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28 EDITOR’S PICKS
A Pregnancy Survival Guide
Bath Time Bliss
20 BRA TIME
30 ONE BALANCED MAMA
Getting It Right Once and For All
Lisa Joseph-Metelus
22 WOMB TUNES
36 NANNY 911
A Look At Playing Music In-Utero
Choosing The Right Care-Giver For Your Child
24 GET SMART WITH SMART EGGS .
38 GODPARENTS Relevant or Not?
40 WHAT’S UP WITH DOWN’S SYNDROME
42 COVER STORY
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his issue makes me smile. Spending time with Trinidad’s favourite #socamom Destra, you can’t help but feel the rythmn of life! She’s the Queen of Bacchanal and she believes from deep within that a joyful life is the one you create. Her story starts on page 42. It’s carnival time here in the Caribbean: a time of celebration and joie de vivre. This is a time of togetherness where we embrace our rich artistic culture, and love, life and laughter triumph over all else. I basked in the beauty of both wisdom and joy when I spent time with 96-year-old Tao Porchon Lynch. (pictured at right). She’s the world’s oldest yoga master, and an incredible motivation to countless people around the world. Her philosophy that ‘she’s always looking for good’, affirms her source of pure joy! Rarely do I find myself in awe of people, but Tao reminded me that it’s up to us to tap into our own greatness. I wish for you and your families nothing but goodness for 2015. I also wish for wisdom and pure joy. Wisdom is key, and as a parent that is what unlocks the door to life’s smooth journey. It is through wisdom that we choose appropriate actions of when, how and why. It is through wisdom that we make sensible choices for ourselves, and for our children. And joy is vital. Over the years, I’ve learned that happiness comes from outside; someone or something provides that happiness for you. And while it may feel good, we have little control over when it appears, and disappears. We just enjoy it while it lasts. But joy now… joy comes from within. It’s deep, and can’t be diminished by all the things that make life in general, and parenting in particular, challenging. I wish for us all to seek and find a joy so pure that nothing can remove it. When that joy abounds, being better parents comes effortlessly. The sleepless nights with a new baby, the financial stresses of a growing family, or the defiance of a headstrong teen…none of these factors can take joy away. Joy allows us to still smile in the face of adversity, knowing that we’re ok. Isn’t that what we want ultimately? For every Mommy and Daddy, Aunt and Uncle, Grandpa and Grandma out there… my 2015 wish for you is that your lives will become a colourful carnival seasoned with wisdom and joy. Work for it, get it and enjoy it! #IDAREYOU .
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DWAYNE JUREIDINI
Art Director & Layout Artist Dwayne is as passionate about design as he is about perfecting that design. His ability to bring to life the vision of b3 is magical. Operating at the highest international standards, Dwayne maintains an uncompromised approach to his work. He now enters his 20th year as a designer, and credits his father with fostering his love for the creative process. Dwayne is father to 7-year-old Sarai.
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Assistant Editor Arlene’s love of design coupled with her meticulous eye for detail has earned her the position as one of the Caribbean’s leading designers - drennaLUNA is Arlene’s passionate fulfillment of her childhood love of design and sewing. Her work as a business consultant to develop firms and industries in the region brings to the table a high standard in communications as well. Arlene is aunt to five nieces and nephews.
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Editor-in-Chief & Creative Director With a clear vision for a global child lifestyle marketplace, Michelle brings authenticity to all aspects of the parentchild bond to the page with diamondstudded style. She has over 25 years of combined experience in service, entrepreneurship and motherhood, and to that she adds a passion that gave birth to b3. Michelle is mother to 10-year-old Christian and 6-year-old Amanda.
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Special Projects Coordinator Kimberley has a passion for creating world class projects. She brings to the b3 team over 12 years of international experience in project management and execution. Her global vision, and genuine love for the Caribbean's growing family-interest industry, is a great complement to the b3 family. Kimberley is a proud aunt of 16-year-old nephew Jacob, and almost 1-year-old niece Chelsea!
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Photography Director If a picture says a thousand words, then Dwayne is creating a mammoth album. This photographer has the ability to connect on an emotional level with those on the other side of his camera. He produces images that wow his TeamDWP fan base the world over. Dwayne is a published international wedding & lifestyle photographer whose portfolio also includes fashion and commercial work. Visit his blog at dwaynewatkins.com. Dwayne is godfather to 6-year-old Skyler. .
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Fashion Editor, Stylist & Makeup Artist Angelie is the Client and Marketing Manager for design label drennaLUNA. In 2010, she designed and launched The Christianna Collection, a childrenswear line, and is now Creative Director for swimsuit label “sol” by drennaLUNA. Angelie is mother to 10-year-old Anna and 4-year-old Luke.
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Morning sickness can be ALL DAY, ALL NIGHT, 24/7 sickness. I heard it best from someone recently, explaining how she felt during her first trimester; “If there was an eject button I would so have pushed it”. Unless you have been in this situation you may not be able to appreciate, but as much as this explains her discomfort, it also shows something very significant.
MENTAL PREP: General discomfort, whether in the form of nausea or back pain, appears to be mental training; to put your wants, desires and comfort aside for that of your baby on the way. Soon you will realise that your child will come first in all your decisions, rather than what you wanted for yourself. (Note though, that I did not say ‘need’ – as women our needs must also be met in order to nourish and nurture ourselves so that we can also grow and further develop as individuals not just as mothers, significant others or worker bees in the office – but that’s another article.)
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SURVIVAL TIPS - REMEDIES: Ginger Ale or Tea can help. Almonds and bananas can aid in reducing stomach acids. Of course keeping a bottle of calcium-based antacid tablets handy helps also. However, most importantly, never let your stomach go empty. Always keep a light snack close by. I would keep a protein or energy shake at my bedside in a cooler and a container full of almonds. In the night when I woke to make a run for the bathroom I would eat a handful of almonds and drink my shake. I found I was never nauseous when I did this. Some women, however, have a hard time and may need to seek medication to help relieve the nausea.
As long as I can remember I have always wanted to be a mother. In fact, my greatest fear was that I may not be able to have children of my own. On November 14 2013, our wedding anniversary, we welcomed our son into our lives and, over the past few months, this beautiful soul has become my heartbeat.
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eing a new mom has been a rollercoaster of emotions, but an amazing and wonderful new period in my life. However this journey does not begin at birth (which I was asleep for; that’s another article – next edition look out for; ‘Birth Plans and Oh Crap Plans’). Over a 40 week period, give or take a few weeks, pregnancy is a beautiful experience; amazing, lovely…. how many positive adjectives can I fit into this sentence?! In reality, pregnancy was both wonderful and also a very difficult
experience which all serves to prepare you for the hardest and most awesome job on the planet; being a mother. All major symptoms of pregnancy can of course be related to a physiological occurrence within the mother or baby, but also important to mention are the psychological effects and preparations occurring as a direct result of these aspects. Your body is not only adapting, but so is your psyche, to accommodate your new role in life. So here is my honest take on the major symptoms of pregnancy, with a few tips and maybe a couple laughs for you to enjoy - at my expense of course.
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Whoa Mama! This is serious and unreal. I passed out at my desk at work a few times, and even drooled a bit on my keyboard. Oh yea drooling is a lovely side effect of pregnancy also – excess saliva. Try chewing gum or ice to help combat the drools, which can also happen while being AWAKE! Yes I said awake…don’t ask.
MENTAL PREP: The exhaustion experienced during the first and last trimesters heralds the sensation you will feel after the baby is born - for the initial few weeks or months of their life - as you try to develop a rhythm. No one can prepare you for this time, but your body is trying to; to show you that you can function while being exhausted. The sleep deprivation you will experience the first few weeks baby is home is incomparable to any sense of tiredness you felt before. I have some wonderful guardian angels, as I left the stove on all night once because of how tired and just plain out of it I was. You
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are able to focus on baby but there is no mental space for anything else – just remember to shower and eat when you can. Whoever said 'sleep when the baby sleeps', didn’t shower or eat or have laundry to do.
SURVIVAL TIPS – REMEDIES: If you can, rest whenever able to; after all, you are making another human being, and that’s hard work. However, if you have other obligations and rest is not an option, try to ensure you are getting the minimum 6 to 8 hours of sleep a night, or exercise for a natural boost of energy. Make sure your exercise is something that you have been doing prior to pregnancy, or something mellow like prenatal yoga or aquatics. Get the clear from your doctor on any form of exercise during pregnancy. You will want to avoid stimulants as much as possible; for example caffeine (which is safe in small doses, maybe just one cup of coffee a day).
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Typical example: you get up from your chair to do something, and as you get up, you forgot why you did in the first place. Or how about this? Locking your keys in your car, twice in one week, but thankfully in your own driveway. Simple things elude you, like the moment you placed a full jar of peanut butter in the sink thinking it was a dirty glass to be washed.
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You will soon have another person in your life, demanding your time and attention and it can be overwhelming. I like to think of this sense of confusion as a brain reboot – a sort of reprogramming of your priorities and that teaches you not to take things so seriously. The need to take a step back once in a while and put things into perspective – that peanut butter jar does not belong in the sink, neither does that new pair of shoes in your closet – DAMN!
List List List! Write a list of your to dos the night before – add to the list the next morning , but try to do this the night before to prevent the night time sleep wipe from preventing you from remembering anything you needed to do the next day. Most importantly, laugh at yourself. As much as I recognised the danger of me locking my keys in the car, the gratitude I felt that it happened in my driveway – twice in one week I have to say again, lead to a crazy fit of laughter. .
Frequent Urination
I have never peed so much in my life! During the first and last trimesters I was waking to run to the bathroom at least 4 times for the night. In the days I had to plan my outings based on when I last went to the potty. NO you don’t go to the supermarket unless you are driving passed your aunt’s house so that you can relieve yourself first and then ensure you get home in the next 2 hours to do so again.
MENTAL PREP: What does frequent urination have to do with breastfeeding? Everything! When you work it out, you will be peeing every 2-3hrs, sometimes less, which is about the same as how often your little one will be feeding. The fact that you have little to no control over a typical bodily function will be a hint of the lack of control you will feel over your life with your new baby, until you and baby find your rhythm and feeding baby becomes more of a joy than a chore or obligation.
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SURVIVAL TIPS – REMEDIES: Go when you gotta go. Do not hold it in! This can lead to UTIs, which are especially not good when pregnant, or worse an accidental leak during a sneeze, cough or spontaneous laughter. TRUST ME!
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For someone who never liked cheesecake or olives, I gotta tell you they became a staple in my diet. The movies like to depict very odd combinations of food for pregnant women, but most times cravings are for regular and typical meals or desserts that we have access to all the time but just feel the need to have ALL the time during pregnancy.
