Forever Young November 2018

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Mums for fall

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Todd Chalk art

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Discover Banff

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Cover: Bottom Center: Silos by local artist Todd Chalk Photo courtesy of the Oxford Gallery; Bottom right: A view of the ridgetop boardwalk atop Sulphur Mountain Photo by Jennifer Merrick

Home & Garden

Getaways

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Mum's the Word................................................... Carol Ann Harlos

26 Beautiful Banff ......................................................Jennifer Merrick

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Easy Desserts............................................................Hilary Diodato

Let's Talk About

Arts

29 Relating to Adult Children....................................Judith A. Rucki

10 November Theater Preview........................................Donna Hoke 12 Politics in Film..................................................Christopher Schobert 14 Artist Todd Chalk.....................................................Judith A. Rucki 16 Tribute Shows and More..........................................Rick Falkowski

My WNY 30 Therese Forton-Barnes..........................................Michael Billoni

News 32 Senior Wishes........................................................Diane Simonsen

Cover: Fall into Beauty 22 Hamburg Fashion Boutique ...................................Daniel Meyer

33 Medicare Enrollment.............................................Judith A. Rucki

24 Hair Do's and Don'ts............................................Judith A. Rucki

Being Well

25 Natural Skincare.....................................................Judith A. Rucki

34 Gut Health............................................................. Catherine Stack

Ever y Issue: Calendars 5 | Crossword 7 | Bingo Buzz 18 | Classifieds 36 | Noteworthy 37

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From the Editor

November is traditionally the time we think about turkey with all the trimmings, family get togethers, and football. Many of us also go around the dinner table taking turns saying what we're thankful for. Often, it's family, a good job, and good food.

I recently met someone who made me rethink my thankful list. Thomas Jasinski, Jr. is a double transplant recipient and the founder and executive director of ONE8FIFTY, a nonprofit organization whose goal is to increase the number of registered organ donors in New York State through community awareness and inviting New York State residents to become registered organ donors.

Ninety percent of Americans say they support donation, yet only thirty percent know the essential steps to become a donor.

There are currently over 10,000 New York State residents waiting

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for life saving organs. Please consider becoming an organ donor.

You may be the person someone will be really thankful for.

Visit one8fifty.com or call 716946-5328 for more information.

Happy Thanksgiving!

Wendy Guild Swearingen wswearingen@foreveryoungwny.com 783-9119 ext. 2253

FOREVER YOUNG NOVEMBER CALENDAR

1+ Erie County STAY FIT DINING

PROGRAM offers a hot noon meal at 45 locations in Erie County. Menus and site list at erie.gov/stayfit or 858-7639.

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PEOPLE, INC. OMBUDSMAN Phone screenings in progress to become ombudsman volunteer to advocate for seniors in long-term care facilities. To be screened and to learn more about becoming an ombudsman volunteer, call 817-9222.

1+ Gowanda HEALTH

COMMUNITY ALLIANCE Activities open to the public age 50+, (no residency requirements) , Concord Senior Center, 1 School Street, Gowanda; for schedule visit communityalliance.org; 5321010, or beemana@hcanetwork.org

1+ Niagara Falls SENIOR

COMPANION/FOSTER GRANDPARENT PROGRAM Looking for seniors who enjoy working with their peers or children. Volunteers receive a tax-free stipend, transportation assistance, and supplemental insurance coverage while volunteering. If you are 55+, have a minimum of 15 hours per week to give and want to make a difference, contact Nora Aloian (SCP) at 285-8224 ext. 217or Jennifer Britton (FGP) at 285-8224 ext. 228

1 Amherst WNY FIBROMYALGIA

AND CHRONIC FATIGUE SUPPORT GROUP meets at the John James Audubon Library on the 1st Thursday of the month from 7-8:45 p.m. in Room 1. All sufferers and cargivers welcome. Discuss coping skills and new ways we can improve. Facebook egroup: WNY Fibromyalgia, Chronic Pain, and Chronic Fatigue. Library: 689-4922

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Tonawanda UKULELE SING ALONG Ukuleles provided during class. All levels welcome beginner– experienced Tuesdays 5:30 p.m. and Thursdays 1:30 p.m. Brighton Place Library 999 Eggert Rd., Tonawanda. Call to register 332-4375 $5 suggested donation

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Buffalo T.O.P.S. CLUB Successful weight management combines support, healthy eating, regular exercise, and wellness information. Every Thursday, 5:30-7 pm, Norwest Buffalo Community Center, 155 Lawn Avenue, Buffalo. Contact Rose at 884-1425 for further information.

1+Tonawanda LAUGHTER YOGA

Come as you are, just bring your laughter!

Thursdays 11 a.m. Brighton Place Library, 999 Eggert Rd., Tonawanda. FREE

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Cheektowaga T.O.P.S. MEETING, Thursdays at 9 a.m., St. Luke’s Lutheran Church, 900 Maryvale Dr. (corner of Union Road). Come for the love, support and friendship. For information, call Karen at 247-2334

1+ Buffalo GENTLE YOGA, 11 a.m.

Thursdays, Tosh Collins Senior Center, 35 Cazenovia St. Bring a yoga mat. Info: 828-1093

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Akron T.O.P.S. CLUB Every Thursday, 5:30-6:45pm, at the Akron/ Newstead Senior Center, 5691 Cummings Rd. We offer tools, programs, support, fellowship and recognition for healthy living and weight management.

For information call Diane 542-4980

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Lockport T.O.P.S. 9259, Meets every Saturday morning @ 8:30 for weighin and 9am to 10am for weekly meetings, Christ Episcopal church 7145 Fieldcrest Dr., Lockport. Offers tools, programs, support and friendship for healthy living and weight management. Contact: Wendy, 200-2618 or Mary, 433-1693

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Tonawanda TONAWANDA TOPS CLUB #50 Weekly meetings on Mondays, weigh-in 6pm/meeting starts at 6:25pm, Zion United Church Koenig & Parker Tonawanda; 912-6875

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Hamburg ST. FRANCIS PARK FREE COMMUNITY EVENTS FOR SENIORS Estate Planning: Nov. 5, 1:-2:30pm; Tea in the Park: Nov. 14, 2-3:30pm; Living Life to the Fullest: Adaptive Equipment and Home Safety Tips: Nov. 26, 1-2:30pm; Outsmart the Scammers: Nov. 28, 1-2:30pm St. Francis Park, at 5229 South Park Ave. in Hamburg, across from Hilbert College, is a unique housing option for independent seniors. For more information, visit SaintFrancisPark.com

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Farnham T.O.P.S. CLUB weekly meetings held Tuesdays at Holy Cross Lutheran Church, 10633 Church St., starting at 9 a.m. Call 934-9619.

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Kenmore UKULELE SING

ALONG Ukuleles provided during

class. All levels welcome beginner -

Buffalo MEDITATION, 2:30 p.m., El Buen Amigo, 114 Elmwood Ave. Free every Sunday. Meditation unites with creative arts and pain management.

Practitioner Sondra Holland welcomes people of all ages. Wear comfortable clothes. For information, Sondra: 9475092; store: 885-6343

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Depew 25TH ANNUAL BREAST CANCER EDUCATION DAY The Breast Cancer Network of WNY (BCN) presents “New Developments in Breast Cancer Research and Treatment,” emceed by Gina Browning from the SPCA, presentations on breast cancer research, radiology, genetic testing, and survivor emotional support. 8:30 am, Grapevine Banquets, 333 Dick Rd., Depew. Includes a luncheon and several vendors. Cost is $30 pre-sale, $35 at the door.

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Tonawanda T.O.P.S. CLUB, weekly meetings on Tuesdays, 9:30 a.m. at Blessed Sacrament Parish, Claremont Avenue. For information, call 834-7992

6 Amherst HOLIDAY BAZAAR

The public is invited to attend a Holiday Bazaar from 9 a.m. to 4 p.m. on Tuesday, November 6th in the Atrium of the Beechwood Homes, 2235 Millersport Highway in Getzville. There will be a variety of items for sale by more than 30 artists, including hand-crafted jewelry; jellies and jams; chocolate-covered apples; holiday wreaths.

6+ Buffalo TAI CHI: MOVING FOR

BETTER BALANCE 10:30 a.m. every Tuesday, Tosh Collins Senior Center, 35 Cazenovia St. For more information, contact monicazucco@gmail.com.

