southerndelawarechorale.org

• A Christmas Carol the Musical.

Clear Space Theatre, 20 Baltimore Ave. 11 am. 302-227-2270. Tickets: clearspacetheatre.org/buy-tickets

• A Christmas Carol the Musical.

Clear Space Theatre, 20 Baltimore Ave. 3 pm. 302-227-2270. Tickets: clearspacetheatre.org/buy-tickets

NOVEMBER 23

NOVEMBER 30

• A Christmas Carol the Musical. Clear Space Theatre, 20 Baltimore Ave. 7:30 pm.302-227-2270. Tickets: clearspacetheatre.org/buy-tickets

• A Christmas Carol the Musical.

Clear Space Theatre, 20 Baltimore Ave. 7 pm. 302-227-2270. Tickets: clearspacetheatre.org/buy-tickets

NOVEMBER 24

DECEMBER 1

• A Christmas Carol the Musical.

Clear Space Theatre, 20 Baltimore Ave. 7 pm. 302-227-2270. Tickets: clearspacetheatre.org/buy-tickets

• World AIDS Day Walk & Remembrance

• A Christmas Carol the Musical.

Clear Space Theatre, 20 Baltimore Ave. 7 pm.302-227-2270. Tickets: clearspacetheatre.org/buy-tickets

DECEMBER 8 • A Christmas Carol the Musical.

Clear Space Theatre, 20 Baltimore Ave. 7 pm. 302-227-2270. Tickets: clearspacetheatre.org/buy-tickets

DECEMBER 9

• Rehoboth Beach Christmas Parade

• A Christmas Carol the Musical.

Clear Space Theatre, 20 Baltimore Ave. 3 pm. 302-227-2270. Tickets: clearspacetheatre.org/buy-tickets

DECEMBER 6

DECEMBER 12

DECEMBER 4

• 87th Lewes Christmas Parade.

Savannah Road, Lewes. The parade starts at 5 pm followed by Tree-lighting & Caroling in Zwaanendael Park.

Information: leweschamber.com

DECEMBER 7

• A Christmas Carol the Musical. Clear Space Theatre, 20 Baltimore Ave. 9:30 am. 302-227-2270. Tickets: clearspacetheatre.org/buy-tickets

• CAMP Rehoboth Holiday Extravaganza Bus Trip to Winterthur and Longwood Gardens. 11:30 am-10:30 pm. $70 pp.

Tickets: campholidayextravaganza. eventbrite.com

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All Saints’ Episcopal Church

Westminster Presbyterian Church

18 Olive Avenue Rehoboth Beach (302) 227-7202 SUNDAY SERVICES 8:00 & 10:00 a.m. Holy Communion 9:00 a.m. Breakfast in the Parish Hall

WELCOMES YOU!

St. George’s Chapel, Rt. 23 - 20274 Beaver Dam Rd., Harbeson at 9:30 a.m.

Thursday Service • 11:30 a.m. Holy Communion and Healing

A friendly and fully inclusive parish. www.allsaintsandstgeorges.org

Seaside Jewish Community an unaffiliated, egalitarian congregation

18970 Holland Glade Road Rehoboth Beach, Delaware www.seasidejewishcommunity.com 302-226-8977 Mailing address: P.O. Box 1472, Rehoboth, DE 19971

Shabbat services, 7:30 pm first Fridays; 10 am third Saturdays.

Weekly summer services. Holiday services.

Educational programs, social events, school.

First Street • 4 blocks south of Rehoboth Avenue 302-227-2109

Sunday Worship 10:00 a.m.

(Summer 8:30 and 10:00 a.m.)

We invite you to make us your church family!

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If you need a referral for a doctor, lawyer, spiritual advisor, or just a place to hang out, call CAMP Rehoboth at 302-227-5620.

We’re here to help!

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The Marine Education, Research and Rehabilitation Institute, Inc. is a non-profit stranding response and rehabilitation organization dedicated to the conservation of marine mammals and sea turtles in Delaware.

call: 302.228.5029 or join on our website at merrinsittue.org

Senior Adult Resources ADVOCACY

AARP of Delaware ............................................................... 302-498-6511

HOTLINES

Delaware Senior Services Help Line ................................... 800-223-9074 Delaware Information Line .......................................................... Dial 2-1-1

MEALS

Meals on Wheels ................................................................. 302-856-5187

SENIOR ACTIVITY CENTERS

CAMP Rehoboth................................................................... 302-227-5620 Cape Henlopen Senior Center - Rehoboth Beach .............. 303-227-2055 Cheer Center of Sussex County .......................................... 302-856-5187 Lewes Senior Center ........................................................... 302-645-9293

BENEFITS/FINANCIAL ASSISTANCE

Delaware Department of Health and Social Services ........ 302-856-5586 Social Security ..................................................................... 866-864-1803

HOSPICE

Delaware Hospice ............................................................... 800-838-9800

TRANSPORTATION

Cheer Transportation ........................................................... 302-856-5187 ITN Southern Delaware ....................................................... 302-448-8486