MENTAL PREP: I like to think cravings are the body’s way of telling Mom to remember herself and to take the time to indulge in her wants also. As new moms we can quickly forget our own desires and wants. Remembering every now and again to hide and have a scoop of
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ice-cream or find time for yourself to enjoy a glass of wine is just as important to your psyche as an individual as it is allowing you to continue to treat yourself well, as you learn to care for your new addition.
SURVIVAL TIPS – REMEDIES: Girl…enjoy yourself! This is the one time you can get away with indulging on that extra piece of cake. Just be mindful and do so in moderation. Try to also snack on healthy sweet treats like raisins or carrot sticks. Yes that’s no comparison for pecan pie, but try to limit your pie intake to a couple days a week rather than every day.
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Mood Swings
I remember bawling my eyes out after I came home from work to find that my husband had eaten my 2-day-old leftover pizza. After receiving an earful, he (God bless his soul) listened to me crying like a 4 year old who lost their favourite toy, and then calmed me down. Needless to say, he never touched my left overs again. With the flip of a switch, you can shift from hysterical laughter to anger to crying your eyes out to a car commercial – don’t judge, there were many emotional car commercials produced during my pregnancy ok!
with your brain waves? So keep them positive. Surround yourself with positive people. Ground yourself with prayer or meditation and once again, learn to laugh! .
MENTAL PREP: Now if no one has said this to you before, take heed now. You will be MEGA hormonal after you have your baby. Your hormones will be out of whack as your body tries to rebalance itself. Warn your significant others – they deserve the heads up. Additionally, welcoming a new soul into the world is an emotional feat to say the least. It can be very taxing and very overwhelming also. Your mood swings during pregnancy are a great pressure gauge for you to assess yourself during the first few weeks with your baby, and can help to ground and refocus you as your deal with the reality of being a new mom.
SURVIVAL TIPS – REMEDIES: Be gentle on yourself, laugh at yourself, laugh with your spouse at yourself. When your temper flares, try to check your emotional reference and see if it is founded. If not, go someplace quiet and cry it out – it may be best rather than losing your job. Most importantly take it all in stride and remember to enjoy each moment. Your baby picks up on your emotions also – did you know that your baby’s heart rate syncs
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aking Womb for Baby is a natural process. We find strengths we didn’t know we had during this time. Ancient civilizations and some New Age practices and faiths look on the woman as a Divine being that most go through three critical stages in her life, each with varying obstacles and lessons to be learned. We mature from Maiden to Mother, and then we learn and develop into the wise old Crone. Being Mother, is a beautiful stage in life, one to be revered and celebrated. Your body is already preparing you for the moments to come, but it cannot prepare you for the immense love that you will soon feel. Get ready for it… here it comes...
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Bra Time By Shani Reid
It has been proven that 8 out of 10 women are unknowingly wearing the wrong bra size. Considering that just 5 pounds may change your bra size, it is no wonder that the phenomenon exists. Add to that different sizing methods, fabrics and manufacturers; all this accounts for the bra draw of doom you may have in your
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lthough these factors are multiplied when pregnant, shopping for a brassiere during and post pregnancy does not have to be traumatic. Wearing a supportive maternity bra during pregnancy and a nursing bra post-delivery has several benefits. A supportive bra can reduce the stretching of breast tissue, in turn minimizing the chance of stretch marks and sagging breasts. Wearing proper bra support during and after pregnancy may also to help alleviate back tension, stress, and pain.
MATERNITY BRAS Many women often opt during pregnancy to buy a slightly bigger bra. However a maternity bra offers a few more benefits than just the added space. Maternity bras in general are underwire-free; a great relief to women who find the underwire uncomfortable. They are specifically designed to ensure the correct development of milk ducts and glands.
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NURSING BRAS A nursing bra should be bought in the last weeks of pregnancy between 36 – 38 weeks. The difference between a nursing and a maternity bra is that nursing bras are designed with easy-access snaphooks and clasps making the breastfeeding process as simple as possible. All well-made nursing bras are cotton-lined for additional comfort.
GET FITTED Before you purchasing these specialised bras, get fitted by a professional bra fitter. There is a great chance that you were wearing the wrong size in the first place. Once you have your “true fit” this gives you a benchmark to work from. We recommend that you get fitted after your first trimester. By that time, you should have outgrown your pre-pregnancy bras and should be looking for larger alternatives.
LISTEN TO YOUR BODY Every woman and every pregnancy is different, so it is important that you listen to your body as it goes through the changes. If your regular bras now leave indentations on your skin or make breathing difficult, that is a clear sign to get fitted for a new brassiere. Follow these guidelines when bra shopping, and I’m sure your experience will be a pleasant one.
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Who does not like music? For most of us music is a part of our lives. We listen to our favourite soundtrack and sing
along word for word as we wait in traffic. We exercise to music and we get excited when our favorite reality TV singer is crowned the “Voice” or “American Idol”.
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usic has many benefits to our health such as lowering stress, changing mood and improving our visual and verbal skills. Music can be healing, calming or it can be stimulating and exciting. I HEAR YOU! Womb tunes are also beneficial to mother and baby during pregnancy. Just as reading or talking to your baby in-utero can be considered baby’s first language lesson, music can also be recognized by your baby at around 30-32 weeks. At this point baby’s auditory senses are developing and he or she can begin to understand airborne sounds like a mother’s voice or the sound of music.
HOW DO I PLAY WOMB TUNES?
There are some things to consider when playing womb tunes. One way is to play music from your stereo as you go about your day. There are also specifically made speakers from Bellybuds© that are made to adhere to the belly and play music and voices to your baby in the womb. What a wonderful way for you and baby to connect. Other things to consider when playing womb tunes is to keep the volume on your stereo around 65 decibels (db), and music for baby in utero with earphones is best at about 50 decibels (db). 50 decibels is about as loud as doing a load of laundry in your washing machine.
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old-fashioned singing or humming your favourite tune. Classical music has been shown to have dual benefits for mommy and baby in-utero. It can enhance the pregnancy experience by having a calming effect by reducing stress and anxiety. For babies, soft instrumental music like Chopin’s Nocturnes can be soothing. What a wonderful way to introduce baby to some of the greatest composers of our time. Mozart, Johann Strauss, Beethoven and the list goes on. Some of their greatest instrumentals can be found already complied into sweet lullabies for baby on Youtube and there are also some really cool apps with music for babies such as: Music Box by BabyTV or Baby’s Lullabies Music Box Set.
DON’T STOP THE MUSIC
As your child grows and develops, having music as a part of their life matters. Music not only brings joy, it also helps to develop healthy brain connections. It promotes early literacy and research shows that children whose environment have been enriched with musicplay it or sing it do better in reading and math. Music also aids in the development of social skills in toddlers and preschoolers such as taking turns, cooperation, and making friendships. Preschoolers in particular like familiar songs that they can repeat over and over. That translates to those healthy brain connections. So go ahead and create those womb tunes; download your favourite songs and upload some sweet songsations for your baby! .
Selena T. Dyke Tel: 876-322-2670 Empowering Parents • Strengthening Families • Building Social Skills References: Babies Listen and Learn While in the Womb, WebMd onlinelibrary.wiley.com, Infant Neurodevelopment Center on the Developing Child, Harvard. Article: Brain Architecture www.bellybuds.com
So go ahead and celebrate the joy of music with your baby. Music selection is up to you! There is such a variety to choose from – Reggae, Jazz, Pop, Nursery Rhymes, or maybe you would like to introduce baby to your “Oldies but Goodies”. Don’t forget good
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6 smart eggs 1 cup milk or cream 3 tsp chiffonade basil 1/2 onion fine dice Sauteed 1 medium bell pepper Sauteed 1 cup shredded cheese Salt and Pepper, to taste ˏˏ
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4 peeled and cored cho cho medium diced 3 cloves garlic minced 1 Sweet pepper medium dice 1 medium sized onion fine dice 1 tblsp butter 3 smart eggs ½ cup milk 1cup grated cheddar cheese 1 tbsp Parmesan Cheese (garnish) 1 tsp salt Pepper, to taste ˏˏ
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DINNER - Jerk Chicken Sausage, Callaloo & Cheese Egg Strata • • • • • • • • • • •
6 Jerk Chicken Sausages, roughly chopped 2 Tbsps Olive Oil 2 cups of Callaloo Leaves, roughly torn 1 Large Onion, finely chopped 2 Tbsps Unsalted Butter 7 Slices Hard dough bread, cut into cubes 8 Smart Eggs 2 Cups of Milk 2 Tsps Dijon Mustard 1 Cup Finely Shredded Cheddar Cheese, divided Salt and Pepper, to taste ˏˏ
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APPETIZER - Smoked Chicken and Cheese Quiche • • • • • • • • •
1 ½ cups smoked chicken 1 small red onions 1 cup shredded cheese 1 tablespoon Dijon mustard 2 tablespoons flour 7 eggs 100 ml milk 50 ml cream Salt and Pepper, to taste ˏˏ
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In a large frying pan, add olive oil over medium high heat and fry jerk sausage pieces until brown and crispy, about 5 minutes. Remove from pan and drain on a couple sheets of paper towel.
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Place back the sausage pieces into the pan and mix into the callaloo and onions. Set aside. ˏˏ
Prepare custard by whisking Smart eggs, milk, mustard and ¾ cup of cheese in a large bowl and season to taste with salt and pepper.
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1/2 cup plus 6 teaspoons sugar 6 large egg yolks 1 large whole egg 2 cups heavy cream 2/3 cup Canned coconut milk 2/3 cup coconut Flakes ˏˏ
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by Lisa Joseph Metelus • Photography: Mau Lao Photography and April Belle Photos
Lisa is living a dream. She said yes to a dream proposal at 30,000 feet
in the air, and later walked down the aisle to wed her dream man. Fast-
forward a bit to today, where she’s mother to 22-month-old Bobbi Elle and 4-month-old Amarii. She’s crazy in love with her family and she’s also at the top of her A-game as a Sports Business Executive for CAA Sports. As a sought-after PR specialist, Lisa manages, among other things, the image of on-court-great Dwyane Wade; a demanding and intense position by any standard. She’s also the curator of a new and popular blog dedicated to mothers, sharing the ins and outs of her busy life.