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Niagara Falls T.O.P.S. CLUB, Enjoy light sitting and standing yoga at 5:30 p.m. before weigh in 6 p.m., and a

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3 Buffalo FALL FESTIVAL

Our Lady of Hope Parish, Lafayette Ave. and Grant St., will hold a Fall Festival on Saturday, Nov. 3rd at 5 pm offering $2000 in cash prizes, 4 gifts valued at $100, baskets, 50/50, games, ethnic foods and local favorites. $5 admission includes free coffee, dessert and a sheet of basket raffle tickets. For more information 716 885 2469.

experienced. Tuesdays 8 p.m. Church of the Advent, 54 Delaware Rd., Kenmore $5 suggested donation. 481-5735

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FOREVER YOUNG NOVEMBER CALENDAR brief interactive educational program at 7 p.m. Facebook: TOPS #173 Niagara Falls, NY, or call 550-1232. Meets Tuesdays at Riverside Presbyterian Church, 815 84th St., Niagara Falls

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WNY RESPITE SERVICES for those with Alzheimer’s and related dementia on first Tuesday, 5:30 p.m. in Williamsville, and third Saturday, 11 a.m. in Amherst. Location info: (800) 2723900.

6, 20 Buffalo HEADWAY

SUPPORT GROUPS, 2635 Delaware Ave. For individuals who have sustained brain injuries as well as their families and caregivers; exchange information and resources, and find mutual support and encouragement. Peer Support (Suite B), first and third Tuesday, 6:30–8 p.m.; Caregivers Support (Suite B), first Tuesday, 6:30–8 p.m.; Women’s Survivors Support (Suite E), first Tuesday, 1–2:30 p.m. Info: 408-3100 or headwayofwny.org

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Amherst FREE RESPITE CARE PROGRAM, 10:30 a.m. to 2:30 p.m., Trinity Old Lutheran Church 3445 Sheridan Drive. First Wednesday of the month, for those caring for loved ones with Alzheimer’s or any form of dementia.

A morning snack and nutritious lunch are provided. For more information on registering for the program, call 836-4868

7 Williamsville WOMEN’S

LYMPHEDEMA SUPPORT GROUP 5:45 p.m. the first Wednesday of each month. Sheridan Surgical room, 4510 Bailey Ave., Williamsville. Call 908-4149

7+ Orchard Park TAI CHI

Advanced Tai Chi in the Park at Brush Mountain, Wednesdays at 11 am.

Build endurance, increase flexibility and balance. New students are welcome.

Contact the Orchard Park Senior Center at 662-6452 for information. Cost $30 for a 8 week session.

7+ Boston HATHA YOGA Wednesdays

at 7 pm. Gentle and meditative. Bring your own mat. Faith United Church of Christ, 8651 Boston State Road, Boston, NY. For more info call church office 716-941-3529

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Buffalo CRAFT BEER & WINE TASTING Enjoy tastings from 12 Gates Brewing, New York Beer Project, West Shore Brewing Company and select wines, fabulous food by Tewksbury Lodge, live 6

Jazz music, wine pulls, 50/50 and basket raffles and a grand door prize! Tickets are $45 and can be purchased at www.fcfwny. org. All proceeds benefit the Familial Cancer Foundation of WNY. 7–10 pm, Tewksbury Lodge, 249 Ohio St.

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East Aurora TRUMAN Julián receives an unexpected visit from his friend Tomás, who lives in Canada. The two men, accompanied by Julián's faithful dog, Truman, will share emotional and surprising moments prompted by Julián's life-ending situation. 4 pm. Roycroft Film Society, Parkdale Auditorium, 141 Girard Ave., East Aurora; roycroftcampuscorp. com. $6 members, $8 non-members

13 Hamburg ALZHEIMER’S CARE-

GIVER SUPPORT GROUP for males at Wesleyan Church, 4999 McKinley Pkwy. 2nd Tues. 626-0600, alz.org/wnyc

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Orchard Park ALIENATED GRANDPARENTS ANONYMOUS, INC., meetings 1 p.m. the second Tuesday of month, 4295 S. Buffalo St.

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Depew BREAST CANCER NETWORK OF WNY Monthly meeting second Tuesday, 6 p.m., Bella Moglie Bldg., 3297 Walden Ave. Call 7060060 or visit bcnwny.org. Professional support group will be held at 8 pm

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Williamsville MCGUIRE GROUP MEMORY CARE SUPPORT GROUPS: General Support Group is second Wednesday, 3 p.m. at Harris Hill Nursing Facility, 2699 Wehrle Dr., Williamsville; Daughters’ Support Group, 5 p.m.

Monthly support groups coordinated with the Alzheimer’s Association, with caregiving tips and coping mechanisms.

For more information, call 632-3700 or visit mcguiregroup.com

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KENAN HOLIDAY GIFT SHOW The Kenan Arts Council presents its popular holiday show at the Kenan Center, 433 Locust St, Lockport. Friday, Nov. 16, 5-9 pm; Saturday, Nov. 17, 10 am-5 pm; and Sunday, Nov. 18, 11 am-5 pm. Admission is $4 For more information, call 433-2617or visit kenancenter.org.

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Niagara Falls NIAGARA FALLS SINGLES SOCIAL CLUB, An active 50+ crowd, dances third Friday each month at 7 p.m. at the Buff Social Club, 2565 Young St., NF. $6 ($4 members).

Monthly activities include picnics, parties.

Door prizes, 50/50 raffle. Info: 439-8387

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Akron HEARTS AND HANDS Seeks volunteers to support caregivers of loved ones with early stages of dementia by providing an engaging, safe, and friendly environment to leave their loved one while taking care of their own medical, social, and emotional needs.

Wright Center, 11 Church Street, Village of Akron the third Friday each month from 1–4:30 p.m. Contact Eugene Abrahamson at 406-8311 ext. 102, e-mail volunteer@heartsandhandsfia.org or hnhcares.org

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Buffalo LGBTQ MEMORY LOSS CAREGIVERS PROGRAM: The Pride Center of Western New York offers the LGBTQ Memory Loss Caregivers Program providing support and education for people providing care for a person with Alzheimer’s Disease and other dementias. Third Tuesday each month at 5:30 p.m., Pride Center, 200 South Elmwood Ave., Buffalo, 852-7743 or pridecenterwny.org

DANCE CALENDAR MONDAYS Sloan CLOGGING LESSONS

by Kickin’ Rhythm Cloggers, 6:30 p.m. @ St. Andrew’s Parish Hall, 111 Crocker St., Bldg. 1. kickinrhythmcloggers.com, (585) 457-4455.

Buffalo HUSTLE FOR HEALTH URBAN LINE DANCING with Phyllis Caver at Gloria Parks: 3242 Main St, Buffalo. 12pm - 1pm.

FREE for ages 55+ Call 716 832 1010 TUESDAYS Buffalo LINDY FIX 8–10 p.m. @ Polish Cadets Hall, 927 Grant St. lindyfix.com, swingbuffalo.com.

WEDNESDAYS N. Ton. DANCING WITH DOTTIE AND FRIENDS country-style line lessons, 7:30 p.m. @ Pendleton Center Meth. Church, 6864 Campbell Blvd. 688-6026 or 625-8306.

Buffalo HUSTLE FOR HEALTH URBAN LINE DANCING with Phyllis Caver at Gloria Parks: 3242 Main St, Buffalo. 11am- 12pm. FREE for ages 55+ Call 716 832 1010 Amherst AMHERST VICTORIAN DANCE SOCIETY Authentic music, dress and dance of Queen Victoria's time. New members and guests welcomed! 1st Wednesdays @ Buffalo Niagara Heritage Village in Amherst & 4th Wednesdays @ VFW Post in Village of Williamsville. 7:00 p.m. Info: Geraldine, 877-0222 or amherstvictoriandance.org

THURSDAYS Kenmore JACKIE’S THURSDAY NIGHT DANCES @ Brounshidle Post, 3354 Delaware Ave. Lessons: 7 p.m. Open dancing: 8 p.m. 691-8654.

Ongoing WNY BELLYDANCE CLASSES 560-1891, nadiaibrahim.com.

Kenmore JACKIE’S DANCE Monthly dance. Call 691-8654 for details.

WNY BALLROOM SOCIAL DANCE, Argentine tango and belly dance instruction with Carol Allen; N. Collins and Amherst. 337-3092 or callen8801@aol.com.

West Seneca BALLROOM DANCE classes @ 1761 Orchard Park Rd., 771-3110, ballroomiliana.com.

WNY DANCE W/ ERIN BAHN 997-7190 or erinbahn.com.

ARGENTINE TANGO IN BUFFALO Dancing & Classes. traviswidricktango.com.