For more info, call CAMP Rehoboth, 302-227-5620 OCTOBER 19, 2018

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AD INDEX 1776 Steakhouse ..............................................52 AARP...................................................................41 Accent On Travel................................................17 AG Renovations .................................................47 Allen Jarmon, Realtor.........................................43 Alzheimer’s Caregiver Support Group...............78 Atlantic Jewelry ...................................................9 Bad Hair Day......................................................47 Beach Cuts Hair Salon........................................76 Beach Tans & Hair Designs ...............................62 Beagle Real Estate Group..................................27 Beebe Healthcare..............................................11 Beebe Healthcare Career Opportunities...........37 Bell Rock Capital ...............................................47 Biggs Museum....................................................77 Blue Moon .........................................................81 Boardwalk Builders .........................................109 Boom Box Party Bus ........................................100 Brandywine Valley SPCA....................................63 Breakthru Beverage...........................................49 Browseabout Books...........................................98 Bubbles & Bites Benefit .....................................69 Café Azafran.......................................................21 CAMP Rehoboth Annual Premier Sponsors.........7 CAMP Rehoboth Beach Guide Business Partners..............................................................21 CAMP Rehoboth Community Center..................93 CAMP Rehoboth End Of Year Campaign .........101 CAMP Rehoboth Families...................................78 CAMP Rehoboth Holiday Grief & Loss Group...104 CAMP Rehoboth Letters Subscription................68 CAMP Rehoboth Membership............................32

CAMP Rehoboth Mental Health........................104 CAMP Rehoboth Silver Pride Seminar................55 CAMP Rehoboth Tai Chi...................................104 CAMP Rehoboth Trans Discussion...................104 CAMP Rehoboth Volunteer Opportunities ........48 CAMPSafe.........................................................110 CAMPsafe #2....................................................103 Clear Space Theatre - Heathers.........................52 Community Pride Financial Advisors..................91 Congratulations Sharon Lynn.............................74 Country Lawn Care.............................................84 County Bank.......................................................10 Crowley Associates Realty, Inc...........................78 Delaware Hospice .............................................79 Delaware Humane Association..........................90 Delaware Legal Health Link...............................91 Delaware Resorts Fall Home EXPO....................26 Diego’s Hideaway..............................................71 Dos Locos...........................................................75 Easy As Pie, Delaware HIV Consortium.............73 Epworth Gingerbread Contest.........................102 Eric Atkins, Realtor.............................................68 Fuqua, Willard, Stevens & Schab, PA...............100 Gay Men’s Group..............................................103 Gay Women of Rehoboth Meet-Up..................106 General Dentistry ..............................................62 Go Fish/GoBrit....................................................68 Gods Greyts Senior Greyhounds ......................78 Gregory Meyers Hair Studio...............................78 Harrison House of Georgetown.........................27 HIV Testing.........................................................79 Houses Of Worship...........................................108

Iguana Grill.........................................................51 Immanuel Shelter...............................................68 Jack Lingo, Realtor.............................................87 Jenn Harpel, Morgan Stanley ............................62 John Black, Bill Peiffer, Realtors ........................52 Jolly Trolley......................................................100 Just In Thyme Restaurant...................................27 Lana Warfield, Realtor........................................10 Lee Ann Wilkinson Group, Realtors....................70 Lori’s Café..........................................................83 Luxury Motors.....................................................15 M.G.T. & Co Toggery Shop................................105 MERR Institute .................................................109 Midway Fitness & Racquetball.........................111 Milton Theatre....................................................53 Mirabelle..........................................................100 Morris James LLP...............................................13 Murph’s Beef & Ale.............................................76 Nancy Sakaduski................................................70 Olivia Travel........................................................23 One Day At A Time Gift Shop.............................62 One Spirit Massage............................................26 Paint and Patches Handyman Service ..............29 Palate.................................................................39 Pet Portraits by Monique....................................26 Philip Lowe, Prudential Insurance......................36 Photo Restoration..............................................46 Purple Parrot......................................................50 Randall Douglass................................................72 Randy Mason/Shirley Kalvinsky, Realtors..........91 Randy’s Custom Window Treatments................85 Rehoboth Art League.........................................83

Rehoboth Beach Bears, Thank you....................99 Rehoboth Beach Dental.....................................83 Rehoboth Beach Independent Film Festival......61 Rehoboth Beach Museum..................................72 Rehoboth Guest House......................................12 Rehoboth Massage & Alignment........................72 Ron’s Repairs .....................................................12 Salty Paws .........................................................84 Saved Souls Animal Rescue.............................107 Sea Bova Associates, Realtors.........................112 Senior Adult Resources....................................109 Shademakers.....................................................15 SoDel Concepts .................................................25 Southern Delaware Chorale ..............................92 State Farm - Eric Blondin & Jeanine O’Donnell....39 State Farm - George Bunting.............................10 SUN Behavioral - Delaware ...............................84 Sussex Family YMCA..........................................53 ThanksLiving .....................................................46 The Lawson Firm................................................76 Troy Roberts, Realtor..........................................47 Unfinished Business...........................................42 Union Home Mortgage.......................................36 Volunteer Thank You .........................................45 Ward Ellinger Gallery........................................107 Windsor’s Flowers .............................................78 Women’s Coffee Talk .......................................100 World AIDS Day..................................................97

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Before you hop between the sheets with someone, make sure that you know and share your status. Knowing the truth about your HIV status puts everything in balance, minimizes risks, and gives you a huge increase in returns. Have fun. Play smart.

Sponsored by CAMPsafe. © 2009 CAMP Rehoboth, Inc. For more information, call CAMP Rehoboth at 302-227-5620 or the CDC hotline at 1-800-232-4636. Funding provided through a contract with the Delaware Division of Public Health. CAMPsafe is a program of CAMP Rehoboth.

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