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o with her love life, family life and career under control, what more could a girl want? Balance! Isn’t that what we all want in life? I sit for a post-birthday interview with Lisa Joseph Metelus. She’s a wise lady, and I’m immediately struck by a personality so warm and affable, it’s easy to see why her blog is getting so much attention. One Balanced Mama is compelling, just like Lisa; and it’s not because she’s boasting about having it all under control. It’s simply because her words are real. “I used to think
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that perfect balance was attainable, but I’ve learned that balance comes when you insert small ‘whoa’ moments into your day. If life were a pie chart with neat slices of events and goals and to-do-lists, oh what a wonderful world it would be,” she laughs. Every mother, no matter where in the world she calls home, strives for stability, and for Lisa, having two children under the age of 2, she’s still working it out. “I don’t know that there’s a formula.” As a busy mother, she shares how best she operates under pressure. Each
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day is a part of the learning process. There are different phases and stages and with each one comes a new set of lessons. She speaks with pride of how differently she handles stress today by ‘taking time out’; a far cry from earlier in her career as an inexperienced ‘newbie’, when stress came easily and quickly. “I’ve learned to walk away and breathe,” shares Lisa, “…that’s an important part of finding that place of balance.” liken the ‘whoa’ moment to a rider galloping on horseback: you call ‘whoa’ to the horse when you need to slow down, right? I sit for a minute and realize that while Lisa shares her personal story, she is unknowingly speaking for countless mothers who dare to take on the challenge of parenting, marriage, business, entrepreneurship and actualization, all while still having personal dreams and goals. Fittingly, Lisa works in a field that purports the very essence of both challenge and balance. Search the length and breadth of basketball courts across the world, and you’re not likely to find a successful baller who has not learned the importance and value of balance. This is the same balance that guarantees prosperous relationships, business ventures and careers. “I’ve always loved sports, especially basketball; there are so many life lessons that can be learned on court”, Lisa says as she explains the foundation of her life in sports. “Family is so important in my life. The support system that I have in my family is what makes it all work. Team work…just like on the basketball court.” As a young mother, Lisa believes that much of her parenting style will remain strongly rooted in her faith in God. With Haitian parents, she is a daughter of the Caribbean, and holds dear to her heart traditional values that recognize God as the center of her home. “I share my faith with my children through prayer, and praise and worship…we love to sing. We often take moments to remind us of who is in control.” “My husband and I look at our children and know that the awesome responsibility of caring for and guiding
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them, is all ours. We have this discussion all the time, and we both agree that we want them to discover and live in their passion – whatever that may be. Our goal each day, is to do our best to help cultivate their skill sets for success in whatever they want to do. We will provide them with the tools, which include faith, culture, technology and life experiences.” For Lisa and her husband, it’s important that the children learn of their Haitian heritage. They’re being exposed to the culture through food, family and learning creole. Lisa feels for Bobbi Elle and Amarii what you and I, and mothers all around the world feel for our children: an all-encompassing love that naturally yearns to protect and guide them on their life’s journey. But we also know that as parents, we can do so much, and no more. When asked to share words of wisdom with her children, Lisa offers her personal life mantra: to live in your own moment. “It’s so easy to be constantly looking at others and comparing – our lives can become consumed with keeping up with the proverbial Joneses. I wish for my children the freedom to appreciate their lives, their own personal moments, to revel and be happy and content in the place that they find themselves, and to be present and alive in that truth. There is no better way to live.” inding her balance becomes Lisa’s reality each morning when, with a new baby in tow, she is up at the crack of dawn – one of her favourite ‘me-moments’ incidentally. She laughs when she says that she enjoys putting away the laundry early in the morning. “It’s my time to think,” says Lisa, “the house is quiet and all is at peace.” She’s breastfeeding little Amarii two to three times during the night, and a busy day of meetings starts with a detailed to-dolist done the night before. “I plan and prepare,” she says. “And then my day always ends with one-on-one time with hubby.” Bobbi Elle gets her time too, with breakfast-time shenanigans and story time and singalongs fit into each day.
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hen work calls for late nights, road trips, or global travel, she relies on her ‘village’ to help her balance it all. She gives credit to her amazing father who’s always there, and aunts, cousins and other relatives, who are never too far away. “When Bobbi Elle was a newborn, she was by my side wherever I went; from Los Angeles to New York to China. I was also fortunate to have my husband able to come with me, and that worked for us then. Now that Amarii is here, it’s a bit more challenging. So now, Facetime is king! Being the Business Manager for CAA Sports, the agency responsible for #TeamWade, Lisa had found a professional balance with her love of sports and an inherent passion for marketing and communications. Her years of experience working with celebrity clients have provided her with an impressive cadre of ‘who’s who’ on her speed dial list. But it’s also her years of experience that have given her the ability to know when and how to seek balance. Home for Lisa is her sanctuary. It’s where the balance that we all seek comes easiest for her. For so many, finding balance in a high-profile world can be challenging at best. But for Lisa, recognizing that all that glitters is not necessarily gold, has been a key factor
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in not just finding, but most importantly maintaining stability in her life. “I have a core group of people who live real lives, and I’m also very blessed to have clients who have found their balance, and that manifests in them living real lives. The media shows the hype, but I see both sides, and I know that life is not always a red carpet. I see the card games, the barbecues and movie nights…ordinary experiences lived by extra-ordinary people. The people I’m surrounded by, work with and represent are real. We work in it, but we are not consumed by it.” What advise does Lisa have for mothers trying to strike the ‘balance’? Take it moment by moment. Mommy guilt is real and perfect balance doesn’t come easily. “The struggle is real”, she laughs, “but when we take care of ourselves first, it becomes less difficult… less of a struggle.” Mothers have to make a concerted effort to not feel guilty. “When the feeling comes along, remember that a moment for you, is a right, not a privilege, so take it.” Lisa Joseph Metelus is a wife, mother of two young children, and also the Sports Business Executive for CAA and The Dwyane Wade Foundation. She is passionate about helping other mothers find their balance. Follow her journey at www.onebalancedmama.com
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Nanny 911
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any of us live in the Caribbean where we still enjoy the blessing of having the proverbial village participate in raising our children. There is Grandma or Aunty, cousin or friend, and for the very fortunate among us, there are all of the above. Add to that the additional hands that are readily available in the form of a nanny, helper or housekeeper. In other parts of the world, she may be called an au pair, a governess or a nursemaid. If you’re in Mozambique or Manhattan, Kuala Lumpur or Kingston, it really matters not; parents want to know that whoever is caring for their child is the best possible substitute for them in their absence. Whether you’re in need of a babysitter for a date night or a for full-time employment, an honest, nurturing, competent caregiver is what you’re looking for. As you search for this ideal person, here are some tips to bear in mind:
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"THE PERSONS CARING FOR OUR CHILDREN ARE ABLE TO KEEP UP WITH THE DEMANDS OF AN EVER-CHANGING WORLD" DECIDE WHAT YOU WANT AND MAKE A LIST
Talk to your partner about what your ideal caregiver should be like. Do you want someone older, mature and experienced? Would you prefer someone who lives in or out? Is a nanny with a degree in early childhood education your top choice? Should the nanny hold similar religious beliefs? How computer savvy does the nanny need to be? As you decide what is important to your own family, make a list of these things to observe/ discuss in the interview with prospective nannies.
GO WITH YOUR GUT INSTINCT
You may not have proof that something is wrong, but even if there is no obvious reason for being unsure about the potential nanny being interviewed, don’t ignore your gut instinct. It is important that you like and respect your nanny, so if you’re doubtful, it’s best to find another option.
CHECK REFERENCES & BACKGROUND
Ensure your nanny has experience working with children; whether taking care of her own or a sibling, or prior work experience with another family. Be sure to check out her references, especially her last job, to see how well she did. Inquire about reasons her last job ended. Checking at least two to three references should be sufficient.
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Sometimes it may be a good idea to end an interview with a potential nanny by seeing how she interacts with your child. Children can pick up on a person's character easily. So it is possible that if your child is running in the opposite direction, this nanny is not the one for you. Knowing your child, and the cues he or she displays, is an important part of the selection process.
HERE IS A QUICK CHECKLIST OF WHAT TO LOOK FOR WHEN SEARCHING FOR THAT PERFECT NANNY: ˏˏ Genuinely loves the company of children ˏˏ Has a basic understanding of child development ˏˏ Energetic ˏˏ Friendly ˏˏ Patient ˏˏ Safety Conscious ˏˏ Good Communicator ˏˏ Flexible ˏˏ Understanding ˏˏ Nurturing Spirit ˏˏ Reliable “Operating in a knowledge-driven, technologically advanced society, it is important now more than ever that the persons caring for our children are able to keep up with the demands of an ever-changing world” said Jacqueline Hall-Stewart, director of Angels4U HomeCare which offers nanny services for persons residing in Jamaica. “With young children being able to navigate the world around them better than some
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adults, and predators entering our homes virtually, computer literacy has become a necessary skill,” she continued. This global society, Hall-Stewart explained calls for all-rounded child care personnel. Angels4U HomeCare is a revolutionary in the care industry, providing premium, in-home, care services. Angels4U HomeCare offers trained professionals to deal expressly with specific needs e.g. nannies, practical nurses, personal assistants, and housekeepers, each having been assigned to care for children, the elderly, persons convalescing or the housekeeping responsibilities. For more information contact www. angels4uhomecare.com or call 876-406-6097
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GODPARENTS:
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By Alia Logan, Jamaica via Oshawa, Canada
et me begin by asking a question: have you ever fallen in love with a painting? It happens in a moment; with a swivel of your neck and a blink of your eye, you’re struck by love at first sight. It’s not the beauty of the art that holds you, but the emotion you see behind every brush stroke, the strength in every colour.
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You’re left in awe of how an artist nurtures a blank canvas into a work of emotion, beauty, strength and wonder. Now I ask: have you ever fallen in love with a child? The process is quite similar. You see them for the first time and the endless possibilities of their life overwhelm you to a point of tears. Soon they take their first steps and you see in them happiness and pride, all in a smile that stretches from ear to ear. Then in no time at all they grow older- as they will continue to do- and all the love, values and character
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that you, their mother and father, have given them, settle into making them a person of their own. A person so similar yet so different from you. A child is a work of art, and blessed are us fortunate few, given the prestigious titles of Godmother or Godfather, as we get to witness a masterpiece given birth to. y the Christian faith, a godparent is seen as a spiritual guide. We have certain responsibilities in the eyes of the church that we must fulfill in obligation to our child. For
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parent and the child, as a kid will always change and grow away. The teenage years will be especially difficult. For a mother and father, all of a sudden your baby is no longer a baby, and coming to terms with that fact can be hard. So a Godparent can act like a mediator; they can speak to the teen when they’re too afraid to speak to their guardians- when they’re too ashamed of their change, to bare their heart. A Godparent can be the responsible voice that helps a child find themself and keeps them out of trouble. After some time they
will become more comfortable and the idea of being an adult in the eyes of their parents won’t scare them as much. In theory a Godparent is very relevant, though I know few people who take the job this seriously. The simple fact is, raising a child and growing up are two very difficult things. Parents can’t do the job alone and sometimes need help. Children are still trying to figure out what growing up means and need as many adult figures in their life as can fit. So, Godparents: my answer is Relevant.