Contact Travis @ 517-7047 SATURDAYS Buffalo HUSTLE FOR HEALTH URBAN LINE DANCING at East Community High School 820 Northampton St, Buffalo. 11:30am - 12:30pm. FREE for all ages. Free Lunch. Www.HustleforHealth.com

CROSSWORD 20. Unit of geological time

45. Name of God in the Old Testament

22. Tokyo, once

49. Former Portuguese colony in India

24. Insurance industry statistician

51. Unprincipled

25. *a.k.a. Prince of Prints

54. Deviating from truth

26. *Designer Mizrahi 27. Tragedy or comedy or satire 29. Frog's friend, according to Lobel 31. Civil wrong

THEME: FASHION ACROSS 1. Words to live by 6. Flicked in a tray 9. Text messenger 13. Cowboy movie 14. *Badgley and Mischka, e.g.

15. Young Montague 16. Diver's lung 17. Ostrich of Australia 18. Cake cover 19. *Between stiletto and flat 21. *Winter collection 23. Drench 24. ____-de-camp 25. George Orwell's Napoleon 28. Program for training officers 30. Win at an auction 35. Applications 37. ____ d'Ivoire 39. Port in Portugal 40. C&H crop 41. *____ couture 43. Madrid's football club 44. "____ on Wayward Son" 46. Comedian Carvey 47. Barber's supply 48. First-aid item 50. "Pro" follower

57. Part to play 58. Part of the eye 59. Tiny sips

32. Measured in loafs 33. *Salvatore Ferragamo's home country

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56. *____-____-Porter

60. Gossamer 61. Frequently

34. *Gabbana's partner

62. Superman's last name

36. Balkan native

63. Word of possibility

38. Volcano in Sicily

65. Debtor's note

42. Dine at home

67. Tiger's starting point

52. *To change the color of fabric 53. Sacred 55. Little troublemaker 57. *a.k.a. catwalk 60. *Outerwear pullover 63. Tarantino's creation 64. Like King George, 1760-1820 66. Find new tenant 68. 1st letter of Hebrew alphabet 69. Negative conjunction 70. Do penitence 71. Those not opposed 72. *Designer Laroche 73. Espresso plus steamed milk DOWN 1. Trigonometric func.

2. *Nordstorm's outlet 3. *Purse for the red carpet 4. Financial woes 5. Demosthenes, e.g.

6. Port in Yemen 7. Greater than the whole?

8. Alluring maiden 9. *Little Black Dress creator 10. Arabian chieftain 11. Fast time 12. Lincoln lumber 15. Come to the surface

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HOME & GARDEN

Mum’s the Word “Seal your lips and give no words but mum.”

- William Shakespeare, Henry VI

G

ardeners tend to love mums—actually chrysanthemums—for their fall color, beauty, and variety of forms. Readers frequently ask, “Are mums annuals or perennials?” Well, if they don’t come back next year, they sure act like annuals.

If you were able to purchase mums early in the gardening season, the roots probably will develop well enough for the mums to successfully overwinter

and to return next year. They will wait until just the right time to start flowering in your garden. This is because mums are “short day plants,”

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CAROL ANN HARLOS which means they set buds when night time is about ten hours long. That is why mums don’t flower earlier even if it is warmer, colder, wetter, or drier than usual. All mums don’t bloom at the same time, however, making autumn a wonderful time to enjoy flowers from early, mid, and late season.

All mum plants don’t look alike. You are perhaps most familiar with cushion and daisy-like mums, but there are also quill mums, spider mums, and anemone mums. Great fun!

Now, there is nothing wrong with using mums in your garden as annuals.

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Some gardeners don’t want to wait all gardening season long for a plant to bloom in the autumn. If planted in the spring, the plant will take up space that could be occupied by an annual that gives a longer season of bloom.

Another reason is that mums have shallow roots, which means that their roots are closer to the soil surface and can heave out of the ground during the winter. Mums planted in the autumn have the disadvantage of having been forced into bloom in greenhouses, making them lovely autumn plants but plants that frequently develop even shallower root systems when planted in a garden.

You can mulch your mums, however, and also cover them with layers of leaves or compost, which not only serves as a winter mulch but also weighs them down, keeping them in the soil rather than on top of the soil exposing them to drying wind.

Plant them in well draining loose soil in full sun no matter the season. If mums are spring planted or returning again in the spring after being planted in the autumn (Good for you!) be sure to pinch the stems back about every two weeks until July 4th so the plants will not get floppy. They will reward you by producing a dense mat of flowers. If the autumn is dry, be sure to keep your mums well watered until the end of the season. FY I love hearing from you: caharlos@ verizon.net or herbgardener.net Happy gardening!

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FOOD

Something Sweet for November

BY HILARY DIODATO

T

he month of November, with its inevitable association with Thanksgiving pumpkin pie, which then gets extrapolated to everything pumpkin, can be tricky for food choices. Don’t get me wrong, I do love pumpkin in all its forms, but sometimes I want something a besides pumpkin when I’m craving something sweet (or suffering from pumpkin fatigue).

The recipes here are a little off the beaten path as far as tradition is concerned, and both are incredibly low-effort in the event that you’re tuckered out with all the work involved in pre- and post-Thanksgiving festivities.

First, I have a slow cooker-based bread pudding, Mexican style. If you’re not familiar with Mexican chocolate products, think warm spices that evoke the holiday spirit, such as cinnamon and allspice, married with a powerfully deep chocolate flavor. If you think that spices and chocolate belong in two separate camps, I encourage you to give this a try. Don’t be put off by the small bit of cayenne, as this is also traditional for Mexican chocolate—in the end, it won’t taste “hot,” but there will be an intriguing, lingering warmth from it. I use King’s Hawaiian bread which my friends were skeptical about but consider that French toast or bread puddings may often employ sweet breads for a change like challah, and King’s Hawaiian isn’t so crazy.

My second recipe similarly seems atypical at face value, but if you try it, I assure you that you will be impressed.

You probably don’t know many other desserts that require three ingredients and twenty seconds to put together!

This simple preparation using orangeflavored olive oil hails from Granada in Spain, a major olive growing region, where this is a popular snack for schoolchildren. I use orange olive oil like they do in Spain, but if you don’t like orange, experiment with other fruit-flavored olive oils. You can find inexpensive mini bottles of flavored olive oil at local olive oil shops, and if you’re worried about making a purchase that you won’t

use again, think of these as a great base for salad dressings with the fruit kick already in them…surprisingly versatile! You want an olive oil where the fruit flavor is very strong.

Mexican Chocolate Bread Pudding Yield: about 8 servings Ingredients 5 cups of King’s Hawaiian bread, cut or torn into 1-inch cubes (I used 5 King’s Hawaiian hot dogshaped rolls to yield 5 cups. Use challah if you prefer.)

2 12-oz cans of evaporated milk (or, make your own by combining 2 cups of dry milk powder with 24 ounces of water) 2 eggs, beaten ¾ cup cocoa powder ½ cup sugar ½ cup golden raisins ¼ cup butter, melted 1 teaspoon vanilla extract ¾ teaspoon ground cinnamon ¼ teaspoon ground allspice 1/8 teaspoon ground cayenne pepper Pinch salt Directions Stir together all ingredients thoroughly except for the bread and the raisins. Once the mixture is

homogenous, fold in the bread and raisins. Transfer to a large slow cooker.

Place the lid on the slow cooker and cook on low for 3 hours. Check to ensure that the bread cubes have absorbed all of the liquid to make sure the bread pudding is done.

Serve warm. Note: leftovers are also great chilled for breakfast!

Granada Sweet Orange Bread Yield: 2 Ingredients 2 medium slices of white bread (crusty varieties such as French, Italian, etc.)

2 tablespoons of orange-infused olive oil 2 teaspoons of coarse sugar (such as demerara or sugar in the raw) Directions Drizzle one tablespoon of olive oil over each slice of bread, allowing it to soak in. The bread will be fairly saturated with the oil depending on the size of your bread slice, but this is what you want.

Sprinkle a teaspoon of sugar over each bread slice (add more to taste as necessary).

Enjoy! FY Hilary Diodato is passionate about cooking and saving money and writes a bi-monthly column for Forever Young.

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November Theater Preview

BY DONNA HOKE

Speed-the-Plow Road Less Traveled Productions

By David Mamet Director: Scott Behrend Cast: Matt Witten, Kevin Kennedy, Laura Barriere October 26, Road Less Traveled Productions is raising the curtain not just on its first show of the season— David Mamet’s Speed-the-Plow—but on its newly built theater at 456 Main Street. “We’re on schedule!” says RLTP artistic director Scott Behrend, who also directs the show. “We’re going to do a ribbon cutting some time that week and two grand opening parties,

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one on Friday and one on Saturday, because there are a lot of people to invite. It’s super exciting.”

When Behrend chose to direct this show himself, he didn’t know that RLTP’s first show of the season— Hand to God—would be postponed due to building delays. That meant he inadvertently ended up exactly where he didn’t want to be—directing a show, opening a new theater, and co-producing Three Musketeers, which opens at Shea’s 710 a week after Speedthe-Plow. “I’ve done it before, and it’s a lot,” he laughs.

