Ask the Right Questions By Rita Milios
What do you want? Lately I have found myself asking that question to both myself and my clients. As we go through life, we often think we know what we want and then pursue it with a vengeance. But when obstacles crop up, we may find ourselves frustrated, confused, and even angry. It is not supposed to be this way, we think to ourselves. If we focus on what we want - what we truly desire and go after it - we are supposed to be able to manifest it. But why does that not always happen? I think it is because sometimes we have not truly identified, after all, what it is that we really want. When we think we know what we want, we are only connecting with the surface level of our minds. Deeper inside, we may have a variety of conflicting and opposing desires. Unless we identify and evaluate them, we will never truly know our real intentions. We will have lost the opportunity to communicate with our inner, intuitive selves.
Ask for deeper awareness. I know from hard-won experience that my inner, intuitive self has a better grasp of what I really want than my outer, conscious self does. So when I come upon obstacles or delays in my efforts to manifest my goals, I step back, revisit the situation, and ask for a fuller, deeper awareness. I look at the long-range view of my goal. Is there some part of it that I really want, but perhaps not all of it? What outcomes or consequences will emerge once I have attained my goal? Most importantly, what will I have to give up for it? What opportunities will I miss because I am pursuing this goal? When I ask and reflect on these questions, I often come to understand that I am unconsciously pulling myself in one direction at the same time that I am pushing forth in another. But coming to terms with what I really want is only half the battle. The next step is to decide, do I really want to manifest a particular outcome, or do I want to follow a path? Is it my will or Divine Will that I wish to seek guidance from for this situation? I can choose either one, but I know from experience that the universe probably has a better plan. So nowadays, I know what I want. I ask for a clear, obvious sign of the universe’s intentions for me and the wisdom to recognize it when it comes. ,
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Rita Milios, your spiritual sherpa and holistic wellness coach, is retired from clinical psychotherapy practice and now focuses on her main passion: helping people navigate their spiritual path journeys. Listen to her podcast on bUneke Radio: Walking the Path! Email her at ritamilios@gmail.com
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