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instance, a godparent must witness their godchild’s baptism, a godparent must spend time with and encourage goodness in their godchild and last but not least Godparents must gift their godchild generously on every birthday and appropriate holiday. It is a universal fact, that with time comes change, and just as the leaves take on new colours to welcome in fall, the term Godparent has grown to include people of faith and no faith at all. This change was brought on by the evolution of the human mind. Enlightened by the gifts of Science and Math, some people chose to lay their faith in human goodness, rather than the divine. For these enlightened, being a godparent still entails quite a bit. You must love your godchild whole heartedly and be their strength when they need it. When they are confused, you must turn an ear to listen and give them the advice they seek. But a Godparent’s responsibilities don’t end with the child. No, they must also be that pillar of strength when a parent’s foundation begins to crack; standing ready with spackle, already fixing the holes and gaps. Times will get difficult for both the
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What’s Up with Down’s Syndrome? By Dr. Kristen Hernandez, Jamaica
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he discovery that you are about to have a child can be both a nerve-wracking and exciting time; as an expectant mother myself I know all too well the concerns. We begin to worry from the moment of conception about all the possible things that could go wrong. One of the most significant health concerns is Down’s Syndrome, particularly for women age 35 and older. Down’s Syndrome is one of the most common genetic birth abnormalities and according to the Jamaica Down Syndrome Foundation, it occurs for 1 in every 800 live births. Down’s Syndrome results when an extra chromosome, in particular an extra copy of chromosome 21, is formed during the fertilization of the egg. A child with Down’s syndrome may develop a variety of mental and physical symptoms that may range in severity; parents may notice delays of cognitive and motor development during infancy. The good news for parents is that recent advancements in prenatal screenings have led to early detection of congenital disorders such as Down’s Syndrome, also known as Trisomy 21. Having a child with Down’s Syndrome may pose unique challenges for a parent, but the most important thing to know is that you are not alone; there are a wide variety of resources to help both you and your child lead a fulfilling and independent life. Children with Down’s Syndrome may share a variety of physical features but their symptoms may differ in severity. Typically, physical features will include: ˏˏ ˏˏ ˏˏ ˏˏ ˏˏ ˏˏ ˏˏ ˏˏ ˏˏ
Upward slanting eyes Poor muscle tone and laxity of the ligaments Flat face and nasal bridge Wide space between first and second toes Shortened 5th finger which slants inward Abnormally shaped ears Short broad hands with a single palmar crease Low birth weight and height Shortened neck
Children born with Down’s Syndrome may experience a variety of health complications. It is important to note that some children may suffer from all, a combination or none of these conditions. 1. Heart Abnormalities – Half of children born with Down’s syndrome have some form of cardiac defect that may or may not require surgical intervention. It is important to have cardiac consultation shortly after birth. 2.
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Intestinal problems – Children often have digestive issues with frequent spitting up and issues with swallowing.
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renatal screenings and detection of the syndrome are critical to helping a parent to prepare for some of the challenges and get acquainted with the resources available to them. Early diagnosis of related health conditions and intervention can be extremely important to the overall development of your child. Children with Down’s syndrome experience a variety of medical issues and may have difficulty reaching their motor and speech milestones. Early involvement of a physiotherapist, occupational therapist, speech pathologist, audiologist as well as pediatric neurologist familiar with this condition may help you and your child learn to cope with the everyday challenges. A physiotherapist can help your child with difficulties due to low muscle tone such as balance, walking, crawling, and sitting upright. Early intervention will help them to learn important social skills necessary for integration into school and the community. Developing a comprehensive treatment plan for your child is as unique as your child and requires constant involvement of the specialized medical groups listed above. Treatment is an ongoing process and frequent reassessment of the treatment plan should be done based on your child’s needs and abilities. An important thing to remember as a parent with a child with Down’s Syndrome is that your child can be an independent and productive member of society and bring so much joy to your family. You will be your child’s first advocate so help to educate everyone your child interacts with. Above all, love your baby and remember you are not alone! .
HELPFUL RESOURCES: Jamaica Down’s Syndrome Foundation: http://www.jamaicadownsyndromejamaica.org
National Down’s Syndrome Society (US): http://ndss.org
Down’s Syndrome Association (UK): http://downs-syndrome.org.uk
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By Michelle Gordon Photography by Dwayne Watkins on location in Port of Spain, Trinidad Make-up: Murrien Mitchell Styling: Murrien Mitchell and Norma Williams Hair: Dollz Beauty Spa Wardrobe: Omzat Khan Boutique and Norma Williams Xaiya's wardrobe provided by Nohi Kids, Imoga Collection and Polkadots Swimwear
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ithin five minutes of meeting 4-year-old Xaiya, you’re struck by an assurance and sense of purpose not normally seen in a child so young. It’s a refreshing confidence, full of wit yet devoid of precociousness. As ‘they’ say, this chip definitely doesn’t fall far from the block. Now, sitting for a chat with Xaiya’s mom, I think I know exactly what Destra’s parents must have gone through when today’s Queen of the Bacchanal was a little girl. Imagine this mother and daughter team, one as mischievous as the other, full of life and ready to sing a tune at the drop of a hat. While decorating last Christmas at the Garcia family home, Destra’s dad Augustin reminded her that not only is Xaiya just like her, she’s “a little bit extra too!” But ‘extra’ for this mom, is just fine. “With kids nowadays everything is extra. They’re smarter, they’re faster, and they learn everything quicker. They seem to have a
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greater capacity for learning, and for me, Xaiya is braver.” Destra’s eyes dance with pride as she looks on at little Xaiya, who though aware of the cameras around, is completely unfazed, and eager to tell her Mummy about last night’s play date at Granny’s. “Mummy, you know what story I read last night?” Destra extends her arms, “Come tell me about it Xai.” No matter how busy she is, Destra makes it her duty to find the time to ‘shoot the breeze’ with her daughter. Even if it’s a story she’s heard a thousand times before. “If it’s important to Xaiya, I make it important for me,” affirms Destra. Destra is on the road. A lot. Her live performances, private appearances and studio schedule have her ‘on the road’ three to four days per week, and for longer periods when she travels internationally. But like many Caribbean families, Destra is surrounded by a strong care system. With three siblings and her parents just a stone’s throw away, there are always open arms nearby to welcome Xaiya when Destra needs to be away from home. “I know I’m blessed,” she says, “with my career, I could never ask for a more supportive family structure as Xaiya grows up. Xai’s Daddy and I work together, so he is just as ‘nomadic’ as I am,
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so having her Granny, Grampa and Aunty close, helps to build a solid foundation for her. In my absence, my family is surrogate, and we all rely on schedules set to ensure that no matter where in the world I am, her ‘routine’ remains unaffected. When we’re on the road, we become a ‘Facetime’ family ensuring that Xaiya always has access to us. This is our normal; she’s a very balanced and an extremely intelligent little girl.”
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who identify brilliance and intelligence in their child long before it becomes evident to anyone else. It happens, and that’s ok. But I met Xaiya, and can say unequivocally, that Destra is speaking the truth! Xaiya’s intelligence not only refers to a 4-year-old who reads at the level of a 7 or 8-year-old, or one who uses 5 and 6 syllable words at will, and within context. This little livewire possesses a level of emotional intelligence that floored all 12 grown ups present at our photo shoot.
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think being the eldest of four children taught me at an early age, how to communicate sensibly with children. Kids are just little people, that is all. Xaiya is very curious, and she has an uncanny ability to engage those around her with fluent dialogue and a knowledge base well beyond her years. I used to think that she was re-incarnated!” laughs Destra. “Xaiya knows how to recognize when grown ups are trying to shy away from answering a question or
addressing a concern. She can decipher the truth, so I’ve learned to be honest with my daughter without exposing her to anything that she’s not yet ready for. I try not to expose her to those things I know I can’t explain, and I’m honest enough to let her know that that may be something that she’s not ready for. Xaiya will tell you herself…I am Xiaya, I’m 4. I can dance, but I can’t dance like Mummy!” aiya’s ability to rationalize and reason may well be attributed to the influences in her life. There’s a lot of adult interaction with aunts and uncles, but there’s also television and her iPad. “Technology is here to stay, so we simply use it in the best ways possible.” It can become your friend or your foe…it’s up to you as the parent to decide what you’ll allow into your child’s space. Simple.” Authenticity and trust are important in any relationship, and for Destra, it’s even more important when it comes to the bond with her daughter. “There are so many factors to consider when raising a child, and people will always have something to say, but I’m building a bridge that either of us can cross at any moment, knowing that whatever we do and say to each other, is always done in truth.” For Destra, it is important that she not hide who she is from her daughter. Accepting that being sexy and gyrating is part and parcel of her job, Destra also knows that it is her responsibility to differentiate for Xaiya what is appropriate for children and what’s only for grown-ups.
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knowing that I was prepared (academically) to handle such a choice. The first time I took a microphone in my hand, I was addicted. There has never been a doubt in my mind that I was meant to do exactly what I am now doing. I thank my parents for understanding my decision, and allowing me to find my own rhythm. Our journey as individuals is marked by experiences, moments and people that help to define us. As my parents did for me, I will give Xaiya a foundation rooted in a love for God, for family, and for our homeland Trinidad. But I don’t want her to live in my shadow. I pray that she will search her heart, use her own gifts and live her passion – whatever that may be.”
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As with most personalities in the public eye, we see Destra the performer on stage, and there are very few who would argue the prowess of her hypnotic performances. And just like any public figure, she finds herself sitting in the court of public opinion on occasion. As parents, we question ourselves enough, but as a woman who is a mother, who also happens to be soca’s leading sex symbol, there comes the additional pressure of public scrutiny and criticism. “It’s been a learning curve for me,” says Destra, “The truth is that no matter what, the public will see what they want to see. I’ve learned to separate myself from Destra the artiste, and Destra the
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regular person. I’m an entertainer who loves the applause. I enjoy the recognition and I’ve learned to live in that moment. You’ll always find critics, who’ll have negative things to say, but I try to be true to myself and I am true to God. I know that I am exactly where I am supposed to be, and doing exactly what I’m supposed to be doing, and though I may make mistakes along the way, at the end of the day, I have my family as my anchor. They are my inner circle, and I trust them to tell me the truth and guide me along this path I’ve chosen to take.”
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DESTRA SHARES ADVICE FOR BUSY MOMS:
I’m a very busy lady. My career is important to me, but I’m also a mother and my daughter is even more important. I have first-hand experience of being away all the time, and I recognize more than many other mothers how much time is of the essence. Children grow up so quickly. Don’t ever lose sight of that. Don’t let someone else raise your kids. If you’re not a part of their life now, you won’t have a say later.