Speed-the-Plow is RLTP’s second Mamet play in as many years, but Behrend isn’t looking to continue a cycle. Last season, “Glengarry Glen Ross popped out to me because I wanted to do it with some of our personnel in particular with the ages they were, and it also felt timely. I felt like we needed a reexamination of con men, which carries a bit into this year with Speed-the-Plow,” Behrend says.”

The play is about two work friends—Bobby Gould and Charlie Fox—in the film industry, both trying to work up the ladder in his own way. Karen is the office temp who throws a wrench in it all. “It taps into the crosswords of art, commerce, and friendship, and we get to see how that all plays out,” Behrend previews.

The show features RLTP ensemble member Matt Witten, who appeared in last season’s Glengarry, and Buffalo Stories’ vet Kevin Kennedy in a departure from his usual warm-andfuzzy roles. “Charlie Fox is pretty brutal, so I’m excited to see what fireworks happen with him and Matt,” says Behrend. “They haven’t worked together, so there’s new chemistry going on.”

This third of the trio is newcomer

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Road Less Traveled Productions' new theatre space at 456 Main Street Photo courtesy of Road Less Traveled Productions

Laura Barriere as Karen. “It’s a difficult part, made famous by Madonna on Broadway, and Laura’s going to be really cool,” Behrend previews. “She has a really special center of gravity that this character needs. Karen is intelligent and honest and sort of passionate, but she has her own agenda, and Laura seemed to gravitate toward figuring out who this person was immediately.”

RLPT has a history with Speedthe-Plow; the company did a reading of it with Alec Baldwin for a 2009 fundraiser, but Behrend hadn’t thought of it in the nearly ten years since. “I was drawn to it again because of what happened with Harvey Weinstein and the #metoo movement, because everybody in this play has their own agenda,” he says.

“Looking at sexual politics in that industry, there’s a lot to be said right now. Male/female dynamics are under a lot of scrutiny, what our choices are, and, if someone is being aggressive, how that’s being interpreted in our society is a huge question. It started to spark me last year, and now that we’re doing it, it feels timely in that sense.”

Road Less Traveled Productions closes

Speed-the-Plow on November 18 (roadlesstraveledproductions.org, 6293069).

My Three Angels New Phoenix

By Samuel and Bella Spewack Director: Tom Makar Cast: Richard Lambert, Elliot Fox, Brett Klaczyk, Betsy Bittar, Jack Agugliaro, Mike Benoit, Brendan Didio, John Kreuzer, Julie Kittsley, Jamie Nablo “It’s Christmas Eve. Three men convicted of serious crimes and imprisoned in French Guinea are hired by a family to do roof repairs.

Prisoners were commonly used for cheap labor by the French citizens,” previews Tom Makar, director of My Three Angels at New Phoenix this month. “Their intent is to rob the family and escape, but these career criminals find themselves getting involved in the hopes and struggles of the family. Comedy—albeit darkish—mischief, and romance ensue.”

Movie buffs may remember We’re No Angels, a film with Humphrey Bogart, Peter Ustinov, and Aldo Ray,

ARTS which for some—Makar among them—is as much a holiday staple as It’s A Wonderful Life or How the Grinch Stole Christmas. “I’ve been trying for years to get some theater to mount the stage version,” Makar says.

With New Phoenix executive director Richard Lambert, he finally hit pay dirt—and not for the first time.

“Several years ago, Tom suggested we produce Harvey, by Mary Chase,” Lambert says. “I wasn’t entirely convinced, having never read the play, but as we went into rehearsal, I found myself playing Elwood Drood and having the time of my life.

While searching titles for our current season, Tom suggested that we look at My Three Angels. I’d never read the play or seen the film, but at Tom’s suggestion, I did both. I found each charming and highly representative of the work we try to do here. Each included themes of redemption, second chances, and happy endings.

I was, again, hooked.”

Mostly known for sound design— he’s in residence at both Irish Classical and Jewish Rep but works all over town—and the occasional acting gig, Makar has also worn a director’s hat on more than a few occasions, including

for the aforementioned Harvey. “I take most, not all, acting and director roles that are offered to me; they tend to be much easier and get much more recognition than sound design,” says Makar, who won an Artie for Best Supporting Actor in 2017 and began his speech with “Thank you for this award for Lifetime Achievement in Sound Design.”

Lambert calls My Three Angels a perfect way to celebrate the holidays, and Makar—who cites “an accident is about to be arranged” as one of his favorites lines—calls it an “an offcenter, unconventional Christmas story without banal sentimentality, but with sincere humanity. I will be encouraging the actors to disappear and allow their characters to emerge.

I’m hoping to get a fresh take on this quirky comedy to help audiences delight in discovering or rediscovering this gem.”

My Three Angels begins at New Phoenix on November 16 (newphoenixtheatre.org, 853-1334). FY Playwright Donna Hoke writes about theater for Buffalo Spree and Forever Young.

Also Playing (in order of closing) • Fiddler on the Roof takes its final bow at Shea’s on November 4 (sheas.org, 847-0850).

• Fool for Love closes at American Repertory Theatre of Western New York on November 17 (artofwny.org, 634-1102).

Opening This Month

• Shea’s 710 presents the five-theater collaboration The Three Musketeers beginning November 1 (sheas.org, 847-0850).

• Sive opens at Irish Classical Theatre on November 2 (irishclassicaltheatre.com, 853-380).

• Kavinoky presents A Doll’s House Part 2 beginning November 2 (kavinokytheatre.com, 829-7668).

• King Hedley II, the third Paul Robeson Theatre presentation of plays in August Wilson’s Century Cycle, begins November 9.

• Hamilton opens November 20 at Shea’s (sheas.org, 847-0850).

• Beginning November 29, NUNCRACKERS: The NUNSENSE Christmas Musical is on stage at O’Connell and Company (oconnellandcompany.com, 848-0800).

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Real-life Politics Got You Down?

Watch some political cinema instead

BY CHRISTOPHER SCHOBERT

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ovember, of course, means Election Day. And whatever your political beliefs, it’s likely you’ll wind up feeling deflated.

Perhaps it’s best to ponder political cinema rather than current politics.

Here are ten noteworthy films about the weird, wild world of politics— then and now.

Note that streaming options are listed when applicable. If no streaming options are listed, the film can be rented on Amazon, iTunes, or Google Play, or a physical copy can be reserved through your local library.

The Front Runner (2018): Jason Reitman’s The Front Runner is the newest entry on this list. Hugh Jackman plays Gary Hart, the Democratic presidential candidate whose campaign famously derailed after an extramarital affair came to light.

I had the chance to see the film at the 2018 Toronto International Film festival, and found it to be brisk, entertaining, and never quite as insightful as it should be. However, the majority of the film is so involving that it’s impossible to be overly disappointed. I’d go so far as to call it a must-see for anyone interested in how politics has evolved—in ways good and bad. (Opens in limited release on November 7) A Face in the Crowd (1957): There are plenty of parallels to our world and its leaders to be found in this searing drama starring Andy Griffith. It’s a dark, cynical film about a “man of the people” and his rise to stardom.

The American President (1995): Finally, something light! Rob Reiner’s last, great romantic comedy stars Michael Douglas as the President

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Hugh Jackman plays Gary Hart in The Front Runner.

Photo courtesy of Columbia Pictures

and Annette Benning as the lobbyist he falls in love with. (Streaming on Cinemax/MAX GO) All the President’s Men (1976): One of cinema’s greatest thrillers, Alan J. Pakula’s film about Watergate stars Robert Redford as Bob Woodward and Dustin Hoffman as Carl Bernstein. It’s as powerful and probing today as it was upon release.

Election (1999): A student council election is the perfect stand-in for the real-world version. Matthew Broderick and Reese Witherspoon, never better, star in this unforgettable comedy.

(Streaming on Amazon Instant Video) Wag the Dog (1997): Released preMonica Lewinsky scandal, this Robert De Niro-Dustin Hoffman vehicle about a presidential sex scandal was, quite literally, ahead of its time.

Primary Colors (1998): John Travolta and Emma Thompson deftly play Bill Clinton and Hillary Clinton—OK, characters inspired by Bill and Hillary—in Mike Nichols’s adaptation of the controversial bestseller. (Streaming on Starz)

The Contender (2000): A contender for Vice President sees information about her past come to light in this well-acted thriller featuring Joan Allen, Jeff Bridges, and Gary Oldman.

The War Room (1993): This unforgettable documentary look at Bill Clinton’s 1992 presidential campaign made James Carville one of the most well-known figures in modern politics.