WHAT’S NEXT FOR DESTRA:
The next couple of months will be hectic. Trinidad Carnival 2015 is here! I have new music to share and springboard into the rest of the season which is filled with overseas bookings and lots of travel, and Xaiya just turned 5. She goes into ‘big school’ this year, so that’s an exciting phase to look forward to.
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YES. I grew up in a big family, so I definitely don’t want to stop at one. I would love a son, because Xaiya is all the daughter I could handle! But timing is everything. We’ll see.
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WELCOME, TO A SWEET FUSION OF CULTURES!
T Bacchanal Baby by Kaerlig des Iles, Port of Spain, Trinidad
‘Can you hear a distant drum bouncing on the
laughter of a melody? And does the rhythm tell you “come, come, come, come”? Does your spirit do a dance to this symphony? Does it tell you that your heart is afire? And does it tell you that your pain is a liar? Does it wash away all your unlovely? Well, are you ready for a brand new discovery?’ – David Rudder, Calypso Music
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rinidad and Tobago Carnival is an annual two-day festival held before the observance of Lent. It features street processions of costumed masqueraders, as well as showcases highlights of Calypso (the folk song of Trinidad & Tobago, which is a medium for social criticism, commentary and parody) and Steelband music (the national instrument of Trinidad & Tobago, made from discarded oil drums). Carnival has gained international recognition for its vibrant music, bright colours, wine and jam (rapid gyrations of the hips, together with forward and backward thrusts of the pelvic region) movement and skimpily-clad costumed masqueraders. But, upon a deeper look, there is so much more to this magical festival. From a young age, children are exposed to the historical, social and multi-cultural values of our twin-island nation. Every year the Red Cross Society of Trinidad & Tobago sponsors Kiddie’s Carnival- themed portrayals of Old Mas (masqueraders). There Moko Jumbie, Pierrot Grenade and Sailor Mas are commonly replicated and displayed by children, frolicking in the sun to the sweet sounds of music blasting from the trucks. The most endearing character, Sailor Mas, was introduced in the 1880’s when British, French and American naval ships came to Trinidad. It is the most popular costume, being lightweight and inexpensive. The sailor outfit is decorated and painted with ribbons, medals, braiding and other embellishments to match its ornate headpieces. Several dances are performed by these young masqueraders to enhance the Sailor Mas portrayal. Dances include the Bote, Crab, Marrico, Pachanga, Rock de Boat, Skip Jack and the Camel Walk. Through such presentations, children are exposed to our history in a fun and easily remembered manner. Sailor Mas is traditionally accompanied by Steelband music. As the children parade in their costumes, joy and laughter are evident in their eyes. They cross several judging points, jumping, twirling, twisting and chipping (slow mincing shuffle of revellers), following the sweet rhythm of the music. Scores of spectators line the roadside or sit in the bleachers, clapping, blowing whistles, supporting and encouraging the youngest babes in arms to teenagers. Kaleidoscopic. It is truly a sight to behold!
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"INDEED, EVERY CREED AND RACE FINDS AN EQUAL PLACE, REVELING IN THESE CELEBRATIONS."
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arnival is a time when many children are given the unique opportunity of being “on their own”, which creates an innate sense of responsibility as their parents entrust them to the care of volunteers who chaperone the days’ activities. For those who portray individual costumes, their self-confidence is boosted as they bravely cross each stage. Everyone on the streets experiences the priceless feeling of camaraderie. There is great team
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spirit; the meeting of new and old friends; the unity of it all. Happiness fills the air in this multicultural environment. Indeed, every creed and race finds an equal place, revelling in these celebrations. It is a time where we can let our creative juices flow, open our eyes and let our imaginations take control. Craft comes alive when our passions are fed. So you see, my friend, Carnival is not only about the “wine and jam” mentality or the half-naked ladies, but rather… It is a feeling of life. It is a ‘living vibration,’ a true revelation, ‘rooted deep within my Caribbean belly.’
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Alicia Keys reading to son Egypt. Photo credit: www.mamaglow.com
BLUE MOON (MAMA MAE & LEE LEE) by Alicia Keys (Goodreads Author), Jessica Walton, Cheryl Abood, Victoria Racino
her own, of a little Native American girl, who sets off on adventure to overcome her fears. The story is a personal one for Keys, and presents such exciting interactivity, that any child (and adult) would enjoy. It’s narrative substance paired with the limitless imagination of a child, potentially transports the reader into the pages of the book in a way not easily achieved by many authors. Included with this book is the musical soundtrack of Alicia Keys’ song Unlock Yourself that serves to inspire children to be what they want to be. Future works under the theme the “Journals of Mama Mae and Lee Lee”, will see Keys and her partners telling several stories using the same digital methods. Their use of children of varying ethnic backgrounds; one small step in preparing a tolerant generation. If you are looking for a way to encourage your child’s love of reading, I’d recommend you hop on the interactive book train and give Blue Moon a try. Check out the website www.mamamae.com and watch the trailer for Blue Moon.
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here is a new wave of electronic books enticing today’s children to return to the joys of reading. With a combination of creative artwork, traditional story-telling and modern technology, Blue Moon brings digital literature to life by going beyond audio interactions to include visual movements as well. The story is beautifully illustrated, wonderfully animated and is successful in staying true to the feeling of reading a book made of beloved paper and ink. Created By Grammy Award–winning artist Alicia Keys with the help of Jessica Walton, Cheryl Abood and Victoria Racino, the story, inspired by Alicia’s own interaction with her grandmother. Blue Moon tells the story of Lee Lee and Mama Mae; where Lee Lee has just made a big move with her family, and finds herself a little scared of what lies ahead. Mama Mae seeks to allay her fears with a story of
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When Mommy Needs a Sick Day By Gayle Cunningham
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his excerpt from the most recent NyQuil advertisement makes me laugh out loud every single time. If only I could look at my children and say “Uhmmm… I won’t be in today; I am sick.” Anyone with children knows that there is never a down day when children are involved. Quite frankly it
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is not in our job description to ever, ever get sick. I have a few Mummy friends who, with the raging fever of Dengue or the swollen limbs, aches, pains and nausea of Chikungunya, jumped into their cars and dropped off their children to school and back. I wanted to give them a medal. Over the years I have had my fair share of illness. Some minor and some which literally felt like I was hit in the head with a hammer while walking into a bus. This year alone was horrid. My dog bit my hand while I
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was trying to free him from being entangled in a gate. Yes I still have the do. It wasn’t his fault, he was hurting, but my hand was useless to me for months after. Then I got the dreaded Chikungunya. Oh my goodness this virus is no fun to have. And even less
fun if you have it and have to care for a household of sick, achy people. What do you do if you are too sick to lift your head or in my case a hand and really could do with a sick day or two?
ASK FOR HELP
Mummies always feel that they have to do it themselves. But we all have to remember that if needed, grandparents, husbands, partners, even your best girlfriends, would be willing to step in if you ask. And if you are lucky they will step in without you having to ask. I am fortunate; I do have a great support network so when I am really
sick I just need to wait for my housekeeper who then takes over from my husband. My friend with Dengue fever though wasn’t so lucky; her husband was off the island as we say, and that is when the best girlfriends came in, offering pick-ups and drop-offs for her son. They even brought soup.
TELEVISION IS YOUR FRIEND
Television becomes my friend when I am sick. All of a sudden my ban on television is lifted and I am a big fan of Disney and Nick. While the television keeps them occupied I can take a nap while I wait for the flu pills
to work. I also always have a stack of paper and crayons available for those times when they just need mummy time and could join me on the bed.
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Home-cooked meals are temporarily replaced by fast food. If I dared to be sick on a day or days that our housekeeper has off, that’s always a viable option. When Daddy is in charge it means ice cream and cake and maybe some fried or jerked chicken. The thing to remember is that at least they are being fed. Accept that your kiddies can help themselves, and you! My little girls who call me to help with every little thing on this earth, almost always forget my name ‘Mummy’ when I am sick. It was while I was down with a really wicked flu, and I was using the wall to prop myself up, that I taught my oldest daughter to make her own Milo using the microwave.
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We do so much for our children that we forget that they are capable of many things. I think it was during another sickness that they figured out how to dress themselves. Going back to the dog bite, I discovered that the same daughter could make a mean cup of tea. She knows that I have a cup everyday at 4pm and she made me one. My heart overflowed. The thing to always remember is that it is okay to be sick sometimes and it is also okay to relax, rest and get better. Your children understand a healthy Mummy makes their life happier. Gayle Cunningham is a Trini-girl living in Jamaica just trying to keep sane with twin girls and their brother and sister. Enjoy her blog at kidfriendlyja.wordpress.com
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Music... the blood which
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t’s amazing how many different genres of music there are; each completely different and appealing to different souls. That’s what music does; it speaks to your soul. It carries you through the journey of your life, like a soundtrack to your own personal movie. We all feel music differently, and we all interpret music in our own unique way… but without it, how mundane life would be. Music is something tangible for me, it's something I feel in every cell of my body. It fills me, as liquid fills every crevice of a vessel.
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eavy metal or rock lovers feel the loud aggressive beats in their heads. With little control, their heads are thrust back and forth repeatedly as the “power” progressively engulfs them. EDM sends jolts of electricity through the bodies of its victims. Like a seizure, their bodies twitch and convulse uncontrollably. Opera speaks a universal language that evokes such powerful emotions for those who open their hearts to it. The pulsating rhythms intertwined with ingenious lyrics in Dancehall can make the most posh women feel like a “rude girl” or a “rebel”. Music has the ability to transform someone, and allow them to transcend. Music enters us as swift and as sharp as a doctor’s needle, pumping its message into our veins. Whatever the genre, whatever the style it enters us. For me, music enters my body through my hips. This is how I interpret music. Any rhythm that causes me to sway, swing, rotate or gyrate is what speaks to me as if screaming through a mega phone; I have no choice but to listen. I am most alive when “feeling” music. I don’t hear music…I feel it. Music can lift you to such heights as though you are soaring or it can agitate and irritate you worse than nails on a chalkboard, or that high-pitched annoying co-worker that just won't shut up. Whether by myself, at a party or in a class, my mood can instantly change as quickly as the song changes. Music is my drug of choice – it is intoxicating. It's funny if I think about it, my playlist for a Zumba class truly depicts how my life is. I build a playlist using interval training the highs and lows of your heart rate. The music starts moderate, it intensifies, the tempo increases, and it drops and continues
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as a “musical tempo” roller coaster – hills and valleys. I select songs that evoke certain emotions and moves, whether an aggressive kickboxing flavoured routine which empowers and pulls out our “bad ass” selves, or the sensual and seductive Latin rhythm that makes you feel JLo has nothing on you, or the latest dancehall song that reminds you that you have the ability to be a lady in public and a ‘freak’ in the bedroom. At the end, you cool down with something slow, something that allows you to catch your breath, something that allows you to reflect. My life can truly be summed up in one hour of my music selection for a Zumba class. Music makes me feel sensual, sexy, empowered, strong….it makes me feel like a woman. Shani McGraham-Shirley is the co-founder/owner of boutique fitness studio CHAI Studios Ltd. She is mother of 3, a former Miss Jamaica Universe 1998, Special Educator and a Fitness Instructor.