(Streaming on FilmStruck) Others: There are countless political TV series worthy of your time, from House of Cards on Netflix to The West Wing. Looking for one more? Try HBO’s Veep, featuring Julia LouisDreyfus as the US Vice President, and get ready to laugh.

One more worth checking out is the 1988 HBO miniseries Tanner ’88.

Robert Altman and Garry Trudeau teamed up for this ambitious look at the 1988 campaign for the White House. The entire series is streaming on FilmStruck. FY Christopher Schobert is a film critic whose work appears in Forever Young, Buffalo Spree, and other outlets.

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Todd Chalk

BY JUDITH A. RUCKI

Local artist Todd Chalk and one of her award-winning works Image courtesy of Todd Chalk

“T

he value of art in our world is probably the more joyful side of our lives,” says Todd Chalk. For more than forty years, Chalk has been bringing beauty and imagination, along with joy, to everyone who has experienced her work.

“Years and years ago, I was a beautician for a short while,” she shares. But her real love is creating art.

“It is my life!”

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She works with both acrylics and watercolors and mainly does mixed media collage.

Chalk’s career as an artist had an

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Where the Red Bud Grows, acrylic Image courtesy of the Oxford Gallery

auspicious start. “My husband was very supportive of my being an artist,” she says. He bought her a paint-bynumber set. As Chalk recalls, “I could not stay in the lines, and I thought, ‘I guess I’m talented, because I can’t stay in the lines!’”

Living in St. Louis at the time, Chalk told her husband she was going to take art education classes. She soon realized she “could draw about as well as the teacher.”

Chalk says she wanted to do portraits. After attending an art show held by the artist George Palmer, who is known for portraiture, she says she called him to take a class. She studied

with Palmer for four and a half years.

She also did portraits for about ten years, sketching at fairs and country clubs.

Eventually, when she was in her forties, Chalk wound up at the University at Buffalo. “I'm like a kid in a candy store,” she says. A “straight-A student,” she earned her bachelor’s and master’s degrees in fine art. She also earned a teaching certificate. “You only did as well as you demanded of yourself,” she notes. “You had to work hard.”

Chalk says she became “very serious about doing shows and teaching, probably in the late 1970s.” She taught drawing at ECC North for three and a half years. Although she had taught privately since then, she recently decided to give up teaching.

However, she still does demonstrations and workshops. Her studio is in the basement of her Williamsville home.

Chalk describes herself mainly as an abstract painter. She also refers to herself as an “accidental painter.”

Sometimes, she says, she has no idea where she is going. “I will put down a color,” she says. “My canvas tells me where I want to go.

“I almost always start from real, and

ARTS then I abstract it,” Chalk explains. “I seem to not have that much trouble doing it. I really love abstract work.

In doing it, I’ve learned more and pushed myself more.” Currently, she is working her way back to semi abstract, “something softer” than what she’s been doing.

Chalk says that she was “very influenced by things I’ve seen and done–mountains, oceans, things I was exposed to.” She wants people to experience the same feelings through her work.

While Chalk realizes that some people may not connect with the art when they go to a show, when it happens, it’s great. “When they connect with your art, it is a nice thing to happen; you’ve got a buddy in the art world.”

Chalk has shown her work extensively throughout the United States and has recently exhibited in an international show in Pennsylvania.

She also had a retro exhibit at Fox Run in Orchard Park. She exhibits with the

Buffalo Society of Artists, the Niagara Frontier Watercolors Society, and at River Art Gallery.

“I’ve showed at my ‘milk route’ – Columbus, Dayton, Cincinnati,” she notes. “It was like I dropped off paintings here and there.”

Her paintings are for sale and are displayed at offices and businesses throughout the region. “I sell and am in lots and lots of companies here and down through Ohio, and lots of different places in the United States.”

Born in 1929, Chalk says, “Artists never retire! I’m knocking on the door at a bigger number!”

To learn more about local artists, including Chalk, visit buffalosocietyofartists.org and click on “videos.” FY Judith A. Rucki is a public relations consultant and freelance writer.

Anyone for Checkers; watercolor on Yupo paper Image courtesy of the Oxford Gallery

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BY RICK FALKOWSKI The Last Waltz Concert Photo by Peter Sloane

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t has become necessary for Buffalo area musicians to be creative to attract audiences to their shows. Fewer people are attending the continually-increasing number of concerts at clubs or parks. To be successful and to influence people to attend their events, musicians and promoters are offering something special or unique.

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It began with tribute shows, where musicians recreate the music and often the appearance of recording acts.

When concert ticket prices escalated to car payment or mortgage cost levels, bands began imitating popular national bands. This allows people to hear music by one of their favorite groups without having to max out their credit cards.

In Western New York, some of the popular tribute shows include BeatleMagic and several other bands performing The Beatles, Chicago Authority playing Chicago, Eli as Three Dog Night, Rumourz playing Fleetwood Mac, Dead Flowers playing the Rolling Stones, Coda doing Led Zeppelin, Kiss This as Kiss and other bands recreating the music of The Grateful Dead, Pink Floyd, Iron Maiden, The Who, Doors, Scorpions, Tom Petty, and more. These bands perform at clubs and summer outdoor concerts.

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Sin City, and next June they will be appearing with the BPO at Kleinhans Music Hall. BBC Band, covering the Beatles, was invited to perform this summer at International Beatles Week in England, including a show at the Cavern Club, the Liverpool Club where the Beatles began their career. John Connelly, Russ Thomas, Frank Grizanti, Bob Volkman, and Gary Astridge will recreate the Beatles’ early days at the Cavern Club with a concert at The Tralf on Friday December 7, which they added after their December 8 show sold out. This will be The BBC’s first concert since returning from England.

There are also touring shows that come to the area playing the music of David Bowie, U2, The Eagles, Elton John, Billy Joel, Abba, Journey, Four Seasons, etc. The Riviera Theatre features Tribute Band Fridays, where for $20 you can see these national touring tribute acts, which often fill the theater to its 1,140 capacity. Some of these groups also return to WNY during the summer to perform at outdoor events.

One of the largest special events

ARTS Music Foundation, which was created by Sportsmen’s Tavern owner Dwane Hall. This is the second year the production has sold out the 1,200-capacity hall. The extravaganza should return next fall and the cast may schedule additional concerts, if they can find a date when all the members are available.

Buffalo musicians are making an extra effort to entertain area audiences.

Make sure you support local artists, by

attending events where you can enjoy the talents of the many professional performers in Western New York. FY Rick Falkowski gives Buffalo Music History presentations, is the author of History of Buffalo Music & Entertainment and is co-founder of the Buffalo Music Hall of Fame.

Send questions or comments to info@ buffalomusichistory.com

The BBC at the Cavern Club Photo by John Connelly

this year was when several thousand people came to see Stoneflower recreate The Beatles’ January 30, 1969 rooftop concert on the Apple Corps Building in London. That show was the last public performance by the Beatles and became part of the Let It Be movie. The members of Stoneflower, for their August 9, 2018 show on the roof of Hydraulic Hearth in Larkinville, were Geno McManus, Frank Grizanti, Jeff Schaller, Cathy Carfagna, and Joe Rozler. It was the second year Stoneflower put on this concert and, due to its success, Larkinville is likely to make it an annual summertime tradition.

The most ambitious of these special shows is a recreation of The Band’s Last Waltz concert at the Winterland Ballroom in San Francisco on November 25, 1976. The concert was produced by Bill Graham and filmed as a movie documentary by Martin Scorsese. Over a dozen special guests joined The Band, formerly Bob Dylan’s back up group, on stage for the concert, which is considered by many critics as the “greatest documentary concert film” ever released.

To reproduce this special concert event, twenty-six Buffalo area musicians join forces for one of the largest production casts of the year.

The Buffalo musicians involved

in the show and the people they portray are members of The Band: Doug Yeomans (Robbie Robertson), Jim Whitford (Rick Danko), Ron Davis (Garth Hudson), Jim Ehinger (Richard Manuel) and Peter Holguin (Levon Helm). Guest artists: Dan Delano (Dr. John), Michael McGuire (Neil Diamond), Ted Cacciatore (Paul Butterfield), Eric Crittenden (Muddy Waters), Frank Grizanti (Eric Clapton), Joelle Labert (Emmylou Harris), Mark Norris (Van Morrison), Rod Nickson (Pops Staples), Sharon Bailey (Mavis Staples), Erin Benning (Staple singer) and Joyce Wilson Nixon (Staple singer). The horn section is Matt Harris, Joe Parisi, Al Jaenecki and Harry Fackelman, while the folk trio Brothers Blue are Charlie Coughlin, Matt Sperber and Ben Haravitch. Orators for the concert are Tom Makar (poet Michael McClure), Kevin Cox (poet Lawrence Ferlinghetti) and Phil Knoerzer (house announcer).

The Last Waltz Concert is November 17, 2018 at Asbury Hall at Babeville, the former Ashbury Delaware Avenue Methodist Church that was renovated with a tenmillion-dollar restoration, funded

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What a Woman Wants STORY AND PHOTOS

BY DANIEL MEYER

Laura Palisano Hackathorn's boutique offers a variety of clothing, accessories, and home goods.

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omen looking to stay on trend and in style have access to an extensive selection of clothing, accessories, jewelry, and more at a locally owned and operated boutique in the Village of Hamburg at Staub Square, 1 Buffalo Street.

What A Woman Wants recently celebrated its tenth anniversary with an expansion that doubled the store’s size, created a fitting room, added home décor items, and introduced a collection of gift items for women of all ages. The store offers everything from casual wear to more formal options, plus bath and body products, and a line of baby items.

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“My goal is to always offer beautiful items that are affordable and of high quality,” says owner Laura Palisano Hackathorn. “I want everyone to look beautiful and be comfortable at the same time.”

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Western New York” that are now for sale in her shop. Along with clothing, jewelry, handbags, and seasonal attire from around the world, items created by local artists are also sold, with gift wrapping offered for any item.

“I like to think we provide anyone who visits with a calm shopping experience that allows for interaction with our knowledgeable salespeople and updates on current fashion trends,” says Palisano Hackathorn, who also serves as a member of the Hamburg Village Board. “With the holidays right around the corner, I think we offer an alternative to the stressful atmosphere that shopping at a mall or other large retail outlet can cause for some people.”

Located in Hamburg’s historic central business district, What A Woman Wants also provides a unique service for any woman looking for those missing extra items for a special occasion. “We ask anyone who has a dress for a wedding or a celebratory outfit for a one-time event to bring it with them, so we can serve as fashion consultants and locate the perfect accessories to complete the outfit and ensure they will look their absolute best,” she says.

COVER experience and something that women look forward to, instead of dreading or just avoiding it,” Palisano Hackathorn says. “We embrace people of all ages, all sizes, and all tastes in the hopes of having them leave feeling absolutely beautiful and completely satisfied with what they are bringing home.”

What A Woman Wants is open Monday to Saturday from 10 a.m. to 7p.m. and will be open Sundays

for the holiday season from 11 a.m. to 5 p.m. In addition to its website (shopwhatawomanwants.com), the store has a presence on Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter. FY Daniel Meyer is a freelance writer and contributor to Forever Young and Buffalo Spree.

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Hair Do’s and Don'ts

BY JUDITH A. RUCKI

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come from a generation of women who abused their hair. Back in the 1960s, we ironed it, set it on orange juice cans, frosted it, and even “treated” our hair with plant fertilizer. As I recall, it was all in an attempt to look as gorgeous as the young women hanging around the British rock groups. None of that worked for our hair or in getting a date with a Beatle.

Some of us embraced the hippie enough. It was expensive and time I had been imagining myself as look–long, flowing hair that we consuming, and it seemed the gray having chic salt and pepper hair like swore we would never color. We were roots were winning no matter what. several women I knew. Or maybe I I had recently changed salons, and going to be natural beauties. would have a silvery gray color that I, for one, said I was not interested I told my new colorist no more. I would stun. What I had were clumps in coloring my hair. My first wanted to go gray. of white mixed with something the Smart woman that she is, she said color of field mice. The look wasn’t experience with gray was a streak that I thought looked pretty cool, up she would strip out all the color so working. I was back to hitting the until it didn’t. So I began the coloring I could see what was there. I took bottle. one look in the mirror and told her I process.

(I left the salon as a brunette with a After years of coloring my hair didn’t care if she poured green dye on hint of plum. I loved it, even though my the same deep brown color, I’d had my hair, I wanted color. mother would occasionally mention that no one really had purple hair.)

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Do-it-yourself color is an option, but the color doesn’t always look the same as what’s on the box.

If you have allergies to color, or it causes problems with your scalp, the choice has been made for you.

Women, as well as men, may color their hair because they believe it gives them a more youthful appearance.

With the advances in color, a good colorist can mix up your own “secret formula” that works for your particular hair type. There also are highlights and lowlights to experiment with. Perhaps try on some wigs first to give you an idea how you might look.

The best part of all is that we have a choice. For those who choose to go gray, you don’t automatically have to look tired and old. With the right cut and maybe some makeup, you can look glamorous, edgy, and sexy.

For that matter, going gray can be just as rebellious as a teenager sporting a rainbow ‘do.

Certainly gray hair can be aging.

Color can give you a more youthful look, which could be an advantage if you work in an industry that may discriminate against a more mature worker.

For men, a little gray at the temple, or the all-over “silver fox” look, can be both handsome and sophisticated. If that doesn’t work, color away. There are some products made with men in mind, even to color facial hair.

Balding men have several choices.

They can let nature takes its course, speed things up and shave their heads, or opt for a hairpiece or a transplant.

Think bald isn’t sexy? Check out stars like Vin Diesel or Billy Zane.

They rock the look. Bald men can appear authoritative and confident.

We won’t get into the man bun.

Even on the very young, it’s a hard look to pull off.

Experiment until you find what works best for you. You’ll know it when you see it! FY Judith A. Rucki is a public relations consultant and freelance writer.

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Natural Products for Mature Skin

BY JUDITH A. RUCKI

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s we grow older, our skin is likely to be showing signs of age. The epidermis, or outer layer of skin, loses lipids, which makes our skin drier and thinner. The dermis, or inner layer of our skin, joins in and loses collagen and elasticity. Our supportive subcutaneous fat becomes thinner.

This causes our skin to sag, while pores, follicles, and oil glands become more prominent.

Our skin is now more sensitive to the sun, and photo-aging, or changes of color in the skin, increases. Sunspots appear, and our skin becomes dry.

Can we do anything to stave off the aging process? For starters, drink lots of water, use sunscreen, don’t smoke, get enough sleep, and moisturize.

Then moisturize some more.

It’s clear that we need to care for our skin differently than we did in our younger days. There is a dizzying array of skin products out there, and a walk through the beauty products aisle at a drugstore can leave us confused.

Let’s start by identifying just a few natural hair and skin care products for men and women.

Alba Botanica makes high quality, 100 per cent vegetarian products that “overflow with botanical ingredients.”

Their new firming scrub, “Body in the Buff,” contains biodegradable buffing beads. It is hypo-allergenic and contains no parabens, phthalates, or synthetic fragrance.

Arbonne says, “We develop our skincare products by carefully selecting botanical ingredients known for specific beneficial properties.

Through innovation in science, we introduce formulas that make skin look more healthy, youthful, and beautiful.” Its formulas are botanical, vegan, and cruelty free. Products include skincare, bath and body products, and makeup.

Burt’s Bees use ingredients, including the packaging, that are simple and natural. Try a lip balm

formulated with all natural beeswax and antioxidant Vitamin E. Caudalie favors natural and environmentally friendly active ingredients. The vine and grape extracts used for its patented formulas come from the vineyards of Bordeaux, Champagne, and Burgundy. They are against animal testing.

Clinique is a trailblazer, launching the first-ever line of dermatologistdeveloped skin care fifty years ago.

The brand avoids using allergens, irritants, parabens, phthalates, and fragrance. Along with skincare and other beauty necessities, this brand also offers products designed just for men.

Dr. Hauschka Skin Care is devoted to producing superior natural skin care products. The company offers a natural makeup line along with products for the mature skin.

Jack Black proffers no-nonsense products that claim to work as advertised and use the best

ingredients. It claims to be the “#1 best-selling men’s skincare brand” with products for face, shaving, body, and hair.

Lush Cosmetics believes in making effective products from fresh organic fruits and vegetables, the finest essential oils, and safe synthetics. It offers a wide range of products including bath, shower, hair, face, body, fragrances, and makeup.

Thirty-five percent of its products are unpackaged, or as the company likes to say, naked.

The Pure Organics Salon, housed in The Fountain Wellness Center on Sheridan Drive in Williamsville, is an all-organic salon offering hair color, products, nail care, and sugaring without the chemicals found in a typical salon setting.

Renew Bath and Body at 927 Elmwood Avenue in Buffalo has a passion for “clean, pure and effective

ingredients.” The store does not believe in animal testing and offers “the cleanest and most effective formulas.” From Acure face masks to Juice Beauty anti-wrinkle cream, it offers a staggering selection of products to keep you looking your best.

True Botanicals offers a wide range of products that are made from ingredients independently certifiednontoxic for humans, cruelty free, non-GMO, gluten free, and vegan.

It was named Allure Magazine’s Best of Beauty Award winner for its Deep Repair Eye Serum. FY Judith A. Rucki is a public relations consultant and freelance writer.