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Editor's NFF (New Found Favourite)
PHILLUP BY PUJ
If you’re parenting a rapidly-maturing toddler (like most parents today), then you are almost guaranteed to fall head over heels in love with the PhillUp from Puj (Yes, the same awesome family that gave us the oh-so-handy Puj Infant Tub). As the world’s first hangable kid cup, the Puj PhillUp hangs at a height that kids can reach, inspiring confidence and a great sense of independence. No more “Mommy! can I get some water!” being yelled across the house…. Now your little ones can easily help themselves! The cups are colour-coded making it easy for the children to remember which is theirs, and can also be a fun teaching tool as your toddler learns about colours.
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SIBLING RIVALRY by Marie-Michele Clarke, Port of Spain, Trinidad
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he day had been an exceptionally stressful one, where I had been settling squabbles in my classroom rather more frequently than usual, so as soon as school was dismissed I , along with my three youngest children, retreated to the sanctuary of my car. Making our way home in the rush-hour traffic, my attention was drawn to the hills. Parched earth, dried tree stumps and the odd bush fire here and there…Brilliant yellow Pouii trees dotted the hillside, symbols of hope, amidst the drabness and despair of daily routine. I had just put on my favourite Yanni CD and thankfully, was slipping into relax mode, when my spirit was assaulted by a loud screeching “MUMMYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYY!” The plaintive wail of my younger son pierced my ears, drowning out any semblance of calm. The rear-view mirror allowed me to quickly survey the scene. My youngest was pummelling him whilst bellowing “Don’t be such an IDIOT! Why do you ALWAYS have to have the window seat? …Move over!” Her complaints grew increasingly louder as he refused to do as she commanded. Frankly, I was too exhausted to deal with both traffic and squabbling children. Annoyed that my newly found peace had been so easily shattered, I disengaged mentally. My initial reaction is usually to intervene, asking each to recount what has happened and then, to play peacemaker. But this time, I held my tongue and battled inwardly, as the siblings continued railing on each other. The voice in my head was going a mile a minute: “When will you stop trying to change this behaviour? Why should you be surprised? This is normal and there is NOTHING you can do about it! Just give up!” omehow though, I know that I shall never be accustomed to this, as, commonplace or not, I do NOT want this barbaric behaviour to become the norm.… As their voices rose, I realised that I would yet again be expected, at the very least, to make some pronouncement, which would silence both or, at the very most, to take a side, which would please one and leave the other distraught! “How come SHE gets to do whatever she wants to me and just because she cries, you NEVER tell her ANY thing? She gets away with MURDER, Mum, just because she is the baby; you ALL prefer her!” She retorted, “I do NOT get away! But boys are just dumb, so that’s WHY Mum loves me more!” and the mayhem continued. In reply to his accusations, I offered my long-winded
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response, carefully formulated to express why each of my five children is my most treasured… “I love each of you with the same pure love,” I began, speaking slowly and ever so softly. I name the eldest, explaining as she is my first-born, she is the most precious. Then, the second is lauded as being dearest to my heart, for being my first son. Next, my pre-teen drama queen, is particularly special, based on her challenging position within our family- Middle Child. The old-world charm of my ten year old makes him most favoured, as he is my younger son and the warrior-spirited infant, nonetheless, will always be, my cherished baby. Patting myself privately on the back for this superbly thoughtout response, in which each could proudly claim a favoured position, I was not at all impressed when I realised, that neither one was listening. In fact, not only were they not listening, both children had now drawn their elder sister into the fray. Adolescent and often self-centred, her exasperation at not having my undivided attention, was evident in her rolling eyes, as she shouted above them in an absolutely disgusted tone, “You two are just so…stupid and childish! Mum, why couldn’t I just be an only child? AAAAAGGGGGHHHHHHHHHH!” I shook my head… it promised to be a painfully long ride home.
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THE PLAINTIVE WAIL OF MY YOUNGER SON PIERCED MY EARS, DROWNING OUT ANY SEMBLANCE OF CALM.
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CARE. Compassion- through which one learns not to judge without first understanding the particular circumstances of another. Appreciation- of each member of the family unit, for the unique contribution he/she ALONE can make. Respect- for God, for oneself (as His Creation) and for others, regardless of differences in appearance, culture or belief. Empathywhereby, despite not having personally experienced a particular hardship, one is nonetheless able to ‘feel with’ that person and offer comfort of some sort. Once these virtues are taught, ideally through modeling the desired traits, self-defeating behaviours are more likely to diminish. When a person’s self-esteem is sufficiently well-developed and confidence in one’s unique abilities
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is increased, the need to constantly compare oneself with another diminishes. Generally speaking, some years ago, I recall thinking that I was faring quite well in the parenting department, and perhaps, that was why I embarked on having the second ‘lot’. Yet, on an evening like this, I wonder “Where did I go wrong?” I am aware of having been caught off-guard several times of late and, despite my best efforts to remain composed, I admit to having become totally flummoxed by the scathing remarks, which are often hurled back and forth across our home! I took a deep breath, reminded myself, that as quickly as these spats occur, they do dissipate…more times
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than not, WITHOUT my interference! I resolve, anew, to allow the warriors their space to work out their disagreement and, to keep my head on… Just for today, I shall not berate myself. Instead, I may choose to ignore the fiery darts being thrown by any two (or more!) of our children, or physically remove myself from the ‘warzone’ in order to dis-engage. I must preserve my sanity! Today, the latter is not an option, as I am stuck with the warring factions in this horrendous traffic. o I reflect on my childhood, in an attempt to really understand. As an only child, I have absolutely no empirical knowledge of sibling rivalry. For as long as I can remember, I have yearned to have siblings, despite being told several times, that the many privileges which were afforded me, would not have been possible, had my parents had other children. Such information, I recall, did nothing but strengthen my resolve, to never have an only child! Had a choice been offered, I would willingly have given up the apparently highly-coveted ‘only child’ position, in order to have a constant playmate. It is completely beyond me to understand how such vile words, fuelled by varying degrees of hatred, (momentary nonetheless!) could spew forth from the lips of one, or other, of my loving offspring! My lack of tolerance is further amplified, by my experience in my own family of origin, which I have also been told, is not the norm. My parents were born into families where each of them, was the only child of that sex among their siblings. My mother was the eldest and only girl of six children. Her position was clear. Highly Favoured. In local parlance, ‘Faddah Eyeball’. Adored by the younger brothers, yet, at the same time, oft envied, as based on her birth order, she was doubly blessed…. First Girl. My father, the only son of four children, was the third child. His family was rather more gracious, and as such, children, regardless of sex, were valued and treated with equal respect. He was taught from early on, to have the utmost respect for women and therefore, treated his three sisters with gentleness, empathy and consideration. The girls in return, showed him love and kindness and the family shared many years of their lives, living harmoniously. Two of the four children married and had their own families, while the unmarried sisters resided very happily in the family home until their parents’ death. Perhaps it was simply that they lived in an era of far more gracious living than we do? consider the fact that parents then were not as stressed at the end of a day of work, outside of the family home. Extended families offered love and support and single-parent families were almost non-existent. The whole society supported the family unit and the guidelines of what was considered ‘appropriate behaviour’, were more universally accepted than they are in more recent times. Also, the fact
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remains that both sets of my grandparents, though very different in their approach to parenting, raised their children with a deep respect for God. My paternal grandparents were very strong disciplinarians, however, they never used corporal punishment, choosing instead to reason respectfully with their offspring. My mother’s parents, handed the discipline over to those relatives with whom the children lived, as due to poor health, my grandmother was unable to look after her children herself. This family had been separated from early on, as the siblings were ‘farmed out’ to various in-laws, to facilitate their schooling, which continued well into their tertiary level education. Sadly, their experience of sibling rivalry continues to this day, based on insecurities, which resulted directly from preferences, being clearly shown in their early childhood years. These have been permanently etched into the minds of certain family members, who tragically, in their late sixties and seventies, are still competing against each other for that ‘preferred child’ status. It is said that each nation may be judged, by how it treats its elderly and its children. The same applies to each family. By dint of its unique composition, each will reflect love and caring, or lack thereof, based on the manner in which its offspring, rebellious or not, are treated. Once mutual respect is fostered and maintained, a difference can be made. Creating a culture of respect for everyone is a worthwhile endeavour, which can keep parents sane whilst dealing with sibling rivalry. he driver behind me honks his horn, indicating that the traffic has cleared. Suddenly, I am aware that quiet reigns. The earlier warriors have been transformed anew, into my favourite children in the entire world…you guessed it! They have all fallen asleep.
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Prospect Outback Adventure .
By Chelsea Taylor and Michelle Gordon • Photography: Dwayne Watkins
Whether you are a visiting tourist or a “dry-land tourist” Prospect Outback Adventure is a great place to experience a journey into the annals of Jamaica’s history while enjoying an incredible quest in the outdoors. With Prospect Outback Adventure being so simple to find, it’s easy to start off a great day. Just off the main highway outside of Ocho Rios in neighbouring parish of St Mary, the 18th century Prospect Great House, now turned adventure central, sits on 1000 acres of amazing land with the parish’s roaring White River as its neighbour. Join the B3 team as we embrace our inner child, get wet ‘n’ dirty and live, love and laugh – a lot!
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Fun Fact: White River divides St Ann and St Mary perfectly. “Welcome to Prospect Outback Adventures, what you like to do today?” We’re greeted by Chris and Jason who were expecting us, and were genuinely eager to get our day started. “EVERYTHING” we say in unison. Having combed their website and social media sites, our team was excited – like kids in a candy store! The mudcovered dune buggies caught our attention first, but under wise advisement of our tour guides, we obediently started off slowly. Be sure to make reservations ahead of your visit so that the Prospect Team can prepare for you with all the accessories that you’ll need for your tours. First Stop: Segway tour. There’s something awesome about effortlessly gliding along any path you chose while navigating with just the gentle flick of your wrist. The open air passes over you and instantly propels you into an episode of The Jetsons! Considering safety first, we don our gear: knee and elbow pads and helmets. The one-hour tour takes you around the property up through the lush green hills covered in colourful flora to the highest point (1100 feet) over-looking the town of Ocho Rios.