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Canada’s First National Park Exploring Banff, Alberta STORY AND PHOTOS BY JENNIFER MERRICK

A view of the ridgetop boardwalk atop Sulphur Mountain

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strong odor of hard boiled eggs—a little on the rotten side—hit us as we entered.

“It’s not me; I had a bath,” joked our Parks Canada guide, Amar Athwal.

We were at the Cave and Basin National Historic Site, the birthplace of Banff National Park and Canada’s federal park system, which now encompasses over three dozen parks and 174,000 square miles of protected lands and waters. And it all came about because of this pungent odor. Well, more specifically, of where the smell was coming from—the sulphurous emerald hot springs along the aptly named Sulphur Mountain in the Canadian Rockies. proved to be a benefit not only to Canadians,” making it the country’s “I’m sure they followed their noses Athwal explained that this area Canada but to the world. Each year, first protected natural space and as well,” said Athwal. had a long human history and was over 3.6 million visitors from around the second in North America (after News of these magical waters known to indigenous nations for the globe come to awe at the stunning Yellowstone). In the 1930s, it was travelled to the capital, and over 14,000 years. Europeans first alpine landscapes and wildlife. expanded, encompassing 2,564 sq. parliament passed an act to set discovered it in the late 1800s, when We experienced both and so much mi and became Banff National Park. aside “a hot spring reserve” officially an explorer slipped in the marsh and more on our visit to Alberta. Here This mountain wilderness reserve declaring it “for the benefit of all discovered the water was warm. are some of the highlights:

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Lake Louise Banff’s most iconic of views is justifiably famous. The jade green color of the glacial lake changes constantly depending on the light but is always a jewel set in the towering peaks that surround it.

Close to its shores is the Fairmont Chateau Lake Louise, a luxury historic hotel that looks like a castle out of a fairy tale.

After a leisurely hike along its shores, we lunched at the Lakeview Lounge,

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Two glacial lakes: Lake Louise (left), and Moraine Lake (right)

where it was hard to concentrate on the food with a window looking out at the mesmerizing views. About thirty minutes up the mountain was another unforgettable sight: Moraine Lake. This glacial lake with its enchanting aquamarine colour was the scene on Canada’s twentydollar bill from 1969-1979.

Banff Gondola Hiking up Sulphur Mountain overlooking Banff takes close to two hours and is somewhat arduous, but the Banff gondola lifted us up above the clouds in a mere eight minutes.

At the top, we strolled along the ridgetop boardwalk, where the atmospheric mist occasionally parted to reveal glimpses of mountain peaks.

In addition to the breathtaking views, there’s an interpretive center, a theater, 360-degree observation deck, and restaurants. Choices included Castle Mountain Coffee for a quick pick-me-up, Northern Lights for a market-style eatery, and Sky Bistro for an upscale dining experience.

Elk Encounters Spotting wildlife is a huge draw for visitors, and park residents include bears, wolves, bighorn sheep, elk, and coyotes. Of course, not being a zoo, there are no guarantees as we discovered well into our visit. The big-horn sheep that often hang out on the top of Sulphur Mountain by the gondola were nowhere to be seen. We kept our eyes peeled as we drove through the park; but as much as we enjoyed the scenery, not a creature stirred. Finally, at a scenic lookout point off Compound Road, I saw a yellow-furred mammal flitting through the trees. “Look!” I cried and grabbed a friend’s arm. And there it was—a golden retriever.

On our last day in Banff, we had yet to see any of its wild inhabitants.

A local shared with us that one of the best places to spot wildlife was on the Fairmont Banff Springs Golf Course. It didn’t take long on our drive to be rewarded with the sight of a lone bull elk with antlers so wide I half expected it to tip over. But as the biggest deer species alive at over

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While we snapped pictures, he sauntered right in front of us. Then something amazing happened. He raised his head and emitted a sound the likes of which I had never heard before, a sound that I never would have expected from an animal this size. Not a deep roar or a booming trumpet, but a shrill, high-pitched shriek. These rutting calls are called bugles and are only heard during mating time.

Amazed, I wished him luck as he disappeared into the trees. He would need it, because two minutes down the road, smack in the middle of the golf course, we spotted an entire heard of elk: about a dozen females and one very large bull guarding his harem, ready to fight any competitors.

Note: this time of year, people have to be especially careful around these normally docile creatures.

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Banff sleeps and eats The town of Banff itself has a population of approximately 7,500 and accommodations that range from the luxurious and historic Banff Fairmont Springs to B&Bs and hostels. There’s shopping and several cafes, eateries, and restaurants.

One in particular should be on your list (unless you’re a vegetarian).

Chuck’s Steakhouse, a Western-style restaurant, prides itself on its steak— and for good reason. The menu features a range of locally-sourced beef with an on-site aging room.

Our waiter educated us on various cuts and preparations available and made recommendations based on our preferences. In the end, we shared a family-style platter of prime, wagyu, and grass-fed steaks that were grilled to perfection.

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the living area. The rooftop pool was an ideal way to end a day of mountain exploring, and fitting considering that it was a hot bath that started it all. FY

Jennifer Merrick is a freelance writer and avid traveler based in Toronto.

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elationships with adult children can be tricky. They seem to range from “we’re best friends” to “the more miles between us, the better.” that is a result of mothers making In families with several children, more demands for closeness or being interactions are not always the more intrusive than fathers. same. Three of the offspring can be (There are studies suggesting that wonderful, and one can behave as nearly 30 percent of women have been where their adult children are or if wolves raised him (or her). No Choose your battles and work estranged from their mothers at some what is going on in their lives. amount of soul-searching can answer together to find solutions to point in their lives.) the question, “What went wrong?” problems. Try to understand and One suggestion is to remember Some researchers report that What can be worse is when a accept the other’s point of view. that parents cannot control their tensions between parents and their once-good relationship goes sour.

Look how each other’s wishes can be adult children’s lives or actions. If the adult children tend to be more Sometimes it can be difficult to accommodated. estranged child misses an important upsetting to the parents than to the pinpoint the problem, let alone find a Avoiding issues, or shouting about family event like a baptism or funeral, children. This may be the time a parent solution. them, are destructive strategies. he or she will have to deal with the is tempted to say, “I hope someday you Let’s start with elderly parents Things might get worse. negative emotions and consequences. have a child just like you!” Probably feeling like they are being scrutinized.

Look at your core values. Adult Train your thoughts to be positive best to keep that one to yourself.

Issues can range from the “kids” going children can make their own and empowering. Instead of worrying Aging parents may want or need through a refrigerator to make sure the decisions, but if poor decisions result about how the estrangement will turn more from their relationship with milk isn’t spoiled to being told they in something serious, like losing out, remind yourself that you can their children, which may cause the should no longer be driving. None a job because of substance abuse, tolerate the situation at this moment. children to pull away, creating even of us wants to give up control, but at silence may not be golden. Find the Think about how to make the best more tension within the relationship. the same time, we like to know that right time and place to express your of a bad situation. You can feel more It can take some work, but someone will be there if we need help. concerns without nagging. powerful knowing you are surviving relationships can be salvaged, or at Finding a happy medium isn’t No one is right or wrong all of adversity. least improved. always easy. the time. If you’ve made a mistake, No matter what is going on, parents Most likely we’ve all heard some Parents can get stubborn when admit it. This goes for parents as well and their adult children should let variation of, “If I didn’t love you, I they feel they are being told what to as their children. each other know they are loved. FY wouldn’t bring it up.” So, once an issue do. Sometimes the best tactic is to be For families that are estranged, has been aired, what’s the best way to patient, plant an idea (a snow removal things can get tricky. In worst-case Judith A. Rucki is a public relations cope? service might be a time saver) and scenarios, parents may not know consultant and freelance writer. hope the parent listens.

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MY WNY STORY

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herese Forton-Barnes has always loved bringing people together. As founder of Events to a Tee, she has planned and executed some of the area’s top social events over the years. She has also been a wedding planner, but what brings her the most satisfaction is matchmaking.

“For more than twenty-five years, I have been relentless in trying to find a match for my single friends,” explains Forton-Barnes, who is married.

She lists former Buffalo Sabres goal tender Ryan Miller as a memorable matchmaking success.

After family and friends encouraged her to focus more attention to those skills, Forton-Barnes began searching sites on the internet before creating

Matchmaking 2 A Tee. She had a logo and business cards made and, just like that, she started another business.

Whenever she went out, she would notice good looking guys and ask if they were single. If they answered yes, she would give them her card. Last December, business changed drastically when she met Lisa Brydges, a woman who had a similar matchmaking history with her friends.

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“Everyone deserves love,” says Brydges, who is also married with young children and counts several marriages of friends among her early matchmaking successes. “I love love, and I feel everyone should have that opportunity.”