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Pit Stop: Camel Safari. Though not indigenous to Jamaica,
Prospect Outback has become home to 8 camels. We romped with three of them, and fell in love with them. Cindy, Cinderella and Riatta took us on our short mounted tour, but it was the all-smiling Riatta who stole the heart of our self-proclaimed animal whisperer, Michelle. If you’ve never ridden a camel, be prepared for the ‘roller-coaster’ ascent and descent of these hump-backed creatures. Getting on and off could be a ride all on it’s own! We leave the animals behind and continue zipping through the trail taking note that each tree is labeled and it’s famous or influential planter recognized. Planted by SIr Winston Churchill, planted by Shakira and planted by Charlie Chaplin just to name a few; Jason, our guide is eager to share stories of the various visitors and locals who temporarily offered hands as farmers making their contribution to the beautiful and diverse forestry on the plantation rich with a history of haunted cotton trees to working wheel wells. The history of Prospect is steeped in wealth and adventure, and dates back to the end of the 18th Century where the ground floor of the Prospect Great House was designed with 28 loopholes to protect against pirates and buccaneers.
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Once ashore, pirates attempting to raid wealthy plantations, would be dumbfounded when encountering ‘loopholes’ that they thought were actually entrances to the house. The plantation great house preserved in its original beauty, is where guests enjoy the “Jamaican Jerk Outback Adventure.” Here you are taught by in-house chefs how to prepare favourite local
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dishes including Jerk chicken, shrimp run down and festival. The verandah of the great house offers a stunning view of Caribbean Sea, and we were told that on a clear day we could see Cuba! We tried, but the clouds prevented us proving Jason to be correct. Those clouds however, were the perfect setup for what was about to become a wet and wild adventure!
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obliterated when we’re handed our dune buggy helmets and protective glasses. The next hour and a half is set to be the Wet N Dirty outback adventure. Can we please put an emphasis on DIRTY? If you expected to leave Prospect as clean as you arrived, then this tour is not for you. Once buckled in, we receive clear and concise instructions including: “Stay in a single line. No overtaking, and keep the buggy in front of you in view at all times.” On completing the tour, I think they should add one new rule: “Keep your mouths closed!” If you’re anything like us, you’ll likely have a hard time keeping your mouth shut. Laughter, screams and yells came naturally, and so did the mud. Of good note is that the soil in St. Mary is rich in iron so ingesting small amounts while laughing causes no harm whatsoever! Our tour guide took us into the bushes, up through secret passages that line the property and onto some hidden dirt roads. The clouds that had earlier prevented our view of Cuba, now opened up majestically and provided us with a bumpy, rainy and slippery ride. I don’t think we could have written a better script! We make our way slipping from side to side splashing through puddles while NOT trying to contain our laughter and enjoyment. By the time we finished we were covered from head to toe in mud and smiles from
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ear to ear. Mud baths are highly sought-after treatments widely thought to rejuvenate the skin. Hahaha If you are not a thrill-seeker, or if you have children under the age of 6 in your party, Prospect Outback Adventures still has lots to offer. The bird sanctuary and the lambs on site are a calm and serene part of the Time Travelers Tractor Tour as you travel through Prospect hearing stories of times past that are both informative and entertaining. The thrill of active rides at Prospect Outback is perfect for children 10 years and up, while children as young as 6 years may ride as passengers on the dune buggies. It is a physically demanding tour and is not suitable for pregnant women or guests with any physical challenges. All dune buggy drivers must have a valid drivers license. Prospect Outback Adventures - great entertainment for the adrenaline junkie and history buff in us all.
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Sunscreen Change of clothing and shoes Towels Hand sanitizer Hand-lotion or cream (your skin may feel ‘tight’ after washing off the mud) ˏˏ Camera (and a protective case a.k.a. a plastic bag) www.prospectoutbackadventures.com
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Dune Buggy-day in the outback for grownups is much like a kid in a candy store - with no parents in sight. Awesomeness! A dune buggy is a recreational vehicle outfitted with wide tires and large wheels providing extreme capabilities for traction and balance. Originally designed for use on sand dunes and beaches (hence the name ‘dune’ buggy), these machines have been modified and adapted for use on multiple off-road terrains. Prospect Outback Adventure boasts a modern fleet of side-by-side Polaris Ranger RZRs (don’t let the dirt and mud fool you into thinking that they’re old). At top speed, these machines reach 60mph, but top speed may not necessarily be your goal while traversing the hills and valleys of Prospect, unless of course someone in your adrenaline-charged group challenges you to a muddy race! Good thing all tours are supervised by
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trained guides whose primary purpose is to ensure the safety, and then enjoyment of all guests. (Dune buggies at Prospect are governed at 30mph.) Prospect Outback Adventure dune buggies are equipped with roll cages, seatbelts, and full safety gear; it’s almost like getting behind the wheel of your family car, minus the roof and air-conditioned comfort. It’s all there; steering wheel, brake and gas pedal, and the all-important 4WD button! With a 44 horsepower engine and increased suspension to navigate the rough terrain, once you snap those goggles in place, prepare to transform from ordinary you, to Super Mario. It’s the ultimate ‘vroom vroom’ moment!
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The families and friends that play together, stay together. It’s the little things that make life fun. So take the time and make a day out of it. After getting muddied and dirty, we recommend a relaxing river lyme. There are several options in the vicinity of Prospect, making it easy for you!
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Social Media For Parents 10 Tips To Being A Tech-Savvy Parent by Corve DaCosta
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reaking news; the Internet is not your substitute for Parenting 101! Although the online world is digitally connected and is centered around connecting with people you know, it may not be the place for your little one to roam. Only this year, the numbers reveal that there are over 35,000 Jamaicans on Twitter and over 850,000 Jamaicans on Facebook. More than likely, all of your children’s friends, cousins, and classmates are on a social media network. They certainly are on Instagram and Facebook! Does your family have a social media policy? Such policies are normally used in organisations, but you should look into setting social media rules in the family. Here are ten tips you can use in the home when your teenager gets online.
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1. FOLLOW YOUR CHILD ON SOCIAL MEDIA.
So you’ve decided that your child younger than 13-years-old or your teenager should have a digital footprint online. Following your child online or being a friend doesn’t mean you will stalk and comment on their daily mundane posts of life on social media. This ensures you observe their activity on the social media platforms. The permission given to exist online means you will share lifelong lessons on responsible Internet use. Create a healthy environment online, and encourage other family members to follow/friend/like their pages as well.
2. DON’T CHANGE THE RULES.
Don’t change social media rules like Facebook does. Remain consistent and only give the child additional freedom when they are old enough.
3. TALK ABOUT RESPONSIBLE USE OF SOCIAL MEDIA WITH YOUR CHILD.
According to www.dosomething.org nearly 43% of kids have been bullied online. That is, 1 in 4 has had it happen more than once. Cyber bullying is real. Use the freedom of having a social media account to discuss what is accepted behaviour online. Keep the communication channels open with your child so they inform you when others are abusing their rights online. Do not expect online users to protect your child.
4. EDUCATE YOURSELF ON SOCIAL MEDIA AND ALL THE PLATFORMS.
As a parent, you may know the popular social media platforms like Twitter, Facebook and Instagram because you use them. Great! You may even think those are safe enough. However, there are hundreds of other social media platforms that you need to be aware of and how the younger generation is using them, like Snapchat and Ask.fm. Never allow your child to educate you on social media platforms, be in the know. Google is your friend.
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5. USE THE APPS.
The general rule has always been, place the computer in a common area of your home. Do that as best as you can. However, we can agree that may not work all the times your child will be online. We are as digitally connected as how mobile we are with smartphones and tablets. Set parental controls and download all the possible applications that can help you protect your child online.
6. CREATE GROUND RULES.
If your sassy teenager breaks the rule, restrict their use on social media. Popular TV host Kelly Ripa disclosed in an interview recently that she restricted her teenage daughter’s cell phone use - who was texting during study time. Have the guts to be a parent. Every teenager understands the importance of sharing online and being available on Whatsapp. They will stay in line when they know how serious you are on blocking Facebook and restricting their freedom.
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Your kids are watching you; never forget that. Are you updating Instagram with a selfie in traffic? Are you tweeting and texting while driving? Be responsible always. It is important to promote responsible behaviour using the smartphone around your kid. Set them up for success by being the best example.
8. LIMIT CELL PHONE USE.
Just like playing games and watching the television, limit cell phone use in your home. Get your child to enjoy being disconnected from the online world. Set rules for using the cell phone and instead block hours of family time. It shouldn't be that you are restricting cell phone usage to have a silent zone in the home. Create activities to foster a healthy bond with your child without the use of a smartphone.
9. TEACH YOUR CHILD ABOUT HAVING AN ONLINE REPUTATION.
Believe it, the online culture is creating a digital footprint for all users. What your child posts today, can come back to haunt them later as an adult! Ensure your child understands the permanence of the online world and their reputation online. This begins with you as a parent setting the examples to follow. Children live what they learn, be the leader.
10. BE A PARENT, NOT ONLY PAY THE RENT.
Allowing your child online and becoming a user on a social media platform comes with responsibilities. Being a parent doesn’t mean you are the best friend, or the fan online who likes every post. Be the parent! Ensuring your child is protected and uses the Internet wisely comes with clicking “I accept” online. No social media platform is going beyond its duty to protect children. Instead, you must be there to ensure they are protected and they use the Internet responsibly. If you don’t, there are too many celebrity stories to learn from.
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Corve DaCosta is a passionate blogger, young marketing executive, speaker, and foodist. Corve DaCosta connects consumers, technology and brands to help invoke the next shift in business and new media. Currently, Corve is the editor at Daily Veritas and a social media manager. http://www.corvedacosta.com
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At JCDS, we focus on creating “Wow” experiences! Here’s 5 Reasons why kids love JCDS 1.
Kids are part of the process. They learn why taking care of their teeth is important 2. Kids can relax before their procedure with a cup of Milo or Hot Chocolate 3. Kids can play the latest games or watch a movie on iPads during treatment 4. Kids can see before and after pictures of their teeth 5. The Dentists and Team give kids extra focus and attention, and make them “VIPS” And yes....there is a toybox!
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Paving the Path .
By Nicole Campbell
How early is too early to begin thinking about college? From a financial perspective it’s NEVER too early. Right now, a US college education can cost anywhere from US$100,000.00 to $280,000.00, while college costs have been rising at a rate of 7% per year for decades. Competition for financial aid and scholarships has intensified, while acceptance rates to highly sought after universities have plummeted.
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0-6 YEARS Encourage your child to discover, and to think outside the box. Provide exposure to different activities outside of the classroom. Participate actively in their learning, but practice giving them room to learn on their own. Encourage reading. Children follow your example, not your advice. Still, you can’t hold their hand in everything. It is important at this stage to establish discipline and good homework habits. Allow them to fail, learn, fail again then recover. They must learn a minor form of independence from early on.
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7-10 YEARS Once you notice a strong interest, talent or skill, or one that comes naturally, spend time nurturing it. Your child needs to begin to learn discipline and commitment. Help them to pursue their passions and genuine interests so that they develop a sense of awe and wonder, and a deep love for something - anything. Parents often mistakenly think colleges prefer one thing over another, but they don’t. Knowing from early on that they should give 100% effort to everything they do is key. You should also begin to actively address learning issues or developmental delays that you notice. Don’t waste time in denial, the earlier your child is supported is the more likely his/her success. Remember that your child is forming habits and gaining ideals. Ensure that they are positive ones. .
10-13 YEARS Do not leave the system to educate your child. Be diligent about how your child is spending his/her time. Attendance at a high quality high school is key. Monitor progress, and offer as much support as humanly possible. You will need to proactively guide them in studying, setting goals, and balancing their activities. Plan for the worst, prepare for the best and keep in mind that all the goals that you set towards university, are markers in a marathon. It is not a sprint. When it’s time to select CSEC or IGCSE subjects ensure that your child knows that he/she is under no pressure to choose a career. Stick to the College Prep Core of English (Language and Literature), Math, 3 Natural Science, Social Science (preferably History but Geography and Economics are ok), Foreign Language. IT, Art, Add Math are good additions depending on their interests and capacity. If your child is able - take some CXC subjects early to allow for room in the timetable to do others e.g. many students are able to take CXC Math Exam in 4th form then take the CXC Add Math in 5th form.
POB, POA etc are all ELECTIVES that the student can do in college. They are not generally used by US colleges to evaluate students in the admissions process.
14-16 YEARS Again, do not leave the system to educate your child. This can not be overstated. To ensure that a high quality university at a reasonable cost, remains an option, you must play a role in your child’s academics. Again, parameters and discipline are important - but don’t fight their battles, or commiserate about their workload. Empower them. Lead by example in terms of discipline, focus and commitment to excellence. Colleges view the last 4 years of high school in their analyses. Keep ALL report cards. Begin to consider programs that will both nurture and challenge your child: CAPE? IB? Boarding School in the US? United World College? There are many options for completion of high school that should be explored. What of the summer? Ensure your child is engaged, challenged, exploring an interest or discovering a new one, or perhaps learning responsibility by holding down a job. Be intentional about tracking the progress of your child, and implementing a course of action for university - admission to a high quality university with scholarship and financial support usually calls for a strategic College Application Plan. We start working with students in a college placement capacity from 4th form, sometimes earlier. Guide your child in building his/her confidence, asking questions, learning, seeking out answers. Nurture his/her personality and their goals. Don’t impose interests that lead to careers you consider ‘safe’, allow them the freedom to express their own passions.
17-18 YEARS It’s nuts and bolts time - college lists, financial aid forms, SAT / ACT Prep, applications, interviews, essays, recommendations, transcripts - the last 18 years comes together in an application an admissions officer will spend 20 minutes on before making a decision. And that’s if you’re lucky. Nicole Campbell is the Founder and Director of AIM Educational Services providing college preparation, SAT prep and educational consulting services to students based in Jamaica, the USA and the wider Caribbean. www.aimeduservices.com
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Step by Step Building Skills for Life
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When the skies darken with heavy-laden clouds, and the heavens release their load, mothers across the Caribbean can be seen and heard ushering their children inside to perceived safety. “Come out of the rain, you don’t want to catch a cold!” It’s in our nature to protect our children; but what if I told you that we can have them singing in the rain, having the time of their life, while still being safe and sound. Yup, it’s true! Bundle up your kiddos Moms, from head to toe, and let’s teach your child to enjoy the rain.
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LESSONS IN THE RAIN
Calm Down. Watch the raindrops fall to the ground and listen to the beat it makes. Make up a song with your little one and remind them that the rain is making everything clean. Have Fun. Don’t be afraid to go outdoors and jump in rain puddles. Dress your child in his or her favourite boots and raincoat and let them hit the streets! Want to etch the moment in their minds forever? Throw your own inhibitions out the door and join them! Class Time. Take the time to teach your child the science of rain. If you don’t already know it, this is a great opportunity to learn for yourself the lessons that you may have missed way back in grade 5. Stratus, cumulus, cirrus and cumulonimbus; consider it a practical tutorial that will be more fun than rote, and you’d be surprised that this may be one lesson that your child will not soon forget. Make Memories. Create your own rainy day tradition that will give you and your child lasting memories. Pull out a board game or prepare a heart-warming meal together. This is a great way to dispel any fears that your child may have of thunder and lightning, and provide them with a warm sense of comfort. www.oilandwater.com
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Caribbean influence resonates in so many areas around the world. The climate of our region, the vibrant colours and the easy pace of an island lifestyle are all beautifully captured in the creative genius of talented designers around the globe. Laura Egloff is one such designer. She’s a global brand all on her own, with her base covering North America, Europe and Asia, and creative inspirations coming from her travels all around the world.
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aura is the powerhouse behind Velveteen Clothing, a classically styled children’s clothing line with a whimsical twist. The 2015 Summer Collection for her sophisticated brand was inspired by the natural beauty of Havana, Cuba and sees this collection featuring a mixture of Caribbean and South American influences and details. “We’re always inspired by the colours and vibrancy of different cultures and traditions when we travel. Havana is so full of life and transported us back in time - inspiring a very retro style influence and fresh colours.” – Laura Egloff. Known for its quality fabrics, sophisticated colours and prints, the Spring/ Summer 2015 collection combines Velveteen’s original European-style silhouettes with the playful freedom of a Caribbean lifestyle. Revisiting their most popular girls’ styles, customers will enjoy a reprisal of full-bodied skirts, stylish jumpsuits and playful dresses – all presented with Velveteen’s signature accents, embroideries and trims. Velveteen Clothing is available online and also in boutiques in LA, Paris and Hong Kong in sizes 6 months to 12 years of age. www.velveteenclothing.com
Maya knit Dress with ruffled tier sleeves and centre front pouch pockets. 100% cotton yarn
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Pink Isabella dresses with hand embroidery at ruffled neckline and sleeves. Keyhole closure at centre back with tassel ties. 100% Cotton.
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Left: Blue Lara Tier dress with trapeze silhouette, removable pouch pocket and crossback tassel ties. Right: Pink eyelet dress with single butterfly sleeve
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Esme 5-pocket Jacket, with contrast piping and lining and elasticated waist Sabeen Pants and leg cuff with ties.
Pink smocking and embroidered detail top with elasticized sleeves
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100% Cotton Amanda top with gold top stitching at ruffle sleeves and neckline, with Tina Tiered Skirt with gold tape piping at tiers.
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Isabella dresses with hand embroidery at ruffled neckline and sleeves.
Back detail on eyelet dress featuring butterflyinspired crossing
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Left: 100% Cotton Esme Jacket with 5 pockets, collar piping and contrast lining. Right: Isabella dress with hand embroidery at ruffled neckline and sleeves and keyhole closure and tassel ties at centre back.
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Fun Fundaciones ADVERTORIAL
by Rachel McDonald
Fun what?! This is the reaction by most when introduced to the name of a relatively young company offering a variety of programmes, services .
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undaciones; Spanish for ‘foundations’ is a very non-traditional organization. Not limited to either a specific programme or to a particular clientele; this company’s philosophy that learning the fundamentals ought to be fun remains its mantra, slogan and even hashtag. #LEARNTHEFUN is gaining popularity in households across Jamaica and the Caribbean and is finding a niche in various social media platforms. Who doesn’t agree that learning should be fun? Who wouldn’t support memorable experiences? Which parent would oppose this? Let’s face facts; experiences that are meaningful tend to be those that are remembered. Who doesn’t want her child to remember the what, how or even why of a process? It is in fact, through answering those questions, that we can establish the ‘therefore,’ ‘also’ and ‘in conclusion.’ In 2008, director Rachael McDonald realized that many of the children she taught were not curious. They lacked passion; had no interest in learning and as such were weak critical thinkers. Her attempt to develop and foster a genuine love for learning in and among her children encouraged the start of the company’s first location, El Centro, as a physical arena through which programmes and activities could platform to address the issues that plagued her brood. In a short time, children were reading classics and showcasing their comprehension skills; describing the process behind an exploding pumpkin using scientific terminology; singing songs en español with good pronunciation and zeal; and even brainstorming and creating art from trashables in Kingston, Montego Bay and Basseterre,
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St. Kitts. Her dream of engaging children in hands-on and non-traditional ways was manifesting and parents were happy to see their children enjoying learning the fundamentals in hands-on ways.
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"TO #LEARNTHEFUN IS SYNONYMOUS WITH FEELING GOOD, FEELING POSITIVE, FEELING ENERGIZED AND FEELING WORTHY OF KNOWLEDGE."
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oday, this is exactly what continues to take place. When children enjoy a process, not only do they recall it better, but also they become more likely to talk about it and to engage in another similar activity. They begin a love affair with a practice that has often been considered tedious, drab and even scary. The reality is that the means of learning really is an exciting one and this is exactly what the Fundaciones team seeks to create and recreate daily. If you’ve ever struggled to find an answer or to make sense of a phrase and finally understood it, you’ll know how invigorating that “Eureka” moment is. It is that “Oooooh, I get it” realization that our children feel and end up being fascinated with, that helps to mould their confidence, maintain their interest and drive their curiosity. To #LEARNTHEFUN is synonymous with feeling good, feeling positive, feeling energized and feeling worthy of knowledge. It’s about time our children really FEEL the range of emotions associated with this exciting progression of discovery. Today, McDonald is happy with the development and expansion of the programmes and is challenged with finding ways to reach more children who do not have access to our team in face-to-face settings. She argues that “passion and interest are felt and not seen”, and is excited about promoting programmes through technology in the upcoming months. “Our goal is for children of all ages to be inspired to learn and keep learning.” To learn more about Fundaciones please visit www.learnthefun.com or call 876-422-7586.
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Find the most complete selection of American Standard products at Active Home Centre.
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Come in and visit our showroom! 84 Constant Spring Road, Kingston 10 Monday to Friday | 9am - 6pm and Saturdays | 10am - 5pm Tel: (876) 755-0027-8 Visit us online: Some items pictured are representational. Actual unit may dier from one shown.
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