Both women understand the frustration most singles have with the many on-line dating and matchmaking services people use to find a potential match. They both agree that professional men and women just do not have the time or interest to go online and provide all the information they require.

Six months ago, they attended an International Matchmaking conference in the Dominican Republic, and that helped them create what they call their “private and personalized off-

line matchmaking services.” No one but Forton-Barnes and Brydges sees what clients submit on their website, matchmaking2atee.com.

“Our customer base are men and women ages thirty to sixty. And, rather than have them post their photo and personal information for everyone to see, we reach out to them after they post on our site and we get to know them through a lot of conversations,” Forton-Barnes explains. “Getting to know them that way becomes a much easier service for a client rather than spending all that time online.”

They ask in-depth questions so they are able to create a detailed, thorough profile of their clients, finding out more of what they like and don’t like about a potential partner and, most important, what are the deal breakers in finding a partner.

“Many of our clients are professionals in the Buffalo area who have horrific stories of online dating

MY WNY STORY experiences. They usually are at a point where they want nothing to do with those services anymore,” Brydges adds.

Once they explain the differences with their off-line service, clients are more comfortable opening up to them. It costs nothing to post a profile with Matchmaking 2 a T, and once the profile is received, one of the women reaches out to see if the person would like to become a client. The company has enlisted a professional photographer to ensure the client has a current photo to post. After the interview session, Forton-Barnes and Brydges work through their extensive database and knowledge of clients to begin the matchmaking process.

Once they feel a client is ready for a first date, they go over the “First Date Do’s and Don’ts, including: Do Not exchange cell phone numbers on the first date. Clients do abide by that, they say.

“We want them to come back to us and explain the experience,” FortonBarnes says. “If it doesn’t go well, we

call the other person and move on or, in most cases, we arrange for a second date. They also provide the clients with a list of potential first date sites like coffee shops, wine bars, and restaurants.

“What brings satisfaction to us is simply putting two people together who sincerely enjoy spending time with each other. We live in such a busy, fast-paced world, but everyone needs someone to share their life with,” Forton-Barnes says. “The more we get into this with clients, we take on their soul and desire to find that match for them. We both know there is someone for them and we are willing to work hard to find that person.

“When we do it is so gratifying. We are more about quality than quantity.

We are not trying to get someone twenty dates a month. We look for quality dates that could potentially turn into a relationship.” FY Michael Billoni is a publisher and storyteller.

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The organization has granted over 160 wishes to deserving seniors and is currently planning a week of wishes to honor our Veterans. One wish a day will be granted to a local Veteran during the week of November 12.

In addition, a Simple Wishes for the Holidays campaign will be entering its second year with the hopes of reaching 100 people. Staff and volunteers deliver Christmas presents, such as warm blankets, hats, gloves, and slippers to seniors nominated by elder care workers as in need due to little or no family and lack of resources.

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The organization depends on donations from community and corporate sponsors to support the program. Donations can be made at www.seniorwishes.org. For an application or more information contact Wendy at 716-508-2121 or wbackman@uchsinc.org. FY Diane Simonsen is the director of development at Senior Wishes/UCHS.

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With the annual enrollment period Tom Sass knows how confusing Medicare can be. “The key piece is for for Medicare Advantage running from people to understand the alphabet of October 15 to December 7, everyone Medicare,” he advises. needs to review their coverage and to Original Medicare is made of two anticipate what they will need in the parts: hospital insurance (Part A) and coming year. medical insurance (Part B). “You get “You may travel more, or you may be Part A from the government. Payment looking at surgery,” says Sass. “You need for Part B is based on how much you to decide which plan will give you the worked.” most bang for the buck.”

Medicare Advantage plans, also He stresses doing your homework known as Medicare Part C, take the when considering which plan to choose. place of Original Medicare. Medicare Ask yourself: “Are my doctors and Advantage combines Medicare Part A hospitals going to be included?” Sass and Part B coverage into one plan offered says, “Make sure your doctors are in by a private insurance company, like the network. You can get an unpleasant BlueCross BlueShield. This means you surprise if your doctor is not included.” get all your benefits from one source.

Because things can get complicated Think coverage for extra days in the very quickly, Sass recommends hospital; benefits including dental, vision, talking to an expert. “Call your and hearing; and gym memberships and carrier. Representatives are out in the other wellness benefits. community.”

Most plans also include Part D For example, BlueCross BlueShield prescription drug coverage. has Medicare Centers where experts can Original Medicare is not designed answer your questions. to cover all of your medical expenses, Current or prospective members which is why most people choose can visit bcbswny.com/medicare or call additional coverage, like Medicare 1-833-735-4513 for more information.

Advantage plans, to help protect Other carriers may offer similar themselves from high medical costs. services. Make sure your plan is the best Sass notes that Original Medicare is one for your individual needs. FY acquired through the government at ssa.

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BEING WELL

The Intuitive Gut

BY CATHERINE STACK

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ave you ever made a decision because something tugged from a place deep within? A decision that would typically go against your definition of normal and yet it served you well? There are countless stories that are chalked up to a sense of knowing, even though it may be unexplainable. is up. Moms are typically the most dialed new, “safe” seat, I was struck. It was so in when it comes to the safety of their quick, I honestly did not know what hit Trust your gut. You are not likely to children as their brains have evolved to me. As people began to throw tissues find an individual who has not heard be more attuned to surroundings. This my way, I realized that warm sensation this phrase and yet, many will not is not to be confused with the helicopter running down my face was blood. heed the warning. They let their head parent who constantly hovers. The My gut intuition had been right, but derationalize what the gut is trying to ability to trust your gut is probably one avoiding the issue was not in the cards say. Do you make decisions easily, or of the most valuable tools parents can for me that day. I did take ten stitches to do you painfully dissect and overthink teach their children. my head and suffer a mild concussion. everything, often talking yourself out of We currently live in a society that My neighbors were a bit creeped out ideas? believes that everything must have a that I had predicted it on the ride in.

I tend to make decisions quick. rational or scientific explanation. This Needless to say, we were never invited Almost too quick, like jumping off makes us more likely to doubt the signs again. Fortunately, most gut instinct a cliff. I may initially feel sick to my and signals that we may be getting from reactions have worked out very well stomach, but when I look back on these our gut and therefore missing. for me and have lead me to the best decisions, they have always served me Instinct is most easily explained as decisions of my life. well. Well almost. the innate inclination toward a reactive We have all heard stories. Near About twenty-five years ago, my behavior in response to a certain misses that were avoided because of a husband and I were invited to a Sabres stimuli. It is an automatic, mindless bad feeling or something of that nature. game by neighbors. The seats were process that typically does not require Great business ideas that happened separated two and two. Two of us, the deep thinking. This is very much related because it just felt right, or finding that wife and I, were seated in the upper gold to the fight or flight response to help us perfect someone when you randomly and our husbands were in the lower survive. Animals use the same strategy. diverted from your normal routine. gold. This was my first hockey game, It is also referred to as our sixth sense.

If only we could tune into this more and I remember joking in the car on Although we were all born with the purposely, right? Studies suggest that the way there, “I’m gonna get hit with potential for a highly successful intuitive this may be possible. a hockey puck.” Once there, I became ability, many individuals have their skill For some, it is a little voice that very uncomfortable, as we were just silenced. When people are denied or nags at something, for others it could above glass level (before nets). I’m not deprived of a healthy upbringing or be sweaty palms, or a funny feeling in usually high maintenance, but I asked environment (mental, physical, and the stomach, aka gut. For those who if we could switch to the lower seating emotional), the gut instinct becomes have experienced this, it is just an because I would feel much safer. Within dulled and often lost. Individuals with unexplainable certainty that something a few short minutes of getting into my

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Malcolm Gladwell, author of the best seller, Blink, argues that even the most detailed information and wisdom cannot become superior to our subconscious brain. I highly recommend this read.

In an age where we are continually bombarded by technology and information (real and false), are we in fact clouding our ability to make better choices? Here are a few points to ponder (according to Gladwell’s principles) 1. Quick decisions are just as good as decisions made cautiously.

2. Your gut tells you when to be wary and when to trust.

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Trust your gut! If you feel this has not served you well in the past, pay attention and learn from your mistakes. You can improve your intuitive knowing. Once you adopt this way of thinking and feeling, you will begin to notice that when you come across things or people that are truly “right” for you, it feels good and evolves easily. FY Catherine Stack (RN, ND) is a practicing Doctor of Naturopathy, Certified Nurse Midwife, and the founder and CEO of Journey II Health Center for Rejuvenation. Her book, Free Yourself from a CONSTIPATED Life, is available on Amazon. Visit her website at journeyiihealth.com or email journeyIIhealth@gmail.com.

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